Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl en Cheryl Fraser Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/a0887e8c-f67b-11ee-9642-23298e6debdf/image/112c6fb3bfd8bcb653f94a10bfa1a484.jpeg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl no episodic Cheryl Fraser Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?

 

Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.

 

As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go.


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]]> Cheryl Fraser info+606f2d2f683bd903822db1df@mg.acast.com Love, Loss & Letting Go: a Conversation with Dr. Cheryl & Transformational Speaker Kute Blackson 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is surrendering to life a sign of weakness?" "How do I stop resisting the painful things that happen in life?" "What does real gratitude look like?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m joined by world-renowned transformational speaker Kute Blackson, author of You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender. Kute and I share a soul-stirring conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: surrender.  We’re exploring why true surrender isn't weakness but radical courage and why it may just be the most powerful thing you can do for your love life and your life as a whole. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:29) Being in pain or feeling lost takes tremendous courage  (07:27) The real meaning of surrender isn’t giving up or waving the white flag, it's letting go of the illusion of control and who you "think" you should be (12:00) Kute's personal story of heartbreak: how losing the relationship he thought was "the one" forced him to surrender and led him directly to his wife (20:18) Grief is the portal you must walk through before true surrender is possible. (36:33) What toddlers know about surrender that adults have forgotten and how watching his son helped Kute understand unconditional feeling (39:29) Why the most ecstatic lovemaking happens when you stop controlling and start flowing with the energy (46:31) The 8 levels of gratitude: from feeling grateful for what you have, to gratitude for what hasn't happened yet, to gratitude for the precious human incarnation itself (01:02:26) Today's LoveByte Sign up here for Kute’s free course on gratitude      If you are interested in spending twelve days with Kute in Bali for a transformational workshop, learn more here    Get Kute's books: You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Mon, 20 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is surrendering to life a sign of weakness?" "How do I stop resisting the painful things that happen in life?" "What does real gratitude look like?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m joined by world-renowned transformational speaker Kute Blackson, author of You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender. Kute and I share a soul-stirring conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: surrender.  We’re exploring why true surrender isn't weakness but radical courage and why it may just be the most powerful thing you can do for your love life and your life as a whole. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:29) Being in pain or feeling lost takes tremendous courage  (07:27) The real meaning of surrender isn’t giving up or waving the white flag, it's letting go of the illusion of control and who you "think" you should be (12:00) Kute's personal story of heartbreak: how losing the relationship he thought was "the one" forced him to surrender and led him directly to his wife (20:18) Grief is the portal you must walk through before true surrender is possible. (36:33) What toddlers know about surrender that adults have forgotten and how watching his son helped Kute understand unconditional feeling (39:29) Why the most ecstatic lovemaking happens when you stop controlling and start flowing with the energy (46:31) The 8 levels of gratitude: from feeling grateful for what you have, to gratitude for what hasn't happened yet, to gratitude for the precious human incarnation itself (01:02:26) Today's LoveByte Sign up here for Kute’s free course on gratitude      If you are interested in spending twelve days with Kute in Bali for a transformational workshop, learn more here    Get Kute's books: You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


"Is surrendering to life a sign of weakness?"

"How do I stop resisting the painful things that happen in life?"

"What does real gratitude look like?"


On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m joined by world-renowned transformational speaker Kute Blackson, author of You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender. Kute and I share a soul-stirring conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: surrender. 

We’re exploring why true surrender isn't weakness but radical courage and why it may just be the most powerful thing you can do for your love life and your life as a whole.


In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(01:29) Being in pain or feeling lost takes tremendous courage 

(07:27) The real meaning of surrender isn’t giving up or waving the white flag, it's letting go of the illusion of control and who you "think" you should be

(12:00) Kute's personal story of heartbreak: how losing the relationship he thought was "the one" forced him to surrender and led him directly to his wife

(20:18) Grief is the portal you must walk through before true surrender is possible.

(36:33) What toddlers know about surrender that adults have forgotten and how watching his son helped Kute understand unconditional feeling

(39:29) Why the most ecstatic lovemaking happens when you stop controlling and start flowing with the energy

(46:31) The 8 levels of gratitude: from feeling grateful for what you have, to gratitude for what hasn't happened yet, to gratitude for the precious human incarnation itself

(01:02:26) Today's LoveByte


Sign up here for Kute’s free course on gratitude   

 

If you are interested in spending twelve days with Kute in Bali for a transformational workshop, learn more here 

 

Get Kute's books: You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


💖 Check Out My Free Course Today!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram


Let's Connect!

]]> 3879 Fall Back in Love on a Birthday Date 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?” “Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?” “What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?” On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it! One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner's last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner "doesn't care,” the real point is making them feel chosen (06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari (09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses (11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic (18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why "Thrill" is exactly what birthdays were made for (22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren't having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic (24:30) Today's LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you're already with Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com with a picture of your birthday date and we’ll send you a prize! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Mon, 06 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?” “Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?” “What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?” On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it! One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner's last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner "doesn't care,” the real point is making them feel chosen (06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari (09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses (11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic (18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why "Thrill" is exactly what birthdays were made for (22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren't having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic (24:30) Today's LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you're already with Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com with a picture of your birthday date and we’ll send you a prize! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?”

“Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?”

“What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?”


On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it!


One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner's last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how.


In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner "doesn't care,” the real point is making them feel chosen

(06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari

(09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses

(11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic

(18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why "Thrill" is exactly what birthdays were made for

(22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren't having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic

(24:30) Today's LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you're already with


Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com with a picture of your birthday date and we’ll send you a prize!


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1588 Knowledge Is Not Power: How to Actually Create Lasting Change in Your Relationship 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Do my actions match what matters to me?" "Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?" "Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?" Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!) The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived  (05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former  (04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself  (13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you)   (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change (11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark  (27:48) Today's LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Mon, 23 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Do my actions match what matters to me?" "Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?" "Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?" Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!) The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived  (05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former  (04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself  (13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you)   (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change (11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark  (27:48) Today's LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


"Do my actions match what matters to me?"

"Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?"

"Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?"


Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review. 

In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!)

The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today.


In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived 

(05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former 

(04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself 

(13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you) 

 (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change

(11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark 

(27:48) Today's LoveByte 


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.

💖Check Out My Free Course Today!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1840 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Don’t Be Nasty! Top Three Ways to Show Your Partner Kindness in 2026 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?” “Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?” “How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?” Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2026 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.  Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36) You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10) If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51) Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:44) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Mon, 09 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?” “Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?” “How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?” Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2026 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.  Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36) You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10) If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51) Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:44) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?”

“Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?”

“How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?”


Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that. 


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2026 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey. 


Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36)

  • You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10)

  • If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51)

  • Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55)

  • Today’s LoveByte (14:44)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1019 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Dr. Cheryl’s Top Three Tips for Building a Healthy Long Term Relationship 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I improve my relationship?” “All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?” “How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?” Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power. Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (06:23) Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships  (11:35) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase  (15:51) Thrill needs to be cultivated  (21:33) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose  (24:29) Today’s LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 23 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I improve my relationship?” “All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?” “How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?” Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power. Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (06:23) Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships  (11:35) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase  (15:51) Thrill needs to be cultivated  (21:33) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose  (24:29) Today’s LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?


Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How can I improve my relationship?”

“All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?”

“How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?”


Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it. 


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power.

Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one?


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(06:23) Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships 

(11:35) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase 

(15:51) Thrill needs to be cultivated 

(21:33) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose 

(24:29) Today’s LoveByte 


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.

💖Check Out My Free Course Today!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1614 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Three Unusual Valentine’s Date Ideas to Make Love Intentional 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make Valentine’s Day more special?” “Valentine’s Day only brings up bad memories, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.  February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of terrible chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:20) Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person  (06:52) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting  (08:08) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (13:31) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate  (15:40) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love! (19:10) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 09 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make Valentine’s Day more special?” “Valentine’s Day only brings up bad memories, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.  February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of terrible chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:20) Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person  (06:52) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting  (08:08) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (13:31) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate  (15:40) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love! (19:10) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?


Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.


✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How can I make Valentine’s Day more special?”

“Valentine’s Day only brings up bad memories, how can I change that?”

“Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?”


Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real. 


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional. 


February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of terrible chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(01:20) Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person 

(06:52) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting 

(08:08) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter

(13:31) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate 

(15:40) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love!

(19:10) Today’s LoveByte 


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1280 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Are you a Romance Dud? Try Dr. Cheryl’s 3 Tips for More Romance 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Is romance dead?”  “How can I be sexier to my partner?” “Why isn’t finding a man as easy as the movies?” It's easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media, romcoms, and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2026 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (00:40) The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship  (03:38) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship  (04:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (11:16) A great relationship is about taking action  (12:09) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response  (16:18) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart  (18:56) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 02 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Is romance dead?”  “How can I be sexier to my partner?” “Why isn’t finding a man as easy as the movies?” It's easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media, romcoms, and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2026 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (00:40) The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship  (03:38) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship  (04:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (11:16) A great relationship is about taking action  (12:09) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response  (16:18) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart  (18:56) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“Is romance dead?” 

“How can I be sexier to my partner?”

“Why isn’t finding a man as easy as the movies?”


It's easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media, romcoms, and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page. 


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2026 and beyond. 


When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(00:40) The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship 

(03:38) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship 

(04:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable

(11:16) A great relationship is about taking action 

(12:09) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response 

(16:18) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart 

(18:56) Today’s LoveByte 


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1358 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I stop fighting with my spouse?” “Why are my partner and I constantly disagreeing?” “Is it okay if my honey and I never argue?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:00) Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics  (09:38) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (12:40) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal  (14:28) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions  (19:30) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro  (21:09) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 19 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I stop fighting with my spouse?” “Why are my partner and I constantly disagreeing?” “Is it okay if my honey and I never argue?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:00) Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics  (09:38) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (12:40) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal  (14:28) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions  (19:30) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro  (21:09) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How can I stop fighting with my spouse?”

“Why are my partner and I constantly disagreeing?”

“Is it okay if my honey and I never argue?”


If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.


When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:00) Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics 

(09:38) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment

(12:40) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal 

(14:28) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions 

(19:30) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro 

(21:09) Today’s LoveByte 


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1479 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Take the New Year’s Plunge 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  Where has the passion gone in my marriage? Why don’t my partner and I have sex anymore? How can I get my spouse to show more interest? When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can feel like failure… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into the new year. Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?  One year from now… How do you want to feel about your relationship?  What would success feel like? What would it look like?  What are you doing better?  How have you improved? In what ways?  Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?  Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way? How do you want to feel?  What do you want to be?  Who do you want to be in your relationship? 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 05 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  Where has the passion gone in my marriage? Why don’t my partner and I have sex anymore? How can I get my spouse to show more interest? When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can feel like failure… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into the new year. Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?  One year from now… How do you want to feel about your relationship?  What would success feel like? What would it look like?  What are you doing better?  How have you improved? In what ways?  Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?  Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way? How do you want to feel?  What do you want to be?  Who do you want to be in your relationship? 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?


Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


Where has the passion gone in my marriage?

Why don’t my partner and I have sex anymore?

How can I get my spouse to show more interest?

When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can feel like failure… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance?


On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into the new year.


Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure? 


One year from now…

  • How do you want to feel about your relationship? 

  • What would success feel like? What would it look like? 

  • What are you doing better? 

  • How have you improved? In what ways? 

  • Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier? 

  • Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way?

  • How do you want to feel? 

  • What do you want to be? 

  • Who do you want to be in your relationship?


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1362 Insights From Ebenezer Scrooge: A Holiday Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I learn to be a better partner?”  “Am I the Scrooge in my relationship?” “What is the secret to a happy marriage?” What would you do if a trio of spirits showed up at your bedside tonight and asked you to examine your past, your present, and your future? Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave recently exploring the themes of the Charles Dickens' classic A Christmas Carol through a Buddhist lens.  This talk delves into the three root poisons of suffering—greed, hatred, and ignorance—and how they manifest in Ebenezer Scrooge's life. After visits from the three spirits, Scrooge confronts his past, present, and future, ultimately leading to his redemption and a deeper understanding of interconnectedness and compassion.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (01:10) The concept of Dharma can feel foreign to what we learned as children through a Western lens (07:42) We always have a choice to begin again (12:06) Ignorance is poison (28:53) If we can see the bricks that led to the wall in front of our heart, we can demolish it (59:02) We love possibilities of redemption and change 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 22 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I learn to be a better partner?”  “Am I the Scrooge in my relationship?” “What is the secret to a happy marriage?” What would you do if a trio of spirits showed up at your bedside tonight and asked you to examine your past, your present, and your future? Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave recently exploring the themes of the Charles Dickens' classic A Christmas Carol through a Buddhist lens.  This talk delves into the three root poisons of suffering—greed, hatred, and ignorance—and how they manifest in Ebenezer Scrooge's life. After visits from the three spirits, Scrooge confronts his past, present, and future, ultimately leading to his redemption and a deeper understanding of interconnectedness and compassion.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (01:10) The concept of Dharma can feel foreign to what we learned as children through a Western lens (07:42) We always have a choice to begin again (12:06) Ignorance is poison (28:53) If we can see the bricks that led to the wall in front of our heart, we can demolish it (59:02) We love possibilities of redemption and change 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How can I learn to be a better partner?” 

“Am I the Scrooge in my relationship?”

“What is the secret to a happy marriage?”


What would you do if a trio of spirits showed up at your bedside tonight and asked you to examine your past, your present, and your future?

Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave recently exploring the themes of the Charles Dickens' classic A Christmas Carol through a Buddhist lens. 

This talk delves into the three root poisons of suffering—greed, hatred, and ignorance—and how they manifest in Ebenezer Scrooge's life. After visits from the three spirits, Scrooge confronts his past, present, and future, ultimately leading to his redemption and a deeper understanding of interconnectedness and compassion. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

(01:10) The concept of Dharma can feel foreign to what we learned as children through a Western lens

(07:42) We always have a choice to begin again

(12:06) Ignorance is poison

(28:53) If we can see the bricks that led to the wall in front of our heart, we can demolish it

(59:02) We love possibilities of redemption and change


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3966 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Improve your Relationship Over the Holidays 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make the holidays special with my spouse?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my husband?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweetheart? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:03) In the December holiday season, couples gets lost  (03:22) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured, money grabbing, cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck  (12:13) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority  (12:52) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart  (13:38) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date  (14:40) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 08 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make the holidays special with my spouse?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my husband?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweetheart? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:03) In the December holiday season, couples gets lost  (03:22) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured, money grabbing, cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck  (12:13) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority  (12:52) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart  (13:38) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date  (14:40) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?


Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.


✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How can I make the holidays special with my spouse?”

“Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?”

“How can I prioritize my husband?”


No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweetheart?


On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all. 


Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?” 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

(02:03) In the December holiday season, couples gets lost 

(03:22) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured, money grabbing, cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck 

(12:13) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority 

(12:52) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart 

(13:38) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date 

(14:40) This week’s LoveByte 


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1023 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Help! I Want Sex—They Don’t! Your Love & Sex Questions Answered 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do?  Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal?  On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I share the answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, is all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit! In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:39) If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal  (04:31) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive  (07:15) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship  (08:10) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (10:28) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame  (11:53) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again  (17:51) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 01 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do?  Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal?  On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I share the answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, is all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit! In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:39) If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal  (04:31) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive  (07:15) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship  (08:10) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (10:28) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame  (11:53) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again  (17:51) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now 


How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do? 

Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t!

My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal? 


On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I share the answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.


Today, is all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

(02:39) If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal 

(04:31) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive 

(07:15) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship 

(08:10) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it

(10:28) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame 

(11:53) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again 

(17:51) This week’s LoveByte 


💖Check Out My Free Course Today!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1180 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Passion Performance Review 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?” “When did my hubby become so boring?” “My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?” Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On this Sex, Love and Elephants rewind, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:57) Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated  (08:33) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good  (10:57) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will  (14:03) Most affairs aren’t planned  (34:09) Today’s LoveByte  💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 17 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 216 Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?” “When did my hubby become so boring?” “My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?” Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On this Sex, Love and Elephants rewind, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:57) Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated  (08:33) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good  (10:57) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will  (14:03) Most affairs aren’t planned  (34:09) Today’s LoveByte  💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)

How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time


👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?”

“When did my hubby become so boring?”

“My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?”


Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go. 


On this Sex, Love and Elephants rewind, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart. 


Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:57) Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated 

(08:33) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good 

(10:57) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will 

(14:03) Most affairs aren’t planned 

(34:09) Today’s LoveByte 


💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  


]]> 2258 Make Up Your Mind and Pick Joy: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make my relationship happier?”  “Where can I find relationship advice?” “What’s the secret to a great marriage?” When we can train our minds to focus on what matters and to deal with difficulties with a more dispassionate, compassionate, equanimous point of view, we suffer less. We feel happier, we feel calmer, and we’re able to love more deeply.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave a few weeks ago that discusses the importance of training the mind for happiness. In Buddhism, setting an aspiration is a way of mentally, emotionally, and karmically tuning our focus to something that is valuable. Think less “I hope I make more money tomorrow” and more  setting your intentions to be free of mental suffering. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:07) How to meditate in open awareness practice (21:57) Concentration is integral to successful meditation  (25:32) A strong inner anchor helps during times when the mind is turbulent  (37:15) By training ourselves in meditation, we can learn to stop buying into the stories that happen in the mind (54:56) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 03 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make my relationship happier?”  “Where can I find relationship advice?” “What’s the secret to a great marriage?” When we can train our minds to focus on what matters and to deal with difficulties with a more dispassionate, compassionate, equanimous point of view, we suffer less. We feel happier, we feel calmer, and we’re able to love more deeply.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave a few weeks ago that discusses the importance of training the mind for happiness. In Buddhism, setting an aspiration is a way of mentally, emotionally, and karmically tuning our focus to something that is valuable. Think less “I hope I make more money tomorrow” and more  setting your intentions to be free of mental suffering. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:07) How to meditate in open awareness practice (21:57) Concentration is integral to successful meditation  (25:32) A strong inner anchor helps during times when the mind is turbulent  (37:15) By training ourselves in meditation, we can learn to stop buying into the stories that happen in the mind (54:56) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?


Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time


👉 Start My Free Course Now 


“How can I make my relationship happier?” 

“Where can I find relationship advice?”

“What’s the secret to a great marriage?”


When we can train our minds to focus on what matters and to deal with difficulties with a more dispassionate, compassionate, equanimous point of view, we suffer less. We feel happier, we feel calmer, and we’re able to love more deeply. 

Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave a few weeks ago that discusses the importance of training the mind for happiness.

In Buddhism, setting an aspiration is a way of mentally, emotionally, and karmically tuning our focus to something that is valuable. Think less “I hope I make more money tomorrow” and more  setting your intentions to be free of mental suffering.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(04:07) How to meditate in open awareness practice

(21:57) Concentration is integral to successful meditation 

(25:32) A strong inner anchor helps during times when the mind is turbulent 

(37:15) By training ourselves in meditation, we can learn to stop buying into the stories that happen in the mind

(54:56) Today’s LoveByte


💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3428 Dr. Cheryl Solves All of Your Biggest Relationship Conflicts 🔥Re-Ignite Love, Romance, and Passion and Fall in Love With Your Partner All Over Again 🔥 Enroll in my Become Passion course and create love that lasts a lifetime—beginning October 24th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE ONLY BECOME PASSION SESSION OF 2025 “Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?”  “What are the most common relationship issues?” “Where is the best place to find relationship advice?” It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges.  Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common (06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution (12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners  (16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever (23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship (33:01) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here 💖Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 20 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 🔥Re-Ignite Love, Romance, and Passion and Fall in Love With Your Partner All Over Again 🔥 Enroll in my Become Passion course and create love that lasts a lifetime—beginning October 24th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE ONLY BECOME PASSION SESSION OF 2025 “Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?”  “What are the most common relationship issues?” “Where is the best place to find relationship advice?” It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges.  Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common (06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution (12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners  (16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever (23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship (33:01) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here 💖Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 🔥Re-Ignite Love, Romance, and Passion and Fall in Love With Your Partner All Over Again 🔥

Enroll in my Become Passion course and create love that lasts a lifetime—beginning October 24th!

CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE ONLY BECOME PASSION SESSION OF 2025


“Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?” 

“What are the most common relationship issues?”

“Where is the best place to find relationship advice?”


It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help. 


In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges. 


Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common

(06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution

(12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners 

(16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever

(23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship

(33:01) Today’s LoveByte


💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here


💖Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2119 The Top 3 Reasons Long Term Relationships Fail 🔥 October 14th-18th ONLY Dr. Cheryl is teaching FREE relationship workshops for the only time this year! 🔥 Sign up NOW for her Passion Masterclass and choose the time that works best for you. 👉Save Your Seat! “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Help! Why is my relationship so boring?” “How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?” Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner. In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up.  You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner  (07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love (11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you (20:18) Great relationships take hard work (31:02) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 13 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 🔥 October 14th-18th ONLY Dr. Cheryl is teaching FREE relationship workshops for the only time this year! 🔥 Sign up NOW for her Passion Masterclass and choose the time that works best for you. 👉Save Your Seat! “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Help! Why is my relationship so boring?” “How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?” Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner. In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up.  You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner  (07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love (11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you (20:18) Great relationships take hard work (31:02) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 🔥 October 14th-18th ONLY Dr. Cheryl is teaching FREE relationship workshops for the only time this year! 🔥

Sign up NOW for her Passion Masterclass and choose the time that works best for you.

👉Save Your Seat!


“Why don’t I feel in love anymore?” 

“Help! Why is my relationship so boring?”

“How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?”


Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner.

In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up. 

You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way!


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner 

(07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love

(11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you

(20:18) Great relationships take hard work

(31:02) Today’s LoveByte


💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1990 Lust Fades But Your Sex Life Shouldn’t: Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Talk Sex This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  “Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?” “How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?” “Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?” “What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?” Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring. If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing (15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it (21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do (29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it (39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 06 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  “Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?” “How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?” “Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?” “What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?” Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring. If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing (15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it (21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do (29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it (39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you.


You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE 


“Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?”

“How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?”

“Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?”

“What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?”


Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring.


If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom.


Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing

(15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it

(21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do

(29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it

(39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2491 Even Love Experts Suffer Communication Breakdown: Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Tell All Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?” “What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?” “How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?” “What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?” What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love. This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts (07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected (13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window (19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight (26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof (40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 29 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?” “What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?” “How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?” “What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?” What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love. This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts (07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected (13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window (19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight (26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof (40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass!


“How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?”

“What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?”

“How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?”

“What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?”


What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love.


This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts.


Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts

(07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected

(13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window

(19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight

(26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof

(40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason

(27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it

(40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2591 What’s It Like Being Married to a Love Expert? Meet Dr. Cheryl’s HUSBAND! Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?” “Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?” “How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?” Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time. You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025 (05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business) (06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart (11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything (21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t) (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 22 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?” “Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?” “How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?” Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time. You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025 (05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business) (06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart (11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything (21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t) (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass!


“How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?”

“Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?”

“How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?”


Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time.


You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears.


Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025

(05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business)

(06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart

(11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything

(21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t)

(27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it

(36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2328 Reboot Your Relationship: Lesson Two — The Passion Triangle 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Where did the thrill go?”  “How to bring back the passion we once had?” “What are the keys to a passionate relationship?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you Lesson Two of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Last time, you learned how to make your love life a hobby. Today, you’ll discover the three keys to lasting passion—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—and why couples must work on all three sides of the Passion Triangle to keep love alive. Dr. Cheryl not only breaks down what each side means (and why most couples are weak in at least one), she also gives you two powerful tools to rate your relationship right now. Plus, hear the real-life story of Howard and Karen, a couple who went from near-divorce to planning surprise lobster feasts and rediscovering love after 32 years together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you can fall in love again—with the partner you already have—this lesson is your roadmap. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:06) What couples miss most about falling in love (03:30) Introduction to the Passion Triangle: intimacy, thrill & sensuality (04:29) Why each side matters—and how to tell where you’re weak (08:14) How to rate your own relationship today (worksheet + quick quiz) (12:00) Howard & Karen’s story: from “I want a divorce” to falling in love again (16:51) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—they’re created 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 08 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Where did the thrill go?”  “How to bring back the passion we once had?” “What are the keys to a passionate relationship?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you Lesson Two of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Last time, you learned how to make your love life a hobby. Today, you’ll discover the three keys to lasting passion—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—and why couples must work on all three sides of the Passion Triangle to keep love alive. Dr. Cheryl not only breaks down what each side means (and why most couples are weak in at least one), she also gives you two powerful tools to rate your relationship right now. Plus, hear the real-life story of Howard and Karen, a couple who went from near-divorce to planning surprise lobster feasts and rediscovering love after 32 years together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you can fall in love again—with the partner you already have—this lesson is your roadmap. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:06) What couples miss most about falling in love (03:30) Introduction to the Passion Triangle: intimacy, thrill & sensuality (04:29) Why each side matters—and how to tell where you’re weak (08:14) How to rate your own relationship today (worksheet + quick quiz) (12:00) Howard & Karen’s story: from “I want a divorce” to falling in love again (16:51) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—they’re created 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now!

👉 Claim My Spot Now


“Why don’t I feel in love anymore?” 

“Where did the thrill go?” 

“How to bring back the passion we once had?”

“What are the keys to a passionate relationship?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you Lesson Two of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Last time, you learned how to make your love life a hobby. Today, you’ll discover the three keys to lasting passion—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—and why couples must work on all three sides of the Passion Triangle to keep love alive.


Dr. Cheryl not only breaks down what each side means (and why most couples are weak in at least one), she also gives you two powerful tools to rate your relationship right now. Plus, hear the real-life story of Howard and Karen, a couple who went from near-divorce to planning surprise lobster feasts and rediscovering love after 32 years together.


If you’ve ever wondered whether you can fall in love again—with the partner you already have—this lesson is your roadmap.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:06) What couples miss most about falling in love

(03:30) Introduction to the Passion Triangle: intimacy, thrill & sensuality

(04:29) Why each side matters—and how to tell where you’re weak

(08:14) How to rate your own relationship today (worksheet + quick quiz)

(12:00) Howard & Karen’s story: from “I want a divorce” to falling in love again

(16:51) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—they’re created


💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.


✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1174 Reboot Your Relationship: Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl’s Free Starter Course 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "Where did the passion go in my marriage?" "How do I reboot my relationship?" "How can we work on our marriage?" "Which online course helps couples the most?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now. Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away). If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it (04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated” (06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership (08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment (10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts) (14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months (17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 25 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "Where did the passion go in my marriage?" "How do I reboot my relationship?" "How can we work on our marriage?" "Which online course helps couples the most?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now. Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away). If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it (04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated” (06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership (08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment (10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts) (14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months (17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now!

👉 Claim My Spot Now


"Where did the passion go in my marriage?"

"How do I reboot my relationship?"

"How can we work on our marriage?"

"Which online course helps couples the most?"


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now.


Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away).


If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it

(04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated”

(06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership

(08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment

(10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts)

(14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months

(17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek


💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1216 Masculine & Feminine Energy in Modern Relationships: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 13 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "My partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants tackles one of the most provocative and misunderstood topics in modern love: the tension between masculine and feminine energy—and what happens when those energies fall out of balance. From 1950s gender roles to the feminist backlash of the '70s and the rise of the sensitive new age man, Dr. Cheryl Fraser guides us through the historical, psychological, and sexual shifts that continue to shape our romantic lives today. What happens when women become over-functioning warriors and men lose touch with their strength? Why are so many couples disconnected in bed and at war outside of it? Dr. Cheryl breaks it all down through raw personal stories, decades of experience as a sex therapist, and an empowering four-archetype model—Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, and Lover—that will help you reconnect with your own essence and transform your relationship. Whether you're tired of leading all the time, feel like your partner has gone emotionally limp, or just want to reignite the spark in your relationship, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be powerful—and passionate—together. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What masculine and feminine energy really mean—and why the labels are misleading (04:48) The surprising truth about sexless relationships—and why so many couples stop making love (06:37) From 1950s stereotypes to feminist revolt: How gender roles evolved (and where they got stuck) (10:32) Cheryl’s personal journey from angry, brilliant “boy-girl” to embracing feminine strength (18:31) Why strong women and sensitive men clash—and how confused roles affect desire (25:06) The Four Archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover—and how they shape your relationship (29:39) Erotic polarity: Why feminine women crave masculine energy in the bedroom (and vice versa) (36:24) How to balance your energies for better sex, deeper love, and real partnership (39:14) Today’s LoveByte: The empowered lover learns to dance between all four archetypes 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 11 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "My partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants tackles one of the most provocative and misunderstood topics in modern love: the tension between masculine and feminine energy—and what happens when those energies fall out of balance. From 1950s gender roles to the feminist backlash of the '70s and the rise of the sensitive new age man, Dr. Cheryl Fraser guides us through the historical, psychological, and sexual shifts that continue to shape our romantic lives today. What happens when women become over-functioning warriors and men lose touch with their strength? Why are so many couples disconnected in bed and at war outside of it? Dr. Cheryl breaks it all down through raw personal stories, decades of experience as a sex therapist, and an empowering four-archetype model—Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, and Lover—that will help you reconnect with your own essence and transform your relationship. Whether you're tired of leading all the time, feel like your partner has gone emotionally limp, or just want to reignite the spark in your relationship, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be powerful—and passionate—together. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What masculine and feminine energy really mean—and why the labels are misleading (04:48) The surprising truth about sexless relationships—and why so many couples stop making love (06:37) From 1950s stereotypes to feminist revolt: How gender roles evolved (and where they got stuck) (10:32) Cheryl’s personal journey from angry, brilliant “boy-girl” to embracing feminine strength (18:31) Why strong women and sensitive men clash—and how confused roles affect desire (25:06) The Four Archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover—and how they shape your relationship (29:39) Erotic polarity: Why feminine women crave masculine energy in the bedroom (and vice versa) (36:24) How to balance your energies for better sex, deeper love, and real partnership (39:14) Today’s LoveByte: The empowered lover learns to dance between all four archetypes 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now!

👉 Claim My Spot Now


"My partner won’t go to therapy"

"I'm doing all the work in the relationship"

"My partner refuses to communicate"

"Can you save a relationship alone?"


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants tackles one of the most provocative and misunderstood topics in modern love: the tension between masculine and feminine energy—and what happens when those energies fall out of balance. From 1950s gender roles to the feminist backlash of the '70s and the rise of the sensitive new age man, Dr. Cheryl Fraser guides us through the historical, psychological, and sexual shifts that continue to shape our romantic lives today.


What happens when women become over-functioning warriors and men lose touch with their strength? Why are so many couples disconnected in bed and at war outside of it? Dr. Cheryl breaks it all down through raw personal stories, decades of experience as a sex therapist, and an empowering four-archetype model—Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, and Lover—that will help you reconnect with your own essence and transform your relationship.


Whether you're tired of leading all the time, feel like your partner has gone emotionally limp, or just want to reignite the spark in your relationship, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be powerful—and passionate—together.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(01:09) What masculine and feminine energy really mean—and why the labels are misleading

(04:48) The surprising truth about sexless relationships—and why so many couples stop making love

(06:37) From 1950s stereotypes to feminist revolt: How gender roles evolved (and where they got stuck)

(10:32) Cheryl’s personal journey from angry, brilliant “boy-girl” to embracing feminine strength

(18:31) Why strong women and sensitive men clash—and how confused roles affect desire

(25:06) The Four Archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover—and how they shape your relationship

(29:39) Erotic polarity: Why feminine women crave masculine energy in the bedroom (and vice versa)

(36:24) How to balance your energies for better sex, deeper love, and real partnership

(39:14) Today’s LoveByte: The empowered lover learns to dance between all four archetypes


💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.


✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2576 How to Deal With a Reluctant Partner: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 12 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "Partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants dives deep into one of the most common and painful relationship struggles: what to do when your partner just won’t meet you halfway. Whether your sweetheart refuses to communicate, avoids tough conversations, or simply won’t go to therapy, Dr. Cheryl Fraser is here to help you understand what’s really going on—without blame, shame, or judgment. Can you save a relationship alone? What happens when you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Is it even possible to rebuild connection when your partner thinks nothing is wrong? With raw personal stories, real-life couple transformations, and actionable guidance, Cheryl shows how even one partner—armed with the right tools—can begin to shift the dynamic. It starts with changing how you approach the tough stuff. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What to do when your partner won’t go to therapy—or refuses to talk (04:46) The power of negative thinking: how your mind can make things feel worse than they are (10:40) How your childhood attachment style may be shaping your relationship experience (17:11) Why some partners resist change: fear, avoidance, and feeling blamed (26:14) Real talk: How to bring up hard conversations without pushing them further away (35:24) The key to rebuilding connection, even if you're doing the work alone (38:12) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube Mon, 28 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "Partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants dives deep into one of the most common and painful relationship struggles: what to do when your partner just won’t meet you halfway. Whether your sweetheart refuses to communicate, avoids tough conversations, or simply won’t go to therapy, Dr. Cheryl Fraser is here to help you understand what’s really going on—without blame, shame, or judgment. Can you save a relationship alone? What happens when you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Is it even possible to rebuild connection when your partner thinks nothing is wrong? With raw personal stories, real-life couple transformations, and actionable guidance, Cheryl shows how even one partner—armed with the right tools—can begin to shift the dynamic. It starts with changing how you approach the tough stuff. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What to do when your partner won’t go to therapy—or refuses to talk (04:46) The power of negative thinking: how your mind can make things feel worse than they are (10:40) How your childhood attachment style may be shaping your relationship experience (17:11) Why some partners resist change: fear, avoidance, and feeling blamed (26:14) Real talk: How to bring up hard conversations without pushing them further away (35:24) The key to rebuilding connection, even if you're doing the work alone (38:12) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube 🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now!

👉 Claim My Spot Now

"My partner won’t go to therapy"

"I'm doing all the work in the relationship"

"Partner refuses to communicate"

"Can you save a relationship alone?"

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants dives deep into one of the most common and painful relationship struggles: what to do when your partner just won’t meet you halfway. Whether your sweetheart refuses to communicate, avoids tough conversations, or simply won’t go to therapy, Dr. Cheryl Fraser is here to help you understand what’s really going on—without blame, shame, or judgment.

Can you save a relationship alone? What happens when you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Is it even possible to rebuild connection when your partner thinks nothing is wrong?

With raw personal stories, real-life couple transformations, and actionable guidance, Cheryl shows how even one partner—armed with the right tools—can begin to shift the dynamic. It starts with changing how you approach the tough stuff.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(01:09) What to do when your partner won’t go to therapy—or refuses to talk

(04:46) The power of negative thinking: how your mind can make things feel worse than they are

(10:40) How your childhood attachment style may be shaping your relationship experience

(17:11) Why some partners resist change: fear, avoidance, and feeling blamed

(26:14) Real talk: How to bring up hard conversations without pushing them further away

(35:24) The key to rebuilding connection, even if you're doing the work alone

(38:12) Today’s LoveByte

💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2420 Can Adventure Make Your Mate More Attractive?: Is Long Term Love Dead? Part 11 Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “How can I spice things up with my hubby?” “Is it possible to remain monogamous forever?” “How do I make my relationship more adventurous?” When you do something exciting and adventurous with your partner, do you find them more attractive? Research shows that when we do something unusual or out of the box with our sweethearts, it can help us feel more interested in and attracted toward them. This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eleventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I’m teaching you how a little adventure and novelty can go a long way when it comes to spicing things up and reigniting the spark with your sweetheart.  Calling all adventurous lovers! Go on an adventure date and send photo proof to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a cool prize! Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:44) There's clinical observation indicating that when we get out of our rut and do something new with our sweetheart, we tend to feel more connected to them (07:53) The way the brain works when we're falling in love mimics the neurochemistry obsessive-compulsive disorder (11:11) Many of us are terrible at investing the time and energy needed to create novelty with someone who is not new to us  (16:02) Doing something new with our partner, it can enhance and improve our connection, our interest in each other, and even our sexual attraction  (21:56) Today’s LoveByte Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 14 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “How can I spice things up with my hubby?” “Is it possible to remain monogamous forever?” “How do I make my relationship more adventurous?” When you do something exciting and adventurous with your partner, do you find them more attractive? Research shows that when we do something unusual or out of the box with our sweethearts, it can help us feel more interested in and attracted toward them. This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eleventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I’m teaching you how a little adventure and novelty can go a long way when it comes to spicing things up and reigniting the spark with your sweetheart.  Calling all adventurous lovers! Go on an adventure date and send photo proof to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a cool prize! Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:44) There's clinical observation indicating that when we get out of our rut and do something new with our sweetheart, we tend to feel more connected to them (07:53) The way the brain works when we're falling in love mimics the neurochemistry obsessive-compulsive disorder (11:11) Many of us are terrible at investing the time and energy needed to create novelty with someone who is not new to us  (16:02) Doing something new with our partner, it can enhance and improve our connection, our interest in each other, and even our sexual attraction  (21:56) Today’s LoveByte Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 


Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!


“How can I spice things up with my hubby?”

“Is it possible to remain monogamous forever?”

“How do I make my relationship more adventurous?”


When you do something exciting and adventurous with your partner, do you find them more attractive? Research shows that when we do something unusual or out of the box with our sweethearts, it can help us feel more interested in and attracted toward them.


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eleventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


Today, I’m teaching you how a little adventure and novelty can go a long way when it comes to spicing things up and reigniting the spark with your sweetheart. 


Calling all adventurous lovers! Go on an adventure date and send photo proof to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a cool prize!

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:44) There's clinical observation indicating that when we get out of our rut and do something new with our sweetheart, we tend to feel more connected to them

(07:53) The way the brain works when we're falling in love mimics the neurochemistry obsessive-compulsive disorder

(11:11) Many of us are terrible at investing the time and energy needed to create novelty with someone who is not new to us 

(16:02) Doing something new with our partner, it can enhance and improve our connection, our interest in each other, and even our sexual attraction 

(21:56) Today’s LoveByte


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1444 How to Calm the Monkey Mind: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Is my misery all in my head?” “Why can’t I focus on the positives?” “How can I learn to change the story my mind is telling me?” How can we change the stories in our heads? How can we deal with the monkey mind? And how can we begin to accept the truth that everything we experience in life is 100% mind made? This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around how pesky our minds can be and how much misery our wandering thoughts can bring us.  Today, I’m teaching you what we can do to work with the mind to understand its storytelling, to understand the nightmare scenarios it paints in our head, and what we can do to work with that so we'll be happier, calmer, more effective, more compassionate, and have a much better life. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (09:32) Any moment is created in the mind based on a selection of the data that we’re experiencing in that moment (14:45) We're all born into pretty lucky human lives, even if we’ve suffered trauma (26:16) The stories we create all day long are just as equally fictional as a nightmare (33:52) If I don't like the fact that I'm feeling angry or upset or lonely or vulnerable, I can recognize it’s a story and I can work with the mind to change it (48:11) In a mortal body, there's going to be pain and illness and it is going to die suddenly or slowly Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 30 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Is my misery all in my head?” “Why can’t I focus on the positives?” “How can I learn to change the story my mind is telling me?” How can we change the stories in our heads? How can we deal with the monkey mind? And how can we begin to accept the truth that everything we experience in life is 100% mind made? This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around how pesky our minds can be and how much misery our wandering thoughts can bring us.  Today, I’m teaching you what we can do to work with the mind to understand its storytelling, to understand the nightmare scenarios it paints in our head, and what we can do to work with that so we'll be happier, calmer, more effective, more compassionate, and have a much better life. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (09:32) Any moment is created in the mind based on a selection of the data that we’re experiencing in that moment (14:45) We're all born into pretty lucky human lives, even if we’ve suffered trauma (26:16) The stories we create all day long are just as equally fictional as a nightmare (33:52) If I don't like the fact that I'm feeling angry or upset or lonely or vulnerable, I can recognize it’s a story and I can work with the mind to change it (48:11) In a mortal body, there's going to be pain and illness and it is going to die suddenly or slowly Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 

Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!


“Is my misery all in my head?”

“Why can’t I focus on the positives?”

“How can I learn to change the story my mind is telling me?”

How can we change the stories in our heads? How can we deal with the monkey mind? And how can we begin to accept the truth that everything we experience in life is 100% mind made?

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around how pesky our minds can be and how much misery our wandering thoughts can bring us. 

Today, I’m teaching you what we can do to work with the mind to understand its storytelling, to understand the nightmare scenarios it paints in our head, and what we can do to work with that so we'll be happier, calmer, more effective, more compassionate, and have a much better life.


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(09:32) Any moment is created in the mind based on a selection of the data that we’re experiencing in that moment

(14:45) We're all born into pretty lucky human lives, even if we’ve suffered trauma

(26:16) The stories we create all day long are just as equally fictional as a nightmare

(33:52) If I don't like the fact that I'm feeling angry or upset or lonely or vulnerable, I can recognize it’s a story and I can work with the mind to change it

(48:11) In a mortal body, there's going to be pain and illness and it is going to die suddenly or slowly


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3860 Dr. Cheryl and Sexual Health Expert Dr. Lori Brotto Explore Better Sex Through Mindfulness Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 10 Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Can meditation make me a better lover?” “Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?” “Why don’t I get horny for my spouse anymore?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the tenth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago (05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal  (10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all (22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction (36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all (38:46) Today’s LoveByte  Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto: eSense The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A Brotto Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 16 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Can meditation make me a better lover?” “Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?” “Why don’t I get horny for my spouse anymore?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the tenth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago (05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal  (10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all (22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction (36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all (38:46) Today’s LoveByte  Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto: eSense The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A Brotto Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 


Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!


“Can meditation make me a better lover?”

“Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?”

“Why don’t I get horny for my spouse anymore?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the tenth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier.


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago

(05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal 

(10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all

(22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction

(36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all

(38:46) Today’s LoveByte 


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto:

Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2488 Should I Stay or Go—When Is It Time to Call It Quits?: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 9 Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “HELP! I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, should we break up?” “How do I learn to love my spouse again?” “Why is marriage so much work?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the ninth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When the love song feels like it's over, is it time to quit or is it time to recommit? Today’s subject is a tough one and I'm teaching it from the heart.  And what I’m going to say might just surprise you: we often throw away our romantic relationships too easily, too often. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of a breakup (01:49) We can learn to change our mind instead of our mate (03:54) The elephant part of ourselves is free from fear and selfishness (10:33) Everything changes—some changes we like, some we don't (21:57) Today’s LoveByte (33:14) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Recommended by Dr. Cheryl: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 02 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “HELP! I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, should we break up?” “How do I learn to love my spouse again?” “Why is marriage so much work?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the ninth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When the love song feels like it's over, is it time to quit or is it time to recommit? Today’s subject is a tough one and I'm teaching it from the heart.  And what I’m going to say might just surprise you: we often throw away our romantic relationships too easily, too often. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of a breakup (01:49) We can learn to change our mind instead of our mate (03:54) The elephant part of ourselves is free from fear and selfishness (10:33) Everything changes—some changes we like, some we don't (21:57) Today’s LoveByte (33:14) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Recommended by Dr. Cheryl: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 


Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!


“HELP! I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, should we break up?”

“How do I learn to love my spouse again?”

“Why is marriage so much work?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the ninth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


When the love song feels like it's over, is it time to quit or is it time to recommit? Today’s subject is a tough one and I'm teaching it from the heart.  And what I’m going to say might just surprise you: we often throw away our romantic relationships too easily, too often.


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of a breakup (01:49)

  • We can learn to change our mind instead of our mate (03:54)

  • The elephant part of ourselves is free from fear and selfishness (10:33)

  • Everything changes—some changes we like, some we don't (21:57)

  • Today’s LoveByte (33:14)

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Recommended by Dr. Cheryl:

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2125 Rewrite the Story in your Head: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 8 Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Why does my partner purposefully tick me off?” “How can I be more understanding with my spouse?” “What makes long term love so hard?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eighth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Our mind can tell amazing stories. For example, we’ve all had a nightmare. The second we wake up, we thank goodness it was only a dream,  our heart is pounding, and we may even be soaked in sweat or have tears in our eyes. We may even be gasping for breath—all because of a story that our mind made up to be true.   Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Our human body cannot tell if the story our brain is telling us is true or not true (07:06) Our brains often feed the flames of hate and distrust creating an inaccurate villain story about our sweetheart (09:15) To stop creating stories, we have to focus on strictly the facts (16:01) Today’s LoveByte (24:31) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 19 May 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Why does my partner purposefully tick me off?” “How can I be more understanding with my spouse?” “What makes long term love so hard?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eighth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Our mind can tell amazing stories. For example, we’ve all had a nightmare. The second we wake up, we thank goodness it was only a dream,  our heart is pounding, and we may even be soaked in sweat or have tears in our eyes. We may even be gasping for breath—all because of a story that our mind made up to be true.   Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Our human body cannot tell if the story our brain is telling us is true or not true (07:06) Our brains often feed the flames of hate and distrust creating an inaccurate villain story about our sweetheart (09:15) To stop creating stories, we have to focus on strictly the facts (16:01) Today’s LoveByte (24:31) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 


Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!


“Why does my partner purposefully tick me off?”

“How can I be more understanding with my spouse?”

“What makes long term love so hard?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eighth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


Our mind can tell amazing stories. For example, we’ve all had a nightmare. The second we wake up, we thank goodness it was only a dream,  our heart is pounding, and we may even be soaked in sweat or have tears in our eyes. We may even be gasping for breath—all because of a story that our mind made up to be true.  


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Our human body cannot tell if the story our brain is telling us is true or not true (07:06)

  • Our brains often feed the flames of hate and distrust creating an inaccurate villain story about our sweetheart (09:15)

  • To stop creating stories, we have to focus on strictly the facts (16:01)

  • Today’s LoveByte (24:31)


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1645 Schedule Sex & Make a Passion Comeback: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 7 Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Why has my sex drive dropped as I’ve aged?” “How do I schedule sex with my partner?” “What are some ways I can set the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the seventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When my hubby and I first got together, we were absolutely insatiable—I’m talking nonstop passion and desire. But a decade or so on? Not so much! Now that we’re both in our early 60’s, our sex life takes some extra TLC to maintain but we’re dedicated to making it happen. And today, I’m going to teach you exactly what our secret is.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: There are biochemical reasons that our desire wanes as we age (03:57) Married sex is scheduled sex (05:47) The key to scheduled sex is creating the right environment for intimacy (10:12) When we're non-sexual, we're missing out on a very profound part of being alive (16:37) Today’s LoveByte (25:11) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Listen to Dr. Cheryl on Jack Canfield’s podcast here. Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 05 May 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Why has my sex drive dropped as I’ve aged?” “How do I schedule sex with my partner?” “What are some ways I can set the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the seventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When my hubby and I first got together, we were absolutely insatiable—I’m talking nonstop passion and desire. But a decade or so on? Not so much! Now that we’re both in our early 60’s, our sex life takes some extra TLC to maintain but we’re dedicated to making it happen. And today, I’m going to teach you exactly what our secret is.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: There are biochemical reasons that our desire wanes as we age (03:57) Married sex is scheduled sex (05:47) The key to scheduled sex is creating the right environment for intimacy (10:12) When we're non-sexual, we're missing out on a very profound part of being alive (16:37) Today’s LoveByte (25:11) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Listen to Dr. Cheryl on Jack Canfield’s podcast here. Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)


“Why has my sex drive dropped as I’ve aged?”

“How do I schedule sex with my partner?”

“What are some ways I can set the mood for sex?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the seventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


When my hubby and I first got together, we were absolutely insatiable—I’m talking nonstop passion and desire. But a decade or so on? Not so much! Now that we’re both in our early 60’s, our sex life takes some extra TLC to maintain but we’re dedicated to making it happen. And today, I’m going to teach you exactly what our secret is. 


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • There are biochemical reasons that our desire wanes as we age (03:57)
  • Married sex is scheduled sex (05:47)
  • The key to scheduled sex is creating the right environment for intimacy (10:12)
  • When we're non-sexual, we're missing out on a very profound part of being alive (16:37)
  • Today’s LoveByte (25:11)


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Listen to Dr. Cheryl on Jack Canfield’s podcast here.


Let’s Connect!  


]]> 1647 To Revive Your Sexual Spark, Take Control of Your Erotic Life: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 6 Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “I love my partner, but they don’t turn me on anymore… HELP!” “We never have sex anymore, should we get a divorce?” “Why am I never in the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the sixth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. It might be a familiar feeling: You’re not looking to leave your sweetheart or trying to have an affair, but your sex life is either totally non-existent or downright lousy. Today, I’m giving you some very important tools to help you and your long-term partner reignite the spark you once had and bring back that butterflies-in-the-belly, over-the-moon sexual desire for one another.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Responsive desire starts with a sensual encounter (03:44) Intimacy is the communication base of any romantic relationship (07:42) To start your sexual drive, you’ve got to warm up your erotic engine first (13:44) Don’t wait around for the mood to hit you—make it a date (23:42) Today’s LoveByte (29:16) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 21 Apr 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “I love my partner, but they don’t turn me on anymore… HELP!” “We never have sex anymore, should we get a divorce?” “Why am I never in the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the sixth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. It might be a familiar feeling: You’re not looking to leave your sweetheart or trying to have an affair, but your sex life is either totally non-existent or downright lousy. Today, I’m giving you some very important tools to help you and your long-term partner reignite the spark you once had and bring back that butterflies-in-the-belly, over-the-moon sexual desire for one another.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Responsive desire starts with a sensual encounter (03:44) Intimacy is the communication base of any romantic relationship (07:42) To start your sexual drive, you’ve got to warm up your erotic engine first (13:44) Don’t wait around for the mood to hit you—make it a date (23:42) Today’s LoveByte (29:16) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)


“I love my partner, but they don’t turn me on anymore… HELP!”

“We never have sex anymore, should we get a divorce?”

“Why am I never in the mood for sex?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the sixth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


It might be a familiar feeling: You’re not looking to leave your sweetheart or trying to have an affair, but your sex life is either totally non-existent or downright lousy. Today, I’m giving you some very important tools to help you and your long-term partner reignite the spark you once had and bring back that butterflies-in-the-belly, over-the-moon sexual desire for one another. 


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Responsive desire starts with a sensual encounter (03:44)
  • Intimacy is the communication base of any romantic relationship (07:42)
  • To start your sexual drive, you’ve got to warm up your erotic engine first (13:44)
  • Don’t wait around for the mood to hit you—make it a date (23:42)
  • Today’s LoveByte (29:16)


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1891 Does Your Relationship Lack Lasting Desire? THIS Could Be Why: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 5 Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Is long term sexual attraction a myth?” “How can I be more attracted to my partner?” “Why does my sex life slow down the older I get?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fifth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I encourage you to think back to you and your honey’s discovery of each other’s bodies, your hearts, your erotic pleasure… Do you still experience those same feelings? Or have those butterflies disappeared over the years?  Today, I’m letting you in on a little secret to reignite the BIG spark with your sweetheart.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My own sexual relationship with myself began with… an electric Snoopy toothbrush! (04:49) Menopause can cause radical changes to your sex life (09:11) 30 to 40% of couples are not making love at all (16:43) When we rely on spontaneous desire, our sex life is in trouble (20:36) You need to design a sex life that works for you (29:32) Today’s LoveByte (31:40) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 07 Apr 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Is long term sexual attraction a myth?” “How can I be more attracted to my partner?” “Why does my sex life slow down the older I get?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fifth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I encourage you to think back to you and your honey’s discovery of each other’s bodies, your hearts, your erotic pleasure… Do you still experience those same feelings? Or have those butterflies disappeared over the years?  Today, I’m letting you in on a little secret to reignite the BIG spark with your sweetheart.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My own sexual relationship with myself began with… an electric Snoopy toothbrush! (04:49) Menopause can cause radical changes to your sex life (09:11) 30 to 40% of couples are not making love at all (16:43) When we rely on spontaneous desire, our sex life is in trouble (20:36) You need to design a sex life that works for you (29:32) Today’s LoveByte (31:40) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)


“Is long term sexual attraction a myth?”

“How can I be more attracted to my partner?”

“Why does my sex life slow down the older I get?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fifth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


I encourage you to think back to you and your honey’s discovery of each other’s bodies, your hearts, your erotic pleasure… Do you still experience those same feelings? Or have those butterflies disappeared over the years? 


Today, I’m letting you in on a little secret to reignite the BIG spark with your sweetheart. 


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • My own sexual relationship with myself began with… an electric Snoopy toothbrush! (04:49)
  • Menopause can cause radical changes to your sex life (09:11)
  • 30 to 40% of couples are not making love at all (16:43)
  • When we rely on spontaneous desire, our sex life is in trouble (20:36)
  • You need to design a sex life that works for you (29:32)
  • Today’s LoveByte (31:40)


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2026 Dr. Cheryl and Relationship Expert Bruce Muzik Talk Love Attachment Styles: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 4 Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?” “Why are divorce rates so high?” “How do I overcome conflict with my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships. Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03) Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51) Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21) There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53) Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34) Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 24 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?” “Why are divorce rates so high?” “How do I overcome conflict with my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships. Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03) Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51) Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21) There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53) Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34) Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)


“Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?”

“Why are divorce rates so high?”

“How do I overcome conflict with my partner?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships.


Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE.


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03)
  • Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51)
  • Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21)
  • There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53)
  • Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34)
  • Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49)


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3895 Communicate With Kindness: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 3 Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, why do our arguments get so nasty?” “We talk, but we never make progress. What’s the key to communication?” “How can we argue without fighting?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the third in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. “I can't stand you.” “I'm out of here.” “What are we even doing together?”  If any of these sound familiar to you, you might just be wondering if long-term love is dead after all.  Today, I'm going to dive into the fact that long-term kind speech, civility, and respect aren’t dead, but they may be on life support. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The three sides of the passion triangle are intimacy, thrill, and sensuality (01:50) Many of our arguments turn ugly because of emotional flooding (10:30) How to rate your conflict resolution skills (17:30) We need to connect before we attempt to communicate (26:34) Today’s LoveByte (27:42) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 10 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, why do our arguments get so nasty?” “We talk, but we never make progress. What’s the key to communication?” “How can we argue without fighting?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the third in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. “I can't stand you.” “I'm out of here.” “What are we even doing together?”  If any of these sound familiar to you, you might just be wondering if long-term love is dead after all.  Today, I'm going to dive into the fact that long-term kind speech, civility, and respect aren’t dead, but they may be on life support. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The three sides of the passion triangle are intimacy, thrill, and sensuality (01:50) Many of our arguments turn ugly because of emotional flooding (10:30) How to rate your conflict resolution skills (17:30) We need to connect before we attempt to communicate (26:34) Today’s LoveByte (27:42) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)


“Dr. Cheryl, why do our arguments get so nasty?”

“We talk, but we never make progress. What’s the key to communication?”

“How can we argue without fighting?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the third in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


“I can't stand you.” “I'm out of here.” “What are we even doing together?” 

If any of these sound familiar to you, you might just be wondering if long-term love is dead after all. 


Today, I'm going to dive into the fact that long-term kind speech, civility, and respect aren’t dead, but they may be on life support.


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • The three sides of the passion triangle are intimacy, thrill, and sensuality (01:50)
  • Many of our arguments turn ugly because of emotional flooding (10:30)
  • How to rate your conflict resolution skills (17:30)
  • We need to connect before we attempt to communicate (26:34)
  • Today’s LoveByte (27:42)


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1793 Commitment is a Choice: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 2 Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when door to the the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, help! Why don’t I feel as committed to my spouse as I used to?” “Why am I so scared to commit?” “How do I revive my commitment to my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the second in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. We believe that if we get married or move in together or make another human that we are committed: “Now we're a family and we're more committed than ever!” But the statistics and our own life experience don’t necessarily prove that to be true… How committed are you to your long term relationship? At some point, you did choose to commit to your partner—whether you’ve said “I do” or not Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Divorce can spawn so much ugliness—even convincing couples they were never in love at all (04:18) If you choose to seek couples therapy, make sure to do your research on the therapist (07:07) The Passion Triangle is a wonderful guide for long term commitment (11:13) Long-term love isn’t dead—it's in a coma (20:32) Commitment is a choice (24:37) Today’s LoveByte (33:18) Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.   Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 24 Feb 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when door to the the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, help! Why don’t I feel as committed to my spouse as I used to?” “Why am I so scared to commit?” “How do I revive my commitment to my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the second in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. We believe that if we get married or move in together or make another human that we are committed: “Now we're a family and we're more committed than ever!” But the statistics and our own life experience don’t necessarily prove that to be true… How committed are you to your long term relationship? At some point, you did choose to commit to your partner—whether you’ve said “I do” or not Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Divorce can spawn so much ugliness—even convincing couples they were never in love at all (04:18) If you choose to seek couples therapy, make sure to do your research on the therapist (07:07) The Passion Triangle is a wonderful guide for long term commitment (11:13) Long-term love isn’t dead—it's in a coma (20:32) Commitment is a choice (24:37) Today’s LoveByte (33:18) Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.   Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when door to the the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)


“Dr. Cheryl, help! Why don’t I feel as committed to my spouse as I used to?”

“Why am I so scared to commit?”

“How do I revive my commitment to my partner?”


This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the second in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


We believe that if we get married or move in together or make another human that we are committed: “Now we're a family and we're more committed than ever!” But the statistics and our own life experience don’t necessarily prove that to be true…


How committed are you to your long term relationship? At some point, you did choose to commit to your partner—whether you’ve said “I do” or not


Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank!


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Divorce can spawn so much ugliness—even convincing couples they were never in love at all (04:18)
  • If you choose to seek couples therapy, make sure to do your research on the therapist (07:07)
  • The Passion Triangle is a wonderful guide for long term commitment (11:13)
  • Long-term love isn’t dead—it's in a coma (20:32)
  • Commitment is a choice (24:37)
  • Today’s LoveByte (33:18)


Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively


Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  


Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2144 Is Long-Term Love Dead? Be the first to know when Cheryl’s next FREE couples workshop is offered! Click here to join the waitlist.   “Dr. Cheryl, how do I know when it’s time for a divorce?” “Do people ever regret the decision to end their marriage?” “Is divorce the right decision for me and my spouse?” Is long-term love dead? Take a look at the number of divorces, the rate of affairs, younger generations talking about the lack of commitment… I’m not sure if it’s dead, but it’s definitely not looking good, is it?  This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants kicks off a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I’m not necessarily against divorce, but I do believe there are cases where it’s not the only answer. In one study, people who'd been divorced for two years were asked: “Do you feel you made the right decision to end your marriage?” As it turns out, a whopping 50% of those surveyed said they had post-divorce regret.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: This fall may be the last time I hold my three month Become Passion Program—join the waitlist here (03:23) To save your relationship, kill the soulmate (05:00) Think back to what you miss about a brand new relationship—was it about the person or was it about the honeymoon phase? (14:50) You need to be the change you want to be in your relationship (18:48) Today’s LoveByte (24:57) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 10 Feb 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Be the first to know when Cheryl’s next FREE couples workshop is offered! Click here to join the waitlist.   “Dr. Cheryl, how do I know when it’s time for a divorce?” “Do people ever regret the decision to end their marriage?” “Is divorce the right decision for me and my spouse?” Is long-term love dead? Take a look at the number of divorces, the rate of affairs, younger generations talking about the lack of commitment… I’m not sure if it’s dead, but it’s definitely not looking good, is it?  This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants kicks off a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I’m not necessarily against divorce, but I do believe there are cases where it’s not the only answer. In one study, people who'd been divorced for two years were asked: “Do you feel you made the right decision to end your marriage?” As it turns out, a whopping 50% of those surveyed said they had post-divorce regret.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: This fall may be the last time I hold my three month Become Passion Program—join the waitlist here (03:23) To save your relationship, kill the soulmate (05:00) Think back to what you miss about a brand new relationship—was it about the person or was it about the honeymoon phase? (14:50) You need to be the change you want to be in your relationship (18:48) Today’s LoveByte (24:57) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Be the first to know when Cheryl’s next FREE couples workshop is offered! Click here to join the waitlist.  


“Dr. Cheryl, how do I know when it’s time for a divorce?”

“Do people ever regret the decision to end their marriage?”

“Is divorce the right decision for me and my spouse?”


Is long-term love dead? Take a look at the number of divorces, the rate of affairs, younger generations talking about the lack of commitment… I’m not sure if it’s dead, but it’s definitely not looking good, is it? 


This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants kicks off a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.


I’m not necessarily against divorce, but I do believe there are cases where it’s not the only answer. In one study, people who'd been divorced for two years were asked: “Do you feel you made the right decision to end your marriage?” As it turns out, a whopping 50% of those surveyed said they had post-divorce regret. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • This fall may be the last time I hold my three month Become Passion Program—join the waitlist here (03:23)
  • To save your relationship, kill the soulmate (05:00)
  • Think back to what you miss about a brand new relationship—was it about the person or was it about the honeymoon phase? (14:50)
  • You need to be the change you want to be in your relationship (18:48)
  • Today’s LoveByte (24:57)



Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1646 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Are You Lazy in Bed? Try My Top 3 Tips to be a Better Lover Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection. On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the heat to your bedroom and the spice back to your long term relationship in 2025. Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49) Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09) Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11) Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50) Today’s LoveByte (17:36) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 03 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection. On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the heat to your bedroom and the spice back to your long term relationship in 2025. Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49) Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09) Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11) Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50) Today’s LoveByte (17:36) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love? 

Take the Passion Quiz Now! 


“Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?”

“Why has the heat left our sex life?”

“How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?”


Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection.


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the heat to your bedroom and the spice back to your long term relationship in 2025.


Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body?


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49)
  • Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09)
  • Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11)
  • Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50)
  • Today’s LoveByte (17:36)



Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1266 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Are you a Romance Dud? 3 Tips for More Romance Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2025 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38) A great relationship is about taking action (11:16) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18) Today’s LoveByte (18:56) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 27 Jan 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2025 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38) A great relationship is about taking action (11:16) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18) Today’s LoveByte (18:56) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love? 

Take the Passion Quiz Now! 


“But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?” 

“How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?”

“Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!”


It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page. 


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2025 and beyond. 


When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40)
  • Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38)
  • Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38)
  • A great relationship is about taking action (11:16)
  • Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09)
  • Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18)
  • Today’s LoveByte (18:56)



Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1340 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30) Today’s LoveByte (21:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Mon, 20 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30) Today’s LoveByte (21:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love? 

Take the Passion Quiz Now! 


“But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?”


If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? 


On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.


When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00)
  • One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38)
  • To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40)
  • When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28)
  • We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30)
  • Today’s LoveByte (21:09)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1479 Three Tips for Better Sex in 2024 “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year. I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43) The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15) Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55) Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51) Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37) Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11) Today’s LoveByte (21:55) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Mon, 13 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year. I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43) The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15) Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55) Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51) Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37) Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11) Today’s LoveByte (21:55) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!” 

“Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!” 

“Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?”


These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year.


I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43)
  • The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15)
  • Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55)
  • Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51)
  • Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37)
  • Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11)
  • Today’s LoveByte (21:55)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


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]]> 1516 Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Talk Sex, Love & Life: SLE Holiday Rewind Vol 2 “Dr. Cheryl, how do I bring back the spark?” “How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?” “Am I in a sexless marriage?” I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex… Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is a look back at my number one episode of 2024. You’ll hear my hubby and I sit down for a chat about all things sensuality, sex, and what to do when those things stop being easy. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57) Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38) Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09) There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)  Top Tip? Schedule Sex! Today’s LoveByte (39:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 30 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, how do I bring back the spark?” “How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?” “Am I in a sexless marriage?” I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex… Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is a look back at my number one episode of 2024. You’ll hear my hubby and I sit down for a chat about all things sensuality, sex, and what to do when those things stop being easy. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57) Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38) Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09) There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)  Top Tip? Schedule Sex! Today’s LoveByte (39:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl, how do I bring back the spark?”

“How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?”

“Am I in a sexless marriage?”


I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex…


Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is a look back at my number one episode of 2024. You’ll hear my hubby and I sit down for a chat about all things sensuality, sex, and what to do when those things stop being easy.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57)
  • Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38)
  • Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09)
  • There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)
  •  Top Tip? Schedule Sex!
  • Today’s LoveByte (39:19)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2606 Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking & Make the Holidays Romantic: SLE Holiday Rewind Vol 2 “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be more present for my sweetheart?” “What’s the number one gift to give my spouse?” “How do I make Christmas more exciting?” This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? On today’s classic episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in old St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking (13:52) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08) Today’s LoveByte (25:52) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 16 Dec 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be more present for my sweetheart?” “What’s the number one gift to give my spouse?” “How do I make Christmas more exciting?” This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? On today’s classic episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in old St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking (13:52) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08) Today’s LoveByte (25:52) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be more present for my sweetheart?”

“What’s the number one gift to give my spouse?”

“How do I make Christmas more exciting?”


This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?


On today’s classic episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical. 


Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in old St. Nick?


In This Episode, You Will Learn:


  • Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33) 
  • It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00)
  • If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34)
  • If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking (13:52)
  • Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08)
  • Today’s LoveByte (25:52)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1704 Improve your Relationship Over the Holidays: SLE Holiday Rewind Vol 1 “Dr. Cheryl, can I make the holidays special with my sweetheart?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my spouse?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart? In today’s throwback episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38) This week’s LoveByte (14:40) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 09 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, can I make the holidays special with my sweetheart?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my spouse?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart? In today’s throwback episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38) This week’s LoveByte (14:40) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram “Dr. Cheryl, can I make the holidays special with my sweetheart?”

“Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?”

“How can I prioritize my spouse?”


No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart?


In today’s throwback episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all. 


Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?” 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03)
  • Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22)
  • Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13)
  • It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52)
  • Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38)
  • This week’s LoveByte (14:40)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1023 Grade Your Relationship: Pass or Fail? It’s Time For a Passion Performance Review Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship? When did my hubby become so boring?  My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it? Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated (03:57) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good (08:33) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will (10:57) Most affairs aren’t planned (14:03) Join the wait list for the free workshops I'm teaching in early 2025 (22:00) Today’s LoveByte (34:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship? When did my hubby become so boring?  My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it? Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated (03:57) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good (08:33) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will (10:57) Most affairs aren’t planned (14:03) Join the wait list for the free workshops I'm teaching in early 2025 (22:00) Today’s LoveByte (34:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?

When did my hubby become so boring? 

My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?


Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go. 


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart. 


Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated (03:57)
  • We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good (08:33)
  • If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will (10:57)
  • Most affairs aren’t planned (14:03)
  • Join the wait list for the free workshops I'm teaching in early 2025 (22:00)
  • Today’s LoveByte (34:09)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2175 Prisoners of the Mind—Why Suffering is Up to You: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl Dr. Cheryl, how can I be happier in my circumstances? Why is my anxiety so overpowering?  How can I stop obsessing about the future? What’s the cause of happiness? Could you be happier in a prison than you'd be in a monastery? And if we're accepting where we are, no matter good or bad, doesn't that mean that we're free?  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around suffering and why so much of our mental hardships are a choice that we make. Have you ever felt at times like you can't get out of an emotional state of anxiety or worry? Even when you know that much of it is a story and a lot of it is casting worry about the future? Even when you know that it’s something you'll be able to pivot and cope through? If you’ve answered yes, there’s no reason to be ashamed. There are times when we all fall prey to thinking like this.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This too shall pass (06:11) Whether your in prison or paradise, your attitude is your choice (28:24) We all have self-imposed labels that stop us from being free (30:54) Beliefs are simply understandings that make sense based on what we currently know (47:37) We often find ourselves in the prison of the past or the prison of the future (51:29] Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 11 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Dr. Cheryl, how can I be happier in my circumstances? Why is my anxiety so overpowering?  How can I stop obsessing about the future? What’s the cause of happiness? Could you be happier in a prison than you'd be in a monastery? And if we're accepting where we are, no matter good or bad, doesn't that mean that we're free?  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around suffering and why so much of our mental hardships are a choice that we make. Have you ever felt at times like you can't get out of an emotional state of anxiety or worry? Even when you know that much of it is a story and a lot of it is casting worry about the future? Even when you know that it’s something you'll be able to pivot and cope through? If you’ve answered yes, there’s no reason to be ashamed. There are times when we all fall prey to thinking like this.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This too shall pass (06:11) Whether your in prison or paradise, your attitude is your choice (28:24) We all have self-imposed labels that stop us from being free (30:54) Beliefs are simply understandings that make sense based on what we currently know (47:37) We often find ourselves in the prison of the past or the prison of the future (51:29] Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Dr. Cheryl, how can I be happier in my circumstances?

Why is my anxiety so overpowering? 

How can I stop obsessing about the future?


What’s the cause of happiness? Could you be happier in a prison than you'd be in a monastery? And if we're accepting where we are, no matter good or bad, doesn't that mean that we're free? 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around suffering and why so much of our mental hardships are a choice that we make.


Have you ever felt at times like you can't get out of an emotional state of anxiety or worry? Even when you know that much of it is a story and a lot of it is casting worry about the future? Even when you know that it’s something you'll be able to pivot and cope through? If you’ve answered yes, there’s no reason to be ashamed. There are times when we all fall prey to thinking like this. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • This too shall pass (06:11)
  • Whether your in prison or paradise, your attitude is your choice (28:24)
  • We all have self-imposed labels that stop us from being free (30:54)
  • Beliefs are simply understandings that make sense based on what we currently know (47:37)
  • We often find ourselves in the prison of the past or the prison of the future (51:29]


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3832 What Masks Do You Wear?: A Hallowe’en Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl Dr. Cheryl, how can I express my true self? Why do I feel the need to hide from the world?  How can I work through my anger? We all play a hundred different roles and contain multitudes, but what are the masks you wear? And who are the goblins, demons, and vampires that plague you?  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk where I teach about ideas that can feel much spookier than the ghosts and ghouls of Halloween.  What is your shadow self? What are the parts of yourself you don't like to look at? What are the parts of you that are your darker self from trauma, fear, and need? The more we can look at the masks we wear, the more we can examine the costumes we wear, the more we can have moments of grace and less suffering.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We sometimes forget we're a whole conglomeration of shifting roles and personality traits (07:51) Where you put your attention, energy goes (24:13) We all have inner demons but when we repress or ignore them, they find their way out—usually in destructive ways (35:47) Hatred is illusory. Hatred is a state of mind that we can learn to see through and dissolve without taking unwholesome action (46:38) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 28 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Dr. Cheryl, how can I express my true self? Why do I feel the need to hide from the world?  How can I work through my anger? We all play a hundred different roles and contain multitudes, but what are the masks you wear? And who are the goblins, demons, and vampires that plague you?  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk where I teach about ideas that can feel much spookier than the ghosts and ghouls of Halloween.  What is your shadow self? What are the parts of yourself you don't like to look at? What are the parts of you that are your darker self from trauma, fear, and need? The more we can look at the masks we wear, the more we can examine the costumes we wear, the more we can have moments of grace and less suffering.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We sometimes forget we're a whole conglomeration of shifting roles and personality traits (07:51) Where you put your attention, energy goes (24:13) We all have inner demons but when we repress or ignore them, they find their way out—usually in destructive ways (35:47) Hatred is illusory. Hatred is a state of mind that we can learn to see through and dissolve without taking unwholesome action (46:38) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Dr. Cheryl, how can I express my true self?

Why do I feel the need to hide from the world? 

How can I work through my anger?


We all play a hundred different roles and contain multitudes, but what are the masks you wear? And who are the goblins, demons, and vampires that plague you? 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk where I teach about ideas that can feel much spookier than the ghosts and ghouls of Halloween. 


What is your shadow self? What are the parts of yourself you don't like to look at? What are the parts of you that are your darker self from trauma, fear, and need? The more we can look at the masks we wear, the more we can examine the costumes we wear, the more we can have moments of grace and less suffering. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • We sometimes forget we're a whole conglomeration of shifting roles and personality traits (07:51)
  • Where you put your attention, energy goes (24:13)
  • We all have inner demons but when we repress or ignore them, they find their way out—usually in destructive ways (35:47)
  • Hatred is illusory. Hatred is a state of mind that we can learn to see through and dissolve without taking unwholesome action (46:38)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3869 Best Of Sex, Love & Elephants: How to Apologize Like a MoFo Missed registering for the Become Passion program? We can help you out! The first live class is this weekend.  Email support@drcherylfraser.com and we can try to get you in the back door! Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to sincerely apologize? Should I be worried that my partner and I fight?  How can I make up with my partner after we argue? Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In this throwback episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over. This love hack  is super   beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you  how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves...  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship.  (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine.  (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 14 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Missed registering for the Become Passion program? We can help you out! The first live class is this weekend.  Email support@drcherylfraser.com and we can try to get you in the back door! Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to sincerely apologize? Should I be worried that my partner and I fight?  How can I make up with my partner after we argue? Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In this throwback episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over. This love hack  is super   beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you  how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves...  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship.  (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine.  (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Missed registering for the Become Passion program? We can help you out! The first live class is this weekend. 

Email support@drcherylfraser.com and we can try to get you in the back door!


Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to sincerely apologize?

Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? 

How can I make up with my partner after we argue?


Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration?


Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right?


In this throwback episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over. This love hack  is super   beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you  how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves... 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship.  (04:26)
  • When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24)
  • The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50)
  • If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine.  (12:45)
  • Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1695 Want an Exceptional Relationship? Prepare to Work Why is it so important to work on your relationship? Because when you neglect it, it grows stagnant. A love affair is a lot like a garden—if you don't tend to it, it gets overgrown with weeds. Want to revive your communication and your sex life? Are you ready to reignite love, romance, and passion and fall in love with your partner all over again—without years of counseling, silly quick-fix gimmicks, or endless relationship theories that don't give you the tools that actually work? Become Passion kicks off October 11th. Learn more about the program and register HERE. Curious but still want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why is my marriage so boring?” “How do I make my relationship more fun?” “Is it over for me and my partner?” Join me today for part four of my chat with my hubby where we talk about all things Become Passion, including some of our favorite moments from past sessions and all the ways we work on our love. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My Become Passion program is kicking off THIS Friday—and there are still a few slots left for couples just like YOU (01:04) My hubby and I made our own marriage missteps before we found each other (04:33) The desire to know each other's hopes and dreams is what tends to die in the first couple years of a relationship (09:46) If you’re bored with your partner, it's because your own mind is boring (13:27) If you want to create meaningful change, you need to be able to bring up and gently hold the resentments and the hurts of the years gone by (31:13) Today’s LoveByte (39:47) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 07 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Why is it so important to work on your relationship? Because when you neglect it, it grows stagnant. A love affair is a lot like a garden—if you don't tend to it, it gets overgrown with weeds. Want to revive your communication and your sex life? Are you ready to reignite love, romance, and passion and fall in love with your partner all over again—without years of counseling, silly quick-fix gimmicks, or endless relationship theories that don't give you the tools that actually work? Become Passion kicks off October 11th. Learn more about the program and register HERE. Curious but still want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why is my marriage so boring?” “How do I make my relationship more fun?” “Is it over for me and my partner?” Join me today for part four of my chat with my hubby where we talk about all things Become Passion, including some of our favorite moments from past sessions and all the ways we work on our love. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My Become Passion program is kicking off THIS Friday—and there are still a few slots left for couples just like YOU (01:04) My hubby and I made our own marriage missteps before we found each other (04:33) The desire to know each other's hopes and dreams is what tends to die in the first couple years of a relationship (09:46) If you’re bored with your partner, it's because your own mind is boring (13:27) If you want to create meaningful change, you need to be able to bring up and gently hold the resentments and the hurts of the years gone by (31:13) Today’s LoveByte (39:47) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Why is it so important to work on your relationship? Because when you neglect it, it grows stagnant. A love affair is a lot like a garden—if you don't tend to it, it gets overgrown with weeds.


Want to revive your communication and your sex life? Are you ready to reignite love, romance, and passion and fall in love with your partner all over again—without years of counseling, silly quick-fix gimmicks, or endless relationship theories that don't give you the tools that actually work?

Become Passion kicks off October 11th. Learn more about the program and register HERE.


Curious but still want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


“Dr. Cheryl, why is my marriage so boring?”

“How do I make my relationship more fun?”

“Is it over for me and my partner?”


Join me today for part four of my chat with my hubby where we talk about all things Become Passion, including some of our favorite moments from past sessions and all the ways we work on our love.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • My Become Passion program is kicking off THIS Friday—and there are still a few slots left for couples just like YOU (01:04)
  • My hubby and I made our own marriage missteps before we found each other (04:33)
  • The desire to know each other's hopes and dreams is what tends to die in the first couple years of a relationship (09:46)
  • If you’re bored with your partner, it's because your own mind is boring (13:27)
  • If you want to create meaningful change, you need to be able to bring up and gently hold the resentments and the hurts of the years gone by (31:13)
  • Today’s LoveByte (39:47)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2516 Lust Fades But Your Sex Life Shouldn’t: Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Talk Sex I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex… Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner! Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why don’t my partner and I connect like we used to?” “How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?” “Am I in a sexless marriage?” Join me today for part three of my chat with my hubby where we cover sensuality and all things sex—when it's easy, when it's not, and what to do about it. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My FREE Passion masterclass is happening the first week of October—and I won’t be teaching it for another 18 months  The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57) Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38) Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09) There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)  Top Tip? Schedule Sex! Today’s LoveByte (39:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 30 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex… Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner! Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why don’t my partner and I connect like we used to?” “How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?” “Am I in a sexless marriage?” Join me today for part three of my chat with my hubby where we cover sensuality and all things sex—when it's easy, when it's not, and what to do about it. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My FREE Passion masterclass is happening the first week of October—and I won’t be teaching it for another 18 months  The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57) Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38) Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09) There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)  Top Tip? Schedule Sex! Today’s LoveByte (39:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex…


Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner!


Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


“Dr. Cheryl, why don’t my partner and I connect like we used to?”

“How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?”

“Am I in a sexless marriage?”


Join me today for part three of my chat with my hubby where we cover sensuality and all things sex—when it's easy, when it's not, and what to do about it.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • My FREE Passion masterclass is happening the first week of October—and I won’t be teaching it for another 18 months 
  • The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57)
  • Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38)
  • Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09)
  • There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)
  •  Top Tip? Schedule Sex!
  • Today’s LoveByte (39:19)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2491 Even Love Experts Suffer Communication Breakdown: Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Tell All What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? She acts like an absolute queen, uses all of her skills and never makes a mistake, and should win an Oscar for incredible communication skills, right? Well, it’s not quite so simple… Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner! Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why is open communication so hard?” “How can I be more honest with my sweetheart?” “Why are my partner and I constantly fighting?” Join me today for part two of my chat with my hubby where we’re talking about communication, conflict resolution, and the intimacy side of the Passion Triangle.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: My FREE Passion masterclass is happening the first 3 days of October—and I won’t be teaching it for another 18 months (03:20) The rituals that my hubby and I practice to stay connected (07:25) When a person is emotionally flooded, all sense goes out the window (13:26) Touch can be a great way to come back into alignment after a nasty fight (19:25) There's more to partnership than just coexisting under the same roof (26:37) Today’s LoveByte (40:35) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 23 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? She acts like an absolute queen, uses all of her skills and never makes a mistake, and should win an Oscar for incredible communication skills, right? Well, it’s not quite so simple… Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner! Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why is open communication so hard?” “How can I be more honest with my sweetheart?” “Why are my partner and I constantly fighting?” Join me today for part two of my chat with my hubby where we’re talking about communication, conflict resolution, and the intimacy side of the Passion Triangle.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: My FREE Passion masterclass is happening the first 3 days of October—and I won’t be teaching it for another 18 months (03:20) The rituals that my hubby and I practice to stay connected (07:25) When a person is emotionally flooded, all sense goes out the window (13:26) Touch can be a great way to come back into alignment after a nasty fight (19:25) There's more to partnership than just coexisting under the same roof (26:37) Today’s LoveByte (40:35) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? She acts like an absolute queen, uses all of her skills and never makes a mistake, and should win an Oscar for incredible communication skills, right? Well, it’s not quite so simple…


Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner!


Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


“Dr. Cheryl, why is open communication so hard?”

“How can I be more honest with my sweetheart?”

“Why are my partner and I constantly fighting?”


Join me today for part two of my chat with my hubby where we’re talking about communication, conflict resolution, and the intimacy side of the Passion Triangle. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • My FREE Passion masterclass is happening the first 3 days of October—and I won’t be teaching it for another 18 months (03:20)
  • The rituals that my hubby and I practice to stay connected (07:25)
  • When a person is emotionally flooded, all sense goes out the window (13:26)
  • Touch can be a great way to come back into alignment after a nasty fight (19:25)
  • There's more to partnership than just coexisting under the same roof (26:37)
  • Today’s LoveByte (40:35)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2591 What’s It Like Being Married to a Love Expert? Meet Dr. Cheryl’s HUSBAND! Meet my hubby! Ever wondered what it would be like to be married to a world famous sex and love expert? On today’s episode, I’m sitting down for an interview with my very own hubby to get his take on all things Sex, Love, and Elephants. We talk about how important it is to keep the Thrill alive - and how we do that ourselves. Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today.  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I treat my partner better? “What are some ways to connect more fully with my spouse?” “Why is my relationship so boring now vs when we were first dating?” We’re all human beings with our own issues, our own patterns, childhoods, and previous relationships. Sometimes, those things can ambush us and our partners… and even renowned sex and love professionals aren’t immune to it! Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: This October is your last chance to join my Become Passion program for an entire year (02:52) The danger of Marriage Incorporated and boredom (05:19) Placing your hand over your partner’s heart can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and help them to calm down (06:59) My hubby and I waited to have sex for the first five weeks of dating—and it made that intimacy all the more exciting (11:37) Why THRILL is so important and how you and your sweetheart need to make an effort to keep romance, spark, and interest alive (21:02) Today’s LoveByte (36:39) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 16 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Meet my hubby! Ever wondered what it would be like to be married to a world famous sex and love expert? On today’s episode, I’m sitting down for an interview with my very own hubby to get his take on all things Sex, Love, and Elephants. We talk about how important it is to keep the Thrill alive - and how we do that ourselves. Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today.  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I treat my partner better? “What are some ways to connect more fully with my spouse?” “Why is my relationship so boring now vs when we were first dating?” We’re all human beings with our own issues, our own patterns, childhoods, and previous relationships. Sometimes, those things can ambush us and our partners… and even renowned sex and love professionals aren’t immune to it! Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: This October is your last chance to join my Become Passion program for an entire year (02:52) The danger of Marriage Incorporated and boredom (05:19) Placing your hand over your partner’s heart can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and help them to calm down (06:59) My hubby and I waited to have sex for the first five weeks of dating—and it made that intimacy all the more exciting (11:37) Why THRILL is so important and how you and your sweetheart need to make an effort to keep romance, spark, and interest alive (21:02) Today’s LoveByte (36:39) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Meet my hubby! Ever wondered what it would be like to be married to a world famous sex and love expert? On today’s episode, I’m sitting down for an interview with my very own hubby to get his take on all things Sex, Love, and Elephants. We talk about how important it is to keep the Thrill alive - and how we do that ourselves.

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today. 


“Dr. Cheryl, how can I treat my partner better?

“What are some ways to connect more fully with my spouse?”

“Why is my relationship so boring now vs when we were first dating?”


We’re all human beings with our own issues, our own patterns, childhoods, and previous relationships. Sometimes, those things can ambush us and our partners… and even renowned sex and love professionals aren’t immune to it!



Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • This October is your last chance to join my Become Passion program for an entire year (02:52)
  • The danger of Marriage Incorporated and boredom (05:19)
  • Placing your hand over your partner’s heart can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and help them to calm down (06:59)
  • My hubby and I waited to have sex for the first five weeks of dating—and it made that intimacy all the more exciting (11:37)
  • Why THRILL is so important and how you and your sweetheart need to make an effort to keep romance, spark, and interest alive (21:02)
  • Today’s LoveByte (36:39)

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2328 In a Love Rut? Wish You Could Start again? Rate your Passion Triangle Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1!  Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today.  “Dr. Cheryl, I screwed up my relationship… Please HELP!” “How can I fix my broken marriage?” “Is there a way to bring back the intimacy and thrill in my relationship?” If you and your honey could begin again, how would you do things differently? Maybe you weren’t so attentive when you were dating, maybe last week when you had an ugly repeating argument, or  maybe you realized you were neglecting a really important aspect of your relationship…  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how my Passion Triangle can allow you and your sweetheart to develop a whole new perspective on your relationship. Unless somebody out there has a time machine, it’s impossible to go back and redo those earlier phases—but if you could do it over again, would you? Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The Become Passion program starts this October and is full of real couples with real problems—just like you and your sweetie (02:25) My Passion Triangle is made up of sensuality, thrill, and intimacy (04:38) Intimacy is more than sex, it’s about psychological communication, too (07:15) Many couples have repeating issues and arguments because most of us were never taught conflict resolution (11:17) Thrill means making the effort to fall in love again with the one we're already with (17:59) 30-40% of long term couples are in what is clinically defined as a sexless relationship (21:11) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 09 Sep 2024 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1!  Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today.  “Dr. Cheryl, I screwed up my relationship… Please HELP!” “How can I fix my broken marriage?” “Is there a way to bring back the intimacy and thrill in my relationship?” If you and your honey could begin again, how would you do things differently? Maybe you weren’t so attentive when you were dating, maybe last week when you had an ugly repeating argument, or  maybe you realized you were neglecting a really important aspect of your relationship…  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how my Passion Triangle can allow you and your sweetheart to develop a whole new perspective on your relationship. Unless somebody out there has a time machine, it’s impossible to go back and redo those earlier phases—but if you could do it over again, would you? Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The Become Passion program starts this October and is full of real couples with real problems—just like you and your sweetie (02:25) My Passion Triangle is made up of sensuality, thrill, and intimacy (04:38) Intimacy is more than sex, it’s about psychological communication, too (07:15) Many couples have repeating issues and arguments because most of us were never taught conflict resolution (11:17) Thrill means making the effort to fall in love again with the one we're already with (17:59) 30-40% of long term couples are in what is clinically defined as a sexless relationship (21:11) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1!  Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today. 


“Dr. Cheryl, I screwed up my relationship… Please HELP!”

“How can I fix my broken marriage?”

“Is there a way to bring back the intimacy and thrill in my relationship?”


If you and your honey could begin again, how would you do things differently? Maybe you weren’t so attentive when you were dating, maybe last week when you had an ugly repeating argument, or  maybe you realized you were neglecting a really important aspect of your relationship… 


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how my Passion Triangle can allow you and your sweetheart to develop a whole new perspective on your relationship.


Unless somebody out there has a time machine, it’s impossible to go back and redo those earlier phases—but if you could do it over again, would you?


Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The Become Passion program starts this October and is full of real couples with real problems—just like you and your sweetie (02:25)
  • My Passion Triangle is made up of sensuality, thrill, and intimacy (04:38)
  • Intimacy is more than sex, it’s about psychological communication, too (07:15)
  • Many couples have repeating issues and arguments because most of us were never taught conflict resolution (11:17)
  • Thrill means making the effort to fall in love again with the one we're already with (17:59)
  • 30-40% of long term couples are in what is clinically defined as a sexless relationship (21:11)

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1786 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Great Relationships Need More Than Love—Summer of Love Part 8 “Dr. Cheryl, why are relationships so hard?!” “Is there an easier way to connect with my partner?” “My spouse and I no longer ‘click’—what’s wrong with us?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is another flashback to my Summer of Love series from a few years ago. In it, I talk about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07) In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41) Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24) We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26) Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03) This week’s LoveByte (28:06) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 02 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, why are relationships so hard?!” “Is there an easier way to connect with my partner?” “My spouse and I no longer ‘click’—what’s wrong with us?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is another flashback to my Summer of Love series from a few years ago. In it, I talk about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07) In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41) Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24) We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26) Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03) This week’s LoveByte (28:06) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl, why are relationships so hard?!”

“Is there an easier way to connect with my partner?”

“My spouse and I no longer ‘click’—what’s wrong with us?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is another flashback to my Summer of Love series from a few years ago. In it, I talk about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person. 


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07)
  • In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41)
  • Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24)
  • We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26)
  • Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03)
  • This week’s LoveByte (28:06)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  


]]> 1817 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Start Scheduling Intimacy and Treat Your Sex Life Like a Hobby—Summer of Love Part 7 “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun back to our bedroom?”  “Why don’t I ever feel horny toward my partner anymore?” “How do I know if my relationship is great?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m teaching you my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into! Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10) The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37) We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17) The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30) Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04) This week’s LoveByte (28:45) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 26 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun back to our bedroom?”  “Why don’t I ever feel horny toward my partner anymore?” “How do I know if my relationship is great?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m teaching you my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into! Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10) The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37) We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17) The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30) Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04) This week’s LoveByte (28:45) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun back to our bedroom?” 

“Why don’t I ever feel horny toward my partner anymore?”

“How do I know if my relationship is great?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m teaching you my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into!


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10)
  • The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37)
  • We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17)
  • The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30)
  • Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04)
  • This week’s LoveByte (28:45)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1861 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: STOP Treating Your Mate Like a Roommate—Summer of Love Part 6 “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can we bring sexy back?”  “Why do men only care about sex and not romance?” “What are some great date ideas to reconnect with my partner?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also teach you why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency. Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59) The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40) Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57) The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14) This week’s LoveByte (34:30) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 19 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can we bring sexy back?”  “Why do men only care about sex and not romance?” “What are some great date ideas to reconnect with my partner?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also teach you why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency. Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59) The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40) Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57) The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14) This week’s LoveByte (34:30) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can we bring sexy back?” 

“Why do men only care about sex and not romance?”

“What are some great date ideas to reconnect with my partner?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating.


I also teach you why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency.


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59)
  • The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40)
  • Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57)
  • The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14)
  • This week’s LoveByte (34:30)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2199 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: NOT COMPATIBLE? Think Again—Summer of Love Part 5 “Dr. Cheryl, can my honey and I become more compatible?”  “I’m a homebody and my partner is a social butterfly… will our relationship last?” “How can a couple succeed in love even if they’re very different?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts.  I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20) Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08) You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39) Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40) If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22) This week’s LoveByte (26:31) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, can my honey and I become more compatible?”  “I’m a homebody and my partner is a social butterfly… will our relationship last?” “How can a couple succeed in love even if they’re very different?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts.  I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20) Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08) You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39) Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40) If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22) This week’s LoveByte (26:31) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram “Dr. Cheryl, can my honey and I become more compatible?” 

“I’m a homebody and my partner is a social butterfly… will our relationship last?”

“How can a couple succeed in love even if they’re very different?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. 


I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind. 


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)
  • Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08)
  • You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)
  • Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)
  • If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)
  • This week’s LoveByte (26:31)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1728 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: What’s Your Fantasy? 50 Shades of S, L, & E—Summer of Love Part 4 “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?”  “How can I explore my sexual fantasies?” “Is it healthy to indulge in sexual fantasy? Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04) The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24) The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20) Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58) My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45) This week’s LoveByte (27:49) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 05 Aug 2024 09:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?”  “How can I explore my sexual fantasies?” “Is it healthy to indulge in sexual fantasy? Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04) The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24) The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20) Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58) My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45) This week’s LoveByte (27:49) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” 

“How can I explore my sexual fantasies?”

“Is it healthy to indulge in sexual fantasy?


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series. 


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04)
  • The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24)
  • The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20)
  • Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58)
  • My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45)
  • This week’s LoveByte (27:49)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1816 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Watch Your Mouth! Can Verbal Abuse Be Overcome?—Summer of Love Part 3 “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to break up with my verbally abusive partner?”  “My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, how can we overcome this?” “How do I know if my spouse is verbally abusing me?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome. Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to identify verbal abuse (4:34) The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57) An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39) That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46) If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50) This week’s LoveByte (30:39) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 29 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to break up with my verbally abusive partner?”  “My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, how can we overcome this?” “How do I know if my spouse is verbally abusing me?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome. Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to identify verbal abuse (4:34) The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57) An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39) That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46) If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50) This week’s LoveByte (30:39) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to break up with my verbally abusive partner?” 

“My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, how can we overcome this?”

“How do I know if my spouse is verbally abusing me?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome.


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How to identify verbal abuse (4:34)
  • The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57)
  • An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39)
  • That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46)
  • If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50)
  • This week’s LoveByte (30:39)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1990 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Sometimes You’ve Gotta Rock the Boat—Summer of Love Part 2 “ Dr. Cheryl, my honey and I never fight… Is that okay?”  “My partner avoids all conflict with me, what can I do?” “How can my spouse and I learn to communicate more effectively?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about why a lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29) Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29) Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)  There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31) A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49) This week’s LoveByte (21:05) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 22 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “ Dr. Cheryl, my honey and I never fight… Is that okay?”  “My partner avoids all conflict with me, what can I do?” “How can my spouse and I learn to communicate more effectively?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about why a lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29) Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29) Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)  There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31) A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49) This week’s LoveByte (21:05) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “ Dr. Cheryl, my honey and I never fight… Is that okay?” 

“My partner avoids all conflict with me, what can I do?”

“How can my spouse and I learn to communicate more effectively?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about why a lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late.

Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29)
  • Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29)
  • Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02) 
  • There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31)
  • A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49)
  • This week’s LoveByte (21:05)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1426 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Should I Stay or Should I Go?—Summer of Love Part 1 “Dr. Cheryl, is it time for me to leave my relationship?” “I think my marriage is over… will I regret my decision to split?” “How do I know if there’s still hope for my sweetheart and me?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is the first in a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about when to give your relationship another shot—and when it’s time to let it go. This episode is a couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?”  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that—but I can help you decide (03:47) But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05) Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03) Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53) So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04) This week’s LoveByte (33:58) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 15 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, is it time for me to leave my relationship?” “I think my marriage is over… will I regret my decision to split?” “How do I know if there’s still hope for my sweetheart and me?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is the first in a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about when to give your relationship another shot—and when it’s time to let it go. This episode is a couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?”  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that—but I can help you decide (03:47) But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05) Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03) Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53) So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04) This week’s LoveByte (33:58) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram “Dr. Cheryl, is it time for me to leave my relationship?”

“I think my marriage is over… will I regret my decision to split?”

“How do I know if there’s still hope for my sweetheart and me?”


Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is the first in a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about when to give your relationship another shot—and when it’s time to let it go.


This episode is a couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?” 


Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. 


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! 

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that—but I can help you decide (03:47)
  • But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05)
  • Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03)
  • Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53)
  • So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04)
  • This week’s LoveByte (33:58)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2218 Don’t Change Your Mate—Change Your MIND Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, my spouse is driving me crazy! How can I fall in love with them again?” “I’m constantly annoyed by my partner, is it time to break up?” “Why is my sweetheart always doing things to piss me off?!” Think about a negative thought you’ve had about your partner—one that you might not be so eager to share publicly. Maybe they were late for a meaningful dinner, maybe they neglected an important chore, or maybe they even forgot about your anniversary… You were probably pretty irritated, right? But what if I were to tell you that it’s all about the way you react? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how to love what is and how we can be more grateful for the extraordinarily lucky lives that we lead.  The stories you tell yourself can ruin your relationship, ruin your happiness, and even ruin your health.  If you’re upset, disgruntled, or put off by your partner’s mundane mistakes or actions, it's your problem, not your sweetie’s. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 87 to 92% of people eventually recouple after a divorce, a break up, or being widowed (01:24) The misery in your head is in your head (05:27) Don’t allow a negative story to take up room in your head and ruin your day (08:41) Changing a behavioral habit is hard and it takes repetition (14:51) You are the one who makes yourself happy or not (18:12) Today’s LoveByte (22:34) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 08 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, my spouse is driving me crazy! How can I fall in love with them again?” “I’m constantly annoyed by my partner, is it time to break up?” “Why is my sweetheart always doing things to piss me off?!” Think about a negative thought you’ve had about your partner—one that you might not be so eager to share publicly. Maybe they were late for a meaningful dinner, maybe they neglected an important chore, or maybe they even forgot about your anniversary… You were probably pretty irritated, right? But what if I were to tell you that it’s all about the way you react? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how to love what is and how we can be more grateful for the extraordinarily lucky lives that we lead.  The stories you tell yourself can ruin your relationship, ruin your happiness, and even ruin your health.  If you’re upset, disgruntled, or put off by your partner’s mundane mistakes or actions, it's your problem, not your sweetie’s. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 87 to 92% of people eventually recouple after a divorce, a break up, or being widowed (01:24) The misery in your head is in your head (05:27) Don’t allow a negative story to take up room in your head and ruin your day (08:41) Changing a behavioral habit is hard and it takes repetition (14:51) You are the one who makes yourself happy or not (18:12) Today’s LoveByte (22:34) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


“Dr. Cheryl, my spouse is driving me crazy! How can I fall in love with them again?”

“I’m constantly annoyed by my partner, is it time to break up?”

“Why is my sweetheart always doing things to piss me off?!”


Think about a negative thought you’ve had about your partner—one that you might not be so eager to share publicly. Maybe they were late for a meaningful dinner, maybe they neglected an important chore, or maybe they even forgot about your anniversary… You were probably pretty irritated, right? But what if I were to tell you that it’s all about the way you react?


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how to love what is and how we can be more grateful for the extraordinarily lucky lives that we lead. 


The stories you tell yourself can ruin your relationship, ruin your happiness, and even ruin your health.  If you’re upset, disgruntled, or put off by your partner’s mundane mistakes or actions, it's your problem, not your sweetie’s.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • 87 to 92% of people eventually recouple after a divorce, a break up, or being widowed (01:24)
  • The misery in your head is in your head (05:27)
  • Don’t allow a negative story to take up room in your head and ruin your day (08:41)
  • Changing a behavioral habit is hard and it takes repetition (14:51)
  • You are the one who makes yourself happy or not (18:12)
  • Today’s LoveByte (22:34)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1477 Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late—Love Fiercely While You Can Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, my marriage is so boring—HELP!” “How can I bring back the magic and spark to my relationship?” “Why was my partner so much more attractive when we were first dating?” Don't wait for a wake up call. Don't wait for an affair. Don't wait until your husband gets a diagnosis that scares the hell out of you—and don't wait for a sudden death. Don't wait until it's too late to show up and love the one you love. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about Marriage Incorporated and how you can best avoid complacency and boredom in your relationship… before it’s too late. You want to learn how to have a much better, stronger relationship.  Today, we’re talking about cultivating more love, more interest, more kindness, more peacefulness, and how to really be more like we were when we were falling in love. In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you are in Marriage Incorporated, you may be having a really nice life, but you’re roommates, not partners (06:30) You were a lot nicer to your partner when you were dating (16:20) If you lose your partner suddenly, you’ll quickly realize that, no matter how fraught the relationship has been, you’ll have regrets if you haven't loved well (17:41) All too often in this short, wonderful, and precious life, we run out of time (23:06) Your weekly LoveByte (32:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube  Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 01 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, my marriage is so boring—HELP!” “How can I bring back the magic and spark to my relationship?” “Why was my partner so much more attractive when we were first dating?” Don't wait for a wake up call. Don't wait for an affair. Don't wait until your husband gets a diagnosis that scares the hell out of you—and don't wait for a sudden death. Don't wait until it's too late to show up and love the one you love. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about Marriage Incorporated and how you can best avoid complacency and boredom in your relationship… before it’s too late. You want to learn how to have a much better, stronger relationship.  Today, we’re talking about cultivating more love, more interest, more kindness, more peacefulness, and how to really be more like we were when we were falling in love. In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you are in Marriage Incorporated, you may be having a really nice life, but you’re roommates, not partners (06:30) You were a lot nicer to your partner when you were dating (16:20) If you lose your partner suddenly, you’ll quickly realize that, no matter how fraught the relationship has been, you’ll have regrets if you haven't loved well (17:41) All too often in this short, wonderful, and precious life, we run out of time (23:06) Your weekly LoveByte (32:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube  Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


“Dr. Cheryl, my marriage is so boring—HELP!”

“How can I bring back the magic and spark to my relationship?”

“Why was my partner so much more attractive when we were first dating?”


Don't wait for a wake up call. Don't wait for an affair. Don't wait until your husband gets a diagnosis that scares the hell out of you—and don't wait for a sudden death. Don't wait until it's too late to show up and love the one you love.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about Marriage Incorporated and how you can best avoid complacency and boredom in your relationship… before it’s too late.


You want to learn how to have a much better, stronger relationship.  Today, we’re talking about cultivating more love, more interest, more kindness, more peacefulness, and how to really be more like we were when we were falling in love.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you are in Marriage Incorporated, you may be having a really nice life, but you’re roommates, not partners (06:30)
  • You were a lot nicer to your partner when you were dating (16:20)
  • If you lose your partner suddenly, you’ll quickly realize that, no matter how fraught the relationship has been, you’ll have regrets if you haven't loved well (17:41)
  • All too often in this short, wonderful, and precious life, we run out of time (23:06)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (32:27)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  



Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

]]> 2070 Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Don’t Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour—Apologize like a MoFo Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is one of my favorites from the early days of the podcast. In it, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself.  If I installed a camera in your home and recorded everything you said to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive—disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In This Episode, You Will Learn: YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte (24:29) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 24 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is one of my favorites from the early days of the podcast. In it, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself.  If I installed a camera in your home and recorded everything you said to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive—disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In This Episode, You Will Learn: YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte (24:29) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is one of my favorites from the early days of the podcast. In it, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. 


If I installed a camera in your home and recorded everything you said to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration?


Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive—disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right?


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship (04:26)
  • When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24)
  • The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech (09:50)
  • If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45)
  • Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo (14:44)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (24:29)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1720 Why Aren’t We Happier?: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, why am I so unhappy?” “I’m always upset—How can I learn to go with the flow?” “Nothing good ever happens to me, what’s the secret to happiness?” Why is it that we’re so puzzled about the fundamental ground of what leads to more happiness and less suffering? As it turns out, there is a way to be happy for no reason, a way to have a better, healthier relationship with the person you love, and a way to be a better person. Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month on happiness, negativity, and the coping mechanisms we use to deal with it all.  Tune in and hear my teachings about the most universal experiences that none of us get to escape and the fact that we, as humans, don’t get to change reality.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We’re all going to die—it’s important to make time for wholesome activities (01:40) Reality sucks sometimes, mortality and loss and suffering is real (10:01) How we react to big, difficult, painful losses is our choice (18:57) We cling and try to manipulate reality so it works for us, but it’s a fool's errand (25:48) Today’s LoveByte (50:54) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 17 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, why am I so unhappy?” “I’m always upset—How can I learn to go with the flow?” “Nothing good ever happens to me, what’s the secret to happiness?” Why is it that we’re so puzzled about the fundamental ground of what leads to more happiness and less suffering? As it turns out, there is a way to be happy for no reason, a way to have a better, healthier relationship with the person you love, and a way to be a better person. Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month on happiness, negativity, and the coping mechanisms we use to deal with it all.  Tune in and hear my teachings about the most universal experiences that none of us get to escape and the fact that we, as humans, don’t get to change reality.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We’re all going to die—it’s important to make time for wholesome activities (01:40) Reality sucks sometimes, mortality and loss and suffering is real (10:01) How we react to big, difficult, painful losses is our choice (18:57) We cling and try to manipulate reality so it works for us, but it’s a fool's errand (25:48) Today’s LoveByte (50:54) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.


“Dr. Cheryl, why am I so unhappy?”

“I’m always upset—How can I learn to go with the flow?”

“Nothing good ever happens to me, what’s the secret to happiness?”


Why is it that we’re so puzzled about the fundamental ground of what leads to more happiness and less suffering? As it turns out, there is a way to be happy for no reason, a way to have a better, healthier relationship with the person you love, and a way to be a better person.


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month on happiness, negativity, and the coping mechanisms we use to deal with it all. 


Tune in and hear my teachings about the most universal experiences that none of us get to escape and the fact that we, as humans, don’t get to change reality. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • We’re all going to die—it’s important to make time for wholesome activities (01:40)
  • Reality sucks sometimes, mortality and loss and suffering is real (10:01)
  • How we react to big, difficult, painful losses is our choice (18:57)
  • We cling and try to manipulate reality so it works for us, but it’s a fool's errand (25:48)
  • Today’s LoveByte (50:54)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3182 For a Positive Relationship, Fight Your Negativity Bias Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  “Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so pessimistic about my relationship?” “How can my partner and I be more positive about one another?” “Why can’t my sweetheart do anything right?!” It may be 2024, but we still have brains that evolved from the cave days. Over the eons, our brains have developed certain survival patterns that have held on in even the most intelligent minds. One of those leftover base instincts that we’re still coping with today is negativity bias and it just might be the biggest issue in your relationship. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about negativity bias and the importance of thinking positively about your partner. Today is all about training your mind to do a better job of defaulting toward a positive point of view. I’m giving you a few short examples and some more elaborate models and exercises that you can do to bolster your relationship with your sweetheart. In this episode, you’ll learn: If your partner is consistently rude and condescending—even if it’s not directed toward you—it needs to be addressed (03:40) Our minds tend to look for what's wrong and not what’s right (08:05) You do NOT have to say every negative thing that comes to mind (15:32) Sharing a home and sharing a life demands graceful compromise (17:04) Today’s LoveByte (26:11) Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 10 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  “Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so pessimistic about my relationship?” “How can my partner and I be more positive about one another?” “Why can’t my sweetheart do anything right?!” It may be 2024, but we still have brains that evolved from the cave days. Over the eons, our brains have developed certain survival patterns that have held on in even the most intelligent minds. One of those leftover base instincts that we’re still coping with today is negativity bias and it just might be the biggest issue in your relationship. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about negativity bias and the importance of thinking positively about your partner. Today is all about training your mind to do a better job of defaulting toward a positive point of view. I’m giving you a few short examples and some more elaborate models and exercises that you can do to bolster your relationship with your sweetheart. In this episode, you’ll learn: If your partner is consistently rude and condescending—even if it’s not directed toward you—it needs to be addressed (03:40) Our minds tend to look for what's wrong and not what’s right (08:05) You do NOT have to say every negative thing that comes to mind (15:32) Sharing a home and sharing a life demands graceful compromise (17:04) Today’s LoveByte (26:11) Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz 


“Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so pessimistic about my relationship?”

“How can my partner and I be more positive about one another?”

“Why can’t my sweetheart do anything right?!”


It may be 2024, but we still have brains that evolved from the cave days. Over the eons, our brains have developed certain survival patterns that have held on in even the most intelligent minds. One of those leftover base instincts that we’re still coping with today is negativity bias and it just might be the biggest issue in your relationship.


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about negativity bias and the importance of thinking positively about your partner.


Today is all about training your mind to do a better job of defaulting toward a positive point of view. I’m giving you a few short examples and some more elaborate models and exercises that you can do to bolster your relationship with your sweetheart.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • If your partner is consistently rude and condescending—even if it’s not directed toward you—it needs to be addressed (03:40)
  • Our minds tend to look for what's wrong and not what’s right (08:05)
  • You do NOT have to say every negative thing that comes to mind (15:32)
  • Sharing a home and sharing a life demands graceful compromise (17:04)
  • Today’s LoveByte (26:11)


Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1697 Making Love Matters - Suffering From a Sexless Bedroom? Prioritize Your Sensual Life Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  “Dr. Cheryl, my partner and I haven’t had sex in months—PLEASE HELP!” “Why does sexual desire slow down in long term relationship? “How can I bring back the sex and passion to my relationship?” You've heard me say it before on this podcast: Sexless relationships are way more common than you think. The definition for a sexless relationship is one where sex is had six or fewer times per year. That means that if you’re making love but it’s only once every two months or so, you and your sweetheart are in what is defined as a “sexless” or “lower sex” relationship.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about sexless relationships and the solutions out there that can work for you.  Many of you may have not made love for years… And that’s way more common than you think. One of the biggest problems is that no one talks about it, so we end up having a lot of shame, embarrassment, and confusion around those changes instead of finding a solution that works for our relationship.  In this episode, you’ll learn: We're so busy running our lives that we often lose each other (03:53) Make your sensual life a priority—especially if you’re in a long term relationship (10:33) Sometimes, we get so good at running our lives like a business that we know longer see our partner as a sexual being (11:48) The idea of scheduled intimacy doesn’t sound romantic but it just may save your sex life (14:41) Today’s LoveByte (23:06) Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Mon, 03 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  “Dr. Cheryl, my partner and I haven’t had sex in months—PLEASE HELP!” “Why does sexual desire slow down in long term relationship? “How can I bring back the sex and passion to my relationship?” You've heard me say it before on this podcast: Sexless relationships are way more common than you think. The definition for a sexless relationship is one where sex is had six or fewer times per year. That means that if you’re making love but it’s only once every two months or so, you and your sweetheart are in what is defined as a “sexless” or “lower sex” relationship.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about sexless relationships and the solutions out there that can work for you.  Many of you may have not made love for years… And that’s way more common than you think. One of the biggest problems is that no one talks about it, so we end up having a lot of shame, embarrassment, and confusion around those changes instead of finding a solution that works for our relationship.  In this episode, you’ll learn: We're so busy running our lives that we often lose each other (03:53) Make your sensual life a priority—especially if you’re in a long term relationship (10:33) Sometimes, we get so good at running our lives like a business that we know longer see our partner as a sexual being (11:48) The idea of scheduled intimacy doesn’t sound romantic but it just may save your sex life (14:41) Today’s LoveByte (23:06) Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz 


“Dr. Cheryl, my partner and I haven’t had sex in months—PLEASE HELP!”

“Why does sexual desire slow down in long term relationship?

“How can I bring back the sex and passion to my relationship?”



You've heard me say it before on this podcast: Sexless relationships are way more common than you think. The definition for a sexless relationship is one where sex is had six or fewer times per year. That means that if you’re making love but it’s only once every two months or so, you and your sweetheart are in what is defined as a “sexless” or “lower sex” relationship. 


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about sexless relationships and the solutions out there that can work for you. 


Many of you may have not made love for years… And that’s way more common than you think. One of the biggest problems is that no one talks about it, so we end up having a lot of shame, embarrassment, and confusion around those changes instead of finding a solution that works for our relationship. 


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • We're so busy running our lives that we often lose each other (03:53)
  • Make your sensual life a priority—especially if you’re in a long term relationship (10:33)
  • Sometimes, we get so good at running our lives like a business that we know longer see our partner as a sexual being (11:48)
  • The idea of scheduled intimacy doesn’t sound romantic but it just may save your sex life (14:41)
  • Today’s LoveByte (23:06)


Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1508 Embrace the Moment, Treasure Your Sweetheart “Dr. Cheryl, how can I shake up my boring relationship?” “Why does it feel like we’re roommates instead of lovers?” “How can my sweetheart and I learn to live and love in the moment?” One of the worst silent killers in relationships is when we find ourselves slowly falling into complacency and boredom overtime. When we lose that loving feeling, it can lead to major disappointment and dissatisfaction in a relationship but all hope is not lost—there are ways you can reconnect.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a short check-in for you and your sweetheart. So often we get caught up in the mundane and, sadly for a lot of us, many times that means that  we’re caught up in irritation with our partner. Whether it’s frustration about a messy house or worries over money, nothing matters as much as valuing and loving your sweetie right now, at this very moment.  Today you’ll learn: Don’t wait for a major life event to tell your honey how much you love them (03:31) Love your partner deeply, wholly, and expansively and love them like there's no tomorrow (04:23) I encourage and challenge each of us to become a great partner and bring more flexibility and more grace because we don't have them forever (08:01) Today’s LoveByte (08:30) Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 27 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, how can I shake up my boring relationship?” “Why does it feel like we’re roommates instead of lovers?” “How can my sweetheart and I learn to live and love in the moment?” One of the worst silent killers in relationships is when we find ourselves slowly falling into complacency and boredom overtime. When we lose that loving feeling, it can lead to major disappointment and dissatisfaction in a relationship but all hope is not lost—there are ways you can reconnect.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a short check-in for you and your sweetheart. So often we get caught up in the mundane and, sadly for a lot of us, many times that means that  we’re caught up in irritation with our partner. Whether it’s frustration about a messy house or worries over money, nothing matters as much as valuing and loving your sweetie right now, at this very moment.  Today you’ll learn: Don’t wait for a major life event to tell your honey how much you love them (03:31) Love your partner deeply, wholly, and expansively and love them like there's no tomorrow (04:23) I encourage and challenge each of us to become a great partner and bring more flexibility and more grace because we don't have them forever (08:01) Today’s LoveByte (08:30) Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I shake up my boring relationship?”

“Why does it feel like we’re roommates instead of lovers?”

“How can my sweetheart and I learn to live and love in the moment?”


One of the worst silent killers in relationships is when we find ourselves slowly falling into complacency and boredom overtime. When we lose that loving feeling, it can lead to major disappointment and dissatisfaction in a relationship but all hope is not lost—there are ways you can reconnect. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a short check-in for you and your sweetheart.


So often we get caught up in the mundane and, sadly for a lot of us, many times that means that  we’re caught up in irritation with our partner. Whether it’s frustration about a messy house or worries over money, nothing matters as much as valuing and loving your sweetie right now, at this very moment. 


Today you’ll learn:

  • Don’t wait for a major life event to tell your honey how much you love them (03:31)
  • Love your partner deeply, wholly, and expansively and love them like there's no tomorrow (04:23)
  • I encourage and challenge each of us to become a great partner and bring more flexibility and more grace because we don't have them forever (08:01)
  • Today’s LoveByte (08:30)



Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 651 A Meditation on Loving Kindness with Dr. Cheryl “Dr. Cheryl, how can I help my constant negative thoughts?” “I’m ALWAYS anxious. Is there a way to quiet my constantly running mind?” “Is it possible to practice kindness?” Meditation is a traditional Buddhist practice that fits very beautifully into the secular world, into the psychology world, into the mindfulness world, and into the world of us trying to be a kinder, more caring human being to ourselves and others. A metta meditation, or a loving kindness meditation, can be practiced whenever you have a bit of time to yourself.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation from a live Dharma talk that I gave last month.   This is a special episode of the podcast that sounds a little different from the others. This meditation is under 30 minutes long—just make sure you’re free of distractions while you listen. I invite you to come back and use this meditation whenever you feel the need for more calm and balance in your life.  This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation that begins at (02:19) and ends around (31:00). Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 20 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, how can I help my constant negative thoughts?” “I’m ALWAYS anxious. Is there a way to quiet my constantly running mind?” “Is it possible to practice kindness?” Meditation is a traditional Buddhist practice that fits very beautifully into the secular world, into the psychology world, into the mindfulness world, and into the world of us trying to be a kinder, more caring human being to ourselves and others. A metta meditation, or a loving kindness meditation, can be practiced whenever you have a bit of time to yourself.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation from a live Dharma talk that I gave last month.   This is a special episode of the podcast that sounds a little different from the others. This meditation is under 30 minutes long—just make sure you’re free of distractions while you listen. I invite you to come back and use this meditation whenever you feel the need for more calm and balance in your life.  This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation that begins at (02:19) and ends around (31:00). Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com. Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I help my constant negative thoughts?”

“I’m ALWAYS anxious. Is there a way to quiet my constantly running mind?”

“Is it possible to practice kindness?”


Meditation is a traditional Buddhist practice that fits very beautifully into the secular world, into the psychology world, into the mindfulness world, and into the world of us trying to be a kinder, more caring human being to ourselves and others. A metta meditation, or a loving kindness meditation, can be practiced whenever you have a bit of time to yourself. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation from a live Dharma talk that I gave last month.  


This is a special episode of the podcast that sounds a little different from the others. This meditation is under 30 minutes long—just make sure you’re free of distractions while you listen. I invite you to come back and use this meditation whenever you feel the need for more calm and balance in your life. 


This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation that begins at (02:19) and ends around (31:00).


Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 1965 The Five Hindrances to Happiness: a Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl “Dr. Cheryl, how can I overcome my self doubt? It’s ruining my life!” “How do I break free from the torturous grip that my anxiety has on me?” “Why has my experience with meditation been unfulfilling?” We’ve all had that moment of desire and weakness—a good friend buys a fancy new car and we’re overcome with jealousy. Instead of being happy for them and proud of their hard work, all we can focus on is what we’re lacking. But the remedy to this feeling isn’t to go out and buy a new car yourself. Instead, the answer involves practicing generosity for others and focusing on relieving ourselves of that wanting, selfish feeling.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month about the five hindrances that stand between us and happiness.  The five hindrances get in the way of calm, they get in the way of focus, and they make it harder to accept what is with equanimity—that is, they’re stopping us from being able to go with the flow and to recalibrate ourselves… Without the temper tantrum.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The hindrances can get in the way of concentrating on the important object (03:51) Even when you're well rested and alert in your physiology, sloth and torpor can come like a shadow over the sun (09:18) The very last wisp of difficulty to disappear before you become a fully awake Buddha is the last vestige of doubt (11:12) We don't have to have a gigantic temper tantrum to feel exhausted, even a small little worry can be fatiguing (16:27) When you slow down in meditation, the mind gets a little more acute, a little more precise, and a little more clear (22:55) Hindrances are like nasty waves that blind us to the calm ocean (28:15) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 13 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser “Dr. Cheryl, how can I overcome my self doubt? It’s ruining my life!” “How do I break free from the torturous grip that my anxiety has on me?” “Why has my experience with meditation been unfulfilling?” We’ve all had that moment of desire and weakness—a good friend buys a fancy new car and we’re overcome with jealousy. Instead of being happy for them and proud of their hard work, all we can focus on is what we’re lacking. But the remedy to this feeling isn’t to go out and buy a new car yourself. Instead, the answer involves practicing generosity for others and focusing on relieving ourselves of that wanting, selfish feeling.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month about the five hindrances that stand between us and happiness.  The five hindrances get in the way of calm, they get in the way of focus, and they make it harder to accept what is with equanimity—that is, they’re stopping us from being able to go with the flow and to recalibrate ourselves… Without the temper tantrum.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The hindrances can get in the way of concentrating on the important object (03:51) Even when you're well rested and alert in your physiology, sloth and torpor can come like a shadow over the sun (09:18) The very last wisp of difficulty to disappear before you become a fully awake Buddha is the last vestige of doubt (11:12) We don't have to have a gigantic temper tantrum to feel exhausted, even a small little worry can be fatiguing (16:27) When you slow down in meditation, the mind gets a little more acute, a little more precise, and a little more clear (22:55) Hindrances are like nasty waves that blind us to the calm ocean (28:15) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I overcome my self doubt? It’s ruining my life!”

“How do I break free from the torturous grip that my anxiety has on me?”

“Why has my experience with meditation been unfulfilling?”


We’ve all had that moment of desire and weakness—a good friend buys a fancy new car and we’re overcome with jealousy. Instead of being happy for them and proud of their hard work, all we can focus on is what we’re lacking. But the remedy to this feeling isn’t to go out and buy a new car yourself. Instead, the answer involves practicing generosity for others and focusing on relieving ourselves of that wanting, selfish feeling. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month about the five hindrances that stand between us and happiness. 


The five hindrances get in the way of calm, they get in the way of focus, and they make it harder to accept what is with equanimity—that is, they’re stopping us from being able to go with the flow and to recalibrate ourselves… Without the temper tantrum. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The hindrances can get in the way of concentrating on the important object (03:51)
  • Even when you're well rested and alert in your physiology, sloth and torpor can come like a shadow over the sun (09:18)
  • The very last wisp of difficulty to disappear before you become a fully awake Buddha is the last vestige of doubt (11:12)
  • We don't have to have a gigantic temper tantrum to feel exhausted, even a small little worry can be fatiguing (16:27)
  • When you slow down in meditation, the mind gets a little more acute, a little more precise, and a little more clear (22:55)
  • Hindrances are like nasty waves that blind us to the calm ocean (28:15)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 3815 Great Love Is No Accident: Become Passion Doors Are OPEN The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on May 3rd!! Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com and we will send you the link and time This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training.  Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive Become Passion program are open now and close May 3rd! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts May 3rd. A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A on ZOOM is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20) Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57) Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30) Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22) Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29) Today’s LoveByte (33:00) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Wed, 01 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on May 3rd!! Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com and we will send you the link and time This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training.  Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive Become Passion program are open now and close May 3rd! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts May 3rd. A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A on ZOOM is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20) Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57) Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30) Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22) Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29) Today’s LoveByte (33:00) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on May 3rd!!


Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com and we will send you the link and time


This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training. 

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive Become Passion program are open now and close May 3rd! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts May 3rd.

A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A on ZOOM is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20)
  • Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57)
  • Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30)
  • Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22)
  • Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29)
  • Today’s LoveByte (33:00)


Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 

Let’s Connect!  

]]> 2187 Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship—Welcome to the Passion Masterclass! Ready to renovate your OWN relationship? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, CLICK HERE We begin May 3rd, 2024 and go through July 26th 2024 In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.) Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.  In this exclusive recording of my Passion MAsterclass you’ll learn about the keys to great relationship and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently. Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime  Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Mon, 29 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser Ready to renovate your OWN relationship? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, CLICK HERE We begin May 3rd, 2024 and go through July 26th 2024 In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.) Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.  In this exclusive recording of my Passion MAsterclass you’ll learn about the keys to great relationship and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently. Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime  Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Ready to renovate your OWN relationship? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, CLICK HERE We begin May 3rd, 2024 and go through July 26th 2024

In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)

Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. 

In this exclusive recording of my Passion MAsterclass you’ll learn about the keys to great relationship and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.


Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime 
  • Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments
  •  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real
  • Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 


]]> 5736 Marriage 9-11 - Don’t Give Up This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Doors are not open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “We are miserable.When do you know to give up? Or is there a chance this relationship can be saved?” ” Let’s face it, staying in love over the long haul is difficult. You may feel you have fallen out of love, ot you argue all the time, or so it seems. Attraction and desire may feel non-existent. But don’t give up. There are proven steps that can help you renovate your relationship. It takes effort to make long term love work - and I am here to help.  .  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that reviving the love, communication and yes, even the desire in your  relationship is possible. Whatever you and your partner are experiencing, even when it feels like all hope is lost, it is still possible to begin again  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Falling in love is easy, but staying in love over the long term takes mindfulness, effort, and dedication (0:11) The Become Passion Program involves eight weeks of lessons, live coaching calls with Dr. Cheryl where she answers your confidential questions, and bonuses trrainings with other experts in relationships and sexuality (3:03) The Become Passion 12 week program is an online program (3:44) The number one predictor of health, happiness, longevity, and more, is the quality of our romantic relationship with our companion - so work on it!  (5:07) The Become Passion program is an immersion 3 month program and we do the real work. It’s not easy…but it IS effective. Let’s create the change you desire, starting next week!   (6:13) Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Fri, 26 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Doors are not open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “We are miserable.When do you know to give up? Or is there a chance this relationship can be saved?” ” Let’s face it, staying in love over the long haul is difficult. You may feel you have fallen out of love, ot you argue all the time, or so it seems. Attraction and desire may feel non-existent. But don’t give up. There are proven steps that can help you renovate your relationship. It takes effort to make long term love work - and I am here to help.  .  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that reviving the love, communication and yes, even the desire in your  relationship is possible. Whatever you and your partner are experiencing, even when it feels like all hope is lost, it is still possible to begin again  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Falling in love is easy, but staying in love over the long term takes mindfulness, effort, and dedication (0:11) The Become Passion Program involves eight weeks of lessons, live coaching calls with Dr. Cheryl where she answers your confidential questions, and bonuses trrainings with other experts in relationships and sexuality (3:03) The Become Passion 12 week program is an online program (3:44) The number one predictor of health, happiness, longevity, and more, is the quality of our romantic relationship with our companion - so work on it!  (5:07) The Become Passion program is an immersion 3 month program and we do the real work. It’s not easy…but it IS effective. Let’s create the change you desire, starting next week!   (6:13) Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.


You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Doors are not open! You can check it out and join the program HERE 


Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!


Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 

“We are miserable.When do you know to give up? Or is there a chance this relationship can be saved?” ”


Let’s face it, staying in love over the long haul is difficult. You may feel you have fallen out of love, ot you argue all the time, or so it seems. Attraction and desire may feel non-existent. But don’t give up. There are proven steps that can help you renovate your relationship. It takes effort to make long term love work - and I am here to help. 


. 

On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that reviving the love, communication and yes, even the desire in your  relationship is possible. Whatever you and your partner are experiencing, even when it feels like all hope is lost, it is still possible to begin again 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Falling in love is easy, but staying in love over the long term takes mindfulness, effort, and dedication (0:11)
  • The Become Passion Program involves eight weeks of lessons, live coaching calls with Dr. Cheryl where she answers your confidential questions, and bonuses trrainings with other experts in relationships and sexuality (3:03)
  • The Become Passion 12 week program is an online program (3:44)
  • The number one predictor of health, happiness, longevity, and more, is the quality of our romantic relationship with our companion - so work on it!  (5:07)
  • The Become Passion program is an immersion 3 month program and we do the real work. It’s not easy…but it IS effective. Let’s create the change you desire, starting next week!   (6:13)




Let’s Connect!  


]]> 575 Marriage 911: Sex & Aging This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us? As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. I want you to listen carefully and hear the hope. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection (01:30) Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before (04:54) It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there (06:17) Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love (08:21) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 22 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full Cheryl Fraser This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us? As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. I want you to listen carefully and hear the hope. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection (01:30) Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before (04:54) It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there (06:17) Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love (08:21) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.


You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.


Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!


Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 

My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us?


As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves. 


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. I want you to listen carefully and hear the hope.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection (01:30)
  • Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before (04:54)
  • It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there (06:17)
  • Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love (08:21)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 745 Marriage 911: Roommates—No Passion This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “The thrill is gone!” “I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.”  “We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.”  If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43) Make your love life your hobby (06:13) Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28) Big change only happens when we take action (10:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Mon, 15 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Marriage 911: Roommates—No Passion full Cheryl Fraser This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “The thrill is gone!” “I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.”  “We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.”  If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43) Make your love life your hobby (06:13) Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28) Big change only happens when we take action (10:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.


You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.


Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!


Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 

“The thrill is gone!”

“I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.” 

“We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.” 


If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place.


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43)
  • Make your love life your hobby (06:13)
  • Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28)
  • Big change only happens when we take action (10:27)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  

]]> 743 Marriage 911: After the Affair https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/marriage-911-after-the-affair Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time HERE This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Dr. Cheryl, HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair?  Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating (02:18) An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know (03:29) All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes (06:49) No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner (09:40)  Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope (10:33) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 08 Apr 2024 09:00:25 -0000 Marriage 911: After the Affair full 155 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/register-zoom-fall-2023?preview_theme_id=2155096666" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>get on the VIP waitlist HERE</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><br><p><strong>You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you!</strong></p><br><p>Marriage 911! What's your emergency?&nbsp;</p><p><em>Dr. Cheryl, HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair?&nbsp;</em></p><br><p>Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention.</p><br><p><strong>On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating (02:18)</li><li>An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know (03:29)</li><li>All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes (06:49)</li><li>No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner (09:40)</li><li>&nbsp;Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope (10:33)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time HERE This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Dr. Cheryl, HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair?  Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating (02:18) An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know (03:29) All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes (06:49) No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner (09:40)  Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope (10:33) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time HERE


This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.


You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.


Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!


Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 

Dr. Cheryl, HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair? 


Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention.


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating (02:18)
  • An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know (03:29)
  • All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes (06:49)
  • No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner (09:40)
  •  Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope (10:33)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 826 no Marriage 911: Verbal Abuse https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/marriage-911-verbal-abuse This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language (04:09) Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive (04:37) Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships (06:58) Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize! (07:38) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 01 Apr 2024 09:00:36 -0000 Marriage 911: Verbal Abuse full 154 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>get on the VIP waitlist HERE</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><br><p><strong>You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you!</strong></p><br><p>Marriage 911! What's your emergency?&nbsp;</p><br><p>So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language (04:09)</li><li>Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive (04:37)</li><li>Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships (06:58)</li><li>Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize! (07:38)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language (04:09) Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive (04:37) Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships (06:58) Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize! (07:38) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.


You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.


Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!


Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 


So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational. 


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language (04:09)
  • Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive (04:37)
  • Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships (06:58)
  • Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize! (07:38)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 630 no Marriage 911: Is Divorce the Answer? https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/marriage-911-is-divorce-the-answer This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common (04:44) Complacency can ruin a relationship (05:06) Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple (06:34) 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed (07:22) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 25 Mar 2024 10:00:16 -0000 Marriage 911: Is Divorce the Answer? full 153 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>get on the VIP waitlist HERE</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><br><p><strong>You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you!</strong></p><br><p>Marriage 911! What's your emergency?&nbsp;</p><br><p>Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,&nbsp; every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common (04:44)</li><li>Complacency can ruin a relationship (05:06)</li><li>Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple (06:34)</li><li>50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed (07:22)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common (04:44) Complacency can ruin a relationship (05:06) Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple (06:34) 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed (07:22) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.


You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.


Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!


Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 


Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end. 


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common (04:44)
  • Complacency can ruin a relationship (05:06)
  • Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple (06:34)
  • 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed (07:22)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 744 no Miserable? Time to Board a Different Train!: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/miserable-time-to-board-a-different-train-a-dharma-talk-with “Dr. Cheryl, HELP! My life is absolutely miserable!” “Is micromanagement making me depressed?” “How can I stop myself from playing worst-case scenarios out in my mind?” Does it ever feel like your state of mind is completely out of your control? Like you're lost at Grand Central Station and you can’t find your way? Like you can’t read the signs and you’re wandering aimlessly, trying to board any old train you can find? Sometimes, as it turns out, you’ve unknowingly hopped aboard the Anger train, or the “I-Want-a-Divorce” train, or the “I-Don’t-Know-What-I'm-Going-to-Do-Next” train.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part three of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat. Tune in and hear my teachings about how you are actually responsible for your mood and for your feelings. That means that if you're miserable, it’s time to get on a different train.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: It's exhausting to micromanage your life (06:22) Stop wanting things to be perfect all the time—it’s making you miserable (09:27) We don't know what’ll happen tomorrow… and whatever happens, we'll be okay (27:24) When you're reacting to other people's needs, you're never on balance (33:55) If you’re willing to experience loneliness, you can discover connection everywhere (40:50) Post physical reminders to show yourself compassion (46:43) Interested in finding out more about Dr. Cheryl’s Dharma teaching? Check out IslandDharma.com for more info.  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 18 Mar 2024 10:00:02 -0000 Miserable? Time to Board a Different Train!: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 152 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, HELP! My life is absolutely miserable!”</em></p><p><em>“Is micromanagement making me depressed?”</em></p><p><em>“How can I stop myself from playing worst-case scenarios out in my mind?”</em></p><br><p>Does it ever feel like your state of mind is completely out of your control? Like you're lost at Grand Central Station and you can’t find your way? Like you can’t read the signs and you’re wandering aimlessly, trying to board any old train you can find? Sometimes, as it turns out, you’ve unknowingly hopped aboard the Anger train, or the “I-Want-a-Divorce” train, or the “I-Don’t-Know-What-I'm-Going-to-Do-Next” train.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> features part three of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.</p><br><p>Tune in and hear my teachings about how you are actually responsible for your mood and for your feelings. That means that if you're miserable, it’s time to get on a different train.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>It's exhausting to micromanage your life (06:22)</li><li>Stop wanting things to be perfect all the time—it’s making you miserable (09:27)</li><li>We don't know what’ll happen tomorrow… and whatever happens, we'll be okay (27:24)</li><li>When you're reacting to other people's needs, you're never on balance (33:55)</li><li>If you’re willing to experience loneliness, you can discover connection everywhere (40:50)</li><li>Post physical reminders to show yourself compassion (46:43)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Interested in finding out more about Dr. Cheryl’s Dharma teaching? Check out </strong><a href="http://islanddharma.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>IslandDharma.com</strong></a><strong> for more info.&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram</strong></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, HELP! My life is absolutely miserable!” “Is micromanagement making me depressed?” “How can I stop myself from playing worst-case scenarios out in my mind?” Does it ever feel like your state of mind is completely out of your control? Like you're lost at Grand Central Station and you can’t find your way? Like you can’t read the signs and you’re wandering aimlessly, trying to board any old train you can find? Sometimes, as it turns out, you’ve unknowingly hopped aboard the Anger train, or the “I-Want-a-Divorce” train, or the “I-Don’t-Know-What-I'm-Going-to-Do-Next” train.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part three of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat. Tune in and hear my teachings about how you are actually responsible for your mood and for your feelings. That means that if you're miserable, it’s time to get on a different train.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: It's exhausting to micromanage your life (06:22) Stop wanting things to be perfect all the time—it’s making you miserable (09:27) We don't know what’ll happen tomorrow… and whatever happens, we'll be okay (27:24) When you're reacting to other people's needs, you're never on balance (33:55) If you’re willing to experience loneliness, you can discover connection everywhere (40:50) Post physical reminders to show yourself compassion (46:43) Interested in finding out more about Dr. Cheryl’s Dharma teaching? Check out IslandDharma.com for more info.  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, HELP! My life is absolutely miserable!”

“Is micromanagement making me depressed?”

“How can I stop myself from playing worst-case scenarios out in my mind?”


Does it ever feel like your state of mind is completely out of your control? Like you're lost at Grand Central Station and you can’t find your way? Like you can’t read the signs and you’re wandering aimlessly, trying to board any old train you can find? Sometimes, as it turns out, you’ve unknowingly hopped aboard the Anger train, or the “I-Want-a-Divorce” train, or the “I-Don’t-Know-What-I'm-Going-to-Do-Next” train. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part three of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.


Tune in and hear my teachings about how you are actually responsible for your mood and for your feelings. That means that if you're miserable, it’s time to get on a different train. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • It's exhausting to micromanage your life (06:22)
  • Stop wanting things to be perfect all the time—it’s making you miserable (09:27)
  • We don't know what’ll happen tomorrow… and whatever happens, we'll be okay (27:24)
  • When you're reacting to other people's needs, you're never on balance (33:55)
  • If you’re willing to experience loneliness, you can discover connection everywhere (40:50)
  • Post physical reminders to show yourself compassion (46:43)


Interested in finding out more about Dr. Cheryl’s Dharma teaching? Check out IslandDharma.com for more info. 


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3175 no You Don’t Have to Be Special to Be Loved: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/you-dont-have-to-be-special-to-be-loved-a-dharma-talk-with-d “Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so harsh on myself?” “How can I learn to give myself grace?” “Why does it feel like I’m the only one given such a crappy lot?” Do you believe that you count, too? The more kindly and compassionately we treat ourselves, the more our hearts and our minds are freed up to be kinder and more compassionate to our partners. It allows us to build better relationships, be kinder to our work family, our home family, and be kinder to the world.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part two of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat. Tune in and hear my teachings about what it is that moves us to care about ourselves, our relationships, our kindness, and our compassion… And I hope that will illuminate you to the idea that kindness begins at home. In This Episode, You Will Learn: You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your own love and affection (04:42) Compassion is not defined as “feel better” (09:37) Change because you care about yourself, not because you think you should (15:00) We forget that other people suffer too, which can make us feel very, very alone (18:29) In our culture, self esteem rests on a bit of a shaky foundation (29:52) The opposite of kindness is blame, criticism, lack of wisdom, self hatred, anger, guilt, shame… (41:21) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 11 Mar 2024 10:00:35 -0000 You Don’t Have to Be Special to Be Loved: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 151 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so harsh on myself?”</em></p><p><em>“How can I learn to give myself grace?”</em></p><p><em>“Why does it feel like I’m the only one given such a crappy lot?”</em></p><br><p>Do you believe that you count, too? The more kindly and compassionately we treat ourselves, the more our hearts and our minds are freed up to be kinder and more compassionate to our partners. It allows us to build better relationships, be kinder to our work family, our home family, and be kinder to the world.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> features part two of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.</p><br><p>Tune in and hear my teachings about what it is that moves us to care about ourselves, our relationships, our kindness, and our compassion… And I hope that will illuminate you to the idea that kindness begins at home.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your own love and affection (04:42)</li><li>Compassion is not defined as “feel better” (09:37)</li><li>Change because you care about yourself, not because you think you should (15:00)</li><li>We forget that other people suffer too, which can make us feel very, very alone (18:29)</li><li>In our culture, self esteem rests on a bit of a shaky foundation (29:52)</li><li>The opposite of kindness is blame, criticism, lack of wisdom, self hatred, anger, guilt, shame… (41:21)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so harsh on myself?” “How can I learn to give myself grace?” “Why does it feel like I’m the only one given such a crappy lot?” Do you believe that you count, too? The more kindly and compassionately we treat ourselves, the more our hearts and our minds are freed up to be kinder and more compassionate to our partners. It allows us to build better relationships, be kinder to our work family, our home family, and be kinder to the world.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part two of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat. Tune in and hear my teachings about what it is that moves us to care about ourselves, our relationships, our kindness, and our compassion… And I hope that will illuminate you to the idea that kindness begins at home. In This Episode, You Will Learn: You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your own love and affection (04:42) Compassion is not defined as “feel better” (09:37) Change because you care about yourself, not because you think you should (15:00) We forget that other people suffer too, which can make us feel very, very alone (18:29) In our culture, self esteem rests on a bit of a shaky foundation (29:52) The opposite of kindness is blame, criticism, lack of wisdom, self hatred, anger, guilt, shame… (41:21) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so harsh on myself?”

“How can I learn to give myself grace?”

“Why does it feel like I’m the only one given such a crappy lot?”


Do you believe that you count, too? The more kindly and compassionately we treat ourselves, the more our hearts and our minds are freed up to be kinder and more compassionate to our partners. It allows us to build better relationships, be kinder to our work family, our home family, and be kinder to the world. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part two of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.


Tune in and hear my teachings about what it is that moves us to care about ourselves, our relationships, our kindness, and our compassion… And I hope that will illuminate you to the idea that kindness begins at home.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your own love and affection (04:42)
  • Compassion is not defined as “feel better” (09:37)
  • Change because you care about yourself, not because you think you should (15:00)
  • We forget that other people suffer too, which can make us feel very, very alone (18:29)
  • In our culture, self esteem rests on a bit of a shaky foundation (29:52)
  • The opposite of kindness is blame, criticism, lack of wisdom, self hatred, anger, guilt, shame… (41:21)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3376 no Self Compassion First: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/self-compassion-first-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-cheryl “Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to give myself a break?” “Why can’t I help but be nasty to my partner?” “What can I do to live a more compassionate life?” How kind are you to your romantic partner? How kind are you to yourself? In our high stress, high activity lives, we can lose sight of the thing that matters the most: compassion for ourselves, for others, for our partner, our family, our friends, and even for strangers.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat. Tune in and hear my teachings on being with things as they are, being kind to ourselves, and realizing that happiness is right here, right now. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The popularity and fortune that our culture says will make us happy rarely does (09:48) Happiness is fragile when it's dependent on something outside ourselves (11:38) Your circumstances don't determine your happiness (25:46) Work on being happy and free from suffering first, then work on the circumstances second (27:22) Anger is often a secondary emotion and underneath it is either pain or fear (46:20) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 04 Mar 2024 10:00:33 -0000 Self Compassion First: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 150 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to give myself a break?”</em></p><p><em>“Why can’t I help but be nasty to my partner?”</em></p><p><em>“What can I do to live a more compassionate life?”</em></p><br><p>How kind are you to your romantic partner? How kind are you to yourself? In our high stress, high activity lives, we can lose sight of the thing that matters the most: compassion for ourselves, for others, for our partner, our family, our friends, and even for strangers.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> features a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.</p><br><p>Tune in and hear my teachings on being with things as they are, being kind to ourselves, and realizing that happiness is right here, right now.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The popularity and fortune that our culture says will make us happy rarely does (09:48)</li><li>Happiness is fragile when it's dependent on something outside ourselves (11:38)</li><li>Your circumstances don't determine your happiness (25:46)</li><li>Work on being happy and free from suffering first, then work on the circumstances second (27:22)</li><li>Anger is often a secondary emotion and underneath it is either pain or fear (46:20)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to give myself a break?” “Why can’t I help but be nasty to my partner?” “What can I do to live a more compassionate life?” How kind are you to your romantic partner? How kind are you to yourself? In our high stress, high activity lives, we can lose sight of the thing that matters the most: compassion for ourselves, for others, for our partner, our family, our friends, and even for strangers.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat. Tune in and hear my teachings on being with things as they are, being kind to ourselves, and realizing that happiness is right here, right now. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The popularity and fortune that our culture says will make us happy rarely does (09:48) Happiness is fragile when it's dependent on something outside ourselves (11:38) Your circumstances don't determine your happiness (25:46) Work on being happy and free from suffering first, then work on the circumstances second (27:22) Anger is often a secondary emotion and underneath it is either pain or fear (46:20) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to give myself a break?”

“Why can’t I help but be nasty to my partner?”

“What can I do to live a more compassionate life?”


How kind are you to your romantic partner? How kind are you to yourself? In our high stress, high activity lives, we can lose sight of the thing that matters the most: compassion for ourselves, for others, for our partner, our family, our friends, and even for strangers. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.


Tune in and hear my teachings on being with things as they are, being kind to ourselves, and realizing that happiness is right here, right now.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The popularity and fortune that our culture says will make us happy rarely does (09:48)
  • Happiness is fragile when it's dependent on something outside ourselves (11:38)
  • Your circumstances don't determine your happiness (25:46)
  • Work on being happy and free from suffering first, then work on the circumstances second (27:22)
  • Anger is often a secondary emotion and underneath it is either pain or fear (46:20)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3206 no Finding Pleasure in Fitness: a Spirited Conversation with Dr. Cheryl and Oonagh Duncan https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/finding-pleasure-in-fitness-a-spirited-conversation-with-dr- “Our sex life is suffering because of my own self image—help!” “How can I learn to stick with my goals?” “What’s the secret to being the best version of me for my sweetheart?” When you think of eating healthy, regular exercise, being intimate with your partner… Are these things you derive pleasure from? Or are these all tasks you check off a list out of a sense of duty? It’s no big secret: if you enjoy something, you’re more likely to stick with it—so why do so many of us seem to forget that simple fact? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m welcoming my new friend Oonagh Duncan, an inspiring health habit coach who is dedicated to making fitness pleasurable. Oonagh and I talk about the importance of staying healthy for your mate, her journey from overweight smoker to health guru, and why the 80/20 rule is so crucial for long term success.  Interested in joining Oonagh for her 28 day transformation program? Click here to join with a special discount just for SLE listeners! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Oonagh and her husband included staying healthy for one another in their wedding vows (02:33) Choosing to be healthy doesn’t mean never having a glass of wine again (07:32) If you're trying to build a new habit, you need a very specific trigger that's going to set off that habit (23:17) The key to long term fitness is making your habits consistent and pleasurable (27:21) Getting adequate sleep is one of the most important habits you can cultivate (31:30) There is so much power in solidifying your identity as a person with healthy habits (40:41) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Connect with Oonagh: Website Instagram Dr. Cheryl on Goals, Grit, and Some Woo Woo Sh*t Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 26 Feb 2024 10:00:33 -0000 Finding Pleasure in Fitness: a Spirited Conversation with Dr. Cheryl and Oonagh Duncan full 149 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Our sex life is suffering because of my own self image—help!”</em></p><p><em>“How can I learn to stick with my goals?”</em></p><p><em>“What’s the secret to being the best version of me for my sweetheart?”</em></p><br><p>When you think of eating healthy, regular exercise, <em>being intimate with your partner</em>… Are these things you derive pleasure from? Or are these all tasks you check off a list out of a sense of duty? It’s no big secret: if you enjoy something, you’re more likely to stick with it—so why do so many of us seem to forget that simple fact?</p><br><p>On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m welcoming my new friend Oonagh Duncan, an inspiring health habit coach who is dedicated to making fitness pleasurable. Oonagh and I talk about the importance of staying healthy for your mate, her journey from overweight smoker to health guru, and why the 80/20 rule is so crucial for long term success.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Interested in joining Oonagh for her 28 day transformation program? </strong><a href="https://www.fitfeelsgood.com/transform/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a><strong> to join with a special discount just for SLE listeners!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Oonagh and her husband included staying healthy for one another in their wedding vows (02:33)</li><li>Choosing to be healthy doesn’t mean never having a glass of wine again (07:32)</li><li>If you're trying to build a new habit, you need a very specific trigger that's going to set off that habit (23:17)</li><li>The key to long term fitness is making your habits consistent and pleasurable (27:21)</li><li>Getting adequate sleep is one of the most important habits you can cultivate (31:30)</li><li>There is so much power in solidifying your identity as a person with healthy habits (40:41)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Connect with Oonagh:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.oonaghduncan.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/oonaghduncan/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://www.oonaghduncan.com/episode-37-goal-get-the-passion-back-in-a-long-term-relationship-with-dr-cheryl-fraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Dr. Cheryl on Goals, Grit, and Some Woo Woo Sh*t</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li>Follow&nbsp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@drcherylfraser</a> on Instagram</li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Our sex life is suffering because of my own self image—help!” “How can I learn to stick with my goals?” “What’s the secret to being the best version of me for my sweetheart?” When you think of eating healthy, regular exercise, being intimate with your partner… Are these things you derive pleasure from? Or are these all tasks you check off a list out of a sense of duty? It’s no big secret: if you enjoy something, you’re more likely to stick with it—so why do so many of us seem to forget that simple fact? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m welcoming my new friend Oonagh Duncan, an inspiring health habit coach who is dedicated to making fitness pleasurable. Oonagh and I talk about the importance of staying healthy for your mate, her journey from overweight smoker to health guru, and why the 80/20 rule is so crucial for long term success.  Interested in joining Oonagh for her 28 day transformation program? Click here to join with a special discount just for SLE listeners! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Oonagh and her husband included staying healthy for one another in their wedding vows (02:33) Choosing to be healthy doesn’t mean never having a glass of wine again (07:32) If you're trying to build a new habit, you need a very specific trigger that's going to set off that habit (23:17) The key to long term fitness is making your habits consistent and pleasurable (27:21) Getting adequate sleep is one of the most important habits you can cultivate (31:30) There is so much power in solidifying your identity as a person with healthy habits (40:41) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Connect with Oonagh: Website Instagram Dr. Cheryl on Goals, Grit, and Some Woo Woo Sh*t Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Our sex life is suffering because of my own self image—help!”

“How can I learn to stick with my goals?”

“What’s the secret to being the best version of me for my sweetheart?”


When you think of eating healthy, regular exercise, being intimate with your partner… Are these things you derive pleasure from? Or are these all tasks you check off a list out of a sense of duty? It’s no big secret: if you enjoy something, you’re more likely to stick with it—so why do so many of us seem to forget that simple fact?


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m welcoming my new friend Oonagh Duncan, an inspiring health habit coach who is dedicated to making fitness pleasurable. Oonagh and I talk about the importance of staying healthy for your mate, her journey from overweight smoker to health guru, and why the 80/20 rule is so crucial for long term success. 


Interested in joining Oonagh for her 28 day transformation program? Click here to join with a special discount just for SLE listeners!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Oonagh and her husband included staying healthy for one another in their wedding vows (02:33)
  • Choosing to be healthy doesn’t mean never having a glass of wine again (07:32)
  • If you're trying to build a new habit, you need a very specific trigger that's going to set off that habit (23:17)
  • The key to long term fitness is making your habits consistent and pleasurable (27:21)
  • Getting adequate sleep is one of the most important habits you can cultivate (31:30)
  • There is so much power in solidifying your identity as a person with healthy habits (40:41)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Connect with Oonagh:


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3587 no My Top Three Tips for Building a Healthy Long Term Relationship https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/my-top-three-tips-for-building-a-healthy-long-term-relations “Dr. Cheryl, how can I improve my relationship?” “All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?” “How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?” Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power.  Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one?  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships (06:23) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase (11:35) Thrill needs to be cultivated (15:51) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose (21:33) Today’s LoveByte (24:29) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 19 Feb 2024 10:00:03 -0000 My Top Three Tips for Building a Healthy Long Term Relationship full 148 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, how can I improve my relationship?”</em></p><p><em>“All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?”</em></p><p><em>“How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?”</em></p><br><p>Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.&nbsp;</p><br><p>On this episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants,<em> </em></strong>I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why <em>wouldn’t </em>you want to base your relationship on one?&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships (06:23)</li><li>We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase (11:35)</li><li>Thrill needs to be cultivated (15:51)</li><li><em>We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose (21:33)</em></li><li>Today’s LoveByte (24:29)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, how can I improve my relationship?” “All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?” “How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?” Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power.  Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one?  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships (06:23) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase (11:35) Thrill needs to be cultivated (15:51) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose (21:33) Today’s LoveByte (24:29) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, how can I improve my relationship?”

“All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?”

“How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?”


Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it. 


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power. 


Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one? 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships (06:23)
  • We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase (11:35)
  • Thrill needs to be cultivated (15:51)
  • We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose (21:33)
  • Today’s LoveByte (24:29)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1614 no Three Unusual Valentine’s Date Ideas to Make Love Intentional https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/three-unusual-valentines-date-ideas-to-make-love-intentional “Dr. Cheryl, is there really a way to make Valentine’s Day special?” “I have nothing but bad memories around VDay, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional. February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of very bad chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person (01:20) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting (06:52) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (08:08) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate (13:31) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love (15:40) Today’s LoveByte (19:10) Did you and your Valentine pay it forward to another couple? We want to hear about it! Email your photos or story to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a prize. Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let’s Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 12 Feb 2024 10:00:09 -0000 Three Unusual Valentine’s Date Ideas to Make Love Intentional full 147 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, is there really a way to make Valentine’s Day special?”</em></p><p><em>“I have nothing but bad memories around VDay, how can I change that?”</em></p><p><em>“Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?”</em></p><br><p>Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.</p><br><p>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.</p><br><p>February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of very bad chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person (01:20)</li><li>Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting (06:52)</li><li>First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (08:08)</li><li>Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate (13:31)</li><li>Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love (15:40)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (19:10)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Did you and your Valentine pay it forward to another couple? We want to hear about it! Email your photos or story to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> for a chance to win a prize.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp;</strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a></li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, is there really a way to make Valentine’s Day special?” “I have nothing but bad memories around VDay, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional. February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of very bad chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person (01:20) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting (06:52) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (08:08) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate (13:31) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love (15:40) Today’s LoveByte (19:10) Did you and your Valentine pay it forward to another couple? We want to hear about it! Email your photos or story to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a prize. Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let’s Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, is there really a way to make Valentine’s Day special?”

“I have nothing but bad memories around VDay, how can I change that?”

“Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?”


Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.


February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of very bad chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person (01:20)
  • Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting (06:52)
  • First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (08:08)
  • Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate (13:31)
  • Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love (15:40)
  • Today’s LoveByte (19:10)


Did you and your Valentine pay it forward to another couple? We want to hear about it! Email your photos or story to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a prize.


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1280 no Don’t Be Nasty! Top Three Ways to Show Your Partner Kindness in 2024 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/dont-be-nasty-top-three-ways-to-show-your-partner-kindness-i “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?” “Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?” “How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?” Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2024 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.  Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36) You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10) If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51) Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:44) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 05 Feb 2024 10:00:20 -0000 Don’t Be Nasty! Top Three Ways to Show Your Partner Kindness in 2024 full 146 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?”</em></p><p><em>“Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?”</em></p><p><em>“How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?”</em></p><br><p>Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.&nbsp;</p><br><p>On this episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2024 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36)</li><li>You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10)</li><li>If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51)</li><li>Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (14:44)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?” “Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?” “How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?” Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2024 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.  Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36) You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10) If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51) Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:44) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?”

“Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?”

“How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?”


Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that. 


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2024 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey. 


Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36)
  • You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10)
  • If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51)
  • Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55)
  • Today’s LoveByte (14:44)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1019 no Lazy In Bed? Try My Top 3 Tips To Be a Better Lover in 2024 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/lazy-in-bed-try-my-top-3-tips-to-be-a-better-lover-in-2024 “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the spice back to the bedroom in your long term relationship. Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49) Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09) Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11) Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50) Today’s LoveByte (17:36) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 29 Jan 2024 10:00:01 -0000 Lazy In Bed? Try My Top 3 Tips To Be a Better Lover in 2024 full 145 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?”</em></p><p><em>“Why has the heat left our sex life?”</em></p><p><em>“How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?”</em></p><br><p>Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection.</p><br><p>On this episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the spice back to the bedroom in your long term relationship.</p><br><p>Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body?</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49)</li><li>Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09)</li><li>Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11)</li><li>Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (17:36)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the spice back to the bedroom in your long term relationship. Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49) Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09) Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11) Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50) Today’s LoveByte (17:36) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?”

“Why has the heat left our sex life?”

“How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?”


Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the spice back to the bedroom in your long term relationship.


Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body?


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49)
  • Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09)
  • Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11)
  • Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50)
  • Today’s LoveByte (17:36)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1195 no Are you a Romance Dud? 3 Tips for More Romance in 2024 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/are-you-a-romance-dud-3-tips-for-more-romance-in-2024 “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2024 and beyond. When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38) A great relationship is about taking action (11:16) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18) Today’s LoveByte (18:56) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. If you have 4 dates with your partner in the next month and send us proof, we'll send you a prize! Just email Hello@Drcherylfraser.com. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 22 Jan 2024 10:00:31 -0000 Are you a Romance Dud? 3 Tips for More Romance in 2024 full 144 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”&nbsp;</em></p><p><em>“How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?”</em></p><p><em>“Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!”</em></p><br><p>It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.&nbsp;</p><br><p>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2024 and beyond.</p><br><p>When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (<em>and</em> sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><p>The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40)</p><p>Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38)</p><p>Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38)</p><p>A great relationship is about taking action (11:16)</p><p>Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09)</p><p>Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18)</p><p>Today’s LoveByte (18:56)</p><br><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>If you have 4 dates with your partner in the next month and send us proof, we'll send you a prize! Just email </strong><a href="mailto:Hello@Drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Hello@Drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp;@drcherylfraser on Instagram</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2024 and beyond. When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38) A great relationship is about taking action (11:16) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18) Today’s LoveByte (18:56) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. If you have 4 dates with your partner in the next month and send us proof, we'll send you a prize! Just email Hello@Drcherylfraser.com. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?” 

“How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?”

“Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!”


It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page. 


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2024 and beyond.


When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40)

Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38)

Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38)

A great relationship is about taking action (11:16)

Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09)

Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18)

Today’s LoveByte (18:56)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


If you have 4 dates with your partner in the next month and send us proof, we'll send you a prize! Just email Hello@Drcherylfraser.com.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram


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]]> 1269 no Stop Ugly Fighting! Three Tips to Argue Effectively in 2024 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/stop-ugly-fighting-three-tips-to-argue-effectively-in-2024 “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30) Today’s LoveByte (21:09) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 15 Jan 2024 10:00:25 -0000 Stop Ugly Fighting! Three Tips to Argue Effectively in 2024 full 143 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?”</em></p><br><p>If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?&nbsp;</p><br><p>On this episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.</p><br><p>When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00)</li><li>One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38)</li><li>To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40)</li><li>When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28)</li><li>We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (21:09)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30) Today’s LoveByte (21:09) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?”


If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? 


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.


When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00)
  • One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38)
  • To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40)
  • When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28)
  • We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30)
  • Today’s LoveByte (21:09)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1408 no Three Tips for Better Sex in 2024 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/three-tips-for-better-sex-in-2024 “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year. I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43) The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15) Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55) Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51) Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37) Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11) Today’s LoveByte (21:55) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 08 Jan 2024 10:00:42 -0000 Three Tips for Better Sex in 2024 full 142 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”&nbsp;</em></p><p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”&nbsp;</em></p><p><em>“Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?”</em></p><br><p>These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back.</p><br><p>On this episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year.</p><br><p>I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You’ll Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43)</li><li>The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15)</li><li>Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55)</li><li>Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51)</li><li>Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37)</li><li>Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (21:55)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp; Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year. I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43) The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15) Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55) Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51) Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37) Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11) Today’s LoveByte (21:55) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!” 

“Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!” 

“Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?”


These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year.


I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward. 


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43)
  • The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15)
  • Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55)
  • Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51)
  • Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37)
  • Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11)
  • Today’s LoveByte (21:55)


Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1446 no Take the New Year's Plunge into 2024 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/take-the-new-years-plunge-into-2024 When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can definitely feel like failing… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into 2024. Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?  Some questions I ask in this episode: One year from now… How do you want to feel about your relationship?  What would success feel like? What would it look like?  What are you doing better?  How have you improved? In what ways?  Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?  Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way? How do you want to feel?  What do you want to be?  Who do you want to be in your relationship? Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Take the polar plunge and get a prize! Take a picture of yourself afterward and send it to hello@drcherylfraser.com to win. Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 01 Jan 2024 10:00:59 -0000 Take the New Year's Plunge into 2024 full 141 Cheryl Fraser <p>When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can definitely feel like failing… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance?</p><br><p>On this episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into 2024.</p><br><p>Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Some questions I ask in this episode:</strong></p><p>One year from now…</p><ul><li>How do you want to feel about your relationship?&nbsp;</li><li>What would success feel like? What would it look like?&nbsp;</li><li>What are you doing better?&nbsp;</li><li>How have you improved? In what ways?&nbsp;</li><li>Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?&nbsp;</li><li>Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way?</li><li>How do you want to feel?&nbsp;</li><li>What do you want to be?&nbsp;</li><li>Who do you want to be in your relationship?</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here to join the waitlist.</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Still not sure about joining? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Check out some testimonials</strong></a><strong> from real couples just like you and your partner.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Take the polar plunge and get a prize! Take a picture of yourself afterward and send it to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> to win.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email your stories and photos to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can definitely feel like failing… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into 2024. Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?  Some questions I ask in this episode: One year from now… How do you want to feel about your relationship?  What would success feel like? What would it look like?  What are you doing better?  How have you improved? In what ways?  Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?  Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way? How do you want to feel?  What do you want to be?  Who do you want to be in your relationship? Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Take the polar plunge and get a prize! Take a picture of yourself afterward and send it to hello@drcherylfraser.com to win. Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can definitely feel like failing… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance?


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into 2024.


Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure? 


Some questions I ask in this episode:

One year from now…

  • How do you want to feel about your relationship? 
  • What would success feel like? What would it look like? 
  • What are you doing better? 
  • How have you improved? In what ways? 
  • Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier? 
  • Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way?
  • How do you want to feel? 
  • What do you want to be? 
  • Who do you want to be in your relationship?


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Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.


Take the polar plunge and get a prize! Take a picture of yourself afterward and send it to hello@drcherylfraser.com to win.


Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise. 

Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


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]]> 794 no Cast Out Your Inner Scrooge: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/cast-out-your-inner-scrooge-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-cheryl We all know the story of Scrooge and the visits he received on Christmas Eve—but have you ever stopped to realize that you’re acting a little like old Scrooge yourself? Maybe you’re a Scrooge to your sweetheart when you're under holiday stress… Are you bickering? Are you fighting? Are you blaming?  In celebration of Christmas, this week and next I’m giving you a double dose of my Dharma Talks. Tune into today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants for your front row seat.  Tune in and learn how Dickens’ classic A Christmas Carol still holds relevant lessons in today’s world and how we can use them to explore our mindset. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Reasons are not excuses (14:08) We can all redo, remake, regret, forgive, and begin again (20:40) No matter what religion you follow, the ugliness of the human mind and psyche is universally greed and ignorance and aversion (32:48) We have the opportunity every morning to wake up and lead with heart and generosity (42:51) More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 25 Dec 2023 10:00:03 -0000 Cast Out Your Inner Scrooge: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 140 Cheryl Fraser <p>We all know the story of Scrooge and the visits he received on Christmas Eve—but have you ever stopped to realize that you’re acting a little like old Scrooge yourself? Maybe you’re a Scrooge to your sweetheart when you're under holiday stress… Are you bickering? Are you fighting? Are you blaming?&nbsp;</p><br><p>In celebration of Christmas, this week and next I’m giving you a double dose of my Dharma Talks. Tune into today’s episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants </strong>for your front row seat.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn how Dickens’ classic<em> A Christmas Carol </em>still holds relevant lessons in today’s world and how we can use them to explore our mindset.</p><br><p><strong><em>In T</em>his Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Reasons are not excuses (14:08)</li><li>We can all redo, remake, regret, forgive, and begin again (20:40)</li><li>No matter what religion you follow, the ugliness of the human mind and psyche is universally greed and ignorance and aversion (32:48)</li><li>We have the opportunity every morning to wake up and lead with heart and generosity (42:51)</li><li>More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email your stories and photos to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> We all know the story of Scrooge and the visits he received on Christmas Eve—but have you ever stopped to realize that you’re acting a little like old Scrooge yourself? Maybe you’re a Scrooge to your sweetheart when you're under holiday stress… Are you bickering? Are you fighting? Are you blaming?  In celebration of Christmas, this week and next I’m giving you a double dose of my Dharma Talks. Tune into today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants for your front row seat.  Tune in and learn how Dickens’ classic A Christmas Carol still holds relevant lessons in today’s world and how we can use them to explore our mindset. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Reasons are not excuses (14:08) We can all redo, remake, regret, forgive, and begin again (20:40) No matter what religion you follow, the ugliness of the human mind and psyche is universally greed and ignorance and aversion (32:48) We have the opportunity every morning to wake up and lead with heart and generosity (42:51) More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. We all know the story of Scrooge and the visits he received on Christmas Eve—but have you ever stopped to realize that you’re acting a little like old Scrooge yourself? Maybe you’re a Scrooge to your sweetheart when you're under holiday stress… Are you bickering? Are you fighting? Are you blaming? 


In celebration of Christmas, this week and next I’m giving you a double dose of my Dharma Talks. Tune into today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants for your front row seat. 


Tune in and learn how Dickens’ classic A Christmas Carol still holds relevant lessons in today’s world and how we can use them to explore our mindset.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Reasons are not excuses (14:08)
  • We can all redo, remake, regret, forgive, and begin again (20:40)
  • No matter what religion you follow, the ugliness of the human mind and psyche is universally greed and ignorance and aversion (32:48)
  • We have the opportunity every morning to wake up and lead with heart and generosity (42:51)
  • More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11)


Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise. 

Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2633 no The Santa Claus Effect: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-santa-claus-effect-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-cheryl As a kid, I had magical, picture perfect Christmases. The stockings by the fire, the gifts beneath the tree, and a beautiful, loving family to make it all warm and incredibly special… But the next day? I was in a world of disappointment, depression, and despair because I could never cope with the fact that everything was suddenly over. I was clinging to the past.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a front row seat to one of my holiday Dharma Talks.  Tune in and learn how we still have lessons to learn from Santa Claus and the Grinch—even as adults. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Every time you think you've found the one who's gonna keep you happily ever after, it’s a variation on the Santa Claus effect (08:16) The true heart is inside and whether all our beautiful things are there to share with people we love or none of our things are there we can still share what matters (23:41) It's not about stuff, It's not about winning, it’s about love. It's about the light of compassion, kindness, community, and generosity (25:26) Every time we love anything, we're going to hurt (32:15) More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 18 Dec 2023 10:00:24 -0000 The Santa Claus Effect: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 139 Cheryl Fraser <p>As a kid, I had magical, picture perfect Christmases. The stockings by the fire, the gifts beneath the tree, and a beautiful, loving family to make it all warm and incredibly special… But the next day? I was in a world of disappointment, depression, and despair because I could never cope with the fact that everything was suddenly over. I was clinging to the past.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today’s episode of <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> is a front row seat to one of my holiday Dharma Talks.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn how we still have lessons to learn from Santa Claus and the Grinch—even as adults.</p><br><p><strong><em>In T</em>his Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Every time you think you've found the one who's gonna keep you happily ever after, it’s a variation on the Santa Claus effect (08:16)</li><li>The true heart is inside and whether all our beautiful things are there to share with people we love or none of our things are there we can still share what matters (23:41)</li><li>It's not about stuff, It's not about winning, it’s about love. It's about the light of compassion, kindness, community, and generosity (25:26)</li><li>Every time we love anything, we're going to hurt (32:15)</li><li><em>More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11)</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email your stories and photos to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> As a kid, I had magical, picture perfect Christmases. The stockings by the fire, the gifts beneath the tree, and a beautiful, loving family to make it all warm and incredibly special… But the next day? I was in a world of disappointment, depression, and despair because I could never cope with the fact that everything was suddenly over. I was clinging to the past.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a front row seat to one of my holiday Dharma Talks.  Tune in and learn how we still have lessons to learn from Santa Claus and the Grinch—even as adults. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Every time you think you've found the one who's gonna keep you happily ever after, it’s a variation on the Santa Claus effect (08:16) The true heart is inside and whether all our beautiful things are there to share with people we love or none of our things are there we can still share what matters (23:41) It's not about stuff, It's not about winning, it’s about love. It's about the light of compassion, kindness, community, and generosity (25:26) Every time we love anything, we're going to hurt (32:15) More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. As a kid, I had magical, picture perfect Christmases. The stockings by the fire, the gifts beneath the tree, and a beautiful, loving family to make it all warm and incredibly special… But the next day? I was in a world of disappointment, depression, and despair because I could never cope with the fact that everything was suddenly over. I was clinging to the past. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a front row seat to one of my holiday Dharma Talks. 


Tune in and learn how we still have lessons to learn from Santa Claus and the Grinch—even as adults.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Every time you think you've found the one who's gonna keep you happily ever after, it’s a variation on the Santa Claus effect (08:16)
  • The true heart is inside and whether all our beautiful things are there to share with people we love or none of our things are there we can still share what matters (23:41)
  • It's not about stuff, It's not about winning, it’s about love. It's about the light of compassion, kindness, community, and generosity (25:26)
  • Every time we love anything, we're going to hurt (32:15)
  • More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11)


Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise. 

Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3470 no Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking - Make the Holidays Romantic https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/best-of-sex-love-elephants-sensual-ways-to-stuff-a-stocking- This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:52) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08) Today’s LoveByte (25:52) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 11 Dec 2023 10:00:58 -0000 Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking - Make the Holidays Romantic full 138 Cheryl Fraser <p>This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?</p><br><p><strong>On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?</p><br><p><br></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><strong>Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)&nbsp;</strong></li><li><strong>It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00)</strong></li><li>If you've got&nbsp; little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34)</li><li>If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:52)</li><li>Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (25:52)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email your stories and photos to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:52) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08) Today’s LoveByte (25:52) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical. 


Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?



In This Episode, You Will Learn:


  • Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33) 
  • It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00)
  • If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34)
  • If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:52)
  • Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08)
  • Today’s LoveByte (25:52)


Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise. 

Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1704 no Improve your Relationship over the holidaysSex, Love, and Holidays Vol 1 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/improve-your-relationship-over-the-holidayssex-love-and-holi No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38) This week’s LoveByte (14:40) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 04 Dec 2023 10:00:18 -0000 Improve your Relationship over the holidaysSex, Love, and Holidays Vol 1 full 137 Cheryl Fraser <p>No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart?</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03)</li><li>Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22)</li><li>Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13)</li><li>It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52)</li><li>Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (14:40)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email your stories and photos to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38) This week’s LoveByte (14:40) Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise.  Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart?


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all. 


Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?” 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03)
  • Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22)
  • Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13)
  • It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52)
  • Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38)
  • This week’s LoveByte (14:40)


Tell Dr. Cheryl about your holiday date and you could win a sexy surprise. 

Email your stories and photos to hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1023 no Suffering Is a Choice You Make: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/suffering-is-a-choice-you-make-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-cheryl We all have moments of unkindness that come at times of weakness. Your shoelace broke, you stepped in a puddle, and you got a flat tire—so you take it all out on your local barista. But here’s the thing:  It's up to us whether we have a good day or a bad day. It’s up to us whether, regardless of circumstances, we have a kind mind or a mean mind. It's up to us how we feel when the circumstances get in our way.  Fix yourself a nice cup of steaming tea, find a quiet, tranquil spot, and settle in—this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is your ticket to my latest Dharma Talk.  Tune in and learn about the Eightfold Path and why this central piece of the Buddhist belief system remains so incredibly relevant in our modern daily lives.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Suffering is not inherent in change, suffering is inherent in us wanting things to be different (02:46) When I act kinder, I feel better (17:21) We have to practice right speech in the world with our words—and when we fail, begin again (34:21) Abstain from slanderous speech: Don't gossip, don't talk about other people in ways that may not be skillful (36:57) Communicating is listening as much or more than you speak (38:12) It's not an easy being a kind, compassionate human being… but it's huge return on investment (01:06:37) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 27 Nov 2023 10:00:06 -0000 Suffering Is a Choice You Make: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 136 Cheryl Fraser <p>We all have moments of unkindness that come at times of weakness. Your shoelace broke, you stepped in a puddle, and you got a flat tire—so you take it all out on your local barista. But here’s the thing:&nbsp; It's up to us whether we have a good day or a bad day. It’s up to us whether, regardless of circumstances, we have a kind mind or a mean mind. It's up to us how we feel when the circumstances get in our way.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Fix yourself a nice cup of steaming tea, find a quiet, tranquil spot, and settle in—this <strong>episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants </strong>is your ticket to my latest Dharma Talk.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn about the Eightfold Path and why this central piece of the Buddhist belief system remains so incredibly relevant in our modern daily lives.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li>Suffering is not inherent in change, suffering is inherent in us wanting things to be different (02:46)</li><li>When I act kinder, I feel better (17:21)</li><li>We have to practice right speech in the world with our words—and when we fail, begin again (34:21)</li><li>Abstain from slanderous speech: Don't gossip, don't talk about other people in ways that may not be skillful (36:57)</li><li>Communicating is listening as much or more than you speak (38:12)</li><li>It's not an easy being a kind, compassionate human being… but it's huge return on investment (01:06:37)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Got questions? Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> We all have moments of unkindness that come at times of weakness. Your shoelace broke, you stepped in a puddle, and you got a flat tire—so you take it all out on your local barista. But here’s the thing:  It's up to us whether we have a good day or a bad day. It’s up to us whether, regardless of circumstances, we have a kind mind or a mean mind. It's up to us how we feel when the circumstances get in our way.  Fix yourself a nice cup of steaming tea, find a quiet, tranquil spot, and settle in—this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is your ticket to my latest Dharma Talk.  Tune in and learn about the Eightfold Path and why this central piece of the Buddhist belief system remains so incredibly relevant in our modern daily lives.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Suffering is not inherent in change, suffering is inherent in us wanting things to be different (02:46) When I act kinder, I feel better (17:21) We have to practice right speech in the world with our words—and when we fail, begin again (34:21) Abstain from slanderous speech: Don't gossip, don't talk about other people in ways that may not be skillful (36:57) Communicating is listening as much or more than you speak (38:12) It's not an easy being a kind, compassionate human being… but it's huge return on investment (01:06:37) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. We all have moments of unkindness that come at times of weakness. Your shoelace broke, you stepped in a puddle, and you got a flat tire—so you take it all out on your local barista. But here’s the thing:  It's up to us whether we have a good day or a bad day. It’s up to us whether, regardless of circumstances, we have a kind mind or a mean mind. It's up to us how we feel when the circumstances get in our way. 


Fix yourself a nice cup of steaming tea, find a quiet, tranquil spot, and settle in—this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is your ticket to my latest Dharma Talk. 


Tune in and learn about the Eightfold Path and why this central piece of the Buddhist belief system remains so incredibly relevant in our modern daily lives. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Suffering is not inherent in change, suffering is inherent in us wanting things to be different (02:46)
  • When I act kinder, I feel better (17:21)
  • We have to practice right speech in the world with our words—and when we fail, begin again (34:21)
  • Abstain from slanderous speech: Don't gossip, don't talk about other people in ways that may not be skillful (36:57)
  • Communicating is listening as much or more than you speak (38:12)
  • It's not an easy being a kind, compassionate human being… but it's huge return on investment (01:06:37)


Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 4173 no Hungry Ghosts, Greedy Demons & Monstrous Mindstates: A Halloween Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/hungry-ghosts-greedy-demons-monstrous-mindstates-a-halloween October 31 is a bit of a funny day. Of course, for many of us in Canada and the States, we have our long held Halloween traditions from childhood. But if we think of those traditions, there are several of them—including the act of assuming another persona—that correspond to aspects of Buddha Dharma. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ve got a front row seat to my recent Dharma Talk, given this past Halloween. Tune in and learn about the ghosts, ghouls, and goblins that reside inside of our own psyche when we get trapped in anger, selfishness, or judgment. In This Episode, You Will Learn: According to Buddha Dharma, there is no real, permanent self (04:13) About 30% of humans across the spectrum suffer from abandonment issues (11:36) When we're in greed, we forget to be generous (16:11) Halloween is the only holiday where the purpose is to give freely, without discrimination, to strangers (23:08) Everything changes, everything dies (29:53) This week’s LoveByte (47:09) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 13 Nov 2023 10:00:26 -0000 Hungry Ghosts, Greedy Demons & Monstrous Mindstates: A Halloween Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 134 Cheryl Fraser <p>October 31 is a bit of a funny day. Of course, for many of us in Canada and the States, we have our long held Halloween traditions from childhood. But if we think of those traditions, there are several of them—including the act of assuming another persona—that correspond to aspects of Buddha Dharma.</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ve got a front row seat to my recent Dharma Talk, given this past Halloween.</p><br><p>Tune in and learn about the ghosts, ghouls, and goblins that reside inside of our own psyche when we get trapped in anger, selfishness, or judgment.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>According to Buddha Dharma, there is no real, permanent self (04:13)</li><li>About 30% of humans across the spectrum suffer from abandonment issues (11:36)</li><li>When we're in greed, we forget to be generous (16:11)</li><li>Halloween is the only holiday where the purpose is to give freely, without discrimination, to strangers (23:08)</li><li>Everything changes, everything dies (29:53)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (47:09)</li></ul><p><br></p><br><p><strong>Got questions? Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong> is a great resource!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> October 31 is a bit of a funny day. Of course, for many of us in Canada and the States, we have our long held Halloween traditions from childhood. But if we think of those traditions, there are several of them—including the act of assuming another persona—that correspond to aspects of Buddha Dharma. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ve got a front row seat to my recent Dharma Talk, given this past Halloween. Tune in and learn about the ghosts, ghouls, and goblins that reside inside of our own psyche when we get trapped in anger, selfishness, or judgment. In This Episode, You Will Learn: According to Buddha Dharma, there is no real, permanent self (04:13) About 30% of humans across the spectrum suffer from abandonment issues (11:36) When we're in greed, we forget to be generous (16:11) Halloween is the only holiday where the purpose is to give freely, without discrimination, to strangers (23:08) Everything changes, everything dies (29:53) This week’s LoveByte (47:09) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. October 31 is a bit of a funny day. Of course, for many of us in Canada and the States, we have our long held Halloween traditions from childhood. But if we think of those traditions, there are several of them—including the act of assuming another persona—that correspond to aspects of Buddha Dharma.


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ve got a front row seat to my recent Dharma Talk, given this past Halloween.


Tune in and learn about the ghosts, ghouls, and goblins that reside inside of our own psyche when we get trapped in anger, selfishness, or judgment.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • According to Buddha Dharma, there is no real, permanent self (04:13)
  • About 30% of humans across the spectrum suffer from abandonment issues (11:36)
  • When we're in greed, we forget to be generous (16:11)
  • Halloween is the only holiday where the purpose is to give freely, without discrimination, to strangers (23:08)
  • Everything changes, everything dies (29:53)
  • This week’s LoveByte (47:09)



Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2957 no Connecting Deeper: A Conversation with Dr. Cheryl & Marital Therapist Andrew G. Marshall https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/connecting-deeper-a-conversation-with-dr-cheryl-marital-ther Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? It's hardly an original thought... but it might be just the question that you and your honey need to be asking yourselves—especially if you find yourself in the same argument day in, day out. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to my conversation Andrew G. Marshall, renowned marital therapist and host of The Meaningful Life podcast.  Join Andrew and me as we talk about the real life relationships issues we’ve encountered in our practices and even some of the strife we’ve had with our own sweethearts.  Missed out on Become Passion sign-ups? There’s still time! Send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com and let us know you want to join! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The fight is never just about the topic at hand (03:14) Ask yourself: Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? (07:11) Nothing has ever been settled by deciding “I'm right and you're wrong” (09:15) People don't like conflict and they’ll try and get it over and done with as quickly as possible (18:00) In relationships, unfinished business accumulates (20:31) Don’t wait until your relationship is on life support to seek therapy—go now! (24:02) As our relationship matures, we need to give ourselves time to move from the sensual zone into the sexual zone (31:01) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Connect with Andrew: Website The Meaningful Life podcast Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 06 Nov 2023 10:00:19 -0000 Connecting Deeper: A Conversation with Dr. Cheryl & Marital Therapist Andrew G. Marshall full 133 Cheryl Fraser <p>Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? It's hardly an original thought... but it might be just the question that you and your honey need to be asking yourselves—especially if you find yourself in the same argument day in, day out.</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ll have a front row seat to my conversation Andrew G. Marshall, renowned marital therapist and host of <em>The Meaningful Life </em>podcast.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Join Andrew and me as we talk about the real life relationships issues we’ve encountered in our practices and even some of the strife we’ve had with our own sweethearts.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Missed out on Become Passion sign-ups? There’s still time! Send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com and let us know you want to join!</strong></p><br><p><br></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The fight is never just about the topic at hand (03:14)</li><li>Ask yourself: Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? (07:11)</li><li>Nothing has ever been settled by deciding “I'm right and you're wrong” (09:15)</li><li>People don't like conflict and they’ll try and get it over and done with as quickly as possible (18:00)</li><li>In relationships, unfinished business accumulates (20:31)</li><li>Don’t wait until your relationship is on life support to seek therapy—go now! (24:02)</li><li>As our relationship matures, we need to give ourselves time to move from the sensual zone into the sexual zone (31:01)</li></ul><p><br></p><br><p><strong>Got questions? Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Connect with Andrew:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://andrewgmarshall.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website</a></li><li><a href="https://andrewgmarshall.com/podcasts/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Meaningful Life podcast</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? It's hardly an original thought... but it might be just the question that you and your honey need to be asking yourselves—especially if you find yourself in the same argument day in, day out. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to my conversation Andrew G. Marshall, renowned marital therapist and host of The Meaningful Life podcast.  Join Andrew and me as we talk about the real life relationships issues we’ve encountered in our practices and even some of the strife we’ve had with our own sweethearts.  Missed out on Become Passion sign-ups? There’s still time! Send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com and let us know you want to join! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The fight is never just about the topic at hand (03:14) Ask yourself: Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? (07:11) Nothing has ever been settled by deciding “I'm right and you're wrong” (09:15) People don't like conflict and they’ll try and get it over and done with as quickly as possible (18:00) In relationships, unfinished business accumulates (20:31) Don’t wait until your relationship is on life support to seek therapy—go now! (24:02) As our relationship matures, we need to give ourselves time to move from the sensual zone into the sexual zone (31:01) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Connect with Andrew: Website The Meaningful Life podcast Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? It's hardly an original thought... but it might be just the question that you and your honey need to be asking yourselves—especially if you find yourself in the same argument day in, day out.


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to my conversation Andrew G. Marshall, renowned marital therapist and host of The Meaningful Life podcast. 


Join Andrew and me as we talk about the real life relationships issues we’ve encountered in our practices and even some of the strife we’ve had with our own sweethearts. 


Missed out on Become Passion sign-ups? There’s still time! Send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com and let us know you want to join!



In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The fight is never just about the topic at hand (03:14)
  • Ask yourself: Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? (07:11)
  • Nothing has ever been settled by deciding “I'm right and you're wrong” (09:15)
  • People don't like conflict and they’ll try and get it over and done with as quickly as possible (18:00)
  • In relationships, unfinished business accumulates (20:31)
  • Don’t wait until your relationship is on life support to seek therapy—go now! (24:02)
  • As our relationship matures, we need to give ourselves time to move from the sensual zone into the sexual zone (31:01)



Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


Connect with Andrew:


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2915 no Listen to Real Couples Tell Their Stories - Become Passion Program Doors Are OPEN https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/great-love-is-no-accident-become-passion-doors-are-open The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on November 2! https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion Join me this Wednesday, November 1 for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom. Email support@drcherylfraser.com for the special link! This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training.  Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. Join the waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3. A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20) Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57) Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30) Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22) Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29) Today’s LoveByte (33:00) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 30 Oct 2023 10:00:26 -0000 Listen to Real Couples Tell Their Stories - Become Passion Program Doors Are OPEN full 132 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on November 2!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Join me this Wednesday, November 1 for a very special LIVE Q&amp;A over Zoom.&nbsp;Email </strong><a href="mailto:support@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>support@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> for the special link!</strong></p><br><p><strong>This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my <em>Become Passion</em> students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my <em>Become Passion </em>training.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion</a>. Join the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">waitlist</a> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3.</p><br><p>A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&amp;A is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20)</li><li>Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57)</li><li>Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30)</li><li>Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22)</li><li>Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (33:00)</li></ul><p><br></p><br><p><strong>Got questions? Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on November 2! https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion Join me this Wednesday, November 1 for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom. Email support@drcherylfraser.com for the special link! This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training.  Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. Join the waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3. A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20) Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57) Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30) Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22) Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29) Today’s LoveByte (33:00) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on November 2!

https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion


Join me this Wednesday, November 1 for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom. Email support@drcherylfraser.com for the special link!


This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training. 


Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. Join the waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3.


A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20)
  • Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57)
  • Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30)
  • Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22)
  • Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29)
  • Today’s LoveByte (33:00)



Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2130 no Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship—Welcome to the Passion Masterclass! https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/spend-3-months-with-cheryl-renovating-your-relationshipwelco In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.) Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.  In this exclusive LIVE Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.  Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 3, 2023 and go through January 26, 2024. Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime  Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Thu, 26 Oct 2023 09:00:04 -0000 Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship—Welcome to the Passion Masterclass! bonus Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>In today’s episode of <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em></strong>, I’m going to give you a look inside my <strong>Passion Masterclass - </strong>a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE&nbsp; a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)</p><br><p>Here’s the good news: <strong>You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late</strong>… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having <em>any</em> sex <em>whatsoever</em>.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this exclusive LIVE <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Passion Masterclass</strong></a>, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the <strong><em>Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime&nbsp;</em></strong>12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion " rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>click here</strong></a>! <strong><em>We begin November 3, 2023 and go through January 26, 2024.</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? </strong><a href="https://my.demio.com/recording/fkLwnLVU" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The 3 Keys to Passion&nbsp;– What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime&nbsp;</li><li>Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”&nbsp; Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments</li><li>&nbsp;Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going&nbsp;– and what you need to do about it. Getting real</li><li><em>Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life.&nbsp;Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.) Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.  In this exclusive LIVE Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.  Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 3, 2023 and go through January 26, 2024. Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime  Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)


Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. 


In this exclusive LIVE Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently. 


Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 3, 2023 and go through January 26, 2024.


Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime 
  • Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments
  •  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real
  • Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 5808 no Break Your Painful Relationship Patterns & Reignite the Spark—It’s NOT Too Late https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/break-your-painful-relationship-patterns-reignite-the-sparki JOIN my FREE Passion masterclass—just choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year it’s being taught! This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions and most pressing pain points from my past Become Passion sessions. These issues came from REAL couples with REAL problems—just like you and your honey. Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. Join the waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3. When you and your sweetheart first got together, what did you do to really romance one another? I’d guess it didn’t involve the couch, Netflix, and a bag of potato chips on a Saturday night… So why expect that spark to continue burning when you’re not doing anything to feed the passion flame? When you become lazy in love, love suffers.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: You and your partner can join me for  FREE Passion masterclass and see how the Become Passion program can reignite your love life and bring back the spark you’ve been missing (00:23) ¾ of couples are stuck in a vicious cycle of the same perpetual argument (05:44) Don’t get lazy and complacent in your love—romance your partner like you did in the beginning (11:03) If your sex life is floundering—You. Are. Normal… But it doesn’t have to be that way (16:20) Today’s LoveByte (23:00) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 23 Oct 2023 10:00:11 -0000 Break Your Painful Relationship Patterns & Reignite the Spark—It’s NOT Too Late full 131 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>JOIN my FREE </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Passion masterclass</strong></a><strong>—just choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year it’s being taught!</strong></p><br><p><strong>This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my <em>Become Passion</em> students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions and most pressing pain points from my past Become Passion sessions. These issues came from REAL couples with REAL problems—just like you and your honey.</p><br><p>Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion</a>. Join the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">waitlist</a> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3.</p><br><p>When you and your sweetheart first got together, what did you do to really romance one another? I’d guess it didn’t involve the couch, Netflix, and a bag of potato chips on a Saturday night… So why expect that spark to continue burning when you’re not doing anything to feed the passion flame? When you become lazy in love, love suffers.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>You and your partner can join me for&nbsp; FREE P<a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">assion masterclass</a> and see how the Become Passion program can reignite your love life and bring back the spark you’ve been missing (00:23)</li><li>¾ of couples are stuck in a vicious cycle of the same perpetual argument (05:44)</li><li>Don’t get lazy and complacent in your love—romance your partner like you did in the beginning (11:03)</li><li>If your sex life is floundering—You. Are. Normal… But it doesn’t have to be that way (16:20)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (23:00)</li></ul><p><br></p><br><p><strong>Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on Instagram&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><p><br></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> JOIN my FREE Passion masterclass—just choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year it’s being taught! This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions and most pressing pain points from my past Become Passion sessions. These issues came from REAL couples with REAL problems—just like you and your honey. Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. Join the waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3. When you and your sweetheart first got together, what did you do to really romance one another? I’d guess it didn’t involve the couch, Netflix, and a bag of potato chips on a Saturday night… So why expect that spark to continue burning when you’re not doing anything to feed the passion flame? When you become lazy in love, love suffers.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: You and your partner can join me for  FREE Passion masterclass and see how the Become Passion program can reignite your love life and bring back the spark you’ve been missing (00:23) ¾ of couples are stuck in a vicious cycle of the same perpetual argument (05:44) Don’t get lazy and complacent in your love—romance your partner like you did in the beginning (11:03) If your sex life is floundering—You. Are. Normal… But it doesn’t have to be that way (16:20) Today’s LoveByte (23:00) Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com. Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. JOIN my FREE Passion masterclass—just choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year it’s being taught!


This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions and most pressing pain points from my past Become Passion sessions. These issues came from REAL couples with REAL problems—just like you and your honey.


Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? At the end of this month I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. Join the waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3.


When you and your sweetheart first got together, what did you do to really romance one another? I’d guess it didn’t involve the couch, Netflix, and a bag of potato chips on a Saturday night… So why expect that spark to continue burning when you’re not doing anything to feed the passion flame? When you become lazy in love, love suffers. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • You and your partner can join me for  FREE Passion masterclass and see how the Become Passion program can reignite your love life and bring back the spark you’ve been missing (00:23)
  • ¾ of couples are stuck in a vicious cycle of the same perpetual argument (05:44)
  • Don’t get lazy and complacent in your love—romance your partner like you did in the beginning (11:03)
  • If your sex life is floundering—You. Are. Normal… But it doesn’t have to be that way (16:20)
  • Today’s LoveByte (23:00)



Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com.


Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram 

Let’s Connect!  



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]]> 1607 no Join Dr. Cheryl LIVE! Online Masterclass THIS WEEK https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/join-dr-cheryl-live-online-masterclass-this-week On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 24th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2023 I’m offering my couples program! Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the Become Passion program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Thu, 19 Oct 2023 10:00:33 -0000 Join Dr. Cheryl LIVE! Online Masterclass THIS WEEK full 130 Cheryl Fraser <p>On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my<a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> FREE Passion Masterclass</a>. <strong>Dates start October 24th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&amp;A! NOW is the only time in 2023 I’m offering my couples program!</strong></p><br><p>Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the<a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> Become Passion</a> <strong>program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the</strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong> Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book</strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong> Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><p><br></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 24th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2023 I’m offering my couples program! Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the Become Passion program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 24th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2023 I’m offering my couples program!


Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the Become Passion program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 3.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

 

Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!



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]]> 540 no Don’t Settle for a Mediocre Marriage, Rediscover Passion and Pleasure— Real Couples, Real Results in Their Own Words https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/dont-settle-for-a-mediocre-marriage-rediscover-passion-and-p This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Lisa and Cam, a couple who joined Become Passion when their relationship started to feel like it was between roommates instead of lovers. Lisa and Cam were able to completely renovate their partnership for the better—and so can you and your sweetheart! At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion,  my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me! You and your honey have it down—the kids, the mortgage, the household chores… but just because you’ve figured out the administrative side of things doesn’t mean you’ve got a thriving love life. If you’re feeling like you’re stuck in Marriage Incorporated, listen in to what Lisa and Cam have to say! In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you want to learn more about  the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a very special FREE Zoom session with me! (00:57) Lisa was beginning to see Cam as more of a roommate than a lover—until they joined Become Passion and rediscovered one another (05:07) In the Become Passion program, you’ll start from the basics to build a more solid foundation for your relationship to thrive (10:56) Through Become Passion, Lisa and Cam developed the skills to tone down their ugly fights (22:46) Today’s LoveByte (48:25) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 16 Oct 2023 10:00:54 -0000 Don’t Settle for a Mediocre Marriage, Rediscover Passion and Pleasure— Real Couples, Real Results in Their Own Words full 129 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my <em>Become Passion</em> students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Lisa and Cam, a couple who joined Become Passion when their relationship started to feel like it was between roommates instead of lovers. Lisa and Cam were able to completely renovate their partnership for the better—and so can you and your sweetheart!</p><br><p>At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion</strong></a>,&nbsp;</p><p>my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>join the waitlist</strong></a><strong> now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!</strong></p><br><p>You and your honey have it down—the kids, the mortgage, the household chores… but just because you’ve figured out the administrative side of things doesn’t mean you’ve got a thriving love life. If you’re feeling like you’re stuck in Marriage Incorporated, listen in to what Lisa and Cam have to say!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If you want to learn more about&nbsp; the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a very special FREE Zoom session with me! (00:57)</li><li>Lisa was beginning to see Cam as more of a roommate than a lover—until they joined Become Passion and rediscovered one another (05:07)</li><li>In the Become Passion program, you’ll start from the basics to build a more solid foundation for your relationship to thrive (10:56)</li><li>Through Become Passion, Lisa and Cam developed the skills to tone down their ugly fights (22:46)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (48:25)</li></ul><p><br></p><br><p><strong>Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><p><br></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Lisa and Cam, a couple who joined Become Passion when their relationship started to feel like it was between roommates instead of lovers. Lisa and Cam were able to completely renovate their partnership for the better—and so can you and your sweetheart! At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion,  my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me! You and your honey have it down—the kids, the mortgage, the household chores… but just because you’ve figured out the administrative side of things doesn’t mean you’ve got a thriving love life. If you’re feeling like you’re stuck in Marriage Incorporated, listen in to what Lisa and Cam have to say! In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you want to learn more about  the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a very special FREE Zoom session with me! (00:57) Lisa was beginning to see Cam as more of a roommate than a lover—until they joined Become Passion and rediscovered one another (05:07) In the Become Passion program, you’ll start from the basics to build a more solid foundation for your relationship to thrive (10:56) Through Become Passion, Lisa and Cam developed the skills to tone down their ugly fights (22:46) Today’s LoveByte (48:25) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Lisa and Cam, a couple who joined Become Passion when their relationship started to feel like it was between roommates instead of lovers. Lisa and Cam were able to completely renovate their partnership for the better—and so can you and your sweetheart!


At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion, 

my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!


You and your honey have it down—the kids, the mortgage, the household chores… but just because you’ve figured out the administrative side of things doesn’t mean you’ve got a thriving love life. If you’re feeling like you’re stuck in Marriage Incorporated, listen in to what Lisa and Cam have to say!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you want to learn more about  the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a very special FREE Zoom session with me! (00:57)
  • Lisa was beginning to see Cam as more of a roommate than a lover—until they joined Become Passion and rediscovered one another (05:07)
  • In the Become Passion program, you’ll start from the basics to build a more solid foundation for your relationship to thrive (10:56)
  • Through Become Passion, Lisa and Cam developed the skills to tone down their ugly fights (22:46)
  • Today’s LoveByte (48:25)



Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG 

Let’s Connect!  



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3041 no From I Want a Divorce to Falling Back in Love - Real Couples Real Results in their own words https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/from-i-want-a-divorce-to-falling-back-in-love-real-couples-r This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Howard and Karen, a couple who joinedBecome Passion last year to save their marriage … after Howard suddenly asked for a divorce. I hope you’ll considering joining me this year to renovate YOUR relationship! At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion,  my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me! Humans are creatures of habit. We tend to find comfort in routine… and that doesn’t exclude our romantic relationships. But when there’s a major shakeup—a new baby, retirement, even COVID lockdowns—it can be hard to reconcile and adapt to those new circumstances with our sweetheart.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you want to learn more about  the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a some very specail  l FREE Zoom session with me! (01:24) Make sure you’ve joined the waitlist so we can invite you to these exclusive freebies and classes all through the month of October! (03:01) Between retirement and COVID, Howard found himself at his wit’s end in his marriage to Karen and threatened divorce—but Karen had other plans (03:51) It was the practical applications in the Become Passion program that really allowed Howard and Karen to save their marriage from the brink of divorce (22:57) Today’s LoveByte (47:57) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 09 Oct 2023 09:00:52 -0000 From I Want a Divorce to Falling Back in Love - Real Couples Real Results in their own words full 128 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my <em>Become Passion</em> students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Howard and Karen, a couple who joinedBecome Passion last year to save their marriage … after Howard suddenly asked for a divorce. I hope you’ll considering joining me this year to renovate YOUR relationship!</p><br><p>At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion</strong></a>,&nbsp;</p><p>my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>join the waitlist</strong></a><strong> now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!</strong></p><br><p>Humans are creatures of habit. We tend to find comfort in routine… and that doesn’t exclude our romantic relationships. But when there’s a major shakeup—a new baby, retirement, even COVID lockdowns—it can be hard to reconcile and adapt to those new circumstances with our sweetheart.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If you want to learn more about&nbsp; the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a some very specail&nbsp; l FREE Zoom session with me! (01:24)</li><li>Make sure you’ve joined <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">the waitlist</a> so we can invite you to these exclusive freebies and classes all through the month of October! (03:01)</li><li>Between retirement and COVID, Howard found himself at his wit’s end in his marriage to Karen and threatened divorce—but Karen had other plans (03:51)</li><li>It was the practical applications in the Become Passion program that really allowed Howard and Karen to save their marriage from the brink of divorce (22:57)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (47:57)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Howard and Karen, a couple who joinedBecome Passion last year to save their marriage … after Howard suddenly asked for a divorce. I hope you’ll considering joining me this year to renovate YOUR relationship! At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion,  my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me! Humans are creatures of habit. We tend to find comfort in routine… and that doesn’t exclude our romantic relationships. But when there’s a major shakeup—a new baby, retirement, even COVID lockdowns—it can be hard to reconcile and adapt to those new circumstances with our sweetheart.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you want to learn more about  the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a some very specail  l FREE Zoom session with me! (01:24) Make sure you’ve joined the waitlist so we can invite you to these exclusive freebies and classes all through the month of October! (03:01) Between retirement and COVID, Howard found himself at his wit’s end in his marriage to Karen and threatened divorce—but Karen had other plans (03:51) It was the practical applications in the Become Passion program that really allowed Howard and Karen to save their marriage from the brink of divorce (22:57) Today’s LoveByte (47:57) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Howard and Karen, a couple who joinedBecome Passion last year to save their marriage … after Howard suddenly asked for a divorce. I hope you’ll considering joining me this year to renovate YOUR relationship!


At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion, 

my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!


Humans are creatures of habit. We tend to find comfort in routine… and that doesn’t exclude our romantic relationships. But when there’s a major shakeup—a new baby, retirement, even COVID lockdowns—it can be hard to reconcile and adapt to those new circumstances with our sweetheart. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you want to learn more about  the Become Passion online couples program you and your sweetheart can join my free Passion Masterclass—PLUS a some very specail  l FREE Zoom session with me! (01:24)
  • Make sure you’ve joined the waitlist so we can invite you to these exclusive freebies and classes all through the month of October! (03:01)
  • Between retirement and COVID, Howard found himself at his wit’s end in his marriage to Karen and threatened divorce—but Karen had other plans (03:51)
  • It was the practical applications in the Become Passion program that really allowed Howard and Karen to save their marriage from the brink of divorce (22:57)
  • Today’s LoveByte (47:57)


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG 


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3026 no The Top 3 Reasons Couples Divorce—and How to Fix Them https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-top-3-reasons-couples-divorceand-how-to-fix-them Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? After a decade or two with a mortgage, a few kids, and all the other stresses of daily life, you probably don’t feel quite the same… But wouldn’t it be incredible if you could get that feeling back? That spark, that electricity, that passion? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m digging deep on some of the most common reasons that couples in committed, long term relationships break up… and how those relationships can be saved.  At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion,  my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Over the past 3.5 years, I’ve taken nearly 500 couples through my Become Passion course (01:58) The first major reason long term relationships break up is because of unproductive, damaging conflict (08:14) When our bodies go into a flooded state, we’re triggered, anxious, and prone to dramatic and damaging arguments (10:14) The second major reason long term relationships end is when a couple drifts apart and no longer share the same priorities  - the Thrill is Gone (16:14) The third major reason long term couples split is because of sexual issues (25:55) Today’s LoveByte (29:20) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG t Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 02 Oct 2023 09:00:36 -0000 The Top 3 Reasons Couples Divorce—and How to Fix Them full 127 Cheryl Fraser <p>Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? After a decade or two with a mortgage, a few kids, and all the other stresses of daily life, you probably don’t feel quite the same… But wouldn’t it be incredible if you could get that feeling back? That spark, that electricity, that <em>passion</em>?</p><br><p><strong>On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I’m digging deep on some of the most common reasons that couples in committed, long term relationships break up… and how those relationships can be saved.&nbsp;</p><br><p>At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion</strong></a>,&nbsp;</p><p>my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>join the waitlist</strong></a><strong> now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Over the past 3.5 years, I’ve taken nearly 500 couples through my Become Passion course (01:58)</li><li>The first major reason long term relationships break up is because of unproductive, damaging conflict (08:14)</li><li>When our bodies go into a flooded state, we’re triggered, anxious, and prone to dramatic and damaging arguments (10:14)</li><li>The second major reason long term relationships end is when a couple drifts apart and no longer share the same priorities&nbsp; - the Thrill is Gone (16:14)</li><li>The third major reason long term couples split is because of sexual issues (25:55)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (29:20)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG t</strong></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? After a decade or two with a mortgage, a few kids, and all the other stresses of daily life, you probably don’t feel quite the same… But wouldn’t it be incredible if you could get that feeling back? That spark, that electricity, that passion? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m digging deep on some of the most common reasons that couples in committed, long term relationships break up… and how those relationships can be saved.  At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion,  my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Over the past 3.5 years, I’ve taken nearly 500 couples through my Become Passion course (01:58) The first major reason long term relationships break up is because of unproductive, damaging conflict (08:14) When our bodies go into a flooded state, we’re triggered, anxious, and prone to dramatic and damaging arguments (10:14) The second major reason long term relationships end is when a couple drifts apart and no longer share the same priorities  - the Thrill is Gone (16:14) The third major reason long term couples split is because of sexual issues (25:55) Today’s LoveByte (29:20) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG t Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? After a decade or two with a mortgage, a few kids, and all the other stresses of daily life, you probably don’t feel quite the same… But wouldn’t it be incredible if you could get that feeling back? That spark, that electricity, that passion?


On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m digging deep on some of the most common reasons that couples in committed, long term relationships break up… and how those relationships can be saved. 


At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion, 

my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Over the past 3.5 years, I’ve taken nearly 500 couples through my Become Passion course (01:58)
  • The first major reason long term relationships break up is because of unproductive, damaging conflict (08:14)
  • When our bodies go into a flooded state, we’re triggered, anxious, and prone to dramatic and damaging arguments (10:14)
  • The second major reason long term relationships end is when a couple drifts apart and no longer share the same priorities  - the Thrill is Gone (16:14)
  • The third major reason long term couples split is because of sexual issues (25:55)
  • Today’s LoveByte (29:20)


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG t

Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1883 no Exceptional Love On Purpose https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/exceptional-love-on-purpose Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedom? Maybe it was that you’d have a soulmate straight out of a fairytale to share your life with, riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after… In today’s episode, I’m kicking off the most exciting time of year here on Sex, Love, and Elephants. You’ll hear all about my Become Passion program and my inspiration behind its creation. At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. That's my signature 10 week immersion online program, where I coach couples live every week. This extraordinary program is the culmination of my life's work and has changed the lives and relationships of almost 500 couples since I started in 2020. Kick off is November 3.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Happily Ever After doesn’t exist in the way we were taught as kids (04:29) The keys to passion are the three areas that every exceptional couple needs to become strong (11:46) In long term relationships, we tend to get lazy, complacent, and take our partner for granted (16:40) Don’t wait for a traumatic wake up call to realize how lucky you are to have your partner (17:06) Today’s LoveByte (26:37) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 25 Sep 2023 09:00:00 -0000 Exceptional Love On Purpose full 126 Cheryl Fraser <p>Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedom? Maybe it was that you’d have a soulmate straight out of a fairytale to share your life with, riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after…</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode</strong>, I’m kicking off the most exciting time of year here on <strong>Sex, Love, and Elephants. </strong>You’ll hear all about my Become Passion program and my inspiration behind its creation.</p><br><p>At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion</strong></a>. That's my signature 10 week immersion online program, where I coach couples live every week. This extraordinary program is the culmination of my life's work and has changed the lives and relationships of almost 500 couples since I started in 2020. Kick off is November 3.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Happily Ever After doesn’t exist in the way we were taught as kids (04:29)</li><li>The keys to passion are the three areas that every exceptional couple needs to become strong (11:46)</li><li>In long term relationships, we tend to get lazy, complacent, and take our partner for granted (16:40)</li><li>Don’t wait for a traumatic wake up call to realize how lucky you are to have your partner (17:06)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (26:37)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedom? Maybe it was that you’d have a soulmate straight out of a fairytale to share your life with, riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after… In today’s episode, I’m kicking off the most exciting time of year here on Sex, Love, and Elephants. You’ll hear all about my Become Passion program and my inspiration behind its creation. At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. That's my signature 10 week immersion online program, where I coach couples live every week. This extraordinary program is the culmination of my life's work and has changed the lives and relationships of almost 500 couples since I started in 2020. Kick off is November 3.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Happily Ever After doesn’t exist in the way we were taught as kids (04:29) The keys to passion are the three areas that every exceptional couple needs to become strong (11:46) In long term relationships, we tend to get lazy, complacent, and take our partner for granted (16:40) Don’t wait for a traumatic wake up call to realize how lucky you are to have your partner (17:06) Today’s LoveByte (26:37) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedom? Maybe it was that you’d have a soulmate straight out of a fairytale to share your life with, riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after…


In today’s episode, I’m kicking off the most exciting time of year here on Sex, Love, and Elephants. You’ll hear all about my Become Passion program and my inspiration behind its creation.


At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. That's my signature 10 week immersion online program, where I coach couples live every week. This extraordinary program is the culmination of my life's work and has changed the lives and relationships of almost 500 couples since I started in 2020. Kick off is November 3. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Happily Ever After doesn’t exist in the way we were taught as kids (04:29)
  • The keys to passion are the three areas that every exceptional couple needs to become strong (11:46)
  • In long term relationships, we tend to get lazy, complacent, and take our partner for granted (16:40)
  • Don’t wait for a traumatic wake up call to realize how lucky you are to have your partner (17:06)
  • Today’s LoveByte (26:37)


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1719 no Strip Down, Rise Up to the Erotic : An Intimate Chat with Dr. Cheryl and Sheila Kelley https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/trust-your-bodys-wisdom-an-intimate-chat-with-dr-cheryl-and- Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for little ears Hello women - let me ask you. How sensual do you feel? How well do you know your erotic body? How deeply do you trust her? Or… do you ignore her signals and simply focus on what your brain is telling you? What if I told you that by ignoring the most beautiful erotic, pleasurable impulses of your body you are missing out on true sexual freedom and joy? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear my conversation with Sheila Kelley, my dear friend and the founder of S Factor, a feminine movement practice that supports woman to safely and confidently unfold the story of her own body…and uncover her erotic creatures.as seen in the Netflix documentary Strip Down, Rise Up. Interested in my couples immersion program Become Passion? We begin late October. Get on the waitlist to access my free Q&A sessions and much more. No obligation—but wow is there some amazing free content coming in the next 6 weeks! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your body is the Oracle of your life—she's smarter than you are (05:39) For someone like Sheila, your body behavior is more revealing than anything that comes out of your mouth (11:03) The more you move the muscle of emotional erotic energy, the more expansive and the more sexual you become (21:48) The feminine is life force (41:29) All of our bodies have been trained to be smaller than we are (46:25)  We all have several erotic creatures inside of us…which ones do you resonate with? Today’s LoveByte (54:34) If you are ready to join me in Sheila’s 6-month Strip and Rise journey, register here: Strip & Rise 6-Month Journey with Sheila - S Factor AND MAKE SURE TO USE DISCOUNT CODE friendsofcheryl to receive $100 OFF Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Connect with Sheila: S Factor Discover your erotic creature Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 18 Sep 2023 09:00:05 -0000 Strip Down, Rise Up to the Erotic : An Intimate Chat with Dr. Cheryl and Sheila Kelley full 125 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for little ears</strong></p><p>Hello women - let me ask you. How sensual do you feel? How well do you know your erotic body? How deeply do you trust her? Or… do you ignore her signals and simply focus on what your brain is telling you? What if I told you that by ignoring the most beautiful erotic, pleasurable impulses of your body you are missing out on true sexual freedom and joy?</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ll hear my conversation with Sheila Kelley, my dear friend and the founder of S Factor, a feminine movement practice that supports woman to safely and confidently unfold the story of her own body…and uncover her erotic creatures.as seen in the Netflix documentary Strip Down, Rise Up.</p><br><p>Interested in my couples immersion program<em> Become Passion</em>? We begin late October. <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Get on the waitlist</a> to access my free Q&amp;A sessions and much more. No obligation—but wow is there some amazing free content coming in the next 6 weeks!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Your body is the Oracle of your life—she's smarter than you are (05:39)</li><li>For someone like Sheila, your body behavior is more revealing than anything that comes out of your mouth (11:03)</li><li>The more you move the muscle of emotional erotic energy, the more expansive and the more sexual you become (21:48)</li><li>The feminine is life force (41:29)</li><li>All of our bodies have been trained to be smaller than we are (46:25)&nbsp;</li><li>We all have several erotic creatures inside of us…which ones do you resonate with?</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (54:34)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>If you are ready to join me in Sheila’s 6-month Strip and Rise journey, register here: </strong><a href="https://sfactor.com/strip-rise-6-month-journey-with-sheila-kelley/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Strip &amp; Rise 6-Month Journey with Sheila - S Factor</strong></a><strong> AND MAKE SURE TO USE DISCOUNT CODE friendsofcheryl to receive $100 OFF</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Connect with Sheila:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://sfactor.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">S Factor</a></li><li><a href="https://sfactor.com/ec-quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Discover your erotic creature</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li>T<a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">ake the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for little ears Hello women - let me ask you. How sensual do you feel? How well do you know your erotic body? How deeply do you trust her? Or… do you ignore her signals and simply focus on what your brain is telling you? What if I told you that by ignoring the most beautiful erotic, pleasurable impulses of your body you are missing out on true sexual freedom and joy? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear my conversation with Sheila Kelley, my dear friend and the founder of S Factor, a feminine movement practice that supports woman to safely and confidently unfold the story of her own body…and uncover her erotic creatures.as seen in the Netflix documentary Strip Down, Rise Up. Interested in my couples immersion program Become Passion? We begin late October. Get on the waitlist to access my free Q&A sessions and much more. No obligation—but wow is there some amazing free content coming in the next 6 weeks! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your body is the Oracle of your life—she's smarter than you are (05:39) For someone like Sheila, your body behavior is more revealing than anything that comes out of your mouth (11:03) The more you move the muscle of emotional erotic energy, the more expansive and the more sexual you become (21:48) The feminine is life force (41:29) All of our bodies have been trained to be smaller than we are (46:25)  We all have several erotic creatures inside of us…which ones do you resonate with? Today’s LoveByte (54:34) If you are ready to join me in Sheila’s 6-month Strip and Rise journey, register here: Strip & Rise 6-Month Journey with Sheila - S Factor AND MAKE SURE TO USE DISCOUNT CODE friendsofcheryl to receive $100 OFF Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Connect with Sheila: S Factor Discover your erotic creature Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for little ears

Hello women - let me ask you. How sensual do you feel? How well do you know your erotic body? How deeply do you trust her? Or… do you ignore her signals and simply focus on what your brain is telling you? What if I told you that by ignoring the most beautiful erotic, pleasurable impulses of your body you are missing out on true sexual freedom and joy?


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear my conversation with Sheila Kelley, my dear friend and the founder of S Factor, a feminine movement practice that supports woman to safely and confidently unfold the story of her own body…and uncover her erotic creatures.as seen in the Netflix documentary Strip Down, Rise Up.


Interested in my couples immersion program Become Passion? We begin late October. Get on the waitlist to access my free Q&A sessions and much more. No obligation—but wow is there some amazing free content coming in the next 6 weeks!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Your body is the Oracle of your life—she's smarter than you are (05:39)
  • For someone like Sheila, your body behavior is more revealing than anything that comes out of your mouth (11:03)
  • The more you move the muscle of emotional erotic energy, the more expansive and the more sexual you become (21:48)
  • The feminine is life force (41:29)
  • All of our bodies have been trained to be smaller than we are (46:25) 
  • We all have several erotic creatures inside of us…which ones do you resonate with?
  • Today’s LoveByte (54:34)


If you are ready to join me in Sheila’s 6-month Strip and Rise journey, register here: Strip & Rise 6-Month Journey with Sheila - S Factor AND MAKE SURE TO USE DISCOUNT CODE friendsofcheryl to receive $100 OFF


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Connect with Sheila:


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3416 no Stop Wasting Time and Start Focusing on What’s Important: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/stop-wasting-time-and-start-focusing-on-whats-important-a-dh We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just can’t be with this person any longer. Yes, even sex and love professional Dr. Cheryl isn’t immune to the negative thoughts that tend to circle a relationship. But we have to rise above all the noise, embrace the greater wisdom and realize that our problems only follow us when we walk away from them. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part four of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught.  In the next few weeks, I’ll be opening the doors to my Become Passion online immersion program for couples. The 12 week course will begin the—end of October - just in time for you and your sweetheart to get ready to enter 2024 more passionate and in love than ever before. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Don’t miss out on my free 1.5 hour Passion Masterclass this October! Dates TBA (06:26) Today’s LoveByte (09:36) The truth of impermanence is that nothing, nothing, nothing ever lasts (15:55) Be wise about the difference between the data and the story, because the stories are generally the source of our suffering (19:40) All we ever have is the present moment (24:57) Listen to parts one, two and three of my Dharma Talk series.  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 11 Sep 2023 09:00:14 -0000 Stop Wasting Time and Start Focusing on What’s Important: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 124 Cheryl Fraser <p>We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just <em>can’t</em> be with this person any longer. Yes, <em>even </em>sex and love professional Dr. Cheryl isn’t immune to the negative thoughts that tend to circle a relationship. But we have to rise above all the noise, embrace the greater wisdom and realize that our problems only follow us when we walk away from them.</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ll hear part four of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In the next few weeks, I’ll be opening the doors to my <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion</a> online immersion program for couples. The 12 week course will begin the—end of October - just in time for you and your sweetheart to get ready to enter 2024 more passionate and in love than ever before.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Don’t miss out on my free 1.5 hour Passion Masterclass this October! Dates TBA (06:26)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (09:36)</li><li>The truth of impermanence is that nothing, nothing, nothing ever lasts (15:55)</li><li>Be wise about the difference between the data and the story, because the stories are generally the source of our suffering (19:40)</li><li>All we ever have is the present moment (24:57)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Listen to parts </strong><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/id1565891768?i=1000621369536" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>one</strong></a><strong>, </strong><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/id1565891768?i=1000624369406" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>two</strong></a><strong> and </strong><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/id1565891768?i=1000626677283" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>three</strong></a><strong> of my Dharma Talk series.&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just can’t be with this person any longer. Yes, even sex and love professional Dr. Cheryl isn’t immune to the negative thoughts that tend to circle a relationship. But we have to rise above all the noise, embrace the greater wisdom and realize that our problems only follow us when we walk away from them. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part four of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught.  In the next few weeks, I’ll be opening the doors to my Become Passion online immersion program for couples. The 12 week course will begin the—end of October - just in time for you and your sweetheart to get ready to enter 2024 more passionate and in love than ever before. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Don’t miss out on my free 1.5 hour Passion Masterclass this October! Dates TBA (06:26) Today’s LoveByte (09:36) The truth of impermanence is that nothing, nothing, nothing ever lasts (15:55) Be wise about the difference between the data and the story, because the stories are generally the source of our suffering (19:40) All we ever have is the present moment (24:57) Listen to parts one, two and three of my Dharma Talk series.  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just can’t be with this person any longer. Yes, even sex and love professional Dr. Cheryl isn’t immune to the negative thoughts that tend to circle a relationship. But we have to rise above all the noise, embrace the greater wisdom and realize that our problems only follow us when we walk away from them.


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part four of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught. 


In the next few weeks, I’ll be opening the doors to my Become Passion online immersion program for couples. The 12 week course will begin the—end of October - just in time for you and your sweetheart to get ready to enter 2024 more passionate and in love than ever before.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Don’t miss out on my free 1.5 hour Passion Masterclass this October! Dates TBA (06:26)
  • Today’s LoveByte (09:36)
  • The truth of impermanence is that nothing, nothing, nothing ever lasts (15:55)
  • Be wise about the difference between the data and the story, because the stories are generally the source of our suffering (19:40)
  • All we ever have is the present moment (24:57)


Listen to parts one, two and three of my Dharma Talk series. 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2373 no For an Exceptional Relationship, Love With Intention https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/for-an-exceptional-relationship-love-with-intention Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. This content is not appropriate for little ears—this is grown-up content that will help you grow in the bedroom.  Let’s face it: when two lovers have been in a committed relationship for any long term length of time, one of the first things that can fade is the passion. It’s so easy to become stuck in the rut of “Marriage Incorporated,” so how do we dig our way out? There’s no magic wand wave that can bring back the thrill, but with intentionality and the proper tools, it can absolutely be done.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m returning to some of the questions covered in last week’s episode and doing a bit more of a deep dive on thrill and sensuality in relationships.  Today, I’m challenging you to toast some marshmallows and enjoy a s’mores with your honey on the beach—and if you don’t live near a beach, create one!  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Reigniting the thrill in a relationship is all about creating the mind of a lover (05:26) Relationships are complicated and everyone has emotional baggage (07:10) Scheduling intimacy can totally change your sex life (09:00) Some intimate exercise ideas if your honey is resistant to scheduling sex (13:49) Today’s LoveByte (18:11) Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 28 Aug 2023 09:00:06 -0000 For an Exceptional Relationship, Love With Intention full 122 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. This content is not appropriate for little ears—this is grown-up content that will help you grow in the bedroom.&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p>Let’s face it: when two lovers have been in a committed relationship for any long term length of time, one of the first things that can fade is the passion. It’s so easy to become stuck in the rut of “Marriage Incorporated,” so how do we dig our way out? There’s no magic wand wave that can bring back the thrill, but with intentionality and the proper tools, it can absolutely be done.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m returning to some of the questions covered in last week’s episode and doing a bit more of a deep dive on thrill and sensuality in relationships.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I’m challenging you to toast some marshmallows and enjoy a s’mores with your honey on the beach—and if you don’t live near a beach, create one!&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Reigniting the thrill in a relationship is all about creating the mind of a lover (05:26)</li><li>Relationships are complicated and everyone has emotional baggage (07:10)</li><li>Scheduling intimacy can totally change your sex life (09:00)</li><li>Some intimate exercise ideas if your honey is resistant to scheduling sex (13:49)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (18:11)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. This content is not appropriate for little ears—this is grown-up content that will help you grow in the bedroom.  Let’s face it: when two lovers have been in a committed relationship for any long term length of time, one of the first things that can fade is the passion. It’s so easy to become stuck in the rut of “Marriage Incorporated,” so how do we dig our way out? There’s no magic wand wave that can bring back the thrill, but with intentionality and the proper tools, it can absolutely be done.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m returning to some of the questions covered in last week’s episode and doing a bit more of a deep dive on thrill and sensuality in relationships.  Today, I’m challenging you to toast some marshmallows and enjoy a s’mores with your honey on the beach—and if you don’t live near a beach, create one!  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Reigniting the thrill in a relationship is all about creating the mind of a lover (05:26) Relationships are complicated and everyone has emotional baggage (07:10) Scheduling intimacy can totally change your sex life (09:00) Some intimate exercise ideas if your honey is resistant to scheduling sex (13:49) Today’s LoveByte (18:11) Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. This content is not appropriate for little ears—this is grown-up content that will help you grow in the bedroom. 


Let’s face it: when two lovers have been in a committed relationship for any long term length of time, one of the first things that can fade is the passion. It’s so easy to become stuck in the rut of “Marriage Incorporated,” so how do we dig our way out? There’s no magic wand wave that can bring back the thrill, but with intentionality and the proper tools, it can absolutely be done. 


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m returning to some of the questions covered in last week’s episode and doing a bit more of a deep dive on thrill and sensuality in relationships. 


Today, I’m challenging you to toast some marshmallows and enjoy a s’mores with your honey on the beach—and if you don’t live near a beach, create one! 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Reigniting the thrill in a relationship is all about creating the mind of a lover (05:26)
  • Relationships are complicated and everyone has emotional baggage (07:10)
  • Scheduling intimacy can totally change your sex life (09:00)
  • Some intimate exercise ideas if your honey is resistant to scheduling sex (13:49)
  • Today’s LoveByte (18:11)


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1247 no For an Exceptional Relationship, Become the Passion You Seek https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/for-an-exceptional-relationship-become-the-passion-you-seek Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are down, and the comedian starts talking about affairs. BOOM. You're triggered, right? You’ve just experienced a physiological response, but it’s what we do when we become triggered that’s the important part. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m once again answering some of the most burning questions written in by real listeners just like you! Today, I’m answering questions about deep forgiveness, how to break free from Relationship Incorporated, and what happens when we keep squeezing that hot coal tighter instead of letting go. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s nearly impossible to cultivate intimacy and passion with your partner when you can’t let go of your baggage (05:29) We tend to hang onto old pain without meaning to because it’s difficult to let go (15:47) Being triggered is a physiological response—the best way to help it pass is to acknowledge it (23:22) Until you deeply understand your partner’s point of view, you can't heal together (26:51) Today’s LoveByte (30:14) Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 21 Aug 2023 09:00:23 -0000 For an Exceptional Relationship, Become the Passion You Seek full 121 Cheryl Fraser <p>Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are down, and the comedian starts talking about affairs. BOOM. You're triggered, right? You’ve just experienced a physiological response, but it’s what we do when we become triggered that’s the important part.</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m once again answering some of the most burning questions written in by real listeners just like you!</p><br><p>Today, I’m answering questions about deep forgiveness, how to break free from Relationship Incorporated, and what happens when we keep squeezing that hot coal tighter instead of letting go.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>It’s nearly impossible to cultivate intimacy and passion with your partner when you can’t let go of your baggage (05:29)</li><li>We tend to hang onto old pain without meaning to because it’s difficult to let go (15:47)</li><li>Being triggered is a physiological response—the best way to help it pass is to acknowledge it (23:22)</li><li>Until you deeply understand your partner’s point of view, you can't heal together (26:51)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (30:14)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are down, and the comedian starts talking about affairs. BOOM. You're triggered, right? You’ve just experienced a physiological response, but it’s what we do when we become triggered that’s the important part. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m once again answering some of the most burning questions written in by real listeners just like you! Today, I’m answering questions about deep forgiveness, how to break free from Relationship Incorporated, and what happens when we keep squeezing that hot coal tighter instead of letting go. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s nearly impossible to cultivate intimacy and passion with your partner when you can’t let go of your baggage (05:29) We tend to hang onto old pain without meaning to because it’s difficult to let go (15:47) Being triggered is a physiological response—the best way to help it pass is to acknowledge it (23:22) Until you deeply understand your partner’s point of view, you can't heal together (26:51) Today’s LoveByte (30:14) Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are down, and the comedian starts talking about affairs. BOOM. You're triggered, right? You’ve just experienced a physiological response, but it’s what we do when we become triggered that’s the important part.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m once again answering some of the most burning questions written in by real listeners just like you!


Today, I’m answering questions about deep forgiveness, how to break free from Relationship Incorporated, and what happens when we keep squeezing that hot coal tighter instead of letting go.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • It’s nearly impossible to cultivate intimacy and passion with your partner when you can’t let go of your baggage (05:29)
  • We tend to hang onto old pain without meaning to because it’s difficult to let go (15:47)
  • Being triggered is a physiological response—the best way to help it pass is to acknowledge it (23:22)
  • Until you deeply understand your partner’s point of view, you can't heal together (26:51)
  • Today’s LoveByte (30:14)


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1951 no To Receive Peace, Practice Generosity: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/to-receive-peace-practice-generosity-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-c Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we think about being good at giving: We’re the ones who show up to help a loved one move house when everyone else flakes, the ones who pay a little bit closer attention when a friend is struggling through a loss. But the truth is, so many of us who are good at giving still struggle with being generous receivers.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught.  Tune in and learn why receiving is such an incredibly important aspect of generosity—and what you can do to hone that skill if you’re feeling a little rusty. In This Episode, You Will Learn: This week’s LoveByte (03:42) The monkey may be annoying, but you can still learn from it (06:33) It’s not just about being a generous giver, you must be a generous receiver, too (29:28) I challenge you to go out and say “thank you” whenever you receive a compliment (34:30) Before we can become generous, we need awareness (50:35) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 14 Aug 2023 09:00:47 -0000 To Receive Peace, Practice Generosity: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 120 Cheryl Fraser <p>Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we think about being good at giving: We’re the ones who show up to help a loved one move house when everyone else flakes, the ones who pay a little bit closer attention when a friend is struggling through a loss. But the truth is, so many of us who are good at giving still struggle with being generous receivers.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ll hear part two of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn why receiving is such an incredibly important aspect of generosity—and what you can do to hone that skill if you’re feeling a little rusty.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>This week’s LoveByte (03:42)</li><li>The monkey may be annoying, but you can still learn from it (06:33)</li><li>It’s not just about being a generous giver, you must be a generous receiver, too (29:28)</li><li>I challenge you to go out and say “thank you” whenever you receive a compliment (34:30)</li><li>Before we can become generous, we need awareness (50:35)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we think about being good at giving: We’re the ones who show up to help a loved one move house when everyone else flakes, the ones who pay a little bit closer attention when a friend is struggling through a loss. But the truth is, so many of us who are good at giving still struggle with being generous receivers.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught.  Tune in and learn why receiving is such an incredibly important aspect of generosity—and what you can do to hone that skill if you’re feeling a little rusty. In This Episode, You Will Learn: This week’s LoveByte (03:42) The monkey may be annoying, but you can still learn from it (06:33) It’s not just about being a generous giver, you must be a generous receiver, too (29:28) I challenge you to go out and say “thank you” whenever you receive a compliment (34:30) Before we can become generous, we need awareness (50:35) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we think about being good at giving: We’re the ones who show up to help a loved one move house when everyone else flakes, the ones who pay a little bit closer attention when a friend is struggling through a loss. But the truth is, so many of us who are good at giving still struggle with being generous receivers. 


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught. 


Tune in and learn why receiving is such an incredibly important aspect of generosity—and what you can do to hone that skill if you’re feeling a little rusty.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • This week’s LoveByte (03:42)
  • The monkey may be annoying, but you can still learn from it (06:33)
  • It’s not just about being a generous giver, you must be a generous receiver, too (29:28)
  • I challenge you to go out and say “thank you” whenever you receive a compliment (34:30)
  • Before we can become generous, we need awareness (50:35)


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 4112 no Sensuality, Arousal, and Why You Should Never Say I’m Not In The Mood Ever Again | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/sensuality-arousal-and-why-you-should-never-say-im-not-in-th Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do that thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in hot and sexy time? Maybe your partner can’t seem to keep their hands off of you but you secretly find this exhausting or even overwhelming… Well, your secret is safe with me but I must remind you that navigating how we approach the expression of our sexual energy is a journey that is unique to every individual. Regardless of how society may make it seem, there is no universal blueprint (surprise!). One thing is for sure though, it's nearly impossible to get in the mood, let alone stay in the mood when we are constantly on different pages with our partners because of mismatched desires around sensuality and expressions of sexuality.   In today’s episode, I invite you and your sweetie to reconnect by celebrating National Bowling Day and National Book Lovers Day. I go on to unpack the complicated topic of Sensuality as the third side of the Passion Triangle as I continue to answer your most frequently asked love and sex questions.   Find out how you can rediscover the sacred delight of basking in your own magnetic Sensuality and listen in to hear my answers to Deandra and Dr. T’s questions: "I have a high sex drive that often leaves me disappointed because of my husband's avoidance of sex and erection difficulty - What do I do?" and "How do I work through my ambivalent feelings around sex with my husband because of sexual trauma from a past relationship?"  In This Episode, You Will Learn:   This Tuesday, August 8th, get your best balls and go bowling with your sweetheart for National Bowling Day (3:53)  This Wednesday, August 9th, read aloud the most erotic story you can find to your lover for National Book Lovers Day (5:51)  The third side of the passion triangle: Sensuality (6:13)  How Deanna and Dr. T’s questions are two sides of the same coin (7:17)  My answer to Deanna's and Dr. T's questions (10:54)  It's important that we create arousal for ourselves before we begin attempting to create arousal with our partners (18:56)  This week's LoveByte (24:21)   Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 07 Aug 2023 09:00:53 -0000 Sensuality, Arousal, and Why You Should Never Say I’m Not In The Mood Ever Again | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered full 119 Cheryl Fraser <p>Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do <em>that </em>thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in hot and sexy time? Maybe your partner can’t seem to keep their hands off of you but you secretly find this exhausting or even overwhelming…</p><br><p>Well, your secret is safe with me but I must remind you that navigating how we approach the expression of our sexual energy is a journey that is unique to every individual. Regardless of how society may make it seem, there is no universal blueprint (surprise!). One thing is for sure though, it's nearly impossible to get in the mood, let alone stay in the mood when we are constantly on different pages with our partners because of mismatched desires around sensuality and expressions of sexuality.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode, </strong>I invite you and your sweetie to reconnect by celebrating National Bowling Day and National Book Lovers Day. I go on to unpack the complicated topic of Sensuality as the third side of the Passion Triangle as I continue to answer your most frequently asked love and sex questions.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>Find out how you can rediscover the sacred delight of basking in your own magnetic Sensuality and listen in to hear my answers to Deandra and Dr. T’s questions:&nbsp;"I have a high sex drive that often leaves me disappointed because of my husband's avoidance of sex and erection difficulty - What do I do?<strong>" </strong>and<strong> "</strong>How do I work through my ambivalent feelings around sex with my husband because of sexual trauma from a past relationship?"<strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><p>This Tuesday, August 8th, get your best balls and go bowling with your sweetheart for National Bowling Day (3:53)&nbsp;</p><p>This Wednesday, August 9th, read aloud the most erotic story you can find to your lover for National Book Lovers Day (5:51)&nbsp;</p><p>The third side of the passion triangle: Sensuality (6:13)&nbsp;</p><p>How Deanna and Dr. T’s questions are two sides of the same coin (7:17)&nbsp;</p><p>My answer to Deanna's and Dr. T's questions (10:54)&nbsp;</p><p>It's important that we create arousal for ourselves before we begin attempting to create arousal with our partners (18:56)&nbsp;</p><p>This week's LoveByte (24:21)&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do that thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in hot and sexy time? Maybe your partner can’t seem to keep their hands off of you but you secretly find this exhausting or even overwhelming… Well, your secret is safe with me but I must remind you that navigating how we approach the expression of our sexual energy is a journey that is unique to every individual. Regardless of how society may make it seem, there is no universal blueprint (surprise!). One thing is for sure though, it's nearly impossible to get in the mood, let alone stay in the mood when we are constantly on different pages with our partners because of mismatched desires around sensuality and expressions of sexuality.   In today’s episode, I invite you and your sweetie to reconnect by celebrating National Bowling Day and National Book Lovers Day. I go on to unpack the complicated topic of Sensuality as the third side of the Passion Triangle as I continue to answer your most frequently asked love and sex questions.   Find out how you can rediscover the sacred delight of basking in your own magnetic Sensuality and listen in to hear my answers to Deandra and Dr. T’s questions: "I have a high sex drive that often leaves me disappointed because of my husband's avoidance of sex and erection difficulty - What do I do?" and "How do I work through my ambivalent feelings around sex with my husband because of sexual trauma from a past relationship?"  In This Episode, You Will Learn:   This Tuesday, August 8th, get your best balls and go bowling with your sweetheart for National Bowling Day (3:53)  This Wednesday, August 9th, read aloud the most erotic story you can find to your lover for National Book Lovers Day (5:51)  The third side of the passion triangle: Sensuality (6:13)  How Deanna and Dr. T’s questions are two sides of the same coin (7:17)  My answer to Deanna's and Dr. T's questions (10:54)  It's important that we create arousal for ourselves before we begin attempting to create arousal with our partners (18:56)  This week's LoveByte (24:21)   Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do that thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in hot and sexy time? Maybe your partner can’t seem to keep their hands off of you but you secretly find this exhausting or even overwhelming…


Well, your secret is safe with me but I must remind you that navigating how we approach the expression of our sexual energy is a journey that is unique to every individual. Regardless of how society may make it seem, there is no universal blueprint (surprise!). One thing is for sure though, it's nearly impossible to get in the mood, let alone stay in the mood when we are constantly on different pages with our partners because of mismatched desires around sensuality and expressions of sexuality.  


In today’s episode, I invite you and your sweetie to reconnect by celebrating National Bowling Day and National Book Lovers Day. I go on to unpack the complicated topic of Sensuality as the third side of the Passion Triangle as I continue to answer your most frequently asked love and sex questions.  


Find out how you can rediscover the sacred delight of basking in your own magnetic Sensuality and listen in to hear my answers to Deandra and Dr. T’s questions: "I have a high sex drive that often leaves me disappointed because of my husband's avoidance of sex and erection difficulty - What do I do?" and "How do I work through my ambivalent feelings around sex with my husband because of sexual trauma from a past relationship?" 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:  

This Tuesday, August 8th, get your best balls and go bowling with your sweetheart for National Bowling Day (3:53) 

This Wednesday, August 9th, read aloud the most erotic story you can find to your lover for National Book Lovers Day (5:51) 

The third side of the passion triangle: Sensuality (6:13) 

How Deanna and Dr. T’s questions are two sides of the same coin (7:17) 

My answer to Deanna's and Dr. T's questions (10:54) 

It's important that we create arousal for ourselves before we begin attempting to create arousal with our partners (18:56) 

This week's LoveByte (24:21)  


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  

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Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

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]]> 1597 no Thrill and The Process of Igniting a Flame That Wasn't There From The Start | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/thrill-and-the-process-of-igniting-a-flame-that-wasnt-there- We often hear lots of couples talk about the whirlwind passionate romance that led them to commit to one another for the long haul and for some, go as far as getting the government involved. But how often do we hear about the kind of love that had to be grown over time? Like the ones that never experienced what Beyoncè is always on about with being crazy in love…You know, the kind of love story that may not be very romantic and exciting to some people but it works and therefore is just as valid as any. I mean, who says a slow burn can't still be hot and spicy anyway?   Whether your partnership is a classic friends-to-lovers dynamic that's a little more friends than it is lovers, an arranged marriage on behalf of your culture, or simply the product of finding someone you liked and trusted enough to make your nuclear family dream come true in a timely fashion, you deserve to know that you are not alone.  In today’s episode, I invite you to reconnect with your partners in celebration of National White Wine Day and National Water Balloon Day. I review the three aspects of the Passion Triangle, which we discussed in depth in episodes 9 through 12 and I also continue to focus on your top love and sex questions.   Tune in for my answer to our Anonymous sender’s question: What about long-term couples that weren't in love at the beginning of their relationship?  In This Episode, You Will Learn:  I dive deeper into the Passion Triangle during my signature immersion program coming out in mid-October (1:38)  I challenge you this Thursday, August 3rd to share, with your sweetheart, a nice glass of wine on National White Wine Day (5:33)  I challenge you this Friday, August 4th to get silly with your partner on National Water Balloon Day (6:34)  A review of the Passion Triangle (8:06)  My answer for the Anonymous questioner: What about long-term couples that weren’t in love at the beginning of their relationship? (12:52)  When we do something different and exciting, it makes us feel more attracted to our partner (20:41) This week’s LoveByte (24:34)  Previous Episodes Covering the Passion Triangle:  Episode 9  Episode 10 Episode 11 Episode 12 Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 31 Jul 2023 09:00:35 -0000 Thrill and The Process of Igniting a Flame That Wasn't There From The Start | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered full 118 Cheryl Fraser <p>We often hear lots of couples talk about the whirlwind passionate romance that led them to commit to one another for the long haul and for some, go as far as getting the government involved. But how often do we hear about the kind of love that had to be grown over time? Like the ones that never experienced what Beyoncè is always on about with being crazy in love…You know, the kind of love story that may not be very romantic and exciting to some people but it works and therefore is just as valid as any. I mean, who says a slow burn can't still be hot and spicy anyway?&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>Whether your partnership is a classic friends-to-lovers dynamic that's a little more friends than it is lovers, an arranged marriage on behalf of your culture, or simply the product of finding someone you liked and trusted enough to make your nuclear family dream come true in a timely fashion, you deserve to know that you are not alone.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode,</strong>&nbsp;I invite you to reconnect with your partners in celebration of National White Wine Day and National Water Balloon Day. I review the three aspects of the Passion Triangle, which we discussed in depth in episodes 9 through 12 and I also continue to focus on your top love and sex questions.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in for my answer to our Anonymous sender’s question:&nbsp;What about long-term couples that weren't in love at the beginning of their relationship?&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:&nbsp;</strong></p><p>I dive deeper into the Passion Triangle during my signature immersion program coming out in mid-October (1:38)&nbsp;</p><p>I challenge you this Thursday, August 3rd to share, with your sweetheart, a nice glass of wine on National White Wine Day (5:33)&nbsp;</p><p>I challenge you this Friday, August 4th to get silly with your partner on National Water Balloon Day (6:34)&nbsp;</p><p>A review of the Passion Triangle (8:06)&nbsp;</p><p>My answer for the Anonymous questioner: What about long-term couples that weren’t in love at the beginning of their relationship? (12:52)&nbsp;</p><p>When we do something different and exciting, it makes us feel more attracted to our partner (20:41)</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (24:34)&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Previous Episodes Covering the Passion Triangle:&nbsp;</strong></p><p><a href="https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/revive-a-dying-relationship-with-the-three-keys-to-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode 9</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-first-key-to-passion-intimacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode 10</a></p><p><a href="https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-second-key-to-passion-thrill" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode 11</a></p><p><a href="https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-third-key-to-passion-sensuality" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Episode 12</a> </p><br><p>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>!</p><br><p>Email <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</p><br><p>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card <a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>&nbsp;</p><br><p>Follow&nbsp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@drcherylfraser</a> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> We often hear lots of couples talk about the whirlwind passionate romance that led them to commit to one another for the long haul and for some, go as far as getting the government involved. But how often do we hear about the kind of love that had to be grown over time? Like the ones that never experienced what Beyoncè is always on about with being crazy in love…You know, the kind of love story that may not be very romantic and exciting to some people but it works and therefore is just as valid as any. I mean, who says a slow burn can't still be hot and spicy anyway?   Whether your partnership is a classic friends-to-lovers dynamic that's a little more friends than it is lovers, an arranged marriage on behalf of your culture, or simply the product of finding someone you liked and trusted enough to make your nuclear family dream come true in a timely fashion, you deserve to know that you are not alone.  In today’s episode, I invite you to reconnect with your partners in celebration of National White Wine Day and National Water Balloon Day. I review the three aspects of the Passion Triangle, which we discussed in depth in episodes 9 through 12 and I also continue to focus on your top love and sex questions.   Tune in for my answer to our Anonymous sender’s question: What about long-term couples that weren't in love at the beginning of their relationship?  In This Episode, You Will Learn:  I dive deeper into the Passion Triangle during my signature immersion program coming out in mid-October (1:38)  I challenge you this Thursday, August 3rd to share, with your sweetheart, a nice glass of wine on National White Wine Day (5:33)  I challenge you this Friday, August 4th to get silly with your partner on National Water Balloon Day (6:34)  A review of the Passion Triangle (8:06)  My answer for the Anonymous questioner: What about long-term couples that weren’t in love at the beginning of their relationship? (12:52)  When we do something different and exciting, it makes us feel more attracted to our partner (20:41) This week’s LoveByte (24:34)  Previous Episodes Covering the Passion Triangle:  Episode 9  Episode 10 Episode 11 Episode 12 Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. We often hear lots of couples talk about the whirlwind passionate romance that led them to commit to one another for the long haul and for some, go as far as getting the government involved. But how often do we hear about the kind of love that had to be grown over time? Like the ones that never experienced what Beyoncè is always on about with being crazy in love…You know, the kind of love story that may not be very romantic and exciting to some people but it works and therefore is just as valid as any. I mean, who says a slow burn can't still be hot and spicy anyway?  


Whether your partnership is a classic friends-to-lovers dynamic that's a little more friends than it is lovers, an arranged marriage on behalf of your culture, or simply the product of finding someone you liked and trusted enough to make your nuclear family dream come true in a timely fashion, you deserve to know that you are not alone. 


In today’s episode, I invite you to reconnect with your partners in celebration of National White Wine Day and National Water Balloon Day. I review the three aspects of the Passion Triangle, which we discussed in depth in episodes 9 through 12 and I also continue to focus on your top love and sex questions.  


Tune in for my answer to our Anonymous sender’s question: What about long-term couples that weren't in love at the beginning of their relationship? 


In This Episode, You Will Learn: 

I dive deeper into the Passion Triangle during my signature immersion program coming out in mid-October (1:38) 

I challenge you this Thursday, August 3rd to share, with your sweetheart, a nice glass of wine on National White Wine Day (5:33) 

I challenge you this Friday, August 4th to get silly with your partner on National Water Balloon Day (6:34) 

A review of the Passion Triangle (8:06) 

My answer for the Anonymous questioner: What about long-term couples that weren’t in love at the beginning of their relationship? (12:52) 

When we do something different and exciting, it makes us feel more attracted to our partner (20:41)

This week’s LoveByte (24:34) 


Previous Episodes Covering the Passion Triangle: 

Episode 9 

Episode 10

Episode 11

Episode 12


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


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]]> 1605 no Sarcasm: Playful Banter or Verbal Cruelty? | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/sarcasm-playful-banter-or-verbal-cruelty-your-sex-and-love-q If you're like me, your most sarcastic remarks were never made with the intention to cause harm. You're simply a linguist with an eye for irony and a secret belief you should really be a comedian, right?  Well, although that could very well be the case… Do you know the line between comedy and cruelty? It’s important we remember that wielding the sword of sarcasm requires dexterity, spacial awareness, and most of all, care. We don’t want to accidentally cut someone because we were playing fast and loose with our words…But as perfectly imperfect beings, we have a tendency to do this all the time, especially with our partners. Would you talk to your most treasured friend the way you talk to your partner? Would you be so quick to criticize your friends the way you might criticize your partner? When we start speaking to our spouse the way we would a dear friend, we find out how important platonic intimacy is to sustaining a thriving connection.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I invite you and your beloved to reconnect by celebrating National Refreshment Day and National Friendship Day. I am also beyond excited to be answering the first of your most burning and frequently asked questions.  Tune in to find out why we need to work harder to treat our spouses more like a friend and how I answer Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm? In This Episode, You Will Learn:  I challenge you this Thursday, July 27 to have an ice-cold refreshment with your honey (2:49)  Your second challenge this Sunday, July 30 is to show your partner and close friends how much you cherish their friendship (6:54)  My answer to Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm?  (10:24)  The difference between gentle fun sarcasm and contempt disguised as sarcasm (17:00) The first step to cleaning up your verbal exchanges is by extending genuine apologies (20:44)  This week’s LoveByte (21:55) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 24 Jul 2023 09:00:22 -0000 Sarcasm: Playful Banter or Verbal Cruelty? | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered full 117 Cheryl Fraser <p>If you're like me, your most sarcastic remarks were never made with the intention to cause harm. You're simply a linguist with an eye for irony and a secret belief you should really be a comedian, right?&nbsp; Well, although that could very well be the case… Do you know the line between comedy and cruelty? It’s important we remember that wielding the sword of sarcasm requires dexterity, spacial awareness, and most of all, care. We don’t want to accidentally cut someone because we were playing fast and loose with our words…But as perfectly imperfect beings, we have a tendency to do this all the time, especially with our partners.</p><br><p>Would you talk to your most treasured friend the way you talk to your partner? Would you be so quick to criticize your friends the way you might criticize your partner? When we start speaking to our spouse the way we would a dear friend, we find out how important platonic intimacy is to sustaining a thriving connection.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, </strong>I invite you and your beloved to reconnect by celebrating National Refreshment Day and National Friendship Day. I am also beyond excited to be answering the first of your most burning and frequently asked questions.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in to find out why we need to work harder to treat our spouses more like a friend and how I answer Carol’s question: <strong>How do I handle one-sided sarcasm?</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:&nbsp;</strong></p><p>I challenge you this Thursday, July 27 to have an ice-cold refreshment with your honey (2:49)&nbsp;</p><p>Your second challenge this Sunday, July 30 is to show your partner and close friends how much you cherish their friendship (6:54)&nbsp;</p><p>My answer to Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm?&nbsp; (10:24)&nbsp;</p><p>The difference between gentle fun sarcasm and contempt disguised as sarcasm (17:00)</p><p>The first step to cleaning up your verbal exchanges is by extending genuine apologies (20:44)&nbsp;</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (21:55)</p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p>Email <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</p><br><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> If you're like me, your most sarcastic remarks were never made with the intention to cause harm. You're simply a linguist with an eye for irony and a secret belief you should really be a comedian, right?  Well, although that could very well be the case… Do you know the line between comedy and cruelty? It’s important we remember that wielding the sword of sarcasm requires dexterity, spacial awareness, and most of all, care. We don’t want to accidentally cut someone because we were playing fast and loose with our words…But as perfectly imperfect beings, we have a tendency to do this all the time, especially with our partners. Would you talk to your most treasured friend the way you talk to your partner? Would you be so quick to criticize your friends the way you might criticize your partner? When we start speaking to our spouse the way we would a dear friend, we find out how important platonic intimacy is to sustaining a thriving connection.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I invite you and your beloved to reconnect by celebrating National Refreshment Day and National Friendship Day. I am also beyond excited to be answering the first of your most burning and frequently asked questions.  Tune in to find out why we need to work harder to treat our spouses more like a friend and how I answer Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm? In This Episode, You Will Learn:  I challenge you this Thursday, July 27 to have an ice-cold refreshment with your honey (2:49)  Your second challenge this Sunday, July 30 is to show your partner and close friends how much you cherish their friendship (6:54)  My answer to Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm?  (10:24)  The difference between gentle fun sarcasm and contempt disguised as sarcasm (17:00) The first step to cleaning up your verbal exchanges is by extending genuine apologies (20:44)  This week’s LoveByte (21:55) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. If you're like me, your most sarcastic remarks were never made with the intention to cause harm. You're simply a linguist with an eye for irony and a secret belief you should really be a comedian, right?  Well, although that could very well be the case… Do you know the line between comedy and cruelty? It’s important we remember that wielding the sword of sarcasm requires dexterity, spacial awareness, and most of all, care. We don’t want to accidentally cut someone because we were playing fast and loose with our words…But as perfectly imperfect beings, we have a tendency to do this all the time, especially with our partners.


Would you talk to your most treasured friend the way you talk to your partner? Would you be so quick to criticize your friends the way you might criticize your partner? When we start speaking to our spouse the way we would a dear friend, we find out how important platonic intimacy is to sustaining a thriving connection. 


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I invite you and your beloved to reconnect by celebrating National Refreshment Day and National Friendship Day. I am also beyond excited to be answering the first of your most burning and frequently asked questions. 


Tune in to find out why we need to work harder to treat our spouses more like a friend and how I answer Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm?


In This Episode, You Will Learn: 

I challenge you this Thursday, July 27 to have an ice-cold refreshment with your honey (2:49) 

Your second challenge this Sunday, July 30 is to show your partner and close friends how much you cherish their friendship (6:54) 

My answer to Carol’s question: How do I handle one-sided sarcasm?  (10:24) 

The difference between gentle fun sarcasm and contempt disguised as sarcasm (17:00)

The first step to cleaning up your verbal exchanges is by extending genuine apologies (20:44) 

This week’s LoveByte (21:55)


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  

About Me

Instagram

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


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]]> 1439 no Do the Work! Make Your Love Intentional https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/do-the-work-make-your-love-intentional Have you ever arrived home with a new house plant and admired its glossy leaves and beautiful flowers… only to forget about its care for the next few months? When you went back to it, was it still radiating beauty? Or was it a sad, shriveled, droopy shell of its former self? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going back to answer some of the most burning questions you sent in after my New Years episode.  Today, I’ve got a sexy, hilarious, and very tasty relationship challenge for you and your honey. You’re definitely going to want to participate in this one… just make sure you don’t have the good sheets on your bed! In This Episode, You Will Learn: I got to spend an incredible weekend with some of my Become Passion community (03:43) I challenge you this Wednesday, July 12 to have a deep conversation with your honey (06:08)  The answers to some of the questions I received after Sex, Love & Elephants episode 88 (06:55) Your relationship can’t improve if you’re constantly neglecting it (12:43) Today’s LoveByte (16:34) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 10 Jul 2023 09:00:36 -0000 Do the Work! Make Your Love Intentional full 115 Cheryl Fraser <p>Have you ever arrived home with a new house plant and admired its glossy leaves and beautiful flowers… only to forget about its care for the next few months? When you went back to it, was it still radiating beauty? Or was it a sad, shriveled, droopy shell of its former self?</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m going back to answer some of the most burning questions you sent in after my New Years episode.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I’ve got a sexy, hilarious, and very tasty relationship challenge for you and your honey. You’re definitely going to want to participate in this one… just make sure you don’t have the good sheets on your bed!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>I got to spend an incredible weekend with some of my Become Passion community (03:43)</li><li>I challenge you this Wednesday, July 12 to have a deep conversation with your honey (06:08)&nbsp;</li><li>The answers to some of the questions I received after <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/id1565891768?i=1000591888212" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sex, Love &amp; Elephants episode 88</strong></a> (06:55)</li><li>Your relationship can’t improve if you’re constantly neglecting it (12:43)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (16:34)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow&nbsp; </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Have you ever arrived home with a new house plant and admired its glossy leaves and beautiful flowers… only to forget about its care for the next few months? When you went back to it, was it still radiating beauty? Or was it a sad, shriveled, droopy shell of its former self? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going back to answer some of the most burning questions you sent in after my New Years episode.  Today, I’ve got a sexy, hilarious, and very tasty relationship challenge for you and your honey. You’re definitely going to want to participate in this one… just make sure you don’t have the good sheets on your bed! In This Episode, You Will Learn: I got to spend an incredible weekend with some of my Become Passion community (03:43) I challenge you this Wednesday, July 12 to have a deep conversation with your honey (06:08)  The answers to some of the questions I received after Sex, Love & Elephants episode 88 (06:55) Your relationship can’t improve if you’re constantly neglecting it (12:43) Today’s LoveByte (16:34) Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Have you ever arrived home with a new house plant and admired its glossy leaves and beautiful flowers… only to forget about its care for the next few months? When you went back to it, was it still radiating beauty? Or was it a sad, shriveled, droopy shell of its former self?


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going back to answer some of the most burning questions you sent in after my New Years episode. 


Today, I’ve got a sexy, hilarious, and very tasty relationship challenge for you and your honey. You’re definitely going to want to participate in this one… just make sure you don’t have the good sheets on your bed!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • I got to spend an incredible weekend with some of my Become Passion community (03:43)
  • I challenge you this Wednesday, July 12 to have a deep conversation with your honey (06:08) 
  • The answers to some of the questions I received after Sex, Love & Elephants episode 88 (06:55)
  • Your relationship can’t improve if you’re constantly neglecting it (12:43)
  • Today’s LoveByte (16:34)


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1133 no Are You Great at Celebrating Your Love— Or Does Your Larger Family Get All the Goodies? https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/are-you-great-at-celebrating-your-love-or-does-your-larger-f So often on special occasions— whether it’s Thanksgiving, a birthday, or a graduation— celebrations become about family and friends. There’s nothing wrong with that, but rarely do we see the couple hosting a barbecue, a dinner party, or even a wedding having fun together. Often, we even see a bit of friction instead of love and connection and joyful celebration of a relationship in the midst of a big event. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I get to brag a bit about an incredible group of my Become Passion students and the very special way we’re celebrating together.  Today, I’m talking all about celebration, why we celebrate special events, how we mark those events, and why it’s so important to have a reason to come together in a community to break bread, to share food, to laugh, to dance, and to play.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: My Become Passion online immersion program has helped over 450 couples so far (03:26) Our Become Passion community is just coming off of an impromptu, in-person celebration for the first time (08:19) Make special occasions special for the two of you (13:37) Today's LoveByte (13:53) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 03 Jul 2023 09:00:19 -0000 Are You Great at Celebrating Your Love— Or Does Your Larger Family Get All the Goodies? full 114 Cheryl Fraser <p>So often on special occasions— whether it’s Thanksgiving, a birthday, or a graduation— celebrations become about family and friends. There’s nothing wrong with that, but rarely do we see the couple hosting a barbecue, a dinner party, or even a wedding having fun together. Often, we even see a bit of friction instead of love and connection and joyful celebration of a relationship in the midst of a big event.</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I get to brag a bit about an incredible group of my <em>Become Passion</em> students and the very special way we’re celebrating together.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I’m talking all about celebration, why we celebrate special events, how we mark those events, and why it’s so important to have a reason to come together in a community to break bread, to share food, to laugh, to dance, and to play.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>My <em>Become Passion </em>online immersion program has helped over 450 couples so far (03:26)</li><li>Our <em>Become Passion</em> community is just coming off of an impromptu, in-person celebration for the first time (08:19)</li><li>Make special occasions special for the two of you (13:37)</li><li>Today's LoveByte (13:53)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your most burning love &amp; sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!&nbsp;&nbsp;</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> So often on special occasions— whether it’s Thanksgiving, a birthday, or a graduation— celebrations become about family and friends. There’s nothing wrong with that, but rarely do we see the couple hosting a barbecue, a dinner party, or even a wedding having fun together. Often, we even see a bit of friction instead of love and connection and joyful celebration of a relationship in the midst of a big event. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I get to brag a bit about an incredible group of my Become Passion students and the very special way we’re celebrating together.  Today, I’m talking all about celebration, why we celebrate special events, how we mark those events, and why it’s so important to have a reason to come together in a community to break bread, to share food, to laugh, to dance, and to play.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: My Become Passion online immersion program has helped over 450 couples so far (03:26) Our Become Passion community is just coming off of an impromptu, in-person celebration for the first time (08:19) Make special occasions special for the two of you (13:37) Today's LoveByte (13:53) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air! Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. So often on special occasions— whether it’s Thanksgiving, a birthday, or a graduation— celebrations become about family and friends. There’s nothing wrong with that, but rarely do we see the couple hosting a barbecue, a dinner party, or even a wedding having fun together. Often, we even see a bit of friction instead of love and connection and joyful celebration of a relationship in the midst of a big event.


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I get to brag a bit about an incredible group of my Become Passion students and the very special way we’re celebrating together. 


Today, I’m talking all about celebration, why we celebrate special events, how we mark those events, and why it’s so important to have a reason to come together in a community to break bread, to share food, to laugh, to dance, and to play. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • My Become Passion online immersion program has helped over 450 couples so far (03:26)
  • Our Become Passion community is just coming off of an impromptu, in-person celebration for the first time (08:19)
  • Make special occasions special for the two of you (13:37)
  • Today's LoveByte (13:53)


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!


Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1052 no Go Out, Get Mushy, and Fall In Love All Over Again: The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Vol IV https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/go-out-get-mushy-and-fall-in-love-all-over-again-the-great-s If you have trouble looking your partner in the eyes and telling them how much you love them, you're not broken or weird or screwed up. We all have different levels of comfort expressing our emotions and it can be hard letting our guard down and showing off our mushy, sweet, vulnerable side. But what if, just once, you trust yourself enough to let that side show through? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m celebrating the final episode dedicated to making your love life your favorite hobby.   It can feel absolutely delightful to celebrate your partner in a sincere, tasteful, glorious social media post… but if public displays of affection aren’t for you, why not try expressing those emotions to them privately? It doesn’t have to be out there for the world—but you can still let your sweetheart know how amazing they are. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Wednesday, June 28 is Happy Heart Hugs Day—and it’s your excuse to get down right mushy with the one you love (05:36) One person can make a real change in a relationship (07:40) Double date nights with another couple can be a great way to bond with your honey (11:32) Today's LoveByte (16:38) Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges and to download your game card. Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list!  Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 26 Jun 2023 09:00:23 -0000 Go Out, Get Mushy, and Fall In Love All Over Again: The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Vol IV full 113 Cheryl Fraser <p>If you have trouble looking your partner in the eyes and telling them how much you love them, you're not broken or weird or screwed up. We all have different levels of comfort expressing our emotions and it can be hard letting our guard down and showing off our mushy, sweet, vulnerable side. But what if, just once, you trust yourself enough to let<em> that</em> side show through?</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong><em> </em>I’m celebrating the final episode dedicated to making your love life your favorite hobby. <em>&nbsp;</em></p><br><p>It can feel absolutely delightful to celebrate your partner in a sincere, tasteful, glorious social media post… but if public displays of affection aren’t for you, why not try expressing those emotions to them privately? It doesn’t have to be out there for the world—but you can still let your sweetheart know how amazing they are.</p><br><p><br></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Wednesday, June 28 is Happy Heart Hugs Day—and it’s your excuse to get down right mushy with the one you love (05:36)</li><li>One person can make a real change in a relationship (07:40)</li><li>Double date nights with another couple can be a great way to bond with your honey (11:32)</li><li>Today's LoveByte (16:38)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Follow </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a><strong> on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges and to download your game card.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list!&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> to enter to win.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> If you have trouble looking your partner in the eyes and telling them how much you love them, you're not broken or weird or screwed up. We all have different levels of comfort expressing our emotions and it can be hard letting our guard down and showing off our mushy, sweet, vulnerable side. But what if, just once, you trust yourself enough to let that side show through? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m celebrating the final episode dedicated to making your love life your favorite hobby.   It can feel absolutely delightful to celebrate your partner in a sincere, tasteful, glorious social media post… but if public displays of affection aren’t for you, why not try expressing those emotions to them privately? It doesn’t have to be out there for the world—but you can still let your sweetheart know how amazing they are. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Wednesday, June 28 is Happy Heart Hugs Day—and it’s your excuse to get down right mushy with the one you love (05:36) One person can make a real change in a relationship (07:40) Double date nights with another couple can be a great way to bond with your honey (11:32) Today's LoveByte (16:38) Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges and to download your game card. Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list!  Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. If you have trouble looking your partner in the eyes and telling them how much you love them, you're not broken or weird or screwed up. We all have different levels of comfort expressing our emotions and it can be hard letting our guard down and showing off our mushy, sweet, vulnerable side. But what if, just once, you trust yourself enough to let that side show through?


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m celebrating the final episode dedicated to making your love life your favorite hobby.  


It can feel absolutely delightful to celebrate your partner in a sincere, tasteful, glorious social media post… but if public displays of affection aren’t for you, why not try expressing those emotions to them privately? It doesn’t have to be out there for the world—but you can still let your sweetheart know how amazing they are.



In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Wednesday, June 28 is Happy Heart Hugs Day—and it’s your excuse to get down right mushy with the one you love (05:36)
  • One person can make a real change in a relationship (07:40)
  • Double date nights with another couple can be a great way to bond with your honey (11:32)
  • Today's LoveByte (16:38)


Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Follow @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challenges and to download your game card.


Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list! 

Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1125 no Make Peace, Make Music & Prioritize Passion - The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Vol III https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/make-peace-make-music-prioritize-passion-the-great-summer-re When we pay attention and bring thrill to each other, when we have more fun and do more silly, outside of the box things, we’re putting in the work to bust Marriage Incorporated. When we get stuck running our relationship like a business, all the fun and joy are sapped. You can parent well, work hard, pay off the mortgage… But where are the two of you? Where's the ROMANCE? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a few more relationship challenges to bust your boredom and make your love life your favorite hobby.  Just a few days from now, those of us in the Northern Hemisphere will experience the summer solstice… So, what are your plans to celebrate? How about downloading a sexy, sultry playlist and dancing in the moonlight?  In This Episode, You Will Learn: I’m back this week with another round of challenges for National Make Music Day and National Selfie Day (03:47) Sometimes, like Elsa says, you’ve just got to Let. It. Go. and release old wounds (08:43) By hanging on to things that hurt you, you’re only burning yourself (14:06) The three breath hug is a great way to practice forgiveness (16:39) Today's LoveByte (18:06) Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Send us a selfie of you and your sweetheart enjoying these challenges as they happen each week - making your love life a hobby. Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win and follow along on IG @drcherylfraser Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 19 Jun 2023 09:00:29 -0000 Make Peace, Make Music & Prioritize Passion - The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Vol III full 112 Cheryl Fraser <p>When we pay attention and bring thrill to each other, when we have more fun and do more silly, outside of the box things, we’re putting in the work to bust Marriage Incorporated. When we get stuck running our relationship like a business, all the fun and joy are sapped. You can parent well, work hard, pay off the mortgage… But where are the two of you? Where's the ROMANCE?</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m giving you a few more relationship challenges to bust your boredom and make your love life your favorite hobby.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Just a few days from now, those of us in the Northern Hemisphere will experience the summer solstice… So, what are your plans to celebrate? How about downloading a sexy, sultry playlist and dancing in the moonlight?&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>I’m back this week with another round of challenges for National Make Music Day and National Selfie Day (03:47)</li><li>Sometimes, like Elsa says, you’ve just got to Let. It. Go. and release old wounds (08:43)</li><li>By hanging on to things that hurt you, you’re only burning yourself (14:06)</li><li>The three breath hug is a great way to practice forgiveness (16:39)</li><li>Today's LoveByte (18:06)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Send us a selfie of you and your sweetheart enjoying these challenges as they happen each week - making your love life a hobby.</strong></p><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> to enter to win and follow along on IG </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> When we pay attention and bring thrill to each other, when we have more fun and do more silly, outside of the box things, we’re putting in the work to bust Marriage Incorporated. When we get stuck running our relationship like a business, all the fun and joy are sapped. You can parent well, work hard, pay off the mortgage… But where are the two of you? Where's the ROMANCE? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a few more relationship challenges to bust your boredom and make your love life your favorite hobby.  Just a few days from now, those of us in the Northern Hemisphere will experience the summer solstice… So, what are your plans to celebrate? How about downloading a sexy, sultry playlist and dancing in the moonlight?  In This Episode, You Will Learn: I’m back this week with another round of challenges for National Make Music Day and National Selfie Day (03:47) Sometimes, like Elsa says, you’ve just got to Let. It. Go. and release old wounds (08:43) By hanging on to things that hurt you, you’re only burning yourself (14:06) The three breath hug is a great way to practice forgiveness (16:39) Today's LoveByte (18:06) Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE  Send us a selfie of you and your sweetheart enjoying these challenges as they happen each week - making your love life a hobby. Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win and follow along on IG @drcherylfraser Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. When we pay attention and bring thrill to each other, when we have more fun and do more silly, outside of the box things, we’re putting in the work to bust Marriage Incorporated. When we get stuck running our relationship like a business, all the fun and joy are sapped. You can parent well, work hard, pay off the mortgage… But where are the two of you? Where's the ROMANCE?


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a few more relationship challenges to bust your boredom and make your love life your favorite hobby. 


Just a few days from now, those of us in the Northern Hemisphere will experience the summer solstice… So, what are your plans to celebrate? How about downloading a sexy, sultry playlist and dancing in the moonlight? 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • I’m back this week with another round of challenges for National Make Music Day and National Selfie Day (03:47)
  • Sometimes, like Elsa says, you’ve just got to Let. It. Go. and release old wounds (08:43)
  • By hanging on to things that hurt you, you’re only burning yourself (14:06)
  • The three breath hug is a great way to practice forgiveness (16:39)
  • Today's LoveByte (18:06)


Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE 


Send us a selfie of you and your sweetheart enjoying these challenges as they happen each week - making your love life a hobby.

Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win and follow along on IG @drcherylfraser


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1219 no The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-great-summer-relationship-reconnect-game Imagine you’re on a quiz show and the host asks you to define the word “hobby.” What would you say? Well, Dr. Cheryl, first of all, it's something we do because we want to—it's fun, it's something we want to get better at. Okay, so maybe your hobby is baking or painting or going on hikes with the dog… But here's another question for you: Have you ever considered making your love life your hobby? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about dedicating the same amount of time, energy, and commitment to your love life as you would any other hobby.  Are you treating spending special time with your sweetheart like a hobby? Back when you were falling in love with your honey, I guarantee you treated your relationship like a hobby. You planned, you rearranged your schedules, you stood on your heads to find a time when you were both free to get together. Well, this is your sign to go back to that place and make the time to bring back that fun and intentionality. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Make your love life a hobby (03:33) There are ways to date more and have more fun and be more playful without spending a ton of time or money (08:44) Treating your relationship like a hobby acts to interrupt the bad patterns of laziness and complacency you and your sweetheart have fallen into (13:23) Where you put in the work and take action—that's where you'll get results (19:45) Today's LoveByte (21:05)   Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list!  Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win and follow along on IG to download your game card @drcherylfraser Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 05 Jun 2023 09:00:50 -0000 The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game full 110 Cheryl Fraser <p>Imagine you’re on a quiz show and the host asks you to define the word “hobby.”<em> </em>What would you say?</p><br><p><em>Well, Dr. Cheryl, first of all, it's something we do because we want to—it's fun, it's something we want to get better at.</em></p><br><p>Okay,<em> </em>so<em> </em>maybe your hobby is baking or painting or going on hikes with the dog… But here's another question for you: Have you ever considered making your love life your hobby?</p><br><p><strong>On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,</strong> I’m teaching you all about dedicating the same amount of time, energy, and commitment to your love life as you would any other hobby.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Are you treating spending special time with your sweetheart like a hobby? Back when you&nbsp;were falling in love with your honey, I guarantee you treated your relationship like a hobby. You planned, you rearranged your schedules, you stood on your heads to find a time when you were both free to get together. Well, this is your sign to go back to that place and make the time to bring back that fun and intentionality.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Make your love life a hobby (03:33)</li><li>There are ways to date more and have more fun and be more playful without spending a ton of time or money (08:44)</li><li>Treating your relationship like a hobby acts to interrupt the bad patterns of laziness and complacency you and your sweetheart have fallen into (13:23)</li><li>Where you put in the work and take action—that's where you'll get results (19:45)</li><li>Today's LoveByte (21:05)</li></ul><p><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><p><strong>Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list!&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> to enter to win and follow along on IG to download your game card </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>@drcherylfraser</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card </strong><a href="https://linktr.ee/drcherylfraser" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Imagine you’re on a quiz show and the host asks you to define the word “hobby.” What would you say? Well, Dr. Cheryl, first of all, it's something we do because we want to—it's fun, it's something we want to get better at. Okay, so maybe your hobby is baking or painting or going on hikes with the dog… But here's another question for you: Have you ever considered making your love life your hobby? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about dedicating the same amount of time, energy, and commitment to your love life as you would any other hobby.  Are you treating spending special time with your sweetheart like a hobby? Back when you were falling in love with your honey, I guarantee you treated your relationship like a hobby. You planned, you rearranged your schedules, you stood on your heads to find a time when you were both free to get together. Well, this is your sign to go back to that place and make the time to bring back that fun and intentionality. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Make your love life a hobby (03:33) There are ways to date more and have more fun and be more playful without spending a ton of time or money (08:44) Treating your relationship like a hobby acts to interrupt the bad patterns of laziness and complacency you and your sweetheart have fallen into (13:23) Where you put in the work and take action—that's where you'll get results (19:45) Today's LoveByte (21:05)   Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list!  Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win and follow along on IG to download your game card @drcherylfraser Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Imagine you’re on a quiz show and the host asks you to define the word “hobby.” What would you say?


Well, Dr. Cheryl, first of all, it's something we do because we want to—it's fun, it's something we want to get better at.


Okay, so maybe your hobby is baking or painting or going on hikes with the dog… But here's another question for you: Have you ever considered making your love life your hobby?


On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about dedicating the same amount of time, energy, and commitment to your love life as you would any other hobby. 


Are you treating spending special time with your sweetheart like a hobby? Back when you were falling in love with your honey, I guarantee you treated your relationship like a hobby. You planned, you rearranged your schedules, you stood on your heads to find a time when you were both free to get together. Well, this is your sign to go back to that place and make the time to bring back that fun and intentionality.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Make your love life a hobby (03:33)
  • There are ways to date more and have more fun and be more playful without spending a ton of time or money (08:44)
  • Treating your relationship like a hobby acts to interrupt the bad patterns of laziness and complacency you and your sweetheart have fallen into (13:23)
  • Where you put in the work and take action—that's where you'll get results (19:45)
  • Today's LoveByte (21:05)

 

Send us a selfie of you kissing for no reason or a photo of your Best Friends list! 

Email hello@drcherylfraser.com to enter to win and follow along on IG to download your game card @drcherylfraser


Find and download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1388 no Kiss More, Kiss Often https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/kiss-more-kiss-often Think of your first kiss with your current partner. (And if you're unpartnered, think of the first kiss with a previous partner—even if  the relationship didn't end so well.)? How did that first kiss  feel? First kisses can be pretty powerful, pretty exciting, and sometimes almost orgasmically explosive.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about the kiss. You’ll hear all about my origin story with my now-husband and why our first kiss changed everything for our relationship.  Kissing is a funny thing. When we first start out in a relationship, we put so much energy, so much mindfulness, so much focus and so much eroticism into the act… But then something happens. You get years into a long term relationship and kissing starts to seem like an almost trivial act—but it is so much more than that. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When I went on my first date with my now-husband, I had no intention of being partnered (02:29) My honey reacted with only positivity when I told him about my 90-day meditation retreats and that’s when I knew he was different (13:53) An amazing kiss can be an erotic, emotional, spiritual, energetic movement of energy through your entire body (17:56) First kisses, for almost all of us, are incredibly exciting because of the anticipation (19:23) Today’s LoveByte (21:04) Take my May challenge! Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email hello@drcherylfraser.com to be entered! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 15 May 2023 09:00:38 -0000 Kiss More, Kiss Often full 107 Cheryl Fraser <p>Think of your first kiss with your current partner. (And if you're unpartnered, think of the first kiss with a previous partner—even if&nbsp; the relationship didn't end so well.)? How did that first kiss&nbsp; feel?</p><p>First kisses can be pretty powerful, pretty exciting, and sometimes almost orgasmically explosive.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em> </em>is all about the kiss. You’ll hear all about my origin story with my now-husband and why our first kiss changed everything for our relationship.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Kissing is a funny thing. When we first start out in a relationship, we put so much energy, so much mindfulness, so much focus and so much eroticism into the act… But then something happens. You get years into a long term relationship and kissing starts to seem like an almost trivial act—but it is <strong>so </strong>much more than that.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>When I went on my first date with my now-husband, I had no intention of being partnered (02:29)</li><li>My honey reacted with only positivity when I told him about my 90-day meditation retreats and <em>that’s</em> when I knew he was different (13:53)</li><li>An amazing kiss can be an erotic, emotional, spiritual, energetic movement of energy through your entire body (17:56)</li><li><em>First kisses, for almost all of us, are incredibly exciting because of the anticipation (19:23)</em></li><li>Today’s LoveByte (21:04)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Take my May challenge!<em> </em>Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email </strong><a href="mailto:hellp@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> to be entered!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Think of your first kiss with your current partner. (And if you're unpartnered, think of the first kiss with a previous partner—even if  the relationship didn't end so well.)? How did that first kiss  feel? First kisses can be pretty powerful, pretty exciting, and sometimes almost orgasmically explosive.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about the kiss. You’ll hear all about my origin story with my now-husband and why our first kiss changed everything for our relationship.  Kissing is a funny thing. When we first start out in a relationship, we put so much energy, so much mindfulness, so much focus and so much eroticism into the act… But then something happens. You get years into a long term relationship and kissing starts to seem like an almost trivial act—but it is so much more than that. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When I went on my first date with my now-husband, I had no intention of being partnered (02:29) My honey reacted with only positivity when I told him about my 90-day meditation retreats and that’s when I knew he was different (13:53) An amazing kiss can be an erotic, emotional, spiritual, energetic movement of energy through your entire body (17:56) First kisses, for almost all of us, are incredibly exciting because of the anticipation (19:23) Today’s LoveByte (21:04) Take my May challenge! Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email hello@drcherylfraser.com to be entered! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Think of your first kiss with your current partner. (And if you're unpartnered, think of the first kiss with a previous partner—even if  the relationship didn't end so well.)? How did that first kiss  feel?

First kisses can be pretty powerful, pretty exciting, and sometimes almost orgasmically explosive. 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about the kiss. You’ll hear all about my origin story with my now-husband and why our first kiss changed everything for our relationship. 


Kissing is a funny thing. When we first start out in a relationship, we put so much energy, so much mindfulness, so much focus and so much eroticism into the act… But then something happens. You get years into a long term relationship and kissing starts to seem like an almost trivial act—but it is so much more than that.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • When I went on my first date with my now-husband, I had no intention of being partnered (02:29)
  • My honey reacted with only positivity when I told him about my 90-day meditation retreats and that’s when I knew he was different (13:53)
  • An amazing kiss can be an erotic, emotional, spiritual, energetic movement of energy through your entire body (17:56)
  • First kisses, for almost all of us, are incredibly exciting because of the anticipation (19:23)
  • Today’s LoveByte (21:04)


Take my May challenge! Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email hello@drcherylfraser.com to be entered!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1400 no Relationship Reality Check: Your Expectations Are Making You Miserable https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/relationship-reality-check-your-expectations-are-making-you- The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?! It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we think things should be, how we want things to be, how we believe things should go in our life… Those are expectations, not reality. And reality is a bitch. It’s one of the toughest aspects of being alive.  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking about your expectations vs the real world - and how much this can hurt your relationship! Have you ever noticed that your expectations and reality often clash in a major way?   It can be difficult to accept that things won’t always go your way—in fact, I still have to work on it myself sometimes. We all  have expectations, we all have plans,  and we all have desires… There are ways we want things to go and reality often has other ideas. You can be angry and vindictive all you want, but in the end, you’re only prolonging your own suffering. In This Episode, You Will Learn: I recently had an airplane trip from hell - my expectations were certainly not met! But…I adjusted to relaity and made lemonade from the lemons…(02:12) Be nice to the people who just happen to be bystanders when reality fails to meet your wishes (10:23) Be kind to yourself, your mind, and your partner when reality isn’t going your way (14:27) You can always change the story you’re making up about your partner and change your expectations  (16:58) Happiness or unhappiness is completely up to us (21:26) Today’s LoveByte (22:07) Take my May challenge! Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email hello@drcherylfraser.com to be entered! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 08 May 2023 09:00:01 -0000 Relationship Reality Check: Your Expectations Are Making You Miserable full 106 Cheryl Fraser <p>The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. <em>Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?!</em> It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we think things should be, how we want things to be, how we believe things should go in our life… Those are expectations, not reality. And reality is a bitch. It’s one of the toughest aspects of being alive.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em> </em>I’m talking about your expectations vs the real world - and how much this can hurt your relationship! Have you ever noticed that your expectations and reality often clash in a major way?&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>It can be difficult to accept that things won’t always go your way—in fact, I still have to work on it myself sometimes. We all&nbsp; have expectations, we all have plans,&nbsp; and we all have desires… There are ways we want things to go and reality often has other ideas. You can be angry and vindictive all you want, but in the end, you’re only prolonging your own suffering.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>I recently had an airplane trip from hell - my expectations were certainly not met! But…I adjusted to relaity and made lemonade from the lemons…(02:12)</li><li><em>Be nice to the people who just happen to be bystanders when reality fails to meet your wishes (10:23)</em></li><li>Be kind to yourself, your mind, and your partner when reality isn’t going your way (14:27)</li><li>You can always change the story you’re making up about your partner and change your expectations&nbsp; (16:58)</li><li>Happiness or unhappiness is completely up to us (21:26)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (22:07)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Take my May challenge!<em> </em>Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email </strong><a href="mailto:hellp@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> to be entered!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?! It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we think things should be, how we want things to be, how we believe things should go in our life… Those are expectations, not reality. And reality is a bitch. It’s one of the toughest aspects of being alive.  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking about your expectations vs the real world - and how much this can hurt your relationship! Have you ever noticed that your expectations and reality often clash in a major way?   It can be difficult to accept that things won’t always go your way—in fact, I still have to work on it myself sometimes. We all  have expectations, we all have plans,  and we all have desires… There are ways we want things to go and reality often has other ideas. You can be angry and vindictive all you want, but in the end, you’re only prolonging your own suffering. In This Episode, You Will Learn: I recently had an airplane trip from hell - my expectations were certainly not met! But…I adjusted to relaity and made lemonade from the lemons…(02:12) Be nice to the people who just happen to be bystanders when reality fails to meet your wishes (10:23) Be kind to yourself, your mind, and your partner when reality isn’t going your way (14:27) You can always change the story you’re making up about your partner and change your expectations  (16:58) Happiness or unhappiness is completely up to us (21:26) Today’s LoveByte (22:07) Take my May challenge! Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email hello@drcherylfraser.com to be entered! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?! It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we think things should be, how we want things to be, how we believe things should go in our life… Those are expectations, not reality. And reality is a bitch. It’s one of the toughest aspects of being alive. 


Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking about your expectations vs the real world - and how much this can hurt your relationship! Have you ever noticed that your expectations and reality often clash in a major way?  


It can be difficult to accept that things won’t always go your way—in fact, I still have to work on it myself sometimes. We all  have expectations, we all have plans,  and we all have desires… There are ways we want things to go and reality often has other ideas. You can be angry and vindictive all you want, but in the end, you’re only prolonging your own suffering.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • I recently had an airplane trip from hell - my expectations were certainly not met! But…I adjusted to relaity and made lemonade from the lemons…(02:12)
  • Be nice to the people who just happen to be bystanders when reality fails to meet your wishes (10:23)
  • Be kind to yourself, your mind, and your partner when reality isn’t going your way (14:27)
  • You can always change the story you’re making up about your partner and change your expectations  (16:58)
  • Happiness or unhappiness is completely up to us (21:26)
  • Today’s LoveByte (22:07)


Take my May challenge! Kiss your partner every day this month and win a prize - email hello@drcherylfraser.com to be entered!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1523 no Spring into Love: Cultivate a Generous Mind https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/spring-into-love-cultivate-a-generous-mind When you're feeling irritated toward your partner or you’re anxious about something that you think is just not working in your relationship, do you notice that it can feel as though your heart is closed down? As though you’re a little bit guarded and trying to gain a bit of protection? Most of us don't do it deliberately, but subconsciously a protective mechanism can kick in. And that’s a problem… In the last chapter of my 3-part Spring into Love series, I’m rounding out our talks on kindness and gratitude by teaching you all about generosity and the incredible power it has in our relationships.  And I’m not talking about giving gifts - I’m talking about thinking generous thoughts. Do you consider yourself a generous person? How do you personally define generosity? You may be a perfectly giving person in your day-to-day life, but what about when it comes to your long-term romantic relationships? How generous are you really to your sweetheart? In This Episode, You Will Learn: A quick thought experiment about generosity (05:57) When we cultivate generosity about our partner, we will feel more at ease. We will feel happier, we will feel a softening in our heart. (11:13) How you cultivate generous thoughts towards your partner is 100% up to you. Happiness is all in your own head (14:54) It’s up to us to interpret the data—it’s up to us to choose kindness and generosity (15:59) Today’s LoveByte (17:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 01 May 2023 09:00:11 -0000 Spring into Love: Cultivate a Generous Mind full 105 Cheryl Fraser <p>When you're feeling irritated toward your partner or you’re anxious about something that you think is just not working in your relationship, do you notice that it can feel as though your heart is closed down? As though you’re a little bit guarded and trying to gain a bit of protection? Most of us don't do it deliberately, but subconsciously a protective mechanism can kick in. And that’s a problem…</p><br><p><strong>In the last chapter of my 3-part Spring into Love series, </strong>I’m rounding out our talks on kindness and gratitude by teaching you all about generosity and the incredible power it has in our relationships.&nbsp; And I’m not talking about giving gifts - I’m talking about thinking generous thoughts.</p><br><p>Do you consider yourself a generous person? How do you personally define generosity? You may be a perfectly giving person in your day-to-day life, but what about when it comes to your long-term romantic relationships? How generous are you<em> really </em>to your sweetheart?</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>A quick thought experiment about generosity (05:57)</li><li>When we cultivate generosity about our partner, we will feel more at ease. We will feel happier, we will feel a softening in our heart. (11:13)</li><li>How you cultivate generous thoughts towards your partner is 100% up to you. Happiness is all in your own head (14:54)</li><li>It’s up to us to interpret the data—it’s up to us to choose kindness and generosity (15:59)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (17:19)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> When you're feeling irritated toward your partner or you’re anxious about something that you think is just not working in your relationship, do you notice that it can feel as though your heart is closed down? As though you’re a little bit guarded and trying to gain a bit of protection? Most of us don't do it deliberately, but subconsciously a protective mechanism can kick in. And that’s a problem… In the last chapter of my 3-part Spring into Love series, I’m rounding out our talks on kindness and gratitude by teaching you all about generosity and the incredible power it has in our relationships.  And I’m not talking about giving gifts - I’m talking about thinking generous thoughts. Do you consider yourself a generous person? How do you personally define generosity? You may be a perfectly giving person in your day-to-day life, but what about when it comes to your long-term romantic relationships? How generous are you really to your sweetheart? In This Episode, You Will Learn: A quick thought experiment about generosity (05:57) When we cultivate generosity about our partner, we will feel more at ease. We will feel happier, we will feel a softening in our heart. (11:13) How you cultivate generous thoughts towards your partner is 100% up to you. Happiness is all in your own head (14:54) It’s up to us to interpret the data—it’s up to us to choose kindness and generosity (15:59) Today’s LoveByte (17:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. When you're feeling irritated toward your partner or you’re anxious about something that you think is just not working in your relationship, do you notice that it can feel as though your heart is closed down? As though you’re a little bit guarded and trying to gain a bit of protection? Most of us don't do it deliberately, but subconsciously a protective mechanism can kick in. And that’s a problem…


In the last chapter of my 3-part Spring into Love series, I’m rounding out our talks on kindness and gratitude by teaching you all about generosity and the incredible power it has in our relationships.  And I’m not talking about giving gifts - I’m talking about thinking generous thoughts.


Do you consider yourself a generous person? How do you personally define generosity? You may be a perfectly giving person in your day-to-day life, but what about when it comes to your long-term romantic relationships? How generous are you really to your sweetheart?


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • A quick thought experiment about generosity (05:57)
  • When we cultivate generosity about our partner, we will feel more at ease. We will feel happier, we will feel a softening in our heart. (11:13)
  • How you cultivate generous thoughts towards your partner is 100% up to you. Happiness is all in your own head (14:54)
  • It’s up to us to interpret the data—it’s up to us to choose kindness and generosity (15:59)
  • Today’s LoveByte (17:19)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1164 no Spring into Love: The Importance of Kindness https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/spring-into-love-the-importance-of-kindness For so many of us in long term relationships, we start to take each other for granted. Complacency creeps in on its sneaky little feet—we get bored, we cease to find our partner exciting, we no longer romance them. Sometimes, we even stop being kind to them and wind up treating thembadly- unkind tone, sharp words - instead of treating them like a good friend. For the next three weeks on Sex, Love, and Elephants it’s all about springing into love. I’m talking about  three deceptively simple things that each of us needs to nurture in order to have an extraordinary relationshi - Kindness, Gratitude, and Generosity. Today is all about kindness. In these short, powerful episodes I'm teaching you and your honey about some subtle yet profound aspects of developing great emotional and psychological intimacy. I also talk about the three aspects of what I call the passion triangle: ​​intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—the cornerstones of every extraordinary relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Very few couples are strong in all three key relationship areas (04:40) Medical testing has shown that the feeling of falling in love is very similar in the brain to actual obsession (06:28) We often need a reboot for our long term relationships—we become lazy at the things we were good at in the beginning (09:23)  The critical importance of simply Being Kind Do better. Bit by bit, moment by moment (16:02) Prevention is key. Vow to prevent some of the unkind words, vow to prevent some of the unkind tone of voice (17:53) Today’s LoveByte (21:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 17 Apr 2023 09:00:17 -0000 Spring into Love: The Importance of Kindness full 103 Cheryl Fraser <p>For so many of us in long term relationships, we start to take each other for granted. Complacency creeps in on its sneaky little feet—we get bored, we cease to find our partner exciting, we no longer romance them. Sometimes, we even stop being kind to them and wind up treating thembadly- unkind tone, sharp words - instead of treating them like a good friend.</p><br><p><strong>For the next three weeks on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em> </em>it’s all about springing into love. I’m talking about&nbsp; three deceptively simple things that each of us needs to nurture in order to have an extraordinary relationshi - Kindness, Gratitude, and Generosity. Today is all about kindness.</p><br><p>In these short, powerful episodes I'm teaching you and your honey about some subtle yet profound aspects of developing great emotional and psychological intimacy. I also talk about the three aspects of what I call the passion triangle: ​​intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—the cornerstones of every extraordinary relationship.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Very few couples are strong in all three key relationship areas (04:40)</li><li>Medical testing has shown that the feeling of falling in love is very similar in the brain to actual obsession (06:28)</li><li>We often need a reboot for our long term relationships—we become lazy at the things we were good at in the beginning (09:23)&nbsp;</li><li>The critical importance of simply Being Kind</li><li>Do better. Bit by bit, moment by moment (16:02)</li><li><em>Prevention is key. Vow to prevent some of the unkind words, vow to prevent some of the unkind tone of voice (17:53)</em></li><li>Today’s LoveByte (21:19)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> For so many of us in long term relationships, we start to take each other for granted. Complacency creeps in on its sneaky little feet—we get bored, we cease to find our partner exciting, we no longer romance them. Sometimes, we even stop being kind to them and wind up treating thembadly- unkind tone, sharp words - instead of treating them like a good friend. For the next three weeks on Sex, Love, and Elephants it’s all about springing into love. I’m talking about  three deceptively simple things that each of us needs to nurture in order to have an extraordinary relationshi - Kindness, Gratitude, and Generosity. Today is all about kindness. In these short, powerful episodes I'm teaching you and your honey about some subtle yet profound aspects of developing great emotional and psychological intimacy. I also talk about the three aspects of what I call the passion triangle: ​​intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—the cornerstones of every extraordinary relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Very few couples are strong in all three key relationship areas (04:40) Medical testing has shown that the feeling of falling in love is very similar in the brain to actual obsession (06:28) We often need a reboot for our long term relationships—we become lazy at the things we were good at in the beginning (09:23)  The critical importance of simply Being Kind Do better. Bit by bit, moment by moment (16:02) Prevention is key. Vow to prevent some of the unkind words, vow to prevent some of the unkind tone of voice (17:53) Today’s LoveByte (21:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. For so many of us in long term relationships, we start to take each other for granted. Complacency creeps in on its sneaky little feet—we get bored, we cease to find our partner exciting, we no longer romance them. Sometimes, we even stop being kind to them and wind up treating thembadly- unkind tone, sharp words - instead of treating them like a good friend.


For the next three weeks on Sex, Love, and Elephants it’s all about springing into love. I’m talking about  three deceptively simple things that each of us needs to nurture in order to have an extraordinary relationshi - Kindness, Gratitude, and Generosity. Today is all about kindness.


In these short, powerful episodes I'm teaching you and your honey about some subtle yet profound aspects of developing great emotional and psychological intimacy. I also talk about the three aspects of what I call the passion triangle: ​​intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—the cornerstones of every extraordinary relationship.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Very few couples are strong in all three key relationship areas (04:40)
  • Medical testing has shown that the feeling of falling in love is very similar in the brain to actual obsession (06:28)
  • We often need a reboot for our long term relationships—we become lazy at the things we were good at in the beginning (09:23) 
  • The critical importance of simply Being Kind
  • Do better. Bit by bit, moment by moment (16:02)
  • Prevention is key. Vow to prevent some of the unkind words, vow to prevent some of the unkind tone of voice (17:53)
  • Today’s LoveByte (21:19)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1411 no Best Of Sex, Love, and Elephants: The Sex You’re Not Having https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/best-of-sex-love-and-elephants-the-sex-youre-not-having Today, you’ll hear one of my favorite Classic SLE episodes on love, relationships, and the sex you’re not having.  If you’re in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it’s time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.  You’re thinking, “But isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older?” This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It’s possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter your age. I’m talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics & myths associated (06:09) The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:41) An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:52) It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (23:09) This week’s LoveByte (26:53) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 10 Apr 2023 09:00:23 -0000 Best Of Sex, Love, and Elephants: The Sex You’re Not Having full 102 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Today, you’ll hear one of my favorite Classic SLE episodes on love, relationships, and the sex you’re <em>not</em> having.&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p>If you’re in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it’s time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>You’re thinking, </strong><em>“But isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older?</em>” This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It’s possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter your age.</p><br><p>I’m talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my <em>Become Passion</em> course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics &amp; myths associated (06:09)</li><li>The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:41)</li><li>An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:52)</li><li>It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (23:09)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (26:53)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Today, you’ll hear one of my favorite Classic SLE episodes on love, relationships, and the sex you’re not having.  If you’re in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it’s time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.  You’re thinking, “But isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older?” This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It’s possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter your age. I’m talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics & myths associated (06:09) The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:41) An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:52) It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (23:09) This week’s LoveByte (26:53) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Today, you’ll hear one of my favorite Classic SLE episodes on love, relationships, and the sex you’re not having. 


If you’re in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it’s time to start talking about the sex you’re not having. 


You’re thinking, “But isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older?” This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It’s possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter your age.


I’m talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics & myths associated (06:09)
  • The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:41)
  • An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:52)
  • It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (23:09)
  • This week’s LoveByte (26:53)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1762 no Everything Is Okay: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/everything-is-okay-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-cheryl When you've had a hope or a plan and that hasn't played out the way you thought—you’ve been disappointed or angry or deeply hurt—it behooves you to be a good scientist. Ask yourself: When do I get upset when things change? When am I more at ease when things change? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a front row seat to my most recent Dharma talk. I’m teaching you the importance of rolling with the punches and staying at ease when your plans don’t meet your original expectations, and I’m also exploring the journey of aging with a treasured companion and ultimately working toward letting them go at the end of their life.  Tune in and learn that whether it’s a burnt casserole, a rain-drenched hike, or a profoundly broken heart, we all have the choice to manage our reactions.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: I recently had an incredible opportunity to spend two weeks housesitting in Hawaii with my dear friend (03:17) You can’t let plans gone awry ruin your beautiful day (06:00) Think of a time when you were deeply disappointed—how did you react? (12:45) We've got the ability to choose and to work with our reaction (18:55) In the present moment, there's no pain, there's no sadness, there's no clinging and wanting things to be different (26:26) Look at the waves in life and realize that this is only temporary turbulence (36:27) This week’s LoveByte (01:01:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 03 Apr 2023 09:00:03 -0000 Everything Is Okay: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 101 Cheryl Fraser <p>When you've had a hope or a plan and that hasn't played out the way you thought—you’ve been disappointed or angry or deeply hurt—it behooves you to be a good scientist. Ask yourself: When do I get upset when things change? When am I more at ease when things change?</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, I’m giving you a front row seat to my most recent Dharma talk.<em> </em>I’m teaching you the importance of rolling with the punches and staying at ease when your plans don’t meet your original expectations, and I’m also exploring the journey of aging with a treasured companion and ultimately working toward letting them go at the end of their life.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn that whether it’s a burnt casserole, a rain-drenched hike, or a profoundly broken heart, we all have the choice to manage our reactions.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>I recently had an incredible opportunity to spend two weeks housesitting in Hawaii with my dear friend (03:17)</li><li>You can’t let plans gone awry ruin your beautiful day (06:00)</li><li>Think of a time when you were deeply disappointed—how did you react? (12:45)</li><li>We've got the ability to choose and to work with our reaction (18:55)</li><li>In the present moment, there's no pain, there's no sadness, there's no clinging and wanting things to be different (26:26)</li><li>Look at the waves in life and realize that this is only temporary turbulence (36:27)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (01:01:27)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> When you've had a hope or a plan and that hasn't played out the way you thought—you’ve been disappointed or angry or deeply hurt—it behooves you to be a good scientist. Ask yourself: When do I get upset when things change? When am I more at ease when things change? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a front row seat to my most recent Dharma talk. I’m teaching you the importance of rolling with the punches and staying at ease when your plans don’t meet your original expectations, and I’m also exploring the journey of aging with a treasured companion and ultimately working toward letting them go at the end of their life.  Tune in and learn that whether it’s a burnt casserole, a rain-drenched hike, or a profoundly broken heart, we all have the choice to manage our reactions.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: I recently had an incredible opportunity to spend two weeks housesitting in Hawaii with my dear friend (03:17) You can’t let plans gone awry ruin your beautiful day (06:00) Think of a time when you were deeply disappointed—how did you react? (12:45) We've got the ability to choose and to work with our reaction (18:55) In the present moment, there's no pain, there's no sadness, there's no clinging and wanting things to be different (26:26) Look at the waves in life and realize that this is only temporary turbulence (36:27) This week’s LoveByte (01:01:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. When you've had a hope or a plan and that hasn't played out the way you thought—you’ve been disappointed or angry or deeply hurt—it behooves you to be a good scientist. Ask yourself: When do I get upset when things change? When am I more at ease when things change?


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a front row seat to my most recent Dharma talk. I’m teaching you the importance of rolling with the punches and staying at ease when your plans don’t meet your original expectations, and I’m also exploring the journey of aging with a treasured companion and ultimately working toward letting them go at the end of their life. 


Tune in and learn that whether it’s a burnt casserole, a rain-drenched hike, or a profoundly broken heart, we all have the choice to manage our reactions. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • I recently had an incredible opportunity to spend two weeks housesitting in Hawaii with my dear friend (03:17)
  • You can’t let plans gone awry ruin your beautiful day (06:00)
  • Think of a time when you were deeply disappointed—how did you react? (12:45)
  • We've got the ability to choose and to work with our reaction (18:55)
  • In the present moment, there's no pain, there's no sadness, there's no clinging and wanting things to be different (26:26)
  • Look at the waves in life and realize that this is only temporary turbulence (36:27)
  • This week’s LoveByte (01:01:27)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3820 no How to Honor the Elephant https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/how-to-honor-the-elephant Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m sharing my gratitude for all of you on this special episode––episode 100! It’s time to remind all of us why the word ELEPHANT is in the title of this podcast.  How are you doing with Happy Ever After? Not so good, huh? Well, remember, happiness is an inside job. You have the ability to control your contentment regardless of outside circumstances. At any point everything in our lives can change, right? So, if you base your happiness on your job, health, relationship, or anything other than yourself, you are in big trouble when something challenging or even tragic occurs. In this episode, you’ll learn why you will not find happiness, well-being, or contentment outside of yourself. If you are not positive inside your heart, you may crumble when life throws something bad at you. The good news? When you ride on the back of your elephant, you can handle anything.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why the hell is love such a hard gig? (03:56) A description of the Passion Triangle and why it can save your relationship (04:55) Why you definitely need to meet your elephant…and take its advice (07:59) Why we’re screwed if we seek happiness outside of ourselves (10:27) If you ran for your life while your whole neighborhood was burning down…would you still be happy? (13:09) What you can expect from Sex, Love, and Elephants going forward (21:08) Today's LoveByte (23:45) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode, or would you like to send me some love? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 27 Mar 2023 09:00:20 -0000 How to Honor the Elephant full 100 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> I’m sharing my gratitude for all of you on this special episode––<em>episode 100</em>! It’s time to remind all of us why the word ELEPHANT is in the title of this podcast.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong><em>How are you doing with Happy Ever After?</em></strong></p><p>Not so good, huh? Well, remember, happiness is an inside job. You have the ability to control your contentment regardless of outside circumstances. At any point everything in our lives can change, right? So, if you base your happiness on your job, health, relationship, or anything other than yourself, you are in big trouble when something challenging or even tragic occurs. In this episode, you’ll learn why you will not find happiness, well-being, or contentment outside of yourself. If you are not positive inside your heart, you may crumble when life throws something bad at you. The good news? When you ride on the back of your elephant, you can handle anything.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li>Why the hell is love such a hard gig? (03:56)</li><li>A description of the Passion Triangle and why it can save your relationship (04:55)</li><li>Why you definitely need to meet your elephant…and take its advice (07:59)</li><li>Why we’re screwed if we seek happiness outside of ourselves (10:27)</li><li>If you ran for your life while your whole neighborhood was burning down…would you still be happy? (13:09)</li><li>What you can expect from Sex, Love, and Elephants going forward (21:08)</li><li>Today's LoveByte (23:45)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode, or would you like to send me some love? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m sharing my gratitude for all of you on this special episode––episode 100! It’s time to remind all of us why the word ELEPHANT is in the title of this podcast.  How are you doing with Happy Ever After? Not so good, huh? Well, remember, happiness is an inside job. You have the ability to control your contentment regardless of outside circumstances. At any point everything in our lives can change, right? So, if you base your happiness on your job, health, relationship, or anything other than yourself, you are in big trouble when something challenging or even tragic occurs. In this episode, you’ll learn why you will not find happiness, well-being, or contentment outside of yourself. If you are not positive inside your heart, you may crumble when life throws something bad at you. The good news? When you ride on the back of your elephant, you can handle anything.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why the hell is love such a hard gig? (03:56) A description of the Passion Triangle and why it can save your relationship (04:55) Why you definitely need to meet your elephant…and take its advice (07:59) Why we’re screwed if we seek happiness outside of ourselves (10:27) If you ran for your life while your whole neighborhood was burning down…would you still be happy? (13:09) What you can expect from Sex, Love, and Elephants going forward (21:08) Today's LoveByte (23:45) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode, or would you like to send me some love? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m sharing my gratitude for all of you on this special episode––episode 100! It’s time to remind all of us why the word ELEPHANT is in the title of this podcast. 


How are you doing with Happy Ever After?

Not so good, huh? Well, remember, happiness is an inside job. You have the ability to control your contentment regardless of outside circumstances. At any point everything in our lives can change, right? So, if you base your happiness on your job, health, relationship, or anything other than yourself, you are in big trouble when something challenging or even tragic occurs. In this episode, you’ll learn why you will not find happiness, well-being, or contentment outside of yourself. If you are not positive inside your heart, you may crumble when life throws something bad at you. The good news? When you ride on the back of your elephant, you can handle anything.

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Why the hell is love such a hard gig? (03:56)
  • A description of the Passion Triangle and why it can save your relationship (04:55)
  • Why you definitely need to meet your elephant…and take its advice (07:59)
  • Why we’re screwed if we seek happiness outside of ourselves (10:27)
  • If you ran for your life while your whole neighborhood was burning down…would you still be happy? (13:09)
  • What you can expect from Sex, Love, and Elephants going forward (21:08)
  • Today's LoveByte (23:45)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode, or would you like to send me some love? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1552 no Watch Your Language—and Practice Positive Speech with Your Partner https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/watch-your-languageand-practice-positive-speech-with-your-pa How does it make you feel when your partner says, “I love you”? What about when your partner calls you your favorite romantic pet name? And how do you feel when your partner says, “We’re late and it’s all your fault!!”  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about watching your tongue! Okay, so maybe you haven’t had anyone tell you that in a few decades, but I’m teaching you why thinking before you speak is such an important skill​​ to have—regardless of your age.   Language and how we speak to each other is incredibly important. In fact, research shows that our bodies actually measurably react depending on the words being spoken to us… Even if we’re not even aware of it.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Words really do matter (03:17) Our body can’t tell if what our mind is telling us is real (07:40) When you tell yourself, “I can’t,” you're creating a  physical stress response (10:07) We tend to let negative language flow much more freely with our partner than anyone else (12:13) Speak to your beloved more kindly (16:01) Today’s LoveByte (17:53) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 20 Mar 2023 10:00:50 -0000 Watch Your Language—and Practice Positive Speech with Your Partner full 99 Cheryl Fraser <p>How does it make you feel when your partner says, “I love you”? What about when your partner calls you your favorite romantic pet name? And how do you feel when your partner says, “We’re late and it’s all your fault!!”&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em> </em>I’m talking all about watching your tongue! Okay, so maybe you haven’t had anyone tell you that in a few <em>decades</em>, but I’m teaching you why thinking before you speak is such an important skill​​ to have—regardless of your age.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>Language and how we speak to each other is incredibly important. In fact, research shows that our bodies actually measurably react depending on the words being spoken to us… Even if we’re not even aware of it.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Words really do matter (03:17)</li><li><em>Our body can’t tell if what our mind is telling us is real (07:40)</em></li><li>When you tell yourself, “I can’t,” you're creating a&nbsp; physical stress response (10:07)</li><li>We tend to let negative language flow much more freely with our partner than anyone else (12:13)</li><li>Speak to your beloved more kindly (16:01)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (17:53)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> How does it make you feel when your partner says, “I love you”? What about when your partner calls you your favorite romantic pet name? And how do you feel when your partner says, “We’re late and it’s all your fault!!”  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about watching your tongue! Okay, so maybe you haven’t had anyone tell you that in a few decades, but I’m teaching you why thinking before you speak is such an important skill​​ to have—regardless of your age.   Language and how we speak to each other is incredibly important. In fact, research shows that our bodies actually measurably react depending on the words being spoken to us… Even if we’re not even aware of it.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Words really do matter (03:17) Our body can’t tell if what our mind is telling us is real (07:40) When you tell yourself, “I can’t,” you're creating a  physical stress response (10:07) We tend to let negative language flow much more freely with our partner than anyone else (12:13) Speak to your beloved more kindly (16:01) Today’s LoveByte (17:53) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. How does it make you feel when your partner says, “I love you”? What about when your partner calls you your favorite romantic pet name? And how do you feel when your partner says, “We’re late and it’s all your fault!!” 


Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about watching your tongue! Okay, so maybe you haven’t had anyone tell you that in a few decades, but I’m teaching you why thinking before you speak is such an important skill​​ to have—regardless of your age.  


Language and how we speak to each other is incredibly important. In fact, research shows that our bodies actually measurably react depending on the words being spoken to us… Even if we’re not even aware of it. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Words really do matter (03:17)
  • Our body can’t tell if what our mind is telling us is real (07:40)
  • When you tell yourself, “I can’t,” you're creating a  physical stress response (10:07)
  • We tend to let negative language flow much more freely with our partner than anyone else (12:13)
  • Speak to your beloved more kindly (16:01)
  • Today’s LoveByte (17:53)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1205 no Learn to Avoid the Big Fight Before the Flight https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/learn-to-avoid-the-big-fight-before-the-flight You’ve booked your flight, made a hotel reservation, and you’re just about packed for the big trip—and then it happens. That big blow up you’ve avoided this far finally comes to a head and suddenly you find yourself happy to leave your sweetie behind.  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about those big fights we have with our partner right before we leave to go on a trip.  I’m teaching you why our predictable patterns are the result of our whole life’s experiences which can trigger us emotionally even when we’re not expecting it. I’m also confessing my own experience picking fights with my sweetie, the subconscious reason these fights happen, and how to deal with it.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Even my hubby and I used to fall in to the “fight before the flight” pattern (03:16) When we become emotionally flooded, we lose our rationality (08:47) We’re in training—to be a better partner and a better person (10:05) When we have an argument with our beloved we're often arguing about old wounds (13:12) Sometimes you pick a fight because it's easier to leave when you're mad at each other (18:59) Today’s LoveByte (24:06) Read my full blog post here—then check out the article in The Boston Globe! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 13 Mar 2023 10:00:57 -0000 Learn to Avoid the Big Fight Before the Flight full 98 Cheryl Fraser <p>You’ve booked your flight, made a hotel reservation, and you’re just about packed for the big trip—and then it happens<em>.</em> That big blow up you’ve avoided this far finally comes to a head and suddenly you find yourself <em>happy </em>to leave your sweetie behind.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> I’m talking all about those big fights we have with our partner right before we leave to go on a trip.&nbsp;</p><br><p>I’m teaching you why our predictable patterns are the result of our whole life’s experiences which can trigger us emotionally even when we’re not expecting it. I’m also confessing my own experience picking fights with my sweetie, the subconscious reason these fights happen, and how to deal with it.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li>Even my hubby and I used to fall in to the “fight before the flight” pattern (03:16)</li><li>When we become emotionally flooded, we lose our rationality (08:47)</li><li>We’re in training—to be a better partner and a better person (10:05)</li><li>When we have an argument with our beloved we're often arguing about old wounds (13:12)</li><li>Sometimes you pick a fight because it's easier to leave when you're mad at each other (18:59)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (24:06)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Read my full blog post </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/fight-or-flight-why-do-we-argue-before-we-say-goodbye/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a><strong>—then check out </strong><a href="https://www.bostonglobe.com/2022/12/22/lifestyle/how-avoid-that-big-fight-before-big-trip/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>the article</strong></a><strong> in The Boston Globe!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> You’ve booked your flight, made a hotel reservation, and you’re just about packed for the big trip—and then it happens. That big blow up you’ve avoided this far finally comes to a head and suddenly you find yourself happy to leave your sweetie behind.  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about those big fights we have with our partner right before we leave to go on a trip.  I’m teaching you why our predictable patterns are the result of our whole life’s experiences which can trigger us emotionally even when we’re not expecting it. I’m also confessing my own experience picking fights with my sweetie, the subconscious reason these fights happen, and how to deal with it.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Even my hubby and I used to fall in to the “fight before the flight” pattern (03:16) When we become emotionally flooded, we lose our rationality (08:47) We’re in training—to be a better partner and a better person (10:05) When we have an argument with our beloved we're often arguing about old wounds (13:12) Sometimes you pick a fight because it's easier to leave when you're mad at each other (18:59) Today’s LoveByte (24:06) Read my full blog post here—then check out the article in The Boston Globe! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. You’ve booked your flight, made a hotel reservation, and you’re just about packed for the big trip—and then it happens. That big blow up you’ve avoided this far finally comes to a head and suddenly you find yourself happy to leave your sweetie behind. 


Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about those big fights we have with our partner right before we leave to go on a trip. 


I’m teaching you why our predictable patterns are the result of our whole life’s experiences which can trigger us emotionally even when we’re not expecting it. I’m also confessing my own experience picking fights with my sweetie, the subconscious reason these fights happen, and how to deal with it. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Even my hubby and I used to fall in to the “fight before the flight” pattern (03:16)
  • When we become emotionally flooded, we lose our rationality (08:47)
  • We’re in training—to be a better partner and a better person (10:05)
  • When we have an argument with our beloved we're often arguing about old wounds (13:12)
  • Sometimes you pick a fight because it's easier to leave when you're mad at each other (18:59)
  • Today’s LoveByte (24:06)


Read my full blog post here—then check out the article in The Boston Globe!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1586 no Have You Gotten a Sleep Divorce? https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/have-you-gotten-a-sleep-divorce You brush your teeth, get into bed to do a little reading, and then kiss your partner goodnight as they leave for their room across the hall. Wait—what?!  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about sleeping with your partner—in the literal sense! If you’re anything like 20% of Americans, you and your sweetheart may sleep in separate rooms for any number of reasons.  Sleeping apart can often be a “pink flag” and it’s rarely the only solution. The key is to remember how important the intimacy of sleep is to a healthy, happy relationship.  Whether you’ve been in separate beds for years or you’re considering the change, this episode is for you. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It's really freaking important to sleep in the same bed most of the time (02:51) Far too often a couple sleeps apart for a few days because of sleep issues and then it becomes habit (04:12) Cuddling matters! (07:07) Even if you can’t go to bed at the same time, you still need to practice a nighttime ritual with your sweetheart (09:32) You’re much more likely to make love regularly if you sleep in the same bed (13:44) Today’s LoveByte (16:18) Read the full article in The New York Times here—then listen to my interview on AirTalk! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 06 Mar 2023 10:00:54 -0000 Have You Gotten a Sleep Divorce? full 97 Cheryl Fraser <p>You brush your teeth, get into bed to do a little reading, and then kiss your partner goodnight as they leave for their room across the hall. Wait—what?!&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> is all about sleeping with your partner—in the literal sense! If you’re anything like 20% of Americans, you and your sweetheart may sleep in separate rooms for any number of reasons.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Sleeping apart can often be a “pink flag” and it’s rarely the only solution. The key is to remember how important the intimacy of sleep is to a healthy, happy relationship.&nbsp; Whether you’ve been in separate beds for years or you’re considering the change, this episode is for you.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>It's really freaking important to sleep in the same bed most of the time (02:51)</li><li>Far too often a couple sleeps apart for a few days because of sleep issues and then it becomes habit (04:12)</li><li>Cuddling matters! (07:07)</li><li><em>Even if you can’t go to bed at the same time, you still need to practice a nighttime ritual with your sweetheart (09:32)</em></li><li>You’re much more likely to make love regularly if you sleep in the same bed (13:44)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (16:18)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Read the full article in <em>The New York Times</em> </strong><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/10/realestate/couples-separate-bedrooms.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a><strong>—then listen to </strong><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/airtalk-episode-wednesday-february-22-2023/id73329334?i=1000601173507" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>my interview</strong></a><strong> on <em>AirTalk</em>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> You brush your teeth, get into bed to do a little reading, and then kiss your partner goodnight as they leave for their room across the hall. Wait—what?!  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about sleeping with your partner—in the literal sense! If you’re anything like 20% of Americans, you and your sweetheart may sleep in separate rooms for any number of reasons.  Sleeping apart can often be a “pink flag” and it’s rarely the only solution. The key is to remember how important the intimacy of sleep is to a healthy, happy relationship.  Whether you’ve been in separate beds for years or you’re considering the change, this episode is for you. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It's really freaking important to sleep in the same bed most of the time (02:51) Far too often a couple sleeps apart for a few days because of sleep issues and then it becomes habit (04:12) Cuddling matters! (07:07) Even if you can’t go to bed at the same time, you still need to practice a nighttime ritual with your sweetheart (09:32) You’re much more likely to make love regularly if you sleep in the same bed (13:44) Today’s LoveByte (16:18) Read the full article in The New York Times here—then listen to my interview on AirTalk! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. You brush your teeth, get into bed to do a little reading, and then kiss your partner goodnight as they leave for their room across the hall. Wait—what?! 


Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about sleeping with your partner—in the literal sense! If you’re anything like 20% of Americans, you and your sweetheart may sleep in separate rooms for any number of reasons. 


Sleeping apart can often be a “pink flag” and it’s rarely the only solution. The key is to remember how important the intimacy of sleep is to a healthy, happy relationship.  Whether you’ve been in separate beds for years or you’re considering the change, this episode is for you.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • It's really freaking important to sleep in the same bed most of the time (02:51)
  • Far too often a couple sleeps apart for a few days because of sleep issues and then it becomes habit (04:12)
  • Cuddling matters! (07:07)
  • Even if you can’t go to bed at the same time, you still need to practice a nighttime ritual with your sweetheart (09:32)
  • You’re much more likely to make love regularly if you sleep in the same bed (13:44)
  • Today’s LoveByte (16:18)


Read the full article in The New York Times here—then listen to my interview on AirTalk!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1110 no Love like an Elephant Part 2: True Love VS Desire Love https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/love-like-an-elephant-part-2-true-love-vs-desire-love Have you ever felt your heart fill with pure, unconditional love at the drop of a hat? Maybe you’ve rescued a poor, helpless kitten on the side of the road, derailing your morning commute to get him to the shelter. That selflessness and kindness is true, altruistic elephant love.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my Love Like an Elephant talk. Today is all about true love versus desire love and what that distinction can mean for you and your sweetheart.  Tune in and learn if you love from the typical place—desire love - which can be selfish and cause painful relationship issues—or if you love from true, unconditional elephant love. Don’t believe you can’t love like an elephant - you can. It takes work - and you need to think more about WE than ME.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your weekly LoveByte (02:32) How the typical style of love contrasts with the Buddhist elephant ideal of love (04:46) Elephant love is the way we hope a great parent will love their child (12:35) Desire love says, “What about ME?!” Elephant love says, “Anything I can do to help YOUR freedom delights me.” (14:04) Elephant love is loving more freely accepting the imperfections in your beautiful partner (22:08) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Resources mentioned: Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 27 Feb 2023 10:00:51 -0000 Love like an Elephant Part 2: True Love VS Desire Love full 96 Cheryl Fraser <p>Have you ever felt your heart fill with pure, unconditional love at the drop of a hat? Maybe you’ve rescued a poor, helpless kitten on the side of the road, derailing your morning commute to get him to the shelter. That selflessness and kindness is true, altruistic elephant love.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em>, </em>you’ll hear part two of my Love Like an Elephant talk. Today is all about true love versus desire love and what that distinction can mean for you and your sweetheart.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn if you love from the typical place—desire love - which can be selfish and cause painful relationship issues—or if you love from true, unconditional elephant love. Don’t believe you can’t love like an elephant - you can. It takes work - and you need to think more about WE than ME.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Your weekly LoveByte (02:32)</li><li>How the typical style of love contrasts with the Buddhist elephant ideal of love (04:46)</li><li>Elephant love is the way we hope a great parent will love their child (12:35)</li><li>Desire love says, “What about ME?!” Elephant love says, “Anything I can do to help YOUR freedom delights me.” (14:04)</li><li>Elephant love is loving more freely accepting the imperfections in your beautiful partner (22:08)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Teachings-Love-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1888375000" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Have you ever felt your heart fill with pure, unconditional love at the drop of a hat? Maybe you’ve rescued a poor, helpless kitten on the side of the road, derailing your morning commute to get him to the shelter. That selflessness and kindness is true, altruistic elephant love.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my Love Like an Elephant talk. Today is all about true love versus desire love and what that distinction can mean for you and your sweetheart.  Tune in and learn if you love from the typical place—desire love - which can be selfish and cause painful relationship issues—or if you love from true, unconditional elephant love. Don’t believe you can’t love like an elephant - you can. It takes work - and you need to think more about WE than ME.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your weekly LoveByte (02:32) How the typical style of love contrasts with the Buddhist elephant ideal of love (04:46) Elephant love is the way we hope a great parent will love their child (12:35) Desire love says, “What about ME?!” Elephant love says, “Anything I can do to help YOUR freedom delights me.” (14:04) Elephant love is loving more freely accepting the imperfections in your beautiful partner (22:08) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Resources mentioned: Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Have you ever felt your heart fill with pure, unconditional love at the drop of a hat? Maybe you’ve rescued a poor, helpless kitten on the side of the road, derailing your morning commute to get him to the shelter. That selflessness and kindness is true, altruistic elephant love. 


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my Love Like an Elephant talk. Today is all about true love versus desire love and what that distinction can mean for you and your sweetheart. 


Tune in and learn if you love from the typical place—desire love - which can be selfish and cause painful relationship issues—or if you love from true, unconditional elephant love. Don’t believe you can’t love like an elephant - you can. It takes work - and you need to think more about WE than ME. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Your weekly LoveByte (02:32)
  • How the typical style of love contrasts with the Buddhist elephant ideal of love (04:46)
  • Elephant love is the way we hope a great parent will love their child (12:35)
  • Desire love says, “What about ME?!” Elephant love says, “Anything I can do to help YOUR freedom delights me.” (14:04)
  • Elephant love is loving more freely accepting the imperfections in your beautiful partner (22:08)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1800 no This Valentine’s Day, Pay It Forward https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/this-valentines-day-pay-it-forward February 14th… a date that strikes fear into the hearts of millions the world over! But it doesn’t need to be scary. Instead of making it all about me and we, why not try making it about generosity instead? Welcome to episode 94 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. Today, I’m suggesting a different kind of Valentine’s Day: Try paying it forward.  Pick a couple you know who are young, in love, and broke… and think of a way to make February 14th special for them.  This Vday, don’t worry about not booking that reservation. It’s not too late to write a love letter or buy a sweet, cheesy card. It's not too late to get flowers and chocolates, pick up a new toy or to woo them with a bottle of bubbly. It’s never too late to make your sweetheart feel loved and special.  Paying it forward this Vday? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the deets for a chance to win a prize! In This Episode, You Will Learn: You can use Valentine’s Day as a reminder to make love intentional (04:29) I want you to design a pay it forward Valentine’s Day for someone in your circle (06:01) Use this as an opportunity to buy a gift card to support a great local business (07:30) Valentine's can be a very we centric holiday—make it a generosity holiday instead (09:26) Valentine’s Day is kind of stupid—but love isn’t! (12:02) Q&A: How can I celebrate Valentine’s Day in a new, fun way? Try paying it forward this Valentine’s Day. Pick a couple you know who might not be able to afford their ideal Valentine’s celebration and get them a gift card to a nice restaurant or a great spa. Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 13 Feb 2023 10:00:12 -0000 This Valentine’s Day, Pay It Forward full 94 Cheryl Fraser <p>February 14th… a date that strikes fear into the hearts of millions the world over! But it doesn’t <em>need </em>to be scary. Instead of making it all about <em>me </em>and <em>we</em>, why not try making it about generosity instead?</p><br><p><strong>Welcome to episode 94 of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em>. </em>Today, I’m suggesting a different kind of Valentine’s Day: Try paying it forward.&nbsp; Pick a couple you know who are young, in love, and <em>broke</em>… and think of a way to make February 14th special for them.&nbsp;</p><br><p>This Vday, don’t worry about not booking that reservation. It’s not too late to write a love letter or buy a sweet, cheesy card. It's not too late to get flowers and chocolates, pick up a new toy or to woo them with a bottle of bubbly. It’s never too late to make your sweetheart feel loved and special.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Paying it forward this Vday? Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> with the deets for a chance to win a prize!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>You can use Valentine’s Day as a reminder to make love intentional (04:29)</li><li><em>I want you to design a pay it forward Valentine’s Day for someone in your circle (06:01)</em></li><li>Use this as an opportunity to buy a gift card to support a great local business (07:30)</li><li>Valentine's can be a very we centric holiday—make it a generosity holiday instead (09:26)</li><li>Valentine’s Day is kind of stupid—but love isn’t! (12:02)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>How can I celebrate Valentine’s Day in a new, fun way? </em></strong><em>Try paying it forward this Valentine’s Day. Pick a couple you know who might not be able to afford their ideal Valentine’s celebration and get them a gift card to a nice restaurant or a great spa.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Take the Passion Quiz</strong></a><strong> NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> February 14th… a date that strikes fear into the hearts of millions the world over! But it doesn’t need to be scary. Instead of making it all about me and we, why not try making it about generosity instead? Welcome to episode 94 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. Today, I’m suggesting a different kind of Valentine’s Day: Try paying it forward.  Pick a couple you know who are young, in love, and broke… and think of a way to make February 14th special for them.  This Vday, don’t worry about not booking that reservation. It’s not too late to write a love letter or buy a sweet, cheesy card. It's not too late to get flowers and chocolates, pick up a new toy or to woo them with a bottle of bubbly. It’s never too late to make your sweetheart feel loved and special.  Paying it forward this Vday? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the deets for a chance to win a prize! In This Episode, You Will Learn: You can use Valentine’s Day as a reminder to make love intentional (04:29) I want you to design a pay it forward Valentine’s Day for someone in your circle (06:01) Use this as an opportunity to buy a gift card to support a great local business (07:30) Valentine's can be a very we centric holiday—make it a generosity holiday instead (09:26) Valentine’s Day is kind of stupid—but love isn’t! (12:02) Q&A: How can I celebrate Valentine’s Day in a new, fun way? Try paying it forward this Valentine’s Day. Pick a couple you know who might not be able to afford their ideal Valentine’s celebration and get them a gift card to a nice restaurant or a great spa. Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. February 14th… a date that strikes fear into the hearts of millions the world over! But it doesn’t need to be scary. Instead of making it all about me and we, why not try making it about generosity instead?


Welcome to episode 94 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. Today, I’m suggesting a different kind of Valentine’s Day: Try paying it forward.  Pick a couple you know who are young, in love, and broke… and think of a way to make February 14th special for them. 


This Vday, don’t worry about not booking that reservation. It’s not too late to write a love letter or buy a sweet, cheesy card. It's not too late to get flowers and chocolates, pick up a new toy or to woo them with a bottle of bubbly. It’s never too late to make your sweetheart feel loved and special. 


Paying it forward this Vday? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the deets for a chance to win a prize!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • You can use Valentine’s Day as a reminder to make love intentional (04:29)
  • I want you to design a pay it forward Valentine’s Day for someone in your circle (06:01)
  • Use this as an opportunity to buy a gift card to support a great local business (07:30)
  • Valentine's can be a very we centric holiday—make it a generosity holiday instead (09:26)
  • Valentine’s Day is kind of stupid—but love isn’t! (12:02)


Q&A:

  • How can I celebrate Valentine’s Day in a new, fun way? Try paying it forward this Valentine’s Day. Pick a couple you know who might not be able to afford their ideal Valentine’s celebration and get them a gift card to a nice restaurant or a great spa.


Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion!


Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 890 no It’s Time to Start Scheduling Sex: 2023 Relationship Reboot https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/its-time-to-start-scheduling-sex-2023-relationship-reboot Try as we might, every relationship gets stuck in lazy patterns—Yes, even mine. Relationships are a hard gig and it can be incredibly easy to grow complacent, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be stuck without romance or sensuality in your life. Welcome to episode 93 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. During my 2023 Relationship Reboot, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework assignment is to learn to schedule sex with your honey.  Tune in today and hear the final episode of my 2023 Relationship Reboot. This past six weeks, I’ve given you a number of challenges to complete with your sweetheart—I want you to take everything you’ve learned and make sure you put it to good use.  Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! In This Episode, You Will Learn: There’s still hope! You can always reboot your sexual relationship (03:57) If you’re in a sexless relationship, you are normal (05:47) Sexuality is a powerful, beautiful part of being alive. Sharing it with someone is one of the most sacred things we can do with our bodies  (08:48) Scheduling sex isn’t romantic—but it will give your sex life a boost (11:05) The majority of long term couples start making love from a place of sexual neutrality (14:38) Q&A: How can my partner and I boost our non-existant sex life? Try scheduling sex. It may not sound romantic, but having scheduled sex can help create desire where it wasn’t before.  Take the quiz near the top as well as win a prize—email hello@drcherylfraser.com your relationship reboot results and be entered in the prize draw! If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 06 Feb 2023 10:00:49 -0000 It’s Time to Start Scheduling Sex: 2023 Relationship Reboot full 93 Cheryl Fraser <p>Try as we might, every relationship gets stuck in lazy patterns—<em>Yes, even mine</em>. Relationships are a hard gig and it can be incredibly easy to grow complacent, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be stuck without romance or sensuality in your life. </p><br><p><strong>Welcome to episode 93 of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em>. </em>During my 2023 Relationship Reboot<em>,</em> I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate.<em> </em>Today, your homework assignment is to learn to schedule sex with your honey.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in today and hear the final episode of my 2023 Relationship Reboot. This past six weeks, I’ve given you a number of challenges to complete with your sweetheart—I want you to take everything you’ve learned and make sure you put it to good use.&nbsp;</p><br><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Take the Passion Quiz</strong></a><strong> NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>There’s still hope! You can always reboot your sexual relationship (03:57)</li><li><em>If you’re in a sexless relationship, </em><strong><em>you are normal </em></strong><em>(05:47)</em></li><li>Sexuality is a powerful, beautiful part of being alive. Sharing it with someone is one of the most sacred things we can do with our bodies&nbsp; (08:48)</li><li>Scheduling sex <em>isn’t</em> romantic—but it will give your sex life a boost (11:05)</li><li>The majority of long term couples start making love from a place of sexual neutrality (14:38)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>How can my partner and I boost our non-existant sex life? </em></strong><em>Try scheduling sex. It may not sound romantic, but having scheduled sex can help create desire where it wasn’t before.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Take the quiz near the top as well as win a prize—email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> your relationship reboot results and be entered in the prize draw!</strong></p><br><p><strong>If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Try as we might, every relationship gets stuck in lazy patterns—Yes, even mine. Relationships are a hard gig and it can be incredibly easy to grow complacent, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be stuck without romance or sensuality in your life. Welcome to episode 93 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. During my 2023 Relationship Reboot, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework assignment is to learn to schedule sex with your honey.  Tune in today and hear the final episode of my 2023 Relationship Reboot. This past six weeks, I’ve given you a number of challenges to complete with your sweetheart—I want you to take everything you’ve learned and make sure you put it to good use.  Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! In This Episode, You Will Learn: There’s still hope! You can always reboot your sexual relationship (03:57) If you’re in a sexless relationship, you are normal (05:47) Sexuality is a powerful, beautiful part of being alive. Sharing it with someone is one of the most sacred things we can do with our bodies  (08:48) Scheduling sex isn’t romantic—but it will give your sex life a boost (11:05) The majority of long term couples start making love from a place of sexual neutrality (14:38) Q&A: How can my partner and I boost our non-existant sex life? Try scheduling sex. It may not sound romantic, but having scheduled sex can help create desire where it wasn’t before.  Take the quiz near the top as well as win a prize—email hello@drcherylfraser.com your relationship reboot results and be entered in the prize draw! If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Try as we might, every relationship gets stuck in lazy patterns—Yes, even mine. Relationships are a hard gig and it can be incredibly easy to grow complacent, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be stuck without romance or sensuality in your life.


Welcome to episode 93 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. During my 2023 Relationship Reboot, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework assignment is to learn to schedule sex with your honey. 


Tune in today and hear the final episode of my 2023 Relationship Reboot. This past six weeks, I’ve given you a number of challenges to complete with your sweetheart—I want you to take everything you’ve learned and make sure you put it to good use. 


Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • There’s still hope! You can always reboot your sexual relationship (03:57)
  • If you’re in a sexless relationship, you are normal (05:47)
  • Sexuality is a powerful, beautiful part of being alive. Sharing it with someone is one of the most sacred things we can do with our bodies  (08:48)
  • Scheduling sex isn’t romantic—but it will give your sex life a boost (11:05)
  • The majority of long term couples start making love from a place of sexual neutrality (14:38)


Q&A:

  • How can my partner and I boost our non-existant sex life? Try scheduling sex. It may not sound romantic, but having scheduled sex can help create desire where it wasn’t before. 


Take the quiz near the top as well as win a prize—email hello@drcherylfraser.com your relationship reboot results and be entered in the prize draw!


If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1098 no Take my 10 Minute Quiz and Rate Your Passion: 2023 Relationship Reboot https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/take-my-10-minute-quiz-and-rate-your-passion-2023-relationsh Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, do you greet her at the door, practically bouncing with excitement? And what about deep communication—do you feel known on a spiritual level by your spouse? Not to mention having a rich satisfying sex life… Welcome to episode 91 of Sex, Love, and Elephants.every Monday in January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework is to take my Passion quiz, an important tool for evaluating your relationship Tune in and hear a short lesson on what I call the Passion Triangle—AKA the three main predictors of an exceptional relationship - Intimacy, Thrill, & Sensuality . After that, you can take my quiz to learn about one another AND rate your relationship. Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your Relationship Reboot task for this week (04:11) A Passion Triangle mini teaching (05:56) Passion is a teachable skill (08:23) Today’s LoveByte (13:04) Q&A: Is there a way to figure out what’s wrong in my relation ship? H Check out the Passion Quiz and find out how your relationship rates in the three key areas great couples master —then learn the steps to making an okay partnership exceptional.  If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 23 Jan 2023 10:00:43 -0000 Take my 10 Minute Quiz and Rate Your Passion: 2023 Relationship Reboot full 91 Cheryl Fraser <p>Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, do you greet her at the door, practically bouncing with excitement? And what about deep communication—do you feel known on a spiritual level by your spouse? Not to mention having a rich satisfying sex life…</p><br><p><strong>Welcome to episode 91 of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong><em>.every Monday in </em>January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework is to take my Passion quiz, an important tool for evaluating your relationship</p><br><p>Tune in and hear a short lesson on what I call the Passion Triangle—AKA the three main predictors of an exceptional relationship - Intimacy, Thrill, &amp; Sensuality . After that, you can take my quiz to learn about one another AND rate your relationship.</p><br><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Take the Passion Quiz</strong></a><strong> NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Your Relationship Reboot task for this week (04:11)</li><li>A Passion Triangle mini teaching (05:56)</li><li>Passion is a teachable skill (08:23)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (13:04)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>Is there a way to figure out what’s wrong in my relation ship? H </em></strong><em>Check out the Passion Quiz and find out how your relationship rates in the three key areas great couples master —then learn the steps to making an okay partnership exceptional.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, do you greet her at the door, practically bouncing with excitement? And what about deep communication—do you feel known on a spiritual level by your spouse? Not to mention having a rich satisfying sex life… Welcome to episode 91 of Sex, Love, and Elephants.every Monday in January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework is to take my Passion quiz, an important tool for evaluating your relationship Tune in and hear a short lesson on what I call the Passion Triangle—AKA the three main predictors of an exceptional relationship - Intimacy, Thrill, & Sensuality . After that, you can take my quiz to learn about one another AND rate your relationship. Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your Relationship Reboot task for this week (04:11) A Passion Triangle mini teaching (05:56) Passion is a teachable skill (08:23) Today’s LoveByte (13:04) Q&A: Is there a way to figure out what’s wrong in my relation ship? H Check out the Passion Quiz and find out how your relationship rates in the three key areas great couples master —then learn the steps to making an okay partnership exceptional.  If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, do you greet her at the door, practically bouncing with excitement? And what about deep communication—do you feel known on a spiritual level by your spouse? Not to mention having a rich satisfying sex life…


Welcome to episode 91 of Sex, Love, and Elephants.every Monday in January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework is to take my Passion quiz, an important tool for evaluating your relationship


Tune in and hear a short lesson on what I call the Passion Triangle—AKA the three main predictors of an exceptional relationship - Intimacy, Thrill, & Sensuality . After that, you can take my quiz to learn about one another AND rate your relationship.


Take the Passion Quiz NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Your Relationship Reboot task for this week (04:11)
  • A Passion Triangle mini teaching (05:56)
  • Passion is a teachable skill (08:23)
  • Today’s LoveByte (13:04)


Q&A:

  • Is there a way to figure out what’s wrong in my relation ship? H Check out the Passion Quiz and find out how your relationship rates in the three key areas great couples master —then learn the steps to making an okay partnership exceptional. 


If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 916 no Add Adventure and Improve Your Attraction: 2023 Relationship Reboot https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/add-adventure-and-improve-your-attraction-2023-relationship- “New Year, new you!” Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or to get rich or to transform your relationship are fine, but what about when it comes to actually taking action? Welcome to episode 89 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’ve got two actions for you to jump-start your Relationship Reboot  Tune in and ask yourself: how can I be a better partner this year? How can I be more mindful in my relationship? And how can I set better intentions? Then take action and plan an adventure date. Win a prize! Send a selfie of your adventure date to hello@drcherylfraser.com In This Episode, You Will Learn: If all we do is consume information without setting intentions and turning them into action, nothing changes (03:50) I actively work to speak more kindly to my partner (05:12) I’m taking my husband on a sexy adventure date (09:34) Make an appointment and a plan to be more romantic (11:18) Today’s LoveByte (15:20) Q&A: What can I do to spice things up with my honey? Take your partner on an adventure date. Try something new and share the experience with your sweetheart. If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 09 Jan 2023 10:00:27 -0000 Add Adventure and Improve Your Attraction: 2023 Relationship Reboot full 89 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“New Year, new you!” </em>Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or to get rich or to transform your relationship are fine, but what about when it comes to actually taking action?</p><br><p><strong>Welcome to episode 89 of <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em></strong>. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’ve got two actions for you to jump-start your Relationship Reboot&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and ask yourself: how can I be a better partner this year? How can I be more mindful in my relationship? And how can I set better intentions? Then take action and plan an adventure date.</p><br><p><strong>Win a prize! Send a selfie of your adventure date to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If all we do is consume information without setting intentions and turning them into action, nothing changes (03:50)</li><li>I actively work to speak more kindly to my partner (05:12)</li><li>I’m taking my husband on a sexy adventure date (09:34)</li><li>Make an appointment and a plan to be more romantic (11:18)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (15:20)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>What can I do to spice things up with my honey? </strong><em>Take your partner on an adventure date. Try something new and share the experience with your sweetheart.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “New Year, new you!” Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or to get rich or to transform your relationship are fine, but what about when it comes to actually taking action? Welcome to episode 89 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’ve got two actions for you to jump-start your Relationship Reboot  Tune in and ask yourself: how can I be a better partner this year? How can I be more mindful in my relationship? And how can I set better intentions? Then take action and plan an adventure date. Win a prize! Send a selfie of your adventure date to hello@drcherylfraser.com In This Episode, You Will Learn: If all we do is consume information without setting intentions and turning them into action, nothing changes (03:50) I actively work to speak more kindly to my partner (05:12) I’m taking my husband on a sexy adventure date (09:34) Make an appointment and a plan to be more romantic (11:18) Today’s LoveByte (15:20) Q&A: What can I do to spice things up with my honey? Take your partner on an adventure date. Try something new and share the experience with your sweetheart. If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “New Year, new you!” Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or to get rich or to transform your relationship are fine, but what about when it comes to actually taking action?


Welcome to episode 89 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’ve got two actions for you to jump-start your Relationship Reboot 


Tune in and ask yourself: how can I be a better partner this year? How can I be more mindful in my relationship? And how can I set better intentions? Then take action and plan an adventure date.


Win a prize! Send a selfie of your adventure date to hello@drcherylfraser.com


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If all we do is consume information without setting intentions and turning them into action, nothing changes (03:50)
  • I actively work to speak more kindly to my partner (05:12)
  • I’m taking my husband on a sexy adventure date (09:34)
  • Make an appointment and a plan to be more romantic (11:18)
  • Today’s LoveByte (15:20)


Q&A:

  • What can I do to spice things up with my honey? Take your partner on an adventure date. Try something new and share the experience with your sweetheart.


If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1058 no New Year, New Intentions https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/new-year-new-intentions You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there’s very little chance at success. Whether it's fitness or your career or your relationship, if you don't take action, nothing happens. Welcome to 2023’s first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’m talking about change and why the future of your relationship may be at stake unless you can create it.  Tune in and learn how to ask yourself and your partner the tough questions: Where would I like my relationship to be in 12 months? How would I like to feel? How can I be a better partner?  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A thought experiment involving the future of your romantic relationship (01:47) As difficult as relationships can be, you can create change (03:20) One of the most critical questions to ask yourself: “How do I want to be as a partner?” (06:07) 97% of resolutions fail—so we’re calling them intentions, instead (08:53) Action you can take to start your journey to a better relationship right now (09:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:14) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com with your answers to the 3 questions and win a prize! If you are interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 02 Jan 2023 10:00:06 -0000 New Year, New Intentions full 88 Cheryl Fraser <p>You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there’s very little chance at success. Whether it's fitness or your career or your relationship, if you don't take action, nothing happens.</p><br><p><strong>Welcome to 2023’s first episode of <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em></strong>. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’m talking about <strong>change</strong> and why the future of your relationship may be at stake unless you can create it.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn how to ask yourself and your partner the tough questions: Where would I like my relationship to be in 12 months? How would I like to feel? <em>How can I be a better partner?&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li>A thought experiment involving the future of your romantic relationship (01:47)</li><li>As difficult as relationships can be, you can create change (03:20)</li><li>One of the most critical questions to ask yourself: “How do I want to be as a partner?” (06:07)</li><li>97% of resolutions fail—so we’re calling them intentions, instead (08:53)</li><li>Action you can take to start your journey to a better relationship right now (09:55)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (14:14)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Email </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> with your answers to the 3 questions and win a prize!</strong></p><br><p><strong>If you are interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a><strong>!&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there’s very little chance at success. Whether it's fitness or your career or your relationship, if you don't take action, nothing happens. Welcome to 2023’s first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’m talking about change and why the future of your relationship may be at stake unless you can create it.  Tune in and learn how to ask yourself and your partner the tough questions: Where would I like my relationship to be in 12 months? How would I like to feel? How can I be a better partner?  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A thought experiment involving the future of your romantic relationship (01:47) As difficult as relationships can be, you can create change (03:20) One of the most critical questions to ask yourself: “How do I want to be as a partner?” (06:07) 97% of resolutions fail—so we’re calling them intentions, instead (08:53) Action you can take to start your journey to a better relationship right now (09:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:14) Email hello@drcherylfraser.com with your answers to the 3 questions and win a prize! If you are interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there’s very little chance at success. Whether it's fitness or your career or your relationship, if you don't take action, nothing happens.


Welcome to 2023’s first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’m talking about change and why the future of your relationship may be at stake unless you can create it. 


Tune in and learn how to ask yourself and your partner the tough questions: Where would I like my relationship to be in 12 months? How would I like to feel? How can I be a better partner? 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • A thought experiment involving the future of your romantic relationship (01:47)
  • As difficult as relationships can be, you can create change (03:20)
  • One of the most critical questions to ask yourself: “How do I want to be as a partner?” (06:07)
  • 97% of resolutions fail—so we’re calling them intentions, instead (08:53)
  • Action you can take to start your journey to a better relationship right now (09:55)
  • Today’s LoveByte (14:14)


Email hello@drcherylfraser.com with your answers to the 3 questions and win a prize!


If you are interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 985 no Best of! SLE: The Holiday Hangover https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/best-of-sle-the-holiday-hangover You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way.  This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. Join me in entering 2023 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39) We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18) New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37) Today’s LoveByte (12:25) Q&A: Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.  Enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom! Send a picture of your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to hello@drcherylfraser.com for your chance! Let’s Connect! Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 26 Dec 2022 10:00:42 -0000 Best of! SLE: The Holiday Hangover full 87 Cheryl Fraser <p>You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to <em>real life </em>can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—<strong>but it doesn’t have to be that way</strong>.&nbsp;</p><br><p>This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it.</p><br><p>Join me in entering 2023 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><strong>When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39)</strong></li><li>We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18)</li><li>New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (12:25)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? <em>If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Enter to win a copy of my book <em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em>! Send a picture of your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> for your chance!</strong></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE</strong></a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here&nbsp;</strong></a></li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Youtube</strong></a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</strong></a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way.  This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. Join me in entering 2023 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39) We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18) New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37) Today’s LoveByte (12:25) Q&A: Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.  Enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom! Send a picture of your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to hello@drcherylfraser.com for your chance! Let’s Connect! Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way. 


This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it.


Join me in entering 2023 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:


  • When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39)
  • We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18)
  • New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37)
  • Today’s LoveByte (12:25)


Q&A:

  • Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over. 


Enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom! Send a picture of your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to hello@drcherylfraser.com for your chance!

Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1015 no Best of! SLE: Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking - Making Holidays Romantic https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/best-of-sle-sensual-ways-to-stuff-a-stocking-making-holidays This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18) Today’s LoveByte (25:02) Q&A: How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private. If YOU have a question or topics you’d like me to cover on the podcast, email it to me hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 12 Dec 2022 10:00:31 -0000 Best of! SLE: Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking - Making Holidays Romantic full 85 Cheryl Fraser <p>This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?</p><br><p>This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)&nbsp;</strong></li><li><strong>It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10)</strong></li><li>If you've got&nbsp; little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44)</li><li>If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02)</li><li>Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (25:02)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? <em>A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private.</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>If YOU have a question or topics you’d like me to cover on the podcast, email it to me </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE</strong></a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Youtube</strong></a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</strong></a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18) Today’s LoveByte (25:02) Q&A: How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private. If YOU have a question or topics you’d like me to cover on the podcast, email it to me hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?


This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical. 


Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43) 
  • It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10)
  • If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44)
  • If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02)
  • Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18)
  • Today’s LoveByte (25:02)


Q&A:

  • How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private.


If YOU have a question or topics you’d like me to cover on the podcast, email it to me hello@drcherylfraser.com

Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1689 no Let Live and Let Go: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/let-live-and-let-go-a-dharma-talk-with-dr-cheryl What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our life? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to one of my dharma talks. I’m talking about what we can do during our toughest times, where we can find strength, and the Four Noble Truths.  Tune in and learn that no matter what the winds blow into our life, we don't get to be the weather person. We don't get to choose a fair and sunny day every single day, but we can choose to appreciate those days. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My patient, Janice, is a wonderful example of grace under great duress (03:24) Into our life repeatedly come pleasurable things and unpleasurable things (11:43) The first Noble Truth: Nothing stays the same (15:14) Things change and some of those changes are not going to be what you want (16:30) The second Noble Truth: The cause of our suffering is wanting things to be different (23:50) We can only solve our Dukkha by accepting the truth of what is and letting go (30:03) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 14 Nov 2022 10:00:29 -0000 Let Live and Let Go: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl full 81 Cheryl Fraser <p>What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our life?</p><br><p><strong>In today’s episode of <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em></strong>, you’ll have a front row seat to one of my dharma talks. I’m talking about what we can do during our toughest times, where we can find strength, and the Four Noble Truths.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Tune in and learn that no matter what the winds blow into our life, we don't get to be the weather person. We don't get to choose a fair and sunny day every single day, but we <em>can </em>choose to appreciate those days.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><em>My patient, Janice, is a wonderful example of grace under great duress (03:24)</em></li><li>Into our life repeatedly come pleasurable things and unpleasurable things (11:43)</li><li>The first Noble Truth: Nothing stays the same (15:14)</li><li>Things change and some of those changes are not going to be what you want (16:30)</li><li>The second Noble Truth: The cause of our suffering is wanting things to be different (23:50)</li><li>We can only solve our Dukkha by accepting the truth of what is and letting go (30:03)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em>&nbsp;</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page&nbsp;&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our life? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to one of my dharma talks. I’m talking about what we can do during our toughest times, where we can find strength, and the Four Noble Truths.  Tune in and learn that no matter what the winds blow into our life, we don't get to be the weather person. We don't get to choose a fair and sunny day every single day, but we can choose to appreciate those days. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My patient, Janice, is a wonderful example of grace under great duress (03:24) Into our life repeatedly come pleasurable things and unpleasurable things (11:43) The first Noble Truth: Nothing stays the same (15:14) Things change and some of those changes are not going to be what you want (16:30) The second Noble Truth: The cause of our suffering is wanting things to be different (23:50) We can only solve our Dukkha by accepting the truth of what is and letting go (30:03) Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our life?


In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to one of my dharma talks. I’m talking about what we can do during our toughest times, where we can find strength, and the Four Noble Truths. 


Tune in and learn that no matter what the winds blow into our life, we don't get to be the weather person. We don't get to choose a fair and sunny day every single day, but we can choose to appreciate those days.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • My patient, Janice, is a wonderful example of grace under great duress (03:24)
  • Into our life repeatedly come pleasurable things and unpleasurable things (11:43)
  • The first Noble Truth: Nothing stays the same (15:14)
  • Things change and some of those changes are not going to be what you want (16:30)
  • The second Noble Truth: The cause of our suffering is wanting things to be different (23:50)
  • We can only solve our Dukkha by accepting the truth of what is and letting go (30:03)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2021 no REAL Couples, REAL Results- My Become Passion Course Starts THIS Friday! https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/join-dr-cheryl-live-online-masterclasses-this-week-fall-into Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step?  Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin THIS Friday, November 4, 2022 and go until January 15, 2023 Today, I’m telling you the real stories of actual couples who have attended my Become Passion program and completely turned their relationships around. You’ll hear about Ed and Jeanine and Jay and Cindy and how they were able to revamp their entire marriages, rediscover their love for one another, and bring back the passion and romance that had been missing for so long.  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. Q&A: My sex life with my sweetheart hasn’t been the same since we’ve had kids—what can we do to spice things up? Making each other priority number one is the best thing you can do to reignite the spark you once had. Make time for love AND lovemaking. Don’t be afraid to schedule dates. Want to learn more? Join my once yearly course, Become Passion — Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Wed, 02 Nov 2022 10:00:14 -0000 REAL Couples, REAL Results- My Become Passion Course Starts THIS Friday! full 80 Cheryl Fraser <p>Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step?&nbsp; Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the <strong><em>Become Passion – Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime&nbsp;</em></strong>12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>click here</strong></a>! <strong>We begin THIS Friday, November 4, 2022 and go until January 15, 2023</strong></p><br><p>Today, I’m telling you the real stories of actual couples who have attended my <strong><em>Become Passion</em></strong> program and completely turned their relationships around. You’ll hear about Ed and Jeanine and Jay and Cindy and how they were able to revamp their entire marriages, rediscover their love for one another, and bring back the passion and romance that had been missing for so long.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong>My sex life with my sweetheart hasn’t been the same since we’ve had kids—what can we do to spice things up? </strong><em>Making each other priority number one is the best thing you can do to reignite the spark you once had. Make time for love AND lovemaking. Don’t be afraid to schedule dates. Want to learn more? </em><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Join my once yearly course,</em></strong></a><strong><em> Become Passion — Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</em></strong><em>!</em></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step?  Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin THIS Friday, November 4, 2022 and go until January 15, 2023 Today, I’m telling you the real stories of actual couples who have attended my Become Passion program and completely turned their relationships around. You’ll hear about Ed and Jeanine and Jay and Cindy and how they were able to revamp their entire marriages, rediscover their love for one another, and bring back the passion and romance that had been missing for so long.  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. Q&A: My sex life with my sweetheart hasn’t been the same since we’ve had kids—what can we do to spice things up? Making each other priority number one is the best thing you can do to reignite the spark you once had. Make time for love AND lovemaking. Don’t be afraid to schedule dates. Want to learn more? Join my once yearly course, Become Passion — Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime! Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step?  Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin THIS Friday, November 4, 2022 and go until January 15, 2023


Today, I’m telling you the real stories of actual couples who have attended my Become Passion program and completely turned their relationships around. You’ll hear about Ed and Jeanine and Jay and Cindy and how they were able to revamp their entire marriages, rediscover their love for one another, and bring back the passion and romance that had been missing for so long. 


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


Q&A:

My sex life with my sweetheart hasn’t been the same since we’ve had kids—what can we do to spice things up? Making each other priority number one is the best thing you can do to reignite the spark you once had. Make time for love AND lovemaking. Don’t be afraid to schedule dates. Want to learn more? Join my once yearly course, Become Passion — Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime!


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2087 no Bring Passion Back to the Bedroom & Reignite Your Love Life—In Just 12 Weeks: Welcome to Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/bring-passion-back-to-the-bedroom-reignite-your-love-lifein- In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.) Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.  Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 4th 2022 and go until January 15th 2023 Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime  Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Tue, 01 Nov 2022 10:00:22 -0000 Bring Passion Back to the Bedroom & Reignite Your Love Life—In Just 12 Weeks: Welcome to Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass full 79 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>In today’s episode of <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em></strong>, I’m going to give you a look inside my <strong>Passion Masterclass - </strong>a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE&nbsp; a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)</p><br><p>Here’s the good news: <strong>You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late</strong>… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having <em>any</em> sex <em>whatsoever</em>.</p><br><p>In this exclusive <strong>Passion Masterclass</strong>, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the <strong><em>Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime&nbsp;</em></strong>12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>click here</strong></a>! <strong><em>We begin November 4th 2022 and go until January 15th 2023</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? </strong><a href="https://my.demio.com/recording/fkLwnLVU" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>The 3 Keys to Passion&nbsp;</strong>– What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime&nbsp;</li><li><strong>Intimacy: “Marital Friendship</strong>”&nbsp; Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments</li><li>&nbsp;<strong>Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going</strong>&nbsp;– and what you need to do about it. Getting real</li><li><strong><em>Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life.&nbsp;</em></strong><em>Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em></strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.) Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.  Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 4th 2022 and go until January 15th 2023 Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here! In This Episode, You Will Learn: The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime  Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month?  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)


Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.


In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently. 


Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 4th 2022 and go until January 15th 2023


Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime 
  • Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments
  •  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real
  • Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 5831 no Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship! It’s Your Love Life—Invest Wisely https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/spend-3-months-with-cheryl-renovating-your-relationship-its- Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. Click here to learn more and to register. This is the only time this year Cheryl is teaching Become Passion! It’s a very special week here at Sex, Love, and Elephants because it marks the launch of my 12 week Become Passion couples immersion program. Today, I’m telling you what I know to be true about sex, love, and relationships. Relationships don’t just take care of themselves—they need an investment of time, energy, perseverance, and LOVE.   Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Relationships are a hard gig (04:32)  Sometimes it takes a beautiful example to find the inspiration to love again (08:47) Great partnership takes effort, indulgence, love, forgiveness, and the acceptance of differences (11:52) A brief rundown of my Become Passion program (14:19) If we do nothing, things stay the same—or they get worse (21:00) This week’s LoveByte (22:26) Q&A: How can I liven up my relationship? My honey and I are so boring—help! Relationships take hard work! Think of your relationship like a hobby and put the effort in that you both deserve. Want more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course starting November 4 and learn how to bring the spark back to your love life.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 31 Oct 2022 10:00:25 -0000 Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship! It’s Your Love Life—Invest Wisely full 78 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a><strong> to learn more and to register. This is the only time this year Cheryl is teaching Become Passion!</strong></p><br><p>It’s a very special week here at <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em> because it marks the launch of my 12 week Become Passion couples immersion program. Today, I’m telling you what I know to be true about sex, love, and relationships. Relationships don’t just take care of themselves—they need an investment of time, energy, perseverance, and LOVE.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Relationships are a hard gig (04:32)&nbsp;</li><li>Sometimes it takes a beautiful example to find the inspiration to love again (08:47)</li><li>Great partnership takes effort, indulgence, love, forgiveness, and the acceptance of differences (11:52)</li><li>A brief rundown of my Become Passion program (14:19)</li><li>If we do nothing, things stay the same—or they get worse (21:00)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (22:26)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong>How can I liven up my relationship? My honey and I are so boring—help!</strong><em> Relationships take hard work! Think of your relationship like a hobby and put the effort in that you both deserve. Want more? Check out my </em><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong><em>course</em><strong><em> </em></strong><em>starting November 4 and learn how to bring the spark back to your love life.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. Click here to learn more and to register. This is the only time this year Cheryl is teaching Become Passion! It’s a very special week here at Sex, Love, and Elephants because it marks the launch of my 12 week Become Passion couples immersion program. Today, I’m telling you what I know to be true about sex, love, and relationships. Relationships don’t just take care of themselves—they need an investment of time, energy, perseverance, and LOVE.   Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Relationships are a hard gig (04:32)  Sometimes it takes a beautiful example to find the inspiration to love again (08:47) Great partnership takes effort, indulgence, love, forgiveness, and the acceptance of differences (11:52) A brief rundown of my Become Passion program (14:19) If we do nothing, things stay the same—or they get worse (21:00) This week’s LoveByte (22:26) Q&A: How can I liven up my relationship? My honey and I are so boring—help! Relationships take hard work! Think of your relationship like a hobby and put the effort in that you both deserve. Want more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course starting November 4 and learn how to bring the spark back to your love life.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. Click here to learn more and to register. This is the only time this year Cheryl is teaching Become Passion!


It’s a very special week here at Sex, Love, and Elephants because it marks the launch of my 12 week Become Passion couples immersion program. Today, I’m telling you what I know to be true about sex, love, and relationships. Relationships don’t just take care of themselves—they need an investment of time, energy, perseverance, and LOVE.  

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Relationships are a hard gig (04:32) 
  • Sometimes it takes a beautiful example to find the inspiration to love again (08:47)
  • Great partnership takes effort, indulgence, love, forgiveness, and the acceptance of differences (11:52)
  • A brief rundown of my Become Passion program (14:19)
  • If we do nothing, things stay the same—or they get worse (21:00)
  • This week’s LoveByte (22:26)


Q&A:

How can I liven up my relationship? My honey and I are so boring—help! Relationships take hard work! Think of your relationship like a hobby and put the effort in that you both deserve. Want more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course starting November 4 and learn how to bring the spark back to your love life. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1507 no Join Dr. Cheryl LIVE! Online Masterclasses THIS WEEK Fall Into Love Minisode 1 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/join-dr-cheryl-live-online-masterclasses-this-week On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 I’m holding this course! Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the Become Passion program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Wed, 26 Oct 2022 09:00:49 -0000 Join Dr. Cheryl LIVE! Online Masterclasses THIS WEEK Fall Into Love Minisode 1 full 77 Cheryl Fraser <p>On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>FREE Passion Masterclass</strong></a><strong>. Dates start October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&amp;A! NOW is the only time in 2022 I’m holding this course!</strong></p><br><p>Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion</strong></a><strong> program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><p><br></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 I’m holding this course! Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the Become Passion program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 I’m holding this course!


Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step? Then join me for the Become Passion program. This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

 

Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 635 no Dr. Cheryl Answers YOUR Most Burning Love Questions: Fall Into Love Chapter 4 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/dr-cheryl-answers-your-most-burning-love-questions-fall-into JOIN Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Passion Masterclass - beginning October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. She’s teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 Dr. Cheryl is holding this course! Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from last week’s live Q&A class. You’ll hear answers to real questions from listeners just like you, like: What should you do when your partner doesn't want to make love? How do you win back your wife's affection when she's three quarters of the way out the door? How much fighting is too much fighting? Listen in on this rare opportunity—you’ll find out all these answers and much, much more. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. Some Questions You’ll Hear Answered Today: Should I continue to try after 17 years with a man who won’t make simple changes to bring more spark to our love life?  When you keep having the same argument and you’re never able to talk through it, how do you move forward? How can I tell my lady friend to put her phone down so that we can have foreplay when we go to bed? How do I accept that my husband prioritizes his children from his first marriage over me?  My partner is totally emotionally unavailable and has a temper tantrum when we argue… How can I communicate with someone who resorts to this behavior? How do I recognize when I'm triggered? How can I hit the pause button and wait for my nervous system to settle?   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 24 Oct 2022 09:00:14 -0000 Dr. Cheryl Answers YOUR Most Burning Love Questions: Fall Into Love Chapter 4 full 76 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>JOIN Dr. Cheryl’s </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>FREE Passion Masterclass</strong></a><strong> - beginning October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. She’s teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&amp;A! NOW is the only time in 2022 Dr. Cheryl is holding this course!</strong></p><br><p>Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from last week’s live Q&amp;A class. You’ll hear answers to real questions from listeners<strong> just like you</strong>, like: <em>What should you do when your partner doesn't want to make love? How do you win back your wife's affection when she's three quarters of the way out the door? How much fighting is too much fighting? </em>Listen in on this rare opportunity—you’ll find out all these answers and much, much more.</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Some Questions You’ll Hear Answered Today:</strong></p><ul><li>Should I continue to try after 17 years with a man who won’t make simple changes to bring more spark to our love life?&nbsp;</li><li>When you keep having the same argument and you’re never able to talk through it, how do you move forward?</li><li>How can I tell my lady friend to put her phone down so that we can have foreplay when we go to bed?</li><li>How do I accept that my husband prioritizes his children from his first marriage over me?&nbsp;</li><li>My partner is totally emotionally unavailable and has a temper tantrum when we argue… How can I communicate with someone who resorts to this behavior?</li><li>How do I recognize when I'm triggered? How can I hit the pause button and wait for my nervous system to settle?</li></ul><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> JOIN Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Passion Masterclass - beginning October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. She’s teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 Dr. Cheryl is holding this course! Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from last week’s live Q&A class. You’ll hear answers to real questions from listeners just like you, like: What should you do when your partner doesn't want to make love? How do you win back your wife's affection when she's three quarters of the way out the door? How much fighting is too much fighting? Listen in on this rare opportunity—you’ll find out all these answers and much, much more. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. Some Questions You’ll Hear Answered Today: Should I continue to try after 17 years with a man who won’t make simple changes to bring more spark to our love life?  When you keep having the same argument and you’re never able to talk through it, how do you move forward? How can I tell my lady friend to put her phone down so that we can have foreplay when we go to bed? How do I accept that my husband prioritizes his children from his first marriage over me?  My partner is totally emotionally unavailable and has a temper tantrum when we argue… How can I communicate with someone who resorts to this behavior? How do I recognize when I'm triggered? How can I hit the pause button and wait for my nervous system to settle?   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. JOIN Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Passion Masterclass - beginning October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. She’s teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 Dr. Cheryl is holding this course!


Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from last week’s live Q&A class. You’ll hear answers to real questions from listeners just like you, like: What should you do when your partner doesn't want to make love? How do you win back your wife's affection when she's three quarters of the way out the door? How much fighting is too much fighting? Listen in on this rare opportunity—you’ll find out all these answers and much, much more.


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


Some Questions You’ll Hear Answered Today:

  • Should I continue to try after 17 years with a man who won’t make simple changes to bring more spark to our love life? 
  • When you keep having the same argument and you’re never able to talk through it, how do you move forward?
  • How can I tell my lady friend to put her phone down so that we can have foreplay when we go to bed?
  • How do I accept that my husband prioritizes his children from his first marriage over me? 
  • My partner is totally emotionally unavailable and has a temper tantrum when we argue… How can I communicate with someone who resorts to this behavior?
  • How do I recognize when I'm triggered? How can I hit the pause button and wait for my nervous system to settle?

 

Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3481 no How this Love Expert got Divorced - Cheryl’s path from I Do to Disaster : Fall Into Love Chapter 2 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/how-this-love-expert-got-divorced-cheryls-path-from-i-do-to- JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it. Today, I’m telling you all about my ill-fated first marriage in my 20’s. I’m talking all about how I fell for my ex, the story behind our incredibly beautiful, big, fat Greek elopement, AND all the reasons our marriage didn’t work out!  Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Jump on and ask me YOUR love & sex questions, LIVE.  Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Registration coming soon! Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How my first husband and I met and got together (02:19)  My ex gave me an incredibly romantic spiel that brought my guard down (07:23) Our little elopement turned into an actual BBC production (10:41) We had a full-on Mamma Mia!-style wedding—complete with a flutist and stage design from the West End (12:00) We battled and argued for a year and a half of marriage because we did not have the tools to grow together (14:51) The incredibly powerful divorce ritual that my ex and I created together (17:29) Love isn't enough. It’s a learned skill (22:09) This week’s LoveByte (25:44) Q&A: How can my partner and I stop fighting constantly—over big things and little things? It can be difficult to grow together as a couple without the correct tools. To learn more about the keys to passion and my Passion Triangle, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 10 Oct 2022 09:00:56 -0000 How this Love Expert got Divorced - Cheryl’s path from I Do to Disaster : Fall Into Love Chapter 2 full 74 Cheryl Fraser <p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it.</a></p><br><p>Today, I’m telling you all about my ill-fated first marriage in my 20’s. I’m talking all about how I fell for my ex, the story behind our incredibly beautiful, big, fat Greek elopement, AND all the reasons our marriage didn’t work out!&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours.</strong> Jump on and ask me YOUR love &amp; sex questions, LIVE.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Registration coming soon!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>How my first husband and I met and got together (02:19)&nbsp;</p><p>My ex gave me an incredibly romantic spiel that brought my guard down (07:23)</p><p>Our little elopement turned into an actual BBC production (10:41)</p><p>We had a full-on Mamma Mia!-style wedding—complete with a flutist and stage design from the West End (12:00)</p><p>We battled and argued for a year and a half of marriage because we did not have the tools to grow together (14:51)</p><p>The incredibly powerful divorce ritual that my ex and I created together (17:29)</p><p>Love isn't enough. It’s a learned skill (22:09)</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (25:44)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong>How can my partner and I stop fighting constantly—over big things and little things?</strong> It can be difficult to grow together as a couple without the correct tools. To learn more about the keys to passion and my Passion Triangle, check out my <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</strong></a><strong> </strong>course<strong> </strong>and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time.</p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it. Today, I’m telling you all about my ill-fated first marriage in my 20’s. I’m talking all about how I fell for my ex, the story behind our incredibly beautiful, big, fat Greek elopement, AND all the reasons our marriage didn’t work out!  Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Jump on and ask me YOUR love & sex questions, LIVE.  Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Registration coming soon! Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How my first husband and I met and got together (02:19)  My ex gave me an incredibly romantic spiel that brought my guard down (07:23) Our little elopement turned into an actual BBC production (10:41) We had a full-on Mamma Mia!-style wedding—complete with a flutist and stage design from the West End (12:00) We battled and argued for a year and a half of marriage because we did not have the tools to grow together (14:51) The incredibly powerful divorce ritual that my ex and I created together (17:29) Love isn't enough. It’s a learned skill (22:09) This week’s LoveByte (25:44) Q&A: How can my partner and I stop fighting constantly—over big things and little things? It can be difficult to grow together as a couple without the correct tools. To learn more about the keys to passion and my Passion Triangle, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it.


Today, I’m telling you all about my ill-fated first marriage in my 20’s. I’m talking all about how I fell for my ex, the story behind our incredibly beautiful, big, fat Greek elopement, AND all the reasons our marriage didn’t work out! 


Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Jump on and ask me YOUR love & sex questions, LIVE. 


Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Registration coming soon!


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

How my first husband and I met and got together (02:19) 

My ex gave me an incredibly romantic spiel that brought my guard down (07:23)

Our little elopement turned into an actual BBC production (10:41)

We had a full-on Mamma Mia!-style wedding—complete with a flutist and stage design from the West End (12:00)

We battled and argued for a year and a half of marriage because we did not have the tools to grow together (14:51)

The incredibly powerful divorce ritual that my ex and I created together (17:29)

Love isn't enough. It’s a learned skill (22:09)

This week’s LoveByte (25:44)


Q&A:

How can my partner and I stop fighting constantly—over big things and little things? It can be difficult to grow together as a couple without the correct tools. To learn more about the keys to passion and my Passion Triangle, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1676 no Keep the Thrill Alive—Norm and Evelyn Did It for 60 Years and So Can You: Fall Into Love Chapter 1 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/keep-the-thrill-alivenorm-and-evelyn-did-it-for-60-years-and JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it. Today, I’m introducing you to my grandparents Norm and Evelyn, an incredible couple who radically changed my view of what was possible in life and in love. They’re proof that it is possible to keep the thrill, romance, respect, and passion in their relationship alive for more than six decades. I’m telling you all about their awe-inspiring relationship, the beautiful, sensual way they treated each other until the end, and the lesson I learned from them about the absolute power of true love. This October, I’m going to help you fall back into like and fall passionately, thrillingly, sexily in love with your honey. Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Wednesday October 12th @ 5:30 pm Pacific/8:30 pm Eastern HERE Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! Registration coming soon! To make sure you don’t miss ANY of these announcements and links, join the no-obligation waitlist so you will be there first to know! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Norm emigrated from Wales to Saskatchewan and immediately set his sights on Evelyn (04:41) My grandmother and grandfather had a truly extraordinary love affair (09:23) It’s a learned skill to continue to romance each other, keep the thrill alive, and make sure our sweetheart knows they’re number one (10:33) After Evelyn died, it became even more evident how in sync she was with Norm—in every way (14:22) True love has the power to transcend anything, even Alzheimer’s and death (16:16) This week’s LoveByte (21:09) Q&A: How can I keep the thrill alive with my sweetheart even after so many years together? It seems impossible! Keeping the passion, excitement and romance alive is totally possible. My Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—outlines the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 03 Oct 2022 09:00:12 -0000 Keep the Thrill Alive—Norm and Evelyn Did It for 60 Years and So Can You: Fall Into Love Chapter 1 full 73 Cheryl Fraser <p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it.</a></p><br><p>Today, I’m introducing you to my grandparents Norm and Evelyn, an incredible couple who radically changed my view of what was possible in life and in love. They’re proof that it is possible to keep the thrill, romance, respect, and passion in their relationship alive for more than six decades. I’m telling you all about their awe-inspiring relationship, the beautiful, sensual way they treated each other until the end, and the lesson I learned from them about the absolute power of true love. This October, I’m going to help you fall back into like and fall passionately, thrillingly, sexily in love with your honey.</p><br><p><strong>Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Wednesday October 12th @ 5:30 pm Pacific/8:30 pm Eastern </strong><a href="https://my.demio.com/ref/pw10CNFbAAQfRw4p" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! </strong>Registration coming soon!</p><br><p>To make sure you don’t miss ANY of these announcements and links, join the no-obligation waitlist so you will be there first to know!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>Norm emigrated from Wales to Saskatchewan and immediately set his sights on Evelyn (04:41)</p><p>My grandmother and grandfather had a truly extraordinary love affair (09:23)</p><p>It’s a learned skill to continue to romance each other, keep the thrill alive, and make sure our sweetheart knows they’re number one (10:33)</p><p>After Evelyn died, it became even more evident how in sync she was with Norm—in every way (14:22)</p><p>True love has the power to transcend anything, even Alzheimer’s and death (16:16)</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (21:09)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>How can I keep the thrill alive with my sweetheart even after so many years together? It seems impossible! Keeping the passion, excitement and romance alive is totally possible. My Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—outlines the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</a> course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time.</p><br><p>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p>Email me at <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a></p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it. Today, I’m introducing you to my grandparents Norm and Evelyn, an incredible couple who radically changed my view of what was possible in life and in love. They’re proof that it is possible to keep the thrill, romance, respect, and passion in their relationship alive for more than six decades. I’m telling you all about their awe-inspiring relationship, the beautiful, sensual way they treated each other until the end, and the lesson I learned from them about the absolute power of true love. This October, I’m going to help you fall back into like and fall passionately, thrillingly, sexily in love with your honey. Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Wednesday October 12th @ 5:30 pm Pacific/8:30 pm Eastern HERE Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! Registration coming soon! To make sure you don’t miss ANY of these announcements and links, join the no-obligation waitlist so you will be there first to know! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Norm emigrated from Wales to Saskatchewan and immediately set his sights on Evelyn (04:41) My grandmother and grandfather had a truly extraordinary love affair (09:23) It’s a learned skill to continue to romance each other, keep the thrill alive, and make sure our sweetheart knows they’re number one (10:33) After Evelyn died, it became even more evident how in sync she was with Norm—in every way (14:22) True love has the power to transcend anything, even Alzheimer’s and death (16:16) This week’s LoveByte (21:09) Q&A: How can I keep the thrill alive with my sweetheart even after so many years together? It seems impossible! Keeping the passion, excitement and romance alive is totally possible. My Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—outlines the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it.


Today, I’m introducing you to my grandparents Norm and Evelyn, an incredible couple who radically changed my view of what was possible in life and in love. They’re proof that it is possible to keep the thrill, romance, respect, and passion in their relationship alive for more than six decades. I’m telling you all about their awe-inspiring relationship, the beautiful, sensual way they treated each other until the end, and the lesson I learned from them about the absolute power of true love. This October, I’m going to help you fall back into like and fall passionately, thrillingly, sexily in love with your honey.


Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Wednesday October 12th @ 5:30 pm Pacific/8:30 pm Eastern HERE


Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! Registration coming soon!


To make sure you don’t miss ANY of these announcements and links, join the no-obligation waitlist so you will be there first to know!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Norm emigrated from Wales to Saskatchewan and immediately set his sights on Evelyn (04:41)

My grandmother and grandfather had a truly extraordinary love affair (09:23)

It’s a learned skill to continue to romance each other, keep the thrill alive, and make sure our sweetheart knows they’re number one (10:33)

After Evelyn died, it became even more evident how in sync she was with Norm—in every way (14:22)

True love has the power to transcend anything, even Alzheimer’s and death (16:16)

This week’s LoveByte (21:09)


Q&A:

How can I keep the thrill alive with my sweetheart even after so many years together? It seems impossible! Keeping the passion, excitement and romance alive is totally possible. My Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—outlines the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1415 no Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like: October Sneak Peek https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/fall-into-love-fall-into-like-october-sneak-peek This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passion Triangle—and show you exactly how you can use each element to bring back the spark with your sweetheart and take your relationship from dull to exceptional. This October, let me help you fall back into like and fall passionately, sexily, beautifully in love—or at least get a glimmer of how that may be possible for you and your honey. Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Stay tuned to hear how to sign up.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The first side of the Passion Triangle is intimacy (05:20) The second side of the Passion Triangle is thrill (07:14) The Passion Triangle is the three keys to great relationship (09:55) The third side of the Passion Triangle is sensuality (11:10) This week’s LoveByte (18:05) Q&A: How can I reignite the spark with my partner and bring back the passion that we used to have? The Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—are the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime and learn how to bring intimacy and excitement back to the bedroom and back to your relationship.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 26 Sep 2022 10:00:56 -0000 Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like: October Sneak Peek full 72 Cheryl Fraser <p>This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passion Triangle—and show you exactly how you can use each element to bring back the spark with your sweetheart and take your relationship from dull to exceptional. This October, let me help you fall back into like and fall passionately, sexily, beautifully in love—or at least get a glimmer of how that may be possible for you and your honey.</p><br><p><strong>Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! </strong>That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Stay tuned to hear how to sign up.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The first side of the Passion Triangle is intimacy (05:20)</li><li>The second side of the Passion Triangle is thrill (07:14)</li><li>The Passion Triangle is the three keys to great relationship (09:55)</li><li>The third side of the Passion Triangle is sensuality (11:10)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (18:05)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong>How can I reignite the spark with my partner and bring back the passion that we used to have? </strong><em>The Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—are the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more?</em><strong> </strong><em>Check out my </em><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong><em>and learn how to bring intimacy and excitement back to the bedroom and back to your relationship.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><p><br></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passion Triangle—and show you exactly how you can use each element to bring back the spark with your sweetheart and take your relationship from dull to exceptional. This October, let me help you fall back into like and fall passionately, sexily, beautifully in love—or at least get a glimmer of how that may be possible for you and your honey. Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Stay tuned to hear how to sign up.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The first side of the Passion Triangle is intimacy (05:20) The second side of the Passion Triangle is thrill (07:14) The Passion Triangle is the three keys to great relationship (09:55) The third side of the Passion Triangle is sensuality (11:10) This week’s LoveByte (18:05) Q&A: How can I reignite the spark with my partner and bring back the passion that we used to have? The Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—are the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime and learn how to bring intimacy and excitement back to the bedroom and back to your relationship.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passion Triangle—and show you exactly how you can use each element to bring back the spark with your sweetheart and take your relationship from dull to exceptional. This October, let me help you fall back into like and fall passionately, sexily, beautifully in love—or at least get a glimmer of how that may be possible for you and your honey.


Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Stay tuned to hear how to sign up. 

Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The first side of the Passion Triangle is intimacy (05:20)
  • The second side of the Passion Triangle is thrill (07:14)
  • The Passion Triangle is the three keys to great relationship (09:55)
  • The third side of the Passion Triangle is sensuality (11:10)
  • This week’s LoveByte (18:05)


Q&A:

How can I reignite the spark with my partner and bring back the passion that we used to have? The Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—are the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime and learn how to bring intimacy and excitement back to the bedroom and back to your relationship. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1228 no What If Your Love Problems Are All Your Fault? Summer of Love 2022 Sendoff https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/what-if-your-love-problems-are-all-your-fault-summer-of-love “Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” Today, I’m talking all about negative sentiment override. It’s a tough, sad, painful topic and so many of us have experienced it in our relationships, whether or not we knew how to put a name to it. But there is hope—as long as both partners are willing to take 100% responsibility.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. In This Episode, You Will Learn: People who are refusing to take any responsibility for the relationship problems have very little hope of long-term relationship success (04:07) If you are busy blaming your partner for their BS, you're putting the power of your relationship’s success in someone else’s hands (07:21) The minefield of negative sentiment can override your relationship (12:24) When you are in negative sentiment override, it’s hard to remember who you fell in love with (18:04) If both partners are at least a little bit willing to work on accepting responsibility, there is hope (27:35) This week’s LoveByte (28:29) Q&A: My partner calls me names and disrespects me—how can I get them to change their behavior? You need to stop blaming your partner for your relationship’s failure and take responsibility yourself. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime to learn how to stop blaming others and to start taking responsibility for your relationship issues.  People mentioned: John Gottman Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 19 Sep 2022 09:00:04 -0000 What If Your Love Problems Are All Your Fault? Summer of Love 2022 Sendoff full 71 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong><em>“Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” </em></strong>Today, I’m talking all about negative sentiment override. It’s a tough, sad, painful topic and so many of us have experienced it in our relationships, whether or not we knew how to put a name to it. But there is hope—as long as both partners are willing to take 100% responsibility.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>People who are refusing to take any responsibility for the relationship problems have very little hope of long-term relationship success (04:07)</li><li>If you are busy blaming your partner for their BS, you're putting the power of your relationship’s success in someone else’s hands (07:21)</li><li>The minefield of negative sentiment can override your relationship (12:24)</li><li>When you are in negative sentiment override, it’s hard to remember who you fell in love with (18:04)</li><li>If both partners are at least a little bit willing to work on accepting responsibility, there is hope (27:35)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (28:29)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>My partner calls me names and disrespects me—how can I get them to change their behavior? You need to stop blaming your partner for your relationship’s failure and take responsibility yourself. Check out my <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</a> to learn how to stop blaming others and to start taking responsibility for your relationship issues.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>People mentioned:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.gottman.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">John Gottman</a></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” Today, I’m talking all about negative sentiment override. It’s a tough, sad, painful topic and so many of us have experienced it in our relationships, whether or not we knew how to put a name to it. But there is hope—as long as both partners are willing to take 100% responsibility.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. In This Episode, You Will Learn: People who are refusing to take any responsibility for the relationship problems have very little hope of long-term relationship success (04:07) If you are busy blaming your partner for their BS, you're putting the power of your relationship’s success in someone else’s hands (07:21) The minefield of negative sentiment can override your relationship (12:24) When you are in negative sentiment override, it’s hard to remember who you fell in love with (18:04) If both partners are at least a little bit willing to work on accepting responsibility, there is hope (27:35) This week’s LoveByte (28:29) Q&A: My partner calls me names and disrespects me—how can I get them to change their behavior? You need to stop blaming your partner for your relationship’s failure and take responsibility yourself. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime to learn how to stop blaming others and to start taking responsibility for your relationship issues.  People mentioned: John Gottman Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” Today, I’m talking all about negative sentiment override. It’s a tough, sad, painful topic and so many of us have experienced it in our relationships, whether or not we knew how to put a name to it. But there is hope—as long as both partners are willing to take 100% responsibility. 


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • People who are refusing to take any responsibility for the relationship problems have very little hope of long-term relationship success (04:07)
  • If you are busy blaming your partner for their BS, you're putting the power of your relationship’s success in someone else’s hands (07:21)
  • The minefield of negative sentiment can override your relationship (12:24)
  • When you are in negative sentiment override, it’s hard to remember who you fell in love with (18:04)
  • If both partners are at least a little bit willing to work on accepting responsibility, there is hope (27:35)
  • This week’s LoveByte (28:29)


Q&A:

My partner calls me names and disrespects me—how can I get them to change their behavior? You need to stop blaming your partner for your relationship’s failure and take responsibility yourself. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime to learn how to stop blaming others and to start taking responsibility for your relationship issues. 


People mentioned:

John Gottman


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]]> 1903 no Love Stinks! Why? Because Great Relationships Need More Than Love https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/love-stinks-why-because-great-relationships-need-more-than-l Why are relationships so hard? Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast during my Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07) In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41) Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24) We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26) Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03) This week’s LoveByte (28:06) Q&A: How can I make my relationship easier? I love my partner, but connecting is so much work! Great relationships take hard work, they don’t just happen. Learning how to have a real connection with your sweetheart takes practice and accountability. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course to learn what it takes to build a lasting, exceptional relationship.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 12 Sep 2022 09:00:07 -0000 Love Stinks! Why? Because Great Relationships Need More Than Love full 70 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Why are relationships so hard?<em> </em></strong>Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast during my Summer of Love series?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime?</strong> Join the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist</a> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.</p><br><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07)</li><li>In my <strong>Become Passion </strong>program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41)</li><li>Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24)</li><li>We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26)</li><li>Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (28:06)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong>How can I make my relationship easier? I love my partner, but connecting is so much work!<em> </em></strong><em>Great relationships take hard work, they don’t just happen. Learning how to have a real connection with your sweetheart takes practice and accountability. Check out my </em><strong>Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime </strong><em>course to learn what it takes to build a lasting, exceptional relationship.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>hello@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Why are relationships so hard? Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast during my Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07) In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41) Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24) We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26) Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03) This week’s LoveByte (28:06) Q&A: How can I make my relationship easier? I love my partner, but connecting is so much work! Great relationships take hard work, they don’t just happen. Learning how to have a real connection with your sweetheart takes practice and accountability. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course to learn what it takes to build a lasting, exceptional relationship.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Why are relationships so hard? Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast during my Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07)
  • In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41)
  • Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24)
  • We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26)
  • Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03)
  • This week’s LoveByte (28:06)


Q&A:

How can I make my relationship easier? I love my partner, but connecting is so much work! Great relationships take hard work, they don’t just happen. Learning how to have a real connection with your sweetheart takes practice and accountability. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course to learn what it takes to build a lasting, exceptional relationship. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1823 no Treat Your Sex Life Like a Hobby: Why You Need to Start Scheduling Intimacy- Summer of Love Part 7 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/treat-your-sex-life-like-a-hobby-why-you-need-to-start-sched “Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, where I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you all summer long. Summer may be almost over, but my Q&A is just heating up. I’m telling you about my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of the average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into! Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10) The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37) We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17) The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30) Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04) This week’s LoveByte (28:45) Q&A: My sex life with my partner has become so boring. How can we bring back the spark? Stop being a lazy, complacent lover and start scheduling sex in order to reclaim your intimacy and bring back the spark. Learn more about reigniting that lost flame with my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 29 Aug 2022 09:00:02 -0000 Treat Your Sex Life Like a Hobby: Why You Need to Start Scheduling Intimacy- Summer of Love Part 7 full 68 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong><em>“Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” </em></strong>Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series, where I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you all summer long.<em> </em>Summer may be almost over, but my Q&amp;A is just heating up. I’m telling you about my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of the average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into!</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>“Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10)</li><li>The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37)</li><li>We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17)</li><li>The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30)</li><li>Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (28:45)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong>My sex life with my partner has become so boring. How can we bring back the spark?</strong><em> Stop being a lazy, complacent lover and start scheduling sex in order to reclaim your intimacy and bring back the spark. Learn more about reigniting that lost flame with my </em><strong><em>Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</em></strong><em> course.</em></p><p><em>&nbsp;</em></p><p>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, where I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you all summer long. Summer may be almost over, but my Q&A is just heating up. I’m telling you about my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of the average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into! Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10) The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37) We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17) The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30) Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04) This week’s LoveByte (28:45) Q&A: My sex life with my partner has become so boring. How can we bring back the spark? Stop being a lazy, complacent lover and start scheduling sex in order to reclaim your intimacy and bring back the spark. Learn more about reigniting that lost flame with my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.   Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, where I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you all summer long. Summer may be almost over, but my Q&A is just heating up. I’m telling you about my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of the average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into!


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10)
  • The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37)
  • We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17)
  • The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30)
  • Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04)
  • This week’s LoveByte (28:45)


Q&A:

My sex life with my partner has become so boring. How can we bring back the spark? Stop being a lazy, complacent lover and start scheduling sex in order to reclaim your intimacy and bring back the spark. Learn more about reigniting that lost flame with my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.

 

Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1865 no STOP Treating Your Mate Like a Roommate and START Bringing Sexy Back- Summer of Love Part 6 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/stop-treating-your-mate-like-a-roommate-and-start-bringing-s “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we were falling in love?” I’m back with part 6 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, answering another real question from one of my listeners. Today, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also cover why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59) The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40) Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57) The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14) This week’s LoveByte (34:30) Q&A: My relationship has lost its spark, how can I bring back our excitement and romance? One of the easiest ways to bring back the passion is to recreate the circumstances and excitement of your early relationship. Learn more about bringing the sexy back to your relationship in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 22 Aug 2022 09:00:41 -0000 STOP Treating Your Mate Like a Roommate and START Bringing Sexy Back- Summer of Love Part 6 full 67 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>“Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we were falling in love?” </em></p><br><p>I’m back with part 6 of my Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series, answering another real question from one of my listeners.<em> </em>Today, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why <em>dates </em>are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also cover why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency.</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59)</li><li>The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40)</li><li>Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57)</li><li>The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (34:30)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><em>My relationship has lost its spark, how can I bring back our excitement and romance? One of the easiest ways to bring back the passion is to recreate the circumstances and excitement of your early relationship. Learn more about bringing the sexy back to your relationship in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we were falling in love?” I’m back with part 6 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, answering another real question from one of my listeners. Today, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also cover why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59) The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40) Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57) The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14) This week’s LoveByte (34:30) Q&A: My relationship has lost its spark, how can I bring back our excitement and romance? One of the easiest ways to bring back the passion is to recreate the circumstances and excitement of your early relationship. Learn more about bringing the sexy back to your relationship in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we were falling in love?”


I’m back with part 6 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, answering another real question from one of my listeners. Today, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also cover why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency.


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59)
  • The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40)
  • Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57)
  • The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14)
  • This week’s LoveByte (34:30)


Q&A:

My relationship has lost its spark, how can I bring back our excitement and romance? One of the easiest ways to bring back the passion is to recreate the circumstances and excitement of your early relationship. Learn more about bringing the sexy back to your relationship in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2203 no NOT COMPATIBLE? Change Your Mind, Not Your Mate- Summer of Love Part 5 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/not-compatible-change-your-mind-not-your-mate-summer-of-love “Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20) Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08) You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39) Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40) If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22) This week’s LoveByte (26:31) Q&A: I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a  behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 15 Aug 2022 09:00:32 -0000 NOT COMPATIBLE? Change Your Mind, Not Your Mate- Summer of Love Part 5 full 66 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong><em>“Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” </em></strong>My Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you.<em> </em>Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it <em>is </em>possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)</li><li>Compatibility with your partner is<em> all in your head </em>(10:08)</li><li>You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)</li><li>Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)</li><li>If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (26:31)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p><strong><em>I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a&nbsp; behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/81220971" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20) Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08) You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39) Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40) If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22) This week’s LoveByte (26:31) Q&A: I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a  behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind. 


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)
  • Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08)
  • You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)
  • Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)
  • If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)
  • This week’s LoveByte (26:31)


Q&A:

I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a  behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom


Resources mentioned:

How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1731 no 50 Shades of Sex, Love, & Elephants- Summer of Love Part 4 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/50-shades-of-sex-love-elephants-summer-of-love-part-4 Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom.  “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” I’m back this week answering more of YOUR questions in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04) The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24) The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20) Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58) My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45) This week’s LoveByte (27:49) Q&A: Is it normal that my biggest sexual fantasy is to be sexually dominated? Ravishment is the most common fantasy reported by hetero women. It’s normal and healthy to act on as long as it’s between consenting adults. If you’d like to learn to embrace and embolden your fantasies, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 08 Aug 2022 09:00:13 -0000 50 Shades of Sex, Love, & Elephants- Summer of Love Part 4 full 65 Cheryl Fraser <p><em>Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong><em>“Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” </em></strong>I’m back this week answering more of YOUR questions in my Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series. Today, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from<em> that </em>popular erotic book series.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)</p><br><p>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist</a> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</p><br><p>Want to know more? Check out the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion testimonials</a> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04)</li><li>The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24)</li><li>The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20)</li><li>Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58)</li><li>My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45)</li><li><em>This week’s LoveByte (27:49)</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>Is it normal that my biggest sexual fantasy is to be sexually dominated? Ravishment is the most common fantasy reported by hetero women. It’s normal and healthy to act on as long as it’s between consenting adults. If you’d like to learn to embrace and embolden your fantasies, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/81220971" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom.  “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” I’m back this week answering more of YOUR questions in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04) The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24) The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20) Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58) My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45) This week’s LoveByte (27:49) Q&A: Is it normal that my biggest sexual fantasy is to be sexually dominated? Ravishment is the most common fantasy reported by hetero women. It’s normal and healthy to act on as long as it’s between consenting adults. If you’d like to learn to embrace and embolden your fantasies, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom. 


“Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” I’m back this week answering more of YOUR questions in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series. 


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04)
  • The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24)
  • The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20)
  • Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58)
  • My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45)
  • This week’s LoveByte (27:49)


Q&A:

  • Is it normal that my biggest sexual fantasy is to be sexually dominated? Ravishment is the most common fantasy reported by hetero women. It’s normal and healthy to act on as long as it’s between consenting adults. If you’d like to learn to embrace and embolden your fantasies, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1819 no Watch Your Mouth! Can Verbal Abuse Be Overcome? - Summer of Love Part 3 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/watch-your-mouth-can-verbal-abuse-be-overcome-summer-of-love “Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome .  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to identify verbal abuse (4:34) The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57) An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39) That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46) If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50) This week’s LoveByte (30:39) Q&A: My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, can we overcome this? It is really difficult to be able to control ourselves when we are highly emotional, so taking a time out will be the greatest help to rehabilitating the pattern in addition to becoming more skillful at speaking during these moments. If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.  Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? If your partner is unwilling to do the work and get help to address their verbally abusive tendencies, then yes, you should break up with them.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 01 Aug 2022 09:00:31 -0000 Watch Your Mouth! Can Verbal Abuse Be Overcome? - Summer of Love Part 3 full 64 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong><em>“Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” </em></strong>Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series. Today, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome .&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)</p><br><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>How to identify verbal abuse (4:34)</li><li>The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57)</li><li>An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39)</li><li>That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46)</li><li>If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (30:39)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, can we overcome this? It is really difficult to be able to control ourselves when we are highly emotional, so taking a time out will be the greatest help to rehabilitating the pattern in addition to becoming more skillful at speaking during these moments. If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? <em>If your partner is unwilling to do the work and get help to address their verbally abusive tendencies, then yes, you should break up with them.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome .  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to identify verbal abuse (4:34) The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57) An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39) That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46) If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50) This week’s LoveByte (30:39) Q&A: My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, can we overcome this? It is really difficult to be able to control ourselves when we are highly emotional, so taking a time out will be the greatest help to rehabilitating the pattern in addition to becoming more skillful at speaking during these moments. If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.  Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? If your partner is unwilling to do the work and get help to address their verbally abusive tendencies, then yes, you should break up with them.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome . 


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.


Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How to identify verbal abuse (4:34)
  • The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57)
  • An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39)
  • That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46)
  • If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50)
  • This week’s LoveByte (30:39)


Q&A:

  • My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, can we overcome this? It is really difficult to be able to control ourselves when we are highly emotional, so taking a time out will be the greatest help to rehabilitating the pattern in addition to becoming more skillful at speaking during these moments. If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. 
  • Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? If your partner is unwilling to do the work and get help to address their verbally abusive tendencies, then yes, you should break up with them. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1993 no Summer of Love - August Preview https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/summer-of-love-august-preview This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re having quality time with one another and slowing down to appreciate the beautiful Vancouver Island summer, I’ve put together some questions—asked by real couples—that you can hear me answer in upcoming episodes of my Summer of Love Series.   Click here to sign up for my weekly Lovebytes - Weekly science-based love and sex tips & techniques along with exclusive content—delivered right to your email box every Tuesday. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Some of the REAL questions from couples just like you that I’ll be answering in upcoming episodes of Sex, Love, and Elephants: My partner is addicted to porn, is there any way our relationship can recover? You talk about tantric sexuality in your book, Buddha’s Bedroom—can you tell us more about it?  My guy won't talk about the sex we're not having, can you help us? Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? Is there a way my relationship can recover from verbal abuse? Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 25 Jul 2022 09:00:25 -0000 Summer of Love - August Preview full 63 Cheryl Fraser <p>This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&amp;R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re having quality time with one another and slowing down to appreciate the beautiful Vancouver Island summer, I’ve put together some questions—asked by <strong>real </strong>couples—that you can hear me answer in upcoming episodes of my Summer of Love Series.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a><strong> to sign up for my weekly Lovebytes - Weekly science-based love and sex tips &amp; techniques along with exclusive content—delivered right to your email box every Tuesday.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Some of the REAL questions from couples<em> just like you</em> that I’ll be answering in upcoming episodes of Sex, Love, and Elephants:</strong></p><ul><li>My partner is addicted to porn, is there any way our relationship can recover?</li><li>You talk about tantric sexuality in your book, <strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong>—can you tell us more about it?&nbsp;</li><li>My guy won't talk about the sex we're not having, can you help us?</li><li>Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? Is there a way my relationship can recover from verbal abuse?</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re having quality time with one another and slowing down to appreciate the beautiful Vancouver Island summer, I’ve put together some questions—asked by real couples—that you can hear me answer in upcoming episodes of my Summer of Love Series.   Click here to sign up for my weekly Lovebytes - Weekly science-based love and sex tips & techniques along with exclusive content—delivered right to your email box every Tuesday. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Some of the REAL questions from couples just like you that I’ll be answering in upcoming episodes of Sex, Love, and Elephants: My partner is addicted to porn, is there any way our relationship can recover? You talk about tantric sexuality in your book, Buddha’s Bedroom—can you tell us more about it?  My guy won't talk about the sex we're not having, can you help us? Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? Is there a way my relationship can recover from verbal abuse? Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re having quality time with one another and slowing down to appreciate the beautiful Vancouver Island summer, I’ve put together some questions—asked by real couples—that you can hear me answer in upcoming episodes of my Summer of Love Series.  


Click here to sign up for my weekly Lovebytes - Weekly science-based love and sex tips & techniques along with exclusive content—delivered right to your email box every Tuesday.


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) 


Some of the REAL questions from couples just like you that I’ll be answering in upcoming episodes of Sex, Love, and Elephants:

  • My partner is addicted to porn, is there any way our relationship can recover?
  • You talk about tantric sexuality in your book, Buddha’s Bedroom—can you tell us more about it? 
  • My guy won't talk about the sex we're not having, can you help us?
  • Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? Is there a way my relationship can recover from verbal abuse?


Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1087 no Sometimes You’ve Gotta Rock the Boat- Summer of Love Part 2 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/sometimes-youve-gotta-rock-the-boat-summer-of-love-part-2 “My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m telling you why lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29) Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29) Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)  There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31) A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49) This week’s LoveByte (21:05) Q&A: My partner refuses to talk about difficult things and avoids all conflict. What can I do? Completely avoiding conflict to the detriment of your own happiness isn’t helpful for anyone—it is a problem if you can’t talk about the tough stuff! If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 18 Jul 2022 09:00:53 -0000 Sometimes You’ve Gotta Rock the Boat- Summer of Love Part 2 full 62 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong><em>“My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” </em></strong>Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series. Today, I’m telling you why lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late.</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Zero conflict <em>can</em> spell trouble for your relationship (04:29)</li><li><strong>Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29)</strong></li><li>Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)&nbsp;</li><li><em>There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31)</em></li><li>A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (21:05)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>My partner refuses to talk about difficult things and avoids all conflict. What can I do? Completely avoiding conflict to the detriment of your own happiness isn’t helpful for anyone—it is a problem if you can’t talk about the tough stuff! If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m telling you why lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29) Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29) Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)  There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31) A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49) This week’s LoveByte (21:05) Q&A: My partner refuses to talk about difficult things and avoids all conflict. What can I do? Completely avoiding conflict to the detriment of your own happiness isn’t helpful for anyone—it is a problem if you can’t talk about the tough stuff! If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m telling you why lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late.


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) 

Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29)
  • Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29)
  • Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02) 
  • There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31)
  • A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49)
  • This week’s LoveByte (21:05)


Q&A:

  • My partner refuses to talk about difficult things and avoids all conflict. What can I do? Completely avoiding conflict to the detriment of your own happiness isn’t helpful for anyone—it is a problem if you can’t talk about the tough stuff! If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1429 no Should I Stay or Should I Go? Summer of Love Part 1 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-summer-of-love-part-1 “If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?” Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This ten-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that …but I can help you decide (03:47) But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05) Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03) Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53) So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04) This week’s LoveByte (33:58) Q&A: Is it time for me to leave my relationship? As long as your partner is still willing to play ball, it is really a decision between the two of you. But chances are you need some help to work through the problems…my couples program is designed to give you the tools you need.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 11 Jul 2022 09:00:55 -0000 Should I Stay or Should I Go? Summer of Love Part 1 full 61 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong><em>“If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” </em></strong>Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&amp;A series with one of my number one most asked questions:<em> “How do I know when it’s time to leave?”</em> Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples<em> just like you</em>.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer?</strong> Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion waitlist</strong></a><strong> and hear more about the program! This ten-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.</strong></p><p><strong>Want to know more? Check out the </strong><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Become Passion testimonials</strong></a><strong> for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.</strong></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that …but I can help you decide (03:47)</li><li>But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05)</li><li>Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03)</li><li>Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53)</li><li><em>So</em> much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (33:58)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>Is it time for me to leave my relationship? As long as your partner is still willing to play ball, it is really a decision between the two of you. But chances are you need some help to work through the problems…my couples program is designed to give you the tools you need.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddha’s Bedroom</strong></a><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?” Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This ten-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that …but I can help you decide (03:47) But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05) Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03) Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53) So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04) This week’s LoveByte (33:58) Q&A: Is it time for me to leave my relationship? As long as your partner is still willing to play ball, it is really a decision between the two of you. But chances are you need some help to work through the problems…my couples program is designed to give you the tools you need.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?” Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. 


Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) 

Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This ten-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.

Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that …but I can help you decide (03:47)
  • But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05)
  • Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03)
  • Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53)
  • So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04)
  • This week’s LoveByte (33:58)


Q&A:

  • Is it time for me to leave my relationship? As long as your partner is still willing to play ball, it is really a decision between the two of you. But chances are you need some help to work through the problems…my couples program is designed to give you the tools you need. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2226 no Introducing The New “Summer of Love” series - Ask me YOUR Love & Sex Questions! https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/introducing-the-new-summer-of-love-series-ask-me-your-love-s Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Summer lovin’ had us a blast… or maybe you are overwhelmed with relationship anxiety, communication problems, and questioning whether or not you should break up with your partner. If this sounds more like your situation, then I would love to help you. For the rest of summer, I will be answering listener questions about challenging romantic situations on the podcast in a Summer of Love Series.  Today, I am talking about a recent disagreement with my sweetheart that had me spiraling into relationship doom. You will hear about the specific situation that led me to spin a story out of nothing. Do you ever do that? I know that you do… I talk about HOW to work through these feelings when they happen to you. And…drumroll, please…I introduce the upcoming, Summer of Love Series - based entirely on YOUR burning relationship issues. Don’t forget to send your questions to me via email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” so I can answer them.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: What you need to do for me to answer YOUR Love and Sex questions (3:15) About a recent fight I had with my sweetheart …and what we did about it (5:10) How I spun the story of relationship doom into a bigger deal than it was (12:15) What to expect for the Summer of Love Series (15:16) This week’s LoveByte (18:00) Q&A: How can I stop spiraling when my partner frustrates me? Learn how to accommodate your differing styles through humor, acceptance, and clear communication. And CHANGE THE STORY  How can I submit a love, relationship, or sex question for the Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”. Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or you’d like to remain anonymous Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 04 Jul 2022 09:00:19 -0000 Introducing The New “Summer of Love” series - Ask me YOUR Love & Sex Questions! full 60 Cheryl Fraser <p>Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with the subject line “Podcast Question”</p><p>Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)&nbsp;</p><br><p>Summer lovin’ had us a blast… or maybe you are overwhelmed with relationship anxiety, communication problems, and questioning whether or not you should break up with your partner. If this sounds more like your situation, then I would love to help you. For the rest of summer, I will be answering listener questions about challenging romantic situations on the podcast in a Summer of Love Series.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I am talking about a recent disagreement with my sweetheart that had me spiraling into relationship doom. You will hear about the specific situation that led me to spin a story out of nothing. Do you ever do that? I know that you do… I talk about HOW to work through these feelings when they happen to you. And…drumroll, please…I introduce the upcoming, Summer of Love Series - based entirely on YOUR burning relationship issues.</p><br><p>Don’t forget to send your questions to me via email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” so I can answer them.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>What you need to do for me to answer YOUR Love and Sex questions (3:15)</li><li>About a recent fight I had with my sweetheart …and what we did about it (5:10)</li><li>How I spun the story of relationship doom into a bigger deal than it was (12:15)</li><li>What to expect for the Summer of Love Series (15:16)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (18:00)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can I stop spiraling when my partner frustrates me? Learn how to accommodate your differing styles through humor, acceptance, and clear communication. And CHANGE THE STORY&nbsp;</li><li>How can I submit a love, relationship, or sex question for the Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”. Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or you’d like to remain anonymous</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist&nbsp;</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Summer lovin’ had us a blast… or maybe you are overwhelmed with relationship anxiety, communication problems, and questioning whether or not you should break up with your partner. If this sounds more like your situation, then I would love to help you. For the rest of summer, I will be answering listener questions about challenging romantic situations on the podcast in a Summer of Love Series.  Today, I am talking about a recent disagreement with my sweetheart that had me spiraling into relationship doom. You will hear about the specific situation that led me to spin a story out of nothing. Do you ever do that? I know that you do… I talk about HOW to work through these feelings when they happen to you. And…drumroll, please…I introduce the upcoming, Summer of Love Series - based entirely on YOUR burning relationship issues. Don’t forget to send your questions to me via email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” so I can answer them.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: What you need to do for me to answer YOUR Love and Sex questions (3:15) About a recent fight I had with my sweetheart …and what we did about it (5:10) How I spun the story of relationship doom into a bigger deal than it was (12:15) What to expect for the Summer of Love Series (15:16) This week’s LoveByte (18:00) Q&A: How can I stop spiraling when my partner frustrates me? Learn how to accommodate your differing styles through humor, acceptance, and clear communication. And CHANGE THE STORY  How can I submit a love, relationship, or sex question for the Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”. Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or you’d like to remain anonymous Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”

Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :) 


Summer lovin’ had us a blast… or maybe you are overwhelmed with relationship anxiety, communication problems, and questioning whether or not you should break up with your partner. If this sounds more like your situation, then I would love to help you. For the rest of summer, I will be answering listener questions about challenging romantic situations on the podcast in a Summer of Love Series. 


Today, I am talking about a recent disagreement with my sweetheart that had me spiraling into relationship doom. You will hear about the specific situation that led me to spin a story out of nothing. Do you ever do that? I know that you do… I talk about HOW to work through these feelings when they happen to you. And…drumroll, please…I introduce the upcoming, Summer of Love Series - based entirely on YOUR burning relationship issues.


Don’t forget to send your questions to me via email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” so I can answer them. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What you need to do for me to answer YOUR Love and Sex questions (3:15)
  • About a recent fight I had with my sweetheart …and what we did about it (5:10)
  • How I spun the story of relationship doom into a bigger deal than it was (12:15)
  • What to expect for the Summer of Love Series (15:16)
  • This week’s LoveByte (18:00)


Q&A:

  • How can I stop spiraling when my partner frustrates me? Learn how to accommodate your differing styles through humor, acceptance, and clear communication. And CHANGE THE STORY 
  • How can I submit a love, relationship, or sex question for the Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”. Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or you’d like to remain anonymous


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Resources mentioned:


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1209 no How to Stop the Three Poisonous Emotions RUINING Your Life https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/how-to-stop-the-three-poisonous-emotions-ruining-your-life What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and others, the more self-awareness we will gain and our understanding of how to shift our mindset.  You may think that the situations that make us feel negative emotions on a smaller scale are completely different from the bigger situations. Just because the negative emotions may not last as long, the root emotion is often the same. We will never be able to control the external situations or circumstances that may spark us to feel negative emotions, but we ARE able to control the action we take when these emotions come up.  Today, I am talking about the three root negative emotions from the Buddhist perspective.  You will learn what the three poisonous emotions are that are ruining your life and the intentional ways you can reframe your mind and apply the antidotes for these emotions. If you’re interested in watching this episode instead of listening, you can check out the video here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: About the three root poisonous emotions (4:37) How the Greedy Demon shows up in our lives and relationships (11:43) Why our lives are full of thinking either “I want this” or “I don’t want that” (20:10) To stop trying to control and micromanage external circumstances (31:07) This week’s LoveByte (47:05) Q&A: What are the three root poisonous emotions? In English, the three root poisonous emotions that Buddha Dharma describes are greed, anger, and confusion.  How can I stop feeling negative emotions? The antidotes for the three root poisonous emotions are love, generosity, and clear seeing.  How can I stop feeling irritable? Meditation! Close your eyes, imagine that there are gray clouds covering the sun, and slowly dissolve the clouds to uncover the warmth and brightness of the sun. Many times when we are annoyed or irritable, we just need a reminder that it is in our control to stop feeling that way.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 20 Jun 2022 09:00:51 -0000 How to Stop the Three Poisonous Emotions RUINING Your Life full 58 Cheryl Fraser <p>What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and others, the more self-awareness we will gain and our understanding of how to shift our mindset.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>You may think that</strong> the situations that make us feel negative emotions on a smaller scale are completely different from the bigger situations. Just because the negative emotions may not last as long, the root emotion is often the same. We will never be able to control the external situations or circumstances that may spark us to feel negative emotions, but we ARE able to control the action we take when these emotions come up.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong><em>,</em> I am talking about the three root negative emotions from the Buddhist perspective.&nbsp; You will learn what the three poisonous emotions are that are ruining your life and the intentional ways you can reframe your mind and apply the antidotes for these emotions. If you’re interested in watching this episode instead of listening, <a href="https://youtu.be/HxVct8Tvmx0" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">you can check out the video here.&nbsp;</a></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>About the three root poisonous emotions (4:37)</li><li>How the Greedy Demon shows up in our lives and relationships (11:43)</li><li>Why our lives are full of thinking either “I want this” or “I don’t want that” (20:10)</li><li>To stop trying to control and micromanage external circumstances (31:07)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (47:05)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>What are the three root poisonous emotions? In English, the three root poisonous emotions that Buddha Dharma describes are greed, anger, and confusion.&nbsp;</li><li>How can I stop feeling negative emotions? The antidotes for the three root poisonous emotions are love, generosity, and clear seeing.&nbsp;</li><li>How can I stop feeling irritable? Meditation! Close your eyes, imagine that there are gray clouds covering the sun, and slowly dissolve the clouds to uncover the warmth and brightness of the sun. Many times when we are annoyed or irritable, we just need a reminder that it is in our control to stop feeling that way.&nbsp;</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist&nbsp;</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and others, the more self-awareness we will gain and our understanding of how to shift our mindset.  You may think that the situations that make us feel negative emotions on a smaller scale are completely different from the bigger situations. Just because the negative emotions may not last as long, the root emotion is often the same. We will never be able to control the external situations or circumstances that may spark us to feel negative emotions, but we ARE able to control the action we take when these emotions come up.  Today, I am talking about the three root negative emotions from the Buddhist perspective.  You will learn what the three poisonous emotions are that are ruining your life and the intentional ways you can reframe your mind and apply the antidotes for these emotions. If you’re interested in watching this episode instead of listening, you can check out the video here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: About the three root poisonous emotions (4:37) How the Greedy Demon shows up in our lives and relationships (11:43) Why our lives are full of thinking either “I want this” or “I don’t want that” (20:10) To stop trying to control and micromanage external circumstances (31:07) This week’s LoveByte (47:05) Q&A: What are the three root poisonous emotions? In English, the three root poisonous emotions that Buddha Dharma describes are greed, anger, and confusion.  How can I stop feeling negative emotions? The antidotes for the three root poisonous emotions are love, generosity, and clear seeing.  How can I stop feeling irritable? Meditation! Close your eyes, imagine that there are gray clouds covering the sun, and slowly dissolve the clouds to uncover the warmth and brightness of the sun. Many times when we are annoyed or irritable, we just need a reminder that it is in our control to stop feeling that way.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and others, the more self-awareness we will gain and our understanding of how to shift our mindset. 


You may think that the situations that make us feel negative emotions on a smaller scale are completely different from the bigger situations. Just because the negative emotions may not last as long, the root emotion is often the same. We will never be able to control the external situations or circumstances that may spark us to feel negative emotions, but we ARE able to control the action we take when these emotions come up. 


Today, I am talking about the three root negative emotions from the Buddhist perspective.  You will learn what the three poisonous emotions are that are ruining your life and the intentional ways you can reframe your mind and apply the antidotes for these emotions. If you’re interested in watching this episode instead of listening, you can check out the video here. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About the three root poisonous emotions (4:37)
  • How the Greedy Demon shows up in our lives and relationships (11:43)
  • Why our lives are full of thinking either “I want this” or “I don’t want that” (20:10)
  • To stop trying to control and micromanage external circumstances (31:07)
  • This week’s LoveByte (47:05)


Q&A:

  • What are the three root poisonous emotions? In English, the three root poisonous emotions that Buddha Dharma describes are greed, anger, and confusion. 
  • How can I stop feeling negative emotions? The antidotes for the three root poisonous emotions are love, generosity, and clear seeing. 
  • How can I stop feeling irritable? Meditation! Close your eyes, imagine that there are gray clouds covering the sun, and slowly dissolve the clouds to uncover the warmth and brightness of the sun. Many times when we are annoyed or irritable, we just need a reminder that it is in our control to stop feeling that way. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


Resources mentioned:


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2958 no Couples on the Couch - Stop Keeping Score, Start Loving What Is https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/couples-on-the-couch-stop-keeping-score-start-loving-what-is Do negative thoughts such as, “I’m so tired from a long day of work” or “I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands” creep into your mind daily? We often complain about our life. But hey - we did CHOOSE the life we are living. If you want to be happy, remember to focus on the positive. As humans, we love to create stories. I’m not talking about any sort of creative storytelling, I’m talking about the stories that we make up in our heads that make us feel bad about ourselves and the current state of our life. When we believe these stories, we are living in a victim mindset, holding ourselves back from happiness and gratitude.  Today, I am talking about how you can reframe your mindset to escape thinking like a victim and open your eyes to the blessings from the life you have chosen to live. I talk about a pivotal reframing moment I had with a couple I work with, why we tell ourselves stories that make us feel bad, and how to flip your thoughts to be more grateful. If you’re interested in watching instead of listening, you can check out the video here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A story about how couples “scorekeep” (3:30) How to reframe the story that we tell ourselves (9:28) Why we love to create stories through our experiences and interpretations (22:16) A profound reminder about rewriting our story (29:42) This week’s LoveByte (32:33) Q&A: How can I practice gratitude? Instead of thinking about how tired, overwhelmed, or stressed you are, reframe your mindset to identify the blessings in your life that you have CHOSEN.  How do I stop thinking with a victim mindset? Turn “I have to” into “I get to” and you will feel the difference!  Why do we believe the stories that we tell ourselves? Humans are story-making machines. We take our experiences and interpret them by building a story around our limited context and fear. Just as quickly as we can convince ourselves that certain negative thoughts are true, we can also rewrite the story to give ourselves grace, love, support, and clarity on what is true and what is not.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 13 Jun 2022 09:00:23 -0000 Couples on the Couch - Stop Keeping Score, Start Loving What Is full 57 Cheryl Fraser <p>Do negative thoughts such as, “<em>I’m so tired from a long day of work</em>” or “<em>I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands</em>” creep into your mind daily? We often complain about our life. But hey - we did CHOOSE the life we are living. If you want to be happy, remember to focus on the positive.</p><br><p><strong>As humans, </strong>we love to create stories. I’m not talking about any sort of creative storytelling, I’m talking about the stories that we make up in our heads that make us feel bad about ourselves and the current state of our life. When we believe these stories, we are living in a victim mindset, holding ourselves back from happiness and gratitude.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong><em>,</em> I am talking about how you can reframe your mindset to escape thinking like a victim and open your eyes to the blessings from the life you have chosen to live. I talk about a pivotal reframing moment I had with a couple I work with, why we tell ourselves stories that make us feel bad, and how to flip your thoughts to be more grateful. If you’re interested in watching instead of listening, <a href="https://youtu.be/ZMCDCxaOo5U" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">you can check out the video here.&nbsp;</a></p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>A story about how couples “scorekeep” (3:30)</li><li>How to reframe the story that we tell ourselves (9:28)</li><li>Why we love to create stories through our experiences and interpretations (22:16)</li><li>A profound reminder about rewriting our story (29:42)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (32:33)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>How can I practice gratitude? <em>Instead of thinking about how tired, overwhelmed, or stressed you are, reframe your mindset to identify the blessings in your life that you have CHOSEN.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>How do I stop thinking with a victim mindset? <em>Turn “I have to” into “I get to” and you will feel the difference!&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>Why do we believe the stories that we tell ourselves? <em>Humans are story-making machines. We take our experiences and interpret them by building a story around our limited context and fear. Just as quickly as we can convince ourselves that certain negative thoughts are true, we can also rewrite the story to give ourselves grace, love, support, and clarity on what is true and what is not.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><p><br></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Do negative thoughts such as, “I’m so tired from a long day of work” or “I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands” creep into your mind daily? We often complain about our life. But hey - we did CHOOSE the life we are living. If you want to be happy, remember to focus on the positive. As humans, we love to create stories. I’m not talking about any sort of creative storytelling, I’m talking about the stories that we make up in our heads that make us feel bad about ourselves and the current state of our life. When we believe these stories, we are living in a victim mindset, holding ourselves back from happiness and gratitude.  Today, I am talking about how you can reframe your mindset to escape thinking like a victim and open your eyes to the blessings from the life you have chosen to live. I talk about a pivotal reframing moment I had with a couple I work with, why we tell ourselves stories that make us feel bad, and how to flip your thoughts to be more grateful. If you’re interested in watching instead of listening, you can check out the video here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A story about how couples “scorekeep” (3:30) How to reframe the story that we tell ourselves (9:28) Why we love to create stories through our experiences and interpretations (22:16) A profound reminder about rewriting our story (29:42) This week’s LoveByte (32:33) Q&A: How can I practice gratitude? Instead of thinking about how tired, overwhelmed, or stressed you are, reframe your mindset to identify the blessings in your life that you have CHOSEN.  How do I stop thinking with a victim mindset? Turn “I have to” into “I get to” and you will feel the difference!  Why do we believe the stories that we tell ourselves? Humans are story-making machines. We take our experiences and interpret them by building a story around our limited context and fear. Just as quickly as we can convince ourselves that certain negative thoughts are true, we can also rewrite the story to give ourselves grace, love, support, and clarity on what is true and what is not.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Do negative thoughts such as, “I’m so tired from a long day of work” or “I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands” creep into your mind daily? We often complain about our life. But hey - we did CHOOSE the life we are living. If you want to be happy, remember to focus on the positive.


As humans, we love to create stories. I’m not talking about any sort of creative storytelling, I’m talking about the stories that we make up in our heads that make us feel bad about ourselves and the current state of our life. When we believe these stories, we are living in a victim mindset, holding ourselves back from happiness and gratitude. 


Today, I am talking about how you can reframe your mindset to escape thinking like a victim and open your eyes to the blessings from the life you have chosen to live. I talk about a pivotal reframing moment I had with a couple I work with, why we tell ourselves stories that make us feel bad, and how to flip your thoughts to be more grateful. If you’re interested in watching instead of listening, you can check out the video here. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • A story about how couples “scorekeep” (3:30)
  • How to reframe the story that we tell ourselves (9:28)
  • Why we love to create stories through our experiences and interpretations (22:16)
  • A profound reminder about rewriting our story (29:42)
  • This week’s LoveByte (32:33)


Q&A:

  • How can I practice gratitude? Instead of thinking about how tired, overwhelmed, or stressed you are, reframe your mindset to identify the blessings in your life that you have CHOSEN. 
  • How do I stop thinking with a victim mindset? Turn “I have to” into “I get to” and you will feel the difference! 
  • Why do we believe the stories that we tell ourselves? Humans are story-making machines. We take our experiences and interpret them by building a story around our limited context and fear. Just as quickly as we can convince ourselves that certain negative thoughts are true, we can also rewrite the story to give ourselves grace, love, support, and clarity on what is true and what is not. 


Resources mentioned:


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2082 no Battling & Befriending Your Doubt Demons https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/battling-befriending-your-doubt-demons What are the common thoughts of doubt that come up when you think about your romantic partner? All of us have a “Doubt Demon” in our head that likes to spread poisonous thoughts about our partner. These thoughts can cause us to pick fights and end a great relationship, just because our Doubt Demon got the best of us.  Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t address the legitimate concerns you have with your partner. It is so important to communicate whenever their behavior, patterns, choices, and so on, are negatively impacting your relationship. So while some of your doubts may be valid, our Doubt Demons are fear and control based.   Today, I am talking about how to battle and befriend the Doubt Demon that makes you think negatively about your romantic partner. I share how you can recognize your Doubt Demon when it shows up in your thought patterns, why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong, ways to combat these doubtful thoughts, and more. It’s time to stop letting these thoughts build up in your head and instead understand why they show up and how you can reframe them to look at the positive! In This Episode, You Will Learn: What a “Doubt Demon” is and examples of thoughts it creates (2:52) Why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong (6:17) How to combat your thoughts by befriending your Doubt Demon (13:23) This week’s LoveByte (18:44) Q&A: Why do we tend to look for what is wrong? It’s human nature! If our cavemen ancestors didn’t look for what could go wrong and try to prevent it, then we wouldn’t be here today.  Why are we more doubtful about our love relationships than others? We are often our most vulnerable selves in our romantic relationships, leading us to creating a strong bond with one another, and in turn, making us feel like the stakes are higher.  What can I do to stop my doubtful thoughts about my relationship? Don’t try to kill your Doubt Demon but instead catch it! The more you can identify the doubtful thinking patterns in your mind the more you’ll be able to recognize what triggers your thoughts so you can stop them in their tracks.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 06 Jun 2022 09:00:22 -0000 Battling & Befriending Your Doubt Demons full 56 Cheryl Fraser <p>What are the common thoughts of doubt that come up when you think about your romantic partner? All of us have a “Doubt Demon” in our head that likes to spread poisonous thoughts about our partner. These thoughts can cause us to pick fights and end a great relationship, just because our Doubt Demon got the best of us.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Don’t get me wrong, </strong>this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t address the legitimate concerns you have with your partner. It is so important to communicate whenever their behavior, patterns, choices, and so on, are negatively impacting your relationship. So while some of your doubts may be valid, our Doubt Demons are fear and control based.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong><em>,</em> I am talking about how to battle and befriend the Doubt Demon that makes you think negatively about your romantic partner. I share how you can recognize your Doubt Demon when it shows up in your thought patterns, why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong, ways to combat these doubtful thoughts, and more. It’s time to stop letting these thoughts build up in your head and instead understand why they show up and how you can reframe them to look at the positive!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>What a “Doubt Demon” is and examples of thoughts it creates (2:52)</li><li>Why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong (6:17)</li><li>How to combat your thoughts by befriending your Doubt Demon (13:23)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (18:44)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Why do we tend to look for what is wrong? <em>It’s human nature! If our cavemen ancestors didn’t look for what could go wrong and try to prevent it, then we wouldn’t be here today.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>Why are we more doubtful about our love relationships than others? <em>We are often our most vulnerable selves in our romantic relationships, leading us to creating a strong bond with one another, and in turn, making us feel like the stakes are higher.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>What can I do to stop my doubtful thoughts about my relationship? <em>Don’t try to kill your Doubt Demon but instead catch it! The more you can identify the doubtful thinking patterns in your mind the more you’ll be able to recognize what triggers your thoughts so you can stop them in their tracks.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist&nbsp;</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What are the common thoughts of doubt that come up when you think about your romantic partner? All of us have a “Doubt Demon” in our head that likes to spread poisonous thoughts about our partner. These thoughts can cause us to pick fights and end a great relationship, just because our Doubt Demon got the best of us.  Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t address the legitimate concerns you have with your partner. It is so important to communicate whenever their behavior, patterns, choices, and so on, are negatively impacting your relationship. So while some of your doubts may be valid, our Doubt Demons are fear and control based.   Today, I am talking about how to battle and befriend the Doubt Demon that makes you think negatively about your romantic partner. I share how you can recognize your Doubt Demon when it shows up in your thought patterns, why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong, ways to combat these doubtful thoughts, and more. It’s time to stop letting these thoughts build up in your head and instead understand why they show up and how you can reframe them to look at the positive! In This Episode, You Will Learn: What a “Doubt Demon” is and examples of thoughts it creates (2:52) Why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong (6:17) How to combat your thoughts by befriending your Doubt Demon (13:23) This week’s LoveByte (18:44) Q&A: Why do we tend to look for what is wrong? It’s human nature! If our cavemen ancestors didn’t look for what could go wrong and try to prevent it, then we wouldn’t be here today.  Why are we more doubtful about our love relationships than others? We are often our most vulnerable selves in our romantic relationships, leading us to creating a strong bond with one another, and in turn, making us feel like the stakes are higher.  What can I do to stop my doubtful thoughts about my relationship? Don’t try to kill your Doubt Demon but instead catch it! The more you can identify the doubtful thinking patterns in your mind the more you’ll be able to recognize what triggers your thoughts so you can stop them in their tracks.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What are the common thoughts of doubt that come up when you think about your romantic partner? All of us have a “Doubt Demon” in our head that likes to spread poisonous thoughts about our partner. These thoughts can cause us to pick fights and end a great relationship, just because our Doubt Demon got the best of us. 


Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t address the legitimate concerns you have with your partner. It is so important to communicate whenever their behavior, patterns, choices, and so on, are negatively impacting your relationship. So while some of your doubts may be valid, our Doubt Demons are fear and control based.  


Today, I am talking about how to battle and befriend the Doubt Demon that makes you think negatively about your romantic partner. I share how you can recognize your Doubt Demon when it shows up in your thought patterns, why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong, ways to combat these doubtful thoughts, and more. It’s time to stop letting these thoughts build up in your head and instead understand why they show up and how you can reframe them to look at the positive!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What a “Doubt Demon” is and examples of thoughts it creates (2:52)
  • Why it’s human nature to look for what is wrong (6:17)
  • How to combat your thoughts by befriending your Doubt Demon (13:23)
  • This week’s LoveByte (18:44)


Q&A:

  • Why do we tend to look for what is wrong? It’s human nature! If our cavemen ancestors didn’t look for what could go wrong and try to prevent it, then we wouldn’t be here today. 
  • Why are we more doubtful about our love relationships than others? We are often our most vulnerable selves in our romantic relationships, leading us to creating a strong bond with one another, and in turn, making us feel like the stakes are higher. 
  • What can I do to stop my doubtful thoughts about my relationship? Don’t try to kill your Doubt Demon but instead catch it! The more you can identify the doubtful thinking patterns in your mind the more you’ll be able to recognize what triggers your thoughts so you can stop them in their tracks. 


Resources mentioned:


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1258 no The Sex You’re Not Having https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-sex-youre-not-having If you are in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it is time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.  You may think, but isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older and have been together for a long time? This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It is possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter what age you and your partner are.  Today, I am talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship. If you are interested in joining the next course of Become Passion, you can join the waitlist here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics & myths associated (5:16) The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:01) An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:26) It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (22:37) This week’s LoveByte (26:18) Q&A: When can I consider I am in a sexless marriage? When you're having sex less than 6 times a year.  How do I tell my partner that I want to have more sex? Don’t overwhelm them, blame them, or approach the conversation with anger. Be brave for both of you by acknowledging the lack of sex and opening up the conversation. You need to have the conversation about the sex you are not having.  Why do couples stop having sex as they get older? This is a MYTH. Not all couples stop having sex as they get older. If you have stopped having sex as you have gotten older, don’t lose hope. With commitment and time, you can sexually reconnect with your partner.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 30 May 2022 09:00:34 -0000 The Sex You’re Not Having full 55 Cheryl Fraser <p>If you are in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it is time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.&nbsp;</p><br><p>You may think, but isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older and have been together for a long time? This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It is possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter what age you and your partner are.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I am talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship. If you are interested in joining the next course of Become Passion, <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">you can join the waitlist here</a>.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics &amp; myths associated (5:16)</li><li>The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:01)</li><li>An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:26)</li><li>It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (22:37)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (26:18)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>When can I consider I am in a sexless marriage? <em>When you're having sex less than 6 times a year.&nbsp;</em></li><li>How do I tell my partner that I want to have more sex? <em>Don’t overwhelm them, blame them, or approach the conversation with anger. Be brave for both of you by acknowledging the lack of sex and opening up the conversation. You need to have the conversation about the sex you are not having.&nbsp;</em></li><li>Why do couples stop having sex as they get older? <em>This is a MYTH. Not all couples stop having sex as they get older. If you have stopped having sex as you have gotten older, don’t lose hope. With commitment and time, you can sexually reconnect with your partner.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist&nbsp;</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> If you are in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it is time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.  You may think, but isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older and have been together for a long time? This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It is possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter what age you and your partner are.  Today, I am talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship. If you are interested in joining the next course of Become Passion, you can join the waitlist here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics & myths associated (5:16) The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:01) An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:26) It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (22:37) This week’s LoveByte (26:18) Q&A: When can I consider I am in a sexless marriage? When you're having sex less than 6 times a year.  How do I tell my partner that I want to have more sex? Don’t overwhelm them, blame them, or approach the conversation with anger. Be brave for both of you by acknowledging the lack of sex and opening up the conversation. You need to have the conversation about the sex you are not having.  Why do couples stop having sex as they get older? This is a MYTH. Not all couples stop having sex as they get older. If you have stopped having sex as you have gotten older, don’t lose hope. With commitment and time, you can sexually reconnect with your partner.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. If you are in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it is time to start talking about the sex you’re not having. 


You may think, but isn’t it normal for couples to stop having sex as they get older and have been together for a long time? This is a HUGE myth that too many couples have normalized in order to avoid addressing the lack of sex in their partnership. It is possible to return to the sexual beings you were at the beginning of your relationship, no matter what age you and your partner are. 


Today, I am talking about what a sexless marriage is and how to begin talking about the sex you’re not having with your partner. I share stories and lessons learned from the couples in my Become Passion course, in which part of what I help them with is reigniting the sexual aspect of their relationship. If you are interested in joining the next course of Become Passion, you can join the waitlist here. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What defines a sexless marriage and the statistics & myths associated (5:16)
  • The first step for addressing ANY problem - not just lack of sex (10:01)
  • An example of how to acknowledge the lack of sex with your partner (11:26)
  • It takes time and commitment to go from sexless to sexual (22:37)
  • This week’s LoveByte (26:18)


Q&A:

  • When can I consider I am in a sexless marriage? When you're having sex less than 6 times a year. 
  • How do I tell my partner that I want to have more sex? Don’t overwhelm them, blame them, or approach the conversation with anger. Be brave for both of you by acknowledging the lack of sex and opening up the conversation. You need to have the conversation about the sex you are not having. 
  • Why do couples stop having sex as they get older? This is a MYTH. Not all couples stop having sex as they get older. If you have stopped having sex as you have gotten older, don’t lose hope. With commitment and time, you can sexually reconnect with your partner. 


Resources mentioned:


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1724 no It IS Possible to Be Happy For No Reason…Even When Your Dog Is Dying https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/it-is-possible-to-be-happy-for-no-reasoneven-when-your-dog-i Have you ever looked at someone who exudes happiness despite all they have gone through and wondered, how can I be like that? Or, that has to be a facade? Spoiler alert: it IS possible to always be in a state of grace, even happiness - no matter what is going on in your life.  Now wait. I’m not saying that the difficulties and hardships you go through in life aren’t a valid cause for sad or difficult emotions. What I am saying is, we control the impact that external factors have on our happiness. Whether that is losing a loved one or getting a promotion, if we depend on events that are outside of our control to bring us happiness, we are playing a losing game.  But this is GREAT news. It’s liberating to discover that our minds are 100% in control of our happiness. So happiness is an inside job. Today, I am talking about how we can all be happy for no reason…yes, that means you too. Throughout this episode, I share my thoughts on happiness from two main sources: science and Buddhist psychology. I talk about a personal experience with my best friend (she has 4 legs) that is currently reminding me that happiness is a choice, how to stop depending on external factors for happiness, questions to ask yourself, and more. When you choose to be happy in your mind, you will find happiness. Enjoy! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why nothing can ruin your happiness but you (03:38) My dying dog and how that is currently challenging me to choose happiness, not grief (05:23) To stop depending on external factors to bring you happiness (10:10) To become curious about what is currently bothering you (17:55) This week’s LoveByte (22:32) Q&A: How can I be happy despite loss? Life is special because it is not guaranteed. Remember that we are all destined to die and although it is sad when we lose someone, that sadness does not need to define our happiness. These emotions are not mutually exclusive.  What can make me happy? Choosing happiness is how you can be genuinely happy amidst events outside of your control. Depending on other people, things, and events to be the source of your happiness will only result in a temporary high followed by a depressive crash.  Is it possible to be happy for no reason? YES! It is possible to be happy for no reason when you understand that happiness only comes when you are happy in your mind. Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 23 May 2022 09:00:01 -0000 It IS Possible to Be Happy For No Reason…Even When Your Dog Is Dying full 54 Cheryl Fraser <p>Have you ever looked at someone who exudes happiness despite all they have gone through and wondered, <em>how can I be like that</em>? Or, <em>that has to be a facade</em>? Spoiler alert: it IS possible to always be in a state of grace, even happiness - no matter what is going on in your life.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Now wait. I’m not saying that the difficulties and hardships you go through in life aren’t a valid cause for sad or difficult emotions. What I am saying is, <em>we control the impact that external factors have on our happiness.</em> Whether that is losing a loved one or getting a promotion, if we depend on events that are outside of our control to bring us happiness, we are playing a losing game.&nbsp;</p><br><p>But this is GREAT news. It’s liberating to discover that our minds are 100% in control of our happiness. So happiness is an inside job.</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong><em>,</em> I am talking about how we can all be happy for no reason…yes, that means you too. Throughout this episode, I share my thoughts on happiness from two main sources: science and Buddhist psychology. I talk about a personal experience with my best friend (she has 4 legs) that is currently reminding me that happiness is a choice, how to stop depending on external factors for happiness, questions to ask yourself, and more. When you choose to be happy in your mind, you will find happiness. Enjoy!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Why nothing can ruin your happiness but you (03:38)</li><li>My dying dog and how that is currently challenging me to choose happiness, not grief (05:23)</li><li>To stop depending on external factors to bring you happiness (10:10)</li><li>To become curious about what is currently bothering you (17:55)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (22:32)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can I be happy despite loss? <em>Life is special because it is not guaranteed. Remember that we are all destined to die and although it is sad when we lose someone, that sadness does not need to define our happiness. These emotions are not mutually exclusive.&nbsp;</em></li><li>What can make me happy? <em>Choosing happiness is how you can be genuinely happy amidst events outside of your control. Depending on other people, things, and events to be the source of your happiness will only result in a temporary high followed by a depressive crash.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>Is it possible to be happy for no reason? YES! It is possible to be happy for no reason when you understand that happiness only comes when you are happy in your mind.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Have you ever looked at someone who exudes happiness despite all they have gone through and wondered, how can I be like that? Or, that has to be a facade? Spoiler alert: it IS possible to always be in a state of grace, even happiness - no matter what is going on in your life.  Now wait. I’m not saying that the difficulties and hardships you go through in life aren’t a valid cause for sad or difficult emotions. What I am saying is, we control the impact that external factors have on our happiness. Whether that is losing a loved one or getting a promotion, if we depend on events that are outside of our control to bring us happiness, we are playing a losing game.  But this is GREAT news. It’s liberating to discover that our minds are 100% in control of our happiness. So happiness is an inside job. Today, I am talking about how we can all be happy for no reason…yes, that means you too. Throughout this episode, I share my thoughts on happiness from two main sources: science and Buddhist psychology. I talk about a personal experience with my best friend (she has 4 legs) that is currently reminding me that happiness is a choice, how to stop depending on external factors for happiness, questions to ask yourself, and more. When you choose to be happy in your mind, you will find happiness. Enjoy! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why nothing can ruin your happiness but you (03:38) My dying dog and how that is currently challenging me to choose happiness, not grief (05:23) To stop depending on external factors to bring you happiness (10:10) To become curious about what is currently bothering you (17:55) This week’s LoveByte (22:32) Q&A: How can I be happy despite loss? Life is special because it is not guaranteed. Remember that we are all destined to die and although it is sad when we lose someone, that sadness does not need to define our happiness. These emotions are not mutually exclusive.  What can make me happy? Choosing happiness is how you can be genuinely happy amidst events outside of your control. Depending on other people, things, and events to be the source of your happiness will only result in a temporary high followed by a depressive crash.  Is it possible to be happy for no reason? YES! It is possible to be happy for no reason when you understand that happiness only comes when you are happy in your mind. Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Have you ever looked at someone who exudes happiness despite all they have gone through and wondered, how can I be like that? Or, that has to be a facade? Spoiler alert: it IS possible to always be in a state of grace, even happiness - no matter what is going on in your life. 


Now wait. I’m not saying that the difficulties and hardships you go through in life aren’t a valid cause for sad or difficult emotions. What I am saying is, we control the impact that external factors have on our happiness. Whether that is losing a loved one or getting a promotion, if we depend on events that are outside of our control to bring us happiness, we are playing a losing game. 


But this is GREAT news. It’s liberating to discover that our minds are 100% in control of our happiness. So happiness is an inside job.


Today, I am talking about how we can all be happy for no reason…yes, that means you too. Throughout this episode, I share my thoughts on happiness from two main sources: science and Buddhist psychology. I talk about a personal experience with my best friend (she has 4 legs) that is currently reminding me that happiness is a choice, how to stop depending on external factors for happiness, questions to ask yourself, and more. When you choose to be happy in your mind, you will find happiness. Enjoy!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Why nothing can ruin your happiness but you (03:38)
  • My dying dog and how that is currently challenging me to choose happiness, not grief (05:23)
  • To stop depending on external factors to bring you happiness (10:10)
  • To become curious about what is currently bothering you (17:55)
  • This week’s LoveByte (22:32)


Q&A:

  • How can I be happy despite loss? Life is special because it is not guaranteed. Remember that we are all destined to die and although it is sad when we lose someone, that sadness does not need to define our happiness. These emotions are not mutually exclusive. 
  • What can make me happy? Choosing happiness is how you can be genuinely happy amidst events outside of your control. Depending on other people, things, and events to be the source of your happiness will only result in a temporary high followed by a depressive crash. 
  • Is it possible to be happy for no reason? YES! It is possible to be happy for no reason when you understand that happiness only comes when you are happy in your mind.


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1471 no Let’s Talk Buddha Dharma: Practicing The Six Perfections https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/lets-talk-buddha-dharma-practicing-the-six-perfections What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differences, there are specific traits that distinguish human beings as good or… not so good. Sometimes, moral ethics can seem blatantly obvious. You may think, “Of course being honest is a quality of a morally ethical person!” or “No one is THAT perfect”.  However, moral ethics is not that easy to remember to do when actually applied in our everyday situations. Consistently going to the “Gym of Ethics” will help you to grow your ethical muscles and show up as a better person in all aspects of your life.  Today, I am sharing with you the Six Perfections from Buddha Dharma and how practicing them can transform your life. I talk about what each of the perfections are and some examples of how you can begin to effectively apply them within your life. Practicing the Six Perfections will help you be kinder, more compassionate, awakened, and ultimately lead you to embracing your elephant. This recording is from a talk I gave last week on Vancouver Island and if you are interested, you can watch the talk here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The common actions taken by people we consider as generous (06:27) My interpretation of the second perfection, Integrity (15:20) Why patience may be considered an antidote to anger (23:30) Examples of when you should apply diligence and energy (29:47) How meditation and wisdom require the other perfections to be productive (41:27) This week’s LoveByte (53:42) Q&A: What are the six perfections to practice from Buddha Dharma? Generosity, Integrity, Patience, Energy,  Meditation, Wisdom  What is the antidote to anger?  Patience! Before you send that snarky text or say that petty remark to your partner, take some time for yourself. Just like when you find yourself flooded - which I spoke about in a recent episode - patience helps us to take a step back from the heightened adrenaline and irrational thinking that comes with being angry.  How can I control my thoughts during meditation? Does it seem like all of your thoughts wait to show themselves until you are trying to meditate? One of the great lessons that meditation teaches us is to be more diligent and focused towards our thoughts. Meditation isn’t about avoiding our thoughts, it’s about learning to be in the moment and apply the right energy so we can be in control of them. Resources mentioned: YouTube Video - The Six Perfections  Become Passion Testimonials Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 16 May 2022 09:00:45 -0000 Let’s Talk Buddha Dharma: Practicing The Six Perfections full 53 Cheryl Fraser <p>What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differences, there are specific traits that distinguish human beings as good or… not so good.</p><br><p>Sometimes, moral ethics can seem blatantly obvious. You may think, <em>“Of course being honest is a quality of a morally ethical person!” </em>or <em>“No one is THAT perfect”</em>.&nbsp; However, moral ethics is not that easy to remember to do when actually applied in our everyday situations. Consistently going to the “Gym of Ethics” will help you to grow your ethical muscles and show up as a better person in all aspects of your life.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today<em>,</em> I am sharing with you the Six Perfections from Buddha Dharma and how practicing them can transform your life. I talk about what each of the perfections are and some examples of how you can begin to effectively apply them within your life. Practicing the Six Perfections will help you be kinder, more compassionate, awakened, and ultimately lead you to embracing your elephant. This recording is from a talk I gave last week on Vancouver Island and if you are interested, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OGJETwg5b3w" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">you can watch the talk here</a>.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>The common actions taken by people we consider as generous (06:27)</p><p>My interpretation of the second perfection, Integrity (15:20)</p><p>Why patience may be considered an antidote to anger (23:30)</p><p>Examples of when you should apply diligence and energy (29:47)</p><p>How meditation and wisdom require the other perfections to be productive (41:27)</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (53:42)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>What are the six perfections to practice from Buddha Dharma? Generosity, Integrity, Patience, Energy,&nbsp; Meditation, Wisdom&nbsp;</p><p>What is the antidote to anger?&nbsp; Patience! Before you send that snarky text or say that petty remark to your partner, take some time for yourself. Just like when you find yourself flooded - which I spoke about in a recent episode - patience helps us to take a step back from the heightened adrenaline and irrational thinking that comes with being angry.&nbsp;</p><p>How can I control my thoughts during meditation? Does it seem like all of your thoughts wait to show themselves until you are trying to meditate? One of the great lessons that meditation teaches us is to be more diligent and focused towards our thoughts. Meditation isn’t about avoiding our thoughts, it’s about learning to be in the moment and apply the right energy so we can be in control of them.</p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OGJETwg5b3w" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">YouTube Video - The Six Perfections&nbsp;</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differences, there are specific traits that distinguish human beings as good or… not so good. Sometimes, moral ethics can seem blatantly obvious. You may think, “Of course being honest is a quality of a morally ethical person!” or “No one is THAT perfect”.  However, moral ethics is not that easy to remember to do when actually applied in our everyday situations. Consistently going to the “Gym of Ethics” will help you to grow your ethical muscles and show up as a better person in all aspects of your life.  Today, I am sharing with you the Six Perfections from Buddha Dharma and how practicing them can transform your life. I talk about what each of the perfections are and some examples of how you can begin to effectively apply them within your life. Practicing the Six Perfections will help you be kinder, more compassionate, awakened, and ultimately lead you to embracing your elephant. This recording is from a talk I gave last week on Vancouver Island and if you are interested, you can watch the talk here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The common actions taken by people we consider as generous (06:27) My interpretation of the second perfection, Integrity (15:20) Why patience may be considered an antidote to anger (23:30) Examples of when you should apply diligence and energy (29:47) How meditation and wisdom require the other perfections to be productive (41:27) This week’s LoveByte (53:42) Q&A: What are the six perfections to practice from Buddha Dharma? Generosity, Integrity, Patience, Energy,  Meditation, Wisdom  What is the antidote to anger?  Patience! Before you send that snarky text or say that petty remark to your partner, take some time for yourself. Just like when you find yourself flooded - which I spoke about in a recent episode - patience helps us to take a step back from the heightened adrenaline and irrational thinking that comes with being angry.  How can I control my thoughts during meditation? Does it seem like all of your thoughts wait to show themselves until you are trying to meditate? One of the great lessons that meditation teaches us is to be more diligent and focused towards our thoughts. Meditation isn’t about avoiding our thoughts, it’s about learning to be in the moment and apply the right energy so we can be in control of them. Resources mentioned: YouTube Video - The Six Perfections  Become Passion Testimonials Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differences, there are specific traits that distinguish human beings as good or… not so good.


Sometimes, moral ethics can seem blatantly obvious. You may think, “Of course being honest is a quality of a morally ethical person!” or “No one is THAT perfect”.  However, moral ethics is not that easy to remember to do when actually applied in our everyday situations. Consistently going to the “Gym of Ethics” will help you to grow your ethical muscles and show up as a better person in all aspects of your life. 


Today, I am sharing with you the Six Perfections from Buddha Dharma and how practicing them can transform your life. I talk about what each of the perfections are and some examples of how you can begin to effectively apply them within your life. Practicing the Six Perfections will help you be kinder, more compassionate, awakened, and ultimately lead you to embracing your elephant. This recording is from a talk I gave last week on Vancouver Island and if you are interested, you can watch the talk here. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

The common actions taken by people we consider as generous (06:27)

My interpretation of the second perfection, Integrity (15:20)

Why patience may be considered an antidote to anger (23:30)

Examples of when you should apply diligence and energy (29:47)

How meditation and wisdom require the other perfections to be productive (41:27)

This week’s LoveByte (53:42)


Q&A:

What are the six perfections to practice from Buddha Dharma? Generosity, Integrity, Patience, Energy,  Meditation, Wisdom 

What is the antidote to anger?  Patience! Before you send that snarky text or say that petty remark to your partner, take some time for yourself. Just like when you find yourself flooded - which I spoke about in a recent episode - patience helps us to take a step back from the heightened adrenaline and irrational thinking that comes with being angry. 

How can I control my thoughts during meditation? Does it seem like all of your thoughts wait to show themselves until you are trying to meditate? One of the great lessons that meditation teaches us is to be more diligent and focused towards our thoughts. Meditation isn’t about avoiding our thoughts, it’s about learning to be in the moment and apply the right energy so we can be in control of them.


Resources mentioned:

YouTube Video - The Six Perfections 

Become Passion Testimonials


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3368 no Nothing Can Stop Your Elephant - Not Even the Monkey Talk! https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/nothing-can-stop-your-elephant-not-even-the-monkey-talk What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are an analogy for our inner wisdom, and nothing can stop yours from moving towards awakening and freedom. One year ago, I made a commitment to myself to release one podcast episode a week for a year. I have always loved being behind the microphone from my years on talk radio, so it wasn’t a coincidence that I was drawn to podcasting. Throughout this podcasting journey, I have incorporated my education and experience with psychology, psychotherapy, meditation, sex therapy, Buddhism, and countless other tools to help individuals and couples tap into their elephants and transform.  Today, I’m reflecting on why I began this podcast 52 weeks ago, what the elephant symbol means to me, and how I hope to continue helping listeners. Now that I have accomplished my commitment of releasing a podcast episode a week for a year, I would like to thank each and every one of you who have tuned in and been a part of this incredible journey. If this podcast has impacted you, please send an email to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com with your feedback, suggested topic, or questions. I will select 3 lucky winners to send a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom! In This Episode, You Will Learn: About the commitment I made to myself a year ago (02:38) The reason that I began this podcast (07:45) The reassuring analogy and meaning behind the elephant symbol (09:36) Why the sun is there to dissolve the clouds of confusion (16:24) This week’s LoveByte (18:10) Q&A: What does the elephant symbol represent? The elephant symbol represents our inner wisdom, plodding along, continuously moving towards awakening and freedom.  What is monkey mind? Our monkey mind is our ego trying to keep us safe. When you're in fear, in selfishness, in greed, confused, hurt or you feel you're the only person on the planet right now, that is monkey talk, my friend. How can I get an autographed copy of Buddha’s Bedroom? Email cheryl@drcherylfraser.com with your feedback about the podcast and suggested topics or questions you’d like answered. We will select 3 lucky winners and send you a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom! Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 09 May 2022 09:00:58 -0000 Nothing Can Stop Your Elephant - Not Even the Monkey Talk! full 52 Cheryl Fraser <p>What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are an analogy for our inner wisdom, and nothing can stop yours from moving towards awakening and freedom.</p><br><p>One year ago, I made a commitment to myself to release one podcast episode a week for a year. I have always loved being behind the microphone from my years on talk radio, so it wasn’t a coincidence that I was drawn to podcasting. Throughout this podcasting journey, I have incorporated my education and experience with psychology, psychotherapy, meditation, sex therapy, Buddhism, and countless other tools to help individuals and couples tap into their elephants and transform.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today<em>,</em> I’m reflecting on why I began this podcast 52 weeks ago, what the elephant symbol means to me, and how I hope to continue helping listeners. Now that I have accomplished my commitment of releasing a podcast episode a week for a year, I would like to thank each and every one of you who have tuned in and been a part of this incredible journey. If this podcast has impacted you, please send an email to <em>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</em> with your feedback, suggested topic, or questions. I will select 3 lucky winners to send a personalized copy of<em> Buddha’s Bedroom</em>!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>About the commitment I made to myself a year ago (02:38)</li><li>The reason that I began this podcast (07:45)</li><li>The reassuring analogy and meaning behind the elephant symbol (09:36)</li><li>Why the sun is there to dissolve the clouds of confusion&nbsp;(16:24)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (18:10)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>What does the elephant symbol represent? <em>The elephant symbol represents our inner wisdom, plodding along, continuously moving towards awakening and freedom.&nbsp;</em></li><li>What is monkey mind?&nbsp;<em>Our monkey mind is our ego trying to keep us safe. When you're in fear, in selfishness, in greed, confused, hurt or you feel you're the only person on the planet right now, that is monkey talk, my friend.</em></li><li>How can I get an autographed copy of Buddha’s Bedroom? <em>Email </em><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</em></a><em> with your feedback about the podcast and suggested topics or questions you’d like answered. We will select 3 lucky winners and send you a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom!</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist&nbsp;</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are an analogy for our inner wisdom, and nothing can stop yours from moving towards awakening and freedom. One year ago, I made a commitment to myself to release one podcast episode a week for a year. I have always loved being behind the microphone from my years on talk radio, so it wasn’t a coincidence that I was drawn to podcasting. Throughout this podcasting journey, I have incorporated my education and experience with psychology, psychotherapy, meditation, sex therapy, Buddhism, and countless other tools to help individuals and couples tap into their elephants and transform.  Today, I’m reflecting on why I began this podcast 52 weeks ago, what the elephant symbol means to me, and how I hope to continue helping listeners. Now that I have accomplished my commitment of releasing a podcast episode a week for a year, I would like to thank each and every one of you who have tuned in and been a part of this incredible journey. If this podcast has impacted you, please send an email to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com with your feedback, suggested topic, or questions. I will select 3 lucky winners to send a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom! In This Episode, You Will Learn: About the commitment I made to myself a year ago (02:38) The reason that I began this podcast (07:45) The reassuring analogy and meaning behind the elephant symbol (09:36) Why the sun is there to dissolve the clouds of confusion (16:24) This week’s LoveByte (18:10) Q&A: What does the elephant symbol represent? The elephant symbol represents our inner wisdom, plodding along, continuously moving towards awakening and freedom.  What is monkey mind? Our monkey mind is our ego trying to keep us safe. When you're in fear, in selfishness, in greed, confused, hurt or you feel you're the only person on the planet right now, that is monkey talk, my friend. How can I get an autographed copy of Buddha’s Bedroom? Email cheryl@drcherylfraser.com with your feedback about the podcast and suggested topics or questions you’d like answered. We will select 3 lucky winners and send you a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom! Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are an analogy for our inner wisdom, and nothing can stop yours from moving towards awakening and freedom.


One year ago, I made a commitment to myself to release one podcast episode a week for a year. I have always loved being behind the microphone from my years on talk radio, so it wasn’t a coincidence that I was drawn to podcasting. Throughout this podcasting journey, I have incorporated my education and experience with psychology, psychotherapy, meditation, sex therapy, Buddhism, and countless other tools to help individuals and couples tap into their elephants and transform. 


Today, I’m reflecting on why I began this podcast 52 weeks ago, what the elephant symbol means to me, and how I hope to continue helping listeners. Now that I have accomplished my commitment of releasing a podcast episode a week for a year, I would like to thank each and every one of you who have tuned in and been a part of this incredible journey. If this podcast has impacted you, please send an email to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com with your feedback, suggested topic, or questions. I will select 3 lucky winners to send a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About the commitment I made to myself a year ago (02:38)
  • The reason that I began this podcast (07:45)
  • The reassuring analogy and meaning behind the elephant symbol (09:36)
  • Why the sun is there to dissolve the clouds of confusion (16:24)
  • This week’s LoveByte (18:10)


Q&A:

  • What does the elephant symbol represent? The elephant symbol represents our inner wisdom, plodding along, continuously moving towards awakening and freedom. 
  • What is monkey mind? Our monkey mind is our ego trying to keep us safe. When you're in fear, in selfishness, in greed, confused, hurt or you feel you're the only person on the planet right now, that is monkey talk, my friend.
  • How can I get an autographed copy of Buddha’s Bedroom? Email cheryl@drcherylfraser.com with your feedback about the podcast and suggested topics or questions you’d like answered. We will select 3 lucky winners and send you a personalized copy of Buddha’s Bedroom!


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1220 no Will Smith was Flooded! The Science Behind “The SLAP” https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/will-smith-was-flooded-the-science-behind-the-slap When I got back from my retreat, I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave Chris Rock at the Oscars. Will losing his mind for a moment is a fantastic example of the irrational actions we ALL can take when we become flooded. Yup, you are just like Will…so stop judging him and look in the mirror. What is the worst thing YOU’VE ever done when you got triggered? Today, I’m talking all about flooding - that fight-or-flight feeling we all experience at certain times. But most of us do it behind closed doors, and avoid the ugly backlash that comes with being in the public eye. I share my definition of flooding, some examples of common scenarios that may cause flooding, how to recognize when you are flooded, what to do in these situations, and more. I hope this episode reminds you to watch the judgment that you pass on to others and reflect on the times in your life that you have been flooded. When was the last time that you were cool, calm, and collected until something suddenly happened - maybe you thought someone insulted your wife - to cause feelings of distress or danger? Our body believes what our brain tells us and in these moments of being triggered, we either fight, flee, or freeze. This bodily state is one that I like to call being “flooded”. Think back and reflect on moments in past situations in relationships that you became flooded. How did you react and what actions did you end up taking? And would you like to be judged by a billion people for your worst mistakes? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why the Will Smith incident is a perfect example of flooding (02:21) My definition of flooding and a few examples that we can all relate to (4:12) Why we might take regrettable action - in other words, screw up badly - when our body is flooded (09:50) How to recognize when you are flooded while in an argument with your romantic partner (15:52) Why it’s important to understand whether your own reaction to distress is to fight, flight, or freeze (18:15) Why everybody should stop passing judgment or criticism on Will’s reaction to Chris Rock and work on your own damn self (23:30) This week’s LoveByte (29:14) Q&A: What does it mean to be flooded with emotions? Flooding is the layman's term for Diffuse Physiological Arousal. This is when you get so stressed during an argument that your body goes into fight, flight, or freeze. In this state, you are unable to make rational decisions or actions. A great example of this is Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars.  How can I recognize when I am flooded with emotions? Next time you are in a stressful situation or conversation, check your pulse. If your heart rate is above 100 beats a minute then you are flooded and that means you are not entirely rational. How long does it take to get back to a calmer state after an argument? After the cortisol and adrenaline are in our bloodstream, it takes 20-30 minutes for your body to unflood itself. Want more of Cheryl talking about Will’s Slap? Watch this video now - https://youtu.be/syZPGseAArA Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 25 Apr 2022 09:00:45 -0000 Will Smith was Flooded! The Science Behind “The SLAP” full 50 Cheryl Fraser <p>When I got back from my retreat,<em> </em>I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave Chris Rock at the Oscars. Will losing his mind for a moment is a fantastic example of the irrational actions we ALL can take when we become flooded. Yup, you are just like Will…so stop judging him and look in the mirror. What is the worst thing YOU’VE ever done when you got triggered?</p><br><p>Today<em>,</em> I’m talking all about flooding - that fight-or-flight feeling we all experience at certain times. But most of us do it behind closed doors, and avoid the ugly backlash that comes with being in the public eye. I share my definition of flooding, some examples of common scenarios that may cause flooding, how to recognize when you are flooded, what to do in these situations, and more. I hope this episode reminds you to watch the judgment that you pass on to others and reflect on the times in your life that you have been flooded.</p><br><p>When was the last time that you were cool, calm, and collected until something suddenly happened - maybe you thought someone insulted your wife - to cause feelings of distress or danger? Our body believes what our brain tells us and in these moments of being triggered, we either fight, flee, or freeze. This bodily state is one that I like to call being “flooded”. Think back and reflect on moments in past situations in relationships that you became flooded. How did you react and what actions did you end up taking? And would you like to be judged by a billion people for your worst mistakes?</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>Why the Will Smith incident is a perfect example of flooding (02:21)</p><p>My definition of flooding and a few examples that we can all relate to (4:12)</p><p>Why we might take regrettable action - in other words, screw up badly - when our body is flooded (09:50)</p><p>How to recognize when you are flooded while in an argument with your romantic partner (15:52)</p><p>Why it’s important to understand whether your own reaction to distress is to fight, flight, or freeze (18:15)</p><p>Why everybody should stop passing judgment or criticism on Will’s reaction to Chris Rock and work on your own damn self (23:30)</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (29:14)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>What does it mean to be flooded with emotions? <em>Flooding is the layman's term for Diffuse Physiological Arousal. This is when you get so stressed during an argument that your body goes into fight, flight, or freeze. In this state, you are unable to make rational decisions or actions. A great example of this is Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars.&nbsp;</em></p><p>How can I recognize when I am flooded with emotions? <em>Next time you are in a stressful situation or conversation, check your pulse. If your heart rate is above 100 beats a minute then you are flooded and that means you are not entirely rational.</em></p><p>How long does it take to get back to a calmer state after an argument? <em>After the cortisol and adrenaline are in our bloodstream, it takes 20-30 minutes for your body to unflood itself.</em></p><br><p>Want more of Cheryl talking about Will’s Slap? Watch this video now - <a href="https://youtu.be/syZPGseAArA" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/syZPGseAArA</a></p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion Testimonials</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> When I got back from my retreat, I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave Chris Rock at the Oscars. Will losing his mind for a moment is a fantastic example of the irrational actions we ALL can take when we become flooded. Yup, you are just like Will…so stop judging him and look in the mirror. What is the worst thing YOU’VE ever done when you got triggered? Today, I’m talking all about flooding - that fight-or-flight feeling we all experience at certain times. But most of us do it behind closed doors, and avoid the ugly backlash that comes with being in the public eye. I share my definition of flooding, some examples of common scenarios that may cause flooding, how to recognize when you are flooded, what to do in these situations, and more. I hope this episode reminds you to watch the judgment that you pass on to others and reflect on the times in your life that you have been flooded. When was the last time that you were cool, calm, and collected until something suddenly happened - maybe you thought someone insulted your wife - to cause feelings of distress or danger? Our body believes what our brain tells us and in these moments of being triggered, we either fight, flee, or freeze. This bodily state is one that I like to call being “flooded”. Think back and reflect on moments in past situations in relationships that you became flooded. How did you react and what actions did you end up taking? And would you like to be judged by a billion people for your worst mistakes? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why the Will Smith incident is a perfect example of flooding (02:21) My definition of flooding and a few examples that we can all relate to (4:12) Why we might take regrettable action - in other words, screw up badly - when our body is flooded (09:50) How to recognize when you are flooded while in an argument with your romantic partner (15:52) Why it’s important to understand whether your own reaction to distress is to fight, flight, or freeze (18:15) Why everybody should stop passing judgment or criticism on Will’s reaction to Chris Rock and work on your own damn self (23:30) This week’s LoveByte (29:14) Q&A: What does it mean to be flooded with emotions? Flooding is the layman's term for Diffuse Physiological Arousal. This is when you get so stressed during an argument that your body goes into fight, flight, or freeze. In this state, you are unable to make rational decisions or actions. A great example of this is Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars.  How can I recognize when I am flooded with emotions? Next time you are in a stressful situation or conversation, check your pulse. If your heart rate is above 100 beats a minute then you are flooded and that means you are not entirely rational. How long does it take to get back to a calmer state after an argument? After the cortisol and adrenaline are in our bloodstream, it takes 20-30 minutes for your body to unflood itself. Want more of Cheryl talking about Will’s Slap? Watch this video now - https://youtu.be/syZPGseAArA Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Become Passion waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. When I got back from my retreat, I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave Chris Rock at the Oscars. Will losing his mind for a moment is a fantastic example of the irrational actions we ALL can take when we become flooded. Yup, you are just like Will…so stop judging him and look in the mirror. What is the worst thing YOU’VE ever done when you got triggered?


Today, I’m talking all about flooding - that fight-or-flight feeling we all experience at certain times. But most of us do it behind closed doors, and avoid the ugly backlash that comes with being in the public eye. I share my definition of flooding, some examples of common scenarios that may cause flooding, how to recognize when you are flooded, what to do in these situations, and more. I hope this episode reminds you to watch the judgment that you pass on to others and reflect on the times in your life that you have been flooded.


When was the last time that you were cool, calm, and collected until something suddenly happened - maybe you thought someone insulted your wife - to cause feelings of distress or danger? Our body believes what our brain tells us and in these moments of being triggered, we either fight, flee, or freeze. This bodily state is one that I like to call being “flooded”. Think back and reflect on moments in past situations in relationships that you became flooded. How did you react and what actions did you end up taking? And would you like to be judged by a billion people for your worst mistakes?


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Why the Will Smith incident is a perfect example of flooding (02:21)

My definition of flooding and a few examples that we can all relate to (4:12)

Why we might take regrettable action - in other words, screw up badly - when our body is flooded (09:50)

How to recognize when you are flooded while in an argument with your romantic partner (15:52)

Why it’s important to understand whether your own reaction to distress is to fight, flight, or freeze (18:15)

Why everybody should stop passing judgment or criticism on Will’s reaction to Chris Rock and work on your own damn self (23:30)

This week’s LoveByte (29:14)


Q&A:

What does it mean to be flooded with emotions? Flooding is the layman's term for Diffuse Physiological Arousal. This is when you get so stressed during an argument that your body goes into fight, flight, or freeze. In this state, you are unable to make rational decisions or actions. A great example of this is Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars. 

How can I recognize when I am flooded with emotions? Next time you are in a stressful situation or conversation, check your pulse. If your heart rate is above 100 beats a minute then you are flooded and that means you are not entirely rational.

How long does it take to get back to a calmer state after an argument? After the cortisol and adrenaline are in our bloodstream, it takes 20-30 minutes for your body to unflood itself.


Want more of Cheryl talking about Will’s Slap? Watch this video now - https://youtu.be/syZPGseAArA


Resources mentioned:

Become Passion Testimonials

Become Passion waitlist


Let’s Connect!

About Me


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1934 no Death, Cake, and Living Large: Birthday Presence Part Two https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/death-cake-and-living-large-birthday-presence-part-two All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe you find it downright depressing. But here’s the thing: we can take it as simple fact and an inspiration to really live life fully—to tilt our lives to doing more of that which deeply matters to us. Instead of wasting time on the things that are more trivial or distracting or not important, we can use it as a catalyst to live the way we really want to. Today, I’m sharing a Dharma Talk I recently gave to my own group here on Vancouver Island. I hope it is of great value to you and I’ll be back with a fresh episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants next week.  In this class, I talk about how we would live if we knew our time was limited. We also play with the concept of birthdays and how they may mean we’re a little closer to death, but that we can use that idea as a call to action to live life fully.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A short, simple exercise to prepare your for mind for this talk (04:38) Notice when you’re thinking about things from the past: is it wholesome? Or is it unwholesome? (06:17) To help educate the mind and have a better sense of your experience, meditate, brief review, and move on (10:33) What if, instead of calling it our “birthday,” we called it our “one year closer to death day”? (15:13) We're busy because we have patterns, because we're trained, because our minds are used to running down sets of stairs… and we often miss the alternate path. (38:49) Q&A: How can I make my thoughts of death and dying less scary? One of the roots of suffering, sadness, loss, loneliness, despair, confusion, anger, irritation, and hurt is that we're not living enough. Spend time with those you love, do interesting things— take advantage of it all. How can I start my day without stress and anxiety? If you want to reprogram patterns, you need to practice new patterns. Look carefully at how you start the first 30 minutes of your day. Don't look at your phone, put on a bit of music, brew yourself a beautiful cup of something, and have an extra long shower and see what difference it might make.  Is there an easy way to make the changes I want  to see in my life? Ask yourself, “How do I want to live this day?” All of us in our lives can make changes today, no matter how small. Watch one less episode of your show, go for a walk and look for a daffodil, phone a friend and have a chat and really hear what's going on in their life. Watch Cheryl's live Dharma Talk Head to Island Dharma for more information on Cheryl’s meditation and Buddhist teachings and retreats. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 18 Apr 2022 09:00:16 -0000 Death, Cake, and Living Large: Birthday Presence Part Two full 49 Cheryl Fraser <p>All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe you find it downright depressing. But here’s the thing: we can take it as simple fact and an inspiration to really live life fully—to tilt our lives to doing more of that which deeply matters to us. Instead of wasting time on the things that are more trivial or distracting or not important, we can use it as a catalyst to live the way we really want to.</p><br><p>Today, I’m sharing a Dharma Talk I recently gave to my own group here on Vancouver Island. I hope it is of great value to you and I’ll be back with a fresh episode of <em>Sex, Love, and Elephants</em> next week.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this class, I talk about how we would live if we knew our time was limited. We also play with the concept of birthdays and how they may mean we’re a little closer to death, but that we can use that idea as a call to action to live life fully.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>A short, simple exercise to prepare your for mind for this talk (04:38)</li><li>Notice when you’re thinking about things from the past: is it wholesome? Or is it unwholesome? (06:17)</li><li>To help educate the mind and have a better sense of your experience, meditate, brief review, and move on (10:33)</li><li>What if, instead of calling it our “birthday,” we called it our “one year closer to death day”? (15:13)</li><li>We're busy because we have patterns, because we're trained, because our minds are used to running down sets of stairs… and we often miss the alternate path. (38:49)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can I make my thoughts of death and dying less scary? One of the roots of suffering, sadness, loss, loneliness, despair, confusion, anger, irritation, and hurt is that we're not living enough. Spend time with those you love, do interesting things— take advantage of it all.</li><li>How can I start my day without stress and anxiety? If you want to reprogram patterns, you need to practice new patterns. Look carefully at how you start the first 30 minutes of your day. Don't look at your phone, put on a bit of music, brew yourself a beautiful cup of something, and have an extra long shower and see what difference it might make.&nbsp;</li><li>Is there an easy way to make the changes I want&nbsp; to see in my life? Ask yourself, “How do I want to live this day?” All of us in our lives can make changes today, no matter how small. Watch one less episode of your show, go for a walk and look for a daffodil, phone a friend and have a chat and really hear what's going on in their life.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://youtu.be/XFlxCgbW1IE" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Watch Cheryl's live Dharma Talk</a></p><p>Head to <a href="http://islanddharma.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Island Dharma </a>for more information on Cheryl’s meditation and Buddhist teachings and retreats.</p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe you find it downright depressing. But here’s the thing: we can take it as simple fact and an inspiration to really live life fully—to tilt our lives to doing more of that which deeply matters to us. Instead of wasting time on the things that are more trivial or distracting or not important, we can use it as a catalyst to live the way we really want to. Today, I’m sharing a Dharma Talk I recently gave to my own group here on Vancouver Island. I hope it is of great value to you and I’ll be back with a fresh episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants next week.  In this class, I talk about how we would live if we knew our time was limited. We also play with the concept of birthdays and how they may mean we’re a little closer to death, but that we can use that idea as a call to action to live life fully.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A short, simple exercise to prepare your for mind for this talk (04:38) Notice when you’re thinking about things from the past: is it wholesome? Or is it unwholesome? (06:17) To help educate the mind and have a better sense of your experience, meditate, brief review, and move on (10:33) What if, instead of calling it our “birthday,” we called it our “one year closer to death day”? (15:13) We're busy because we have patterns, because we're trained, because our minds are used to running down sets of stairs… and we often miss the alternate path. (38:49) Q&A: How can I make my thoughts of death and dying less scary? One of the roots of suffering, sadness, loss, loneliness, despair, confusion, anger, irritation, and hurt is that we're not living enough. Spend time with those you love, do interesting things— take advantage of it all. How can I start my day without stress and anxiety? If you want to reprogram patterns, you need to practice new patterns. Look carefully at how you start the first 30 minutes of your day. Don't look at your phone, put on a bit of music, brew yourself a beautiful cup of something, and have an extra long shower and see what difference it might make.  Is there an easy way to make the changes I want  to see in my life? Ask yourself, “How do I want to live this day?” All of us in our lives can make changes today, no matter how small. Watch one less episode of your show, go for a walk and look for a daffodil, phone a friend and have a chat and really hear what's going on in their life. Watch Cheryl's live Dharma Talk Head to Island Dharma for more information on Cheryl’s meditation and Buddhist teachings and retreats. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe you find it downright depressing. But here’s the thing: we can take it as simple fact and an inspiration to really live life fully—to tilt our lives to doing more of that which deeply matters to us. Instead of wasting time on the things that are more trivial or distracting or not important, we can use it as a catalyst to live the way we really want to.


Today, I’m sharing a Dharma Talk I recently gave to my own group here on Vancouver Island. I hope it is of great value to you and I’ll be back with a fresh episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants next week. 


In this class, I talk about how we would live if we knew our time was limited. We also play with the concept of birthdays and how they may mean we’re a little closer to death, but that we can use that idea as a call to action to live life fully. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • A short, simple exercise to prepare your for mind for this talk (04:38)
  • Notice when you’re thinking about things from the past: is it wholesome? Or is it unwholesome? (06:17)
  • To help educate the mind and have a better sense of your experience, meditate, brief review, and move on (10:33)
  • What if, instead of calling it our “birthday,” we called it our “one year closer to death day”? (15:13)
  • We're busy because we have patterns, because we're trained, because our minds are used to running down sets of stairs… and we often miss the alternate path. (38:49)


Q&A:

  • How can I make my thoughts of death and dying less scary? One of the roots of suffering, sadness, loss, loneliness, despair, confusion, anger, irritation, and hurt is that we're not living enough. Spend time with those you love, do interesting things— take advantage of it all.
  • How can I start my day without stress and anxiety? If you want to reprogram patterns, you need to practice new patterns. Look carefully at how you start the first 30 minutes of your day. Don't look at your phone, put on a bit of music, brew yourself a beautiful cup of something, and have an extra long shower and see what difference it might make. 
  • Is there an easy way to make the changes I want  to see in my life? Ask yourself, “How do I want to live this day?” All of us in our lives can make changes today, no matter how small. Watch one less episode of your show, go for a walk and look for a daffodil, phone a friend and have a chat and really hear what's going on in their life.


Watch Cheryl's live Dharma Talk

Head to Island Dharma for more information on Cheryl’s meditation and Buddhist teachings and retreats.


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3304 no Silence and Birthday Presence https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/silence-and-birthday-presence Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has?  It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, connect to the song of the treefrogs, and even form a never-before-had appreciation for the gentle buds on the springtime trees. Maybe the thought of being alone with your mind for a month makes you a little uncomfortable, maybe it makes you introspective—or maybe it scares the hell out of you! Whatever your feelings on it, we can all agree that silence can be incredibly powerful… if we slow down and listen. For the last month, I’ve been on a solo, silent meditation retreat and I’m ready to share with you what I learned while I was 100% off the grid. Join me as I break down my experience and talk about some of the realizations I had while I was alone with just me, my thoughts, and my 18-year-old dog.  Today, I’m talking about the power of slowing down, the power of being present, and the power of silence. And here’s the not-always-pleasant truth: when we strip away the distractions of life, we will experience some of the beauty of a calm, settled mind—but we also experience the stuff we’ve been avoiding. In This Episode, You Will Learn: A bit about the silent meditation retreatI’ve recently returned from (05:04) When we are running for a distraction to make us feel better, we're not setting ourselves up for success (07:00) If you're not able to feel happy, open hearted, and compassionate without your phone, you're in trouble (10:38) The transcendent experience of a simple, solo birthday (12:42) Not being able to allow the mind to settle—like not allowing the dirt and  in a glass of water o settle out—is a cause for concern (15:06) This week’s LoveByte (22:39) Q&A: I can only turn my brain off when I’m scrolling on my phone—help! Research shows that if you have difficulty turning off your mind, you tend to sleep poorly, which may cause cognitive anxiety, physiological anxiety, moodiness, etc. Training your mind to embrace silence and stillness is imperative.  Why can’t I get myself to meditate when I try? Most people meditate unsuccessfully because they haven't been properly instructed. Instead of trying to completely clear your mind in the first go, try letting your thoughts gently dissipate. Why do I feel anxiety as soon as I let go of distraction? Many of us use distractions as a bandaid to avoid thinking thoughts that need to be addressed. Instead of ignoring them, try to gently acknowledge what you’re trying to avoid and then explore why you feel compelled to do that.  Resources mentioned: The Jewel Ornament of Liberation: The Wish-Fulfilling Gem of the Noble Teachings Misery or Happiness? The Buddha's Four Facts of Life Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 11 Apr 2022 09:00:55 -0000 Silence and Birthday Presence full 48 Cheryl Fraser <p>Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has?&nbsp; It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, connect to the song of the treefrogs, and even form a never-before-had appreciation for the gentle buds on the springtime trees. Maybe the thought of being alone with your mind for a month makes you a little uncomfortable, maybe it makes you introspective—or maybe it scares the hell out of you! Whatever your feelings on it, we can all agree that silence can be incredibly powerful… if we slow down and listen.</p><br><p>For the last month,<em> </em>I’ve been on a solo, silent meditation retreat and I’m ready to share with you what I learned while I was 100% off the grid. Join me as I break down my experience and talk about some of the realizations I had while I was alone with just me, my thoughts, and my 18-year-old dog.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today<em>,</em> I’m talking about the power of slowing down, the power of being present, and the power of silence. And here’s the not-always-pleasant truth: when we strip away the distractions of life, we will experience some of the beauty of a calm, settled mind—but we also experience the stuff we’ve been avoiding.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>A bit about the silent meditation retreatI’ve recently returned from (05:04)</p><p>When we are running for a distraction to make us feel better, we're not setting ourselves up for success (07:00)</p><p>If you're not able to feel happy, open hearted, and compassionate without your phone, you're in trouble (10:38)</p><p>The transcendent experience of a simple, solo birthday (12:42)</p><p>Not being able to allow the mind to settle—like not allowing the dirt and&nbsp; in a glass of water o settle out—is a cause for concern (15:06)</p><p>This week’s LoveByte (22:39)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>I can only turn my brain off when I’m scrolling on my phone—help! Research shows that if you have difficulty turning off your mind, you tend to sleep poorly, which may cause cognitive anxiety, physiological anxiety, moodiness, etc. Training your mind to embrace silence and stillness is imperative.&nbsp;</p><p>Why can’t I get myself to meditate when I try? Most people meditate unsuccessfully because they haven't been properly instructed. Instead of trying to completely clear your mind in the first go, try letting your thoughts gently dissipate.</p><p>Why do I feel anxiety as soon as I let go of distraction? Many of us use distractions as a bandaid to avoid thinking thoughts that need to be addressed. Instead of ignoring them, try to gently acknowledge what you’re trying to avoid and then explore why you feel compelled to do that.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Jewel-Ornament-Liberation-Wish-Fulfilling-Teachings/dp/1559390921" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Jewel Ornament of Liberation: The Wish-Fulfilling Gem of the Noble Teachings</a></p><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/id1565891768?i=1000527094682" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Misery or Happiness? The Buddha's Four Facts of Life</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a></p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has?  It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, connect to the song of the treefrogs, and even form a never-before-had appreciation for the gentle buds on the springtime trees. Maybe the thought of being alone with your mind for a month makes you a little uncomfortable, maybe it makes you introspective—or maybe it scares the hell out of you! Whatever your feelings on it, we can all agree that silence can be incredibly powerful… if we slow down and listen. For the last month, I’ve been on a solo, silent meditation retreat and I’m ready to share with you what I learned while I was 100% off the grid. Join me as I break down my experience and talk about some of the realizations I had while I was alone with just me, my thoughts, and my 18-year-old dog.  Today, I’m talking about the power of slowing down, the power of being present, and the power of silence. And here’s the not-always-pleasant truth: when we strip away the distractions of life, we will experience some of the beauty of a calm, settled mind—but we also experience the stuff we’ve been avoiding. In This Episode, You Will Learn: A bit about the silent meditation retreatI’ve recently returned from (05:04) When we are running for a distraction to make us feel better, we're not setting ourselves up for success (07:00) If you're not able to feel happy, open hearted, and compassionate without your phone, you're in trouble (10:38) The transcendent experience of a simple, solo birthday (12:42) Not being able to allow the mind to settle—like not allowing the dirt and  in a glass of water o settle out—is a cause for concern (15:06) This week’s LoveByte (22:39) Q&A: I can only turn my brain off when I’m scrolling on my phone—help! Research shows that if you have difficulty turning off your mind, you tend to sleep poorly, which may cause cognitive anxiety, physiological anxiety, moodiness, etc. Training your mind to embrace silence and stillness is imperative.  Why can’t I get myself to meditate when I try? Most people meditate unsuccessfully because they haven't been properly instructed. Instead of trying to completely clear your mind in the first go, try letting your thoughts gently dissipate. Why do I feel anxiety as soon as I let go of distraction? Many of us use distractions as a bandaid to avoid thinking thoughts that need to be addressed. Instead of ignoring them, try to gently acknowledge what you’re trying to avoid and then explore why you feel compelled to do that.  Resources mentioned: The Jewel Ornament of Liberation: The Wish-Fulfilling Gem of the Noble Teachings Misery or Happiness? The Buddha's Four Facts of Life Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has?  It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, connect to the song of the treefrogs, and even form a never-before-had appreciation for the gentle buds on the springtime trees. Maybe the thought of being alone with your mind for a month makes you a little uncomfortable, maybe it makes you introspective—or maybe it scares the hell out of you! Whatever your feelings on it, we can all agree that silence can be incredibly powerful… if we slow down and listen.


For the last month, I’ve been on a solo, silent meditation retreat and I’m ready to share with you what I learned while I was 100% off the grid. Join me as I break down my experience and talk about some of the realizations I had while I was alone with just me, my thoughts, and my 18-year-old dog. 


Today, I’m talking about the power of slowing down, the power of being present, and the power of silence. And here’s the not-always-pleasant truth: when we strip away the distractions of life, we will experience some of the beauty of a calm, settled mind—but we also experience the stuff we’ve been avoiding.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

A bit about the silent meditation retreatI’ve recently returned from (05:04)

When we are running for a distraction to make us feel better, we're not setting ourselves up for success (07:00)

If you're not able to feel happy, open hearted, and compassionate without your phone, you're in trouble (10:38)

The transcendent experience of a simple, solo birthday (12:42)

Not being able to allow the mind to settle—like not allowing the dirt and  in a glass of water o settle out—is a cause for concern (15:06)

This week’s LoveByte (22:39)


Q&A:

I can only turn my brain off when I’m scrolling on my phone—help! Research shows that if you have difficulty turning off your mind, you tend to sleep poorly, which may cause cognitive anxiety, physiological anxiety, moodiness, etc. Training your mind to embrace silence and stillness is imperative. 

Why can’t I get myself to meditate when I try? Most people meditate unsuccessfully because they haven't been properly instructed. Instead of trying to completely clear your mind in the first go, try letting your thoughts gently dissipate.

Why do I feel anxiety as soon as I let go of distraction? Many of us use distractions as a bandaid to avoid thinking thoughts that need to be addressed. Instead of ignoring them, try to gently acknowledge what you’re trying to avoid and then explore why you feel compelled to do that. 


Resources mentioned:

The Jewel Ornament of Liberation: The Wish-Fulfilling Gem of the Noble Teachings

Misery or Happiness? The Buddha's Four Facts of Life


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here

Facebook Page 

Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1506 no Help! I Want Sex—They Don’t! Your Love & Sex Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/help-i-want-sexthey-dont-your-love-sex-questions-answered “Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’re the partner feeling guilty for your lacking libido or the partner with the insatiable drive—YOU. ARE. NORMAL. Yes, both of you! For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, I’m talking all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit! In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal (02:39) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive (04:31) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship (07:15) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (08:10) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame (10:28) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again (11:53) This week’s LoveByte (17:51) Q&A: My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal? In long term relationships, it’s completely normal for spontaneous desire to wane. Try scheduling love making into your routine. Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! There’s no quick fix for a difference in sexual desire, but realize that it has nothing personally to do with either of you. How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do? While you and your honey may always have differences in sex drive, start out by trying regularly sechduled “sex dates” and see where you evolve from there.  Become Passion waitlist  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 04 Apr 2022 09:00:57 -0000 Help! I Want Sex—They Don’t! Your Love & Sex Questions Answered full 47 Cheryl Fraser <p>“Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’re the partner feeling guilty for your lacking libido or the partner with the insatiable drive—YOU. ARE. NORMAL. Yes, both of you!</p><br><p><strong>For the next few weeks, </strong>I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong>, I’m talking all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal (02:39)</li><li>Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive (04:31)</li><li>It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship (07:15)</li><li>Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (08:10)</li><li>There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame (10:28)</li><li>Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again (11:53)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (17:51)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal? In long term relationships, it’s completely normal for spontaneous desire to wane. Try scheduling love making into your routine.</em></li><li><em>Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! There’s no quick fix for a difference in sexual desire, but realize that it has nothing personally to do with either of you.</em></li><li><em>How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do? While you and your honey may always have differences in sex drive, start out by trying regularly sechduled “sex dates” and see where you evolve from there.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist&nbsp;</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’re the partner feeling guilty for your lacking libido or the partner with the insatiable drive—YOU. ARE. NORMAL. Yes, both of you! For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, I’m talking all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit! In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal (02:39) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive (04:31) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship (07:15) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (08:10) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame (10:28) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again (11:53) This week’s LoveByte (17:51) Q&A: My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal? In long term relationships, it’s completely normal for spontaneous desire to wane. Try scheduling love making into your routine. Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! There’s no quick fix for a difference in sexual desire, but realize that it has nothing personally to do with either of you. How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do? While you and your honey may always have differences in sex drive, start out by trying regularly sechduled “sex dates” and see where you evolve from there.  Become Passion waitlist  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’re the partner feeling guilty for your lacking libido or the partner with the insatiable drive—YOU. ARE. NORMAL. Yes, both of you!


For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.


Today, I’m talking all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal (02:39)
  • Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive (04:31)
  • It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship (07:15)
  • Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (08:10)
  • There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame (10:28)
  • Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again (11:53)
  • This week’s LoveByte (17:51)


Q&A:

  • My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal? In long term relationships, it’s completely normal for spontaneous desire to wane. Try scheduling love making into your routine.
  • Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! There’s no quick fix for a difference in sexual desire, but realize that it has nothing personally to do with either of you.
  • How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do? While you and your honey may always have differences in sex drive, start out by trying regularly sechduled “sex dates” and see where you evolve from there. 


Become Passion waitlist 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1212 no Am I With the Wrong Person? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/am-i-with-the-wrong-person-your-love-sex-questions-answered What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where's the passion?” Believe me, I get it. You love them, but you’re just not feeling in love with them anymore. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, I’m taking down the soulmate myth—because none of us should be longing for someone with half a soul! The truth is, when we are bored with our mate we are bored in our mind, AKA we've forgotten to find them interesting. But here’s what we have to keep in mind: just because the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean it will stay that way if you hop the fence. Sometimes the grass is just different grass. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We're all with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (02:52) We get bored with our partner because of complacency and because of familiarity (04:25) In one study, about half of people who initiated leaving a committed relationship regretted it two years later and in retrospect, felt they'd made a mistake (06:34) If you expect the prince or princess that rode in on that damn horse to fix things for you, I can guarantee you're not very happy (08:40) We feel a lot happier, a lot more positive, and a lot more fulfilled when we focus on what's working instead of what's not (11:52) This week’s action step: spend some time and find the 10 most important qualities you want in your relationship (14:22) This week’s LoveByte (18:40) Q&A: My mate is no longer making me happy or excited—is it time to split? Many people leave perfectly cromulent relationships just because they feel the excitement has gone. Ask yourself: what about the partnership has changed? Is there something I could be doing to help bring those feelings back? What can I do to make my relationship more like it used to be? Take some time to write down the 10 most important qualities you value in a relationship. Share them with your partner and see what dialogue this sparks.  I want to leave my partner for someone I find more exciting, but I’m afraid to take the leap. What should I do? Half of couples who split end up regretting it, take some time to realize why you’re feeling this way before you make any major decisions.  Resources mentioned: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum Buddha's Bedroom by Dr. Cheryl Fraser Become Passion waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 28 Mar 2022 09:00:12 -0000 Am I With the Wrong Person? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered full 46 Cheryl Fraser <p>What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where's the passion?” Believe me, I get it. You <em>love</em> them, but you’re just not feeling <em>in love</em> with them anymore.</p><br><p>For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.</p><br><p>Today, I’m taking down the soulmate myth—because none of us should be longing for someone with half a soul! The truth is, when we are bored with our mate we are bored in our mind, AKA we've forgotten to find them interesting. But here’s what we have to keep in mind: just because the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean it will stay that way if you hop the fence. Sometimes the grass is just <em>different </em>grass.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>We're all with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (02:52)</p><p>We get bored with our partner because of complacency and because of familiarity (04:25)</p><p>In one study, about half of people who initiated leaving a committed relationship regretted it two years later and in retrospect, felt they'd made a mistake (06:34)</p><p>If you expect the prince or princess that rode in on that damn horse to fix things for you, I can guarantee you're not very happy (08:40)</p><p>We feel a lot happier, a lot more positive, and a lot more fulfilled when we focus on what's working instead of what's not (11:52)</p><p><em>This week’s action step: spend some time and find the 10 most important qualities you want in your relationship (14:22)</em></p><p>This week’s LoveByte (18:40)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>My mate is no longer making me happy or excited—is it time to split? Many people leave perfectly cromulent relationships just because they feel the excitement has gone. Ask yourself: what about the partnership has changed? Is there something I could be doing to help bring those feelings back?</p><p>What can I do to make my relationship more like it used to be? Take some time to write down the 10 most important qualities you value in a relationship. Share them with your partner and see what dialogue this sparks.&nbsp;</p><p>I want to leave my partner for someone I find more exciting, but I’m afraid to take the leap. What should I do? Half of couples who split end up regretting it, take some time to realize why you’re feeling this way before you make any major decisions.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Good-Leave-Stay-Step-Step/dp/0452275350" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom by Dr. Cheryl Fraser</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion waitlist</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where's the passion?” Believe me, I get it. You love them, but you’re just not feeling in love with them anymore. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, I’m taking down the soulmate myth—because none of us should be longing for someone with half a soul! The truth is, when we are bored with our mate we are bored in our mind, AKA we've forgotten to find them interesting. But here’s what we have to keep in mind: just because the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean it will stay that way if you hop the fence. Sometimes the grass is just different grass. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We're all with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (02:52) We get bored with our partner because of complacency and because of familiarity (04:25) In one study, about half of people who initiated leaving a committed relationship regretted it two years later and in retrospect, felt they'd made a mistake (06:34) If you expect the prince or princess that rode in on that damn horse to fix things for you, I can guarantee you're not very happy (08:40) We feel a lot happier, a lot more positive, and a lot more fulfilled when we focus on what's working instead of what's not (11:52) This week’s action step: spend some time and find the 10 most important qualities you want in your relationship (14:22) This week’s LoveByte (18:40) Q&A: My mate is no longer making me happy or excited—is it time to split? Many people leave perfectly cromulent relationships just because they feel the excitement has gone. Ask yourself: what about the partnership has changed? Is there something I could be doing to help bring those feelings back? What can I do to make my relationship more like it used to be? Take some time to write down the 10 most important qualities you value in a relationship. Share them with your partner and see what dialogue this sparks.  I want to leave my partner for someone I find more exciting, but I’m afraid to take the leap. What should I do? Half of couples who split end up regretting it, take some time to realize why you’re feeling this way before you make any major decisions.  Resources mentioned: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum Buddha's Bedroom by Dr. Cheryl Fraser Become Passion waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where's the passion?” Believe me, I get it. You love them, but you’re just not feeling in love with them anymore.


For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.


Today, I’m taking down the soulmate myth—because none of us should be longing for someone with half a soul! The truth is, when we are bored with our mate we are bored in our mind, AKA we've forgotten to find them interesting. But here’s what we have to keep in mind: just because the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean it will stay that way if you hop the fence. Sometimes the grass is just different grass.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

We're all with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (02:52)

We get bored with our partner because of complacency and because of familiarity (04:25)

In one study, about half of people who initiated leaving a committed relationship regretted it two years later and in retrospect, felt they'd made a mistake (06:34)

If you expect the prince or princess that rode in on that damn horse to fix things for you, I can guarantee you're not very happy (08:40)

We feel a lot happier, a lot more positive, and a lot more fulfilled when we focus on what's working instead of what's not (11:52)

This week’s action step: spend some time and find the 10 most important qualities you want in your relationship (14:22)

This week’s LoveByte (18:40)


Q&A:

My mate is no longer making me happy or excited—is it time to split? Many people leave perfectly cromulent relationships just because they feel the excitement has gone. Ask yourself: what about the partnership has changed? Is there something I could be doing to help bring those feelings back?

What can I do to make my relationship more like it used to be? Take some time to write down the 10 most important qualities you value in a relationship. Share them with your partner and see what dialogue this sparks. 

I want to leave my partner for someone I find more exciting, but I’m afraid to take the leap. What should I do? Half of couples who split end up regretting it, take some time to realize why you’re feeling this way before you make any major decisions. 


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1269 no Should I Share My Taboo Fantasy with My Partner? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/should-i-share-my-taboo-fantasy-with-my-partner-your-love-se “Dr. Cheryl, I have a wild sexual fantasy, should I share it with my partner?” “Dr. Cheryl, how can I explain my dark, lusty sexual energy to my sweetheart?” “Dr. Cheryl, sometimes I have crazy fantasies that I would never do in real life, does that mean I am somehow messed up?” These are all very real and very valid questions that I get all the time. Sometimes, even those of us who would consider ourselves sexually progressive and liberated have trouble accepting what we’ve come to see as taboo.  For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, I'm answering your questions about sexual taboos, sexual fantasy, and what I call dark sexual energy—and guess what? These are all positive things! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Many folks are way more comfortable early on in the relationship sharing about past lovers, past experiences, and things they'd like to try (02:52) You can bring the fantasy energy—that dark erotic energy—into your lovemaking with your sweetheart without acting it out explicitly if you’re unsure (04:49) The word “libido,” which we think of as being a word that refers to sex drive, actually draws from a Latin root that means life force (05:55) There's nothing wrong with routine sex, but how beautiful is it to shake things up and choose to share some of our deep dark longings with our partner? (07:01) Dark sexual energy isn’t just male territory—everyone’s got a right to it! (10:48) Share a sexual fantasy with your sweetheart. If it’s something you already do, go ahead and act it out (15:16) This week’s LoveByte (17:22) Q&A: I’m ashamed to tell my partner about my erotic fantasies, what should I do? Even if you don’t think your partner feels the same way, think of it this way: every human being has the capacity for deep, lusty, spicy, really hot, triple X sexuality. Maybe you’re just not giving your sweetheart enough credit.   Help! I don’t want to scare my partner by telling them about my deepest sexual fantasies. Remember that it’s possible for you to bring the exploratory erotic energy into your intimate moments without necessarily acting your fantasies out explicitly. I’m a male, does my female partner have the same dark sexual energy I do? Just because your genders are different doesn’t mean your sexual drive is. Women (gay, straight, and trans) are just as likely to have dark erotic fantasies as their male counterparts.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 21 Mar 2022 10:00:14 -0000 Should I Share My Taboo Fantasy with My Partner? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered full 45 Cheryl Fraser <p>“Dr. Cheryl, I have a wild sexual fantasy, should I share it with my partner?”</p><p>“Dr. Cheryl, how can I explain my dark, lusty sexual energy to my sweetheart?”</p><p>“Dr. Cheryl, sometimes I have crazy fantasies that I would never do in real life, does that mean I am somehow messed up?”</p><br><p>These are all very real and very valid questions that I get all the time. Sometimes, even those of us who would consider ourselves sexually progressive and liberated have trouble accepting what we’ve come to see as taboo.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>For the next few weeks, </strong>I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.</p><br><p>Today, I'm answering your questions about sexual taboos, sexual fantasy, and what I call dark sexual energy—and guess what? These are all positive things!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Many folks are way more comfortable early on in the relationship sharing about past lovers, past experiences, and things they'd like to try (02:52)</li><li>You can bring the fantasy energy—that dark erotic energy—into your lovemaking with your sweetheart without acting it out explicitly if you’re unsure (04:49)</li><li>The word “libido,” which we think of as being a word that refers to sex drive, actually draws from a Latin root that means life force (05:55)</li><li>There's nothing wrong with routine sex, but how beautiful is it to shake things up and choose to share some of our deep dark longings with our partner? (07:01)</li><li>Dark sexual energy isn’t just male territory—everyone’s got a right to it! (10:48)</li><li>Share a sexual fantasy with your sweetheart. If it’s something you already do, go ahead and act it out (15:16)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (17:22)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>I’m ashamed to tell my partner about my erotic fantasies, what should I do? Even if you don’t think your partner feels the same way, think of it this way: every human being has the capacity for deep, lusty, spicy, really hot, triple X sexuality. Maybe you’re just not giving your sweetheart enough credit.&nbsp;&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>Help! I don’t want to scare my partner by telling them about my deepest sexual fantasies. Remember that it’s possible for you to bring the exploratory erotic energy into your intimate moments without necessarily acting your fantasies out explicitly.</em></li><li><em>I’m a male, does my female partner have the same dark sexual energy I do? Just because your genders are different doesn’t mean your sexual drive is. Women (gay, straight, and trans) are just as likely to have dark erotic fantasies as their male counterparts.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “Dr. Cheryl, I have a wild sexual fantasy, should I share it with my partner?” “Dr. Cheryl, how can I explain my dark, lusty sexual energy to my sweetheart?” “Dr. Cheryl, sometimes I have crazy fantasies that I would never do in real life, does that mean I am somehow messed up?” These are all very real and very valid questions that I get all the time. Sometimes, even those of us who would consider ourselves sexually progressive and liberated have trouble accepting what we’ve come to see as taboo.  For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, I'm answering your questions about sexual taboos, sexual fantasy, and what I call dark sexual energy—and guess what? These are all positive things! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Many folks are way more comfortable early on in the relationship sharing about past lovers, past experiences, and things they'd like to try (02:52) You can bring the fantasy energy—that dark erotic energy—into your lovemaking with your sweetheart without acting it out explicitly if you’re unsure (04:49) The word “libido,” which we think of as being a word that refers to sex drive, actually draws from a Latin root that means life force (05:55) There's nothing wrong with routine sex, but how beautiful is it to shake things up and choose to share some of our deep dark longings with our partner? (07:01) Dark sexual energy isn’t just male territory—everyone’s got a right to it! (10:48) Share a sexual fantasy with your sweetheart. If it’s something you already do, go ahead and act it out (15:16) This week’s LoveByte (17:22) Q&A: I’m ashamed to tell my partner about my erotic fantasies, what should I do? Even if you don’t think your partner feels the same way, think of it this way: every human being has the capacity for deep, lusty, spicy, really hot, triple X sexuality. Maybe you’re just not giving your sweetheart enough credit.   Help! I don’t want to scare my partner by telling them about my deepest sexual fantasies. Remember that it’s possible for you to bring the exploratory erotic energy into your intimate moments without necessarily acting your fantasies out explicitly. I’m a male, does my female partner have the same dark sexual energy I do? Just because your genders are different doesn’t mean your sexual drive is. Women (gay, straight, and trans) are just as likely to have dark erotic fantasies as their male counterparts.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “Dr. Cheryl, I have a wild sexual fantasy, should I share it with my partner?”

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I explain my dark, lusty sexual energy to my sweetheart?”

“Dr. Cheryl, sometimes I have crazy fantasies that I would never do in real life, does that mean I am somehow messed up?”


These are all very real and very valid questions that I get all the time. Sometimes, even those of us who would consider ourselves sexually progressive and liberated have trouble accepting what we’ve come to see as taboo. 


For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.


Today, I'm answering your questions about sexual taboos, sexual fantasy, and what I call dark sexual energy—and guess what? These are all positive things!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Many folks are way more comfortable early on in the relationship sharing about past lovers, past experiences, and things they'd like to try (02:52)
  • You can bring the fantasy energy—that dark erotic energy—into your lovemaking with your sweetheart without acting it out explicitly if you’re unsure (04:49)
  • The word “libido,” which we think of as being a word that refers to sex drive, actually draws from a Latin root that means life force (05:55)
  • There's nothing wrong with routine sex, but how beautiful is it to shake things up and choose to share some of our deep dark longings with our partner? (07:01)
  • Dark sexual energy isn’t just male territory—everyone’s got a right to it! (10:48)
  • Share a sexual fantasy with your sweetheart. If it’s something you already do, go ahead and act it out (15:16)
  • This week’s LoveByte (17:22)


Q&A:

  • I’m ashamed to tell my partner about my erotic fantasies, what should I do? Even if you don’t think your partner feels the same way, think of it this way: every human being has the capacity for deep, lusty, spicy, really hot, triple X sexuality. Maybe you’re just not giving your sweetheart enough credit.  
  • Help! I don’t want to scare my partner by telling them about my deepest sexual fantasies. Remember that it’s possible for you to bring the exploratory erotic energy into your intimate moments without necessarily acting your fantasies out explicitly.
  • I’m a male, does my female partner have the same dark sexual energy I do? Just because your genders are different doesn’t mean your sexual drive is. Women (gay, straight, and trans) are just as likely to have dark erotic fantasies as their male counterparts. 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1196 no Do Healthy Couples Argue? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/do-healthy-couples-argue-your-love-sex-questions-answered If you're very young and foolish—or maybe you're old and foolish—falling in love early on might feel like your sweetheart understands you and can see inside your soul like no one has ever done before. Of course, some of this may be true. That’s why you feel such an intense bond. But love is a hard gig. You and your mate are not actually the same person, disagreements will happen, and they do not have to indicate a bigger problem. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Do healthy couples argue? That’s the question I’m taking on today—and the answer is hell yes. There are two ways to argue. One is destructive and can even predict breakup and divorce, while the other is constructive, healthy, and can even help you understand one another better.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you're a flesh and blood human being attempting to be in love with another flesh and blood human being, you are going to disagree (03:07) The Big 3 issues that couples argue over: finances, kids, and sex (04:34) The two most destructive behaviors when arguing: criticism and defensiveness (05:38) If you don't learn to take responsibility when you make mistakes, it’s a predictor of breakup (11:53) Healthy couples argue well, fight fair, and they don't resort to the personal ugly global criticism and defensiveness (12:35) A few relationship hacks to help improve your communication (13:07) This week’s LoveByte (15:39) Q&A: What are some things I can do to improve communication with my partner? When you're going to talk about something a little challenging, touch each other before you start talking. It can be as simple as holding hands, or facing each other in two chairs and making sure your knees are touching. How can my partner and I have difficult discussions without it turning into a fight? Learn to make sympathetic noises during a discussion. When you're listening to your partner, instead of jumping in and interrupting or disagreeing, noises as simple as, “Oh really?” Or, “Oh, that sounds tough.” As the speaker, you'll feel much more connected, respected, and understood. My partner and I always end up in a shouting match—help! Learn to fight fair before you start your talk. Remember: they're not your enemy, they're your very best friend. Episodes mentioned: Don't Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour—Instead, Apologize Like a MoFo Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 14 Mar 2022 10:00:57 -0000 Do Healthy Couples Argue? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered full 44 Cheryl Fraser <p>If you're very young and foolish—or maybe you're old and foolish—falling in love early on might feel like your sweetheart understands you and can see inside your soul like no one has ever done before. Of course, some of this may be true. That’s why you feel such an intense bond. But love is a hard gig. You and your mate are not actually the same person, disagreements will happen, and <em>they do not have to indicate a bigger problem</em>.</p><br><p>For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.</p><br><p>Do healthy couples argue? That’s the question I’m taking on today—and the answer is <em>hell yes</em>. There are two ways to argue. One is destructive and can even predict breakup and divorce, while the other is constructive, healthy, and can even help you understand one another better.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If you're a flesh and blood human being attempting to be in love with another flesh and blood human being, you are going to disagree (03:07)</li><li>The Big 3 issues that couples argue over: finances, kids, and sex (04:34)</li><li>The two most destructive behaviors when arguing: criticism and defensiveness (05:38)</li><li>If you don't learn to take responsibility when you make mistakes, it’s a predictor of breakup (11:53)</li><li>Healthy couples argue well, fight fair, and they don't resort to the personal ugly global criticism and defensiveness (12:35)</li><li>A few relationship hacks to help improve your communication (13:07)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (15:39)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>What are some things I can do to improve communication with my partner? When you're going to talk about something a little challenging, touch each other before you start talking. It can be as simple as holding hands, or facing each other in two chairs and making sure your knees are touching.</em></li><li><em>How can my partner and I have difficult discussions without it turning into a fight? Learn to make sympathetic noises during a discussion. When you're listening to your partner, instead of jumping in and interrupting or disagreeing, noises as simple as, “Oh really?” Or, “Oh, that sounds tough.” As the speaker, you'll feel much more connected, respected, and understood.</em></li><li><em>My partner and I always end up in a shouting match—help! Learn to fight fair before you start your talk. Remember: they're not your enemy, they're your very best friend.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Episodes mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/ua/podcast/dont-make-excuses-for-bad-behaviour-instead-apologize/id1565891768?i=1000532787593" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Don't Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour—Instead, Apologize Like a MoFo</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> If you're very young and foolish—or maybe you're old and foolish—falling in love early on might feel like your sweetheart understands you and can see inside your soul like no one has ever done before. Of course, some of this may be true. That’s why you feel such an intense bond. But love is a hard gig. You and your mate are not actually the same person, disagreements will happen, and they do not have to indicate a bigger problem. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Do healthy couples argue? That’s the question I’m taking on today—and the answer is hell yes. There are two ways to argue. One is destructive and can even predict breakup and divorce, while the other is constructive, healthy, and can even help you understand one another better.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you're a flesh and blood human being attempting to be in love with another flesh and blood human being, you are going to disagree (03:07) The Big 3 issues that couples argue over: finances, kids, and sex (04:34) The two most destructive behaviors when arguing: criticism and defensiveness (05:38) If you don't learn to take responsibility when you make mistakes, it’s a predictor of breakup (11:53) Healthy couples argue well, fight fair, and they don't resort to the personal ugly global criticism and defensiveness (12:35) A few relationship hacks to help improve your communication (13:07) This week’s LoveByte (15:39) Q&A: What are some things I can do to improve communication with my partner? When you're going to talk about something a little challenging, touch each other before you start talking. It can be as simple as holding hands, or facing each other in two chairs and making sure your knees are touching. How can my partner and I have difficult discussions without it turning into a fight? Learn to make sympathetic noises during a discussion. When you're listening to your partner, instead of jumping in and interrupting or disagreeing, noises as simple as, “Oh really?” Or, “Oh, that sounds tough.” As the speaker, you'll feel much more connected, respected, and understood. My partner and I always end up in a shouting match—help! Learn to fight fair before you start your talk. Remember: they're not your enemy, they're your very best friend. Episodes mentioned: Don't Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour—Instead, Apologize Like a MoFo Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. If you're very young and foolish—or maybe you're old and foolish—falling in love early on might feel like your sweetheart understands you and can see inside your soul like no one has ever done before. Of course, some of this may be true. That’s why you feel such an intense bond. But love is a hard gig. You and your mate are not actually the same person, disagreements will happen, and they do not have to indicate a bigger problem.


For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.


Do healthy couples argue? That’s the question I’m taking on today—and the answer is hell yes. There are two ways to argue. One is destructive and can even predict breakup and divorce, while the other is constructive, healthy, and can even help you understand one another better. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you're a flesh and blood human being attempting to be in love with another flesh and blood human being, you are going to disagree (03:07)
  • The Big 3 issues that couples argue over: finances, kids, and sex (04:34)
  • The two most destructive behaviors when arguing: criticism and defensiveness (05:38)
  • If you don't learn to take responsibility when you make mistakes, it’s a predictor of breakup (11:53)
  • Healthy couples argue well, fight fair, and they don't resort to the personal ugly global criticism and defensiveness (12:35)
  • A few relationship hacks to help improve your communication (13:07)
  • This week’s LoveByte (15:39)


Q&A:

  • What are some things I can do to improve communication with my partner? When you're going to talk about something a little challenging, touch each other before you start talking. It can be as simple as holding hands, or facing each other in two chairs and making sure your knees are touching.
  • How can my partner and I have difficult discussions without it turning into a fight? Learn to make sympathetic noises during a discussion. When you're listening to your partner, instead of jumping in and interrupting or disagreeing, noises as simple as, “Oh really?” Or, “Oh, that sounds tough.” As the speaker, you'll feel much more connected, respected, and understood.
  • My partner and I always end up in a shouting match—help! Learn to fight fair before you start your talk. Remember: they're not your enemy, they're your very best friend.


Episodes mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1111 no Unhappy in Life or Love? Rewrite the Story in Your Mind https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/unhappy-in-life-or-love-rewrite-the-story-in-your-mind When you are unhappy, why are you unhappy? Life would be a heck of a lot simpler if there was a go-to answer to that question, wouldn’t it? Generally, we’re unhappy when something in our lives isn’t going quite right. You might be in pain, you might be mourning a loss, you might be worrying about money or your career or your love life. But even that last one is a little tricky: When we're unhappy in our romantic relationship, why are we unhappy? Today, I'm talking about the number one cause of relationship misery—and for that matter, all misery—in our lives.  In this episode, we’re exploring how the mind is responsible for whether or not an event is positive or negative and what story you’re telling yourself about it. I’m also telling you about the cure for disappointment in your relationship that will be your key for freedom and happiness and your one way ticket out of Marriage, Inc.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We are happy or not happy in our mind (02:25) How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness (04:26) “If only” are two of the most dangerous words in relationship—and in life (13:38) My husband made our first Valentine’s Day together absolutely magical… that doesn’t mean they’ve all been that way! (15:38) The story in your head is what will determine whether you have a great relationship— with all its imperfections and all the ways your mate “disappoints” you (18:03) Rewrite the story of your relationship in your mind (20:46)  Your weekly LoveByte (26:24) Q&A: My spouse is driving me crazy lately, what should I do? Ask yourself why they’re making you unhappy. Is it something they’re intentionally doing or is it something you’ve made your mind up to be annoyed by? My partner neglected Valentine's Day again this year… how do I tell them I’m disappointed? Whether or not you’re disappointed is a choice you’ve made in your mind. Realize that it’s highly unlikely that they set out to upset you and temper your expectations for next time.  I’m always let down by others, how can I make my life happier? How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness. Learn to stop relying on others for your own happiness.  Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 28 Feb 2022 10:00:02 -0000 Unhappy in Life or Love? Rewrite the Story in Your Mind full 42 Cheryl Fraser <p>When you are unhappy, why are you unhappy? Life would be a heck of a lot simpler if there was a go-to answer to that question, wouldn’t it? Generally, we’re unhappy when something in our lives isn’t going quite right. You might be in pain, you might be mourning a loss, you might be worrying about money or your career or your love life. But even that last one is a little tricky: When we're unhappy in our romantic relationship, <em>why </em>are we unhappy?</p><br><p><strong>Today,<em> </em></strong>I'm talking about the number one cause of relationship misery—and for that matter,<em> all </em>misery—in our lives.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, we’re exploring how the mind is responsible for whether or not an event is positive or negative and what story you’re telling yourself about it. I’m also telling you about the cure for disappointment in your relationship that will be your key for freedom and happiness and your one way ticket out of Marriage, Inc.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>We are happy or not happy in our mind (02:25)</li><li>How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness (04:26)</li><li>“If only” are two of the most dangerous words in relationship—and in life (13:38)</li><li>My husband made our first Valentine’s Day together absolutely magical… that doesn’t mean they’ve all been that way! (15:38)</li><li>The story in your head is what will determine whether you have a great relationship— with all its imperfections and all the ways your mate “disappoints” you (18:03)</li><li>Rewrite the story of your relationship in your mind (20:46)&nbsp;</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>My spouse is driving me crazy lately, what should I do? Ask yourself why they’re making you unhappy. Is it something they’re intentionally doing or is it something you’ve made your mind up to be annoyed by?</em></li><li><em>My partner neglected Valentine's Day again this year… how do I tell them I’m disappointed? Whether or not you’re disappointed is a choice you’ve made in your mind. Realize that it’s highly unlikely that they set out to upset you and temper your expectations for next time.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>I’m always let down by others, how can I make my life happier? How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness. Learn to stop relying on others for your own happiness.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> When you are unhappy, why are you unhappy? Life would be a heck of a lot simpler if there was a go-to answer to that question, wouldn’t it? Generally, we’re unhappy when something in our lives isn’t going quite right. You might be in pain, you might be mourning a loss, you might be worrying about money or your career or your love life. But even that last one is a little tricky: When we're unhappy in our romantic relationship, why are we unhappy? Today, I'm talking about the number one cause of relationship misery—and for that matter, all misery—in our lives.  In this episode, we’re exploring how the mind is responsible for whether or not an event is positive or negative and what story you’re telling yourself about it. I’m also telling you about the cure for disappointment in your relationship that will be your key for freedom and happiness and your one way ticket out of Marriage, Inc.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We are happy or not happy in our mind (02:25) How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness (04:26) “If only” are two of the most dangerous words in relationship—and in life (13:38) My husband made our first Valentine’s Day together absolutely magical… that doesn’t mean they’ve all been that way! (15:38) The story in your head is what will determine whether you have a great relationship— with all its imperfections and all the ways your mate “disappoints” you (18:03) Rewrite the story of your relationship in your mind (20:46)  Your weekly LoveByte (26:24) Q&A: My spouse is driving me crazy lately, what should I do? Ask yourself why they’re making you unhappy. Is it something they’re intentionally doing or is it something you’ve made your mind up to be annoyed by? My partner neglected Valentine's Day again this year… how do I tell them I’m disappointed? Whether or not you’re disappointed is a choice you’ve made in your mind. Realize that it’s highly unlikely that they set out to upset you and temper your expectations for next time.  I’m always let down by others, how can I make my life happier? How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness. Learn to stop relying on others for your own happiness.  Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. When you are unhappy, why are you unhappy? Life would be a heck of a lot simpler if there was a go-to answer to that question, wouldn’t it? Generally, we’re unhappy when something in our lives isn’t going quite right. You might be in pain, you might be mourning a loss, you might be worrying about money or your career or your love life. But even that last one is a little tricky: When we're unhappy in our romantic relationship, why are we unhappy?


Today, I'm talking about the number one cause of relationship misery—and for that matter, all misery—in our lives. 


In this episode, we’re exploring how the mind is responsible for whether or not an event is positive or negative and what story you’re telling yourself about it. I’m also telling you about the cure for disappointment in your relationship that will be your key for freedom and happiness and your one way ticket out of Marriage, Inc. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • We are happy or not happy in our mind (02:25)
  • How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness (04:26)
  • “If only” are two of the most dangerous words in relationship—and in life (13:38)
  • My husband made our first Valentine’s Day together absolutely magical… that doesn’t mean they’ve all been that way! (15:38)
  • The story in your head is what will determine whether you have a great relationship— with all its imperfections and all the ways your mate “disappoints” you (18:03)
  • Rewrite the story of your relationship in your mind (20:46) 
  • Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)


Q&A:

  • My spouse is driving me crazy lately, what should I do? Ask yourself why they’re making you unhappy. Is it something they’re intentionally doing or is it something you’ve made your mind up to be annoyed by?
  • My partner neglected Valentine's Day again this year… how do I tell them I’m disappointed? Whether or not you’re disappointed is a choice you’ve made in your mind. Realize that it’s highly unlikely that they set out to upset you and temper your expectations for next time. 
  • I’m always let down by others, how can I make my life happier? How we interpret, how we react to, and how we think about the thing that's happening is the cause of our happiness or unhappiness. Learn to stop relying on others for your own happiness. 


Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1724 no Burn Your Romance Novels and Save Your Relationship https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/burn-your-romance-novels-and-save-your-relationship Picture it: a gorgeous, tanned man with huge, hulking muscles and long flowing hair clutches a beautiful waif wearing an artfully tattered dress… maybe they’re in front of a fire or in a picturesque field or sea side. There’s an obvious reason these types of books have an everlasting fan-base, but the fact is, relying on fantasy for your expectations of real life simply isn’t healthy—nor is it sustainable. Today, I’m talking about fantasy, fiction, and why avoiding living in the real world is one of the most damaging things you can do to yourself.  In this episode, I’m giving it to you straight because the truth is there is no happily ever after in any of our lives, in any of our relationships—the price of love is loss. There's an inherent risk in love, but you only need to suffer when you buy into the idiocy that there's something perfect that will keep you happy ever after.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When you get lost in fantasy and you're dreaming about something other than what you have, you are unhappy (04:02) One of the most glorious parts of falling in love is believing we’ve found someone who is perfect—even if we know deep down it’s not true (07:19) Stop longing for what you don't have, stop believing there's something better out there. There's something different out there, but different doesn’t mean happy ever after (09:36) Try and think of Valentine's Day as a great excuse to do something romantic and fun with and for your sweet heart (14:00) One of the best ways to be unhappy and wreck your relationship is to long for what you don't have (18:31) Kill the soulmate in your head. Look at the perfectly imperfect, glorious person standing right in front of you (24:14) Your weekly LoveByte (26:57) Q&A: The only satisfaction I get is when I read/watch sexual fantasies, should I be worried? When you’re engrossed in fantasy, it generally means that you’re unhappy in your “real” life. Try exploring this and see what’s making you so unsatisfied.  My partner is constantly disappointing me, what can I do to make them change? If you’re constantly longing for what you don’t have in a relationship, you’re never going to be happy.  I’m never happy in my relationships, what’s wrong with me? When you long for something that isn't present, you're not living this moment and you will never find happiness doing it.  Resources: This Valentine’s Day Burn Your Romance Novels by Cheryl Fraser Fear of Flying by Erica Jong Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 21 Feb 2022 10:00:19 -0000 Burn Your Romance Novels and Save Your Relationship full 41 Cheryl Fraser <p>Picture it: a gorgeous, tanned man with huge, hulking muscles and long flowing hair clutches a beautiful waif wearing an artfully tattered dress… maybe they’re in front of a fire or in a picturesque field or sea side. There’s an obvious reason these types of books have an everlasting fan-base, but the fact is, relying on fantasy for your expectations of real life simply isn’t healthy—nor is it sustainable.</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong>, I’m talking about fantasy, fiction, and why avoiding living in the real world is one of the most damaging things you can do to yourself<em>.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p>In this episode, I’m giving it to you straight because the truth is there is no <em>happily ever after</em> in any of our lives, in any of our relationships—the price of love is loss. There's an inherent risk in love, but you only need to suffer when you buy into the idiocy that there's something perfect that will keep you happy ever after.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li>When you get lost in fantasy and you're dreaming about something other than what you have, you are unhappy (04:02)</li><li>One of the most glorious parts of falling in love is believing we’ve found someone who is perfect—even if we know deep down it’s not true (07:19)</li><li>Stop longing for what you don't have, stop believing there's something better out there. There's something different out there, but different doesn’t mean happy ever after (09:36)</li><li>Try and think of Valentine's Day as a great excuse to do something romantic and fun with and for your sweet heart (14:00)</li><li>One of the best ways to be unhappy and wreck your relationship is to long for what you don't have (18:31)</li><li>Kill the soulmate in your head. Look at the perfectly imperfect, glorious person standing right in front of you (24:14)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (26:57)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>The only satisfaction I get is when I read/watch sexual fantasies, should I be worried? When you’re engrossed in fantasy, it generally means that you’re unhappy in your “real” life. Try exploring this and see what’s making you so unsatisfied.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>My partner is constantly disappointing me, what can I do to make them change? If you’re constantly longing for what you don’t have in a relationship, you’re never going to be happy.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>I’m never happy in my relationships, what’s wrong with me? When you long for something that isn't present, you're not living this moment and you will never find happiness doing it.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/this-valentines-day-burn-your-romance-novels/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">This Valentine’s Day Burn Your Romance Novels by Cheryl Fraser</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Fear-Flying-Erica-Jong/dp/045120994X" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Fear of Flying by Erica Jong</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Picture it: a gorgeous, tanned man with huge, hulking muscles and long flowing hair clutches a beautiful waif wearing an artfully tattered dress… maybe they’re in front of a fire or in a picturesque field or sea side. There’s an obvious reason these types of books have an everlasting fan-base, but the fact is, relying on fantasy for your expectations of real life simply isn’t healthy—nor is it sustainable. Today, I’m talking about fantasy, fiction, and why avoiding living in the real world is one of the most damaging things you can do to yourself.  In this episode, I’m giving it to you straight because the truth is there is no happily ever after in any of our lives, in any of our relationships—the price of love is loss. There's an inherent risk in love, but you only need to suffer when you buy into the idiocy that there's something perfect that will keep you happy ever after.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When you get lost in fantasy and you're dreaming about something other than what you have, you are unhappy (04:02) One of the most glorious parts of falling in love is believing we’ve found someone who is perfect—even if we know deep down it’s not true (07:19) Stop longing for what you don't have, stop believing there's something better out there. There's something different out there, but different doesn’t mean happy ever after (09:36) Try and think of Valentine's Day as a great excuse to do something romantic and fun with and for your sweet heart (14:00) One of the best ways to be unhappy and wreck your relationship is to long for what you don't have (18:31) Kill the soulmate in your head. Look at the perfectly imperfect, glorious person standing right in front of you (24:14) Your weekly LoveByte (26:57) Q&A: The only satisfaction I get is when I read/watch sexual fantasies, should I be worried? When you’re engrossed in fantasy, it generally means that you’re unhappy in your “real” life. Try exploring this and see what’s making you so unsatisfied.  My partner is constantly disappointing me, what can I do to make them change? If you’re constantly longing for what you don’t have in a relationship, you’re never going to be happy.  I’m never happy in my relationships, what’s wrong with me? When you long for something that isn't present, you're not living this moment and you will never find happiness doing it.  Resources: This Valentine’s Day Burn Your Romance Novels by Cheryl Fraser Fear of Flying by Erica Jong Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Picture it: a gorgeous, tanned man with huge, hulking muscles and long flowing hair clutches a beautiful waif wearing an artfully tattered dress… maybe they’re in front of a fire or in a picturesque field or sea side. There’s an obvious reason these types of books have an everlasting fan-base, but the fact is, relying on fantasy for your expectations of real life simply isn’t healthy—nor is it sustainable.


Today, I’m talking about fantasy, fiction, and why avoiding living in the real world is one of the most damaging things you can do to yourself. 


In this episode, I’m giving it to you straight because the truth is there is no happily ever after in any of our lives, in any of our relationships—the price of love is loss. There's an inherent risk in love, but you only need to suffer when you buy into the idiocy that there's something perfect that will keep you happy ever after. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • When you get lost in fantasy and you're dreaming about something other than what you have, you are unhappy (04:02)
  • One of the most glorious parts of falling in love is believing we’ve found someone who is perfect—even if we know deep down it’s not true (07:19)
  • Stop longing for what you don't have, stop believing there's something better out there. There's something different out there, but different doesn’t mean happy ever after (09:36)
  • Try and think of Valentine's Day as a great excuse to do something romantic and fun with and for your sweet heart (14:00)
  • One of the best ways to be unhappy and wreck your relationship is to long for what you don't have (18:31)
  • Kill the soulmate in your head. Look at the perfectly imperfect, glorious person standing right in front of you (24:14)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (26:57)


Q&A:

  • The only satisfaction I get is when I read/watch sexual fantasies, should I be worried? When you’re engrossed in fantasy, it generally means that you’re unhappy in your “real” life. Try exploring this and see what’s making you so unsatisfied. 
  • My partner is constantly disappointing me, what can I do to make them change? If you’re constantly longing for what you don’t have in a relationship, you’re never going to be happy. 
  • I’m never happy in my relationships, what’s wrong with me? When you long for something that isn't present, you're not living this moment and you will never find happiness doing it. 


Resources:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1760 no Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 4: Tantalize https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/reboot-your-relationship-in-four-weeks-part-4-tantalize Do you know the saddest phrase in the English language? "Too late."  I speak with so many couples who are splitting up because, “The passion is gone,” “We just drifted apart… somehow,” “I love them but I’m not in love with them,” “We never make love,” or, “It’s just too late.” But here’s the thing: it’s not too late, and there are still many things you can do to recapture that spark.  For the past three weeks, I’ve invited you to join me for a series of chats, culminating today, in order to help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is. Today, I’m covering Tantalize, the final of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. According to the statistics, most couple’s sex lives are non existent or lousy.  This Valentine’s Day, let’s change the trend of most long-term relationships and explore tantalizing meals, more eroticism, more imagination, step the heck up, and do something a little sexier than what we’re used to. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The greatest drop in marital satisfaction tends to come after the birth of the first child but the beautiful journey of parenthood doesn't have to take away from the connection between the two of you (06:04) Tantalize is the ability to promise pleasure to your partner in a slow way that is intriguing and enticing (13:11) An exercise to practice tantalizing your partner involving a simple hand or foot rub (14:09) The idea of practicing erotic touch is to tantalizee—to build up connection. Whether you take that into making love or not is not actually the point (17:00) If you’re feeling overwhelmed by these assignments, don’t be. This reboot is meant to refocus us to make love intentional, so start where you’re comfortable (20:03) Today’s LoveByte (24:41) Q&A: What’s a fun way to get my partner in the mood? Send your honey sexy texts or  leave them a sensual note on the mirror while they shower to get them excited for later. Is it okay that sometimes my partner and I would rather cuddle than have sex? Intimacy and connection does not have to equal intercourse. Sometimes the best way to connect is through erotic touch without it leading to sex.  How can I make Valentine’s Day special for my spouse? Try a sensual massage, sending a sexy, teasing text, or kissing them deeply and passionately to ignite their desire.  Download your Relationship Checklist HERE Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 14 Feb 2022 10:00:24 -0000 Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 4: Tantalize full 40 Cheryl Fraser <p>Do you know the saddest phrase in the English language? "Too late."&nbsp;</p><br><p>I speak with so many couples who are splitting up because, “The passion is gone,” “We just drifted apart… somehow,” “I love them but I’m not <em>in love </em>with them,” “We never make love,” or, “It’s just too late.” But here’s the thing:<strong> it’s not too late</strong>, and there are still many things you can do to recapture that spark.&nbsp;</p><br><p>For the past three weeks, I’ve invited you to join me for a series of chats, culminating today, in order to help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to <strong>TAKE ACTION</strong> and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is.</p><br><p>Today, I’m covering <strong>Tantalize</strong>, the final of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. According to the statistics, most couple’s sex lives are non existent or lousy. <em>&nbsp;</em>This Valentine’s Day, let’s change the trend of most long-term relationships and explore tantalizing meals, more eroticism, more imagination, <em>step the heck up</em>, and do something a little sexier than what we’re used to.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The greatest drop in marital satisfaction tends to come after the birth of the first child but the beautiful journey of parenthood doesn't have to take away from the connection between the two of you (06:04)</li><li>Tantalize is the ability to promise pleasure to your partner in a slow way that is intriguing and enticing (13:11)</li><li>An exercise to practice tantalizing your partner involving a simple hand or foot rub (14:09)</li><li>The idea of practicing erotic touch is to tantalizee—to build up connection. Whether you take that into making love or not is not actually the point (17:00)</li><li>If you’re feeling overwhelmed by these assignments, don’t be. This reboot is meant to refocus us to make love intentional, so start where you’re comfortable (20:03)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (24:41)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>What’s a fun way to get my partner in the mood? Send your honey sexy texts or&nbsp; leave them a sensual note on the mirror while they shower to get them excited for later.</em></li><li><em>Is it okay that sometimes my partner and I would rather cuddle than have sex? Intimacy and connection does not have to equal intercourse. Sometimes the best way to connect is through erotic touch without it leading to sex.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>How can I make Valentine’s Day special for my spouse? Try a sensual massage, sending a sexy, teasing text, or kissing them deeply and passionately to ignite their desire.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><em>Download your Relationship Checklist </em><a href="https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/sites/79331/downloads/sQeOFFXyTdqwDu5S388i_jan-2022-relationship-reboot-checklist.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>HERE</em></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Do you know the saddest phrase in the English language? "Too late."  I speak with so many couples who are splitting up because, “The passion is gone,” “We just drifted apart… somehow,” “I love them but I’m not in love with them,” “We never make love,” or, “It’s just too late.” But here’s the thing: it’s not too late, and there are still many things you can do to recapture that spark.  For the past three weeks, I’ve invited you to join me for a series of chats, culminating today, in order to help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is. Today, I’m covering Tantalize, the final of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. According to the statistics, most couple’s sex lives are non existent or lousy.  This Valentine’s Day, let’s change the trend of most long-term relationships and explore tantalizing meals, more eroticism, more imagination, step the heck up, and do something a little sexier than what we’re used to. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The greatest drop in marital satisfaction tends to come after the birth of the first child but the beautiful journey of parenthood doesn't have to take away from the connection between the two of you (06:04) Tantalize is the ability to promise pleasure to your partner in a slow way that is intriguing and enticing (13:11) An exercise to practice tantalizing your partner involving a simple hand or foot rub (14:09) The idea of practicing erotic touch is to tantalizee—to build up connection. Whether you take that into making love or not is not actually the point (17:00) If you’re feeling overwhelmed by these assignments, don’t be. This reboot is meant to refocus us to make love intentional, so start where you’re comfortable (20:03) Today’s LoveByte (24:41) Q&A: What’s a fun way to get my partner in the mood? Send your honey sexy texts or  leave them a sensual note on the mirror while they shower to get them excited for later. Is it okay that sometimes my partner and I would rather cuddle than have sex? Intimacy and connection does not have to equal intercourse. Sometimes the best way to connect is through erotic touch without it leading to sex.  How can I make Valentine’s Day special for my spouse? Try a sensual massage, sending a sexy, teasing text, or kissing them deeply and passionately to ignite their desire.  Download your Relationship Checklist HERE Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Do you know the saddest phrase in the English language? "Too late." 


I speak with so many couples who are splitting up because, “The passion is gone,” “We just drifted apart… somehow,” “I love them but I’m not in love with them,” “We never make love,” or, “It’s just too late.” But here’s the thing: it’s not too late, and there are still many things you can do to recapture that spark. 


For the past three weeks, I’ve invited you to join me for a series of chats, culminating today, in order to help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is.


Today, I’m covering Tantalize, the final of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. According to the statistics, most couple’s sex lives are non existent or lousy.  This Valentine’s Day, let’s change the trend of most long-term relationships and explore tantalizing meals, more eroticism, more imagination, step the heck up, and do something a little sexier than what we’re used to.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The greatest drop in marital satisfaction tends to come after the birth of the first child but the beautiful journey of parenthood doesn't have to take away from the connection between the two of you (06:04)
  • Tantalize is the ability to promise pleasure to your partner in a slow way that is intriguing and enticing (13:11)
  • An exercise to practice tantalizing your partner involving a simple hand or foot rub (14:09)
  • The idea of practicing erotic touch is to tantalizee—to build up connection. Whether you take that into making love or not is not actually the point (17:00)
  • If you’re feeling overwhelmed by these assignments, don’t be. This reboot is meant to refocus us to make love intentional, so start where you’re comfortable (20:03)
  • Today’s LoveByte (24:41)


Q&A:

  • What’s a fun way to get my partner in the mood? Send your honey sexy texts or  leave them a sensual note on the mirror while they shower to get them excited for later.
  • Is it okay that sometimes my partner and I would rather cuddle than have sex? Intimacy and connection does not have to equal intercourse. Sometimes the best way to connect is through erotic touch without it leading to sex. 
  • How can I make Valentine’s Day special for my spouse? Try a sensual massage, sending a sexy, teasing text, or kissing them deeply and passionately to ignite their desire. 


Download your Relationship Checklist HERE


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1677 no Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 3: Tease https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/reboot-your-relationship-in-four-weeks-part-3-tease Remember when you and your sweetheart first met and a day spent apart felt like an eternity? Remember the electricity you’d feel whenever you thought about seeing them at the end of the day? That chill that you got when you’d get that sexy, anticipatory text from them? Even if we’re settled in a long relationship, even if we see each other every day, there’s still a way to bring that anticipation back—it just takes a little practice. For the next four weeks, I invite you to join me for a series of chats, culminating on Valentine’s Day, that will help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is. Today, I’m covering Tease, the third of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. We’re talking all about bringing sexy back with the art of the tease. The truth is, it’s a myth that great love and sex are only for the young and it's a myth that great romance and passion is only for when we're falling in love. If you make your love life intentional and invest time, energy, and intentionality in your love life, you’ll have a great return on investment. In This Episode, You Will Learn: If we want anything in our life to improve, we must learn to invest time and energy and effort—and this includes sex (04:36)  When you first started dating your sweetheart, you had that delicious sense of anticipation… that’s where the “tease” comes in (08:28) Research shows that the majority of long term couples suffer from significant lack of sexual desire (11:13) Some homework ideas to practice five minutes a day of sexy teasing with your partner (13:03) Whatever your current comfort zone is, bringing anticipation back is really important for your relationship—especially if you don’t want to fall into “Marriage, Inc” (16:26) Today’s LoveByte (23:56) Q&A: What can I do to reignite the spark in my relationship? Try practicing the art of the tease. Send sexy texts while you’re apart, leave sensual notes for them, or play a tantalizing game.  My partner and I never have sex anymore, what’s wrong with us? It’s incredibly common for couples in long term relationships to lose the element of passion. Try starting with small changes like sharing a nightly erotic kiss or sending sexy, teasing texts. My marriage isn’t that same as it was at the beginning, is it over? All relationships suffer from the loss of initial sensuality, bring it back by being intentional about your sex life. Download your Relationship Checklist HERE Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 07 Feb 2022 10:00:12 -0000 Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 3: Tease full 39 Cheryl Fraser <p>Remember when you and your sweetheart first met and a day spent apart felt like an eternity? Remember the electricity you’d feel whenever you thought about seeing them at the end of the day? That chill that you got when you’d get that sexy, anticipatory text from them? Even if we’re settled in a long relationship, even if we see each other every day, there’s still a way to bring that anticipation back—it just takes a little practice.</p><br><p>For the next four weeks, I invite you to join me for a series of chats, culminating on Valentine’s Day, that will help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to <strong>TAKE ACTION</strong> and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is.</p><br><p>Today, I’m covering <strong>Tease</strong>, the third of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. We’re talking all about bringing sexy back with the art of the tease. The truth is, it’s a myth that great love and sex are only for the young and it's a myth that great romance and passion is only for when we're falling in love. If you make your love life intentional and invest time, energy, and intentionality in your love life, you’ll have a great return on investment.</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If we want anything in our life to improve, we must learn to invest time and energy and effort—and this includes sex (04:36)&nbsp;</li><li>When you first started dating your sweetheart, you had that delicious sense of anticipation… that’s where the “tease” comes in (08:28)</li><li>Research shows that the majority of long term couples suffer from significant lack of sexual desire (11:13)</li><li>Some homework ideas to practice five minutes a day of sexy teasing with your partner (13:03)</li><li>Whatever your current comfort zone is, bringing anticipation back is really important for your relationship—especially if you don’t want to fall into “Marriage, Inc” (16:26)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (23:56)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>What can I do to reignite the spark in my relationship? Try practicing the art of the tease. Send sexy texts while you’re apart, leave sensual notes for them, or play a tantalizing game.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>My partner and I never have sex anymore, what’s wrong with us? It’s incredibly common for couples in long term relationships to lose the element of passion. Try starting with small changes like sharing a nightly erotic kiss or sending sexy, teasing texts.</em></li><li><em>My marriage isn’t that same as it was at the beginning, is it over? All relationships suffer from the loss of initial sensuality, bring it back by being intentional about your sex life.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><em>Download your Relationship Checklist </em><a href="https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/sites/79331/downloads/sQeOFFXyTdqwDu5S388i_jan-2022-relationship-reboot-checklist.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>HERE</em></a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Remember when you and your sweetheart first met and a day spent apart felt like an eternity? Remember the electricity you’d feel whenever you thought about seeing them at the end of the day? That chill that you got when you’d get that sexy, anticipatory text from them? Even if we’re settled in a long relationship, even if we see each other every day, there’s still a way to bring that anticipation back—it just takes a little practice. For the next four weeks, I invite you to join me for a series of chats, culminating on Valentine’s Day, that will help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is. Today, I’m covering Tease, the third of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. We’re talking all about bringing sexy back with the art of the tease. The truth is, it’s a myth that great love and sex are only for the young and it's a myth that great romance and passion is only for when we're falling in love. If you make your love life intentional and invest time, energy, and intentionality in your love life, you’ll have a great return on investment. In This Episode, You Will Learn: If we want anything in our life to improve, we must learn to invest time and energy and effort—and this includes sex (04:36)  When you first started dating your sweetheart, you had that delicious sense of anticipation… that’s where the “tease” comes in (08:28) Research shows that the majority of long term couples suffer from significant lack of sexual desire (11:13) Some homework ideas to practice five minutes a day of sexy teasing with your partner (13:03) Whatever your current comfort zone is, bringing anticipation back is really important for your relationship—especially if you don’t want to fall into “Marriage, Inc” (16:26) Today’s LoveByte (23:56) Q&A: What can I do to reignite the spark in my relationship? Try practicing the art of the tease. Send sexy texts while you’re apart, leave sensual notes for them, or play a tantalizing game.  My partner and I never have sex anymore, what’s wrong with us? It’s incredibly common for couples in long term relationships to lose the element of passion. Try starting with small changes like sharing a nightly erotic kiss or sending sexy, teasing texts. My marriage isn’t that same as it was at the beginning, is it over? All relationships suffer from the loss of initial sensuality, bring it back by being intentional about your sex life. Download your Relationship Checklist HERE Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Remember when you and your sweetheart first met and a day spent apart felt like an eternity? Remember the electricity you’d feel whenever you thought about seeing them at the end of the day? That chill that you got when you’d get that sexy, anticipatory text from them? Even if we’re settled in a long relationship, even if we see each other every day, there’s still a way to bring that anticipation back—it just takes a little practice.


For the next four weeks, I invite you to join me for a series of chats, culminating on Valentine’s Day, that will help you recharge, reinvigorate, and reboot the passion that’s been missing in your relationship. As long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION and implement the daily challenges, you can cultivate passion. Is your relationship worth 5 minutes a day? You bet it is.


Today, I’m covering Tease, the third of the four steps to reboot your relationship in five minutes a day. We’re talking all about bringing sexy back with the art of the tease. The truth is, it’s a myth that great love and sex are only for the young and it's a myth that great romance and passion is only for when we're falling in love. If you make your love life intentional and invest time, energy, and intentionality in your love life, you’ll have a great return on investment.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If we want anything in our life to improve, we must learn to invest time and energy and effort—and this includes sex (04:36) 
  • When you first started dating your sweetheart, you had that delicious sense of anticipation… that’s where the “tease” comes in (08:28)
  • Research shows that the majority of long term couples suffer from significant lack of sexual desire (11:13)
  • Some homework ideas to practice five minutes a day of sexy teasing with your partner (13:03)
  • Whatever your current comfort zone is, bringing anticipation back is really important for your relationship—especially if you don’t want to fall into “Marriage, Inc” (16:26)
  • Today’s LoveByte (23:56)


Q&A:

  • What can I do to reignite the spark in my relationship? Try practicing the art of the tease. Send sexy texts while you’re apart, leave sensual notes for them, or play a tantalizing game. 
  • My partner and I never have sex anymore, what’s wrong with us? It’s incredibly common for couples in long term relationships to lose the element of passion. Try starting with small changes like sharing a nightly erotic kiss or sending sexy, teasing texts.
  • My marriage isn’t that same as it was at the beginning, is it over? All relationships suffer from the loss of initial sensuality, bring it back by being intentional about your sex life.


Download your Relationship Checklist HERE


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1577 no Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 2 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/let-go-replenish-an-elephant-prescription-for-healing-part-2 If you understand THIS ONE THING, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. Just Let Go. Here’s a story to illustrate that - One day, there were two monks walking a path. They came to a stream where there was a noblewoman looking to cross, but with no way of doing so. The monks were not allowed to touch a woman, yet the older monk picked the woman up and carried her across the stream, put her down, and walked on. The younger monk, scandalized, was beside himself that the older monk had broken his vows. After a while, he finally asked, “Why did you touch that woman? You're going to get kicked out of the order!” The elder monk, who was wiser, more awake, and more enlightened, replied, “I put that woman down hours ago, why are you still carrying her?” This story is not a Dr. Cheryl original, it’s a well-known Buddhist parable, but it serves to show us exactly what happens when we refuse to let go and live in the present.  Today, I’m sharing the second part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering  in your everyday lives.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Close your eyes and focus on a particular part of your body. What’s the direct experience you’re feeling there right now? (07:08) Catastrophizing only gets us wrung out with cortisol and less equipped to handle the challenges that come in the uncertain future (12:06) Trouble letting go is human. We’re trained to dwell and hang on to negative experiences (18:28) Most of our suffering comes from how we expect things to happen (31:47) Today’s LoveByte (41:17) Q&A: How can I stop myself from dwelling on past pain and suffering? Practice letting go and remember to always ground yourself in the current moment. Ask yourself: “What is the direct experience I’m feeling right now?”  I’m so anxious all the time, what can I do to help myself? The practice of letting go is very effective for minds obsessed with compulsive thinking. Practice meditation and simplify your practice down to two words: Let go. How do I stop myself from constantly being let down by my friends and loved ones? We create pain and suffering for ourselves when we put too much stock into expectations, especially when we rely on others. Next time, take a step back and adjust your expectations before you allow yourself to be disappointed. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz For more of Cheryl’s Dharma talks, check out  islanddharma.com Check out the full video of my Buddhist talk here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 17 Jan 2022 10:00:48 -0000 Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 2 full 36 Cheryl Fraser <p>If you understand <em>THIS ONE THING</em>, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. <em>Just Let Go</em>. Here’s a story to illustrate that -</p><br><p>One day, there were two monks walking a path. They came to a stream where there was a noblewoman looking to cross, but with no way of doing so. The monks were not allowed to touch a woman, yet the older monk picked the woman up and carried her across the stream, put her down, and walked on. The younger monk, scandalized, was beside himself that the older monk had broken his vows. After a while, he finally asked, “Why did you touch that woman? You're going to get kicked out of the order!” The elder monk, who was wiser, more awake, and more enlightened, replied, <em>“I put that woman down hours ago, why are you still carrying her?”</em></p><br><p>This story is not a Dr. Cheryl original, it’s a well-known Buddhist parable, but it serves to show us exactly what happens when we refuse to let go and live in the present.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I’m sharing the second part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering&nbsp; in your everyday lives.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p>Close your eyes and focus on a particular part of your body. What’s the direct experience you’re feeling there right now? (07:08)</p><p>Catastrophizing only gets us wrung out with cortisol and less equipped to handle the challenges that come in the uncertain future (12:06)</p><p>Trouble letting go is human. We’re trained to dwell and hang on to negative experiences (18:28)</p><p>Most of our suffering comes from how we <em>expect</em> things to happen (31:47)</p><p>Today’s LoveByte (41:17)</p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><p>How can I stop myself from dwelling on past pain and suffering?<em> Practice letting go and remember to always ground yourself in the current moment. Ask yourself: “What is the direct experience I’m feeling right now?”&nbsp;</em></p><p><em>I’m so anxious all the time, what can I do to help myself? The practice of letting go is very effective for minds obsessed with compulsive thinking. Practice meditation and simplify your practice down to two words: Let go.</em></p><p><em>How do I stop myself from constantly being let down by my friends and loved ones? We create pain and suffering for ourselves when we put too much stock into expectations, especially when we rely on others. Next time, take a step back and adjust your expectations before you allow yourself to be disappointed.</em></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></p><p>For more of Cheryl’s Dharma talks, check out <a href="http://islanddharma.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">&nbsp;islanddharma.com</a></p><p>Check out the full video of my Buddhist talk <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YClO63mRV6w" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>!</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> If you understand THIS ONE THING, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. Just Let Go. Here’s a story to illustrate that - One day, there were two monks walking a path. They came to a stream where there was a noblewoman looking to cross, but with no way of doing so. The monks were not allowed to touch a woman, yet the older monk picked the woman up and carried her across the stream, put her down, and walked on. The younger monk, scandalized, was beside himself that the older monk had broken his vows. After a while, he finally asked, “Why did you touch that woman? You're going to get kicked out of the order!” The elder monk, who was wiser, more awake, and more enlightened, replied, “I put that woman down hours ago, why are you still carrying her?” This story is not a Dr. Cheryl original, it’s a well-known Buddhist parable, but it serves to show us exactly what happens when we refuse to let go and live in the present.  Today, I’m sharing the second part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering  in your everyday lives.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Close your eyes and focus on a particular part of your body. What’s the direct experience you’re feeling there right now? (07:08) Catastrophizing only gets us wrung out with cortisol and less equipped to handle the challenges that come in the uncertain future (12:06) Trouble letting go is human. We’re trained to dwell and hang on to negative experiences (18:28) Most of our suffering comes from how we expect things to happen (31:47) Today’s LoveByte (41:17) Q&A: How can I stop myself from dwelling on past pain and suffering? Practice letting go and remember to always ground yourself in the current moment. Ask yourself: “What is the direct experience I’m feeling right now?”  I’m so anxious all the time, what can I do to help myself? The practice of letting go is very effective for minds obsessed with compulsive thinking. Practice meditation and simplify your practice down to two words: Let go. How do I stop myself from constantly being let down by my friends and loved ones? We create pain and suffering for ourselves when we put too much stock into expectations, especially when we rely on others. Next time, take a step back and adjust your expectations before you allow yourself to be disappointed. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz For more of Cheryl’s Dharma talks, check out  islanddharma.com Check out the full video of my Buddhist talk here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. If you understand THIS ONE THING, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. Just Let Go. Here’s a story to illustrate that -


One day, there were two monks walking a path. They came to a stream where there was a noblewoman looking to cross, but with no way of doing so. The monks were not allowed to touch a woman, yet the older monk picked the woman up and carried her across the stream, put her down, and walked on. The younger monk, scandalized, was beside himself that the older monk had broken his vows. After a while, he finally asked, “Why did you touch that woman? You're going to get kicked out of the order!” The elder monk, who was wiser, more awake, and more enlightened, replied, “I put that woman down hours ago, why are you still carrying her?”


This story is not a Dr. Cheryl original, it’s a well-known Buddhist parable, but it serves to show us exactly what happens when we refuse to let go and live in the present. 


Today, I’m sharing the second part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering  in your everyday lives. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Close your eyes and focus on a particular part of your body. What’s the direct experience you’re feeling there right now? (07:08)

Catastrophizing only gets us wrung out with cortisol and less equipped to handle the challenges that come in the uncertain future (12:06)

Trouble letting go is human. We’re trained to dwell and hang on to negative experiences (18:28)

Most of our suffering comes from how we expect things to happen (31:47)

Today’s LoveByte (41:17)


Q&A:

How can I stop myself from dwelling on past pain and suffering? Practice letting go and remember to always ground yourself in the current moment. Ask yourself: “What is the direct experience I’m feeling right now?” 

I’m so anxious all the time, what can I do to help myself? The practice of letting go is very effective for minds obsessed with compulsive thinking. Practice meditation and simplify your practice down to two words: Let go.

How do I stop myself from constantly being let down by my friends and loved ones? We create pain and suffering for ourselves when we put too much stock into expectations, especially when we rely on others. Next time, take a step back and adjust your expectations before you allow yourself to be disappointed.


Let’s Connect!

About Me

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Facebook Page  

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

For more of Cheryl’s Dharma talks, check out  islanddharma.com

Check out the full video of my Buddhist talk here!


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]]> 2642 no Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 1 https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/let-go-replenish-an-elephant-prescription-for-healing-part-1 Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticulously planned holiday is disrupted by inclimate travel weather, a special occasion is ruined by a partner’s foul mood, a long-awaited trip is brought down by bad news from a friend… of course we’re left upset and disappointed. But have you ever noticed that the more we dwell on a negative situation, the worse our situation becomes? Instead of feeding into the disappointment and stress, what if you simply allowed yourself to be at peace and let your head and your heart accept the change? Today, I’m sharing the first part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering in your everyday lives.  In this episode, I’m talking about the most simple and profound thing any of us can develop if we want to be happier and healthier, if we want to recover from the inevitable pains and losses of life… And that is the practice of learning to let go.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The restrictions and isolation of the last two years have made us feel, in some ways, trapped… but it doesn’t have to be that way (05:43) If we are in the mind state of not wanting to be here, we're in trouble. We're in suffering. We're in Dukkha (09:00) When we feed stress, negativity, and disappointment, it only gets worse (13:25) We can be so full of our ideas about what should or shouldn’t be, our ideas of what others should and shouldn't do, and our ideas of what we need to be happy that sometimes we can't just simply enjoy what is (20:05) If someone is causing you emotional pain, you’re not being self-pitying or desperate by hanging on, but practicing letting go is the best thing to do to ease that pain (24:41) Today’s LoveByte (34:23) Q&A: How can learn to I be happy where I’m stuck? Normalize that anything that’s happening is okay.  Observe it, allow it to rise, and let it pass away.  How can I stop myself from overthinking everything? Practice letting go and making room when your mind is too full. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on things you cannot change and that don’t affect you.  How do I get over the pain of someone betraying me?  When we feel physical pain, we avoid or let go of the thing that’s causing it to happen. Try to follow the same logic with emotional pain. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Check out the full video of my talk here!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 10 Jan 2022 10:00:16 -0000 Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 1 full 35 Cheryl Fraser <p>Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticulously planned holiday is disrupted by inclimate travel weather, a special occasion is ruined by a partner’s foul mood, a long-awaited trip is brought down by bad news from a friend… of course we’re left upset and disappointed. But have you ever noticed that the more we dwell on a negative situation, the worse our situation becomes? Instead of feeding into the disappointment and stress, what if you simply allowed yourself to be at peace and let your head and your heart accept the change?</p><br><p><em>Today,</em> I’m sharing the first part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering&nbsp;in your everyday lives.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, I’m talking about the most simple and profound thing any of us can develop if we want to be happier and healthier, if we want to recover from the inevitable pains and losses of life… And that is the practice of learning to let go.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The restrictions and isolation of the last two years have made us feel, in some ways, trapped… but it doesn’t have to be that way (05:43)</li><li>If we are in the mind state of not wanting to be here, we're in trouble. We're in suffering. We're in Dukkha (09:00)</li><li>When we feed stress, negativity, and disappointment, it only gets worse (13:25)</li><li>We can be so full of our ideas about what should or shouldn’t be, our ideas of what others should and shouldn't do, and our ideas of what we need to be happy that sometimes we can't just simply enjoy what is (20:05)</li><li>If someone is causing you emotional pain, you’re not being self-pitying or desperate by hanging on, but practicing letting go is the best thing to do to ease that pain (24:41)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (34:23)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can learn to I be happy where I’m stuck? <em>Normalize that anything that’s happening is okay.&nbsp; Observe it, allow it to rise, and let it pass away.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>How can I stop myself from overthinking everything? Practice letting go and making room when your mind is too full. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on things you cannot change and that don’t affect you.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>How do I get over the pain of someone betraying me? &nbsp;When we feel physical pain, we avoid or let go of the thing that’s causing it to happen. Try to follow the same logic with emotional pain.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Check out the full video of my talk <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YClO63mRV6w" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>!&nbsp;</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticulously planned holiday is disrupted by inclimate travel weather, a special occasion is ruined by a partner’s foul mood, a long-awaited trip is brought down by bad news from a friend… of course we’re left upset and disappointed. But have you ever noticed that the more we dwell on a negative situation, the worse our situation becomes? Instead of feeding into the disappointment and stress, what if you simply allowed yourself to be at peace and let your head and your heart accept the change? Today, I’m sharing the first part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering in your everyday lives.  In this episode, I’m talking about the most simple and profound thing any of us can develop if we want to be happier and healthier, if we want to recover from the inevitable pains and losses of life… And that is the practice of learning to let go.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The restrictions and isolation of the last two years have made us feel, in some ways, trapped… but it doesn’t have to be that way (05:43) If we are in the mind state of not wanting to be here, we're in trouble. We're in suffering. We're in Dukkha (09:00) When we feed stress, negativity, and disappointment, it only gets worse (13:25) We can be so full of our ideas about what should or shouldn’t be, our ideas of what others should and shouldn't do, and our ideas of what we need to be happy that sometimes we can't just simply enjoy what is (20:05) If someone is causing you emotional pain, you’re not being self-pitying or desperate by hanging on, but practicing letting go is the best thing to do to ease that pain (24:41) Today’s LoveByte (34:23) Q&A: How can learn to I be happy where I’m stuck? Normalize that anything that’s happening is okay.  Observe it, allow it to rise, and let it pass away.  How can I stop myself from overthinking everything? Practice letting go and making room when your mind is too full. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on things you cannot change and that don’t affect you.  How do I get over the pain of someone betraying me?  When we feel physical pain, we avoid or let go of the thing that’s causing it to happen. Try to follow the same logic with emotional pain. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Check out the full video of my talk here!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticulously planned holiday is disrupted by inclimate travel weather, a special occasion is ruined by a partner’s foul mood, a long-awaited trip is brought down by bad news from a friend… of course we’re left upset and disappointed. But have you ever noticed that the more we dwell on a negative situation, the worse our situation becomes? Instead of feeding into the disappointment and stress, what if you simply allowed yourself to be at peace and let your head and your heart accept the change?


Today, I’m sharing the first part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering in your everyday lives. 


In this episode, I’m talking about the most simple and profound thing any of us can develop if we want to be happier and healthier, if we want to recover from the inevitable pains and losses of life… And that is the practice of learning to let go. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The restrictions and isolation of the last two years have made us feel, in some ways, trapped… but it doesn’t have to be that way (05:43)
  • If we are in the mind state of not wanting to be here, we're in trouble. We're in suffering. We're in Dukkha (09:00)
  • When we feed stress, negativity, and disappointment, it only gets worse (13:25)
  • We can be so full of our ideas about what should or shouldn’t be, our ideas of what others should and shouldn't do, and our ideas of what we need to be happy that sometimes we can't just simply enjoy what is (20:05)
  • If someone is causing you emotional pain, you’re not being self-pitying or desperate by hanging on, but practicing letting go is the best thing to do to ease that pain (24:41)
  • Today’s LoveByte (34:23)


Q&A:

  • How can learn to I be happy where I’m stuck? Normalize that anything that’s happening is okay.  Observe it, allow it to rise, and let it pass away. 
  • How can I stop myself from overthinking everything? Practice letting go and making room when your mind is too full. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on things you cannot change and that don’t affect you. 
  • How do I get over the pain of someone betraying me?  When we feel physical pain, we avoid or let go of the thing that’s causing it to happen. Try to follow the same logic with emotional pain.


Let’s Connect!


Check out the full video of my talk here! 


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2234 no No “Thing” Can Make You Happy - Happiness Is an Inside Job https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/no-thing-can-make-you-happy-happiness-is-an-inside-job Welcome to the first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants of 2022. Today, I talk about how you can be happy, content, and filled with loving kindness and grace… even when things are incredibly difficult in your circumstances, financially, and emotionally.  Have you ever found yourself hedging your happiness on one tangible thing? It could’ve been something small, like a really beautiful outfit for a special occasion, or maybe you bought a new bike for mountain biking. Maybe you finally bought that new pair of shoes you’d been eyeing for months or maybe you’re even guilty of telling yourself: “After this vacation, I’ll come back a whole person, rested and changed.” There's nothing wrong with seeking things that bring us pleasure, the problem comes when we expect that object or person or experience to keep us happy ever after.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When we work with our minds through meditation, through faith based practice, through psychology, through contemplation, philosophy, etc, it can give us a vaster perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason (04:48) We get confused when we think that there’s a thing that will keep us happy ever after (05:48) We need to learn and cultivate the ability to be happy for no reason in order to have a strong flexible mind, a strong flexible heart, and a strong flexible spirit (10:54) In 2022, I’m going to focus on action steps and giving you small steps to work on in almost every episode, starting with the Passion Quiz that you can take right now (13:47) This week’s LoveByte (19:25) Q&A: I finally have the house/job/relationship I’ve always wanted… why am I still unhappy? When we chase after shiny objects and expect and hope for them to make us happy, we're in trouble. The key is to learn to be happy from the inside out.  What is the key to happiness? The key to happiness is learning that it is not based on one singular object or experience and that it comes from finding peace within yourself.  How can I be happy even if my circumstances are making me depressed? By expanding our perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason. You can be happy, and content regardless of your circumstances.   Do you have questions or topics for me to cover in 2022? Send your thoughts to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com! Let’s Connect! About Me The website for the Buddhist group where I teach  Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 03 Jan 2022 10:00:41 -0000 No “Thing” Can Make You Happy - Happiness Is an Inside Job full 34 Cheryl Fraser <p>Welcome to the first episode of<strong> Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong> of 2022.<em> </em>Today, I talk about how you can be happy, content, and filled with loving kindness and grace… even when things are incredibly difficult in your circumstances, financially, and emotionally.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Have you ever found yourself hedging your happiness on one tangible <em>thing</em>? It could’ve been something small, like a really beautiful outfit for a special occasion, or maybe you bought a new bike for mountain biking. Maybe you finally bought that new pair of shoes you’d been eyeing for months or maybe you’re even guilty of telling yourself: “After this vacation, I’ll come back a whole person, rested and changed.” There's nothing wrong with seeking things that bring us pleasure, the problem comes when we expect that object or person or experience to keep us happy ever after.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><strong>When we work with our minds through meditation, through faith based practice, through psychology, through contemplation, philosophy, etc, it can give us a vaster perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason (04:48)</strong></li><li><strong>We get confused when we think that there’s a<em> thing</em> that will keep us happy ever after (05:48<em>)</em></strong></li><li>We need to learn and cultivate the ability to be happy for no reason in order to have a strong flexible mind, a strong flexible heart, and a strong flexible spirit (10:54)</li><li>In 2022, I’m going to focus on action steps and giving you small steps to work on in almost every episode, starting with the Passion Quiz that you can take right now (13:47)</li><li>This week’s LoveByte (19:25)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>I finally have the house/job/relationship I’ve always wanted… why am I still unhappy? When we chase after shiny objects and expect and hope for them to make us happy, we're in trouble. The key is to learn to be happy from the inside out.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>What is the key to happiness? </em></strong><em>The key to happiness is learning that it is not based on one singular object or experience and that it comes from finding peace within yourself.&nbsp;</em></li><li><strong><em>How can I be happy even if my circumstances are making me depressed?</em></strong><em> By expanding our perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason. You can be happy, and content regardless of your circumstances.&nbsp;&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Do you have questions or topics for me to cover in 2022? Send your thoughts to </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong>!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="http://www.islanddharma.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The website for the Buddhist group where I teach&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Welcome to the first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants of 2022. Today, I talk about how you can be happy, content, and filled with loving kindness and grace… even when things are incredibly difficult in your circumstances, financially, and emotionally.  Have you ever found yourself hedging your happiness on one tangible thing? It could’ve been something small, like a really beautiful outfit for a special occasion, or maybe you bought a new bike for mountain biking. Maybe you finally bought that new pair of shoes you’d been eyeing for months or maybe you’re even guilty of telling yourself: “After this vacation, I’ll come back a whole person, rested and changed.” There's nothing wrong with seeking things that bring us pleasure, the problem comes when we expect that object or person or experience to keep us happy ever after.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When we work with our minds through meditation, through faith based practice, through psychology, through contemplation, philosophy, etc, it can give us a vaster perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason (04:48) We get confused when we think that there’s a thing that will keep us happy ever after (05:48) We need to learn and cultivate the ability to be happy for no reason in order to have a strong flexible mind, a strong flexible heart, and a strong flexible spirit (10:54) In 2022, I’m going to focus on action steps and giving you small steps to work on in almost every episode, starting with the Passion Quiz that you can take right now (13:47) This week’s LoveByte (19:25) Q&A: I finally have the house/job/relationship I’ve always wanted… why am I still unhappy? When we chase after shiny objects and expect and hope for them to make us happy, we're in trouble. The key is to learn to be happy from the inside out.  What is the key to happiness? The key to happiness is learning that it is not based on one singular object or experience and that it comes from finding peace within yourself.  How can I be happy even if my circumstances are making me depressed? By expanding our perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason. You can be happy, and content regardless of your circumstances.   Do you have questions or topics for me to cover in 2022? Send your thoughts to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com! Let’s Connect! About Me The website for the Buddhist group where I teach  Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Welcome to the first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants of 2022. Today, I talk about how you can be happy, content, and filled with loving kindness and grace… even when things are incredibly difficult in your circumstances, financially, and emotionally. 


Have you ever found yourself hedging your happiness on one tangible thing? It could’ve been something small, like a really beautiful outfit for a special occasion, or maybe you bought a new bike for mountain biking. Maybe you finally bought that new pair of shoes you’d been eyeing for months or maybe you’re even guilty of telling yourself: “After this vacation, I’ll come back a whole person, rested and changed.” There's nothing wrong with seeking things that bring us pleasure, the problem comes when we expect that object or person or experience to keep us happy ever after. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:


  • When we work with our minds through meditation, through faith based practice, through psychology, through contemplation, philosophy, etc, it can give us a vaster perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason (04:48)
  • We get confused when we think that there’s a thing that will keep us happy ever after (05:48)
  • We need to learn and cultivate the ability to be happy for no reason in order to have a strong flexible mind, a strong flexible heart, and a strong flexible spirit (10:54)
  • In 2022, I’m going to focus on action steps and giving you small steps to work on in almost every episode, starting with the Passion Quiz that you can take right now (13:47)
  • This week’s LoveByte (19:25)


Q&A:

  • I finally have the house/job/relationship I’ve always wanted… why am I still unhappy? When we chase after shiny objects and expect and hope for them to make us happy, we're in trouble. The key is to learn to be happy from the inside out. 
  • What is the key to happiness? The key to happiness is learning that it is not based on one singular object or experience and that it comes from finding peace within yourself. 
  • How can I be happy even if my circumstances are making me depressed? By expanding our perspective we can actually learn to be happy for no reason. You can be happy, and content regardless of your circumstances.  


Do you have questions or topics for me to cover in 2022? Send your thoughts to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1298 no Sex, Love, and Christmas: The Holiday Hangover https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/sex-love-and-christmas-the-holiday-hangover In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. I explain that the reason we feel it so strongly is because so many of us hedge our happiness on this one singular event, and I cover how we can use Buddhist elephant teachings to avoid that drizzly, gray, letdown feeling. For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way.  So, join me in entering 2022 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39) We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18) New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37) Today’s LoveByte (12:25) Q&A: Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.  What can I do to avoid the letdown feeling after Christmas? Remember that everything is temporary. Don’t hang on to one particular season or event for your happiness, because everything has an ending.  How can I learn to be happy for no reason? Learning to be happy for no reason takes plenty of work and training for your mind and heart, but with enough effort it is possible.  Want to enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom? Send a picture of yourself and your sweetheart doing your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com for your chance! Let’s Connect! About Me The waitlist for the Buddhist group where I teach  Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 27 Dec 2021 10:00:25 -0000 Sex, Love, and Christmas: The Holiday Hangover full 33 Cheryl Fraser <p>In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. I explain that the reason we feel it so strongly is because so many of us hedge our happiness on this one singular event, and I cover how we can use Buddhist elephant teachings to avoid that drizzly, gray, letdown feeling.</p><br><p>For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to <em>real life </em>can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—<strong>but it doesn’t have to be that way</strong>.&nbsp;</p><br><p>So, join me in entering 2022 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><strong>When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39)</strong></li><li>We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18)</li><li>New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (12:25)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? <em>If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>What can I do to avoid the letdown feeling after Christmas? </em></strong><em>Remember that everything is temporary. Don’t hang on to one particular season or event for your happiness, because everything has an ending.&nbsp;</em></li><li><strong><em>How can I learn to be happy for no reason?</em></strong><em> Learning to be happy for no reason takes plenty of work and training for your mind and heart, but with enough effort it is possible.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want to enter to win a copy of my book <em>Buddha’s Bedroom</em>? Send a picture of yourself and your sweetheart doing your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to </strong><a href="mailto:cheryl@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>cheryl@drcherylfraser.com</strong></a><strong> for your chance!</strong></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="http://www.islanddharma.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The waitlist for the Buddhist group where I teach&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. I explain that the reason we feel it so strongly is because so many of us hedge our happiness on this one singular event, and I cover how we can use Buddhist elephant teachings to avoid that drizzly, gray, letdown feeling. For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way.  So, join me in entering 2022 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39) We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18) New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37) Today’s LoveByte (12:25) Q&A: Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.  What can I do to avoid the letdown feeling after Christmas? Remember that everything is temporary. Don’t hang on to one particular season or event for your happiness, because everything has an ending.  How can I learn to be happy for no reason? Learning to be happy for no reason takes plenty of work and training for your mind and heart, but with enough effort it is possible.  Want to enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom? Send a picture of yourself and your sweetheart doing your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com for your chance! Let’s Connect! About Me The waitlist for the Buddhist group where I teach  Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. I explain that the reason we feel it so strongly is because so many of us hedge our happiness on this one singular event, and I cover how we can use Buddhist elephant teachings to avoid that drizzly, gray, letdown feeling.


For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way. 


So, join me in entering 2022 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:


  • When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39)
  • We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18)
  • New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37)
  • Today’s LoveByte (12:25)


Q&A:

  • Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over. 
  • What can I do to avoid the letdown feeling after Christmas? Remember that everything is temporary. Don’t hang on to one particular season or event for your happiness, because everything has an ending. 
  • How can I learn to be happy for no reason? Learning to be happy for no reason takes plenty of work and training for your mind and heart, but with enough effort it is possible. 


Want to enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom? Send a picture of yourself and your sweetheart doing your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to cheryl@drcherylfraser.com for your chance!


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 878 no Make Christmas Sexy - Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/make-christmas-sexy-sensual-ways-to-stuff-a-stocking In this episode, I talk about sharing a fun, sexy, exciting holiday season with your lover and the ways my sweetheart and I have been celebrating together for almost a decade. This season, it’s important to remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and thoughtful and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence, thoughtfulness, and planning? If your childhood was anything like mine, you remember that feeling of being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun. You were practically jumping out of your skin—overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought. Of course, those emotions get less intense as we age… but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. Whether you’re deeply religious, agnostic, celebrate out of cultural identity, or leave yourself out of all of it, these episodes are for you.  Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18) Today’s LoveByte (25:02) Q&A: How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private. How can I give my sweetheart a sexy gift with our kids around? To keep prying eyes at bay, try putting your erotic gifts in a bag or envelope, or even slipping in a sexy IOU for later on.  What’s a way to show my partner I care if I don’t have a lot of money to spend? GIfts don’t have to be expensive or even cost a penny! Try something like a sexy massage, a sensual love letter, or a sweet slow dance.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 13 Dec 2021 10:00:06 -0000 Make Christmas Sexy - Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking full 31 Cheryl Fraser <p>In this episode, I talk about sharing a fun, sexy, exciting holiday season with your lover and the ways my sweetheart and I have been celebrating together for almost a decade. This season, it’s important to remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and thoughtful and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence, thoughtfulness, and planning?</p><br><p>If your childhood was anything like mine, you remember that feeling of being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun. You were practically jumping out of your skin—overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought. Of course, those emotions get less intense as we age… but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?</p><br><p>For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. Whether you’re deeply religious, agnostic, celebrate out of cultural identity, or leave yourself out of all of it, these episodes are for you.&nbsp; Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)&nbsp;</li><li>It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10)</li><li>If you've got&nbsp; little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44)</li><li>If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02)</li><li>Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (25:02)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? <em>A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private.</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>How can I give my sweetheart a sexy gift with our kids around? </em></strong><em>To keep prying eyes at bay, try putting your erotic gifts in a bag or envelope, or even slipping in a sexy IOU for later on.&nbsp;</em></li><li><strong><em>What’s a way to show my partner I care if I don’t have a lot of money to spend? </em></strong><em>GIfts don’t have to be expensive or even cost a penny! Try something like a sexy massage, a sensual love letter, or a sweet slow dance.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> In this episode, I talk about sharing a fun, sexy, exciting holiday season with your lover and the ways my sweetheart and I have been celebrating together for almost a decade. This season, it’s important to remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and thoughtful and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence, thoughtfulness, and planning? If your childhood was anything like mine, you remember that feeling of being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun. You were practically jumping out of your skin—overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought. Of course, those emotions get less intense as we age… but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. Whether you’re deeply religious, agnostic, celebrate out of cultural identity, or leave yourself out of all of it, these episodes are for you.  Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18) Today’s LoveByte (25:02) Q&A: How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private. How can I give my sweetheart a sexy gift with our kids around? To keep prying eyes at bay, try putting your erotic gifts in a bag or envelope, or even slipping in a sexy IOU for later on.  What’s a way to show my partner I care if I don’t have a lot of money to spend? GIfts don’t have to be expensive or even cost a penny! Try something like a sexy massage, a sensual love letter, or a sweet slow dance.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. In this episode, I talk about sharing a fun, sexy, exciting holiday season with your lover and the ways my sweetheart and I have been celebrating together for almost a decade. This season, it’s important to remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and thoughtful and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence, thoughtfulness, and planning?


If your childhood was anything like mine, you remember that feeling of being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun. You were practically jumping out of your skin—overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought. Of course, those emotions get less intense as we age… but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?


For the month of December, I’ll be covering different topics that crop up around the holiday season. Whether you’re deeply religious, agnostic, celebrate out of cultural identity, or leave yourself out of all of it, these episodes are for you.  Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43) 
  • It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10)
  • If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44)
  • If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02)
  • Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18)
  • Today’s LoveByte (25:02)


Q&A:

  • How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private.
  • How can I give my sweetheart a sexy gift with our kids around? To keep prying eyes at bay, try putting your erotic gifts in a bag or envelope, or even slipping in a sexy IOU for later on. 
  • What’s a way to show my partner I care if I don’t have a lot of money to spend? GIfts don’t have to be expensive or even cost a penny! Try something like a sexy massage, a sensual love letter, or a sweet slow dance. 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1640 no Be the Surfboard, Not the Log: a Buddhist Take on Tough Emotions https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/be-the-surfboard-not-the-log-a-buddhist-take-on-tough-emotio Imagine you’re walking down the beach when you see a huge wave crash, the spray soaking your clothes. In the wave is a log bobbing desperately up and down, constantly swept back and forth in the undertow. At that moment, it seems like that wave represents the entirety of the sea. That rough, churning water feels intimidating and vast and even destructive. Now picture that same wave, but gracefully perched atop is a surfboarder, riding it expertly to shore, barely dipping below the surface. In reality, we understand that that one wave is just a miniscule drop in the grand vastness of an entire ocean, but as we stand in front of it, that’s difficult to grasp.  Our emotions can grab us and throw us around like an undertow, then crash and pound us into the sand. The trick? We must learn to serenely ride the wave instead of desperately scrambling to keep our heads above water. Today, I’m delighted to share with you a live recording of a meditation talk I recently gave where I focus on emotions from a Buddhist psychology perspective. It is possible to learn to be nonreactive and avoid clinging to the things that make us feel good momentarily while the bad experiences stick in our minds. In this episode, I teach about the baseline mental/emotional state of a mind, including the difference between the ‘mind’ and the ‘Mind.’ I talk about equanimity and what it’s like to stop chasing and running, and accept things as they are, the way they come. The fact is, when the mind is more flexible and you’re able to roll with life’s changes, life is better than when you’re waiting with anxious vulnerability, just waiting for the other shoe to drop.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your weekly LoveByte (02:42) In Pali, the language of the historical Buddha, there was no word for ‘emotion’ (03:24) When the mind is in a state of calm, alert, gentle equanimity, it can be very nonreactive, but not sluggish or zoned out (10:08) Equanimity gives us the grace to no longer have to run around looking for good stuff in order to feel good (15:24) You can be happy, you can be unhappy, you can be neutral—it’s your pick (24:28) Under the pain there is calm; there’s opportunity for grace at any moment (32:31)   Q&A: How can I suffer less in life? To suffer less, learn to practice equanimity and accept those things you cannot change. Why can’t I stay happy? If you’re basing your happiness solely on fleeting things or experiences, you’ll be left always searching. How can I get through a devastating loss? Remember that even in the worst times, there are moments of peace. This experience is just one storm in the ocean of your life.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Want more of Cheryl’s Buddhist talks? Check out IslandDharma.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 22 Nov 2021 10:00:53 -0000 Be the Surfboard, Not the Log: a Buddhist Take on Tough Emotions full 28 Cheryl Fraser <p>Imagine you’re walking down the beach when you see a huge wave crash, the spray soaking your clothes. In the wave is a log bobbing desperately up and down, constantly swept back and forth in the undertow. At that moment, it seems like that wave represents the entirety of the sea. That rough, churning water feels intimidating and vast and even destructive. Now picture that same wave, but gracefully perched atop is a surfboarder, riding it expertly to shore, barely dipping below the surface. In reality, we understand that that one wave is just a miniscule drop in the grand vastness of an entire ocean, but as we stand in front of it, that’s difficult to grasp.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Our emotions can grab us and throw us around like an undertow, then crash and pound us into the sand. The trick? We must learn to serenely <em>ride</em> the wave instead of desperately scrambling to keep our heads above water.</p><br><p><strong>Today,</strong> I’m delighted to share with you a live recording of a meditation talk I recently gave where I focus on emotions from a Buddhist psychology perspective. It is possible to learn to be nonreactive and avoid clinging to the things that make us feel good momentarily while the bad experiences stick in our minds.</p><br><p>In this episode,<em> </em>I teach about the baseline mental/emotional state of a mind, including the difference between the ‘mind’ and the ‘Mind.’ I talk about equanimity and what it’s like to stop chasing and running, and accept things as they are, the way they come. The fact is, when the mind is more flexible and you’re able to roll with life’s changes, life is better than when you’re waiting with anxious vulnerability, just waiting for the other shoe to drop.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Your weekly LoveByte (02:42)</li><li>In Pali, the language of the historical Buddha, there was no word for ‘emotion’ (03:24)</li><li>When the mind is in a state of calm, alert, gentle equanimity, it can be very nonreactive, but not sluggish or zoned out (10:08)</li><li>Equanimity gives us the grace to no longer have to run around looking for good<em> stuff </em>in order to feel good (15:24)</li><li>You can be happy, you can be unhappy, you can be neutral—it’s your pick (24:28)</li><li>Under the pain there is calm; there’s opportunity for grace at any moment (32:31)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>How can I suffer less in life? To suffer less, learn to practice equanimity and accept those things you cannot change.</em></li><li><em>Why can’t I stay happy? If you’re basing your happiness solely on fleeting things or experiences, you’ll be left always searching.</em></li><li><em>How can I get through a devastating loss? Remember that even in the worst times, there are moments of peace. This experience is just one storm in the ocean of your life.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li>Want more of Cheryl’s Buddhist talks? Check out <a href="http://www.islanddharma.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">IslandDharma.com</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Imagine you’re walking down the beach when you see a huge wave crash, the spray soaking your clothes. In the wave is a log bobbing desperately up and down, constantly swept back and forth in the undertow. At that moment, it seems like that wave represents the entirety of the sea. That rough, churning water feels intimidating and vast and even destructive. Now picture that same wave, but gracefully perched atop is a surfboarder, riding it expertly to shore, barely dipping below the surface. In reality, we understand that that one wave is just a miniscule drop in the grand vastness of an entire ocean, but as we stand in front of it, that’s difficult to grasp.  Our emotions can grab us and throw us around like an undertow, then crash and pound us into the sand. The trick? We must learn to serenely ride the wave instead of desperately scrambling to keep our heads above water. Today, I’m delighted to share with you a live recording of a meditation talk I recently gave where I focus on emotions from a Buddhist psychology perspective. It is possible to learn to be nonreactive and avoid clinging to the things that make us feel good momentarily while the bad experiences stick in our minds. In this episode, I teach about the baseline mental/emotional state of a mind, including the difference between the ‘mind’ and the ‘Mind.’ I talk about equanimity and what it’s like to stop chasing and running, and accept things as they are, the way they come. The fact is, when the mind is more flexible and you’re able to roll with life’s changes, life is better than when you’re waiting with anxious vulnerability, just waiting for the other shoe to drop.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your weekly LoveByte (02:42) In Pali, the language of the historical Buddha, there was no word for ‘emotion’ (03:24) When the mind is in a state of calm, alert, gentle equanimity, it can be very nonreactive, but not sluggish or zoned out (10:08) Equanimity gives us the grace to no longer have to run around looking for good stuff in order to feel good (15:24) You can be happy, you can be unhappy, you can be neutral—it’s your pick (24:28) Under the pain there is calm; there’s opportunity for grace at any moment (32:31)   Q&A: How can I suffer less in life? To suffer less, learn to practice equanimity and accept those things you cannot change. Why can’t I stay happy? If you’re basing your happiness solely on fleeting things or experiences, you’ll be left always searching. How can I get through a devastating loss? Remember that even in the worst times, there are moments of peace. This experience is just one storm in the ocean of your life.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Want more of Cheryl’s Buddhist talks? Check out IslandDharma.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Imagine you’re walking down the beach when you see a huge wave crash, the spray soaking your clothes. In the wave is a log bobbing desperately up and down, constantly swept back and forth in the undertow. At that moment, it seems like that wave represents the entirety of the sea. That rough, churning water feels intimidating and vast and even destructive. Now picture that same wave, but gracefully perched atop is a surfboarder, riding it expertly to shore, barely dipping below the surface. In reality, we understand that that one wave is just a miniscule drop in the grand vastness of an entire ocean, but as we stand in front of it, that’s difficult to grasp. 


Our emotions can grab us and throw us around like an undertow, then crash and pound us into the sand. The trick? We must learn to serenely ride the wave instead of desperately scrambling to keep our heads above water.


Today, I’m delighted to share with you a live recording of a meditation talk I recently gave where I focus on emotions from a Buddhist psychology perspective. It is possible to learn to be nonreactive and avoid clinging to the things that make us feel good momentarily while the bad experiences stick in our minds.


In this episode, I teach about the baseline mental/emotional state of a mind, including the difference between the ‘mind’ and the ‘Mind.’ I talk about equanimity and what it’s like to stop chasing and running, and accept things as they are, the way they come. The fact is, when the mind is more flexible and you’re able to roll with life’s changes, life is better than when you’re waiting with anxious vulnerability, just waiting for the other shoe to drop. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Your weekly LoveByte (02:42)
  • In Pali, the language of the historical Buddha, there was no word for ‘emotion’ (03:24)
  • When the mind is in a state of calm, alert, gentle equanimity, it can be very nonreactive, but not sluggish or zoned out (10:08)
  • Equanimity gives us the grace to no longer have to run around looking for good stuff in order to feel good (15:24)
  • You can be happy, you can be unhappy, you can be neutral—it’s your pick (24:28)
  • Under the pain there is calm; there’s opportunity for grace at any moment (32:31)

 


Q&A:

  • How can I suffer less in life? To suffer less, learn to practice equanimity and accept those things you cannot change.
  • Why can’t I stay happy? If you’re basing your happiness solely on fleeting things or experiences, you’ll be left always searching.
  • How can I get through a devastating loss? Remember that even in the worst times, there are moments of peace. This experience is just one storm in the ocean of your life. 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 3054 no In Celebration of Friendship https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/in-celebration-of-friendship What defines a deep friendship to you? Is it someone you keep in touch with on a daily basis? Is it your spouse or partner who you trust with your deepest secrets? Maybe it’s that person you can go months without talking to and pick up exactly where you left off. Or it could be that friend who always knows the perfect way to show you love and support.  Today, I’m talking about friendship in all its forms. From decades-long childhood friendships, to our friendships with our partners, to friendships we’ve outgrown or come to realize are no longer productive.  In this episode, I break down my definition of a healthy friendship that stands the tests, trials, and tribulations of time. I tell you about my enduring friendships with three of my very closest friends from childhood, why a good friend accepts the other for all of their flaws and weaknesses, and the way I use snail mail as one of my favorite ways to stay in touch and connect with my long distance friends.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: I was a bright, thoughtful, creative kid—and I was bullied severely  enough to switch schools (02:46) I often don’t talk to my closest friends for several months at a time, but when we get together it’s like no time has passed (07:10) A deep, healthy friendship is loyal, elastic, flexible, and forgiving (08:26) It’s possible to love to communicate, connect, and spend time with others as an extrovert while still replenishing in solitude and silence as an introvert (11:46) You are profoundly lucky if you've been brave enough, foolish enough, and compassionate enough to have been hurt in love (16:49) Your weekly LoveByte (20:24) Q&A: How can I keep up long distance friendships? A great way to maintain a long distance friendship is to use snail mail to send an impromptu “thinking of you” card or letter to surprise the recipient.  Is it okay that my friends and I don’t keep in constant touch? Strong, loyal friendships don’t need constant contact to stay healthy, How can I be a great friend? A great friend is loyal, caring, and not afraid to show their friends love. Resources: Buddha's Bedroom People mentioned: Khalil Gibran Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 15 Nov 2021 10:00:46 -0000 In Celebration of Friendship full 27 Cheryl Fraser <p>What defines a deep friendship to you? Is it someone you keep in touch with on a daily basis? Is it your spouse or partner who you trust with your deepest secrets? Maybe it’s that person you can go months without talking to and pick up exactly where you left off. Or it could be that friend who always knows the perfect way to show you love and support.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I’m talking about friendship in all its forms.<em> </em>From decades-long childhood friendships, to our friendships with our partners, to friendships we’ve outgrown or come to realize are no longer productive.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, I break down my definition of a healthy friendship that stands the tests, trials, and tribulations of time. I tell you about my enduring friendships with three of my very closest friends from childhood, why a good friend accepts the other for all of their flaws and weaknesses, and the way I use snail mail as one of my favorite ways to stay in touch and connect with my long distance friends.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li>I was a bright, thoughtful, creative kid—and I was bullied severely&nbsp; enough to switch schools (02:46)</li><li>I often don’t talk to my closest friends for several months at a time, but when we get together it’s like no time has passed (07:10)</li><li>A deep, healthy friendship is loyal, elastic, flexible, and forgiving (08:26)</li><li>It’s possible to love to communicate, connect, and spend time with others as an extrovert while still replenishing in solitude and silence as an introvert (11:46)</li><li>You are profoundly lucky if you've been brave enough, foolish enough, and compassionate enough to have been hurt in love (16:49)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (20:24)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><em>How can I keep up long distance friendships? A great way to maintain a long distance friendship is to use snail mail to send an impromptu “thinking of you” card or letter to surprise the recipient.&nbsp;</em></li><li><em>Is it okay that my friends and I don’t keep in constant touch? Strong, loyal friendships don’t need constant contact to stay healthy,</em></li><li><em>How can I be a great friend? A great friend is loyal, caring, and not afraid to show their friends love.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>People mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Kahlil-Gibran/e/B000AQ79G2" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Khalil Gibran</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> What defines a deep friendship to you? Is it someone you keep in touch with on a daily basis? Is it your spouse or partner who you trust with your deepest secrets? Maybe it’s that person you can go months without talking to and pick up exactly where you left off. Or it could be that friend who always knows the perfect way to show you love and support.  Today, I’m talking about friendship in all its forms. From decades-long childhood friendships, to our friendships with our partners, to friendships we’ve outgrown or come to realize are no longer productive.  In this episode, I break down my definition of a healthy friendship that stands the tests, trials, and tribulations of time. I tell you about my enduring friendships with three of my very closest friends from childhood, why a good friend accepts the other for all of their flaws and weaknesses, and the way I use snail mail as one of my favorite ways to stay in touch and connect with my long distance friends.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: I was a bright, thoughtful, creative kid—and I was bullied severely  enough to switch schools (02:46) I often don’t talk to my closest friends for several months at a time, but when we get together it’s like no time has passed (07:10) A deep, healthy friendship is loyal, elastic, flexible, and forgiving (08:26) It’s possible to love to communicate, connect, and spend time with others as an extrovert while still replenishing in solitude and silence as an introvert (11:46) You are profoundly lucky if you've been brave enough, foolish enough, and compassionate enough to have been hurt in love (16:49) Your weekly LoveByte (20:24) Q&A: How can I keep up long distance friendships? A great way to maintain a long distance friendship is to use snail mail to send an impromptu “thinking of you” card or letter to surprise the recipient.  Is it okay that my friends and I don’t keep in constant touch? Strong, loyal friendships don’t need constant contact to stay healthy, How can I be a great friend? A great friend is loyal, caring, and not afraid to show their friends love. Resources: Buddha's Bedroom People mentioned: Khalil Gibran Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. What defines a deep friendship to you? Is it someone you keep in touch with on a daily basis? Is it your spouse or partner who you trust with your deepest secrets? Maybe it’s that person you can go months without talking to and pick up exactly where you left off. Or it could be that friend who always knows the perfect way to show you love and support. 


Today, I’m talking about friendship in all its forms. From decades-long childhood friendships, to our friendships with our partners, to friendships we’ve outgrown or come to realize are no longer productive. 


In this episode, I break down my definition of a healthy friendship that stands the tests, trials, and tribulations of time. I tell you about my enduring friendships with three of my very closest friends from childhood, why a good friend accepts the other for all of their flaws and weaknesses, and the way I use snail mail as one of my favorite ways to stay in touch and connect with my long distance friends. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • I was a bright, thoughtful, creative kid—and I was bullied severely  enough to switch schools (02:46)
  • I often don’t talk to my closest friends for several months at a time, but when we get together it’s like no time has passed (07:10)
  • A deep, healthy friendship is loyal, elastic, flexible, and forgiving (08:26)
  • It’s possible to love to communicate, connect, and spend time with others as an extrovert while still replenishing in solitude and silence as an introvert (11:46)
  • You are profoundly lucky if you've been brave enough, foolish enough, and compassionate enough to have been hurt in love (16:49)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (20:24)


Q&A:

  • How can I keep up long distance friendships? A great way to maintain a long distance friendship is to use snail mail to send an impromptu “thinking of you” card or letter to surprise the recipient. 
  • Is it okay that my friends and I don’t keep in constant touch? Strong, loyal friendships don’t need constant contact to stay healthy,
  • How can I be a great friend? A great friend is loyal, caring, and not afraid to show their friends love.


Resources:


People mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1355 no Fighting the 3 Poisonous Emotions With Elephant Power https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/fighting-the-3-poisonous-emotions-with-elephant-power It’s a gorgeous, warm spring day. You're sitting out on a beautiful deck in a comfortable chair, you've got a perfect glass of lemonade, and a fascinating book that you just can’t put down. You can’t imagine a more content scenario. And then, you hear it… the buzzing of a single mosquito. Your first reaction: “Ugh! Why is this  stupid mosquito ruining my perfect afternoon?” Just this tiny bit of wanting something else, something different than your present reality, has caused you suffering.  Although aiding sexual romantic relationships is what I do by trade, that’s not the only thing this podcast is about.  I’m also a student of Buddhism and a Buddhist teacher and today we’re focusing in on the teachings of the Elephant.  In this episode, I guide you through the Buddhist teachings of The Three Poisons—and their antidotes!—and show you how you can learn to be happy for no reason. Even if the love of your life just left you or you’ve lost your home or you’re in the throes of a difficult illness—these are all big challenges, but they don't have to destroy your peace of mind. We’re all prone to these poisonous emotions, but it isn’t about fighting reality, it’s about using these lessons to learn, grow, and achieve a greater peace by following the elephant… even if the journey is  long and arduous.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The elephant is like your inner knowing—except it’s much bigger than me and you (03:01) The Three Poisonous Emotions: 1) Greed, 2) Hatred, 3) Delusion (07:32) When we want anything other than what is presently happening, we suffer (11:45) We suffer because things change and we don't like it (14:23) We suffer when we don’t look at the world the way it truly is and don’t accept that things change (19:53) Good news! There are antidotes to the Three Poisons (24:56) Your weekly LoveByte (30:44)   Q&A: What are the Three Poisons in Buddhism? The three poisons of the mind and behaviour of a human are: greed or wanting, anger or aversion, and bewilderment or confusion, often called ignorance. What are the antidotes to the Three Poisons? The antidotes to the three poisons are: 1) Greed—Generosity, 2) Hatred—Loving Kindness, 3) Ignorance—Wisdom Why am I dissatisfied and miserable? According to Buddhism, suffering comes from wanting things to be different from our current reality. To ease suffering, follow the teachings of the Three Poisons and learn their antidotes. Episode Mentioned: Meditation Sucks—But You Should Do It Anyway, Pt 2: Dr Cheryl's Long, Strange Trip Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 08 Nov 2021 10:00:51 -0000 Fighting the 3 Poisonous Emotions With Elephant Power full 26 Cheryl Fraser <p>It’s a gorgeous, warm spring day. You're sitting out on a beautiful deck in a comfortable chair, you've got a perfect glass of lemonade, and a fascinating book that you just can’t put down. You can’t imagine a more content scenario. And then, you hear it… the buzzing of a single mosquito. Your first reaction: “Ugh! Why is this&nbsp; stupid mosquito ruining my perfect afternoon?” Just this <em>tiny</em> bit of wanting something else, something different than your present reality, has caused you suffering.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Although aiding sexual romantic relationships is what I do by trade, that’s not the only thing this podcast is about.&nbsp; I’m also a student of Buddhism and a Buddhist teacher and today we’re focusing in on the teachings of the Elephant.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, I guide you through the Buddhist teachings of The Three Poisons—and their antidotes!—and show you <em>how you can learn to be happy for no reason.</em> Even if the love of your life just left you or you’ve lost your home or you’re in the throes of a difficult illness—these are all big challenges, but they don't have to destroy your peace of mind.<strong><em> </em></strong>We’re all prone to these poisonous emotions, but it isn’t about fighting reality, it’s about using these lessons to learn, grow, and achieve a greater peace by following the elephant… even if the journey is&nbsp; long and arduous.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>The elephant is like your inner knowing—except it’s much bigger than me and you (03:01)</strong></li><li><strong>The Three Poisonous Emotions: 1) Greed, 2) Hatred, 3) Delusion (07:32)</strong></li><li><strong>When we want anything other than what is presently happening, we suffer (11:45)</strong></li><li>We suffer because things change and we don't like it (14:23)</li><li>We suffer when we don’t look at the world the way it truly is and don’t accept that things change (19:53)</li><li>Good news! There are antidotes to the Three Poisons (24:56)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (30:44)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>What are the Three Poisons in Buddhism? <em>The three poisons of the mind and behaviour of a human are: greed or wanting, anger or aversion, and bewilderment or confusion, often called ignorance.</em></strong></li><li>What are the antidotes to the Three Poisons? <em>The antidotes to the three poisons are: 1) Greed—Generosity, 2) Hatred—Loving Kindness, 3) Ignorance—Wisdom</em></li><li><em>Why am I dissatisfied and miserable? According to Buddhism, suffering comes from wanting things to be different from our current reality. To ease suffering, follow the teachings of the Three Poisons and learn their antidotes.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Episode Mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/id1565891768?i=1000532134121" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Meditation Sucks—But You Should Do It Anyway, Pt 2: Dr Cheryl's Long, Strange Trip</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> It’s a gorgeous, warm spring day. You're sitting out on a beautiful deck in a comfortable chair, you've got a perfect glass of lemonade, and a fascinating book that you just can’t put down. You can’t imagine a more content scenario. And then, you hear it… the buzzing of a single mosquito. Your first reaction: “Ugh! Why is this  stupid mosquito ruining my perfect afternoon?” Just this tiny bit of wanting something else, something different than your present reality, has caused you suffering.  Although aiding sexual romantic relationships is what I do by trade, that’s not the only thing this podcast is about.  I’m also a student of Buddhism and a Buddhist teacher and today we’re focusing in on the teachings of the Elephant.  In this episode, I guide you through the Buddhist teachings of The Three Poisons—and their antidotes!—and show you how you can learn to be happy for no reason. Even if the love of your life just left you or you’ve lost your home or you’re in the throes of a difficult illness—these are all big challenges, but they don't have to destroy your peace of mind. We’re all prone to these poisonous emotions, but it isn’t about fighting reality, it’s about using these lessons to learn, grow, and achieve a greater peace by following the elephant… even if the journey is  long and arduous.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The elephant is like your inner knowing—except it’s much bigger than me and you (03:01) The Three Poisonous Emotions: 1) Greed, 2) Hatred, 3) Delusion (07:32) When we want anything other than what is presently happening, we suffer (11:45) We suffer because things change and we don't like it (14:23) We suffer when we don’t look at the world the way it truly is and don’t accept that things change (19:53) Good news! There are antidotes to the Three Poisons (24:56) Your weekly LoveByte (30:44)   Q&A: What are the Three Poisons in Buddhism? The three poisons of the mind and behaviour of a human are: greed or wanting, anger or aversion, and bewilderment or confusion, often called ignorance. What are the antidotes to the Three Poisons? The antidotes to the three poisons are: 1) Greed—Generosity, 2) Hatred—Loving Kindness, 3) Ignorance—Wisdom Why am I dissatisfied and miserable? According to Buddhism, suffering comes from wanting things to be different from our current reality. To ease suffering, follow the teachings of the Three Poisons and learn their antidotes. Episode Mentioned: Meditation Sucks—But You Should Do It Anyway, Pt 2: Dr Cheryl's Long, Strange Trip Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. It’s a gorgeous, warm spring day. You're sitting out on a beautiful deck in a comfortable chair, you've got a perfect glass of lemonade, and a fascinating book that you just can’t put down. You can’t imagine a more content scenario. And then, you hear it… the buzzing of a single mosquito. Your first reaction: “Ugh! Why is this  stupid mosquito ruining my perfect afternoon?” Just this tiny bit of wanting something else, something different than your present reality, has caused you suffering. 


Although aiding sexual romantic relationships is what I do by trade, that’s not the only thing this podcast is about.  I’m also a student of Buddhism and a Buddhist teacher and today we’re focusing in on the teachings of the Elephant. 


In this episode, I guide you through the Buddhist teachings of The Three Poisons—and their antidotes!—and show you how you can learn to be happy for no reason. Even if the love of your life just left you or you’ve lost your home or you’re in the throes of a difficult illness—these are all big challenges, but they don't have to destroy your peace of mind. We’re all prone to these poisonous emotions, but it isn’t about fighting reality, it’s about using these lessons to learn, grow, and achieve a greater peace by following the elephant… even if the journey is  long and arduous. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The elephant is like your inner knowing—except it’s much bigger than me and you (03:01)
  • The Three Poisonous Emotions: 1) Greed, 2) Hatred, 3) Delusion (07:32)
  • When we want anything other than what is presently happening, we suffer (11:45)
  • We suffer because things change and we don't like it (14:23)
  • We suffer when we don’t look at the world the way it truly is and don’t accept that things change (19:53)
  • Good news! There are antidotes to the Three Poisons (24:56)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (30:44)

 


Q&A:

  • What are the Three Poisons in Buddhism? The three poisons of the mind and behaviour of a human are: greed or wanting, anger or aversion, and bewilderment or confusion, often called ignorance.
  • What are the antidotes to the Three Poisons? The antidotes to the three poisons are: 1) Greed—Generosity, 2) Hatred—Loving Kindness, 3) Ignorance—Wisdom
  • Why am I dissatisfied and miserable? According to Buddhism, suffering comes from wanting things to be different from our current reality. To ease suffering, follow the teachings of the Three Poisons and learn their antidotes.


Episode Mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1985 no Couples Q&A With Dr. Cheryl - Fight Fair, Fall Back in Lust, and Rediscover Your Sweetheart https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/couples-qa-with-dr-cheryl-fight-fair-fall-back-in-lust-and-r In episode 25 of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear real couples ask the burning questions you’re dying to ask: “How can we learn to fight fair?” “We fight all the time, will we get divorced?” “I have very little sexual desire for my partner, how can I get it back?” You’ll also hear some testimonials from former students who have gone through my Become Passion program. Today, I’m sharing with you an exclusive glimpse into an open Q&A forum from a very recent session featuring 100 couples who finally said, “Enough!” And decided to do something to change their lackluster, passionless love lives. Some of them will continue on to embark on a 10 week, totally immersive couples program to restore their spark, fall back in love with love, and join me on the extraordinary journey to Becoming Passion. By the end of this twice a year course, they’ll have attended 10 classes, had their burning questions answered, and received coaching—all from yours truly.  I’ve had brave couples join my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program and make absolutely incredible changes to their relationships by finally investing the heart, love, and care that they had been depriving one another. I have seen couples go from no intimacy at all to making love again! Whether it’s affairs, nasty fights, or just complete and total boredom, the program has seen it all AND helped it all.  If you're listening on November 1, 2021, there may still be a chance for you to join the Become Passion program in the next couple of days. Please send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com. Some Questions Answered: How do I get my spouse to focus on us as a couple and not just be part of our family? (06:57) Is it possible to feel sexual desire for my partner again? (11:28) We fight a lot. Are we doomed? (16:53) When I do things for my sweetheart, he discounts them and says he doesn't deserve it—what can I do? (27:41) My partner had an emotional affair. He says it's over and he's not sure he wants to stay married. Is there any hope for us? (43:59) Am I a fool to forgive an affair? (56:01) Can verbal abuse be fixed? (1:01:46) Q&A: What should I do if I feel like my partner has fallen out of love with me? You only ever have three options in a relationship: stay the way it is, break up, or stay and try again. Look to the Three Keys to Intimacy. We haven’t had fun since we've had kids. Is that normal?  While this is incredibly “normal” in the sense that it’s typical, it certainly doesn’t have to be. The key is to separate yourselves from being parents vs being lovers—make scheduled time to cherish your romantic relationship, away from the kids. Will going to couples therapy save my relationship? A couples coach is like a personal trainer. They can't fix you or make you fit,  but they can guide you on what needs to be done to move forward.  Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 01 Nov 2021 10:00:49 -0000 Couples Q&A With Dr. Cheryl - Fight Fair, Fall Back in Lust, and Rediscover Your Sweetheart full 25 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>In episode 25 of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, you’ll hear real couples ask the burning questions you’re dying to ask: “How can we learn to fight fair?” “We fight all the time, will we get divorced?” “I have very little sexual desire for my partner, how can I get it back?” You’ll also hear some testimonials from former students who have gone through my <strong><em>Become Passion</em></strong><em> </em>program.</p><br><p><strong>Today</strong>, I’m sharing with you an exclusive glimpse into an open Q&amp;A forum from a very recent session featuring 100 couples who finally said, “Enough!” And decided to do something to change their lackluster, passionless love lives. Some of them will continue on to embark on a 10 week, totally immersive couples program to restore their spark, fall back in love with love, and join me on the extraordinary journey to<strong> Becoming Passion</strong>. By the end of this twice a year course, they’ll have attended 10 classes, had their burning questions answered, and received coaching—all from yours truly.&nbsp;</p><br><p>I’ve had brave couples join my <strong><em>Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime </em></strong>program and make absolutely incredible changes to their relationships by finally investing the heart, love, and care that they had been depriving one another. I have seen couples go from no intimacy at all to making love again! Whether it’s affairs, nasty fights, or just complete and total boredom, the program has seen it all AND helped it all.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>If you're listening on November 1, 2021, there may still be a chance for you to join the <em>Become Passion </em>program in the next couple of days. Please send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com.</strong></p><br><p><strong>Some Questions Answered:</strong></p><ul><li>How do I get my spouse to focus on us as a couple and not just be part of our family? (06:57)</li><li>Is it possible to feel sexual desire for my partner again? (11:28)</li><li>We fight a lot. Are we doomed? (16:53)</li><li>When I do things for my sweetheart, he discounts them and says he doesn't deserve it—what can I do? (27:41)</li><li>My partner had an emotional affair. He says it's over and he's not sure he wants to stay married. Is there any hope for us? (43:59)</li><li>Am I a fool to forgive an affair? (56:01)</li><li>Can verbal abuse be fixed? (1:01:46)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>What should I do if I feel like my partner has fallen out of love with me?</em></strong><em> You only ever have three options in a relationship: stay the way it is, break up, or stay and try again. Look to the Three Keys to Intimacy.</em></li><li><strong><em>We haven’t had fun since we've had kids. Is that normal? &nbsp;</em></strong><em>While this is incredibly “normal” in the sense that it’s typical, it certainly doesn’t have to be. The key is to separate yourselves from being parents vs being lovers—make scheduled time to cherish your romantic relationship, away from the kids.</em></li><li><strong><em>Will going to couples therapy save my relationship? </em></strong><em>A couples coach is like a personal trainer. They can't fix you or make you fit,&nbsp; but they can guide you on what needs to be done to move forward.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://tinyurl.com/dphu9mpf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> In episode 25 of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear real couples ask the burning questions you’re dying to ask: “How can we learn to fight fair?” “We fight all the time, will we get divorced?” “I have very little sexual desire for my partner, how can I get it back?” You’ll also hear some testimonials from former students who have gone through my Become Passion program. Today, I’m sharing with you an exclusive glimpse into an open Q&A forum from a very recent session featuring 100 couples who finally said, “Enough!” And decided to do something to change their lackluster, passionless love lives. Some of them will continue on to embark on a 10 week, totally immersive couples program to restore their spark, fall back in love with love, and join me on the extraordinary journey to Becoming Passion. By the end of this twice a year course, they’ll have attended 10 classes, had their burning questions answered, and received coaching—all from yours truly.  I’ve had brave couples join my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program and make absolutely incredible changes to their relationships by finally investing the heart, love, and care that they had been depriving one another. I have seen couples go from no intimacy at all to making love again! Whether it’s affairs, nasty fights, or just complete and total boredom, the program has seen it all AND helped it all.  If you're listening on November 1, 2021, there may still be a chance for you to join the Become Passion program in the next couple of days. Please send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com. Some Questions Answered: How do I get my spouse to focus on us as a couple and not just be part of our family? (06:57) Is it possible to feel sexual desire for my partner again? (11:28) We fight a lot. Are we doomed? (16:53) When I do things for my sweetheart, he discounts them and says he doesn't deserve it—what can I do? (27:41) My partner had an emotional affair. He says it's over and he's not sure he wants to stay married. Is there any hope for us? (43:59) Am I a fool to forgive an affair? (56:01) Can verbal abuse be fixed? (1:01:46) Q&A: What should I do if I feel like my partner has fallen out of love with me? You only ever have three options in a relationship: stay the way it is, break up, or stay and try again. Look to the Three Keys to Intimacy. We haven’t had fun since we've had kids. Is that normal?  While this is incredibly “normal” in the sense that it’s typical, it certainly doesn’t have to be. The key is to separate yourselves from being parents vs being lovers—make scheduled time to cherish your romantic relationship, away from the kids. Will going to couples therapy save my relationship? A couples coach is like a personal trainer. They can't fix you or make you fit,  but they can guide you on what needs to be done to move forward.  Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. In episode 25 of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear real couples ask the burning questions you’re dying to ask: “How can we learn to fight fair?” “We fight all the time, will we get divorced?” “I have very little sexual desire for my partner, how can I get it back?” You’ll also hear some testimonials from former students who have gone through my Become Passion program.


Today, I’m sharing with you an exclusive glimpse into an open Q&A forum from a very recent session featuring 100 couples who finally said, “Enough!” And decided to do something to change their lackluster, passionless love lives. Some of them will continue on to embark on a 10 week, totally immersive couples program to restore their spark, fall back in love with love, and join me on the extraordinary journey to Becoming Passion. By the end of this twice a year course, they’ll have attended 10 classes, had their burning questions answered, and received coaching—all from yours truly. 


I’ve had brave couples join my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program and make absolutely incredible changes to their relationships by finally investing the heart, love, and care that they had been depriving one another. I have seen couples go from no intimacy at all to making love again! Whether it’s affairs, nasty fights, or just complete and total boredom, the program has seen it all AND helped it all. 


If you're listening on November 1, 2021, there may still be a chance for you to join the Become Passion program in the next couple of days. Please send an email to support@DrCherylFraser.com.


Some Questions Answered:

  • How do I get my spouse to focus on us as a couple and not just be part of our family? (06:57)
  • Is it possible to feel sexual desire for my partner again? (11:28)
  • We fight a lot. Are we doomed? (16:53)
  • When I do things for my sweetheart, he discounts them and says he doesn't deserve it—what can I do? (27:41)
  • My partner had an emotional affair. He says it's over and he's not sure he wants to stay married. Is there any hope for us? (43:59)
  • Am I a fool to forgive an affair? (56:01)
  • Can verbal abuse be fixed? (1:01:46)


Q&A:

  • What should I do if I feel like my partner has fallen out of love with me? You only ever have three options in a relationship: stay the way it is, break up, or stay and try again. Look to the Three Keys to Intimacy.
  • We haven’t had fun since we've had kids. Is that normal?  While this is incredibly “normal” in the sense that it’s typical, it certainly doesn’t have to be. The key is to separate yourselves from being parents vs being lovers—make scheduled time to cherish your romantic relationship, away from the kids.
  • Will going to couples therapy save my relationship? A couples coach is like a personal trainer. They can't fix you or make you fit,  but they can guide you on what needs to be done to move forward. 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 5132 no Ignite the Spark, Find Passion, and Fall in Love All Over Again—With the One You’re Already With https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/ignite-the-spark-find-passion-and-fall-in-love-all-over-agai Today, I’m extending you an invitation to join me and a select small group of couples on an extraordinary, three-month-long journey into Becoming Passion. This is my signature Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime couples immersion program where I teach you live weekly for 10 weeks, and I also answer your questions, give you and your partner coaching, and provide extensive immersive video lessons. In this episode, I’m sharing details about the Become Passion program, as well as a personal story about my first marriage and how much I learned and grew from my mistakes. Unless you and your sweetheart live lightyears apart, conflict is unavoidable—but with a little work and some help from the Three Keys to Passion, you can create a love that is exceptional.  If you want to be one of the few couples who join me for a life-changing relationship journey, click HERE to join Become Passion. Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com Kick off for the Become Passion program is this Saturday, October 30, 2021. Act fast. If not, you'll have to wait until summer 2022! In This Episode, You Will Learn: All about my Become Passion program (00:45) Your weekly LoveByte (02:38) Exceptional couples develop intimacy and the ability to communicate deeply by cultivating the Three Keys to Passion (03:59) Most long-term couples make love because one of them decides, “Hey—we should probably make love.” (07:17) My purpose with this course! (14:41) A little story about my fairytale first wedding… and how the marriage was over less than 2 years later  (18:00) Q&A: My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? More than a third of couples are sexless…so you are not alone. Try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.  Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Disagreements are a normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them.  What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are: Intimacy, Thrill, Sensuality Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Rosemary Basson Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 25 Oct 2021 09:00:24 -0000 Ignite the Spark, Find Passion, and Fall in Love All Over Again—With the One You’re Already With full 24 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>Today</strong>, I’m extending you an invitation to join me and a select small group of couples on an extraordinary, three-month-long journey into <em>Becoming Passion</em>. This is my signature <strong><em>Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</em></strong> couples immersion program where I teach you live weekly for 10 weeks, and I also answer your questions, give you and your partner coaching, and provide extensive immersive video lessons.</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I’m sharing details about the <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>Become Passion</em></strong></a> program, as well as a personal story about my first marriage and how much I learned and grew from my mistakes. Unless you and your sweetheart live lightyears apart, conflict is <em>unavoidable</em>—but with a little work and some help from the Three Keys to Passion, you can create a love that is exceptional.&nbsp;</p><br><p>If you want to be one of the few couples who join me for a life-changing relationship journey, click <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a> to join <strong><em>Become Passion</em></strong>. Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com</p><br><p><strong>Kick off for the<em> Become Passion</em> program is this Saturday, October 30, 2021.</strong> Act fast. If not, you'll have to wait until summer 2022!</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>All about my <strong><em>Become Passion</em></strong> program (00:45)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (02:38)</li><li>Exceptional couples develop intimacy and the ability to communicate deeply by cultivating the <strong>Three Keys to Passion</strong> (03:59)</li><li><strong>Most long-term couples make love</strong> <strong>because one of them decides</strong>, “Hey—we should probably make love.” (07:17)</li><li>My purpose with this course! (14:41)</li><li><strong>A little story about my fairytale first wedding</strong>… and how the marriage was over less than 2 years later&nbsp; (18:00)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us?</em></strong><em> More than a third of couples are sexless…so you are not alone. Try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.&nbsp;</em></li><li><strong><em>Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? </em></strong><em>Disagreements are a normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them.&nbsp;</em></li><li><strong><em>What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are:&nbsp;</em></strong><em>Intimacy, Thrill, Sensuality</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://tinyurl.com/y4629bd6" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li><li><a href="https://tinyurl.com/z8wvypbz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Rosemary Basson</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://tinyurl.com/38n2ectb" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Today, I’m extending you an invitation to join me and a select small group of couples on an extraordinary, three-month-long journey into Becoming Passion. This is my signature Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime couples immersion program where I teach you live weekly for 10 weeks, and I also answer your questions, give you and your partner coaching, and provide extensive immersive video lessons. In this episode, I’m sharing details about the Become Passion program, as well as a personal story about my first marriage and how much I learned and grew from my mistakes. Unless you and your sweetheart live lightyears apart, conflict is unavoidable—but with a little work and some help from the Three Keys to Passion, you can create a love that is exceptional.  If you want to be one of the few couples who join me for a life-changing relationship journey, click HERE to join Become Passion. Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com Kick off for the Become Passion program is this Saturday, October 30, 2021. Act fast. If not, you'll have to wait until summer 2022! In This Episode, You Will Learn: All about my Become Passion program (00:45) Your weekly LoveByte (02:38) Exceptional couples develop intimacy and the ability to communicate deeply by cultivating the Three Keys to Passion (03:59) Most long-term couples make love because one of them decides, “Hey—we should probably make love.” (07:17) My purpose with this course! (14:41) A little story about my fairytale first wedding… and how the marriage was over less than 2 years later  (18:00) Q&A: My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? More than a third of couples are sexless…so you are not alone. Try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.  Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Disagreements are a normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them.  What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are: Intimacy, Thrill, Sensuality Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Rosemary Basson Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Today, I’m extending you an invitation to join me and a select small group of couples on an extraordinary, three-month-long journey into Becoming Passion. This is my signature Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime couples immersion program where I teach you live weekly for 10 weeks, and I also answer your questions, give you and your partner coaching, and provide extensive immersive video lessons.


In this episode, I’m sharing details about the Become Passion program, as well as a personal story about my first marriage and how much I learned and grew from my mistakes. Unless you and your sweetheart live lightyears apart, conflict is unavoidable—but with a little work and some help from the Three Keys to Passion, you can create a love that is exceptional. 


If you want to be one of the few couples who join me for a life-changing relationship journey, click HERE to join Become Passion. Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com


Kick off for the Become Passion program is this Saturday, October 30, 2021. Act fast. If not, you'll have to wait until summer 2022!


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • All about my Become Passion program (00:45)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (02:38)
  • Exceptional couples develop intimacy and the ability to communicate deeply by cultivating the Three Keys to Passion (03:59)
  • Most long-term couples make love because one of them decides, “Hey—we should probably make love.” (07:17)
  • My purpose with this course! (14:41)
  • A little story about my fairytale first wedding… and how the marriage was over less than 2 years later  (18:00)


Q&A:

  • My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? More than a third of couples are sexless…so you are not alone. Try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy. 
  • Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Disagreements are a normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them. 
  • What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are: Intimacy, Thrill, Sensuality


Resources mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1439 no How to Re-ignite Love, Passion, and yes...Sex! Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/how-to-re-ignite-love-passion-and-yessex-dr-cheryls-passion In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do twice a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and Romance Cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist - fun combination.) If you want to join one of the LIVE classes - happening in October and March - click here to register! (or get on the waitlist) If you and your sweetheart are in a relationship rut - listen to this special episode.  Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.  In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business)... and learn how to create much more Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality, no matter where your relationship is currently.  Intrigued? Well, be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 10-week online immersion program for couples—and receive the incredible set of bonuses I‘ll be offering (over $2500 worth), master classes with world experts in Couples Therapy and Sexuality, TEN  live coaching calls with me, and much more.  The Become Passion Couples Immersion Program begins October 30th! Want to learn more? Email support@drcherylfraser.com  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your weekly LoveByte (3:21) The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime (21:11) Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments. Bonus teaching on the 4 Predictors of Divorce, “flooding,” and more. (21:23)  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real. Are you bored with your mate? Almost everyone said YES. And I tell you what you can do about that. (35:57) Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? I tell you why... and what to do—Yup! We get a little sexy together, multiple orgasms and all... (45:43) Our extensive Q&A session! Some questions I answer: The two types of sensual desire and why you are NORMAL if you rarely feel “in the mood” If we never had much attraction, can we create it now? Does arguing predict divorce? What should we do if we have little or no emotional intimacy? Can your program help us? What can I do about the post-menopausal loss of sex drive? Husband with erection problems? How can we recover from an affair? Is it possible? We are friends, not lovers – help! Taboo sexuality – should we pursue our deepest desires? And many, many more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 18 Oct 2021 09:00:44 -0000 How to Re-ignite Love, Passion, and yes...Sex! Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass full 23 Cheryl Fraser <p><strong>In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants</strong>, I’m going to give you a look inside my <strong>Passion Masterclass - </strong>a FREE couples workshop I do twice a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and Romance Cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist - fun combination.) If you want to join one of the LIVE classes - happening in October and March - click <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here to register</a>! (or get on the waitlist)</p><br><p>If you and your sweetheart are in a relationship rut - listen to this special episode.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Here’s the good news: You are <strong>NOT</strong> alone and it's <strong>NOT </strong>too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having <em>any</em> sex <em>whatsoever</em>.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business)... and learn how to create much more Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality, no matter where your relationship is currently.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Intrigued? Well, be one of the few select couples who join me inside the <strong><em>Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime&nbsp;</em></strong>10-week online immersion program for couples—and receive the incredible set of bonuses I‘ll be offering (over $2500 worth), master classes with world experts in Couples Therapy and Sexuality, TEN&nbsp; live coaching calls with me, and much more.&nbsp;</p><br><p>The <em>Become Passion</em> Couples Immersion Program begins October 30th! Want to learn more? Email <a href="mailto:support@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">support@drcherylfraser.com</a>&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Your weekly LoveByte (3:21)</li><li><strong>The 3 Keys to Passion&nbsp;</strong>– What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime (21:11)</li><li><strong>Intimacy: “Marital Friendship</strong>”&nbsp; Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments. Bonus teaching on the 4 Predictors of Divorce, “flooding,” and more. (21:23)</li><li>&nbsp;<strong>Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going</strong>&nbsp;– and what you need to do about it. Getting real.&nbsp;<em>Are you bored with your mate? Almost everyone said YES. </em>And I tell you what you can do about that. (35:57)</li><li><strong><em>Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life.&nbsp;Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? I tell you why... and what to do—Yup! We get a little sexy together, multiple orgasms and all... (45:43)</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Our extensive Q&amp;A session! Some questions I answer:</strong></p><ul><li>The two types of sensual desire and why you are NORMAL if you rarely feel “in the mood”</li><li>If we never had much attraction, can we create it now?</li><li>Does arguing predict divorce?</li><li>What should we do if we have little or no emotional intimacy? Can your program help us?</li><li>What can I do about the post-menopausal loss of sex drive? Husband with erection problems?</li><li>How can we recover from an affair? Is it possible?</li><li>We are friends, not lovers – help!</li><li>Taboo sexuality – should we pursue our deepest desires?</li><li>And many, many more.</li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do twice a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and Romance Cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist - fun combination.) If you want to join one of the LIVE classes - happening in October and March - click here to register! (or get on the waitlist) If you and your sweetheart are in a relationship rut - listen to this special episode.  Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.  In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business)... and learn how to create much more Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality, no matter where your relationship is currently.  Intrigued? Well, be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 10-week online immersion program for couples—and receive the incredible set of bonuses I‘ll be offering (over $2500 worth), master classes with world experts in Couples Therapy and Sexuality, TEN  live coaching calls with me, and much more.  The Become Passion Couples Immersion Program begins October 30th! Want to learn more? Email support@drcherylfraser.com  In This Episode, You Will Learn: Your weekly LoveByte (3:21) The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime (21:11) Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments. Bonus teaching on the 4 Predictors of Divorce, “flooding,” and more. (21:23)  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real. Are you bored with your mate? Almost everyone said YES. And I tell you what you can do about that. (35:57) Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? I tell you why... and what to do—Yup! We get a little sexy together, multiple orgasms and all... (45:43) Our extensive Q&A session! Some questions I answer: The two types of sensual desire and why you are NORMAL if you rarely feel “in the mood” If we never had much attraction, can we create it now? Does arguing predict divorce? What should we do if we have little or no emotional intimacy? Can your program help us? What can I do about the post-menopausal loss of sex drive? Husband with erection problems? How can we recover from an affair? Is it possible? We are friends, not lovers – help! Taboo sexuality – should we pursue our deepest desires? And many, many more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do twice a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and Romance Cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist - fun combination.) If you want to join one of the LIVE classes - happening in October and March - click here to register! (or get on the waitlist)


If you and your sweetheart are in a relationship rut - listen to this special episode. 


Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. 


In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business)... and learn how to create much more Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality, no matter where your relationship is currently. 


Intrigued? Well, be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 10-week online immersion program for couples—and receive the incredible set of bonuses I‘ll be offering (over $2500 worth), master classes with world experts in Couples Therapy and Sexuality, TEN  live coaching calls with me, and much more. 


The Become Passion Couples Immersion Program begins October 30th! Want to learn more? Email support@drcherylfraser.com 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Your weekly LoveByte (3:21)
  • The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime (21:11)
  • Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments. Bonus teaching on the 4 Predictors of Divorce, “flooding,” and more. (21:23)
  •  Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real. Are you bored with your mate? Almost everyone said YES. And I tell you what you can do about that. (35:57)
  • Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? I tell you why... and what to do—Yup! We get a little sexy together, multiple orgasms and all... (45:43)


Our extensive Q&A session! Some questions I answer:

  • The two types of sensual desire and why you are NORMAL if you rarely feel “in the mood”
  • If we never had much attraction, can we create it now?
  • Does arguing predict divorce?
  • What should we do if we have little or no emotional intimacy? Can your program help us?
  • What can I do about the post-menopausal loss of sex drive? Husband with erection problems?
  • How can we recover from an affair? Is it possible?
  • We are friends, not lovers – help!
  • Taboo sexuality – should we pursue our deepest desires?
  • And many, many more.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 7102 no Great Sex at any Age - One Couples Story On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/great-sex-at-any-age-one-couples-story-on-the-couch-with-dr- No matter your age, you CAN have a great sex life. But it’s not going to happen without a little help. Tips, toys, tools and techniques - there are many methods to help you perform better, connect more fully, and have more and better sex with your sweetheart. At any age.  Have you been with your partner awhile and noticed that your sexual energy has… well, slowed down a little? Maybe you noticed it more after your first baby, or after you both turned 40, or maybe it’s even been a post-menopausal drop in action. If you’re sitting there thinking, “Okay, that’s totally us, but it’s too embarrassing to admit!” Here’s the good news: major life events, physical changes, aging… they’re all completely normal reasons for a change in your sex life. The even better news: I’m going to tell you exactly what needs to happen to pull you and your sweetheart out of the rut and into bed.  Welcome to episode three of my “On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl” series. For the month of September, my episodes will focus on the Passion Triangle. I’m featuring a real-life couple from my Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program, a 10-week online immersion couples program. In this exclusive immersion program, I teach real tools and techniques that will help you and your partner learn to embrace your ever-evolving, ever-maturing relationship and rediscover the passion you’ve been missing.  In this episode, I introduce you to Dean and Marina, a couple in their 60s who have been together for more than four decades, and how I taught them to reconnect sexually, embrace their aging bodies, and Become Passion. I also bust the pervasive cultural myth that all men are sex-obsessed, perpetually horny dogs—because guess what? Not only is it untrue, it’s taking a toll on your own sex life! Every long-term couple experiences life-altering events, every long-term couple ages, and every long-term couple deals with changes in their intimacy.  So, yes, the struggle is real… but the struggle is common, and the struggle is also totally normal.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The story of one of the couples from the Become Passion online program and how they were able to overcome the physical and mental obstacles that were standing in the way of a healthy sex life. (04:45) In order to create passion, romance, and reignite your sex life, you have to be honest with yourself and with your honey first—so get those elephants out in the open!  (06:43) Our bodies change as we age… and it is totally okay to modify the way we have sex to accommodate those changes. (10:52) The “Good Enough” sex model AKA why every sexual encounter doesn’t have to be a pinnacle experience. (19:50) Rings, vibration, and lube—oh my! Some solutions, tips, and techniques that really work for those experiencing sexual dysfunction. (22:43) Treat your sex life like you would any other can’t-miss appointment.  (25:21) Your weekly LoveByte. (32:24)   Q&A: If my partner has trouble with their erections, does that mean they’re no longer attracted to me? The cultural myth that all people possessing a penis are horny all the time and are always ready and willing to have sex is simply untrue. Those with penises experience changes in their body and sexual lives due to stress, aging, and physical issues just the same as those with vaginas.  Sex with my partner has recently become physically uncomfortable, but I don’t want to tell them and hurt their feelings. What should I do? The most important aspect to emotional and physical intimacy is openness and honesty. If something has changed for you sexually, tell your sweetheart and get it out in the open. If you keep it a secret, it will make it that much harder to solve the problem and may even create distance between you.  What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are:  Intimacy, i.e. communication, conflict resolution, spiritual connection Thrill, i.e. creating romance and interest and ensuring your partner feels appreciated and special Sensuality, i.e. the erotic aspect; an intimate relationship with a partner is basically friendship plus nudity Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Dr. Barry McCarthy Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses. See what couples—and Jack Canfield—have to say about Dr. Cheryl’s Become Passion couples program HERE Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 27 Sep 2021 09:00:33 -0000 Great Sex at any Age - One Couples Story On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl full 20 Cheryl Fraser <p>No matter your age, you CAN have a great sex life. But it’s not going to happen without a little help. Tips, toys, tools and techniques - there are many methods to help you perform better, connect more fully, and have more and better sex with your sweetheart. At any age.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Have you been with your partner awhile and noticed that your sexual energy has… well, <em>slowed down</em> a little? Maybe you noticed it more after your first baby, or after you both turned 40, or maybe it’s even been a post-menopausal drop in action. If you’re sitting there thinking, “Okay, that’s totally us, but it’s too embarrassing to admit!” Here’s the good news: major life events, physical changes, aging… they’re all completely normal reasons for a change in your sex life. The even better news: I’m going to tell you exactly what needs to happen to pull you and your sweetheart <strong>out</strong><em> </em>of the rut and<strong> into</strong> bed.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Welcome to episode three of my “On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl” series. For the month of September, my episodes will focus on the Passion Triangle. I’m featuring a real-life couple from my <em>Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime </em>program, a 10-week online immersion couples program. In this exclusive immersion program, I teach real tools and techniques that will help you and your partner learn to embrace your ever-evolving, ever-maturing relationship and rediscover the passion you’ve been missing.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I introduce you to Dean and Marina, a couple in their 60s who have been together for more than four decades, and how I taught them to reconnect sexually, embrace their aging bodies, and <em>Become Passion</em>. I also bust the pervasive cultural myth that all men are sex-obsessed, perpetually horny dogs—because guess what? Not only is it untrue, it’s taking a toll on your own sex life! Every long-term couple experiences life-altering events, every long-term couple ages, and every long-term couple deals with changes in their intimacy.&nbsp; So, yes, the struggle is real… but the struggle is common, and the struggle is also <em>totally normal.</em>&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li><strong>The story of one of the couples from the <em>Become Passion </em>online program and how they were able to overcome the physical and mental obstacles that were standing in the way of a healthy sex life. (04:45)</strong></li><li><em>In order to create passion, romance, and reignite your sex life, you have to be honest with yourself and with your honey first—so get those elephants out in the open!&nbsp; (06:43)</em></li><li>Our bodies change as we age… and it is totally okay to modify the way we have sex to accommodate those changes. (10:52)</li><li><strong>The “Good Enough” sex model AKA why every sexual encounter doesn’t have to be a pinnacle experience. (19:50)</strong></li><li><strong>Rings, vibration, and lube—oh my! Some solutions, tips, and techniques that really work for those experiencing sexual dysfunction. (22:43)</strong></li><li>Treat your sex life like you would any other can’t-miss appointment.&nbsp; (25:21)</li><li><em>Your weekly LoveByte. (32:24)</em></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong><em>Q&amp;A:</em></strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>If my partner has trouble with their erections, does that mean they’re no longer attracted to me? The cultural myth that all people possessing a penis are horny all the time and are always ready and willing to have sex is simply untrue. Those with penises experience changes in their body and sexual lives due to stress, aging, and physical issues just the same as those with vaginas.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>Sex with my partner has recently become physically uncomfortable, but I don’t want to tell them and hurt their feelings. What should I do? The most important aspect to emotional and physical intimacy is openness and honesty. If something has changed for you sexually, tell your sweetheart and get it out in the open. If you keep it a secret, it will make it that much harder to solve the problem and may even create distance between you.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are:&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><em>Intimacy, i.e. communication, conflict resolution, spiritual connection</em></li><li><em>Thrill, i.e. creating romance and interest and ensuring your partner feels appreciated and special</em></li><li><em>Sensuality, i.e. the erotic aspect; an intimate relationship with a partner is basically friendship plus nudity</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Barry-W.-McCarthy/e/B002EJ94JS%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Dr. Barry McCarthy</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sign up here for the waitlist</strong></a> to the <strong>Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</strong> online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.</p><br><p>See what couples—and Jack Canfield—have to say about Dr. Cheryl’s Become Passion couples program <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/testimonials" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> No matter your age, you CAN have a great sex life. But it’s not going to happen without a little help. Tips, toys, tools and techniques - there are many methods to help you perform better, connect more fully, and have more and better sex with your sweetheart. At any age.  Have you been with your partner awhile and noticed that your sexual energy has… well, slowed down a little? Maybe you noticed it more after your first baby, or after you both turned 40, or maybe it’s even been a post-menopausal drop in action. If you’re sitting there thinking, “Okay, that’s totally us, but it’s too embarrassing to admit!” Here’s the good news: major life events, physical changes, aging… they’re all completely normal reasons for a change in your sex life. The even better news: I’m going to tell you exactly what needs to happen to pull you and your sweetheart out of the rut and into bed.  Welcome to episode three of my “On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl” series. For the month of September, my episodes will focus on the Passion Triangle. I’m featuring a real-life couple from my Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program, a 10-week online immersion couples program. In this exclusive immersion program, I teach real tools and techniques that will help you and your partner learn to embrace your ever-evolving, ever-maturing relationship and rediscover the passion you’ve been missing.  In this episode, I introduce you to Dean and Marina, a couple in their 60s who have been together for more than four decades, and how I taught them to reconnect sexually, embrace their aging bodies, and Become Passion. I also bust the pervasive cultural myth that all men are sex-obsessed, perpetually horny dogs—because guess what? Not only is it untrue, it’s taking a toll on your own sex life! Every long-term couple experiences life-altering events, every long-term couple ages, and every long-term couple deals with changes in their intimacy.  So, yes, the struggle is real… but the struggle is common, and the struggle is also totally normal.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: The story of one of the couples from the Become Passion online program and how they were able to overcome the physical and mental obstacles that were standing in the way of a healthy sex life. (04:45) In order to create passion, romance, and reignite your sex life, you have to be honest with yourself and with your honey first—so get those elephants out in the open!  (06:43) Our bodies change as we age… and it is totally okay to modify the way we have sex to accommodate those changes. (10:52) The “Good Enough” sex model AKA why every sexual encounter doesn’t have to be a pinnacle experience. (19:50) Rings, vibration, and lube—oh my! Some solutions, tips, and techniques that really work for those experiencing sexual dysfunction. (22:43) Treat your sex life like you would any other can’t-miss appointment.  (25:21) Your weekly LoveByte. (32:24)   Q&A: If my partner has trouble with their erections, does that mean they’re no longer attracted to me? The cultural myth that all people possessing a penis are horny all the time and are always ready and willing to have sex is simply untrue. Those with penises experience changes in their body and sexual lives due to stress, aging, and physical issues just the same as those with vaginas.  Sex with my partner has recently become physically uncomfortable, but I don’t want to tell them and hurt their feelings. What should I do? The most important aspect to emotional and physical intimacy is openness and honesty. If something has changed for you sexually, tell your sweetheart and get it out in the open. If you keep it a secret, it will make it that much harder to solve the problem and may even create distance between you.  What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are:  Intimacy, i.e. communication, conflict resolution, spiritual connection Thrill, i.e. creating romance and interest and ensuring your partner feels appreciated and special Sensuality, i.e. the erotic aspect; an intimate relationship with a partner is basically friendship plus nudity Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Dr. Barry McCarthy Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses. See what couples—and Jack Canfield—have to say about Dr. Cheryl’s Become Passion couples program HERE Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. No matter your age, you CAN have a great sex life. But it’s not going to happen without a little help. Tips, toys, tools and techniques - there are many methods to help you perform better, connect more fully, and have more and better sex with your sweetheart. At any age. 


Have you been with your partner awhile and noticed that your sexual energy has… well, slowed down a little? Maybe you noticed it more after your first baby, or after you both turned 40, or maybe it’s even been a post-menopausal drop in action. If you’re sitting there thinking, “Okay, that’s totally us, but it’s too embarrassing to admit!” Here’s the good news: major life events, physical changes, aging… they’re all completely normal reasons for a change in your sex life. The even better news: I’m going to tell you exactly what needs to happen to pull you and your sweetheart out of the rut and into bed. 


Welcome to episode three of my “On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl” series. For the month of September, my episodes will focus on the Passion Triangle. I’m featuring a real-life couple from my Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program, a 10-week online immersion couples program. In this exclusive immersion program, I teach real tools and techniques that will help you and your partner learn to embrace your ever-evolving, ever-maturing relationship and rediscover the passion you’ve been missing. 


In this episode, I introduce you to Dean and Marina, a couple in their 60s who have been together for more than four decades, and how I taught them to reconnect sexually, embrace their aging bodies, and Become Passion. I also bust the pervasive cultural myth that all men are sex-obsessed, perpetually horny dogs—because guess what? Not only is it untrue, it’s taking a toll on your own sex life! Every long-term couple experiences life-altering events, every long-term couple ages, and every long-term couple deals with changes in their intimacy.  So, yes, the struggle is real… but the struggle is common, and the struggle is also totally normal. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The story of one of the couples from the Become Passion online program and how they were able to overcome the physical and mental obstacles that were standing in the way of a healthy sex life. (04:45)
  • In order to create passion, romance, and reignite your sex life, you have to be honest with yourself and with your honey first—so get those elephants out in the open!  (06:43)
  • Our bodies change as we age… and it is totally okay to modify the way we have sex to accommodate those changes. (10:52)
  • The “Good Enough” sex model AKA why every sexual encounter doesn’t have to be a pinnacle experience. (19:50)
  • Rings, vibration, and lube—oh my! Some solutions, tips, and techniques that really work for those experiencing sexual dysfunction. (22:43)
  • Treat your sex life like you would any other can’t-miss appointment.  (25:21)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (32:24)

 


Q&A:

  • If my partner has trouble with their erections, does that mean they’re no longer attracted to me? The cultural myth that all people possessing a penis are horny all the time and are always ready and willing to have sex is simply untrue. Those with penises experience changes in their body and sexual lives due to stress, aging, and physical issues just the same as those with vaginas. 
  • Sex with my partner has recently become physically uncomfortable, but I don’t want to tell them and hurt their feelings. What should I do? The most important aspect to emotional and physical intimacy is openness and honesty. If something has changed for you sexually, tell your sweetheart and get it out in the open. If you keep it a secret, it will make it that much harder to solve the problem and may even create distance between you. 
  • What does it take to maintain a healthy romantic relationship? The three main keys to a healthy love relationship are: 
  • Intimacy, i.e. communication, conflict resolution, spiritual connection
  • Thrill, i.e. creating romance and interest and ensuring your partner feels appreciated and special
  • Sensuality, i.e. the erotic aspect; an intimate relationship with a partner is basically friendship plus nudity


Resources mentioned:


Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.


See what couples—and Jack Canfield—have to say about Dr. Cheryl’s Become Passion couples program HERE


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 2093 no Marriage Boredom? Get On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl and Reignite Passion https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/marriage-boredom-get-on-the-couch-with-dr-cheryl-and-reignit Do you and your partner have a loving, sweet relationship? One where you make their favorite white-bread-and-meatloaf sandwiches and they cuddle and caress you when you’re not feeling your best? The bills are paid, the kids are happy, the dogs are fed… but what about after the lights go out? Is there passion, lust, and desire? Or are you more of the spooning-in-front-of-the-tv type? Harsh truth time: You can be in an incredibly caring, nurturing, and admiring relationship but still be missing that key sexual component. And yeah—that’s kind of a big deal.  For the month of September, all of my episodes are going to focus on the Passion Triangle. Each week, I’m going to feature a real couple from my 10-week online immersion couples program. My Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program explores what to do if you’ve found yourself in a Marriage Incorporated type of relationship—one where your sweetheart has become less of a lover and more of a business partner—and how to move forward when you realize it’s way past time to pull out of that comfortable, responsible rut and learn how to fall in love again, over and over, with the one you're already with. In this episode, I talk about how newer research indicates that when we're falling in love, our brain chemistry actually mimics the biochemistry of obsessive-compulsive disorder—and what that means about the lusty infatuation we find ourselves in at the beginning of a new romance. I also teach you how my Passion Triangle applies to real-life couples with the same intimacy issues as you and me. (Yes, even Dr. Cheryl, sex therapist, has these problems when I’m not being intentional!) Here’s the thing: It's not about waiting around for a whirlwind romance and love that sweeps you off your feet. It's definitely not about fixing your partner so that they fit your specifications... A fantastic, rare, passionate relationship is actually about learning to BECOME an amazing partner yourself. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The doors open on my 10-week Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program later this month. I’ve had 212 couples complete the program in the last 18 months, check out the link at the bottom of the page to be next! (04:07) The perils of what I call Marriage Inc. and why you can’t run your relationship like you’d run a corporation. (07:58) Even my sexy, 6’1” hunk of a husband and I fall into Marriage Inc. (and forget to have sex!) if we’re not intentional about our love life. (10:58) Ed and Jeanine had an incredibly sweet, loving, cuddly, drop-your-favorite-sandwich-off-at-work, hot-water-bottle-for-your-cramps relationship — but they were still stuck in a sexless marriage.  (13:16) With the right tools and techniques, I got Ed and Jeanine to move on from Marriage Inc. to Passion Inc. (18:03) The key to a great date night: leave talk of the daily stressors and mundane problems at home. (24:02) Your weekly LoveByte. (27:30)   Q&A: Since we’ve had kids, our sex life has totally dried up. Help! Many couples experience a change in their sex lives after children come into the picture. One way to change things up and get to know each other all over again is to schedule regular date nights and try new things together. Try hitting up a cool new restaurant or exploring a new-to-you hiking trail—and make a promise not to talk about the kids, the vet bills, or the work that needs to be done on the car.  How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? In order to have more passionate sex more frequently, it’s important to be intentional about your sexual intimacy. Try booking a hotel room away from the kids, pets, and daily stressors—a strange location away from it all may be just the thing you need to rediscover your passion for one another.  My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? Experiencing intense lust and passion at the beginning of a new relationship is incredibly normal. More than a third of couples are sexless….so you are not alone. Recent research even suggests that the brain’s chemistry mimics that of obsessive-compulsive disorder at the beginning of a new romance. To avoid the drop-off that many couples experience, try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.  Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Dr. Cheryl's Recipe for a Perfect Valentine's Day Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 06 Sep 2021 09:00:51 -0000 Marriage Boredom? Get On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl and Reignite Passion full 17 Cheryl Fraser <p>Do you and your partner have a loving, sweet relationship? One where you make their favorite white-bread-and-meatloaf sandwiches and they cuddle and caress you when you’re not feeling your best? The bills are paid, the kids are happy, the dogs are fed… but what about after the lights go out? Is there passion, lust, and desire? Or are you more of the spooning-in-front-of-the-tv type? Harsh truth time: You can be in an incredibly caring, nurturing, and admiring relationship but still be missing that key sexual component. And yeah—that’s <em>kind of</em> a big deal.&nbsp;</p><br><p>For the month of September, all of my episodes are going to focus on the Passion Triangle. Each week, I’m going to feature a real couple from my 10-week online immersion couples program. My <em>Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</em> program explores what to do if you’ve found yourself in a Marriage Incorporated type of relationship—one where your sweetheart has become less of a lover and more of a business partner—and how to move forward when you realize it’s way past time to pull out of that comfortable, responsible rut and learn how to fall in love again, over and over, with the one you're already with.</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I talk about how newer research indicates that when we're falling in love, our brain chemistry actually mimics the biochemistry of obsessive-compulsive disorder—and what that means about the lusty infatuation we find ourselves in at the beginning of a new romance. I also teach you how my Passion Triangle applies to real-life couples with the same intimacy issues as you and me. (Yes, even Dr. Cheryl, sex therapist, has these problems when I’m not being intentional!) Here’s the thing: It's not about waiting around for a whirlwind romance and love that sweeps you off your feet. It's definitely not about fixing your partner so that they fit your specifications...<em> </em>A fantastic, rare, passionate relationship is actually about learning to <em>BECOME</em> an amazing partner yourself.</p><br><p><br></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>The doors open on my 10-week Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program later this month. I’ve had 212 couples complete the program in the last 18 months, check out the link at the bottom of the page to be next! (04:07)</strong></li><li><em>The perils of what I call Marriage Inc. and why you can’t run your relationship like you’d run a corporation. (07:58)</em></li><li>Even my sexy, 6’1” hunk of a husband and I fall into Marriage Inc. (and forget to have sex!) if we’re not intentional about our love life. (10:58)</li><li><strong><em>Ed and Jeanine had an incredibly sweet, loving, cuddly, drop-your-favorite-sandwich-off-at-work, hot-water-bottle-for-your-cramps relationship — but they were still stuck in a sexless marriage.&nbsp; (13:16)</em></strong></li><li>With the right tools and techniques, I got Ed and Jeanine to move on from Marriage Inc. to Passion Inc. (18:03)</li><li><em>The key to a great date night: leave talk of the daily stressors and mundane problems at home. (24:02)</em></li><li>Your weekly LoveByte. (27:30)</li></ul><p><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>Since we’ve had kids, our sex life has totally dried up. Help! Many couples experience a change in their sex lives after children come into the picture. One way to change things up and get to know each other all over again is to schedule regular date nights and try new things together. Try hitting up a cool new restaurant or exploring a new-to-you hiking trail—and make a promise not to talk about the kids, the vet bills, or the work that needs to be done on the car.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? In order to have more passionate sex more frequently, it’s important to be intentional about your sexual intimacy. Try booking a hotel room away from the kids, pets, and daily stressors—a strange location away from it all may be just the thing you need to rediscover your passion for one another.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? Experiencing intense lust and passion at the beginning of a new relationship is incredibly normal. More than a third of couples are sexless….so you are not alone. Recent research even suggests that the brain’s chemistry mimics that of obsessive-compulsive disorder at the beginning of a new romance. To avoid the drop-off that many couples experience, try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li><li><a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/your-recipe-for-a-perfect-valentines-date-the-3-key-ingredients-for-love-and-passion/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Dr. Cheryl's Recipe for a Perfect Valentine's Day</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sign up here for the waitlist</strong></a> to the <strong>Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime</strong> online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Do you and your partner have a loving, sweet relationship? One where you make their favorite white-bread-and-meatloaf sandwiches and they cuddle and caress you when you’re not feeling your best? The bills are paid, the kids are happy, the dogs are fed… but what about after the lights go out? Is there passion, lust, and desire? Or are you more of the spooning-in-front-of-the-tv type? Harsh truth time: You can be in an incredibly caring, nurturing, and admiring relationship but still be missing that key sexual component. And yeah—that’s kind of a big deal.  For the month of September, all of my episodes are going to focus on the Passion Triangle. Each week, I’m going to feature a real couple from my 10-week online immersion couples program. My Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program explores what to do if you’ve found yourself in a Marriage Incorporated type of relationship—one where your sweetheart has become less of a lover and more of a business partner—and how to move forward when you realize it’s way past time to pull out of that comfortable, responsible rut and learn how to fall in love again, over and over, with the one you're already with. In this episode, I talk about how newer research indicates that when we're falling in love, our brain chemistry actually mimics the biochemistry of obsessive-compulsive disorder—and what that means about the lusty infatuation we find ourselves in at the beginning of a new romance. I also teach you how my Passion Triangle applies to real-life couples with the same intimacy issues as you and me. (Yes, even Dr. Cheryl, sex therapist, has these problems when I’m not being intentional!) Here’s the thing: It's not about waiting around for a whirlwind romance and love that sweeps you off your feet. It's definitely not about fixing your partner so that they fit your specifications... A fantastic, rare, passionate relationship is actually about learning to BECOME an amazing partner yourself. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The doors open on my 10-week Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program later this month. I’ve had 212 couples complete the program in the last 18 months, check out the link at the bottom of the page to be next! (04:07) The perils of what I call Marriage Inc. and why you can’t run your relationship like you’d run a corporation. (07:58) Even my sexy, 6’1” hunk of a husband and I fall into Marriage Inc. (and forget to have sex!) if we’re not intentional about our love life. (10:58) Ed and Jeanine had an incredibly sweet, loving, cuddly, drop-your-favorite-sandwich-off-at-work, hot-water-bottle-for-your-cramps relationship — but they were still stuck in a sexless marriage.  (13:16) With the right tools and techniques, I got Ed and Jeanine to move on from Marriage Inc. to Passion Inc. (18:03) The key to a great date night: leave talk of the daily stressors and mundane problems at home. (24:02) Your weekly LoveByte. (27:30)   Q&A: Since we’ve had kids, our sex life has totally dried up. Help! Many couples experience a change in their sex lives after children come into the picture. One way to change things up and get to know each other all over again is to schedule regular date nights and try new things together. Try hitting up a cool new restaurant or exploring a new-to-you hiking trail—and make a promise not to talk about the kids, the vet bills, or the work that needs to be done on the car.  How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? In order to have more passionate sex more frequently, it’s important to be intentional about your sexual intimacy. Try booking a hotel room away from the kids, pets, and daily stressors—a strange location away from it all may be just the thing you need to rediscover your passion for one another.  My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? Experiencing intense lust and passion at the beginning of a new relationship is incredibly normal. More than a third of couples are sexless….so you are not alone. Recent research even suggests that the brain’s chemistry mimics that of obsessive-compulsive disorder at the beginning of a new romance. To avoid the drop-off that many couples experience, try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.  Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Dr. Cheryl's Recipe for a Perfect Valentine's Day Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Do you and your partner have a loving, sweet relationship? One where you make their favorite white-bread-and-meatloaf sandwiches and they cuddle and caress you when you’re not feeling your best? The bills are paid, the kids are happy, the dogs are fed… but what about after the lights go out? Is there passion, lust, and desire? Or are you more of the spooning-in-front-of-the-tv type? Harsh truth time: You can be in an incredibly caring, nurturing, and admiring relationship but still be missing that key sexual component. And yeah—that’s kind of a big deal. 


For the month of September, all of my episodes are going to focus on the Passion Triangle. Each week, I’m going to feature a real couple from my 10-week online immersion couples program. My Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program explores what to do if you’ve found yourself in a Marriage Incorporated type of relationship—one where your sweetheart has become less of a lover and more of a business partner—and how to move forward when you realize it’s way past time to pull out of that comfortable, responsible rut and learn how to fall in love again, over and over, with the one you're already with.


In this episode, I talk about how newer research indicates that when we're falling in love, our brain chemistry actually mimics the biochemistry of obsessive-compulsive disorder—and what that means about the lusty infatuation we find ourselves in at the beginning of a new romance. I also teach you how my Passion Triangle applies to real-life couples with the same intimacy issues as you and me. (Yes, even Dr. Cheryl, sex therapist, has these problems when I’m not being intentional!) Here’s the thing: It's not about waiting around for a whirlwind romance and love that sweeps you off your feet. It's definitely not about fixing your partner so that they fit your specifications... A fantastic, rare, passionate relationship is actually about learning to BECOME an amazing partner yourself.



In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The doors open on my 10-week Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program later this month. I’ve had 212 couples complete the program in the last 18 months, check out the link at the bottom of the page to be next! (04:07)
  • The perils of what I call Marriage Inc. and why you can’t run your relationship like you’d run a corporation. (07:58)
  • Even my sexy, 6’1” hunk of a husband and I fall into Marriage Inc. (and forget to have sex!) if we’re not intentional about our love life. (10:58)
  • Ed and Jeanine had an incredibly sweet, loving, cuddly, drop-your-favorite-sandwich-off-at-work, hot-water-bottle-for-your-cramps relationship — but they were still stuck in a sexless marriage.  (13:16)
  • With the right tools and techniques, I got Ed and Jeanine to move on from Marriage Inc. to Passion Inc. (18:03)
  • The key to a great date night: leave talk of the daily stressors and mundane problems at home. (24:02)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (27:30)

 


Q&A:

  • Since we’ve had kids, our sex life has totally dried up. Help! Many couples experience a change in their sex lives after children come into the picture. One way to change things up and get to know each other all over again is to schedule regular date nights and try new things together. Try hitting up a cool new restaurant or exploring a new-to-you hiking trail—and make a promise not to talk about the kids, the vet bills, or the work that needs to be done on the car. 
  • How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? In order to have more passionate sex more frequently, it’s important to be intentional about your sexual intimacy. Try booking a hotel room away from the kids, pets, and daily stressors—a strange location away from it all may be just the thing you need to rediscover your passion for one another. 
  • My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? Experiencing intense lust and passion at the beginning of a new relationship is incredibly normal. More than a third of couples are sexless….so you are not alone. Recent research even suggests that the brain’s chemistry mimics that of obsessive-compulsive disorder at the beginning of a new romance. To avoid the drop-off that many couples experience, try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy. 


Resources mentioned:


Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses. 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1801 no Why Celebrations are Good for Your Psyche and Your Relationships https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/why-celebrations-are-good-for-your-psyche-and-your-relations Another birthday? Another anniversary? Another Valentine’s Day? The longer we’re with our partners, the more monotonous it can seem to engage in genuine celebration. But what if, instead of taking these mile markers for granted, we treat them as opportunities to acknowledge, love, and honor one another?  It turns out that, while those greeting card holidays can often inspire some serious eye-rolls, so-called ‘rituals of connection’ are actually one of the seven predictors of happy and committed relationships. So wait, Dr. Cheryl, it really is all about flowers and chocolates and teddy bears? Well, not exactly. Rituals of connection aren’t necessarily about pricey candlelit dinners and bottles of fancy wine—they’re actually a tool that you can use on a monthly, weekly, even daily basis to foster and strengthen the bond that you share... But a few surprise bottles of nice champagne and a big bunch of flowers sure won’t hurt anything, either.   In this episode, I talk about what matters with celebrations—not a big surprise, not anything extravagant, but the intentionality, the planning, and the thoughtfulness that goes into it all. Celebrations don’t have to be extravagant and elaborate to show someone that you’re thinking about them and that you care. I explain the Buddhist concept of dāna that says that you’re not good at being generous unless you’re also good at receiving generosity... and tell about how I almost broke my dad’s heart when I learned the meaning of dāna the hard way. I teach you how important it is to stop resisting celebrations, and how sincere acknowledgment of special events can be totally life-changing. Buy a card, go on a random weekday date night, show up unexpectedly on a great friend’s doorstep with a gorgeous bouquet from your garden—all of it says to the receiver: “Look how much you mean to me.” In This Episode, You Will Learn: There are a lot of empty rituals that we go through out of habit—but there are just as many causes for genuine and sincere celebration. (03:22) My husband and I are big on celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. We even celebrate the anniversary of our fabulous first date! (08:16) Celebrations, rituals, anniversaries, birthdays, and (even!) Valentine's Day are really good excuses in our busy world to slow down, show up, and do something thoughtful, meaningful, selfless, and kind for the ones we love.  (12:58) If you can’t be given an unexpected gift without apologizing for not giving one in return, you are crappy at receiving and not truly generous. (19:41) We all live extraordinarily busy lives—take some time to make sure celebrations of life’s important moments are front and center. Today's happy homework: plan some celebrations. (25:27) Your weekly LoveByte. (28:33)   Q&A: Why should I celebrate my anniversary? Sharing in celebrations with your partner makes them feel loved and appreciated. Celebrating and planning for life’s special moments together is a way to tangibly show them that you care.  What should I do for my partner for Valentine’s Day? No matter what you do with your partner to celebrate with them, make sure it’s intentional and thoughtful. Showing them that you care enough to make the day special is the most important part.  How can I make a celebration special for my loved one? Celebrations don’t have to be elaborate surprises, they can be as simple and meaningful as a special bottle of wine or a bouquet from your garden. As long as there is thought and care put into a celebration, it will be a special moment. Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.  Resources: Buddha's Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 30 Aug 2021 09:00:26 -0000 Why Celebrations are Good for Your Psyche and Your Relationships full 16 Cheryl Fraser <p>Another birthday? Another anniversary? Another <em>Valentine’s Day</em>? The longer we’re with our partners, the more monotonous it can seem to engage in genuine celebration. But what if, instead of taking these mile markers for granted, we treat them as opportunities to acknowledge, love, and honor one another?&nbsp;</p><br><p>It turns out that, while those greeting card holidays can often inspire some serious eye-rolls, so-called ‘rituals of connection’ are actually one of the seven predictors of happy and committed relationships. <em>So wait, Dr. Cheryl, it really is all about flowers and chocolates and teddy bears?</em> Well, not exactly. Rituals of connection aren’t necessarily about pricey candlelit dinners and bottles of fancy wine—they’re actually a tool that you can use on a monthly, weekly, even daily basis to foster and strengthen the bond that you share... But a few surprise bottles of nice champagne and a big bunch of flowers sure won’t hurt anything, either.</p><p><em>&nbsp;</em></p><p><strong>In this episode</strong>,<strong><em> </em></strong>I talk about what matters with celebrations—not a big surprise, not anything extravagant, but the intentionality, the planning, and the thoughtfulness that goes into it all. Celebrations don’t have to be extravagant and elaborate to show someone that you’re thinking about them and that you care.<strong><em> </em></strong>I explain the Buddhist concept of dāna that says that you’re not good at being generous unless you’re also good at<em> receiving</em> generosity... and tell about how I almost broke my dad’s heart when I learned the meaning of dāna the hard way. I teach you how important it is to stop resisting celebrations, and how sincere acknowledgment of special events can be totally life-changing. Buy a card, go on a random weekday date night, show up unexpectedly on a great friend’s doorstep with a gorgeous bouquet from your garden—all of it says to the receiver: “Look how much you mean to me.”</p><br><p><strong><em>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</em></strong></p><ul><li><strong>There are a lot of empty rituals that we go through out of habit—but there are just as many causes for genuine and sincere celebration. (03:22)</strong></li><li><em>My husband and I are big on celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. We even celebrate the anniversary of our fabulous first date! (08:16)</em></li><li>Celebrations, rituals, anniversaries, birthdays, and (even!) Valentine's Day are really good excuses in our busy world to slow down, show up, and do something thoughtful, meaningful, selfless, and kind for the ones we love.&nbsp; (12:58)</li><li><strong><em>If you can’t be given an unexpected gift without apologizing for not giving one in return, you are crappy at receiving and not truly generous. (19:41)</em></strong></li><li>We all live extraordinarily busy lives—take some time to make sure celebrations of life’s important moments are front and center. Today's happy homework: plan some celebrations. (25:27)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte. (28:33)</li></ul><p><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Why should I celebrate my anniversary? <em>Sharing in celebrations with your partner makes them feel loved and appreciated. Celebrating and planning for life’s special moments together is a way to tangibly show them that you care.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>What should I do for my partner for Valentine’s Day? No matter what you do with your partner to celebrate with them, make sure it’s intentional and thoughtful. Showing them that you care enough to make the day special is the most important part.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>How can I make a celebration special for my loved one? Celebrations don’t have to be elaborate surprises, they can be as simple and meaningful as a special bottle of wine or a bouquet from your garden. As long as there is thought and care put into a celebration, it will be a special moment.</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sign up here for the waitlist</strong></a> to the Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Another birthday? Another anniversary? Another Valentine’s Day? The longer we’re with our partners, the more monotonous it can seem to engage in genuine celebration. But what if, instead of taking these mile markers for granted, we treat them as opportunities to acknowledge, love, and honor one another?  It turns out that, while those greeting card holidays can often inspire some serious eye-rolls, so-called ‘rituals of connection’ are actually one of the seven predictors of happy and committed relationships. So wait, Dr. Cheryl, it really is all about flowers and chocolates and teddy bears? Well, not exactly. Rituals of connection aren’t necessarily about pricey candlelit dinners and bottles of fancy wine—they’re actually a tool that you can use on a monthly, weekly, even daily basis to foster and strengthen the bond that you share... But a few surprise bottles of nice champagne and a big bunch of flowers sure won’t hurt anything, either.   In this episode, I talk about what matters with celebrations—not a big surprise, not anything extravagant, but the intentionality, the planning, and the thoughtfulness that goes into it all. Celebrations don’t have to be extravagant and elaborate to show someone that you’re thinking about them and that you care. I explain the Buddhist concept of dāna that says that you’re not good at being generous unless you’re also good at receiving generosity... and tell about how I almost broke my dad’s heart when I learned the meaning of dāna the hard way. I teach you how important it is to stop resisting celebrations, and how sincere acknowledgment of special events can be totally life-changing. Buy a card, go on a random weekday date night, show up unexpectedly on a great friend’s doorstep with a gorgeous bouquet from your garden—all of it says to the receiver: “Look how much you mean to me.” In This Episode, You Will Learn: There are a lot of empty rituals that we go through out of habit—but there are just as many causes for genuine and sincere celebration. (03:22) My husband and I are big on celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. We even celebrate the anniversary of our fabulous first date! (08:16) Celebrations, rituals, anniversaries, birthdays, and (even!) Valentine's Day are really good excuses in our busy world to slow down, show up, and do something thoughtful, meaningful, selfless, and kind for the ones we love.  (12:58) If you can’t be given an unexpected gift without apologizing for not giving one in return, you are crappy at receiving and not truly generous. (19:41) We all live extraordinarily busy lives—take some time to make sure celebrations of life’s important moments are front and center. Today's happy homework: plan some celebrations. (25:27) Your weekly LoveByte. (28:33)   Q&A: Why should I celebrate my anniversary? Sharing in celebrations with your partner makes them feel loved and appreciated. Celebrating and planning for life’s special moments together is a way to tangibly show them that you care.  What should I do for my partner for Valentine’s Day? No matter what you do with your partner to celebrate with them, make sure it’s intentional and thoughtful. Showing them that you care enough to make the day special is the most important part.  How can I make a celebration special for my loved one? Celebrations don’t have to be elaborate surprises, they can be as simple and meaningful as a special bottle of wine or a bouquet from your garden. As long as there is thought and care put into a celebration, it will be a special moment. Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.  Resources: Buddha's Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Another birthday? Another anniversary? Another Valentine’s Day? The longer we’re with our partners, the more monotonous it can seem to engage in genuine celebration. But what if, instead of taking these mile markers for granted, we treat them as opportunities to acknowledge, love, and honor one another? 


It turns out that, while those greeting card holidays can often inspire some serious eye-rolls, so-called ‘rituals of connection’ are actually one of the seven predictors of happy and committed relationships. So wait, Dr. Cheryl, it really is all about flowers and chocolates and teddy bears? Well, not exactly. Rituals of connection aren’t necessarily about pricey candlelit dinners and bottles of fancy wine—they’re actually a tool that you can use on a monthly, weekly, even daily basis to foster and strengthen the bond that you share... But a few surprise bottles of nice champagne and a big bunch of flowers sure won’t hurt anything, either.

 

In this episode, I talk about what matters with celebrations—not a big surprise, not anything extravagant, but the intentionality, the planning, and the thoughtfulness that goes into it all. Celebrations don’t have to be extravagant and elaborate to show someone that you’re thinking about them and that you care. I explain the Buddhist concept of dāna that says that you’re not good at being generous unless you’re also good at receiving generosity... and tell about how I almost broke my dad’s heart when I learned the meaning of dāna the hard way. I teach you how important it is to stop resisting celebrations, and how sincere acknowledgment of special events can be totally life-changing. Buy a card, go on a random weekday date night, show up unexpectedly on a great friend’s doorstep with a gorgeous bouquet from your garden—all of it says to the receiver: “Look how much you mean to me.”


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • There are a lot of empty rituals that we go through out of habit—but there are just as many causes for genuine and sincere celebration. (03:22)
  • My husband and I are big on celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. We even celebrate the anniversary of our fabulous first date! (08:16)
  • Celebrations, rituals, anniversaries, birthdays, and (even!) Valentine's Day are really good excuses in our busy world to slow down, show up, and do something thoughtful, meaningful, selfless, and kind for the ones we love.  (12:58)
  • If you can’t be given an unexpected gift without apologizing for not giving one in return, you are crappy at receiving and not truly generous. (19:41)
  • We all live extraordinarily busy lives—take some time to make sure celebrations of life’s important moments are front and center. Today's happy homework: plan some celebrations. (25:27)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (28:33)

 


Q&A:

  • Why should I celebrate my anniversary? Sharing in celebrations with your partner makes them feel loved and appreciated. Celebrating and planning for life’s special moments together is a way to tangibly show them that you care. 
  • What should I do for my partner for Valentine’s Day? No matter what you do with your partner to celebrate with them, make sure it’s intentional and thoughtful. Showing them that you care enough to make the day special is the most important part. 
  • How can I make a celebration special for my loved one? Celebrations don’t have to be elaborate surprises, they can be as simple and meaningful as a special bottle of wine or a bouquet from your garden. As long as there is thought and care put into a celebration, it will be a special moment.


Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses. 


Resources:


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]]> 1880 no Don’t Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour - Instead, Apologize like a MoFo https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/dont-make-excuses-for-bad-behaviour-instead-apologize-like-a Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In this episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over". This love hack is super beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves...  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship. (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality. (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29)   Q&A: What does it mean to be emotionally ‘flooded’? Being emotionally flooded means that you might feel agitated, negatively emotional, anxious, frightened, angry, grief-stricken, and/or sad. The feeling happens when your body dumps adrenaline and cortisol into your bloodstream and your biochemistry changes. Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Arguments and disagreements are a totally normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them.  How can I make up with my partner after a fight? If you have an intense, ugly fight with your partner, take it as a learning experience. Remember what you did in those moments and then take the opportunity to apologize, apologize, apologize and vow to do better in the future.  Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl - be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses - https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 23 Aug 2021 09:00:45 -0000 Don’t Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour - Instead, Apologize like a MoFo full 15 Cheryl Fraser <p>Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration?</p><br><p>Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that <em>aren’t</em> destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right?</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>,<strong> </strong>I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over". This love hack is super beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves...&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship. (04:26)</em></strong></li><li>When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality. (06:24)</li><li>The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50)</li><li><strong>If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45)</strong></li><li>Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29)</li></ul><p><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>What does it mean to be emotionally ‘flooded’? <em>Being emotionally flooded means that you might feel agitated, negatively emotional, anxious, frightened, angry, grief-stricken, and/or sad. The feeling happens when your body dumps adrenaline and cortisol into your bloodstream and your biochemistry changes.</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Arguments and disagreements are a totally normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>How can I make up with my partner after a fight? If you have an intense, ugly fight with your partner, take it as a learning experience. Remember what you did in those moments and then take the opportunity to apologize, apologize, apologize and vow to do better in the future.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl - be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses - <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist</a></p><br><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In this episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over". This love hack is super beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves...  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship. (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality. (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29)   Q&A: What does it mean to be emotionally ‘flooded’? Being emotionally flooded means that you might feel agitated, negatively emotional, anxious, frightened, angry, grief-stricken, and/or sad. The feeling happens when your body dumps adrenaline and cortisol into your bloodstream and your biochemistry changes. Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Arguments and disagreements are a totally normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them.  How can I make up with my partner after a fight? If you have an intense, ugly fight with your partner, take it as a learning experience. Remember what you did in those moments and then take the opportunity to apologize, apologize, apologize and vow to do better in the future.  Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl - be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses - https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration?


Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right?


In this episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over". This love hack is super beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves... 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship. (04:26)
  • When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality. (06:24)
  • The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50)
  • If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45)
  • Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29)

 


Q&A:

  • What does it mean to be emotionally ‘flooded’? Being emotionally flooded means that you might feel agitated, negatively emotional, anxious, frightened, angry, grief-stricken, and/or sad. The feeling happens when your body dumps adrenaline and cortisol into your bloodstream and your biochemistry changes.
  • Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? Arguments and disagreements are a totally normal and healthy aspect of any relationship. It’s when your fights become nasty and cruel that you need to reassess your reactions and how you can temper them. 
  • How can I make up with my partner after a fight? If you have an intense, ugly fight with your partner, take it as a learning experience. Remember what you did in those moments and then take the opportunity to apologize, apologize, apologize and vow to do better in the future. 


Resources mentioned:


Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl - be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses - https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1706 no Why Meditation Sucks—But You Should Do It Anyway, Part 2: Dr. Cheryl’s Long, Strange Trip https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/why-meditation-sucksbut-you-should-do-it-anyway-part-2-dr-ch This week, I’m continuing the story of my freaking difficult, painful, real spiritual path that led me to the (relatively) peaceful and far wiser place I am today. Again, I’m not special—absolutely anyone can learn to meditate. And it will suck at first! But once you get the hang of it and commit to following an enlightened path, you’ll be more able to quiet that jittering, caffeinated monkey mind of yours and learn to bask in the tranquility, wisdom, and compassion of the gentle, quiet elephant mind.  Join me as I talk about the pressure and expectations I endured during my Ph.D. studies and my transcontinental search for mental clarity and serenity and the meaning of life. Come journey with me through some of the most incredible places I’ve had the privilege of visiting. And believe me, the spiritual path is freaking dangerous - I’ll tell you about a tiny Thai island and a homicidal premenstrual monkey that taught me a lot about the monkey mind and more. When I first committed to studying meditation, I had just graduated from an extraordinarily elite program with my Ph.D. and expected to begin the tenure track at a top university. Instead, I pulled a Kerouac and booked a one-way ticket to Asia. At each stop and each Buddhist retreat, I continued to have my mind opened and my perspective broadened. I started to hear the footsteps of my elephant. Today, I hope to give you just a taste of what that sort of journey can do for you.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you think that meditation means to stop thinking, you’ve been taught incorrectly.  (04:06) I am not enlightened. Right now, I'm just another bozo on this bus… but I have grown leaps and bounds from the exhausted, downtrodden grad student I was 25 years ago.  (08:01) I took a tough and powerful 7-month post-grad journey across Asia, got bit by a homicidal premenstrual monkey, and lived to tell the tale. (10:51) If I survived a maybe-rabies and still made it to my retreat, then what are you going to let stand between you and your goal? (27:44) The monkey wins way too often—but every time I think I can't change it, I'm reminded that underneath the biggest storms we ever encounter, there is calm, and there is peace. (30:42) Your weekly LoveByte. (31:25)   Q&A: Why do I hate meditating? Meditation sucks at first! The more you try to stop thinking, the more you'll turn up the mind.  But persevere and you’ll catch glimpses of the calm, tranquil mind-frame that you’ll be able to achieve with practice.  How can I stop thinking while I meditate? It is a complete misunderstanding that meditation means that you shouldn't be thinking. Can meditation help me sleep? When your mind can’t sleep at night it's obsessing about something— positive, negative, or neutral. With mediation, you can teach the mind to remain calm and peaceful. Places mentioned: The Stupa of Boudhanath The Full Moon Party on Koh Pha-ngan Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 16 Aug 2021 09:00:57 -0000 Why Meditation Sucks—But You Should Do It Anyway, Part 2: Dr. Cheryl’s Long, Strange Trip full 14 Cheryl Fraser <p>This week, I’m continuing the story of my freaking difficult, painful, real spiritual path that led me to the (relatively) peaceful and far wiser place I am today. Again, I’m not special—absolutely anyone can learn to meditate. And it will suck at first! But once you get the hang of it and commit to following an enlightened path, you’ll be more able to quiet that jittering, caffeinated monkey mind of yours and learn to bask in the tranquility, wisdom, and compassion of the gentle, quiet elephant mind.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Join me as I talk about the pressure and expectations I endured during my Ph.D. studies and my transcontinental search for mental clarity and serenity and the meaning of life. Come journey with me through some of the most incredible places I’ve had the privilege of visiting. And believe me, the spiritual path is freaking dangerous - I’ll tell you about a tiny Thai island and a homicidal premenstrual monkey that taught me a lot about the monkey mind and more.</p><br><p>When I first committed to studying meditation, I had just graduated from an extraordinarily elite program with my Ph.D. and expected to begin the tenure track at a top university. Instead, I pulled a Kerouac and booked a one-way ticket to Asia. At each stop and each Buddhist retreat, I continued to have my mind opened and my perspective broadened. I started to hear the footsteps of my elephant. Today, I hope to give you just a taste of what that sort of journey can do for you.</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>If you think that meditation means to stop thinking, you’ve been taught incorrectly.&nbsp; (04:06)</strong></li><li><strong><em>I am not enlightened. Right now, I'm just another bozo on this bus… but I have grown leaps and bounds from the exhausted, downtrodden grad student I was 25 years ago.&nbsp; (08:01)</em></strong></li><li>I took a tough and powerful 7-month post-grad journey across Asia, got bit by a homicidal premenstrual monkey, and lived to tell the tale. (10:51)</li><li><strong><em>If I survived a maybe-rabies and still made it to my retreat, then what are you going to let stand between you and your goal? (27:44)</em></strong></li><li><em>The monkey wins way too often—but every time I think I can't change it, I'm reminded that underneath the biggest storms we ever encounter, there is calm, and there is peace. (30:42)</em></li><li><em>Your weekly LoveByte. (31:25)</em></li></ul><p><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>Why do I hate meditating? Meditation sucks at first! The more you try to stop thinking, the more you'll turn up the mind.&nbsp; But persevere and you’ll catch glimpses of the calm, tranquil mind-frame that you’ll be able to achieve with practice.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>How can I stop thinking while I meditate? <em>It is a complete misunderstanding that meditation means that you shouldn't be thinking.</em></strong></li><li><strong>Can meditation help me sleep? <em>When your mind can’t sleep at night it's obsessing about something— positive, negative, or neutral. With mediation, you can teach the mind to remain calm and peaceful.</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Places mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.atlasobscura.com/places/boudhanath-stupa" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Stupa of Boudhanath</a></li><li><a href="https://fullmoonparty-thailand.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Full Moon Party on Koh Pha-ngan</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> This week, I’m continuing the story of my freaking difficult, painful, real spiritual path that led me to the (relatively) peaceful and far wiser place I am today. Again, I’m not special—absolutely anyone can learn to meditate. And it will suck at first! But once you get the hang of it and commit to following an enlightened path, you’ll be more able to quiet that jittering, caffeinated monkey mind of yours and learn to bask in the tranquility, wisdom, and compassion of the gentle, quiet elephant mind.  Join me as I talk about the pressure and expectations I endured during my Ph.D. studies and my transcontinental search for mental clarity and serenity and the meaning of life. Come journey with me through some of the most incredible places I’ve had the privilege of visiting. And believe me, the spiritual path is freaking dangerous - I’ll tell you about a tiny Thai island and a homicidal premenstrual monkey that taught me a lot about the monkey mind and more. When I first committed to studying meditation, I had just graduated from an extraordinarily elite program with my Ph.D. and expected to begin the tenure track at a top university. Instead, I pulled a Kerouac and booked a one-way ticket to Asia. At each stop and each Buddhist retreat, I continued to have my mind opened and my perspective broadened. I started to hear the footsteps of my elephant. Today, I hope to give you just a taste of what that sort of journey can do for you.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you think that meditation means to stop thinking, you’ve been taught incorrectly.  (04:06) I am not enlightened. Right now, I'm just another bozo on this bus… but I have grown leaps and bounds from the exhausted, downtrodden grad student I was 25 years ago.  (08:01) I took a tough and powerful 7-month post-grad journey across Asia, got bit by a homicidal premenstrual monkey, and lived to tell the tale. (10:51) If I survived a maybe-rabies and still made it to my retreat, then what are you going to let stand between you and your goal? (27:44) The monkey wins way too often—but every time I think I can't change it, I'm reminded that underneath the biggest storms we ever encounter, there is calm, and there is peace. (30:42) Your weekly LoveByte. (31:25)   Q&A: Why do I hate meditating? Meditation sucks at first! The more you try to stop thinking, the more you'll turn up the mind.  But persevere and you’ll catch glimpses of the calm, tranquil mind-frame that you’ll be able to achieve with practice.  How can I stop thinking while I meditate? It is a complete misunderstanding that meditation means that you shouldn't be thinking. Can meditation help me sleep? When your mind can’t sleep at night it's obsessing about something— positive, negative, or neutral. With mediation, you can teach the mind to remain calm and peaceful. Places mentioned: The Stupa of Boudhanath The Full Moon Party on Koh Pha-ngan Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This week, I’m continuing the story of my freaking difficult, painful, real spiritual path that led me to the (relatively) peaceful and far wiser place I am today. Again, I’m not special—absolutely anyone can learn to meditate. And it will suck at first! But once you get the hang of it and commit to following an enlightened path, you’ll be more able to quiet that jittering, caffeinated monkey mind of yours and learn to bask in the tranquility, wisdom, and compassion of the gentle, quiet elephant mind. 


Join me as I talk about the pressure and expectations I endured during my Ph.D. studies and my transcontinental search for mental clarity and serenity and the meaning of life. Come journey with me through some of the most incredible places I’ve had the privilege of visiting. And believe me, the spiritual path is freaking dangerous - I’ll tell you about a tiny Thai island and a homicidal premenstrual monkey that taught me a lot about the monkey mind and more.


When I first committed to studying meditation, I had just graduated from an extraordinarily elite program with my Ph.D. and expected to begin the tenure track at a top university. Instead, I pulled a Kerouac and booked a one-way ticket to Asia. At each stop and each Buddhist retreat, I continued to have my mind opened and my perspective broadened. I started to hear the footsteps of my elephant. Today, I hope to give you just a taste of what that sort of journey can do for you.

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you think that meditation means to stop thinking, you’ve been taught incorrectly.  (04:06)
  • I am not enlightened. Right now, I'm just another bozo on this bus… but I have grown leaps and bounds from the exhausted, downtrodden grad student I was 25 years ago.  (08:01)
  • I took a tough and powerful 7-month post-grad journey across Asia, got bit by a homicidal premenstrual monkey, and lived to tell the tale. (10:51)
  • If I survived a maybe-rabies and still made it to my retreat, then what are you going to let stand between you and your goal? (27:44)
  • The monkey wins way too often—but every time I think I can't change it, I'm reminded that underneath the biggest storms we ever encounter, there is calm, and there is peace. (30:42)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (31:25)

 


Q&A:

  • Why do I hate meditating? Meditation sucks at first! The more you try to stop thinking, the more you'll turn up the mind.  But persevere and you’ll catch glimpses of the calm, tranquil mind-frame that you’ll be able to achieve with practice. 
  • How can I stop thinking while I meditate? It is a complete misunderstanding that meditation means that you shouldn't be thinking.
  • Can meditation help me sleep? When your mind can’t sleep at night it's obsessing about something— positive, negative, or neutral. With mediation, you can teach the mind to remain calm and peaceful.


Places mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 2041 no Why Meditation Sucks - and Why you Should do it Anyway https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/why-meditation-sucks-and-why-you-should-do-it-anyway Today, I’m back from a month-long silent meditation retreat. Now, I’m not special. Anyone can learn to meditate - even you... So to help you out, I’m pulling the curtain back and sharing with you the pain that brought me to the Buddhist path and how that led to the peaceful I am today.  Have you struggled with anxiety since adolescence—or even for what feels like your whole life? Do you ever feel so wound up, in such a state of almost constant fight or flight adrenaline, that it feels as though your life is being physically threatened? The fact is, these experiences are true for so many people, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer forever. You can free yourself from the seemingly endless spiral—and I’m going to show you exactly how.  In this episode, I explain my personal experiences with anxiety, from my late childhood all the way through graduate school, and the mental, emotional, and physical suffering that it caused me. I also talk about how I learned to be comfortable in mutual silence, that just about anyone can learn and benefit from meditation, and all about my initial experience at a meditation retreat—and how it wasn’t such a walk in the park! So… 28 days, alone, in the woods, no speaking. Sounds a little outrageous, right? Truth be told, I was wary of meditation, too, initially. I couldn’t even imagine doing it for 60 minutes at a time, let alone the weeks or months on end I do now. I promise you, even if right now you’re thinking, “Gee whiz, 28 days of silence—Dr. Cheryl, you must be nuts!” you’ll eventually realize that training your mind is the most important thing you will ever do.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: You can be the best student in the country with the perfect GPA, but still be a mess on the inside. (05:42) When Western medicine failed to help my anxiety, my eyes were opened to Buddhism by a friend… and boy, I was skeptical at first. (07:37) The common thread that ran between two of the most calming, patient people in my life and how that lead me to my first experience with structured meditation. (9:53) Both my physical body and my monkey mind were screaming at me when I first tried meditation—I hated it! (13:41) Meditation isn’t a one-and-done cure-all and you won’t feel high or blissed out on the first try, but what you will come away with is a sense of ease, calm, and peace. (20:06) Your weekly LoveByte. (31:16)   Q&A: How can I help ease my suffering from anxiety? One way to help ease anxiety is to regularly practice meditation. What are the benefits of meditation? Focused and practiced meditation can bring a sense of calm and peace to the student. It can help people experiencing stress and anxiety to achieve a sense of mental clarity and contentment. Why can’t I meditate? Am I meditating wrong? Anyone can benefit from meditation, but it isn’t one-size-fits-all and it’s not an immediate fix. It takes time, practice, and energy and you will get out of it what you put into it. If you’re not feeling the benefits at first, keep trying and ask a qualified teacher for help.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 09 Aug 2021 09:00:59 -0000 Why Meditation Sucks - and Why you Should do it Anyway full 13 Cheryl Fraser <p>Today, I’m back from a month-long silent meditation retreat. Now, I’m not special. Anyone can learn to meditate - even you... So to help you out, I’m pulling the curtain back and sharing with you the pain that brought me to the Buddhist path and how that led to the peaceful I am today.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Have you struggled with anxiety since adolescence—or even for what feels like your whole life? Do you ever feel<em> so </em>wound up, in such a state of almost constant fight or flight adrenaline, that it feels as though your life is being physically threatened? The fact is, these experiences are true for so many people, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer forever. You can free yourself from the seemingly endless spiral—and I’m going to show you exactly how.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, I explain my personal experiences with anxiety, from my late childhood all the way through graduate school, and the mental, emotional, and physical suffering that it caused me. I also talk about how I learned to be comfortable in mutual silence, that just about anyone can learn and benefit from meditation, and all about my initial experience at a meditation retreat—and how it wasn’t such a walk in the park!</p><br><p>So… 28 days, alone, in the woods, no speaking. Sounds a little outrageous, right? Truth be told, I was wary of meditation, too, initially. I couldn’t even imagine doing it for 60 <em>minutes</em> at a time, let alone the weeks or months on end I do now. I promise you, even if right now you’re thinking, “Gee whiz, <em>28 days of</em> <em>silence</em>—Dr. Cheryl, you must be nuts!” you’ll eventually realize that training your mind is the most important thing you will ever do.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>You can be the best student in the country with the perfect GPA, but still be a mess on the inside. (05:42)</strong></li><li><strong>When Western medicine failed to help my anxiety, my eyes were opened to Buddhism by a friend… and boy, I was skeptical at first. (07:37)</strong></li><li><strong>The common thread that ran between two of the most calming, patient people in my life and how that lead me to my first experience with structured meditation. (9:53)</strong></li><li><em>Both my physical body and my monkey mind were screaming at me when I first tried meditation—I hated it! (13:41)</em></li><li><em>Meditation isn’t a one-and-done cure-all and you won’t feel high or blissed out on the first try, but what you will come away with is a sense of ease, calm, and peace. (20:06)</em></li><li>Your weekly LoveByte. (31:16)</li></ul><p><strong><em>&nbsp;</em></strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong><em>How can I help ease my suffering from anxiety? One way to help ease anxiety is to regularly practice meditation.</em></strong></li><li><strong>What are the benefits of meditation? <em>Focused and practiced meditation can bring a sense of calm and peace to the student. It can help people experiencing stress and anxiety to achieve a sense of mental clarity and contentment.</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>Why can’t I meditate? Am I meditating wrong?</em></strong><em> Anyone can benefit from meditation, but it isn’t one-size-fits-all and it’s not an immediate fix. It takes time, practice, and energy and you will get out of it what you put into it. If you’re not feeling the benefits at first, keep trying and ask a qualified teacher for help.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Today, I’m back from a month-long silent meditation retreat. Now, I’m not special. Anyone can learn to meditate - even you... So to help you out, I’m pulling the curtain back and sharing with you the pain that brought me to the Buddhist path and how that led to the peaceful I am today.  Have you struggled with anxiety since adolescence—or even for what feels like your whole life? Do you ever feel so wound up, in such a state of almost constant fight or flight adrenaline, that it feels as though your life is being physically threatened? The fact is, these experiences are true for so many people, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer forever. You can free yourself from the seemingly endless spiral—and I’m going to show you exactly how.  In this episode, I explain my personal experiences with anxiety, from my late childhood all the way through graduate school, and the mental, emotional, and physical suffering that it caused me. I also talk about how I learned to be comfortable in mutual silence, that just about anyone can learn and benefit from meditation, and all about my initial experience at a meditation retreat—and how it wasn’t such a walk in the park! So… 28 days, alone, in the woods, no speaking. Sounds a little outrageous, right? Truth be told, I was wary of meditation, too, initially. I couldn’t even imagine doing it for 60 minutes at a time, let alone the weeks or months on end I do now. I promise you, even if right now you’re thinking, “Gee whiz, 28 days of silence—Dr. Cheryl, you must be nuts!” you’ll eventually realize that training your mind is the most important thing you will ever do.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: You can be the best student in the country with the perfect GPA, but still be a mess on the inside. (05:42) When Western medicine failed to help my anxiety, my eyes were opened to Buddhism by a friend… and boy, I was skeptical at first. (07:37) The common thread that ran between two of the most calming, patient people in my life and how that lead me to my first experience with structured meditation. (9:53) Both my physical body and my monkey mind were screaming at me when I first tried meditation—I hated it! (13:41) Meditation isn’t a one-and-done cure-all and you won’t feel high or blissed out on the first try, but what you will come away with is a sense of ease, calm, and peace. (20:06) Your weekly LoveByte. (31:16)   Q&A: How can I help ease my suffering from anxiety? One way to help ease anxiety is to regularly practice meditation. What are the benefits of meditation? Focused and practiced meditation can bring a sense of calm and peace to the student. It can help people experiencing stress and anxiety to achieve a sense of mental clarity and contentment. Why can’t I meditate? Am I meditating wrong? Anyone can benefit from meditation, but it isn’t one-size-fits-all and it’s not an immediate fix. It takes time, practice, and energy and you will get out of it what you put into it. If you’re not feeling the benefits at first, keep trying and ask a qualified teacher for help.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Today, I’m back from a month-long silent meditation retreat. Now, I’m not special. Anyone can learn to meditate - even you... So to help you out, I’m pulling the curtain back and sharing with you the pain that brought me to the Buddhist path and how that led to the peaceful I am today. 


Have you struggled with anxiety since adolescence—or even for what feels like your whole life? Do you ever feel so wound up, in such a state of almost constant fight or flight adrenaline, that it feels as though your life is being physically threatened? The fact is, these experiences are true for so many people, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer forever. You can free yourself from the seemingly endless spiral—and I’m going to show you exactly how. 


In this episode, I explain my personal experiences with anxiety, from my late childhood all the way through graduate school, and the mental, emotional, and physical suffering that it caused me. I also talk about how I learned to be comfortable in mutual silence, that just about anyone can learn and benefit from meditation, and all about my initial experience at a meditation retreat—and how it wasn’t such a walk in the park!


So… 28 days, alone, in the woods, no speaking. Sounds a little outrageous, right? Truth be told, I was wary of meditation, too, initially. I couldn’t even imagine doing it for 60 minutes at a time, let alone the weeks or months on end I do now. I promise you, even if right now you’re thinking, “Gee whiz, 28 days of silence—Dr. Cheryl, you must be nuts!” you’ll eventually realize that training your mind is the most important thing you will ever do. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • You can be the best student in the country with the perfect GPA, but still be a mess on the inside. (05:42)
  • When Western medicine failed to help my anxiety, my eyes were opened to Buddhism by a friend… and boy, I was skeptical at first. (07:37)
  • The common thread that ran between two of the most calming, patient people in my life and how that lead me to my first experience with structured meditation. (9:53)
  • Both my physical body and my monkey mind were screaming at me when I first tried meditation—I hated it! (13:41)
  • Meditation isn’t a one-and-done cure-all and you won’t feel high or blissed out on the first try, but what you will come away with is a sense of ease, calm, and peace. (20:06)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (31:16)

 


Q&A:

  • How can I help ease my suffering from anxiety? One way to help ease anxiety is to regularly practice meditation.
  • What are the benefits of meditation? Focused and practiced meditation can bring a sense of calm and peace to the student. It can help people experiencing stress and anxiety to achieve a sense of mental clarity and contentment.
  • Why can’t I meditate? Am I meditating wrong? Anyone can benefit from meditation, but it isn’t one-size-fits-all and it’s not an immediate fix. It takes time, practice, and energy and you will get out of it what you put into it. If you’re not feeling the benefits at first, keep trying and ask a qualified teacher for help. 


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 2048 no The Third Key to Passion: Sensuality https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-third-key-to-passion-sensuality You wouldn’t try to summit a mountain without a rope, carabiners, a heavy-duty pair of boots, and the proper training, right? So… why would you enter into a life-long commitment with a partner without the right tools and knowledge? Today’s show is the final episode of a four-part series on the Keys to Passion and how to be part of an exceptional couple. If you haven’t listened to the previous episodes, I encourage you to go back and listen—I know you’ll be glad you did.  To achieve a truly exceptional relationship, a holistic approach is imperative. To be an exceptional couple, you should be open to the entire erotic spectrum. Uh-huh, suuure, Dr. Cheryl… what exactly does that mean? After years of working with real couples, I’ve learned that most people, even when faced with a veritable rainbow of sensuality, are only sticking to their tried and true favorite colors. If you’re ready to make a change to your relationship and recapture that heart-thumping, crotch-tingling, position-switching electricity that you’ve lost over the years, it’s time to focus on Sensuality. On average, 30% of the long-term relationships that come into my practice aren’t having sex at all—that shouldn’t be you and your sweetheart!  In this episode, I talk about Sensuality, the third side of what I call the Passion Triangle. I cover why the road to recovering the magic can sometimes be a long one, the importance of engaging all five senses, and I talk about sensuality vs sexuality—and why they’re not the same. I also teach you how you can be sensual without sex, the value of swapping erotic fantasies with your sweetie, and I bust some myths involving the clitoris and the female orgasm. Sensuality is critically important to an exceptional relationship. It’s often one of the first things that fade, but with the right tools and techniques, there’s a way to get back on track.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: If your typical encounter with your sweetie is of the “nipple, nipple, crotch, goodnight!” variety, you’re not alone—but there is more out there. (05:29) A short exercise that sheds light on the simple but intense power of touch and sensuality. (07:18) Sensuality isn’t all about sex, intercourse, and orgasms. It’s also foot rubs, hugs, intense kisses, snuggling, and going to bed naked. (09:25) Please learn to Love. Your. Body. Dance naked, shower with your honey, reclaim your sensuality.  (12:00) Tantric sex allows for a climax orgasm much, much longer than is typical… and it’s totally worth the effort to get there. (15:24) Friendship + Nudity = Relationship. Couples who don’t have sexual relationships are rarely both completely content in the situation. (20:03) Your weekly LoveByte. (26:43)   Q&A: How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? Great sex is sensuous. Engage all 5 senses, leave your typical comfort zone, and explore the erotic spectrum.  What if I don’t feel like having sex with my partner? If you and your partner are trying to recapture the magic after a period of disinterest, small and gentle steps are often the key. Try showering together and feeling their skin beneath the slippery soap—enjoy the sensuous connection without necessarily leading to intercourse.  What is tantric sex? Tantric sex is the practice of training your orgasmic response through muscle control and eye contact. Though it may not be easy to master, it can lead to orgasms lasting three or four times longer than average.  Resources: Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program Buddha's Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 02 Aug 2021 09:00:16 -0000 The Third Key to Passion: Sensuality full 12 Cheryl Fraser <p>You wouldn’t try to summit a mountain without a rope, carabiners, a heavy-duty pair of boots, and the proper training, right? So… why would you enter into a life-long commitment with a partner without the right tools and knowledge? Today’s show is the final episode of a four-part series on the Keys to Passion and how to be part of an exceptional couple. If you haven’t listened to the previous episodes, I encourage you to go back and listen—I know you’ll be glad you did.&nbsp;</p><br><p>To achieve a truly exceptional relationship, a holistic approach is imperative. To be an exceptional couple, you should be open to the entire erotic spectrum. <em>Uh-huh, suuure, Dr. Cheryl… what exactly does that mean? </em>After years of working with real couples, I’ve learned that most people, even when faced with a veritable rainbow of sensuality, are only sticking to their tried and true favorite colors. If you’re ready to make a change to your relationship and recapture that heart-thumping, crotch-tingling, position-switching electricity that you’ve lost over the years, it’s time to focus on <em>Sensuality</em>. On average, 30% of the long-term relationships that come into my practice aren’t having sex at all—that shouldn’t be you and your sweetheart!&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>,<strong> </strong>I talk about Sensuality, the third side of what I call the Passion Triangle. I cover why the road to recovering the magic can sometimes be a long one, the importance of engaging all five senses, and I talk about <em>sensuality</em> vs <em>sexuality</em>—and why they’re not the same.<em> </em>I also teach you how you can be sensual <em>without </em>sex, the value of swapping erotic fantasies with your sweetie, and I bust some myths involving the clitoris and the female orgasm. Sensuality is critically important to an exceptional relationship. It’s often one of the first things that fade, but with the right tools and techniques, there’s a way to get back on track.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If your typical encounter with your sweetie is of the “nipple, nipple, crotch, goodnight!” variety, you’re not alone—but there is more out there. (05:29)</li><li><strong>A short exercise that sheds light on the simple but intense power of touch and sensuality. (07:18)</strong></li><li><strong><em>Sensuality isn’t all about sex, intercourse, and orgasms. It’s also foot rubs, hugs, intense kisses, snuggling, and going to bed naked. (09:25)</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>Please learn to Love. Your. Body. Dance naked, shower with your honey, reclaim your sensuality. &nbsp;(12:00)</em></strong></li><li><strong>Tantric sex allows for a climax orgasm much, much longer than is typical… and it’s totally worth the effort to get there. (15:24)</strong></li><li><em>Friendship + Nudity = Relationship. Couples who don’t have sexual relationships are rarely both completely content in the situation. (20:03)</em></li><li><strong><em>Your weekly LoveByte. (26:43)</em></strong></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? <em>Great sex is sensuous. Engage all 5 senses, leave your typical comfort zone, and explore the erotic spectrum.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>What if I don’t feel like having sex with my partner? <em>If you and your partner are trying to recapture the magic after a period of disinterest, small and gentle steps are often the key. Try showering together and feeling their skin beneath the slippery soap—enjoy the sensuous connection without necessarily leading to intercourse.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>What is tantric sex? <em>Tantric sex is the practice of training your orgasmic response through muscle control and eye contact. Though it may not be easy to master, it can lead to orgasms lasting three or four times longer than average.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> You wouldn’t try to summit a mountain without a rope, carabiners, a heavy-duty pair of boots, and the proper training, right? So… why would you enter into a life-long commitment with a partner without the right tools and knowledge? Today’s show is the final episode of a four-part series on the Keys to Passion and how to be part of an exceptional couple. If you haven’t listened to the previous episodes, I encourage you to go back and listen—I know you’ll be glad you did.  To achieve a truly exceptional relationship, a holistic approach is imperative. To be an exceptional couple, you should be open to the entire erotic spectrum. Uh-huh, suuure, Dr. Cheryl… what exactly does that mean? After years of working with real couples, I’ve learned that most people, even when faced with a veritable rainbow of sensuality, are only sticking to their tried and true favorite colors. If you’re ready to make a change to your relationship and recapture that heart-thumping, crotch-tingling, position-switching electricity that you’ve lost over the years, it’s time to focus on Sensuality. On average, 30% of the long-term relationships that come into my practice aren’t having sex at all—that shouldn’t be you and your sweetheart!  In this episode, I talk about Sensuality, the third side of what I call the Passion Triangle. I cover why the road to recovering the magic can sometimes be a long one, the importance of engaging all five senses, and I talk about sensuality vs sexuality—and why they’re not the same. I also teach you how you can be sensual without sex, the value of swapping erotic fantasies with your sweetie, and I bust some myths involving the clitoris and the female orgasm. Sensuality is critically important to an exceptional relationship. It’s often one of the first things that fade, but with the right tools and techniques, there’s a way to get back on track.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: If your typical encounter with your sweetie is of the “nipple, nipple, crotch, goodnight!” variety, you’re not alone—but there is more out there. (05:29) A short exercise that sheds light on the simple but intense power of touch and sensuality. (07:18) Sensuality isn’t all about sex, intercourse, and orgasms. It’s also foot rubs, hugs, intense kisses, snuggling, and going to bed naked. (09:25) Please learn to Love. Your. Body. Dance naked, shower with your honey, reclaim your sensuality.  (12:00) Tantric sex allows for a climax orgasm much, much longer than is typical… and it’s totally worth the effort to get there. (15:24) Friendship + Nudity = Relationship. Couples who don’t have sexual relationships are rarely both completely content in the situation. (20:03) Your weekly LoveByte. (26:43)   Q&A: How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? Great sex is sensuous. Engage all 5 senses, leave your typical comfort zone, and explore the erotic spectrum.  What if I don’t feel like having sex with my partner? If you and your partner are trying to recapture the magic after a period of disinterest, small and gentle steps are often the key. Try showering together and feeling their skin beneath the slippery soap—enjoy the sensuous connection without necessarily leading to intercourse.  What is tantric sex? Tantric sex is the practice of training your orgasmic response through muscle control and eye contact. Though it may not be easy to master, it can lead to orgasms lasting three or four times longer than average.  Resources: Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program Buddha's Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. You wouldn’t try to summit a mountain without a rope, carabiners, a heavy-duty pair of boots, and the proper training, right? So… why would you enter into a life-long commitment with a partner without the right tools and knowledge? Today’s show is the final episode of a four-part series on the Keys to Passion and how to be part of an exceptional couple. If you haven’t listened to the previous episodes, I encourage you to go back and listen—I know you’ll be glad you did. 


To achieve a truly exceptional relationship, a holistic approach is imperative. To be an exceptional couple, you should be open to the entire erotic spectrum. Uh-huh, suuure, Dr. Cheryl… what exactly does that mean? After years of working with real couples, I’ve learned that most people, even when faced with a veritable rainbow of sensuality, are only sticking to their tried and true favorite colors. If you’re ready to make a change to your relationship and recapture that heart-thumping, crotch-tingling, position-switching electricity that you’ve lost over the years, it’s time to focus on Sensuality. On average, 30% of the long-term relationships that come into my practice aren’t having sex at all—that shouldn’t be you and your sweetheart! 


In this episode, I talk about Sensuality, the third side of what I call the Passion Triangle. I cover why the road to recovering the magic can sometimes be a long one, the importance of engaging all five senses, and I talk about sensuality vs sexuality—and why they’re not the same. I also teach you how you can be sensual without sex, the value of swapping erotic fantasies with your sweetie, and I bust some myths involving the clitoris and the female orgasm. Sensuality is critically important to an exceptional relationship. It’s often one of the first things that fade, but with the right tools and techniques, there’s a way to get back on track. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If your typical encounter with your sweetie is of the “nipple, nipple, crotch, goodnight!” variety, you’re not alone—but there is more out there. (05:29)
  • A short exercise that sheds light on the simple but intense power of touch and sensuality. (07:18)
  • Sensuality isn’t all about sex, intercourse, and orgasms. It’s also foot rubs, hugs, intense kisses, snuggling, and going to bed naked. (09:25)
  • Please learn to Love. Your. Body. Dance naked, shower with your honey, reclaim your sensuality.  (12:00)
  • Tantric sex allows for a climax orgasm much, much longer than is typical… and it’s totally worth the effort to get there. (15:24)
  • Friendship + Nudity = Relationship. Couples who don’t have sexual relationships are rarely both completely content in the situation. (20:03)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (26:43)

 

Q&A:

  • How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? Great sex is sensuous. Engage all 5 senses, leave your typical comfort zone, and explore the erotic spectrum. 
  • What if I don’t feel like having sex with my partner? If you and your partner are trying to recapture the magic after a period of disinterest, small and gentle steps are often the key. Try showering together and feeling their skin beneath the slippery soap—enjoy the sensuous connection without necessarily leading to intercourse. 
  • What is tantric sex? Tantric sex is the practice of training your orgasmic response through muscle control and eye contact. Though it may not be easy to master, it can lead to orgasms lasting three or four times longer than average. 


Resources:


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1746 no The Second Key to Passion: Thrill https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-second-key-to-passion-thrill Don’t you just love falling in love? The butterflies, the goosebumps, the chills down your spine... and elsewhere! That feeling can be like lightning in a bottle—exciting as hell but almost impossible to capture and maintain.  In my years of practice with real couples, the most common complaint in long-term relationships is boredom. They love their honey, but they’re not in love with them anymore. The thrill is gone, the excitement just isn’t there anymore, they wish they felt the way they did at the beginning. This is the place affairs start—whether it’s emotional or physical, a one night stand, secret sexts, or long-term infidelity—more often than not, it’s caused by boredom. Okay, Dr. Cheryl... you’re starting to freak me out a little. But here’s the thing: during my time working with those couples, I’ve developed actionable steps, exercises, and tools that you can bring home to your sweetheart and practice. You can start bringing thrill back into the picture—tonight.  In this episode, I talk about Thrill, the second of the three keys to passion. I show how thrill is the missing piece in so many long-term relationships, and how a study involving a suspension bridge, a sexy fake psychologist, and arousal explains it all. I also discuss why I don’t like to use the term “affair,” why exceptional relationships are not an accident, and how habit is the enemy of interest in a long-term relationship. Do yourself and your sweetheart a favor—put the effort in to make thrill intentional, and STOP waiting around for the passion to come and sweep you off your feet.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: To pump up your relationship thrill level, try my ridiculous-but-meaningful exercise with your sweetheart: Greet them like an overexcited Labrador Retriever when they get home from work tonight (Yes, really!) (08:49) Great sex and great relationships aren’t created by tired gimmicks—they’re made by using research-based success tips and techniques. (10:08) If you’re bored of your partner, it’s not because they’re boring. It’s because you’ve stopped trying to find them interesting. (12:20)  Dr. Cheryl’s 50 First Dates Challenge: If your sweetheart didn't have a clue who you were, how would you try to woo them? (15:59) If you want thrill, you need to create it. (19:20) When we do something exciting or when we're more aroused physically from excitement,  we find people more attractive, and we're more likely to act on it—and how you can test this theory out with your honey. (21:49) Even skiing and horseback riding can get old if they’re a daily habit. The key to thrill is variety and a break in monotony. (22:53) Your weekly LoveByte. (25:35)   Q&A: What is the number one cause of cheating in long-term relationships? Most people in otherwise healthy long-term relationships stray because they become bored with their mate. Once the thrill is gone, they lose interest.  How can I make my relationship more exciting? If you’re trying to bring the thrill back to your relationship, try breaking your set habits. Plan a new activity like horseback riding, salsa dancing lessons, or hiking. Better still, take your honey on a surprise outing that they’d never expect.  Why is my marriage so boring? Relationships become boring when the people in them begin to lose interest and give in to the monotony. In order to crush the boredom, make thrill intentional and actively work on seeing all the interest your partner holds. Resources: Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program Buddha's Bedroom 50 First Dates (movie) Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 26 Jul 2021 09:00:15 -0000 The Second Key to Passion: Thrill full 11 Cheryl Fraser <p>Don’t you just love falling in love? The butterflies, the goosebumps, the chills down your spine... and elsewhere! That feeling can be like lightning in a bottle—exciting as hell but almost impossible to capture and maintain.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In my years of practice with real couples, the most common complaint in long-term relationships is boredom. They love their honey, but they’re not <em>in love </em>with them anymor<em>e</em>. The thrill is gone, the excitement just isn’t there anymore, they wish they felt the way they did at the beginning. This is the place affairs start—whether it’s emotional or physical, a one night stand, secret sexts, or long-term infidelity—more often than not, it’s caused by boredom. Okay, Dr. Cheryl... you’re starting to freak me out a little. But here’s the thing: during my time working with those couples, I’ve developed actionable steps, exercises, and tools that you can bring home to your sweetheart and practice. You <em>can </em>start bringing thrill back into the picture—tonight.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In this episode, </strong>I talk about Thrill, the second of the three keys to passion. I show how thrill is the missing piece in so many long-term relationships, and<em> </em>how a study involving a suspension bridge, a sexy fake psychologist, and arousal explains it all<em>. </em>I also discuss why I don’t like to use the term “affair,” why exceptional relationships are <em>not an accident</em>, and how habit is the enemy of interest in a long-term relationship. Do yourself and your sweetheart a favor—put the effort in to make thrill intentional, and STOP waiting around for the passion to come and sweep you off your feet.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>To pump up your relationship thrill level, try my ridiculous-but-meaningful exercise with your sweetheart: Greet them like an overexcited Labrador Retriever when they get home from work tonight (Yes, really!) (08:49)</li><li><strong><em>Great sex and great relationships aren’t created by tired gimmicks—they’re made by using research-based success tips and techniques. (10:08)</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>If you’re bored of your partner, it’s not because they’re boring. It’s because you’ve stopped trying to find them interesting. (12:20)&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong><em>Dr. Cheryl’s 50 First Dates Challenge: If your sweetheart didn't have a clue who you were, how would you try to woo them? (15:59)</em></strong></li><li><strong>If you want thrill, you need to create it. (19:20)</strong></li><li><em>When we do something exciting or when we're more aroused physically from excitement,&nbsp; we find people more attractive, and we're more likely to act on it—and how you can test this theory out with your honey. (21:49)</em></li><li>Even skiing and horseback riding can get old if they’re a daily habit. The key to thrill is variety and a break in monotony. (22:53)</li><li><strong>Your weekly LoveByte. (25:35)</strong></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>What is the number one cause of cheating in long-term relationships? <em>Most people in otherwise healthy long-term relationships stray because they become bored with their mate. Once the thrill is gone, they lose interest.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>How can I make my relationship more exciting? <em>If you’re trying to bring the thrill back to your relationship, try breaking your set habits. Plan a new activity like horseback riding, salsa dancing lessons, or hiking. Better still, take your honey on a surprise outing that they’d never expect.&nbsp;</em></strong></li><li><strong>Why is my marriage so boring? <em>Relationships become boring when the people in them begin to lose interest and give in to the monotony. In order to crush the boredom, make thrill intentional and actively work on seeing all the interest your partner holds.</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/50-First-Dates-Adam-Sandler/dp/B00190L018" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">50 First Dates (movie)</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Don’t you just love falling in love? The butterflies, the goosebumps, the chills down your spine... and elsewhere! That feeling can be like lightning in a bottle—exciting as hell but almost impossible to capture and maintain.  In my years of practice with real couples, the most common complaint in long-term relationships is boredom. They love their honey, but they’re not in love with them anymore. The thrill is gone, the excitement just isn’t there anymore, they wish they felt the way they did at the beginning. This is the place affairs start—whether it’s emotional or physical, a one night stand, secret sexts, or long-term infidelity—more often than not, it’s caused by boredom. Okay, Dr. Cheryl... you’re starting to freak me out a little. But here’s the thing: during my time working with those couples, I’ve developed actionable steps, exercises, and tools that you can bring home to your sweetheart and practice. You can start bringing thrill back into the picture—tonight.  In this episode, I talk about Thrill, the second of the three keys to passion. I show how thrill is the missing piece in so many long-term relationships, and how a study involving a suspension bridge, a sexy fake psychologist, and arousal explains it all. I also discuss why I don’t like to use the term “affair,” why exceptional relationships are not an accident, and how habit is the enemy of interest in a long-term relationship. Do yourself and your sweetheart a favor—put the effort in to make thrill intentional, and STOP waiting around for the passion to come and sweep you off your feet.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: To pump up your relationship thrill level, try my ridiculous-but-meaningful exercise with your sweetheart: Greet them like an overexcited Labrador Retriever when they get home from work tonight (Yes, really!) (08:49) Great sex and great relationships aren’t created by tired gimmicks—they’re made by using research-based success tips and techniques. (10:08) If you’re bored of your partner, it’s not because they’re boring. It’s because you’ve stopped trying to find them interesting. (12:20)  Dr. Cheryl’s 50 First Dates Challenge: If your sweetheart didn't have a clue who you were, how would you try to woo them? (15:59) If you want thrill, you need to create it. (19:20) When we do something exciting or when we're more aroused physically from excitement,  we find people more attractive, and we're more likely to act on it—and how you can test this theory out with your honey. (21:49) Even skiing and horseback riding can get old if they’re a daily habit. The key to thrill is variety and a break in monotony. (22:53) Your weekly LoveByte. (25:35)   Q&A: What is the number one cause of cheating in long-term relationships? Most people in otherwise healthy long-term relationships stray because they become bored with their mate. Once the thrill is gone, they lose interest.  How can I make my relationship more exciting? If you’re trying to bring the thrill back to your relationship, try breaking your set habits. Plan a new activity like horseback riding, salsa dancing lessons, or hiking. Better still, take your honey on a surprise outing that they’d never expect.  Why is my marriage so boring? Relationships become boring when the people in them begin to lose interest and give in to the monotony. In order to crush the boredom, make thrill intentional and actively work on seeing all the interest your partner holds. Resources: Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program Buddha's Bedroom 50 First Dates (movie) Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Don’t you just love falling in love? The butterflies, the goosebumps, the chills down your spine... and elsewhere! That feeling can be like lightning in a bottle—exciting as hell but almost impossible to capture and maintain. 


In my years of practice with real couples, the most common complaint in long-term relationships is boredom. They love their honey, but they’re not in love with them anymore. The thrill is gone, the excitement just isn’t there anymore, they wish they felt the way they did at the beginning. This is the place affairs start—whether it’s emotional or physical, a one night stand, secret sexts, or long-term infidelity—more often than not, it’s caused by boredom. Okay, Dr. Cheryl... you’re starting to freak me out a little. But here’s the thing: during my time working with those couples, I’ve developed actionable steps, exercises, and tools that you can bring home to your sweetheart and practice. You can start bringing thrill back into the picture—tonight. 


In this episode, I talk about Thrill, the second of the three keys to passion. I show how thrill is the missing piece in so many long-term relationships, and how a study involving a suspension bridge, a sexy fake psychologist, and arousal explains it all. I also discuss why I don’t like to use the term “affair,” why exceptional relationships are not an accident, and how habit is the enemy of interest in a long-term relationship. Do yourself and your sweetheart a favor—put the effort in to make thrill intentional, and STOP waiting around for the passion to come and sweep you off your feet. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • To pump up your relationship thrill level, try my ridiculous-but-meaningful exercise with your sweetheart: Greet them like an overexcited Labrador Retriever when they get home from work tonight (Yes, really!) (08:49)
  • Great sex and great relationships aren’t created by tired gimmicks—they’re made by using research-based success tips and techniques. (10:08)
  • If you’re bored of your partner, it’s not because they’re boring. It’s because you’ve stopped trying to find them interesting. (12:20) 
  • Dr. Cheryl’s 50 First Dates Challenge: If your sweetheart didn't have a clue who you were, how would you try to woo them? (15:59)
  • If you want thrill, you need to create it. (19:20)
  • When we do something exciting or when we're more aroused physically from excitement,  we find people more attractive, and we're more likely to act on it—and how you can test this theory out with your honey. (21:49)
  • Even skiing and horseback riding can get old if they’re a daily habit. The key to thrill is variety and a break in monotony. (22:53)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (25:35)

 

Q&A:

  • What is the number one cause of cheating in long-term relationships? Most people in otherwise healthy long-term relationships stray because they become bored with their mate. Once the thrill is gone, they lose interest. 
  • How can I make my relationship more exciting? If you’re trying to bring the thrill back to your relationship, try breaking your set habits. Plan a new activity like horseback riding, salsa dancing lessons, or hiking. Better still, take your honey on a surprise outing that they’d never expect. 
  • Why is my marriage so boring? Relationships become boring when the people in them begin to lose interest and give in to the monotony. In order to crush the boredom, make thrill intentional and actively work on seeing all the interest your partner holds.


Resources:


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]]> 1679 no The First Key to Passion: Intimacy https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/the-first-key-to-passion-intimacy How many exceptional couples do you know that have been together for more than a year? Couples that really seem to be in love, still get excited when their partner walks into a room, and have that sexual spark between them? Chances are, there aren’t a ton of people coming to mind right now.  The harsh truth is, exceptional couples are pretty rare. In my practice as a psychologist and sex therapist, only about 5% of the couples I meet are what I would consider exceptional. Way to be a Debbie Downer, Cheryl! Well, stay with me, because I’ve also got good news: I’m going to teach you the three keys to a passionate relationship and give you real, actionable steps to elevate your own love affair to exceptional status. Great couples are not an accident, and Passion is a teachable skill.  In this episode, I talk about Intimacy, the first of the three keys to passion. I cover why it’s so important to achieve emotional and psychological closeness with your partner and exactly what that looks like. I also teach you why conflict resolution is so integral to achieving deep trust and intimacy with your partner, as well as how to recognize the four most destructive argument tactics—and how NOT to make the same mistakes that I did! Exceptional relationships are rare, but with the right tools, teachings, and a healthy dose of hard work, they are achievable.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: Exceptional couples are exceptional because they’re strong in three key areas - the first is emotional and communicative intimacy. (04:40) Intimacy is about psychological and emotional closeness—having your own, personal cheerleader and knowing they’re the person you want to immediately call when you get good - or bad - news (06:24) Everybody fights. Learning to fight fair is what predicts relationship success - and your own happiness. (09:25) The four destructive arguing styles - criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt - predict divorce if you don’t fix them  (11:37) Anger is part of the human experience. You can still be emotional and even holler in your arguments—as long as you’re mindful of how you say what you say (19:40) I share the story of a real-life couple who reignited their passion after they found themselves in a platonic” Marriage, Inc”  relationship (21:09) Your weekly LoveByte. (26:45)   Q&A: How can I build a stronger relationship with my partner? Couples in exceptional relationships have strength in three key areas. The first is psychological and emotional closeness - which includes skillful conflict management. How do I reignite the spark in my marriage? In order to recapture the passion and romance you felt in your early relationship, you need to focus on the Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality. What should I do if my partner and I are always fighting? Arguing in a relationship is natural, everyone does it. It’s important to pay attention to how you’re fighting and to make sure you’re not using damaging tactics that predict divorce.  People Mentioned: John Gottman Resources: Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program Buddha's Bedroom Bounce (movie) Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 19 Jul 2021 09:00:31 -0000 The First Key to Passion: Intimacy full 10 Cheryl Fraser <p>How many exceptional couples do you know that have been together for more than a year? Couples that really seem to be in love, still get excited when their partner walks into a room, and have that sexual spark between them? Chances are, there aren’t a ton of people coming to mind right now.&nbsp;</p><br><p>The harsh truth is, exceptional couples are pretty rare. In my practice as a psychologist and sex therapist, only about 5% of the couples I meet are what I would consider exceptional. Way to be a Debbie Downer, Cheryl! Well, stay with me, because I’ve also got good news: I’m going to teach you the three keys to a passionate relationship and give you real, actionable steps to elevate your own love affair to exceptional status. Great couples are not an accident, and Passion is a teachable skill.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In this episode, </strong>I talk about <em>Intimacy</em>, the first of the three keys to passion. I cover why it’s so important to achieve emotional and psychological closeness with your partner and exactly what that looks like. I also teach you why conflict resolution is so integral to achieving deep trust and intimacy with your partner, as well as how to recognize the four most destructive argument tactics—and how<em> </em>NOT to make the same mistakes that I did! Exceptional relationships are rare, but with the right tools, teachings, and a healthy dose of hard work, they are achievable.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Exceptional couples are exceptional because they’re strong in three key areas - the first is emotional and communicative intimacy. (04:40)</li><li><strong>Intimacy is about psychological and emotional closeness—having your own, personal cheerleader and knowing they’re the person you want to immediately call when you get good - or bad - news (06:24)</strong></li><li><strong>Everybody fights. Learning to fight<em> fair</em> is what predicts relationship success - and your own happiness. (09:25)</strong></li><li><strong>The four destructive arguing styles - criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt - predict divorce if you don’t fix them&nbsp; (11:37)</strong></li><li><strong>Anger is part of the human experience. You can still be emotional and even holler in your arguments—as long as you’re mindful of how you say what you say (19:40)</strong></li><li>I share the story of a real-life couple who reignited their passion after they found themselves in a platonic” Marriage, Inc”&nbsp; relationship (21:09)</li><li><strong>Your weekly LoveByte. (26:45)</strong></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>How can I build a stronger relationship with my partner? <em>Couples in exceptional relationships have strength in three key areas. The first is psychological and emotional closeness - which includes skillful conflict management.</em></strong></li><li><strong>How do I reignite the spark in my marriage? <em>In order to recapture the passion and romance you felt in your early relationship, you need to focus on the Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality.</em></strong></li><li><strong>What should I do if my partner and I are always fighting? <em>Arguing in a relationship is natural, everyone does it. It’s important to pay attention to how you’re fighting and to make sure you’re not using damaging tactics that predict divorce.&nbsp;</em></strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>People Mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.gottman.com/author/john-gottman-ph-d/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">John Gottman</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Bounce-Ben-Affleck/dp/B00CNBWW0K/ref=tmm_aiv_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=&amp;sr=" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bounce (movie)</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> How many exceptional couples do you know that have been together for more than a year? Couples that really seem to be in love, still get excited when their partner walks into a room, and have that sexual spark between them? Chances are, there aren’t a ton of people coming to mind right now.  The harsh truth is, exceptional couples are pretty rare. In my practice as a psychologist and sex therapist, only about 5% of the couples I meet are what I would consider exceptional. Way to be a Debbie Downer, Cheryl! Well, stay with me, because I’ve also got good news: I’m going to teach you the three keys to a passionate relationship and give you real, actionable steps to elevate your own love affair to exceptional status. Great couples are not an accident, and Passion is a teachable skill.  In this episode, I talk about Intimacy, the first of the three keys to passion. I cover why it’s so important to achieve emotional and psychological closeness with your partner and exactly what that looks like. I also teach you why conflict resolution is so integral to achieving deep trust and intimacy with your partner, as well as how to recognize the four most destructive argument tactics—and how NOT to make the same mistakes that I did! Exceptional relationships are rare, but with the right tools, teachings, and a healthy dose of hard work, they are achievable.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: Exceptional couples are exceptional because they’re strong in three key areas - the first is emotional and communicative intimacy. (04:40) Intimacy is about psychological and emotional closeness—having your own, personal cheerleader and knowing they’re the person you want to immediately call when you get good - or bad - news (06:24) Everybody fights. Learning to fight fair is what predicts relationship success - and your own happiness. (09:25) The four destructive arguing styles - criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt - predict divorce if you don’t fix them  (11:37) Anger is part of the human experience. You can still be emotional and even holler in your arguments—as long as you’re mindful of how you say what you say (19:40) I share the story of a real-life couple who reignited their passion after they found themselves in a platonic” Marriage, Inc”  relationship (21:09) Your weekly LoveByte. (26:45)   Q&A: How can I build a stronger relationship with my partner? Couples in exceptional relationships have strength in three key areas. The first is psychological and emotional closeness - which includes skillful conflict management. How do I reignite the spark in my marriage? In order to recapture the passion and romance you felt in your early relationship, you need to focus on the Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality. What should I do if my partner and I are always fighting? Arguing in a relationship is natural, everyone does it. It’s important to pay attention to how you’re fighting and to make sure you’re not using damaging tactics that predict divorce.  People Mentioned: John Gottman Resources: Join the waitlist for my Become Passion couple's program Buddha's Bedroom Bounce (movie) Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. How many exceptional couples do you know that have been together for more than a year? Couples that really seem to be in love, still get excited when their partner walks into a room, and have that sexual spark between them? Chances are, there aren’t a ton of people coming to mind right now. 


The harsh truth is, exceptional couples are pretty rare. In my practice as a psychologist and sex therapist, only about 5% of the couples I meet are what I would consider exceptional. Way to be a Debbie Downer, Cheryl! Well, stay with me, because I’ve also got good news: I’m going to teach you the three keys to a passionate relationship and give you real, actionable steps to elevate your own love affair to exceptional status. Great couples are not an accident, and Passion is a teachable skill. 


In this episode, I talk about Intimacy, the first of the three keys to passion. I cover why it’s so important to achieve emotional and psychological closeness with your partner and exactly what that looks like. I also teach you why conflict resolution is so integral to achieving deep trust and intimacy with your partner, as well as how to recognize the four most destructive argument tactics—and how NOT to make the same mistakes that I did! Exceptional relationships are rare, but with the right tools, teachings, and a healthy dose of hard work, they are achievable. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Exceptional couples are exceptional because they’re strong in three key areas - the first is emotional and communicative intimacy. (04:40)
  • Intimacy is about psychological and emotional closeness—having your own, personal cheerleader and knowing they’re the person you want to immediately call when you get good - or bad - news (06:24)
  • Everybody fights. Learning to fight fair is what predicts relationship success - and your own happiness. (09:25)
  • The four destructive arguing styles - criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt - predict divorce if you don’t fix them  (11:37)
  • Anger is part of the human experience. You can still be emotional and even holler in your arguments—as long as you’re mindful of how you say what you say (19:40)
  • I share the story of a real-life couple who reignited their passion after they found themselves in a platonic” Marriage, Inc”  relationship (21:09)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (26:45)

 

Q&A:

  • How can I build a stronger relationship with my partner? Couples in exceptional relationships have strength in three key areas. The first is psychological and emotional closeness - which includes skillful conflict management.
  • How do I reignite the spark in my marriage? In order to recapture the passion and romance you felt in your early relationship, you need to focus on the Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality.
  • What should I do if my partner and I are always fighting? Arguing in a relationship is natural, everyone does it. It’s important to pay attention to how you’re fighting and to make sure you’re not using damaging tactics that predict divorce. 


People Mentioned:


Resources:


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]]> 1809 no Revive a Dying Relationship With the Three Keys to Passion https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/revive-a-dying-relationship-with-the-three-keys-to-passion If you find yourself laying in bed at night next to your snoring sweetheart wondering “Where has the Passion gone?” you are not alone. The good news? Once you know the Three Keys to Passion you can recapture the magic and put the pep back into your sex life. Because great relationships are not an accident.  So, if you find yourself looking at other couples with envy and longing for something different in your relationship, You Are Normal. Heck, perhaps you even daydream about some 50 Shades of Grey style excitement to liven things up…  Today, I teach you the Three Keys to Passion. Maybe you’ve got a good relationship, you’re getting along well, but lately, you’ve noticed that the sex and romance have faded. You wonder, “Who is this person, and where the heck all the fire has gone?!” Well, I’m happy to tell you, you’re in the right place.   In this episode, I explain why most couples don’t do what it takes to create long-term passion, romance, and love—not because they’re lazy or masochistic, but because they don’t have the tools they need. I explain why you must avoid the dreaded Marriage, Inc (AKA how not to run your relationship like a corporation), what to do when the obsession with your lover wanes, and how intimacy, thrill, and sensuality all play equal parts in bringing the passion back to your relationship. Here’s the thing, this isn’t some dopey article in a women’s magazine offering shallow, quick tips for the bedroom. I’m focused on science-based techniques and proven couples therapy lessons that actually work in the long term. So, if you’re ready to get down and dirty and fall back in love and lust with the one you’re already with, listen in today.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: Our early crushes lay down a template for what we believe love can be—but it turns out I’m not married to Shaun Cassidy. (06:55) When we find ourselves longing for what we don't have, we forget to look at what’s standing right in front of us. (08:54) Most couples will never do what it takes to create long-lasting passion because most couples don’t know how. (11:38) The Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality. (15:51) Eroticism isn’t just about genitals—it can be as simple as admiring the curve of your lover’s eyebrow. (23:31) Your weekly LoveByte. (29:15)   Q&A: How can I bring the passion back to my relationship? You have to learn and practice the Three Keys to Passion: intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. How can my partner and I become more connected? In order to master intimacy and emotional connection, you have got to learn to fight fair. Successful conflict management is key to closeness.  Why do I get butterflies at the beginning of a romantic relationship? There is a biochemical and hormonal reaction in our bodies when we first fall in love with a new partner.  But if you want to maintain that feeling long term, you need the Three Keys to Passion People Mentioned: Tony Robbins Jack Canfield Esther Perel Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 12 Jul 2021 09:00:20 -0000 Revive a Dying Relationship With the Three Keys to Passion full 9 Cheryl Fraser <p>If you find yourself laying in bed at night next to your snoring sweetheart wondering “Where has the Passion gone?” you are not alone. The good news? Once you know the Three Keys to Passion you can recapture the magic and put the pep back into your sex life. Because great relationships are <em>not</em> an accident.&nbsp;</p><br><p>So, if you find yourself looking at other couples with envy and longing for something <em>different </em>in your relationship, You Are Normal. Heck, perhaps you even daydream about some <em>50 Shades of Grey</em> style excitement to liven things up…&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I teach you the Three Keys to Passion. Maybe you’ve got a good relationship, you’re getting along well, but lately, you’ve noticed that the sex and romance have faded. You wonder<strong>,</strong> “Who is this person, and where the heck all the fire has gone?!” Well, I’m happy to tell you, you’re in the right place.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, I explain why most couples don’t do what it takes to create long-term passion, romance, and love—not because they’re lazy or masochistic, but because they <em>don’t have the tools they need</em>. I explain why you must avoid the dreaded Marriage, Inc (AKA how <em>not </em>to run your relationship like a corporation), what to do when the obsession with your lover wanes, and how intimacy, thrill, and sensuality all play equal parts in bringing the passion back to your relationship.</p><br><p>Here’s the thing, this isn’t some dopey article in a women’s magazine offering shallow, quick tips for the bedroom. I’m focused on science-based techniques and proven couples therapy lessons that <em>actually work </em>in the long term. So, if you’re ready to get down and dirty and fall back in love and lust with the one you’re already with, listen in today.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Our early crushes lay down a template for what we believe love can be—but it turns out I’m<em> not</em> married to Shaun Cassidy. (06:55)</strong></li><li><strong>When we find ourselves longing for what we don't have, we forget to look at what’s standing right in front of us. (08:54)</strong></li><li><strong>Most couples will never do what it takes to create long-lasting passion because most couples don’t know how. (11:38)</strong></li><li>The Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality. (15:51)</li><li>Eroticism isn’t just about genitals—it can be as simple as admiring the curve of your lover’s eyebrow. (23:31)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte. (29:15)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>How can I bring the passion back to my relationship? <em>You have to learn and practice the Three Keys to Passion: intimacy, thrill, and sensuality.</em></strong></li><li>How can my partner and I become more connected? <em>In order to master intimacy and emotional connection, you have got to learn to fight fair. Successful conflict management is key to closeness.&nbsp;</em></li><li>Why do I get butterflies at the beginning of a romantic relationship? <em>There is a biochemical and hormonal reaction in our bodies when we first fall in love with a new partner.&nbsp; But if you want to maintain that feeling long term, you need the Three Keys to Passion</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>People Mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.tonyrobbins.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tony Robbins</a></li><li><a href="https://www.jackcanfield.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Jack Canfield</a></li><li><a href="https://www.estherperel.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Esther Perel</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> If you find yourself laying in bed at night next to your snoring sweetheart wondering “Where has the Passion gone?” you are not alone. The good news? Once you know the Three Keys to Passion you can recapture the magic and put the pep back into your sex life. Because great relationships are not an accident.  So, if you find yourself looking at other couples with envy and longing for something different in your relationship, You Are Normal. Heck, perhaps you even daydream about some 50 Shades of Grey style excitement to liven things up…  Today, I teach you the Three Keys to Passion. Maybe you’ve got a good relationship, you’re getting along well, but lately, you’ve noticed that the sex and romance have faded. You wonder, “Who is this person, and where the heck all the fire has gone?!” Well, I’m happy to tell you, you’re in the right place.   In this episode, I explain why most couples don’t do what it takes to create long-term passion, romance, and love—not because they’re lazy or masochistic, but because they don’t have the tools they need. I explain why you must avoid the dreaded Marriage, Inc (AKA how not to run your relationship like a corporation), what to do when the obsession with your lover wanes, and how intimacy, thrill, and sensuality all play equal parts in bringing the passion back to your relationship. Here’s the thing, this isn’t some dopey article in a women’s magazine offering shallow, quick tips for the bedroom. I’m focused on science-based techniques and proven couples therapy lessons that actually work in the long term. So, if you’re ready to get down and dirty and fall back in love and lust with the one you’re already with, listen in today.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: Our early crushes lay down a template for what we believe love can be—but it turns out I’m not married to Shaun Cassidy. (06:55) When we find ourselves longing for what we don't have, we forget to look at what’s standing right in front of us. (08:54) Most couples will never do what it takes to create long-lasting passion because most couples don’t know how. (11:38) The Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality. (15:51) Eroticism isn’t just about genitals—it can be as simple as admiring the curve of your lover’s eyebrow. (23:31) Your weekly LoveByte. (29:15)   Q&A: How can I bring the passion back to my relationship? You have to learn and practice the Three Keys to Passion: intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. How can my partner and I become more connected? In order to master intimacy and emotional connection, you have got to learn to fight fair. Successful conflict management is key to closeness.  Why do I get butterflies at the beginning of a romantic relationship? There is a biochemical and hormonal reaction in our bodies when we first fall in love with a new partner.  But if you want to maintain that feeling long term, you need the Three Keys to Passion People Mentioned: Tony Robbins Jack Canfield Esther Perel Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. If you find yourself laying in bed at night next to your snoring sweetheart wondering “Where has the Passion gone?” you are not alone. The good news? Once you know the Three Keys to Passion you can recapture the magic and put the pep back into your sex life. Because great relationships are not an accident. 


So, if you find yourself looking at other couples with envy and longing for something different in your relationship, You Are Normal. Heck, perhaps you even daydream about some 50 Shades of Grey style excitement to liven things up… 


Today, I teach you the Three Keys to Passion. Maybe you’ve got a good relationship, you’re getting along well, but lately, you’ve noticed that the sex and romance have faded. You wonder, “Who is this person, and where the heck all the fire has gone?!” Well, I’m happy to tell you, you’re in the right place.  


In this episode, I explain why most couples don’t do what it takes to create long-term passion, romance, and love—not because they’re lazy or masochistic, but because they don’t have the tools they need. I explain why you must avoid the dreaded Marriage, Inc (AKA how not to run your relationship like a corporation), what to do when the obsession with your lover wanes, and how intimacy, thrill, and sensuality all play equal parts in bringing the passion back to your relationship.


Here’s the thing, this isn’t some dopey article in a women’s magazine offering shallow, quick tips for the bedroom. I’m focused on science-based techniques and proven couples therapy lessons that actually work in the long term. So, if you’re ready to get down and dirty and fall back in love and lust with the one you’re already with, listen in today. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Our early crushes lay down a template for what we believe love can be—but it turns out I’m not married to Shaun Cassidy. (06:55)
  • When we find ourselves longing for what we don't have, we forget to look at what’s standing right in front of us. (08:54)
  • Most couples will never do what it takes to create long-lasting passion because most couples don’t know how. (11:38)
  • The Three Keys to Passion: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality. (15:51)
  • Eroticism isn’t just about genitals—it can be as simple as admiring the curve of your lover’s eyebrow. (23:31)
  • Your weekly LoveByte. (29:15)

 


Q&A:

  • How can I bring the passion back to my relationship? You have to learn and practice the Three Keys to Passion: intimacy, thrill, and sensuality.
  • How can my partner and I become more connected? In order to master intimacy and emotional connection, you have got to learn to fight fair. Successful conflict management is key to closeness. 
  • Why do I get butterflies at the beginning of a romantic relationship? There is a biochemical and hormonal reaction in our bodies when we first fall in love with a new partner.  But if you want to maintain that feeling long term, you need the Three Keys to Passion


People Mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1924 no Misery or Happiness? The Buddha’s Four Facts of Life https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/misery-or-happiness-the-buddhas-four-facts-of-life Why is it so much easier to become happy than to stay happy? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a set of teachings, specifically designed to apply to our own lives in times of pain and suffering? Some rules to live by that could guide us to a happier, more fulfilled, less troubled life? If these questions feel like opening a giant can of worms—that’s the point!  Today, I talk about Buddhism’s Four Facts of Life (AKA the Four Noble Truths) and how we can apply them to our hectic, modern world. The great thing about these simple but life-changing teachings is that all of us can apply them to our lives—even without following a specific faith. I can say, in all honesty, that these are the four most important facts of life you’re ever going to know—so, my darlings, listen up... By exploring the Four Facts of Life, we can acknowledge that our suffering comes from wanting to change reality, and then—here’s the really important part—we can let go of wanting reality to change. It’s up to US how we react to the crappy things in life. Happiness is an inside job. If this all sounds like a little too much to ask, stay with me, because I also want you to learn this truth: pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.  In this episode, we’re focusing on the elephant—otherwise known as our deep, inner wisdom and compassion. I go into a little more depth about how the Facts of Life explain the cause of our suffering, and also how they teach us to set ourselves free. I also expand briefly on the fourth Fact of Life, the principles of the Eightfold Path, and the ways we can use the Path to cultivate and improve our lives. Join me and learn how to begin applying these teachings so you can live in grace and suffer less, even in your most painful moments.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you apply the Four Facts of Life to your own life, you will suffer less, have more contentment, and a more open heart. (05:25) The first Fact of Life: Everything changes—sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, and sometimes it doesn’t affect us at all.  (06:03) The second Fact of Life: When we resist the truth of change, we suffer. (09:04) The third Fact of Life: If you don’t want to suffer—Let. It. Go! (14:18) The fourth Fact of Life is a path that everyone can follow in order to live a happier, more understanding, more compassionate life. (22:21) Your weekly LoveByte (28:30)   Q&A: How can I avoid suffering? Suffering is optional. To avoid it, stop resisting change and learn to embrace it.  How can I live a happier life? Let go of your desire to change reality.  How can I learn to live a more fulfilling life? Follow the principles of the Eightfold Path and apply them to your current situation.   Resources Mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 28 Jun 2021 09:00:54 -0000 Misery or Happiness? The Buddha’s Four Facts of Life full 7 Cheryl Fraser <p>Why is it so much easier to<em> become </em>happy than to <em>stay </em>happy?<strong> </strong>Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a set of teachings, specifically designed to apply to our own lives in times of pain and suffering? Some rules to live by that could guide us to a happier, more fulfilled, less troubled life? If these questions feel like opening a giant can of worms—that’s the point!&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I talk about Buddhism’s Four Facts of Life (AKA the Four Noble Truths) and how we can apply them to our hectic, modern world. The great thing about these simple but life-changing teachings is that all of us can apply them to our lives—even without following a specific faith. I can say, in all honesty, that these are the four most important facts of life you’re ever going to know—so, my darlings, listen up...</p><br><p>By exploring the Four Facts of Life, we can acknowledge that our suffering comes from wanting to change reality, and then—here’s the really important part—we can<em> let go of wanting reality to change</em>. It’s up to US how we react to the crappy things in life. <strong>Happiness is an inside job. </strong>If this all sounds like a little too much to ask, stay with me, because I also want you to learn this truth: pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode, we’re focusing on the elephant—otherwise known as our deep, inner wisdom and compassion. I go into a little more depth about how the Facts of Life explain the cause of our suffering, and also how they teach us to set ourselves free. I also expand briefly on the fourth Fact of Life, the principles of the Eightfold Path, and the ways we can use the Path to cultivate and improve our lives. Join me and learn how to begin applying these teachings so you can live in grace and suffer less, even in your most painful moments.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>If you apply the Four Facts of Life to your own life, you will suffer less, have more contentment, and a more open heart. (05:25)</li><li>The first Fact of Life: Everything changes—sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, and sometimes it doesn’t affect us at all.&nbsp; (06:03)</li><li>The second Fact of Life: When we resist the truth of change, we suffer. (09:04)</li><li>The third Fact of Life: If you don’t want to suffer—Let. It. Go! (14:18)</li><li>The fourth Fact of Life is a path that everyone can follow in order to live a happier, more understanding, more compassionate life. (22:21)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (28:30)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can I avoid suffering? <em>Suffering is optional. To avoid it, stop resisting change and learn to embrace it.&nbsp;</em></li><li>How can I live a happier life? <em>Let go of your desire to change reality.&nbsp;</em></li><li>How can I learn to live a more fulfilling life? <em>Follow the principles of the Eightfold Path and apply them to your current situation.&nbsp;&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><br><p><strong>Resources Mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha's Bedroom</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Why is it so much easier to become happy than to stay happy? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a set of teachings, specifically designed to apply to our own lives in times of pain and suffering? Some rules to live by that could guide us to a happier, more fulfilled, less troubled life? If these questions feel like opening a giant can of worms—that’s the point!  Today, I talk about Buddhism’s Four Facts of Life (AKA the Four Noble Truths) and how we can apply them to our hectic, modern world. The great thing about these simple but life-changing teachings is that all of us can apply them to our lives—even without following a specific faith. I can say, in all honesty, that these are the four most important facts of life you’re ever going to know—so, my darlings, listen up... By exploring the Four Facts of Life, we can acknowledge that our suffering comes from wanting to change reality, and then—here’s the really important part—we can let go of wanting reality to change. It’s up to US how we react to the crappy things in life. Happiness is an inside job. If this all sounds like a little too much to ask, stay with me, because I also want you to learn this truth: pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.  In this episode, we’re focusing on the elephant—otherwise known as our deep, inner wisdom and compassion. I go into a little more depth about how the Facts of Life explain the cause of our suffering, and also how they teach us to set ourselves free. I also expand briefly on the fourth Fact of Life, the principles of the Eightfold Path, and the ways we can use the Path to cultivate and improve our lives. Join me and learn how to begin applying these teachings so you can live in grace and suffer less, even in your most painful moments.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you apply the Four Facts of Life to your own life, you will suffer less, have more contentment, and a more open heart. (05:25) The first Fact of Life: Everything changes—sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, and sometimes it doesn’t affect us at all.  (06:03) The second Fact of Life: When we resist the truth of change, we suffer. (09:04) The third Fact of Life: If you don’t want to suffer—Let. It. Go! (14:18) The fourth Fact of Life is a path that everyone can follow in order to live a happier, more understanding, more compassionate life. (22:21) Your weekly LoveByte (28:30)   Q&A: How can I avoid suffering? Suffering is optional. To avoid it, stop resisting change and learn to embrace it.  How can I live a happier life? Let go of your desire to change reality.  How can I learn to live a more fulfilling life? Follow the principles of the Eightfold Path and apply them to your current situation.   Resources Mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Why is it so much easier to become happy than to stay happy? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a set of teachings, specifically designed to apply to our own lives in times of pain and suffering? Some rules to live by that could guide us to a happier, more fulfilled, less troubled life? If these questions feel like opening a giant can of worms—that’s the point! 


Today, I talk about Buddhism’s Four Facts of Life (AKA the Four Noble Truths) and how we can apply them to our hectic, modern world. The great thing about these simple but life-changing teachings is that all of us can apply them to our lives—even without following a specific faith. I can say, in all honesty, that these are the four most important facts of life you’re ever going to know—so, my darlings, listen up...


By exploring the Four Facts of Life, we can acknowledge that our suffering comes from wanting to change reality, and then—here’s the really important part—we can let go of wanting reality to change. It’s up to US how we react to the crappy things in life. Happiness is an inside job. If this all sounds like a little too much to ask, stay with me, because I also want you to learn this truth: pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. 


In this episode, we’re focusing on the elephant—otherwise known as our deep, inner wisdom and compassion. I go into a little more depth about how the Facts of Life explain the cause of our suffering, and also how they teach us to set ourselves free. I also expand briefly on the fourth Fact of Life, the principles of the Eightfold Path, and the ways we can use the Path to cultivate and improve our lives. Join me and learn how to begin applying these teachings so you can live in grace and suffer less, even in your most painful moments. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • If you apply the Four Facts of Life to your own life, you will suffer less, have more contentment, and a more open heart. (05:25)
  • The first Fact of Life: Everything changes—sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, and sometimes it doesn’t affect us at all.  (06:03)
  • The second Fact of Life: When we resist the truth of change, we suffer. (09:04)
  • The third Fact of Life: If you don’t want to suffer—Let. It. Go! (14:18)
  • The fourth Fact of Life is a path that everyone can follow in order to live a happier, more understanding, more compassionate life. (22:21)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (28:30)

 


Q&A:

  • How can I avoid suffering? Suffering is optional. To avoid it, stop resisting change and learn to embrace it. 
  • How can I live a happier life? Let go of your desire to change reality. 
  • How can I learn to live a more fulfilling life? Follow the principles of the Eightfold Path and apply them to your current situation.  



Resources Mentioned:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1859 no An Aspiration a Day keeps the Divorce Lawyer Away https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/an-aspiration-a-day-keeps-the-divorce-lawyer-away “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We MEAN to be more romantic, caring, sexy, or fun...but then we forget.  Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s get real - you need some help turning what you think you could, should, or will do for your partner into relationship results.  Welcome to the Mindful Loving Daily Aspiration technique. I created this love hack together with my partner. This powerful tool draws from our own efforts to create an exceptional relationship, as well as Buddhist teachings.  In Buddhism, Right Intention is an important step toward taking Right Action. In other words: intention is when we look at the nature of things and decide what matters most to us. By viewing our love relationships through this lens, we can set intentions like being a better listener, making love more often, being nicer to one another, or even restoring joy and playfulness to our time with our sweetheart.  In this episode, I talk about how to avoid what I call “Marriage Incorporated”—that feeling of “I love you but I’m not “In Love” with you anymore”. I show you how to get off that road of good intentions and take a right hand turn onto the bridge of aspiration. By creating a bridge between intention and action, you can start walking the talk and creating love that lasts a lifetime...instead of just waiting for it to happen. Join me as I break down some examples of the sort of sexy, romantic, and completely doable aspirations that you and your honey can start to set in just 5 minutes a day... as early as tomorrow morning!   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Knowledge gives us the tools, the ideas, the structures… but the power is in taking action. (5:00) Setting mindful love intentions will improve your relationship. (08:40) Why my husband and I set a daily love aspiration—and you can use the tool in your own relationship. (12:09) Scheduled sex is a realistic, achievable goal - if you want a great sex life. (17:37) Great couples are not an accident. It takes effort and energy to create the love you desire.. (21:36) If you don't set cues to help you turn your aspiration into action, you'll tend to fail.  Yup, the road to hell… (24:53) Your weekly LoveByte (27:17)   Q&A: How can I improve my flagging relationship? Set clear love intentions so you can take a conscious step toward better relationship skills.  What can I do to make my partner feel more important and loved? By making an effort to DO something that makes them feel special each and every day. Setting loving aspirations is a perfect tool.  How can I succeed at turning my best intentions into actual action steps? To succeed at something you want to do, it’s important to use clear cues to help yourself execute and take it into action. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 21 Jun 2021 09:00:54 -0000 An Aspiration a Day keeps the Divorce Lawyer Away full 6 Cheryl Fraser <p>“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We MEAN to be more romantic, caring, sexy, or fun...but then we forget.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s get real - you need some help turning what you think you could, should, or will do for your partner into relationship results.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Welcome to the Mindful Loving Daily Aspiration technique. I created this love hack together with my partner. This powerful tool draws from our own efforts to create an exceptional relationship, as well as Buddhist teachings.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In Buddhism, Right Intention is an important step toward taking Right Action. In other words: intention is when we look at the nature of things and decide what matters most to us. By viewing our love relationships through this lens, we can set intentions like being a better listener, making love more often, being nicer to one another, or even restoring joy and playfulness to our time with our sweetheart.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I talk about how to avoid what I call “Marriage Incorporated”—that feeling of “I love you but I’m not “<em>In Love</em>” with you anymore”. I show you how to get off that road of good intentions and take a right hand turn onto the bridge of aspiration. By creating a bridge between intention and action, you can start walking the talk and creating love that lasts a lifetime...instead of just waiting for it to happen. Join me as I break down some examples of the sort of sexy, romantic, and completely doable aspirations that you and your honey can start to set in just 5 minutes a day... as early as tomorrow morning!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Knowledge gives us the tools, the ideas, the structures… but the power is in taking action. (5:00)</li><li>Setting mindful love intentions will improve your relationship. (08:40)</li><li>Why my husband and I set a daily love aspiration—and you can use the tool in your own relationship. (12:09)</li><li>Scheduled sex is a realistic, achievable goal - if you want a great sex life. (17:37)</li><li>Great couples are not an accident. It takes effort and energy to create the love you desire.. (21:36)</li><li>If you don't set cues to help you turn your aspiration into action, you'll tend to fail.&nbsp; Yup, the road to hell… (24:53)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (27:17)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><br><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can I improve my flagging relationship? Set clear love intentions <em>so you can take a conscious step toward better relationship skills.&nbsp;</em></li><li>What can I do to make my partner feel more important and loved? <em>By making an effort to DO something that makes them feel special each and every day. Setting loving aspirations is a perfect tool.&nbsp;</em></li><li>How can I succeed at turning my best intentions into actual action steps? <em>To succeed at something you want to do, it’s important to use clear cues to help yourself execute and take it into action.</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We MEAN to be more romantic, caring, sexy, or fun...but then we forget.  Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s get real - you need some help turning what you think you could, should, or will do for your partner into relationship results.  Welcome to the Mindful Loving Daily Aspiration technique. I created this love hack together with my partner. This powerful tool draws from our own efforts to create an exceptional relationship, as well as Buddhist teachings.  In Buddhism, Right Intention is an important step toward taking Right Action. In other words: intention is when we look at the nature of things and decide what matters most to us. By viewing our love relationships through this lens, we can set intentions like being a better listener, making love more often, being nicer to one another, or even restoring joy and playfulness to our time with our sweetheart.  In this episode, I talk about how to avoid what I call “Marriage Incorporated”—that feeling of “I love you but I’m not “In Love” with you anymore”. I show you how to get off that road of good intentions and take a right hand turn onto the bridge of aspiration. By creating a bridge between intention and action, you can start walking the talk and creating love that lasts a lifetime...instead of just waiting for it to happen. Join me as I break down some examples of the sort of sexy, romantic, and completely doable aspirations that you and your honey can start to set in just 5 minutes a day... as early as tomorrow morning!   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Knowledge gives us the tools, the ideas, the structures… but the power is in taking action. (5:00) Setting mindful love intentions will improve your relationship. (08:40) Why my husband and I set a daily love aspiration—and you can use the tool in your own relationship. (12:09) Scheduled sex is a realistic, achievable goal - if you want a great sex life. (17:37) Great couples are not an accident. It takes effort and energy to create the love you desire.. (21:36) If you don't set cues to help you turn your aspiration into action, you'll tend to fail.  Yup, the road to hell… (24:53) Your weekly LoveByte (27:17)   Q&A: How can I improve my flagging relationship? Set clear love intentions so you can take a conscious step toward better relationship skills.  What can I do to make my partner feel more important and loved? By making an effort to DO something that makes them feel special each and every day. Setting loving aspirations is a perfect tool.  How can I succeed at turning my best intentions into actual action steps? To succeed at something you want to do, it’s important to use clear cues to help yourself execute and take it into action. Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We MEAN to be more romantic, caring, sexy, or fun...but then we forget. 


Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s get real - you need some help turning what you think you could, should, or will do for your partner into relationship results. 


Welcome to the Mindful Loving Daily Aspiration technique. I created this love hack together with my partner. This powerful tool draws from our own efforts to create an exceptional relationship, as well as Buddhist teachings. 


In Buddhism, Right Intention is an important step toward taking Right Action. In other words: intention is when we look at the nature of things and decide what matters most to us. By viewing our love relationships through this lens, we can set intentions like being a better listener, making love more often, being nicer to one another, or even restoring joy and playfulness to our time with our sweetheart. 


In this episode, I talk about how to avoid what I call “Marriage Incorporated”—that feeling of “I love you but I’m not “In Love” with you anymore”. I show you how to get off that road of good intentions and take a right hand turn onto the bridge of aspiration. By creating a bridge between intention and action, you can start walking the talk and creating love that lasts a lifetime...instead of just waiting for it to happen. Join me as I break down some examples of the sort of sexy, romantic, and completely doable aspirations that you and your honey can start to set in just 5 minutes a day... as early as tomorrow morning!

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Knowledge gives us the tools, the ideas, the structures… but the power is in taking action. (5:00)
  • Setting mindful love intentions will improve your relationship. (08:40)
  • Why my husband and I set a daily love aspiration—and you can use the tool in your own relationship. (12:09)
  • Scheduled sex is a realistic, achievable goal - if you want a great sex life. (17:37)
  • Great couples are not an accident. It takes effort and energy to create the love you desire.. (21:36)
  • If you don't set cues to help you turn your aspiration into action, you'll tend to fail.  Yup, the road to hell… (24:53)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (27:17)

 


Q&A:

  • How can I improve my flagging relationship? Set clear love intentions so you can take a conscious step toward better relationship skills. 
  • What can I do to make my partner feel more important and loved? By making an effort to DO something that makes them feel special each and every day. Setting loving aspirations is a perfect tool. 
  • How can I succeed at turning my best intentions into actual action steps? To succeed at something you want to do, it’s important to use clear cues to help yourself execute and take it into action.


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1780 no Love & Anxiety in the Age of COVID https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/love-anxiety-in-the-age-of-covid Ever been told, “You need to calm down”? One of the most complicated parts of an anxiety disorder is having a sweetheart, best friend, or boss that just does not get it.  We’re all painfully aware of the physical toll the COVID-19 pandemic has taken on us over the last 15 months, but we also have to acknowledge the mental toll we’ve suffered. There are actually two pandemics working in tandem: one is viral, the other is anxiety and emotional suffering.  Today, I talk about how the pandemic has affected not just our physical health, but our mental health, too. I’ll explain what exactly anxiety is, how we experience it in our bodies and in our minds, and what we can do about it. I’ve suffered from anxiety myself, and I know exactly how nasty it can get. We’ll take a look at how we can approach the issue from a Buddhist perspective and incorporate some valuable psychological teachings, as well.  In this episode, I talk about how we’re descended from anxious cave people! The instincts that once kept us alive now manifest as catastrophizing - in other words, we freak out AS IF we are in mortal danger. I discuss how the body can’t separate fact from fiction, and how knowing this is your super power to start helping yourself calm your mind. Learn to accept that anxiety isn’t something you do to yourself for fun, that the pain is real, and how to separate the story from the reality...so you can manage your mind and live your best life.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: An anxiety disorder is a pattern of anxiety that interferes with daily life (03:17) Telling someone with anxiety to “just relax” is one of the worst things you can do (08:12) How our genes evolved to use anxiety as a means to survive (10:30) The body believes everything the brain tells it  - So change your brain! (13:58) That you can rewrite the story your anxiety is telling you (18:58) It takes the body much less time to become anxious than it does to come down from it (24:53) Your weekly LoveByte (26:37) Q&A: What are some physical symptoms of anxiety? Anxiety can present physically as the urge to evacuate bowels or bladder, stomach discomfort, body aches, headaches, chills, and sweating, just to name a few.  What are some psychological symptoms of anxiety? Mental symptoms of anxiety include pervasive worry over trivial issues as well as being unable to sleep.  Why do humans experience anxiety? Anxiety stems from the way humans evolved to think to ensure their survival millions of years ago.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Mon, 14 Jun 2021 09:00:02 -0000 Love & Anxiety in the Age of COVID full 5 Cheryl Fraser <p>Ever been told, “You need to calm down”? One of the most complicated parts of an anxiety disorder is having a sweetheart, best friend, or boss that just does<em> not </em>get it.&nbsp;</p><br><p>We’re all painfully aware of the physical toll the COVID-19 pandemic has taken on us over the last 15 months, but we also have to acknowledge the mental toll we’ve suffered. There are actually two pandemics working in tandem: one is viral, the other is anxiety and emotional suffering.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I talk about how the pandemic has affected not just our physical health, but our mental health, too. I’ll explain what exactly anxiety is, how we experience it in our bodies and in our minds, and what we can do about it. I’ve suffered from anxiety myself, and I know exactly how nasty it can get. We’ll take a look at how we can approach the issue from a Buddhist perspective and incorporate some valuable psychological teachings, as well.&nbsp;</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I talk about how we’re descended from anxious cave people! The instincts that once kept us alive now manifest as catastrophizing - in other words, we freak out AS IF we are in mortal danger. I discuss how the body can’t separate fact from fiction, and how knowing this is your super power to start helping yourself calm your mind. Learn to accept that anxiety isn’t something you do to yourself for fun, that the pain is real, and how to separate the story from the reality...so you can manage your mind and live your best life.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>An anxiety disorder is a pattern of anxiety that interferes with daily life (03:17)</li><li>Telling someone with anxiety to “just relax” is one of the worst things you can do (08:12)</li><li>How our genes evolved to use anxiety as a means to survive (10:30)</li><li>The body believes everything the brain tells it&nbsp; - So change your brain! (13:58)</li><li>That you can rewrite the story your anxiety is telling you (18:58)</li><li>It takes the body much less time to become anxious than it does to come down from it (24:53)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (26:37)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>What are some physical symptoms of anxiety? <em>Anxiety can present physically as the urge to evacuate bowels or bladder, stomach discomfort, body aches, headaches, chills, and sweating, just to name a few.&nbsp;</em></li><li>What are some psychological symptoms of anxiety? <em>Mental symptoms of anxiety include pervasive worry over trivial issues as well as being unable to sleep.&nbsp;</em></li><li>Why do humans experience anxiety? <em>Anxiety stems from the way humans evolved to think to ensure their survival millions of years ago.&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Ever been told, “You need to calm down”? One of the most complicated parts of an anxiety disorder is having a sweetheart, best friend, or boss that just does not get it.  We’re all painfully aware of the physical toll the COVID-19 pandemic has taken on us over the last 15 months, but we also have to acknowledge the mental toll we’ve suffered. There are actually two pandemics working in tandem: one is viral, the other is anxiety and emotional suffering.  Today, I talk about how the pandemic has affected not just our physical health, but our mental health, too. I’ll explain what exactly anxiety is, how we experience it in our bodies and in our minds, and what we can do about it. I’ve suffered from anxiety myself, and I know exactly how nasty it can get. We’ll take a look at how we can approach the issue from a Buddhist perspective and incorporate some valuable psychological teachings, as well.  In this episode, I talk about how we’re descended from anxious cave people! The instincts that once kept us alive now manifest as catastrophizing - in other words, we freak out AS IF we are in mortal danger. I discuss how the body can’t separate fact from fiction, and how knowing this is your super power to start helping yourself calm your mind. Learn to accept that anxiety isn’t something you do to yourself for fun, that the pain is real, and how to separate the story from the reality...so you can manage your mind and live your best life.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: An anxiety disorder is a pattern of anxiety that interferes with daily life (03:17) Telling someone with anxiety to “just relax” is one of the worst things you can do (08:12) How our genes evolved to use anxiety as a means to survive (10:30) The body believes everything the brain tells it  - So change your brain! (13:58) That you can rewrite the story your anxiety is telling you (18:58) It takes the body much less time to become anxious than it does to come down from it (24:53) Your weekly LoveByte (26:37) Q&A: What are some physical symptoms of anxiety? Anxiety can present physically as the urge to evacuate bowels or bladder, stomach discomfort, body aches, headaches, chills, and sweating, just to name a few.  What are some psychological symptoms of anxiety? Mental symptoms of anxiety include pervasive worry over trivial issues as well as being unable to sleep.  Why do humans experience anxiety? Anxiety stems from the way humans evolved to think to ensure their survival millions of years ago.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Ever been told, “You need to calm down”? One of the most complicated parts of an anxiety disorder is having a sweetheart, best friend, or boss that just does not get it. 


We’re all painfully aware of the physical toll the COVID-19 pandemic has taken on us over the last 15 months, but we also have to acknowledge the mental toll we’ve suffered. There are actually two pandemics working in tandem: one is viral, the other is anxiety and emotional suffering. 


Today, I talk about how the pandemic has affected not just our physical health, but our mental health, too. I’ll explain what exactly anxiety is, how we experience it in our bodies and in our minds, and what we can do about it. I’ve suffered from anxiety myself, and I know exactly how nasty it can get. We’ll take a look at how we can approach the issue from a Buddhist perspective and incorporate some valuable psychological teachings, as well. 


In this episode, I talk about how we’re descended from anxious cave people! The instincts that once kept us alive now manifest as catastrophizing - in other words, we freak out AS IF we are in mortal danger. I discuss how the body can’t separate fact from fiction, and how knowing this is your super power to start helping yourself calm your mind. Learn to accept that anxiety isn’t something you do to yourself for fun, that the pain is real, and how to separate the story from the reality...so you can manage your mind and live your best life.

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • An anxiety disorder is a pattern of anxiety that interferes with daily life (03:17)
  • Telling someone with anxiety to “just relax” is one of the worst things you can do (08:12)
  • How our genes evolved to use anxiety as a means to survive (10:30)
  • The body believes everything the brain tells it  - So change your brain! (13:58)
  • That you can rewrite the story your anxiety is telling you (18:58)
  • It takes the body much less time to become anxious than it does to come down from it (24:53)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (26:37)


Q&A:

  • What are some physical symptoms of anxiety? Anxiety can present physically as the urge to evacuate bowels or bladder, stomach discomfort, body aches, headaches, chills, and sweating, just to name a few. 
  • What are some psychological symptoms of anxiety? Mental symptoms of anxiety include pervasive worry over trivial issues as well as being unable to sleep. 
  • Why do humans experience anxiety? Anxiety stems from the way humans evolved to think to ensure their survival millions of years ago. 


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1737 no Soothe the Monkey Mind and Follow the Elephant https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/follow-the-elephant-soothe-the-monkey Have you ever felt like your mind has two modes? On the surface, there’s a tendency for a lot of us to be neurotic and impulsive and a little erratic. But if we dig deep down, it’s possible to find stability, contentment, and gratitude. If this all sounds familiar, then congratulations-- you’ve already met your monkey and your elephant.  The bad news? You’re giving your monkey way too much attention. Of course, in the Western world, it’s the way many of us have been conditioned to think: bigger, prettier, richer, more. The good news? The elephant is patiently, gently, compassionately waiting for you to discover it, even if you don’t realize it's already there.  Today, I talk about the grief, pain, and rage the monkey feels when things don't go our way - whether that is heartbreak or a nasty work client. I explain how the monkey feeds us big dramatic stories...and how, if we don't pay attention, those horror stories become our version of reality. We’ll take a look at how the elephant handles everything from the pain of a breakup to an inconvenience with grace, confidence, and kindness. In this episode, I use some ancient—and not so ancient—teachings to explain the monkey/elephant mind duality and explore how to maintain placidity in the face of turmoil. Learn why giving in to anxious, doubting questions is the perfect spark to put your monkey into hyperdrive, and how the elephant forces you to hit the brakes and rest easily, right where you are.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: Don’t let your monkey run your life (02:22) The slow, gentle elephant’s path to contentment (05:48) How the monkey chooses the clouds and forgets the sun (09:05) Liberate yourself from the crazy stories - consider the worst-case scenario (15:33) The difference between actual reality and the story you’ve written (19:14) The elephant has all the answers - be still and listen (28:04) Your weekly LoveByte (30:20) Q&A: How can I deal with heartbreak and loss? The decision is totally up to you - you cannot change reality but you can choose how to deal with reality What is monkey mind and what is the elephant? The monkey is your anxious, egotistical mind. The elephant is your innate wisdom and compassion. How do I quiet my mind? Slow down, show up, give your monkey mind love and grace, and don’t listen to its nonsense. X Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Tue, 25 May 2021 09:00:48 -0000 Soothe the Monkey Mind and Follow the Elephant full 4 Cheryl Fraser <p>Have you ever felt like your mind has two modes? On the surface, there’s a tendency for a lot of us to be neurotic and impulsive and a little erratic. But if we dig deep down, it’s possible to find stability, contentment, and gratitude. If this all sounds familiar, then congratulations-- you’ve already met your monkey and your elephant.&nbsp;</p><br><p>The bad news? You’re giving your monkey way too much attention. Of course, in the Western world, it’s the way many of us have been conditioned to think: bigger, prettier, richer, <em>more</em>. The good news? The elephant is patiently, gently, compassionately waiting for you to discover it, even if you don’t realize it's already there.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I talk about the grief, pain, and rage the monkey feels when things don't go our way - whether that is heartbreak or a nasty work client. I explain how the monkey feeds us big dramatic stories...and how, if we don't pay attention, those horror stories become our version of reality. We’ll take a look at how the elephant handles everything from the pain of a breakup to an inconvenience with grace, confidence, and kindness.</p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I use some ancient—and not so ancient—teachings to explain the monkey/elephant mind duality and explore how to maintain placidity in the face of turmoil. Learn why giving in to anxious, doubting questions is the perfect spark to put your monkey into hyperdrive, and how the elephant forces you to hit the brakes and rest easily, right where you are.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>Don’t let your monkey run your life (02:22)</li><li>The slow, gentle elephant’s path to contentment (05:48)</li><li>How the monkey chooses the clouds and forgets the sun (09:05)</li><li>Liberate yourself from the crazy stories - consider the worst-case scenario (15:33)</li><li>The difference between <em>actual reality</em> and the story you’ve written (19:14)</li><li>The elephant has all the answers - be still and listen (28:04)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (30:20)</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>How can I deal with heartbreak and loss? <em>The decision is totally up to you - you cannot change reality but you can choose how to deal with reality</em></li><li>What is monkey mind and what is the elephant? <em>The monkey is your anxious, egotistical mind. The elephant is your innate wisdom and compassion.</em></li><li>How do I quiet my mind? <em>Slow down, show up, give your monkey mind love and grace, and </em><strong><em>don’t listen to its nonsense</em></strong><em>. X</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources Mentioned in this Episode:</strong></p><ul><li>Book:<a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/buddhasbedroom/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> <em>Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser</em></a><em> PhD</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Have you ever felt like your mind has two modes? On the surface, there’s a tendency for a lot of us to be neurotic and impulsive and a little erratic. But if we dig deep down, it’s possible to find stability, contentment, and gratitude. If this all sounds familiar, then congratulations-- you’ve already met your monkey and your elephant.  The bad news? You’re giving your monkey way too much attention. Of course, in the Western world, it’s the way many of us have been conditioned to think: bigger, prettier, richer, more. The good news? The elephant is patiently, gently, compassionately waiting for you to discover it, even if you don’t realize it's already there.  Today, I talk about the grief, pain, and rage the monkey feels when things don't go our way - whether that is heartbreak or a nasty work client. I explain how the monkey feeds us big dramatic stories...and how, if we don't pay attention, those horror stories become our version of reality. We’ll take a look at how the elephant handles everything from the pain of a breakup to an inconvenience with grace, confidence, and kindness. In this episode, I use some ancient—and not so ancient—teachings to explain the monkey/elephant mind duality and explore how to maintain placidity in the face of turmoil. Learn why giving in to anxious, doubting questions is the perfect spark to put your monkey into hyperdrive, and how the elephant forces you to hit the brakes and rest easily, right where you are.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: Don’t let your monkey run your life (02:22) The slow, gentle elephant’s path to contentment (05:48) How the monkey chooses the clouds and forgets the sun (09:05) Liberate yourself from the crazy stories - consider the worst-case scenario (15:33) The difference between actual reality and the story you’ve written (19:14) The elephant has all the answers - be still and listen (28:04) Your weekly LoveByte (30:20) Q&A: How can I deal with heartbreak and loss? The decision is totally up to you - you cannot change reality but you can choose how to deal with reality What is monkey mind and what is the elephant? The monkey is your anxious, egotistical mind. The elephant is your innate wisdom and compassion. How do I quiet my mind? Slow down, show up, give your monkey mind love and grace, and don’t listen to its nonsense. X Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Have you ever felt like your mind has two modes? On the surface, there’s a tendency for a lot of us to be neurotic and impulsive and a little erratic. But if we dig deep down, it’s possible to find stability, contentment, and gratitude. If this all sounds familiar, then congratulations-- you’ve already met your monkey and your elephant. 


The bad news? You’re giving your monkey way too much attention. Of course, in the Western world, it’s the way many of us have been conditioned to think: bigger, prettier, richer, more. The good news? The elephant is patiently, gently, compassionately waiting for you to discover it, even if you don’t realize it's already there. 


Today, I talk about the grief, pain, and rage the monkey feels when things don't go our way - whether that is heartbreak or a nasty work client. I explain how the monkey feeds us big dramatic stories...and how, if we don't pay attention, those horror stories become our version of reality. We’ll take a look at how the elephant handles everything from the pain of a breakup to an inconvenience with grace, confidence, and kindness.


In this episode, I use some ancient—and not so ancient—teachings to explain the monkey/elephant mind duality and explore how to maintain placidity in the face of turmoil. Learn why giving in to anxious, doubting questions is the perfect spark to put your monkey into hyperdrive, and how the elephant forces you to hit the brakes and rest easily, right where you are. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Don’t let your monkey run your life (02:22)
  • The slow, gentle elephant’s path to contentment (05:48)
  • How the monkey chooses the clouds and forgets the sun (09:05)
  • Liberate yourself from the crazy stories - consider the worst-case scenario (15:33)
  • The difference between actual reality and the story you’ve written (19:14)
  • The elephant has all the answers - be still and listen (28:04)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (30:20)


Q&A:

  • How can I deal with heartbreak and loss? The decision is totally up to you - you cannot change reality but you can choose how to deal with reality
  • What is monkey mind and what is the elephant? The monkey is your anxious, egotistical mind. The elephant is your innate wisdom and compassion.
  • How do I quiet my mind? Slow down, show up, give your monkey mind love and grace, and don’t listen to its nonsense. X


Resources Mentioned in this Episode:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1959 no You are Married to the Wrong Person… if you expect them to make you happy https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/you-are-married-to-the-wrong-person-if-you-expect-them-to-ma We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this in our intelligent adult brains, are we still waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet and keep us Happy Ever After?  Are you in love with falling in love? If you’re perpetually seeking “the one”, you’re looking for your fictional soulmate, not a real person. You read that right. You need to kill your soulmate if you want to be happy.  Today, I’m talking about what happens after you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling. Unlike what we might’ve learned from pop music or romcoms, a sense of complacency-- and maybe even boredom-- in a relationship doesn’t have to be its death knell. We’re exploring the life changing realization that your unhappiness in love may not be because of your partner, but because of you.  In this episode, I talk about how Walt Disney was wrong when he made us think that our happiness is our sweetheart’s job. I point out that your partner is not psychic and why the key to relationship bliss is to change your mind, not your mate. Most importantly, we’ll talk about what to do when that roller coaster of lust pulls into the station and the ride ends, and what you can do to create thrill and fun with the one you are already with.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: You. Are. Normal.  (03:32) How my husband’s brush with death served as my wake up call (04:07) Why I’m calling Disney out for the “Happily Ever After” myth (08:32) Change your mind, not your mate (09:17) Marital misery in action (10:23) Why your unhappiness is your fault...and what to do about it (13:05) Kill the soulmate, save the relationship (15:50) The Soulmate and the Doubt Worm (18:40) “Why” affairs happen - because we all know “how” (23:02) Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)   Q&A: What causes marital misery? Your partner not catering to your every want or whim Why is the soulmate myth dangerous? Because it creates unachievable expectations for your partner What’s the number one cause of sexual or romantic affairs in a committed relationship? Feeling bored with your relationship and longing for passion and excitement  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Bio Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Tue, 18 May 2021 07:55:44 -0000 You are Married to the Wrong Person… if you expect them to make you happy full 3 Cheryl Fraser <p>We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this in our intelligent adult brains, are we still waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet and keep us Happy Ever After?&nbsp;</p><br><p>Are you in love with falling in love? If you’re perpetually seeking “the one”, you’re looking for your fictional soulmate, not a real person. You read that right. You need to kill your soulmate if you want to be happy.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, I’m talking about what happens <em>after </em>you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling. Unlike what we might’ve learned from pop music or romcoms, a sense of complacency-- and maybe even boredom-- in a relationship doesn’t have to be its death knell. We’re exploring the life changing realization that your unhappiness in love may not be because of your partner, but because of <em>you.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I talk about how Walt Disney was wrong when he made us think that our happiness is our sweetheart’s job. I point out that your partner is not psychic and why the key to relationship bliss is to change your <em>mind</em>, not your <em>mate</em>. Most importantly, we’ll talk about what to do when that roller coaster of lust pulls into the station and the ride ends, and what you can do to create thrill and fun with the one you are already with.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>You. Are. Normal.&nbsp; (03:32)</li><li>How my husband’s brush with death served as my wake up call (04:07)</li><li>Why I’m calling Disney out for the “Happily Ever After” myth (08:32)</li><li>Change your mind, not your mate (09:17)</li><li>Marital misery in action (10:23)</li><li>Why your unhappiness is your fault...and what to do about it (13:05)</li><li>Kill the soulmate, save the relationship (15:50)</li><li>The Soulmate and the Doubt Worm (18:40)</li><li>“Why” affairs happen - because we all know “how” (23:02)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Q&amp;A:</strong></p><ul><li>What causes marital misery? <em>Your partner not catering to your every want or whim</em></li><li>Why is the soulmate myth dangerous? <em>Because it creates unachievable expectations for your partner</em></li><li>What’s the number one cause of sexual or romantic affairs in a committed relationship? <em>Feeling bored with your relationship and longing for passion and excitement&nbsp;</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources Mentioned in this Episode:</strong></p><ul><li>Book:<a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/buddhasbedroom/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> <em>Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser</em></a><em> PhD</em></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bio</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this in our intelligent adult brains, are we still waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet and keep us Happy Ever After?  Are you in love with falling in love? If you’re perpetually seeking “the one”, you’re looking for your fictional soulmate, not a real person. You read that right. You need to kill your soulmate if you want to be happy.  Today, I’m talking about what happens after you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling. Unlike what we might’ve learned from pop music or romcoms, a sense of complacency-- and maybe even boredom-- in a relationship doesn’t have to be its death knell. We’re exploring the life changing realization that your unhappiness in love may not be because of your partner, but because of you.  In this episode, I talk about how Walt Disney was wrong when he made us think that our happiness is our sweetheart’s job. I point out that your partner is not psychic and why the key to relationship bliss is to change your mind, not your mate. Most importantly, we’ll talk about what to do when that roller coaster of lust pulls into the station and the ride ends, and what you can do to create thrill and fun with the one you are already with.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: You. Are. Normal.  (03:32) How my husband’s brush with death served as my wake up call (04:07) Why I’m calling Disney out for the “Happily Ever After” myth (08:32) Change your mind, not your mate (09:17) Marital misery in action (10:23) Why your unhappiness is your fault...and what to do about it (13:05) Kill the soulmate, save the relationship (15:50) The Soulmate and the Doubt Worm (18:40) “Why” affairs happen - because we all know “how” (23:02) Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)   Q&A: What causes marital misery? Your partner not catering to your every want or whim Why is the soulmate myth dangerous? Because it creates unachievable expectations for your partner What’s the number one cause of sexual or romantic affairs in a committed relationship? Feeling bored with your relationship and longing for passion and excitement  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Bio Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this in our intelligent adult brains, are we still waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet and keep us Happy Ever After? 


Are you in love with falling in love? If you’re perpetually seeking “the one”, you’re looking for your fictional soulmate, not a real person. You read that right. You need to kill your soulmate if you want to be happy. 


Today, I’m talking about what happens after you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling. Unlike what we might’ve learned from pop music or romcoms, a sense of complacency-- and maybe even boredom-- in a relationship doesn’t have to be its death knell. We’re exploring the life changing realization that your unhappiness in love may not be because of your partner, but because of you. 


In this episode, I talk about how Walt Disney was wrong when he made us think that our happiness is our sweetheart’s job. I point out that your partner is not psychic and why the key to relationship bliss is to change your mind, not your mate. Most importantly, we’ll talk about what to do when that roller coaster of lust pulls into the station and the ride ends, and what you can do to create thrill and fun with the one you are already with. 

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • You. Are. Normal.  (03:32)
  • How my husband’s brush with death served as my wake up call (04:07)
  • Why I’m calling Disney out for the “Happily Ever After” myth (08:32)
  • Change your mind, not your mate (09:17)
  • Marital misery in action (10:23)
  • Why your unhappiness is your fault...and what to do about it (13:05)
  • Kill the soulmate, save the relationship (15:50)
  • The Soulmate and the Doubt Worm (18:40)
  • “Why” affairs happen - because we all know “how” (23:02)
  • Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)

 

Q&A:

  • What causes marital misery? Your partner not catering to your every want or whim
  • Why is the soulmate myth dangerous? Because it creates unachievable expectations for your partner
  • What’s the number one cause of sexual or romantic affairs in a committed relationship? Feeling bored with your relationship and longing for passion and excitement 


Resources Mentioned in this Episode:


Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> 1749 no Your Sex Drive and the Rollercoaster of Lust: Myths Busted :) https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/your-sex-drive-and-the-rollercoaster-of-lust-myths-busted So, you’re in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn’t keep your tongues out of each other’s mouths and your hands off of each other’s bodies, right? These days, do you ever find yourself laying in bed next to your snoring spouse and wondering “Where did the passion go?”  Today, we’re going to bust two major myths about long-term lust and love. Because despite what the romantic comedies say, think like that in terms of your sex life, your relationship, and how we just aren’t built to stay crazy in lust forever.   Here’s the thing: life includes a lot of stages, and falling in love is only one of them. After dating comes real life, along with careers, mortgages, babies, aging… It's a pretty wild ride. And the bedroom is only one part of it.  But there is a bright side. I have a plan to help you reignite your erotic relationship, even after those perpetual googly eyes have left the building. :)    In this episode, I answer a question from a couple in my online immersion program who are super worried that their relationship didn't stay in the Rip-Each-Other’s-Clothes-Off stage forever. You’ll learn why scheduling sex is not unsexy and why exceptional couples plan for passion. Most importantly, I talk about how the natural evolution of long-term relationships is to lose spontaneous desire, so you and your partner are NOT broken. Good news - there is a second type of desire - and you can learn to master it.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: The three most important words I will ever say to you about love and sex (01:40) Jose and Talisha’s question-- and why their “desire problem” is completely NORMAL (03:05) I bust the myth of the human “sex drive” (05:14) The biochemical cocktail behind spontaneous desire-- AKA why lust can't last (06:58) A prehistoric love story of lust, romance and… commitment? (12:04) Lack of spontaneous sex ≠ A broken relationship (14:32) To the rescue! Responsive Desire-- and how to use it (15:30) The surprising definition of a “sexless” relationship (18:33) Adding sex as an item on your calendar-- and why that’s NOT a bad thing (20:42)   A little wisdom in the form of this week’s LoveByte (25:39)   People Mentioned in this Episode: Tony Robbins Jack Canfield Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Book: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life By Emily Nagoski Article about Lust and Love Myths   Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Bio Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Tue, 18 May 2021 07:50:13 -0000 Your Sex Drive and the Rollercoaster of Lust: Myths Busted :) full 2 Cheryl Fraser <p>So, you’re in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn’t keep your tongues out of each other’s mouths and your hands off of each other’s bodies, right? These days, do you ever find yourself laying in bed next to your snoring spouse and wondering “Where did the passion go?”&nbsp;</p><br><p>Today, we’re going to bust two major myths about long-term lust and love. Because despite what the romantic comedies say, think like that in terms of your sex life, your relationship, and how <em>we just aren’t built </em>to stay crazy in lust forever.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>Here’s the thing: life includes a lot of stages, and falling in love is only one of them. After dating comes real life, along with careers, mortgages, babies, aging… It's a pretty wild ride. And the bedroom is only one part of it.&nbsp;</p><br><p>But there is a bright side. I have a plan to help you reignite your erotic relationship, even after those perpetual googly eyes have left the building. :)&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I answer a question from a couple in my online immersion program who are super worried that their relationship didn't stay in the Rip-Each-Other’s-Clothes-Off stage forever. You’ll learn why scheduling sex is<em> not</em><strong><em> </em></strong>unsexy and why exceptional couples plan for passion. Most importantly, I talk about how the natural evolution of long-term relationships is to lose spontaneous desire, so you and your partner are NOT broken. Good news - there is a <em>second type of desire - </em>and you can learn to master it.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>The<em> three</em> most important words I will ever say to you about love and sex (01:40)</li><li>Jose and Talisha’s question-- and why their “desire problem” is completely NORMAL (03:05)</li><li>I bust the myth of the human “sex drive” (05:14)</li><li>The biochemical cocktail behind spontaneous desire-- AKA why lust can't last (06:58)</li><li>A prehistoric love story of lust, romance and… commitment? (12:04)</li><li>Lack of spontaneous sex ≠ A broken relationship (14:32)</li><li>To the rescue! Responsive Desire-- and how to use it (15:30)</li><li>The <em>surprising</em> definition of a “sexless” relationship (18:33)</li><li>Adding sex as an item on your calendar-- and why that’s NOT a bad thing (20:42)&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li>A little wisdom in the form of this week’s LoveByte (25:39)</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>People Mentioned in this Episode:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.tonyrobbins.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tony Robbins</a></li><li><a href="https://www.jackcanfield.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Jack Canfield</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources Mentioned in this Episode:</strong></p><ul><li>Book:<a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/buddhasbedroom/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> <em>Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser</em></a><em> PhD</em></li><li>Book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life By Emily Nagoski</em></a></li><li><a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-top-myths-about-lust-and-love-and-how-they-can-ruin-your-sex-life-part-one/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Article about Lust and Love Myths</a></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bio</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> So, you’re in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn’t keep your tongues out of each other’s mouths and your hands off of each other’s bodies, right? These days, do you ever find yourself laying in bed next to your snoring spouse and wondering “Where did the passion go?”  Today, we’re going to bust two major myths about long-term lust and love. Because despite what the romantic comedies say, think like that in terms of your sex life, your relationship, and how we just aren’t built to stay crazy in lust forever.   Here’s the thing: life includes a lot of stages, and falling in love is only one of them. After dating comes real life, along with careers, mortgages, babies, aging… It's a pretty wild ride. And the bedroom is only one part of it.  But there is a bright side. I have a plan to help you reignite your erotic relationship, even after those perpetual googly eyes have left the building. :)    In this episode, I answer a question from a couple in my online immersion program who are super worried that their relationship didn't stay in the Rip-Each-Other’s-Clothes-Off stage forever. You’ll learn why scheduling sex is not unsexy and why exceptional couples plan for passion. Most importantly, I talk about how the natural evolution of long-term relationships is to lose spontaneous desire, so you and your partner are NOT broken. Good news - there is a second type of desire - and you can learn to master it.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: The three most important words I will ever say to you about love and sex (01:40) Jose and Talisha’s question-- and why their “desire problem” is completely NORMAL (03:05) I bust the myth of the human “sex drive” (05:14) The biochemical cocktail behind spontaneous desire-- AKA why lust can't last (06:58) A prehistoric love story of lust, romance and… commitment? (12:04) Lack of spontaneous sex ≠ A broken relationship (14:32) To the rescue! Responsive Desire-- and how to use it (15:30) The surprising definition of a “sexless” relationship (18:33) Adding sex as an item on your calendar-- and why that’s NOT a bad thing (20:42)   A little wisdom in the form of this week’s LoveByte (25:39)   People Mentioned in this Episode: Tony Robbins Jack Canfield Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Book: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life By Emily Nagoski Article about Lust and Love Myths   Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Bio Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. So, you’re in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn’t keep your tongues out of each other’s mouths and your hands off of each other’s bodies, right? These days, do you ever find yourself laying in bed next to your snoring spouse and wondering “Where did the passion go?” 


Today, we’re going to bust two major myths about long-term lust and love. Because despite what the romantic comedies say, think like that in terms of your sex life, your relationship, and how we just aren’t built to stay crazy in lust forever.  


Here’s the thing: life includes a lot of stages, and falling in love is only one of them. After dating comes real life, along with careers, mortgages, babies, aging… It's a pretty wild ride. And the bedroom is only one part of it. 


But there is a bright side. I have a plan to help you reignite your erotic relationship, even after those perpetual googly eyes have left the building. :) 

 

In this episode, I answer a question from a couple in my online immersion program who are super worried that their relationship didn't stay in the Rip-Each-Other’s-Clothes-Off stage forever. You’ll learn why scheduling sex is not unsexy and why exceptional couples plan for passion. Most importantly, I talk about how the natural evolution of long-term relationships is to lose spontaneous desire, so you and your partner are NOT broken. Good news - there is a second type of desire - and you can learn to master it.

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • The three most important words I will ever say to you about love and sex (01:40)
  • Jose and Talisha’s question-- and why their “desire problem” is completely NORMAL (03:05)
  • I bust the myth of the human “sex drive” (05:14)
  • The biochemical cocktail behind spontaneous desire-- AKA why lust can't last (06:58)
  • A prehistoric love story of lust, romance and… commitment? (12:04)
  • Lack of spontaneous sex ≠ A broken relationship (14:32)
  • To the rescue! Responsive Desire-- and how to use it (15:30)
  • The surprising definition of a “sexless” relationship (18:33)
  • Adding sex as an item on your calendar-- and why that’s NOT a bad thing (20:42)  
  • A little wisdom in the form of this week’s LoveByte (25:39)

 

People Mentioned in this Episode:


Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Let’s Connect!


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]]> 1704 no Kill the Soulmate and Date your Elephant - Because Happiness is an Inside Job https://shows.acast.com/sex-love-elephants-with-dr-cheryl/episodes/kill-the-soulmate-and-date-your-elephant-because-happiness-i Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow?  Someone who seemed content, open hearted, and like they’ve figured out something you haven’t? Imagine walking up to that person and asking “What’s your secret?” and they reply “My Elephant!”  Hmm...you’d want to know more, right?   Think about what you’ve always believed would make your life fantastic - perhaps a winning lottery ticket, a wildly erotic sex life, an incredible soulmate, or your dream job. How’s that working out?  You used to think that external fortunes meant happiness, but deep down, you know there’s more to it. You understand that love, wealth, and even health cannot last forever. The good news? You CAN learn to be Happy for No Reason.    In this episode, I’ll introduce concepts and tools to challenge you to take responsibility for your mindstates and then to take action to uncover curiosity & happiness in every aspect of your life. Calling upon my experience in Buddhism, sexuality, couples therapy, and mental & physical health, we’ll explore the blocks and confusions that are keeping you from experiencing the joy and fullness of life, sex, and your own spirituality. Plus, I’ll tell you what Joey Ramone, a premenstrual monkey, and a sexy toothbrush have in common. If you are sick and tired of feeling like something is missing, and are ready for a breakthrough journey that’s irreverently fun, deeply revealing, occasionally uncomfortable, and always inspiring, join me as we stumble along the path to awakening, together.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: How the word “S-E-X” limits eroticism - Putting play into foreplay  (2:03) Love is a Hard Gig - Why “happily ever after” doesn’t work (4:02) Becoming the enlightened elephant in the room (8:19) We’re all just bozos on the bus - Wisdom from my ex (11:08) Why I ditched the beaten path and fled to India (PS - the spiritual path has cobras!) (16:12) Knowledge is not power  - Power is in taking action (20:06) Why insight into your patterns isn’t enough  - Freud was right! (23:18) Weird facts about me - punk rock, sex toys, and more (25:16) Your weekly LoveByte - The take-home message of this episode (27:24)     People Mentioned in this Episode: Tony Robbins Jack Canfield Esther Perel Trudy Goodman Sigmund Freud   Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD   Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship,  take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Tue, 27 Apr 2021 04:00:19 -0000 Kill the Soulmate and Date your Elephant - Because Happiness is an Inside Job full 1 Cheryl Fraser <p>Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow?&nbsp; Someone who seemed content, open hearted, and like they’ve figured out something you haven’t? Imagine walking up to that person and asking “What’s your secret?” and they reply “My Elephant!”&nbsp;</p><br><p>Hmm...you’d want to know more, right?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Think about what you’ve always believed would make your life fantastic - perhaps a winning lottery ticket, a wildly erotic sex life, an incredible soulmate, or your dream job. How’s that working out?&nbsp; You used to think that external fortunes meant happiness, but deep down, you know there’s more to it. You understand that love, wealth, and even health cannot last forever. The good news? You CAN learn to be Happy for No Reason.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>In this episode</strong>, I’ll introduce concepts and tools to challenge you to take responsibility for your mindstates and then to take action to uncover curiosity &amp; happiness in every aspect of your life. Calling upon my experience in Buddhism, sexuality, couples therapy, and mental &amp; physical health, we’ll explore the blocks and confusions that are keeping you from experiencing the joy and fullness of life, sex, and your own spirituality. Plus, I’ll tell you what Joey Ramone, a premenstrual monkey, and a sexy toothbrush have in common. If you are sick and tired of feeling like something is missing, and are ready for a breakthrough journey that’s irreverently fun, deeply revealing, occasionally uncomfortable, and always inspiring, join me as we stumble along the path to awakening, together.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>In This Episode, You Will Learn:</strong></p><ul><li>How the word “S-E-X” limits eroticism - Putting play into foreplay&nbsp; (2:03)</li><li>Love is a Hard Gig - Why “happily ever after” doesn’t work (4:02)</li><li>Becoming the enlightened elephant in the room (8:19)</li><li>We’re all just bozos on the bus - Wisdom from my ex (11:08)</li><li>Why I ditched the beaten path and fled to India (PS - the spiritual path has cobras!) (16:12)</li><li>Knowledge is not power&nbsp; - Power is in taking action (20:06)</li><li>Why insight into your patterns isn’t enough&nbsp; - Freud was right! (23:18)</li><li>Weird facts about me - punk rock, sex toys, and more (25:16)</li><li>Your weekly <em>LoveByte</em> - The take-home message of this episode (27:24)&nbsp;&nbsp;</li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>People Mentioned in this Episode:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://www.tonyrobbins.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tony Robbins</a></li><li><a href="https://www.jackcanfield.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Jack Canfield</a></li><li><a href="https://www.estherperel.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Esther Perel</a></li><li><a href="https://www.trudygoodman.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Trudy Goodman</a></li><li><a href="https://www.simplypsychology.org/Sigmund-Freud.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sigmund Freud</a></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Resources Mentioned in this Episode:</strong></p><ul><li>Book:<a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/buddhasbedroom/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> <em>Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser</em></a><em> PhD</em></li></ul><p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p><p><strong>Let’s Connect!</strong></p><ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship,&nbsp; take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p> Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow?  Someone who seemed content, open hearted, and like they’ve figured out something you haven’t? Imagine walking up to that person and asking “What’s your secret?” and they reply “My Elephant!”  Hmm...you’d want to know more, right?   Think about what you’ve always believed would make your life fantastic - perhaps a winning lottery ticket, a wildly erotic sex life, an incredible soulmate, or your dream job. How’s that working out?  You used to think that external fortunes meant happiness, but deep down, you know there’s more to it. You understand that love, wealth, and even health cannot last forever. The good news? You CAN learn to be Happy for No Reason.    In this episode, I’ll introduce concepts and tools to challenge you to take responsibility for your mindstates and then to take action to uncover curiosity & happiness in every aspect of your life. Calling upon my experience in Buddhism, sexuality, couples therapy, and mental & physical health, we’ll explore the blocks and confusions that are keeping you from experiencing the joy and fullness of life, sex, and your own spirituality. Plus, I’ll tell you what Joey Ramone, a premenstrual monkey, and a sexy toothbrush have in common. If you are sick and tired of feeling like something is missing, and are ready for a breakthrough journey that’s irreverently fun, deeply revealing, occasionally uncomfortable, and always inspiring, join me as we stumble along the path to awakening, together.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: How the word “S-E-X” limits eroticism - Putting play into foreplay  (2:03) Love is a Hard Gig - Why “happily ever after” doesn’t work (4:02) Becoming the enlightened elephant in the room (8:19) We’re all just bozos on the bus - Wisdom from my ex (11:08) Why I ditched the beaten path and fled to India (PS - the spiritual path has cobras!) (16:12) Knowledge is not power  - Power is in taking action (20:06) Why insight into your patterns isn’t enough  - Freud was right! (23:18) Weird facts about me - punk rock, sex toys, and more (25:16) Your weekly LoveByte - The take-home message of this episode (27:24)     People Mentioned in this Episode: Tony Robbins Jack Canfield Esther Perel Trudy Goodman Sigmund Freud   Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD   Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship,  take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow?  Someone who seemed content, open hearted, and like they’ve figured out something you haven’t? Imagine walking up to that person and asking “What’s your secret?” and they reply “My Elephant!” 


Hmm...you’d want to know more, right?

 

Think about what you’ve always believed would make your life fantastic - perhaps a winning lottery ticket, a wildly erotic sex life, an incredible soulmate, or your dream job. How’s that working out?  You used to think that external fortunes meant happiness, but deep down, you know there’s more to it. You understand that love, wealth, and even health cannot last forever. The good news? You CAN learn to be Happy for No Reason. 

 

In this episode, I’ll introduce concepts and tools to challenge you to take responsibility for your mindstates and then to take action to uncover curiosity & happiness in every aspect of your life. Calling upon my experience in Buddhism, sexuality, couples therapy, and mental & physical health, we’ll explore the blocks and confusions that are keeping you from experiencing the joy and fullness of life, sex, and your own spirituality. Plus, I’ll tell you what Joey Ramone, a premenstrual monkey, and a sexy toothbrush have in common. If you are sick and tired of feeling like something is missing, and are ready for a breakthrough journey that’s irreverently fun, deeply revealing, occasionally uncomfortable, and always inspiring, join me as we stumble along the path to awakening, together.

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How the word “S-E-X” limits eroticism - Putting play into foreplay  (2:03)
  • Love is a Hard Gig - Why “happily ever after” doesn’t work (4:02)
  • Becoming the enlightened elephant in the room (8:19)
  • We’re all just bozos on the bus - Wisdom from my ex (11:08)
  • Why I ditched the beaten path and fled to India (PS - the spiritual path has cobras!) (16:12)
  • Knowledge is not power  - Power is in taking action (20:06)
  • Why insight into your patterns isn’t enough  - Freud was right! (23:18)
  • Weird facts about me - punk rock, sex toys, and more (25:16)
  • Your weekly LoveByte - The take-home message of this episode (27:24)  

 

People Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Let’s Connect!


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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