picky & selfish

it’s raining cats and threesomes.

Fri, 10 Apr 2026 21:36:00 -0000

Talia is back from vacation and Sean is having a horny spring. We talk about our recent trip to Broadway and whether or not unpopular opinions make you interesting (they do). In this ep we discuss:

A lively debate inspired by the new Robert Pattinson and Zendaya move (The Drama)
Debating whether or not we need to shame celebs for cheating
Getting the ick and taking a real stand on the subject
Is Jim Parsons hot? (and more thoughts on Titaníque)
Talia’s vacation takeaways from Costa Rica
A weird sandwich story and why nobody should go out of their way for a cookie

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three is better than two.

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 21:47:00 -0000

Sean has a juicy story to tell this week (about his first threesome) and Talia can’t wait to ask for all the details. Plus, we debate the controversy surrounding Timothée Chalamet after he said “no one cares” about opera and ballet. In this ep we discuss:

Talia’s story of a spontaneous hookup in college
Aftercare and checking in after sex
Is Talia a liar? She defends herself after listeners question her latest story on the pod
There’s more than one way to wipe (apparently)
Selfish Takes: Boarding the airplane and donating at the checkout counter

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the world is ending. holy sh*t I have déjà vu.

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 22:12:00 -0000

All the signs of the apocalypse are upon us, including Talia tracking sh*t into Sean’s apartment today. Plus, she tells a harrowing tale of sh*tting on the street that you won’t believe. In this ep we discuss:

Déjà vu and where it comes from, plus some creepy dreams
A Groundhog Day scenario and the joys of Halloween
Talia’s new favorite show Paradise
Kids cheating at games (and why we should probably let them)

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wouldn’t-stock is fake and ghosts are real.

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 23:46:00 -0000

Talia walked under a ladder today and Sean tries to find out if she’s actually superstitious. This leads to a debate about whether or not ghosts are real and if the Long Island Medium is a fraud. In this ep we discuss:

Do aliens exist and if so, what do they watch on TV?
Sean’s trip to Woodstock, NY (spoiler: the whole place is a fraud)
Hot Takes: returning shopping carts, stealing lip gloss, and renaming pasta

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everybody loves boobs.

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 20:18:00 -0000

Talia is back from vacation and tells Sean what it's like to go through life with amazing tits. In this ep we discuss:

Growing up and adjusting to changes in how you lookComing to terms with your body and embracing your appearance
Cosmetic surgeries and why we shame each other both for and against getting procedures
Why women need to learn to "play the game" if they want someone to remain interested - and why you should never stop

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tin foil hats and heated rivalries

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 22:50:00 -0000

Talia and Sean are fed up with the state of the world, and it all starts with Euphoria and Heated Rivalry. Why does everything feel so bleak? We debate the feminism of Barbie, the female gaze on TV, and why politics have gotten so bad. In this ep we also discuss:

Being too idealistic when you're young
Winning elections and our fading democracy
Being a good feminist and whether or not Greta Gerwig will come on our podcast
Free buses and city-owned grocery stores in NYC... could it work?

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talia purges her apartment. sean finds culture.

Sat, 24 Jan 2026 17:56:00 -0000

Talia’s frontal lobe suddenly developed this week and she tells us all about how she purged her apartment to refurnish like an actual grown up lives there. Plus, Sean is headed to Sundance. In this ep we discuss:

The power of saying “you’re not the boss of this one”
Making new friends (and a run in with a neighbor)
Travel plans, including a grip to Atlantic city, another to Miami, and hot tubbing in Utah
An update on the Blake Lively drama (and why men should stay out of it)
Harry Styles got himself a residency at MSG
The underwhelming Oscars nominations (what happened to movies?)

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2016 is back. 2026 needs help.

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 23:13:00 -0000

The 2016 trend is everywhere this week, so Talia and Sean look back on the last year when the world made sense. They tell us why the trend is so easy to pull off (thanks camera roll) and recount their worst day from 2016. In this ep we discuss:

Celebrity deaths from 2016 (one of which was very fishy)
"Keep/Erase/Bring Back" game involving our favorite (and least favorite) things from 2016
What we want going into 2026 and what should stick around
Viral moments and how long they last now vs then

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stranger things finale recap

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 22:51:00 -0000

The Stranger Things final season has come to an end, and Sean & Talia saw it together in a theater so they’re recapping everything that did (and didn’t) happen. In this ep we discuss:

The biggest internet theories (including which came true)
Our rating of the finale and why it didn’t totally work
Loose threads that will never be resolved
The (many) epilogue moments for our characters
What really happened with Eleven
How the show fits into the history of TV and whether or not it’s rewatchable

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why is your boyfriend liking my stories? ft. alexis barber (part 2 of 2)

Sat, 20 Dec 2025 23:39:00 -0000

Our friend and former collaborator Alexis Barber (Too Smart For This) returns once again to share some dating stories, including the recent return of someone from her past. Plus, Talia and Alexis explain to Sean what a “story liker” is and what it means if your boyfriend is responding to their IG stories. In this ep we also discuss:

Talia met Gloria Steinem and already regrets her outfit choice
Ending a three-month relationship before it’s too late
Dealing with f***boys and not falling into their trap
Sean grills Alexis on what it means to be “friends” with someone you hooked up with
Traveling for the holidays and Talia’s birthday plans

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we can’t believe you broke up… ft. alexis barber (part 1 of 2)

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 21:51:00 -0000

Talia and Sean are joined by their former co-host and collaborator Alexis Barber (Too Smart For This) to talk about single life, learning to be alone, and the most important things to you in a relationship. Alexis fills us in on how her life changed after ending a long-term relationship and going off to business school, including lessons she never expected to learn. In this ep we also discuss:

Ranking Priorities: Personality, Sex, Looks, Intelligence, and Money (what do you care about most?)
What’s the difference between “having money” and “ambition” anyway?
Getting attention from new types of people (and Talia’s strategy for getting what she wants)
How family dynamics play into your relationship
Getting support for your career from a partner

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stranger things is back. spotify wrapped season is here.

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 18:46:00 -0000

We’re back from Thanksgiving and recapping our time away, including Talia’s date with an older man, her quest to find a matchmaker, and all the love we’ve gotten from Spotify Wrapped. Plus, Sean went to his own version of the Upside Down and tells us whether he’d do it again. In this ep we also discuss:

Recapping Part 1 of Strangers Things: Season 5 (with lots of theories for what’s to come)
Sean talks about the reaction to his U Up? Podcast appearance and why people would rather just hear from “relationship guy”
Talia’s dad had some thoughts on where she inherited her nose from
Belly buttons are weird: how do you go from an outie to an innie?

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accents are for women. xoxo.

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 22:00:00 -0000

Is it hot when a man has an accent? Better yet, is it hot when he sounds like a construction worker? Sean and Talia debate the most attractive accents, and the results may surprise you. Plus, we share our Thanksgiving plans and tell you what we think ruins a good potluck. In this ep we also discuss:

Sean’s emotional hangover from sharing too much on the U Up? podcast
Is it ever safe to tell someone their celebrity doppelgänger?
Which one means hug and which on means kiss in "XOXO"
Whether or not Thanksgiving food is actually good (and the value of turkey and pie)
How often should you wash your hair?
Shamefully fishing meds (and vapes and food) out of the garbage
The lesser-known reasons behind common NYC religious practices

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fixing your dating profile. peeing in front of your partner.

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 22:00:00 -0000

It’s time to look through your Hinge profile and actually show some personality. Talia walks us through the bios from some of her recent matches, telling us which ones stood out and why. Is the goal to be authentic or give people something to engage with? In this ep we also discuss:

Tinder, Hinge, Raya… Who do you expect to encounter on each dating app?
Stop taking Talia on dates to see someone funnier than you (it will backfire)
Her new crush (Rick Glassman) and a surprise connection (Mikey Madison)
The P&S dating tip that actually worked
Please don’t ever say we “lost the battle to…” anything
Peeing in front of your partner… good idea or bad idea?

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this is halloween. this is halloween.

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 21:35:00 -0000

It’s Halloween, and we’re trick-or-treating our way through all things spoooooky! From Talia’s witchy phase and a heated debate over becoming eternal vampires (would you??) to a full rundown of costumes, candy, and chaos. In this ep we also discuss:

What it takes to pull off a good Halloween costume (and Talia’s costume this year)
Our favorite Halloween candies and trading with friends
Trick-or-treating then vs. now — plus, are fruit snacks even candy?
“Too Far: Halloween Edition” …Dog parades and BYOB are outta control
Talia’s quest to find a “real” psychic
A nostalgic trip back to the Scholastic Book Fair days
Talia’s quest for a real psychic and our adventures in witch shops

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how does sexting work for women? is it ever okay to send emojis?

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 20:37:00 -0000

How should you initiate texting and what do women actually want to hear when you’re talking dirty over text? Plus, are voice memos just as hot as texts and pics? In this ep we also discuss:

Using emojis during sexting, including when you want to send reactions
What’s your “signature” emoji and what does it mean to you?
We rank the best and worst words to text a woman to describe her body parts
Whether or not someone can please you as well as you please yourself
The ultimate test of feelings: finger blasting
Talia is in her “Fallia” era as the seasons change
A preview of our Halloween costume plans

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marathoners aren’t impressive. male influencers are out of control.

Sat, 18 Oct 2025 18:19:00 -0000

It’s marathon season in New York City and Talia is not impressed. Do runners really deserve congratulations for putting themselves through misery (even though no one asked them to)? Plus, we decide whether climbing Mt. Everest makes you undatable. In this ep we also discuss:

Male influencers are out of control and deserve the same criticisms women get
Talia exposes some of the tactics male influencers use to get ahead
Advice: Men in NYC who are looking for a wife should quit the kickball league
It’s spooky season and Sean watched Hocus Pocus (with a twist) and tells us all about it his trippy experience
We find out which couples’ costume Sean is wearing for Halloween this year

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sean has a girlfriend. talia has some questions.

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 22:05:00 -0000

Sean has a girlfriend and Talia is thrilled that we can finally talk about it. He spills on the entire saga of going from single life, to an open relationship, to being exclusive with someone new for the first time in years. In this ep we also discuss:

Monogamy vs non-monogamy: why both options can be challenging for people
Passion vs Stability: Can you keep passion in a relationship without putting in “work” with each other?
What’s it like to date someone who is already in a relationship?
Rules in a relationship (and why they can be a mistake)
Talia is going to a Knicks game and has some questions about sports… and some thoughts about Taylor Swift’s recent comments
What’s new in Talia’s dating life?

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sean forgot his passport. don’t forget to hide your nudes.

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 21:00:00 -0000

Sean is back from his European vacation and shares all the best stories from his time away, including… how he got a new passport with less than 24 hours notice (miracles really are possible). Plus, we swap stories about accidentally sharing nudes from your camera roll with strangers. Is it time for Talia to start using the hidden folder? In this ep we also discuss:

Long distance relationships: are they just a way to keep you from being vulnerable?
Talia’s lessons from studying abroad (and what she’d do differently)
Is Talia to blame for missing her friend’s one-woman-show?
Being a bystander during a messy confrontation on the streets of New York (is Talia a hero?)
Men being babies: how to deal with a guy who complains about you not going to his apartment
Relationship Contracts: good idea or bad idea?
New Segment Idea: People We Hate

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sabrina carpenter’s album dropped. talia nearly died (sort of).

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 22:53:00 -0000

Sean and Talia are back with some heated pop culture debates about Sabrina Carpenter’s new album, the upcoming season of TV we’ve been waiting (way too long) for, and a test of Talia’s memory. In this ep we also discuss:

Debate: is it okay to offer your spare bedroom after hooking up?
Talia’s near-death experience when her apartment building started to flood
“Being there” for your ex after a breakup
Too Far: Flared Yoga Pants and Influencers’ hand gestures
People handing off pets to their parents after six months
Baby talk with animals… how much is too much?

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travis’s thighs shine bright. it’s a beautiful tuesday in new york.

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 16:00:00 -0000

Taylor and Travis got engaged this week and all we can see are his blinding-white thighs. Also, how much did they plan this proposal and does Taylor really have the best PR? In this ep we also discuss:

Is Taylor Swift destined to end up with Joe Alwyn in the end?
The weather on 9/11 doesn’t get enough credit
Talia met a security expert on a plane and had the time of her life
Too Far: TSA precheck is out of control
...and should we ban ice cream samples?
Why people take their sweet time after waiting in line

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what does talia actually want?

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 22:13:00 -0000

Talia is in the hot seat this week as Sean grills her about what she wants out of life. Is she looking for a relationship? Does she even need her “person” in life? What does her ideal man look like and is she open to finding him? In this ep we also discuss:

Matchmakers and setups: are we less cynical about people that’ve been vetted?
First loves and what those experiences teach us about ourselves
What to do when a guy won’t call you his girlfriend
The Before Sunrise movie series and why it changed Sean’s outlook on love

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how to talk to girls. everyone’s into butt stuff.

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 21:00:00 -0000

Why is everyone talking about butt stuff these days? Talia and Sean try to get to the bottom of everyone’s obsession with getting… to the bottom. It’s not for everyone, but we share tips for how to make it a more comfortable and enjoyable experience. In this ep we also discuss:

How NOT to approach a group of women
Talia’s story of rejecting a man for exactly the right reason: misogyny
An amazing trick for getting a girl’s number in a bar
The art of approaching people in public
The one segment from our old podcast that never made it to the air

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talia got laid. sean got therapy.

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 00:40:00 -0000

The streak is over… Talia finally went home with a man and he’s a glorious firefighter. But is it already over? She tells us why their politics got in the way and we debate whether or not it’s okay to associate with someone across the aisle. In this ep we also discuss:

Boob guy or butt guy… what’s it say about you?
Fun fireman facts everyone deserves to know
The Coldplay concert cheating scandal
Sean started therapy
Our latest movie recommendations
How to stay comfy when you’re camping

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talia got punched. sean doesn’t wash his body.

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 20:12:00 -0000

Be honest… does anyone actually use soap on their arms and legs? Talia goes in on Sean for not owning a loofa and letting shampoo do all the work in the shower. Plus, Talia got hit on this 4th of July and it didn’t go as planned. In this ep we discuss:

Talia got punched by a random woman in Times Square and her story deserves to be told
Talia has some selfish takes for all the brides out there
Funner needs to be a word
Cocktail prices are out of control
Do babies really ever need to be in a stroller? We debate

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talia’s not sharing her location. sean might be on lsd.

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 21:09:00 -0000

Who’s the new consensus “it girl” and “it guy” in Hollywood? Talia and Sean debate who holds the crown right now and what it says about our taste in hotness. Plus, Talia tells us why you shouldn’t care if other people think your boyfriend is ugly (even if it’s true). In this ep we discuss:

Sydney Sweeney and Tom Brady at Jeff Bezos’s wedding
Popping pimples for the sake of others
Tampons and wide-set vaginas
Sharing your location on Find My Friends (and why Talia loves to lie)
Sabrina Carpenter’s new single Manchild and judging the song of the Summer
What it’s really like to take LSD and emotional hangovers

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friend breakups happen. sean’s not helping you move.

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 19:01:00 -0000

Friends and SATC have so much to teach us. Talia recently learned that she wants her life to be more like the TV show Friends (Sean already knew this) and it starts with getting someone to watch her cat. How offended should you be by a friend not helping you out? We also debate Sarah Jessica Parker’s petty unwillingness to acknowledge that Samantha even exists. In this ep we discuss:

Friend breakups and why they happen - do guys have it all figured out?
Helping people move (don’t do it) and the secret to getting big favors
Talia’s new kink for a guy who talks about her in therapy
The best new show you should be watching

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men are lonely. sean is hard.

Thu, 19 Jun 2025 21:00:00 -0000

It’s time to talk about sexting – Talia tells us exactly what you shouldn’t say to a woman over text if you want to turn her on (and how to use punctuation. Sean also tells us which dirty word he wants us all to start saying a whole lot more. We also get listener thoughts on last week’s conversation about female hygiene. In this ep we also discuss:

A certain someone slid back into Talia’s DMs
Karen Read’s recent acquittal and why it doesn’t mean Talia was wrong
Apparently there’s a male loneliness epidemic and we can’t agree what that means
People need to go back to dating within their own league
The internet has made many guys a little too embattled (aka “Not All Men”)
Sean tells us why more people need to start taking performance enhancers for sex

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talia has hit rock bottom. tracey carnazzo is still digging.

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 18:04:00 -0000

Talia’s having a tough week so our friend Tracey Carnazzo stops by to help her dig an even deeper hole for herself. We talk about what it takes to get out of a rut, why it’s more fun to flirt than it is to seal the deal, and how you can actually learn to de-center men in your life. In this ep we also discuss:

Using boric acid to clean up (and the fear of smelling bad)
What dissociation really feels like
Being good at making out and how to deliver the perfect kiss
Getting used to being alone and why that’s a good thing
Tips for going down on a woman

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how to make a guy go away. what are your five compatibility non-negotiables?

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 18:36:00 -0000

Did we just discover the perfect breakup text? Talia tells us how she stumbled upon the ideal sentence designed to let a guy down easy and make him go away forever. In this ep we also discuss:

Your five non-negotiables for finding someone you’re truly compatible with
How important sex and attraction are in a relationship
Dating a man for money
Picking someone who admires you (and what you do)
The joy of wearing a blindfold during sex and why it can be hot
Why you should try dirty talk and be willing to “do it scared”

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talia wasn’t invited to the influencer met gala. sean isn’t invited to serenade talia.

Thu, 29 May 2025 19:07:00 -0000

Talia needs to step up her influencer networking game because she wasn’t invited to Jaz and Kevin’s wedding (aka the influencer event of the season). Is Sean joking when he says he’s never heard of any of these people? Also, what’s an Etsy witch? In this ep we also discuss:

Talia got a side part and Sean didn’t notice (whoops)
We get the story of how Talia helped Serena Kerrigan get with her bf
How to be a great guest at a wedding
Dropping a clinger on a night out and helping someone in need
Keeping a nudes greatest hits folder
Singing a love song for someone after hooking up: hot or not?
Are men allowed to wear no-show socks?

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clout chasing dead celebs. what do married people talk about.

Thu, 22 May 2025 22:52:00 -0000

What’s the longest you’ve ever spent sitting in a public bathroom? We discuss our strategies for getting it over with (and discover some things about how we may be doing it wrong). In this ep we also talk about:

Celebrity deaths and posting on social media for attention (RIP George Wendt)
Talia’s plan for how to call out clout chasers if she ever suffers an untimely death
The secret to being a good listener in a relationship
What people in long term relationships actually discuss when they’re at dinner
An ingenious idea for sending nudes privately and a horror story from college

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the renaiSeance. talia’s tragedy anthem.

Mon, 19 May 2025 00:17:00 -0000

Sorry this episode is late, Sean was on vacation. He’s been on a renaiSeance tour for the past year and we talk about what he’s learned. Plus, we hear the AI song his friends made for his birthday (remember: he’s kissed a girl before) and we ask AI to write Talia her own anthem in real time. On this ep we also discuss:

Talia’s mea culpa on the Karen Read trial
Learning to deal with disappointment
FaceTime sex and how to take good butt pics
Talia wants a boyfriend who will let her practice makeup on him
Showing gratitude for good friends

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gorillas vs six-year-olds. fixing the group text (sorority-style).

Thu, 08 May 2025 20:29:00 -0000

What’s with men wanting to fight gorillas? Talia and Sean take issue with the latest viral debate and tell us who would be easier to take down: one gorilla or 100 six-year olds. Also discussed on this episode:

A detailed (and flawed) summary of the Karen Reid trial
How to deal with an interloper at a friend-dinner
Fixing your group text when too many people have been added
Talia’s “Sorority Process” for culling people from the group
Setting up your own friend exec board

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manifesting with the O method. katie perry needs a break from earth.

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 21:00:00 -0000

Katie Perry went to outer space and she's getting too much heat for being so cringe. Would a man get the same treatment? We debate. Sean makes an outrageous claim about making people orgasm and Talia has her doubts. And is the “O Method” TikTok trend really the secret to manifesting your hopes and dreams? On this ep we also discuss:

How many times a week men actually masturbate
Talia describes her version of heaven
Would you want to know about all the people who have fantasized about you?
Justice for Monica Lewinsky
Love languages and why they’re all about what you’re not getting enough of
Being a PDA person
Some of our favorite new “moves” including a cute candle trick, a sneaky coca cola maneuver, and a blatant line that just might work

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let’s (not) get this girl married.

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 22:55:00 -0000

Talia got a spray tan, shaved her legs, and her date cancelled anyway. How late is too late to cancel on someone, and is it better to lie or tell the truth about why you’re bailing on plans? We also get picky and selfish with a new game. On this ep we talk about:

Coachella and why Bernie was a bit of a buzzkill
QR codes should be banned from all restaurants starting today
The worst IG caption of 2025
Dogs in strollers need to be banned
Calling your parents once a month is plenty
Dinner parties are out of control - don’t ask me to venmo you
How do you pronounce “Cup Noodles”?
Dirty Dancing is hot AF

picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby.

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werewolf smut is in. innies are out.

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 19:19:00 -0000

Is it time to start telling our friends to be pickier with the (sh**ty) men they choose to date? Talia has some thoughts on why it’s better to be a Miranda than a Samantha, and Sean gives his take on ‘Mirror Theory’ - including why some people avoid sharing uncomfortable details. We also cover:

Whether or not skinny jeans are making a comeback (and why Talia wears the same denim over and over)
Washing your sheets and being a grown up
Getting tips from random men at the gym
Talia’s new smut novel all about werewolves
Grumpy-sunshine dynamic is HOT
Men bonding with their friends (including how to tease a woman)
Talia’s shares a story about the mystery man she never got to hook up with

picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby.

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sydney sweeney is free. sean blew his big chance.

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 21:00:00 -0000

Our long national nightmare is finally over - Sydney Sweeney is free from her longtime engagement and Talia has strong thoughts on whether or not she’s better off (plus speculation about Glen Powell). We cover all the trending pop culture including:

Morgan Wallen’s abrupt exit from SNL (good luck in God’s Country)
Chappell Roan getting (not so) deep during her press tour
Girlie pop hits including Sabrina Carpenter’s latest single
Talia’s obsession with her new smutty book ‘The Nanny’
An update on 'your move' from last week
Sean made the biggest dating faux pas of his life. Should he ditch the bit?
Our White Lotus finale precap

picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby.

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talia doesn’t hate dogs. taylor doesn’t love penetration.

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0000

Talia needs to call an emergency press conference (just kidding, what kind of loser would do that?). It’s time to address the controversy. No, Talia still doesn’t hate dogs. Yes, we’re going to talk about it. We’re also joined by our friend Taylor Strecker and discussing her least favorite subject. On this episode we talk about:

Talia’s true feelings about that one guy with the dog
How people have responded to his video about her
How much we love dogs
Learning to connect with your partner
Sexy magic shows
Using toys
The secret to good sex: empathy

picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby.

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be picky. be selfish. *this is our first episode

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 20:08:00 -0000

Welcome to picky & selfish. Thanks for listening. No, Talia doesn’t hate dogs. No, we’re not talking about that whole thing until our next episode. Yes we are focused on rejecting toxic masculinity and not giving advice (sorta). On this episode we talk about:

Being single for the first time in your life
Trying new… things
Finding Talia a Hamptons boyfriend
Getting ghosted after hooking up
Finding the magic word with someone
Dealing with rejection (and not getting jaded)
“your move” featuring a great flirty text idea

picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby.

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