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Ep 176: Don't Rock The Boat

Tue, 02 Jun 2026 10:00:00 -0000

There are many positives and negatives to following the status quo. To some extent, we all rock the boat. However, are we rocking the boat too much or not enough? Most of us probably don’t rock the boat enough. This is a deeply personal journey that requires listening to our intuition and having the courage to act. Without the curiosity to question everything and seek alignment in all areas of our lives, we will settle for a life that does not meet our highest potential.

The Japanese conformist cultural upbringing
Challenging the status quo
Understand where our desire to rock the boat comes from
Negatives to rocking the boat
The stakes are high
The depth of relationships is revealed
Positives to rocking the boat
Living from your truth

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Ep 175: Keep Curiosity Alive!

Tue, 26 May 2026 11:54:00 -0000

The purity of curiosity leads us into the realm of possibility and connection. With curiosity comes an inherent humility and a willingness to change our perspectives. Unfortunately, much of our curiosity is stifled at a young age by pressure to get it right rather than being encouraged to make mistakes. This plays right into the hands of the fearful ego by making assumptions and creating labels for everyone and everything in our lives. Thus, further stifling pure curiosity.

Doing curiosity vs. being curious
We’re trained to shut down curiosity
We think we know more than we actually do
We use labels to feel safe
Being aware of my ego
Practicing open-mindedness and open-heartedness
Curiosity is limited by how open your heart is

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Ep 174: What Outshines Your Suffering?

Tue, 19 May 2026 10:00:00 -0000

Suffering generally has a disempowering tone. In the middle of disappointment or displeasure, doubt and other disempowering thoughts tend to appear more often. It does not feel good when we are in the middle of suffering and pain. So, we try to avoid it with a myriad of coping mechanisms. Obviously, we are just perpetuating the suffering and the coping mechanisms. However, we can shift our relationship to suffering. This requires extremely deep clarity of what lights us up and is worth suffering for.

Pattern of suffering
If there’s an end goal, suffering is important
Shifting relationship to suffering
The clarity to ask for support
Being aware of the choice
We’re in a “feel-good” time
Instinct towards coping mechanisms
Unpacking suffering from childhood
Suffering that comes with shifting dreams
What are you willing to suffer for?

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Ep 173: O.F.G. May

Tue, 12 May 2026 10:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Digging into my 93-year-old dad’s communication style
Being triggered by his tone of voice is tied to my root fears
The gap between my and my son’s communication styles
Allowing the space for discomfort
We can be the generational change
Leaning into what’s uncomfortable

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Ep 172: The Reinvention Loop

Tue, 05 May 2026 10:00:00 -0000

When was the last time you reinvented yourself? And what drove that reinvention? What area(s) in your life did you reinvent? Reinvention is far more than a change. It is a transformation. We often consider a reinvention only when our usual strategies and tactics stop working. It is a reactionary, almost desperate, attempt to salvage something. Our decision to reinvent is usually a delayed choice, while our intuition immediately signals when it is time. So, we probably do not reinvent ourselves often enough. Reinvention presents the opportunity for us to realign our lives holistically and express ourselves in ways we currently do not. To squeeze as much juice out of life as possible, it would be wise to foster an empowering and inspirational relationship with reinvention.

Need vs. want of reinvention
Reinvention as an opportunity to express yourself differently
Purpose with the doing vs. the being
Change vs. transformation
Opportunity to reinvent doesn’t stop
The dynamic dance of vision and dreaming
Using vision and dreams to win each day

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Ep 171: Clarity Comes After The Choice, Not Before

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000

Many of us want clarity before making a choice that will require time, energy, money, and other resources. We want the straightest, most efficient path to a goal. But what is clarity? Evidence to support a logical or practical conclusion? Assurance that we are making the right choice? An intuitive sense of alignment? An attempt to avoid wasting resources? It is a combination of things. But how do we know we are choosing the straightest, most efficient path to a goal? We do not know. We gain more clarity only after we choose and collect more information. We never actually have the clarity we seek because the information we collect is never complete. Also, our biased perception of the world taints our decision-making process. So, the clarity we seek is actually faux, not what we truly want.

More clarity of what you don’t want
Fake clarity wrapped up in lived experience, opinions, and context
Awareness of boundaries after the event
Reactionary behavior isn’t clarity
Reflecting on a future choice can lead to being more unclear
Clarity of commitments over clarity of a choice
Fear of the winding road and being wrong

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Ep 170: Are Your Expectations Clear?

Tue, 21 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000

Expectations are natural and unavoidable. They also often lead to disappointment because outcomes are not 100% controllable. Our expectations reveal a lot about ourselves. It is beneficial to understand what drives our expectations and to communicate them clearly and vulnerably. Otherwise, unmet expectations can create much resentment within, and resentment powerfully impacts our behavior.

A lot of times, expectations are internal
What’s driving us to want something in the first place?
Zero expectations?
Taking ourselves out of the present
It’s unrealistic to be 100% unattached
A growth mindset will always find a win
Unmet expectations can lead to resentment
Shoulds and obligations get weird
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Why is this expectation important to me?

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Ep 169: My Truth vs. The Truth

Tue, 14 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000

There will never be two people who share the same perspective. It is impossible. They may share similar perspectives, but never the same. With this understanding, truth is subjective as well. We perpetuate conflict when we do not understand the distinction between “my truth” and “the truth”. Clinging to “my truth” and expressing it as “the truth” is a common issue today, especially online.

Truth is subjective
Sugar-coated truth
Truth vs belief
Having curiosity with why you think something is true
My truth vs. the truth
Reality is subjective
People making bold statements to get reactions
Seeking understanding as the goal
Fear of being wrong

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Ep 168: O.F.G. April 2026

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

The black hole of current events and information
Frustration with the lying, deception, and lack of accountability of world leaders
Seeing the mirror of world leaders
3 months into reinventing my health journey
Breakthrough in patience
Noticing my crazy sugar trap

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Ep 167: The Competition Trap

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000

We learned to see the world through the lens of competition at an early age. Our parents and most other adults around us reinforced this perspective. Competition is a story created by our fear-driven ego to ensure its survival. Ego says, “We must compete because resources are scarce. If we don’t compete, we’ll ultimately die.” This story is a trap that most of us have bought into, which is ok. But what matters most is awareness of this trap and the extent to which we are allowing the energy of competition to pull us away from our hearts.

Society is based on competition
Disempowering relationship to competition
Collaboration over competition
There’s a lot of fear with competition, normally
At what point does being competitive become harmful?
If I defeat you, the world will be a better place
Ego and competitiveness are closely aligned

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Ep 166: Being Intentional Is Tricky

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000

The more intentional we become, the more we enhance our lives. The key to intention is self-awareness and being honest about the tricks our egos play on us. We must be sensitive to our feelings as indicators to pay more attention. We all have aspects of our lives that we’d like to improve, yet we engage in avoidance or denial instead. What are our autopilot behaviors? How are they working for us? What patterns are we noticing that reveal where we need to make changes? Whether we are being intentional or not, we are making a choice that’s conscious or subconscious. Living intentionally is an act of responsibility.

Deciphering automatic behavior from being intentional
Checking in with your habits
Give ourselves space to get real
Continuously consider the best version of you
Boredom is a big indicator
The best version of ourselves is tricky

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Ep 165: With Freedom Comes Big Responsibility

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000

What’s your definition of freedom? What’s your relationship to it? How do you show up when your freedom is hindered by your own perspective or by other people? We have a constant innate desire for more freedom in all areas of our lives. And this desire is seemingly infinite. We also don’t know what infinite freedom looks like or how we’d show up to the required demands. However, we can practice responsibility and ownership in all areas of our lives daily. This reinforces self-trust that we’ll do the right thing when freedom presents its challenges.

To what extent is freedom for me
Taking our freedoms for granted
Freedom is based on perspective
The natural tendency for humans to want ALL
Balance between more freedom and gratitude for what we currently have
Personal freedom within relationships
Communicating and having healthy boundaries and expectations
Everything essentially comes down to agreements
Checking in with our definition of freedom

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Ep 164: We Don't Have Time For Feelings

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000

Feelings and emotions can be quite confusing. There are physiological and cognitive aspects that are often difficult to understand or be aware of. Additionally, we may carry a foundational belief that it is wrong to express feelings and emotions fully. Many of us with this belief will have formed it during childhood from a projection of our parents’ discomfort with their own feelings and emotions. Fortunately, we have a choice in redefining our relationship to them in a healthy and sustainable way. As essential as feelings and emotions are to being human, it is a great responsibility for us to explore them deeply.

Coming face-to-face with self-discovery
Giving myself permission to feel
The difference between emotions and feelings
Finding middle ground of being in emotions/feelings and control
The foundational belief that there’s something wrong with feelings
Noticing body sensations first
Jealousy isn’t a real feeling
Awareness and space to reflect on feelings
Re-establish a belief that it’s ok to feel

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Ep 163: O.F.G. March 2026

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 11:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

My dad fell again
Wanting to lead him to water and make him drink
Experiencing deeper gratitude
Reflecting on an opportunity to spend time with mom
Reminder of things taken for granted

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Ep 162: How Do You Define Unity And Harmony?

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000

How important are unity and harmony to you? To what extent do you want them? Unity and harmony start within each of us, and the potential expands to a global scale. Without awareness and intentional practice towards creating unity within, our efforts to create it externally will be met with great frustration and suffering. This is observable with the current state of affairs locally, regionally, nationally, and globally. As we expand our awareness of unity and harmony outward from within, our definition of these must continue to broaden to include others’ perspectives. Forcing a rigid definition onto others doesn’t work. History has proven this many times over. But unity and harmony are choices. To each their own.

Unity and harmony are choices
You can be unified and not be in harmony at the same time
Events tend to unify people
Creating division while believing you're creating unity
Creating unity and harmony within ourselves
You have to constantly re-choose to do the inner work
Having a sense of what’s not unified within myself
Fear sells. Harmony doesn’t sell
Confrontation is going to happen, but how do we handle that confrontation?
Be the change you want to see and not be attached to the outcome

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Ep 161: Thoughts On Vulnerability

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000

Vulnerability has become a buzzword. Although vulnerability may still be uncomfortable for some people, others are “doing” vulnerability as a tactic rather than actually being vulnerable. Humans have an innate sense for identifying inauthenticity. Yet, the ego finds ways to justify masking agendas under the guise of vulnerability. How intentional are you about what to share, who to share it with, and when to share it? How often do you feel seen and heard after a vulnerable share? How do you feel when someone comes to you vulnerably? It’s critical to be sensitive to your emotional and cognitive tendencies. Being authentically vulnerable is powerful and a gateway to deepening trust within yourself and with others.

People are doing vulnerability, but it’s not authentic
Not being intentional with your shares
Not everyone is able to receive what you have to share
Laying the groundwork before a vulnerable share
Knowing what you want from sharing
Becoming more vulnerable in relationships
Without vulnerability, there won’t be much trust
Dancing with the ego
Being on the receiving end of a vulnerable share

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Ep 160: Heartache

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 04:49:00 -0000

We all experience heartache multiple times throughout our lives. However, we don’t always see and apply the valuable lessons from those experiences. Rather, heartache often distracts us with confusion about our identity post-loss. Who am I now that the relationship is over? Who am I after my loved one passed away? What do I regret? Change is inevitable, and therefore, so is heartache. But with this understanding, we have opportunities to address warning signs within ourselves and in relationships. Having the presence, clarity, awareness, and courage to do so helps us extract the valuable wisdom from our experiences, rather than avoid it until we are left dumbfounded by what happened.

Awkwardness with heartache
What can we learn from heartache?
Attachment leads to heartache
Realizing that you control your experience
Applying lessons learned in one relationship to others
Deeper heartache can lead to deeper joy
Heartache with divorce
The stereotypical midlife crisis
Ignoring warning signs

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Ep 159: O.F.G. February 2026

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Dad falling down twice in the last month
Childhood fear of parents passing away
Perspective of death and feeling of loss
Embracing duty and devotion
Consistency and the trap of expected results
Being open to new and different outcomes

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Ep 158: Organization Is Ownership

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000

We all have areas of our lives that are organized or unorganized. Some of this is intentional, and some is unintentional. Organization is about ownership, and organization looks different for each of us. It is important to be aware of where we need and want more organization because clutter in one area of our lives may impact other areas. More importantly, awareness of how we show up when organizing is key.

Jeff’s turning point of organization
Our external environment is a reflection of our thoughts
Organization is ownership
What does organization look like for you?
Organization of all aspects of your life is interconnected
360 degree view of intentionality

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Ep 157: What's Your Definition Of Wealth?

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000

How do you define wealth? If you imagined that wealth looked like a pie chart, how would your chart look? What categories are included? What percentage of the pie does each category occupy? What is the relationship between your wealth pie chart and personal growth? The traditional definition of wealth as a measure of material possession is outdated, limited, and unsustainable. A broader, holistic perspective of wealth is critical to long-term fulfillment and peace of mind.

Peace of mind as a part of wealth
Wealth mindset
Balancing your wealth pie chart is tricky
The wealth trap
Fear is the cheapest fuel to get us in motion
Clarity around dynamic changes in your wealth pie
Prioritizing personal growth ensures sustainable growth of your wealth pie

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Ep 156: Discern Your Filters

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000

Our past conditioning heavily influences our discernment. Constantly, our filters operate subconsciously and are often misaligned with who we are as divine beings. Only when we begin to question our own filters do we open ourselves to true alignment. The foundational filter is fear or love. Without actively choosing to see the world through the lens of love, our default filter becomes fear. The world we see and the life we create are drastically different from both perspectives. Therefore, it is critical to be clear on the many filters we currently have and to constantly question whether they are supportive as we grow.

In heightened fear, discernment goes out the window
Train our brains to constantly discern about our filter
Being able to distinguish judging vs. being judgmental
Dilemma of willingness to change your filter
When we stop questioning our views, we have fake discernment
Having deep, intentional, moral-shaking conversations to refine discernment
To have good discernment is also to have good empathy

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Ep 155: O.F.G. January 2026

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Annoyed by unracked weights at the gym
Genuinely being ok with differences
Judgement towards people being inconsiderate
Lack of patience with knee injury recovery
Learning to slow down and being grateful while having gaps
Positive mindset while being realistic with my body

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Ep 154: FOMO

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Based on generational conditioning, FOMO appears to be an unavoidable trap. Our natural tendency to compare ourselves with others facilitates more disempowerment than empowerment. In these cases, fear is the root motivator. And as long as fear drives our thoughts, feelings, and actions, we will continue to deplete and shrink ourselves. We will continue to limit our potential. But what would be possible if we trained our minds to leverage comparison for inspiration instead?

FOMO and expectations
Negative comparison and sense of lack
Not being 100% content with where we are
Fear sells
Fear of death
We’re not curious enough about our FOMO
Fear as a motivator sucks
Leveraging comparison for inspiration

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Ep 153: False Pride?

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 21:00:00 -0000

Pride is an interesting quality. It can be fueled by love, fear, or both. We are often unaware of how pride impacts our daily behaviors because the line between self-acceptance and insecurity can be so well disguised subconsciously. Pride can be defined negatively or positively. Either way is fine. But it is important to be intentional about our behavior and aware of how effectively we convey our message.

Negative connotations with pride
Pride and confidence
Positive spins on pride
How you speak and act shows your flavor of pride
What’s your intention with pride?
Comparison is not necessarily negative
Shifting your definition of pride

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Ep 152: How Do You Communicate? (Part 2)

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Communication is truly a complex art. Authentic communication is an even more complex art. Louder doesn’t mean more right or effective. And silence doesn’t mean a weaker position or lack of perspective. What’s important is to notice how we receive information and how we express it. Are we trying to be right and prove a point? What is the energy driving our speaking? How much do we care about understanding the perspectives of the other side? To become an authentic communicator requires patience, trust, faith, vulnerability, courage, and a deep, loving sense of safety within oneself.

We’re not seeking to understand first and foremost
The dilemma of communicating wants and needs
The louder we are, the less we’re heard
Everything doesn’t have to be a debate
Lack of safety in communication
Trying to fix our lack of “good enoughness”

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Ep 151: O.F.G. December

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Sensitivity to players as a youth girls softball coach
Quick to fix something and criticizing self
Getting caught in my right vs. wrong context about the news
What does my frustration with leadership displayed on TV mean to me?
Discernment and staying clear on core values
You gotta know yourself when getting sucked into others’ contexts
Agree to disagree is a lost art

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Ep 150: Lessons From Children

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Children are powerful teachers for us on our journey of self-realization. They can be catalysts of unconditional love, the worst fear imaginable, frustration to the extent of questioning our sanity, and brilliant inspiration all in one day! Through our experience with children, we are reminded of dualities, such as order and chaos or security and insecurity. We also experience the dynamic relationship between freedom and responsibility. Arguably, the most important reasons for our experiences with children are for deeper self-love and self-acceptance. But this only comes with much continuous internal reflection.

Natural curiosity to keep probing
Curiosity coming from inspiration or fear
Preparing for uncertainty is almost ridiculous
Fearlessness to explore and be fully in the moment
Ability to bounce back
When kids lie
Openness with emotions and physical needs

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Ep 149: You Reap What You Sow

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000

The concept of sowing and reaping is employed as both a fear tactic and a motivational tool. While both are valid in their uses, we tend to overemphasize the reaping portion of the concept. Since we want some result or outcome, we will sow. However, what is most important is how we consistently show up when we sow, regardless of the result. This exposes our true purpose for sowing and whether our act of sowing is authentic.

EPISODE SUMMARY

Most of us were raised with a fear-driven model
People’s shared experience of you will show up in the long run
Faux sowing
Unattachment to when you reap
You can’t engineer relationships
We can only control the sowing

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Ep 148: The Journey

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Goal setting, planning, vision boarding, and other results-oriented methods often fail to emphasize the internal transformation that occurs in each of us on the journey to the finish line. Instead, we are led to believe that the material results will bring us the joy, fulfillment, peace of mind, love, and other intangibles that we actually want. The intangibles of internal transformation are far less enticing and glamorous than the images of material wealth, a slim waistline, or a new romantic partner. The futility of chasing external material goals becomes obvious to us when our spiritual awakening begins. Then, we naturally bring deep purpose and meaning to every goal we set thereafter, while appreciating every daily win and setback as a wise blessing. But until then, the spiritually disconnected pursuit of results is laden with suffering and victimhood.

EPISODE SUMMARY

The tipping point
The movie analogy
The result is the most insignificant part
Misleading images to feel good
What they didn’t tell you
Transformation is grueling work
What are you willing to die for?
Change and transformation are ongoing

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Ep 147: O.F.G. November

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu share their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

EPISODE SUMMARY

Attachment to my Japanese identity
Feeling blamed for something I’m not
Triggered by son’s emotional reaction
My needs not being met

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Ep 146: Flow With Grace

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000

What’s your relationship with grace? Do you embody it or do you use it tactically? Grace provides flexibility within the rigid structure of personal standards, like oil to a squeaky gear. Grace is beautiful, powerful, and necessary when expressed in its purity. It is also something that requires a great deal of self-awareness, intention, and practice.

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The battle of grace and judgment
Giving grace in traffic
Grace with being ghosted or multiple rescheduling
Judgment of self being harsher than that of others
Expectation of reciprocation of grace?
Giving grace to others to deepen grace within ourselves
Grace isn’t in opposition to having conversations or giving reflections
Grace and standards

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Ep 145: Sorry, Not Sorry

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000

What’s your relationship to apologizing? Is it an empowered relationship from the heart or a disempowered one from the ego? Apologizing tends to imply admitting wrongdoing, which is typically disempowering. In a society that punishes mistakes, our incentive is to avoid apologizing. As a result, less ownership, responsibility, and transparency. Furthermore, we all have personal traumas and disempowering beliefs and behaviors that impact our relationship to being apologetic and unapologetic. But how would our lives be different if we created an empowered heart-centered relationship to apologies?

EPISODE SUMMARY

Cultural apologizing when you’re not “wrong” to keep harmony
Learning that apologies meant nothing
Unapologetic puppetry
Pride and ego getting in our way
“I’m sorry,” admitting wrong?
Apologizing from empowered ownership
Feedback is crucial for our growth
Openness to change

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Ep 144: Adventure Is Everywhere

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000

What’s your relationship to adventure? How do you describe adventure? Adventure is a mindset, not just an act. An adventurous mindset keeps us open to seeing ourselves and the world in a new way. As a result, we have more opportunities to grow than we otherwise wouldn’t. Even in the mundane routines of daily life, how would our experience of life shift if we practiced a more adventurous mindset? It would be transformative.

The adventurous mindset
Adventure as access to getting out of your comfort zone
Tapping into the emotional side as an adventure
Mindset of adventure with money
Mindset of adventure with time
Noticing what we’re comfortable and uncomfortable with

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Ep 143: O.F.G. October

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Triggered by mosquitoes
Disempowered by disrespect and being unheard
Being able to see the patterns
Triggered by my son
Taking up space and being loud and annoying
Parents have their favorite child
Acting annoying vs the narrative of being inherently annoying

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Ep 142: Want More Ritual In Your Life?

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000

What’s your relationship to rituals vs. habits? What rituals are part of your life? What would be the impact on your life if you shifted one typical habit into a ritual? There is a profound opportunity for personal transformation when you show up with more intention, devotion, reverence, and commitment.

Perception towards habits vs. rituals
Hesitation people have with rituals vs. habits
Judgment of the people vs. the ritual itself
Long-term habits becoming traditions, then rituals
Working out as a ritual
Reading the Bible and going to church as a ritual
A ritual has to be tied to a larger commitment

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Ep 141: Shame On Me

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Shame is typically a muddy, uncomfortable combination of feelings. Relationships to food, money, time, and sexuality are breeding grounds for shame. What are you ashamed of? What’s your relationship to shame? How would you describe it? And what’s driving those feelings? We tend to avoid or hide from our shame. Yet, ironically, our shame is an access point to unlocking our true potential.

The icky feeling of shame
We feel guilty to punish or rationalize
Choosing from a disempowered place
Disempowered relationship to money
Being curious about shame
We’ve inherited a lot of our relationship to things

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Ep 140: Deeper Intention With Books

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000

What’s your relationship to books? What books do you read and why? How much of what you read is integrated into your life? Books can be a powerful catalyst to transform our lives when we apply what we learn and embody the knowledge and wisdom.

Shifting relationship to books
Reading goals vs. integration of wisdom
Experiencing what you read
The trap of getting through books quickly
Seeing the common wisdom from different perspectives

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Ep 139: O.F.G. Explained

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives.

Where do we find opportunities for growth?
Noticing our reactionary behavior coming from survival mechanism
Core beliefs driving egoic reaction vs. infinite love and compassion
Throwing the cap on the dirt in frustration
What am I actually angry about?
Mud smeared on my shoes

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Ep 138: Breakdowns To Breakthroughs

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 15:47:00 -0000

Noticing and owning our breakdowns creates opportunities for us to experience breakthroughs. Breakthroughs are profound. They shift our fundamental way of being and impact all areas of our lives consciously and subconsciously. However, many people are overly fixated on the win, goal, achievement, or finish line rather than the breakthrough. This is an energetically unsustainable way to live that leads to burnout. It also often leaves us feeling disconnected from ourselves and others.

What is a breakdown and a breakthrough?
Welcoming and acknowledging breakdowns
Breakdown in communication
Unacknowledged breakdowns
Making up excuses and stories
Breakthroughs are about who you become from the breakdown
Noticing the gap and characteristics that you’re lacking in how you show up
Problem/solution approach isn’t appropriate for most aspects of our lives
Opportunities for breakthroughs are everywhere
Any time something happens is an opportunity to reflect

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Ep 137: Personal Growth (Part 2)

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 14:41:00 -0000

Personal growth is a lifelong journey of uncovering the truth about ourselves beyond conditioned beliefs. There is no finish line. This work challenges us mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually in unpredictable and uncontrollable ways, leaving us often confused and feeling lost. The discomfort of not knowing and not having control is frequently a cause of irritation, where we’re actually clinging to expectations. However, devotion to this journey of expanded self-awareness and embodiment of wisdom brings intangible rewards far greater than any amount of material wealth can offer. Devotion to this complex work is not for everyone, but any bit will help us access a deeper sense of true love.

Devotion to personal growth
Balancing personal growth and wanting results
Staying true to commitments
The trap of wanting what others have
Surface feelings vs. intuition
Humans need a never-ending purpose

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Ep 136: The Energy Of Our Words

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000

The words we use are more impactful and powerful than we were led to believe growing up. In many cases, the language we use is generational, habitual, and automatic. If we are sensitive to the energy underneath the words we use, we will notice positivity and negativity. And the energy can be subtle. The energy depends on our beliefs, relationship to the words, and our current circumstances as they relate to past experiences. The energy doesn’t lie, but how we use the words or justify them can be lies. So, it is critical to be clear about the energy underneath the words we use, especially if we want to teach younger generations about the use of language and their way of speaking.

We grow up mimicking other people’s language
Becoming aware of the impact of language
Having conversations about the impact of words
Curse words and disempowering beliefs
Words vs. how we say them
Words distract us from our energies

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Ep 135: Movies Are A Mirror

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Our access to an abundance of movies and other types of content to consume is a double-edged sword. When movies are primarily consumed as an escape or distraction, we miss valuable opportunities to learn about ourselves and others. Why do we love our favorite movies and their characters? Why do we not enjoy certain types of movies? What is it about a particular scene that makes us feel a certain way? And how does that relate to the way we show up in our lives? In the comfort of our own home or a theater, we can experience a variety of emotions through movies. The movies are just a catalyst pointing us to something profound within us. It can be life-changing to relate to movies in this way.

The movies you’re drawn to
How are we resonating with movies?
Opportunity to reflect and learn about yourself and others
Disconnect from the movie characters we love
Movie magic, inspiration, and excitement as brainstorming

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Ep 134: Reflections On Sports

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Sports can be powerful metaphors for all areas of life. What we love about experiencing sports often reveals what we want more of in life. However, the way we relate to sports changes over time as we grow wiser. This becomes an opportunity to integrate new perspectives holistically into the current games we play.

Enjoying practice
Striving towards a common goal in a team
Metaphors to life
Correlation of business and sports
Overattachment to the outcome
Discipline isn’t enough
It’s not linear
What lights up your soul?
Intrinsic excitement, not results-driven

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Ep 133: What's Your Relationship To Technology?

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000

What’s your current relationship to technology? How are you using it? What’s your level of responsibility with it? As technology continues to blur the lines between the real and the artificial, remaining connected to our humanity becomes increasingly critical. As humans, it is essential for us to remain human, rather than becoming increasingly robotic and disconnected from ourselves and others.

Are you using the technology or is it using you?
General concerns with A.I.
Are we being mindful and intentional?
Individual responsibility with technology
What’s your ideal relationship to technology?
Letting go of old technology
Leading with curiosity

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Ep 132: Liberating The Spirit With Meera Gajjar

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Meera is a tech professional with a degree in Electrical Engineering and over a decade of experience in software quality assurance and technical project management. She holds a Bachelor's degree in Mathematics and a Master's degree in Electrical, Electronics, and Communications Engineering. After years of working in fast-paced tech environments, she is now following a lifelong passion and pivoting into a career in Brazilian samba dance. She brings the same discipline, creativity, and precision from her engineering roots into her dance journey as she builds a new path in the performing arts.

From India to the USA with a tech career
The pull towards Brazilian Samba
Rigid traditional roots in Indian dance
Resonating with the history of Samba
Overcoming discomfort through excitement and enthusiasm
Rules in dance
Liberation of my spirit through dance
Challenges of transition from tech to dancing
Intention of working with special needs kids
Cons of not following my passion
Follow your heart and speak up
Breaking cultural molds

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Ep 131: How Important Is Emotional Intelligence For You?

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Emotional intelligence has become a buzzword used as a surface-level tactic for outward appearances. Without diving deep into the fundamental importance of EQ, organizations and individuals across the world are missing a huge opportunity in health and prosperity. Understanding emotional intelligence can be powerful as a start. But the greater challenge is embodying it, which will not happen simply through a few periodic courses and training.

Being hyper-focused on our agenda and missing the connection
Emotional Intelligence is our natural ability that we’ve blocked
The five elements of emotional intelligence
Although a popular buzzword, emotional intelligence is deep work
What are your boundaries and definitions?
Emotional intelligence is fundamental to being a healthy human being
Why would I grow in my emotional intelligence?
We’re not as self-aware as we think

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Ep 130: Healthy Or Unhealthy Comparison?

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Comparison is a natural tendency for humans. It can be used to inspire us or tear us down. Most often, subconsciously, we use comparison to self-sabotage, leaving us to play a small game and bring others down with us. The focus of most comparisons is typically the external material aspects of the world, such as money, status, and physical appearance. This feeds the scarcity mindset. But a scarcity mindset isn’t inherently wrong. What’s important is our awareness of when and why we are comparing.

Acknowledging your comparison
Using comparison for inspiration
Measuring stick to support goals
Unintentional disempowerment
Often, comparison concerns the tangible
Comparison feeds scarcity
Following curiosity
Stunting or expanding curiosity
Opportunities and reminders through comparison

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Ep 129: What Is Love?

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000

We’ve been bombarded with limiting perspectives of love for generations. As a result, mental health issues are on the rise, dysfunctional relationships continue, and wars perpetuate. Much of our past conditioning has led us to believe that love is something to be found in the outside world. But all along, the secret to true, unconditional love was always within ourselves. Will humanity ever embrace a limitless and empowering perspective of love? Perhaps many generations from now. But it all starts now with each of us individually.

Conditioned perceptions of love
Unconditional and conditional love
Full acceptance of all
We aren’t fully accepting ourselves
The false trap of attraction
Your worst attributes have to be compatible
Romanticized love alone isn’t real life

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Ep 128: Success Isn't What They Say

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Since we were young, our definition of success was highly influenced by our parents, culture, and community. In many cases, we didn’t strongly question the definition despite intuitive cues of misalignment. And so, the misalignment may have compounded feelings of resentment, self-doubt, or a lack of self-worth, for example. But how do you define success now? How are you getting in your own way of embodying that definition? Tune in as we discuss different perspectives on success to help widen your macro lens.

Our definition of success evolves over time
Macro vs. micro lens of success
What’s in the way of people becoming successful?
Can’t be successful if you never define what that means
We often don’t see the full picture
What’s the value of striving?
The ego’s shenanigans

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Ep 127: Influence Mindfully

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000

We are constantly influencing and being influenced by others. How responsible and mindful are we in this regard? Are we manipulating and being manipulated? Whether unconscious or conscious, what is our hidden agenda? Even between like-minded friends, there is typically some underlying motive at play during interactions. The desire or tendency to influence is egoic. Therefore, if we want to live more authentically, it is important to be as aware as possible of how we influence and attempt to influence others.

What’s your agenda in influencing others?
Being influenced is part of the human experience
Social media influencers being tactical
Being genuine, authentic, and having influence
Important qualities of people with influence
Realness is influential

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Ep 126: Servant Leadership

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Servant leadership and self-serving leadership are vastly different. Although it may seem that servant leadership would be most beneficial for any group to reach its goals, this style of leadership is rare. Servant leadership has been a buzzword for some time, but it appears that many leaders at all levels of companies and organizations do not embody it. How different would the world be if servant leadership were the norm? Leadership style is a choice and preference by each individual. Choosing to be a servant leader requires much more than strategies, tactics, and mastering the political game. It requires that we continuously face the parts of ourselves that are uncomfortable. For only then can we deeply and compassionately understand the needs of the people we are responsible for leading.

Servant leadership has to be genuine
How you display leadership is important
Qualities of a servant leader
Leading yourself first
Difficult to spot genuineness
Leadership is a skill that can be learned
Difference between leadership and management
Entrepreneurs have to be both a leader and a manager

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Ep 125: 3 Steps Forward, 2 Steps Back

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000

We often react to setbacks in a disempowered way. Going backwards feels defeating, especially when we’re making progress and gaining momentum. It is easy to fall into the trap of feeling like a victim in these circumstances. However, it is essential to recognize the opportunities for learning and growth. The empowering perspective is that these opportunities move us forward, not backward. Focusing our attention on expanding perspective rather than on physical or material setbacks is key.

Redefining words and relationships
Setbacks are movements forward
Challenges are meant for learning and pivoting
Not being a victim of your circumstances
Handling a typical physical setback
Where am I choosing from?
Reflecting on setbacks and seeing patterns

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Ep 124: Faux Empathy?

Tue, 27 May 2025 12:55:00 -0000

Empathy has become a buzzword over the years. Being empathetic sounds and looks great, but how empathetic are we actually? Is our empathy fake? How deeply are we connecting with ourselves and others? Awareness of the edge of our own discomfort, whether it be an emotion and/or thought, offers an opportunity for us to deepen empathy. Empathy is experienced in attentiveness, patience, and the ability to respond appropriately to what is needed in the moment. And what is needed in the moment must be clear to deepen the connection.

Sympathy vs. empathy
How far do you go down into the pits with someone?
What do you need?
Fixing is often a reaction to avoid emotions
Empathy starts with ourselves
Empathy and judgment
Suppressing emotions
Fear of losing control of emotions
It’s in our nature to connect with people

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Ep 123: Relationship To Food

Tue, 20 May 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Our relationship to food is fundamental to the quality of our life experience. Our eating habits amplify the complex dynamic between body and mind. Unless we are personally growing most of the food we consume, we are generally at the mercy of the food available at local stores. With the rapid decline in the quality of store-bought foods over the last few decades, mindful eating is more important than ever before. And mindful eating requires us to revisit our conditioned beliefs about food.

Reflecting on early memories with food
Noticing eating patterns based on feelings
Awareness of lifestyle goal
We want comfort more than growth
It’s a complex dynamic between body and mind
Extra mindfulness with the food we consume
Sensitivity to what your body is saying
Trial and error

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Ep 122: Networking Alignment

Tue, 13 May 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Networking is an art form. It takes years of practice and deep self-awareness to network authentically and effectively. Until then, networking can be an awkward and challenging journey. Networking burnout is common. An empowered relationship with networking expands possibilities for our lives that far outweigh any time, money, or energy used along the way. How well are we connecting with others? Where’s the gap in expectation and understanding? How am I taking responsibility for the gap? Am I treating networking as a transactional encounter? In this episode, we discuss engaging in networking sustainably and in a balanced way.

What’s your relationship with networking?
Getting clear on the types of people we want to network with
Empowering reframe of networking
Limitation of a single-minded agenda
Forcing the gap
Eagerness to get to the finish line
How do you define “connection”?
How do we determine if we’re successful at networking?

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Ep 121: Faith Part 2

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000

When we acknowledge that there is much more that we don’t know compared to what we do know, we can understand that we are always living in faith. Faith is the unconditional belief in the unseen. For example, death is a major fear for many of us, yet on most days, we have faith that we will wake up the next day. How would our lives be different if we applied a similar level of faith to all aspects of our lives, including relationships and career? How do we strengthen faith when doubt sets in? What are some signs of weakening faith? In this episode, we emphasize the importance of empowering our relationship to faith in all areas of our lives.

Getting clear when we’re losing faith
Losing faith in self
There’s no map or formula to develop more Faith
Distinguishing lack of faith in the goal or in ourselves
Time to reflect is crucial
Alignment increases faith
Comfortability can weaken the faith muscle
Boredom and predictability

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Ep 120: Karma

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Karma simply means action in Sanskrit. Moment by moment, we have thoughts that lead to physical action or inaction. In other words, we choose moment by moment, whether consciously or unconsciously. We can choose to relate to karma in a supportive or disempowering way. This is our responsibility. How about the karma of self-judgment? How aware are we of the impact this has on all areas of our lives? Let’s dive into this!

Old and new relationship to karma
What you reap is what you sow
Fair and unfair
What we do now can affect generations after us
Instant karma
Getting curious with our patterns
The power of reflection
Are you showing up the way you want to show up?
Constant course correction
The karma of self-judgment
How is self-judgment impacting our decisions?
Stopping the karmic wheel of judgment

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Ep 119: Choose Powerfully!

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000

We make choices every moment of every day in all areas of our lives, many on autopilot. When we question our choices, especially those we make on autopilot, we can create a life more inspiring and aligned with who we want to become. To break up the autopilot decision-making, we fundamentally need awareness of conditioned beliefs that influence our decisions. We also need courage to follow our intuition despite what others think, say, or do. The bottom line is that many people forget that they are always making a choice, even when the choice feels disempowering or when it’s to not make a choice. Knowing and practicing choosing powerfully regardless of the choice is a game-changer.

I always have a choice in how I respond
The courage to choose
Opportunity cost
There’s always a choice being made
Rechoosing to keep choice empowered
Ignoring intuitive change
Being excited about your own life
Settling for not bad
Knowing when it’s time to make a different choice
What are you not excited about?
Noticing daily autopilot choices

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Ep 118: Lessons From Golf

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000

Amongst all sports, golf may be one of the best that mirrors life. It is an individual emotional journey that takes many twists and turns. It is a slow-paced, methodical, and spiritual journey. Every round is different. The course and weather conditions are different. No shot is ever exactly the same. The people you play with may be different. And of course, your mind, body, and emotions are different because you bring life circumstances into your round of golf. When closely observing a person playing golf, much about that person’s character is revealed. In this episode, we discuss lessons learned through golf that have translated to life.

EPISODE SUMMARY

Patience
True colors are revealed
Mild-mannered and methodical vs. showing reaction
Balance of branding and being human
Golf as a metaphor for life
Being real with where you are
You’ll only go as far as your self-belief
Confidence can be tricky
Life issues exacerbated by playing bad golf
Putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves probably won’t go well

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Ep 117: Information Overload!

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000

With easy access to so much information today, sky's the limit to almost anything we want to know. Concurrently, the access is often overwhelming and can be more harmful than helpful. Opinions are misunderstood as facts. Information is taken out of context. Discernment becomes shaky. Are we using information responsibly? How are we showing up when we are wrong about a topic? Our ability to think independently, practice due diligence, and stay open to other perspectives is more critical than ever.

Easy access to information devalues the need to hold it in your head
Now we need to know a little about a lot of things for relatability
Curiosity leads to expansion of knowledge naturally
Willingness to change your opinions
We need to constantly be thinking for ourselves
We need to be clear on how we want to use information
It’s not the information itself, but what we’re making it mean

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Ep 116: Social Media

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0000

We all have ideas about the dangers and benefits of social media. But how intentional are we being with those tools? Are we using social media or is it using us? How authentically are we showing up on those platforms? Are we using it as an automatic mental numbing tool? Regardless of how we use social media, ownership and awareness of it is key.

Social media amplifies who you already are
Piecing together snippets of information to understand context
Distinction between using social media as a tool and it using you
Self-judgment with posting content
It comes down to being clear on the intention at the moment
Being aware of your automatic natural comparison to others
Balancing promoting business and personal boundaries on social media
Clarity and commitment to engaging and adding value

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Ep 115: A Lie Is A Lie

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0000

The truth is, we often don’t tell the truth. We overtly lie, sugarcoat, or omit information more often than we know. We are masters of hiding and manipulating our truth and we’ve been practicing it since we were kids. We are walking hypocrites wanting more transparency everywhere. Perhaps we’re afraid of what the truth will reveal about ourselves and others. In this episode, we explore the behavior of lying as an opportunity to recalibrate the importance of honesty in our lives.

Telling lies seems to be an early trait
White lies, big lies, omitting the truth -3:30 Jeff
How important is the value of honesty? - 5:45 Tatsu
Full honesty vs. blunt truth - 7:48 Jeff
Pure honesty is refreshing - 11:16 Tatsu
Owning the delivery of your truth - 13:25 Jeff
What’s the root of lying? - 15:25 Tatsu/Jeff
The parent conundrum of lying - 17:26 Jeff
Is our lying in integrity with how we want to live - 19:03 Jeff
Our inability to strongly enforce transparency - 19:57 Tatsu
Where are we overly sugarcoating? - 20:47 Jeff

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Ep 114: The Win/Win Isn't Easy

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0000

In making decisions with multiple people involved, from negotiating a business deal to deciding what to eat for dinner, the result is often a Win/Lose or Lose/Lose. A compromise is typically a loss. How mindful are you about creating Win/Wins? And how willing are you to do so? What are your limitations for creativity and transparency? What does a Win look like for you? How about the other people involved? Considering these questions can lead to a powerful expansion of our minds and a deepening of our relationships. In this episode, we discuss nuances of the Win/Win that we may normally overlook.

There’s usually someone getting the short end of the stick
Lose/Lose, Win/Lose, Win/Win
A good salesperson mitigates the gap
It takes clarity on both sides
The definition of a win for each person has to be clear
Going for the Win/Win requires leading with transparency
Creativity comes into play if you really want to find the Win/Win
Having an agenda is great, but stay open to what’s being said in the moment
Why is it important to play for the Win/Win?

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Ep 113: Traps Of The Golden Rule

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0000

The Golden and Platinum Rules may not be as clear as we think. We may attach hidden conditions and expectations to how we show up for others. This can leave us feeling disempowered, contrary to the basic intention of both rules. The essence of both rules is simple, but people globally have different values and perspectives. Therefore, a blend of both rules may be optimal, which requires deeper inquiry into ourselves and others.

The Golden Rule and Platinum Rule
Limitation to both rules
Foundational value of treating others with respect
Beyond the Golden Rule with expectation
The simple form of the Golden Rule is universal
A blend of both
The Platinum Rule doesn’t exist without having some relationship
A way of being to look for practicing both rules
Violation of the rules with how we treat ourselves

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Ep 112: Shame On Your Body!

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000

There is no positive outcome that stems from body shaming, yet it continues to be integrated into society, culture, and education through visual imagery and speech. We repeatedly attempt to fix the problem with Band-Aids. However, accessing the root of the issue requires much more than silly Band-Aids that look from the outside in. Accessing the root requires deep personal transformation which, for many, is too confronting and time and energy-consuming. In this episode, we discuss our past and current relationship with body shaming.

Hearing body shaming since childhood
We were ruthless to others because we were ruthless to ourselves
Noticing how you feel inside
Understand what’s underneath the judgment first
Body shaming comes down to lack of self-love
Society and education inputs shame
We try to make ourselves feel better by making someone else feel worse
Comparison to other people
Can we accept others and ourselves for who we are and continue to grow?

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Ep 111: New Year's Resolutions Don't Work

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000

January has a flavor of new beginnings, a chance at a fresh start. We’ve all experienced creating a New Year’s resolution, starting it, and falling off within a short period of time. Seemingly highly motivated at first, why do we quit so soon? What’s wrong with us? In this episode, we discuss subconscious beliefs and setting ourselves up for sustainable transformation regardless of when we decide to begin.

Why we quit on New Year's resolutions and goals
What’s your plan and who are you going to be during the process?
Reinforcing subconscious self-doubt
Intention to improve stemming from what’s wrong with us
Setting drastic big goals is not how you achieve sustainable transformation
A shift in identity has to happen before we see certain results
People have a goal, come up against strong resistance, and use twisted logic to make the resistance justifiable
What do you need to close the gaps?
Find an accountability buddy

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Ep 110: The Wisdom Of Frustration

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000

We often experience frustration because our expectations do not match reality. Taking a moment to pause reveals many more instances of frustration than we were aware of. The rabbit hole can go deep. Acknowledging the frustration and staying curious about the root of it in each situation leads us toward invaluable insight into ourselves. The most common trap of processing frustration is blaming others and external circumstances, thereby avoiding the hidden wisdom. In this episode, we discuss how frustration is a powerful signal for us to pause and reflect deeply.

Frustration with letting go of old identities
When expectations don’t meet reality
Expectations of others can leave us feeling powerless
Kids are a reflection of parents up until a certain age
Faulty premises
Expectations vs. goals
The secret sauce is in the alignment of the goal
Clarity around your frustration

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Ep 109: Mindset Is Your Quality Of Life

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Is mindset important to you? If so, why and how important is it? We all like to believe we are open-minded because it is a socially attractive quality. However, with or without being influenced by this social reward, mindset is a deeply personal choice about your human potential. If you highly value mindset, a tremendous amount of continuous self-reflection is required. Awareness of your current behavior, past conditioning, creativity in thinking, and ability to see wider perspectives contribute significantly to your mindset. In this episode, we explore this tricky ever-evolving animal called mindset.

Mindset determines the quality of your life
Mindset continues to evolve
Early conditioning
We will never know everything that is influencing our mindset
Getting curious about our personal beliefs
Is your mindset important to you?
The challenge of navigating social media and society
“Trusting the journey” is not sufficient

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Ep 108: Is Fear Your Puppet Master?

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Fear is interesting. We all have it and the mechanism will never go away as long as we are human beings. It can paralyze us but it is part of what makes us human. It serves a purpose but it often oversteps its role. Therefore, understanding the fear mechanism and how it manipulates our daily thoughts and behavior is critical if we truly want to grow into the highest versions of ourselves. In this episode, we scratch the surface by unpacking the fear mechanism and awareness of our relationship to it.

Limiting the full expression of ourselves
Learning from our kids
Unconsciously empowering our fear by using control
Fear of not being loved
Shifting relationship to fear
Being clear on your intention
Projecting fear onto kids and others
Fear is a manipulative driver of behavior
Awareness of how we’re being and choosing from there
Hurt people hurt people

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Ep 107: Choose Your Core Beliefs Wisely

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Our upbringing and education shaped our core beliefs from an early age. Core beliefs profoundly influence our decision-making, whether the decision is seemingly life-changing or trivial. Therefore, awareness of our core beliefs is of utmost importance. At the same time, understanding that we can change our core beliefs is extremely liberating. However, doing so may be challenging due to fear of losing the identity we created with the old beliefs. In this episode, we discuss the importance of reflecting on our core beliefs and the practice of choosing ones that support the highest version of ourselves.

Why is it important to reflect on our core beliefs?
Conditioned beliefs
Beliefs are just malleable thoughts
Weaponizing beliefs
Being responsible for what we say and how we say it
What evidence do you require to adopt a belief?
Integrating cognitive evidence and intuition
A lot of beliefs were learned without explicitly being said

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Ep 106: Sabotaging Creativity

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000

Creativity may be one of the most important yet underemphasized practices on which to focus energy. It can help us grow into the highest versions of ourselves and enhance all aspects of our lives. Unfortunately, many of us block our natural creative energy with external distractions and cling to conditioned beliefs that no longer serve our highest potential. Before jumping into creative pursuits, it can be powerful to understand our current relationship with creativity and redefine a more empowering foundation for this relationship in the future. In this episode, we discuss the importance of creativity and foundational blocks, both internal and external.

Your relationship with creativity
Feminine and masculine energy
Logical vs. abstract thinking
Balancing planned vs. not planned
Being intentional about allowing spontaneity
Creative energy stifled by distractions
Creativity doesn’t necessarily produce direct results
Sharing authentically
Playing for creative expression itself vs. the outcome of expression
Tapping into creativity will create a different experience

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The Creative Act: A Way Of Being by Rick Rubin

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Ep 105: What Can You Actually Control?

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000

We are generally conditioned by society to focus on outcomes, achievements, winning, etc. A major issue with this mindset is how we show up along the way to the finish line and, of course, when we “fail”. Hyper-focus on the outcome tends to create hyper-focus on controlling everyone and everything imaginable along the way. This can cause many problems including stress, misunderstanding, judgment, disappointment, and resentment. In this episode, we discuss the ego’s controlling tendency and the delicate balance between control and faith.

Trying to control an outcome
What do I realistically have control of?
Criticizing others as an avoidance strategy
Subconscious motives underlying control
Control and faith
Life is a faith game
Our controlling nature leads to stress and judgment
Short-term wins with the kids
Trying to control others affects your mood
Improving communication and understanding others
Being aware of what serves you and how you want to show up

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Ep 104: Focus Is Natural

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000

With the progress of technology, we currently have more access to information and possibilities than ever in human history. However, this access can also work against us mentally, emotionally, and physically. How distracted are you daily from moment to moment? How is the quality of your focus and attention with the things that you do? If you are often distracted, what fear is at the root of your distraction? In this episode, we discuss nuances around our relationship to focus.

Awareness of distractions
Quality of how you show up
Distinction and balance of forced focus vs. inspired focus
Aligning larger commitments with the focus on specific actions
Practicing doing focus
Taking time to quiet the mind when distracted
Fear is in the way of being focused
Priority of how you show up vs. the goal or task

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Ep 103: Leveling Up On Another Level

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000

What does leveling up look like for you? Improving performance in our fitness, job, business, or romantic relationships is a common goal we are familiar with. But how often do we intentionally level up how we see the world? More specifically, how frequently do we redefine the words we use, question our existing beliefs, or integrate our ego and intuition? Engaging in leveling up our broader picture of life supports success across all areas of our lives, whereas traditional goal setting intends to level up a specific area of life. In this episode, we look at the bigger picture of leveling up in service of the highest integrated version of ourselves.

Who you become on your journey toward goals
How are we feeling about all areas of our life?
What does leveling up mean and look like for you?
Leveling up the definitions of the words we use
Distinguishing ego from intuition
Question everything, especially existing beliefs
Who we are now vs. who we want to be
Balancing logical thinking and dreaming
Shifting from head to heart and intuition

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Ep 102: So You Feel Like An Imposter?

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000

Imposter syndrome is like an annoying head cold that periodically appears in all of us. It often holds us back from becoming the highest versions of ourselves. Fear-based messaging throughout society since our childhood is at the root of it. We weren’t usually rewarded for taking risks, being authentic, and following our hearts. Rather, we were often rewarded for good behavior and conformity and shamed otherwise. What if imposter syndrome was just an indicator for us to check alignment with what and how we are pursuing as a goal? In this episode, we discuss the basic workings of imposter syndrome and perspectives on shifting our relationship to it.

When does imposter syndrome show up?
Comparison vs. judgment
Fake it till you make it
From understanding to embodiment
Misalignment adds to feelings of being an imposter
Importance of committing to the process
Imposter syndrome is inevitable
Defense to stay comfortable
Consequences aren’t inherently bad
Imposter syndrome is an internal indicator

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Ep 101: All Things In Moderation

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000

Moderation applies to much more than an overindulgence of the things we love to consume. Moderation is a key aspect of being human. It shows up, for example, in activity vs. recovery, saving vs. spending, giving vs. taking, etc. We all have a unique ongoing balance that supports the most and least aligned versions of ourselves. However, conditioned beliefs often stimulate confusion, including our comparison with society’s standards. So, how do you define moderation? Does this definition need to change? Where in your life are you showing up with too much or not enough of something? In this episode, we explore the importance of finding this balance within.

Gauging moderation for yourself
Intentionally moderating work vs. rest
Self-awareness of physical and energetic signs
Separating self-judgments from physical and energetic signs
The automatic “I’m good” answer
Everyone’s moderation is different
Comparison with society’s standards
From honesty to making aligned choices
Moderation is an ongoing process
Is your definition of moderation supporting you?

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Ep 100: Observing Reactions

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000

Being able to observe our automatic reactions to people and situations is highly important to understand ourselves. Reactionary feelings are indicators of our conditioned programming. And our reactionary actions are extensions of that programming. Negative reactionary feelings and actions tend to stagnate our growth if we do not see the silver lining. However, there is also a spontaneous beauty in reactionary feelings that arise, as we often see in children. In this episode, we explore various layers of our being as we grow from reactionary to responsive.

Observing reactions in ourselves and others
React vs. Respond
Trying to over-control spontaneous reactions
Hypersensitivity and lack of ownership
Noticing initial reactionary feelings
Owning our reactions and responsibility to understand others’ views
Overreactions and judgment

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Ep 99: I’m Right, You’re Wrong!

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000

We all carry right vs. wrong contexts in all areas of our lives. Problems magnify when we force our right vs. wrong contexts onto others. The ego’s tendency to desperately cling to being right often limits our growth and ability to connect. In this episode, we explore various perspectives of the right vs. wrong context and distinguish our judgments from simply what is.

The right vs. wrong context
Realization of the trap
The ego’s tendency to cling
The human level of context vs. macro view of what Is
How broad are we looking at the grand scheme of things?
What if there was no right or wrong?
Consequences of daily choices
We were conditioned to have the right answer and behavior
The challenge of starting with a blank canvas
The hypocrisy of attempting to control
Continual evolution of the new right way

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Ep 98: Winter Is Coming

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000

We all have a relationship to the winter season. For many, winter represents the coming of the year-end holidays. The holidays can be stressful times with events, family gatherings, shopping, or a last push to complete goals. Winter tends to bring less daylight and a metabolic slowdown, which may contribute to surfacing feelings of loneliness or sadness. Regardless of our relationship with this season, it is a special opportunity to disrupt conditioned patterns of thought and behavior. The energy of winter facilitates deeper self-reflection if we truly want more clarity. In this episode, we discuss taking advantage of these winter months.

Noticing your conditioning related to winter
Slowing down and getting quieter internally
Grinding through planning and your plans
Noticing your way of being with goals
Specifics are key, even if you don’t buy into the metric
Reflecting on your year and planning for the next
Acknowledging and reflecting on feelings
Time for clarity and getting real

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Ep 97: Cha-Cha-Change!

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 17:58:16 -0000

We tend to be creatures of habit. Change is everywhere, constant, and inevitable but we often resist it. There is a dynamic balance between habitual consistency and trying new ways or things. When is it time for us to make a change in our lives? What do we want to change? Being completely honest with ourselves opens us to positive change. In this episode, we discuss relationship to change and nuances to consider.

Resistance to change
Facing the reality of boredom, being uninspired, health concerns, etc.
Comfort in the familiar and nostalgic
Pressure from society, family, neighbors, etc.
Obvious vs. subtle times to change
Change is an action that represents a bigger desire
How real are you being with yourself about making changes?
Change is constant whether we ignore it or not

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Ep 96: All Things Coaching With Steve O'Halloran

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000

In this episode, we enjoy having guest Steve O’Halloran, an executive coach and mentor. He shares his insights on the coaching profession, entrepreneurship, benefits of coaching, and his journey into coaching. Born and raised in Australia, Steve has a background in training and finance and built a financial services business prior to coaching full-time. His clients span the globe and he is a program director for accelerated learning which has been running transformational programs for 30 years. He is a 1st-degree blackbelt in Ninjukai Taijutsu, loves helping people learn who they are, and continues living with heart and fun.

Coaching distinctions
Coaches ask questions they don’t know the answers to
Bringing out the creativity in others
What to look for in a coach
The coach and client relationship is key
Being unfulfilled
Steve’s path to coaching
The skills of coaching vs. entrepreneurship
Importance of support
Coaching/entrepreneurial challenges

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Ep 95: How Well Do You Ask For Support?

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000

As with most behaviors, our relationship to asking for support was conditioned from an early age. Many people find asking for support vulnerable, and they often avoid the discomfort of asking. On the other hand, many people are masters at giving support. Interestingly, giving support without equally asking for support is not sustainable and eventually depletes well-being. Learning to ask for support is vital to well-being. In this episode, we explore clarity and awareness around asking for support.

Common disempowering relationship to asking for support
Early conditioning
Connection between acts of service and acts of suffering
Clarity of our needs
Breakthroughs in asking for support
How you’re being when asking for support
How you’re being whether you get the support or not
Looking for opportunities in the act of asking for support

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The 5 Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes

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Ep 94: The Habitual Fixer

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 08:17:01 -0000

Many people are conditioned to focus on problems and head straight for solutions. While this might be useful in overcoming dire situations, most situations are not dire in modern times. This behavior in normal day-to-day situations, personal or professional, can lead to disconnection, misunderstanding, and disempowerment. In this episode, we discuss various perspectives and layers concerning the fixer habit.

Tendency to jump to the solution of a perceived problem
Awareness of why we tend to want to fix
Generational beliefs that certain things are broken or wrong
Tying a mindset of fixing to the value you bring
Avoidance of pain or discomfort
What if there was nothing to fix?
Who are you being?
Advice vomiting
Learning what to listen for
Finding out what the person actually needs

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Ep 93: The Power Of Saying No

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 05:29:22 -0000

EPISODE SUMMARY

When was the last time you said Yes when you really wanted to say No? Clarity around priorities and saying No to distractions are keys to reaching goals. However, awareness of misalignment between your logical brain and intuition is even more vital. In this episode, we dive into various nuances about saying No.

Awareness of your tendencies to say Yes or No
Discerning an empowered No
Being in integrity with intuition
Obligation as a trap
How you’re being when you say No
Setting boundaries in service of love or fear?
Clarity around priorities, and saying No to distractions
Importance of aligning logical brain with instinct
Building support around you to stay aligned with goals
Accountability partners

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The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

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Ep 92: The Mirror Effect

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000

The mirror effect is a powerful way to expand self-awareness and proactively engage in personal growth. Ultimately, it shifts full responsibility onto ourselves and empowers us to be at cause for how we show up in the world. In this episode, we discuss this way of relating to the world which has enhanced our lives tremendously.

If you spot it, you got it
Noticing that your reactions are indicators
Judgmental tendencies
The meaning we put on situations and people
Creating awareness around frustration
Understanding the mirror effect as access to peace
Sometimes we need other people to point out our tendencies
The mirror effect applies to positive traits and feelings too

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Ep 91: Legal & Practical Myths Of Owning A Business With Shawn Garrett

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000

Shawn Garrett is the founding attorney of Garrett, PLLC, and focuses on corporate transactions. Based in Charlotte, North Carolina, Shawn’s practice consists of business formations, M&A activity, contract drafting, and dispute resolution. He has represented companies from pre-revenue to mid-sized entities and investment funds. He frequently presents business law topics and is involved in the business and startup ecosystems in his community. He is also involved with the American Bar Association’s Business Law section as a contributing editor to the Business Law Today publication. We are excited to share his insights with you in this episode.

Top 3 things a new business owner should consider
Importance of solidifying intent because personalities don’t always flow
Online legal services, large law firms, and smaller law firms
What to look for in a business attorney
Myths in business from the legal perspective
Getting rid of the “too small mindset”
Integrity in business and golf
Always schedule time to work on your business
What type of liability do you have?
Believe in your business

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Ep 90: People-Pleasers Please Stand Up

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000

The ego’s way of manipulating people-pleasing behavior is laughably tricky. Are you aware of such tendencies? At what cost to your authenticity? What is your ultimate goal in people-pleasing or not people-pleasing? Self-awareness of your truth will make clear whether the cost of your behavior is too high to sustain. In this episode, we discuss various aspects of this fascinating behavior.

Wanting to be loved and accepted
Empowered vs. disempowered people pleasing
Sufferers, quitters, and attackers
The Japanese culture and people-pleasing
Awareness of self in the moment
People-pleasing within romantic relationships
Communicating your needs
Filling the void within ourselves
The fallacy that love is conditional
Rewiring our beliefs on what love is and isn’t

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Ep 89: The Monday Blues

Tue, 17 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000

The Monday Blues is a feeling most of us have felt throughout our lives. But how deeply have we unpacked this feeling? What is driving this feeling? What judgments do we notice in our minds? This feeling can be a huge clue to improvement and insight. In this episode, we reflect on the Monday Blues and how we relate to it.

The Monday Blues are completely made up
What drives the Monday Blues individually for us?
Fear of misalignment
Fear of redundancy
Lack of purpose perpetuating boredom
Reflecting deeply on the feeling of the blues
The cost of the Monday Blues
Intentional and purpose-driven action

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Ep 88: Leadership Fundamentals

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000

Whether we like it or not, we are all leaders in some area of our lives. Especially leaders of ourselves. This is where leadership starts. So, how well are we leading ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually? What is our image of the ideal leader? In this episode, we discuss some fundamental qualities that are increasingly important for leadership today and in the future.

Evolving your style of leadership
How well do you lead yourself?
Being in integrity
Being humble and vulnerable
Decisiveness and conviction
Mindset of 100% responsibility and ownership
Expectations vs. reality
We can be in a relationship and not IN relationship with someone simultaneously
Spotting a problem and being willing to have a conversation with respect
Why do you do what you do? And how do you show up when you do them?

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Ep 87: Acting vs. Authenticity with Remy Wallace

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 12:58:00 -0000

In this episode, we have the pleasure of having Remy Wallace share his thoughts on the intersection of acting and authenticity. He grew up in Philadelphia and lived in NY, Los Angeles, and now in Charlotte, NC. Early in his professional career, he chose to quit a promising corporate job in the sports industry to pursue acting and filmmaking. He credits that decision to the many miracles that have taken place since. He and his wife, Natalie, are now full-time parents, partners, and entrepreneurs with huge dreams and aspirations to live a less traditional path while making a massive global impact.

Acting is about being believable
You bring a part of your own self into every role
How real do we get with our kids?
Practicing empathy every day
Knowing when you’re not being authentic in real life
Emotions and releasing them appropriately
Balancing micro and macro authenticity
We all want to be authentic AND we’re all acting
When being authentic isn’t worth it
How you do things vs. what you do is important
While acting on stage, there are no repercussions to letting loose
Be honest and bold about who you are

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Ep 86: Obligations Can Be Dangerous

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000

Our obligations in life may feel empowering or disempowering depending on how we relate to them. It is important to identify the obligations that feel misaligned. Then, either reframe the relationship to it or change the situation of the obligation entirely. Obligations are often accompanied by internal and external judgment that can fester and build resentment. In this episode, we discuss some of the nuances around obligation.

Slippery slope with obligations
Gratitude as a reframe
Moral obligations and judgment
Constantly rechoosing mindfully
Should/shouldn’t context
The fallacy of being obligated to follow our inner critic
Ego is doing its job whether it is supportive or not of our highest potential
Perpetuating obligation generationally
Questioning our obligations

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Ep 85: There’s No Aging In Wisdom

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000

Common images and definitions of aging tend to infer decay or decline of vitality. With it comes a negative or disempowering sense. This may accurately represent change on a purely physical level, but the physical level is often overemphasized in importance. Along with aging comes something far more powerful, wisdom. Wisdom softens the harsh blow of the inevitability of physical decline. What is wisdom? How do we embody it and shift our perspective on aging? In this episode, we discuss the importance of wisdom as we age.

Age gracefully or inelegantly
Listening to your body
Physical aging vs. growth in wisdom
Using wisdom for maintenance and recovery of your body
Becoming more intentional as you age
Ability to apply knowledge and experiences
More self-awareness and ability to let go comes with aging
Shift in perspective on aging
Observing and interacting with different generations for wisdom

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Ep 84: How Grateful Are You Really?

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000

We’ve all been told that gratitude is good. However, many of us were not taught the complexities tied to gratitude. For example, the transactional nature of giving and receiving. How do you even give and receive in a healthy way? Is giving more important than receiving? What is abundance and how is it connected to gratitude? What does gratitude feel like? In this episode, we discuss various complexities around gratitude.

Growing up learning to give vs. to receive
A balance of giving and receiving
Being transactional
Generosity may not be generosity.
Gratitude for the abundance already around you
We’re trained to notice what’s wrong or missing
Embodying gratitude

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Ep 83: On Masculinity with Alex Terranova

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000

In this episode, we have Alex Terranova, who guides men to become the leaders their companies and families can be proud of. Alex is deeply devoted to his wife Evin, the family they are creating, and his own personal growth and expansion as a man and leader. Alex is an Executive and Leadership Coach, 2x Author, and Sacred Guide who has helped hundreds of individuals and organizations transcend mental barriers, unlock their boundless potential, and support men in healing, growing, and expanding as leaders at work and home. His unique and effective coaching style has been described as “cutting through the bullshit while powerfully channel spirit at the moment,” which has helped businesses grow, marriages heal, parenting improve, the development of new leaders, and support increased overall happiness, peace, and fulfillment for individuals and companies. His commitment to telling the bold and direct truth earned him the “The Anti-Excuses Coach” title by Yahoo Finance. Alex is obsessed with his wiener dog Cali and his cat Tucker, and he loves the gym and a spiritual plant medicine ceremony. Something you’d never know is that Alex created an online bachelor-style contest to meet his wife, Evin.

Alex’s journey into men’s work
The wounded masculine energy
The masculine and feminine
Balancing our energies as men
Muting anger as a child
Attracting a partner that lifts you up and supports you
The limitation in putting ourselves into boxes
Love in its purest form
Expanding curiosity to explore
Evolving your identities instead of clinging to them

Links mentioned:

Website: https://www.alexterranovacoaching.com/

Alchemy Of Men Retreat: https://alchemyofmenretreat.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexterranova/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvRU3eZLTS0n_Aj01w6McMg

Alex’s book Fictional Authenticity: https://www.amazon.com/dp/169280684X?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_AZAYE8ZZGQ57H5EKRKDQ

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