Parenting Autism and ADHD

Calm First, Reset Later: Supporting Anxious, Neurodivergent Kids After School

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Does your child come home from school, barely say a word, and vanish into their room? Maybe you get a grunt, “What’s for dinner?” and suddenly the whole house flips - doors slam, voices rise, and you’re wondering, “How did we get here again?”

Most people will tell you it’s screen time, hormones, or “just teenagers.” But what if it’s not a behaviour problem at all—what if it’s anxiety and overload, especially for autistic, ADHD, and otherwise neurodivergent kids?

Cliff unpacks what’s really going on after a long day of masking, noise, and social pressure, and shares his simple but powerful Calm–Reset framework. You’ll learn how to stop chasing behaviour, reset the environment, and become the calm nervous system your child can borrow from ,so there’s less conflict, fewer shutdowns, and more genuine connection, when they walk through the door.

EPISODE REVEALS

An after‑school “attitude problem” is often a nervous system at capacity from masking, noise, rules, and social pressure all day.
Regulation starts with the adult: CALM (Calm yourself, Acknowledge them, Lower pressure, Model safety) lets your child borrow your nervous system instead of your words. Cliff shares practical ways to do this.
RESET (Reflect, Exhale, Slow it down, Talk later) - Don’t try to teach in the heat of a meltdown - strike when the iron is cold. Cliff explains how to do this.
Shifting from fixing your child to leading the environment reduces shutdowns and aggression and creates space for genuine connection.
Simple, consistent signals e.g. how they walk up the drive, whether they go straight to their room first can alert you to how they are feeling.

BEST MOMENTS

“You don't fix the child. You change the state around them.”

“Your child doesn't learn calm from what you say. They learn it from what they experience. They borrow your calm.”

“Don't chase the behaviours, calm first - you first, then reset them later.”

“We're not fixing, we're not correcting, we're resetting the moment, allowing them time and space, and letting them know that we understand.”

RESOURCES

What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you:

https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR

FamiSafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD

CLIFF´S SERVICES

Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister

Are you feeling overwhelmed with EHCP paperwork or are you stuck? Cliff, who has personally been through the process offers body-doubling and step-by-step support. You can contact him here - https://m.me/cliff.kilmister

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

What Neurodiverse Kids Really Think About a Social Media Ban

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Cliff and his daughter Eva have a candid, unfiltered conversation about the proposed UK social media ban for under‑16s. They explore how platforms like YouTube and gaming chats help many autistic and ADHD kids regulate, connect and unwind – and why a blanket ban could do more harm than good.

Eva shares why she and many of her friends and classmates who are also neuro-divergent and under 16 have mixed feelings about the proposed ban.

Cliff digs into the risks of digital IDs and face verification, while both emphasise that real online safety comes from informed, involved parenting, not one‑size‑fits‑all government control.

EPISODE REVEALS

For many neurodivergent kids, social media is a core regulation tool. Often, it´s how they decompress, connect and create predictable background noise after hard days.
Sudden removal of access to platforms kids social on risks emotional “crash” and withdrawal.
A blanket ban cuts off access to a source of music, educational videos and fun content as well as potentially harmful content.
Tough love around tech - consistent limits, bedtimes, and content guidance - can feel harsh in the moment, yet over time children often reinterpret it as care and safety.
Monitoring tools help a lot, but they don´t catch everything and are not a replacement for a strong relationship and open conversations with your child.
Digital ID requirements and face verification raise serious concerns about privacy, data security and future social‑credit‑style control, especially when normalised for children.

BEST MOMENTS

"At the end of the day, this isn't the government's job, is it? It's ours."

"Yes, it's going to be difficult, but you've got the tools. You've got, then the knowledge what's going on with your child."

"Social media is how most people my age, possibly younger, connect with each other."

"It's not going to help that you kids have grown up with this, and then suddenly it's cut away. So, there's going to be withdrawal symptoms."

EPISODE RESOURCES

FamiSafe: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Using Storytelling to Rewrite Every Neurodiverse Child´s Story with Ravinol Chambers

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today, I'm joined by Ravinol Chambers a filmmaker, founder of Be Inspired Films, and a fellow dad navigating life with a neuro divergent child. Together, we explore his family's journey from early challenges in mainstream school through to diagnosis overwhelm and finding the right environment where his son could thrive.

We also look at how storytelling is changing outcomes. Including, the example of his work with the NHS on Jack's story that highlights the pathway from school exclusion to prison and what happens when neurodivergent young people aren't properly understood or supported and most importantly, what we can do differently to ensure things don´t reach that point.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed navigating the system or worried about your child's future, this conversation is for you.

EPISODE REVEALS

The right school is less about labels and more about fit - small classes, quiet spaces, trained staff, and peers who feel like your child’s tribe.
Visual supports like Widget’s symbol language and social stories can turn overwhelming days into predictable narratives children can understand and rehearse.
Regulation starts with us; pausing to breathe, stepping back and steadying our own nervous system lets us lend that calm to our children when they’re in crisis.

BEST MOMENTS

"When you're going through stuff, it's so hard, but looking back, you realise that it's also a gift."

"If you're regulated, you can almost lend them your nervous system."

"Love your child, love yourself, support each other, do your best to learn. Grow and expand yourself to be a bigger and more stable container for your child ."

GUEST RESOURCES

https://www.beinspiredfilms.co.uk/

Email: Ravinol@beinspiredfilms.com

Jack's story - https://vimeo.com/1084303873/c7f6bf2d52 - An animation created for the NHS to educate teachers and police officers to better support neurodivergent young people. It is designed to break the exclusion to prison pathway.

Bertie's Day Out - https://vimeo.com/1134188093/ccddbd14b0 - A brand film created to show the positive impact of Widgit symbols on the lives of individuals with communication challenges.

It follows the story of Bertie who has autism and his mum and grandmother having a great day out at the Zoo, the day that almost never was.

Widgit Symbols - https://www.widgit.com

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Time Blindness, Anxiety & Meltdowns — Why the Clock Change Causes School Refusal with Neurodivergent Kids

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0000

This episode explores how time blindness, sleep disruption, and executive functioning challenges contribute to increased anxiety and meltdowns in neurodivergent children during the clock change. Cliff explains how circadian rhythm shifts impact emotional regulation, focus, and overall functioning in children with ADHD and autism.

In this solo episode, Cliff gets right to the heart of how the recent clock change affects neurodivergent children. Diving into the biology behind circadian rhythms, he explains why the seemingly harmless spring forward can lead to increased meltdowns, dysregulation, and school refusal for kids who rely heavily on routine.

With the Easter holidays compounding these schedule disruptions, this episode is a vital reminder for parents to give their kids (and themselves) some much-needed grace and space.

EPISODE REVEALS

The disruption caused by changing the clocks isn't behavioral defiance; it is a fundamental disruption of a child's biological circadian rhythm, affecting their sleep, energy, and focus.

Studies from the American Heart Association show a 24% increase in heart attacks and a rise in strokes immediately following the time change, highlighting the severe physical toll this biological disruption takes.

During times of dysregulation, parents should prioritize helping their child regulate their nervous system rather than enforcing strict discipline or demanding answers in the heat of the moment.

Encourage children to become silent observers of their thoughts. Using hypnotherapy techniques, like giving their inner "mind bully" a ridiculous voice, can help strip away the power of negative self-talk.

BEST MOMENTS

"It's probably tough enough for neurotypical people and children, but when you add neurodivergence into the mix, we don't like change."

"Become the silent observer of your own thoughts... suddenly the power starts to drift out of that negative self-talk."

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.neurodiverselifeskills.com/

Kathryn Lovewel episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/nurture-kindness-confidence-and-self-compassion/id1810681675?i=1000745971907

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Exploring and Tackling Anxiety in the Neuro Divergent World with Tash Hutcheson

Wed, 25 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0000

I'm delighted to welcome back a returning guest to the show, Tash Hutcheson, a neuro diversity life coach who works with parents and individuals navigating ADHD, autism, and anxiety. In this conversation, we explore anxiety in the neurodivergent world, why it can feel so intense, and how things like environment, expectations and our inner dialogue can amplify that experience.

We also talk about the idea of the mind bully, that voice in our heads that is often incredibly harsh, and how learning to recognise it is the first step toward turning it into something more supportive, and we explore simple tools, breathing, movement, awareness and understanding our own operating system that can help us regulate and navigate the world a little more gently.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by anxiety or found that your inner voice can sometimes be your toughest critic, this conversation is for you.

Let's dive in.

EPISODE REVEALS

Noticing what drains you and what genuinely boosts you means you can catch anxiety earlier and choose tools—like movement, music, or nature—that actually refill your tank instead of slipping into overwhelm.
Most neurodiverse people feel emotions very strongly. So, negative feedback really hurts.
It is very easy to be over critical of yourself. Naming and externalising your “mind bully” makes it easier to challenge harsh self‑talk and start building an inner cheerleader instead.
Learning to pause, listen and validate your child’s voices really helps to protect neurodivergent kids’ sense of worth. When you do this you break the negative cycle and ensure your kids don´t suffer in the way you did.

BEST MOMENTS

"We need to understand for ourselves, what triggers our anxiety, and what does anxiety feel like in our bodies when it first starts to show up?"

" I'd rather get beaten up with a stick than what I do to myself sometimes with the inner thoughts....Find the kindness in your own inner thoughts."

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.neurodiverselifeskills.com/

Kathryn Lovewel episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/nurture-kindness-confidence-and-self-compassion/id1810681675?i=1000745971907

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Teaching Your Children Skills They Will Use Later to Thrive in The Workplace with Kirsty Heap

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today, Cliff is joined by Kirsty Heap an HR professional and advocate for neurodiversity in the workplace. As someone who has been diagnosed with both dyslexia and ADHD Kirsty brings both professional expertise and lived experience to the conversation. Together, they explore what neurodiversity really means inside organisations, how workplaces can better support neurodivergent employees, and why understanding different ways of thinking, communicating, and processing the world isn't just good for people, it's good for business too.

They talk about the realities many neurodivergent individuals face at work, from recruitment and disclosure to adjustments, burnout, masking and building environments where people can genuinely thrive.

If you're a parent thinking about your child's future in the workplace, an employer wanting to better support your team, or someone navigating work while neurodivergent yourself, this conversation is for you.

EPISODE REVEALS

Teach your children to be kind to themselves. Develop a toolbox with them that they can use to silence the internal voice that keeps telling them that they are not good enough. It is something they will need to do throughout their lives.
Own your neurodivergence in the workplace. That honesty is the best way to improve understanding and unlock support.
Neurotypical people genuinely don´t understand what neurodiversity is like. If you need something to change e.g. a clear written follow up after each meeting, you will need to explain the positive difference this will make to your work.
Don´t suffer in silence. Get coaching to learn how to work through issues and become stronger in the workplace.
Knowing how to calm yourself is an invaluable skill.

BEST MOMENTS

"Acceptance has been key, it´s changed my whole outlook on life, the way I interact with people, the way I have relationships with friends and with partners, has been down to my acceptance of my condition."

"Let nobody dull your shine. Shine bright and own it."

“If we feel valued and supported, we naturally are going to be happier and want to kind of do our best as well.”

"Slow down to go faster."

ABOUT THE GUEST

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstyheap/

https://www.facebook.com/TheDyslexicCoach/

Instagram - @kirstyheapcoaching

TikTok - @mindsetelevatorKirsty

https://kirstyheap.com/

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Raising Neurodivergent Teens in a Sexualised World: Conversations About Consent, Porn, and Identity with Cath Hakanson

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0000

When you’re parenting an autistic or ADHD tween through puberty, sex education can feel like one more overwhelming thing you’re supposed to “get right” - without ever having been shown how.

Today, Cliff talks with sexologist and late‑diagnosed autistic mum Cath Hakanson about what real‑world sex ed looks like in neurodivergent families: awkward, imperfect, and built from dozens of tiny, everyday moments.

Cath shares how to be approachable, why neuro diverse kids often miss the unspoken rules around dating, consent, and boundaries, and how to use TV shows, music, and video games to gently teach about bodies, relationships, and porn.

They explore the push‑pull of wanting to protect your child from hurt while knowing you have to loosen control and why your own uncomfortable history of “the talk” can actually make you a better guide.

EPISODE REVEALS

Giving your children information about sex is not going to be seen by them as giving them permission to have sex or make them over sexualised.
Neurodivergent kids often miss the in‑between social cues, so sex ed must spell out subtext, boundaries, and body signals explicitly.
Most teens will roll their eyes and shut you down when you talk about sex -that’s normal. You need to be gently persistent.
Lots of everyday chats slowly sink in, so that when it really matters, they know they can come to you.
Spending time having fun, enjoying the same shows, music and video games creates more opportunities to talk about, love, sex, and relationships e.g. a relationship in a show.
Talking openly about porn and sexualised media, before and after kids see it, reduces shame and helps them make informed choices.
Gradually loosening tech controls and life boundaries, rather than suddenly removing them, supports safer independence.

BEST MOMENTS

"As a parent, we have to be persistent. We've got to keep trying."

"You would then think that talking about sex would make kids be more sexualized, but it actually sort of has a reverse effect, if anything, it sort of protects kids ."

"Be askable. You're letting kids know, even though they're not responding half the time they still know you are willing and able to talk about this stuff."

ABOUT THE GUEST

https://sexedrescue.com

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Creating a More Peaceful Home: How to Set The Tone and Gently Calm Things Down

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0000

How do you respond when your child’s behaviour feels like pure chaos—defiance, aggression, shutdowns—and nothing you try seems to work? In this solo episode, Cliff unpacks a powerful reframe of that situation explaining why what you are seeing is not likely to be down to disobedience or bad parenting.

Cliff shares practical ways to reduce flashpoints, calm things down and teach your children to improve their ability to regulate their emotions. If you've ever felt disconnected from your neurodivergent child, like everything always turns to chaos and it feels so hard to connect with them, this conversation is for you.

EPISODE REVEALS

Parents set the tone in the home. If they are calm, it becomes far easier for their children to remain calm and co-operative too.
Be patient, wait for your child to calm down rather than trying to discuss issues immediately. This gives their nervous system time to re-regulate which makes it easier for them to listen, understand and be more receptive.
Be mindful of how sensitive your child is. Use language that reassures them, this avoids triggering anxiety or defensiveness.
Create space for conversation, e.g. device free dinner times when everyone can talk.
Learn to understand your child´s nervous system - the load, the capacity, and how to recognise the signs of distress. This makes it easier for you to stop situations from spiralling out of control.

BEST MOMENTS

"Sometimes what looks like disobedience isn't disobedience, it's dysregulation."

"You can't control your child, but what you can control your own emotions. When you become that resonance of calm and peace that eventually seeps in and helps with your connection with your child."

"All these connections with your child can be fixed. But it doesn't start with the child. It starts with us."

"Give them options. So, it's not a command."

EPISODE RESOURCES

ADHD and Autism Pre - Assessment Mini Course Pt 1 of 3 with Connor Johnson - https://podcasts.apple.com/es/podcast/adhd-and-autism-pre-assessment-mini-course-pt-1-of/id1810681675?i=1000725797148 – then listen to the next two episodes to complete this short course.

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down”- https://amzn.eu/d/00b6M7LQ

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Thriving, Not Surviving: RSD, Burnout and Gentle ADHD Workarounds with Helen Valentino

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today, I'm delighted to be joined by Helen Valentino, a late, diagnosed ADHD shamanic practitioner, cacao ceremony facilitator, and podcast host. It's such a pleasure to have Helen with me today.

If you've experienced ADHD burnout, anxiety or struggled when your child is dysregulated and you want to better understand anxiety and neuro diversity. These conversations are for you, and remember, it always starts with knowing yourself and building the version of you that your child needs most.

Let's dive in.

EPISODE REVEALS

Understanding your own ADHD and nervous system is the foundation. It is also excellent preparation for parenting and supporting neurodivergent children.
Late diagnosis can transform a lifetime of shame into self‑acceptance, especially when traits have been weaponised against you. For Helen it was a revelation.
Tiny practical tools - alarms, trackers, routines and carefully chosen words—help forgetful, fast brains to feel safer and more in control.
Leaning on alcohol or drugs to numb the pain doesn´t work. Replace numbing strategies with therapy, spiritual practice, and supportive community,
Self‑talk is medicine: using humour and Helen´s “control‑alt‑delete” method reframes mistakes without triggering more anxiety or shutdown. Words are far more powerful than we realise.
Nature, ritual, and meditation can slow a whirlwind ADHD brain just enough to notice patterns and choose kinder responses next time.

BEST MOMENTS

"Words are really powerful … we use them to hurt people. We use them to make people feel better."

"When you say negative things, you're just reinforcing the negative. If you say positive things, you're reinforcing the positive things."

"When we go through these challenging times, is when we grow the most."

“I can get half an hour's work done in 10 minutes. So, I don't want to lose that. It's becoming aware of where neurodivergence is as helpful or practical.”

ABOUT THE GUEST

www.inspiredhealing.co.uk

WhatsApp 07971 798 462

Thriving not surviving podcast - https://shows.acast.com/thriving-not-surviving

RESOURCES

The Mandela Effect Book 1 - https://amzn.eu/d/0eiZdh7l

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CLIFF´S SERVICES

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Cultivating The Ability to Be Calm: Managing ADHD Meltdowns, Triggers and Caregiver Overwhelm with Dolly Oksman

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today's episode is about stress, anxiety, the inner critic, and why regulation always starts with us as the adults. I'm delighted to be joined by the founder of Love. Heal.Believe. - Dolly Oksman, a special education teacher with more than a decade of experience supporting children with autism, and someone who is deeply passionate about self-regulation, self-care and helping caregivers stay calm in the middle of chaos.

Together, we talk about classroom meltdowns, anticipating triggers, why mistakes are lessons, and how slowing down and working on ourselves can completely transform the way we support our children. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, hard on yourself, or unsure how to stay calm when your child is dysregulated, this conversation is for you.

Let's dive in.

EPISODE REVEALS

Regulation always starts with the adult; our nervous system sets the tone for our children.
You can teach calmness and structure life to enhance the ability of you and your child to return quickly to a state of calmness and stay there for longer.
The use of structure, visual schedules, routines, breathing, and other relaxation techniques helps children feel safer and become less reactive.
Anticipating triggers (noise, crowds, transitions) and planning ahead with headsets, fidgets and social stories reduces meltdowns.
Self‑care is non‑negotiable; even 5–10 minutes a day for you protects your capacity to care for your child.
Every mistake is feedback. Instead of attacking yourself, ask what you can do differently next time.

BEST MOMENTS

"Regulation starts with us. Stress and anxiety aren't the enemy, they're messengers, and if we're constantly overwhelmed or running on empty, it becomes very difficult to model calm for our children."

"Every day is a learning process … we should not be hard on ourselves."

ABOUT THE GUEST

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Youve-Got-This-Navigating-Confidence/dp/B0FPBLYLD6

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Finding-Your-Inspirational-Quotes-Ponder/dp/B0CVXCHMHH

https://www.lovehealbelieve.com

email: dollyoxman@lovehealbelieve.com

https://www.youtube.com/@dollytamposoksman

CLIFF´S SERVICES AND BOOKS

Cliff´s books on Amazon : https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/Mr-Cliff-Kilmister/author/B0DN3XV3WP

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Children’s Mental Health Week: Helping Autistic Children Manage Overwhelm, Shutdowns and Big Emotions

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today's episode is for Children's Mental Health Week. I'm delighted to be joined by my daughter Eva, and together, we're talking about belonging, feeling seen and heard, and what actually helps when children are struggling with overwhelm, shutdowns and big emotions. This is a gentle, honest conversation, not from theory, but from lived experience, about what children really need to feel safe, understood and supported.

Our recent guests have all been echoing a theme of positive inner self talk, and it's been lovely to hear. It's a reminder that we all need to be kind to ourselves inwardly, especially when we're going through darker times. Sometimes what we need most is space and time to work through that, trusting that we will come out the other side. Neurodivergent children don't always understand the emotions they're feeling or have the words to explain. When we ask, what are you feeling? The honest answer is often, I don't know. That doesn't mean nothing's going on. It means they're still learning how to make sense of it. And today we're going to explore that a little bit together.

EPISODE REVEALS

Try not to be so hard on yourself. It’s difficult, but being gentler with yourself makes a real difference.
You’re not alone. Even when you feel different or isolated, there are others who feel the same way or who can empathise with you. People who truly get you - when you find them you will know.
Give yourself space and time to process things. It’s okay not to have the words yet. Understanding what you’re feeling can take time.
When your child is melting down, stay kind and give them space. Let them know you’re there, don’t shout, and remember: if they’re already beating themselves up, they don’t need you to add to it.
Remember that even on the darkest cloud days, the blue sky is still there behind the clouds. Tough times and feelings pass and change just like the weather—those heavy, bleak feelings will pass.

BEST MOMENTS

“(Good) mental health starts with feeling seen, heard, and accepted. And when you're in environments that don't understand you, it can be quite difficult.”

"Fitting in somewhere, means feeling safe with a group of people or person, and being able to be yourself and fit in well with them."

"It's hard to find people that are like me or who are a bit different than everyone else, but when you find them, you'll know."

"Remember adults to look after yourselves as well."

EVA´S LINKS

Eva´s you tube channel is InspireWithUsYT https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Navigating the EHCP Maze: Gathering Effective Evidence and Managing Overwhelm with Helen Foster

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today, Cliff is joined by Helen Foster who shares her experiences, insights, and hard-earned lessons from navigating EHCP process with her young son. They talk honestly about recognising early signs, gathering evidence, managing overwhelm, using technology to help and what it's really like advocating for a non-verbal child within a system that can often feel confusing and stacked against families.

This is a grounded, real-world conversation, not from theory, but from lived experience. And it's relevant for families and adults who want to make sense of their own neuro divergent experiences.

EPISODE REVEALS

Recognising and keeping a record of any stimming or behaviour that supports a diagnosis will help you later. Especially during the EHCP process.
Videos, a well-kept behaviour log, medical reports, assessments, and other paperwork will all support a proper assessment and diagnosis.
Really look after yourself. If you don´t you can´t be there to help your child.
The earlier you start and get help the better it is for your child.
Local authorities worry more about money and resources than what is best for an individual child. For them, good enough is an OK option. To counter this underlying attitude, you will need to continuously advocate for your child.

BEST MOMENTS

“Take care of yourself, because if you can't take care of yourself, you can't take care of your little one.”

“No matter how insignificant you might think it is, note it down. Keep as much evidence as you can possibly collect to either get a formal diagnosis or to initiate an EHCP.”

"I'm not just settling for good enough, which is what the local authority are happy to do."

EPISODE RESOURCES

Instead of piecing together advice from forums and PDFs to get through the EHCP process, use the SEND help App. It provides simple explanations for each step, hands on tips and a way to store and track the documentation you need https://send-help.app/

PREVIOUS RELEVANT EPISODES

Dr. Mohita episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/helping-the-brain-through-connecting-instead/id1810681675?i=1000735304072

Lara Barnes episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/nutrition-movement-and-sensory-tools-for/id1810681675?i=1000738445182

CLIFF´S SERVICES

Are you feeling overwhelmed with EHCP paperwork or are you stuck? Cliff, who has personally been through the process offers body‑doubling and step‑by‑step support. You can contact him here - https://m.me/cliff.kilmister

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

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What Really Helps Neurodivergent People in the Workplace with Andy Ryan

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today. I'm joined by Andy Ryan, a late, diagnosed autistic professional who works with organisations to help them better understand support and value neurodivergent people in the workplace. In this conversation, we talk about masking, burnout, psychological safety, leadership and why so many work environments unintentionally make life harder for neurodivergent people, even when the intention is good.

This is an honest, practical discussion about what actually is effective, not expensive fixes, but small mindset shifts that change everything.

EPISODE REVEALS

Many neurodivergent people are very capable, but they burn out in environments that are built for consistency, control, and predictability, instead of for flexibility, trust, and psychological safety.
The practical changes that really help at work are often small and low-cost. They include softer lighting, reduced background noise, clearer written communication, shorter and better-structured meetings, and managers who check in on how you work best rather than assuming.
You are likely to have to help your manager and work mates to understand what neurodivergence is and what helps.
Start by asking for micro-accommodations rather than huge adjustments.
Share your communication preferences e.g. email vs face to face, why you need a quieter desk area, work better from home or some flexibility when it comes to start times and would maybe like access to a buddy or mentor.
Highlight your strengths and how you can help your manager and work mates. Show that you are a team player. As well as sharing what can derail you.
Try to find work in workplaces that already work in a way that suits you. Smaller organizations are often a good choice.
Make things easier for yourself by building a career in a field that you are passionate about.

BEST MOMENTS

"The most meaningful changes are not expensive; they are not huge."

"One of my team, he told me had Asperger's. He was one of my best engineers."

"My experience is that organisations are very, very good at taking those good things and not so good accommodating the challenges."

"You can't do any of this work unless your decision makers and your managers really know what neuro divergence is."

"For young, neurodivergent people the most important thing is finding what you're passionate at and then doggedly finding a career in that."

ABOUT THE GUEST

www.irregulartraining.co.uk,

email - hello@irregulartraining.co.uk

linkedin.com/in/andy-ryan-58452719

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

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Nurture Kindness, Confidence and Self-compassion with Kathryn Lovewell of the Booster Way

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0000

This episode is going to be a little different because I co**ed up. I forgot to press record at the start and instead of cutting it out, we've kept it in, because that moment is exactly what today's conversation is about. It's such a pleasure for me to welcome Kathryn Lovewell from kind mind Academy, and we're talking about anxiety, the inner critic and self-compassion.

Whether you are an adult or a child, it´s important to think about how we speak to ourselves when things go wrong. So, what you're about to hear isn't polished, it's real, and it perfectly demonstrates what Kathryn teaches.

EPISODE REVEALS

Booster and Crusher give families a shared language for inner voices: Booster is the warm, encouraging voice that builds confidence; Crusher is the harsh critic that fuels shame and shutdown. You can turn Booster up and turn Crusher down.

Parents’ own self-talk and reactions model either Booster or Crusher for their kids, making family-wide self-compassion language a powerful way to build resilience together.

Kathryn’s three-step “Booster Break” - name the struggle, remember common humanity, respond with kindness - is a fast, practical tool for calming the nervous system in tough moments.

BEST MOMENTS

"If we listen to Crusher long enough, which is my invention of my inner critic, it can lead to depression, anxiety and really dark places."

"We shouldn't need to justify who we are and how we show up as humans. What we do need to do is make sure that when we go to bed, we like the person in the mirror."

ABOUT THE GUESTS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, creator of The Booster Way®, and a Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher. She specialises in helping children, parents, and educators tame the inner critic and grow self-compassion, through her books The Little Book of Self-Compassion and The Voices in My Head! and her family-focused Booster tools.

A former teacher who has worked across schools, prisons, and community settings in the UK, USA, and Australia, Kathryn now offers compassion resilience coaching, runs programmes for families and women, and speaks internationally on emotional wellbeing.

www.KindMindAcademy.com

www.TheBoosterWay.com

TheBoosterWayCommunity.com

Curious to know how kind you are to yourself? Take a quick Self Kindness Quiz online and discover for yourself - www.SelfKindnessQuiz.com

Connect with Kathryn:

linkedin.com/in/kathrynlovewell

www.YouTube.com/KindMindAcademy

https://www.instagram.com/KathrynLovewell

https://www.instagram.com/KindMindAcademy

https://www.instagram.com/TheBoosterWay

“The voices in my head” book - https://amzn.eu/d/g6laOjP

Eva’s channel - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-sb6ecqBJk4

https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

EHCPs, School Masking, and Emotional Regulation for Neurodivergent Kids with Sean McNicholas

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0000

Today, Cliff is joined by Sean McNicholas from New Me Therapy. Sean shares his incredible journey from struggling through school and adult life with undiagnosed ADHD to becoming a therapist specialising in autism ADHD, anxiety, trauma, and brain health.

Together, Cliff and Sean look at masking in school, and Sean offers a fresh perspective on why it can actually work in your favour if the school sees your child differently than you do, especially while you're trying to get an EHCP. They explore triggers, routines and CO regulation, and the strategy Sean uses in his practice, including what you can start doing today, and we look at why, understanding our own patterns, first, as adults and parents, can completely transform how we support both ourselves and our children.

EPISODE REVEALS

Understanding how your own brain works is the first step to managing it rather than fearing it.

Simple structures (visual schedules, reminders, alarms, shared calendars) are not “cheats” – they are essential tools that help ADHD and autistic brains function day to day.

Schools and families often see very different versions of the same child; both perspectives are valid and vital when seeking assessment, support, and EHCPs.

Using a therapist who has lived experience of neurodivergence themselves can be more impactful than qualifications alone.

Actively challenge “I’m not good enough” stories and help your children to recognise evidence of their real-life strengths.

Practising confident body language and self-talk can gently grow genuine confidence over time for both children and adults.

Nature, movement, and creative hobbies are regulating for many neurodivergent people and often better than tech.

There is no one right path, only what is safest and most supportive for each person.

BEST MOMENTS

“There is real hope that you can change your or your loved ones lives.”

"Our (neurodiverse) brain develops 30% slower. So, our brain is 30% immature. So, when you've got 15-year-olds, they may believe they're 15-year-olds, but they're going on 10."

"I never met one client who only has ADHD."

"They want to give you amphetamine they want to activate and stimulate your brain when you may have already an overactive brain."

GUEST DETAILS

www.theadhdexpert.com

https://www.newmetherapy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/theadhdexpert_/

https://www.facebook.com/SeanMc71Nicholas/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sean-mcnicholas-33ab79b7/

https://www.newmetherapy.com/adhdtherapy

Panorama program - https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001m0f9

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Helping Neurodivergent Students Thrive – Insights From Eva´s Real-World Experience

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0000

In this special episode, Cliff shares highlights from a powerful conversation his daughter Eva and I had on Helping Teachers Thrive, a brilliant podcast hosted by teacher Tem. They discuss how Eva’s notebook helps her regulate and stay engaged, explore sensory overwhelm, mind breaks, fidget toys, and the small classroom changes that can completely transform a child’s experience.

Whether you’re a teacher or a parent, you’ll hear honest insights and practical ideas for supporting neurodivergent children so they can truly thrive in school and at home.

EPISODE REVEALS

Eva’s notebook isn’t a distraction, it’s a regulation tool that helps her manage emotions and stay present, even though it doesn’t look like “traditional” listening.

When schools respond to behaviour with curiosity instead of punishment, children feel safer, more motivated, and more able to learn.

A reward-focused, strengths-based system gives children a reason to engage, instead of making them afraid of getting things “wrong.”

When a child feels truly understood at school, their confidence grows and spills over into other areas of life including clubs, hobbies, and friendships.

What can look like doing nothing at parties or in groups is often a child carefully protecting themselves from sensory and social overwhelm.

Short, supported breaks and quiet spaces are essential tools that help neurodivergent children stay regulated enough to learn.

Fidget toys, doodling, and notebooks aren’t just “extras;” they’re simple regulation tools that keep hands busy so brains can stay focused.

Shutdowns as signs of overwhelm, not bad behaviour.

BEST MOMENTS

"In my old school, the teachers didn't really recognise us that they just saw as she's not listening so but in my new school, they see as she is listening, just in her own way."

"Allow the student time to process."

"The problem with the cards, from a teacher's perspective, is I don't want to single that child out."

“Let them fidget with (the toy) underneath the table, so it doesn't distract other kids. It just helps them, like, do something with the hands.”

“I see kids drawing on their hands all the time. I didn't actually think that is helping them regulate.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

You can listen to the full episode here - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/supporting-neurodiverse-children-autism-adhd-insights/id1681843058?i=1000738444038

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

The Shame Trap and the Inner Chimp Paradox

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0000

This episode is dedicated to a friend of Cliff´s, Jamie, who first told him about the Inner Chimp Paradox and recommended the book and the techniques he and Eva are exploring, today. Everyone has an inner chimp that self-blame voice, which nags them, shames them, and tells them they are rubbish at everything. It is normal, but people with neurodiverse brains feel criticism more deeply, so if their inner chimp is not kept in check, it can do a lot of damage.

Cliff and Eva discuss how to put your inner chimp back in its box.

EPISODE REVEALS

· The chimp in your head is that negative side that always shames you, says you're useless, makes you feel rubbish – self-blame.

· Everybody has an inner chimp. Whether you’re neurotypical or neurodiverse. But ADHD brains feel criticism much more than a neurotypical one does. Letting your inner chimp do as it pleases can lead to ADHD burnout and really dark thoughts.

· For neurodiverse people, the impact of the criticism from their inner chimp can cause them to spiral downwards, so it is particularly important to be aware of your inner chimp and learn how to put him back in his box.

· Befriend your chimp. Speak to your chimp like you would a friend who's suffering. If you see someone who's being grumpy, what would you say to that person?

· Deep breathing helps a lot - Banana for the chimp, oxygen for the human.

· Kindness regulate ADHD faster – including self-kindness.

BEST MOMENTS

"There is a grumpy monkey living in your head ."

“Give your brain a hug, not hate mail.”

"Anxiety is there for quick, short bursts of energy to keep us safe, keep us active. But in today's world anxiety has turned against us."

"We are going to name the chimp. Let it know we are the boss. We're going to tell our chimp to chill. ."

"Perfection is a trap – good enough ships."

EPISODE RESOURCES

Helping Teachers Thrive Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/helping-teachers-thrive/id1681843058

The Chimp Paradox Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Acclaimed-Management-Confidence/dp/B006WCJ9OS

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Jeff Carroll, Eva, and Cliff - Love on the Spectrum Dating Advice Pt 2

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Today, Cliff is joined once again by his daughter Eva and Yo Jeff a dating coach and published author of The Hip Hop Dating Guide that is available on Amazon. Check the description for the link. Last time Jeff was here, he talked to Eva about confidence, friendships and building skills.

Today, they're catching up on how she got on with those challenges, the progress she's made. They also discuss how to handle rejection, harsh self-talk, and navigate those messy, early steps into teenage connection.

EPISODE REVEALS

Having a calm, trusted adult to talk to about confidence, friendships and dating can make things feel more manageable.

Showing up and trying, even if you freeze or can’t follow through, is still progress. Courage is built in layers, not in one perfect moment.

When someone is warm online but avoids spending time with you in real life, it usually reflects their fears and limits not anything you’ve done wrong.

Rejection is painful, but each “no” is also practice. Practice at communicating, understanding yourself better, and choosing healthier connections.

When your confidence is knocked consciously replenishing your reserves helps e.g. art, gaming, or creative projects.

Friendships and dating are long games. You get good at them by repetition, not perfection. Trying again is how confidence and real connection are built.

You might not end up dating every person you like, but you might meet someone wonderful through their friends. It’s worth keeping friendships, and practicing your social skills, even when romance doesn’t work out.

BEST MOMENTS

"It's really important to celebrate these little wins, because actually, they start mounting up into big wins."

"You're going to work through that pain, and then once you get to the other side of that, reignite that friendship."

"If you become really good at something, it will impact your self-confidence on everything."

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://podcasts.apple.com/es/podcast/navigating-friendships-and-dating-on-the-spectrum/id1810681675?i=1000733947794

ABOUT THE GUESTS

JEFF CARROLL

For one-on-one dating advice and coaching, contact Jeff via - coachyojeff@gmail.com

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_22asKR-3-Y

https://www.facebook.com/CoachYoJeff

The Hip Hop Dating Guide - https://a.co/d/gwDdKTH

EVA KILMISTER

Eva´s YT channel Inspire With Us - https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT

Eva Kilmister - Art Sketch Book - Blank Pages Sketch Pad - https://amzn.eu/d/i8v4VkA

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

How the Right Nutrition Changes Helps Children with Autism and/or ADHD

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Today, Cliff is joined by Vicky, founder of the happy, healthy unicorn. Her daughter was diagnosed with severe non-verbal autism at four years old, and what happened next completely changed their lives. Vicky shares how nutrition, gut health and tiny step by step changes helped her daughter move from daily struggle to real progress, and how any parent can start making gentle changes without overwhelming their child.

If your child lives on beige foods, craves sugar, or reacts intensely to everyday life. This episode is definitely for you. Let's dive in.

EPISODE REVEALS

When autistic children don’t get enough of the right nutrients, their bodies prioritise basic survival functions like breathing over non-essential functions like focus, learning, speech, and eye contact.

A more nutritious, less processed diet gives children´s brains more fuel to work with.

Each tiny new food you add is extra fuel for your child’s brain and gut—and over time, those small changes can really lift how they feel and function.

Many autistic and ADHD children gravitate to beige, carby foods because they provide a quick sugar hit, have a neutral smell and feel safe.

Sweet or carby foods don’t provide sustainable energy and feed “bad” gut bugs. A vicious cycle that slowly gets worse.

Gradual change is the key to diet changes, including going gluten or dairy free. Take the food they do enjoy and gradually tweak things to make it healthier rather than banning your child from eating the foods they love, overnight.

Use food chaining to gently widen their diet, for example turning favourite cereal into cereal bars with oats, seeds, and nut butter, then adding those ingredients back into the cereal bowl.

Change together as a family, work towards not having unhealthy foods in the home.

BEST MOMENTS

"By getting her body into good health, we found she could actually have a functional, beautiful life - she could communicate, have friends and not hurt herself."

"If your body is not getting those nutrients, then that energy is depleted, and then the energy that your body needs to fulfil non-essential functioning will not be there anymore."

"It’s all about meeting your child where they are at. put yourself into your child’s shoes."

“The diet is imperative. It's fuel, isn't it? - You're either fuelling or you're poisoning.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://thehappyhealthyunicorn.com

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Executive Function and the Hot Topic of Digital IDs with Eva

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Eva is back. Today, we're talking about executive function, or, as we like to call it, your brain's superhero - it´s CEO. We discuss why it sometimes goes on strike and what you can do to quickly kickstart it.

The conversation also dives deep into digital IDs, freedom of speech, and Eva provides some teenage honesty, including what it's like to create and share online.

EPISODE REVEALS

Executive function is like the brain’s CEO; it organises thoughts and actions.

Your executive function can “go on strike,” making focus and organisation especially tough for people with ADHD.

When executive function falters, being motivated through rewards and engaging in activities that release dopamine can re-engage attention and effort, especially for neurodiverse children. Exercise and making things fun are two examples.

The introduction of digital IDs raises concerns about privacy, freedom of speech, and social control.

Creating content for YouTube allows for self-expression and community, but navigating age-appropriate topics and online feedback presents challenges. It is vital parents are there to provide support.

Maintaining an online presence as a teenager does put pressure on them, but finding platforms and content types that suit their interests and values helps them to learn to balance digital engagement with maintaining personal boundaries.

BEST MOMENTS

"Your CEO, your (brain´s executive function), also thrives off of dopamine in ways that you love. For example, one of your favourite things - laughing."

“For instance, I really don’t like doing the vibrating plate, but if you give me a reward for it, then I would want to do it more to get that reward.”

“The advent of digital IDs raises concerns about privacy, freedom of speech, and social control, highlighting the importance of critical awareness."

Eva´s InspireWithUS contacts

https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT

https://www.tiktok.com/@iwuyt_87

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD).

Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Is Richard Tice Getting It Wrong? - Ear Defenders, Labelling and Generations of Undiagnosed Neurodiversity

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Today, in this slightly different episode, Cliff talks about something that hit a nerve with a lot of parents and teachers, and probably even with people who are neuro diverse that don't have kids - the comments Richard Tice from Reform UK, made about neuro divergent children and labelling.

Cliff also welcomes his mum to the episode to share personal and family experiences of neurodivergence across generations. Interestingly, their discussion includes several new revelations – things they had not realised until today´s conversation.

EPISODE REVEALS

Accurate diagnosis is essential. Without these diagnostic “labels” it is impossible to provide or gain access to the tailored support neurodivergent children need to be able to learn and succeed in life.

Withdrawing or stigmatising sensory tools like ear defenders, as Richard Tice has suggested, undermines the well-being of neurodivergent children by removing the very things that enable them to cope, learn and eventually thrive.

Simply stating that 1000s of children have been misdiagnosed does not make it so. This attitude is creating a situation where people think leaving neurodivergent children to “just get on with it” is somehow acceptable.

Looking back, knowing what they know now about autism and ADHD, Cliff and his mum can see that generations of the family were neurodivergent.

Cliff’s mother needed to physically interact with letters, to touch and trace them, to understand their shapes and learn the alphabet. She was not allowed to do this, so struggled to learn to read. In the end, she worked out her own system and learned to read that way.

BEST MOMENTS

"Labels aren't the problem, the suffering without support and the misunderstanding and the uneducated opinions of other people is."

"What Richard Tice is suggesting is a move back to what doesn't work. It hasn't worked for generations - it's time for change."

"The education system doesn't spot it, and they just let them struggle. It's very sad."

"She was told off for everything – even playtime."

"She (Cliff´s grandmother) had to be in the corner with a dunce's hat on… and it happened at every school she went to."

“Our children aren't a new problem. They're part of a long history of neurodivergent people who have been forced to cope without support.”

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Nutrition, Movement, and Sensory Tools for Neurodevelopment with Lara Barnes

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Lara Barnes, the founder of Brain Development UK. Lara helps children with autism, ADHD and learning differences by rebuilding the foundation of the brain through sensory work and primitive reflex integration. She shares some simple tests you can do at home and the details of exercises and tools you can buy and use yourself to significantly help your child.

If your child struggles with balance, communication, is non-verbal, has challenges with coordination, incontinence, reading or focus, this conversation is especially important for you.

EPISODE REVEALS

· Early brain development can be positively influenced by rebuilding foundational sensory and reflex pathways, especially for neurodiverse children.

· Achieving motor milestones e.g. rolling, crawling, and tummy time are critical for long-term development. Their absence, delay, or acceleration can be a warning sign.

· Stimulating the spinal gallant reflex can help to address incontinence.

· Foundational reflexes and sensory integration directly affect vision and higher learning functions; simple at-home assessments can identify areas for support.

· Sensory input, in particular through touch and vibration can improve body awareness and brain development.

· If you can´t feel your tongue fully, speech is difficult. Lara recommends a simple tool to help stimulate the mouth.

· Gradual and consistent sensory work can greatly reduce hypersensitivity.

· Dietary change is a highly effective starting point. There is a lot of support available to help with this.

· Small, consistent changes really do make a huge difference.

BEST MOMENTS

“I help to reset the foundation of the brain … and we utilize the sensory system to do that.”

“If a child was contained a lot e.g. in a car seat … sometimes those reflexes just don't integrate.”

“I'd identify what side of the brain is weaker, and then we would do exercises for that too, and use sensory stimulus on that area and it doesn't take long.”

“There's so much parents can do themself.”

“You can actually buy a cheap power plate…for them to play on or sit on.”

“If you feel your body, you can relate to other people.”

“Start with diet."

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.braindevelopment.co.uk

lara@braindevelopment.co.uk

Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-brain-development-podcast/id1825344229

Socials @braindevelopmentUK

Stimulating toothbrush - https://bristlscience.com – use the discount code shared in the episode to get 10% off.

Dairy free chocolate - https://www.ombar.com/oatmlk and https://montybojangles.com/products/cocoa-nib-nights

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Overcoming ADHD Burnout with Jodie Steele

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Today, Cliff speaks with Jodie Steele about her experience with ADHD burnout, how it affected her health, her family and her life, and the steps she took to recover and rebuild. This episode is an honest look at what burnout really feels like when you have ADHD, and what can help you find your way back.

EPISODE REVEALS

True ADHD burnout goes far beyond exhaustion; it can trigger a severe, life-threatening neurological shutdown - Functional Neurological Disorder (FND). Physical symptoms can include stroke-level hypertension, adult-onset asthma, and fibromyalgia.

If you have ADHD, it is particularly important to learn to listen to your body, ignoring can allow burnout to creep up on you. Once that happens it can take several years to recover.

Teach your children to look after themselves, recognise the signs they are not doing well and what to do should that happen.

Masking is not healthy. Bottling things up and burying who you really are puts a huge strain on your body, which makes burnout more likely.

We spend a lot of time at work, so it is particularly important that you work in an environment in which you can flourish.

Do everything you can to support your body: eat well, exercise, socialise, have interests and sleep enough. You are not going to get everything right 100% of the time but do make looking after yourself in these areas a priority.

Getting back to nature massively helped Jodie.

If you do get ill, having a strong support community (tribe) will make a huge difference.

Make building your network of family and friends and finding a supportive partner a priority. It will also help to make burnout a lot less likely.

BEST MOMENTS

"A flower might not flourish in one corner of the house, but you just move it into the other side of the house, and suddenly it's big. It's beautiful."

"If you don't pay attention to your body and what your body's saying to you, it will keep throwing extra things at you until you do."

"Before I had the diagnosis, I used to beat myself up. Whereas now I can be a lot kinder with myself about everything. I'll giggle at my own sort of mishap."

"Put yourself with the right people. Find, like you say, - find your tribe."

GUEST RESOURCES

https://alchemysoulstravel.com

alchemysoulstravel@gmail.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodie-steele

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

The Impact of Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) on Neurodiverse Women with Alison Kerr

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0000

For today’s Parenting ADHD and Autism episode, Cliff sits down to chat with Alison Kerr, a mum who discovered her own neurodivergence through her daughter’s autism and ADHD diagnosis.

She opens up about the hormonal and neurodivergent roller coaster that has shaped her life and the healing path that helped her find balance again. In particular, she talks about a condition that is far more prevalent in the neurodivergent community than it is in the neurotypical community - Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD).

As you listen, please let Cliff know, in the comments, if any of this feels familiar and share your experience.

EPISODE REVEALS

· Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) is more common amongst neurodivergent women.

· If you notice your mood or behaviour changing, especially irritability, try tracking your menstrual cycle to see if there is a connection.

· PMDD can cause suicidal thoughts that follow a woman´s menstrual cycle.

· Parents of girls with ADHD need to keep an eye out for PMDD.

· Look out for signs that you are self-medicating to deal with extreme mood swings. Alison was like Jekyll and Hyde depending on where she was in her cycle.

· Alison found that traditional hormone-based solutions did not help here PMDD. In fact, it made things worse. She only got relief through homeopathy.

BEST MOMENTS

"I was a slave to my hormones, exacerbating the difficulties that already had because of the neurodivergence that I was unaware of."

"It was just like, chalk and cheese, Jekyll and Hyde."

"The more knowledge you have, the more you can support yourself through it, when support seems to be so lacking."

"People who are neurodivergent, they're good leaders a lot of the time and we can make positive change."

EPISODE RESOURCES

SensItive The Untold Story - https://sensitivethemovie.com

https://elizabethperu.com

https://thetelepathytapes.com

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Helping The Brain Through Connecting Instead of Correcting with Neuroscientist Dr Mohita

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Dr. Mohita the Founder & CEO of The Cognitome Program. During their conversation they explore an evidence-based approach to supporting children with ADHD and autism. If you're interested in helping your child build cognitive flexibility through mindfulness, movement and creativity, this episode is for you today.

Dr Mojito explains how understanding the brain helps us connect, not correct, and shares practical strategies you can try at home.

EPISODE REVEALS

The Cognitone Program is a holistic, neuroscientific approach that is designed to gently train and strengthen cognitive functions for children with ADHD and autism

The program uses techniques like mindfulness, neurokinetic exercises, art, and music that are designed to be enjoyable, flexible, and tailored to each child’s interests and needs.

The programme is grounded in neuroscience and focuses on supporting each child´s unique brain wiring rather than attempting to fix perceived deficits.

You can access the program from anywhere in the world and it can be delivered remotely. Parents are fully involved and treated as partners. Brain mapping/EEG and regular, supported sessions can also be arranged online.

Simple routines like the stoplight practice give children tools for emotional self-regulation by engaging both their emotions and logical thinking.

Use the Plan A Plan B game to help your children to problem solve, accept that plans change, prepare for the unexpected and stay engaged.

BEST MOMENTS

"ADHD and autism are not deficits. They are just different patterns of our neural connectivity."

"The goal isn't to fix a child; it is to provide them with tools to understand their own magnificent brains."

"When they feel safe and connected to you, their brain is far more capable of learning and adapting."

"Mindfulness is far more than just relaxation, you know, it’s a form of focus, attention and cognitive flexibility training."

GUEST RESOURCES

https://cognitomeprogram.me

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-mohita-shrivastava

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Navigating Friendships and Dating On The Spectrum

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Cliff dives into one of the most emotional topics for teens on the spectrum - friendships, dating and how to connect with others in a world that can feel confusing, overwhelming or even isolating. He is joined by Jeff Carroll, author, Comic Book Creator and dating coach, who brings humour, empathy and some seriously powerful advice for building confidence and communication skills. Eva is also back on the mic, sharing her own challenges and experiences navigating social life as a young autistic girl.

Whether your child is already asking questions about relationships or they're still trying to figure out how to make that first friend. This conversation is full of ideas, laughs and real-life tools to help them take the next step.

EPISODE REVEALS

Bear in mind that all teens experience peer pressure and anxiety about fitting in, making friends and dating. You are not alone in your struggle.

Dating, like any other life skill, takes practice.

Face to face clubs are great places to hone the skills you need for dating.

After school, church led, art, creative and gaming clubs are particularly good places to go.

Be brave, volunteer or get a job that means you have to talk to people.

Know what you want from someone you are going to date, make a contract with yourself, so you don´t end up dating people who are wrong for you.

Understand the potential dangers and pitfalls of dating so you can spot red flags early and safely exit the relationship. Set boundaries and stick to them.

BEST MOMENTS

"Anything you can do to get you to talk to people is a step forward."

"You might not like anybody in the club, but you're not there to like them. You're there to get your skills up on how to talk to people."

"You don’t want peer pressure to guide you either. You want to naturally find somebody."

ABOUT THE GUESTS

JEFF CARROLL

For one-on-one dating advice and coaching, contact Jeff via - coachyojeff@gmail.com

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_22asKR-3-Y

https://www.facebook.com/CoachYoJeff

The Hip Hop Dating Guide — available on https://a.co/d/gwDdKTH

Fangernails (comic series) — available direct from Jeff

The Last Harlemite (comic series) — available via Amazon and comic bookstores

EVA KILMISTER

Eva´s YT channel Inspire With Us - https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT

Eva Kilmister - Art Sketch Book - Blank Pages Sketch Pad - https://amzn.eu/d/i8v4VkA

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

Cliff Kilmister - The Mandela Effect - https://amzn.eu/d/0jWpc2H

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Empowering, Not Fixing: Skills-Based Support for Neurodivergent People

Sat, 25 Oct 2025 10:33:00 -0000

Today, Cliff is joined by two incredible ladies who know the world of neurodiversity inside and out. They share powerful personal stories, professional insights and practical tools to help families thrive without trying to fix anyone. Together, they explore the power of coaching and community, how mindfulness helps, why supporting neuro-divergent children starts with understanding and why labels should be celebrated, not feared.

You will see from their real-world examples that lasting change happens when the triangle of support is in place, when parents, teachers and children all have a voice.

EPISODE REVEALS

It’s not about fixing what’s “wrong,” but about understanding, celebrating and directing your unique brain.

Life skills coaching teaches practical tools and strategies that can be used right away to handle real-life challenges.

Suicide rates are incredibly high amongst the neurodiverse, so connection with others is essential.

With the right support and practical skills, you can gently reprogram your mindset, focus on your strengths instead of what you don´t have, and learn to thrive and function well in the world as it is.

You are not alone.

Having a coach makes a huge difference. It enables you to be a parent - to be the safe space for your child.

BEST MOMENTS

"We're not life coaches. We are life skills coaches.”

"Accept your child for who they are, ok with a different brain. Celebrate them. Don't be ashamed, don't be embarrassed. Don't make it about you. This is about your child."

"We've lived through it, and we really want to empower and equip parents and teachers who can really make a difference in our children´s lives."

GUEST AND EPISODE RESOURCES

Unlocking Potential: ADHD Through the Lens of Strengths

This October, Neurodiversity Life Skills (for parents) and The School of Life SA (for teachers) are teaming up!

Let’s celebrate ADHD for what it truly is — a source of creativity, resilience, and brilliance.

✨ Daily tips, 🤝 Support Group, 🎙️ podcasts, 🎤 live events, and 📚 free resources — all designed to celebrate ADHD strengths and uplift parents, empower educators, and support teens – All Free

👉 Join us this October to learn, connect, and thrive together. Just click here to join us, for free : https://www.neurodiverselifeskills.com/adhd-month-2025

Emails : Tracey@theschooloflife.org.za and hello@neurodiverselifeskills.com

Websites - https://www.neurodiverselifeskills.com and https://www.theschooloflife.org.za

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Protect Vulnerable Children: The Impact of Scottish Governments Changes threatening Scottish SEN Schools

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Karen-Jane (KJ), a parent from Falkirk, Scotland, whose autistic son stands to lose his vital support if the local council moves forward with its imminent plan to close enhanced provision units for the education of children with complex needs. KJ shares her family’s struggles to secure the right educational environment and their battle to fight the closure.

The episode highlights the flaws in the consultation process, and how mobilising through a grassroots movement can be leveraged to protect these essential services.

EPISODE REVEALS

Every child in the UK has the right to an education. Yet, children with special needs are repeatedly failed.

It is important to keep up to date with local policy changes and consultations that may affect your child’s support. Don´t rely on the authorities sending you a notification. Often, they act behind your back.

Don’t hesitate to question and get involved as soon as you hear about changes.

Joining together with other parents and professionals through petitions, support groups, or social media amplifies your voice and drives change.

Don´t rely on the mandated consultation processes being followed. Stay alert.

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed—seeking support from others who understand your journey can help you cope and persist.

BEST MOMENTS

"Typically, you would expect them to letter all these parents. No, they didn't letter them. They apparently did a group call, which is an email that goes out, that didn't actually reach any of the parents."

"If we were forced back to our mainstream school, I don't think Gabe would cope."

"Please join the fight and sign that petition and really make a difference."

EPISODE RESOURCES

Please sign the petition:- https://www.change.org/p/stop-the-closure-of-enhanced-provision-units-for-asn-kids

About KJ

KJ is a Mum who is leading the fight against the governments proposition to close Special Educational Needs units. All she is asking is for your support to sign and share the petition supporting these special educational needs centres staying open.

Facebook group - Action Against Falkirk Council Enhanced Provision Proposals - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1292003289370470

No school places for 10 special needs pupils in Medway - BBC News - https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cy9ngg0w4wdo

RESOURCES

Cliff´s book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

Join our free community on Discord:

Because Meta is shutting down FB messenger community chats, lets continue the supporting conversations here on Discord - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

When Mainstream School Doesn’t Fit: How to Find Belonging and Support

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 23:00:00 -0000

How do you know if your child is truly thriving in their current school environment—and what can you do if they’re not? Cliff shares his family’s journey of navigating the challenges of mainstream education for Eva and the emotional and practical hurdles of transitioning to a special needs school. He explains how to effectively advocate for your child and navigate the assessment and support processes.

I’d love for you to join our new Discord community. Meta is shutting down Facebook Messenger community chats in Oct 2025— so this is where we’ll carry on the conversation.

This isn’t just another chat room. It’s a space for parents raising kids with Autism and ADHD to connect, share, and support each other

EPISODE REVEALS

Explore alternatives if your child is struggling.

Open communication with schools, dressing formally for meetings, and presenting clear solutions can help parents advocate more effectively for their children. But be ready to meet and overcome resistance.

Parents need to trust their instincts.

Remember you are not alone in this journey.

Transitioning to a special needs school can be life-changing, leading to improved happiness, confidence, and well-being for children who don’t fit in well into mainstream settings.

BEST MOMENTS

"We spent five or six years fighting for our daughter to have her diagnosis to start with, and then the HCP, which was continually declined."

"I'd like to get across to anyone who's listening to this, always advocate for your child.”

"If you control, try not to control with fear, all you will get is either a shutdown, a meltdown or a refusal to comply.”

“Too many rules and too much strictness will break your children.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.senachieve.co.uk

Episode 1 of Parenting Autism and ADHD podcast and access to all other episodes mentioned - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-needs-to-change-in-the-education-system-wendy/id1810681675?i=1000716399709

“What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Because Meta is shutting down FB messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here on Discord - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Beyond Labels: Person-Centred Support for Every Child with Andrew Baker

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Andrew Baker of joined by Andrew Baker, trainer, podcaster and author, who's worked for over 25 years in health, social care and education, he specialised in behaviour management and neuro diversity. Today, they discuss executive function and what really helps children to thrive at home and school.

Disclaimer : Please remember this podcast shares professional guidance and lived experiences, but it's not a substitute for personalised medical advice, so if you do have concerns, always consult your GP or healthcare professional, as every situation is unique, but hopefully there's lots of nuggets of information in here that you can extract what works for you and always leave what doesn't.

I’d love you to join our new Discord community. Meta is shutting down Facebook Messenger community chats in Oct 2025— so this is where we’ll carry on the conversations.

This isn’t just another chat room. It’s a space for parents raising kids with Autism and ADHD to connect, share, and support each other.

👉 Be quick if you want one of the first 10 spots.

The first 10 parents who join will get a Founding Member badge in Discord — first 5 will get a private Zoom call with me. Just DM me a screenshot that you’ve joined first to unlock it.

As a founding member, you’ll have a hand in shaping how this community begins — setting the tone, suggesting features, and helping build the kind of space we all need.

EPISODE REVEALS

Most kids with ADHD have a 30% deficit when it comes to executive function.

Early support radically changes lives.

Focus on strengths, not just struggles.

Use tools like mood thermometers to help kids express emotions.

Join your children where they are at, advocate for them, but also help them to understand the world that they live in and to make reasonable adjustments.

BEST MOMENTS

"Building self-esteem comes through mastery."

"De-shaming is massive."

"We want to praise the thing that we want repeated."

"Go into “so let's look at the benefits.” What could be the actual benefits of treating people kindly?"

Andrew Baker

📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining

📲 LinkedIn: Able Training

📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast

🌐 Website: http://linktr.ee/abletocare

Andy’s book: "Targeting the Positive with Behaviours that Challenge: Empathic Strategies for Working with Children and Adults" https://amzn.eu/d/4s08NQT

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

“What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Because Meta is shutting down FB messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here on Discord - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

ADHD & Autism Pre-Assessment: Sensory Issues Explained + Practical Strategies (Pt 3 – Mini Course with NHS Practitioner)

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 06:36:00 -0000

Cliff is joined by Connor Johnson for part three of their miniseries. Today, the focus is on sensory development. Does your child have shutdowns over clothing labels? Do they struggle with noise, busy environments, bright lights? Do they crave constant movement? If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

Connor and Cliff discuss the different sensory issues a child can have and how to recognise the signs and help e.g. replacing unsafe stimming or using specific play activities. This episode is packed with practical techniques you can use anywhere to help your child. There´s far too many highlights to be able to include in these notes, so please listen.

💡 Disclaimer: This mini course shares professional guidance and strategies, but it’s not a substitute for personalised medical advice. If you have concerns about your child, please consult your GP or healthcare professional.

EPISODE REVEALS

You are not alone. Help is available.

Sensory issues can affect not just sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell, but also a child’s sense of balance, body position, and internal signals like hunger or pain. They may be extra sensitive or less responsive in any of these areas.

Encourage your child to describe their feelings. Be encouraging and patient, as it may take time to work out exactly what they are trying to tell you.

You don´t need special equipment to use sensory circuits at home.

Sensory diets are powerful.

Movement breaks really help.

Allow safe stimming but replace the unsafe ones.

BEST MOMENTS

“People (with sensory issues) can still go on to learn and do lots of different things. They just need a bit of support in certain areas.”

“If you know your child is seeking a certain type of stimulation, provide it throughout the day or throughout the week.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

Part 1 of the course - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adhd-and-autism-pre-assessment-mini-course-pt-1-of/id1810681675?i=1000725797148

GUEST RESOURCES

Connor Johnson - Assistant Practitioner at NHS Snapdragons Centre

https://www.medwaycommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk

The Children’s Public Health Nursing Team at Snapdragons can give advice on:

Eating issues: weight, dietary needs, healthy snacks, faddy eating, etc.

Allergies, including anaphylaxis (severe reactions)

Asthma

Diabetes

Epilepsy and other chronic conditions

Behaviour

Emotional well-being

Supporting you and your child as they grow

🎧 Listen to the full series on Parenting Autism and ADHD:

👉 Apple Podcasts

Also available on Spotify, YouTube, and all major podcast platforms.

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

“What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. He to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population.

Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

ADHD & Autism Pre-Assessment: Behaviours, Anxiety & What Punishments Get Wrong (Pt 2 – Mini Course with NHS Practitioner)

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 06:35:00 -0000

Does your child have shutdowns and meltdowns that feel impossible to manage? Does their anxiety creep in at school, or they mask and bring it all home to you, and nobody believes you in school? If any of this sounds familiar, this is for you.

Cliff is once again joined by Connor Johnson, an NHS assistant practitioner supporting families with autism and ADHD. In this, the 2nd episode, they move beyond the foundations and focus on behaviours and anxiety. What's really happening beneath the surface? Why certain types of punishments don´t work, and practical strategies you can use to help your child regulate their emotions and navigate daily challenges.

EPISODE REVEALS

If your child’s shutdowns and meltdowns feel impossible to manage, you’re not alone.

Meltdowns are a sign that your child is overwhelmed and no longer in control, not that they are simply refusing to listen.

Learn to spot the early signs and redirect.

Most of the time punishments don’t work because they don’t address the root causes of behaviour. What you can do instead is covered, in detail, during the episode.

Practical strategies like behaviour ABC logs, positive behaviour support plans, and sensory tools can help identify patterns, reduce anxiety, and support your child’s emotional regulation.

Modelling healthy emotional responses and giving children time and space to process feelings really helps.

BEST MOMENTS

“Their behaviour is not your fault.”

“You and the child will both be picking up new skills throughout this journey. Updating the plan regularly is really important for that child.”

“Think, What do I do when I'm stressed? Do I shout and slam things? – If that's how I'm behaving, then obviously that's how the child's going to behave.”

“Routine and structure are a big part of that predictability, that consistency from parents and caregivers.”

GUEST RESOURCES

Connor Johnson - Assistant Practitioner at NHS Snapdragons Centre

https://www.medwaycommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk

The Children’s Public Health Nursing Team at Snapdragons can give advice on:

Eating issues: weight, dietary needs, healthy snacks, faddy eating, etc.

Allergies, including anaphylaxis (severe reactions)

Asthma

Diabetes

Epilepsy and other chronic conditions

Behaviour

Emotional well-being

Supporting you and your child as they grow

🎧 Listen to the full series on Parenting Autism and ADHD:

👉 Apple Podcasts

Also available on Spotify, YouTube, and all major podcast platforms.

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

“What To do when your child shuts down” book out now - https://amzn.eu/d/iOMsOrF

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

HOST BIO

Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

ADHD and Autism Pre - Assessment Mini Course Pt 1 of 3 with Connor Johnson

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Are you struggling with behaviours? Do you feel like a bad parent? Can’t cope? Don´t worry it’s not you. This free mini course will help.

In Part One of this special 3-part mini-course, NHS practitioner Connor Johnson joins Cliff to discuss the foundational knowledge every parent needs while awaiting or undergoing assessment for autism and ADHD. They explore the importance of sleep, nutrition, and exercise as the building blocks for supporting your child’s development, as well as providing practical strategies you can use right away.

Disclaimer - This mini-course shares professional guidance and strategies for parents, but it's not a substitute for personalised medical advice. If you have any concerns about your child, please speak to your GP or healthcare professional, as each situation is unique.

EPISODE REVEALS

Working with your child´s circadian rhythm makes improving sleep easier e.g. light exposure.

Temporarily moving bedtime routines closer to when your child naturally falls asleep can help.

Try eating at the table. It helps your child to see others enjoying different foods. Use some of Connor´s gamifying ideas to help them to try more foods.

Sometimes food issues are related to sensory perception e.g. a hard green apple and a soft red apple are very different - some children will eat one but not the other.

Let your child decompress before mealtimes.

Swimming can be a good form of exercise.

When a child acts out, ask yourself, "What is my child trying to communicate?"

Regularly check in with your child to keep lines of communication open.

BEST MOMENTS

"Anxiety can be massively related to behaviour and some of the difficulties we see with sleep."

"Stay calm and calmly bring them back to their room. Maybe have a little script in your head of just one or two sentences."

“It might not always be clear what is being communicated, but behaviour is communication.”

GUEST RESOURCES

Connor Johnson is an Assistant Practitioner at NHS Snapdragons Centre

https://www.medwaycommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk

The Children’s Public Health Nursing Team at Snapdragons can give advice on:

Eating issues: weight, dietary needs, healthy snacks, faddy eating, etc.

Allergies, including anaphylaxis (severe reactions)

Asthma

Diabetes

Epilepsy and other chronic conditions

Behaviour

Emotional well-being

Supporting you and your child as they grow

Listen to the full series on Parenting Autism and ADHD:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/parenting-autism-and-adhd/id1810681675

https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD

It's also available on all major podcast platforms.

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

Cliff´s book - ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/3trk6pw

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

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HOST BIO

Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Thinking Outside the Box When Raising Neurodiverse Children with Victoria Burmeister

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Victoria Burmeister, a resilient single parent and wheelchair user, who shares her powerful story of raising children diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD. Victoria opens up about navigating the challenges of parenting with limited support, working through the US school system, advocating for her children’s needs and finding natural remedies that actually made a difference.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. We are not doctors, medical professionals, or licensed healthcare providers. The views expressed are based on personal experiences and research. Always do your own research and consult with your physician or qualified healthcare provider before making any changes to your health, lifestyle, or treatment plan. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you’ve heard on this podcast.

EPISODE REVEALS

Victoria´s children were clever about outsmarting her and using the fact she was in a chair to get around the boundaries she set. She shares how becoming more creative about discipline enabled her to solve this issue.

As early as possible, teach your children to recognize and communicate their own needs, instead of always relying on adults to advocate for them. This builds independence, confidence and resilience.

Be open-minded, try things to find out what works for your family. Victoria had great success with natural remedies, dietary changes, LifeWave patches and other alternative therapies.

Use humour and pick your battles. Sometimes, letting your child “win” a small battle can defuse tension and, over time, can reduce power struggles.

Friends, caregivers, or online communities can also provide backup and emotional support, especially when you are raising your children as a single parent.

BEST MOMENTS

"Being validated means a lot… it helps you to know that you're not going batty ."

"My kids aren't brain surgeons, but … they help people, they care and they're not a menace to society. They both have good jobs, and my daughter is doing an amazing job raising her kids."

"I'm a firm believer in the patches. I would go to those … over taking anything over the counter."

Victoria Burmeister:

https://www.facebook.com/VAllen5

https://www.tiktok.com/@lady_vick68

Find out more about the LifeWave patches Victoria used here:

Affiliate Link - LifeWave.com/victoriaallen

Thisisitinfo.com

RESOURCES

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

Building Bridges Between Home and School with Tem Ezimokhai

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Tem Ezimokhai, a teacher who is also the host of the brilliant podcast Helping Teachers Thrive. She helps teachers level up and become the best educators they can be. Tem shares some powerful insights into teachers identifying special needs and how parents and teachers can work together more effectively. They also discuss masking, EHCPs, classroom routines and why, often, it´s the little things that make a difference.

Whether your child has a diagnosis or you're still trying to figure this out, this conversation is packed with heartfelt perspectives that can really help you feel more informed, empowered and connected.

EPISODE REVEALS

• Real collaboration between parents and teachers can be life changing.

• Build bridges between home and school.

• Children are really good at masking, especially at school. Better than many parents realise.

• Teachers in the UK need much better training to help them identify ADHD.

• Many teachers have no idea how coping strategies work. If they don´t understand, they don´t always buy in and are less supportive.

• Securing the right EHCP is still unbelievably difficult. Cliff shares some tips.

• Address breakdowns in communication with specific teachers early on. Once both parties truly understand each other things drastically improve.

• With the right training and support teachers can get the best out of every child.

BEST MOMENTS

“The strength is in numbers, so if we can get more teachers on board, more parents on board, together we can achieve so much."

"Influence those leaders and get some positive change.”

"A happy student is one that learns better."

"Teachers need to be themselves and have fun."

“If there's anyone out there that is going through an immediate mediation. Make sure your child attends that meeting. Don't do it on your own.”

RESOURCES

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

EPISODE RESOURCES

Tem Ezimokhai

Link to podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/helping-teachers-thrive/id1681843058

Email: tem@helpingteachersthrive.com

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/temsteachingtips

Instagram: instagram.com/temsteachingtips

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tem-ezimokhai-23306a263

Instagram: @helpingteachersthrive

Facebook: Helping Teachers Thrive

TikTok: @helpingteachersthrive

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

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HOST BIO

From ‘Superpower’ to Reality: What I Learned from the Late Bloomers Podcast

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 23:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Cliff and Eva sit down together to talk about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD). Whether you’re a parent, educator, or young person navigating life, this episode offers valuable insights and practical understanding of RSD’s daily effects.

Eva and Cliff share personal stories to help you explore the impact RSD has in social settings, at school, and when forming new relationships, including finding a boyfriend or girlfriend. They also address the most common RSD myths.

EPISODE REVEALS

· What Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) actually is.

· Why RSD is not simply about being “too sensitive” and how RSD differs from the relatively fleeting feelings of rejection most people experience.

· People with RSD are not choosing to melt-down, it happens because their brains register rejection as a threat.

· Why even small rejection cues, e.g. A look or silence can trigger spiralling into emotional overwhelm.

· How to put a light spin on things if someone starts bullying you, even if you have RSD. Eva shares how she does this.

· Recognising that you have RSD is the first step to understanding and learning how to manage things to minimise the impact it has on your life.

· Being able to talk about your day is important. Tech-free family dinners are a great way to make sure your child or partner can do this.

BEST MOMENTS

"RSD stands for, rejection, sensitive, dysphoria, and some real-life examples of that would be over reactions, over thinking and emotional spirals."

"You're not overreacting on purpose .…People with RSD aren't choosing to melt down. The brain registers the rejection as a threat."

"One of the other misconceptions was being dramatic for attention. People with RSD often feel ashamed after episodes. It's not performative, it's painful, often followed by self-criticism."

“The other misconception is - everyone feels rejected sometimes, this is no different. But the reality is, while rejection does hurt everyone, RSD causes a disproportionately intense and lasting reaction. Like a burn instead of a bruise.”

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

Eva's YT channel InspireWithUsYT - https://www.youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT

Eva's Art Sketch Book - https://amzn.eu/d/iClQiFq

Late Bloomers episode about RSD - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4IzuuE1MwWCDZcaButNUEC

CONTACT ME

Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school, refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

Protecting Children from Online Danger – With Harry Houghton - UK Police Digital Forensics Examiner

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff speaks with Harry Houghton, a digital forensics examiner, as he shares how online predators work and what parents can do about it. They talk about the reality of digital investigations, including why that school uniform photo might be more dangerous than you think and how groomers use apps like Roblox to target kids. Harry explains when to call 999 for online threats, introduces the CEOP website that most parents don't know about and shares why talking openly with your children works better than blocking everything. Whether your child is neurotypical or neurodivergent, this conversation covers practical steps for staying safe online.

Episode Reveals

• How digital forensics work is evolving rapidly. Police now examine terabytes of data, extracting messages, location data, and web history to build criminal cases and protect victims.

• Why open communication beats restrictions. Honest conversations about online dangers are more effective than simply blocking access or imposing limits without explanation.

• CEOP is a free National Crime Agency resource that provides age appropriate education materials for all key stages and includes vital online reporting functions for suspected abuse.

• Many social media posts reveal dangerous information, creating digital footprints that predators can exploit.

• Why Parents shouldn't hesitate to call emergency services if they suspect grooming or inappropriate contact with their child, as immediate action prevents evidence destruction.

• Why Neurodivergent children face additional risks. Children with autism may struggle to recognise social cues or manipulative behaviour, making them potentially more vulnerable to predators who exploit misplaced trust.

• The future brings new dangers, including AI-generated imagery and encrypted messaging apps, making prevention and education more crucial than ever before.

BEST MOMENTS

"If you are sharing a photo of your child in their school uniform to Facebook or to Instagram or to TikTok... now the whole internet knows what school Johnny goes to."

"It is an emergency, so it do, you can ring 999 for that, that is a valid thing to do. You’re not gonna get penalised for saying, I think someone is abusing my child over the internet."

"Communication is the key, the best thing, and it really did make a difference."

RESOURCES

linkedin.com/in/harry-hought0n

https://www.ceopeducation.co.uk/

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

· Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

· Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

What My Autistic Teen Wishes Teachers Knew

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff is joined again by his daughter Eva. They discuss teaching methods in school, including why phonics doesn't work for her and how she actually learns to spell. She explains what makes classrooms work better for her needs and why different methods are effective for neurodivergent students. Eva also talks about her imaginary friends who give her advice, support and can help regulate her.

Episode Reveals

• Why phonics methods can be counterproductive for neurodivergent learners. Teaching sounds versus spelling creates confusion when the two don't match, leading to frustration rather than learning.

• Memory techniques using phrases and repetition work better than standard methods for many students.

• Why stimming objects and comfort items can enhance focus and learning for many neurodiverse pupils.

• How imaginary friends and spirit guides can provide emotional regulation.

• Why classroom management through humour can be more effective than harsh discipline.

• How sensory processing needs impact learning environments.

• How teacher recognition builds confidence and motivation.

• Why flexible teaching approaches are needed to accommodate different learning styles.

BEST MOMENTS

"I do not like phonics at all... it's frustrating because it's confusing because it teaches how to say the words... but I spell it how it sounds."

"You can stand back and do nothing and watch him have a go at them, or you can step in and try to calm him down."

"I was really chuffed that the teacher liked what I was drawing."

"The methods that they use in the curriculum don't suit your learning style."

"That's very nice. So they're giving you options as well. So it's not like they're controlling you at all. They're helping you regulate your thoughts."

RESOURCES

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

· Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

· Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/9yYaIM6⁠Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Love on the Spectrum vs Reality: 3 Generations of Autism Stories

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff is joined in this episode by his mum to explore three generations of neurodiversity within their family. From his grandmother's unrecognised traits to his daughter Eva's current struggles with autism, ADHD, and sensory processing disorder, they discuss the hidden patterns that run through families. His mother shares stories about Eva's masking behaviours, the park incident that changed everything and even how food colourings can affect behaviour.

Episode Reveals

• How masking is very real and can be deceptive. Children with autism often appear perfectly behaved in public settings, making it difficult for others to recognise their struggles and leading to delayed diagnosis and support.

• Artificial food dyes have been linked to hyperactivity, aggression, depression and meltdowns in sensitive children, making dietary monitoring important for behaviour management.

• Transitions for neurodiverse children require advance warning. Autistic children particularly need preparation time before changes, using strategies like "five more minutes" warnings rather than abrupt transitions that can trigger meltdowns.

• Meal times can create safe spaces for children to share problems and build trust with parents, which is essential for supporting children.

• Tools like doodle pads, fidget items, and understanding of sensory overload are essential for learning, not distractions to be eliminated.

• Parents don't need school referrals to seek autism assessments; going directly to your GP can prevent years of delays in getting proper support.

• Private psychological assessments can provide the detailed evidence needed to win EHCP appeals when local authority assessments fall short.

• Neurodiversity is hereditary and often unrecognised. Traits frequently pass through generations, with older family members only recognising their own autism or ADHD after grandchildren are diagnosed.

BEST MOMENTS

"It was like she wasn't there. It was like she wasn't in control."

"I used to like the quiet. I still like it. I don't, I struggle with situations where there's lots of noise."

"You are needed. We are all needed. "

"It's not labelling, it's identifying that we need some different strategies to support her."

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

· Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

· Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Managing Memory Recall for Neurodivergent Students

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff and Eva talk about memory recall and why it’s common for those with autism and neurodivergence to struggle with memory. Eva shares how memory recall impacts her at school and they discuss the ways they have found to manage it, including with sensory input and making tasks more engaging.

Episode Reveals

There are many ways schools can aid students struggling with memory recall, including simple things like handouts.
It is common amongst neurodivergent people to find it easier to remember things that interest them, often to a very high level.
A quieter class can help all students focus more and help those with memory recall challenges.
Eva finds that when a class is calm and controlled, she feels less stressed and less impacted by her memory recall struggles.
Different tools work for individuals and it’s important to trial and error things. For example many professionals suggest mind maps but this is something that doesn’t work for Eva.
Routine is essential for many autistic people and Eva finds that this has an impact on her memory too.
Mindfulness practices done in the right ways can be very effective. If students can focus on being in the moment it can help a lot with focus. Stimming and sensory input can also be part of this.

BEST MOMENTS

“It's the focus as well, isn't it? So with your ADHD, your memory, your mind might be kind of all over the place.”

“Do you think when you're less stressed and the class is quieter, your memory works better?”

“Don’t get me started on mind maps. I have a burning passion for hating them. I think I've always hated mind maps ever since primary. They're just so messy and they go everywhere”

“I think the important thing with mind maps and other things, all the things, all the tools and memory aids that you can get, it's important to try them, isn't it? Because otherwise you won't know.”

“I definitely like routine. Because with a routine you know what's gonna happen."

“Being in the moment and really that can help with your focus and your ADHD sort of conditions.”

RESOURCES

Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠⁠https://amzn.eu/d/9yYaIM6⁠⁠

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

· Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

· Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/⁠

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Keeping Your Children Safe Online with Chris Duff Part Two

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Join Cliff and Chris in the second part of their conversation about how to keep kids safe online. They discuss ways to ensure your child’s safety, including tools you can learn to use and how to foster an open and honest dialogue with your children about online safety.

Episode Reveals

• The conversations you need to be having with your child to help protect them online

• How to engage with the online activities your child is participating in online

• How to create an environment where your child doesn’t feel judged and can be open and honest with you

• Apps you can use to help keep your child safe

• How to spot online predators

• How to help your child recognise manipulation online

• How to restrict apps and websites

• The conversations you need to be having with your child to help protect them online

BEST MOMENTS

“ Come from a place where you're wanting them to teach you.”

“ You're talking to the two of them, like an adult, you're actually talking to them like a friend versus, ‘Hey, I'm putting you on the hot coals here’.”

“ They're not gonna be in ‘Predator,’ you know an app that says we are predators.com and it blinks on their phone. I mean, that's not where they're gonna be.”

“ You can actually stop apps being downloaded.”

“ Look, if you know it's wrong, tell somebody about it. 'cause it ain't, it's not normal for, uh, people online to be sending you stuff.”

RESOURCES

Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adversity-institute/

Website: https://www.adversity.institute/

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

CONTACT ME

· Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08

· Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister/

X - @KilmisterCliff

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

How to Keep Your Children Safe Online with Chris Duff Part One

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 23:06:00 -0000

Cliff is joined by Chris Duff in this episode. In part 1 of their conversation, Chris shares his incredible knowledge about online predators, grooming tactics and the dangers of sextortion. He gives his own experiences and clear examples of how these things happen in reality sharing why it’s so important to stay vigilant and proactive as parents.

Episode Reveals

• The dangers every child faces online

• The covert ways predators try to access children

• How parents can keep their children safe online

• Why sextortion is on the rise and how it happens

• How to create trust with your child so they will come to you about difficult things they may see online

BEST MOMENTS

“It's invaded our lives and we've all become so dependent upon it and it has it's advantages for sure, but it also has a whole host of disadvantages.”

“ I really just couldn't believe how, how under attack our kids are and the parents need to open up their eyes and understand this.”

“It's not about me not trusting my children. I trust my children. I love my children. I want them to grow up and I wanna be their friend. I wanna be their best friend. But the reality is I'm here to be their parent, and I'm here to make sure that they grow up into a responsible adult that doesn't get abused before they get to an age where they can make logical decisions.”

“ They figure stuff out and they're still gonna wanna be rebellious. They're kids. You know, I say all the time, I thank God I didn't have this technology when I was a kid. '”

“ If there's an adult talking online with kids, that's a red flag.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adversity-institute/

Website: https://www.adversity.institute/

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister
Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08
LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister
X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

All About Stimming

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 23:05:00 -0000

Cliff and Eva talk about the topic of stimming, including what it is, how it feels and why understanding it is so important. They share their own experiences of stimming and discuss how stimming helps individuals self-regulate, communicate and thrive!

Episode Reveals

• Common forms of stimming

• Why stimming is so regulating for neurodiverse individuals

• How stimming can aid learning for many pupils

• How others can respond to stimming and how to manage it

• The important distinctions between fidgets, sensory aids and ‘toys’

• How parents and teachers can help support stimming behaviours

BEST MOMENTS

“ Is it possible that the parents just haven't recognised it before?”

“ If your child is flapping their hands around, there's a good chance that they're stimming.”

“Auditory stimming, where we repeat sounds and noises such as humming or tapping, repeating words or phrases.”

“ I've just gotten used to it. It feels normal for me.”

“ Sometimes it helps you to focus on your learning.”

“ They used the word toy instead of fidget, which annoys me a little bit because they're not toys, they're fidgets.”

“Certain people, I can be myself, like with like with my best friend, I can be myself around him.”

RESOURCES

⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister
Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08
LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister
X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

The System Wasn’t Built for Us: Challenges of Neurodiversity in Schools

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 23:04:00 -0000

Most schools and many teachers do not properly understand the challenges and complexities in supporting children with additional needs. In this episode, Cliff and his daughter Eva talk about how systems within schools can inadvertently cause issues for children who are neurodiverse. They also discuss the lack of trust in many mainstream schools and the impact this has on the emotional wellbeing of students.

Episode Reveals

• The differences Eva found in mainstream -vs- private schools in accommodating her needs

• How building a foundation of trust can aid in all students to feel at ease in school

• The difference between mindfulness and mental health and why schools need to recognise this

• Why respect goes both ways between teachers and students; students do not respect teachers if they are treated poorly

BEST MOMENTS

“ It certainly doesn't feel like a place that makes you feel welcome. Is this part of why you don't feel comfortable going to this school?”

“ I've heard that term way too much, mental health used by the wrong people. Wrong people, meaning teachers. They use that word too much, some words are overused with teachers like mental health and mindfulness. They're used in the wrong way.”

“ We're all being treated the same, in the mainstream school, we're all wearing the same uniform. We're all being told to have the same. Well, how it feels is we're all being told to have the same sort of personality.”

RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

⁠⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister
Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08
LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister
X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

The Everyday Struggles of a Neurodiverse Household with Comedian Colin Etches

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 23:03:00 -0000

Cliff is joined by Colin, a standup comedian and parent who shows ADHD brings heart and humour to the ups and downs of life with additional needs. As neurodivergent parents, Colin and Cliff talk about the challenges they face themselves, the invisible struggles and the ways they try to cope, often with humour helping! They share how they manage situations with themselves and their children, including mechanisms for preventing sensory overload and coming to terms with the stigma around labels.

Episode Reveals

Why humour can be the best way to cope with the everyday chaos of a neurodiverse household.
How subtle signs of neurodivergence are often dismissed early on by parents and other caregivers.
The difficulties with obtaining a diagnosis for ASD or ADHD in later life.
The challenges in distinguishing between actual neurodivergent traits and learned behaviour from neurodiverse family members.
The common overlaps between trauma and neurodivergence.
The guilt many neurodiverse parents feel when their children subsequently get diagnosed.
How to manage sensory overload and prevent ‘meltdowns’.

BEST MOMENTS

“We always knew there was something different about her.”

“ If I'm focused on something, if you try and stop me doing it, I can become quite aggressive, almost quite angry.”

“ I have these guilty moments when, when I think, oh, I've made my daughter broken.”

“ Every party I went to as a child, my dad carried me out and I'd had a headache and I'd been sick. Because it was just over sensory.”

“ I learnt to mask and socially I'm pretty good.”

“There are kids that have just had crappy parenting and, and they display behaviours that are very similar to someone that is neurodiverse.”

“ There's a lot of stigma around labelling. I personally struggled with that for a while until I reframed it in my brain that actually it's not giving a label. It's understanding that there is a difference.”

“You realise as you get older and all these diagnoses come out that actually I wasn't normal, but, well, the truth is, with school, whether you are neurodiverse or not, you've just gotta get through it.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

Facebook: ComicColin78

Instagram: @comiccolin78

TikTok: @comiccolin78

Podcast – Colin in Conversation: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/colin-in-conversation/id1796019233

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⁠⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

Facebook: ⁠facebook.com/cliff.kilmister⁠ Instagram: ⁠@cliff_kilmister08⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠Cliff Kilmister⁠ X (Twitter): ⁠@KilmisterCliff⁠

Choosing the Right School: What Makes Learning Work for Neurodivergent Pupils

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 23:02:00 -0000

In this episode, Cliff is joined by his daughter Eva to talk about her recent experiences visiting schools after receiving her EHCP (Educational Health Care Plan). Eva shares the differences she found between the schools, including teaching styles, class sizes and how things impacted her ability to manage her sensory differences.

Episode Reveals

The conditions around selecting schools once a child has received an EHCP
The differences Eva has experienced between state schools and private schools
Why smaller class sizes can make such an impact on learning for neurodivergent children
The type of teaching that helps her thrive
What can contribute to sensory overload for autistic children in school

BEST MOMENTS

“The best kind of teacher that helps me thrive is the kind of teacher that can have a nice laugh with the kids, have a little bit banter with the kids. But can also help the kids get the work done and that makes me feel I'm very happy”

“The good thing about this school is, and one of the things on our EHCP requirements is a smaller class.”

“If the teacher builds a rapport with you, gets to know you a little bit, you feel more comfortable in the class.”

“With the bigger class it feels a lot more, I'm getting the impression from you, it feels a lot more overwhelming and there's too many people making too many jokes, you can't process all that sensory overload so therefore you just try and shut it out and it's because it's not funny because it's too much.”

“It did feel weird to be excited to go to school.”

RESOURCES

⁠⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” ⁠https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister (aka Jeff) is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister
Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08
LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister
X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

What Needs to Change in the Education System: Wendy Shares How Schools Can Support Neurodivergence

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 23:00:00 -0000

Cliff is joined by his cousin and advocate, Wendy about her own experiences of parenting neurodivergence. Wendy talks about the challenges she has faced with her children, including delayed diagnosis and the impact of the invisible struggles in education for children who aren’t neurotypical. She shares the tools and mechanisms she has used to manage her family and their challenges and opens up about the support she has and has not received.

So many families are quietly carrying these challenges every day, and Cliff wants to remind every parent that support is out there, and it doesn’t always come from the places you might expect. So reach out and know you are not alone.

Episode Reveals

Wendy’s youngest child started having challenges at school immediately, including school refusal and denial from her class teacher.
The challenges of mainstream school for getting support and diagnosis
How school failed her child, who is still waiting for an EHCP after 9 years
The additional challenges neurodiverse girls have with getting support and a diagnosis
Why the school and education system are outdated
Why the world needs freethinkers, but the school system doesn’t allow for this
How small adaptations can transform how a neurodiverse child performs in education
The lasting impact of the school system on children’s confidence and self-esteem
Homeschooling isn’t helpful for all neurodivergent children, it isn’t a viable option for those who are very social or parents who need more support

BEST MOMENTS

“If you’re navigating similar struggles, remember support is out there and it sometimes comes from the most unexpected places”

“At times there would be teachers dragging her off of me with her screaming to get her into school”

“It’s a constant battle”

“The world needs freethinkers”

“Having that extra time to be children really benefits people”

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.facebook.com/wendy.a.murphy.1

⁠⁠Link to my book “What To Do When Your Child Shuts Down” https://amzn.eu/d/hIXiGIA

👉 10% off your first order Vivanmn LINK - https://vivanmn.com/cliff

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New Parenting Autism and ADHD community - Discord because Meta is shutting down fb messenger community chats, we can continue the conversation here - https://discord.gg/SbXd34QV

HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!

CONTACT ME

Facebook: facebook.com/cliff.kilmister
Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08
LinkedIn: Cliff Kilmister
X (Twitter): @KilmisterCliff

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

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Fri, 25 Apr 2025 12:11:00 -0000

HOST BIO

Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles.

Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support.

Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change!