The allure we feel toward certain things is often an energetic frequency match that hits us on a visceral level rather than a logical one.

We often create elaborate internal fantasies about how acquiring a "shiny thing" will make us more powerful, unique, or worthy.

The drive to possess something can lead to an inner battle where the ego throws a tantrum, sometimes at a great personal expense.

Once the high of the acquisition fades, we often find ourselves back in the exact same emotional state we were in before.

Pausing to ask what a desire gives us that we don’t already have helps us align our choices with our true selves.

QUOTES

"It's like an energetic frequency match. And sometimes it's not just the head that's turned. Sometimes it's deeply visceral."

"We start making up stories, don't we? Of how better our lives are going to be if we acquire that thing."

"Sometimes we seek to acquire something and it just ends up being something that we've collected, put on the shelf for later, or forgotten about."

"If I see a pastry that I really love, that's it, I'm going for it."

"Some shiny things are just meant to be looked at, appreciated, and left right there."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv⁠⁠ 

LinkedIn - ⁠⁠www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630⁠⁠ 

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/⁠⁠

Key Takeaways

Slow Down to a Blur: Nature forces a slower pace because everything—from making tea to powering a laptop—requires intentional preparation.

Intuition Over Lists: Moving from "forcing" tasks to "feeling" when the right time for work has arrived leads to more joy and less resentment.

Nature is Alive: Everything has a spirit, from the rocks to the trees, meaning you are never truly lonely when living in the wild.

Acceptance vs. Resistance: Doing necessary chores with acceptance or joy prevents negative energy from lowering your vibration.

The Earth Recalibrates Us: Simple acts like walking barefoot or hugging a tree can physiologically and spiritually ground us.

Quotes

"Everything comes alive when you live in the woods; everything is your friend."

"I waited until I was ready. I didn’t force myself."

"If you can’t do it with joy, enthusiasm, or acceptance, you shouldn’t be doing it at all."

"Little things make you really happy... you learn to really appreciate the little miracles in life."

"I don't feel I own the wood... I am the guardian."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv⁠ 

LinkedIn - ⁠www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630⁠ 

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/⁠

By moving away from words and into the body, we can begin a reintegration process to reintroduce ourselves to our own physical form. Learn how to acknowledge trapped emotions with the simple phrase, "I see you, I feel you," to create a relationship of trust with your body. It’s time to lift the carpet on our hidden truths and reclaim the space, peace, and wholeness that has always been within us.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Childhood Structures: We build personalities and "veils" as children to get through tough times, which later become automated adult responses.

Physical Manifestation of Emotion: Trapped emotions and repeating psychological patterns can lead to physical injury or illness in specific parts of the body.

The Cost of Accountability: A hyper-focus on being "sensible" or responsible can lead us to ignore our own needs and bypass our true feelings.

Body Trust: Reintegrating the head and heart requires practicing patience so the body learns it can trust the mind to listen again.

Sovereignty and Wholeness: Self-inquiry helps us realize we were always whole, allowing us to interact with the world from a place of acceptance rather than hurt.

QUOTES

"Am I telling myself stories? And have I done this so often that when I'm triggered, I have this automated response."

"Emotions that are attached to whatever I believe I have to be or I have to do, they're not just in our heads... they are in our bodies."

"I was ignoring any feelings that came up because I felt I had no other choice other than to be self-accountable."

"It is to acknowledge it and say, I see you, I feel you. And to be with that pain."

"Whatever is going on the inside... is reflected with what's going on on the outside."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv⁠ 

LinkedIn - ⁠www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630⁠ 

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/⁠ 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Many of our daily actions are performed ‘robotically’, often devoid of any tangible emotion or intentionality. 

Instead of evaluating how a task made you feel after the fact, try deciding on a desired emotional state (e.g., peaceful, playful, powerful) beforehand and choosing activities that foster it.

True fulfillment comes from infusing every step of a process with feeling and imagery, rather than solely focusing on the end result.

Difficult emotions and setbacks are not failures; they are vital feedback mechanisms that help us widen our perspective and adjust our course toward emotional alignment.

By naming and connecting with a core feeling (which Harinder calls ‘home’), we can create an internal GPS that alerts us when we are drifting away from our authentic selves.

BEST MOMENTS

"I've been questioning myself about why I do [these things] and I've been asking myself whether or not I'm even thinking about how they make me feel."

"What if I focused first on how I wanted to feel and then I leant into that feeling?"

"It isn't just about the acquisition of the end result. It's about infusing every single step I take on that journey."

"The lows will teach me something. The lows will widen my perspective, my understanding. They will give me feedback in terms of what's working and what isn't."

"At the heart of it, why do we do anything? Isn't it to feel a certain way?" 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

We often try to fix others to heal unaddressed parts of ourselves or to gain a sense of value we aren't giving ourselves internally.

Every person is a whole being with their own internal wisdom; intervening without being asked can actually disempower them.

Shifting from a ‘fixer’ mindset to a ‘nurturer’ mindset means providing a safe environment for someone to grow at their own pace.

Taking on the weight of someone else’s happiness or safety is an impossible task that often leads to resentment and ‘mixed up’ energies.

True support often looks like ‘holding the lens wider’ for someone else, allowing them to see the beauty and solutions that already exist within their own lives.

BEST MOMENTS

"I saw if I can’t fix that, I have no value. Their happiness, their comfort, their safety depended on my ability to fix something. And boy, that is just not true."

"Though the validation that it appears we are seeking is external, it’s actually internal, an opportunity for me to rewrite that history in a newer way."

"It’s a mixing of energies and somewhere it’s got a bit mixed up. It’s not clear where their need or their want ends and where mine begins."

"The trick is not to beat ourselves up for being in those both places, and recogni,e that we cannot control everything around us, but we can control how we see everything around us."

"I haven't then learned the mechanism to get there myself, [holding space] is far more powerful than getting involved."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

True celebration isn't just about external events; it’s rooted in self-acceptance, honoring one's choices, and feeling a deep sense of worthiness.

By setting a conscious ‘heart-set’ or intention, even routine activities like cooking or eating can become celebratory acts of self-care.

Great joy can be found in simple, everyday experiences, like the cosiness of a warm bed on a cold night or the freedom of being at home.

In large gatherings, it’s easy to get lost in the logistics. Reconnecting with the underlying love and purpose of the event helps maintain the joy of the celebration.

Approaching life with grace and being present allows us to celebrate our ‘beingness’, transforming how we interact with ourselves and the world.

BEST MOMENTS

"It wasn’t ever about the celebration on the outside; it was about the celebration on the inside."

"The unsung hero of mental health and self-respect is self-celebration."

"Celebration at its heart is very much about the appreciation and deep gratitude for being on this planet now."

"How much attention do we put into our intention to celebrate?"

"Imagine your belly button is smiling, and that smile just spreads through the body."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Ignoring underlying emotions creates a ‘shadow’ that grows legs and arms, following us as a persistent restlessness.

We often use ‘busy-ness’, consumption, or numbing behaviors to avoid the discomfort of a simple feeling.

Children possess an organic ability to process trauma and emotion physically and emotionally before they even have the language to describe it.

Developing a vocabulary for our emotions is a crucial step in ‘picking apart the muddle’ of internal distress.

True growth and ‘aliveness’ come from a willingness to be discombobulated and carried through the darkness to reach a state of neutrality.

BEST MOMENTS

"The more we choose not to deal with the underlying emotion, that restlessness grows."

"I didn't have language to describe what I was feeling, and therefore that emotion didn't exist for me."

"That shadow has grown arms and legs... it’s asking to be addressed."

"What is more ‘aliveness’ than being fully connected to our emotions? To give ourselves that grace, that time."

"Without the darkness, I can't be in my lightness. I can't have the wisdom without that darkness challenging me, tempering me, strengthening me."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

External relationships often serve as a mirror to our internal state; when we are at peace within, our connections with others tend to be more productive and heartwarming.

Achieving harmony involves consciously embodying both the divine masculine, characterised by assertiveness, logic, and protection, and the divine feminine, which focuses on intuition, receiving, and emotional understanding.

Developing an ‘observer’ perspective allows us to notice our actions and decisions without immediate judgment, creating a space for self-appreciation.

Taking the time to acknowledge our hard work, whether it’s making a difficult decision or performing physical labour, helps bring us back into emotional balance.

True forgiveness for others begins with an intimate understanding of our own needs and motivations, allowing us to be accountable for our own well-being first.

BEST MOMENTS

"Any relationship with somebody else is very much a reflection of what's happening with that individual internally."

"How do I create a more harmonious union with myself such that my external relationships are just an extension of the feelings that I already exude?"

"Can the observer part of me adopt the feminine aspects and just pat that masculine aspect of myself and say, 'Well done for making a decision'?"

"Harmony will always start from inside. It is a celebration of the steps, of the little things that we might do, the progress that we might make."

"If I can't even open up to myself, what hope would I have of anyone else understanding what I'm going through?"

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Coming in last is often a story of endurance and the strength found in waiting for what you desire.

When external resources are unavailable (like the sticker album), taking the initiative to create your own version can be a rewarding process of self-expression.

Even when it feels like the world has moved on to the next trend, being true to your own timing and desires is what truly matters.

The ego may tempt you to quit to find immediate relief, but if a goal is "true," that internal voice will eventually call you back to the path.

The act of ‘coming in at all’, showing up and engaging with life, is the ultimate achievement, regardless of where you rank.

BEST MOMENTS

"Coming in last essentially is a story of resilience."

"I remember feeling confused, because I’d put all these stickers in an exercise book now, and then this album had arrived."

"I imagine [resilience] as a watercolor painting. Where I decide to drop the paint or the pigment is where it's the most vibrant."

"The relief that I felt was like a false relief; it wasn't true. Because if what I wanted was true, there's a quiet inner voice that slowly becomes louder."

"There’s almost no such thing as coming in last. The fact that we came in at all is what matters."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

We often present an edited version of ourselves to the world based on what we were told as children, that we were ‘too much’, ‘messy’, or ‘shameful’.

True sovereignty is defined as putting your arms around all of yourself: what you like, what you don't like, and what you don't yet know.

Many avoid their inner depths out of fear of what they might find, but without exploring these ‘caverns’, we never truly know who we are or what we are capable of.

The journey inward is rarely logical; it is driven by emotions like curiosity, sadness, restlessness, or a longing for unanswered questions.

Connecting with the ‘shadow self" allows for the release of suppressed energy and memories stored in the body, leading to a more colorful and fully realised life.

BEST MOMENTS

"Am I really living a full life? Do I really know all that I'm capable of? Do I know what treasures, what gifts, what talents I have that have always existed within me?"

"I feel that we have a responsibility to know ourselves … to return to our sovereignty."

"If I don’t take a torch down into my deep water, if I don’t take a light and explore those caverns, then what do I really have? What do I really know about who I am?"

"The greatest love affair we have is with ourselves."

"By understanding our own self more thoroughly, of course it’s going to change our relationship to the world."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Feeling ‘stuck’ often stems from oscillating between two values we perceive as opposites (e.g., freedom vs. hard work), creating a situation where we feel we must sacrifice something important to move forward.

Instead of choosing ‘either/or’, we can choose ‘and’. By asking ourselves if seemingly opposing values can both be true, we stop creating false dichotomies that limit our potential.

The universe acts as a mirror; when we resolve our internal conflicts and align our beliefs, external opportunities often present themselves almost immediately.

The brain does not distinguish between an imagined reality and the real thing. Allowing yourself to deeply feel the emotions of your desired reality (where your values are unified) is a powerful tool for manifestation.

If an area of your life isn't moving or feels like a struggle, it is likely a reflection of an internal misalignment. Looking inward to find where you are diametrically opposed to yourself is the first step toward freedom.

BEST MOMENTS

"I can't make a decision because I feel that I might be giving up something for something else."

"What if both of those qualities can be true, are true? And because I've separated them out, I'm creating the 'either/or' scenario, not the 'and.' “

"Our brain doesn't know the difference between an imagined reality and the real thing."

"It was that simple. And what had taken so much effort before and hadn't worked out was suddenly possible, suddenly happening."

"It's always a reflection of what's going on on the inside. And what bits have we cast out of ourselves, that require that reunification?"

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Creating a cosy moment is often a premeditated act of self-love. It is about consciously choosing to relish an experience without guilt.

Allowing yourself to ‘escape’, whether into a K-drama or by staring out a window, can be a way to centre yourself, affirming that you are safe enough to let your mind wander.

You don't need to be in your living room to find peace; comfort can be found in a busy train station, a coffee shop, or even just by looking up at the sky.

Just as we seek safety, we can become a source of stillness and security for the people we love, creating a beautiful, mutual cycle of care.

Children are experts at identifying and demanding exactly what they need to feel safe, reminding adults that it is vital to recognise and honor our own needs for comfort.

BEST MOMENTS

"It's very much a place we go to, to relax, take it easy... melting, being able to let go, feel safe and secure."

"There's no guilt involved. It's something that you are consciously doing to love yourself, to say, 'Yeah, you know what? I count.' Let me do something that's going to be fun for me."

"Just allowing myself to fully be physically. I know that I'm in a safe enough place that I can go and do that with my mind."

"There's a portable cosy memory, a memory you have you could use to bring you back to that cosy and safe space."

"For me to feel that he feels so anchored and so still, there's a huge benefit to our health when we experience something like that."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Our wounds typically stem from childhood experiences and redundant programming, manifesting as limiting beliefs, triggers, and a constant sense of lack or neediness.

The spirit represents our authentic, immortal self, deeply connected to divinity and the universe, existing purely in the present moment without the burdens of the past or future.

Operating from the wound creates a transactional mindset focused on filling a void (scarcity), whereas operating from the spirit reveals an innate sense of completeness and universal love (abundance).

Attempting to heal internal voids with external things, like shopping or relationships, is a temporary fix that fails to address the underlying feeling of incompleteness inherent to the wound.

Healing isn't about ignoring the wound but enveloping it with the spirit's love. By connecting to the body, breath, and nature, we can shift from reactive pain to a state of wholeness and gratitude.

BEST MOMENTS

"Our wound typically comes from our childhood experience. It's an old redundant program that keeps on running unless we check in on it, unless we build some sort of awareness or consciousness to it."

"With the spirit, we're accessing divinity through the present moment, and there is no past, there is no future. We're just in the now."

"I think the biggest difference for me is that the wound comes from angst, anxiety, fear, envy, jealousy, anger, whereas with the spirit, simply, it comes from a place of love."

"It almost feels like it's a transactional thing. 'I feel that I have a perceived hole in me that I'm incomplete, and therefore I need something to fill that.'"

"With the spirit, I'm already complete. I don't need anything. I'm already in a place of love."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

When we put all our focus on preventing a specific outcome or circumstance, we drain our mental and physical energy, leaving little room for anything else to enter our lives.

While resistance is designed to keep us safe and maintain the status quo, it can also trap us in a cycle of limited possibilities, preventing growth and new experiences.

By fixating on what we ‘don't’ want (e.g., avoiding a certain type of person or outcome), we unintentionally block the flow of positive alternatives that could surprise and delight us.

Surrender isn't about defeat; it's about accepting the possibility of an unwanted outcome to release the fear and control that binds us, allowing life to flow freely again.

Instead of using imagination to terrify ourselves with ‘what ifs’, we can use it to visualise acceptance and openness, redirecting our energy toward outcomes we truly love.

BEST MOMENTS

"Resistance for me, simply put, is not allowing something to exist. We're just not ready to allow that in."

"If I put all of my energy and my focus on what I don't want, it stops everything. It stops the flow."

"We might be successful in stopping the possibility of that happening, but because it takes so much energy from us, it potentially also prevents other energy from flowing as well."

"Surrender is allowing for the possibility of something to happen that is potentially not what I want, but I'm being in the allowance of that."

"Just leaning into the universe having our backs, letting go of the reins and allowing it to be."

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The concept of "stirring the pot" symbolises how external influences and interactions with others can disrupt our internal state, bringing unresolved emotions and beliefs to the surface.

It's essential to recognize that we often give away our power to others by allowing their opinions and actions to dictate how we feel about ourselves. Taking control of our self-perception is crucial for emotional well-being.

Understanding our emotional wounds and how they affect our reactions is vital. Being aware of these wounds helps us navigate interactions without being overly influenced by others' perceptions.

Taking a moment to pause before reacting can provide clarity and perspective. This pause allows us to assess our feelings and responses, leading to more thoughtful and constructive interactions.

Life is a mix of chaos and stillness. Acknowledging that both movement and calm coexist can help us navigate emotional turbulence, allowing us to breathe through challenges and maintain a sense of balance.

BEST MOMENTS

"Stirring the pot creates a disruption. Whatever had settled - mostly memories, beliefs, thoughts, feelings - suddenly gets into motion."

"We place so much power behind what people think, how someone else feels, that's their own choice."

"If we can just focus on our own selves, it makes things a lot simpler, and you know you're just accountable for yourself."

"Stirring the pot isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's an opportunity for us to double-check that something I've always believed is still valid."

"We are too quick often to jump to our autopilot. That one-second pause can provide us with all the panoramic perspective we require."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Creating something new involves a complex emotional journey, including feelings of doubt, frustration, and joy. It's important to acknowledge the range of emotions experienced during the creative process.

While creations can be seen as separate from the creator, there is a deep personal connection to the work. This bond is akin to a mother-child relationship, where the creator has invested love and energy into bringing the creation to life.

Before seeking external feedback, it's beneficial to take a moment to appreciate and savour the creation. This internal reflection helps reinforce the personal significance of the work, independent of others' opinions.

The importance of recognizing that external opinions do not define the value of a creation. The relationship with one's work is deeply personal and should not be overshadowed by the judgments of others.

Creators hold the authority over their work, and remembering this can help alleviate the pressure of seeking validation. The love and intention behind the creation are what truly matter, regardless of external feedback.

BEST MOMENTS

"What kind of meaning do we attach to our creations? Many books will talk about the fact that our creation is separate from us. I think I would probably agree with that."

"Whenever we do that, it may be subject to opinions, projections, people having thoughts about it that are different to yours."

"The reason I would create anything, if it's from a pure place, would be for its own sake, for no reason, just because I felt like it."

"It feels very much like a mother giving birth to a child. All that love and energy poured into the embryo that grows into a child."

"Our connection to what we create is deeply personal and has nothing to do with what people think about it or put on it."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The importance of asking oneself, "What would I love for myself now?" can help pivot from negative emotions and lead to greater clarity about personal desires and needs.

Acknowledging and being kind to oneself is crucial. Simple acts like taking a nap or enjoying a cup of tea can significantly improve emotional well-being and foster a sense of joy.

Life is a continuous journey where clarity and purpose can evolve over time. It's essential to take small steps without the pressure of having everything figured out.

Reflecting on what others might think can reveal how much power we give away to external opinions. Recognising this can help reclaim personal agency and focus on what truly matters to oneself.

We always have the choice to pivot towards joy and fulfilment, regardless of circumstances. Embracing this choice allows for a more conscious and intentional approach to life, leading to a more joyful existence.

BEST MOMENTS

"One of the things I've been practicing has been exactly this question, what would I love for myself now? To gently move me out of my current emotional state into something that is of my choosing."

"When you actually pose it as, wow, what would I love for myself now, it totally changed the question. We don't pause long enough to ask what is it we would like ourselves."

"Sometimes it's just that first step that will allow other things to happen. We don't have to have everything figured out."

"This is about those projects that are heartfelt, that you really want to do from a space of, this is true for me to participate in."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Engaging in fun activities can significantly lighten our emotional and mental load, allowing for a fresh perspective and renewed energy in both personal and professional settings.

Many people struggle to give themselves permission to take breaks for fun, often prioritising productivity over personal enjoyment. Recognising the need for fun is essential for maintaining balance and well-being.

Our emotional state and how we approach life can influence those around us, especially children. Modelling a joyful and fun-loving attitude can teach others the value of enjoying life.

Fun serves as a tool for emotional regulation, helping to manage stress and create space for creativity and new ideas. It’s about shifting focus from productivity to experiencing joy.

Keeping a record of fun memories or experiences can serve as a personal resource to draw upon during challenging times, helping to foster a positive mindset and encourage a more joyful outlook on life.

BEST MOMENTS

"Having fun, I feel, just relaxes all of that. It allows my guard to come down somewhat, and it allows me to open up."

"We live in a culture right now where productivity is so important. You have to make sure you do something at the end of the day."

"What if we were anchored in having fun? That was the place from where we were coming from, bringing enthusiasm and genuine excitement into what we're doing."

"Kids learn through what they see and what they experience. If you can teach people that you make time for yourself for fun, they'll see it too."

"It's about emotional regulation. It's healthy. It's generative in that it will allow a level of openness that may not have previously existed before the fun."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Helping others can stem from a desire to please or an inability to say no, often leading to neglecting one's own needs. It's important to assess whether the motivation to help is genuine or driven by personal emptiness.

When assistance is given without empowering the other person, it can create a cycle of dependency. This not only disempowers the individual seeking help but can also lead to feelings of burden for the helper.

Prioritising personal needs is crucial. Before offering help, it's essential to check if you have the emotional, mental, and physical capacity to assist others. Learning to say no is a vital part of self-care.

Instead of solving others' problems, providing a listening ear can empower them to find their own solutions. Encouraging self-reliance fosters personal growth for both parties.

Genuine support comes from a place of abundance rather than emptiness. By taking care of oneself first, individuals can become more resourceful and effective in helping others without compromising their own well-being.

BEST MOMENTS

"I had an inability to say no. It was about the other person more so than about myself."

"By helping out somebody else, even though we might be running on empty, we may already have negative feelings."

"If we begin by setting an intention that we're going to empower them, we're not going to do something for them."

"What remains in us is this hole, is an unfulfilled need and the only person who can actually understand what that is and help us to fill it is ourselves."

"It is better in the longer term to help someone to help themselves."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Navigating the unknown often involves letting go of old identities and labels ('stripping myself bare of identities and labels') that no longer serve you, a process that can feel like being 'washed clean' but ultimately leads you back to your true core.

The present moment is the only true anchor you have when facing the unknown, as dwelling on the past (for a template) or the future (with anxiety) prevents you from seeing new possibilities.

Reframe the unknown from a terrifying, dark experience to a 'pool of possibilities', which encourages curiosity, play, and a willingness to explore different sides of yourself.

Difficult or unsettling moments are not a waste of time or a sign of failure, but rather 'stepping stones' that lead you to new opportunities and a greater appreciation for your life and what you are truly capable of.

A crucial part of navigating life's uncertainties is practicing self-love, self-acceptance, and forgiveness, allowing your "whole self" to be present, flaws and all, without holding back.

BEST MOMENTS

"I find I always use the term navigating the unknown, which says so much because I'm still trying to find my way through it."

"The idea of sitting in the space where we are deeply unsettled it is a core part of me being able to navigate the unknown."

"I think the process has been a series of stepping stones to get to where I am now."

"It is an invitation for all of us, all of our self, to play in that, to play in the unknown, so we have a full relationship with the unknown."

"That is part of our beauty. That we all have our different colours of our personality."

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Spending time in nature helps individuals reconnect with their roots, alleviating feelings of sickness, anxiety, and depression that can arise from urban living.

Nature allows us to access our intuition and connect with the quantum field, encouraging a state of presence that can lead to insights and clarity.

Engaging with nature, such as tree hugging or walking barefoot on grass, grounds us and promotes relaxation, helping to release burdens and negative energy.

Observing the details of nature -like the colours and textures of plants - can inspire stillness and a sense of connection to everything around us, enhancing our emotional well-being.

Interacting with nature creates an energy exchange, where we can discharge negative energy and recharge ourselves, leading to a greater sense of self and well-being.

BEST MOMENTS

"We're like leopards originally from the jungle, and we've moved to cities. The longer we are away from nature, we become sick, withdrawn, depressed, anxious."

"Spending time in nature allows us to connect back with the infinite, the divine."

"When we connect with something beyond ourselves, we leave an imprint of us, and it leaves an imprint of itself on us."

"The world is always rushing and we forget what it's like just to be, to just exist, to take it all in."

"Just remember what it was like as a child to look up and imagine the possibilities and allow yourselves those moments."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Life challenges, such as the COVID-19 pandemic, can serve as catalysts for reflection and personal growth, prompting individuals to reassess their values and priorities.

Small acts of kindness and connection can have a profound impact on others, highlighting that even seemingly insignificant moments can create ripples of joy and meaning in people's lives.

The concept of Kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, serves as a metaphor for embracing our brokenness and imperfections, allowing us to create something beautiful and stronger from our experiences.

Finding joy in personal pursuits and nurturing oneself is essential. By focusing on what brings happiness, individuals can inspire others and create a positive ripple effect in their communities.

BEST MOMENTS

"Are we doing it consciously? Are we consciously choosing life to happen to us or life to happen for us?"

"COVID gave us the opportunity to kind of stop, to focus on what is it that I'm really looking to accomplish in my life."

"Just know that you being a mom, that's monumental. That is a drop that has ripple effects, not only throughout your life, their life, but throughout the world."

"Sometimes it's necessary because it's just a regrouping. It's the way we define that process that we're going through."

"Fill your own cup first. You're worth it. You deserve it. The world needs it."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The stories we tell ourselves often stem from deep-seated limiting beliefs, such as feelings of inadequacy or not belonging. Recognising these narratives is the first step toward reframing them.

Personal experiences, especially from childhood, shape our current beliefs and behaviours. Reflecting on these moments can help us understand the origins of our limiting stories and how they continue to influence our lives.

Engaging with trusted individuals can provide valuable insights into our patterns and behaviours. Their feedback can help us identify blind spots and challenge the narratives we hold about ourselves.

We have the ability to change our stories and narratives at any point in our lives. By recognising that our past does not define us, we can choose to create new, empowering stories that align with our true potential.

Acknowledging and accepting our past experiences, including the stories we tell ourselves, is crucial for personal growth. Practicing self-compassion allows us to let go of negative narratives and embrace a more positive and hopeful outlook on life.

BEST MOMENTS

"I had been living in a lie, thinking I wasn't capable. When I really was, I knew that I had done this."

"When we dig into the stories that we believe that are on repeat play, there's a deeper message underneath."

"It can take years to be in a position where, to even ask ourselves the question, why does the same thing keep happening?"

"We are so connected to the circumstance that we are one with it. If I'm not enough, then I identify, well, I'm personally not enough."

"Our stories can change. We can see our stories and we can choose to define ourselves differently."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Appreciation is about being present and noticing the richness of life in the moment, while gratitude is reflective, often focused on past experiences. Appreciation serves as a grounding process that can enhance our overall well-being.

In a fast-paced world, taking the time to appreciate our surroundings and experiences can lead to a deeper connection with life. This practice can lower stress and improve mental and physical health.

Recognising and acknowledging our current challenges can serve as a precursor to appreciation. This awareness can help us find value even in difficult situations, fostering resilience.

When one person embodies appreciation, it can positively influence those around them. This shared energy can create a collective atmosphere of positivity and connection.

Simple practices, such as taking a moment to breathe and notice our surroundings, can cultivate appreciation in daily life. Engaging fully in experiences, like savouring food or drink, can enhance our ability to appreciate the present moment.

BEST MOMENTS

"Appreciation is essentially about making our lives richer in all ways, both good and bad. It can protect us against regrets."

"Living in appreciation is a lot easier when things are going well, but they are harder to experience when we are going through challenges in life."

"Acknowledging where you're at in a challenge is almost like hitting a pause button, and that's where the beginning of awareness comes in."

"Appreciation becomes even more important as we get older, especially with everything that's happening in the world."

"When we appreciate, it feels like we're bringing all parts of ourselves back together and we're whole again in that second."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.howtolandyouridealjob.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Unbecoming is a process that occurs during significant life changes or tragedies, offering an opportunity for deep personal transformation rather than something to fix.

The journey through loss often involves a change curve, including stages like denial, anger, sadness, and eventually curiosity, with no set timeline for progression.

During periods of uncertainty, the ego can create internal conflict, as it struggles to navigate the unknown and clings to familiar identities, leading to feelings of disorientation.

Staying present in the moment can provide balance and clarity, allowing individuals to observe their thoughts and feelings without getting lost in anxiety about the future or sadness about the past.

The process of unbecoming involves shedding accumulated beliefs and identities, leading to a return to one's core values and a more authentic self, despite the discomfort it may bring.

BEST MOMENTS

"It's an opportunity for us to transform. To come out of the other side very different from how we went in."

"I felt I was free floating with nothing to hold on to, no handles, no hooks, nothing to push against."

"It's really a question of returning to who we actually are at our core, our values being tested and refined."

"When something like this happens... to just be with that process is to ride it out, not to fight it."

"There's nothing to fix; we're just being shown things that have been hidden from view."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job.

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering who you are beyond the roles you play, or craving a moment of calm reflection in a noisy world — this episode is for you.

Join Harinder as she explores life’s quiet wisdom, found right at the centre of it all — the belly button.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

A Personal Journey – Harinder shares her own story of transformation, moving from a structured corporate life to rediscovering creativity, authenticity, and purpose through coaching and reflection.

The Heart of the Podcast – Belly Button Musings is a space for gentle exploration — drawing wisdom from real stories, experiences, and moments of intuition to uncover the beauty in everyday life.

The Meaning Behind the Belly Button – More than just a name, the belly button represents our connection to the universe, to others, and to the source of our own power and stability.

Finding Peace in Uncertainty – Harinder reflects on the challenges of navigating the unknown and how time, patience, and trust can become powerful allies in personal growth.

An Invitation to Reflect – Each episode invites you to pause, listen inwardly, and notice what resonates — a reminder that we all share more common ground than we might think.

BEST MOMENTS

"What I was being shown was I'm in the unknown, and the curve ball that I had assumed was an apparent mistake wasn't."

"I was given the gift of time and space to evolve, shedding those parts of me that were now superfluous so that I can reconnect with who I really am."

"Belly Button Musings is a podcast for anyone who wants to experience whimsical wisdom pulled from the navel."

"The belly button is seen as spiritual and symbolic in many traditions, representing a connection to the cosmic, the universe, and ancestral wisdom."

"My hope is that you'll be curious, you'll have a listen and the messages might resound with you or make you reflect or light a little spark."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv

LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630

HOST BIO

I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. 

With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

We share stories and gently explore life themes to improve our relationship to our lives, appreciating we are not alone in our experiences. We contemplate through the navel, with the energy of a light shower of rain, reflections and learnings to provide a new awareness and insight into how a life could be lived.