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Care & Feeding | The Best of Our Slate Plus Bonus Episodes

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 08:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are going into the vault. In a very special episode, we’re sharing some of our favorite Slate Plus bonus episodes for freeeee!!! We bring you episodes on Halloween costumes, the best lullabies, and more. If you like what you hear, you should absolutely consider subscribing to Slate Plus! This is just a little taste of the fun we have on the Plus Playground. If you sign up you’ll also get an ad-free experience across the network, bonus episodes on lots of other Slate podcasts, and much more. And, you’ll be helping Care and Feeding stay on air. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

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Care & Feeding | ENCORE! Managing Screen Time Without Losing Your Mind

Thu, 01 Jan 2026 08:10:00 -0000

The hosts are on vacation this week! So we're taking you back in time with one of our favorite episodes of the year.

Elizabeth and Zak talk with Ash Brandin, author of Power On, about managing screen time without guilt or panic. They discuss realistic strategies and why screen time doesn’t define parenting quality. Then, a listener’s question about school tech mandates gets some thoughtful answers. Plus, Slate Plus offers kid-friendly tech picks.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Join us on Facebook and email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask questions, share feedback, and suggest future topics. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an extra weekly grab-bag of content on the Plus Playground, an ad-free experience across the network, and support the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus — or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

How To! | Our Favorite Advice of 2025

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 09:20:00 -0000

In 2025, our listeners contacted How To! for advice about outsmarting student loans, moving to a new city, hosting a low-key gathering, living with chronic pain, quitting a dream job, letting go of ADHD shame, and yes, losing your virginity in your 40s. Today on the show: Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin get updates from some of those advice-seekers—and they check in with Jeff, whose family narrowly escaped an L.A. wildfire this year. Plus, what’s ahead for How To! in 2026.

How To! is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our senior supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | What We Learned From Our Biggest Parenting Triumphs and Fails

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are looking back on 2025, but keeping an eye on 2026. They discuss their biggest parenting fails from this year, and what they’re looking to learn and improve on in the new year. Then, it’s poetry night! Each of the hosts wrote poems for the others to cap off 2025. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you won’t want to miss it.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

How To! | Create ‘Marriage Rules’ as a Couple

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Cohabitation can be bliss—except when it comes to your partner's incompatible approach to household tasks. Bonnie likes things clean, organized, and prompt. Vince, on the other hand, is a classic procrastinator. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on self-described “human glitterbomb” Jackie Kelley to offer up some practical “marriage rules” designed to improve everyday communication with the love of your life.

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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Care & Feeding | The Great Holiday Crafting (And Drinking) Episode

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are drinking, crafting, and answering listener questions. Find out how to make a Gin Snowball, learn Elizabeth’s surprisingly easy paperbag snowflake method, and learn who Ray Keith is. While getting festive, they talk about toys of yore that changed their lives, ponder how necessary Santa is to Christmas magic, and throw out ideas for teen stocking stuffers.

Watch us on YouTube!

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

Care & Feeding | The World Is On Fire. How Do We Tell the Kids?

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen have been trying to stay on top of the news…but they’re getting bogged down and worried about it impacting their kids. Luckily What Next host Mary Harris’s literal job is keeping up on the news, and she’s got kids of her own. So, they all sit down to talk about how much to share with the kids, how to stay informed but still show up for the kids, ways to moderate your own anxiety, and so much more.

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails. Mary comes in with a win during the college admission process; Lucy almost crashes a birthday party (but she DOESN’T…so it’s a win); Zak takes his daughter to roller derby; and Elizabeth says yes to a choral concert.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

How To! | Stop Fawning

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 09:20:00 -0000

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth “F” after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Hacks to Organize Your Kid’s Clutter

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are saying goodbye to clutter! Elizabeth just made yet another massive move to Hawaii and she’s revealing all her hacks, tips, and tricks for unpacking and organizing in a new house. Lucy and Zak weigh in with their own tips for keeping their houses from being overrun with clutter - especially around the holidays.

Check out our YouTube page!

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

Care & Feeding | This is Our First Holiday Without My Husband. How Do We Cope?

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen have a listener in the midst of a Blue Holiday. A long-time listener and her kids are grieving the loss of her husband this holiday season. She wants thoughts about navigating this time of year while still feeling such a big loss.

To navigate this sensitive topic, the ‘Rents are joined by Jessica Correnti, a certified child life specialist who specializes in psychosocial and emotional support to children and families facing stress and anxiety related to illness, hospitalization, and the death of a loved one. They discuss the importance of knowing that there’s not a right or wrong way to navigate the holiday with grief, the unique grieving process that kids go through compared to adults, how to be there for grieving people, and more.

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails. Zak has the ultimate fail calling out a seven-year-old for wearing shorts during a Michigan winter; Lucy misses a theater event; and Elizabeth successfully moved to Hawaii.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Use promo code CF50 to get 50% off for the rest of the year! Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

ICYMI | Shopping on Etsy Sucks Now

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 09:30:00 -0000

On today’s episode, host Kate Lindsay is joined by senior reporter at Bloomberg Businessweek, Amanda Mull, to talk about how the enshittification of online shopping came for Etsy. The platform used to be a thoughtful reprieve from the cheap, mass-produced products on Amazon, but now it’s plagued by a number of the same problems. With cheap junk and AI allegations abound, where can the Shein and Temu-haters go to actually find what they’re shopping for?

This podcast is produced by Vic Whitley-Berry, Daisy Rosario, and Kate Lindsay.

How To! | Sing in Front of Other People

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Slate staff writer Rebecca Onion wants to improve her singing voice, but she’s unsure about belting it out in public. On this episode, How To!’s Carvell Wallace introduces her to G. Phillip Shoultz III, associate director of VocalEssence, for advice on strengthening her voice, performing with confidence, and (gasp!) auditioning for a vocal group.

If you liked this episode check out How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song With Ben Folds.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Is It The F**k You Fours? Or Something More?

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are doing a double listener question episode! First up, a parent is OVER their current television show rotation. The ‘Rents give recommendations for shows in the eight-year-old to fifteen-year-old range that aren’t overly preachy or totally mindless.

Then, they sympathize with a parent dealing with a clingy sixteen-month-old who won’t stop screaming and going full Hulk-mode every time a tiny thing goes wrong. They commiserate and give advice - including considering getting a second medical opinion and, maybe, just telling the kid that the yogurt bites are going in the bowl, end of discussion!

Mentioned in the Show:

Bluey Knows Best - Care and Feeding

Common Sense Media

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

Care & Feeding | My Friend is Going THROUGH IT. How Can I Support Them?

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen take a listener question about how to be there for a fellow parent who is going through a hard time. The listener’s friend’s kid is acting out and causing lots of stress. They toss around ideas about ways friends have shown up for them, ideas for support without smothering, and more.

But first, they share their latest Triumphs and Fails. Lucy survives a trip to the wilderness with her family, Elizabeth survives an international trip with the kids as the only parent (and gets praise for their behavior!), and Zak is clearly raising a cool kid.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth.

How To! | Give to a Good Cause—and Make It Count

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 09:20:00 -0000

With the year-end giving season underway, you might be wondering how much to donate and where you can make the biggest impact. On this Giving Tuesday, How To!’s Courtney Martin brings on Grace Chiang Nicolette of the Center for Effective Philanthropy to explain how to pick the right organizations and ensure your dollar goes as far as possible—regardless of how much you’re giving.

You can hear more of Grace on her podcast, Giving Done Right. If you liked this episode, check out How To Harness Your Citizen Superpowers and How To Lead Your Local Nonprofit.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Everyday Carry for Parents: Never Leave Without These

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen have animal talk! They’re joined by zoo consultant Megan Sanders to talk about ways to help kids feel or involved in making the world a better place for animals.

But first, the hosts have an Every Day Carry segment! They share everything that’s currently in their bags - from favorite snacks to boredom busters and more.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

How To! | Learn to Love Your City

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 09:20:00 -0000

It wasn’t long after Melody Warnick moved to Blacksburg, Va., that she realized its nickname—“Bleaksburg”—wasn’t a joke. Feeling stuck, she devised a research-based experiment to acclimate to her new city. On this episode: Melody explains how she went from hating Blacksburg to loving it (and how you can deepen your connection to the place where you live).

Listen to part one of our conversation here: How to Move to a New City.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Survive a Disaster and Quick Fix: Meet Your Neighbors

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Ending the Elf (On the Shelf)

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are trying to take some of the holiday stress off your shoulders. They have gift recommendations for every type of kid, from the sports obsessed (tickets to a game are always a win) to the young scientist (science kits like those from Kiwi Co. are sure to be a hit), they have ideas to help you make all the kiddos happy this season.

But first: A listener has a very important question - how do they end the yearly (exhausting) tradition of the Elf on the Shelf. Is it possible to “kill” the elf while keeping holiday magic?

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

Care & Feeding | How To Navigate Strained Relationships Around the Holidays

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are joined by mother-daughter writing team Leslie and Lindsey Glass. They share their estrangement and reconnection that led to their book The Mother Daughter Relationship Makeover. They give advice for how to deal with toxic personalities around the dinner table and at parties, talk about when estrangement might be the answer, and more.

But first, they share their latest Triumphs and Fails. Lucy has an explosion (literally), Elizabeth is in a new country, and Zak learns the local bus routes.

This podcast is produced by Rosemary Belson and Cheyna Roth.

How To! | Move to a New City

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Kerry is ready to leave rural Virginia and move to a walkable, vibrant city. The only problem? She can’t decide which walkable, vibrant city is right for her. On this episode, How To!’s Courtney Martin brings on Melody Warnick, author of This Is Where You Belong and If You Could Live Anywhere. Melody asks Kerry what she’s really seeking in a new place—and introduces a process that can help make such an important decision.

Next week, we’ll talk with Melody about learning to love where you live. Can’t wait for part two? Slate Plus members can listen to that episode in their feeds right now!

If you liked this episode check out: Moving Stories from Slate’s Death, Sex & Money.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | How to Get Through (Or Help Someone With) Postpartum Depression

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen share their experiences with postpartum depression. Then, Elizabeth is joined by Danielle Learner to talk about Danielle’s experience with postpartum depression, her activism to raise awareness on the issue, and a lot of tips and advice for people who struggle with postpartum depression or know someone struggling.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth

Care & Feeding | Help! Is My Kid Talking Enough?

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are joined by Sydney Bassard from The Listening SLP to dig into everything you need to know about hearing loss, practical speech, language, and literacy with your kids.

But first, Lucy weighs in on the great flower girl controversy.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth.

How To! | Take Charge of Home Repair (with Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust)

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 09:20:00 -0000

In the second half of How To!’s wide-ranging conversation about home improvement, gender, sexuality, and much more, journalist Sam Sanders and author Mercury Stardust (aka The Trans Handy Ma’am) talk with co-host Carvell Wallace about a truly daunting idea: skipping the contractors—and doing the work yourself.

This episode is available to Slate Plus members now. Non-members will be able to listen on Nov. 11, 2025. If you missed the first half of this conversation, check out How To Talk to Contractors (With Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust).

Mercury’s latest book is Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair. And, check out the latest episodes of The Sam Sanders Show.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | How Safe is Your House?

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are doing a deep dive on child safety at home. They bring on expert Holly Choi from Safe Beginnings to talk about the most dangerous parts of your home, tips for safety classes, why those de-choking devices aren’t worth your money, and more.

But first, it’s mailbag time! We read EVERY email you send and every comment you post on our socials, but we’ve been behind in sharing them on the show. So the ‘Rents dig into some of your comments and advice.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth.

Care & Feeding | When a Good Idea Turns Into a Fail

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen dig into a listener letter that hits close to home for Elizabeth. A military mom wants to know how specific she should be with her kids about her spouse’s upcoming deployment. They commiserate, and offer suggestions for how to keep the absent spouse involved even while they are away.

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails, where a day off for Lucy’s daughter goes haywire, Zak enjoys a peaceful morning, and Elizabeth learns about Italy’s bus system the hard way.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

How To! | Talk to Contractors (With Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust)

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Sam Sanders is many things: journalist, podcaster, pop-culture obsessive, and a familiar voice from public radio. He’s also ”quite possibly the world's most hesitant homeowner.” Sam wants to fix up the house he recently bought, but three things are holding him back: First, he doesn’t have a clue where to start. Second, he’s not very handy. And third, he’s intimidated by the thought of talking with contractors (who might discover the first two things about him). In the first episode of a two-part series, Carvell Wallace brings on home improvement expert and bestselling author Mercury Stardust (aka The Trans Handy Ma’am) to guide Sam in conquering his fears.

Mercury’s latest book is Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair. Check out the latest episodes of The Sam Sanders Show.

Next week: How To Take Charge of Home Repair (with Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust). Can’t wait for part 2? Slate Plus members can listen to that episode in their feeds right now!

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Everything You Need to Know About Homeschooling

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen dig into homeschooling kids. They bring on special guest Julie Bogart from Brave Writer to dig into the history and current day trends of homeschooling, who should homeschool and who shouldn't, why people choose to homeschool, and so much more!

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.

Care & Feeding | When Alcoholism Impacts the Children In Your Life

Thu, 30 Oct 2025 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen have a tough listener question about what to do when a relative is an alcoholic and don’t think the environment is safe for the relative’s kid. To answer this question, they’re joined by Lisa Smith from Parallel Recovery. They unpack how to set real boundaries with family members without shaming them; acceptable ultimatums; how to “pre-game” for tough situations; and more.

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails. We’ve got two triumphs and a tribulation this episode. Lucy is triumphing over breakfast and Zac and his lovely wife had a Halloween-themed getaway. But Elizabeth is stressing over a big solo trip with the kids.

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How To! | Stop Snoring

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Andrew Zaleski couldn’t stop snoring. Fed up, he did what any good journalist would do: He started digging. On this episode of How To!, Andrew tells Courtney Martin about his investigation into sawing logs, his experiments with anti-snoring devices, and what he learned from sleep experts while reporting his recent story for Slate.

Episodes Mentioned:

How To Stop Snoring (and Breathe Easier)

How To Sleep Apart to Save Your Relationship

How To Sleep Like a Champ

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | My Kid is Saying 6-7…Can I Say It Too?

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are joined by ICYMI host Kate Lindsay to discuss viral slang like “67” and “41” and what it all means. They unpack the difference between “bro” and “bruh” (it’s huge!), why the harmless bit of brain rot might actually be good for kids, and more!

Later, they discuss a listener's question: “how do I, a childless aunt, talk to my nieces and nephews without it feeling awkward”.

Also. Sphincter says what?

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Care & Feeding | “It’s Not Easy!” Parenting After a Bad Fight.

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen have a triple…fail. Lucy clapped back to her teen, Elizabeth said the thing to her kids she promised she never would, and Zak is now dealing with injuries from a bike accident.

Then, they get a listener triumph with a game-ified way of doing chores and earning allowance. The ‘Rents dig into what they do in their homes for chores and debate whether Lucy should let her kid hire someone to clean her room.

How To! | Survive Getting Fired

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 08:20:00 -0000

If you recently lost your job—or think you might lose it soon—Laura Brown and Kristina O'Neill are here to help! On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace talks to the authors of All the Cool Girls Get Fired about what to do when you get the ax—and how to turn termination into a real opportunity.

If you liked this conversation, check out the Slate podcast Death, Sex & Money’s recent episode on “Why Job Hunting Feels So Grim Lately, Especially for Gen Z.”

Looking for a different kind of career advice? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding: Is Gaming Taking Over Boys’ Lives?

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Friend of the show Jamilah Lemieux tackles helping kids get a better night's sleep. She’s joined by gentle sleep coach Macall Gordon. They discuss what to do with “live-wire kids”, how to avoid burnout when trying to get your kid to sleep, why we need to stop blaming parents for kid sleep issues, and more.

But first, Care and Feeding producer Cheyna Roth joins the team to talk about a recent New York Times piece, “How Video Games Are Shaping a Generation of Boys, for Better and Worse”. They dig into the pros and cons of gaming as a social activity, whether it’s possible to get kids to touch grass anymore, and how to navigate these tricky waters.

Care & Feeding | Make My Kid Eat, Please!

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are tackling picky eating. They’re joined by Jennifer Anderson from Kids Eat In Color to talk about helping kids navigate diet culture, how to tell if your kid is a “normal” picky eater or a problematic picky eater, why you shouldn’t try to sneak foods into foods they like, and more!

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails: Zak got a puppy! Elizabeth loves Halloween now! And Lucy was a hero at Epic Universe park. You know what that means - it’s a Triple Triumph week y’all!

Mentioned in this Episode:Care and Feeding video episodes are now on YouTube! They drop on Fridays and are available here.

In which Elizabeth claims Halloween is the worst - Is It Creepy to Photograph Other Kids’ Costumes?

Elizabeth’s tricked out Halloween house - Instagram

Produced by Cheyna Roth

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How To! | Harness Your Anger

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Contemporary women are primal-screaming and hitting rage rooms, but are these really the solutions to our personal and political anger? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin talks with Soraya Chemaly, journalist and author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, about her own recent upsurge of anger. Soraya explains how to identify, understand, and harness what’s bottled up inside you—and use it for change.

If you liked this episode check out How To Make Imposter Syndrome Your Superpower and How To Be Lonely.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | A Tooth Fairy Fail

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Slate senior producer Cheyna Roth joins Zak Rosen and Elizabeth Newcamp to debate wedding ceremony etiquette. A listener’s kid is the flower girl at a friend’s wedding. But now it turns out the flower girl is NOT invited to the wedding reception. Is this fair? They dig into whether kids make a wedding better, logistics, and more.

But first, in another edition of Triumphs and Fails, Cheyna deals with a week-long bus cancellation, Elizabeth celebrates a big birthday, and Zak has to deal with Tooth Fairy fallout.

Mentioned In the Episode:

Who Owns the Tooth Fairy? - Decoder Ring

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How To! | Raise a Boy

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Jen is raising a pretty stellar 9-year-old son. With his tween and teen years on the horizon, she wants to steer him toward kindness, acceptance, and openness—and away from the pitfalls of toxic masculinity. On this episode, How To!’s Carvell Wallace brings on Ashanti Branch, founder of The Ever Forward Club and host of unMASKing with Male Educators. Ashanti offers his advice on talking with boys about their emotions, understanding the “mask” that young men present to the world, and building trust and confidence—by acknowledging that adults don’t have all the answers.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Parent Less and How To Make Friends … Like a Man

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Help! I'm Touched Out By My Kids.

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen have a question from a mom who is TOUCHED OUT. The ‘Rents give parents everywhere permission to establish boundaries and walk away from kids when they’re being too aggressive or just won’t leave them alone.

But first, they share their latest insight into the Labubu community and dealing with the big trends your kids HAVE to be a part of.

This week in Slate Plus: Recommendations for lunches and snacks kids can take to school.

Listen to Opportunity Gap wherever you get your podcasts: ⁠⁠https://lnk.to/opportunitygapPS!careandfeeding⁠

Care & Feeding | The Great Onesie Debate

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen get real about onesies. A Slate mom wants to know if she can buy her son onesies about her. He has a lot that celebrates his dad, like “daddy’s little xyz” but none about his mom! They dish on favorite onesies, whether these outfits are actually terrible, and more.

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails: what happens when a sitter soft cancels, how to deal with a missing lovie, and an incredible reunion between Zak and Elizabeth.

Mentioned in the Show:

Martha of Miami

Jia Collection

Elephant & Co.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Listen to Opportunity Gap wherever you get your podcasts: ⁠⁠https://lnk.to/opportunitygapPS!careandfeeding⁠

How To! | Quit IVF (and Start a New Chapter)

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 08:30:00 -0000

After seven years of trying to conceive, Lauren is ending fertility treatments and starting a new journey: adoption. She’s excited about this unexpected detour into parenthood—but she’s also grieving the loss of something deeply personal that she desired for so long. On this episode: How To!’s Courtney Martin brings on Ada Limón, author of the new book Startlement and the current U.S. poet laureate. Ada offers Lauren guidance on finding strength and joy in this unplanned chapter of her life—and on rethinking our own expectations for our bodies and our lives.

If you liked this episode check out How To Become a Parent Overnight and How To Build a Marriage That Lasts.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | What to Say to Your Kids When You Can’t Deal

Mon, 29 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

This week, award-winning journalist and podcaster Elise Hu joins the show to talk about her new podcast Raising Us, where she explores how parents can handle the trickiest questions kids throw their way. A mom of three, Elise shares her own experiences with curiosity, honesty, and the moments where parents don’t have a neat answer. She also helps Lucy and Elizabeth respond to a listener question about navigating conflicts with grandparents who may not share or respect your parenting choices.

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Care & Feeding | Demystifying Car Seat Safety

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth mark Child Passenger Safety Week with a conversation about car seats. Child passenger safety technician Jamie Grayson joins to break down the basics: how to install correctly, when to switch stages, and the mistakes parents don’t even realize they’re making.

Here is the NHTSA car seat safety page.

Listen to our last episode with Jamie: Car Seat Safety Explained!

Then, in a round of triumphs and fails, the hosts tackle tough conversations about sharing, the tricky art of trusting kids’ street smarts, and Zak’s rude awakening about how much a Labubu really costs.

How To! | Update: Losing Your ‘Virginity’ at 43

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 08:20:00 -0000

In this mailbag episode of How To!, we get an update from Elizabeth, the 43-year-old listener who contacted us for advice on her plan to have sex for the first time. Then, co-hosts Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace get listeners’ takes on our most talked-about episodes of the year—and the staff holds an impromptu idea meeting for upcoming episodes.

Links Mentioned:

My Old Books

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | The 25 Best Picture Books of the Last 25 Years

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy and Elizabeth are joined by guest host Rebecca Onion to dive into her and Dan Kois’ definitive list of the 25 best picture books of the last quarter century. Which modern stories have staying power? Which books belong beside the classics on your child’s shelf? The hosts debate and delight in the choices.

But first, they share their latest triumphs and fails: hiding snacks, an urgent care scare, and a deeply irrational fears.

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Care & Feeding | Guiding Kids Through Hard-to-Explain Headlines

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

Reporter and former Care & Feeding host Aymann Ismail joins Elizabeth & Lucy to talk about how to approach conversations with kids about violence in the news. The hosts discuss ways to frame scary or divisive headlines, how to balance honesty with reassurance, and how parents can manage their own reactions while guiding kids through uncertain times. Plus, Lucy reflects on her own experience processing the past week’s difficult news.

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ICYMI | The Funniest Guy on Slate's Slack

Wed, 17 Sep 2025 08:30:00 -0000

On today’s episode, host Kate Lindsay is joined by Slate senior writer Ben Mathis-Lilley to say goodbye after eleven years at Slate. Ben was responsible for iconic stories like “Wouldn’t It Be Nice to Get Knocked Out Cold With a Shovel for Exactly Six Weeks and Five Days?”, and is known as the “funniest person in Slack” despite spending his days reporting on our terrifying political climate. How does Ben stay sane and positive online when the internet is engulfed with bad news? One thing’s for certain: It’s not in his University of Michigan football Discord.

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This podcast is produced by Daisy Rosario, Vic Whitley-Berry, Candice Lim, and Kate Lindsay.

How To! | Use Hypnosis

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Much of our common understanding of hypnosis has been gleaned from mind-control plots in Hollywood movies or hokey on-stage demonstrations. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Stanford University psychiatrist and researcher Dr. David Spiegel to talk about what hypnosis is (and isn’t), as well as its potential to address stress, pain, and even athletic performance. Plus, with Carvell wrestling with an ongoing major project, Dr. Spiegel tests our host’s hypnotizability—then leads him through an exercise aimed at confronting procrastination.

Learn more about Dr. Spiegel and his self-hypnosis app, Reveri. If you liked this episode, check out How To Stop Being Anxious and How To Quiet the Chatter in Your Head.

How To! is produced by Rosie Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad, who produced this episode. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | How to Talk Divorce With Kids

Thu, 11 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

tell kids about divorce. Zak, Elizabeth, and Lucy share advice on language that reassures, pitfalls to avoid, and ways to keep the focus on love and stability. Plus, triumphs and fails: Friday night plans go awry, shoe shopping mishaps, and a school drop-off turns into a win.

Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream Books

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How To! | Quit Your Dream Job

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Alice has an objectively cool job. She programs film festivals and gets to watch documentaries for a living. But that living is also stressful: It’s low-paying, seasonal work that provides some status, sure, but not much stability. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on atheist chaplain and author Vanessa Zoltan, who spent two years helping countless people decide whether to quit (or not) on her podcast The Real Question. Vanessa shares what she learned from those conversations—and helps Alice figure out how to reimagine her life (with job security).

If you liked this episode check out How To Switch Careers in Midlife, How To Take a Sabbatical, and How To Know When to Quit Your Job.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | The Back-to-School Game Plan

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

This week on Care and Feeding, Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth are joined by Scotti Weintraub, parenting coach, creator of Reframe Parenting and host of The Unlocking School Success Podcast. Scotti answers’ back-to-school questions and offers practical advice for navigating classroom routines, working with teachers, and helping kids feel comfortable and ready to learn. It’s all about small shifts that can make the start of the year smoother for everyone.

Take Scotti’s the School Support Parenting Quiz

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Care & Feeding | How to Help a Kid Stop Thumb-Sucking

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0000

Today on the show: What to do when your kid won’t stop sucking their thumb. Lucy, Elizabeth, and Zak offer guidance for moving on from thumb-sucking—without turning to bribes or battles—as well as alternative methods of self-soothing. In ‘triumphs and fails’ Elizabeth and Zak wrestle with airports and big international moves, while Lucy deals with a budgeting tantrum.

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How To! | Host With Ease

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Krystina used to host gatherings all the time. Then came kids and the pandemic, and the parties ground to a halt. She’s feeling a renewed urge to bring people together—specifically her inspiring, badass female friends—but every time she starts to plan something meaningful, she balks. On this episode: How To!’s Courtney Martin connects Krystina with Katherine Goldstein of the Substack and podcast The Double Shift. Katherine shares what she’s learned from her new project, The How To Find Your People Club, including a guiding principle: Don’t overthink it.

More from The How to Find Your People Club: 8 Ways to Embrace “Deep Casual Hosting” (So You’ll Actually Do It)

More Advice for the “Deep Casual” Hosting Movement!

A Research-Backed Method to Ramp Up Our Social Skills

A Nitty-Gritty Guide to Finding a Community That’s Right for You

If you liked this episode, check out How To Throw a Party They’ll Remember and How To Find Friends in Unexpected Places.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | From How To! | How To Raise a Kid in a Polarized Family

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 07:05:00 -0000

Sarah loves her in-laws, even though their politics send her running for the exits. Now, her daughter is starting to ask questions about her grandparents’ patriarchal, conservative views. How can Sarah raise her kid to be self-assured, justice-oriented, and open-minded—without spoiling the connection between her in-laws and the grandchild they adore? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Melinda Wenner Moyer, science journalist and author of the new book Hello, Cruel World! Science-based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times. Melinda gives Sarah strategies for talking to all parties, reinforcing values in her daughter, and avoiding an irreparable break with her relatives.

If you want more Melinda, check out: How To Raise Kids in a Nation Full of Guns.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | From How To! | How To Raise a Kid in a Polarized Family

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 07:05:00 -0000

If you want more Melinda, check out: How To Raise Kids in a Nation Full of Guns.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Extra Parenting, Extra Guilt

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 07:10:00 -0000

This week on Care and Feeding, Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth help a parent who is doing ‘extra’ parenting for one of her kids. She’s worried her other kid will feel resentful. The hosts have helpful strategies for balancing fairness while preserving your sanity.

In Triumphs and Fails: international moves, heartbreaking goodbyes, and a snack-money gremlin.

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How To! | Be a Better Coach (Encore)

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 08:20:00 -0000

When Kelly volunteered to be the head coach for his son’s baseball team, he was nervous. He had no formal training, but he knew he wanted his players to have equal playing time—and have fun. Which they did, until the yelling started and the season ended in a stunning loss (and quite a few tears). What can Kelly do better next season? In this encore episode of How To! from 2021, Amanda Ripley connects Kelly with Doug Lemov, author of Teach Like a Champion and The Coach’s Guide to Teaching. Doug shares some fantastic advice for commanding attention (and managing failure) that we can all learn from, on or off the field.

If you liked this episode, check out Congrats, You Won the Olympics. Now What?

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Care & Feeding | The Secret to Becoming the Hangout House

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth shares stories from her big moving trip, Zak talks through the chaos of his own move, and Lucy navigates some surprising crush talk with her teen. Then, a listener asks how to make their home the go-to hangout spot for kids and friends. The hosts get real about why it’s less about beanbags and ping pong tables, and more about food, trust, and creating the right vibe.

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Care & Feeding | When Your Kid Hates Mornings

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0000

This week on Care and Feeding, Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth tackle a letter from a parent whose mornings are a nonstop battleground. What do you do when your kid just isn’t a morning person, and every transition out the door spirals into crankiness and chaos? The hosts share strategies for smoother starts to the day, and in triumphs and fails: a birthday party pulled off without a hitch, the joys (and wobbles) of re-learning to ride a bike, and back-to-school prep that actually went right.

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How To! | Declutter Your Digital Life

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Safiya is one clumsy coffee spill away from catastrophe. A Gen Xer who hasn’t yet embraced the cloud, she stores thousands of digital files, documents, and photos on devices with maxed-out storage limits. On today’s episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Caitlin McGarry, senior editor at Wirecutter. Caitlin talks with Safiya about practical ways to delete and organize—and how we can all build healthier habits in our digital lives.

Ready to dive even deeper? Explore these resources:

How to Organize Your Digital Files

Digital Clutter Can Be Overwhelming. Here’s How to Clean Up.

Your Phone’s Camera Roll Is a Mess. Here’s How to Clean It Up.

How to Organize Desktop Apps

Don’t Be a Digital Hoarder

If you liked this episode, check out How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Rethink Screen Time

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Managing Screen Time Without Losing Your Mind

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 07:05:00 -0000

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Care & Feeding | A Doctor’s Take on Your Newborn Worries

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 07:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak sits down with Dr. Parga Belinkie, pediatrician and new parent whisperer, to talk about those intense, often foggy first months with a newborn. They get into what matters most in a pediatrician-parent relationship, what’s actually worth worrying about (and what isn’t), and how to navigate the early avalanche of advice, anxiety, and sleep deprivation. It’s a conversation that grounds you in the basics—without making you feel like you have to get it all right.

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How To! | Raise a Kid in a Polarized Family

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Sarah loves her in-laws, even though their politics send her running for the exits. Now, her daughter is starting to ask questions about her grandparents’ patriarchal, conservative views. How can Sarah raise her kid to be self-assured, justice-oriented, and open-minded—without spoiling the connection between her in-laws and the grandchild they adore? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Melinda Wenner Moyer, science journalist and author of the new book Hello, Cruel World! Science-based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times. Melinda gives Sarah strategies for talking to all parties, reinforcing values in her daughter, and avoiding an irreparable break with her relatives.

If you want more Melinda, check out: How To Raise Kids in a Nation Full of Guns.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Separation Anxiety in Overdrive

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0000

Elizabeth, Zak, and Lucy respond to a parent whose 7-year-old has developed intense separation anxiety—panicking anytime they’re apart, even with another parent nearby. The fears center around monsters the kid hasn’t seen, but hears about at school. So what do you do when reassurance stops working and fear takes over the routine?

But first, we’ll circle up for a round of check-ins: Elizabeth recounts a fireworks fiasco, Lucy faces down her daughter’s back-to-school worries, and Zak’s planning a very special birthday.

And on Slate Plus recommendations for parents and kids alike, everything we turn to when anxiety hits.

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Care & Feeding | My Kid is Not a Helper

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth respond to a letter from a parent who wants their six-year-old to be more helpful, but every small request turns into a debate. How can caregivers encourage a spirit of contribution without forcing it?

But first, we’ll circle up for a round of check-ins—bras, birthdays, and babysitter drama. And on Slate Plus, we’re talking about what to do when a child’s nature rubs up against a parent’s values.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

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How To! | Let Go of ADHD Shame

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Jessi navigates life with ADHD using a complex web of coping strategies. She used to strive for absolute perfection, but feels overwhelming guilt when she forgets something or loses focus at work or at home. On this episode, How To! co-host Carvell Wallace introduces Jessi to Dr. Sarah Wheeler, an educational psychologist who specializes in ADHD. Dr. Wheeler shares her own experience with ADHD and helps Jessi chart a sustainable path forward to self-acceptance, minus the anxiety and shame.

Dr. Wheeler’s Resources and Recommendations

Joan Wilder’s site Help for Women with ADHD
Salif Muhamane’s Ted Talk, “ADHD Sucks, But Not Really”
Kate Weber’s Women & ADHD podcast
You’ve Always Been This Way: “Hello, I’m New Here,” by McSweeney’s columnist Taylor Harris

Check out: How To Navigate Adult Autism and our discussion of ADHD and organizing in How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | I Need Them To Stop. Right Now

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 07:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah respond to a letter from a parent of young kids who’s worried that when it really matters—her children just won’t listen. How do you teach safety, boundaries, and urgency to kids under 5... without fear or yelling? The hosts talk about authority, instinct, and what actually works in high-stakes parenting moments.

But first, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails: Zak’s week of solo parenting, Elizabeth’s trip to Mongolia, and Jamilah’s New York summer.

How To! | Gossip for Good

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Psssst. You didn’t hear this from me, but gossiping—can be good for you! … our series on embracing your inner antihero wraps—for now—with a guilty pleasure: gossiping. Normal Gossip host (and beloved former Slatester) Rachelle Hampton sits down with How To!’s Carvell Wallace to dish on the right way to gossip, the link between whisper networks and safety, and the importance of leaving no receipts.

This conversation concludes—for now!—our miniseries on embracing your inner antihero. Check out our episodes on How To Get Sweet, Sweet Revenge and How To Be an Ethical Hater.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. This episode was produced by Sophie Summergrad.

Care & Feeding | Making Space for Messy Feelings

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 07:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak shares a surprising lesson from his kid about being the family comedian. Elizabeth reflects on traveling in places that clearly weren’t built with kids in mind. And Lucy’s become a pickleball obsessive—thanks to a wholesome family showdown.

Then: A listener's question about toxic positivity opens up a conversation on how to create space for kids to feel what they feel, without trying to fix or reframe everything.

And on Slate Plus, we’re sharing our favorite books and movies for talking to kids about their emotions.

Care & Feeding | Preparing Kids for the Worst (Without Freaking Them Out)

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 18:00:00 -0000

This week, a listener faces an agonizing parenting dilemma: Their beloved dog is old and undergoing risky surgery—and they’re not sure how honest to be with their child about what might happen. Should you keep things upbeat and hopeful? Or give your kid a soft landing pad in case the worst comes true? The hosts unpack how to talk about death when it’s still a maybe, not a certainty.

Then in triumphs and fails, Lucy dives a little too deep into her daughter’s love life, Zak regrets letting the kids watch something not-so-age-appropriate, and Elizabeth dials in with travel tales from Mongolia.

How To! | Be an Ethical Hater

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Our series on embracing your inner antihero continues with a look at superheroes who definitely don’t wear capes: ethical haters. Slate culture writer Scaachi Koul sits down with How To!’s Carvell Wallace for a conversation about the power of haterade—and why “hating up” distinguishes ethical haters from run-of-the-mill, establishment negativity.

Links Mentioned:

Sucker Punch by Scaachi Koul

Scaachi’s Substack, Hater Nation

Banal Nightmare by Halle Butler

Scamfluencers

Missed our first installment? Check out How To Get Sweet, Sweet Revenge. Next week: How to gossip! (But we didn’t tell you that...)

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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. This episode was produced by Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | My Only Child Wants a Sibling. What Now?

Mon, 21 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000

This week on Care & Feeding, a listener writes in with a question that tugs at the heart: Their five-year-old daughter—an only child, growing up in a rural area—is asking for a sibling. But more than that, she’s asking for connection, companionship, someone to play with. The hosts unpack the emotional weight behind the ask, and explore how parents can foster deep social bonds for solo kids—especially when playdates, cousins, and neighbor kids are hard to come by. Plus, Elizabeth opens up about her experience on Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh’s Married After Kids podcast, and Lucy reflects on the joys of volunteering with kids.

Podcast produced by Palace Shaw.

Care & Feeding | Is My Kid Ready for Middle School? Am I?

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 18:00:00 -0000

This week on Care & Feeding, Elizabeth and Lucy respond to a listener wondering how to help their child—and themselves—prepare for the leap to middle school. The hosts share practical tips and emotional insights on everything from shifting friendships to growing independence, academic pressure, and those moments when your once-chatty kid starts speaking in shrugs.

They unpack how to build trust without hovering, how to guide without gripping too tight, and why middle school can feel like both a beginning and an ending for parents, too.

Plus: Reflections on the emotional weight of parenting costs, and a conversation about how the world needs to make more room for kids just being kids.

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How To! | Get Sweet, Sweet Revenge

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Jordan is mired in a bitter war over off-leash pups at an unofficial dog park. With pro-leash forces deploying fake signage, ambush videos, and questionable zip-tie tactics in a campaign of shame aimed at her fellow dog owners, Jordan is ready to take matters into her own hands. In this first installment of How To’s guide to becoming an antihero, Courtney Martin brings on writer, storyteller, and comedian Matthew Dicks to counsel Jordan in the art of getting even. (Read Slate’s ⁠Revenge Week⁠ spectacular.)

A little treat: ⁠Jordan's pup, Ziggy! ⁠

Next week: How To Be an Ethical Hater. (Can’t wait for antihero guidance? Check out How To Be the Next Erin Brockovich and How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor (Featuring Tig Notaro).

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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Special thanks to Sophie Summergrad.

Care & Feeding | When Your Kids Can’t Eat the Same Thing

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez dive into a letter from a parent who’s stuck in the food fight crossfire between their college-aged child—who has both celiac and ARFID—and a preschooler who’s suddenly mimicking the restrictive eating. Is this a passing phase? A red flag? Or just one of those strange sibling mirrors? The hosts unpack family dynamics, poop accidents, and how to keep everyone’s plate (and gut) happy.

And then, we’ll circle up for a round of check-ins and on Slate Plus, the hosts bust some common parenting myths.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Producer: Palace Shaw

Care & Feeding | When Your Teen Thinks They're the Parent

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Lucy Lopez dive into a letter from a parent with three kids spanning college to preschool — and two of them are acting like they run the nursery. What do you do when your teens become self-appointed disciplinarians for your four-year-old? And how do you re-establish the line between “big sibling” and “co-parent” without sparking a family feud?

After that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Palace Shaw.

How To! | Stop Giving 110%

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Kate is juggling a lot: work, kids, caregiving for an elder, a dance troupe, the PTA, community organizing. Oh, and she runs a ‘90s-themed DJ night, too. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, to talk with Kate about how to stop doing everything all the time.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Manage Your Precious Time

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Becoming a Parent Is a Process

Mon, 07 Jul 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Slate’s own Aymann Ismail is with us to talk about his new book, Becoming Baba – which is out TOMORROW!

We’ll talk about the book. But first, Aymann, Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth take a question from a listener who’s hoping to reclaim the time that she feels like she lost during the newborn phase.

And on Slate Plus: Elizabeth has a dilemma, and Aymann sticks around to help.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced, for the final time, by Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding | Comebacks For “I’m Bored”

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah talk about summer boredom. We get questions about this every year — so we’re coming in early this year with some ideas for how to handle that classic, but dreaded, complaint… that no, really, there’s nothing to do.

And after that, of course, we’re sharing a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Start Reading Books Again (Encore)

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Kate stopped reading in 2016. Since then, she’s tried to find her way back to it but something’s not clicking, and it’s left a book-shaped hole in her heart. Reading used to be something she really enjoyed, took pride in, and loved connecting with people over. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Maryanne Wolf, director of ⁠UCLA’s Center For Dyslexia, Diverse Learners, and Social Justice⁠ and author of the book, ⁠Reader, Come Home⁠. Maryanne explains the science behind the reading brain as well as how to deeply engage with books and make reading a habit again.

If you liked this episode, check out: “⁠How To Put Down Your Phone⁠”

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Care & Feeding | What Counts as Screentime?

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth chat about screentime. We’ve got two great questions that are variations on the theme: are podcasts screentime? And you missing out on something if your little ones don’t get to watch a certain children’s YouTuber? We’ll discuss.

After that, we’re circling up for a round of triumphs and fails, because why not? And if you stick around for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about water safety and whether the color of your swimsuit really matters.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding | DOGE Cut My Job. How Do I Tell My Kid?

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a listener who’s just lost her job due to DOGE cuts – and now, she’s trying to figure out how to explain what’s happening to her elementary schooler. And, they’re getting ready to move back to the States after working and living overseas. There’s a lot to unpack, and we’ll do what we can to help.

And after that, of course, we’re sharing a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding | DOGE Cut My Job. How Do I Tell My Kid?

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 18:00:00 -0000

And after that, of course, we’re sharing a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Balance Mind, Body—and iPhone

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Mary is juggling a busy career and family life and, like many of us, she feels guilty about the time she spends on her phone. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin talks with author and teacher Molly Caro May about how she’s helping others rethink—and rewire—their dependency on devices with an approach that’s focused on the mind-body connection.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Manage Your Kids’ Screen Time.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | My Tween Girls Are Jealous of Each Other

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth chat about sibling spats. Our question is from the mom of three tween girls who are jealous of each other — so we’ll talk about dealing with unfairness, and keeping the peace.

We’ll also check in and share what’s on our minds this week. And if you stick around for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about our parenting “shoulds.”

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Draw Outside the Lines

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Drawing isn’t just child’s play. It’s a shortcut to joy, presence, and connection—all things we could use a lot more of these days. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on artist, graphic journalist, and founder of DrawTogether Wendy MacNaughton to explain how everyone at the grown-ups table can start drawing, too.

Courtney’s blind contour drawing

If you liked this episode check out: How To Be an Artist and Not Starve

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | This Is Your Last Parenting Book

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth and Lucy sit down with Meagan Francis – she’s a parenting writer and the author of the new book, The Last Parenting Book You’ll Ever Read. It’s all about embracing the teen years and your impending empty nest.

And if you stick around for the Slate Plus Playground, Zak and Jamilah join Elizabeth to talk about what they hope an empty nest looks like.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding | C&F 101: Love and Baby Skin

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Elizabeth introduce a series-within-a-series called Care and Feeding 101 — where we’re walking you through all things baby, with the help of some truly amazing experts. Think of it like the baby book that we know you don’t have time to read.

In Volume One: Zak meets some seasoned sex and relationship coaches who just had a baby. And Elizabeth invites Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness to bust the top myths about baby skin.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Death, Sex & Money | Money Advice For This Weird Moment

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 07:40:00 -0000

At a time when inflation, tariffs, and stock market fluctuations are creating confusion and financial strain, we’ve assembled an unlikely panel of experts to answer your money questions, big and small.

Our panel includes: Bethel Habte, a financial coach and author of the Deconstructing Money newsletter; Mark Blythe, economics professor at Brown University and author of Inflation: A Guide for Users and Losers; and Rebecca Auman, DMS’s go-to “practical witch” and host of the podcast Voices in the River.

This podcast was produced by Zoe Azulay and Cameron Drews.

Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, Slate Plus! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus.

And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on Instagram and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com.

Care & Feeding | Your City Could Be Better For Parents

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy chat with Diana Lind, an urban policy expert and writer, about her thoughts on parent-friendly cities. We’ll talk about ways that cities do – and could – make housing, third places, transportation, and more work better for more families.

And if you stick around for the Slate Plus Playground, Diana hangs out for a conversation about why kid activities have to be so. boring. for. adults.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

ICYMI: TikTok’s “Relationship Experts” Must Be Stopped

Sat, 07 Jun 2025 08:30:00 -0000

After dating influencer TheWizardLiz revealed she had been cheated on, her viral tips for how to “keep” a man rang hollow. Candice Lim fills in Kate Lindsay on all the Wizard Liz lore, and how TikTok dating gurus are this decade’s Carrie Bradshaws. But with so much more of our lives on display, it’s riskier than ever for anyone to claim they’ve figured out the secret to love. Have these creators really cracked the code for a successful relationship, or are they just pickup artists in a new font?

This podcast is produced by Daisy Rosario, Vic Whitley-Berry, Candice Lim, and Kate Lindsay.

Dear Prudence | I Need My Best Friend to Give Me Some Space. Help!

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On the final episode of Dear Prudence, Jenée is joined by Lonnae O’Neal – a senior writer for ESPN/Andscape and the author of the forthcoming book Bibb Country: Unearthing My Family Secrets of Land, Legacy and Lettuce.

Together, they’ll answer questions like: what do you do when your friends’ husband calls you his wife’s hot lookalike? Is it worth taking a self-esteem hit to attend your 10-year high school graduation? How do you break it to your clingy best friend that you need some alone time? And how do you handle your dad maybe-cheating on your hospitalized mom?

And: Jenée offers up some parting words about what’s next for Dear Prudence. If you loved this show, she hopes you’ll check out How To! and Care & Feeding.

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This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | Planners and Calendars and Lists (Oh My)

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy talk about executive functioning. Listeners reliably chime in when Elizabeth and Lucy talk about their planners, their calendars, and their methods of staying sane… so today, we’re diving into the ways we keep track of everything. Most of the time.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding | My Toddler’s Officially Overweight

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a listener who just got told that her toddler is overweight. Now, she’s wishing the pediatrician hadn’t said anything — and she’s also feeling like she failed as a parent. So, we’re here to explain how she didn’t fail… and talk about what healthy bodies can look like.

And then, we’ll circle up for a round of checkins… and on Slate Plus, we muse on whether it’s just a phase.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: un-unibrow?

Elizabeth’s check-in: date with Oliver <3

Jamilah’s check-in: age brackets

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | Are My Friends Becoming Doomsday Preppers? Help!

Fri, 30 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenée is joined by Seema Yasmin, an Emmy Award-winning journalist, poet, medical doctor, author, and professor.

Together, they’ll help a listener set on decorating their home with their old burlesque photos and posters without looking too narcissistic, another feeling isolated when her friends invite her ex-girlfriend to parties and events, a listener upset that their friend didn’t stick up for them after their music choices got them labeled a “horrific bigot,” and a listener concerned their friends are becoming doomsday preppers.

This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye and Sophie Summergrad.

Care & Feeding | My Parents Spend Less On My Stepson

Thu, 29 May 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah are talking about a tricky dynamic between a stepson and his step-grandparents. Our listener doesn’t differentiate between her stepson and her bio kids in her home — but when her parents interact with the kids, it’s a different story. So, our listener is wondering what’s normal… and how to patch up this issue with her husband, who’s upset by it.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Repair Your Stuff

Tue, 27 May 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Think of all the broken stuff you’re storing in your home. A blender that won’t blend? A bike without brakes? A buttonless blouse? Resist the urge to buy new stuff—and listen to this How To! episode instead! Courtney Martin brings together Phoebe Schenker, executive director of Reuse Alliance and founder of The Mending Library, and Sue-Jean, a reuse enthusiast, to talk about breathing new life into old items.

Links Mentioned:

Reuse Alliance

iFixIt

WikiHow

Tool Lending Libraries

If you liked this episode check out: How To Find the Gems in All Your Junk and How To Let Go of Kid Clutter

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Dear Prudence | Politics Is Ruining My Family. Help!

Fri, 23 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, David Roth and Drew Magary (the hosts of Defector Media’s The Distraction) join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your parents are cosigning your brothers’ political values just because he’s the favorite, how to be an optimistic dater after a near-decade of failed dating, and how to react when you’re sure that your husband’s step-son is trying to hustle you for money.

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Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | It’s Twins and I’m Panicking

Thu, 22 May 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy are talking about twins! Our listener just found out that the one baby she was expecting is, in fact, two babies… and she’s freaking out a little. And we did too, because none of us have twins — but when we tell you the Care and Feeding community came in clutch? We mean it.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Discover Your Kink

Tue, 20 May 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it’s been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we’re seeking—and communicate them to others.

If you liked this episode check out:

How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life

How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy

How To Orgasm

How To Lose Your ‘Virginity’ at 43

How To Have an Open Relationship

Also: Death, Sex & Money’s Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Teen Hangouts? Under My Roof?

Mon, 19 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah are talking about being the place to be. This member of the Slate Parenting Facebook Group takes pride in being the place where their tween and teen girls hang out with their friends… but being the “cool parent” does come with some serious responsibility, and that’s what our writer is worried about.

And then, we’ll circle up for a round of checkins… and on Slate Plus, Elizabeth has a philosophical dilemma.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: a tiny close talker

Elizabeth’s check-in: The Brothers Council

Jamilah’s check-in: …maybe it’s Jersey?

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Wife Uses Bacon Grease As Lotion. Help!

Fri, 16 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenée is joined by Helen Rosner, an award-winning staff writer at The New Yorker.

Together, they answer questions from listeners in serious conundrums. Do you tell your grieving sister-in-law that your now-deceased brother cheated on her years ago? Are you allowed to punish a child you're babysitting when they’re being an extremely picky eater? And how do you support your wife’s health journey without getting bacon grease all over you?

This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye and Sophie Summergrad.

Care & Feeding | Your Thoughts On Therapy, Coaching, and Grief

Thu, 15 May 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah are sharing some of YOUR latest responses to what we’ve been doing here. You all have amazing advice and expertise – a lot more than we do, sometimes – so we’re excited to share what’s been on your minds.

For our listener who wanted more on coaching and older kids: check out both our interviews with Olympian Abby Wambach (2020 and 2024) and our interview with journalist and former coach Linda Flanagan.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Get a Great Haircut

Tue, 13 May 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Are you stuck in a hair rut? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Alana Lucia Balestrino, hairstylist, barber, and founder of the Brooklyn-based studio Baddies. Alana explains how to work with a stylist or barber to get a haircut you love.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Dress with Confidence. Also: Decoder Ring’s Mystery of the Mullet.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | My Son Hates His Clothes

Mon, 12 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy talk about clothes. This listener’s six-and-a-half-year-old is super particular about what he wants to wear… and it’s making school mornings really hard. We’ll talk about how to accommodate the pickiness while also not derailing the start of your day.

And then, we’ll circle up for a round of checkins… and on Slate Plus, we’re talking about teen joy.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s checkin: self-defense against 4-year-olds

Elizabeth’s checkin: all bamboo everything

Lucy’s checkin: birthday gift politics

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Look Just Like My Boyfriend’s Dead Wife. Help!

Fri, 09 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenée is joined by Brittany Luse — the host of NPR’s It’s Been a Minute.

Together, they answer questions from a reader distraught that their fiance won’t stop publishing smutty fiction about real-life historical figures, another unsure what to do after her husband stole a $500 bottle of wine from their friends’ dinner party, a spooked listener who can’t get over how much she looks like her boyfriend’s dead wife, and a daughter trying to break it to her mom that her choice to live child-free isn’t a result of some unknown childhood trauma.

This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye and Cameron Drews.

Care & Feeding | Should We Have a Fourth Baby?

Thu, 08 May 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy help a listener decide whether she’s done having kids. No pressure, right?

But seriously: this listener has three little boys and is weighing the possibility of a fourth kid. There’s more love for her and her husband to give… but they’re also feeling burnt out. So how do you decide what to do?

After that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Parent With a Disability

Tue, 06 May 2025 08:20:00 -0000

At least 10 percent of parents in the U.S. are disabled, but Andrea can’t seem to find parenting advice on disability and accessibility. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice, author of the new book Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World, to help Andrea reimagine parenthood.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Date With a Disability and How To Become a Parent Overnight.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Why Won’t My Childless Friends Plan Stuff?

Mon, 05 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and producer Maura talk about how to navigate friendships with people who have more, or fewer, kids than you do. A member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group is wondering how it’s on her and her husband to plan everything… even though they have three kids, and a lot of their friends don’t have any.

And then, we’ll circle up for a round of recommendations… and on Slate Plus, we’ll answer some frequently asked questions about how we make the show.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah recommends: Curlfriends

Maura recommends: A Roomba

Zak recommends: Khan Academy Kids

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Best Friends Hate Each Other. Help!

Fri, 02 May 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenée is joined by Daria Burke – an award winning business leader, board director, and author.

Together, they answer questions from a listener unsure whether to invite their feuding friends to a party next month, a CPA figuring out how to climb the corporate ladder without a defined job title, a daughter contemplating hosting a sober Easter to account for her mother’s inappropriate drunk behavior, and a listener scared she might become de facto babysitter to her pregnant sister.

This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye and Cameron Drews.

Care & Feeding | The Birthday Party Show

Thu, 01 May 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah answer a question about how to throw a birthday party for older kids. This member of the Slate Parenting Facebook community knows how to throw a good party for little kids… but teens are a whole different thing. So, we’ll offer up some suggestions for how to celebrate a quiet, nerdy 15-year-old.

And after that, we’ll talk about some other frequently-asked birthday questions — and share what we think makes for a good birthday party for kids and parents alike.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Living at Odds | 4. A Quiet Fight for LGBTQ Rights

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Our series Living at Odds concludes with a special episode of Slate’s Death, Sex & Money. Host Anna Sale returns to her native West Virginia to talk with the state’s only full-time lobbyist for LGBTQ rights. Andrew Schneider of Fairness West Virginia has spent years cultivating working relationships with conservative allies in state and local government. Aided by those relationships, Andrew helped pass 20 local anti-discrimination ordinances across the conservative-leaning state. Now, those policy victories—and Andrew’s alliances—are facing dire challenges in an increasingly hostile political landscape.

Plus: How To!’s Courtney Martin looks back at Living at Odds, a series about what holds us together when so much threatens to break us apart.

If you enjoyed this series, check out: How To Get Things Done in a Divided Nation with Samantha Power or How To Harness Your Citizen Superpowers.

This episode was produced by Anna Sale, with the Death, Sex & Money team: Zoe Azulay, Cameron Drews, Andrew Dunn, and Daisy Rosario. This series was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. How To’s technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.

Care & Feeding | Should I Let My Kid Waste His Money?

Mon, 28 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy take a question about how to handle birthday money. This parent’s son wants to buy some stuff in a video game, and while it feels like a waste… it IS also his money. So we’ll talk about whether this parent really needs to intervene.

And then, we’ll circle up for a round of checkins… and on Slate Plus, we’ll vent about the end-of-the-school-year frenzy.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: snark!

Elizabeth’s check-in: we kept it together!

Lucy’s check-in: calm (on the surface)!

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | We All Hate My Sister’s Husband. Help!

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenée is joined by Willa Paskin, the host of Slate’s podcast Decoder Ring.

Together, they answer questions from a listener hoping their sister will “gain sanity” to leave her husband soon, another from a self proclaimed girls’ girl who can’t stop getting into disagreements with other women at work, a step-mother wondering if it’s time to “step up” and defend her husband’s ex-wife to their children, and “the pickiest eater on earth” wondering whether their food habits are impacting their professional relationships.

This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye and Cameron Drews.

Care & Feeding | My Son’s Girlfriend’s Mom Is Toxic

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy answer a letter about parenting a kid through a toxic relationship… and more specifically, a girlfriend’s toxic mom. Our letter-writer is trying to balance respecting her son’s first serious relationship with wanting to protect him from some really nasty behavior.

And after that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Living at Odds | 3. Making Amends for Ancestors

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 08:20:00 -0000

In the third installment of our series Living at Odds, How To!’s Courtney Martin examines what it’s like being in conflict with your family history. She talks with ancestors of the famous names in Plessy v. Ferguson, the Supreme Court decision that affirmed racial segregation in the U.S. as “separate but equal.” Later, researcher Kellie Farrish explains how reparative genealogy can unlock family history that’s been lost or erased—and bring together descendants of enslaved people and their enslavers into conversations about the past, present, and future.

If you’re enjoying Living at Odds, check out this How To! episode: How To ‘Do the Work’ of Racial Justice.

This episode was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob, who composed original music for this series. Our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Dahlia Lithwick of Amicus and Sophie Summergrad for their help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.

Care & Feeding | Therapy Shopping Is Exhausting

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah take a great question about therapy, ADHD, and working on behavior. This mom is at her limit with her daughter’s outbursts… and shopping around for therapists has yielded not a lot of success.

So: we’ll help this mom take a breath and figure out a path forward. And then, we’ll circle up for a round of checkins… and on Slate Plus, we’ll share what PBS has done for us.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: the breastfeeding room

Elizabeth’s check-in: a meetup and CPR training

Jamilah’s check-in: man-ifest

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Wife’s Kids Sleep In Our Bed. I Hate It. Help!

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenée returns from parental leave and is joined by Solomon Missouri — a pastor at AME Zion Church in Snowhill, North Carolina, and author of the forthcoming “Not a Biblical Dating Book.”

Together, they answer questions about a listener rekindling with his ex (and her children), someone who’s nervous about starting a romantic relationship for the first time in 20 years, and a childfree woman who’s afraid her boyfriend’s not on the same page.

This week’s podcast is produced by Jenée Desmond Harris, Maura Currie, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to Anuli Ononye and Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding | My Kid’s a Pushover

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah answer a letter from a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s wondering how much people-pleasing is too much. This parent’s nine-year-old daughter is a little bit of a doormat, when it comes to doing what her friends want… so how can her parents help her balance some softness with some strength?

And after that, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Living at Odds | 2. An Education in Opposition

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 08:20:00 -0000

In the second installment of our series Living at Odds, former How To! host Amanda Ripley returns to talk with two public school officials in Tulsa, Oklahoma, who found themselves at loggerheads upon their very first meeting. Deborah and Stacey’s difficult working relationship continued until COVID-19 sparked some solidarity—and the two began to learn more about each other. Later, Stacey would find herself defending the colleague she once wanted to oust.

If you’re enjoying Living at Odds, check out these How To! episodes: How To Build Trust With Co-Workers and How To Help Teachers Thrive. Also check out Good Conflict for additional resources.

This episode was produced by Rosie Belson and Maura Currie. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob, who composed original music for this series. Our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Sophie Summergrad for her help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.

Care & Feeding | My Daughter Hates Being Coached

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy answer a question about a four-year-old who’s starting to dabble in classes and sports, and there’s a problem: she hates pretty much all of them, even though she asks to do it in the first place. Should they take a break or work on teaching this kid how to be coached?

We’ll help this kid’s mom out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about budgeting.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: alternative gift and party chat (party, thrift, Costco)

Elizabeth’s check-in: group project gripes

Lucy’s check-in: preparing for the most un-quinceañera quinces EVER.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Controlling Fiancé Says He Loves Me. Help!

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by sports journalist and author Frankie de la Cretaz.

Together, they answer questions about confronting your dad’s hoarding partner, moving forward after a fight with your mom, and dealing with a controlling fiancé.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | My Co-Parent Is Dying. What Now?

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy are joined by Allison Price from the Care and Feeding web column. Together, they take a letter from a listener whose husband is terminally ill… and whose kids are old enough to understand. We’ll talk about how to approach this conversation with kids and how to stay afloat.

And then, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Living at Odds | 1. Two Partisans, One Corner

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Living at Odds is a new How To! series about what’s holding us together when so much threatens to break us apart. In our first episode, host Courtney Martin talks with two street vendors who operated rivaling merch tents at the same busy intersection during the 2024 election. Steve hawked MAGA caps and Trump-branded pool floaties just a few feet away from Sandra, who sweetened her sales of Harris-Walz campaign shirts with free “Kamala candy.” After so many weeks on the same street corner, the pair negotiated an easy friendship—and even talked about politics. Then came Election Day.

If you’re enjoying Living at Odds, check out these How To! episodes: How To Run for Office Without Being an A**hole and How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1

This episode was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Sophie Summergrad for her help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for this series.

Care & Feeding | We Lied About a Missing Toy

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah answer a question about a mouse, a skateboard, a ball pit, and a lie. It’s as amazing as it sounds.

We’ll help this mom out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about saying no.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: Feeling impossible

Elizabeth’s check-in: The PTA chickens come home to roost

Jamilah’s check-in: To go or not to go or to go somewhere else

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Mom, An Alcoholic, Is Traveling Solo. Help!

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 07:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by award-winning journalist and founder of TransLash media Imara Jones.

Together, they answer questions about being taken advantage of by a friend, confronting an alcoholic parent, and supporting your cousin when her mom is being delusional.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | Your Takes On Post-Potty Towels

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth open up our mailbag to share your takes on everything from potty towels to Elon Musk.

And then, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Replace Your Tesla

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Tesla owners are dumping their vehicles in protest of CEO Elon Musk—and driving down resale prices. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin talks with two soon-to-be-former owners—and with Patrick George, editor-in-chief of InsideEVs and co-host of the Plugged-In podcast. Patrick helps them figure out how to sell their Model Ys and find a ride that aligns with their practical and ideological needs.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Cope With Climate Anxiety

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | My Toddler’s On Nap Strike

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth answer a question about going on nap strike. This mom has a toddler who’s suddenly just… not napping. And, of course, she starts getting tired way before a reasonable bedtime. So, mom is looking for advice, but also just solidarity.

We’ll help her out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, Elizabeth vents about ableism in the news.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: visitors and sunnier days.

Elizabeth’s check-in: Alice in Wonderland.

Lucy’s check-in: no phone spring break.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Want To Go No-Contact With My Parents. Help!

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 07:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Ada Calhoun, the author of Crush and Why We Can’t Sleep.

Together, they answer questions about going no contact with your parents permanently, reconciling after a messy divorce, and cutting ties with an ungrateful kid.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | My Kid Won’t Pee Without A Towel

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth are answering a question from a mom who’s wondering if she’s going to accidentally cause body issues for her four-year-old. This kid has developed what seems like a compulsive habit every time she uses the bathroom… and our mom wants it to stop, but also doesn’t want to somehow make things worse.

We’ll talk through what might be happening here — and then, of course, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Write Your Memoir

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 08:20:00 -0000

To some, the act of writing a memoir might seem daunting, invasive, or navel-gazing. But excavating memories, noticing patterns, and revisiting events from other points of view can lead to healing—regardless of whether your work gets published.

On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Melissa Febos. Melissa is the bestselling author of five books, including Girlhood—winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award in Criticism—and a forthcoming memoir, The Dry Season. She teaches us how to create our own narrative in ways that are safe for you and empathetic of others.

If you liked this episode check out: Carvell Wallace on Another Word for Love, How To Start Writing (with Anna Quindlen and John Dickerson), and How To Get Your Book Published

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | My Daughter’s Dying To Be Popular

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah and Zak talk about the popular kids. A member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group has a daughter who’s become obsessed with being popular… even though she doesn’t seem to fit in with those kids.

We’ll help her out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re taking a look at a recent article listing some slang the teens are apparently using.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: Rumi.

Jamilah’s check-in: getting the itch.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Love My Sister But I Don’t Like Her. Help!

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 07:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Traci Thomas, the creator and host of the critically acclaimed literary podcast The Stacks.

Together, they answer questions about dealing with rude stepchildren, loving but not liking your sister, and being sick and tired of watching other people’s kids.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | What Your Kid’s Skin Really Needs

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth sit down with Dr. Sheilagh Maguinness — a board-certified pediatric dermatologist, an entrepreneur, and a social media star.

This episode is your one-stop shop for all things skin. We’ll talk about sun protection, rashes, acne, and whether our tweens and teens really need all of those Sephora products.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Discover Music You’ll Love

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Music streaming services like Spotify offer huge libraries of songs and albums—with recommendation engines that can feel unadventurous and repetitive. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace welcomes online tastemaker and podcast host Derrick Gee to discuss the shortcomings of music streaming algorithms. And, they sit down with R.J. and Brie—two music fans from different generations—to offer up tips for finding hidden gems and obscure jams that might reinvigorate your own music-seeking journey.

Recommendations from this episode:

Internet radio: KEXP (Seattle), KALX (UC-Berkeley), NTS Radio (UK), and KVRX, “None of the Hits, All of the Time” (Austin, Texas)

Podcasts and online features: Speaks Volumes With Derrick Gee, Bandsplain, NPR’s Song of the Day

Derrick G’s playlists

If you liked this episode check out How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song (with special guest Ben Folds).

Care & Feeding | Does My Baby Have Separation Anxiety?

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Lucy and Elizabeth answer a question about separation anxiety. This listener’s 7-month-old is already showing signs of what looks like some serious discomfort with anyone who’s not mom or dad. But with a no-kids wedding coming up, this mom is wondering how to help her daughter get more comfortable with other people.

We’ll help her out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we're talking about what to do to help the homeless… and how to get your kids involved.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: denial but also book

Elizabeth’s check-in: milky bottles and outsourcing

Lucy’s check-in: the preteen serenity prayer

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Don’t Like Being My Coworker’s Therapist. Help!

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 07:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by comedian and actress Heather McMahan.

Together, they answer questions about believing abuse accusations, getting in the middle of a sibling’s relationship, and making boundaries with a friend.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | Should I Keep My Kid’s Secrets?

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah talk about secrets. A member of our Facebook community recently asked how you should handle it when a kid confides in you… and asks you not to tell your co-parent. Is her current no-secrets policy solid, or should she maybe reconsider?

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Supercommunicators | 3. How to Have the Hardest Conversations

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 23:16:00 -0000

The final installment of our series explores the conversations that most of us dread, like frank discussions of our differences or a negative performance review at work. We often anticipate that these chats will go badly—and end in hurt feelings or embarrassment—but there are proven ways to make them easier to navigate.

Host Charles Duhigg talks with psychologist Jay Van Bavel about strategies for having the hardest conversations. And: Vernā Myers, Netflix’s former vice president for inclusion strategy, tells the story of what happened inside the company after an executive was fired for using a racial slur.

This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg’s bestselling book, Supercommunicators. The guides we mention in this episode can be found at charlesduhigg.com/tools/

Supercommunicators was produced by Sophie Summergrad and Derek John, who also did the sound design. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

How To! | Lose Your ‘Virginity’ at 43

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 08:20:00 -0000

For most of her life, Elizabeth was a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which forbids having sex outside of marriage. But she recently left the Mormon faith, and now she’s ready to have sex for the first time—at age 43. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Nicole Hardy, author of Confessions of a Latter-Day Virgin to offer Elizabeth advice that’s relevant to anyone who’s ready to tap into their sexuality later in life—but unsure how (or where! or with whom!) to start.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Orgasm, How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy, and How To Be Free of Body Shame

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | I’m Dating A Single Mom

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 07:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth answer a question from someone who’s not a parent — and not even a stepmom, yet! This member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group is dating a single mom and wondering how to make meeting the kids and joining the family as seamless as possible.

We’ll help her out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we're talking about how to handle it when your kid is being an un-fun butthead.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: gig hunting.

Elizabeth’s check-in: island time.

Zak’s check-in: sick season.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | Was I The Problem In My Marriage? Help!

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Real Housewives alumna and Humble Brag podcast host Crystal Kung Minkoff.

Together, they answer questions about feeling conflicted over an ex living their best life post-divorce, navigating a friendship after someone breaks the other’s trust, and asking for financial help.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | How Do I Build My Village?

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah talk about building a village. Our listener wants to create a community of parents and kids who hang out and trust each other. The question is: how intentional do you have to be, here?

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Interview Someone

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Interviews are a time-honored way to elicit intimate insights from public figures and people in power. But at a moment when so much history is being denied or even deleted, interviewing family members and elders can be an important way to document their lives—and understand more about ourselves. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Sam Fragoso, host of the podcast Talk Easy. Sam explains what he’s learned from hundreds of longform celebrity interviews, and how he applied those lessons to sit-downs with his parents.

If you liked this episode check out: The Art of the On-Mic Interview or How To Ace an Interview

How To is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Care & Feeding | Summer Break Skills (and Chills)

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 08:15:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth think about summer break. There’s a budding conversation in the Slate Parenting Facebook group about the life skills we should have kids work on over the summer – think shoe-tying, kitchen stuff, and riding a bike. We’ll share some of the Facebook Group’s ideas, and some stuff we’re going to work on.

We’ll also check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we're talking about gentle parenting… and more specifically, the movement to ditch it.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: thoroughly “in it.”

Elizabeth’s check-in: the great shoe caper.

Zak’s check-in: don’t go to every birthday party.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Supercommunicators | 2. How to Communicate Without Words

Sat, 01 Mar 2025 20:00:00 -0000

Why is it that we can tell someone “I’m totally fine!” and they instantly know we’re not? Gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice, and other subtle nonverbal cues play a huge role in how we connect with one another.

In this episode, host Charles Duhigg explores how we communicate without words, including a deep dive into the visual and tonal cues embedded in one of the biggest sitcoms of all time, The Big Bang Theory.

He talks with Dr. Dustin York, a professor at Maryville University who studies nonverbal communication and worked in public relations for Barack Obama’s 2008 presidential campaign. He also sits down with Dave Goetsch, a co-executive producer and longtime writer for The Big Bang Theory, and journalist Jessica Radloff, who wrote an exhaustive book about the show.

This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by

Duhigg’s bestselling book, Supercommunicators.

Supercommunicators was produced by Sophie Summergrad and Derek John, who also did the sound design. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Dear Prudence | My Mom’s Self-Centered. Am I, Too? Help!

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by writer and YouTube essayist Princess Weekes.

Together, they answer questions about reconciling with a daughter after a huge fight, navigating toxic inlaws and making boundaries with selfish parents.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | I’m Estranged From My Dad. My Son Is Curious.

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak are talking about estrangement. We got a really thoughtful question from a listener whose four-year-old is starting to ask questions about why one of his grandparents isn’t in the picture. And with kids that age, the questions just keep coming… even on topics like this, that are really hard to explain.

Elizabeth recommended the following resources:

A Family Is A Family Is A Family by Sara O’Leary
The Not So Friendly Friend: How to Set Boundaries for Healthy Friendships by Christina Furnival
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson
The Estranged Heart

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — and we’ll also share some amazing thoughts you shared about going to DC.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Protect Your Parents From Fraud

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 09:20:00 -0000

May’s father nearly lost $4,000 to an online scam. How can she protect him from future fraud? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Kathy Stokes, director of fraud prevention programs at AARP. She also runs their Fraud Watch Network. Kathy helps May rethink how she’s talking to her parents about cyber scams—she explains steps that everyone can take to avoid becoming a crime victim.

If you or someone you know has been the victim of cyber fraud, you can contact AARP’s helpline at 877-908-3360.

Liked this episode? heck out: How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game and How To Steal Back Your Identity

How To’s supervising producer is Joel Meyer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding | My House Feels Like Wrestlemania

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 08:20:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth tackle a letter from a mom who feels like she’s living in Wrestlemania. This mom and dad love tickle fights and wrestling with their two boys — but the younger one isn’t so good at honoring a tap-out. So, we’ll talk about how to prevent, or at least pause, the wrestling match before anyone gets hurt.

We’ll also check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about parenting burnout.

Lucy’s check-in: don’t let the list run your life

Elizabeth’s check-in: scheduling emails… waaaay out

Zak’s check-in: Ami’s a real Beatles fan

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Supercommunicators | 1. How to Talk to Anyone

Sat, 22 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0000

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here…

In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life.

He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.”

This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg’s bestselling book, Supercommunicators.

Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.

Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.

Joel Meyer is our supervising producer.

Dear Prudence | My Husband’s Family Needs So Much Of His Money. Help!

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by advice columnist Adrienne Lee and James Beard Award nominee and writer Nylah Iqbal Muhammad.

Together, they answer questions about whether a spouse actually owes their partner an apology, a fiance anxious about future family finances, and someone trying to figure out whether or not to follow their supervisor’s suggestions at work.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | Should We Skip Touring the White House?

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak answer a listener’s voicemail about planning a field trip to DC — and trying to avoid politics. The parents at this school have very different politics than our listener, and the listener’s already gotten her 10-year-old to agree to skip the White House… but is that the right call? And can you even avoid politics on a history lover’s tour of DC?

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Outsmart Your Student Loans

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 09:20:00 -0000

At nearly 40, Valerie is itching to pay off her student loans and finally become debt-free. But… how? On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Yanely Espinal, financial educator, author of Mind Your Money, and host of the Marketplace podcast Financially Inclined. Yanely breaks down the best ways to pay off your education debt without putting the rest of your life on hiatus.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make a Big Purchase Without Panicking

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Dear Prudence | I Have Enough Friends and Don’t Want More. Help!

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 08:20:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Lori Gottlieb – a psychotherapist, an Ask the Therapist Columnist for The New York Times, and a bestselling author. Together, they answer questions about being honest with a friend about their mental health, how to politely turn down an offer of friendship, and getting family to understand and respect boundaries during a divorce.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding (After Dark) | Modeling Healthy Love

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak get together for our annual After Dark episode. This year, Lucy’s got a question about showing affection in front of the kids… and figuring out how to demonstrate what a healthy relationship looks like without making it weird.

If you want to catch up on last year’s After Dark episodes, do it: we talked about sex and did couple’s counseling.

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to babysitter extraordinaire Rosemary Belson this week.

How To! | Have the Best Sex of Your Life (Encore)

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Ever since she started taking a new medication a few years ago, Meme is worried that she’s lost her sex drive. She still has a great relationship with her husband, but she isn’t interested in sex the way that she used to be, and she’s worried it’s hurting her marriage. On this episode of How To!, we bring on sex educator Emily Nagoski, author of Come as You Are, to coach Meme through how to revamp her sex life. For busy couples, you should actually schedule a time on your calendar to be intimate. “Think of like when you were dating…that was date sex,” Emily reminds us. She then breaks down the myths that so many of us have internalized about sex, and shares surprising tips to help anyone—no matter their age or relationship status—have better sex.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Save Your Marriage.”

Podcast production by Derek John, Rachael Allen, and Rosemary Belson.

Care & Feeding | How To Plan A (Practically) Perfect Disney Trip

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah are joined by Lauren Passell, of Tink Media, for the ultimate conversation about planning and executing a Disney trip. We won’t lie — yes, it can be complicated, and expensive. But we’ll share how to manage the hard stuff and still have a great trip.

Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, everyone will share their favorite memories of going to theme parks… as adults, and as kids.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Husband’s a Slob and I Want Out. Help!

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Peloton instructor, author and podcast host Cody Rigsby. Together, they answer questions from someone who wants to end their marriage over housework, a person struggling to pronounce people’s names correctly, and someone navigating the grief of a homophobic bigot.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | Are Kids Worried About the News?

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak circle up to talk about parenting in the current moment. The Slate Parenting Facebook group has been talking recently about how to explain current events to kids — even when we wish we were unplugged, and even when we’re scared and uncertain, too. So today? We’ll just talk.

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Rebuild Your Life After a Wildfire

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Jeff and his family lost their home last month in the L.A. wildfires. Since then, he’s been hyperfocused on insurance claims, an epic to-do list, and finding a “temporary” place to live for the next several years. But Jeff hasn’t experienced the emotional punch of the devastation yet. In fact… he just feels numb. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Laurel Braitman, author of What Looks Like Bravery: An Epic Journey Through Loss to Love. In a moving (and sometimes funny) conversation, Laurel tells Jeff how she’s still processing what she lost in a 2017 wildfire, and they talk about the heartbreak, grief—and glimmers of hope—that follow the sudden loss of your family’s home.

Artwork mentioned: It’s Going Down Like a House on Fire by Nyx Coker.

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If you liked this episode check out: How To Survive a Disaster.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding } Come Join the Internal Rage Club

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 08:30:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Lucy crack open the C&F mailbag for some extended conversation on the internal rage club, parental favoritism, and Lucy’s special tea.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, it’s Groundhog Day.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: Avery has the flu, feels like Spiderman

Elizabeth’s check-in: the rights of the child

Zak’s check-in: around the world in one classroom

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Hate Getting Gifts. My Spouse Doesn’t Get It. Help!

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Tuck Woodstock – a journalist, educator and host of the award-winning podcast Gender Reveal. Together, they answer questions about how to tell your friends not to bring their baby everywhere, what to do when you’re being pressured to connect with a sibling you want nothing to do with, and how to kindly tell your spouse to return a gift they bought for you.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario, with special thanks to A.C. Valdez and Cameron Drews.

Care & Feeding | Should We Pull Out Of Preschool?

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a listener whose son is putting up a fight about preschool. This four-year-old has never loved school, and now he has a new baby sibling to love… so he really doesn’t want to leave home. And it’s getting to the point of peeing on things out of spite. So what now?

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Set Limits With an Ex

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Guillermo and his ex-wife divorced nearly a decade ago. They share custody of their son which, Guillermo says, lets her continue meddling in his life. He recently started dating someone and it’s getting serious, but he’s worried that his ex is going to destroy his new relationship. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Bill Eddy, author and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. Bill explains how to set limits and impose consequences in truly difficult situations to preserve your peace of mind and foster happiness.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Do Divorce Right and How To Save a Friend from a Bad Relationship

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding | Should We Fight In Front Of the Kids?

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah talk about what to do when you’re arguing with your partner… but you have to do it in front of the kids. We’ll talk about how to model healthy disagreement — and when it’s time to hit pause.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, the hosts are listening back to their 2024 resolutions and deciding if it truly was the year of “meh.”

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: everyone’s fine!

Elizabeth’s check-in: hot mess express!

Zak’s check-in: improv!

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Mom Thinks My Husband Is Abusive. He’s Not. Help!

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Vanessa Zoltan, the CEO and Founder of Not Sorry Productions. Together, they answer questions about abuse accusations, how to introduce your parents to the person you’re dating, and how to resolve an explosion of a fight with a sibling.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

Care & Feeding | We’re Moving Abroad To Escape Trump

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Dan Kois joins Elizabeth and Zak for a conversation about moving abroad. We got a question recently from a listener who’s moving because of the new president… so while we’ll answer her question about picking up a new language, we’ll also talk about what moving abroad can, and can’t, fix for your family.

If you want more tips, be sure to check out this recent episode from our friends at How To! about how to become an expat.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Harness Your Citizen Superpowers

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Connie is feeling compelled to get involved in her local community, but she’s never even attended a PTA meeting. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin enlists Eric Liu of Citizen University to explain how busy parents, introverts, and first-timers like Connie can test the waters of civic engagement in the Trump 2.0 era—without getting sucked under.

Eric is the author of You’re More Powerful Than You Think: A Citizen's Guide to Making Change Happen.

If you liked this episode, check out our companion episode, How To Become an Expat, or this recent conversation: How To Lead Your Local Nonprofit.

For an upcoming episode, we want to hear from listeners affected by the disastrous wildfires in the Los Angeles area. If you’re able to do so during this stressful time, tell us about the questions and challenges you’re facing as you rebuild your home and your life. Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Dear Prudence | My Stepdaughter Is Ruining My House. Help!

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 08:30:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by culture critic and writer Anne Helen Petersen. Together, they answer letters about secretly contributing to a kid’s college fund, asking a friend to apologize for their internalized fatphobia, and resolving a massive fight with a stepchild.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, Daisy Rosario, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | My Kid Suddenly Refuses to Fly

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth take flight. Our listener’s kid has suddenly decided – or realized – he’s afraid of airplanes and heights. With a big trip coming up, this parent is looking for advice… and musing on whether bribes have to be involved. Or are they simply little treats?

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie. Special thanks to Alicia Montgomery, on her last week at Slate, for being an extraordinary cheerleader for this show.

How To! | Switch Careers in Midlife

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 09:20:00 -0000

For three decades, Mike has worked in a field with an uncertain future: journalism. He loves the stability of his current job mentoring student reporters, but he can’t stop thinking about starting a new career—in his 50s—in astrophysics, architecture, or law. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin enlists career coach and psychologist Dr. Dawn Graham to help Mike think through his midlife career crisis, especially his urge to go back to school.

Dawn’s book is Switchers: How Smart Professionals Change Careers—and Seize Success.

If you liked this episode check out: Find a New Career Before It's Too Late and How To Advance Your Career By Quitting Your Job.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding | I Hate My Kid’s Friend

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a listener who emailed us wondering how to break up a friendship. Her son is friends with an obnoxious girl who the parent would just rather not see. But, of course, friendships are complicated… and this might not be as easy as just not inviting this girl over.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: the duck was secured.

Elizabeth’s check-in: fawning and freedom

Zak’s check-in: how long was winter break, actually?

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Mom’s Freaking Out Over My Gender Identity

Fri, 10 Jan 2025 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Anna Sale – host of Slate’s Death, Sex & Money – is joined by illustrator and author JP Brammer. Together, they answer letters about a mom who can’t understand her kid’s gender identity, a painting causing unexpected jealousy, setting the record straight after a bad break up, and how to make things work at a job after it took a long time to find one.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, Daisy Rosario, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | Mom’s the Favorite. Dad’s Mad.

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 19:00:00 -0000

A note: this episode was recorded just minutes after the Palisades Fire reportedly ignited in California. Jamilah and her family are safe as of the airing of this episode.

If you want to help victims of any of the fires in the Los Angeles metro area, please consider donating to the California Fire Foundation, Direct Relief, World Central Kitchen, or CORE.

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth help the favorite parent. This 6-year-old says she might love mom more than dad… and dad is, understandably, upset. We’ll offer some assurances to both parents — and some evergreen advice to love harder.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Become an Expat

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 09:20:00 -0000

Before the 2024 election, Maureen and Jayna had hoped to attend a historic inauguration for Kamala Harris in Washington, D.C. But when Donald Trump won the presidency, the lesbian couple scrapped their trip—and booked a fact-finding mission to Portugal instead. On this episode of How To!, they talk with co-host Carvell Wallace about their plans to leave the U.S.—and start a new life somewhere they’ll feel safer. And, Jen Barnett of Expatsi offers up advice about Portugal and other LGBTQ+ friendly countries, the implications for taxes and international travel (including return trips to the States), and what expat-curious listeners need to know about raising kids, voting, EU citizenship—and how to take the first step.

Links Mentioned:

The Expatsi Test

Mindful Migrant on TikTok

If you liked this episode check out: How To Uproot Your Life and How To Live Anywhere in the World.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding Encore | Parenting Fearlessly, Onstage and Off

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy sits down with actress and author Mandy Gonzalez for a wide-ranging conversation about parenting, building a creative mom group, and enduring cancer treatment with your head held high. Mandy also answers questions from our own budding Broadway stars.

Lucy also shares a quick update about her mom's cancer journey - and Care & Feeding's production schedule in the new year.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus to help support our work.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Husband’s a Nurse… and an Alcoholic. Help!

Fri, 03 Jan 2025 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by podcast producer Vic Whitley-Berry. Together, they answer letters from a concerned spouse over their husband’s drinking, a mom trying to get her daughter to apologize to her aunt, and someone who can’t avoid going down the rabbit hole of social media.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Daisy Rosario, and Anuli Ononye.

How To! | Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 2 - Encore

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 09:20:00 -0000

Today we’re going to see if one American family can flip the usual, tortured and tedious script for arguing about politics and do something more interesting. Jenn and Todd Brandel sit down with their dad, Bruce, to see if they can come to a better understanding about what has shaped their different political views. Mónica Guzmán, senior fellow for public practice at Braver Angels and author of I Never Thought Of It That Way: How To Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times, is back to provide some insightful post-game analysis. In this second episode of our special two-part series, she breaks down what went well, what got a little messy, and what we can all apply to our own conversations with loved ones.

Listen to the first part of our series: “How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1”

If you liked this episode, you might also like: “How To Rescue Someone From a Conspiracy Theory.”

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Care & Feeding | The Plus Playground Highlight Reel

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 08:15:00 -0000

On this episode: we’re sharing our favorite Slate Plus segments with our whole audience, as we do every year. 2024 was a big year for our Slate Plus supporters: we launched the Slate Plus Playground, which is a whole new way to get bonus content and recommendations. If you like the Playground segments you’re about to hear, we hope you’ll consider joining us for them every week.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence Encore | A DNA Test Revealed a Secret Sibling. Help!

Fri, 27 Dec 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Jamelle Bouie (New York Times opinion columnist) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to turn down gifts that make you cringe, what to do when you discover a sibling was given up for adoption before you were born, and when it’s too late to chase your dreams

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding | Parenting in an Interfaith World

Thu, 26 Dec 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: it’s the day after Christmas and the first day of Hanukkah — so we thought there would be no better time than now to sit down to talk about parenting, faith, and the cultural traditions that we adopt, and craft, for our kids.

Zak is joined by Slate writer and friend of the show Aymann Ismail and interfaith relationship and parenting expert Susan Katz Miller.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To! | Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1 - Encore

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 09:20:00 -0000

Jenn and Todd Brandel have a close, loving relationship with their father, Bruce. But one thing makes their blood boil: his political chain emails. The messages are often forwarded commentary written in a provocative tone, and are an unwelcome reminder of just how far apart the family is politically. On this episode of How To!, we’re joined by Mónica Guzmán, senior fellow for public practice at Braver Angels and author of I Never Thought Of It That Way: How To Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times. In the first of a special two-part episode on talking politics with our parents, Mónica teaches Jenn and Todd how to aim for understanding with their dad, not agreement. Next week, Jenn, Todd, and their dad Bruce will put these tips into practice—on mic—around the kitchen table, as Mónica provides post-game analysis. We’ll dive into what worked, what got a little messy, and how to keep making progress.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Embrace Your Anti-Vax Family This Holiday Season” and “How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships.”

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Care & Feeding | The 2024 Family Holiday Party

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: it’s our annual holiday party! We traditionally hand the mics over to our kids at this time of year. This year, we did something a little different: our kids all interviewed each other. It’s sweet, it’s chaotic, and you’re going to love it.

Some naughty elves left a glitch in the show’s audio on Dec 23. It’s been fixed and they learned their lesson.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Feel Like The Grinch. Help!

Fri, 20 Dec 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by author and Slate writer Dan Kois. Together, they answer letters about holding on to holiday traditions, thinking your sister is a bad therapist, and how to convince your mom she doesn’t have to knock everytime she comes over.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, Daisy Rosario, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | My Kid Was Late and Lost Their Helper Day

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Lucy, and returning guest host Dillon Michael White answer a question from a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group about being on time. This kindergartener’s class has helper days that you lose if you’re late to school that day… but what do you do when it’s your fault your kid is late?

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: The Future of Wellness

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 10:10:00 -0000

After a year of nuanced conversations on wellness, we say goodbye by reflecting on how these discussions expanded what it means to live a full, well-balanced life.

We’re also joined again by longevity expert Dr. Darshan Shah to discuss what needs to change to make wellness more accessible for everyone.

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

The Well, Now team is grateful to every listener who’s sent us a note. We’re not sure how long the address will work, but if the show mattered to you, we’d love to read your emails: wellnow@slate.com

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How To! | Our Favorite Advice of 2024

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 09:20:00 -0000

How will you remember 2024? Here at How To! Headquarters, this will be the year when a bunch of very smart and insightful guests taught us how to flirt with confidence, be a mindful drinker, make bank at a yard sale, and cope with forever parenting. On this episode, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin break down their favorite advice of the year and share some heart-warming updates from listeners who joined us on the show.

Did we forget to mention your favorite advice of the year? Let us know with a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

Psst! Slate Plus members can listen to a special year-end bonus episode with Carvell and Courtney’s recommendations for books, films, and Substacks. Not a member? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you’ll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen.

Care & Feeding | Will My Kid Want My Advice?

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a parent who’s thinking ahead to when her baby is a little bigger… and wondering how to build a close relationship with a kid who has a life of their own. How do you raise someone who wants to come to you for advice?

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re continuing our conversation about building trust between parents and kids… and talking about what happens when it all breaks down.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: Chi-town and Christmas

Elizabeth’s check-in: the gift is the trip

Zak’s check-in: whales and lights

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Came Out. Now My Mean Sister’s an Ally. Help!

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by actress Stephanie Hsu. Together, they answer letters about how to deal with an ally who has also been your bully, a person who is pushing the limits of what “extended family” means during the holidays, and someone who wants to better get to know their partner’s parents.

This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, Daisy Rosario, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | I’m Dreaming of a Full Night’s Sleep

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose whole household is struggling with a little one’s sleepless nights. We’ll talk about how to help a kid settle, and stay settled… and why it might not be smart to watch the clock.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Is Longer Life Really Possible?

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 10:10:00 -0000

For eons, humans have been trying to find ways to live longer.

It’s a quest that’s inspired legends and myths across cultures and continues to fuel controversy in the health and wellness industry today.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we speak with Dr. Darshan Shah to better understand longevity science and hear about his journey from performing surgery to creating the longevity clinic Next Health.

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To! | Exorcise Your Fitness Demons

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 09:20:00 -0000

Sandy is a former college athlete who knows how to exercise—at least, she used to. These days, she’s feeling lost without a coach, a workout plan, or much free time. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Danielle Friedman, author of Let’s Get Physical and a contributor to the New York Times Well section. Danielle explains how to embrace movement that you love, make it fit into your life—and actually stick with it.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Start Strength Training and How To Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

Care & Feeding | The Trouble With Tattletales

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: a member of the Slate Parenting community is wondering about how to handle tattletales. On the one hand: secrets can be bad. But on the other hand… are authority figures always there to help?

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking through the US government’s list of dangerous toys.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: I don’t care

Elizabeth’s check-in: photobombing field trip photos

Zak’s check-in: mess around on the escalator

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Stepson is a Liar and Attention Seeker. Help!

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Zak Rosen, who co-hosts Slate’s Care & Feeding parenting podcast – and doles out his own advice on The Best Advice Show. Together, they answer letters from a listener concerned their step son is turning into an attention seeking drama queen, a cancer patient whose husband is turning resentful after taking on primary caretaking duties, and a couple concerned with making new friends post-retirement.

This podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Daisy Rosario, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | My Kid Won’t Stop Saying “Stupid”

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose almost-5-year-old is stuck on the word “stupid…” and won’t stop saying it. One parent thinks this word is unacceptable and requires punishment. The other parent is pretty sure punishment will only make things worse. We’ll weigh who’s right and whether there’s a middle ground.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Staying Sober This Holiday Season

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 10:10:00 -0000

For many, the holiday season is both a joyful time with friends and family and a period of high stress with dangerous ways to cope. This can be especially challenging for people with substance use disorder.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Maya and Kavita discuss addiction and recovery with Zac Clark. Reality TV fans may remember him as a contestant on The Bachelorette, where he opened up about his history with drug abuse and how his journey to sobriety led him to create Release Recovery, an addiction and mental health recovery program based in New York City.

If you liked this episode, check out: How Nick Cannon Got Celebrities to Open Up About Their Mental Health

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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ICYMI | Should I Block My Boyfriend’s Aunt on Instagram?

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Candice Lim is joined by internet culture writer Steffi Cao (It’s Steffi) to answer some very special, holiday-specific internet questions from her readers, such as: should I block my boyfriend’s aunt on Instagram? And how do I battle Facebook conspiracy theories at the dinner table?

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario and Candice Lim, with production assistance from Alexandra Botti.

How To! | Plan an Estate (Before It’s Too Late)

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 09:20:00 -0000

André has known for years that they have to execute the estate when their parents pass. They feel wholly unprepared for the task, especially since their parents are reluctant to share any important information. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings on M.P. Dunleavey, journalist, author of the Squished Substack, and contributor to Next Avenue where she covers aging, caregiving, and money. M.P. walks André through the important paperwork that needs to be in place and gives them guidance for working with stubborn family members.

Additional resources:

M.P.’s follow-up story on Next Avenue

Area Agencies on Aging

Benefits check up

Estate planning checklist

Creating a financial roadmap

Easing family burdens

Writing a will

If you liked this episode check out: How To Care for an Aging Parent and How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

Care & Feeding | The Santa Problem

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Every year, like clockwork, we start getting questions about how to do, or not do, the whole Santa thing. We’ll answer a listener's question and muse on the nature of belief.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re honoring peak holiday meal szn with a round of food would-you-rathers.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: Wicked and a cold

Elizabeth’s check-in: terrifying VR jungle trek

Zak’s check-in: Noa’s accent work

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | Encore: I Am Swamped With Plans and I Hate It. Help!

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

In this episode, Carvell Wallace (author of Another Word for Love and host of Slate’s How To!) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to cancel on family vacation plans that sound horrible to you, how to break it to your butch lesbian girlfriend that her friends might be misogynists, and how to convince your parents to let you go to a high school in a not so great neighborhood.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | Sharing Gratitude and the Best Advice

Thu, 28 Nov 2024 16:00:00 -0000

We're off for Thanksgiving but still got together to share some things we're grateful for — and then, Zak is grateful to share an episode of his other show with you... all about being grateful for friendships, even in the rear-view.

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Well, Now | More Than Hot Flashes: Breaking the Silence on Menopause

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 10:10:00 -0000

More than half the population will experience menopause if they’re fortunate enough to age. Yet so much of this full-body transformation remains a mystery.

Journalist and filmmaker Tamsen Fadal is out to change that.

Her new documentary The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause premiered on PBS earlier this year. In it, her team interviews patients and health experts worldwide about the lack of research into this important stage of life.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Kavita and Maya ask her what can be done to better care for the millions of women experiencing it now and in the future.

If you liked this episode, check out: Michelle Obama Gets Health Advice From This Gyno. Now You Can, Too.

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with oversight from Alicia Montgomery.

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How To! | Throw a Party They’ll Remember (Encore)

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 09:20:00 -0000

‘Tis the season of gathering with friends and family. It’s also a time where some of us yearn for a closer community, like this week’s listener. Morgan is looking for a way to hang out with friends in a consistent, meaningful manner. On this episode of How To!, Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering, explains how to transform a lackluster hang-out where people just sit around drinking beer into a party with a purpose where guests want to come back. She tells us how to create an event that meets a need with the right rules and the right guest list. She even has tips for sprucing up your next holiday party.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Cook One Perfect Meal.

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding | Can I Explain Germs To My Toddler?

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: we’re weighing how to teach little ones about the dangers of germs… without making it sound too scary. We’ll talk about how to explain why eating off the floor is bad… without unlocking some new fears.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re calling a meeting of the C&F weed caucus to order.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: let’s unpack that

Elizabeth’s check-in: bestie inbound

Zak’s check-in: out and about and car-free

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Dear Prudence | We Bought A House. Now He Won’t Marry Me. Help!

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Cheyna Roth is joined by Steven Ray Morris — best known for his work on My Favorite Murder, but now producing and hosting See Jurassic Right. Together, they answer letters from a listener hurt by her boyfriend’s comments that “marriage isn’t on his radar,” another hoping to support her partner through work conflicts without adding to her own stress, and a listener whose husband doesn’t seem concerned that their family friends have been displaced by Hurricane Helene.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding | Are Your Kids Safe on Roblox?

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak share advice for weighing whether you want your kids on Roblox. The company just announced some impending safety enhancements to the mega-popular online multiplayer game… but, as the hosts and our Slate Parenting community will tell you, the platform might still be a wild west.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Creating an Exercise Routine That’s Right for You

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 10:10:00 -0000

Regular movement is crucial for lifelong health, but finding a routine that fits well in your life can be challenging and overwhelming.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we speak to retired volleyball player Gabby Reece on transitioning out of professional sports and talk about ways to realistically bring performance-level fitness to every kind of exercise routine.

If you liked this episode, check out: Breaking Up With Diet Culture

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Face the Future (Gen Z Edition)

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 09:20:00 -0000

Ezra is adrift in his early 20s. He craves a life of meaning, community, and love. But he’s struggling to find those things in a world that seems increasingly uncertain and discouraging for young people. On this existential episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Andrew McPeak, author, podcast host, and vice president of Growing Leaders. He tackles Ezra’s big questions and explains how Gen Z (and everyone else) can make life more meaningful.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Keep Caring Amid Endless Crises

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

Care & Feeding: The Autistic Raccoon Changing PBS Kids

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak sits down with Zach O’Hora and Lisa Whittick – respectively, the creator and director of the new PBS Kids show Carl The Collector. They’ll talk about crafting a kids’ show with neurodiverse characters… and what it means to tell a good story.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re celebrating the life and work of children’s folk singer Ella Jenkins.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: tall fun man and an IEP

Elizabeth’s check-in: self-sufficiency and model UN

Zak’s check-in: two wheels and a dream

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Can’t Afford To Support My Girlfriend Anymore. Help!

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by longtime Slate-ster June Thomas — author of A Place of Our Own: Six Spaces That Have Shaped Queer Women’s Culture. Together, they answer letters from a boyfriend who has been financially supporting his girlfriend but can’t afford to anymore, a spouse whose younger partner is mocking part of their aging, and a friend struggling to support someone in their life going through something so similar it’s painful.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Parenting Under Trump 2.0

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak talk about the aftermath of the presidential election — from the policy issues that freak us out to handling grief in front of our kids. And we’ll share a ton of amazing thoughts, advice, and reassurance from the Slate Parenting community.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Being a “Likeable Badass” Could Improve Your Health

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 10:10:00 -0000

How do women gain social influence?

Understanding this is crucial because research shows they often face unique challenges in having their voices heard and their expertise recognized, even in highly qualified fields like medicine.

The consequences of this could be dire, both for female patients and their healthcare providers.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now, Kavita and Maya talk with psychologist Alison Fragale about the science behind effective social influence. Her new book is Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve.

If you liked this episode, check out: Who Cares for the Caregivers?

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Man Up About Male Birth Control

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 09:20:00 -0000

Contraception is a huge burden for women and people with uteruses to bear. What would it look like—on a personal, cultural, and medical level—if more men took on that responsibility? Today on How To!, a conversation about gender equity for reproductive care, from changes in sexual education to more accessible vasectomies to the development of new contraception methods. Carvell Wallace welcomes two guests: Dr. Sarah Miller, a board-certified family physician and family planning specialist at Northeast Vasectomy and Family Planning, where she provides many vasectomies. And: Dr. Brian Nguyen, associate professor of clinical obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Southern California, sub-investigator for a network of male-contraceptive clinical trials, and director of The EMERGE Lab.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy and How To Orgasm.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding: Tom and Jerry Toddlers

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose toddlers are at each other… Constantly. We’re just glad they don’t have cartoon hammers.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about the long history of making stuff with your kids.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: planning a Costco trip weeks in advance

Elizabeth’s check-in: small things made big

Zak’s check-in: the newness wears off.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: I’m Sick of Hearing My Friend Cry About Her Job. Help!

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 16:17:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by journalist and host of Vox’s Explain It To Me podcast JQ Hill. Together, they answer letters wondering when is the right time to start dating in a new city, how to let your friend know you’re tired of listening to them complain about their job, and what’s the best way to tell your boyfriend that you’d prefer alone time when you’re sick.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care and Feeding: Letters on Politics, Halloween, and the Impala

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 16:11:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak crack open our mailbag. You’ve been sending a ton of emails about everything from Zionism to the Red Light District to Lucy’s Impala impulses… so today, we’re sharing all that and more.

And then, of course, we’ll share some triumphs and fails.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Well, Now: Getting to the Heart of Hormonal Health

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 10:10:00 -0000

Hormones influence everything from mood and energy levels to fertility and long-term health.

Yet for many, hormonal health remains shrouded in mystery.

When women do seek guidance from their OBGYNs, they’re often told birth control is the only option for treating hormone-related issues like PCOS and endometriosis.

But that wasn’t going to cut it for Alisa Vitti.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Kavita and Maya tackle hormonal health with the FLO Living CEO and see what other options are available when treating hormone imbalances.

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Lead Your Local Nonprofit

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 09:20:00 -0000

Heather recently joined the board of her local library, a beloved institution from her childhood. While continuing to balance her day job, she is excited to be an active and engaged member of this community-led organization. But she’s also grappling with time management and effective communication with her fellow board members. How can she express her ideas and opinions without overstepping boundaries? In this episode of How To!, host Courtney Martin welcomes nonprofit consultant Malini Sridharan who offers expert advice on navigating the challenges of community leadership and the intricacies of board dynamics.

If you liked this episode check out:

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Care & Feeding: Talking To Kids About The Election

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 08:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak share how they’re talking to the kids about tomorrow’s election. We’ll offer tips for cutting through the noise to talk civics… and also how to address the serious, nasty, and scary.

Elizabeth’s book recommendations:

V is for Voting by Kate Farrell

Equality’s Call: the Story of Voting Rights in America by Deborah Diesen

Usborne: Politics for Beginners

The Politics Book: Big Ideas Simply Explained

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re sharing our deep-seated love of (and gripes with) daylight savings.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: back to the shitty little walk (as heard on Hear Me Out)

Elizabeth’s check-in: blow darts and ninja stars and teens and days in the month

Zak’s check-in: therapy

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Dear Prudence | My Wife Won’t Stop Correcting My Grammar. Help!

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Ashley C. Ford is joined by entertainment writer and comedian H. Alan Scott. Together, they answer letters from a sibling who’s trying to understand a boundary, a parent worried about how their spouse speaks to them in front of their child, and someone feeling deep regret about a lost friendship.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Is It Creepy To Photograph Other Kids’ Costumes?

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener's question about something that happened last Halloween… when an older gentleman might’ve taken a photo of her young kid. We’ll talk about whether it’s as creepy as it sounds — and also, why Elizabeth is over Halloween.

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — including an update on Lucy’s mama.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Weed’s Growing (and Alarming) Side Effects

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 09:10:00 -0000

Nearly half of states – 24 and Washington, D.C – have legalized recreational marijuana. As more people report regularly using it, physicians are seeing patients with alarming side effects related to their cannabis use.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Kavita and Maya sit down with internist and pediatrician Dr. Brittany Tayler to better understand these conditions and who could most likely get them.

If you liked this episode, check out: Psychedelics’ Long Strange Trip to the Doctor’s Office

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Face Your Fear of Dying (Encore)

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 08:20:00 -0000

Katie is terrified of dying. As the youngest in a big family, she can’t stop thinking about the fact that all her loved ones may die before she does. Katie is a comedy writer who knows how to get laughs, but her obsession with death is real, and getting in the way of living. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Rachel Menzies, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Sydney and author of Tales from the Valley of Death, to share what she’s learned about death anxiety. Exposure therapy is often the most effective way to overcome your fears, but how do you expose yourself to death? Rachel has some unusual ideas for Katie—and all of us—to take control of these intrusive thoughts, starting with lying in a body bag. Focusing deliberately on death, Rachel says, can actually help us appreciate life.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Not Be Scared.”

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Death, Sex & Money: The Making and Unmaking of a Productivity Perfectionist

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 07:40:00 -0000

This week, author and podcaster Kendra Adachi explains how she took perfectionism and strict time-management way too far and was forced to radically change her ways. Her new book is called The Plan: How to Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius, and it aims to be what most time-management books aren’t: flexible, kind, and applicable to people with busy schedules and loved ones to care for.

To learn more about Kendra’s 13 Lazy Genius principles, check out this episode of her podcast: 13 Principles That Will Change Your Life Forever.

Podcast production by Cameron Drews.

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Care & Feeding: Revisiting Modern Puberty, Explained

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

We’re always getting questions about puberty. And even if we’re not dealing with a question explicitly about puberty, it seems like this topic always finds a way to come up anyway… like in last Thursday’s episode, for example.

And puberty is always in the news – just this year, the NIH published research about precocious puberty caused by chemicals in personal care products. And Harvard researchers developed an existing theory that socioeconomic factors might be linked to an early onset of puberty, too.

So we thought this might be a good time to re-share this great interview from last year — where Jamilah sat down with Cara Patterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, authors of This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained. They’ve got some amazing insights to share, and we’d love for you to hear them if you haven’t already.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Husband Wants More Sympathy Than I Can Give. Help!

Fri, 25 Oct 2024 07:30:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Care and Feeding co-host Lucy Lopez. Together, they answer letters from a wife whose husband is always looking for sympathy, someone who regrets the way they treated colleagues when pursuing a career promotion, and a person who can not move on after being dumped.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Jared Downing, Maura Currie, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: My Son Can’t Read The Room

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth tackle a letter from a Care and Feeding reader who is trying to explain code-switching to a six-year-old. This kid doesn’t seem to understand how or why to speak differently to his peers than to adults… but how can you convey that without giving him the wrong message?

We’ll also, of course, circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Puberty is Starting Earlier and Lasting Longer. Why?

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 09:10:00 -0000

Puberty is changing, and we’re not talking about developing Adam’s apples and growing hair in new places.

It starts earlier and lasts longer.

Regardless of when this necessary stage of life starts, youth and their adults need support going through it.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now puberty expert Vanessa Kroll Bennett discusses the biggest ways puberty has changed for today’s youth and how best to navigate it.

She’s co-host of the podcast This Is So Awkward with Dr. Cara Natterson and co-author of This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained.

If you liked this episode, check out: Can Kids Be Healthy at Any Size?

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Cope With Forever Parenting

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

As the parent of five kids, Sadie is no stranger to feeling overwhelmed. Most of her kids have left the nest, but one adult daughter has severe autism and can’t live or work on her own. Facing the end of school-based support services, Sadie has to figure out what comes next for her daughter—and for herself. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Sarah Wayland, the founder of Guiding Exceptional Parents, to talk about parenting two autistic young adults and how to ask for help.

Links mentioned:

If you liked this episode check out: How To Hack Any Bureaucracy, How To Date With a Disability, or How To Fill an Empty Nest.

How To!’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

Care & Feeding: Loving An Interrupter

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who's wondering how to help her seven and five-year-olds — and especially her son — learn how to listen. They’re both vibrant kids with a lot of ideas… so how do you not dull their sparkle, while also getting those lips a little more zipped?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re discussing a column from The Guardian that says parenting is financially ruinous.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: Midwest musings

Elizabeth’s check-in: Grand Theft Bra-to

Zak’s check-in: Noa and Eli

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Love My Family. My Husband Doesn’t. Help!

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Guest Prudie Nadira Goffe is joined by actress and comedian Sasheer Zamata. Together, they answer letters about a neighbor-turned-last-minute-babysitter whose work has gone unappreciated, a widower whose family won’t stop judging his new girlfriend, and a reader struggling to balance time with their husband and extended family.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Nadira Goffe, Maura Currie, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: My Kid Really Doesn’t Want “The Talk”

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth help a listener whose son is at the perfect age to learn about the birds and the bees. There’s just one problem: he really doesn’t want to know. We’ll help our listener with some strategies for communicating the important stuff, while still respecting a shy kid’s limits.

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Can Kids Be Healthy at Any Size?

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 09:10:00 -0000

We live in a weight-obsessed world, and children are not immune.

From the moment a child is born, their weight and height are tracked and recorded. Then throughout their development, these metrics are used as one of the main factors to determine their health.

But as the Health at Every Size (HAES) philosophy continues to gain traction for some adults, is there use for it as a part of growing children’s well-being, too?

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Maya and Kavita speak with pediatric dietitian Jill Castle and her approach to children’s health, which marries the traditional medical approach with a body-postive, HAES model.

Her latest book is Kids Thrive At Every Size: How to Nourish Your Big, Small, or In-Between Child for a Lifetime of Health and Happiness.

If you liked this episode, check out: Eating for Health

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Be Less Judgy

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 08:20:00 -0000

Erica judges other people by default. Whether they are acquaintances, co-workers, or new arrivals in a club, her first impression is often negative. “I would like to learn how to quash that part of myself,” she says, because those judgments might be ruling out potential friendships. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Dr. Terri Apter, psychologist and author of Passing Judgment: The Power of Praise & Blame in Everyday Life. Terri explains that Erica’s initial reactions are more useful than she thinks—and can help her better understand herself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Say What You’re Thinking

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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Dear Prudence | I Spread A Rumor That Alienated My Friends and Mentor. Help!

Fri, 11 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Sam Sanders (host of The Sam Sanders Show from KCRW) sits in as Guest Prudie with Slate’s own Nadira Goffe to answer letters from readers about making amends after spreading gossip, trying to forgive your mother after years of rejection, managing social invitations when a couple in the friend group breaks up.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie, and Anuli Ononye. Extra thanks to Muara Currie this week.

Care & Feeding: Preparing Your Family For Disaster

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth share what’s in their emergency kits and talk about their approaches to disaster preparedness. We’ll also share a dispatch from our Florida correspondent — whose family is, fortunately, safe and well.

If you want to help Floridians recover from hurricanes Milton and Helene, check out the Florida Disaster Fund.

For more on disaster preparedness: ready.gov

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Are Supplements Actually Worth It?

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 09:10:00 -0000

Go to the supplement aisle at the grocery store, and the options are endless. Scroll through any Instagram or TikTok feed, and you’re bound to see videos of people claiming their latest supplement is life-changing.

Supplements can be used for health and wellness, but it’s important to know the facts before buying the next trendy capsule, pill, tincture, or gummy.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Maya and Kavita give you helpful tools to decide what supplements are worth the hype and which are just out to get your money.

If you liked this episode, check out – Gut Check: How to Master Your Microbiome

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Stop Killing Your Plants

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 08:20:00 -0000

At a new job, Jenna was put in charge of some beautiful plants that are imbued with deep significance to their co-workers. But despite Jenna’s best efforts, the plants aren’t doing so hot. Can the browning leaves, flopping stems, and dry soil be nursed back to health before it’s too late? On this episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Maria Failla, host of the Growing Joy podcast and author of Growing Joy: The Plant Lover’s Guide to Cultivating Happiness (and Plants). Maria addresses Jenna and other listeners’ questions on the How To! hotline, breaking down plant care basics and offering up practical tips to make growing houseplants fun!

If you liked this episode check out: How To Save the Planet, Starting With Your Yard and How To Restore Nature in the Heart of a City.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. This episode was produced by Sara McCrae and Rosemary Belson.

Care & Feeding: Abby Wambach Is Parenting the Wolfpack Way

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak are joined by author, speaker, and soccer superstar Abby Wambach. We’ll talk about her new book, The Wolfpack Way, and what it means to raise a little leader.

We also slip in a quick conversation about what it’s like to blend families and become a “bonus mom.” And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — Abby answers the hosts’ kids’ questions, and it is precious.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Widowed Dad Is Now The “Other Woman.” Help!

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, it’s a Slate three-for-one as Cheyna Roth and Candice Lim join our Guest Prudie (Nadira Goffe) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your partner keeps spontaneously changing your dinner plans, how you should handle the fact that your father is the “other woman” in his new relationship, and how to handle your brother’s incredibly insecure fiancee.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Nadira Goffe, Maura Currie, Kevin Bendis, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: How Do I Raise Jewish Kids Right Now?

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Elizabeth are joined by Rachel Riskind, a longtime listener and mom to three Jewish kids. Together, they’ll commemorate Rosh Hashanah by reflecting on how to raise Jewish kids in the complicated world of 2024. Our community had a ton of questions and stories to share on everything from Gaza to fasting to how to explain to teachers that Hanukkah isn't that important.

We’re excited to do more interfaith conversations soon, and we want to know what you think: so, email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: What It’s Really Like to Take Ozempic

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 09:10:00 -0000

GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic, WeGovy, Mounjaro and others revolutionized weight loss and chronic weight management. But what does it feel like for the patients who take them?

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Kavita and Maya talk with journalist and author Johann Hari. Over the course of a year, Johann dived into the research and history behind GLP-1 drugs and how they became the latest and most effective way to lose weight. All the while, he was also taking Ozempic himself.

His latest book Magic Pill: The Extraordinary Benefits and Disturbing Risks of the New Weight-Loss Drugs takes a personal and research-based look at the revolutionary, controversial rise of GLP-1 drugs for weight management.

If you liked this episode, check out: The Full Truth About Ozempic and Doctors Agree: Obesity is a Disease. The Public Needs to Catch Up.

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Care for an Aging Parent

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0000

The How To! hosts love helping listeners find the answers they need. But sometimes a host needs help, too. On this episode, Courtney Martin and her brother, Chris, open up about how their father’s dementia has led them to upend their own lives in order to become his caregivers. To help Courtney and Chris talk through what comes next, Carvell Wallace welcomes Dr. Allison Applebaum, whose book Stand by Me chronicles her own caregiving journey and her work at Memorial Sloan Kettering’s Caregivers Clinic.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Help a Loved One With Dementia and How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

Care & Feeding: My Mom’s Obsessed With My Baby

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s struggling with wrangling her new baby… and the baby’s very clingy new grandma. Grandma’s struggled with loneliness and is-over-the-moon about the baby. But is it time to set some boundaries? And how many photos is too many?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re sharing our favorite educational stuff to stick on ye olde tablet.

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Lucy’s check-in: feeling like gauze.

Elizabeth’s check-in: the major highs and major lows of preteendom

Zak’s check-in: Ami carries a backpack (and more)

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | My Friend Keeps Disappearing and it Hurts! Help!

Fri, 27 Sep 2024 07:30:00 -0000

In this episode, Rachel Bloom (The CW musical comedy-drama series Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and Netflix’s Death, Let Me Do My Special) joins our Guest Prudie (Cheyna Roth) to answer letters from readers about how to handle a newly sober (and vegan) friend getting super judgy, what to do when you become friends with an ex-boyfriend and then that boyfriend gets a jealous girlfriend, and whether not wanting to listen to your friend group’s constant griping constitutes an intervention.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Cheyna Roth, Maura Currie, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: There Are Mean Girls in… Kindergarten?

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener who’s worried that her preschooler has already encountered a lot of bullying and cliques… so what is kindergarten going to be like? And why are these little kids already capable of being so mean?

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — including an update on Zak’s talking-about-the-Holocaust dilemma.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: The Truth About IUDs

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Modern IUDs have been used for decades to prevent unwanted pregnancy and have been extremely effective at doing so.

But they’re not without side effects. With few places to turn, many patients have resorted to TikTok to describe their experiences of painful insertion and removal as well as cramping, changes in menstruation, and mood shifts.

But patients don’t have to be left in the dark. If there was more research into how different bodies react to IUDs, there’s a chance patients can get the care they need without as drastic of side effects.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Maya and Kavita talk with Dr. Kavita Nanda, the Director of Medical Research for FHI360, on why there is so little research into IUDs, what we do know about them, and how you or a loved one can prepare for a conversation with your doctor about them.

If you liked this episode, check out: Michelle Obama Gets Health Advice From This Gyno. Now You Can, Too.

Further Reading: Why Is It So Hard to Get a Basic Question Answered About My IUD

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with help from Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola. Editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Grow Your Podcast

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 08:20:00 -0000

Ari always dreamed of starting his own podcast. When he started interviewing fellow academics for the Taylor Swift class he’s teaching, Ari suddenly had the perfect opportunity to turn those conversations into something called ¿What Are Taylor Swift Studies Anyways? Now he just needs to find an audience. On this meta episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Lauren Passell, founder of Tink Media and author of Podcast the Newsletter. Lauren shares creative ways to find new listeners and connect with your audience; tips that apply to all kinds of passion projects.

Resources Mentioned:

If you liked this episode check out: How To Succeed at Social Media

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

Care & Feeding: Making (And Keeping) Parent Friends

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: it’s Friendship Week at Slate, and we’re hopping aboard the friendship train to talk about the beauty, and challenges, of making friends in the parenting world… with special guest host Rebecca Onion, a senior editor for Slate.

We also check in on what’s happening in Elizabeth, Zak, and Rebecca’s lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re talking about what happens when a friendship dies.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check in: healthy snacks at school PLEASE

Elizabeth’s check in: phones for good

Rebecca’s check in: friendship necklaces: revenge edition.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I Didn’t Wish My Sister a Happy Birthday—Now She’s Pissed! Help!

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 07:30:00 -0000

In this episode, Akilah Hughes (host of a new podcast from iHeart, Rebel Spirit) joins our Guest Prudie (Ashley C. Ford) to answer letters from readers about how to be a supportive long-distance friend to someone in an unhappy marriage, what to do when your friend is great at being a friend but a terrible colleague, and whether birthday texts are really necessary.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Ashley C. Ford, Maura Currie, and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: My Kid’s Bad At Baseball (And He Knows It)

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy help a listener who left us a voicemail about their little athlete who’s just not great at baseball… and he also gets upset when the game doesn’t go his way. If this kid were an adult, it’d be time to have an honest conversation about knowing your strengths. But how does that conversation work with a kid?

And after that conversation, of course, we’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Who Cares for the Caregivers?

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0000

Nearly half of healthcare workers are at a breaking point, describing that they often or very often feel burnt out on the job.

Most of us have heard the phrase “Put on your oxygen mask before helping others,” but rarely does that happen especially for those who work as caregivers.

Psychiatrist Dr. Jessi Gold knows this firsthand when her mental overload caused her to make an unthinkable mistake with a patient. This error forced her to step back and reassess her relationship with the healthcare industry as a whole.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now Maya and Kavita speak with Dr. Gold about her latest book How Do You Feel?, and how by looking at the healthcare system through the eyes of her caregiver patients, she began to see the shared struggle many healthcare workers have to find the humanity in their work again.

If you liked this episode, check out: How Nick Cannon Got Celebrities to Open Up About Their Mental Health

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Rethink Screen Time

Tue, 17 Sep 2024 08:20:00 -0000

Ben has two sons in the fourth grade. Like a lot of kids, they love YouTube videos, gaming, movies, and other online entertainment. Before his sons begin using social media, Ben wants to ensure they develop a good relationship with tech—and he’s ready to recruit other families at their school to agree upon some rules of engagement. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Richard Culatta, CEO of the International Society for Technology in Education and ASCD. He’s also the author of Digital for Good: Raising Kids to Thrive in an Online World. He shares his refreshingly practical approach to tech, screen time, and social media.

Resources Mentioned:

Guide to create healthy conditions in schools

If you liked this episode check out: How To Face the A.I. Revolution and How To Help Teachers Thrive

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sara McCrae.

Care & Feeding: Parenting With Astrology (Seriously)

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth sits down with Dr. Jennifer Freed to talk about how astrology can help us parent… even if you’re a skeptic about the whole star sign thing. It’s all about figuring out how to communicate with people who see the world differently than you do, right?

We also check in on what’s happening in Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah’s lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re using Dr. Freed’s parenting deck to learn about the hosts’ birth charts.. And their kids’!

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Zak’s check-in: how early is too early to talk about the Holocaust?

Jamilah’s check-in: middle school woes (whoa.)

Elizabeth’s check-in: grownup Henry/baby Henry

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | Revisiting Advice from Ashley C. Ford

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 07:30:00 -0000

Today, we’re revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody’s Daughter, and one of our guest Prudies, while our regular Prudie, Jenée Desmond-Harris, will be on parental leave.

In this episode, Ashley C. Ford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband’s band, and if it’s acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they’re running late and miss the flight.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: My Wife’s Making Me A Deadbeat Dad

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah are joined by Allison Price of the Care & Feeding text column to talk through one of her most recent columns. This dad lets his wife lean into her Type A tendencies… and as a result, he’s been pushed out of parenting decisions. Who’s to blame here? And why was Allison worried about commenter clapbacks?

And after that, of course, we’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To!: Survive a Disaster

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 08:20:00 -0000

After a tree destroyed Tucker’s roof during a tornado, he felt lucky to be alive—and underprepared for the next disaster his family might face. On this episode, Courtney Martin welcomes back author and former How To! host Amanda Ripley to discuss emergency preparedness and how regular citizens can react smarter during a devastating event. Amanda’s newly updated book is The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why.

After listening to this conversation, seek out (and save) this information:

CERT Training
Your state’s homeland security website
Your county’s emergency management agency
Local emergency alerts

If you liked this episode check out: How To Keep Cool in a Crisis and How To Cope With Climate Anxiety. Also mentioned: How To Pick a College (and Actually Afford It) and How To Take a Gap Year

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

Care & Feeding: Toddlers Can Know Moving Is Sh*tty

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: helping a little guy with some big changes. A member of our Slate Parenting Facebook Group is getting ready to move with a three-year-old (and another kid on the way) — and between the disruption, the feelings, and the impending newness, this parent wants to know how to help smooth things out for her kid. Luckily, Elizabeth and Zak are seasoned experts.

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re weighing whether it’s okay to toss out kids’ art.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Elizabeth’s check-in: say yes!

Zak’s check-in: shoot your shots!

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Dear Prudence | My Wife Thinks I Had an Emotional Affair With My Best Friend. Help!

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 07:30:00 -0000

In this episode, Lizzie O’Leary (the host of Slate’s What Next: TBD) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your mother backed out of pre-arranged babysitting duties to go on a cruise, whether or not you’re being emotionally unfaithful to your partner, and what to do with a friend who’s great one-on-one but not-so-great in groups.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Gus Walz Moved You, Too

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak debrief on your reactions to last week’s special episode about Gus Walz — and we’ll touch on some elements of this story that our audience thinks we might’ve missed the first time around.

And, of course, we also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: What Drag Queens Can Teach Us About Healthcare

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Drag is one of the fastest-growing forms of entertainment, and has been making its way into the mainstream in recent years. On this week’s episode of Well, Now, we are joined by drag queen, actress, and trans activist, Miss Peppermint. She provides insight on self-advocacy, and how to navigate the healthcare system despite society’s tendencies to overlook transgender health.

If you liked this episode, check out: Ending Racism in Healthcare

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Cook at Home Like Sohla El-Waylly

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 08:20:00 -0000

With takeout prices on the rise, Josh wants to sharpen his home-cooking chops so he can whip up delicious dinners for himself and his wife. But this empty nester doesn’t want to spend all day in the kitchen. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin consults award-winning chef, food writer, and New York Times Cooking pro Sohla El-Waylly for advice on meal prep, next-level seasoning, and preparing the best rice and beans. Sohla’s new cookbook is Start Here: Instructions for Becoming a Better Cook.

If you liked this episode, check out How To ‘Chaos Cook’ With Samin Nosrat or How To Cook One Perfect Meal.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae. Production for this episode by Sara McCrea.

Working: An Artist’s Guide to ADHD and Getting Stuff Done

Sun, 01 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0000

This week, host Ronald Young Jr. talks to Andy J. Pizza, an illustrator and creator of children’s books who’s also the host of the Creative Pep Talk podcast. In the interview, Andy explains what it’s like to be a working artist with ADHD, and he shares some strategies that have helped him channel his attention, accomplish tasks, and evolve in his career.

After the interview, Ronald and co-host June Thomas talk about creating like a child and the importance of “useless” friends.

In the exclusive Slate Plus segment, Andy discusses some of his favorite music.

Podcast production by Cameron Drews.

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Dear Prudence | I Found My Happily Married Mom’s Profile on a BDSM Dating Site. Help!

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 07:30:00 -0000

In this episode, Nadira Goffe (Slate culture writer) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your girlfriend refuses to return library books in the name of self-love, whether it’s worth admitting to your partner that you sometimes break your not-so-strict vegan diet for convenience sake, if you need to tell your dad that you caught your mom on a BDSM dating site, and how to prepare for a visit from parents you are sure will body-shame you.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Gus Walz Loves His Dad. Here’s Why It Matters

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy, and guest host Maribel Quezada-Smith circle up to talk about the viral moment surrounding Gus Walz’s appearance at the DNC last week — and what it meant to us, and our community, as parents of neurodivergent kids, and especially of boys.

We’ll also tackle a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a story about a very special language lesson.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Outward: Dating Friends and Understanding Desire with Myisha Battle

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

This week, Jules and Bryan are joined by dating coach and host of the KCRW podcast How’s Your Sex Life, Myisha Battle. Myisha covers dating friends, understanding your own desire, and making connections in the real world.

Well, Now: Eating for Health

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Health at Every Size is an approach that shifts the focus from dieting and weight loss and instead promotes healthy eating and exercise patterns, regardless of body size and weight. On this week’s episode of Well, Now, Shana Spence, registered dietitian and nutritionist, provides insight on how to foster a healthy relationship with food.

If you liked this episode, check out: How Your Food Can Fight Climate Change

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Fall Out of Love (Encore)

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Several months ago, Sarah told her best friend John she’s in love with him—but he doesn’t love her back. Now Sarah can’t get John out of her head, especially because they still talk all the time. How can Sarah move on from John? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and the author of Anatomy of Love, to help Sarah train her heart—and her brain—to fall out of love. The first thing Sarah needs to do, Helen says, is cut off contact with John. Every time she sees him, it reactivates her brain circuitry for romantic love. And as beautiful as their friendship may be, it’s holding Sarah back from finding her true love.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Propose (to a Man).”

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Care & Feeding: We Need to Stop Losing Library Books

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak offer tips for a kid who’s really, really good at losing library books and incurring the dreaded fees. How can parents help keep track of library books… and, more broadly, do communal school supplies mean we don’t have to worry about labeling anymore?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re sharing strategies for the after-school debrief.

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Lucy’s check-in: immersive theater!!

Elizabeth’s check-in: the kids do anniversary dinner

Zak’s check-in: honeymoon phase (covid included)

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence | I’m Dating My Former Professor and It’s Affecting My Relationship With My Sisters. Help!

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 07:30:00 -0000

In this episode, Samantha Bee (Full Frontal with Samantha Bee and Choice Words with Samantha Bee) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your relationship with an older man is compromising your living situation, how to respond when your children’s disagreements are threatening your relationship with a close neighbor, and whether it’s fair to move internationally when you’re sure your parents will destabilize their social lives to follow you.

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This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Parenting Fearlessly, Onstage and Off

Thu, 22 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0000

Then: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including an update on the Rosen family’s move overseas.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: How to Reclaim Your Life After a Health Crisis

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Every year, millions of Americans experience a stroke. Though the focus is often on prevention and immediate care, many patients are left with long-term effects for years –or even a lifetime– afterward. On this week’s episode of Well, Now, we dive into new approaches to overcome the cognitive and physical disabilities that often follow a stroke. Dr. Rajiv Ratan, executive director at Burke Neurological Institute, offers his insights.

If you liked this episode, check out – Gut Check: How to Master Your Gut Microbiome

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Be a Family (and Still Be You)

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Kate’s entire family loves to go on intense, day-long hikes. Kate does not. It’s just one of many differences that makes her feel like a black sheep. But Kate desperately wants to be close to her family—without disregarding her own desires or compromising on parts of her life. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Lucy Blake, author of No Family Is Perfect: A Guide to Embracing the Messy Reality. Lucy helps Kate find her way to a family unity that works for everyone, while also learning to celebrate their differences.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Deal With a Difficult Parent

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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Care & Feeding: My Son Is Ruining Our Summer

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dillon Michael White help a listener whose kid is struggling hard to enjoy the summer break… and complaining about everything in the process. How can this parent nip the negativity in the bud and prevent a bad attitude from ruining everyone’s break?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re talking about how to handle sharing kid stuff for a big audience of strangers online… including the uglier stuff that comes with it.

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Jamilah’s check-in: where are the Black teachers?

Elizabeth’s check-in: the car ride wormhole.

Dillon’s check-in: the big 0-8.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Husband and I Divorced Amicably. Nine Months Later, He Wants Me Back. Help!

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Rod and Karen Morrow (co-hosts of the podcast The Black Guy Who Tips) join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your fiance asks you to open up your relationship but becomes obsessed with identifying your hook-up partners, how to support your friend’s widow when you’re still grieving their death, and whether it’s worth taking your ex-husband back only nine months into your divorce.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: My Kid’s a (Really) Sore Loser

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and special guest host Dillon White of DadChats and ChatsFam help a listener whose kid really, really struggles with losing. The smallest not-wins send this boy into hysterics… even though he knows all that sportsmanship stuff. So what might help — and what might this parent be missing?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including an update on Naima’s first day of middle school.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Food Is More Than Fuel

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

We all know the food we eat directly impacts our physical health. But that’s just the start of the story.

Food fuels our emotional well-being, connects us with one another, and fosters a key source of identity.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we speak with award-winning food journalist Mary Beth Albright on her new book Eat & Flourish: How Food Supports Emotional Well-Being.

If you liked this episode, check out: No, Netflix Isn’t Forcing You to Go Vegan

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Cooper feels like they’re constantly falling behind on their to-do list. Life is busy and household chores are the last thing they want to do. Cooper tracks everything in a detailed spreadsheet—but that spreadsheet isn’t going to take care of the dirty dishes in the sink. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dale Aucoin of Clean & Queer, a professional organizing business based in New York City. Dale explains how to prioritize tasks, make chores easier, and find a routine that works for you.

Links Mentioned:

Clean & Queer

The Trans Guide

If you liked this episode check out: How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Style Your Home Like a Pro.

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Care & Feeding: Is My Kid Ruining Hikes On Purpose?

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about a kid who seems dedicated to making family hikes suck. He’s energetic and capable during other activities, but long walks are full of whining and fussing. What could this listener do to get him excited about family walks… and are there any options that aren’t making every walk a treasure hunt?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re sharing a round of recommendations and a round of anti-recommendations.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: Stiiiiiill hotel living

Elizabeth’s check-in: Internet friends are real friends!

Zak’s check-in: Just hoping the dog won’t poop on the plane

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

ICYMI: Should I Stop Sharing My Location? Why Do My Friends Act Wild In My Instagram Comments?

Sat, 10 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Candice Lim is joined by internet culture writer Steffi Cao, whose Substack recently started an advice column all about internet etiquette. On today’s episode, they’re answering reader questions such as: Should I report unhinged Facebook behavior? And should I get into political fights in the DMs?

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario and Candice Lim.

Dear Prudence: Politics Is Ruining My Family. Help!

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

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This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Why Is My Friend Body Shaming Toddlers?

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Zak help a listener who’s wondering why her friend is bodyshaming her own toddler so intensely — not to mention our listener’s kid, too — and what to do about it. These kids are still little enough to avoid lifelong damage to their relationships with food, and their bodies… but where’s the line when it comes to telling this friend to shut it and let the kids eat cake?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — and we'll share an update on the tricky question we tackled earlier this week about not liking your kid.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Surviving the Book Release Process

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0000

June Thomas recently published her book A Place of Our Own: Six Places That Shaped Queer Women’s Culture, and on this episode of Working Overtime co-host Isaac Butler asks her what went into the release and its promo-campaign. The weeks leading up to a release can be long and exhaustive, with questionnaires, blurb requests, and audiobook recordings to take care of. However, once the book is out in the world, there’s even more to think of, with live events, interviews, and reviews. Both June and Isaac share their experiences with book publishing and what it takes to stay positive through it all.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: No, Netflix Isn’t Forcing You to Go Vegan

Wed, 07 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Research going back decades shows adding more fruits, vegetables, and non-animal sources of protein helps us live longer, healthier lives.

A study featured in the Netflix docuseries You Are What You Eat: A Twin Study took that to the next level.

Stanford researchers asked 22 sets of identical twins to go 8 weeks eating a healthy, varied diet and regularly exercising. One twin ate an omnivore diet, the other vegan.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we talk to the lead researcher of the “twin study” Christopher Gardner on his findings and whether we really all need to go vegan to stay healthy.

If you liked this episode, check out: How Your Food Can Fight Climate Change

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Put a Toxic Job Behind You

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

When Elle started a new career as a therapist, she never imagined she would be the one in need of help. After just a few months, her position at a group practice became untenable amid a lack of support from colleagues. Now she’s looking for a new job and wants to avoid a similar scenario. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace introduces Elle to leadership coach Rudhir Krishtel, who helps us rethink our relationships to co-workers—and work itself.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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Care & Feeding: I’m Struggling to Love My Daughter

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 07:10:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a tricky question from a listener who’s struggling to feel love for her daughter. Mismatched neurodivergence might be to blame… but what is a parent to do when they don’t feel connected with their kids? How can they work on translating irritation into love — and grappling with the guilt of not feeling like a good parent?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now... And then, on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re venting (really, complaining) about the slog that is back-to-school shopping.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: Not a Sephora kid, just need some stuff

Elizabeth’s check-in: Safaris are just watching everything eat 24/7

Zak’s check-in: “You’re gonna have a bike accident”

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Friend Told Our Friend Group That My Boyfriend Sexually Assaulted Me. He Didn’t. Help!

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Scaachi Koul (Slate’s senior writer and co-host of Wondery’s Scamfluencers) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about relationship dilemmas like what to do when your husband keeps confronting you about your supposed snoring habits, what to do when your partner uses colloquialisms that come across as mocking or offensive, and how to approach your friend group whose spreading an unforgivable rumor about your boyfriend.

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This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: We’re Friends With a Flaky Family

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Elizabeth and Zak help a listener who’s grappling with whether it’s worth trying to keep up a friendship with a family that is just not reliable. It’s only started recently, but they show up to events and hangouts hours late… if at all… with very scant communication. The flakiness disappoints our listener’s kid, but is this worth cutting out friends?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including a quick update about the Newcamp family’s trip to Africa.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: How to Avoid Heat-Related Illness

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

It’s a fact that summers around the world are reaching record-breaking temperatures.

Heat-related illness and death have hit a crisis point, and staying cool is more important than ever.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we speak with someone living in one of the country's hottest states.

Dr. Richard Carmona is a career first responder with more than 50 years of experience caring for people in crisis. A veteran of the U.S. Army as a special forces medic, Carmona also served as the 17th U.S. Surgeon General under President George W. Bush. Currently, Carmona is a professor at The University of Arizona in Tucson.

If you liked this episode, check out: How a Former Surgeon General Took on a $5,000 ER Bill

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Be Funny (5th Anniversary Edition)

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

How do you learn to tell the perfect joke? In this special edition of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg joins Courtney and Carvell to mark five years of life-changing advice with a look back at our very first episode. It features a pastor from Oklahoma who wants to spice up his sermons. We introduce him to Gary Gulman, a New York standup comedian who makes jokes about his clinical depression. They workshop the pastor’s new joke about the New Testament, and Gary reveals “what might be the most important rule of being funny.”

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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Care & Feeding: Ugh, What’s For Dinner?

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Chris Duffy answer a question from the Slate Parenting Facebook group about what to do when dinner rolls around. This member of the group would be perfectly happy with toast or popcorn, but also wants to make sure their toddler grows up with a healthy relationship to food. We’ll share some low-effort, high-tastiness ideas for the weeknight dinner rush.

We’ll also try out a new segment called Just Checking In — where we’ll share what’s on our mind this week. Then, for Slate Plus listeners – we’re circling up on the Playground and talking to Chris about his new ebook, all about making and keeping platonic relationships.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: a euphemism for Espresso

Chris’ check-in: how do you have a platform but also respect your kids’ privacy?

Zak’s check-in: moving across the world (soon)

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Brother-In-Law’s Girlfriend Wore A Transparent Dress To My Wedding. Help!

Fri, 26 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Arionne Nettles (author of We Are the Culture: Black Chicago’s Influence on Everything) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to keep composure when your soon-to-be sister-in-law shows up to your wedding in a thong, how to react when your husband’s comments oversexualize your teenage daughters’ friends, and ways to handle a sister-in-law whose unwanted body criticisms keep ruining family vacations.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: Is Nudity in Art OK For Kids?

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy and Zak are joined by special guest host Chris Duffy to talk about the power of a painting. Our listener has a piece of art hanging on her wall that features some nudity — and it recently startled a crew of kids over for a playdate. Should the painting be moved, or taken down? Or is our listener just becoming the fabled Cool Art House?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails, and share an update about the parent who sparked the great shorts under skirts debate.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Revisiting Your Resolutions

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0000

It's halfway through the year, and hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler are putting themselves back under the microscope to see which of their New Year's resolutions they’ve stuck with and which they’ve let peter out. June still wants to work more sustainably, and Isaac comes clean about his lapsed French studies. They get into routines that have truly worked out and how to let go of the goals that were far too lofty.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now - Gut Check: How to Master Your Microbiome

Wed, 24 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

A key component to wellness is gut health. But what determines if you have a healthy gut?

On this week’s episode of Well, Now, we dive into the fascinating world of the gut microbiome, a collection of bacteria and sometimes fungi that live in the human digestive system.

We are provided with insight from Dr. Colin Hill, professor of Microbiology at APC Microbiome Ireland on how to properly take care of your microbiome and why it is essential

If you liked this episode, check out – Doctors Agree: Obesity is a Disease. The Public Needs to Catch Up.

Well, Now is hosted by Dr. Kavita Patel and registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller.

Editing and podcast production by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Vic Whitley-Berry.

Editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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Hear Me Out: You Don’t Need A BFF

Tue, 23 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On today’s episode of Hear Me Out: make the friendship bracelets. Or don’t.

Like all relationships, friendships can grow, change… and, yes, end. Sometimes for good reason. But we romanticize the BFF as the goal – to find your person – and that might not be realistic.

Author and podcast host Kristen Meinzer joins us to make the case for not needing a best friend forever.

If you have thoughts you want to share, or an idea for a topic we should tackle, you can email the show: hearmeout@slate.com

Podcast production by Maura Currie.

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How To!: Date With a Disability

Tue, 23 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Todd is looking for love, but he’s unsure about disclosing something in dating profiles: his multiple sclerosis. With symptoms that are increasingly visible, Todd feels compelled to be upfront about his disability with potential dates—but he doesn’t know when or how to discuss it. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp, authors of Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up, and Settling Down While Chronically Ill and Disabled. They give Todd guidance on having that talk, navigating ableism, and managing his own internal expectations.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Flirt With Confidence

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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Care & Feeding: What Does My Son Need To Shave?

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Jamilah, and Dan Kois help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook community who’s wondering how to help her teenage son through the rite of passage that is shaving. We’ll also help out a listener whose six-year-old is an overzealous shaver, and talk through whether it’s a real problem.

We also dole out a round of recommendations. Then, for Slate Plus listeners – we’re relaunching our Plus offerings and welcoming you to the Plus Playground. This week, we’re offering an additional round of recommendations, and we’re debriefing on two recent, controversial, columns that Dan wrote for the Care & Feeding web column.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Dan recommends: Before Sunrise, especially for teens

Jamilah recommends: Watch a bad movie together (on purpose)

Lucy recommends: My Spy: The Eternal City

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Am Swamped With Plans and I Hate It. Help!

Fri, 19 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: I Can’t Sleep When My Teen’s Gone

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Jamilah, and special guest host Dan Kois help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s unable to sleep unless everyone in the household is tucked in and all the doors are locked. That’s making it challenging to live with a 16-year-old night owl… so is the answer to just suffer through the evenings where not everyone is back in the nest?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails – and chat about what Dan’s been up to since we last heard from him.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: How Nick Cannon Got Celebrities to Open Up About Their Mental Health

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

We all know about the mental health crisis wreaking havoc throughout the nation and world.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we’re continuing our ongoing discussions of mental health, and this time we’re tackling men’s mental health as a whole.

Prime’s new show Counsel Culture, hosted by Nick Cannon and medical professionals across the spectrum, invites men to open up about their histories with anxiety, depression, grief, addiction, and more. Dr. Mike Dow is the resident psychotherapist for the program.

If you liked this episode, check out: Eating Disorders Are Rising Among Boys. Why?

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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Outward: Can you love the bigotry away? Queer Advice with Mathew Rodriguez

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Bryan, Jules, and Mathew unite to tackle your questions! This week they take on what to do when kids question your gender, whether or not you have to be honest about your pronouns at work, and the billion dollar question- can you save your friends from the circus of disinformation?

How To!: Be a Mindful Grandparent

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Shirley Showalter and Marilyn McEntyre know that grandparenting is more than just cookies and Play-Doh. Don’t get us wrong, those things are fun! But the art of contemporary grandparenting requires mindfulness, intentionality, and navigating boundaries. On today’s episode, Courtney Martin talks with Marilyn and Shirley about their book, The Mindful Grandparent, and the wisdom they’ve gained as elders to 12 grandchildren.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Face Your Kid’s Future

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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Care & Feeding: My Kid’s Friend Has Zero Supervision

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Jamilah help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook Group who’s torn about her kid’s new bestie. This girl is mostly unsupervised and tends toward naughtiness — ding-dong ditching, messy play, and watching adult YouTube — and that tendency is trickling down to our group member’s son. How can this parent make sure her home is a safe space, but still keep order?

We also dole out a round of recommendations. Then, for Slate Plus listeners – we’re weighing when it’s okay to leave your kid home alone.

Zak recommends: See what happens if your kid’s in charge of packing lunch

Jamilah recommends: Jersey Mike’s

Lucy recommends: Pick Your Poison

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My BFF Bullied Her Husband Into Allowing Her to Sleep With Other Men. Help!

Fri, 12 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Ronald Young Jr. (host of Weight For It and Slate’s Working) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your fatphobic in-laws are overstaying their welcome and whether to interfere when your best friend is pressuring her husband into an open marriage.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: I Took a Break. Why Don’t I Feel Refreshed?

Thu, 11 Jul 2024 18:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Jamilah help a listener who wrote in wondering how to soften her landing after taking a break from the kids. She’s grateful for them, and for time away… but why doesn’t she feel refreshed?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails, and share some of your responses to our recent episode about shorts under skirts and dresses.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: The Full Truth About Ozempic

Wed, 10 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Few drugs in the last century have changed the landscape of healthcare and weight management like GLP-1 agonist drugs — drugs like Ozempic and WeGovy.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we talk with Harvard professor and clinician Dr. Fatima Cody Stanford.

Her research revolutionized obesity medicine and helped pave the way to get a diabetes drug approved for treating a condition millions have in the U.S.

If you liked this episode, check out – Doctors Agree: Obesity is a Disease. The Public Needs to Catch Up.

Well, Now is hosted by Dr. Kavita Patel and registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry.

Production assistance from Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

Editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Take a Sabbatical

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Trisha is craving a break from her job, but she doesn’t want to drain her bank account. On today’s episode, Courtney Martin connects Trisha to DJ DiDonna, founder of The Sabbatical Project, who’s on a quest to make extended breaks accessible to all. DJ explains how to plan for a sabbatical that is both meaningful and manageable.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Hit “Reset” On Your Career

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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Dear Prudence: How’s Your Sex Life?: How Do I Get Over My Ex? with Brandon Kyle Goodman

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

How do I navigate casual dating? How do I get over my ex? How can I approach sex and dating when I’m asexual?

On today’s episode brought to us by KCRW’s How’s Your Sex Life?, host Myisha Battle is joined by actor Brandon Kyle Goodman, who dishes advice alongside Myisha, talks about embracing the messiness of dating, and plays a game of ‘Would You Rather.’

Read the full transcript here.

Need advice about dating, sex, or relationships? Send Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. Your message will be kept confidential.

Well, Now: Michelle Obama Gets Health Advice from This Gyno. Now You Can, Too.

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Women, girls, and people assigned female at birth make up more than half of the world’s population. Yet, many of them say they don’t feel supported, heard, or cared for in the doctor’s office — even in spaces designed specifically for their care like obstetrics and gynecology.

Dr. Sharon Malone, veteran OB/GYN, is on a mission to change that.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now, we speak with Dr. Malone on how to advocate for the care you deserve at every stage of life. It’s the subject of her new book Grown Woman Talk: Your Guide to Getting and Staying Healthy.

If you liked this episode, check out: How Doulas Make Childbirth Safer for Everyone

Well, Now is hosted by Dr. Kavita Patel and registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery. Production assistance from Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

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How To!: Survive a Shark Attack (Encore)

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

David was in the ocean in Hawaii when the unthinkable happened—a shark attacked him and bit off his leg. “I don’t think you’re gonna make it,” a medic told the 25-year-old on the helicopter ride to the hospital. But David did make it, and soon he learned that surviving the shark wasn’t the hardest part—it was what came after. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, psychiatrist and author of The Body Keeps the Score, to help David understand and deal with the lasting psychological trauma of the attack. For anyone suffering from severe trauma, Bessel says, it’s okay to grieve the person you were before. Accepting the loss of the “old you” will allow you to better embrace who you are now, both in your mind and body.

Do you need help overcoming life’s many challenges? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.

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Care & Feeding: Does My Toddler Need Shorts Under Her Dress?

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth help a listener whose daycare has requested that her toddler daughter wear shorts underneath skirts and dresses. The listener’s knee-jerk reaction is that it’s unnecessary… but we’ll offer some suggestions about what she could be missing, and why how we dress our kids is important.

We also dole out a round of recommendations, and share some stuff you listeners have been loving — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’ll talk about the way we choose baby names, and how hard it is to escape the popular name hivemind.

Zak recommends: Lake drawing app

Elizabeth recommends: Shakespeare Insult Generator book or online

Lucy and Amelia recommend: “The Throne of Glass”

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My In-Laws Disrespected My Daughter, So I Kicked Them Out. Help!

Fri, 28 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Mina Kimes (ESPN NFL analyst and host of The Mina Kimes Show featuring Lenny) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when your in-laws insult your daughter in a language they think you don’t understand, how to decide whether to have a second child later in life, and whether it’s okay to reject your husband’s calls when you’ve had a long day and want to drive home in peaceful silence.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie and Anuli Ononye.

Care & Feeding: My Kid Forgot How to Ride a Bike

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose daughter forgot how to ride a bike… and is now pretty insistent that she doesn’t want to re-learn. We’ll talk through how to incentivize some bravery and get siblings involved in the process.

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including a triumph that wasn’t a triumph until we talked through it.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: How to Get Back into Books

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts Ronald Young Jr and Isaac Butler are joined by writer Elisa Gabbert for a discussion of reading and rediscovering a love of books. Gabbert is the author of Any Person is the Only Self, a new collection of essays on art, culture, and reading habits. Gabbert delves into some of her reading practices such as always being surrounded by exciting-looking books, exploring the ‘Recently Returned’ section of her library, and not being afraid to revisit and critique classic novels.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: Psychedelics' Long Strange Trip to the Doctor's Office

Wed, 26 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

For years, psychiatrists have been researching new methods to help people with treatment-resistant mental illness. These include severe cases of depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and other debilitating diagnoses.

One type of drug has seen some positive results in clinical trials: psychedelics like psilocybin, MDMA, ketamine, and LSD.

In professional medical settings, they’re used as a part of a multifaceted approach to mental health treatment, including supervised therapy sessions while a patient is on a drug.

Recently the pharmaceutical manufacturer Lykos petitioned the FDA to approve the psychedelic MDMA as a part of caring for treatment-resistant PTSD.

Earlier this month, an advisory committee to the FDA released their vote of rejecting to approve the drug.

Now it’s up to the FDA to make the final call, but the odds are not in the favor of Lykos and many psychiatrists and patients who’ve seen positive outcomes as a result of these MDMA-assisted trials.

Psychiatrist and entrepreneur Dave Rabin is one of the doctors pushing to approve psychedelic-assisted therapy.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we ask him about the results of his trials using psychedelics in therapy as well as what he thinks the future holds for this field as we wait for the FDA’s final verdict.

If you liked this episode, check out: “As Little Regulation As Guns”: How Social Media Hurts Youth Mental Health

Well, Now is hosted by Dr. Kavita Patel and registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry, with support this week from Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

Editorial oversight from Alicia Montgomery, Vice President of Slate Audio.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com.

How To!: Make Bank at a Yard Sale

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

How To!’s senior editor Joel Meyer recently experienced a yard sale fail and wants to know what went wrong. He spent hours planning and organizing the items on his lawn, but when it was all said and done he barely made enough to cover the cost of lunch. Enter this week’s expert, Ava Seavey, a self-described master of garage-sale-ology and author of Ava’s Guide to Garage Sale Gold. Seavey tells host Courtney Martin some hilarious stories and insider tips for how to cash in on all your old stuff.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Find the Gems in All Your Junk”

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: Vacation With a Big Group (Seriously!)

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth talk about the bold thesis statement of this piece from Romper Magazine… arguing that actually, traveling with a big group is the best way to relax on vacation. We’ll talk strategy for booking reservations, handing off kid duties, and casting the perfect vacation collective.

We also dole out a round of recommendations for beating the heat — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’re taking a trip down memory lane and sharing some travel-themed triumphs and fails.

Zak recommends: a hat box so the kids can choose their own

Lucy recommends: Twister Splash

Elizabeth recommends: UV Umbrella & Handheld Mini fan

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: Revisiting Advice from Dr. Orna Guralnik

Fri, 21 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Today, we’re revisiting one of our favorite episodes from September 2023 with Dr. Orna Guralnik (host of Showtime’s Couples Therapy).

In this episode, Dr. Orna Guralnik joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when a friend is obsessed with misogynistic love and relationship podcasts, when your husband just can’t figure out birthday gifts, and when you’re wondering “Does therapy just not work for me?”

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Preventing the Summer Backslide

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group come up with ways to prevent a summer backslide – and keep school skills fresh over the break. We got some great tips from our audience of parents and educators, too.

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including a tale of middle-school heroism involving a very large cockroach.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Meet Gwyneth Paltrow’s Mold Guy

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Everyone knows the quality of the air we breathe directly affects our health.

As the summer rolls along and more people seek reprieve from the heat indoors, it’s important to be sure our indoor air is clean and toxin-free.

One pollutant to keep an eye out for is mold.

Mold inside a home could hurt your health both immediately and in the long term.

So to help us better understand how to spot mold in the home and how to get rid of it, we’re joined by air quality expert Michael Rubino, president of the Change the Air Foundation and the founder of HomeCleanse.

If you liked this episode, check out – Doctors Agree: Obesity is a Disease. The Public Needs to Catch Up.

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry, with support this week from Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

Editorial oversight from Alicia Montgomery, Vice President of Slate Audio.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com

How To!: Start Strength Training

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Meg once was a terror in the world of roller derby. But these days, her sedentary lifestyle is making everyday physical activities a tad daunting. (We’re looking at you, groceries that need to be carried up four flights of stairs!). She wants to start lifting weights, but she’s unsure where to start—and whether she can avoid the bro-culture of many weight rooms. On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin brings in writer and powerlifter Mikala Jamison, who was in Meg’s shoes not that long ago. She shares how she got started, why lifting is a lifelong journey, and what we can learn from the current zeitgeist for women’s strength training.

Resources mentioned:

Mikala’s Substack, Body Type

Book with simple lifting guide

Fitness trainer Meg Gallagher on Instagram

If you liked this episode check out: How To Be Free Of Body Shame or How To Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: I Have Five Kids and Can’t Keep My Sh*t Together

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth help a member of our Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s struggling to keep her head above water. There’s always another deadline, appointment, and thing to do… and when it all piles up, it’s hard to feel like you can dig yourself out. We’ll have some concrete advice for how to move in the right direction — and more importantly, how to feel better.

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’re talking about keeping teeth and making jewelry, and whether it’s actually as weird as it sounds.

Lucy recommends: Makeup/Skincare shopping with your 12 yr old

Elizabeth recommends: Silicone Nesting Scoops

Zak recommends: Babes

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I’m Sick of Feeling Like I’m Always the One Doing All The Work in Dating. Help!

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Erika Ettins (founder of A Little Nudge, an online dating coaching service) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to fix a lackluster, long-distance relationship, when it is — and isn’t — a good idea to date a person who’s recently divorced, and whether a Type A person can stop doing all the work when it comes to dating.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Dads Can Suffer From Postpartum Depression, Too

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy sits down with researcher and friend of the show Tova Walsh to talk about her work on dads who experience postpartum depression. Paternal mental health is a topic we don’t talk about nearly enough, so we wanted to give you some advice — and some resources to learn more and get help.

Tova wants to share the following:

Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth will also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including ROLY-POLIES.

Listeners, we want your advice – and your questions – about how to prevent the dreaded summer backslide. You know where to find us (and if you don’t, keep reading).

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Storing and Revisiting Your Old Ideas

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Ronald Young Jr dive into the work of PKM (Personal Knowledge Management) and the different means of gathering one's thoughts. June, a PKM evangelist, breaks down some of the many apps and processes for collating one’s notes into an organized web of insights and connections. She also explains German scholar Niklas Luhmann’s system of capturing and regenerating ideas with a zettelkasten. Both hosts agree that while new systems of organization can be wonderful tools, obsessing over them can eat away some of your creative time.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Hosts: Ronald Young Jr. and June Thomas

Well, Now: Doctors Agree: Obesity is a Disease. The Public Needs to Catch Up.

Wed, 12 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Ever since it showed up on the Body Mass Index, the label “obese” has been used to judge and often shame people with larger bodies.

Medical providers, family and friends, even strangers make assumptions about fat people’s health solely based on their size.

At the same time, excess quantities of fat can lead to poor health outcomes such as high blood pressure, heart disease, and diabetes.

Over the decades, medical associations have evolved their understanding of obesity. The American Medical Association, the National Institutes of Health, and the American Obesity Society all classify obesity as a disease requiring medical treatment.

How does that change the way medical providers care for their obese and overweight patients? And does that mean people with fatter bodies can now face less discrimination?

As a part of a series of ongoing conversations on Well, Now on weight and health, we discuss the current medical definition of obesity and how to treat it with Dr. Angela Fitch, former Associate Director of the Massachusetts General Hospital Weight Center.

If you liked this episode, check out: The Isolation of a Life-Threatening Diagnosis

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with oversight from Alicia Montgomery.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com

How To!: Move Past Your Toxic Ex

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

After Lin met Dave, their lives quickly became entangled. Lin joined Dave’s small business, made much-needed improvements, and charmed Dave’s family. The two also began a romantic relationship that lasted years. When it fizzled, Lin continued working at the company—and eventually uncovered Dave’s lies, deceit, and infidelity. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace welcomes Nina Renata Aron, author of Good Morning, Destroyer of Men’s Souls, to share her own experience exiting a toxic, codependent relationship and explain how she came to terms with it.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Do Divorce Right and How To Forgive Someone Who Isn’t Sorry

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: Do We Need a Stroller for International Travel?

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about whether it’s really necessary to lug around strollers and car seats during an international trip. The answer is complicated, but among other tips, we do recommend the following:

We also dole out a round of regular recommendations and share some stuff that listeners have been loving – and for our Slate Plus listeners, we’ll imagine our own personal parenting training montages (shoutout to listener Aili and her son Silas).

Jamilah recommends: A hotel staycation (but voluntary)

Elizabeth recommends: Magic Puzzle Company Puzzles

Zak recommends: Taki

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Bailed on a Family Trip Because My Plane Seat Didn’t Have Enough Legroom—Am I a Monster? Help!

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Farhad Manjoo (author of Slate’s r/Farhad column) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how a 72-year-old introvert can become more social, when it’s okay to pop up unannounced at a romantic partner’s house and expect to have dinner, and whether you’re being unreasonable for not attending a family vacation because you didn’t get the upgrade you requested.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: My Daughter’s Friend Is Just So Loud

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth help a listener who, for a few reasons, is at the end of her rope with a friend of her daughter’s. The friend is sweet… she’s just LOUD, to the point that the listener doesn’t want to drive the girls around anymore. Where does she go from here?

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a dip in the creek.

Listeners, we want your advice – and your questions – about how to prevent the dreaded summer backslide. You know where to find us (and if you don’t, keep reading).

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Money Advice for Freelancers

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

This week on Working Overtime, host Isaac Butler talks to AJ Ayers, a personal finance expert who specializes in helping creative people manage their money better. In the interview, AJ offers tips on everything from retirement accounts and taxes to homeownership and family planning.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: The Isolation of a Life-Threatening Diagnosis

Wed, 05 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Each week, we’ve explored wellness from different perspectives, but we haven’t talked about what it means to live a full life while grappling with the real possibility of death.

Most of us hope for a full, long life with “good” health. But a serious, possibly fatal diagnosis changes everything: Our relationships with work, loved ones, and even the way we see ourselves.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we speak with author, journalist, and artist Suleika Jaouad. Many learned about her work in the Oscar-nominated documentary American Symphony – which chronicled her marriage to musician Jon Baptiste as his career soared and her leukemia re-emerged.

But Suleika began documenting illness and identity long before starring in an award-winning film.

If you liked this episode, check out: “People Feel Like They’re Drowning”: The Long COVID Survivors Left Behind

Well, Now is hosted by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Feller and Dr. Kavita Patel.

Editing and podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com

How To!: Be Lonely

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Paula has a big family, lots of friends, and a girlfriend she adores. For most of her life, however, she has experienced an underlying and unshakeable sense of loneliness. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Kristen Radtke, the writer and illustrator behind Seek You: A Journey Through American Loneliness, to talk with Paula about an emotion that’s hard to talk about—and even harder to confront.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Find Your People and How To Survive a Silent Retreat.

How To! is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. Derek John is our executive producer.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding: How Moms Became Our Social Safety Net

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak sits down with Jessica Calarco, whose new book – Holding It Together – is out tomorrow. The two walk through the ways in which women, and especially mothers, replace a social safety net in the United States… and, more importantly, why it doesn’t have to be this way.

We also dole out a round of recommendations – and for our Slate Plus listeners, we continue Zak and Jessica’s conversation and ask Jamilah and Elizabeth what they think their unpaid labor is holding together.

Elizabeth recommends: Brain Inflamed

Zak recommends: Play your favorite music videos for your kids. Like this.

Jamilah recommends: If (in theaters now!)

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I’m 39 and in Love With a 67-year-old. I’m Concerned About Judgment From Others. Help!

Fri, 31 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Emily McCombs (the Deputy Editor of HuffPost Personal) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about when to confront someone who’s been consistently flaky, how to navigate dating across a 28-year age difference, and whether to tell a friend it appears they peed their pants.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Remembering Someone Your Kids Won’t Meet

Thu, 30 May 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener email about how to keep someone’s memory alive. This listener is pregnant for the first time and thrilled, but also can’t stop thinking about her late brother… and all the uncle stuff he won’t get to do. We’ll offer some tips for navigating grief and helping little ones remember family members they’ll never know.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a brush with ugly racism that got brushed right off.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: When Life Gets in the Way

Thu, 30 May 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Ronald Young Jr, unpack how to deal with life’s unexpected challenges and their effect on your work. A car accident, a sick child, or even a bad breakup can seem to be a bolt from the blue when you’re not expecting it. Currently, Ronald and his family are caring for his sick mom, and jumping between work and care can be a massive challenge. Both hosts discuss how to communicate your needs to a supervisor and how to take the time you need outside of work.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: How Doulas Make Childbirth Safer For Everyone

Wed, 29 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Everyone has a different birth experience.

Obstetricians and midwives are well-known members of the birth team. Along with the pregnant person, they are central to labor and delivery.

Doulas are lesser known, but they can provide essential support for pregnant women and their loved ones.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now: What to expect when working with a doula with Latham Thomas, founder of Mama Glow.

If you liked this episode, check out: Overcoming a Complicated Pregnancy

Well, Now is hosted by Maya Feller, CDN and Kavita Patel, MD.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com.

How To!: Take a Gap Year

Tue, 28 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Leo is a high-achieving high school senior on the cusp of graduation. Growing up in a rigorous school environment he faced endless pressure to follow the expected track of attending an elite university and eventually securing a good job. Yet, Leo feels slightly unfulfilled and is curious what an alternative path might look like. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace is joined by Abby Falik, founder of the The Flight School, and organization dedicate to helping students and parents rethink and reshape their education. Abby shares her insights and experience guiding students through gap years so they find their own way.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Parent Less

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Dear Prudence: My Nonreligious Boyfriend Is Meeting My Ultra-Religious Parents. Help!

Fri, 24 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Dear Prudence editors Paola de Varona and Bryan Lowder join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to deal with a spouse who says he needs friends but has already alienated yours, how to introduce a partner to religious parents, and why guests who spent a free weekend at a lake house would feel entitled to pack up all the leftovers and take them home.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Do My Kids Need Their Own Rooms?

Thu, 23 May 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener email about whether an 8 and 5 year old should still be sharing a room. The basement is a communal space, and it’s also home to some creepy crawlies… but is it worth making that work in the name of some separation?

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a postcard from a spat with a sleepy toddler.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now | “As Little Regulation as Guns”: How Social Media Hurts Youth Mental Health

Wed, 22 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Youth mental health has hit a crisis point.

Just last year, U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy released an advisory connecting young people’s use of social media with adverse mental health outcomes.

But Murthy and other public health leaders are fighting back, including New York City Health Commissioner Ashwin Vasan. He’s leading the charge against social media platforms like Meta, TikTok, Snapchat and YouTube through litigation and legislation.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now – holding social media companies accountable for the youth mental health crisis.

If you liked this episode, check out: Is it Burnout? Or, Do You Have a Busy Brain?

Well, Now is hosted by Kavita Patel, MD and Maya Feller, RD.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com

How To!: Confront a Vindictive Neighbor with Tig Notaro (Encore)

Tue, 21 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

The trouble began when Sarah put a fern in front of her new condo. Nice, right? The woman who lives in the unit above didn’t think so, and without warning sent Sarah a slew of passive-aggressive notes. Sarah thinks it’s all a big misunderstanding, but now her neighbor refuses to even speak to her. Sarah is wracked with anxiety, struggling to sleep, and contemplating moving out. On this episode of How To!, we turn to stand-up comedian Tig Notaro, a cancer survivor and host of the new advice podcast Don’t Ask Tig, to help Sarah approach the situation with humor and clarity. When things don’t go your way, Tig says, you have to take back control of your own story. What would the hero in your favorite movie do? For Sarah, this means gardening with headphones and the Rocky theme on the soundtrack.

Do you have a problem that could use some humorous advice? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Talk to Strangers.”

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Care & Feeding: Should My Kid Stop Wandering Around Naked?

Mon, 20 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth answer a question from our Slate Parenting Facebook group about a 7-year-old who’s at home being naked at home. It’s not really a problem right now, but with puberty around the corner… will it be?

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we offer suggestions for mess-free (or mess-minimal) car snacks.

Zak recommends: The Daily Dad Newsletter by Ryan Holiday

Lucy recommends: Planet of the Apes

Elizabeth recommends: Murdle Puzzle Book

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Mom Forgot to Take Her Medicine and “Accidentally” Made Racist Remarks. Help!

Fri, 17 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Kiese Laymon (author of Long Division, How to Slowly Kill Yourself in America, and Heavy: An American Memoir) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to convince your strict religious parents to let you go to an out-of-state college, whether to report a coworker’s insensitive gym behavior to HR, and how to deal with a mom who forgets to take her medication and immediately uses a racial slur.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Why I’m Choosing Single Motherhood

Thu, 16 May 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah sits down with author Ruby Russell to talk about her new book, Doing It All: The Social Power of Single Motherhood. They talk about the ways that single mothers upend the patriarchy — and why that’s a good thing.

Lucy, Elizabeth, and Zak also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — including an epic saga involving a hospital in the Philippines.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Keeping the Faith

Thu, 16 May 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler are joined by author Justin Taylor, to discuss the process behind his new novel, Reboot. Taylor published numerous short pieces, as well as a memoir, during the years he spent writing this novel, yet it took multiple iterations before this book felt right. Later they share tips for persevering through long creative processes and discuss how to find the finish line.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: Is Biohacking a Scam?

Wed, 15 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

For many Americans, wellness is about mitigating and navigating disease. They’re looking for reliable ways to live healthier, longer lives.

But some are thinking even bigger than that and looking beyond what doctors view as the standard lifespan: 10, 20, 30, even 40 years beyond it. These people are often called “biohackers.”

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we talk to someone who’s considered the “Father of Biohacking” Dave Asprey on what exactly this movement is, and whether is it feasible for people who aren’t ridiculously rich.

If you liked this episode, check out: We Don’t Need to Cure Autism

Well, Now is hosted by Kavita Patel and Maya Feller.

Podcast production by Ahyiana Angel and Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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Outward: Evolving Our Social Scripts - Queer Advice with Mathew Rodriguez

Wed, 15 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

This week Bryan and Jules are joined by new contributor Mathew Rodriguez for a round of advice. They tackle who gets to use ‘they’, raising polite and inclusive kids, and help one listener navigate the aggressive gender politics of straight weddings.

How To!: Handle Feedback at Work

Tue, 14 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Leigh is a stellar employee by all accounts. She deeply cares about the company’s mission. She gets along with her coworkers. She delivers great work. So why does every critique cut deep and leave her questioning her worth? On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin consults the columnist Alison Green, who answers tricky workplace questions at the advice site, Ask a Manager. Alison helps Leigh figure out what to do with criticism, forge better relationships with higher-ups, and even give better feedback.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Imposter Syndrome Your Superpower and How To Build Trust With Co-Workers

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: Conquering the Messy Bedroom

Mon, 13 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth answer a question from our Slate Parenting Facebook group about the eternal struggle of the messy preteen bedroom. It seems like no matter what you do, there just keeps being stuff. Everywhere. So, we’ll offer some practical suggestions to help.

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we muse on how anyone expects anyone to manage a summer camp schedule.

Elizabeth recommends: 2 Player Games: The Challenge (google play & app store)

Zak recommends: Play Cafes like Kidcadia

Jamilah recommends: the Slate Parenting Facebook Group

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I’m Queer and Here—Just Not to My Parents. Help!

Fri, 10 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Dan Savage (of the Savage Love sex advice column and Savage Lovecast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to approach a serious relationship with someone who lets her pre-teens sleep in her bed, how to share with your parents you’re omnisexual, and how to tell your sibling you think they’re in an emotionally abusive marriage.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Mom Guilt Is Real, but So Is Healing

Thu, 09 May 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: we present two very special segments celebrating the lifelong journey of being a mom.

First up: Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh is back for mini therapy sessions with Jamilah, Lucy and Elizabeth — who each share a nagging guilt they have about being a mom (and a daughter).

Then: Zak, our resident dad, sit down with Luisa, mother of our very own Lucy Lopez. The two talk about maternal instincts, growing up in Cuba, and having faith in the competence of your kids… and yourself.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Overcoming a Complicated Pregnancy

Wed, 08 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

For many, pregnancy is a time of heightened and joyful anticipation. There are doctor’s appointments, tests, preparation…All with a focus on bringing home a healthy baby.

The other side of pregnancy–the complications–is not readily discussed.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now we discuss all of these potential roadblocks with economist Emily Oster. In her latest book The Unexpected: Navigating Pregnancy During and After Complications, she arms patients with the data they need to advocate for themselves in their appointments.

If you enjoyed this episode, check out: How a Former Surgeon General Took on a $5,000 ER Bill

Well, Now is hosted by Kavita Patel, MD and Maya Feller, MS, RD, CDN.

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Flirt With Confidence

Tue, 07 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

When Allen’s gym crush asked him—point blank—if he liked someone, he panicked. Should he tell her? What should he do if she wasn’t actually flirting with him? On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin finds out what happened and brings in Jeff Guenther, therapist and author of the new book Big Dating Energy. (You might know him as TherapyJeff from TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube.) Jeff gives Allen the tools to flirt more authentically, stick to his non-negotiables, and lean into his self-confidence.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Ditch the Apps & Actually Find a Date

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: Should a 6-Year-Old Go on Solo Walks?

Mon, 06 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Lucy answer a question about a very independent kindergartener. This member of our Slate Parenting Facebook group has a six year old who’s taking solo walks around the neighborhood… and while his parents are cool with it, the neighbors aren’t. How can this mom field questions about why her kid is out by himself – and should he be out, at all?

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we debrief on Lucy’s first prom mom experience… and reminisce on proms of yore.

Lucy recommends: Having your kids interview older folks

Zak recommends: Kids clothes shopping at Salvation Army

Jamilah recommends: Doing It All: The Social Power of Single Motherhood by Ruby Russell

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Brother Is a Budding Alex Jones. Help!

Fri, 03 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Heben Nigatu (HBO’s Game Theory with Bomani Jones and BuzzFeed podcast Another Round) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when a group chat explodes over allegations about offensive humor, when to cut a narcissistic stepsister from the wedding guest list, and how to relate to a little brother who’s openly sharing his wild conspiracy theories and alt-right views across social media.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Kid-Friendly Kitchen Adventures (feat. Priya Krishna)

Thu, 02 May 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak sits down with Priya Krishna, New York Times bestselling author of Indian-ish, to talk about her new cookbook for kids: Priya’s Kitchen Adventures. We’ll talk about formative international foods, picking up new culinary skills, and – of course – how to get picky eaters onboard.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including a comedy fail, and a Seder community triumph.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Staying Accountable To Yourself

Thu, 02 May 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler, chew over accountability and how to stay disciplined while working without a supervisor. Both hosts grew up procrastinating through their school years, but they discovered the importance of deadlines and turning work in on time through their respective careers. They also share tips like joining accountability groups, being transparent with your family, and asking colleagues to review different stages of your work.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: How a Former Surgeon General Took on a $5,000 ER Bill

Wed, 01 May 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Who hasn’t received necessary medical care and got a shockingly high bill for it weeks later?

Even with insurance, many Americans will experience this at some point–including one of the most recognizable doctors in the country: the U.S. surgeon general.

Earlier this year, Dr. Jerome Adams – who served as surgeon general for the Trump Administration – received a bill of nearly $5,000 after being treated for dehydration. What was his strategy for fighting it?

On this week’s episode of Well, Now: How to fight back when you receive a surprising medical bill.

If you liked this episode, check out: Ending Racism in Healthcare

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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Death, Sex & Money: You’re at a Crossroads. We’re Here to Help.

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

To make this episode we asked you, our listeners, if you had any questions about a big life transition you were preparing for where you needed some advice.

We received a collection of questions that really trace the full life cycle of adulthood. We heard from those of you just starting out, wondering about new careers and family structures. We heard from those of you in midlife encountering destabilizing shake-ups in your routine, like a divorce, or a sudden disability. And we heard from you at the end of your working lives, wondering when to retire, and also about how to find purpose when life is no longer organized around a 9-5.

To offer advice, we convened a panel of Slate writers and thinkers, Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, What Next TBD host Lizzie O'Leary, and Working co-host Ronald Young Jr.

Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, Slate Plus! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus.

Podcast production by Zoe Azulay

How To!: Carvell Wallace on Another Word for Love

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode of How To!: co-hosts Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace sit down to talk about his new memoir, Another Word for Love. In the book, Carvell’s examination of his own journey becomes a reflection on how so many of us spend our lives trying to become whole again. He and Courtney discuss his approach to writing and interviewing, what it means to be seen as good (versus actually being good), and why it’s often so hard to forgive yourself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Find Genuine Happiness

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: That Nagging Feeling That You’re Bad at Parenting

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth give a pep talk to a listener who’s not sure she’s doing this right. Her toddler is behind his peers by a few metrics, and this parent knows it’s not a big deal… but the thought still lingers.

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, Elizabeth has a dilemma.

Elizabeth recommends: Can I Recycle This by Jennie Romer (Adult Version & Kids Version)

Zak recommends: When Babies Rule the Dinner Table

Jamilah recommends: Baby Reindeer — and not getting airport gift shop souvenirs.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: My In-Laws Have Guns. I Don’t Trust Them.

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a listener who’s worried about firearms in their in-laws’ home. They have a strained relationship already, and a recent argument led to threatening words that are lingering. If this parent wouldn’t let their kids be in a friend’s house with guns, should family be an exception?

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including two triumphs about the beauty of abandoning ship.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Living and Loving With OCD (feat. Allison Raskin)

Wed, 24 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

A vital component of wellness is taking care of our mental health. But mental wellness is more than just drinking water, doing yoga, and going for a walk.

Author and podcaster Allison Raskin has lived most of her life with diagnosed mental illness.

By navigating her mental health journey over the years, she’s been able to find community and humor through her diagnoses, particularly by writing about her experience with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

On this week’s episode of Well, Now – navigating wellness while living with mental illness.

Further reading: If My Mental Health Bothers You, I Understand

If you liked this episode, check out: Is it Burnout? Or, Do You Have a Busy Brain?

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry and Ahyiana Angel with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Find Your People After a Mental Health Diagnosis

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

A few years ago, Leah was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Her condition has posed many serious challenges, including how to start and maintain friendships. She wants to build a rich social life, but her symptoms—and the stigmas surrounding mental health—often get in the way. When Leah does meet a new person, she struggles with how (and when) to talk about her diagnosis and feels intense pressure to be “the perfect friend.” On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings on psychotherapist Dr. Aleksandra Rayska for a frank conversation about managing expectations, celebrating new achievements, and just going easy on yourself.

If you liked this episode check out: How to Navigate Adult Autism.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: When – and Why – Are Teens Using Cannabis?

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak sits down with Dr. Nicole Schultz of UC Davis to talk about teens and marijuana. It’s a different world than when we were growing up — so we have Dr. Schultz share her understanding of why and how teens are using cannabis.

Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, our mom-hosts circle up to talk about how they remember being talked to about drugs… and whether DARE worked on, well, anyone.

Elizabeth recommends: iHome Slim USB Wall Charger

Lucy recommends: Have your kids make a movie

Jamilah recommends: Jane The Virgin

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Wife’s Bipolar Diagnosis Is Creating A Rift in Our Marriage. Help!

Fri, 19 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Bassey Ikpi (New York Times bestselling essay collection, I’m Telling the Truth but I’m Lying) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about an international sisters’ trip gone awry, a husband’s struggle to live with his wife’s mental health issues, and an uncomfortable situation between coworkers.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Ask A Weed Mom

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah answer questions from our Slate Parenting Facebook group about using marijuana as a mom. As 4/20 approaches, we decided there was no better time to tackle big-picture questions about substance use… and practical stuff too, like where to hide your stash with kids in the house.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including two different, unrelated fails involving birds.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To!: ‘Do the Work’ of Racial Justice

Tue, 16 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

“Doing the work” is a phrase often heard when talking about racial justice. We heard it a lot after the death of George Floyd in 2020. And we need to continue talking about it—but there’s an important aspect of “the work” that’s been missing. On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin brings in Garrett Bucks, author of The Right Kind of White and founder of The Barnraisers Project, to help Elizabeth Doerr talk to fellow white parents about the implications of opting out of their kids’ public school.

If you liked this episode check out: “How To Fight Racism in Your Town”

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How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: Parenting While Polyamorous

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth sits down with Jess Daylover and her metamour, Ash, of the Remodeled Love podcast, to talk all things polyamory and parenting. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about what polyamory is and isn’t — so we think you’ll love hearing about how it works as a parenting co-op.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, Jess and Ash stick around for a round of parenting yeas and nays.

Elizabeth recommends: Reusable Water Balloons

Zak recommends: Kasey Musgraves’ song, The Architect

Lucy recommends: Grow some stuff in your garden!

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Lost a Lot of Weight and Now I Enjoy Being a Mean Girl. Help!

Fri, 12 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Anna Sale (host of Death Sex and Money) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to navigate being the friend who always initiates plans, how to handle entitled stepdaughters moving into your home, and how to stop being a mean girl to other moms.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Longtime Listener, First-Time Parent

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a longtime listener who’s expecting her first baby. We’ll offer suggestions for how to manage your whole life changing in an instant – plus, enjoying the before-times, and staying afloat in the aftermath.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — with nary a fail in sight this week.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Well, Now: Most Skincare Products are BS. Here Are the Facts.

Wed, 10 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

As we approach the warmer months and start spending more time outside, healthy skin couldn’t be more important. So how can we best protect our body’s largest organ?

Feel free to stock up on all the products for a 10-step routine if you want. But the reality is healthy skin requires just three products. The rest is kind of BS.

This week on Well, Now we talk all things skin health with Dr. Adarsh Vijay Mudgil, a dermatologist and dermatopathologist based in New York City.

If you liked this episode, check out: Spring Cleaning Your Medicine Cabinet

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry and Ahyiana Angel with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Bring a Big Idea to Life

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Mia is a professional violinist. She’s played in symphonies. She’s played in improv groups. She’s played as a form of personal exploration. But now she’s taking on a big, conceptual project that may have nothing to do with music. Instead, she wants to create a piece rooted in connection. The only problem? She doesn’t know what she wants to create. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings in storyteller extraordinaire Michaela Leslie-Rule. Michaela talks Mia through the process of bringing a potentially overwhelming idea to life. Check out Michaela’s work with Spiritual Technologies Project, the group we mention in the episode.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Put Your Town on the Map or How To Be an Artist and Not Starve.

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How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: What’s the Deal With American Baby Food?

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a Swedish member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group is getting ready to visit the U.S. with her baby and is wondering about all things puréed, squished, and jarred. We’re here to help.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we convene a meeting of the Parents Of Picky Eaters Support Group.

Elizabeth recommends: The Fish Doorbell & Fish Doorbell News Report

Zak recommends: Busy Ideas for Bored Kids: Activity Cards

Lucy recommends: The Regime on Max

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: From Choice Words: Live in Fear or Love? (with Karamo)

Fri, 05 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

We’re bringing you an episode of Choice Words with Samantha Bee from our friends at Lemonada Media. In this episode, Sam speaks with Queer Eye’s Karamo about the biggest choices he’s made in his life, his unconventional journey to fatherhood, and how he learned to stop living in fear. They talk about his experience as the first openly gay Black man on reality TV (remember The Real World: Philadelphia?!), how his social work background helped him land his iconic role on Queer Eye, and the best ways to invite vulnerability in men.

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Care & Feeding: Will My Picky Eater Ruin Our Trip?

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 18:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak put the “feeding” in Care & Feeding by answering a question about traveling with a picky eater. Going to Kenya is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity… so should a kid with an American kid’s palate be the reason it doesn’t happen?

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including the sticky situation of managing a young teen’s flirty texts to her peers.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Creator Mode vs. Editor Mode

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts Ronald Young Jr. and Isaac Butler take on listener Bob’s question about how to shift your brain from editor mode to creator mode. Creating new work can be invigorating, but then having to go back and self-edit your creations can zap your creative drive. Ronald and Isaac speak about their experiences with stepping away from work and exploring different kinds of art to reinspire themselves after a taxing editing process.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Well, Now: Spring Cleaning Your Medicine Cabinet

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Spring is a time for fresh starts. For a lot of us, that means spring cleaning.

But don’t worry, we’re not talking about the whole house.

This week, the Well, Now team is spring cleaning our medicine cabinets. What are some medicinal must-haves, and what things should we definitely toss?

Joining us to help tidy up is Dr. Mauricio Gonzalez, a board-certified physician in internal, emergency and obesity medicine.

If you liked this episode, check out: What “Wellness” Is and Isn’t

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

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How To!: Crack Up Your Coworkers (Encore)

Tue, 02 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Last week we learned about using the four different styles of humor to your advantage, and who makes a good target for a joke. But what if you read the room wrong and absolutely bomb? On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, we resume our conversation with Naomi Bagdonas, co-author of Humor, Seriously!, and Michael Terry, the most hilarious hedge fund guy we’ve ever met. They swap stories about office jokes that fell flat, how to navigate a suddenly tense situation and what to do if your humor accidentally offends someone (especially your boss).

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Be Funny” with comedian Gary Gulman.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer’s website.

Do you have a joke that killed at the office, or totally bombed? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001.

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Care & Feeding: Why Can’t I Find (Or Keep) A Babysitter?

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s having trouble securing a babysitter for their toddler… and starting to resign themselves to just not going anywhere. We’ll talk about what might be causing the end of the teenage babysitter, and some childcare solutions that might be worth trying instead.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we’ll share some memories of what it was like to be babysat, all those years ago.

Elizabeth recommends: Solar Eclipse Glasses; NASA Solar Eclipse Resources

Zak recommends: Ninja Classes

Jamilah recommends: Quiet On Set on MAX

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Partner Sticks Her Finger in Food to Taste Test It. Help!

Fri, 29 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Dan Pashman (The Sporkful and Anything’s Pastable) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to handle a person who tastes food in an unsanitary fashion and deeply annoys you while you’re trying to cook in a tiny kitchen, what to do when your dinner party invitations aren’t reciprocated, and whether two people with extremely different eating habits can have a happy life together.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: My Son’s Getting Ready to Walk Home Alone

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s getting ready to have their 10-year-old walk home from school. Communication without a phone is one thing… but what about tracking and other bells and whistles?

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including a hotly-anticipated update about Red Lobster.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To!: Make Humor Your Superpower (Encore)

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Did you know that we, as a society, have fallen off a comedy cliff? No joke. Studies have shown that we largely stop laughing when we enter our mid-twenties, which is a shame because delighting in humor has a ton of health benefits. Plus, being perceived as funny can actually make people think you’re more intelligent, more competent, and even better looking! So on this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, we bring on Naomi Bagdonas, co-author of Humor, Seriously!, and Michael Terry, an amateur comedian who is working in the funniest of places: high finance. Combined, they have decades of experience harnessing the power humor and applying it to the workplace.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor” with Tig Notaro.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer’s website.

Do you have a question with no easy answers? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.

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Care & Feeding: Helping Little Wild Things Learn To Read

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Lucy offer some quick advice to a listener who’s wondering how to help a young student with possible ADHD focus up, particularly about homework.

Then, Elizabeth sits down with Australian author Sally Rippin to discuss her book Wild Things — the story of her neurodivergent son’s struggles in school, and why it’s important to help kids learn when they need it.

Zak, Jamilah and Lucy also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, Elizabeth and Sally continue their conversation by sharing some recommendations for young readers.

Jamilah recommends: The 50/50 Solution The Surprisingly Simple Choice that Makes Moms, Dads and Kids Happier After a Split by Emma Johnson

Lucy recommends: WomensHistoryMonth.gov

Zak recommends: School of Rock (2003)

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Parents Are Flaunting Their Wealth While I’m Drowning in Debt. Help!

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Joel Anderson (host of Slow Burn and writer of Emotional Investment) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about when to stop funding a “train wreck” daughter’s lifestyle, how to deal with watching your parents take expensive vacations when you’re broke, and whether to seek replacement costs when a friend’s drunk uncle destroys your expensive guitar.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: A Teacher Weighs In On Grades

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Lucy, Jamilah and Zak ask a teacher! We heard your desire to hear from the professionals about education… and we’re so excited to welcome dad, 9th grade English teacher, and longtime C&F listener Jeff Olsen Biebighauser to the show. We’ll talk through grades, homework, and the art of a parent-teacher conference.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails, of course — including stories about birthday dinners at Red Lobster, low-budget birthday parties, and the advent of the hair tantrum.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Finding Your Why

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, the hosts Ronald Young Jr. and June Thomas, take out their microscopes and examine what gives them purpose and where it comes from. For Ronald, finding creative independence led him to self-publish his own podcast, despite the financial risks, while June moved across the pond to write her book. With any creative pursuits it's important to know why we’re doing the thing we’re doing so we can understand our goals and what sacrifices we might have to make to achieve them.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process?

Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Hear Me Out: You Probably Don’t Need Therapy Forever

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 07:03:00 -0000

On today’s episode of Hear Me Out: talk it out.

Talking about therapy isn’t taboo anymore — and that’s great, because everyone deserves help when they need it. The question is… do you really need it?

Dr. Richard Friedman of Weill Cornell Medicine wrote a piece for The Atlantic last month, headlined ”Plenty of People Could Quit Therapy Right Now.” So why is that the case… and what are the consequences of getting therapy when you don’t need it?

Dr. Friedman joins us to discuss.

If you have thoughts you want to share, or an idea for a topic we should tackle, you can email the show: hearmeout@slate.com

Podcast production by Maura Currie.

You can skip all the ads in Hear Me Out by joining Slate Plus! Sign up now at slate.com/hearmeoutplus for just $15 a month for your first three months.

How To!: Help a Loved One With Dementia

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Forgetfulness. Repetitiveness. Confusion. Dementia is a long, painful road for both the person living with it, caregivers, and their additional loved ones. Mara’s mom just received her diagnosis and Mara is wondering what is next for their family. She turned to our host Courtney Martin for guidance—since Courtney is going through the same thing with her father.

On this episode of How To!: Courtney and Mara are joined by Tami Anastasia, author of Essential Strategies for the Dementia Caregiver. As a dementia consultant, Tami helps families support each other and find the beautiful moments in this painful journey.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding: Does Identity Need To Be Taught?

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 07:03:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Lucy answer a question from the Slate Parenting Facebook group… about whether identity is implicit or explicit in the way we raise kids. This mom is “an invisible minority three times over…” and musing on whether her kid would pick up on those things, even if she didn’t talk about it.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, our three mom hosts share the things they miss about the baby and toddler years.

Jamilah recommends: Boarders on Tubi

Lucy recommends: Brillando Books

Elizabeth recommends: Dixit Board Game

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Ex Had Sex With My Brother. Help!

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Michael Arceneaux (I Can’t Date Jesus and I Finally Bought Some Jordans) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about an interracial couple’s debate over African-centered home decor, how to cope with homesickness for a place you don’t actually want to live, and whether it’s fair to cut off an ex.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: “You’re Mad At Me” and Other Big Feelings

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: first, a quick update about our discussions on grades. TL;DR: We hear you, and we’re already working on ways to do better.

Then: Lucy, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a listener who wrote in looking for advice on a 7-year-old’s big feelings. This girl is showing some signs of negative self-talk, catastrophic thinking, and anxiety. How can her parents help de-escalate… and is it time to revisit therapy?

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, including stories about magnet schools, sibling love, and standing on the table.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

How To!: Say What You’re Thinking

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

Shannon is set to become an ordained minister—but she has always struggled with public speaking. Here’s the thing: She’s fine in front of large gatherings. In smaller gatherings, however, she mentally “freezes up” and rambles until she regains her train of thought. As Shannon prepares to start interacting with a congregation, Courtney Martin sits her down with former How To! host Charles Duhigg, author of Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection. Charles gives Shannon the tools to understand others and be understood herself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Speak Up So Others Listen

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding: Should I Allow Compliments About How My Kid Looks?

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux answer a question that someone actually posed to Jamilah on Instagram… about whether it’s okay to entertain compliments about your kid’s appearance. A facilitator at school has suggested redirecting to character compliments when this toddler — the only Black kid in her class — is praised for her appearance. But is there place for just calling a cute kid a cute kid?

We’ll also do a round of recommendations. And then, in the Slate Plus realm, we’re talking about a piece in NYTMag… asserting that the teen subculture as we knew it is dead. In its place? The *~ aesthetic ~*

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends: Get a 64 oz water jug

Zak recommends: Art Hub For Kids YouTube Channel

Elizabeth recommends: UV Detection Stickers for Sunscreen (link to uVify)

Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Want People to Shut Up! Help!

Fri, 08 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Aubrey Gordon (who you may also know as “Your Fat Friend”) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to handle unwanted comments about Ozempic-fueled weight loss, how to get people to stop talking so much, and how to deal with the stress of a unconventional—and potentially disruptive—wedding guest.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Listeners Graded Our Take On Grades

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah open the Care & Feeding mailbag to talk, once again, about grades. A lot of you have thoughts about our take on grades (namely, that they’re bullsh*t), so we thought it was time to revisit the conversation… but include you, too.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, including stories about Hawaii, the Wiz, and an ongoing puke episode.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Working: Getting Paid On Time

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, the hosts Ronald Young Jr. and June Thomas talk money, finances, and getting paid as a freelancer in a tough economy. Filling out invoices the right way or sending a payment reminder email to an employer can turn into a sticky situation. Ronald and June recount their own frustrating experiences with not getting paid on time and how best to avoid them in the future.

Do you have questions or advice of your own about the creative process? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Rethink Retirement

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0000

When Patti retired a few months ago, everyone told her she would love the freedom and flexibility that came with leaving the workforce. Not so. The transition has left Patti grieving the loss of her routine and sense of purpose—and she’s wondering how to find fulfillment in life’s (gulp!) third act. On today’s episode, Courtney Martin welcomes Brad Stulberg, author of Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing—Including You. Brad helps Patti rethink this massive transformation and emerge from it stronger.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Start Over at 60.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding: Kids Are Loud. Will Earplugs Help Me Cope?

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux talk about cutting through the noise. A member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group recently posted asking about earplugs — but there are lots of strategies for tuning out, and dealing with, the noise and energy of kids in your house.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we discuss a program in Philadelphia that pays parents to handle school dropoff and pickup… and what other tasks we wish we were getting paid for.

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends: The End Of Love, and keeping a book of your kid’s quips

Zak recommends: Father of the Bride

Elizabeth recommends: Rainbow Making Window Clings

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: Am I a Bad Father If I Don't Want to Acknowledge My Kid Publicly? Help!

Fri, 01 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Jay Smooth (Underground Railroad and Think Twice: Michael Jackson) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to find empathy for deeply unreasonable people who are totally wrong, how to navigate becoming a parent by accident, and how to reach out to support a friend without being “a cringey white person.”

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: The Pop Culture Moms Who Changed Us

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah sits down with Andie and Sabrina of Pop Culture Moms, ABC’s newest podcast. The three talk through the origins of the show (and Andie and Sabrina’s friendship), and the onscreen moms who shaped our understanding of motherhood.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails… including some stories about learning to shower, a shower of [redacted bodily fluid], and choosing clothes for a preteen.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Outward: Polyamory and Other Non-monogamous Advice

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

From 52 first dates to 8 boyfriends at once, Ashley Ray is a poly expert here to answer your relationship questions and demystify some poly terms. Today, Bryan and Ashley dive into the perils of unicorn hunters, metamour drama, and what to do with jealous feelings.

Email us at outwardpod@slate.com

Podcast production by Palace Shaw.

How To!: Let Go of a Friendship

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Our series about friendship ends with a look at, well, how friendships end.

Alice and Grace connected when their kids started dating. They became fast friends whose family lives were intertwined—in a good way. They even joked that they might end up raising grandchildren together. When the kids broke up, Alice and Grace broke apart, too. Now, Alice is wondering whether she should fight for her cherished relationship or just move on. On today’s episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Carissa Potter, an author and artist who founded People I’ve Loved and hosts the podcast Bad at Keeping Secrets.

Miss last week’s episode? Learn how to evolve your friendships. If you’re enjoying this series, check out our other friendship episodes:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding: You Know What? Grades Are Bullsh*t.

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 08:03:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez answer a question from the Slate Parenting Facebook group… wondering what counts as a good grade, and what the consequences should be at home for bad grades. We come in hot with a dismissal of the whole premise. It’s great.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’re assembling our own toddler book tolerability index.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth recommends: This episode of Radio Lab: Zoozve

Lucy recommends: What The Bread Says by Vanessa Garcia

Zak recommends: A Light in the Attic read by Shel Silverstein

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: My Friend Has a Master’s Degree in Lying. Help!

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenny Hagel (Jenny Hagel Gives Advice and Late Night Trash Can with Jenny Hage) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to react to tacky gifts from your ex-husband’s girlfriend, what it means when your date says, “our energies didn’t mesh,” and whether to call out a friend who inexplicably lies about having a master’s degree.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Care & Feeding: Checking Our Voicemails (Romance Edition)

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy dive into the voicemails you left us about last week’s special After Dark episodes. We’re so glad that these got you talking — so we’re closing the loop on Elizabeth and Jeff’s morning routine, and how to deal with mismatched sex drives.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails… including some stories about the Amazon app, desk doodles, and owning your sexuality.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Well, Now: Is it Burnout? Or, Do You Have a Busy Brain?

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Stress is all around us, but that doesn’t mean it needs to run our entire lives. According to Dr. Romie Mushtaq – a neurologist turned corporate wellness consultant – the main culprit behind our culture of stress is what she calls a “busy brain.”

This week on Well, Now Dr. Kavita Patel and Maya Feller, RDN talk with Dr. Mushtaq about curing our busy brains and her latest book The Busy Brain Cure: The Eight-Week Plan to Find Focus, Tame Anxiety and Sleep Again.

If you liked this episode, check out: What We Get Wrong About Love

Podcast production by Vic Whitley-Berry with editorial oversight by Alicia Montgomery.

Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to wellnow@slate.com

How To!: Evolve a Friendship

Tue, 20 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In part two of our series on friendship, we’re looking at how to revitalize a relationship that began in a previous phase of life.

Michelle and Blair became fast friends in grad school. That bond survived graduation, marriages, and even a cross-country move. They now live just a short drive from one another—but things have never felt so distant. Michelle wants to know how to evolve their friendship to be more compatible with the present day. On today’s episode, Courtney Martin brings on Rhaina Cohen, author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. Rhaina will help Michelle—and all of us—prepare for a daunting conversation.

Miss last week’s episode? Learn how to expand your horizons with new, cross-generational friendships. If you’re enjoying this series, check out our other friendship episodes:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Dear Prudence: How Do I Get Over Someone I Never Dated? Help!

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Jenna Wortham (Black Futures and Still Processing) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to get over a crush, what to do about a fiancé’s sneaky candy bar habit, and how to cope when your best friend’s secret social media reveals that she’s an unapologetic bigot who hates pretty much everyone.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding (After Dark): Couples’ Therapy

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On our second C&F After Dark episode: we know that Valentine’s has come and gone. But we’re not done talking about grownup stuff!

Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy each sit down with their spouses — Jeff, Shira and Geno — to talk through a problem they’ve had as a co-parenting couple. The hosts chime in on each others’ problems, too. It’s an advice extravaganza… and, dare we say, a love-fest?

Then, we’ll wrap up by testing how in-sync our hosts are with their spouses. It’s time for a round of the Newlywed Game!

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Death, Sex & Money: This Senator Saved My Love Life

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this special Valentine’s Day episode, Anna revisits a conversation she had with former Senator Al Simpson and his wife Ann, who provided some much-needed relationship advice at a crucial moment in Anna’s life.

And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on Instagram and you can find Anna's newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com.

How To!: Find Friends in Unexpected Places

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Love typically reigns in February. But, here at How To!, we are giving friendship its due. For the next three episodes, we’re going to teach you how to find friends in surprising places, how to grow and change in your friendship during life transitions, and even how to recover from a friendship breakup.

So today we’re starting with a potential cure for our epidemic of loneliness: intergenerational friendships. Emily is in her early 20s and has been rethinking who she considers to be potential friends. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Marci Alboher, a friend and VP at CoGenerate, an organization that brings generations together. She’s got some amazing tips for finding connections across ages.

Make sure to tune in next week to learn how to evolve your friendship. In the meantime, check out:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding (After Dark): Sex and Parenting

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux talk about the birds and the bees.

Parents don’t often get to talk about their sex lives out in the open… So this Valentine’s week, we thought we’d open the door to all things romance.

First up: we answer a listener question about managing different sex drives and all the normal parenting stuff. Then you’ll hear from resident single mom Jamilah about the logistics of swiping and dating with a kid in the house.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’ll basically have a “hating Valentine’s Day” support circle.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth recommends: Super Simple Biology

Jamilah recommends: Grilling your PB&J

Zak recommends: Recording your kids' laughter and dating it.

Care & Feeding is sponsored by Betterhelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/CAREANDFEEDING today to get 10% off your first month.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: Is My Work Husband Keeping Me A Secret From His Wife? Help!

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Gia Peppers (Healed Girl Era and More Than That) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to set boundaries with your friend now boss, how to help a friend who won’t help herself, and to determine if there’s a red flag in a work-spouse relationship.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: My Kid Has Zero Personal Bubble

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah advise the parent of a handsy kindergartener. The little girl comes from a cuddly family and just doesn’t have a sense of personal space… and it’s impacting her school experience as a result. How can a parent help teach the value of a bubble?

Zak found two books that might be helpful: Personal Space Camp and Personal Space Invader.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, and then offer some important perspective on how long kids have been killing time with screens.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Working: Managing New Hires Better

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 07:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, the hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler respond to some recent listener mail. The first message is from a listener who wonders how to find an assistant to help with their workload and tasks around the home. June and Isaac offer up their own experiences and extoll the importance of making time to supervise someone you hire's work. Later they tackle another response from a listener in the publishing world, who found Isaac’s recent remarks about the pitfalls of publishing to be shortsighted.

Do you have a question about creativity? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Be a Mindful Drinker

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Dry January has come and gone, but the conversation about alcohol—and rethinking our relationship with it—is still very much with us. This week’s listener, Natalie, wants to move past the abundance vs. abstinence debate and talk about a third option: thoughtful moderation. In this episode, Courtney Martin brings on journalist Rosamund Dean, author of Mindful Drinking: How Cutting Down Can Change Your Life and Well, Well, Well, a Substack about living better, for longer. She shares how she found moderation through mindfulness—and how you can too.

If you or someone you know is struggling with excessive drinking, consider contacting SAMHSA’s National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP. You can also find a local Alcoholics Anonymous meeting by visiting aa.org.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Care & Feeding: My 4th Grader Needs Help Boredom Busting

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux help a member of our Facebook group brainstorm ways to keep a 4th grader occupied… that don’t revolve around screentime. With busy schedules and parents working from home, it’s hard to be hands-on. But we have some ideas.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’ll dispense some highly subjective wisdom about the best times to do… well, everything.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth recommends: ordering a specialty meal on airplanes

Zak recommends: the Hairstreaq brush

Jamilah recommends: Ugly Betty

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

How To!: Plan Your Next Adventure

Sat, 03 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Travel can be thrilling, relaxing, even life-changing. But planning for your big trip? Not so much. There are so many unknowns: Where to go? When is the best time? How much do you want to spend? In this special episode of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in Brady Binstadt, owner and CEO of the adventure travel company Geographic Expeditions. Brady explains how to pick the right destination, when to splurge, and how to make sure everyone will have an amazing time.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Live Anywhere in the World

Do you have a question we can help you solve? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on How To!. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus to help support our work.

Dear Prudence: Am I a Bigot If I Don’t Want to Date Foreigners? Help!

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Michael Hobbes (If Books Could Kill and Maintenance Phase) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to tell a friend they’re a horrible boss, whether a husband who won’t open the bathroom shades to give the plants light is a problem, and what to do when your friends setting you up on dates makes you think you might be a bigot.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: My Son Doesn’t “Play Like A Boy”

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a member of our Facebook group who’s worried that her son isn’t making friends… because the kids at school separate into gender cliques, and he’s not into roughhousing “boy stuff.” We’ll discuss how to help this kid feel more comfortable joining games — and whether the teacher needs to be looped in.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, and then revisit a conversation we had about a toddler with separation anxiety.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

How To!: Be Free of Body Shame

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

We’re constantly getting bombarded with messages about our bodies: They’re too big. They’re too small. They’re not muscular enough, not curvy enough, and so on and so on. Rebecca has lived in a bigger body all her life and she wants the messaging to stop. She’s done all the things—followed plus-size influencers, deemphasized weight from her health goals, tried to rewire how she thinks about weight. But it’s just not working. In this episode, Carvell Wallace brings in Ronald Young Jr., host of Weight For It. Ronald challenges the notion that we need to love our bodies and helps Rebecca navigate away from stigmatized “fixes” and toward a place of acceptance.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Eat Whatever You Want and How To Love Your Face.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson. Special thanks to Kevin Bendis.

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Care & Feeding: Is My Toddler Having Panic Attacks?

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez help a listener whose toddler has suddenly developed what looks a lot like panic attacks at preschool. Nothing seems wrong at school… but the girl’s dad has been deployed for a while. What’s happening here, and how can you soothe someone so little about such big stuff?

Elizabeth wants to share these resources:

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’ll play a round of parenting Would You Rather.

Recommendations:

Zak recommends: Life On Our Planet

Elizabeth recommends: Timeline Twist Cardgame

Lucy recommends: Orion and the Dark (out Feb 2 in the U.S.!)

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: My Husband Stopped Using Soap and He Stinks. Help!

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Cheryl Strayed (Dear Sugar and Tiny Beautiful Things) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether it’s a good idea to offer to be your platonic best friend’s housewife, how to handle a husband’s disturbing body odors, and what an overachieving eldest millennial daughter can do to find happiness.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Care & Feeding: I Think I Smelled Weed On My 13-Year-Old

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy help a listener who’s pretty sure they smelled marijuana when their young teen and a friend got in the car. The parent is wondering if they should have said something… but if so, what? And when is really too young?

We’ll also go over our week in parenting triumphs and fails — including an update on Henry’s solo trip in Tokyo — and share some listener mail we got about teenage tattoos.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie, with special thanks to Rosemary Belson.

Working: Breaking Stubborn Habits

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler examine their most habitual work routines and think of new ways to improve them. For Isaac, it’s all about switching up your physical workspace, while June likes to audit her creative expenses and get rid of unnecessary subscriptions. Both of them have encountered the anxious feelings of what to do with your day once a big project is complete. They also offer tips for the best interview practices.

Do you have a question about creativity? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Outward: Your Queer Queries, Answered!

Wed, 24 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Danny Lavery and Madeline Ducharme join Bryan in taking on your uniquely queer queries, like- what to do when your facial piercing helps everyone remember your name- but you can’t remember theirs. White lies about homophobia, queer kids coming out, philosophical questions, and more in this latest round of Outward advice.

Podcast production by Palace Shaw.

How To!: Stop Snoring and Breathe Easier (Encore)

Tue, 23 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Andrew snores so badly that his cats won’t sleep in the same room as him. He’s desperate to sleep better at night, and breathe more easily during the day. On this episode of How To!, we bring on James Nestor, author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, to share the history of why we breathe the way we do. Turns out being a “mouth-breather” is more than just an insult, it’s harmful to our health. James gives Andrew some nasal breathing exercises to improve his snoring, anxiety, and overall wellness.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Sleep.”

Do you have a problem you can’t get out of your head? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

Podcast production by Derek John, Rachael Allen, and Rosemary Belson.

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Care & Feeding: Private School Guilt

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez weigh in on a classic question: what school is right for your family? Our letter writers’ kid is gifted and their family has fallen in love with a local private school — but they’re also grappling with some guilt. How important is it to give your kid the best, if it also means putting them in a privilege bubble?

They also share some products and activities they’re loving right now. Then, if you have Slate Plus, is yelling actually useful?

Recommendations:

Zak: De-icing your car in the winter with a warm bag of water.

Lucy: Quarterly family vision boards!

Elizabeth: Sushi Monster App

Reading:

The Truth About Yelling by Emily Edlynn

How (and why) to stop yelling at your kids by Shannon Shelton Miller

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Spend Hours a Day Having Intense Romantic Daydreams. Help!

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, our first-ever married couple, Liz Neely and Ed Yong, join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when you discover your birthday gift and hate it, how to avoid losing respect for a partner who procrastinates, and whether it’s a problem if romantic daydreams are starting to stifle real-life relationships.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Care & Feeding: Mourning Parental Leave Before It’s Even Over

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen and Elizabeth Newcamp welcome Lucy Lopez to the team as our fourth regular host.

The three of them tackle a letter from a listener who’s dreading the return to work after a year off with their newborn. We’ll offer some advice for how to soften the emotional blow and smooth out the logistical snarls — and, how to find new moments to cherish.

We’ll also dive into our week in triumphs and fails, as usual — and then, we’ll share a quick piece of listener mail. Which we’re going to start doing every episode… so why don’t you drop us a line?

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Make Small Talk Feel Big

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Small talk has a bad reputation. It’s boring, shallow, and awkward. Who really wants to talk about the weather, again? But, when done right, it can be a cornerstone of connection. In this episode, Carvell Wallace is joined by Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting. Susan is going to help our listener, Bee, navigate the uncomfortable small talk that she endures everyday at school pickup. Along the way, we’ll learn what questions to have in our back pocket, how to turn small talk into big talk, and even how to extract ourselves from conversations that are going on too long.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Talk to Strangers and How To Make Humor Your Superpower

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Dear Prudence: A DNA Test Revealed a Secret Sibling. Help!

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

This podcast is produced by Se’era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Avoiding The Toxic Comparison Spiral

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux help a listener who’s thrilled that she and her siblings all had kids in 2022 — but, as those babies become toddlers, the temptation to compare the cousins is strong. How can this no-drama mama prevent herself and her siblings from falling into this trap… not to mention grandparents and partners?

We’ll also dive into our week in triumphs and fails, as usual. We’re off this coming Monday for MLK Day, but we’ll see you back in the main feed Thursday.

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: Harnessing All Five Senses

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 07:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler expand their world by exploring the senses we often neglect. Isaac recounts a method acting technique of attaching a memory or feeling to a specific scent, or color from our past. June remembers the sight of a dress made by a friend bringing back the memory of childhood Christmas chocolates. They also dive into other sensory-building exercises and take a walk through the streets of Edinburgh.

Do you have a question about creativity? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Keep Caring Amid Endless Crises

Tue, 09 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

Sometimes reading our news feeds can feel like getting hit by a semi-truck of devastating information, without really knowing how to respond. We can’t always tune the world out, which means we need to figure out how to be an empathetic person within the chaos. In this episode, Courtney Martin is joined by public theologian and best-selling author, Nadia Bolz-Weber, as well as artist and activist, Jen Bloomer. Together they explore what it means to actually respond to tragedy and injustice.

LINKS:

Jen Bloomer’s artwork

Valerie Kaur’s book See No Strangers

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Have a Healthier News Diet: Part 1 and Part 2.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson.

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Care & Feeding: I Refuse to Replace My Husband With a Nanny

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux help a listener who is fed up. Her husband works a lot and when he is around he’s only ‘fun dad.’ Upon experiencing burnout, the letter writer asked her husband to pitch in more—to which he suggested ‘hire a nanny.’ Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak have suggestions for rebalancing the relationship. They also share recommendations and then, on Slate Plus, they discuss the parenting resolutions they are not going to keep this year.

Recommendations:

Zak: Wonka

Jamilah: Wonka and The Color Purple

Elizabeth: TypeLit.io

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Don’t Want to Cancel My Retirement Plans to Babysit. Help!

Fri, 05 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Nicole Chung (author of A Living Remedy and All You Can Ever Know) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers dilemmas about a husband who wants to give up travel for grandpa duty, a partner who’s becoming really pushy about issues around adoption, and an engagement ring that could use a little work.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Care & Feeding: Can I Stop My Adult Kid From Getting a Tattoo?

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah ring in the new year with a name change. We’re now Care & Feeding!

For our first advice of 2024, the hosts help a listener who funds their 18-year-old’s life — but the prospect of a tattoo has the listener second-guessing. Should they try to stop their kid from doing something they might regret (with their parents’ money)... or has that train already left the station?

We’ll also dive into our holiday triumphs and fails. For our Slate Plus listeners: the exclusive Slate Plus segment is moving to Monday shows, so hang in there for a few days and then we’ll be back to our weekly schedule.

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Hear Me Out: Yes, You Can Self Improve Right Now

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 08:03:00 -0000

On today’s episode of Hear Me Out… new year, new you?

If you’ve resolved to make 2024 your happiest, healthiest, most organized, most peaceful, etc. year yet? You’re not alone. And if you’re pretty sure the people who have made resolutions are doomed to abandon ship before January is over… you’re not alone, either. Nor are you wrong, exactly.

In the season of giving, getting, and evaluating self-improvement advice, there’s a line between over-optimism and self-limiting skepticism. And our guest wants to help you walk that line.

Zak Rosen, host of The Best Advice Show and co-host of Slate’s Care & Feeding, joins us.

If you have thoughts you want to share, or an idea for a topic we should tackle, you can email the show: hearmeout@slate.com

Podcast production by Maura Currie.

You can skip all the ads in Hear Me Out by joining Slate Plus. Sign up now at slate.com/hearmeoutplus for just $15 a month for your first three months.

How To!: Age Like an Elite Athlete

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0000

When he’s not working on How To! or coaching his daughter’s basketball team, our producer Derek John loves to play in pickup games with friends. But a serious on-court injury has kept him on the sidelines for months. Now, as he prepares to return to the sport he loves, Derek is seeking tips on how to prolong his playing days while avoiding another injury. In this episode, author Jeff Bercovici joins Carvell Wallace and Derek to share insights from his book, Play On: The New Science of Elite Performance at Any Age.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Trick Your Brain Into Running Longer.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson. This episode was produced by Kevin Bendis.

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Dear Prudence: Outward: We’re Here, We’re Queer, Here’s Some Advice!

Fri, 29 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On today’s episode brought to us Slate’s Outward, hosts Jules Gill-Peterson and Bryan Lowder, are joined by advice expert Danny Lavery to talk through some relationship issues. They share their thoughts on expectations around divorce as queer people, low self-esteem, and why shaming someone over hygiene might not be a bad idea.

If you have a question or need some advice, email us: outwardpodcast@slate.com

Podcast production by Palace Shaw

Mom & Dad: Our Annual Best-Of Bonanza: The ‘23 Edition

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Our favorite Plus segments of 2023. Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak step back in time to talk tips for winter break, the photos our kids take of us, respecting those kids’ privacy when we talk about them on air, the social media accounts we’re loving, and the parenting trends we wish would disappear.

Remember: we’re changing names in 2024! We’re so excited to become Care & Feeding and bring you more great advice from around the Slate Parenting universe. If you’re subscribed, you should stay that way, even when we change names; but if you lose track of us in the new year, just search for Care & Feeding wherever you listen.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work.

Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: Lightening Your Workload

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler discuss the value of finding people who can help take work off your plate and let you focus on your primary tasks. Isaac found employing a research assistant for both his books was an integral part of discovering and collating details. June has utilized software programs to stay productive and organized, yet both hosts are wary of the role that A.I. may play. They also discuss how other jobs such as copy editing, canvas stretching, and housekeeping can help you get through your work.

Do you have a question about creativity? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Dear Prudence: My Mother-In-Law Doesn’t Wash Her Hands After Using The Bathroom. Help!

Fri, 22 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Josie Duffy Rice (host of Crooked Media’s What a Day) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers discussing racially charged Next Door drama, a man who asks his girlfriend to butter his dinner rolls, and how to nicely ask a loved one to wash their hands after using the bathroom.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Palace Shaw.

How To! Our Favorite Advice of 2023

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we learned to love our faces, started reading again, aced an interview, dealt with difficult parents, said goodbye to our pets, cooked chaotically, moved to a new country, navigated adult autism, and breathed like Navy SEALs. On this episode, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin are joined by former host Amanda Ripley. They break down their favorite advice of the year and share some surprising updates from folks who were on the show.

Did we forget to mention your favorite advice of the year? Let us know with a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Mom & Dad: How to Not Spoil Your Kid

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: the best way to show a solo parent you’re here for them—even if you live far away. Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen also debate what to do if your kid is constantly coming home from school with gifts. Then they discuss How To ‘Un-Spoil’ Your Kid, According To Parenting Experts by Kelsey Borresen.

Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: I Rejected A Friend’s Sexual Advance—Now He’s Being Weird. Help!

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Brittany Luse (host of NPR’s’ It’s Been a Minute) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers who are dealing with friends who hold grudges when their sexual advances are rejected, unsupportive coffee shop bosses, and people who keep tracking fleas into their homes.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Palace Shaw.

Mom & Dad: Helping a 5-Year-Old Night Owl Rest His Wings

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a longtime listener writes in hoping for some bedtime guidance. Their kindergartener is a night owl, and a big reader — but now that sleepless nights are impacting his daytime hours, our listener needs help getting him to sleep.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus: cooking recommendations for a listener, and their newly-un-allergic-to-wheat daughter.

Elizabeth recommends: The Complete Cookbooks for Young Chefs from America's Test Kitchen, and No Knead Bread

Jamilah recommends: Kids Cooking

Zak recommends: The best cookie recipe but sub in brown butter. Millionaire’s Shortbread. Homemade noodles. Watch: Junior Bakeoff

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Working: Be Good to Your Body

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 07:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler discuss the need to keep good health as a creative person. Both June and Isaac have had their health scares, June in the dental world, and Isaac with his back. We’ve all been enchanted by the chain-smoking, heavy-drinking, sleepless poet, but the truth is that mistreating your body can catch up with you and eventually impede your creative output.

Do you have a question about creativity? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

Outward: We’re Here, We’re Queer, Here’s Some Advice!

Wed, 13 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

This week, Jules and Bryan are joined by advice expert Danny Lavery to talk through some relationship issues. They share their thoughts on expectations around divorce as queer people, low self-esteem, and why shaming someone over hygiene might not be a bad idea.

If you have a question or need some advice, email us: outwardpodcast@slate.com

Podcast production by Palace Shaw.

How To!: Transition From Soldier to Civilian

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

Dan enlisted in the Army in 2003 during the early phase of the U.S. wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. He just retired after 20 years of service—and is adjusting to myriad challenges of civilian life while also managing PTSD, ADHD and new sobriety. On this episode of How To!, Bob Beard of Arizona State University’s Center for Science and the Imagination joins us to talk about a new program that’s helping veterans like Dan plan for the distant future using science fiction, conceptual art, and strategies employed by Fortune 500 companies.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Breathe Like a Navy SEAL.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Mom & Dad: Why Is My Kid So Controlling During Playdates?

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a listener noticed that her six-year-old isn’t sharing well when his friends come over. He even told one friend to leave mid playdate. They’re wondering how to help her kid be a better host and, if things become overwhelming, take some time for himself instead of getting upset.

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends eating duck.

Zak recommends tossing out the tools you don’t reach for, inspired by Conor Barnes’ 100 Tips For A Better Life.

Elizabeth recommends Group Buy Ins. The one she uses is called Storms In The Sky.

If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work.

Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: My Friend Won’t Stop Buying Me Gifts. Help!

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, the co-hosts of Forever 35, Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir, join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether it’s okay to reject holiday gifts, how to cope when participating in a charity turkey giveaway pisses you off, and what to do when your best friend won’t read your book.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Vic Whitley-Berry.

Mom & Dad: Parents Have Taken Over My Kid’s Sport. Yikes.

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a listener writes in from the bench. Their kid is in a sports class that’s been overrun by grown-ups and siblings — on the court, doing the drills, and taking up equipment. What’s going on in this class for 3-6 year olds, and is it time to give up?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus: how can we purge the stuffie plague, and what other toys are collecting dust?

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

How To!: Carve Out Creative Time

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

Allison is on the hunt for her next hobby. One that’s satisfying. One that she can stick with. One that will fit into her family’s very busy schedule. Except…maybe she’s thinking about that last part all wrong. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space. Eve argues that drawing—and defending—boundaries for individual, creative pursuits is necessary for living a fulfilled life. She’ll share how to balance domestic labor in order to carve out creative space and pick something that makes your soul sing.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Stop “Having It All” (Before You End Up With Nothing)

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Mom & Dad: Traveling The World With a Blended, Mixed-Race Family

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth sits down with Alana Best, travel blogger and author of Around the World in Black and White: Traveling as a Biracial, Blended Family. Together, they talk about how to make ambitious travel plans work, even with the littlest kids — and, how to navigate the lived reality of family members who experience the world differently because of the color of their skin.

Then, Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah go over their recommendations for the week:

Elizabeth recommends: Keep Going Small Travel Kit

Jamilah recommends: Sweet potato honey bun cake

Zak recommends: Mega Wow on PBS Kids

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Dear Prudence: I Want to "Cancel" My Bad Boss But I'm Having Doubts. Help!

Fri, 01 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Elie Mystal (attorney and writer) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about what to do when you're wary of "cancel culture" but want to hold a bad boss accountable, what to do when it feels like nobody cares about spreading germs, and whether slumber parties are “sending kids into trauma.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Do We Have to Visit Grandma?

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth help a listener who is conflicted over their vacation plans. Her mother-in-law lives across the country and doesn’t have a super strong bond with her young grandson. They’re wondering if they should spend their precious vacation days visiting grandma or if there’s some kind of compromise.

In Slate Plus, they answer a bonus listener question about unique Christmas and Hanukkah activities that would actually keep older kids engaged.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

How To!: Grieve an Estranged Parent

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

A parent’s main job is to protect. But what happens when your parent doesn’t protect you? What happens when they not only let bad things happen to you, but they doubt and dismiss you when you ask them for help? Our listener, Haylie, decided to go no-contact with her father after multiple attempts to reconcile their relationship. Now she wants to know how to grieve the death of the relationship. On this episode of How To!, Patrick Teahan, licensed clinical social worker and childhood trauma therapist, joins us to explain why cutting off a parent is so difficult, why we grieve these relationships, and how to start healing.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Walk Away from an Impossible Parent

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Jabari Butler.

Mom & Dad: My Toddler’s a Hitter. Should His Brother Hit Back?

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s actually written in to us before — but this time, he needs help with his brawling toddler. How can parents help their littler kids simmer down – and older kids defend themselves – before anyone gets hurt?

We’ll also share some of the letters and voicemails that listeners have sent in recently. And we’re doing a round of recommendations, with a twist: in the spirit of Giving Tuesday, we’re sharing charities that we love to support.

Zak recommends: Standing Together

Elizabeth recommends: Conservation Fund (or, sign up for a beach/river/creek clean up)

Jamilah recommends: Girls for Gender Equity

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: Revisiting Advice from LeVar Burton

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

We’re listening back to one of Jenée’s favorite episodes when award-winning actor, director, and educator LeVar Burton joined Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about stealing from abusive parents, sharing snacks with children, and how to cope as an actor when you don’t land a role you really wanted.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: How To Let Go of Kid Clutter

Thu, 23 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

Kids generate so…much…stuff. A lot of it is memorable. Videos of their first words? So cute. Colorful drawings that progressively get better? Masterpieces. Trophies, stuffies, books? All valuable. The problem: There’s no way to keep everything. So how do you figure out what to cherish and what to toss? On this episode from our friends at Slate's How To! podcast, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin bring in Nonnahs Driskill, professional organizer and founder of Get Organized Already. She has lots of insight into why we value certain items, what it means to have an organizing mindset, and how to archive your child’s life in a way that works for you.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Style Your Home Like a Pro.

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Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, and Rosemary Belson.

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Hear Me Out: Be The Holiday A--hole

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 08:03:00 -0000

On today’s episode of Hear Me Out… thanks, but no thanks.

Americans are anxiously awaiting their Thanksgiving celebrations this week – for many, with some trepidation. Polls suggest we all know we don’t want to talk about politics around the table… but that most of us will anyway.

With keeping the peace at the front of many minds — and civility always at the front of ours — our guest this week proposes an alternative: be a little bit of a jerk, if you need to. And, if you can… it’s okay to avoid the festivities altogether.

Our returning guest is H. Alan Scott – comedian, podcaster, and self-described a--hole.

Get your gift sets, stocking stuffers, white elephant gifts, and maybe even a little treat, by going to slate.com/shop.

If you have thoughts you want to share, or an idea for a topic we should tackle, you can email the show: hearmeout@slate.com

Podcast production by Maura Currie

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How To!; Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships (Encore)

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On a recent phone call Shannon’s mom didn’t mince words: The only way she’d vote for Joe Biden is if Jesus himself comes down and tells her to. Growing up in a conservative household, Shannon understands her parents’ support for Trump. But she no longer sees eye-to-eye with them and every time they talk about politics it turns into a fight. The result is a complete fraying of their relationship. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Bill Doherty, professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota, and co-founder of the non-profit Braver Angels, to help Shannon and her parents navigate this heated election season. The most important thing to remember, Bill says, is that you can’t change your parents’ minds. But you can still save your relationship by recognizing shared values and treating each other as people, not political opponents.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Get a Stubborn Parent to Listen.”

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Mom & Dad: My Kid Is Copying His Black Classmates’ Vernacular

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a listener who’s in a quandary. Her young son started copying his Black classmates’ vernacular. She doesn’t know if or how she should correct him.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Jiffy Cornbread

Zak: Proper Noun Song (to the tune of September by Earth, Wind and Fire)

Elizabeth: Car Sickness Glasses

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: My Family Won't Let Me Host for the Holidays. Help!

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Dan Kois (writer at Slate) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about dilemmas around holiday celebrations: what to do when no one will come to yours, what to do when people are trying to force you to come to theirs, and how to move past the time you burnt the pies while wearing a vomit covered shirt.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: The World Is Messy and Ugly. Do My Kids Need to Know?

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 19:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s struggling with a deep pessimism about the state of this country — and he wants to make sure that his kids have some hope to hold onto.

We also go over our week in parenting triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we’ll share some strategies for explaining the war in Gaza to kids – and hopefully not frightening them in the process.

On that topic, here are some resources that our hosts wanted to share:

From the New York Times: What I Told My Daughter About The War
From NPR: How to talk to children about the violence in Israel and Gaza
From The National Child Traumatic Stress Network: Talking to Children about War

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Working: Escape Your Creative Comfort Zone

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts Nate Chinen and Isaac Butler explore the refractive nature of switching mediums. Like a light through a prism, we can sometimes find new creative colors by seeking unfamiliar paths. Nate explains his different approaches to two separate profiles he created on composer Anthony Braxton, one for the page and one for the radio. Then, both hosts share their thoughts on famed artist David Hockney’s recent switch to using the Brushes app on his iPad, to “paint” new pieces.

Do you have a question about creativity? Reach out at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Get Through Menopause

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

Hot flashes, fatigue, and vaginal dryness were some of Katie’s first clues that her body was changing. Half the population will experience menopause, yet misinformation still abounds—with doctors ill-prepared to talk to patients about this major life transition. On this episode of How To!, journalist Susan Dominus joins us to share the knowledge she gained from working on her viral magazine piece, “Women Have Been Misled About Menopause.” She explains why women’s pain has been ignored for so long, where to look for information, and how to connect with others during this confusing phase of life.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone. Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

Resources mentioned:

“If Men Could Menstruate” by Gloria Steinem

What Fresh Hell Is This?: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You by Heather Corinna

The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jen Gunter

Hot Flash Sonnets by Moira Egan

Alloy

Midi

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Jabari Butler. By the way, Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds! Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus.

Mom & Dad: My Partner’s Parenting Style Is Stuck In the ‘90s

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, a psychologist and military marriage coach. She also hosts a podcast called Married to Military. Lindsay is here to help Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener question about a couple who cannot agree on parenting styles. The letter writer loves to research and consume parenting content. The husband, on the other hand, refuses to do any education and the information discrepancy has led to disagreements on how to raise their kids.

Recommendations:

Lindsay: Marriage coaching with me!

Elizabeth: Sound Detectives

Zak: The Very Best of Enya

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson.

Dear Prudence: My Coworker Keeps Kissing Me on the Cheek. Help!

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Alison Green (author of Ask a Manager) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about workplace dilemmas: what to do when you can’t stop crying at the office, whether it makes sense to share an autism diagnosis with your team, and PDA with a colleague.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: My Baby’s On the Move, and I Need A Break

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 19:05:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who feels like a failure for leaning on YouTube to get their energetic 10-month-old to chill out — so they can handle household stuff for 30 minutes a day. Is this something to feel bad about?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and listen in on a real-time parenting moment for Zak. Then, if you have Slate Plus, Elizabeth and Jamilah tackle some common issues that crop up for us around the holidays.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Decoder Ring: The Dating Manual Unlike Any Other

Wed, 08 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

From the moment it was released in 1995, The Rules was controversial.. Some people loved it—and swore that the dating manual’s throwback advice helped them land a husband. Others thought it was retrograde hogwash that flew in the face of decades of feminist progress. The resulting brouhaha turned the book into a cultural phenomenon. In this episode, Slate’s Heather Schwedel explores where The Rules came from, how it became so popular, and why its list of 35 commandments continue to be so sticky—whether we like it or not.

Decoder Ring is produced by Willa Paskin and Katie Shepherd. This episode was edited by Willa Paskin. Derek John is executive producer. Joel Meyer is senior editor/producer. Merritt Jacob is our senior technical director.

We’d like to to thank Benjamin Frisch, Rachel O'Neill, Penny Love, Heather Fain, Elif Batuman, Laura Banks, Marlene Velasquez-Sedito, Leigh Anderson, Caroline Smith. We also want to mention two sources that were really helpful: Labour of Love by Moira Weigel, a paper called Shrinking Violets and Caspar Milquetoasts by Patricia McDaniel

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How To!: Build a Marriage That Lasts

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0000

To celebrate their third wedding anniversary, Anjali and Rahul are each selecting a surprise activity to do together. This happy couple loves spontaneity, so they’re concerned about someday growing bored in their relationship. They’re also feeling pressure to mark the traditional milestones of marriage, including having kids. On this episode of How To!, authors Caryl and Jay Casbon join us to share the wisdom they gained from interviewing other married couples for their book Side by Side. The Casbons draw upon their own 22-year marriage to urge Anjali and Rahul to face conflict with openness and focus on individual “inner work”—in order to grow together.

Learn more about Caryl and Jay Casbon here. If you liked this episode, check out an episode that Anjali loved: How To Decide Whether to Have a Baby with Wild author Cheryl Strayed.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Jabari Butler.

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Dear Prudence: My Friend Tried to Bring Her Kids to A Winery. Help!

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, the co-hosts of Slate’s ICYMI, Rachelle Hampton and Candice Lim, join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether the following categories of people are unreasonable: moms who bring their kids to wineries, boyfriends who refuse to hard launch their girlfriends on social media, and husbands who are suspicious of their wives’ friendships with single men.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: Is My Son’s Play Becoming Toxic Masculinity?

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 18:00:00 -0000

Note: This episode contains discussions of murder and grief. Listener discretion is advised between 6:30 and 12:00 of this episode. You can read more about Sam Woll, a close friend of Zak’s family, here.

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen help a listener who’s worried that her son’s play is skewing a little too much toward good guys, bad guys, and violence. What’s the difference between normal play and a red flag – and how can we make sure boys want to include girls?

Zak found two great resources for this listener that we want to share: an article about violent play from Parents.com, and a book called Under Deadman's Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children's Violent Play.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we discuss an episode of RadioLab that got us thinking about how kids change our perception of time.

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie.

Working: Freelance Work's Boom and Bust Cycle

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, a listener grapples with the complicated problem of having too much success as a freelancer. Balancing their time between a day job and an onslaught of freelance projects leaves them feeling wiped out, yet tepid about rocking their financial boat. Hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler share their own experiences of juggling freelance and full-time work. While freelancing can be feast or famine, it's important to set realistic deadlines, negotiate for better rates, and know when quitting one job might be your best bet.

Do you have a question about creative work? Leave a message at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Hit “Reset” on Your Career

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Our listener Abdullah has reached a plateau. A mid-career manager at a large electronics engineering corporation, he feels intellectually unstimulated. Even though Abdullah has a stable job with seniority, he dreams of going back to school, and pursuing his true passion: economics. But with a family to support, should Abdullah make a risky leap? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace is joined by Freakonomics co-author and University of Chicago economist Steven Levitt. Well-known for out-of-the-box thinking, Levitt shares surprising tips (including a simple coin flip strategy) that can help anyone on the edge of a huge decision.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Know When to Quit Your Job

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis, Derek John, Joel Meyer, and Rosemary Belson.

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Mom & Dad: This Detroit Forest School Gets Kids Outside

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen interviews Erin Johnson of the Detroit Urban Forest School about how her work brings kids from different backgrounds together – all in the name of appreciating the great outdoors.

Then, Jamilah Lemieux and Elizabeth Newcamp share some tips for wrangling some of the trickier treats that come with parenting during Halloween. And, as always, we end with a round of recommendations.

Elizabeth recommends: LectroFan Portable Sound Machine

Jamilah recommends: The Golden Bachelor

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I’m Making Bitchy Comments to A Dog! Help!

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Maeve Higgins (author of Maeve in America: Essays by a Girl From Somewhere Else) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to respond when everyone thinks your toxic ex is brave and amazing, where to turn when your absentee dad has done psychedelics and forgiven himself a little too enthusiastically, and what to do when you can’t stop making nasty comments to your dog.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

How To!: Let Go of Kid Clutter

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Kids generate so…much…stuff. A lot of it is memorable. Videos of their first words? So cute. Colorful drawings that progressively get better? Masterpieces. Trophies, stuffies, books? All valuable. The problem: There’s no way to keep everything. So how do you figure out what to cherish and what to toss? On this episode of How To!, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin bring in Nonnahs Driskill, professional organizer and founder of Get Organized Already. She has lots of insight into why we value certain items, what it means to have an organizing mindset, and how to archive your child’s life in a way that works for you.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Style Your Home Like a Pro.

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, and Rosemary Belson.

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Mom & Dad: Flying With Kids Is Like Pulling Off a Heist

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and guest host Duarte Geraldino share all their tips for flying with young kids. They talk about navigating security, in flight entertainment, and energy management throughout the trip. They also tackle a question about making sure your kid’s things come back from the lost and found. (Shout out: The Best Labels for Kids School Gear and Clothing by Lauren Sullivan.)

Recommendations:

Duarte: Alphabet Learning Locks

Jamilah: Patti Labelle’s Macaroni and Cheese recipe

Zak: Mario Lopez dancing with his daughter on IG

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: Is It Okay to Ghost A Friend? Help!

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Roxane Gay (best-selling author of Bad Feminist and Opinions) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to decline a colleague’s invitation to dinner, when it’s okay to ghost a friend for good reasons, and whether it’s possible to say positive about love when you’re burned out on dating apps.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: Helping Twins Be Their Own People (Together)

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and guest host Duarte Geraldino tackle twin-dom.

Durate, a single dad of twins, helps us help two listeners (both of whom asked questions on our Slate Parenting Facebook page): one whose twins are at different levels of advancement, and one whose twins have a fierce rivalry.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we’re taking on a bracket-style tournament to determine who are the best pop-culture twins.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: Finding the Confidence to Create

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts Isaac Butler and June Thomas discuss confidence and what it took for them to feel self-assured in their own creative strengths. June knows she is a wizard of copy editing, while Isaac has faith in his prowess as a writer, but it took them both years of hard work to get there. At the beginning of a career it can be hard to feel self-assured in your work, but keeping in mind that every artist has endured periods of self-doubt, and avoiding comparisons to finished pieces can help jump start your own creative confidence.

Do you have a question about creative work? Leave a message at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Build Trust With Co-Workers

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

The beginning of the school year is a gauntlet for Andrea, who coaches teachers for a living. She needs to get to know the 52 educators she’ll work with in the coming months. All of them are new faces to her. Which means she’s starting from scratch. Time is tight, so Andrea is wondering how to make every interaction count. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin brings in Marlon Styles, who has been in Andrea’s shoes. As an educator and motivational speaker, Marlon is a pro at making connections. His wisdom will resonate with anyone who is looking to build trust, work together on goals, and connect in a more meaningful way with your colleagues.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Help Teachers Thrive.

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, Rosemary Belson, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Modern Puberty Explained

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux is joined by Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, authors of This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained. They explain how puberty has changed over the last few decades, what these shifts mean for today’s kids, and how caregivers can guide these young adults through this transition. If you want to check out more of Cara and Vanessa’s wonderful advice, they also host The Puberty Podcast.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth: Clubhouse Games (Nintendo Switch)

Zak: Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza

Jamilah: You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: Is It Too Early in the Relationship to Say "I Love You"? Help!

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Tracy Clayton (co-host of Pineapple Street Studios’ Back Issue) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about coworkers who beg for baked goods, a husband who has a troubling amount of fun with his friends, and a boyfriend who said I love you way too soon (maybe?)

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: My Niece Doesn’t Think Racism Is Real

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener whose niece lives overseas… and thinks that racism doesn’t exist anymore. How can the listener help educate, but not in a judgy or alienating way?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we decide whether Arnold Schwarzenegger’s parenting strategies deserve an “I’d Do That” or a termination.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Find Love Where You Least Expect It

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0000

Camila is torn. She wants a partner. Someone who is ambitious. Someone who is financially secure. Someone who checks in with her at the end of the day. But most of her dates have turned out to be duds and she’s starting to think she’ll never find real romance. Should she keep searching for ‘the one,’ or should she focus on being happy on her own? On this episode of How To!, new co-host Courtney Martin brings in Samhita Mukhopadhyay to guide Camila. Samhita is an author and feminist. She was the executive editor of Teen Vogue and her first book was about dating. She has a ton of smart advice for understanding the narratives we have around dating, expanding where we find love, and ultimately healing our hearts.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Ditch the Apps & Actually Find a Date

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Dear Prudence: My Girlfriend Is Always Late! Help!

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Ashley C. Ford (author of the bestselling memoir Somebody’s Daughter) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband’s band, and if it’s acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they’re running late and miss the flight.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: My Kid Is Neurodivergent. Do We Need a Formal Diagnosis?

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp is joined by Dr. Sarah Wayland, founder and owner of Guiding Exceptional Parents and co-author of Is This Autism. Together they answer a parent whose child is exhibiting neurodivergent behaviors and, as such, their pediatrician recommended an evaluation. The letter writer is nervous that an evaluation will mean that their child will be seen as a diagnosis, not for the person she is.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we talk about what your kid actually means when they tell you ‘no.’

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: How to Absorb Art More Deeply

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts Nate Chinen and June Thomas spotlight an idea from Rick Rubin’s latest book, The Creative Act: A Way of Being, about experiencing art on multiple levels. June has experience with the daily repetition of a poem to gain a greater understanding of it, while Nate explains his methods of ‘deep listening’ with music. To have a more acute grasp of a piece of art, you sometimes have to just let it be, before returning and processing it.

Do you have a question about creative work? Leave a message at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Get Out of Debt Faster Than You Think (Encore)

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Irina and her husband are more than $100,000 in debt. They’re working to pay it off, but between monthly credit card bills, student loan payments, 401k contributions and spending on their new baby, their money is spread too thin. In this episode of How To!, Charles Duhigg bring on Rachel Cruze, a personal finance expert and author of Know Yourself, Know Your Money, to help Irina create a budget that she can actually follow. It will seem hard at first, Rachel says, but if you cut up your credit cards and pause your retirement investments, you can get out of debt much sooner.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Get That Promotion You Deserve.”

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Mom & Dad: Sneaking Alone Time, Together

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a listener who loves sharing the bed with their partner and kid. However, their current sleeping arrangement is creating quite the barrier for intimacy. How can they maintain a healthy and passionate relationship while also parenting?

Recommendations:

Elizabeth: “We Overcame The Wind” from The Drop That Contained the Sea.

Jamilah: Clue Jr.

Zak: Splitting up kids on the weekend.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: Should I Donate Sperm To My Ex? Help!

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Amy Aniobi (best known for her work on HBO's Insecure) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about donating sperm to their ex, whether you should decline to be a bridesmaid because you feel ugly, and if you should be concerned that your partner is obsessed with murder stories.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: My Kid Loves Approaching Strangers. Can I Stop Him?

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a listener who’s struggling with a very outgoing kid who can’t seem to understand stranger danger. How can the listener help their child be more aware, without causing fear — and what should they do when a stranger is a little too friendly in return?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we talk about no-gift birthday parties… and whether we’re tempted to ignore other parents’ rules.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Say Goodbye to Your Pet

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Like many pet parents, Zak Rosen and his wife lived for years in a state of denial about their beloved dog, Rumi. Then they learned that Rottweilers only tend to live about eight to 12 years, and there was no denying it: Rumi is already in her twilight years. In the not-so-distant future, they’ll have to make some truly tough decisions.

On this episode of How To!, Zak seeks out advice about end-of-life pet care from Dr. Ellen LaFramboise, owner of Crossroads Veterinary Hospice, and fellow pet parent Gabby Santos, who shares how she prepared for the death of her 18-year-old miniature pinscher, Bob’i. Their conversation might change the way you think about your furry pal’s final days (and maybe even your own).

Zak Rosen is the host and creator of The Best Advice Show, and co-host of Slate’s parenting podcast Mom and Dad Are Fighting.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Get Your Dog To Stop Barking (Without Barking Back).”

Podcast production by Zak Rosen, Rosemary Belson, Derek John, Joel Meyer, and Merritt Jacob.

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Mom & Dad: Squeamish Feelings About a Sex-Ed Book

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by Slate writer, Aymann Ismail, to talk about his piece, Closed Book. He tracked down one of the most challenged books—a health and sexual education book called It’s Perfectly Normal—to see why it’s being banned. It’s “particularly blunt and graphic” yet Aymann was surprised at the feelings of embarrassment and shame surfacing as he read the book. They talk about parent’s squeamish feelings when it comes to sexual education, why age-appropriate education is so important, and what these involuntary reactions have to do with book bans.

Recommendations:

Zak: Slow-Cooker Cauliflower, Potato and White Bean Soup

Elizabeth: Make your own ‘choose your own adventure’ game.

Jamilah: Connections

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Don't Want My Dad to Give Me Away at My Wedding. Help!

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Caroline Moss (writer, editor, and author) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to break it to your dad that he’s not invited to walk you down the aisle, what to do with wedding photos that include a sibling’s ex, and whether it’s okay to tell loved ones you never want to vacation with them.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: When Does Pushing Kids to Succeed Become Toxic?

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about toxic achievement culture.

The three of them talk with Jennifer Breheny Wallace, journalist and author of Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – And What We Can Do About It — about how we push our kids, and ourselves, even when we don’t need to.

We also go over our week in parenting. And then, for Slate Plus, we’ll debrief on our conversation with Jennifer, and the hosts will discuss how they, and their kids, fall victim to toxic achievement culture.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: Creating Like a Child

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts Nate Chinen and June Thomas press pause on adulthood and explore the creative spirit of childhood. Nate recounts his experience with the late jazz saxophonist Wayne Shorter, who always strived to get out of his own way and embrace a childlike approach to free expression. They also discuss the popular Australian cartoon Bluey, which often features the themes of suspending judgment and being open to the wildest of ideas.

Do you have a question about creative work? Leave a message at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

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How To!: Follow Your Small Business Dream

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 07:03:00 -0000

Sarah is a part-time pet groomer who dreams of opening up her own business. Having worked long hours for low wages, she can’t help thinking that she could earn more money and control her schedule if she starts her own pet salon. The only problem? Sarah has no idea where to start. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in Mae Chan to guide Sarah. Mae is a business alignment coach who helps entrepreneurs figure out their dreams and scale their businesses. Her questions for Sarah will help anyone considering a leap into self-employment think more about what they really want—and how to achieve it with minimal risk.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Advance Your Career By Quitting Your Job

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Talking to Kids About Climate Change

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about climate change and kids with Anya Kamenetz. Anya is a journalist who covers the intersection of the climate crisis and parenting in her newsletter, The Golden Hour. She is a former NPR education reporter and author of many books including, The Stolen Year. She has lots of wonderful information and advice for any caregiver who will be helping a kid navigate this crisis.

Recommendations

Jamilah: DenTek floss picks

Zak: Cleaning the dishwasher

Anya: YouTube karaoke

Elizabeth: Spyrogliphics

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Partner’s Relationship With His Ex Makes Me Feel Like the Third Wheel. Help!

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Tia Williams (bestselling author of The Perfect Find) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to cope with excessive Facebook photos of your partner’s ex, how to mourn a racist in-law’s death, and how to have a cute summer romance in Italy.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: If You’re Tracking Your Kids, Should You Tell Them?

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about parenting digital citizens.

Elizabeth sits down with author and speaker Dr. Devorah Heitner about her latest book, Growing Up in Public. The book helps guide parents through navigating social media and phone usage for their kids — and the privacy, freedom, and surveillance issues that come along with phones.

We also go over our week in parenting. And then, for Slate Plus, we’ll debrief on our conversation with Devorah — and how the hosts handle screentime and internet access in their own households.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Learn Any Language Fast

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Niky just isn’t jibing with Spanish. She’s tried courses, podcasts, apps, and even private tutors in order to make a connection with Spanish speakers around Toronto, at her job, and while traveling. But years into her language-learning journey, she’s not even close to being fluent. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace introduces Niky to Luca Lampariello. A speaker of 14 languages, Luca is a teacher and the founder of the Smart Language Learning Academy. He offers up tons of insight into why we learn the way we do, making what we learn actually stick, and how to have fun along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Remember Everything

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Should I Give My Kid an Allowance?

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp tackle two listener questions. First: How young is too young for an allowance? The question-asker’s 4-year-old really likes asking for things when they go to the store and she’s wondering if an allowance will help him learn the value of money. Second: How to make time for playdates, especially when both parents work and the weekend is pretty packed.

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends Curb Your Enthusiasm

Elizabeth recommends this fridge calendar

Zak recommends The Eyes & the Impossible by Dave Eggers

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Sister Is Lying to My Nephews About Their Father's Identity. Help!

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Gene Demby (co-host of NPR's Code Switch) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about crushes that are complicated by power dynamics, family secrets about racial identity, and whether loud talking is a cultural issue that could end a relationship.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: The Power Of Aunts and Uncles w/ Jake Gyllenhaal, Greta Caruso, and Dan Santat

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak interviews Jake Gyllenhaal, Greta Caruso, and Dan Santat about their new book, The Secret Society of Aunts & Uncles. They dive into what makes that particular relationship so special, why it’s overlooked in children’s literature, and even what goes into crafting a kids book.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we share some Instagram accounts that are actually making our lives better.

Zak recommends:

Elizabeth recommends:

Jamilah recommends:

And of course, you can always follow your hosts on Instagram, too:

Jamilah: @jamilahlemieux
Zak: @bestadviceshow
Elizabeth: @ejdn

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: Learning From Bad Art

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler acknowledge the painful fact that most art is in fact pretty bad. Yet, just because the play, or painting was poorly constructed does not mean you have to scrub it from your mind. Thinking about how you might have improved the piece, or realizing it was made from a labor of love can often generate new creative ideas of your own and respect for the process.

Do you have a question about creative work? Leave a message at (304) 933-9675 or email us at working@slate.com.

Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: How To Find Your People

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Katie was ready to graduate from college when the pandemic interrupted everything. Unceremoniously cut-off from her group of friends, she’s now in a new chapter of her life but struggling more than ever to find her people. Katie’s friendships at work feel surface-level and she’s anxious about opening up too much for fear of rejection. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings in friendship coach Danielle Bayard Jackson. Don’t worry about finding your next BFF, Jackson says. Instead if we focus on making deeper, more lasting human connections with those around us, genuine friendships will naturally occur.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Make Friends as an Adult

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Dear Prudence: Relationship Podcasts Are Ruining My Friend's Life. Help!

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Dr. Orna Guralnik (host of Showtime's Couples Therapy) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to do when a friend is obsessed with misogynistic love and relationship podcasts, when your husband just can’t figure out birthday gifts, and when you’re wondering “Does therapy just not work for me?”

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: Lessons From a Racist Instagram and the Teens It Hurt

Thu, 31 Aug 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Award-winning journalist Dashka Slater joins to talk about her new book, Accountable: The True Story of a Racist Social Media Account and the Teenagers Whose Lives It Changed. It’s a story of a teen sharing extremely racist memes and photos of classmates on a private instagram and what happened when the account was discovered. It led to even more hurt, protests, botched mediation, and a community-wide conversation about justice and what it means to be complicit.

Besides the interview, hosts Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen share their parenting ups and downs of the week—including a late night before the first day of kindergarten and big-kid summer camp. Then, on Slate Plus: we share lots of listener letters ranging from two player games to suggestions for handling the great bathroom conundrum of 2023.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Navigate Adult Autism

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

It’s a family joke that Dave and his 13 year-old son are the same person. So when his son found out he is autistic, Dave realized that he, too, is on the autism spectrum. The label is a comfort—a reassurance that his personality “quirks” have an explanation. But, at the same time, it’s led to all of these questions like should he tell people? What does this change, if anything? And how does he learn to navigate a neurotypical world? On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in journalist and podcast host, Lauren Ober. Lauren documented her own autism journey on The Loudest Girl In the World. She has lots of advice for living life as a newly diagnosed neurodivergent person.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Love Your Face

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: My Son Refuses to Pee at School Due to an Unreasonable Policy

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener who isn’t happy with her kid’s friend getting unrestricted phone access. Is there a way to enforce their family rules when they’re playing at the friend’s house? Then, Elizabeth has a back-to-school conundrum of her own and is seeking advice.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Simply Light Lemonade with Raspberry.

Zak: Jazz Baby

Elizabeth: Caep phone strap

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Wife Goes Braless Around Our Teenage Sons. Help!

Fri, 25 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Brian Lehrer (host of WNYC’s The Brian Lehrer Show) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how roommates should handle mismatched levels of COVID caution, how to split a check when your friends forget they had appetizers, and how to settle a debate about going braless around teenage sons.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: Welcoming Everyone Into the School Community

Thu, 24 Aug 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener who’s realized their community at school is super tight knit… to the point that new families feel left out and lonely. How can this listener and the PTA help bring newbies into the fold?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — including potty training breakthroughs, overrated board games, and a mishap involving a glass wall. Then, on Slate Plus: handling little kids’ big feelings about going back to school.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Working: Why Artists Should Attend Festivals

Thu, 24 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0000

For this week’s episode of Working Overtime, hosts June Thomas and Isaac Butler reflect on their times at different arts festivals. Being around like-minded individuals drawn together by an appreciation of art can be inspiring. Even if a festival isn’t physically possible to attend, finding creative groups and online communities can sometimes be just as rewarding.

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Podcast production by Kevin Bendis and Cameron Drews.

How To!: Fill an Empty Nest (Encore)

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Susan never really got over saying goodbye to her eldest daughter, who left for college four years ago. She knew it would be sad, but she didn’t expect to be nauseous. Now her youngest is applying to college, and she’s already dreading drop-off next fall which makes her feel like a "pathetic loser." What can Susan do to prep herself for more heartbreak and a completely empty nest? On this episode of How To!, Amanda Ripley brings on Kelly Corrigan, best-selling author and host of the podcast Kelly Corrigan Wonders. She recently dropped her youngest daughter off at college, which she wrote about in an essay for the New York Times called “How to Let Go of Your Irreplaceable, Unstoppable Daughter.” She shares some hard-earned wisdom about how to handle major life transitions with grace.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Get Your Kid to Finally Grow Up”

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Mom & Dad: Family Meditation Made Easy (and Fun)

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a parent who wants to give their youngest some mindfulness tools to help with their nighttime anxiety. They share a ton of resources—so you’re bound to find something that will work for your family!

This week’s non-meditation recommendations:

Jamilah: Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson

Elizabeth: Cino Linko

Zak: Goodles

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Told My Husband I May Have Postpartum Depression—He Did Nothing. Help!

Fri, 18 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Lori Gottlieb (advice columnist and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about postpartum depression, wedding-planning anxiety, and what to do when you think neurodivergent people are getting away with way too much.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: How to Talk to Kids About Hard Things

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp are reunited! They start the show with a round of ‘Triumphs and Fails,’ which include a back-to-school clothing haul, a budding song writer, and a difficult swim test. Then they advise a listener who is wondering how to tell their kids about the realities of life, especially when there are so many difficult conversations to be had. If you, or anyone you know, are in crisis—contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 or visit 988lifeline.org.

Then, on Slate Plus: Elizabeth shares some of the whimsical playgrounds her family has encountered on their international travels.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Live Anywhere in the World

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Have you ever wanted to move to a new country? Picking up and starting over internationally can be rewarding, but also nerve-wracking. Our listener Sara has lived overseas for more than a decade, but she recently moved to Switzerland and is struggling to fit in. On this episode of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in Dr. Nassim Assefi who, amongst all of her interesting professional accomplishments, is a self-identified “global nomad.” She’s lived in over 10 countries and draws on her extensive personal experience to help Sara—and anyone thinking about moving abroad—make a smooth transition.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Uproot Your Life

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Your Eyeballs Are Gonna Fall Out of Your Head

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen talks with Phillip Maciak, TV critic with The New Republic, teacher at Washington University in St. Louis, and author of the book, Avidly Reads Screen Time. He explains where the concept of screen time started and how it became this marker of good (or bad) parenting.

Recommendations:

Zak: If You Give a Mouse a Cookie + The “Mouse Game”

Jamilah: The Barbie movie

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Co-Worker Won’t Stop Sending Me Friend Requests Online. Help!

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Joel Anderson (the host of the latest season of Slate’s Slow Burn) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about persistent friend requests from colleagues, allegations of white supremacy surrounding graduation attire, and what to do when your biggest relationship issue is cat litter in the bed.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: The Key to Raising Athletes

Thu, 10 Aug 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Jamilah go over their week in triumphs, fails, solo parenting, and solo travel. Then we talk youth sports before hearing an interview between Elizabeth and Kirsten Jones, nationally recognized performance coach, former athlete, and author of Raising Empowered Athletes.

Then, on Slate Plus: what if friendship, not marriage, was the center of our adult social lives?

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Cope With Climate Anxiety

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

As the massive Caldor fire blazed towards South Lake Tahoe in 2021, Joyce knew she had to get out. “The sky was red. It was like hell on earth,” she remembers. Her family got to safety and her house was miraculously spared. But, even now, it can be jarring to remember the fire. Climate-related extreme weather events are on the rise and another disaster is seemingly right around the corner. Especially with freakish flash floods, a scorching heatwave and wildfire smoke blanketing much of the country. On this episode of How To!, guest-host Cheyna Roth brings on Dr. Britt Wray, author of Generation Dread: Finding Purpose In an Age of Climate Crisis. Dr. Wray explains why we need to treat climate anxiety differently and how we can create resilience both internally and within our communities as we face climate change, together.

Resources Mentioned:

Climate Psychology Alliance

Climate Psychiatry Alliance

Good Grief Network

Climate Awakening

Gen Dread Substack

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Save the Planet (And Still Use a Plastic Straw)

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Am I Being Overprotective?

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak is joined by Lucy Lopez, host of the Mamacita Rica podcast, and Doyin Richards, an author, founder of the Anti-Racism Fight Club, and Care and Feeding contributor. Together, they help a listener who thinks her husband is being too reckless with their toddler. (If you’re looking for an informative, yet entertaining, episode on car seat safety check out: Car Seat Safety, Explained!)

Recommendations:

Lucy: Song exploration through sampling.

Doyin: Naps!

Zak: This Be the Verse by Phillip Larkin

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: My Kid Gets OK Grades. I Feel Like I Failed Her.

Thu, 03 Aug 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak is joined by Lucy Lopez, host of the Mamacita Rica podcast, and Doyin Richards, an author, founder of the Anti-Racism Fight Club, and Care and Feeding contributor. Together, they help a listener who’s struggling to mesh her own perfectionism with a kid who’s not excelling in school.

That listener asked her question in our Facebook community and has gotten a ton of great help from listeners like you already. You can join us there, too.

We have a week of summertime activity triumphs and fails to unpack, too. Then, on Slate Plus: the experience of childhood is changing, and so should the experience of a playground.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0000

When Gwendolyn found out her friend was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she wanted to help. She just didn’t know how. Her friend lives hundreds of miles away. How can she help in a way that’s more meaningful than sending a meal and a few encouraging texts? On this episode of How To!, guest-host Courtney Martin brings on Mia Birdsong, author of the book How We Show Up. Mia went through her own cancer journey and figured out structures of support that not only helped her but made supporting easier for her friends.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Solve Your Own Medical Mystery

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Too Young For Dirty Jokes

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Jamilah are joined by Lucy Lopez, host of the Mamacita Rica podcast. They first tackle a third grader who heard a dirty joke and is now repeating it without knowing what it means. Then they have advice for a parent whose preteen has been going through toilet paper at an alarming rate.

Recommendations:

Zak: Parenting Advice to Ignore in Art and Life

Lucy: Watching films you used to watch as a kid w/ your kids.

Jamilah: Upside Down Challenge Game

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Boyfriend Hid His Hobby From Me—Civil War Reenactments. Help!

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Damon Young (a writer, critic, and a self-proclaimed “professional black person”) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers who are obsessing about their lackluster high school tennis careers, their awkward interaction with their crushes, and whether participation in civil war reenactments is a dating deal breaker.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: Raising Kids In a Barbie World

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Jamilah are joined by Lucy Lopez, host of the Mamacita Rica podcast, to talk about all things Barbie. Whether you played with Barbies as a kid — or are weighing whether to let your kids have them now — the summer blockbuster movie is certainly giving us a lot to talk about. Extra Listening: Why Barbie Lives On

They also discuss their week of triumphs and fails including summer camp blues, confident fashion choices, and finding more family time. On Slate Plus: Can traveling with little kids be easier or should they be left behind?

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Deal With a Difficult Parent

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Every year J. and her parents fly thousands of miles, meeting in the middle for their family vacation. A vacation that often leads to shouting and tears. J. and her father have a rocky relationship. Little disagreements often lead to her dad yelling and dredging up the past. It would be easy, in theory, to cut off the relationship before it got even more toxic. But J. wants to make it work. The question is, how? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Nibarna Kannathasan, a psychotherapist who has helped people navigate tricky intergenerational conflict, especially when factoring migration and differing cultural expectations. She helps J. parse what she really wants from her father and figure out a way to start down that road while protecting herself along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Walk Away From an Impossible Parent.

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Is My Child a Monster?

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Jamilah are joined by Leslie Cohen-Rubury — therapist and host of the podcast Is My Child a Monster? They start by talking about lessons from therapy and how Leslie’s show is helping to make therapy advice and resources more accessible. They also help a listener whose kid pulled a disappearing act after a fight during family vacation.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Suits

Leslie: All That Breathes, An Immense World by Ed Yong and an ‘awe walk.’

Zak: Hunting seashells and making jewelry.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: How Do I Disclose to My Kids That I've Had an Abortion–Twice? Help!

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Jessica Valenti (a feminist columnist and author) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer readers’ letters about whether it’s okay to ghost friends who don’t respect your reproductive choices, how to deal with a spouse who is a slob, and when to tell your kids you’ve had an abortion.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: My Kid Refuses Therapy. I Think She Needs It.

Thu, 20 Jul 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Jamilah are joined by Leslie Cohen-Rubury — therapist and host of the podcast Is My Child a Monster? Together, they help a listener who’s worried that her daughter’s meltdowns might be a sign of depression.

They also discuss their week of triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we muse on the awkward institution that is the middle school slow dance.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Make Aging Easier for Everyone

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Caregivers provide an estimated 600 billion dollars in free labor each year, according to the AARP. This week’s listener, Dani is one such caregiver. She and her partner found themselves navigating the confusing world of Medicare and Medicaid, estate planning, powers of attorney, etc. All in the hope of helping their loved ones stay healthy and comfortable until they need an end-of-life plan. This experience has her worried—who is going to look after her when the time comes? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Amy Goyer, AARP’s family and caregiving expert and has quite a bit of personal experience. She cuts through the confusion on how to caregive, how to care for caregivers, and how to prepare to be cared for yourself. Because we’re all going to need it, sooner or later.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fight With Your Parents, which is about parenting your parents.

Resources mentioned:

Caregiving Guides

Livable Communities

Local Resource Connections

National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys

Five Wishes Document

Aging Life Care Association

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Summer Podcast Palooza

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah dish on their favorite podcasts—ones they love to listen to with their kids and shows that binge without kids. They also do a round of normal, podcast-free recommendations and then share some parenting advice from listeners.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: I’m a Virgo.

Zak: Climb slides!

Elizabeth: Learn By Sticker Book

Podcast Recommendations:

Summer Camp: The Case of the Phantom Pooper

Brains On

But Why: A Podcast For Curious Kids

Wow in the World

Story Pirates Podcast

The Story Seeds Podcast

Family Road Trip Trivia Podcast

Charm Words: Daily Affirmations For Kids

Grown

Who shat on the floor at my wedding?

Beach Too Sandy, Water Too Wet

Short Wave

Celebrity Memoir Book Club

The Best Advice Show

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Friends Got Me a Terrible Birthday Gift. Help!

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Josh Gondleman (author, producer, and stand-up comedian) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer readers’ dilemmas about workplace coffee runs, unwanted birthday gifts, pets who steal food—and husbands who react really strangely when that happens.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: My Son Wears Skirts. My Mom Doesn’t Like It.

Thu, 13 Jul 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener decide how to support her skirt-loving eight-year-old-son — and how to get his hesitant grandmother to come around.

We also go over some ‘triumphs and fails’ from the past week — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we explore the history of the comic strip Goofus and Gallant… and what 80 years can tell us about the evolution of parenthood.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Big Mood, Little Mood: Anxious Surrogate

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 18:00:00 -0000

Danny Lavery welcomes Leslie Cohen-Rubury, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and host of “Is My Child a Monster?”, A Parenting Therapy Podcast.

Lavery and Cohen-Rubury offer advice to someone who’s parents might interfere with her decision to be a surrogate mother for her friends. Another letter writer is wondering how to tell their mom about being abused by their teacher when they were 16. Also, a listener's response to the “Fairweather Friend Group” letter.

Resources mentioned in today’s show:

Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD - https://cptforptsd.com/cpt-provider-roster/
Dialectic Behavior Therapy - Prolonged Exposure (DBT-PE) - https://dbtpe.org/find-a-therapist
The Body Keeps Score - A book by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Need advice? Send Danny a question here.

Email: mood@slate.com

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Production by Phil Surkis

How To!: Hack Any Bureaucracy

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

When Gwen applied for unemployment during the early days of the pandemic, she never thought she’d still be waiting for her benefits years later. Despite hours on the phone, countless emails and even a court appearance, Gwen is haunted by her inability to get the money she was approved for. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Marina Nitze, author of Hack Your Bureaucracy. Not only does Marina help Gwen find shortcuts in her state’s unemployment system, but she has useful advice for untangling any bureaucratic nightmare.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fight Outrageous Medical Bills.

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Car Seat Safety, Explained!

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp is joined by Jamie Grayson, who you may know as ‘the baby gear guy.’ As we’re in the midst of summer road trip season, it’s time to revisit car seat safety. Luckily, Jamie is here to cut through the confusion while actually making safety fun. He explains how to pick the right seat for you, when to move from a carseat to a booster to the front seat, and even when it’s time to trade in your old seat.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth: LOL 101: A Kid's Guide to Writing Jokes

Zak: CYB (Choose Your Battles)

Jamilah: Dave

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Hate My Fiancé’s Mustache—but He Refuses to Get Rid of It. Help!

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Meredith Goldstein (advice columnist and features writer for The Boston Globe) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer readers’ dilemmas about commitment, wedding locations, and whether you’re allowed to make demands about your partner’s facial hair.

If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members. Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: We’re Excited to Do a Year Abroad. My Eight-Year-Old Isn’t.

Thu, 06 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener who’s planning to take the whole family abroad for a year — but their 8-year-old won’t stop raining on the parade.

They also revisit some triumphs and fails from the archives — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we debate whether everyone is secretly co-sleeping with babies, and not sharing stories in fear of getting yelled at.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Mom & Dad: The Funny Bits Of Parenthood

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by comedian Hari Kondabolu. They talk about Hari’s new standup special, Vacation Baby. They also answer a listener question about vacation. The letter writer’s mother requested a trip with her and her kids. No spouses or children. Is it a selfish ask?

Recommendations:

Hari: Vacation Baby and I’m a Virgo

Elizabeth: Em & Friends: A Box of Friendship and this printable for kids

Jamilah: Dave

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: A Co-Worker I Dated is Spreading Rumors About Our Breakup. Help!

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Candice Lim (co-host of Slate’s ICYMI) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether to reject invitations from friends with filthy homes, how to cope when everyone at the office thinks you're a cheater, and what to do when you suspect your ambitious partner is about to burn out…and you’re kind of happy about it.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix and Emily Charash.

Mom & Dad: I Want a Huge Family. My Husband Wants Two Kids, Max.

Thu, 29 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by comedian Hari Kondabolu. They share their parenting triumphs and fails, including a tooth shot out by a Nerf gun, a toddler with very cool music taste, and a pottery painting catastrophe. They also advise a listener who has her heart set on a big family. Her husband wants two kids, max. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, they dish on the the kids books that look a little… different after revisiting as an adult.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Find Genuine Happiness

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

The last few years have been overwhelming for Tracy. Her career was demanding and she experienced multiple deaths in her family. Recently, she changed jobs and is in a better place with her mental health, but something is still missing from her life. She’s just not sure what. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings on Samantha Clarke, happiness consultant, speaker, and author of Love it Or Leave It: How To Be Happy At Work. Samantha will help Tracy (and all of us) design a plan to find fulfillment.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Style Your Home Like a Pro.”

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Lessons in Parenting Again

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by award-winning author and journalist, Desiree Cooper. At 62, Desiree started her second round of parenting when she took in her three grandkids. She wrote about her experience for the New York Times in a piece called What if I Hadn’t Been There to Catch Them?.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth: Sketch Pals Doodle Board from Boogie Board

Des: CROWNED: Magical Folk and Fairy Tales from the Diaspora by Kahran Bethencourt and Regis Bethencourt.

Zak: Bring a comfy chair to the park!

Jamilah: Ginny & Georgia on Netflix.

Bonus: Nothing Special by Desiree Cooper

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson, Maura Currie, and Tori Dominguez.

Dear Prudence: How Do You Know When It’s Time to Break Up With a Friend? Help!

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Alisha Wainwright (actor and host of the new podcast series, When Science Finds A Way) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about friends who don’t call you when they’re in your town, the pros and cons of dating divorced men, and what to do when you’ve pressured your friend to break up with someone who… ends up being a great husband to someone else.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: I Was Assaulted as a Child. Do My Kids Need to Know?

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a listener writes in wanting advice for a difficult situation: she was sexually assaulted as a child, and now her daughter is the same age. The PTSD is affecting her ability to parent… so should she tell her children what happened?

The hosts also go over their week in triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, they dissect the New Dad Canon proposed by the New York Times.

If you or someone you know needs help, the National Sexual Assault Hotline is reachable 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can call 1-800-656-4673 to talk to someone — or chat online, and access other resources, at rainn.org.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson, Maura Currie, and Tori Dominguez.

How To!: Find the Gems in All Your Junk

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Most people have something they’re holding on to. For Lesley and Alex, that’s some old baseball and basketball cards that are collecting dust in their attic. For Kathy, that’s a house full of antiques. They’ve all been wanting to pare it down. But the big question is: how much is it worth? On this episode of How To! co-host Carvell Wallace is joined by Leila Dunbar, a veteran appraiser and frequent expert on Antiques Roadshow. Leila knows the stories and the value behind all kinds of collectibles and memorabilia. She’ll break down why we hold on to certain items and let go of others…and how to make money along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Put Your Town on the Map.”

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Dear Prudence: I Tested My Partner’s Parenting Readiness and He’s Upset. Help!

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Ophira Eisenberg (host of the new comedy podcast Parenting Is A Joke) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about whether to make your partner pass a test before having kids, how to handle it when you fall for someone else right in front of your boyfriend, and what to do when your friend seems to think she’s adorable and it really bothers you.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Emily Charash and Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Avoiding Activity Overload

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a listener worries that her kids aren’t in enough activities. Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth offer some ideas for finding scheduling harmony and picking out activities that the kids really love.

They also go over their week in triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, they talk about Rebecca Onion’s piece on Slate: The Case for Leaving Strangers in Your Family Photos.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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How To!: Quit Your Calling

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Amy and Sarah are high school English teachers who both want to quit the classroom, but for very different reasons. Amy has over 200 students, and tensions between teachers and parents are on the rise so she’s “beyond burned out.” Whereas Sarah has been teaching for over a decade and is itching for a change. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, co-host Amanda Ripley is joined by Daphne Gomez, a former teacher who’s now CEO of Teacher Career Coach. (She also hosts the Teacher Career Coach podcast.) Daphne has some wonderful advice for Sarah and Amy—and anyone else who has no choice but to leave a job they once loved.

If you liked this episode, check out Part 1: “How To Help Teachers Thrive.”

More career change episodes:

How To Bounce Back From a Layoff

How To Know When to Quit Your Job

How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job

How To Bounce Back From Burnout

How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job

How To Find a New Career Before It’s Too Late

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Good Enough Friends

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Dan Kois, former Mom and Dad are Fighting co-host, delivers an essay called Good Enough Friends. The piece explores the evolution of teenage friendship, online connections, and the awkward beauty of not being able to mute yourself IRL.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth: SUMMER READING! Pizza Hut Book It , Barns & Nobel , Everyday Reading Summer Reading Chart , Scholastic Online , Half Price Books

Jamilah: The Simpsons

Zak: Mushroom tacos

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Dear Prudence: I Think My Husband Is Quiet Quitting Our Marriage. Help!

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Shan Boodram (host of Lovers and Friends and Bumble's Sex & Relationship Expert) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about what to do when your work crush starts ignoring you, when your spouse quietly quits the marriage, and when a partner’s mom seems to control his every move.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: I Don’t Want to Be the “Poor Mom” in My Book Club

Thu, 08 Jun 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: a listener worries that her house is too chaotic — and not fancy enough — to impress her book club. Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth offer reassurance… and ideas for snacks.

They also go over their week in triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, they talk about another Slate show’s episode on what happens when the kids we post online grow up… and want to reclaim their privacy.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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How To!: Help Teachers Thrive

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Today there are about four million teachers in America, and nearly a third of them are thinking about leaving their jobs. It has become harder to be a teacher in the U.S. due to a lack of resources, political meddling, and teacher shortages, to name a few reasons. On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, co-host Amanda Ripley talks with two teachers, Sarah and Amy, and Daphne Gomez, a former teacher and now the founder and CEO of Teacher Career Coach. They discuss challenges in and out of the classroom as well as changes that would actually support teachers.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Succeed When Everyone’s Mad at You”

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Daily Dad Wisdom

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen talks with author and philosopher, Ryan Holiday, about his new book, The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids. Elizabeth Newcamp and Jamilah Lemieux join to go over recommendations and to listen to your advice.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Banana pudding

Zak: Using magnet tiles on your walls, which may be magnetic.

Elizabeth: Summer Brain Quest books and cards

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Dear Prudence: I Think My Wife Is Cheating On Me—With A Robot. Help!

Fri, 02 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, the co-hosts of Stitcher’s Vibe Check, Sam Sanders, Saeed Jones, and Zach Stafford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about sharing food with ungrateful people, wanting to date a friend’s crush, and getting emotional needs satisfied by AI.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: The Popular Girl Wants My Son. He Doesn’t Know How to Turn Her Down.

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener whose middle schooler is being asked to hang out with the popular kids… and he’s worried that there’s a catch.

They also go over their week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, they talk about parenting advice from child-free adults.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Sleep Apart to Save Your Relationship

Tue, 30 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Sleep is objectively worse when splitting a bed. Yet that’s the default for most couples. But that doesn’t mean sharing the covers is easy. Especially when one person is having trouble falling or staying asleep. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, co-host Carvell Wallace continues the conversation with Dr. Wendy Troxel, author of Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep. Dr. Troxel explains how couples can experiment with sleeping arrangements in a way that makes everyone feel safe, and why sleeping apart might be the key to saving your relationship.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Stop Snoring (and Breathe Easier).”

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Dear Prudence: I Saved My Neighbor’s Life And Now She Won't Leave Me Alone. Help!

Fri, 26 May 2023 09:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Kelsey McKinney (host of Radiotopia’s Normal Gossip and co-owner of Defector.com) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about who to share random thoughts with after your spouse dies, what to do when you’ve saved a neighbor’s life but don’t want to be friends with her, and how to handle petty insults in the family group chat.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Why Do We Need The Tooth Fairy?

Thu, 25 May 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux and Zak Rosen are joined by Willa Paskin, host of Slate’s Decoder Ring. The three talk about the beauty of weird little rituals, and help a listener through her ick of tooth fairy-ing. Listen to Decoder Ring’s episode: Who Owns the Tooth Fairy?

Jamilah and Zak also share their triumphs and fails for the week. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus: public schools in Akron recently tried out a no-phones policy, and it might inspire some new philosophies for summer screen time.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Sleep Like a Champ

Tue, 23 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Vanessa isn’t a night owl. Yet, often, you can find her lying awake desperately trying to turn off her brain. When her partner stays over she often resorts to the couch just to get some rest. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Dr. Wendy Troxel. She is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in sleep medicine and the author of the book, Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep. On part one of a two part series—Dr. Troxel explains how insomnia disrupts sleep, how to avoid it, and why a good night’s rest starts with your environment.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Beat the Dreaded Midday Slump.”

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Creating Your Perfect Family

Mon, 22 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen and guest host Maribel Quezada Smith advise a couple who have one kid. They thought they were a ‘one and done’ family but they’re feeling the pressure of the biological clock and now don’t know if they should have a second before it’s no longer an option. We also have listeners weigh in on how they approach family composition.

Recommendations:

Zak: Embrace mismatching socks!

Maribel: Laundry bags.

Jamilah: Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret.—the movie.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Think My Dad Is Cheating On My Mom. Help!

Fri, 19 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, co-host of Red Table Talk and host of Positively Gam Adrienne “Gammy” Banfield Norris joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about friends who make bad choices, a groomzilla who is being snobby about wedding planning, and a 70-year-old father who might be cheating using dating apps.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: My Toddler Licks Literally Everything

Thu, 18 May 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen and guest host Maribel Quezada Smith help a listener whose toddler will. not. stop. licking. things. Is it just a phase, or can our listener redirect that desire to explore?

We also tackle circulating sicknesses, upended routines on family vacation, and friendship trouble at school. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus: a researcher suggests that there’s a better way to raise emotionally healthy children, though it might not be popular.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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How To!: Deliver Bad News Better

Tue, 16 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

‘I’ve got bad news’ is a sentence no one wants to hear. But at some point, all of us will either have to deliver bad news or will be on the receiving end. So what can make these gut-wrenching conversations go less horribly? On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Dr. Robert Arnold, co-founder of Vital Talk, and Maura, a social worker at a level one trauma center to talk about how to better communicate serious news. Because just about all of us can get a lot better at it — once we learn how.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Solve Your Own Medical Mystery.”

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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Mom & Dad: Desperately Missing Work

Mon, 15 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp and Jamilah Lemieux tackle a heartbreaking listener letter from a mom who longs for her career. But it’s currently being overshadowed by her kids' needs and a system that isn’t built for working parents.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Baby J on Netflix.

Elizabeth: Animal erasers

Zak: Osmo

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Dear Prudence: My Co-Worker Repeatedly Ignores My Boundaries. Help!

Fri, 12 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, award-winning actor, director, and educator LeVar Burton joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about stealing from abusive parents, sharing snacks with children, and how to cope as an actor when you don’t land a role you really wanted.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Reading Rituals You (and Your Kids) Will Love

Thu, 11 May 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux brainstorm some ideas for a parent who is mourning the loss of ‘read aloud’ time with her kid. They also discuss their week in parenting and what’s on the docket for Mother’s Day. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, everyone shares memories of their favorite teachers and professors in honor of Teacher Appreciation Week.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Mom & Dad: Preventing Potty Problems

Mon, 08 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Jamilah Lemieux, and Zak Rosen answer a question about a little boy who was mostly potty trained but now is having daily accidents. They’re joined by Dr. Christine Stephenson, a pediatric physical therapist who specializes in kids with urinary and fecal incontinence and chronic bladder infections. She’s also the author of The Constipation Game Plan. Christine has some useful advice for stopping the accidents as well as general advice for anyone either on or starting a potty training journey with kids.

Recommendations:

Zak: Mr. Farts: Farting Around the House

Jamilah: Never Have I Ever on Netflix

Christine: Picking up litter outside with kids.

Elizabeth: Does it Fart? The Definitive Field Guide to Animal Flatulence

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Dear Prudence: Should I Travel Across the World With My Ex? Help!

Fri, 05 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Aisha Harris (co-host for NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers with dilemmas about friends who are terrible writers, coworkers who use therapy speak, and whether it’s a good idea to travel with an ex.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Let Kids Eat Cake

Thu, 04 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux sits down with journalist Virginia Sole-Smith to discuss her new book, Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture. This conversation is a special collaboration with Slate’s The Waves podcast. Virginia talks about the body shame kids face, reclaiming the word ‘fat,’ and supporting kids in the bodies they’re in. They also talk about how parents, grandparents, and other figures in kids’ lives can dismantle fatphobia and other learned behaviors that perpetuate our current culture.

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Podcast production by Cheyna Roth and Rosemary Belson with editorial oversight by Daisy Rosario and Alicia Montgomery.

How To!: Raise Kids in a Nation Full of Guns

Tue, 02 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Guns are now the leading cause of death for children in America. Each tragedy can be visceral, whether it’s in your community or across the country. And it’s especially heartbreaking when your kid voices that fear directly, as our listener Allison recently experienced. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Melinda Wenner Moyer. Melinda is an author and science journalist with years covering gun violence and parenting issues. She’s also the author of the substack, Is My Kid the Asshole? where she shares science-based approaches to lower the possibility of gun violence, help kids feel safe, and, ultimately, change the environment.

If you liked this episode, check out: “My Kid’s Anxiety Is Giving ME Anxiety! How Do I Fix This?”

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Mom & Dad: Middle School Magic

Mon, 01 May 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth talks with Chris Balme, author of Finding the Magic In Middle School. He explains what drives tweens, why this period is fundamentally different than high school, and how to guide them through this transition. Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth also open up the mailbag and give some recommendations.

Recommendations:

Zak: Watch David Byrne sing When Doves Cry at a karaoke bar

Elizabeth: Professor Noggin Cards, Binder Rings

Jamilah: Florida Man on Netflix

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: I Was Only “Verbally” Invited to a Wedding. Help!

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Cheyna Roth (podcast producer for Slate’s The Waves) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters about weddings: whether parents are obligated to pay for weddings they don’t support, whether a mean sister should get to attend an elopement, and whether you are really invited if you don’t have a paper invitation in hand.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Mysterious Gifts From an Estranged Mother-In-Law

Thu, 27 Apr 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener with an estranged mother-in-law who has a habit of sending gifts to her grandchildren accompanied by mean notes for her kids. But the issue has reached a new head, because a man in an unmarked car sat in the listener’s driveway for 15 minutes… before getting out and dropping off gifts.

We also go over triumphs and fails for the week… and then for Slate Plus, the hosts take ChatGPT’s parenting advice for a spin with some classic kid questions.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

How To!: Face the AI Revolution

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

If you haven’t heard of ChatGPT, chances are you will soon. Maybe you’ve tried casually playing with the artificial intelligent chatbot. Maybe you’ve tried avoiding it. Or maybe ChatGPT is the new host of this podcast and you haven’t realized it yet. Either way, we’re on the precipice of a new, powerful technology. On this episode of How To!, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Amanda Ripley join forces to talk through all things artificial intelligence. They bring on Kevin Roose, tech columnist for the New York Times and co-host of the Times’ podcast, Hard Fork. He will explain how AI chatbots work, how to use them for good, how they may be used for, well, not so good, and what you should do if it starts hitting on you.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game.”

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Mom & Dad: Mealtime Meltdowns

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a listener who is fed up with her partner’s picky eating. His preferences have made it nearly impossible to meal prep, which he doesn’t help with. On top of that, he’s taken to complaining about the food in front of their kid.

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Cheetos’ Flamin’ Hot with Limón

Elizabeth: Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids

Zak: Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Dear Prudence: My Close Friend Is Spiraling And I Live Far Away. Help!

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Lane Moore (bestselling author of How To Be Alone and the upcoming You Will Find Your People) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters about friends: how to make them, how to help them when they’re spiraling, and whether to tell them when they’re making bad relationship choices. Also, since this is Pet Advice Week at Slate, we’ll have a question or two about pet dilemmas.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Too ‘Touched Out’ For Sex

Thu, 20 Apr 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from an exhausted parent of two little kids. She is tired and ‘touched out.’ It has left her wanting to scale back physical intimacy on multiple levels but especially sex. Honestly, she says she’d love a pass to be celibate for a few years until they want to try for a third child.

Then on Slate Plus, what public places should babies be banned from?

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

Outward: Are Advice Columns Intrinsically Queer?

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Spring is in the air, and the Outward hosts are gay like tulips and queer like allergies! First, they discuss a new animated version of the beloved Frog and Toad series of children’s books, which premieres on Apple TV+ on April 28. Then they welcome Daniel M. Lavery to the pod. Danny was Slate’s own Dear Prudence for many years, and now a Dear Prudence book is here to grace our bookshelves. Danny shares his philosophy of advice-giving, talks about what it was like to transition in the public eye, and offers his take on a reader question current Prudie Jenée Desmond-Harris answered a few weeks ago.

Items discussed in the show:

Jules and the Framing Agnes team at the GLAAD Awards

Outward’s December 2022 discussion of Framing Agnes with actress Jen Richards

LMN’s schedule

Somerville, Massachusetts, extends protections to polyamorous families

“Frog and Toad: An Amphibious Celebration of Same-Sex Love,” by Colin Stokes in the New Yorker

“How Frog and Toad Author Arnold Lobel Explored Gay Intimacy in His Work,” by J. Bryan Lowder in Slate

“This Is a Terrible Way to Commemorate a Major Civil Rights Victory,” by June Thomas in Slate

Dear Prudence: Liberating Lessons From Slate.com’s Beloved Advice Column, by Daniel M. Lavery

Jenée Desmond-Harris answered the question we put to Danny at the end of this Dear Prudence column

The Big Mood, Little Mood With Daniel M. Lavery podcast

The Dear Prudence podcast

Gay Agenda

Christina: Mae Martin’s new Netflix special, SAP

Jules: “Conservatives Are Turing to a 150-Year-Old Obscenity Law to Outlaw Abortion,” by Melissa Gira Grant in the New Republic

Bryan: Erick Adame’s Daily Weather Report (more background from the New York Times)

This podcast was produced by June Thomas.

Please send feedback, topic ideas, and advice questions to outwardpodcast@slate.com.

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How To!: Start Reading Books Again

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Kate stopped reading in 2016. Since then, she’s tried to find her way back to it but something’s not clicking, and it’s left a book-shaped hole in her heart. Reading used to be something she really enjoyed, took pride in, and loved connecting with people over. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Maryanne Wolf, director of UCLA’s Center For Dyslexia, Diverse Learners, and Social Justice and author of the book, Reader, Come Home. Maryanne explains the science behind the reading brain as well as how to deeply engage with books and make reading a habit again.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Put Down Your Phone”

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Mom & Dad: Giving Up Our Family Dog

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak answer a question from a family who has a very sick dog. The dog, who is two, has been experiencing chronic health issues and requires more care than the mom and her two daughters can provide. Our letter writer is thinking about rehoming the dog but doesn’t know how to break it to her girls who have bonded deeply with their dog. Also on this show, recommendations and advice from listeners.

Recommendations:

Zak: Using a chafing dish to catch your kid’s throw up.

Jamilah: America, Goddam: Violence, Black Women, and the Struggle for Justice by Treva B. Lindsey.

(Bonus, catch Jamilah on RapCaviar, available on Hulu.)

Elizabeth: Brains On episode with Emily Hanford

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A Word: The Color of Money

Sat, 15 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

The deadline for filing taxes this year is April 18th, and tax season brings on anxiety in lots of Americans. For Black folks, a lack of intergenerational wealth often means fewer contacts and networks that can offer guidance on taxes. On today’s episode of A Word, Jason Johnson is joined by Washington Post personal finance columnist Michelle Singletary to talk about some of the tax challenges that disproportionately affect the Black community, last minute filing tips, and how to plan now for a better tax time next year.

Guest: Michelle Singletary, Washington Post personal finance columnist and author of “What To Do With Your Money When Crisis Hits: A Survival Guide.”

Podcast production by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola

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Dear Prudence: My Husband Wants Our 9-Year-Old Son to Play Tackle Football. Help!

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Bomani Jones (host of HBO’s Game Theory With Bomani Jones and The Right Time With Bomani Jones) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer questions from letter writers about workplace socializing, friends who are no longer likable people, and youth football.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

Mom & Dad: Busting "Gentle Parenting" Myths

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak are joined by Natasha Nelson, who is known as Supernova Momma, to discuss positive parenting. Natasha explains what positive discipline actually entails, how to realistically use the approach, and what people misunderstand about gentle parenting. They also give advice to a listener who has been trying to adhere to a positive parenting philosophy but are finding themselves frustrated in the face of big temper tantrums.

Then on Slate Plus, they play a round of parenting One Gotta Go.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Mom and Dad: My Husband Isn’t Helping Out With Childcare. I’m Overwhelmed.

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 18:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a question from an overwhelmed listener who is doing most of the childcare and housework for her family. Her husband isn’t helping out and is citing his ADHD as the reason why. What can they do to make the workload more manageable for everyone?

Recommendations:

Zak recommends letting kids take the lead in the museum.

Elizabeth recommends Exit: The Game.

Jamilah recommends Wellmania on Netflix

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How To!: Breathe Like a Navy SEAL

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

John has spent years training to become a Pararescueman, a member of Air Force Special Warfare tasked with recovering downed military personnel around the globe. He has pushed himself past countless obstacles and trials, except one — holding his breath in the pool. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace is joined by free diving expert and founder of the Performance Free Dive Academy Kirk Krack. Kirk has spent decades mastering the art of lowering his heart rate and increasing his capacity to hold his breath. He has advised everyone from Navy SEALs to the cast members of Avatar 2: The Way of Water. He even helped Sigourney Weaver go without a gulp of air for over 6 minutes! Kirk gives John tips for extending his breathholds under water and explains why all of us should be more conscious of how we breathe.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Withstand Pain”

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis and Jabari Butler.

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Big Mood, Little Mood: Am I Cis Now?

Sun, 09 Apr 2023 13:00:00 -0000

Danny Lavery welcomes Tuck Woodstock, a journalist, educator, and the host of the podcast Gender Reveal.

Lavery and Woodstock give advice to someone wondering why they’re suddenly identifying with their birth sex five years into their transition. Another letter writer is concerned about coming out to their social media following. A third letter is about fearing you are no longer attractive to your partner. Finally, a letter writer is wondering if they should speak up about her daughter’s water acclimation class.

Need advice? Send Danny a question here.

Email: mood@slate.com

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Production by Phil Surkis

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Mom and Dad: Body Shamed By a 6-Year-Old

Sat, 08 Apr 2023 10:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a question about a six year old who asked his aunt why her belly is so big. The question surfaced some body image issues for our listener and she was left feeling bad about herself for over a week. Now she’s wondering if she should talk to her nephew about size diversity and why not everyone appreciates random questions about their bodies.

Then on Slate Plus, they discuss How They See Us: The Humbling Tyranny of the Pictures Our Children Take of Us.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.

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Dear Prudence: I Don’t Want My Dad to Attend My Daughter’s Wedding. Help!

Fri, 07 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Danny Lavery (a former Prudie and host of Slate’s Big Mood, Little Mood) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to recount his time as Prudie and answer questions from people dealing with unwanted crochet gifts, wedding dilemmas, and parents who think they are potential school shooters.

Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

How To!: Succeed at Social Media

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0000

Emily is a successful career and executive coach in Ohio, who has done well finding clients through word-of-mouth. But in order to expand her business she knows she has to up her online marketing game. The only catch? She is terrified of social media. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Suzy Wagner, president of Brand & Buzz. Suzy has some surprising advice for creating a social media strategy that cuts through the noise while being realistic and authentic to yourself.

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game.”

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Mom & Dad: Gender-Affirming Care For Kids

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 22:00:00 -0000

On this episode: Zak and Jamilah are joined by Evan Urquhart. Evan covers anti-trans propaganda on Assigned Media, writes for Slate, and manages Slate’s comments section.

Today we’re going to be talking with Evan about his recent piece, There Are Two Sides to the Debate on Health Care for Trans Kids. Here’s What You’re Missing About One of Them. People and resources mentioned: Julia Serano, Assigned Media, and Trans Safety Network.

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends the Dear Culture podcast.

Evan recommends the Washington Post-KFF Trans in America survey.

Zak recommends letting kids watch TV during breakfast on school days.

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