With a special guest appearance from “Buddy” 🐶, the conversation unpacks how Australian family law now treats pets—legally defined as “companion animals”—and what that means for separating couples.

The episode opens with a major legal update:

• Under recent changes to the Family Law Act, pets are now formally recognised as companion animals
• However, they are still legally classified as property
• This means:
• No “custody” or “residence” orders in the traditional sense
• Courts determine ownership and possession, not shared parenting arrangements

Both hosts acknowledge the emotional reality:

• Pets are often seen as “fur babies”
• They play a significant emotional role in family structures
• Attachment can be strong for:
• Children
• Partners
• Entire households

Despite this emotional significance, the law still treats them through a property lens, not a family member lens.

The hosts break down the key factors courts consider:

• Who is the registered owner
• Who purchased the animal
• Who performs daily care:
• Feeding
• Walking
• Grooming
• Veterinary care
• Who has had the primary relationship with the pet

The court may also consider:

• Financial responsibility
• Living arrangements post-separation
• Practical ability to care for the animal

A serious and important aspect of the discussion:

• Pets can be used as tools in coercive control and emotional abuse
• Courts recognise that animals may be:
• Subject to harm
• Used to intimidate or manipulate a partner or children
• This can influence outcomes where safety concerns exist

One of the clearest legal points in the episode:

• Australian family law does not recognise shared care arrangements for pets
• Outcomes are limited to:
• One party retaining ownership
• Transfer of ownership
• Sale or disposal of the animal (rare and undesirable outcome)

The hosts reflect on how this contrasts with common informal agreements people try to make (e.g. “week-on, week-off pet arrangements”), which have no formal legal standing under the Act.

The episode highlights real-world tensions:

• Pets are often used as leverage in separation disputes
• Disputes can reflect deeper relationship breakdown issues
• Courts are increasingly aware of:
• Strategic use of pets in negotiations
• Emotional pressure placed through pet possession

A case example discussed:

• A child formed a strong attachment to a dog
• Despite emotional factors, the court awarded the dog to the parent who was the primary owner and caregiver

Key takeaway:

A memorable story from the episode:

• A court dispute over a macaw parrot
• The bird repeated insulting phrases during proceedings
• The judge observed the behaviour and awarded the bird to the husband

The story highlights:

• How unpredictable evidence can be
• The humorous reality of property disputes involving animals

The hosts caution listeners that:

• Pets can unintentionally become bargaining tools
• Early legal advice is important to avoid escalation
• Courts are increasingly attentive to underlying coercion or manipulation

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Through candid discussion, practical legal insight, and real courtroom dynamics, the episode explores when (if ever) a parent can justify not complying with parenting orders, and what consequences follow when they do.

The episode opens with a firm reminder from both hosts:

Court orders are not optional.

• Parents who unilaterally withhold children risk serious legal consequences.
• Even where frustration or concern exists, the legal system expects compliance first, action through the courts second.
• Darren emphasizes a strong judicial expectation of adherence unless there is a genuine and urgent safety concern.

Joplin outlines the narrow exceptions where withholding may be justified:

• Exposure to family violence
• Drug or alcohol abuse impacting safety
• Neglect or serious risk factors

However, both hosts stress a key distinction:

They highlight a common problem in family law:

• Parents sometimes withhold based on beliefs (“he might be using drugs”) rather than evidence.
• Courts require a clear evidentiary foundation, not speculation.

If a parent refuses to comply:

• The other parent may bring a recovery application
• The court may involve the Australian Federal Police (AFP) to locate and return children
• Orders can escalate to warrants and enforcement mechanisms
• The withholding parent must later justify their actions in court

Key warning:

Both hosts agree on best practice:

If you believe there is risk:

• File an application in proceedings immediately
• Provide a detailed affidavit explaining concerns
• Consider updating a Notice of Risk
• Seek urgent legal advice

This approach:

• Protects the parent legally
• Ensures transparency with the court
• Reduces criticism for unilateral action

The episode explores supervised arrangements:

• Supervised contact centres can provide independent observation evidence
• They can ensure child safety while maintaining parental relationships
• However, courts are reluctant to impose long-term supervision

A detailed procedural discussion covers:

Recovery Applications

• Focus: returning a child to compliance with orders
• Can trigger AFP involvement

Contravention Applications

• Focus: punishing breaches of orders
• Potential outcomes:
• Fines
• Orders for counselling
• Parenting programs
• In extreme cases, imprisonment

However, both hosts note:

• Contravention applications are often slow, expensive, and strategically complex
• Courts frequently encourage parties to streamline proceedings

A major theme of the episode is misuse of allegations:

• Courts are alert to strategic withholding
• Emotional conflict between parents must not override child-focused reasoning
• Judges scrutinise whether claims are:
• Genuine protection concerns
• Or relational retaliation

Throughout the episode, the guiding principle remains:

Courts assess:

• Safety
• Stability
• Emotional wellbeing
• Capacity of each parent to support the other relationship

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What happens when one parent wants to move interstate… or overseas… with the children?

Can the court stop a parent from leaving Australia?

Does a mother or father have the “right” to move home?

What happens when children are caught between two countries, two cultures, and two parents who both love them?

Through a powerful role-play scenario involving a separated Australian-Norwegian family, Darren and Joplin unpack exactly how relocation disputes unfold inside the Family Court — from emotional arguments and legal strategy to parenting proposals and the harsh reality of what judges actually look for.

This episode explores the devastating emotional impact relocation cases can have on families, while giving listeners a rare behind-the-scenes look at how these cases are argued, assessed, and ultimately decided.

Darren and Joplin explore what happens when one parent wants to relocate internationally with children following separation — particularly where one parent feels isolated, unsupported, or desperately wants to return to family overseas.

The episode examines:

• Moving overseas after divorce or separation
• Relocating interstate with children
• The difference between a parent’s rights and a child’s best interests
• Whether courts can stop a parent from leaving Australia
• The emotional impact of relocation litigation

Through an emotionally realistic mock separation between “Svetlana” and her Australian husband, the episode demonstrates:

• How relocation disputes begin
• Common mistakes parents make during negotiations
• How quickly conversations become adversarial
• Why wording and attitude matter in court
• The danger of becoming positional and hostile

The fictional scenario highlights issues including:

• Sick overseas parents
• Cultural identity
• Children with dual heritage
• Long-distance parenting
• Schooling and support systems
• Maintaining meaningful relationships with both parents

Darren and Joplin explain that relocation cases are not about “winning” as a parent — they are about what is in the best interests of the children.

Key considerations include:

• The child’s relationship with each parent
• Existing care arrangements
• Emotional and practical support available overseas
• Whether the relocating parent can facilitate ongoing contact
• Schooling and stability
• Financial practicality
• Long-term parenting proposals
• Emotional wellbeing of the relocating parent

The episode discusses:

• Airport watchlists and injunctions
• Recovery orders
• Relocation applications
• Interim versus final hearings
• Why courts rarely make permanent relocation decisions urgently

Listeners gain insight into how quickly relocation matters can escalate once one parent fears the children may leave the country.

Darren and Joplin discuss how modern communication tools like:

• FaceTime
• Skype
• Video calls
• Messaging apps

have changed the way courts assess international parenting arrangements.

But they also explain the harsh truth:

One of the strongest themes throughout the episode is this:

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This is not a sensationalist conversation. It’s a nuanced and thoughtful discussion about how pornography increasingly appears in affidavit material, relationship breakdowns, financial disputes, coercive control allegations, and parenting concerns inside the family court system.

Darren and Jop explore the difficult reality that pornography itself is not illegal — but the way it affects relationships, consent, emotional safety, financial stability, and family dynamics can become deeply problematic.

Darren and Jop discuss how pornography increasingly surfaces during:

• Initial client consultations
• Parenting disputes
• Financial settlements
• Family violence allegations
• Affidavit evidence
• Addiction-related relationship breakdowns

The conversation examines the point where:

• private viewing habits,
• online platforms,
• or sexual behaviours

…move from personal choice into behaviour that damages a relationship or family unit.

The hosts unpack:

• How compulsive pornography use can affect intimacy
• Emotional disconnection between partners
• The erosion of trust and sexual relationships
• Sleep disruption and addictive behaviours
• Escalating sexual conduct and risk-taking

Joplin explains how addiction patterns seen in pornography cases can mirror:

• gambling addiction,
• drug addiction,
• alcohol dependency,
• and other compulsive behaviours that destabilise families.

One of the major themes of the episode is how pornography-related spending can become relevant in property proceedings.

Darren and Jop discuss:

• subscription-based adult platforms,
• spending on explicit online content,
• OnlyFans,
• escort and brothel services,
• hidden financial expenditure,
• and the impact these behaviours can have on shared family finances.

The episode explores how financial depletion linked to addiction can become a significant issue during property settlements.

The conversation takes a modern turn as the hosts discuss:

• the growing presence of OnlyFans in family law cases,
• coercive pressure within relationships,
• online sexual content creation,
• and how explicit content can later become weaponised during legal proceedings.

Joplin raises concerns about:

• coercive behaviour involving online adult content,
• financial pressure placed on partners,
• and the emotional harm that can follow when intimate material later surfaces during separation.

Darren shares examples of cases where:

• children accidentally discovered explicit content,
• browsing histories were exposed,
• or concerns arose regarding the type of material being viewed in the home.

The hosts discuss:

• parental responsibility,
• safeguarding children,
• exposure risks,
• and how family courts may assess concerns when children are impacted by adult content within the household.

One of the most serious parts of the episode explores the overlap between:

• pornography,
• coercion,
• aggressive sexual behaviour,
• and family violence.

The discussion examines:

• sexual coercion inside relationships,
• desensitisation,
• consent issues,
• and how some behaviours may cross into emotionally or physically abusive conduct.

Importantly, Darren and Jop stress the need for:

• open communication,
• early intervention,
• counselling,
• and support before these issues escalate and destroy relationships.

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After receiving a flood of listener messages and social media comments, Darren and Jop dive into the reality of Family Dispute Resolution (FDR), court-ordered mediation, shuttle negotiations, coercive control during mediation, and whether the system is genuinely helping separating families — or simply creating another layer of trauma.

From unsafe mediation experiences to “tick-box” certificates, legally assisted negotiations, family violence dynamics, and the emotional pressure placed on victim survivors, this episode delivers a brutally honest look at what really happens behind closed doors in family law negotiations.

The episode begins with a confronting listener message from a woman who says she felt deeply unsafe during a shuttle mediation — despite being physically separated from her former partner.

Darren and Joplin explore:

• Why “safe” in legal terms can feel very different emotionally for victim survivors
• The hidden trauma of mediation environments
• How coercive control can continue during negotiations — even without direct contact
• Why some victim survivors feel pressured into agreements

One of the biggest discussion points is the criticism of mediation certificates under Section 60I of the Family Law Act.

The hosts discuss:

• Whether some mediations have become procedural hurdles rather than genuine negotiations
• Concerns that some parties attend mediation in bad faith
• Why some mediators fail to identify abusive or manipulative behaviour
• The frustration of receiving the same certificate as a party who engaged respectfully

Joplin raises concerns about:

• Inexperienced mediators
• Delays in government-funded mediation services
• Lack of legal understanding from some facilitators
• The risks this creates in family violence matters

This episode takes a powerful turn as Darren and Jop discuss how:

• Refusing to attend mediation
• Deliberately withholding financial documents
• Failing to negotiate genuinely
• Creating delays

…can become extensions of coercive and controlling behaviour.

The conversation examines:

• Power imbalances in negotiations
• How emotional abuse can continue through legal processes
• The psychological impact of prolonged proceedings
• Why some cases are simply “not settleable”

Darren and Jop openly compare:

• Private mediation services
• Government-funded FDR programs
• Court-based mediation
• Child-inclusive conferences
• Registrar-led negotiations

They discuss why:

• The skill and experience of the mediator matters enormously
• Family law knowledge is critical in parenting disputes
• Cheap mediation can sometimes become expensive later
• Good mediation requires preparation, realism, and strategy

• Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)
• Section 60I certificates
• Coercive control in mediation
• Shuttle mediation
• Victim survivor safety
• Family violence and negotiation
• Court-ordered mediation
• Parenting disputes
• Child-inclusive mediation
• Litigation fatigue
• Power imbalances in family law
• Reality testing in negotiations
• Mediation strategies
• Trauma-informed legal practice

“Some cases are not settleable.”

Darren and Jop discuss why forcing compromise in high-conflict or family violence matters can sometimes create more harm than good.

“You get what you pay for.”

Joplin delivers a candid assessment of under-resourced mediation services and why legal expertise matters during negotiations.

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Drawing directly from a listener question submitted through social media, Darren and Joplin unpack the reality of preparing for a final hearing in the Family Court as a self-represented litigant.

This episode delivers real-world insight, courtroom practicalities, and critical guidance for people trying to navigate one of the most stressful legal processes of their lives.

The episode begins with a listener question from someone representing themselves in Family Court who is unsure:

• What documents need to be filed
• Whether submissions are required
• How to comply with court orders
• How to avoid offending the court

Darren and Joplin break down the practical realities of self-representation and explain why preparation, organisation, and understanding court expectations are absolutely critical.

Joplin stresses the importance of:

• Reading every court order carefully
• Creating checklists
• Tracking deadlines properly
• Filing documents early — not at the last minute

The discussion highlights how procedural mistakes can seriously affect a case and why practical organisation matters just as much as legal argument.

One of the standout moments of the episode is Joplin’s practical advice regarding:

• The Notice of Child Abuse / Notice of Risk document
• Why parties should consider updating it
• How significant incidents often occur after proceedings first begin
• Why these documents remain important throughout parenting proceedings

This section provides listeners with valuable insight into how courts assess risk and family violence concerns.

Darren and Joplin explain one of the biggest mistakes self-represented litigants make:

• Treating their affidavit as an emotional response document instead of evidence

The episode explores:

• Why affidavits should focus on your own case theory
• The dangers of responding line-by-line to the other party
• How word limits matter
• The importance of relevance and structure
• Why “less is more” in many areas of litigation

Joplin explains that an affidavit should present:

Even for people representing themselves, both Darren and Joplin strongly recommend:

• Having a lawyer review documents before filing
• Getting advice on hearsay and relevance
• Understanding evidentiary rules
• Refining affidavit structure and tone

The episode explains why even limited legal guidance can significantly strengthen a self-represented case.

• Self-represented litigants in Family Court
• Preparing for final hearing
• Family law affidavit drafting
• Court filing tips
• Case outlines and submissions
• Notice of Risk documents
• Parenting proceedings
• Evidence and strategy in family law
• Practical Family Court guidance
• Family violence considerations in litigation

This episode is essential listening for:

• Self-represented litigants
• People preparing for Family Court
• Parents involved in parenting disputes
• Anyone trying to understand how Family Court actually works behind the scenes

It offers practical, grounded advice from two experienced family law professionals who understand both the legal system — and the emotional toll it can take on families.

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This episode contains discussions surrounding coercive control, family violence, emotional abuse, psychological harm, victim survival responses, and trauma-informed legal practice.

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In this deeply important follow-up episode of Dear Divorce Diary, family law barrister Darren Mort and family lawyer Joplin Higgins revisit one of the most confronting and misunderstood topics in family law: coercive control.

Responding directly to a listener message sent via TikTok following their earlier episode on coercive and controlling behaviour, Darren and Joplin unpack one of the most common — and harmful — public questions surrounding family violence:

“Why didn’t they just leave?”

This conversation explores the reality that coercive control is rarely obvious, rarely isolated, and almost never simple.

Joplin explains that coercive control is not one singular act — it is often a layered pattern of behaviours that can include:

• Emotional abuse
• Financial control
• Isolation from support networks
• Threats and intimidation
• Manipulation
• Monitoring and surveillance
• Psychological degradation
• Fear-based dependency

The discussion highlights how difficult coercive control can be to identify, particularly because many victim survivors may not initially recognise the behaviour as abuse themselves.

A major focus of this episode is how lawyers, professionals, friends, and support people can better respond to victim survivors.

Joplin discusses:

• Trauma-informed communication
• The importance of indirect and follow-up questioning
• Avoiding re-traumatisation
• Creating emotional safety during disclosure
• Taking detailed notes so victims don’t have to repeatedly relive trauma

The episode shines a light on how sensitive and skilled communication can help identify patterns of coercive behaviour that may otherwise remain hidden.

Darren and Joplin strongly challenge the damaging misconception that victims can “just leave.”

The episode explores:

• Fear of retaliation
• Threats of self-harm by perpetrators
• Threats involving children
• Financial dependence
• Emotional trauma
• Safety planning
• The psychological paralysis caused by ongoing abuse

They explain that leaving a coercively controlling relationship is often the most dangerous period for a victim survivor.

One of the most practical sections of this episode focuses on what supportive friends can do.

Joplin shares examples of trauma-informed support strategies including:

• Creating a safe home environment
• Establishing emergency safe words
• Holding important documents securely
• Providing emotional support without judgment
• Avoiding pressure or ultimatums
• Respecting the victim survivor’s pace and safety assessment

The conversation stresses that support should centre around safety and empowerment — not control or expectation.

If this episode raises concerns for you or someone you know, please seek support from a qualified domestic violence service, counsellor, legal professional, or emergency service in your area.

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From angry Facebook rants and passive-aggressive memes to dating app disasters, GoFundMe controversies and children being exposed to online conflict, this episode explores how social media behaviour can seriously damage:

• Parenting cases
• Family law proceedings
• Personal credibility
• Mental health
• Children’s wellbeing

Daz & Jop explain why courts are increasingly examining online behaviour under a microscope — and why one impulsive post can become devastating evidence in the courtroom.

The episode delivers practical insight, cautionary tales and hard truths about how people sabotage themselves online during separation.

A major focus of the discussion is the devastating effect social media conflict has on children.

The episode explores:

• Children reading posts about their parents
• School bullying linked to family court disputes
• Friends and classmates discovering online conflict
• Emotional embarrassment and shame
• Long-term damage to parent-child relationships

Daz shares examples of children being ridiculed at school after parents publicly posted inflammatory content online.

The hosts repeatedly reinforce:

Daz & Jop explain how family lawyers, barristers and Independent Children’s Lawyers routinely conduct “deep dives” into parties’ social media accounts.

The episode highlights how courts may examine:

• Facebook posts
• TikTok videos
• Instagram stories
• Comments sections
• Dating profiles
• GoFundMe campaigns
• Text message labels and contact names

Jop explains that social media can reveal:

• Personality traits
• Emotional instability
• Aggression
• Parenting attitudes
• Denigration of the other parent
• Poor judgment

• Social media posts regularly become evidence in family court proceedings.
• Children are often deeply impacted by parents’ online conflict.
• Passive-aggressive memes and public attacks can seriously damage credibility.
• Dating profiles and fundraising pages may create legal complications.
• Courts increasingly examine digital behaviour closely.
• Online conduct may influence parenting decisions and intervention order proceedings.
• Emotional “purging” online rarely helps legal outcomes.
• If you wouldn’t want a judge reading it aloud in court — don’t post it.

Darren Mort

Family law barrister focused on parenting disputes, family violence and trauma-informed advocacy.

Joplin Higgins

Family lawyer, Director of Joplin Lawyers and advocate for trauma-informed family law practice.

If you are currently navigating separation or family law proceedings:

• Avoid posting emotionally reactive content online
• Never involve children in online disputes
• Assume all posts may eventually be read in court
• Seek legal advice before engaging publicly about proceedings
• Prioritise your children’s emotional wellbeing above online validation

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• Domestic and family violence
• Strangulation and choking
• Trauma and coercive control
• Psychological abuse
• Court processes involving victim-survivors

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In one of the most confronting and emotionally powerful episodes of Dear Divorce Diary, Darren Mort (Family Law Barrister) and Joplin Higgins (Practising Family Lawyer) tackle the deeply serious topic of strangulation within intimate relationships — and why it is considered one of the strongest indicators of future lethality in domestic violence situations.

Drawing on their extensive experience within the family law and court systems, Daz and Jop unpack:

• How coercive and controlling behaviour escalates into physical violence
• Why strangulation is treated as an extreme risk factor
• The devastating psychological and physiological impacts on victim-survivors
• How criminal and family law systems intersect in these matters
• The evidentiary challenges victims face
• Why trauma-informed legal support is critical
• The long-term impact family violence has on children
• The urgent need for education, prevention and cultural change

This episode is both educational and deeply human — offering insight into the realities faced by victim-survivors navigating separation, parenting and the legal system after severe domestic violence.

Daz and Jop discuss how many victim-survivors never seek immediate medical treatment following strangulation incidents — often due to fear, trauma or shock.

They highlight serious medical consequences including:

• Acquired brain injuries
• Memory loss and amnesia
• Oxygen deprivation
• Esophagus and airway injuries
• Long-term neurological damage
• Severe psychological trauma and PTSD

Jop strongly encourages victim-survivors to seek urgent medical attention and documentation after any strangulation incident.

One of the most important parts of the episode examines why victim-survivors may delay reporting violence to police, doctors or the courts.

The conversation explores:

• Fear of retaliation
• Trauma responses
• Emotional paralysis
• Concern for children
• Financial dependency
• Psychological conditioning through coercive control

Daz explains how defence teams in court often scrutinise “contemporaneous reporting” — meaning whether incidents were immediately reported — despite the complex trauma responses victims experience.

Darren Mort

Family law barrister, advocate and commentator focused on family violence, parenting matters and trauma-informed legal practice.

Joplin Higgins

Family lawyer, author and Director of Joplin Lawyers, recognised for her work in family violence advocacy and victim-survivor support.

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If this episode has raised concerns for you or someone you know, support is available through Australian domestic violence and crisis services.

You are encouraged to seek assistance from:

• Call Triple Zero - Police in emergencies
• Domestic violence support services
• Trauma-informed counsellors
• Medical professionals
• Legal practitioners experienced in family violence matters

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Although Australia operates under a no-fault divorce system, Daz and Jop explore why affairs can still play a significant role in the breakdown of relationships, family dynamics, parenting arrangements, and even allegations of coercive and controlling behaviour.

The discussion moves beyond the traditional concept of infidelity and examines how affairs can become intertwined with:

• Emotional abuse
• Psychological harm
• Family violence dynamics
• Coercive control
• Family contributions and relationship breakdown

This episode highlights the reality that while Australia has a no-fault divorce system, the emotional and behavioural consequences of affairs can still have profound effects on:

• Families
• Parenting relationships
• Mental health
• Court proceedings
• Allegations of coercive or emotionally abusive conduct

Important themes explored include:

• Respect and honesty during relationship breakdown
• The emotional impact of betrayal
• The evolving role of coercive control in family law
• How modern technology is changing relationships
• The importance of understanding the broader context surrounding infidelity

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New episodes explore complex family law topics with practical insights and real-world discussion designed to help listeners better understand the divorce process.

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In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, family law professionals Darren Mort and Joplin Higgins explore how this behaviour appears in relationships, how it is interpreted in the court system, and why it can be difficult to prove.

Through an unscripted role-play scenario, Darren and Joplin demonstrate how two people in the same relationship can experience the same situation very differently.

The discussion highlights how patterns of behaviour—rather than isolated incidents—are often the key to understanding coercive control within marriages and during divorce proceedings.

The episode begins by unpacking the meaning of coercive control, a form of family violence that may not involve physical harm but can include psychological, financial, or emotional manipulation.

Darren and Joplin explain that many people struggle to identify coercive control because:

• It often occurs gradually over time
• It may involve subtle forms of manipulation
• Victims may feel constantly on edge or fearful without clear incidents of physical violence

This makes the issue both legally and emotionally complex.

A key discussion point is the difference between legitimate financial management and financial abuse.

Joplin explains that setting a household budget is normal in many relationships. However, financial behaviour may become controlling when it includes:

• Restricting access to money
• Requiring detailed justification for everyday spending
• Monitoring purchases in a way that undermines autonomy
• Controlling access to government payments or income

These patterns can lead to a situation where one partner loses financial independence.

Both Darren and Joplin emphasise that coercive control is rarely defined by a single incident.

Instead, courts typically look for:

• Repeated behaviours over time
• A pattern that demonstrates power or dominance
• Conduct that creates fear, dependence, or restriction for the other partner

Understanding this pattern is essential for lawyers when preparing cases and presenting evidence.

One of the biggest challenges in family law is proving coercive behaviour in court.

Unlike physical violence, coercive control often leaves little physical evidence. Instead, it may rely on:

• Personal accounts of behaviour
• Recorded communications
• Financial records
• Witness testimony
• Patterns of conduct over time

Because of this, lawyers must spend significant time building a detailed background history of the relationship.

This episode provides valuable insight into one of the most debated and evolving areas of family law.

Important takeaways include:

• Coercive control often involves patterns of behaviour rather than single incidents
• Financial management can become problematic when it restricts autonomy or independence
• Evidence of coercive behaviour requires detailed documentation and legal preparation
• Context and relationship dynamics are critical when assessing allegations

As Darren and Joplin highlight, coercive control is a complex legal and social issue, and understanding it requires careful examination of both personal experiences and legal standards.

If you’re navigating separation, parenting arrangements, or family court processes, Dear Divorce Diary offers real conversations and practical insights from experienced family law professionals.

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In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, family law experts Darren Mort (Family Law Barrister) and Joplin Higgins (Family Law Solicitor) unpack the importance of financial literacy when navigating property settlements.

They explore why many people (particularly women) enter divorce proceedings with little understanding of their financial position, and why gaining clarity around assets, debts, and superannuation is critical before negotiating a settlement.

From balance sheets and disclosure obligations to mediation preparation and superannuation splits, this episode provides practical insights into how financial transparency shapes fair outcomes in family law matters.

Darren and Joplin begin by explaining the concept of financial literacy and why it becomes a critical issue during separation.

Many people move through relationships with one partner managing most of the finances, which can leave the other partner unaware of:

• Bank accounts
• Debts
• Investments
• Superannuation
• Loans or liabilities

When separation occurs, this lack of awareness can create significant stress and uncertainty.

One of the first steps in a property settlement is creating a balance sheet that lists the entire financial position of the relationship.

This typically includes:

• Real estate and property
• Bank accounts
• Credit cards and loans
• Superannuation
• Share portfolios
• Vehicles, boats or other major assets

Joplin explains that many clients are surprised by what appears on the balance sheet, particularly when they discover debts or accounts they didn’t know existed.

Darren and Joplin discuss situations where one partner restricts access to financial documents or accounts.

Examples may include:

• Locked financial records
• Unexplained bank transfers
• Unknown credit cards or debts
• Limited access to financial information during the relationship

While this behaviour does not always amount to financial abuse, it can sometimes indicate controlling or obstructive behaviour that may become relevant in legal proceedings.

Superannuation is often one of the largest assets in a marriage, yet many people know little about how it works in property settlements.

Darren and Joplin discuss:

• Obtaining accurate superannuation balances
• Using court forms to request updated super information
• The difference between standard funds and defined benefit schemes

Defined benefit funds—often found in sectors such as police, defence, or emergency services—can require special valuation methods.

If an agreement is reached, it can be formalised through Consent Orders, which are submitted to the court for approval.

The court must determine whether the agreement is “just and equitable” before making it legally binding.

This ensures that property settlements reflect a fair division of assets and liabilities.

This episode highlights the critical importance of understanding your finances during a relationship and particularly during separation.

Important lessons include:

• Know your financial position
• Maintain access to financial records
• Understand your assets and liabilities
• Seek legal advice before negotiating settlements
• Ensure agreements are properly documented and approved by the court

Financial literacy can significantly impact the fairness, efficiency, and outcome of divorce proceedings.

If you’re navigating separation, parenting arrangements, or family court processes, Dear Divorce Diary offers real conversations and practical insights from experienced family law professionals.

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In this episode, Darren and Joplin unpack one of the most frustrating situations in family law: when a parent refuses to comply with parenting orders or consent orders.

They discuss what the law says, what practical options exist for the parent doing the right thing, and why non-compliance can create serious consequences - particularly for children caught in the middle.

The conversation also explores whether the current legal tools for enforcing orders are effective, and why some legal processes may be more costly and time-consuming than people expect.

Darren and Joplin cover a wide range of issues surrounding breaches of Family Court orders, including:

What court orders actually mean

• Why parenting orders and consent orders are legally binding
• The expectation that court orders must be followed
• The consequences when someone deliberately ignores them

What to do when orders aren’t followed

• The typical first step: lawyers sending formal letters requesting compliance
• When and how a contravention application may be filed
• Why these applications can become complex and expensive

Contravention proceedings explained

• How these matters are treated as civil proceedings with potential criminal sanctions
• The steps involved, including mediation and court processes
• Why Darren believes contravention applications are sometimes ineffective

Alternative approaches

• Why enforcement proceedings may sometimes be a faster or more flexible option
• How courts may address repeated breaches or ongoing conflict

A key theme in the discussion is how non-compliance with court orders affects children.

Darren and Joplin discuss:

• The emotional pressure placed on children when parents refuse to cooperate
• How children may feel caught between parents
• Why compliance with orders is essential for maintaining stability in children’s lives

They also explore the difficult situations that arise when teenagers begin expressing their own preferences about time with each parent.

As children move into their teenage years, family dynamics can change.

Topics discussed include:

• Whether parenting orders should remain rigid when children are older
• The growing importance of a child’s voice in family law matters
• How parents can responsibly communicate about changing needs and schedules

Throughout the episode, Darren and Joplin emphasise the value of mediation as a tool for resolving disputes.

They discuss:

• When mediation may help resolve parenting issues before returning to court
• Child-inclusive mediation and how it can help give children a voice
• The importance of parents being willing to listen and compromise

The episode concludes with a discussion about maintaining meaningful relationships with children in separated families.

Darren shares the value of spending one-on-one time with children, allowing parents to better understand:

• How their children are feeling
• Their evolving needs and social lives
• How parenting arrangements are working from the child’s perspective

Court orders exist to provide clarity, structure, and stability for families after separation. When those orders are ignored, it can lead to costly legal battles and emotional strain—particularly for children.

As Darren and Joplin highlight, the best outcomes usually come when parents communicate openly, remain child-focused, and use mediation wherever possible.

If you’re navigating separation, parenting arrangements, or family court processes, Dear Divorce Diary offers real conversations and practical insights from experienced family law professionals.

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Prompted by a wave of listener questions, Daz and Jop unpack the common misconception that grandparents have “rights” in the family law system — and explain why, legally, all rights belong to the child.

What grandparents do have, however, are responsibilities, and in many cases a profoundly important role in a child’s emotional stability, routine and sense of belonging.

The conversation explores:

• When and how grandparents can seek time with their grandchildren
• Why courts often support ongoing grandparent relationships
• The impact of separation, anger and grief on extended family bonds
• When grandparents should consider mediation or court applications
• The long-term consequences of cutting children off from loving grandparents

Through real-world examples — from after-school care to funerals, cultural traditions and long-distance relationships — this episode highlights how decisions made in moments of hurt can echo well into a child’s future.

As always, the focus remains firmly on the child’s best interests, encouraging parents and grandparents alike to look beyond conflict, prioritise perspective, and keep their eyes on the road ahead rather than the rear-view mirror.

A must-listen for grandparents, parents, and anyone navigating separation with children involved.

Why This Episode Matters

Whether someone is just contemplating separation or deep into negotiations, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate look at what the process actually feels like — beyond forms and courtrooms. The blend of legal insight and emotional awareness helps listeners feel equipped, not overwhelmed, by the road ahead.

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

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Daz & Jop explain why this term is not just a trendy buzzword, and why many lawyers and judicial officers may not truly understand what it means in practice. Joplin, a recognised expert in the field and author of a book on trauma-informed practice, explains how lawyers and courts must ensure they do not re-traumatise clients during the legal process.

The episode explores the practical application of trauma-informed approaches in family law. Joplin describes strategies used in her firm to create a safe environment, including:

• weighted blankets and heat packs
• stress balls
• massage chairs
• structured communication strategies (urgent vs non-urgent emails)
• pre-conference forms to avoid repeatedly asking clients to recount traumatic incidents

They discuss how domestic violence and coercive behaviour are present in many family law cases, and why it’s essential to handle information sensitively. The hosts also highlight how the legal process can unintentionally cause ongoing trauma, especially when clients are repeatedly asked to relive painful events.

Darren highlights the court’s trauma-informed initiatives, including the court dog program, which supports parties and children through the process. They also discuss the need for lawyers to be aware of clients’ capacity to give instructions, and how trauma can affect memory and communication.

Joplin emphasises that trauma-informed practice is not just about empathy — it is about creating safety, stability, and clarity so clients can participate effectively in their case. The episode ends with a powerful reminder that trauma-informed practice is a professional responsibility, not a marketing term, and clients should expect it from their family lawyer.

Key Topics Covered:

• What “trauma-informed practice” actually means
• Why it’s not just a buzzword
• How legal processes can re-traumatise clients
• Practical strategies in law firms to reduce stress
• Why communication strategy matters (urgent vs non-urgent)
• How domestic violence and coercive behaviour impact cases
• Court initiatives like the therapy dog program
• The importance of safe client environments
• Trauma’s impact on clients’ capacity to give instructions
• Why trauma-informed practice is essential in family law

Why This Episode Matters

Whether someone is just contemplating separation or deep into negotiations, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate look at what the process actually feels like — beyond forms and courtrooms. The blend of legal insight and emotional awareness helps listeners feel equipped, not overwhelmed, by the road ahead.

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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The episode opens with the hosts explaining the podcast rules: they can’t provide direct legal advice, but they can discuss themes based on listener questions. The conversation is driven by questions submitted via TikTok and Instagram, focusing on the core issue of selecting a lawyer who will genuinely support you through the family law process.

Joplin explains that the relationship between client and lawyer is crucial. Separation is emotionally draining and often financially stressful, so you need a lawyer who is not only skilled but also someone you can work with for potentially two years or more. The hosts emphasise the importance of chemistry and trust, and encourage listeners to trust their instincts if a lawyer doesn’t feel like the right fit.

They discuss how to assess a lawyer’s suitability, including:

• Specialist expertise (trusts, businesses, domestic violence, trauma-informed practice)
• Experience and practical knowledge (not just “talking the talk”)
• The lawyer’s ability to manage complex emotional and mental health issues
• Firm structure and how cases are handled day-to-day
• Who will actually work on the file (junior lawyers, paralegals, support staff)

Daz highlights the importance of understanding who is handling the case when the principal lawyer is in court. He warns that many clients feel let down when they are left dealing with a junior solicitor they barely know, and stresses the need for transparency from the outset.

The hosts also discuss the practical side of legal fees, explaining:

• Cost agreements and what they cover
• Trust accounts and payment structures
• Fixed fees vs hourly rates
• The importance of understanding what is included in any fixed fee package
• The contractual nature of cost agreements and what happens if the case becomes more complex

The episode concludes with a reminder that choosing a lawyer is one of the most significant decisions in the family law process. The hosts encourage listeners to ask questions, seek clarity, and always trust their instincts.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why choosing a lawyer is the most important decision in family law
• Importance of personality fit and trust
• Long-term nature of family law cases (often 2+ years)
• Need for specialist expertise (domestic violence, trusts, business)
• Trauma-informed practice and social science knowledge
• Firm structure and who handles your case
• Importance of knowing support staff (secretary, accounts, juniors)
• Costs and cost agreements explained
• Fixed fee vs hourly rate
• How to avoid being trapped in the wrong legal relationship

Why This Episode Matters

Whether someone is just contemplating separation or deep into negotiations, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate look at what the process actually feels like — beyond forms and courtrooms. The blend of legal insight and emotional awareness helps listeners feel equipped, not overwhelmed, by the road ahead.

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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Daz & Jop begin by reminding listeners of the podcast’s ground rules: they will discuss themes, not give direct legal advice, and they won’t discuss specific people or cases. Most listeners are navigating family law for the first time, so the hosts aim to provide clarity and support in a confusing process.

The conversation then moves to the complex topic of change of residence, which used to be called custody. Daz explains that these cases are among the hardest to win because they involve destabilising a child’s primary care arrangement. The court prioritises risk and safety, and the child’s views are considered but weighed based on age and developmental maturity.

Daz and Jop also discuss how the court assesses parental attitude — especially where one parent refuses to facilitate a relationship between the child and the other parent. They share a real courtroom example showing how disrespect and denigration can dramatically harm a parent’s case. The hosts emphasise that the court is focused on maintaining stability and safety, not punishing parents.

The episode then explores the role of step-parents, challenging the common stereotype that they are “bad” or unwanted. The hosts share examples of healthy step-parent relationships and how cooperative co-parenting can benefit children. They also discuss the risks of a new partner who may be unsafe, and how this can impact a change of residence case.

Finally, the episode covers capacity to parent and the role of family reports, including child impact reports, psychological assessments, and children’s views reports. While these reports can be helpful, the hosts remind listeners that they are just one piece of evidence and are not always conclusive.

The episode ends with a reminder that family law is a complex system, and that understanding the themes and processes can help parents make better decisions for their children.

Key Topics Covered:

• Rules for listener questions (no legal advice, no names, no case details)
• Change of residence explained (formerly custody)
• Court’s focus: risk, safety, and child’s views
• How parental attitude affects outcomes
• The impact of coercive behaviour and denigration
• The role of step-parents in modern families
• Risk of unsafe new partners
• Capacity to parent and how courts assess it
• Family reports, psychiatric reports, and children’s views reports
• The cost and limitations of expert reports

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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They explain that many separated parents unintentionally make mistakes because they simply don’t know what to do — and then they’re judged for it in court.

This episode goes beyond legal process and dives into the human story behind family breakdowns, revealing how family lawyers often become lifelong supports for clients and children. Darren shares his personal journey — from growing up through family breakdown and financial hardship, to creating powerful films like Tommy, Millie, and the upcoming Jack & Jill. These films were born from real experiences, including Darren’s work on the Family Violence Task Force and his own childhood trauma.

Daz & Jop discuss how family law isn’t just a case, it’s a lifelong impact on children — and why having resources like films and books can help parents understand their child’s emotional world. Darren explains the inspiration behind his films, how they’re used in courts and parenting programs globally, and how they help families navigate the separation process in a child-focused way.

They also highlight the importance of support, empathy, and education, and why separation is not something most people are prepared for — yet it changes lives forever.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why separation feels like “uncharted territory”
• The emotional trauma behind family law
• How lawyers build long-term relationships with clients
• Darren’s personal story of family breakdown
• The creation of the films Tommy, Millie, and Jack & Jill
• The impact of family conflict on children
• How children interpret separation and blame themselves
• How educational tools help parents understand their child’s world
• The importance of empathy, support and community

Why This Episode Matters

Whether someone is just contemplating separation or deep into negotiations, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate look at what the process actually feels like — beyond forms and courtrooms. The blend of legal insight and emotional awareness helps listeners feel equipped, not overwhelmed, by the road ahead.

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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With years of courtroom experience, they explain why only a small percentage of cases actually need to go to trial, and why many families would benefit from avoiding court entirely—both emotionally and financially.

Daz and Jop focus on keeping the child at the centre of every decision, explaining that even if parents hate each other, they still share a lifelong responsibility to their children. They reference the “Tommy” film used in US family courts to illustrate the damage children experience when parents fight.

Daz & Jop share practical tools for better co-parenting, including:

• Parenting courses (such as Tuning into Kids/Teenagers)
• Psychological support and mindfulness
• Regular “iron-out” sessions to revisit parenting plans
• Mediation and why two-day mediations are often more effective
• Co-parenting apps like Our Family Wizard and AppClose

They also highlight common pitfalls that cause conflict, including:

• Social media denigration
• Involving new partners in the conflict
• Using children as weapons during changeovers
• Disputes about child support and spending
• Rigid parenting schedules that ignore child development

The episode concludes with a reminder that children are impacted by conflict long into adulthood, and that co-parenting is about behaviour—not feelings. Even if parents can’t stand each other, they can still learn to behave respectfully for the sake of their kids.

Key Topics Covered

• Why court is not always necessary
• The “child-focused lens” concept
• Parenting courses and tools
• The harm of public conflict on social media
• The importance of communication boundaries
• Why co-parenting requires work
• Managing changeovers calmly
• The benefits of mediation
• Using parenting apps to reduce conflict
• Why schedules must adapt as children grow
• The long-term impact of conflict on kids

When a relationship ends, it can feel like the world is breaking apart — legally, emotionally and practically. The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast exists to guide you through that difficult landscape with clarity, compassion and a child-focused mindset.

Each episode, Darren “Daz” Mort and Joplin “Jop” Higgins draw on their extensive experience within the family law system to unpack what separation and divorce really look like — not just on paper, but in real life.

They believe that families deserve dignity, children deserve protection, and adults deserve guidance that is calm, respectful and grounded in expertise rather than conflict.

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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In this opening episode of Dear Divorce Diary, family law barrister Darren “Daz” Mort and family lawyer Joplin “Jop” Higgins introduce themselves, the purpose of the podcast, and the values that sit at the heart of their work. Drawing on decades spent “at the coalface” of the family law system, they explain why separation and divorce don’t have to be driven by conflict, fear or financial ruin.

Daz and Jop speak candidly about the realities of family breakdown — the emotional toll, the cost, and the long-term impact on children — and why a child-focused mindset is critical, even when parents are hurting. They unpack the idea that while relationships may end, parenting never does, and explore how high conflict between adults can leave lasting scars on children well into adulthood.

The episode places a strong emphasis on co-parenting: what it really means, why it’s hard, and how it can be done better.

Through real courtroom insights and lived examples, they discuss avoiding unnecessary court battles, managing communication, revisiting parenting plans as children grow, and using practical tools like mediation, parenting courses and co-parenting apps to reduce conflict.

Daz and Jop also tackle common flashpoints such as social media oversharing, chaotic changeovers, denigration of the other parent, third-party interference, and misunderstandings around child support — all with a mix of honesty, warmth and straight-talk.

Ultimately, this episode sets the tone for the series: calm, practical guidance grounded in expertise, aimed at helping families navigate separation with dignity, protect children from conflict, and make decisions they can live with long after the legal process ends.

When a relationship ends, it can feel like the world is breaking apart — legally, emotionally and practically. The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast exists to guide you through that difficult landscape with clarity, compassion and a child-focused mindset.

Each episode, Darren “Daz” Mort and Joplin “Jop” Higgins draw on their extensive experience within the family law system to unpack what separation and divorce really look like — not just on paper, but in real life.They believe that families deserve dignity, children deserve protection, and adults deserve guidance that is calm, respectful and grounded in expertise rather than conflict.

Together, they explore the issues so many couples face when separating, including:

• How to divorce with dignity
• Understanding the family court process
• What to expect in mediation
• How to co-parent respectfully and consistently
• Financial and property settlement — explained in plain English
• Parenting arrangements after divorce
• How to avoid court and resolve disputes constructively
• Practical tips for separating parents
• Child-focused decision making and emotional awareness
• When to involve a lawyer or barrister
• Better communication during conflict and separation

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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Each episode, Darren “Daz” Mort and Joplin “Jop” Higgins draw on their extensive experience within the family law system to unpack what separation and divorce really look like — not just on paper, but in real life.

They believe that families deserve dignity, children deserve protection, and adults deserve guidance that is calm, respectful and grounded in expertise rather than conflict.

Together, they explore the issues so many couples face when separating, including:

• How to divorce with dignity
• Understanding the family court process
• What to expect in mediation
• How to co-parent respectfully and consistently
• Financial and property settlement — explained in plain English
• Parenting arrangements after divorce
• How to avoid court and resolve disputes constructively
• Practical tips for separating parents
• Child-focused decision making and emotional awareness
• When to involve a lawyer or barrister
• Better communication during conflict and separation

And because no two separations look the same, you can be part of the conversation.

Listeners are invited to submit their questions for Daz & Jop, with future episodes dedicated to answering real experiences, real challenges and real concerns from the people who need guidance most.

Whether you’re contemplating separation, navigating court, co-parenting, or simply trying to put your children first through the uncertainty — The Dear Divorce Diary Podcast offers steady, professional guidance to help reshape the path ahead.

Real law. Real families. Real conversations.

Subscribe, listen, learn — and know that you’re not alone.

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