The Deeper Love Podcast: For the Woman Healing After Betraying Someone She Loved

S2#048 – The Year We Tried To Save Our Marriage After My Affair

Tue, 07 Jul 2026 04:00:00 -0000

The year after I told my then-husband I'd been unfaithful to him was the hardest year of my life. I pray to God I never experience a year harder than that.

I don't think anyone talks about that year enough, because the moment the truth comes out feels like an explosion, but what comes after is total devastation. And it is so hard to navigate.

In this episode I'm going deep into that year - The couples therapy on Zoom, the conversations we kept having that we didn’t realise were just re-traumatising us both. Moving out into my mum's little cottage in the middle of COVID, curled up on the sofa, crying every single day, barely able to think straight.

I share the two things I genuinely regret about how I handled that period and what I now understand about what actually helps repair and what doesn't. The moment I actually asked for something I needed, and was absolutely petrified he'd say no. How I eventually knew it was over, and why, even in the terror of walking away from everything I'd built, I chose to trust there was something on the other side.

If you're in the repair phase right now, this one is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

Why the year after I told him was the hardest year of my life, and what made it so
The conversations we kept having on repeat that were re-traumatising us both, and why I couldn't stop
What the couples therapist told us to do, why it made complete sense, and why it was almost impossible to actually do
Why I kept giving him every detail he asked for, and what I now understand about what actually helps repair and what doesn't
The two things I genuinely regret about how I handled that period
What it felt like to move back in during the second lockdown, and realise almost immediately it was too soon
Losing two of my closest friends in the same period, and the true isolation of that
The moment I asked for something I needed for the first time, and what happened when I did
How I eventually knew it was over
Why, even in the terror of walking away from everything I'd built, I chose to trust there was something on the other side

If this episode landed

If you're in it right now. If you're having the same conversations on repeat. If you feel like you have to sit through everything because you're the one who caused this. If you're so lost you can't see the end of your own nose.

The Sanctuary is the space I wish had existed when I was going through what you're going through right now. A private community for women in the aftermath of an affair, where you don't have to do this alone, don't have to perform fine, and don't have to have it figured out before you walk in.

The door is open.

S2#047 – How My Spiritual Awakening Helped Me Heal The Shame Of My Affair

Tue, 30 Jun 2026 04:00:00 -0000

Seven years ago, I would have rolled my eyes at everything in this episode.

I thought crystals were bollocks. I thought energy healing was bollocks. I thought past lives were definitely bollocks. I was a rational, logical, practical TV executive, and nobody could have convinced me otherwise.

And then my life imploded, and I got desperate. And desperate women do things they never thought they'd do (like spend over £800 on a two-day retreat in a converted chapel in East London, covered in sage smoke and quartz crystals, surrounded by complete strangers).

And within about forty minutes, I was sobbing on a yoga mat, having never cried in front of a stranger in my life.

That was the beginning of something and I had no idea what. Something that would take years to understand, and that I still don't fully understand now. A spiritual awakening that wasn't rainbows and unicorns… it was bloody terrifying. A complete dissolution of everything I thought I was.

In this episode, I share all of it. The card that was pulled at that retreat - the goddess Kali, the beginning of the end. The synchronicities I couldn't explain. The ayahuasca ceremonies in the Amazon that broke me open and showed me things I still can't quite believe. The moment the plant told me that the fear I'd been carrying in my body wasn't even mine (it was my mother's). And the conversation with my mum, weeks later, that confirmed every word of it.

This isn't an episode that will tell you what to believe. It's an episode about what happens when the life you've controlled falls apart, and something else (something you didn't expect) starts to appear.

In this episode, we explore:

Why I walked into that retreat as a complete sceptic, and left sobbing on a yoga mat, surrounded by strangers, for the first time in my life
The Kali card, and why even without any spiritual belief, I knew in my body that it was true
What a spiritual awakening actually feels like (spoiler: nothing like the Instagram version)
The dark night of the soul - the terrifying in-between of who you were and who you're becoming
Why I kept swinging between "maybe there's something more" and "Alex, you're being ridiculous"
The ayahuasca ceremonies in the Amazon - what happened, what I heard, and why it broke me open in ways nothing else had
The moment I was shown that the fear I'd been carrying in my body was ancestral, and what my mum said when I told her
How I met Adam and why I believe, genuinely, that it was not a coincidence
What it actually means to stop controlling and surrender - not as a spiritual concept, but as something you have to practise in real time, in real relationships
The question that changed everything for me: what if your life isn't over? What if you're standing in the middle of a chapter, not the end of a book?

If this episode landed

If something in this episode cracked something open. If you've been white-knuckling your way through the aftermath, trying to think your way out, trying to control your way back to safety.

Sometimes we need to sit with other women who can see possibilities we can't yet see for ourselves. Women who have been in the middle of it and come out the other side. That's why The Sanctuary exists.

It's my private community for women in the aftermath of an affair. Not a programme. A room. A place where you don't have to tidy yourself up before you walk in.

The door is open.

S2#046 – The Affair Wasn't the First Sign Something Was Wrong

Tue, 23 Jun 2026 04:00:00 -0000

I want to take you back to 2019. Sat in Homerton Hospital, in the fertility department with my then husband next to me. Signing the consent forms for IVF.

And the whole time, I was carrying the secret that I had been unfaithful to him.

That moment, I can see now, contained the whole story. Because I was sitting there trying to create life whilst being completely disconnected from my own.

The irregular periods, the fertility struggles, the rage at my own body for not doing what I needed it to do - I thought that was the problem. I thought my body was failing me. But what I understand now is that my body wasn't failing me at all. It was trying to get my attention. It had been trying to get my attention for years.

The affair wasn't the first sign something was wrong - It was just the loudest one.

In this episode, I share what was really going on underneath the high-achieving, always-pushing, never-needing version of me that walked into that hospital. The woman who went to IVF appointments alone because asking for support felt weak. Who was so disconnected from her own emotions that she didn't even know she was carrying grief. Whose body was screaming, and who had no idea how to listen.

And I share what happened when I finally did.

In this episode, we explore:

The moment in Homerton Hospital that I can now see contained the whole story
Why the woman who can fix anything - organise a crew to the North Pole in three days (!) - couldn't fix her own menstrual cycle, and what that was really about
How living almost entirely in masculine energy showed up in my body, my relationships, and eventually, the affair
Why I went to IVF appointments alone, and what I now know that version of me actually needed
The connection between emotional numbness and fertility struggles that nobody was telling me about
What it means that my cycle became regular after eight months of deep emotional work, and why I'm more fertile at 43 than I was at 34
How the affair, the infertility, the exhaustion - none of it was the beginning. All of it was the body sending the same message, louder and louder
The question I never once stopped to ask myself: how am I actually doing?
What it feels like to stop trying to force and control, and surrender instead

If this episode landed

If you recognised yourself in the pushing. In the never slowing down. In the part of you that had built an entire identity out of being the one who didn't need anything - until something cracked open and demanded to be heard.

The Sanctuary is my private, ongoing community for women in the aftermath of an affair. Not a programme. A room of women, carrying what you're carrying, where you get to be completely honest, to say what's actually happening and to begin to listen to yourself again, surrounded by women who just get it.

Because after my affair, as I started this, there was nowhere for me to take any of this. I built The Sanctuary because that place needs to exist.

S2#045 – What Nobody Told Me About The Year After The Affair

Tue, 16 Jun 2026 04:00:00 -0000

Everyone talks about the moment the affair comes out.

Nobody talks about what happens next.

In this episode, I'm going inside the year that broke me far more than the affair itself - the year I spent trying to repair, trying to make it right, and completely disappearing in the process.

Because here's what I know now that I didn't know then: telling the truth was not the lowest point. The lowest point was the twelve months that followed, when I gave him everything - every answer, every conversation, every piece of my nervous system - because I had decided, in the moment I saw his devastation, that I owed him all of me.

I thought absorbing his pain was the same as taking accountability.

It wasn't, it was self-abandonment but it just looked different. And it was more painful than anything that had come before it.

In this episode, I share what I wish someone had told me: there is a difference between listening to how you've hurt someone, and using their pain to punish yourself. And if you don't know that line exists, you will cross it again and again without ever knowing you're doing it.

If you're in the repair phase right now - trying to hold it all together, trying to make it right, shrinking yourself around his moods - this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

Why the year after the affair broke me more than the affair itself
The unconscious decision I made the moment I saw his devastation, and how it cost me everything
Why I thought absorbing his pain was the same as accountability (and why it wasn't)
The difference between being answerable for what you did, and using someone's hurt to punish yourself
Why those two-hour crying sessions on the sofa were re-traumatising us both, and what we actually needed instead
How self-abandonment continued (and amplified) in the repair phase, and I didn’t have a clue
Why the shame of the affair made me believe I had no right to need anything at all
The sneaky thing about self-abandonment: it doesn't announce itself. It just feels like being a good person.
The one question to ask yourself if you're in the repair phase right now

If this episode landed

If you recognised yourself in the shrinking. In answering every question at whatever cost to yourself. In the part of you that believes you have to earn your way back to being allowed to need something. I see you, and I know how hard this is to navigate alone.

The reason I built The Sanctuary is because when I was in the midst of the aftermath, I longed for a safe place to go where I wouldn’t be judged, and I could heal with other women who understood the pain I was in.

The Sanctuary is my private, ongoing community for women in the aftermath of an affair. Join today and have immediate access to the sisterhood.

You don't have to keep doing this alone.

Click here to discover more.

S2#044 – After My Affair, I Thought The World Was Better Without Me. This Is How I Found My Way Back.

Tue, 09 Jun 2026 04:00:00 -0000

Six years ago, I genuinely didn't know if I wanted to keep living. The shame of what I had done felt unbearable. I couldn't think straight, I couldn't be present, and I couldn't imagine a future where I felt okay again.

And yet today, I'm sitting behind a microphone telling that story publicly.

So what happened? How did I get from there to here? Because I can tell you, it wasn't time. It wasn't understanding what went wrong in my relationship. And it definitely wasn't listening to podcasts.

In this episode, I share the part of my story I've never told in this much detail: the year after my affair, when I was convinced that forgetting was my only option. We were about to start IVF. We were mid-way through a huge house extension. My then husband was deep in his accountancy exams. Telling him felt like it would collapse everything, so I said nothing, looked functional on the outside, and quietly fell apart on the inside.

I talk about the pressure in my chest I didn't recognise as anxiety, the obsessive overthinking, the secret crying, and the loneliness of carrying something 99% of my friends knew nothing about.

And I share the realisation that changed everything: the affair wasn't actually the thing I needed to heal. The affair was the thing that exposed everything that had been running underneath my life without me even realising. The mask of perfectionism. The self-abandonment that started long before the betrayal. The needs I didn't know I was allowed to have.

In this episode, I explore:

Why "just forgetting it" felt like my only option, and why it quietly destroyed me instead
What it's really like to look functional on the outside while falling apart on the inside
How shame lives in the body: the chest pressure, the bracing, the obsessive overthinking
The moment my first mentor said "let's put the affair to one side and focus on you," and why that changed everything
How I'd abandoned myself long before I betrayed my husband
Why I couldn't ask for my needs to be met, and the IVF clinic moment that blew my mind
The mask of perfectionism: the achieving, the control, the confidence that wasn't real
Why books, insight, and even therapy alone weren't enough, and why the work had to go into the body
What the willingness to be seen as my most messy, raw, vulnerable self actually gave me
Why the shame might not be the punishment. It might be the doorway.

If you're carrying this right now

If you're desperately trying to forget. If you're trying to figure out why you did it. If you feel like you're drowning with no way of getting to shore.

I want you to know that everything I was trying to avoid became the path back to myself. And the best first step you can take is one I wish I'd taken sooner: letting yourself be supported.

The Sanctuary is my community for women in the aftermath of their own betrayal. We meet twice a month on Zoom, and it might be the first space where you get to share your truth out loud and have it met with nothing but compassion, and no judgement.

That is the first step to becoming truly free from the shame and guilt you're carrying.

Click here to discover more.

S2#043 – The Secret That's Eating You Alive

Tue, 02 Jun 2026 04:00:00 -0000

For two years after the affair, I told no one. Not my husband. Not the friends I’d call sisters, the ones who’d held me through my own heartbreak years earlier. I sat at New Year’s parties and weddings and birthdays, keeping it light, breezy, fine. And inside, I was dying. Dying of shame. Dying of guilt. Dying of the fear that if anyone really saw me, they’d stop loving me.

In this episode, I talk about the secret almost no one names: not the affair itself, but the secrecy that comes after it. The mask of “I’m fine.” The exhaustion that sleep can’t touch. The way secrecy and shame feed each other in a loop that feels like it will never end.

I share how this particular mask wasn’t new. It was one I’d been wearing since childhood, a survival strategy that told me I had to have it all together to stay safe and stay loved. And I share what finally began to loosen its grip: not more hiding, but being witnessed by other women who had walked the same path and simply understood.

This is an honest look at why we keep the secret, what it costs us, and why being truly seen, even in the smallest, most terrifying moment, is where the healing starts.

In this episode, I explore:

Why the secrecy after an affair can be lonelier and heavier than the affair itself
The “I’m fine” mask, and how it can be a survival strategy first learned in childhood
How living as “two different people” depletes your life force and exhausts you in a way sleep can’t heal
The vicious cycle where secrecy compounds shame, and shame demands more secrecy
Why public affair scandals (and the conversations around them) can leave you bracing in silent terror
What changed when Alex was witnessed by women who had been through the same thing
Why we don’t feel seen in our marriages, and the first step to changing that
How allowing yourself to be seen in your messiest moment radiates out into the rest of your life

Key takeaways

Secrecy keeps shame firmly in place. The energy it takes to suppress the truth is what depletes you, not the truth itself.
The mask of “having it all together” often predates the affair. The affair simply cracked it open.
Healing accelerates when you’re witnessed by someone who genuinely gets it. Not to be validated or excused, but to be held without judgement.
We aren’t seen in our relationships partly because we don’t let ourselves be seen. Being witnessed by other women who understand is the first step toward changing that.

If this resonated

If you recognised yourself in the mask, in the exhaustion, in sitting among people you love while feeling completely alone, that matters.

The Sanctuary is an ongoing, gentle space for women in the aftermath of their own betrayal who are tired of carrying it in secret. It exists for the woman who is doing all the right things on the outside but still feels tight, disconnected, and alone inside: the woman who needs somewhere she can finally take the mask off.

Inside, you’re not asked to explain yourself, justify what happened, or rehash the past. You’re witnessed by other women who simply get it, while you learn to stay connected to yourself and regulate your nervous system. It’s completely confidential, with two calls a month and a sisterhood circle on Telegram for the in-between moments, so you’re always held.

You don’t have to do this part alone anymore. Click here to explore The Sanctuary.

S2#042 – How the pain of my affair led me to deeply connected love

Tue, 26 May 2026 04:00:00 -0000

Why is a podcast about healing after betrayal is called The Deeper Love Podcast.

In this episode, I'm answering that.

At my core, I believe the detonation that an affair brings to your life can absolutely become the portal to the deepest love of your life.

You don’t have to leave your husband, but you do have to be willing to face and heal the story that has been running your life, way before the affair happened.

How do I know? Because I lived it.

In the ep, I share the story of being three years old at my nan's house, and a traumatic moment in which my nervous system decided I don't matter. My feelings don't matter. I have to be okay. I have to be strong.

That belief ran my entire life. It made me the strong one, the together one, the woman who looked fine on the outside and was completely numb underneath. It chose the marriage I co-created. And eventually, it was the wound underneath the affair.

It was only because I was in so much pain after my affair that I did the work to heal in this story from the root, by meeting the frozen pain in my nervous system, that I began to start to be the woman who knows she matters. Who no longer puts everyone else’s feelings and needs before hers. Not because she’s selfish, but because she knows her value, and her worth.

And it’s from this place that I attracted the deepest love of my life, because he was a mirror to how I treated myself.

This is the episode I'd want every woman in the aftermath to hear. Because the affair doesn't have to be the end of love. It can be the beginning of the deepest, most connected love you've ever known, including with yourself.

In this episode, we explore:

Why this podcast is called The Deeper Love Podcast and what that name actually means
The shadow part that bursts up and out through an affair, and why burying it again creates more pain
Why every human has shadow parts, and why women who have affairs are treated like lepers for theirs
The childhood moment that imprinted "I don't matter" into my nervous system and ran my adult relationships
Why seeing your patterns isn't enough to change them
The difference between understanding a wound and meeting the part of you that's carrying it
How we co-create the marriages and relationships that fit our deepest wounds
Why leaving your marriage for your affair partner won't free you from the pattern
How meeting my own shadow opened me to the most connected love of my life
What it really means to take accountability without self-annihilation

If this episode landed

If you recognised yourself in the numbness, in the strong one who never let anyone see, in the part of you that's been screaming to be met.

If you've spent years understanding your patterns and you're still stuck inside them.

The Sanctuary is my private, ongoing community for women in the aftermath of an affair. If you’re feeling like a monster, and alone in your pain, The Sanctuary is the place where you can put some of that down.

You don't have to do this alone anymore.

S2#041 – Why You Felt More Alive in the Affair Than You Have in Years (with Lauren Tobey)

Tue, 19 May 2026 04:00:00 -0000

You probably know what it feels like to live two lives at once.

The one that everyone can see - where you're capable, together, achieving, holding it all together.

And the one underneath, where you feel lonely, disconnected, asking yourself, is this it? Where you stopped being desired. Stopped being seen as anything other than the wife, the mother, the high-flying executive, the one that doesn’t need anything.

And then the affair happened. And even though this feels terrifying to say out loud, you felt more alive than you had in years.

In this episode of The Deeper Love Podcast, I'm joined by trauma-informed coach Lauren Tobey for a conversation about who you actually are underneath the mask of the high achieving good girl you've worn your whole life.

After ten years of marriage, an executive career, and a life that looked enviable from the outside, she found herself numb, divorced, and disconnected. Through her own inward journey she realised there was someone much more real and true that had been hiding underneath all the achievement. And from there she could experience love and connection in a whole new way.

Together, we explore:

Why so many high-achieving women feel numb on the inside while looking impressive from the outside
What the affair was actually doing for your nervous system
How childhood patterns of mirroring and keeping-the-peace taught you to abandon yourself long before your marriage
Why marriages slowly become transactional, and how that quietly sets the stage for everything else
Why talk therapy alone often can't shift what's frozen in the body
The myth of the finish line of healing, and why selling it is doing real harm to women
What becomes possible when you stop running from yourself and start walking towards her

This is a conversation about the woman underneath the mask, and the long, non-linear work of meeting her.

If this resonated

If something in this episode landed, if you recognised the mask, the numbness, the sense of having quietly disappeared from your own life, this is the work I hold space for inside The Sanctuary.

The Sanctuary is my ongoing, gentle space for women in the aftermath of their own betrayal who are tired of holding everything together on their own. It exists for the woman who is doing 'all the right things' but still feels tight, disconnected, and alone inside. For the woman who needs somewhere her body can finally exhale.

Inside The Sanctuary, you're not asked to explain yourself, justify what happened, or earn your place by being forgiven. You are held where you are, while learning how to stay connected to yourself, regulate your nervous system, and live with responsibility without self-abandonment.

You don't have to do this part alone anymore.

Click here to discover more

About Lauren Tobey

Lauren Tobey is a double-certified trauma specialist, NLP master practitioner, and the creator of the spiral framework, a body of work that helps women understand healing as a non-linear process of returning to themselves again and again.

Her own journey began in 2020 when, after a decade-long marriage, an adoption, and an executive role at a non-profit, she found herself in a complete identity rupture: divorced, dissociated, and unable to locate the woman beneath the high-achiever mask she had worn her whole life. A subsequent layoff a few years later confirmed what she'd begun to suspect: her sense of self had been quietly outsourced for as long as she could remember.

Lauren is the host of The Spiral Podcast and the author of Spiraling Into Control, a book that reframes 'spiralling' from a sign of breakdown into a natural rhythm of human evolution.

You can find Lauren at:

LaurenTobey.com

The Spiral Podcast (wherever you listen to podcasts) - https://open.spotify.com/show/6rkXUS2gvWdzDU5DyabECh?si=8f8c0b8e595e4c2d

S2#040 – Why Punishing Yourself for the Affair Isn’t the Same as Taking Accountability

Tue, 12 May 2026 04:00:00 -0000

A lot of women think accountability means suffering.

That if you punish yourself long enough… if you accept enough rage… if you hand over every detail… if you shrink yourself into the smallest, most “perfect” version of you… then maybe you’ll finally have paid for what you did.

But punishment isn’t the same as accountability.

In this episode, Alex responds to a question she hears often: “Are you letting women off the hook?”, especially from betrayed partners who fear that compassion equals excuse-making.

Alex speaks directly to the husbands who are listening, validates the devastation of betrayal trauma and then names something most people miss:

A woman drowning in shame cannot love well from that place.

This isn’t about justifying an affair. It’s about understanding the deeper pattern beneath it, the part of you that learned to bury your truth just to be loved, so you can stop performing remorse and start doing the real work of change.

Because real accountability isn’t passive. It’s not “take the punishment and hope it fixes you.”

It’s the harder path: meeting what was underneath, taking responsibility for your unmet needs, and learning to meet them in a way that doesn’t destroy what you love.

In This Episode, We Explore:

Why affairs don’t begin in the bedroom: they begin in the parts of you that learned to bury your truth to be loved
The common fear: “Is this work just giving women an excuse?”
A message directly to betrayed partners: your rage, fear, shame, anxiety and disbelief are valid
Why shame keeps a woman disconnected and why she can’t love well from that place
The difference between wanting the relationship to go “back to normal” vs creating something new and real
Why punishment doesn’t change patterns (and a powerful story from Alex’s time as a TV executive to explain why)
What accountability actually looks like: active, confronting, and deeply honest
Why “performing accountability” keeps the mask intact (strong, capable, perfect on the outside)
The real question: What was the affair trying to fill in you, not in your relationship, but in you?
How to begin: locating what you’re feeling in the body (chest, throat, belly) and letting that be the starting point
Why breaking the cycle is bigger than “never cheat again”, it’s ending the pattern of always putting yourself last

If This Resonated:

If you’re in the aftermath and you can feel something shifting as you listen, if you’re tired of performing remorse, tired of spiralling alone, tired of carrying this in secret, The Sanctuary is where you start.

The Sanctuary is a completely confidential space for women whose affair is over, but everything is still raw and unresolved. Nothing is recorded. Nothing leaves the room. We meet twice a month on Zoom, with a private Telegram community for the moments you need to say the thing you’ve never been able to say out loud.

£97/month (3-month minimum).

https://www.alexcroxford.com/the-sanctuary

And if you feel ready for deeper private support, you’ll also find ways to work with Alex 1:1 in the show notes.

S2#039 – Why Women Cheat: One Woman's Story of Affair, Accountability and Starting Over with Hope Manzano

Tue, 05 May 2026 04:00:00 -0000

In this raw, deeply human conversation, Alex is joined by Hope Manzano: Mum, entrepreneur and content creator who shares publicly about her affair online.

It is rare to find another woman who is willing to stand up and say I made a mistake too, and in this episode, Hope shares the real story behind her affair - there was no abuse, or unbearable arguments, but instead a perfect looking marriage on the outside and years of emotional disconnection on the inside.

Together, Alex and Hope explore what it’s like to live in secrecy and shame, what happens when the truth finally comes out, and why taking accountability is not the same as accepting punishment.

This episode is for anyone who has cheated and wants to feel less alone. It’s a conversation about what happens when the truth comes out and the possibility of building a new life from the rubble.

In this episode, we explore:

How Hope’s affair began even though she believed “I’m not that kind of person”
The loneliness of being in a marriage that looks fine on the outside but feels dead on the inside
Why fear of being “the bad guy” can keep you trapped in an unhappy marriage for years
The moment Hope’s ex-husband discovered the affair and why she chose full disclosure (no trickle truth)
The cost of secrecy on the nervous system, and the relief that can come when the truth is finally out
Telling your children the truth: shame, repair, and rebuilding respect over time
Why sharing every detail can be more harmful than healing
How self-abandonment shows up both before the affair and in the attempted repair afterward
Why “once a cheat, always a cheat” misses the real point and what actually breaks the cycle

A few key takeaways

Secrecy is corrosive. The body pays a price for what we hide.
Accountability isn’t self-erasure. You can own what you did without accepting ongoing punishment.
Details aren’t always healing. Some information becomes a weapon, not a bridge.
Affairs are often a symptom. The deeper pattern is usually years of self-betrayal and disconnection.
There is hope. Not in bypassing the harm but in facing the truth and choosing a new way forward.

About Hope Manzano

Hope Manzano is a Mum and entrepreneur who shares honest reflections on past relationships, self-growth, accountability, and personal evolution. Through her social media platform, she speaks openly about the complexity of human connection and the healing that can begin when we bring what’s hidden into the light.

Connect with Hope

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happily.affair.after

Work with Alex

If you’re in the aftermath of an affair and everything feels like it’s on fire: The Sanctuary is where you start.

The Sanctuary is for the woman whose world just blew apart and needs somewhere safe to land. It’s not therapy or a course. It’s the space that helps you stop the spiral, soften the shame, and find your footing again: so you can actually take the next right step.

If your affair is over and you’re still in the wreckage (even if it’s only been days), you don’t have to carry this alone. This is where you start: https://www.alexcroxford.com/the-sanctuary

And if you feel ready for deeper, private support to heal the root of the pattern and come home to yourself, you can also explore Alex’s 1:1 coaching here: https://www.alexcroxford.com/1-to-1-coaching

S2#38 - You Were the Good Girl… So Why Did You Cheat?

Mon, 20 Apr 2026 21:00:00 -0000

There’s a very specific type of woman who cheats.

And it’s not who people think.

It’s often the good girl. The high achiever. The strong one. The reliable one. The woman everyone trusts, everyone leans on, the one who has spent her whole life trying to get it right.

So when an affair happens, it doesn’t just break the relationship.

It breaks her identity.

Because now she isn’t only dealing with guilt, shame, regret, or grief. She’s staring at herself thinking: How could I do this? This doesn’t match who I am.

In this episode, Alex explores why that confusion is so devastating, how the “good girl” identity is actually a protective mask (a character structure formed early in life), and why the affair is often the moment that mask cracks.

This isn’t about removing accountability. You are still responsible for what you did.

But if you stay stuck in self-punishment, you’ll miss the root pattern that created the conditions for betrayal in the first place, and you’ll be at risk of repeating it, even in a new relationship.

This is an episode about how the pain of the affair can be the moment you stop living from performance and start living from truth.

In This Episode, We Explore:

Why the “good girl” is one of the most common identities Alex sees in women who cheat
How an affair can shatter not just a marriage, but your sense of who you are
What “character structure” is (and how the mask gets formed in childhood)
Why children choose attachment over authenticity - and how that becomes self-betrayal later
How perfectionism, hyper-independence, and being low-maintenance can be protective strategies
Why being the strong one often blocks vulnerability, emotional intimacy, and real connection
How emotional flatness and disconnection build over time (even when life looks “perfect” on the outside)
Why the affair often isn’t random, it’s the moment the mask cracks
Why insight doesn’t stop the 3am shame spiral (because this isn’t a thinking problem)
What it actually takes to heal: meeting what’s underneath the protector and rebuilding the capacity to feel, speak, and choose from truth

If This Resonated:

The Healed Heart is Alex’s 6-month guided programme for women who have had an affair and are now living with the emotional aftermath.

Inside, the work is not about endlessly analysing every decision or trying to get everything right. It is about rebuilding self-trust, healing shame, and learning how to hold yourself through the uncertainty.

The next round begins 28th April.

Learn more here: https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

S2#037 - The Real Reason You Cheated (And It Has Nothing To Do With Them)

Mon, 13 Apr 2026 21:00:00 -0000

After an affair, so much of the focus goes onto the relationship, the guilt, the affair partner or trying to understand exactly what went wrong.

But in this episode, Alex goes somewhere deeper. She explores the pattern that was often running long before the affair ever happened: self-betrayal.

This is the quiet, cumulative way so many women abandon their truth over years.

Staying silent when something hurts. Pushing down needs. Performing strength. Being easy to love. Being the good girl. And over time, that disconnection from the self creates the conditions for betrayal.

In this episode, Alex unpacks why affairs do not come out of nowhere, why understanding the pattern is not the same as healing it and why the real work is not just in the mind but in the body.

This is an episode about the mask so many women wear, the younger part underneath it who learned it was not safe to be fully real, and what it takes to finally come home to yourself.

In This Episode, We Explore:

What self-betrayal really is and how it begins in childhood
How the mask of being good, strong, easy, or high-achieving gets formed
The small everyday ways women abandon themselves in relationships
Why affairs do not happen in truly healthy, connected relationships
How emotional disconnection and performance create the conditions for betrayal
Why insight alone does not heal shame
The difference between understanding a pattern and releasing it from the body
How somatic work helps heal the root of self-betrayal
What changes when you start choosing yourself instead of abandoning yourself
Why the affair can become an alarm bell that wakes you up to your truth

If This Resonated:

The Healed Heart is Alex’s 6-month guided programme for women who have had an affair and are now living with the emotional aftermath.

The next round begins 28th April.

Learn more here: https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

S2#036 – You Can Love Someone and Still Hurt Them | with Monica Tanner

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 21:00:00 -0000

In this powerful guest episode of the Deeper Love Podcast, Alex is joined by relationship coach Monica Tanner to explore one of the hardest truths in love: you can love someone and still hurt them.

Together, they unpack the deeper dynamics beneath betrayal, infidelity, resentment, emotional disconnection, and what it really takes to repair a relationship after trust has been broken. This is an honest, compassionate conversation about accountability, agency, repair, and the courage it takes to face the truth.

Monica shares why healthy relationships are a skillset, how couples drift into roommate syndrome, and why conflict is not the disaster we think it is, but often the doorway to deeper intimacy.

In this episode, we explore:

Why betrayal often has roots far deeper than the moment it happens
The importance of taking full responsibility after infidelity
Why you cannot heal a relationship while hiding the truth
How couples move through harmony, disharmony, and repair
What keeps marriages alive beyond the honeymoon phase
Why modern relationships require new relational skills
The reality of roommate syndrome and how couples lose the spark
Why divorce is always an option and why that truth matters
How to know whether to rebuild the relationship or let it go
What it means to create a more honest, intimate relationship after betrayal

A few key takeaways

Love alone is not enough. Healthy relationships require intention, attention, and learned skills.
Repair is where resilience, trust, and intimacy are built.
Hiding betrayal removes your partner's agency and blocks true connection.
Affairs often reveal unmet needs, disconnection, and the longing to feel alive, seen, and desired.
It is possible to create passion and intimacy again in a long-term relationship, but both people must be willing to face the truth.

About Monica Tanner

Monica Tanner is a Relational Life Therapy Certified Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She helps couples ditch resentment and roommate syndrome so they can get back to having fun, loving each other, and building healthier, more connected relationships.

Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction through communication, connection, conflict resolution, and commitment strategies.

Connect with Monica

Website: https://monicatanner.com

Free resource: https://monicatanner.com/getlucky

Work with Alex

If this conversation stirred something in you, particularly around shame, nervous system contraction, or the split between who you were and who you are becoming, this is the work we do inside The Healed Heart.

The Healed Heart is my 6-month guided programme for women ready to heal shame at the root, rebuild self-trust, and finally come home to themselves.

You can learn more here:

https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

S2#35 - You Don't Trust Yourself. And That's Why You're Stuck

Mon, 30 Mar 2026 21:00:00 -0000

After an affair, so many women become terrified of making the wrong decision.

Not just the big decisions, like whether to stay or leave, whether to tell the truth, or whether to try again.

But the everyday ones too. What to say. Whether to reach out or pull back. Whether to trust what they feel or second guess it.

In this episode, Alex explores why that paralysis happens and what is really sitting underneath it.

Because the issue is not that you are incapable of making good decisions. It is that somewhere along the way, you stopped trusting yourself.

Through a powerful client story about deciding whether to get a puppy, Alex shows how self-trust is rebuilt. Not by finding certainty or making perfect choices, but by knowing you can hold yourself whatever happens next.

This is an episode about the deeper reason so many women stay stuck after an affair and what begins to change when self-abandonment gives way to self-trust.

In This Episode, We Explore:

Why decision-making can feel so heavy after an affair
How overthinking, looping, and paralysis are often rooted in a lack of self-trust
Why the fear is not really making the wrong decision, but not trusting yourself to handle the outcome
The deeper link between affair trauma and a lifetime of self-abandonment
How one woman moved out of indecision through a simple but powerful choice
Why self-trust is not about certainty, perfection, or never making mistakes
What freedom looks like when you know you can hold yourself through whatever comes next

If This Resonated:

The Healed Heart is Alex's 6-month guided programme for women who have had an affair and are now living with the emotional aftermath.

The next round begins 28th April.

Learn more here: https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

S2#34 - Why Understanding How You Got Here Hasn’t Helped You Heal

Mon, 23 Mar 2026 21:00:00 -0000

So many women come into this work already understanding a lot.

They know their patterns. They can see what was missing in the marriage. They may even understand how childhood shaped the way they learned to relate, love and abandon themselves.

And yet they still wake up feeling heavy. Ashamed. Tight in the chest. Unable to relax. Unable to trust themselves.

In this episode, Alex explores why insight alone often doesn’t dissolve shame after an affair.

Because shame doesn’t just live in the mind. It lives in the body. In the nervous system. In the contraction, the looping thoughts, the numbness, the self-punishment, and the inability to receive love.

This is a powerful episode about the difference between understanding your pain and actually healing it.

In This Episode, We Explore

Why so many women still feel broken even after years of therapy or self-awareness work

The difference between intellectual insight and nervous system healing

How shame shows up in the body: tight chest, shallow breathing, clenched jaw, collapse, numbness

Why obsessive thinking and mind loops are often a threat response, not the solution

How shame blocks joy, creativity, pleasure, and the ability to receive kindness

The hidden ways self-punishment can show up through overworking, overexercising, under-eating, or staying in painful dynamics

Why understanding the affair doesn’t automatically release the shame underneath it

What real healing begins to look like: safety, softness, self-trust, and nervous system regulation

If This Resonated

The Healed Heart is Alex’s 6-month guided programme for women who have had an affair and are now living with the emotional aftermath.

Inside, the focus isn’t on endlessly analysing the affair. It’s on healing the shame underneath it.

The next round begins 28th April.

Learn more here: https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

S2#033 - Why You Still Feel Broken After the Affair

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 21:00:00 -0000

Many women tell me the same thing after the affair ends:

“I just want to feel like myself again.”

And if you’re in the aftermath right now, it can genuinely feel as though the affair is the thing that did this to you. As though the shame began the moment it ended, or the moment the truth came out.

But in this episode, I explore something I see again and again with the women I work with (and experienced myself).

Very often, the affair does not create the shame - It exposes it.

Because long before the affair ever happened, many women were already living with a sense of shame about who they are, what they need, and what they want from life.

In this episode we explore how shame is not just a thought or a moral judgement. It’s a full nervous-system state that can leave you feeling tight in your chest, trapped in your mind, and disconnected from the version of yourself that once felt alive.

We also talk about the deeper grief that often sits underneath the end of an affair, because very often what women miss most is not just the person.

It’s the version of themselves they met in that relationship.

In This Episode

Why so many women feel “broken” after the affair, even when life looks normal on the outside
The difference between moral guilt and the deeper shame many women have been carrying for years
How shame shows up in the nervous system as contraction, mind loops, and emotional flatness
Why the affair can feel like “all the lights turning on” in your life
The emotional crash that often follows when the affair ends
Why punishing yourself will never lead to real healing
What real shame healing actually requires: rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting with yourself

If This Episode Resonated

If you recognise the tight chest, the mind loops, the feeling that you’ve ruined everything and can no longer trust yourself, this is the work we do inside The Healed Heart.

The Healed Heart is my six-month guided programme for women who have had an affair and are now living with the emotional aftermath.

Inside we work on:

healing shame at the root
calming the nervous system
rebuilding self-trust
integrating the parts of yourself you want to reject
creating a life and relationships that feel true again

The next round begins 28th April.

Learn more:

https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

S2#32: You’re Not Missing Them. You’re Missing Yourself.

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 21:00:00 -0000

There’s a real split I see with so many women post affair.

You miss him, and you hate that you miss him.

You know he cannot give you the life you ultimately want. You’re trying to repair your primary relationship, trying to be responsible, trying to move forward. And yet, there is still a pull - sometimes overwhelmingly - toward the person who made you feel something you hadn’t felt in a very long time.

In this episode, I offer a different perspective.

What if you are not grieving him at all? What if what you are actually missing is the version of yourself you accessed in that space?

That woman felt seen. Wanted. Desired. She felt less responsible, less like she was holding everything together for everyone else. She felt sensual, playful, alive in her own skin rather than just going through the motions.

Affairs don’t create a new woman. They reveal the one who has been buried underneath the capable, responsible version of you who keeps everything together.

And that woman longs to feel something more.

When you’ve been living disconnected from this version of you, any space that allows you to drop the mask can feel intoxicating. And when it ends, it can feel like you have lost not just a person, but access to yourself.

In this conversation, we explore:

Why longing after an affair doesn’t automatically mean you want to betray again
The difference between intensity and wholeness
How years of self-abandonment can leave you feeling flat without you even realising it
Why taking responsibility alone does not resolve the internal split
What it really means to bring that woman home without secrecy, chaos, or self-punishment

If you are stuck in the tension between wanting to move forward and still feeling pulled backward, this episode will help you understand what is actually happening underneath the longing.

You are not missing him. You are missing yourself. And that is something you can reclaim through coming home to yourself.

This is the work we do in the Healed Heart. We begin in April 2026.

Click here for more information

S2#31: Betrayal, Shame & The Nervous System (with Peter McLaughlin)

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 21:00:00 -0000

What if betrayal isn’t just a relationship issue, but a nervous system event?

In this episode of The Deeper Love Podcast, I’m joined by hypnotherapist and life coach Peter McLaughlin for a powerful conversation about the subconscious patterns, shame, and trauma responses that sit underneath infidelity.

Peter’s own healing journey began after a life-altering leukemia diagnosis in 2003, an experience that led him to explore the profound connection between mind, body, and spirit. What followed was a deep dive into subconscious healing, nervous system regulation, and root-cause trauma work.

Together, we explore:

Why infidelity creates such profound nervous system shock
The difference between intensity and true aliveness
How shame lives in the body, not just the mind
Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough
The subconscious patterns that shape who we choose and why
How trauma fractures the self, and what “atonement” really means
Why conflict in relationships is a feature, not a flaw
The deeper question behind betrayal: “What part of me needed this?”

If This Resonated

This is a conversation about responsibility, integration, and becoming whole.

If you’ve ever wondered why betrayal feels so devastating, or why shame lingers long after insight, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

The Healed Heart is my 6-month guided programme for women ready to heal shame at the root, rebuild self-trust, and reconnect with steady, grounded aliveness.

You can learn more here: https://www.alexcroxford.com/healed-heart

About Peter

Peter McLaughlin is a certified hypnotherapist and life coach whose healing journey began after a leukemia diagnosis in 2003 - a turning point that led him to explore the powerful connection between mind, body, and spirit.

He helps clients identify and resolve root-cause trauma using Havening, present and past life regression, and spiritually-oriented healing methods. Peter is also the creator of the popular YouTube channel BlueSky Hypnosis, with over 130,000 subscribers and 17 million views, where he shares tools for emotional healing and personal breakthrough.

A former volunteer firefighter and EMT, Peter brings compassion, grounded presence, and lived experience to his work. He is also a part-time actor, returning to the stage as Shakespeare’s King Lear after 22 years away.

You can find Peter at:

Ep#30: The Affair Didn’t Make You Feel Alive - This Did

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 21:00:00 -0000

Almost every woman I work with says the same thing: “In the affair, I felt alive.”

What’s striking is that she rarely talks about the person. She talks about herself, how she felt. Confident. Desired. Chosen. Awake.

And then comes the shame, not just for what she did, but for liking it.

In this episode, I explore the possibility that the affair didn’t create aliveness at all. It exposed what was already there.

Because when you believe your vitality lives in another person, you stay trapped. You start to think that leaving your marriage, changing your partner, or chasing intensity is the only way to feel that electric sense of being alive again.

But intensity isn’t the same as aliveness. Secrecy, fantasy, and validation create a nervous system high. It feels powerful and freeing, but it’s fragile.

True aliveness comes from somewhere else entirely. It comes from accepting all of you. From feeling your emotions instead of suppressing them. From speaking your truth instead of swallowing it. From having boundaries. From reconnecting with pleasure in ordinary moments.

It also comes from healing the younger parts of you who learned to survive by being perfect, easy, strong, or low-maintenance.

If calm love feels boring and chaos feels electric, that isn’t because you’re broken. It’s because your nervous system has learned to associate intensity with vitality, and that can change.

In this episode, we explore:

Why so many women felt “alive” in their affair
The shame of admitting you liked it
The difference between intensity and sustainable aliveness
How perfectionism and obligation slowly shut you down
Why suppressing grief and anger also blocks joy
The role of boundaries, honesty, and pleasure in reconnecting to your life force
How unhealed attachment wounds keep choosing intensity over calm love

If this resonated…

If you’ve only ever felt fully alive inside secrecy or intensity, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

It means parts of you have not yet felt safe to exist in your real life.

Inside The Healed Heart, we don’t shame those parts. We meet them. We build the capacity to feel alive without chaos. And we help you create aliveness that is grounded, regulated, and sustainable.

You don’t need chaos to feel alive.

You need healing.

You’ll find details about the next round of The Healed Heart here.

Ep#29: Living With What I Did

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 21:00:00 -0000

After an affair, there is the rupture itself, and then there is what comes after.

The part no one really talks about, the months or years of living inside what you’ve done.The self-surveillance. The guilt. The fear. The loss of who you thought you were.

In this episode, I speak honestly about the internal experience of living with the aftermath of my betrayal. The tension in my body, the pain in my chest I didn’t realise was anxiety, the constant bracing, self-punishment, and pretending I was fine while everything inside me was falling apart.

I share the confusing truth that was hardest to hold: that I loved my husband, and I still caused him harm. And that the affair wasn’t about him not being good enough, or wanting to leave, but about a deep hunger to feel alive, chosen, and connected again.

This episode is about the loss of identity that can follow betrayal. About looking in the mirror and not knowing who you are anymore. And about why punishment, hatred, and relentless self-judgment don’t create accountability…they only deepen the disconnection.

In this episode, we explore:

What it’s actually like to live with what you’ve done, long after the affair has ended
The emotional contradiction of loving someone deeply and still betraying them
Why self-punishment feels necessary, and why it slowly erodes your sense of self
How anxiety, bracing, and chest pain can be the body carrying unprocessed guilt and fear
The difference between accountability and endlessly berating yourself
Why trying to “forget and move on” often makes things worse
Why insight alone isn’t enough when your nervous system is in survival
What allowed my body to finally soften, and why being held mattered more than understanding what had happened.

If this episode landed

If you recognised yourself in the bracing and the exhaustion.If you’re feeling like you don’t deserve rest, softness, or support until you’ve suffered enough.

That matters.

The Sanctuary is an ongoing, gentle space for women in the aftermath of their own betrayal who are tired of holding everything together on their own.

It exists for the woman who is doing “all the right things” but still feels tight, disconnected, and alone inside. For the woman who needs somewhere her body can finally exhale.

Inside The Sanctuary, you’re not asked to explain yourself, justify what happened, or earn your place by being forgiven.

You are held where you are, while learning how to stay connected to yourself, regulate your nervous system, and live with responsibility without self-abandonment.

You don’t have to do this part alone anymore.

Click here to discover more

→ Click here to explore The Sanctuary

Ep#28: You Did the Therapy, But You're Still Haunted. Why?

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 21:00:00 -0000

If you've ever found yourself thinking “I've done the therapy, I’ve read the books, I know why it happened… so why do I still feel so stuck?”, this episode is going to meet you right there.

In this conversation, I’m unpacking the difference between understanding something and actually feeling different. Because when it comes to betrayal, the healing isn’t just in the mind, it lives in the body. And if your nervous system doesn’t feel safe yet, no amount of insight is going to shift what’s frozen there.

We’ll talk about why the shame you’re feeling didn’t start with the affair, how emotional pain from childhood often gets reactivated in the aftermath, and why somatic healing (not more thinking) is often the key that actually unlocks peace.

If you’ve ever felt like you should be further along by now, or wondered why your body still feels heavy, numb, or disconnected, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we explore:

Why therapy helps you understand… but doesn’t always help you feel different
What happens when emotional wounds get stuck in the nervous system
How shame from childhood can get reactivated after an affair
Why so many women still feel haunted, even after “doing the work”
The missing piece in most betrayal healing work
A powerful moment of emotional release from inside The Sanctuary
Why somatic healing, not more insight or analysis, is often the true turning point

🌿 The Sanctuary is open

The Sanctuary is my monthly space for women navigating the aftermath of betrayal, a place where you can stop performing, start softening, and come home to yourself.

We don’t rehash the affair or analyse the past.We return to the body, and to the part of you that’s been waiting to feel safe again.

It’s £277/month, open now, with a 3-month minimum commitment.

If this episode speaks to you, I’d love to welcome you in.

Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

Ep#27 - Why Hating Yourself Won’t Heal You

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 21:00:00 -0000

In the aftermath of an affair, shame can become relentless.

It tells you that if you punish yourself enough, make yourself disappear, hate yourself more, you’ll finally make things right. That’s how you’ll become trustworthy again and undo the damage, right?

But shame doesn’t heal. In fact, it does the opposite. It pulls us deeper into the mud.

In this episode, I speak directly to the woman who is stuck in that brutal inner loop - the one who can’t get out of bed, who is replaying every detail, who feels fundamentally bad, broken, or unlovable because of what she’s done.

I share why self-hatred doesn’t create repair, why shame feels so unbearable in the body, and what actually begins to ease the pain, without bypassing responsibility or impact.

This is not about excusing your actions, it’s about understanding what led you here, without abandoning yourself in the process.

In this episode, we explore:

The critical difference between shame (“I am bad”) and guilt (“I did something outside my values”)
Why shame is one of the most painful emotions humans experience, and why so many women collapse under it after an affair
How self-punishment keeps you stuck, numb, or spiralling rather than helping you heal
The childhood roots of shame and how early experiences shape the voice in your head today
Why the part of you who cheated isn’t broken, but was trying to survive emotional deadness and disconnection
A powerful reframe: relating to the part of you who acted as a young, overwhelmed child rather than an enemy
What real self-responsibility looks like without self-abandonment
Why rejecting parts of yourself only tightens their grip
How compassion, boundaries, and nervous-system safety create the conditions for real change

If this episode landed

If something in your body softened as you listened, even just 1%, that matters.

The Softening Sessions are a once a month trauma-informed space for women in the aftermath of an affair who are exhausted from self-hatred, overthinking, and holding everything alone.

They are an opportunity to:

put down the inner punishment
come back into your body
be held without needing to fix or explain yourself
begin relating to yourself with compassion and steadiness again

You don’t need to do this healing alone.

Click here for more information on The Softening Sessions:https://www.alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

S2#026 - When Everything Feels Like It’s Falling Apart

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 21:00:00 -0000

There are seasons in life where everything feels heavy, grey and lifeless.

Where it feels like nothing is going well, nothing is blooming, and nothing makes sense anymore.

If you’re in the aftermath of an affair, this is exactly how it can feel. Relationships start to shift. Certainty of the future disappears. And the emotions feel big, hard and bleak.

And all you want is for this part to be over.

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be in a winter season of life, and why this phase isn’t a failure, a punishment, or a sign that you’ve ruined everything.

It’s a season of shedding, stillness and deep inner repair.

Just like nature in winter, everything on the surface may look quiet, bare, or even dead.But underneath, something essential is happening.

Roots are deepening.Old structures are dissolving.Life is reorganising itself from the inside out.

This episode is an invitation to stop rushing this season…and to begin trusting what it’s doing within you.

In this episode, I explore:

What it means to be in a winter season of life
Why the aftermath of an affair so often feels bleak, heavy, and colourless
How breakdowns can be sacred pauses rather than personal failures
Why shedding relationships, identities, and old ways of being is part of healing
What’s really happening beneath the surface when nothing seems to be changing
Why rushing this season weakens the roots of what’s trying to grow
How trusting the season you’re in can change the way you move through it

If everything feels slow.

If you’re tired of feeling this way.If you just want to hurry up and feel “better”.

I see you.

Remember, nothing blooms all year round and this season isn’t forever.

Your only work right now is to learn how to stay with yourself and keep healing at a mind, body and soul level.

Spring will come.But first, the roots have to deepen.

If you’re ready for gentle, embodied support, you’re warmly invited to join me for the next Softening Session, held every second Thursday of the month at 8pm GMT.

The Softening Sessions: https://www.alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

www.alexcroxford.com

S2#025 - Why You Keep Choosing People Who Can’t Choose You

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 21:00:00 -0000

You can see your patterns. You know your wound. You’ve read the books. You’ve talked, journaled, cried, processed.

So why do you still find yourself magnetised toward affairs or people who can’t fully choose you?

In this episode, I’m taking you deep into the subconscious patterns that keep us chasing love in all the wrong places, even when we know better.Because insight alone isn’t enough.And if you’ve ever felt broken, confused, or ashamed for going back to the same kind of person again… this one’s for you.

What we explore:

Why awareness doesn’t equal transformation
The nervous system’s role in relationship patterns
How your inner protector is still trying to keep you safe, by choosing what’s familiar
The difference between knowing your wound and healing it
Why unavailable love feels so magnetic
And how to begin choosing differently, without shame, force, or fixing

This episode is a gentle, unflinching look at the patterns underneath your pain.And a reminder: You’re not broken. You’re patterned. And patterns can shift.

Ready to go deeper?

If this resonated, and you’re ready to be supported in the real healing, the kind that shifts you at a soul + nervous system level, you’re so welcome inside The Sanctuary.

It’s where we soften the survival strategies, and make space for a new kind of love to land.

🔗 https://www.alexcroxford.com/the-sanctuary

Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

Website: www.alexcroxford.com

S2#024 - What if your affair was a soul’s cry for more?

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 21:00:00 -0000

When we talk about affairs, the conversation almost always fixates on the affair itself - the morality of it, the damage it causes, and the question of who is to blame. But what if that narrow focus is actually preventing us from seeing something far deeper?

In this episode, I explore a truth that many women quietly recognise but rarely feel allowed to say out loud: that an affair is often not about desire, recklessness, or a lack of morals, but about long-term self-abandonment.

I share why so many women who cheat are not living “bad” lives, but numb ones. Lives that look good on the outside - functional, successful, even impressive - yet internally feel flat, lonely, and disconnected.

We talk about how self-abandonment is learned early in life, through being the good girl, the achiever, the easy one, the one who doesn’t ask for too much, and how these patterns live not just in our minds, but in our nervous systems and bodies.

This episode is an invitation to look beyond shame and self-hatred, and instead ask a different question: what was this moment trying to wake me up to?

Why affairs are often a symptom, not the root issue
How “having it all” can coexist with deep emotional numbness
The childhood origins of self-abandonment and the good-girl survival strategy
Why many women don’t realise how unhappy they are until everything blows up
How an affair can feel regulating to the nervous system
Why it wasn’t really about the affair partner
What it means to see an affair as an awakening rather than a life-ending mistake
Why changing your external life without inner healing often leads to repetition
How learning to stop abandoning yourself changes every relationship
Why healing requires more than insight, it requires the body

If you are willing to take responsibility without annihilating yourself, this moment can become the beginning of a very different way of living, one where love feels safer, deeper, and more intimate.

If you’re in the aftermath right now

If you’re carrying this alone, if the guilt feels unbearable, if you don’t know what comes next.

I created The Sanctuary for you.

It’s my private, ongoing space for women in the aftermath of an affair - a place to soften shame, reconnect with yourself, and begin healing without judgement.

You don’t have to do this on your own. Click here to learn more: The Sanctuary

S2#023 – What an Affair Reveals About How You’ve Been Surviving in Love

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0000

Most women in the aftermath of an affair are carrying a crushing story about themselves:

I ruined everything.

There must be something wrong with me.

I’m broken.

But what if the affair wasn’t a moral failure or a character flaw, but a mirror?

In this episode, I speak to the deeper truth that so many women never get the space to explore: that long before the affair, many of us were already surviving in love rather than living in it. We were coping, managing, holding it together, staying strong, staying quiet, staying in control, often wearing masks we learned very early in life to stay safe, liked, chosen, or needed.

I talk about the masks women wear in relationships.

The “I’m fine” mask.

The “I don’t need much” mask.

The “I can handle it” mask.The hyper-independent, capable, emotionally contained woman who learned - through childhood, culture, and even the women’s empowerment movement - that softness was risky, having needs was weakness, and being low-maintenance was safer than being honest.

We explore how these survival strategies may have protected you once, but slowly cost you intimacy, connection, and aliveness. And how an affair can become the moment those strategies finally collapse because something in you could no longer keep pretending.

This episode is not about excusing betrayal.

It’s about understanding the terrain beneath it.

Inside the episode, I explore:

How many women learned to survive in love by becoming strong, capable, and emotionally self-sufficient
Why wearing masks in relationships keeps you safe, but eventually keeps you lonely
The quiet cost of hyper-independence and emotional self-containment
How the women’s empowerment narrative sometimes taught us to compete instead of soften, cope instead of receive
Why the affair wasn’t about desire for another person, but a loss of connection to yourself
How survival in love eventually creates a fracture that demands to be seen
And why this moment, painful as it is, may be an invitation into a deeper, truer way of relating, first with yourself, and then with others

If you’re listening to this and recognising yourself - if you can feel how long you’ve been holding everything together, how much you’ve been managing instead of being met - I want you to know this: you are not broken. You are responding to a way of living and loving that no longer fits who you are becoming.

And if this episode has stirred something in you, The Sanctuary is open.

It’s a place to land in the aftermath of your affair.

A steady, non-judgemental space where you don’t have to explain yourself, perform healing, or know what comes next.

Just somewhere to be held long enough to soften, breathe, and begin again, in community, and in your own time.

Enter The Sanctuary

Join as a founding member here

S2#022 – This Isn’t Rock Bottom. It’s a Turning Point.

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0000

There’s often a moment after an affair when the noise dies down and the adrenaline fades, and instead of relief you’re left with something far more unsettling - a sense that you’re standing in the middle of your life, but you don’t recognise it anymore.

In this episode, I go back to New Year’s Eve - one before and one after my affair was revealed, when I did what I’d always done in social spaces and tried to be the fun one, the party girl, the woman who could laugh and drink and dance her way through anything. On the outside, nothing looked especially wrong. On the inside, the distance between me and my then-husband felt cavernous, and the emptiness I was carrying was impossible to ignore once I stopped distracting myself.

What I didn’t understand at the time was that this flat, hollow, disorienting place wasn’t a sign that everything had ended. It was the moment something fundamental had shifted. The old ways of coping weren’t working anymore, the pretending felt unbearable, and even though I had no idea what was coming next, I could feel that I couldn’t go back to who I’d been before.

This isn’t an episode about fixing anything or finding clarity. It’s about that in-between space where identity falls apart before it gets rebuilt, where you feel drained, disconnected, ashamed, and strangely awake all at once. The place where nothing feels certain, but something inside you knows the truth has already landed.

If you’re in the aftermath of an affair and finding that you feel empty, distant, unsure how you ended up here and unable to imagine going back, this conversation will help you understand why that doesn’t mean you’re broken or failing. It means you’ve crossed a line you can’t uncross.

Not the end, a turning point.

In this episode I talk about:

What it’s actually like when the crisis ends but the reality sets in
The cost of pretending you’re okay when something inside has already shifted
Why the sense of emptiness after an affair can feel more frightening than the chaos itself
How identity loss shows up long before you have words for it
Why not knowing what comes next doesn’t mean you’re doing this wrong

If you’re listening to this and recognising that familiar feeling of standing still while everything inside you rearranges, The Sanctuary exists for this exact moment.

It isn’t a place to rush answers or push you toward decisions. It’s somewhere to pause, to be held in the middle of the not-knowing, and to stay connected to yourself long enough for the next step to emerge naturally, rather than out of fear or pressure.

We begin on 1st January, but you can join whenever you feel called.

Click here for The Sanctuary

Find me on instagram: @iamalexcroxford

S2#021 – Surviving Christmas After an Affair

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0000

Christmas after an affair can feel unbearable.

While the world expects joy, gratitude, and togetherness, you may be secretly surviving something that feels anything but festive. The aftermath of an affair has a way of becoming louder at this time of year. There are fewer distractions, more time together, more family gatherings, and an unspoken pressure to be “okay” when you are very much not.

In this episode, I speak directly to the woman who is getting through Christmas minute by minute.

The woman who feels like she’s watching her life from the outside.The woman carrying grief, shame, regret, numbness, and longing all at once.

The woman missing her affair partner and judging herself for it.

The woman who feels like she doesn’t belong anywhere she used to.

I share from my own experience of Christmas in the immediate aftermath of my affair, and I name the realities most women feel but rarely say out loud. This is not an episode about fixing anything, making decisions, or “moving on.”

It’s permission to just get through this season. It’s a reminder that you are not failing, broken, or behind, and that this isn’t the end of your life, even if it feels like it.

If Christmas feels like something you just need to get through this year, this episode is for you.

In this episode we talk about:

Why Christmas makes the pain 10 x worse
The exhaustion of having to pretend everything’s “normal” while falling apart inside
Feeling physically present but emotionally miles away
Why shame gets louder in family spaces and in silence
Missing your affair partner and why that doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice
The difference between intensity and intimacy
Why you don’t need to make any big decisions right now

If Christmas feels like something you just have to survive, The Sanctuary exists for what comes after.

It’s the go to healing space for the women in the aftermath of an affair who are done carrying this alone. It’s a soft place to land, to put some of the weight down and to take a gentle step toward the woman you are becoming.

There is no requirement to share, no need to have clarity on where you’re going. You don’t need to be “ready”, you just have to not want to be feeling this way anymore.

You are welcome exactly as you are.

🔗 Learn more and join here: The Sanctuary

S2#020 – Why You Can’t Heal Your Affair Alone: The Power of Women Who Truly Get It

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0000

Most women in the aftermath of an affair try to heal alone.

Not because they want to, but because shame tells them it’s too embarrassing to be seen.

In today’s conversation, I’m joined by my close friend and fellow coach, Lucy Maeve. We talk about why healing on your own can only take you so far, and why women who have been betrayed someone they love need a community who support them as they navigate the rough waters they are in.

We explore why:

shame dissolves through empathy from others, not isolation
why old friendships often can’t meet who you’re becoming
the sisterhood wound makes group spaces feel scary
healing relational patterns with other women is often safer and easier than with partners
community becomes the “training wheels” for emotional intimacy in partnership

healing accelerates when you’re seen without judgment

This episode is for the woman who’s been carrying the weight of what happened, all on her own - the one who feels misunderstood, alone, or too ashamed to ask for help.

You don’t heal shame alone.

And I am so excited to tell you, my monthly community for women healing post their affair - The Sanctuary - is now open.

It’s a place where you’re held, understood, and met without judgment.

Inside you’ll find: • women who get your story without needing the details • practices to regulate your nervous system • monthly circles for grounding and connection • a private space where shame and guilt softens

Founding rate: £222/month until 1st January, with special bonuses for December members.

If you’ve been longing for a place to land…a place where you’re not alone in what you’re carrying…a place for you to take a step towards the woman you’re becoming.

The Sanctuary is where you belong.

S2#019 – Why Your Affair Felt So Intense but You Felt Numb Outside of It

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0000

Most women in the aftermath of an affair are drowning in questions they are struggling to find answers for:

“Why did it feel so intense?”

“Why did it make me feel so alive?”

“Why did everything else in my life feel flat?”

“Does this mean I’m broken or a bad person?”

“Does this mean I should leave my partner?”

In this episode, I speak directly to the secret most women who’ve cheated will never uncover:

You didn’t cheat because you wanted someone else.

You cheated because were so disconnected from your own emotions, needs, and truth… that you couldn’t feel anything inside your relationship anymore.

When you’ve spent years swallowing your feelings, being the strong one, keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, trying to be “easy,” and holding the entire relationship together… your nervous system eventually shuts down.

You stop feeling your emotions, you stay quiet and avoid conflict and you spend life just going through the motions.

Eventually you become numb.

And when you’re numb it’s like a part of you goes offline and anything that you can actually feel, feels like aliveness.

That’s why the affair felt intense.Not because it was love or destiny,but because sensation was the first thing that could cut through the numbness you’d been living in for years.

In this episode, I walk you through:

How emotional disconnection builds slowly over years
The tiny everyday moments where you lost yourself
Why you stopped asking for comfort, closeness, or help
Why your relationship felt distant even if you still loved him
Why numbness makes intensity feel like desire
Why the affair wasn’t about him, it was the first thing you could feel
How this rupture is actually the moment you begin to come home to yourself

If any part of this speaks to you…

this Wednesday 10th December is the final Softening Session of the year — and the last one ever in this format.

It’s called Rising From the Ashes of 2025 — a 90-minute space to slow down, breathe, and let go of some of the weight you’re carrying before the year closes.

If you’re holding the heaviness of this year on your chest… you’re welcome to join us.

👉 Click here to join: Rise From The Ashes of 2025

S2#018 – When You Think You’ve Ruined Love Forever

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 05:00:01 -0000

Most women believe their affair means they’ve destroyed their chance at love. But what if the moment everything fell apart was actually the moment your life cracked open? What if it was the doorway into the deepest love you’ve ever known?

In today’s episode, I share the truth I wish someone had told me years ago - that deep love isn’t effortless or pretty. It asks more of you. It requires honesty, vulnerability, and letting someone see the parts you’ve hidden your whole life. And for so many of us, that depth didn’t feel safe until everything collapsed.

I talk about my own marriage, the years I stayed silent, the IVF journey I carried alone, and the affair that forced me to finally look at the parts of myself I’d buried. And I share what it’s taken to experience the kind of love I’m in now — the kind that meets me, holds me, and asks me to stay present instead of disappearing.

If you’re scared you’ll never be loved again… or terrified you’ll ruin it all a second time… this episode will help you see what’s actually possible for you.

You’re not broken.

You’re not behind.

You’re on the edge of your becoming.

What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeWhy the moment you messed up might be the moment everything finally opens
The difference between surface love and deep love - and why you stayed on the surface for so long
How emotional disconnection made the affair almost inevitable
Why you didn’t know how to ask for comfort, closeness, or to be held
What real intimacy actually requires (and why it felt terrifying before)
How your nervous system shapes your capacity for love
Why you’re not incapable of deep love, it just wasn’t safe for you yet
How allowing yourself to be seen changes the kind of love you can receive
The truth that you abandoned yourself long before you betrayed anyone else
Why this moment in your life might be the beginning, not the end

If this episode has touched something in you…

Wednesday 10th December is the final Softening Session of the year.

And, actually, the last one ever in this format.

It’s called Rising From the Ashes of 2025 - a 90-minute space to breathe out the weight of this year and come home to yourself before it closes. You don’t need to share. You don’t need your camera on. Just come exactly as you are.

If you want to end this year held instead of alone,

you’re so welcome to join us.

👉 Join here

S2#017 – The Aftermath: What Helped, What Didn’t, and How I Survived the First Months

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 05:00:01 -0000

You told the truth, or maybe the truth came out. Either way, you’re in the fallout now. The shame is heavy. The guilt feels constant. And there’s a part of you wondering if you’re ever going to feel okay again.

I made this episode for you.

For the woman sitting in the rubble of her relationship, still trying to breathe while the world she built is burning.

In this solo episode, I share the messy, honest, never-before-told details of what happened after I revealed my affair, and exactly how I survived it.

We go deep into:

The moment I told my ex-husband and everything began to collapse
What not to do in the days and weeks after the reveal (even if it feels helpful)
How I learned to eat again, sleep again, trust myself again
The role of boundaries, nature, friendship, and getting real support

This isn’t a “just love yourself” pep talk.

This is real, grounded guidance for when you feel like you’re losing everything, including yourself.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

And this too shall pass.

💌 If this episode speaks to you, you’ll want to be the first to hear about The Sanctuary, my new space for women healing after betrayal - opening January 2026.

S2#016 – Two Women. Two Affairs. And The Beginning of Their Becoming

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:01 -0000

In this episode, I sat down with women’s coach Diera Story, who, like me, had an affair that changed everything.

We talk about what really sits beneath infidelity when you’re the woman who was supposed to have it all together.

How shame begins long before the betrayal.And how losing everything becomes the moment you finally start to become yourself.

Diera shares how early motherhood cracked her open, how her perfect life began to unravel, and how the affair became the wake-up call she didn’t know she needed.

We talk about the loneliness that hides behind the mask of the “good woman,” the way shame keeps us disconnected from desire, and the painful beauty of rebuilding your life from truth.

We also open up about what happened when both of our reels about infidelity went viral - the trolling, the exposure, and the deep peace that comes when you no longer hide from your story.

This conversation is a mirror for the woman standing in the wreckage of what she’s done, wondering if she can ever come back from it.

You can.

This is where becoming begins.

Takeaways

In this episode, we talk about:

How shame starts long before the affair ever happens
Why the affair often becomes the portal into feeling again
How hitting rock bottom opens the path to rebirth
What it means to grieve the woman you used to be
The role of spirituality and surrender in rebuilding your life
The freedom that comes from being fully seen

Connect with Diera

Instagram → @itsdierastory

Connect with me

Instagram → @iamalexcroxford

Find all the ways to work with me here → www.alexcroxford.com

S2#015 – How I Opened My Heart After an Affair and a Divorce

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 05:00:01 -0000

I remember sitting in front of my therapist, six months after my marriage ended, tears running down my face - “What if no one ever loves me again?”

At that point, I’d been through a divorce, I’d cheated on my husband, and I’d made a mess of dating after it all. I felt broken, like damaged goods.

And underneath that was the deeper fear: that maybe I was unlovable.

In this episode, I share the real story of how I moved from that place into the deepest, most honest love of my life. It’s the story of choosing celibacy after the affair, learning to tell the truth when it scared me, and letting a man see me fully, even when I wanted to hide.

You’ll hear what I discovered about:

Why honesty, not perfection, opens the heart
How pretending to be “easy to love” keeps us disconnected
The difference between intensity and intimacy
What real love actually feels like after the chaos has ended

This is a story about what becomes possible when you finally stop lying to yourself.

If you’ve ever wondered whether love can exist after betrayal, I hope this reminds you that it can.

Real love meets you when you meet yourself.

If you’re ready to start letting love in again after everything you’ve been through, join me in The Softening Sessions - gentle spaces to practise truth, tenderness, and belonging after the rupture of an affair.

You don’t have to share your story, just come, breathe, and be held.

🔗 Connect

Instagram |⁠ @iamalexcroxford⁠

Website | ⁠www.alexcroxford.com

S2#014 – I Used to Be Terrified Anyone Would Find Out. Now My Story’s in the Daily Mail

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 05:00:01 -0000

Six and a half years ago, I was carrying a secret that felt absolutely terrifying to say out loud.

I was so scared that anyone would find out about my affair - I felt ashamed, sick with guilt, hiding behind the version of me that looked “fine.”

Today, that same story has been printed across a double-page spread in The Daily Mail.

And it proves to me, once and for all, that shame no longer runs my life.

In this episode, I share what it took to move from silence to self-acceptance - the texts, the trembling honesty, the waves of liberation that come each time we tell the truth.

I talk about the fear of exposure, the moment I told my ex-husband, and why vulnerability became my doorway to freedom.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in guilt or terrified of being seen in your truth after an affair, this conversation is for you.

You’ll hear what healing actually looks like on the other side of secrecy - messy, human, and deeply freeing.

In this episode

The moment I stopped letting shame define me
How honesty became my path to liberation
What happened when my story went public
Why exposure doesn’t destroy you - hiding does
The truth about healing guilt after betrayal

🤍 Join me inside The Softening Sessions

If you’re ready to release the weight in your chest and be witnessed in safety, join my bi-weekly circle for women healing after infidelity.

You don’t have to share your story, just come, breathe, and be held.

🔗 Connect

Instagram | @iamalexcroxford

Website | www.alexcroxford.com

S2#013 – Losing Friendships After the Affair, and Finding Belonging Again

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0000

When I cheated on my husband, I didn’t just lose him, I lost my friends too.

For years, those friendships had felt like family. We spent birthdays, weddings, holidays together - I thought they’d be there for life. But when my marriage ended, it all changed. Some drifted. Others ended overnight. And the loneliness that followed was unlike anything I’d ever felt.

In this episode, I talk about what really happens when the friendships you thought were forever can’t survive your awakening. How shame shapes connection. Why longevity doesn’t equal intimacy. And how, through the ashes of everything I lost, I found women who could meet me in my truth, and love me there.

If you’re standing in the wreckage of your old life, wondering who’s left, this one’s for you. You’re not alone, and this isn’t the end of your story.

💔 What’s in this episode:

The grief of losing friendships after betrayal
Why some people can’t come with you after awakening
The myth of “forever friends” and what true intimacy means
How new, soul-aligned friendships begin to form
Finding belonging again after everything falls apart

🕯 Come to the next Softening Session — live community ritual and practice to reconnect to your heart. 👉 https://www.alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

🤍 Connect on Instagram: @iamalexcroxford 🌐 Website: www.alexcroxford.com

S2#012 – Seven Years in Hiding: A Woman’s Journey from Shame to Truth

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 05:25:42 -0000

This week I had the pleasure of meeting Kristina Joy - a devoted Christian wife and mother, until the secret she carried for seven years forced her to face everything she believed about love, faith, and herself.

In this conversation, Kristina shares the story she once swore she’d never say out loud, the affair that became both her deepest shame and her greatest awakening.

We speak about the loneliness that hides inside “goodness,” the pressure to be the perfect woman, and how religious conditioning can separate us from our own desires. We explore what happens when your body remembers what your beliefs taught you to forget, and how honesty, rather than punishment, becomes the way home.

If you’ve ever whispered “I can’t believe I did this,” this episode will remind you that you are not alone, and that your past is not your downfall, it’s your portal home.

In this episode we explore:

The emotional disconnection that began long before the affair
How silence and shame keep women living double lives
The “good girl” mask and the repression of desire
Confession, forgiveness, and finding safety in truth
Why honesty, not morality, is what heals

Resources & Links:

Kristina Joy is a Christian coach and host of the Intimacy After Infidelity podcast. Once trapped in cycles of shame and self-sabotage, she experienced deep healing and freedom and now empowers other women to do the same. Her work helps women cut the cord to the past, move forward in confidence, and find joy beyond what they thought was possible.

Learn more at: www.kristinajoycoaching.com
Follow Kristina on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching

✨ If this episode speaks to you and you want to explore these patterns in a safe, guided space, join me for the next Softening Session – a 90-minute healing circle for women navigating the shame and confusion after infidelity: www.alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

📲 Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: www.alexcroxford.com

S2#011 – The Phoenix Rising: When the Affair Becomes Your Awakening

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 04:00:01 -0000

Ep 11 — The Phoenix Rising: When the Affair Becomes Your Awakening

We think the affair is the end.

The end of love.The end of trust.The end of who we thought we were.

But what if it’s not the end at all?

What if it’s the moment you finally wake up?

Before my affair, I was sleepwalking through life.

On the treadmill of doing everything “right” - the job, the marriage, the house, the plan.

Smiling. Performing. Holding it all together.

But underneath, I was empty. Numb.

Disconnected from what I truly wanted.

The affair shattered that illusion.

It forced me to face everything I’d been avoiding

my exhaustion, my silence, my needs, my truth.

It burned down the version of me who survived by pretending.

In this episode, I talk about:

Why affairs often happen as a wake-up call from the life you’ve been asleep in.
What “collapse” really is — and why it’s the beginning, not the end.
How your soul uses chaos to bring you back to truth.
The moment I stopped trying to rebuild the old life and started to rise from the ashes.

If you’re in that place now, where everything feels like it’s burning,

please know you’re not losing your life.

You’re losing the illusion.

And underneath it is your return.

💌 Join the next Softening Session - a live space where we hold what’s collapsing, let go of who you’ve been, and begin the return home to yourself.

Join here: Softening Sessions

S2#010 – You Can’t Heal What You’re Still Hiding From Yourself

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000

Ep 10 - You Can’t Heal What You’re Still Hiding From Yourself

There’s the version of you everyone sees.

Smiling. Functioning. Saying you’re fine.

And then there’s the version of you no one sees.

Carrying the secret.

Numb. Anxious. Afraid of what would happen if the truth ever got out.

I know that version well — because I lived her.

After my affair, I didn’t collapse on the outside.

I became “better.” More successful. More accommodating. More perfect.

But the whole time, I was hiding. Not just from my husband. From myself.

In this episode, I talk about:

Why pretending to be fine keeps your nervous system frozen.
How “performing healing” stops you from actually healing.
The truth about what happens when you hide even from yourself.
Why the part of you who cheated doesn’t need judgment — she needs space to speak.

This is the episode I needed years ago, when I was still carrying the secret that almost ate me alive.

✨ Listen in if you’ve been holding something inside — whether it’s the affair, or another truth you’ve never let yourself fully feel.

You cannot heal what you’re still hiding.

But you can come home to yourself.

💌 Join the next Softening Session — a live space where we stop performing, stop pretending, and meet the part of you still scared to be seen. Click here to read more about the Softening Sessions.

S2#009 – The Year of The Clusterf*ck and How I Finally Chose Myself

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 04:00:01 -0000

Content note: This episode contains references to sexual assault, harassment, and STI. Please listen with care and take the space you need.

I thought the hardest part was over when my marriage ended.

I’d told my husband I cheated. We’d tried therapy. We’d separated with kindness. I moved into my own place and thought: I’ve survived the worst of it.

But what came next was what I now call the year of the clusterfuck.

A year of red flags I ignored.

Boundaries crossed and crossed again.

Love bombing disguised as intimacy.

Freeze responses I didn’t understand.

And the deep shame of asking myself, over and over: Why am I still doing this? I should know better.

In this episode I share what really happens when you keep finding yourself in relationships that hurt, even after you’ve “done the work.” Why smart women repeat painful patterns. Why your gut isn’t always your truth. And how choosing celibacy at 39 broke the cycle for me, and opened the door to meeting Adam.

We’ll explore:

Why “I should know better” keeps you stuck in shame
The truth about boundaries (and why they only work with consequences)
How freeze can show up long before a violation
Why chemistry can actually be anxiety in disguise
What it feels like in your body when safety arrives
Why you’re not broken if you keep choosing the wrong men

If you’re in the aftermath of an affair, a divorce, or a breakup, and you keep getting pulled back into chaos, this one’s for you.

Because you’re not broken.

Your body just doesn’t know safety yet.

And that can change.

The Healed Heart - my 6-month group programme - is where we break the pattern at the root so you can choose love differently.

We begin Thursday 9 October.

Ten spots only.

The Healed Heart

S2#008 – Relationship Anxiety, The Cool Girl, and The Affair with Georgie Collinson

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 04:00:01 -0000

You can love someone and still betray them. You can be strong, independent, the cool girl… and still find yourself in an affair.

In this conversation with Australia’s leading anxiety therapist, Georgie Collinson, we go deep into the ways anxiety and self-betrayal shape our relationships:

How high-functioning anxiety becomes the mask of the cool girl

Why silence and “I don’t need you” energy always lead to disconnection
The hidden link between childhood wounds, yearning, and affairs
Georgie’s first public share of her own affair story — and what it taught her about love
Why consistency and availability in a partner regulate the nervous system more than chemistry ever will
How to stop abandoning yourself and start asking for what you really need

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m fine, I don’t need anything,” but secretly felt starving for connection — this episode will crack something open.

Resources & Links:

Georgie’s Instant Calm Meditation: https://anxiety-reset.mykajabi.com/instantcalm
Follow Georgie on Instagram: @georgiethenaturopath
Learn more at www.georgiecollinson.com

💔 The Healed Heart — 6 months of real healing after betrayal

If you cheated and you’re drowning in guilt, shame, or self-doubt, this is for you.

This isn’t about talking it out one more time — it’s about coming back to your body, feeling what you’ve been running from, and learning to love without abandoning yourself. We start October 9. Nine spots only.

Book your free call here → The Healed Heart

🔗 Follow me on Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: www.alexcroxford.com

S2#007 – Why Cheating Is a Pattern, Not a Moral Failure

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 08:10:07 -0000

Episode 7: Why Cheating Is a Pattern, Not a Moral Failure

This one’s for the woman asking herself:

“What is wrong with me?”
“Why didn’t I just leave?”
“How did I do this again?”

In this episode, I explore why cheating isn’t just a one-off mistake, it’s often part of a deeper survival pattern shaped by emotional disconnection, shutdown, and unmet needs.

We look at:

How your nervous system drives the behaviour you can’t make sense of
Why shame keeps you stuck (and moralising doesn’t help)
What actually creates lasting change

This isn’t about excusing what happened — it’s about understanding it, so you don’t keep living in fear of repeating it.

🎙 Free Masterclass: Breaking the Cycle of Shame

Thursday 18th Sept @ 8PM BST

If you were the one who cheated, and you’re still carrying guilt, confusion, or regret, this is for you.

100 spots only. No replay.

👉 Save your seat

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Website: www.alexcroxford.com

S2#006 – The Part of You Who Cheated Was Trying to Survive

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000

You didn’t cheat because you’re a bad person.

You cheated because something in you was trying to survive.

Your chest tightens.

Your stomach drops.

The shame rushes in.

And you think: “Why did I do that?”

Most people miss this part: Cheating isn’t always a conscious choice.

It can be a nervous system response.

In this week’s episode of The Deeper Love Podcast, I break down:

✨ Why cheating can be a survival response, not a choice

✨ How you were already disconnected long before the affair

✨ What fawning, freezing, or running look like in love

✨ Why logic can’t heal you — but safety can

✨ How to stop the cycle in your body, not your head

This isn’t about excuses.

It’s about truth.

It’s about rebuilding without shame.

And if this lands in your body…

🕊️ Join me live for my FREE masterclass: Breaking the Cycle of Shame

📅 Thursday 18th Sept, 8pm BST

⚡ Only 100 spots, no replay

Comment HEAL or go to this link to sign up

📲 Instagram: iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: alexcroxford.com

S2#005 – Cheating Doesn’t Happen in a Vacuum

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000

We’re taught to see cheating as a simple equation: one person betrays, the other is betrayed. End of story. But the truth is never that clean.

In this episode, I share why an affair is never just about the moment it happened or the person it happened with. It’s about everything that came before - the silences, the unspoken needs, the glass walls that build up between two people - long before a boundary is crossed.

You’ll hear:

Why loneliness inside a relationship is one of the deepest fractures of all
How silence and swallowed needs slowly erode connection
Why cheating is never about “suddenly making a bad choice”
And how understanding this bigger picture can loosen the grip of shame

If you’ve ever felt like you were screaming silently inside your relationship - or carrying the unbearable weight of guilt after betraying someone you loved - this conversation will help you see what was really happening underneath.

This isn’t about excusing or blaming. It’s about understanding.Because when you can finally see the truth of what was there, you can stop carrying it alone.

✨ Join the Softening Sessions Every other week we gather on Zoom for 90 minutes of release, reflection, and return. This is where shame softens, guilt loosens, and your heart remembers what it feels like to be held. Click here to join.

S2#004 - Why You Cheated Isn’t the Real Why

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 17:22:45 -0000

Most women think they know why they cheated.

“I wasn’t seen. I felt lonely. I felt unwanted. I was bored. He didn’t love me.”

And while those stories are true on the surface, they are not the root.

In this episode, I take you deeper. We’ll look at the why beneath the why - the patterns of silencing, perfection, and strength-at-all-costs that began long before the affair.

The truth is, the affair wasn’t the problem. It was the symptom.

You’ll hear:

Why the real cause of betrayal starts years before the relationship rupture.
How childhood survival strategies shaped the way you love.
The hidden cost of being “the strong one” in your relationship.
Why betrayal is a scream from the part of you that’s been left behind.
How to stop asking “Why did I cheat?” and start asking “Where did I leave myself?”

If you’ve been drowning in shame or searching for answers, this episode will help you see your story in a new way, and begin to free yourself from carrying the wrong “why.”

You are not broken. You are at the threshold of truth.

✨ If this episode speaks to you and you want to explore these patterns in a safe, guided space, join me for the next Softening Session – a 90-minute healing circle for women navigating the shame and confusion after infidelity: alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

📲 Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: alexcroxford.com

S2#003 - When You’ve Been Cheated On: Jessica’s Story of Love, Betrayal, and Healing

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 16:21:28 -0000

What does it really take to rebuild after betrayal?In this episode, I’m joined by fellow love & relationship coach Jessica Hayes, who shares her raw and powerful story of discovering her partner’s infidelity and the journey they took to heal together.

We talk about:

The moment she found out and how it shattered her world
Why “just leave” isn’t the right answer for everyone
The messy, non-linear process of rebuilding trust
The deeper wounds and patterns betrayal can reveal, and how facing them can transform a relationship

If you’ve been cheated on and you’re wondering if healing is possible - or you’re navigating the complicated emotions of staying - Jessica’s story will give you both hope and clarity.

🔗 Join my next Softening Session – a 90-minute healing circle for women navigating the shame and confusion after infidelity: alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

📲 Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: alexcroxford.com

Jessica Hayes — Instagram: @jessicahayescoaching | Website: https://www.jessicahayes.com/

S2#002 - The Coldplay Scandal, Betrayal, and What We’re Missing in the Conversation

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 13:53:19 -0000

When a betrayal hits the headlines, like the recent Coldplay cheating scandal, the internet rushes to judge.The memes, the moral high ground, the smug commentary. But what’s really going on beneath the noise?

In this episode, I sit down with fellow love & relationship coach Jessica Hayes and Therapeutic Coach Lucy Maeve to talk about what’s missing from the public conversation around infidelity. We explore:

Why betrayal is rarely just about lust or opportunity
How childhood wounds, disconnection, and unspoken needs can quietly lead us he
The shame spiral women enter after cheating, and why judgement only keeps them stuck
What real healing looks like for both the betrayer and the betrayed

If you’ve ever cheated, been cheated on, or found yourself caught in the grey space between, this conversation will help you see beyond the headlines and into the deeper truth about betrayal, love, and repair.

🔗 Join my next Softening Session – a 90-minute healing circle for women navigating the shame and confusion after infidelity: alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

📲 Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: alexcroxford.com

Jessica Hayes — Instagram: @jessicahayescoaching | Website: https://www.jessicahayes.com/

Lucy Maeve — Instagram: @lucy__maeve | Website: https://lucymaeve133.lpages.co/offerings/

S2#001 – My Story: Why I Cheated on Someone I Loved

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 10:32:38 -0000

I never thought I’d be the kind of woman who cheated on her husband, and I’m guessing neither did you.

In this episode, I share my story through the lens of a woman who’s had an affair and broken her own heart in the process. Not the surface version, but the truth beneath it: the silence, disconnection, perfectionism, and old wounds that led me there - long before the infidelity happened.

If you’ve ever thought “I’ve had an affair and now I feel broken” or “I don’t know if I’ll ever trust myself again”, you’ll discover why this moment can be a wake-up call, not the end of your story, and how it can be the starting point for deep, lasting healing after infidelity.

🔗 Join my next Softening Session – a 90-minute healing circle for women navigating the shame and confusion after infidelity: alexcroxford.com/softening-sessions

📲 Instagram: @iamalexcroxford

🌐 Website: alexcroxford.com

S1#005 | Escaping the Grip of Narcissistic Abuse with Nastassia Marie

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 14:40:00 -0000

In this episode:

Alex Croxford sits down with Nastassia Marie, a trauma-informed educator and practitioner specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery. Nastassia’s journey of healing from a history of challenging relationships and family trauma fuels her powerful work, as she brings compassion, humor, and depth to complex subjects. Together, they explore the importance of recognizing inherited trauma, understanding narcissistic abuse, and how self-awareness can lead to a safe, fulfilling love.

This episode is a profound discussion on breaking free from destructive patterns, rebuilding self-worth, and how trauma-informed healing offers a pathway to self-discovery and genuine connection.

Highlights:

✨ Nastassia shares her journey of healing from her traumatic past, including growing up around violence and eventually facing similar dynamics in her own relationships. She discusses the critical turning points that led her to trauma-informed work.

✨ The conversation dives deep into the cycle of abuse, with Nastassia highlighting the unconscious tendency to recreate familiar relationship dynamics rooted in early experiences.

✨ Alex and Nastassia discuss narcissistic abuse, what it truly means, and how understanding it can liberate individuals from toxic patterns and behaviors.

✨ Nastassia offers insights into the power of generational healing, shedding light on how we carry ancestral trauma and the importance of addressing it to live freely and intentionally.

✨ A touching moment reveals how Nastassia, holding her daughter, made a life-changing decision to break free from her past and pave the way for a new, empowered legacy.

Key Takeaways:

Trauma Awareness is Empowering: Healing involves recognizing and honoring the traumas that shape us, often inherited across generations.
Safety in Love: Safe, healthy relationships are possible when we confront past traumas and free ourselves from the bonds of familiarity that keep us tied to harmful dynamics.
Narcissistic Abuse Defined: Understanding narcissistic abuse goes beyond the label; it's about recognizing manipulation, control, and inconsistency within relationships and learning to break free.
The Journey from Self-Blame to Self-Compassion: Nastassia’s story emphasizes the importance of self-compassion over shame, reminding us that healing is a journey that requires gentleness.
Healing Generational Trauma: We carry not only our own pain but often that of our ancestors. Breaking these cycles frees not only us but future generations.

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Alex's Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamalexcroxford/

How to Find The Love Of Your Life Masterclass: https://www.alexcroxford.com/how-to-find-the-love-of-your-life-masterclass/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-deeper-love-podcast/id1770453444

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About Nastassia Marie:

Nastassia Marie is a Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Informed Educator & Practitioner. Her work is the Embodiment of her own healing and self discovery journey, as she brings authenticity, love and humor into deeply sacred topics that lead to beautiful lifelong transformations.

Nastassia’s Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofintuition/

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Tune in next time to continue your journey to deeper love and transformation!

S1#004 | Breaking Patterns & Building Trust with Cody Mathieson Packer

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0000

In this episode:

Alex Croxford hosts Cody Mathieson Packer, a men’s transformation guide, to discuss the complex dynamics between men and women in relationships. Cody shares his personal journey of overcoming challenges, including a tumultuous marriage and career setbacks, to rediscover himself and step into his role as a guide for men.

Together, they explore how men can confront deep-seated fears, rewrite their pasts, and show up authentically in relationships. This conversation brings to light the importance of self-responsibility, healing old wounds, and cultivating healthy connections.

Highlights:

✨ Cody recounts his journey of self-discovery after his divorce and job loss, and how he transformed his life from victimhood to self-empowerment.

✨ They explore the dangers of emotional caretaking and the importance of men stepping into their authority.

✨ Cody shares powerful insights on unlearning harmful relationship patterns and embracing radical self-responsibility.

✨ Alex and Cody discuss the mistrust of masculinity and how both men and women can heal to create more fulfilling relationships.

✨ A touching story illustrates the power of presence and trust in healing traumatic experiences.

Key Takeaways:

Self-Responsibility is Crucial: Lasting change comes when individuals take radical self-responsibility for their emotions, experiences, and healing.
The Importance of Inner Work: Both men and women need to explore their wounds and patterns to build trust and meaningful relationships.
Do You Want to Be Right or Free?: Questioning whether you want to be “right” about your relationship beliefs or truly free from limiting narratives can be transformative.
Real Love Requires Surrender: True intimacy involves letting go of control and allowing relationships to unfold organically, without the pressure of outcomes.
Healing is Possible: Cody’s story of providing safety and presence to a trauma survivor demonstrates the profound impact of healing and self-compassion.

Stay tuned for more episodes of The Deeper Love Podcast where we dive into the heart of relationships and personal growth.

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Alex's Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamalexcroxford/

How to Find The Love Of Your Life Masterclass: https://www.alexcroxford.com/how-to-find-the-love-of-your-life-masterclass/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/001-my-story-with-alex-croxford/id1770453444?i=1000670626774

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About Cody Mathieson Packer:

Cody Mathieson Packer has been guiding men to unlearn their pasts and alchemize their pain and heartbreak into power for the last few years so it is possible for them to write a new future.

He walked this path on his own after losing his job and going through a divorce 5 years ago that completely changed the trajectory of his life.

He is fiercely and lovingly committed to inspiring the new generation of men to end their wars within, lead their lives from a place of wholeness and be the director of the life they actually want to create (all while having fun and enjoying the richness of life of course).

Cody's Links:

Instagram: @codymathiesonpacker

Group Program, Rewrite Your Future: A 12-week course for men to unlearn past conditioning and create a new reality. Starting in October, more details on Cody’s Instagram.

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S1#003 | Become The Partner You Want with Persia Lawson

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0000

In this episode:

In this episode, Alex Croxford interviews Persia Lawson, a top UK dating and relationship coach, to explore the journey of inner healing, and personal transformation in pursuit of meaningful romantic relationships. They dive into Persia’s personal evolution from her own tumultuous love life to coaching high-achieving women to find fulfilling relationships by working on themselves first.

Highlights:

✨Persia shares her personal story of overcoming chaotic relationships and magnetising her husband of 8 years

✨The secret she used to shift her external world and change her romantic life

✨We discuss how perfectionism impacts romantic relationships.

✨The importance of self-responsibility, self-respect and boundaries in dating.

✨Persia introduces the "Four Missing Pieces of the Courtship Puzzle"

✨We talk about the importance of becoming the partner you want to attract by cultivating a deep relationship with yourself.

Key Takeaways:

Self-awareness is the key to lasting love: You cannot expect someone to love you if you do not deeply love and respect yourself. The most important piece of the puzzle is working on your relationship with yourself first.
The Four Missing Pieces of the Courtship Puzzle: Magnetic energy, discernment, communication, and surrender are crucial to forming healthy, lasting relationships.
Prioritise self-respect: True confidence comes from respecting yourself, your sacred body and not playing games.
True power couples are about more than optics: Real power couples focus on collaboration, communication, and service, creating positive ripples not just in their lives but in the world around them.
Let go of control in relationships: The importance of surrendering the need to control outcomes in relationships and trusting the process.

Stay tuned for more episodes in which we delve into the topic of Deeper Love!

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Alex's Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamalexcroxford/

How to Find The Love Of Your Life Masterclass: https://www.alexcroxford.com/how-to-find-the-love-of-your-life-masterclass/

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About Persia:

Persia Lawson is a dating & relationship coach, 3x author & speaker. She specialises in getting female leaders healthy, exciting, meaningful relationships that are a force for good, not drama.

Persia was honoured to be called “one of the UK’s most successful love coaches” by The Times and an “irreverent British guru” by Marie Claire magazine. Her work is regularly featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan and the BBC.

Her flagship mentorship programme, Love For Leaders, typically gets clients remarkable relationships within 6-12 months.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PersiaLawsonLoveCoach/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/persialawson/

Linkedin: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/persia-lawson-02aa92211

Love For Leaders Scorecard (which shows you how far away you are from your ideal relationship): https://persia-lawson.scoreapp.com/ & Love Is Coming Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/love-is-coming/id1533608902

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S1#002 | Reclaim Your Sexual Power and Transform Your Love Life with Amy White

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0000

In this episode:

Alex Croxford welcomes Amy White, a somatic sexual healing coach and founder of Temple of the Feminine, to explore sacred sexuality, feminine energy, and how women can reclaim their sexual power through self-awareness and emotional connection. Amy shares her personal journey of awakening and healing through kundalini tantra yoga and discusses how celibacy can be a powerful tool for empowerment and self-discovery.

Highlights:

✨ Amy's transformative experience with kundalini tantra yoga, which awakened her sexual energy and led to a deeper connection with her body.

✨ How cultivating a deeper relationship with your body impacts intimate relationships allowing for more emotional and spiritual connection.

✨ Celibacy as a sacred practice of redirecting sexual energy inward and as an act of deep self love.

✨ Challenges women face in embracing their sexuality and practical advice on how to create emotional and physical safety in intimate relationships.

✨ The importance of emotional intimacy and a connection with yourself for developing a deeper, more fulfilling sexual experience.

Key Takeaways:

Reclaiming Sexual Power: Our sexual energy is a powerful source of creativity and healing. Societal conditioning often suppresses our connection to it, but by exploring this energy, we unlock deeper intimacy and emotional growth.
The Journey of Self-Love: Cultivating a compassionate and loving relationship with your body, especially through self-pleasure, is essential to your healing and empowerment journey.
Celibacy as a Sacred Practice: Celibacy isn't just about abstaining from sex with others. It's about redirecting sexual energy inward to discover personal sensuality and release old traumas.
Emotional Safety in Intimacy: True pleasure and fulfillment in sexual relationships come from feeling safe, emotionally connected, and respected. Prioritize communication and emotional alignment to create deeper connections.

Amy’s Links:

Connect with Amy White:

Follow Amy on Insta and explore her self-paced courses, practitioner training, and free resources available on her website.

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Alex's Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamalexcroxford/

How to Find The Love Of Your Life Masterclass: https://www.alexcroxford.com/how-to-find-the-love-of-your-life-masterclass/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-deeper-love-podcast/id1770453444

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S1#001 | My Story with Alex Croxford

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 05:31:00 -0000

In this episode:

In the very first episode of The Deeper Love podcast, Alex Croxford takes you on a raw, emotional journey through her personal story of heartbreak, inner transformation, and spiritual awakening.

From the outside, Alex had what many would call a perfect life: successful career, marriage, and all the external markers of achievement.

But beneath the surface, she was battling deep-seated wounds and patterns of self-abandonment. In this episode, Alex shares how heartbreak became her portal to freedom and how she discovered that true transformation begins with facing the deepest most shadowy parts of ourselves.

Highlights:

✨Alex’s personal journey from a "perfect" marriage to divorce to being in a new true love partnership.

✨How her struggle with infertility unraveled her life and led to a profound transformation.

✨The power of emotional release, spiritual healing, and reconnecting with feminine energy.

✨How betrayal and the collapse of her marriage became the turning point for radical self-healing.

✨The role of heartbreak and grief as catalysts for personal growth and awakening.

✨The importance of being held by other women and creating a support network during difficult times.

✨How she reconnected with her authentic self and attracted a deep, soul-aligned love.

✨How her experience with plant medicine helped her heal, open her heart, and find love again.

Key Takeaways:

Heartbreak as a Catalyst: Heartbreak is often the beginning of a spiritual awakening. It forces us to face ourselves, heal old wounds, and come home to our true essence.
Vulnerability is Power: True healing begins when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, to feel the depth of our emotions, and to open up to support from others.
Spiritual Growth: Awakening to our true nature as spirit, opening our hearts and reclaiming our authentic selves, is the path to a deeper love.
Self-Love Before All Else: Before attracting true love, we must first heal the relationship with ourselves and face, heal and integrate past trauma and hidden wounds.

Stay tuned for more episodes in which we delve into the topic of Deeper Love!

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About The Deeper Love Podcast:

Step into a realm of life-changing intimacy with The Deeper Love Podcast, where healing, love and the universe meet. Join host Alex Croxford as she guides you through the secrets of experiencing deep and healthy relationships, with experts in love, sexuality, personal development, and spirituality. Uncover how to use relationships as pathways to growth and expansion and learn the art of co-creating the passionate, magical and mystical relationship your heart desires. Let each conversation awaken your senses and deepen your connections, inviting you into a love beyond the ordinary.

Alex's Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamalexcroxford/

How to Find The Love Of Your Life Masterclass: https://www.alexcroxford.com/how-to-find-the-love-of-your-life-masterclass/