Not So Chic with Elli Freeman en Hosted by Elli Freeman, Not So Chic feels like a late-night FaceTime call about the parts of life that don’t always make it onto Instagram. From heartbreak, friendships, and identity to confidence, loneliness, and growing into yourself — nothing is off limits. A podcast for the people who romanticize their lives while simultaneously spiraling. Some episodes feel chic. Some are… not. Both are allowed here. https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/6d1757f0-4a4b-11f1-8ea3-477026bc705d/image/ee04fb03f1bc9f6cfdb081ce1e93c7c4.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress Not So Chic with Elli Freeman episodic Elli Freeman Hosted by Elli Freeman, Not So Chic feels like a late-night FaceTime call about the parts of life that don’t always make it onto Instagram. From heartbreak, friendships, and identity to confidence, loneliness, and growing into yourself — nothing is off limits. A podcast for the people who romanticize their lives while simultaneously spiraling. Some episodes feel chic. Some are… not. Both are allowed here. Hosted by Elli Freeman, Not So Chic feels like a late-night FaceTime call about the parts of life that don’t always make it onto Instagram. From heartbreak, friendships, and identity to confidence, loneliness, and growing into yourself — nothing is off limits. A podcast for the people who romanticize their lives while simultaneously spiraling. Some episodes feel chic. Some are… not. Both are allowed here.

]]> Elli Freeman ellifreeman@gmail.com The Mindset Shift That Actually Worked For years I thought confidence came from fitting in. Dressing like everyone else. Dating the "right" people. Chasing validation from strangers, boys, and anyone willing to tell me I was enough. Turns out I couldn't have been more wrong. In this episode, I'm talking about the biggest shift I've made over the last few years: learning how to live a life that's actually aligned with my values instead of everyone else's expectations. From outpatient therapy and value sorting to dressing for myself, dating authentically, and finally letting my inner child have a seat at the table, this is a conversation about what happens when you stop shrinking yourself just to belong. If you've ever felt like you're constantly performing a version of yourself that everyone else seems to like more than the real you, I hope this episode reminds you that the people who are meant for you will never require you to abandon yourself. Because the goal was never to fit in. It was to finally feel like yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 01 Jul 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman For years I thought confidence came from fitting in. Dressing like everyone else. Dating the "right" people. Chasing validation from strangers, boys, and anyone willing to tell me I was enough. Turns out I couldn't have been more wrong. In this episode, I'm talking about the biggest shift I've made over the last few years: learning how to live a life that's actually aligned with my values instead of everyone else's expectations. From outpatient therapy and value sorting to dressing for myself, dating authentically, and finally letting my inner child have a seat at the table, this is a conversation about what happens when you stop shrinking yourself just to belong. If you've ever felt like you're constantly performing a version of yourself that everyone else seems to like more than the real you, I hope this episode reminds you that the people who are meant for you will never require you to abandon yourself. Because the goal was never to fit in. It was to finally feel like yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices For years I thought confidence came from fitting in. Dressing like everyone else. Dating the "right" people. Chasing validation from strangers, boys, and anyone willing to tell me I was enough.

Turns out I couldn't have been more wrong.

In this episode, I'm talking about the biggest shift I've made over the last few years: learning how to live a life that's actually aligned with my values instead of everyone else's expectations. From outpatient therapy and value sorting to dressing for myself, dating authentically, and finally letting my inner child have a seat at the table, this is a conversation about what happens when you stop shrinking yourself just to belong.

If you've ever felt like you're constantly performing a version of yourself that everyone else seems to like more than the real you, I hope this episode reminds you that the people who are meant for you will never require you to abandon yourself.

Because the goal was never to fit in.

It was to finally feel like yourself.

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]]> 2029 yes The Loneliness of Being an Old Soul I've been called an "old soul" for as long as I can remember, but for years it felt less like a compliment and more like a reminder that I never quite fit in. In this episode, I'm talking about what it was like growing up feeling different—being the kid who wanted tea at The Peninsula, spent recess in knitting club, obsessed over interior design before most people cared about decorating their bedrooms, and always seemed a few steps ahead emotionally. I share how being deeply observant shaped my friendships, dating life, career, and mental health, and why I spent so many years wishing I could just be like everyone else. We talk about loneliness, sensitivity, overthinking, finding your people, and the moment I finally stopped trying to outrun the parts of myself that made me different. Because while being an old soul can feel isolating, it can also be one of the greatest gifts you'll ever receive. If you've ever felt out of sync with the people around you, this one's for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 24 Jun 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman I've been called an "old soul" for as long as I can remember, but for years it felt less like a compliment and more like a reminder that I never quite fit in. In this episode, I'm talking about what it was like growing up feeling different—being the kid who wanted tea at The Peninsula, spent recess in knitting club, obsessed over interior design before most people cared about decorating their bedrooms, and always seemed a few steps ahead emotionally. I share how being deeply observant shaped my friendships, dating life, career, and mental health, and why I spent so many years wishing I could just be like everyone else. We talk about loneliness, sensitivity, overthinking, finding your people, and the moment I finally stopped trying to outrun the parts of myself that made me different. Because while being an old soul can feel isolating, it can also be one of the greatest gifts you'll ever receive. If you've ever felt out of sync with the people around you, this one's for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices I've been called an "old soul" for as long as I can remember, but for years it felt less like a compliment and more like a reminder that I never quite fit in.

In this episode, I'm talking about what it was like growing up feeling different—being the kid who wanted tea at The Peninsula, spent recess in knitting club, obsessed over interior design before most people cared about decorating their bedrooms, and always seemed a few steps ahead emotionally. I share how being deeply observant shaped my friendships, dating life, career, and mental health, and why I spent so many years wishing I could just be like everyone else.

We talk about loneliness, sensitivity, overthinking, finding your people, and the moment I finally stopped trying to outrun the parts of myself that made me different. Because while being an old soul can feel isolating, it can also be one of the greatest gifts you'll ever receive.

If you've ever felt out of sync with the people around you, this one's for you.


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]]> 1506 yes I Don't Hate My Body, It's Just Complicated Body image isn't always self-hatred. Sometimes it's just constantly being aware of your body. In this episode, I share my experience with body image from ballet classes and dieting in middle school to gaining weight in college, losing it after graduation, and learning how to stop fighting myself every day. We talk about comparison, food noise, body neutrality, and why taking care of your body feels very different than trying to punish it. This isn't an episode about weight loss. It's an episode about making peace with yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 17 Jun 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman Body image isn't always self-hatred. Sometimes it's just constantly being aware of your body. In this episode, I share my experience with body image from ballet classes and dieting in middle school to gaining weight in college, losing it after graduation, and learning how to stop fighting myself every day. We talk about comparison, food noise, body neutrality, and why taking care of your body feels very different than trying to punish it. This isn't an episode about weight loss. It's an episode about making peace with yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Body image isn't always self-hatred. Sometimes it's just constantly being aware of your body.

In this episode, I share my experience with body image from ballet classes and dieting in middle school to gaining weight in college, losing it after graduation, and learning how to stop fighting myself every day. We talk about comparison, food noise, body neutrality, and why taking care of your body feels very different than trying to punish it.

This isn't an episode about weight loss. It's an episode about making peace with yourself.

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]]> 2169 yes My Love Life (or Lack Thereof) In this episode, I'm talking about dating, situationships, heartbreak, and learning how to be okay on my own. From my first kiss in Rome to college experiences that completely changed the way I viewed relationships, I share the stories that shaped my relationship with love, self-worth, and dating. We talk about rejection, healing, standards, and why being single no longer feels like something I'm waiting to escape. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 10 Jun 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman In this episode, I'm talking about dating, situationships, heartbreak, and learning how to be okay on my own. From my first kiss in Rome to college experiences that completely changed the way I viewed relationships, I share the stories that shaped my relationship with love, self-worth, and dating. We talk about rejection, healing, standards, and why being single no longer feels like something I'm waiting to escape. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I'm talking about dating, situationships, heartbreak, and learning how to be okay on my own. From my first kiss in Rome to college experiences that completely changed the way I viewed relationships, I share the stories that shaped my relationship with love, self-worth, and dating.

We talk about rejection, healing, standards, and why being single no longer feels like something I'm waiting to escape.

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]]> 2102 yes Friendship Breakups Are Breakups Friendship breakups don’t get talked about enough. In this episode, I’m unpacking the pain of outgrowing people, the heartbreak of feeling misunderstood, and why friendships can feel so complicated in your twenties. I talk about trust, people-pleasing, learning to ask for what you need, and the quiet grief of realizing some people may not be your people after all. But more than anything, this episode is about the friendships that do feel safe — the ones where you show up with nothing to prove and are loved exactly as you are.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 03 Jun 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman Friendship breakups don’t get talked about enough. In this episode, I’m unpacking the pain of outgrowing people, the heartbreak of feeling misunderstood, and why friendships can feel so complicated in your twenties. I talk about trust, people-pleasing, learning to ask for what you need, and the quiet grief of realizing some people may not be your people after all. But more than anything, this episode is about the friendships that do feel safe — the ones where you show up with nothing to prove and are loved exactly as you are.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Friendship breakups don’t get talked about enough. In this episode, I’m unpacking the pain of outgrowing people, the heartbreak of feeling misunderstood, and why friendships can feel so complicated in your twenties. I talk about trust, people-pleasing, learning to ask for what you need, and the quiet grief of realizing some people may not be your people after all. But more than anything, this episode is about the friendships that do feel safe — the ones where you show up with nothing to prove and are loved exactly as you are. 

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]]> 1996 yes I Thought I Was Fine In this episode, I’m talking about the summer that completely changed my life. After years of struggling with my mental health, convincing myself I was fine, and learning how to cope instead of heal, I finally got a level of help I didn’t think I “deserved.” I share what led me to outpatient treatment, what it actually looked like, and how I began to understand the difference between surviving, coping, and truly healing. This episode is honest, vulnerable, and a reminder that you don’t have to wait until things are “bad enough” to ask for help. Plus, we’re getting into a very relatable Chic of the Week, a painfully awkward Not So Chic, and a listener Guest Therapy question about saying yes to everything out of fear of being left out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 27 May 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman In this episode, I’m talking about the summer that completely changed my life. After years of struggling with my mental health, convincing myself I was fine, and learning how to cope instead of heal, I finally got a level of help I didn’t think I “deserved.” I share what led me to outpatient treatment, what it actually looked like, and how I began to understand the difference between surviving, coping, and truly healing. This episode is honest, vulnerable, and a reminder that you don’t have to wait until things are “bad enough” to ask for help. Plus, we’re getting into a very relatable Chic of the Week, a painfully awkward Not So Chic, and a listener Guest Therapy question about saying yes to everything out of fear of being left out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I’m talking about the summer that completely changed my life. After years of struggling with my mental health, convincing myself I was fine, and learning how to cope instead of heal, I finally got a level of help I didn’t think I “deserved.”

I share what led me to outpatient treatment, what it actually looked like, and how I began to understand the difference between surviving, coping, and truly healing. This episode is honest, vulnerable, and a reminder that you don’t have to wait until things are “bad enough” to ask for help.

Plus, we’re getting into a very relatable Chic of the Week, a painfully awkward Not So Chic, and a listener Guest Therapy question about saying yes to everything out of fear of being left out.

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]]> 1853 yes I Wasn’t Alone, But I Was Lonely In this episode, I’m talking about the kind of loneliness where you technically have friends, but never feel like you fully belong. I open up about being the “floater friend” in high school, feeling invited but not chosen, and how that quiet hurt followed me into adulthood. This one is for anyone who has ever felt outside of the group chat, the group photo, or the friend group entirely. You’re not alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 20 May 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman In this episode, I’m talking about the kind of loneliness where you technically have friends, but never feel like you fully belong. I open up about being the “floater friend” in high school, feeling invited but not chosen, and how that quiet hurt followed me into adulthood. This one is for anyone who has ever felt outside of the group chat, the group photo, or the friend group entirely. You’re not alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I’m talking about the kind of loneliness where you technically have friends, but never feel like you fully belong.

I open up about being the “floater friend” in high school, feeling invited but not chosen, and how that quiet hurt followed me into adulthood.

This one is for anyone who has ever felt outside of the group chat, the group photo, or the friend group entirely. You’re not alone.

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]]> 2143 yes Maybe I’m Not Behind, Maybe I’m Just Doing It Differently In this episode of Not So Chic, I’m talking about the weird guilt of feeling calm in your early 20s, living at home, not going out every weekend, watching everyone else’s life look louder online, and wondering if I should be doing more. I get into the difference between peace and complacency, post-grad comparison, FOMO, trusting your gut, and why a quiet season might actually be the thing that saves you. Plus, this week’s Guest Therapy is about a situationship that feels like a relationship in private but a secret in public. Maybe I’m not behind. Maybe I’m just not panicking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Fri, 15 May 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 1 2 Elli Freeman In this episode of Not So Chic, I’m talking about the weird guilt of feeling calm in your early 20s, living at home, not going out every weekend, watching everyone else’s life look louder online, and wondering if I should be doing more. I get into the difference between peace and complacency, post-grad comparison, FOMO, trusting your gut, and why a quiet season might actually be the thing that saves you. Plus, this week’s Guest Therapy is about a situationship that feels like a relationship in private but a secret in public. Maybe I’m not behind. Maybe I’m just not panicking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Not So Chic, I’m talking about the weird guilt of feeling calm in your early 20s, living at home, not going out every weekend, watching everyone else’s life look louder online, and wondering if I should be doing more. I get into the difference between peace and complacency, post-grad comparison, FOMO, trusting your gut, and why a quiet season might actually be the thing that saves you. Plus, this week’s Guest Therapy is about a situationship that feels like a relationship in private but a secret in public. Maybe I’m not behind. Maybe I’m just not panicking.

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]]> 2128 yes Welcome to Not So Chic You know the chic version of me, now meet the not so chic one. In my very first episode, I’m reintroducing myself beyond the polished online version and sharing how lonely college GRWMs, viral TikToks, dating chaos, and my lifelong need to romanticize absolutely everything somehow led me here. This episode is a little intro, a little unraveling, and the official start of the Not So Chic Club. For anyone who feels deeply, spirals occasionally, and is trying to make life feel beautiful anyway. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Fri, 15 May 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 1 1 Elli Freeman You know the chic version of me, now meet the not so chic one. In my very first episode, I’m reintroducing myself beyond the polished online version and sharing how lonely college GRWMs, viral TikToks, dating chaos, and my lifelong need to romanticize absolutely everything somehow led me here. This episode is a little intro, a little unraveling, and the official start of the Not So Chic Club. For anyone who feels deeply, spirals occasionally, and is trying to make life feel beautiful anyway. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices You know the chic version of me, now meet the not so chic one. In my very first episode, I’m reintroducing myself beyond the polished online version and sharing how lonely college GRWMs, viral TikToks, dating chaos, and my lifelong need to romanticize absolutely everything somehow led me here.

This episode is a little intro, a little unraveling, and the official start of the Not So Chic Club. For anyone who feels deeply, spirals occasionally, and is trying to make life feel beautiful anyway.

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]]> 1805 Not So Chic Trailer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 13 May 2026 22:23:00 -0000 full Elli Freeman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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