LOVERS by Shan http://loversbyshan.com/ en 2026 LOVERS by shan LOVERS by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach. Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/ https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/dad9f9e8-3a90-11f1-a76b-d7f6750ad978/image/e0e99cde67e86506dc2899de8c83b9be.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress LOVERS by Shan http://loversbyshan.com/ no episodic LOVERS by shan LOVERS by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach. Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/ LOVERS by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach. Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/


]]> Lemonada Media hey@lemonadamedia.com This Kama Sutra Secret About Hands Changes Everything Showing love to our sponsor Biologica. Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you, and get up to 32% on your purchase: https://biologica.com/lovers  Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this episode. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!  Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/shanboody.  —————————— What does the Kama Sutra say about hands? In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand to explore one of the most overlooked (and underestimated) tools of intimacy: your hands. Recorded live in London in front of an audience of sex educators and pleasure-positive voices, this conversation focuses on expanding your pleasure potential, with a special emphasis on hand sex, as we celebrate the launch of our brand new Käma jewelry collection, inspired by the Kama Sutra. Seema shares what the Kama Sutra actually teaches about touch, including specific finger combinations, how intention shapes sensation, and why hands play a central role in pleasure. We also explore the connection between the Kama Sutra and lunar phases, rethink the art of foreplay, and touch on the idea of being multi-orgasmic, and what that can look like. 💎 Shop our new KAMA ring collection. Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kama RSVP to our Tell-ALL Part 🎉Tuesday, May 5th at 11AM PST. https://community.loversbyshan.com/c/podcast/tell-all-pleasure-party-w-seema-anand-0454f07b-12ae-40ae-b0e6-1f5a167f721a  Watch Seema’s Previous Podcast EpisodesKama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2Pj2rTHLyk The Kama Sutra Secret ‪@SeemaAnandStoryTelling‬ Wants the World to Know About: https://youtu.be/HfrQynAqKjo Follow SeemaGet her book Speak Easy → https://www.amazon.com/Speak-Easy-Filed-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337 Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enSubscribe to her YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@SeemaAnandStoryTelling  Want more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com  Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter  Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community  Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0000 full LOVERS by shan Showing love to our sponsor Biologica. Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you, and get up to 32% on your purchase: https://biologica.com/lovers  Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this episode. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!  Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/shanboody.  —————————— What does the Kama Sutra say about hands? In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand to explore one of the most overlooked (and underestimated) tools of intimacy: your hands. Recorded live in London in front of an audience of sex educators and pleasure-positive voices, this conversation focuses on expanding your pleasure potential, with a special emphasis on hand sex, as we celebrate the launch of our brand new Käma jewelry collection, inspired by the Kama Sutra. Seema shares what the Kama Sutra actually teaches about touch, including specific finger combinations, how intention shapes sensation, and why hands play a central role in pleasure. We also explore the connection between the Kama Sutra and lunar phases, rethink the art of foreplay, and touch on the idea of being multi-orgasmic, and what that can look like. 💎 Shop our new KAMA ring collection. Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kama RSVP to our Tell-ALL Part 🎉Tuesday, May 5th at 11AM PST. https://community.loversbyshan.com/c/podcast/tell-all-pleasure-party-w-seema-anand-0454f07b-12ae-40ae-b0e6-1f5a167f721a  Watch Seema’s Previous Podcast EpisodesKama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2Pj2rTHLyk The Kama Sutra Secret ‪@SeemaAnandStoryTelling‬ Wants the World to Know About: https://youtu.be/HfrQynAqKjo Follow SeemaGet her book Speak Easy → https://www.amazon.com/Speak-Easy-Filed-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337 Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enSubscribe to her YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@SeemaAnandStoryTelling  Want more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com  Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter  Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community  Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  Showing love to our sponsor Biologica. Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you, and get up to 32% on your purchase: https://biologica.com/lovers 

Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this episode. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off! 

Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/shanboody. 

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What does the Kama Sutra say about hands?

In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand to explore one of the most overlooked (and underestimated) tools of intimacy: your hands.

Recorded live in London in front of an audience of sex educators and pleasure-positive voices, this conversation focuses on expanding your pleasure potential, with a special emphasis on hand sex, as we celebrate the launch of our brand new Käma jewelry collection, inspired by the Kama Sutra.

Seema shares what the Kama Sutra actually teaches about touch, including specific finger combinations, how intention shapes sensation, and why hands play a central role in pleasure.

We also explore the connection between the Kama Sutra and lunar phases, rethink the art of foreplay, and touch on the idea of being multi-orgasmic, and what that can look like.

💎 Shop our new KAMA ring collection. Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kama

RSVP to our Tell-ALL Part 🎉Tuesday, May 5th at 11AM PST. https://community.loversbyshan.com/c/podcast/tell-all-pleasure-party-w-seema-anand-0454f07b-12ae-40ae-b0e6-1f5a167f721a 

Watch Seema’s Previous Podcast EpisodesKama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2Pj2rTHLyk The Kama Sutra Secret ‪@SeemaAnandStoryTelling‬ Wants the World to Know About: https://youtu.be/HfrQynAqKjo

Follow SeemaGet her book Speak Easy → https://www.amazon.com/Speak-Easy-Filed-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337 Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enSubscribe to her YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@SeemaAnandStoryTelling 

Want more Lover?

Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com 

Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter 

Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community 

Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes 


]]> 3257 The Year I Decided I’d Never Divorce My Husband Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/shan2026  —---------  In this episode of Lovers, Jared and I sit down on vacation for a conversation we’ve never had this honestly before. This is our seventh year of marriage, the year people warn you about. The year of the “seven-year itch.” And while we’ve built a life together, kids, history, love, this was the first year I really sat with a truth that surprised even me. For a long time, I wasn’t fully certain we would stay married forever. In this conversation, we talk about what it actually feels like to be years into a relationship, how having children changes the dynamic between partners, and why even strong marriages go through seasons of doubt, distance, and recalibration. We share the fears we had going into year seven, the honest ways our relationship has been tested, and what ultimately shifted for me to say, fully and consciously, that this is the person I’m choosing for life. This episode isn’t about perfect love. It’s about commitment, growth, and what it really takes to stay. If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship can survive the hard seasons, or questioned what long-term love is supposed to feel like, this conversation is for you. Follow Jared BradyInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySubscribe to his YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA  Want more Lover Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newslette Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Wed, 22 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0000 full LOVERS by shan Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/shan2026  —---------  In this episode of Lovers, Jared and I sit down on vacation for a conversation we’ve never had this honestly before. This is our seventh year of marriage, the year people warn you about. The year of the “seven-year itch.” And while we’ve built a life together, kids, history, love, this was the first year I really sat with a truth that surprised even me. For a long time, I wasn’t fully certain we would stay married forever. In this conversation, we talk about what it actually feels like to be years into a relationship, how having children changes the dynamic between partners, and why even strong marriages go through seasons of doubt, distance, and recalibration. We share the fears we had going into year seven, the honest ways our relationship has been tested, and what ultimately shifted for me to say, fully and consciously, that this is the person I’m choosing for life. This episode isn’t about perfect love. It’s about commitment, growth, and what it really takes to stay. If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship can survive the hard seasons, or questioned what long-term love is supposed to feel like, this conversation is for you. Follow Jared BradyInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySubscribe to his YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA  Want more Lover Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newslette Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/shan2026 

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In this episode of Lovers, Jared and I sit down on vacation for a conversation we’ve never had this honestly before.

This is our seventh year of marriage, the year people warn you about. The year of the “seven-year itch.” And while we’ve built a life together, kids, history, love, this was the first year I really sat with a truth that surprised even me.

For a long time, I wasn’t fully certain we would stay married forever.

In this conversation, we talk about what it actually feels like to be years into a relationship, how having children changes the dynamic between partners, and why even strong marriages go through seasons of doubt, distance, and recalibration.

We share the fears we had going into year seven, the honest ways our relationship has been tested, and what ultimately shifted for me to say, fully and consciously, that this is the person I’m choosing for life.

This episode isn’t about perfect love. It’s about commitment, growth, and what it really takes to stay.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship can survive the hard seasons, or questioned what long-term love is supposed to feel like, this conversation is for you.

Follow Jared BradyInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySubscribe to his YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA 


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Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newslette

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]]> 2195 I Spent Years Forcing Relationships… Here’s What I Learned ft. Affion Crockett https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-spent-years-forcing-relationships-here-s-what-i-learned-ft-affion-crockett Shout out to the sponsor of this episode Tonal. Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase. Just go to tonal.com and use promo code LOVERS. Big love to the sponsor of this episode, Masterclass. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at https://www.masterclass.com/lovers  ——————— In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Affion Crockett for a conversation about love, timing, and what it really takes to build a relationship that works. Affion is actually part of my own love story. He’s the reason Jared and I met. But in this conversation, we turn the lens on him. Now in his 50s, after years of dating, therapy, and the loss of his father, Affion shares that he finally feels clear on what he’s looking for in a partner, and what he’s no longer willing to force. For a long time, he believed in the idea that if you try hard enough, you can make a relationship work. But watching his father spend years in an unhappy marriage, and ultimately pass away still carrying that weight, changed how he sees love completely. We talk about why some relationships aren’t meant to work no matter how much effort you put in, why “happy wife, happy life” doesn’t always lead to real fulfillment, and what it looks like to pursue a relationship that actually adds to your life instead of draining it. This isn’t a story about giving up on love. It’s about getting honest about what love should feel like, and having the clarity to wait for the right fit. If you’ve ever tried to make something work that just didn’t click, or wondered if it’s too late to find the kind of relationship you really want, this episode is for you. Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only   Follow Affion CrockettInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/affioncrockett/Watch A Hip-Hop Story Now → https://www.ahiphopstory.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 15 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0000 I Spent Years Forcing Relationships… Here’s What I Learned ft. Affion Crockett full LOVERS by shan Shout out to the sponsor of this episode Tonal. Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase. Just go to tonal.com and use promo code LOVERS. Big love to the sponsor of this episode, Masterclass. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at https://www.masterclass.com/lovers  ——————— In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Affion Crockett for a conversation about love, timing, and what it really takes to build a relationship that works. Affion is actually part of my own love story. He’s the reason Jared and I met. But in this conversation, we turn the lens on him. Now in his 50s, after years of dating, therapy, and the loss of his father, Affion shares that he finally feels clear on what he’s looking for in a partner, and what he’s no longer willing to force. For a long time, he believed in the idea that if you try hard enough, you can make a relationship work. But watching his father spend years in an unhappy marriage, and ultimately pass away still carrying that weight, changed how he sees love completely. We talk about why some relationships aren’t meant to work no matter how much effort you put in, why “happy wife, happy life” doesn’t always lead to real fulfillment, and what it looks like to pursue a relationship that actually adds to your life instead of draining it. This isn’t a story about giving up on love. It’s about getting honest about what love should feel like, and having the clarity to wait for the right fit. If you’ve ever tried to make something work that just didn’t click, or wondered if it’s too late to find the kind of relationship you really want, this episode is for you. Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only   Follow Affion CrockettInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/affioncrockett/Watch A Hip-Hop Story Now → https://www.ahiphopstory.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Shout out to the sponsor of this episode Tonal. Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase. Just go to tonal.com and use promo code LOVERS.

Big love to the sponsor of this episode, Masterclass. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at https://www.masterclass.com/lovers 

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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Affion Crockett for a conversation about love, timing, and what it really takes to build a relationship that works.

Affion is actually part of my own love story. He’s the reason Jared and I met. But in this conversation, we turn the lens on him.

Now in his 50s, after years of dating, therapy, and the loss of his father, Affion shares that he finally feels clear on what he’s looking for in a partner, and what he’s no longer willing to force.

For a long time, he believed in the idea that if you try hard enough, you can make a relationship work. But watching his father spend years in an unhappy marriage, and ultimately pass away still carrying that weight, changed how he sees love completely.

We talk about why some relationships aren’t meant to work no matter how much effort you put in, why “happy wife, happy life” doesn’t always lead to real fulfillment, and what it looks like to pursue a relationship that actually adds to your life instead of draining it.

This isn’t a story about giving up on love. It’s about getting honest about what love should feel like, and having the clarity to wait for the right fit.

If you’ve ever tried to make something work that just didn’t click, or wondered if it’s too late to find the kind of relationship you really want, this episode is for you.

Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet

https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only

 

Follow Affion Crockett
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/affioncrockett/
Watch A Hip-Hop Story Now → https://www.ahiphopstory.com/ 


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]]> 3797 The Secret to Attracting a Husband, Not Just a Boyfriend ft. Kamie Crawford https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/kamie-crawford-is-back-to-show-trolls-her-ring-and-middle-finger Thanks to Squarespace for sponsoring this episode. Head to www.squarespace.com/LOVERS for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, use CODE: LOVERS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Sex is a skill, and you can learn how to be the best lover in bed! Join Beducated today at https://beducate.me/loversapril. Lots of love to our sponsor, Quince. Go to Quince.com/LOVERS for free shipping and 365-day returns. -------------------  In this episode of Lovers, Kamie Crawford returns for a third time, and this time, she’s engaged. When Kamie first came on the podcast, she was coming out of a very public breakup and rebuilding her life from the ground up. In her second appearance, she shared a mindset that sparked a lot of conversation: “I’m not a girlfriend, I want to be a wife.” She was dating with intention, holding high standards, and refusing to entertain anything that didn’t align with the life she actually wanted. People had a lot to say. Some called it unrealistic. Others said her standards were too high. Now she’s back, engaged to the love of her life, in a relationship that didn’t just meet her standards but exceeded them. In this conversation, we talk about what it looks like to hold your standards in dating, how to navigate criticism when people tell you you’re asking for too much, and why the language you use around love, marriage, and your future actually shapes what you experience. Kamie shares how she approached dating with intention, why she refused to shrink her desires to be more “realistic,” and what happened when she chose to dream bigger instead. If you’ve ever been told to lower your standards, questioned whether you’re asking for too much, or wondered if holding out for the kind of love you actually want is worth it, this episode is for you.Watch our other interviews with Kamie Crawford on LOVERS:2021: How to Look at a Breakup Differently → https://youtu.be/vSc0hF__y_4?si=E9u8zKsxdCEBbG8r 2023: This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30 → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSc0hF__y_4 Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-onlyFollow Kamie CrawfordInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford/Watch her podcast Relationshipshit → https://www.youtube.com/@relationshitpodWebsite → https://www.kamiecrawford.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0000 The Secret to Attracting a Husband, Not Just a Boyfriend ft. Kamie Crawford full LOVERS by shan Thanks to Squarespace for sponsoring this episode. Head to www.squarespace.com/LOVERS for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, use CODE: LOVERS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Sex is a skill, and you can learn how to be the best lover in bed! Join Beducated today at https://beducate.me/loversapril. Lots of love to our sponsor, Quince. Go to Quince.com/LOVERS for free shipping and 365-day returns. -------------------  In this episode of Lovers, Kamie Crawford returns for a third time, and this time, she’s engaged. When Kamie first came on the podcast, she was coming out of a very public breakup and rebuilding her life from the ground up. In her second appearance, she shared a mindset that sparked a lot of conversation: “I’m not a girlfriend, I want to be a wife.” She was dating with intention, holding high standards, and refusing to entertain anything that didn’t align with the life she actually wanted. People had a lot to say. Some called it unrealistic. Others said her standards were too high. Now she’s back, engaged to the love of her life, in a relationship that didn’t just meet her standards but exceeded them. In this conversation, we talk about what it looks like to hold your standards in dating, how to navigate criticism when people tell you you’re asking for too much, and why the language you use around love, marriage, and your future actually shapes what you experience. Kamie shares how she approached dating with intention, why she refused to shrink her desires to be more “realistic,” and what happened when she chose to dream bigger instead. If you’ve ever been told to lower your standards, questioned whether you’re asking for too much, or wondered if holding out for the kind of love you actually want is worth it, this episode is for you.Watch our other interviews with Kamie Crawford on LOVERS:2021: How to Look at a Breakup Differently → https://youtu.be/vSc0hF__y_4?si=E9u8zKsxdCEBbG8r 2023: This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30 → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSc0hF__y_4 Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-onlyFollow Kamie CrawfordInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford/Watch her podcast Relationshipshit → https://www.youtube.com/@relationshitpodWebsite → https://www.kamiecrawford.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thanks to Squarespace for sponsoring this episode. Head to www.squarespace.com/LOVERS for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, use CODE: LOVERS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

Sex is a skill, and you can learn how to be the best lover in bed! Join Beducated today at https://beducate.me/loversapril.

Lots of love to our sponsor, Quince. Go to Quince.com/LOVERS for free shipping and 365-day returns.

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In this episode of Lovers, Kamie Crawford returns for a third time, and this time, she’s engaged.

When Kamie first came on the podcast, she was coming out of a very public breakup and rebuilding her life from the ground up. In her second appearance, she shared a mindset that sparked a lot of conversation: “I’m not a girlfriend, I want to be a wife.” She was dating with intention, holding high standards, and refusing to entertain anything that didn’t align with the life she actually wanted.

People had a lot to say. Some called it unrealistic. Others said her standards were too high.

Now she’s back, engaged to the love of her life, in a relationship that didn’t just meet her standards but exceeded them.

In this conversation, we talk about what it looks like to hold your standards in dating, how to navigate criticism when people tell you you’re asking for too much, and why the language you use around love, marriage, and your future actually shapes what you experience.

Kamie shares how she approached dating with intention, why she refused to shrink her desires to be more “realistic,” and what happened when she chose to dream bigger instead.

If you’ve ever been told to lower your standards, questioned whether you’re asking for too much, or wondered if holding out for the kind of love you actually want is worth it, this episode is for you.

Watch our other interviews with Kamie Crawford on LOVERS:
2021: How to Look at a Breakup Differently → https://youtu.be/vSc0hF__y_4?si=E9u8zKsxdCEBbG8r
2023: This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30 → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSc0hF__y_4

Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only


Follow Kamie Crawford
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford/
Watch her podcast Relationshipshit → https://www.youtube.com/@relationshitpod
Website → https://www.kamiecrawford.com/ 


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]]> 4321 I Thought I Wanted to Be a Trad Wife… I Was Wrong ft. Lisa Bilyeu https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-thought-i-wanted-to-be-a-trad-wife-i-was-wrong-ft-lisa-bilyeu Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this episode. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!  Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/lovers.  — In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about a decision a lot of women think about… but don’t always say out loud: what if you don’t want kids? Lisa is an entrepreneur, co-founder of Quest Nutrition, and founder of Impact Theory Studios. She’s known for building billion-dollar businesses alongside her husband while also speaking openly about identity, marriage, and what it means to choose a life that actually fits you. Lisa built a life that looked like the dream. Marriage, stability, and the role she thought she was supposed to want. For a long time, she even stepped into the idea of being a traditional wife. But over time, something didn’t sit right. What happens when you realize the life you chose doesn’t actually fit you anymore? We talk about what it looked like for Lisa to tell her husband that she didn’t want children, how they navigated being in a marriage where one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t, and why choosing to be child-free doesn’t mean something is missing, broken, or selfish. This conversation challenges the idea that every woman is meant to become a mother, and unpacks the pressure many women feel around motherhood, marriage, and identity. We also explore what it means to redefine a successful relationship on your own terms, whether that includes children or not. If you’ve ever questioned whether motherhood is for you, wondered how to tell your partner you don’t want kids, or felt conflicted about choosing career, independence, or a different kind of life, this episode is for you. EXCLUSIVE LOVERS COMMUNITY RESOURCENeed help starting a difficult conversation? Access our guided journal inside the LOVERS community: → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/navigating-change-hard-conversations-in-relationships-community-exclusive  Follow Lisa Bilyeu → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/→ Watch & learn on Impact Theory: https://impacttheory.com/→ Explore her personal website: https://lisabilyeu.com/→ Listen to her podcast Women of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865→ Get her book Radical Confidence: https://radicalconfidence.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0000 I Thought I Wanted to Be a Trad Wife… I Was Wrong ft. Lisa Bilyeu full LOVERS by shan Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this episode. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!  Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/lovers.  — In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about a decision a lot of women think about… but don’t always say out loud: what if you don’t want kids? Lisa is an entrepreneur, co-founder of Quest Nutrition, and founder of Impact Theory Studios. She’s known for building billion-dollar businesses alongside her husband while also speaking openly about identity, marriage, and what it means to choose a life that actually fits you. Lisa built a life that looked like the dream. Marriage, stability, and the role she thought she was supposed to want. For a long time, she even stepped into the idea of being a traditional wife. But over time, something didn’t sit right. What happens when you realize the life you chose doesn’t actually fit you anymore? We talk about what it looked like for Lisa to tell her husband that she didn’t want children, how they navigated being in a marriage where one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t, and why choosing to be child-free doesn’t mean something is missing, broken, or selfish. This conversation challenges the idea that every woman is meant to become a mother, and unpacks the pressure many women feel around motherhood, marriage, and identity. We also explore what it means to redefine a successful relationship on your own terms, whether that includes children or not. If you’ve ever questioned whether motherhood is for you, wondered how to tell your partner you don’t want kids, or felt conflicted about choosing career, independence, or a different kind of life, this episode is for you. EXCLUSIVE LOVERS COMMUNITY RESOURCENeed help starting a difficult conversation? Access our guided journal inside the LOVERS community: → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/navigating-change-hard-conversations-in-relationships-community-exclusive  Follow Lisa Bilyeu → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/→ Watch & learn on Impact Theory: https://impacttheory.com/→ Explore her personal website: https://lisabilyeu.com/→ Listen to her podcast Women of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865→ Get her book Radical Confidence: https://radicalconfidence.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this episode. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off! 

Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beducate.me/lovers. 

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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about a decision a lot of women think about… but don’t always say out loud: what if you don’t want kids?

Lisa is an entrepreneur, co-founder of Quest Nutrition, and founder of Impact Theory Studios. She’s known for building billion-dollar businesses alongside her husband while also speaking openly about identity, marriage, and what it means to choose a life that actually fits you.

Lisa built a life that looked like the dream. Marriage, stability, and the role she thought she was supposed to want. For a long time, she even stepped into the idea of being a traditional wife. But over time, something didn’t sit right.

What happens when you realize the life you chose doesn’t actually fit you anymore?

We talk about what it looked like for Lisa to tell her husband that she didn’t want children, how they navigated being in a marriage where one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t, and why choosing to be child-free doesn’t mean something is missing, broken, or selfish.

This conversation challenges the idea that every woman is meant to become a mother, and unpacks the pressure many women feel around motherhood, marriage, and identity. We also explore what it means to redefine a successful relationship on your own terms, whether that includes children or not.

If you’ve ever questioned whether motherhood is for you, wondered how to tell your partner you don’t want kids, or felt conflicted about choosing career, independence, or a different kind of life, this episode is for you.


EXCLUSIVE LOVERS COMMUNITY RESOURCE
Need help starting a difficult conversation? Access our guided journal inside the LOVERS community: → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/navigating-change-hard-conversations-in-relationships-community-exclusive 

Follow Lisa Bilyeu

→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/
→ Watch & learn on Impact Theory: https://impacttheory.com/
→ Explore her personal website: https://lisabilyeu.com/
→ Listen to her podcast Women of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865
→ Get her book Radical Confidence: https://radicalconfidence.com/ 



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]]> 4601 Why “Normal” Sex Doesn’t Work for Many Black and Brown Women Ft. Aida Mariam Davis https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/why-normal-sex-doesn-t-work-for-many-black-and-brown-women-ft-aida-mariam-davis Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com, then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Aida Mariam Davis, author of Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom, to explore one question: Is your sex life by design?We unpack the idea that so much of our sexual identity isn’t accidental, it’s constructed. From childhood messaging that disconnects us from our bodies, to adulthood expectations that swing between repression and performance, Aida breaks down how Western culture creates a fragmented relationship with intimacy. The result? A sex life that often feels confusing, isolating, or performative rather than intentional and embodied.Together, we explore what it looks like to reclaim your sexuality on your own terms. Aida shares how her relationship with her husband was rooted in freedom, patience, and self-possession, not pressure or performance, and how that created the foundation for deeper intimacy, trust, and desire.This conversation will challenge what you’ve been taught about sex, and invite you to design something that actually fits you. Resources mentioned→ What If Your Sex Life Is By Design? | Intimate Life Audit: https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/what-if-your-sex-life-is-by-design-intimate-life-audit → A Guide to the Sexual Journey As We Grow: https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/normal-sexual-development-from-0-18  Follow Aida Mariam Davis→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aidamariam/→ Learn more about Decolonize Design: https://www.decolonizedesign.com/ → Get her book Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom https://rep.club/products/kindred-creation?srsltid=AfmBOor4haNsPUvlYWcMk7oxSWdcmG-yZCTBeLjGtTDoFO_IaJXU_Jwj   Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 25 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0000 Why “Normal” Sex Doesn’t Work for Many Black and Brown Women Ft. Aida Mariam Davis full LOVERS by shan Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com, then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Aida Mariam Davis, author of Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom, to explore one question: Is your sex life by design?We unpack the idea that so much of our sexual identity isn’t accidental, it’s constructed. From childhood messaging that disconnects us from our bodies, to adulthood expectations that swing between repression and performance, Aida breaks down how Western culture creates a fragmented relationship with intimacy. The result? A sex life that often feels confusing, isolating, or performative rather than intentional and embodied.Together, we explore what it looks like to reclaim your sexuality on your own terms. Aida shares how her relationship with her husband was rooted in freedom, patience, and self-possession, not pressure or performance, and how that created the foundation for deeper intimacy, trust, and desire.This conversation will challenge what you’ve been taught about sex, and invite you to design something that actually fits you. Resources mentioned→ What If Your Sex Life Is By Design? | Intimate Life Audit: https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/what-if-your-sex-life-is-by-design-intimate-life-audit → A Guide to the Sexual Journey As We Grow: https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/normal-sexual-development-from-0-18  Follow Aida Mariam Davis→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aidamariam/→ Learn more about Decolonize Design: https://www.decolonizedesign.com/ → Get her book Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom https://rep.club/products/kindred-creation?srsltid=AfmBOor4haNsPUvlYWcMk7oxSWdcmG-yZCTBeLjGtTDoFO_IaJXU_Jwj   Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com, then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.

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In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Aida Mariam Davis, author of Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom, to explore one question: Is your sex life by design?

We unpack the idea that so much of our sexual identity isn’t accidental, it’s constructed. From childhood messaging that disconnects us from our bodies, to adulthood expectations that swing between repression and performance, Aida breaks down how Western culture creates a fragmented relationship with intimacy. The result? A sex life that often feels confusing, isolating, or performative rather than intentional and embodied.

Together, we explore what it looks like to reclaim your sexuality on your own terms. Aida shares how her relationship with her husband was rooted in freedom, patience, and self-possession, not pressure or performance, and how that created the foundation for deeper intimacy, trust, and desire.

This conversation will challenge what you’ve been taught about sex, and invite you to design something that actually fits you.

Resources mentioned
→ What If Your Sex Life Is By Design? | Intimate Life Audit: https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/what-if-your-sex-life-is-by-design-intimate-life-audit

→ A Guide to the Sexual Journey As We Grow: https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/normal-sexual-development-from-0-18 

Follow Aida Mariam Davis
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aidamariam/
→ Learn more about Decolonize Design: https://www.decolonizedesign.com/ 
→ Get her book Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom https://rep.club/products/kindred-creation?srsltid=AfmBOor4haNsPUvlYWcMk7oxSWdcmG-yZCTBeLjGtTDoFO_IaJXU_Jwj

 

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]]> 3503 What Men Actually Think About Before They Propose ft. Mark Manson https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-men-actually-think-about-before-they-propose-ft-mark-manson Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at http://masterclass.com/lovers  ________________________ In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Mark Manson, the bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope, and Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, to talk about what men actually think about before they propose, and why waiting doesn’t mean what you think it means.Mark shares the story of how he “agonized” over proposing to his now wife of ten years. Despite being deeply in love, he struggled with doubt, timing, and the pressure to feel completely certain. The turning point came during a conversation with his stepmother, who told him she had been married for over thirty years and still couldn’t say with absolute certainty that she “knew” he was the one. That advice freed him from the illusion that certainty is required before commitment.We also unpack my own proposal story with Jared, including the untold truth about the pressure I put on him to propose and what was actually happening behind the scenes. The story I shared online isn’t the full story, and in this episode, we fill in the missing pieces.Lauren Morrison, my sister and the author of Be in the Room, joins as guest host. As a longtime fan of Mark Manson, she helps us dig into the myth of the two-year rule, the idea that if a man hasn’t proposed by a certain timeline, you must not be “the one,” and the false belief that real love comes with instant certainty.This conversation challenges the cultural narrative that a proposal delay reflects doubt about your worth. Instead, it reveals how doubt is often part of the process, not a sign that something is wrong.If you’ve ever wondered what’s taking so long, this episode is for you. Get MasterClass Today For real, what are you waiting for? My class on MasterClass is one of the best things I’ve ever done and I’m sure every other instructor would agree! Go to http://masterclass.com/lovers Get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership  Follow Mark Manson → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/→ Listen to Mark’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/solved-with-mark-manson/id1247526593→ Sign up for Purpose and experience Love Maps: https://purpose.app/ Follow Lauren Morrison → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachlaurenmorrison/→ Get Lauren’s new book https://www.amazon.com/Be-Room-Shrinking-Leading-Purpose/dp/B0FM4HGYSP→ Sign up for a free coaching consultation with Lauren https://www.beintheroomcoaching.com/work-with-laurenWant more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 18 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0000 What Men Actually Think About Before They Propose ft. Mark Manson full LOVERS by shan Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at http://masterclass.com/lovers  ________________________ In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Mark Manson, the bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope, and Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, to talk about what men actually think about before they propose, and why waiting doesn’t mean what you think it means.Mark shares the story of how he “agonized” over proposing to his now wife of ten years. Despite being deeply in love, he struggled with doubt, timing, and the pressure to feel completely certain. The turning point came during a conversation with his stepmother, who told him she had been married for over thirty years and still couldn’t say with absolute certainty that she “knew” he was the one. That advice freed him from the illusion that certainty is required before commitment.We also unpack my own proposal story with Jared, including the untold truth about the pressure I put on him to propose and what was actually happening behind the scenes. The story I shared online isn’t the full story, and in this episode, we fill in the missing pieces.Lauren Morrison, my sister and the author of Be in the Room, joins as guest host. As a longtime fan of Mark Manson, she helps us dig into the myth of the two-year rule, the idea that if a man hasn’t proposed by a certain timeline, you must not be “the one,” and the false belief that real love comes with instant certainty.This conversation challenges the cultural narrative that a proposal delay reflects doubt about your worth. Instead, it reveals how doubt is often part of the process, not a sign that something is wrong.If you’ve ever wondered what’s taking so long, this episode is for you. Get MasterClass Today For real, what are you waiting for? My class on MasterClass is one of the best things I’ve ever done and I’m sure every other instructor would agree! Go to http://masterclass.com/lovers Get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership  Follow Mark Manson → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/→ Listen to Mark’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/solved-with-mark-manson/id1247526593→ Sign up for Purpose and experience Love Maps: https://purpose.app/ Follow Lauren Morrison → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachlaurenmorrison/→ Get Lauren’s new book https://www.amazon.com/Be-Room-Shrinking-Leading-Purpose/dp/B0FM4HGYSP→ Sign up for a free coaching consultation with Lauren https://www.beintheroomcoaching.com/work-with-laurenWant more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at http://masterclass.com/lovers 

________________________

In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Mark Manson, the bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope, and Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, to talk about what men actually think about before they propose, and why waiting doesn’t mean what you think it means.

Mark shares the story of how he “agonized” over proposing to his now wife of ten years. Despite being deeply in love, he struggled with doubt, timing, and the pressure to feel completely certain. The turning point came during a conversation with his stepmother, who told him she had been married for over thirty years and still couldn’t say with absolute certainty that she “knew” he was the one. That advice freed him from the illusion that certainty is required before commitment.

We also unpack my own proposal story with Jared, including the untold truth about the pressure I put on him to propose and what was actually happening behind the scenes. The story I shared online isn’t the full story, and in this episode, we fill in the missing pieces.

Lauren Morrison, my sister and the author of Be in the Room, joins as guest host. As a longtime fan of Mark Manson, she helps us dig into the myth of the two-year rule, the idea that if a man hasn’t proposed by a certain timeline, you must not be “the one,” and the false belief that real love comes with instant certainty.

This conversation challenges the cultural narrative that a proposal delay reflects doubt about your worth. Instead, it reveals how doubt is often part of the process, not a sign that something is wrong.

If you’ve ever wondered what’s taking so long, this episode is for you.

Get MasterClass Today

For real, what are you waiting for? My class on MasterClass is one of the best things I’ve ever done and I’m sure every other instructor would agree!
Go to http://masterclass.com/lovers
Get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership 

Follow Mark Manson

→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/
→ Listen to Mark’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/solved-with-mark-manson/id1247526593
→ Sign up for Purpose and experience Love Maps: https://purpose.app/

Follow Lauren Morrison

→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachlaurenmorrison/
→ Get Lauren’s new book https://www.amazon.com/Be-Room-Shrinking-Leading-Purpose/dp/B0FM4HGYSP
→ Sign up for a free coaching consultation with Lauren https://www.beintheroomcoaching.com/work-with-lauren

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]]> 4556 Are You Nicer to Strangers Than Your Partner ft. DeWanda Wise https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/are-you-nicer-to-strangers-than-your-partner-ft-dewanda-wise Thank you to Evvy for sponsoring today’s video! Go to https://evvy.yt.link/v90OvPp and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 to get 10% off your first purchase (up to $25). ________________________ In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with actor DeWanda Wise to talk about what makes her marriage to actor Alano Miller genuinely healthy, not perfect, not performative, but well-matched. DeWanda and Alano have been married since 2009 after dating for only three months. Now more than 15 years in, they frequently appear together at industry events and continue to build a partnership rooted in intentionality rather than assumption. Alano Miller, known for his roles in Underground and Jane the Virgin, shares a dynamic with DeWanda that is grounded in accountability and mutual respect. One of the most impactful amendments in their marriage came from Christian counseling: don’t treat strangers better than you treat me. They hold each other accountable to extend the same kindness, patience, and curiosity at home that they offer the outside world. When one of them falls short, the response is not immediate condemnation but curiosity and course correction. We explore the delicate balance between accepting your partner and enabling harmful patterns, and what it truly means to be well-suited to love someone as they are. DeWanda challenges the idea that being “too much” is always a flaw, suggesting instead that compatibility determines whether intensity feels overwhelming or perfectly matched. We also draw parallels to parenting, where the tension between letting someone be themselves and shaping them into who we think they should become is ever-present. This conversation ultimately centers on discernment, kindness, and the courage to build a relationship where both partners feel deeply seen and responsibly loved. This episode also features a clip of my upcoming interview with legendary relationship therapists John and Julie Gottman! You can preview this episode inside the LOVERS community only Thanks to our sponsor of this episode Evvy Find out what’s happening with your vaginal health so you can build a care guide based on knowledge vs guess work!Go to https://evvy.yt.link/v90OvPp use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 for 10% off your first purchase (up to $25). Follow DeWanda Wise  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dewandawise/→ Keep up with her movies and TV appearances: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1986622/Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 11 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0000 Are You Nicer to Strangers Than Your Partner ft. DeWanda Wise full LOVERS by shan Thank you to Evvy for sponsoring today’s video! Go to https://evvy.yt.link/v90OvPp and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 to get 10% off your first purchase (up to $25). ________________________ In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with actor DeWanda Wise to talk about what makes her marriage to actor Alano Miller genuinely healthy, not perfect, not performative, but well-matched. DeWanda and Alano have been married since 2009 after dating for only three months. Now more than 15 years in, they frequently appear together at industry events and continue to build a partnership rooted in intentionality rather than assumption. Alano Miller, known for his roles in Underground and Jane the Virgin, shares a dynamic with DeWanda that is grounded in accountability and mutual respect. One of the most impactful amendments in their marriage came from Christian counseling: don’t treat strangers better than you treat me. They hold each other accountable to extend the same kindness, patience, and curiosity at home that they offer the outside world. When one of them falls short, the response is not immediate condemnation but curiosity and course correction. We explore the delicate balance between accepting your partner and enabling harmful patterns, and what it truly means to be well-suited to love someone as they are. DeWanda challenges the idea that being “too much” is always a flaw, suggesting instead that compatibility determines whether intensity feels overwhelming or perfectly matched. We also draw parallels to parenting, where the tension between letting someone be themselves and shaping them into who we think they should become is ever-present. This conversation ultimately centers on discernment, kindness, and the courage to build a relationship where both partners feel deeply seen and responsibly loved. This episode also features a clip of my upcoming interview with legendary relationship therapists John and Julie Gottman! You can preview this episode inside the LOVERS community only Thanks to our sponsor of this episode Evvy Find out what’s happening with your vaginal health so you can build a care guide based on knowledge vs guess work!Go to https://evvy.yt.link/v90OvPp use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 for 10% off your first purchase (up to $25). Follow DeWanda Wise  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dewandawise/→ Keep up with her movies and TV appearances: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1986622/Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thank you to Evvy for sponsoring today’s video! Go to https://evvy.yt.link/v90OvPp and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 to get 10% off your first purchase (up to $25).

________________________

In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with actor DeWanda Wise to talk about what makes her marriage to actor Alano Miller genuinely healthy, not perfect, not performative, but well-matched.

DeWanda and Alano have been married since 2009 after dating for only three months. Now more than 15 years in, they frequently appear together at industry events and continue to build a partnership rooted in intentionality rather than assumption. Alano Miller, known for his roles in Underground and Jane the Virgin, shares a dynamic with DeWanda that is grounded in accountability and mutual respect.

One of the most impactful amendments in their marriage came from Christian counseling: don’t treat strangers better than you treat me. They hold each other accountable to extend the same kindness, patience, and curiosity at home that they offer the outside world. When one of them falls short, the response is not immediate condemnation but curiosity and course correction.

We explore the delicate balance between accepting your partner and enabling harmful patterns, and what it truly means to be well-suited to love someone as they are. DeWanda challenges the idea that being “too much” is always a flaw, suggesting instead that compatibility determines whether intensity feels overwhelming or perfectly matched.

We also draw parallels to parenting, where the tension between letting someone be themselves and shaping them into who we think they should become is ever-present. This conversation ultimately centers on discernment, kindness, and the courage to build a relationship where both partners feel deeply seen and responsibly loved.

This episode also features a clip of my upcoming interview with legendary relationship therapists John and Julie Gottman! You can preview this episode inside the LOVERS community only

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]]> 3339 What If You Never Meet the One ft. Melyssa Ford https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-if-you-never-meet-the-one-ft-melyssa-ford Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, Melyssa Ford joins me for a conversation about desirability, partnership, and what it means to build a full life without centering it around finding “the one.” Melyssa has been publicly desired for decades. She’s dated wealthy men, high-profile men, and men who could provide an extraordinary lifestyle. And yet, she’s never been married and doesn’t have children. In this conversation, she reflects on what that actually means, not from a place of regret, but from a place of honesty. What happens when you are wanted by many but not chosen in the way you hoped? What if partnership never materializes the way you imagined it would? We also discuss something I call Bething, the tension between becoming the person you are meant to be and chasing the life you thought you were supposed to have. Bething is about allowing yourself to exist fully in the present version of your life, even if it doesn’t match the cultural script you were handed. It’s the practice of building something meaningful instead of waiting for someone to complete it. This episode is not about giving up on love. It’s about living well whether love arrives in the way you expected or not. It’s about separating desirability from devotion, lifestyle from longevity, and fantasy from fulfillment. If you’ve ever quietly wondered what happens if you never meet your person, this conversation is for you. Follow Melyssa Ford → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melyssaford→ Watch Hot & Bothered with Melyssa Ford (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgI18pIo71rZWq6upn_QxMgListen to Hot & Bothered Podcast: available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & all major platforms→ Get her book Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself: 13 Lessons for a Life Well Lived: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58631608-allow-me-to-reintroduce-myself?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=n6x35X4UoC&rank=1Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 04 Mar 2026 08:30:00 -0000 What If You Never Meet the One ft. Melyssa Ford full LOVERS by shan Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, Melyssa Ford joins me for a conversation about desirability, partnership, and what it means to build a full life without centering it around finding “the one.” Melyssa has been publicly desired for decades. She’s dated wealthy men, high-profile men, and men who could provide an extraordinary lifestyle. And yet, she’s never been married and doesn’t have children. In this conversation, she reflects on what that actually means, not from a place of regret, but from a place of honesty. What happens when you are wanted by many but not chosen in the way you hoped? What if partnership never materializes the way you imagined it would? We also discuss something I call Bething, the tension between becoming the person you are meant to be and chasing the life you thought you were supposed to have. Bething is about allowing yourself to exist fully in the present version of your life, even if it doesn’t match the cultural script you were handed. It’s the practice of building something meaningful instead of waiting for someone to complete it. This episode is not about giving up on love. It’s about living well whether love arrives in the way you expected or not. It’s about separating desirability from devotion, lifestyle from longevity, and fantasy from fulfillment. If you’ve ever quietly wondered what happens if you never meet your person, this conversation is for you. Follow Melyssa Ford → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melyssaford→ Watch Hot & Bothered with Melyssa Ford (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgI18pIo71rZWq6upn_QxMgListen to Hot & Bothered Podcast: available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & all major platforms→ Get her book Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself: 13 Lessons for a Life Well Lived: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58631608-allow-me-to-reintroduce-myself?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=n6x35X4UoC&rank=1Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.
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In this episode of Lovers, Melyssa Ford joins me for a conversation about desirability, partnership, and what it means to build a full life without centering it around finding “the one.”

Melyssa has been publicly desired for decades. She’s dated wealthy men, high-profile men, and men who could provide an extraordinary lifestyle. And yet, she’s never been married and doesn’t have children. In this conversation, she reflects on what that actually means, not from a place of regret, but from a place of honesty. What happens when you are wanted by many but not chosen in the way you hoped? What if partnership never materializes the way you imagined it would?

We also discuss something I call Bething, the tension between becoming the person you are meant to be and chasing the life you thought you were supposed to have. Bething is about allowing yourself to exist fully in the present version of your life, even if it doesn’t match the cultural script you were handed. It’s the practice of building something meaningful instead of waiting for someone to complete it.

This episode is not about giving up on love. It’s about living well whether love arrives in the way you expected or not. It’s about separating desirability from devotion, lifestyle from longevity, and fantasy from fulfillment.

If you’ve ever quietly wondered what happens if you never meet your person, this conversation is for you.

Follow Melyssa Ford

→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melyssaford
→ Watch Hot & Bothered with Melyssa Ford (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgI18pIo71rZWq6upn_QxMg
Listen to Hot & Bothered Podcast: available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & all major platforms
→ Get her book Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself: 13 Lessons for a Life Well Lived: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58631608-allow-me-to-reintroduce-myself?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=n6x35X4UoC&rank=1

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]]> 5280 Can Intimacy Survive Porn, Drinks and Phone Addictions? ft. Dr Anna Lembke https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/can-intimacy-survive-porn-drinks-and-phone-addictions-ft-dr-anna-lembke Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this video. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!—-----------------------  In this episode of Lovers, I share something personal: the ways my own social media habit began affecting my presence, my focus, and ultimately my intimacy. Jared joins the conversation to reflect on the intervention he had with me when he realized my relationship with my phone wasn’t just a habit, it was beginning to shape our connection. Then we’re joined by psychiatrist and Dopamine Nation author Dr. Anna Lembke, who explains why addiction today looks different than it did even a generation ago. We live in a world where high-dopamine substances and behaviors, from alcohol and porn to social media, smut, gaming, and endless scrolling, are instantly accessible and socially normalized. Dr. Lembke breaks down how these habits rewire the brain’s reward system, dull pleasure, increase craving, and quietly erode intimacy. We talk about porn addiction, phone addiction, alcoholism, erotic content consumption, and the broader crisis of overconsumption that defines modern life. Most importantly, Dr. Lembke offers practical tools, many of which she teaches in her class on MasterClass and outlines in Dopamine Nation, to help us reset our dopamine systems and reclaim our relationships. This isn’t just an episode about addiction. It’s about presence, connection, and what it takes to love well in the most addictive era in human history. To Watch Dopamine on MasterClass go to http://masterclass.com/lovers (this link will get you 15% off an annual plan to watch over 200 classes there including mine)Follow Dr. Anna Lembke Dr. Anna Lembke is a Stanford psychiatrist and New York Times bestselling author specializing in addiction, dopamine science, and behavioral health. Official Website → https://www.annalembke.com Bestselling Book → Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/?ean=9781524746728  Stanford Profile → https://med.stanford.edu/profiles/Anna_Lembke Watch her class on MasterClass → http://masterclass.com/lovers  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 25 Feb 2026 08:30:00 -0000 Can Intimacy Survive Porn, Drinks and Phone Addictions? ft. Dr Anna Lembke full LOVERS by shan Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this video. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!—-----------------------  In this episode of Lovers, I share something personal: the ways my own social media habit began affecting my presence, my focus, and ultimately my intimacy. Jared joins the conversation to reflect on the intervention he had with me when he realized my relationship with my phone wasn’t just a habit, it was beginning to shape our connection. Then we’re joined by psychiatrist and Dopamine Nation author Dr. Anna Lembke, who explains why addiction today looks different than it did even a generation ago. We live in a world where high-dopamine substances and behaviors, from alcohol and porn to social media, smut, gaming, and endless scrolling, are instantly accessible and socially normalized. Dr. Lembke breaks down how these habits rewire the brain’s reward system, dull pleasure, increase craving, and quietly erode intimacy. We talk about porn addiction, phone addiction, alcoholism, erotic content consumption, and the broader crisis of overconsumption that defines modern life. Most importantly, Dr. Lembke offers practical tools, many of which she teaches in her class on MasterClass and outlines in Dopamine Nation, to help us reset our dopamine systems and reclaim our relationships. This isn’t just an episode about addiction. It’s about presence, connection, and what it takes to love well in the most addictive era in human history. To Watch Dopamine on MasterClass go to http://masterclass.com/lovers (this link will get you 15% off an annual plan to watch over 200 classes there including mine)Follow Dr. Anna Lembke Dr. Anna Lembke is a Stanford psychiatrist and New York Times bestselling author specializing in addiction, dopamine science, and behavioral health. Official Website → https://www.annalembke.com Bestselling Book → Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/?ean=9781524746728  Stanford Profile → https://med.stanford.edu/profiles/Anna_Lembke Watch her class on MasterClass → http://masterclass.com/lovers  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thanks to Cozy Earth for sponsoring this video. Go to cozyearth.com/LOVERS for up to 20% off!
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In this episode of Lovers, I share something personal: the ways my own social media habit began affecting my presence, my focus, and ultimately my intimacy. Jared joins the conversation to reflect on the intervention he had with me when he realized my relationship with my phone wasn’t just a habit, it was beginning to shape our connection.

Then we’re joined by psychiatrist and Dopamine Nation author Dr. Anna Lembke, who explains why addiction today looks different than it did even a generation ago. We live in a world where high-dopamine substances and behaviors, from alcohol and porn to social media, smut, gaming, and endless scrolling, are instantly accessible and socially normalized. Dr. Lembke breaks down how these habits rewire the brain’s reward system, dull pleasure, increase craving, and quietly erode intimacy.

We talk about porn addiction, phone addiction, alcoholism, erotic content consumption, and the broader crisis of overconsumption that defines modern life. Most importantly, Dr. Lembke offers practical tools, many of which she teaches in her class on MasterClass and outlines in Dopamine Nation, to help us reset our dopamine systems and reclaim our relationships.

This isn’t just an episode about addiction. It’s about presence, connection, and what it takes to love well in the most addictive era in human history.

To Watch Dopamine on MasterClass go to http://masterclass.com/lovers (this link will get you 15% off an annual plan to watch over 200 classes there including mine)

Follow Dr. Anna Lembke

Dr. Anna Lembke is a Stanford psychiatrist and New York Times bestselling author specializing in addiction, dopamine science, and behavioral health.

Official Website → https://www.annalembke.com
Bestselling Book → Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/?ean=9781524746728 

Stanford Profile → https://med.stanford.edu/profiles/Anna_Lembke
Watch her class on MasterClass → http://masterclass.com/lovers 

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]]> 3548 Spinning the Block Doesn’t Work Without This ft. Jerrie Johnson and Dria Brown https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/spinning-the-block-doesn-t-work-without-this-ft-jerrie-johnson-and-dria-brown Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers.________________________ In this episode of Lovers, Jerrie Johnson (NAACP-nominated actor best known for role on Harlem) and Dria Brown (the creative doula) share the story of how they fell hard, broke up, and then made a conscious decision to rebuild their relationship differently the second time. The first time around, their connection was intense, passionate, and undeniable. But intensity alone wasn’t enough. Before getting back together, they chose to start over as friends, and in doing so, they realized something uncomfortable: they weren’t actually as strong of friends the first time as they thought. This conversation explores what it truly means to be friends with your romantic partner, why passion can mask incompatibility, and why many couples confuse chemistry for foundation. If you’ve ever considered getting back together with an ex, or if you believe you’re “best friends” with your partner, this episode will challenge you to define what that actually means. Because sometimes spinning the block only works when something fundamental changes. Are you and your lover really friends? Try this relationship check in to find outhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkinNAACP - Vote for Jerrie's nominationhttps://vote.naacpimageawards.net/categories/8f53f295-6f7a-42f1-a40f-08de2c5a3e90/entrants Follow Jerrie JohnsonInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/jerriejohnson/ TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@jerriejohnsonOfficial Website → https://www.jerriejohnson.comSubstack → JerrieJohnson.substack.com Follow Dria BrownInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/driabrown/Official Website → https://www.thecreativedoulastudio.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 18 Feb 2026 08:30:00 -0000 Spinning the Block Doesn’t Work Without This ft. Jerrie Johnson and Dria Brown full LOVERS by shan Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers.________________________ In this episode of Lovers, Jerrie Johnson (NAACP-nominated actor best known for role on Harlem) and Dria Brown (the creative doula) share the story of how they fell hard, broke up, and then made a conscious decision to rebuild their relationship differently the second time. The first time around, their connection was intense, passionate, and undeniable. But intensity alone wasn’t enough. Before getting back together, they chose to start over as friends, and in doing so, they realized something uncomfortable: they weren’t actually as strong of friends the first time as they thought. This conversation explores what it truly means to be friends with your romantic partner, why passion can mask incompatibility, and why many couples confuse chemistry for foundation. If you’ve ever considered getting back together with an ex, or if you believe you’re “best friends” with your partner, this episode will challenge you to define what that actually means. Because sometimes spinning the block only works when something fundamental changes. Are you and your lover really friends? Try this relationship check in to find outhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkinNAACP - Vote for Jerrie's nominationhttps://vote.naacpimageawards.net/categories/8f53f295-6f7a-42f1-a40f-08de2c5a3e90/entrants Follow Jerrie JohnsonInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/jerriejohnson/ TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@jerriejohnsonOfficial Website → https://www.jerriejohnson.comSubstack → JerrieJohnson.substack.com Follow Dria BrownInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/driabrown/Official Website → https://www.thecreativedoulastudio.com/  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers.
________________________

In this episode of Lovers, Jerrie Johnson (NAACP-nominated actor best known for role on Harlem) and Dria Brown (the creative doula) share the story of how they fell hard, broke up, and then made a conscious decision to rebuild their relationship differently the second time.

The first time around, their connection was intense, passionate, and undeniable. But intensity alone wasn’t enough. Before getting back together, they chose to start over as friends, and in doing so, they realized something uncomfortable: they weren’t actually as strong of friends the first time as they thought.

This conversation explores what it truly means to be friends with your romantic partner, why passion can mask incompatibility, and why many couples confuse chemistry for foundation. If you’ve ever considered getting back together with an ex, or if you believe you’re “best friends” with your partner, this episode will challenge you to define what that actually means.

Because sometimes spinning the block only works when something fundamental changes.

Are you and your lover really friends? Try this relationship check in to find out
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin

NAACP - Vote for Jerrie's nomination
https://vote.naacpimageawards.net/categories/8f53f295-6f7a-42f1-a40f-08de2c5a3e90/entrants

Follow Jerrie Johnson
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jerriejohnson/

TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@jerriejohnson
Official Website → https://www.jerriejohnson.com

Substack → JerrieJohnson.substack.com

Follow Dria Brown
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/driabrown/
Official Website → https://www.thecreativedoulastudio.com/ 

Want more Lover?
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Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
Explore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes 

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]]> 4061 Do We Believe Her Now? | Abby De La Rosa Returns to Discuss Her Alternative Relationship https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/do-we-believe-her-now-abby-de-la-rosa-returns-to-discuss-her-alternative-relationship In this episode of Lovers, Abby De La Rosa returns three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time, motherhood, and public scrutiny have actually taught her. When Abby first joined the show, she was pregnant and navigating intense speculation about her relationship with Nick Cannon, who now has 12 children with multiple partners. That episode sparked massive conversation and debate about alternative relationship structures, belief, and who society decides to trust. Now, years later, Abby comes back with clarity, boundaries, and lived experience. In this follow-up conversation, Abby opens up about what it’s been like raising children within a highly publicized family dynamic, how her understanding of love and partnership has evolved, and why she remains grounded in her choices despite ongoing judgment. She addresses the assumptions people make about women in nontraditional relationships, what outsiders often get wrong about consent and agency, and how motherhood reshaped her sense of self. This episode isn’t about defending a headline or convincing anyone of a particular relationship model. It’s about autonomy, growth, and what happens when a woman is given time to live inside the decisions she once had to justify. If you’ve ever wondered what comes after the internet forms an opinion, this conversation answers that. Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase. Just go to tonal.com and use promo code LOVERS. — Thank you to Evvy for sponsoring today’s episode! Check out Evvy here: https://evvy.yt.link/SVTTsvO and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 for 10% off your first purchase (up to $25). See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 11 Feb 2026 08:30:00 -0000 Do We Believe Her Now? | Abby De La Rosa Returns to Discuss Her Alternative Relationship full LOVERS by shan In this episode of Lovers, Abby De La Rosa returns three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time, motherhood, and public scrutiny have actually taught her. When Abby first joined the show, she was pregnant and navigating intense speculation about her relationship with Nick Cannon, who now has 12 children with multiple partners. That episode sparked massive conversation and debate about alternative relationship structures, belief, and who society decides to trust. Now, years later, Abby comes back with clarity, boundaries, and lived experience. In this follow-up conversation, Abby opens up about what it’s been like raising children within a highly publicized family dynamic, how her understanding of love and partnership has evolved, and why she remains grounded in her choices despite ongoing judgment. She addresses the assumptions people make about women in nontraditional relationships, what outsiders often get wrong about consent and agency, and how motherhood reshaped her sense of self. This episode isn’t about defending a headline or convincing anyone of a particular relationship model. It’s about autonomy, growth, and what happens when a woman is given time to live inside the decisions she once had to justify. If you’ve ever wondered what comes after the internet forms an opinion, this conversation answers that. Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase. Just go to tonal.com and use promo code LOVERS. — Thank you to Evvy for sponsoring today’s episode! Check out Evvy here: https://evvy.yt.link/SVTTsvO and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 for 10% off your first purchase (up to $25). See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In this episode of Lovers, Abby De La Rosa returns three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time, motherhood, and public scrutiny have actually taught her.

When Abby first joined the show, she was pregnant and navigating intense speculation about her relationship with Nick Cannon, who now has 12 children with multiple partners. That episode sparked massive conversation and debate about alternative relationship structures, belief, and who society decides to trust. Now, years later, Abby comes back with clarity, boundaries, and lived experience.

In this follow-up conversation, Abby opens up about what it’s been like raising children within a highly publicized family dynamic, how her understanding of love and partnership has evolved, and why she remains grounded in her choices despite ongoing judgment. She addresses the assumptions people make about women in nontraditional relationships, what outsiders often get wrong about consent and agency, and how motherhood reshaped her sense of self.

This episode isn’t about defending a headline or convincing anyone of a particular relationship model. It’s about autonomy, growth, and what happens when a woman is given time to live inside the decisions she once had to justify.

If you’ve ever wondered what comes after the internet forms an opinion, this conversation answers that.

Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase. Just go to tonal.com and use promo code LOVERS.

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]]> 4656 What Men Risk When They Stay Quiet ft. Kier Gaines https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-men-risk-when-they-stay-quiet-ft-keir-gaines In this episode of Lovers, therapist Kier Gaines shares a personal and professional reflection on how resentment builds when men are taught to silence their emotional truth. Kier opens up about a pivotal moment in his own relationship, when he realized that his partner’s tone was hurting his feelings, and that his fear of naming it, out of concern that he would sound “effeminate” or not man enough, was quietly turning into resentment. What started as self-protection slowly became emotional distance, until he reached a breaking point where honesty felt less risky than staying silent. Together, we unpack how masculinity norms shape emotional expression, why unspoken hurt often masquerades as resentment, and how learning to articulate emotional impact can transform intimacy rather than threaten it. This conversation explores the cost of swallowing feelings, the courage it takes to speak before resentment hardens, and what becomes possible when men allow themselves to be emotionally legible in their relationships. This episode isn’t about blame or tone-policing. It’s about emotional responsibility, relational repair, and the freedom that comes from finally saying the thing you were afraid would make you sound weak.  If you wished this episode is longer and you could hear more about Kier Gaines   Is My Relationship Healthy Quizhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-relationship-check-in  Follow Kier GainesInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/kiergaines  TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@kiergaines  Twitter/X → https://twitter.com/kiergaines  YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@KierandNoemie  Official Website → https://www.kiergaines.com  Course Words That Connect → https://kier-gaines.mykajabi.com/wordsthatconnect Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 04 Feb 2026 08:30:00 -0000 What Men Risk When They Stay Quiet ft. Kier Gaines full LOVERS by shan In this episode of Lovers, therapist Kier Gaines shares a personal and professional reflection on how resentment builds when men are taught to silence their emotional truth. Kier opens up about a pivotal moment in his own relationship, when he realized that his partner’s tone was hurting his feelings, and that his fear of naming it, out of concern that he would sound “effeminate” or not man enough, was quietly turning into resentment. What started as self-protection slowly became emotional distance, until he reached a breaking point where honesty felt less risky than staying silent. Together, we unpack how masculinity norms shape emotional expression, why unspoken hurt often masquerades as resentment, and how learning to articulate emotional impact can transform intimacy rather than threaten it. This conversation explores the cost of swallowing feelings, the courage it takes to speak before resentment hardens, and what becomes possible when men allow themselves to be emotionally legible in their relationships. This episode isn’t about blame or tone-policing. It’s about emotional responsibility, relational repair, and the freedom that comes from finally saying the thing you were afraid would make you sound weak.  If you wished this episode is longer and you could hear more about Kier Gaines   Is My Relationship Healthy Quizhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-relationship-check-in  Follow Kier GainesInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/kiergaines  TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@kiergaines  Twitter/X → https://twitter.com/kiergaines  YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@KierandNoemie  Official Website → https://www.kiergaines.com  Course Words That Connect → https://kier-gaines.mykajabi.com/wordsthatconnect Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In this episode of Lovers, therapist Kier Gaines shares a personal and professional reflection on how resentment builds when men are taught to silence their emotional truth.

Kier opens up about a pivotal moment in his own relationship, when he realized that his partner’s tone was hurting his feelings, and that his fear of naming it, out of concern that he would sound “effeminate” or not man enough, was quietly turning into resentment. What started as self-protection slowly became emotional distance, until he reached a breaking point where honesty felt less risky than staying silent.

Together, we unpack how masculinity norms shape emotional expression, why unspoken hurt often masquerades as resentment, and how learning to articulate emotional impact can transform intimacy rather than threaten it. This conversation explores the cost of swallowing feelings, the courage it takes to speak before resentment hardens, and what becomes possible when men allow themselves to be emotionally legible in their relationships.

This episode isn’t about blame or tone-policing. It’s about emotional responsibility, relational repair, and the freedom that comes from finally saying the thing you were afraid would make you sound weak. 

If you wished this episode is longer and you could hear more about Kier Gaines

 

Is My Relationship Healthy Quiz
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-relationship-check-in 

Follow Kier Gaines
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TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@kiergaines 

Twitter/X → https://twitter.com/kiergaines 

YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@KierandNoemie 

Official Website → https://www.kiergaines.com 

Course Words That Connect → https://kier-gaines.mykajabi.com/wordsthatconnect

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]]> 3278 Rachel Lindsay’s Shocking Discovery About Intimacy After Divorce https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/rachel-lindsay-s-shocking-discovery-about-intimacy-after-divorce In this episode of Lovers, Higher Learning host and former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay shares the deeply personal story of what it was like to experience intimacy both sexually and emotionally for the first time after divorce. After nearly a decade of being with only one partner, that she met while being the Bachelorette, Rachel walks us through the fears, emotions, and expectations she carried into that moment, from questions of safety and vulnerability to the quiet pressure of “doing it right” after such a long chapter had closed. She reflects on what that experience taught her about trust, desire, and emotional presence, and how those lessons reshaped her understanding of intimacy moving forward. Though she isn’t with the person from that first post-divorce experience, Rachel shares why she remains grateful for what it revealed about her needs, her boundaries, and her capacity for connection. She also opens up about how those insights are influencing the relationship she’s in today, offering a grounded, honest look at what intimacy can become after loss, change, and reinvention. This conversation isn’t about sex for shock value. It’s about safety, growth, and learning how to meet yourself again after everything you thought you knew about love has shifted. ———Follow Rachel LindsayInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/therachlindsay/  YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@HigherLearning  Podcast — Higher Learning with Van Lathan & Rachel Lindsay → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/higher-learning-with-van-lathan-and-rachel-lindsay/id1515152489  Official Website → https://www.rachellindsayofficial.com/  Rachel’s Book — Miss Me With That: Hot Takes, Helpful Tidbits, And A Few Hard Truths → https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/57895042-miss-me-with-that?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=vFiuBJ3vpY&rank=1  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 28 Jan 2026 08:30:00 -0000 Rachel Lindsay’s Shocking Discovery About Intimacy After Divorce full LOVERS by shan In this episode of Lovers, Higher Learning host and former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay shares the deeply personal story of what it was like to experience intimacy both sexually and emotionally for the first time after divorce. After nearly a decade of being with only one partner, that she met while being the Bachelorette, Rachel walks us through the fears, emotions, and expectations she carried into that moment, from questions of safety and vulnerability to the quiet pressure of “doing it right” after such a long chapter had closed. She reflects on what that experience taught her about trust, desire, and emotional presence, and how those lessons reshaped her understanding of intimacy moving forward. Though she isn’t with the person from that first post-divorce experience, Rachel shares why she remains grateful for what it revealed about her needs, her boundaries, and her capacity for connection. She also opens up about how those insights are influencing the relationship she’s in today, offering a grounded, honest look at what intimacy can become after loss, change, and reinvention. This conversation isn’t about sex for shock value. It’s about safety, growth, and learning how to meet yourself again after everything you thought you knew about love has shifted. ———Follow Rachel LindsayInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/therachlindsay/  YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@HigherLearning  Podcast — Higher Learning with Van Lathan & Rachel Lindsay → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/higher-learning-with-van-lathan-and-rachel-lindsay/id1515152489  Official Website → https://www.rachellindsayofficial.com/  Rachel’s Book — Miss Me With That: Hot Takes, Helpful Tidbits, And A Few Hard Truths → https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/57895042-miss-me-with-that?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=vFiuBJ3vpY&rank=1  Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In this episode of Lovers, Higher Learning host and former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay shares the deeply personal story of what it was like to experience intimacy both sexually and emotionally for the first time after divorce.

After nearly a decade of being with only one partner, that she met while being the Bachelorette, Rachel walks us through the fears, emotions, and expectations she carried into that moment, from questions of safety and vulnerability to the quiet pressure of “doing it right” after such a long chapter had closed. She reflects on what that experience taught her about trust, desire, and emotional presence, and how those lessons reshaped her understanding of intimacy moving forward.

Though she isn’t with the person from that first post-divorce experience, Rachel shares why she remains grateful for what it revealed about her needs, her boundaries, and her capacity for connection. She also opens up about how those insights are influencing the relationship she’s in today, offering a grounded, honest look at what intimacy can become after loss, change, and reinvention.

This conversation isn’t about sex for shock value. It’s about safety, growth, and learning how to meet yourself again after everything you thought you knew about love has shifted.

———
Follow Rachel Lindsay
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/therachlindsay/ 

YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@HigherLearning 

Podcast — Higher Learning with Van Lathan & Rachel Lindsay → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/higher-learning-with-van-lathan-and-rachel-lindsay/id1515152489 

Official Website → https://www.rachellindsayofficial.com/ 

Rachel’s Book — Miss Me With That: Hot Takes, Helpful Tidbits, And A Few Hard Truths → https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/57895042-miss-me-with-that?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=vFiuBJ3vpY&rank=1 

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]]> 3051 The Real Reason We Started an Open Relationship https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-happened-before-we-called-it-an-open-relationship-ft-my-husband-jared In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship. Want to take the Relationship Style quiz I mentioned in the episode? Click HEREhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/quizzes In this episode, Shan Boodram and Jared Brady share intimate details from the early days of their relationship that led to them choosing to label their love as an open relationship. If your first reaction to “open relationship” is “so… cheating?” you’re not alone, and this conversation is also for you. Cheating isn’t about a specific behavior, it’s about breaking the rules of the relationship you agreed to play by, which is why it’s important to clearly define YOUR rules together.  This episode explores why people seek structured relationships even without exclusivity, what commitment actually looks like when it isn’t defined by romantic restriction, and how accountability, emotional safety, partnership, and love can exist outside traditional scripts. This isn’t an episode about convincing anyone to open their relationship. It’s about clarity, consent, and understanding why the rules matter more than the label. MasterClassHave you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. Follow JaredInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 21 Jan 2026 15:50:16 -0000 The Real Reason We Started an Open Relationship full LOVERS by shan In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship. Want to take the Relationship Style quiz I mentioned in the episode? Click HEREhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/quizzes In this episode, Shan Boodram and Jared Brady share intimate details from the early days of their relationship that led to them choosing to label their love as an open relationship. If your first reaction to “open relationship” is “so… cheating?” you’re not alone, and this conversation is also for you. Cheating isn’t about a specific behavior, it’s about breaking the rules of the relationship you agreed to play by, which is why it’s important to clearly define YOUR rules together.  This episode explores why people seek structured relationships even without exclusivity, what commitment actually looks like when it isn’t defined by romantic restriction, and how accountability, emotional safety, partnership, and love can exist outside traditional scripts. This isn’t an episode about convincing anyone to open their relationship. It’s about clarity, consent, and understanding why the rules matter more than the label. MasterClassHave you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. Follow JaredInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship.

Want to take the Relationship Style quiz I mentioned in the episode? Click HERE
https://www.loversbyshan.com/quizzes

In this episode, Shan Boodram and Jared Brady share intimate details from the early days of their relationship that led to them choosing to label their love as an open relationship.

If your first reaction to “open relationship” is “so… cheating?” you’re not alone, and this conversation is also for you.

Cheating isn’t about a specific behavior, it’s about breaking the rules of the relationship you agreed to play by, which is why it’s important to clearly define YOUR rules together. 

This episode explores why people seek structured relationships even without exclusivity, what commitment actually looks like when it isn’t defined by romantic restriction, and how accountability, emotional safety, partnership, and love can exist outside traditional scripts.

This isn’t an episode about convincing anyone to open their relationship. It’s about clarity, consent, and understanding why the rules matter more than the label.

MasterClass
Have you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers.

Follow Jared
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady
YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA

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]]> 3363 When Conflict Turns Lovers Into Exes ft. Touré https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/when-conflict-turns-lovers-into-exes-ft-tour Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesn’t have to be.In this episode, we explore what actually separates fights that bring couples closer from fights that quietly turn lovers into enemies. We talk about the moment arguments go sideways, why so many conflicts feel bigger than the issue at hand, and how couples can stay on the same team even when they fundamentally disagree.Our guest, Touré Neblett, draws on decades of navigating high-stakes, contentious conversations both publicly and privately to share what he’s learned about emotional regulation, repair, and conflict inside a long-term marriage. This conversation focuses on how disagreement can exist without contempt, and how learning to fight differently can fundamentally change the trajectory of a relationship.Follow TouréWebsite → https://toure.com Toure Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/toureshow/ Instagram YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo-SwvkGbQgDt3oXfASPPJQ youtube.comPodcast → Touré Show (Apple/Spotify) Books → Who’s Afraid of Post-Blackness? What It Means to Be Black Now; I Would Die 4 U: Why Prince Became an Icon; Soul City; Never Drank the Kool-Aid; The Portable Promised Land; Nothing Compares 2 U (available on Amazon and major booksellers)Want more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comReceive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 17 Dec 2025 05:08:47 -0000 When Conflict Turns Lovers Into Exes ft. Touré full 2 149 LOVERS by shan Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesn’t have to be.In this episode, we explore what actually separates fights that bring couples closer from fights that quietly turn lovers into enemies. We talk about the moment arguments go sideways, why so many conflicts feel bigger than the issue at hand, and how couples can stay on the same team even when they fundamentally disagree.Our guest, Touré Neblett, draws on decades of navigating high-stakes, contentious conversations both publicly and privately to share what he’s learned about emotional regulation, repair, and conflict inside a long-term marriage. This conversation focuses on how disagreement can exist without contempt, and how learning to fight differently can fundamentally change the trajectory of a relationship.Follow TouréWebsite → https://toure.com Toure Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/toureshow/ Instagram YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo-SwvkGbQgDt3oXfASPPJQ youtube.comPodcast → Touré Show (Apple/Spotify) Books → Who’s Afraid of Post-Blackness? What It Means to Be Black Now; I Would Die 4 U: Why Prince Became an Icon; Soul City; Never Drank the Kool-Aid; The Portable Promised Land; Nothing Compares 2 U (available on Amazon and major booksellers)Want more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comReceive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, we explore what actually separates fights that bring couples closer from fights that quietly turn lovers into enemies. We talk about the moment arguments go sideways, why so many conflicts feel bigger than the issue at hand, and how couples can stay on the same team even when they fundamentally disagree.

Our guest, Touré Neblett, draws on decades of navigating high-stakes, contentious conversations both publicly and privately to share what he’s learned about emotional regulation, repair, and conflict inside a long-term marriage. This conversation focuses on how disagreement can exist without contempt, and how learning to fight differently can fundamentally change the trajectory of a relationship.

Follow Touré
Website → https://toure.com Toure
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/toureshow/ Instagram
YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo-SwvkGbQgDt3oXfASPPJQ youtube.com
Podcast → Touré Show (Apple/Spotify)
Books → Who’s Afraid of Post-Blackness? What It Means to Be Black Now; I Would Die 4 U: Why Prince Became an Icon; Soul City; Never Drank the Kool-Aid; The Portable Promised Land; Nothing Compares 2 U (available on Amazon and major booksellers)

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]]> 3240 Intimacy Started When This Secret Came to Light ft. Jonathan Van Ness https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/sharing-my-hiv-diagnosis-changed-everything-for-me-ft-jonathan-van-ness Did you know, in 2023, more than 39,000 people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories, with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third (Source. CDC)In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with Jonathan Van Ness for a conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis, the years he kept it private, and the moment he decided he wanted the story to come from him. Jonathan shares what it felt like to catch himself holding back during interviews, how choosing to speak changed his relationship with his own truth, and the sense of relief that followed once he stopped protecting something that shaped so much of his life.They also talk about the realities of HIV today, why knowing your status matters, and how tools like PrEP fit into the larger picture of staying informed and reducing stigma.Follow Jonathan Van NessWebsite → https://jonathanvanness.com/Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jvnYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/jvnJVN Hair → https://jvnhair.com/Podcast → https://jonathanvanness.com/podcasts/Books → https://jonathanvanness.com/books/Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comReceive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Mon, 01 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0000 Intimacy Started When This Secret Came to Light ft. Jonathan Van Ness full 2 148 LOVERS by shan Did you know, in 2023, more than 39,000 people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories, with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third (Source. CDC)In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with Jonathan Van Ness for a conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis, the years he kept it private, and the moment he decided he wanted the story to come from him. Jonathan shares what it felt like to catch himself holding back during interviews, how choosing to speak changed his relationship with his own truth, and the sense of relief that followed once he stopped protecting something that shaped so much of his life.They also talk about the realities of HIV today, why knowing your status matters, and how tools like PrEP fit into the larger picture of staying informed and reducing stigma.Follow Jonathan Van NessWebsite → https://jonathanvanness.com/Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jvnYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/jvnJVN Hair → https://jvnhair.com/Podcast → https://jonathanvanness.com/podcasts/Books → https://jonathanvanness.com/books/Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comReceive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with Jonathan Van Ness for a conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis, the years he kept it private, and the moment he decided he wanted the story to come from him. Jonathan shares what it felt like to catch himself holding back during interviews, how choosing to speak changed his relationship with his own truth, and the sense of relief that followed once he stopped protecting something that shaped so much of his life.

They also talk about the realities of HIV today, why knowing your status matters, and how tools like PrEP fit into the larger picture of staying informed and reducing stigma.

Follow Jonathan Van Ness
Website → https://jonathanvanness.com/
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jvn
YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/jvn
JVN Hair → https://jvnhair.com/
Podcast → https://jonathanvanness.com/podcasts/
Books → https://jonathanvanness.com/books/

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]]> 3280 Navigating Parenting Differences as Lovers https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-if-our-boldest-parenting-choice-is-a-mistake HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU, our little munchkin just turned FIVE!And while Thanksgiving week is here, Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights, tiny victories, meltdown moments, and unexpected laughter, Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes, love is giving someone your dirty socks.(It’s her quote, and honestly… she’s not wrong.)Together, we explore:✨ How becoming parents reshapes the way you love and the way you’re loved✨ The unexpected emotional cost and reward of raising strong-willed children✨ A reflection on why we are the way we areA conversation for anyone navigating love, partnership, and the wild joy of raising tiny humans.—⭐ Follow JaredInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=enMusic MondayYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA⭐ Want more Lovers?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 26 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0000 Navigating Parenting Differences as Lovers full 2 147 LOVERS by shan HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU, our little munchkin just turned FIVE!And while Thanksgiving week is here, Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights, tiny victories, meltdown moments, and unexpected laughter, Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes, love is giving someone your dirty socks.(It’s her quote, and honestly… she’s not wrong.)Together, we explore:✨ How becoming parents reshapes the way you love and the way you’re loved✨ The unexpected emotional cost and reward of raising strong-willed children✨ A reflection on why we are the way we areA conversation for anyone navigating love, partnership, and the wild joy of raising tiny humans.—⭐ Follow JaredInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=enMusic MondayYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA⭐ Want more Lovers?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. And while Thanksgiving week is here, Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. 

Somewhere between the sleepless nights, tiny victories, meltdown moments, and unexpected laughter, Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes, love is giving someone your dirty socks.

(It’s her quote, and honestly… she’s not wrong.)

Together, we explore:
✨ How becoming parents reshapes the way you love and the way you’re loved
✨ The unexpected emotional cost and reward of raising strong-willed children
✨ A reflection on why we are the way we are

A conversation for anyone navigating love, partnership, and the wild joy of raising tiny humans.

—
⭐ Follow Jared
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=en

Music Monday
YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA


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]]> 1935 Love Has Destroyed Me So Why Do I Keep Trying? ft Sabrina Claudio https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/love-has-destroyed-me-so-why-do-i-keep-trying-ft-sabrina-claudio In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with singer and songwriter Sabrina Claudio for a conversation about heartbreak, loneliness, friendship, and the lessons that shaped her new album.Sabrina talks openly about how loneliness can quietly influence decisions, including staying in relationships that feel draining. She shares what it was like to feel isolated even while partnered, why she struggled to speak up about what she was going through, and how she eventually chose to walk away. We also explore the idea of emotional detox, the feeling of carrying someone long after the relationship ends, and the moment she realized she needed to release what was weighing her down.If you have ever tried to heal while still holding on, or wondered why connection sometimes feels complicated, this conversation offers insight and companionship.Referenced in this episode: Bronfenbrenner’s Ecological Systems Theory — the idea that our development is shaped by multiple layers of environment (from family + friends all the way to culture + society).Follow Sabrina ClaudioSabrina’s short film Fall In Love With HerInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/sabrinaclaudioTwitter → https://twitter.com/sabrinaclaudioYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/c/SabrinaClaudioWebsite → https://www.sabrinaclaudio.coWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comReceive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 19 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0000 Love Has Destroyed Me So Why Do I Keep Trying? ft Sabrina Claudio full 2 146 LOVERS by shan In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with singer and songwriter Sabrina Claudio for a conversation about heartbreak, loneliness, friendship, and the lessons that shaped her new album.Sabrina talks openly about how loneliness can quietly influence decisions, including staying in relationships that feel draining. She shares what it was like to feel isolated even while partnered, why she struggled to speak up about what she was going through, and how she eventually chose to walk away. We also explore the idea of emotional detox, the feeling of carrying someone long after the relationship ends, and the moment she realized she needed to release what was weighing her down.If you have ever tried to heal while still holding on, or wondered why connection sometimes feels complicated, this conversation offers insight and companionship.Referenced in this episode: Bronfenbrenner’s Ecological Systems Theory — the idea that our development is shaped by multiple layers of environment (from family + friends all the way to culture + society).Follow Sabrina ClaudioSabrina’s short film Fall In Love With HerInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/sabrinaclaudioTwitter → https://twitter.com/sabrinaclaudioYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/c/SabrinaClaudioWebsite → https://www.sabrinaclaudio.coWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comReceive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sabrina talks openly about how loneliness can quietly influence decisions, including staying in relationships that feel draining. She shares what it was like to feel isolated even while partnered, why she struggled to speak up about what she was going through, and how she eventually chose to walk away. We also explore the idea of emotional detox, the feeling of carrying someone long after the relationship ends, and the moment she realized she needed to release what was weighing her down.

If you have ever tried to heal while still holding on, or wondered why connection sometimes feels complicated, this conversation offers insight and companionship.

Referenced in this episode: Bronfenbrenner’s Ecological Systems Theory — the idea that our development is shaped by multiple layers of environment (from family + friends all the way to culture + society).

Follow Sabrina Claudio
Sabrina’s short film Fall In Love With Her
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/sabrinaclaudio
Twitter → https://twitter.com/sabrinaclaudio
YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/c/SabrinaClaudio
Website → https://www.sabrinaclaudio.co

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]]> 2916 Seema Anand on Overcoming Shame with the Kama Sutra’s Secrets https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-m-so-sorry-for-loving-myself-seema-anand-on-shame-the-kama-sutra-s-secrets In this intimate London-based episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand, the woman who transformed shame into sacred power.From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter, Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together, we talk about:✨ Growing up rebelling against libertine attitudes and then discovering Tantra✨ The link between shame, sensuality, and self-expression✨ Why women still feel guilt for wanting pleasure✨ The truth behind the Kama Sutra’s ancient wisdom✨ How to fall in love with yourself — unapologetically in your sixties or at any ageThis episode was inspired by our collaboration jewelry line KAMA, created to remind women to prioritize pleasure — in bed and beyond. Each piece is designed to honor the art of connection and confidence. In collaboration with Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:💎 The entire KAMA jewelry line is now back in stock for the holidays. Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kamaAlso Seema’s brand new book Speak Easy is now available for preorderhttps://www.amazon.in/Speak-Easy-Field-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337Interested in getting expert help spicing up your intimate life? Learn more about Arya, the couples subscription service that helps you make breaking the routine your new and exciting routine. Everyone is a lil kinky, and we all need help discovering ours - let Arya do all the hard work so you can focus on the fun part.http://arya.fyi/shanWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 12 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0000 Seema Anand on Overcoming Shame with the Kama Sutra’s Secrets full 2 145 LOVERS by shan In this intimate London-based episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand, the woman who transformed shame into sacred power.From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter, Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together, we talk about:✨ Growing up rebelling against libertine attitudes and then discovering Tantra✨ The link between shame, sensuality, and self-expression✨ Why women still feel guilt for wanting pleasure✨ The truth behind the Kama Sutra’s ancient wisdom✨ How to fall in love with yourself — unapologetically in your sixties or at any ageThis episode was inspired by our collaboration jewelry line KAMA, created to remind women to prioritize pleasure — in bed and beyond. Each piece is designed to honor the art of connection and confidence. In collaboration with Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:💎 The entire KAMA jewelry line is now back in stock for the holidays. Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kamaAlso Seema’s brand new book Speak Easy is now available for preorderhttps://www.amazon.in/Speak-Easy-Field-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337Interested in getting expert help spicing up your intimate life? Learn more about Arya, the couples subscription service that helps you make breaking the routine your new and exciting routine. Everyone is a lil kinky, and we all need help discovering ours - let Arya do all the hard work so you can focus on the fun part.http://arya.fyi/shanWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. LOVERS, Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand, the woman who transformed shame into sacred power.

From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter, Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together, we talk about:

✨ Growing up rebelling against libertine attitudes and then discovering Tantra
✨ The link between shame, sensuality, and self-expression
✨ Why women still feel guilt for wanting pleasure
✨ The truth behind the Kama Sutra’s ancient wisdom
✨ How to fall in love with yourself — unapologetically in your sixties or at any age

This episode was inspired by our collaboration jewelry line KAMA, created to remind women to prioritize pleasure — in bed and beyond. Each piece is designed to honor the art of connection and confidence. In collaboration with Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:

💎 The entire KAMA jewelry line is now back in stock for the holidays.
 Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kama

Also Seema’s brand new book Speak Easy is now available for preorder
https://www.amazon.in/Speak-Easy-Field-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337

Interested in getting expert help spicing up your intimate life? Learn more about Arya, the couples subscription service that helps you make breaking the routine your new and exciting routine. Everyone is a lil kinky, and we all need help discovering ours - let Arya do all the hard work so you can focus on the fun part.
http://arya.fyi/shan


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]]> 3970 Sacred Sex For People Who Don't Believe ft. Tanerélle https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/sacred-sex-for-people-who-dont-believe-ft-taner-lle Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you.In collaboration with Seema Anand and Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:https://surmeyi.com/collections/kama -----Sacred, spicy, and still timeless — we had to bring this one back.Shan sat down with artist Tanerélle to dive deep into the world of sacred sexuality and conscious intimacy.Sacred sexuality is more than physical pleasure; it’s an intentional way of connecting through energy, presence, and deep emotional awareness. From gentle touch and stillness to moments of shared breath and meditation, it invites a kind of connection that transcends the body and opens the heart.This mindful practice can lead to profound release, heightened pleasure, and a fuller experience of intimacy, from multiple or non-ejaculatory orgasms for men to expansive, layered sensations for women.Plus, Brenden Durell joins to guide a special class in the LOVERS community. We go over sacred sexuality and breathwork, a transformative session on presence, connection, and embodied pleasure.Follow Taneréllehttps://www.instagram.com/tanerelle/  Follow BrendenInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/Website: https://brendendurell.com/ Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 05 Nov 2025 05:26:01 -0000 Sacred Sex For People Who Don't Believe ft. Tanerélle full 2 144 LOVERS by shan Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you.In collaboration with Seema Anand and Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:https://surmeyi.com/collections/kama -----Sacred, spicy, and still timeless — we had to bring this one back.Shan sat down with artist Tanerélle to dive deep into the world of sacred sexuality and conscious intimacy.Sacred sexuality is more than physical pleasure; it’s an intentional way of connecting through energy, presence, and deep emotional awareness. From gentle touch and stillness to moments of shared breath and meditation, it invites a kind of connection that transcends the body and opens the heart.This mindful practice can lead to profound release, heightened pleasure, and a fuller experience of intimacy, from multiple or non-ejaculatory orgasms for men to expansive, layered sensations for women.Plus, Brenden Durell joins to guide a special class in the LOVERS community. We go over sacred sexuality and breathwork, a transformative session on presence, connection, and embodied pleasure.Follow Taneréllehttps://www.instagram.com/tanerelle/  Follow BrendenInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/Website: https://brendendurell.com/ Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you.

In collaboration with Seema Anand and Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:
https://surmeyi.com/collections/kama 
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Sacred, spicy, and still timeless — we had to bring this one back.

Shan sat down with artist Tanerélle to dive deep into the world of sacred sexuality and conscious intimacy.

Sacred sexuality is more than physical pleasure; it’s an intentional way of connecting through energy, presence, and deep emotional awareness. From gentle touch and stillness to moments of shared breath and meditation, it invites a kind of connection that transcends the body and opens the heart.

This mindful practice can lead to profound release, heightened pleasure, and a fuller experience of intimacy, from multiple or non-ejaculatory orgasms for men to expansive, layered sensations for women.

Plus, Brenden Durell joins to guide a special class in the LOVERS community. We go over sacred sexuality and breathwork, a transformative session on presence, connection, and embodied pleasure.

Follow Tanerélle
https://www.instagram.com/tanerelle/  

Follow Brenden
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/
Website: https://brendendurell.com/ 

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]]> 2828 What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-my-autism-diagnosis-taught-me-about-love-and-feeling-safe-ft-chrisette-michele Calm your mind. Change your life. Try Calm by heading to https://calm.yt.link/2lLJh1b. ————————This week, Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm, her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense, how her mom stood by her through the unknown, and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself.Later, we bring in expert Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC, founder of Autism in Black, Inc., to guide a deeper conversation around autism, neurodivergence, intimacy, and how we show up for those we love.Whether you’re neurodivergent, in a relationship with someone who is, or simply want to deepen your understanding, this episode invites you to explore how love, safety, and authenticity coexist.Follow Chrisette Michele:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisettemichele/ Website:chrisettemichele.comFollow Maria Davis-Pierre & Autism in Black:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/autisminblack/ Website: https://www.autisminblack.org/Sign up for the 5th Annual Autism In Black ConferenceVirtual or In-Person Attendance: https://funnel.autisminblack.org/2025-autism-in-black-registration-page?aff=Christina-SchmidtWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 29 Oct 2025 05:57:19 -0000 What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele full 2 143 LOVERS by shan Calm your mind. Change your life. Try Calm by heading to https://calm.yt.link/2lLJh1b. ————————This week, Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm, her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense, how her mom stood by her through the unknown, and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself.Later, we bring in expert Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC, founder of Autism in Black, Inc., to guide a deeper conversation around autism, neurodivergence, intimacy, and how we show up for those we love.Whether you’re neurodivergent, in a relationship with someone who is, or simply want to deepen your understanding, this episode invites you to explore how love, safety, and authenticity coexist.Follow Chrisette Michele:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisettemichele/ Website:chrisettemichele.comFollow Maria Davis-Pierre & Autism in Black:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/autisminblack/ Website: https://www.autisminblack.org/Sign up for the 5th Annual Autism In Black ConferenceVirtual or In-Person Attendance: https://funnel.autisminblack.org/2025-autism-in-black-registration-page?aff=Christina-SchmidtWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. https://calm.yt.link/2lLJh1b.
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This week, Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm, her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense, how her mom stood by her through the unknown, and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself.

Later, we bring in expert Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC, founder of Autism in Black, Inc., to guide a deeper conversation around autism, neurodivergence, intimacy, and how we show up for those we love.

Whether you’re neurodivergent, in a relationship with someone who is, or simply want to deepen your understanding, this episode invites you to explore how love, safety, and authenticity coexist.

Follow Chrisette Michele:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisettemichele/
Website:chrisettemichele.com

Follow Maria Davis-Pierre & Autism in Black:
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/autisminblack/
Website: https://www.autisminblack.org/

Sign up for the 5th Annual Autism In Black Conference
Virtual or In-Person Attendance: https://funnel.autisminblack.org/2025-autism-in-black-registration-page?aff=Christina-Schmidt

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]]> 2475 Is It Too Late to Become Who I Thought I’d Be? ft Chy Fontenette https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/is-it-too-late-to-become-who-i-thought-i-d-be-ft-chy-fontenette Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video! Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/Eug9eKx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.————————In her mid-30s, Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didn’t choose, friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries, and a growing awareness of the pain she’s carried for years. Through tears, honesty, and reflection, Chy admits she doesn’t know what’s next,  and Shan reminds her that she’s doing the most important thing of all: staying with herself through it.This episode is for anyone in that place where everything hurts and nothing feels certain. Shan offers tangible guidance on how to move through the fog, from becoming an archaeologist of your own life (digging up the moments you felt love and success before) to remembering Steve Jobs’ wisdom that you can’t connect the dots looking forward, only backward.The message is simple: you can’t rush this part. But if you keep caring for yourself, one day you’ll look up and realize, your life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.Follow Chy Fontenette! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chy.f/Listen to her podcast “Behind the Likes”: https://www.behindthelikespodcast.com/Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 22 Oct 2025 04:49:23 -0000 Is It Too Late to Become Who I Thought I’d Be? ft Chy Fontenette full 2 142 LOVERS by shan Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video! Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/Eug9eKx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.————————In her mid-30s, Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didn’t choose, friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries, and a growing awareness of the pain she’s carried for years. Through tears, honesty, and reflection, Chy admits she doesn’t know what’s next,  and Shan reminds her that she’s doing the most important thing of all: staying with herself through it.This episode is for anyone in that place where everything hurts and nothing feels certain. Shan offers tangible guidance on how to move through the fog, from becoming an archaeologist of your own life (digging up the moments you felt love and success before) to remembering Steve Jobs’ wisdom that you can’t connect the dots looking forward, only backward.The message is simple: you can’t rush this part. But if you keep caring for yourself, one day you’ll look up and realize, your life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.Follow Chy Fontenette! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chy.f/Listen to her podcast “Behind the Likes”: https://www.behindthelikespodcast.com/Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. https://functionhealth.yt.link/Eug9eKx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.
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In her mid-30s, Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didn’t choose, friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries, and a growing awareness of the pain she’s carried for years. Through tears, honesty, and reflection, Chy admits she doesn’t know what’s next,  and Shan reminds her that she’s doing the most important thing of all: staying with herself through it.

This episode is for anyone in that place where everything hurts and nothing feels certain. Shan offers tangible guidance on how to move through the fog, from becoming an archaeologist of your own life (digging up the moments you felt love and success before) to remembering Steve Jobs’ wisdom that you can’t connect the dots looking forward, only backward.

The message is simple: you can’t rush this part. But if you keep caring for yourself, one day you’ll look up and realize, your life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.

Follow Chy Fontenette!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chy.f/
Listen to her podcast “Behind the Likes”: https://www.behindthelikespodcast.com/

Want more Lover?
Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com
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]]> 2981 Should Relationships be THIS Hard? ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/should-relationships-be-this-hard-ft-beleaf-yvette-henry Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard?This week on LOVERS, Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry, the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood.Glen, known as Beleaf, has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First, which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing, self-awareness, and personal accountability.In this conversation, Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be, especially after kids, success, and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together, they’ve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couple’s foundation.If you’ve ever wondered, “Is marriage supposed to be this hard?”, this episode is for you. It’s a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesn’t mean failure, it means growth.✨ Preorder Glen’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 📺 Watch their YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BeleafInFatherhood 🎧 Listen to their podcast “How Married Are You” https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/ Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 15 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Should Relationships be THIS Hard? ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry full 2 141 LOVERS by shan Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard?This week on LOVERS, Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry, the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood.Glen, known as Beleaf, has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First, which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing, self-awareness, and personal accountability.In this conversation, Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be, especially after kids, success, and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together, they’ve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couple’s foundation.If you’ve ever wondered, “Is marriage supposed to be this hard?”, this episode is for you. It’s a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesn’t mean failure, it means growth.✨ Preorder Glen’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 📺 Watch their YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BeleafInFatherhood 🎧 Listen to their podcast “How Married Are You” https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/ Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week on LOVERS, Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry, the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood.

Glen, known as Beleaf, has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First, which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing, self-awareness, and personal accountability.

In this conversation, Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be, especially after kids, success, and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together, they’ve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couple’s foundation.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Is marriage supposed to be this hard?”, this episode is for you. It’s a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesn’t mean failure, it means growth.

✨ Preorder Glen’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555
📺 Watch their YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BeleafInFatherhood
 🎧 Listen to their podcast “How Married Are You” https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/

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]]> 3242 Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story? Ft Andre Holland https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/could-a-single-moment-be-controlling-your-love-story-ft-andre-holland Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved.They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in.Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to: uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection 🎬 About Love, BrooklynWant more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!  Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/andrehollandWant more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Oct 2025 22:40:43 -0000 Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story? Ft Andre Holland full 2 140 LOVERS by shan Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved.They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in.Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to: uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection 🎬 About Love, BrooklynWant more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!  Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/andrehollandWant more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.

What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved.

They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in.

Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to:

  • uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy
  • rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you
  • opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection

🎬 About Love, Brooklyn
Want more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!  

Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/

For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/andreholland

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]]> 2824 How Inner Child Work Can Save Your (love) Life featuring Lilly Singh https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/how-inner-child-work-can-save-your-love-life-featuring-lilly-singh To get 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp, visit http://betterhelp.com/loversbyshan. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode!—This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.🎬 About Doin’ ItYou can catch “Doin’ It” in select theaters or pre-order the film on Apple, Amazon, and Fandango to watch it at home as of October 7.For more information visit doinitmovie.com 🔗 Follow Lilly Singh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilly Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/LillyGrab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → https://www.lillysinghbook.comWant more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 How Inner Child Work Can Save Your (love) Life featuring Lilly Singh full 2 139 LOVERS by shan To get 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp, visit http://betterhelp.com/loversbyshan. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode!—This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.🎬 About Doin’ ItYou can catch “Doin’ It” in select theaters or pre-order the film on Apple, Amazon, and Fandango to watch it at home as of October 7.For more information visit doinitmovie.com 🔗 Follow Lilly Singh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilly Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/LillyGrab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → https://www.lillysinghbook.comWant more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. http://betterhelp.com/loversbyshan. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode!
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This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”

In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.

🎬 About Doin’ It

You can catch “Doin’ It” in select theaters or pre-order the film on Apple, Amazon, and Fandango to watch it at home as of October 7.

For more information visit doinitmovie.com 


🔗 Follow Lilly Singh
 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilly
 Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/Lilly
Grab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → https://www.lillysinghbook.com

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]]> 3853 How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/how-jemele-hill-is-fighting-back-against-america-s-1-sex-life-killers Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you.-----What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.Together, Jemele and Shan break down:- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life🔗 Follow Jemele HillInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehillWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 24 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers full 2 138 LOVERS by shan Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you.-----What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.Together, Jemele and Shan break down:- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life🔗 Follow Jemele HillInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehillWant more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you.
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What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?

Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.

This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.

Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life

🔗 Follow Jemele Hill
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehill

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]]> 3142 The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-truth-about-getting-the-man-i-thought-i-always-wanted-ft-rosa-acosta Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this episode! Visit https://functionhealth.com/loversbyshan or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.-----What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.🔗 Follow Rosa AcostaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosaacosta/Cossa Mia: https://www.instagram.com/cossamia/Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 17 Sep 2025 04:07:45 -0000 The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta full 2 137 LOVERS by shan Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this episode! Visit https://functionhealth.com/loversbyshan or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.-----What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.🔗 Follow Rosa AcostaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosaacosta/Cossa Mia: https://www.instagram.com/cossamia/Want more Lover?Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.comGet a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. https://functionhealth.com/loversbyshan or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.
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What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?

In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.

This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.

🔗 Follow Rosa Acosta
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosaacosta/
Cossa Mia: https://www.instagram.com/cossamia/

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]]> 2934 Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/am-i-still-who-you-want-are-you-becoming-who-i-need-a-relationship-check-in-free-guide-ft-jared-brady Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments? In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned, navigate change, and keep intimacy thriving over time. Plus, Shan and Jared share a free Relationship Check-In Guide so you and your partner can try this practice at home.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a roadmap for honest communication, vulnerability, and keeping love strong.The full conversation of Jared and I lives in my community in the premium tier. Resource - Interactive Guide https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin 🔗 Follow Jared BradyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/@MusicMondayEnjoyWant more Lover?Check out Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.com Sign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter 💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Check out free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 10 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady full 2 136 LOVERS by shan Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments? In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned, navigate change, and keep intimacy thriving over time. Plus, Shan and Jared share a free Relationship Check-In Guide so you and your partner can try this practice at home.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a roadmap for honest communication, vulnerability, and keeping love strong.The full conversation of Jared and I lives in my community in the premium tier. Resource - Interactive Guide https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin 🔗 Follow Jared BradyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/@MusicMondayEnjoyWant more Lover?Check out Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.com Sign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter 💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Check out free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?

This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned, navigate change, and keep intimacy thriving over time. Plus, Shan and Jared share a free Relationship Check-In Guide so you and your partner can try this practice at home.

Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a roadmap for honest communication, vulnerability, and keeping love strong.

The full conversation of Jared and I lives in my community in the premium tier.

Resource - Interactive Guide
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin 

🔗 Follow Jared Brady
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=en 
https://www.youtube.com/@MusicMondayEnjoy

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Check out Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.com 
Sign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter 
💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community 
Check out free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes 

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]]> 3410 My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/my-mom-talked-to-me-about-sex-and-it-made-me-rebel-ft-blair-imani What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future. 🔗 Follow BlairInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/blairimaniTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@blairimaniYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@blairimaniWebsite: https://www.blairimani.com/ Want more Lover?Check out Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheck out free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 03 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani full 2 135 LOVERS by shan What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future. 🔗 Follow BlairInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/blairimaniTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@blairimaniYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@blairimaniWebsite: https://www.blairimani.com/ Want more Lover?Check out Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheck out free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.

We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future. 

🔗 Follow Blair
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blairimani
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@blairimani
YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@blairimani
Website: https://www.blairimani.com/ 

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💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
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]]> 2138 What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-holds-a-relationship-together-when-life-falls-apart-ft-dr-laura-berman What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.” It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter________________________Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 27 Aug 2025 05:39:39 -0000 What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman full 2 134 LOVERS by shan What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.” It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter________________________Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.

Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.” 
It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.

Want more Lover?
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]]> 2973 Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/inside-the-male-fantasy-the-surprising-request-men-keep-paying-for-ft-the-pink-parley This week on Lovers, Shan sits down with The Pink Parley, a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit—even to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages, Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship.Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries”—they want to be consumed by, suffocated by, and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them, it’s not just an act of pleasure; it’s a full-body, sensory experience.Together, Shan and Parley unpack what this hidden desire tells us about:- The gap between fantasy and communication in long-term relationships- The role of body positivity in sexual confidence and desire- How unspoken cravings can complicate fidelity inside marriageThis episode is provocative, eye-opening, and an important reminder that what we don’t say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do.🔗 Follow The Pink ParleyWebsite: https://thepinkparley.com/Instagram: http://instagram.com/thepinkparleyWant more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter________________________Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 20 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley full 2 133 LOVERS by shan This week on Lovers, Shan sits down with The Pink Parley, a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit—even to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages, Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship.Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries”—they want to be consumed by, suffocated by, and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them, it’s not just an act of pleasure; it’s a full-body, sensory experience.Together, Shan and Parley unpack what this hidden desire tells us about:- The gap between fantasy and communication in long-term relationships- The role of body positivity in sexual confidence and desire- How unspoken cravings can complicate fidelity inside marriageThis episode is provocative, eye-opening, and an important reminder that what we don’t say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do.🔗 Follow The Pink ParleyWebsite: https://thepinkparley.com/Instagram: http://instagram.com/thepinkparleyWant more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter________________________Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries”—they want to be consumed by, suffocated by, and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them, it’s not just an act of pleasure; it’s a full-body, sensory experience.

Together, Shan and Parley unpack what this hidden desire tells us about:
- The gap between fantasy and communication in long-term relationships
- The role of body positivity in sexual confidence and desire
- How unspoken cravings can complicate fidelity inside marriage


This episode is provocative, eye-opening, and an important reminder that what we don’t say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do.
🔗 Follow The Pink Parley
Website: https://thepinkparley.com/
Instagram: http://instagram.com/thepinkparley
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]]> 3156 He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/he-had-multiple-lovers-and-i-was-good-with-just-him-alyson-stoner-on-their-intro-to-polyamory What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.🔗 Follow AlysonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/alysonstonerTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alysonstonerYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alysonstoner📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/ 🧠 Learn more about Movement Genius → https://www.movementgenius.com/Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 13 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory full 2 132 LOVERS by shan What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.🔗 Follow AlysonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/alysonstonerTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alysonstonerYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alysonstoner📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/ 🧠 Learn more about Movement Genius → https://www.movementgenius.com/Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.

Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.

🔗 Follow Alyson
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alysonstoner
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alysonstoner
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alysonstoner
📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/ 
🧠 Learn more about Movement Genius → https://www.movementgenius.com/

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]]> 3421 The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-eartha-kitt-effect-why-women-are-happily-choosing-the-single-life-for-life What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with just you?In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are choosing the single life on purpose, not by default.Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo, renowned social psychologist and author of Single at Heart, to unpack why some of the most fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships—and never want to be.Together, they explore: 🔥 Why Eartha Kitt’s viral interview moment ("Compromise? For what?") sparked a generation of self-partnership 🌱 How choosing not to center romance can lead to deeper personal growth, freedom, and connection 🧠 The science behind happiness in singlehood and the myth of the “incomplete” single person 💔 How media and social norms still stigmatize solo living—and what it looks like to rewrite your own happy ending Eartha’s now-iconic 1982 interview, where she laughs at the idea of compromising for a man, has become a symbol for self-honoring love. Her words echo across social media as more people step into identities that aren’t centered on romantic validation but on personal wholeness.Whether you're single by choice, rethinking long-term relationships, or simply seeking permission to define love your way—this episode is your affirmation.✨ The Eartha Kitt Effect is here so listen now and ask yourself: What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with you?🔗 Follow Bella DePaulo: Website: belladepaulo.com Books: Single at Heart, How We Live Now, and more – Amazon💞 Want more from Lover? → Meet Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you: loversbyshan.com → Get a free weekly Love Letter straight to your inbox: Join the newsletter → Join the Lovers Community: loversbyshan.com/community → Try free quizzes + worksheets: Deepen your relationships📩 For ads or inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 06 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life full 2 131 LOVERS by shan What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with just you?In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are choosing the single life on purpose, not by default.Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo, renowned social psychologist and author of Single at Heart, to unpack why some of the most fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships—and never want to be.Together, they explore: 🔥 Why Eartha Kitt’s viral interview moment ("Compromise? For what?") sparked a generation of self-partnership 🌱 How choosing not to center romance can lead to deeper personal growth, freedom, and connection 🧠 The science behind happiness in singlehood and the myth of the “incomplete” single person 💔 How media and social norms still stigmatize solo living—and what it looks like to rewrite your own happy ending Eartha’s now-iconic 1982 interview, where she laughs at the idea of compromising for a man, has become a symbol for self-honoring love. Her words echo across social media as more people step into identities that aren’t centered on romantic validation but on personal wholeness.Whether you're single by choice, rethinking long-term relationships, or simply seeking permission to define love your way—this episode is your affirmation.✨ The Eartha Kitt Effect is here so listen now and ask yourself: What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with you?🔗 Follow Bella DePaulo: Website: belladepaulo.com Books: Single at Heart, How We Live Now, and more – Amazon💞 Want more from Lover? → Meet Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you: loversbyshan.com → Get a free weekly Love Letter straight to your inbox: Join the newsletter → Join the Lovers Community: loversbyshan.com/community → Try free quizzes + worksheets: Deepen your relationships📩 For ads or inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are choosing the single life on purpose, not by default.

Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo, renowned social psychologist and author of Single at Heart, to unpack why some of the most fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships—and never want to be.

Together, they explore:

  • 🔥 Why Eartha Kitt’s viral interview moment ("Compromise? For what?") sparked a generation of self-partnership

  • 🌱 How choosing not to center romance can lead to deeper personal growth, freedom, and connection

  • 🧠 The science behind happiness in singlehood and the myth of the “incomplete” single person

  • 💔 How media and social norms still stigmatize solo living—and what it looks like to rewrite your own happy ending

Eartha’s now-iconic 1982 interview, where she laughs at the idea of compromising for a man, has become a symbol for self-honoring love. Her words echo across social media as more people step into identities that aren’t centered on romantic validation but on personal wholeness.

Whether you're single by choice, rethinking long-term relationships, or simply seeking permission to define love your way—this episode is your affirmation.

✨ The Eartha Kitt Effect is here so listen now and ask yourself: What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with you?


🔗 Follow Bella DePaulo:
 Website: belladepaulo.com
 Books: Single at Heart, How We Live Now, and more – Amazon


💞 Want more from Lover?
 → Meet Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you: loversbyshan.com
 → Get a free weekly Love Letter straight to your inbox: Join the newsletter
 → Join the Lovers Community: loversbyshan.com/community
 → Try free quizzes + worksheets: Deepen your relationships


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]]> 2540 No One Talks About How Hard Making Friends As An Adult Is ft. Krista Williams https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/no-one-talks-about-how-hard-making-friends-as-an-adult-is-ft-krista-williams Does making friends get harder as you get older?  How the hell do I make friends? This episode is a rerun, and it's STILL very accurate. According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So, how long does it take to make a new friend?- 50 hours before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.In this episode, I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia, and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs, and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMF,T, and Danielle Bayard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert, for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Follow the guests on this episode:Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/http://tiktok.com/shanboody   / @loversbyshan  Follow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/Follow Tabia:https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/Follow Danielle Bayard-Jacksonhttps://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 30 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 No One Talks About How Hard Making Friends As An Adult Is ft. Krista Williams full 2 130 LOVERS by shan Does making friends get harder as you get older?  How the hell do I make friends? This episode is a rerun, and it's STILL very accurate. According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So, how long does it take to make a new friend?- 50 hours before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.In this episode, I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia, and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs, and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMF,T, and Danielle Bayard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert, for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Follow the guests on this episode:Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/http://tiktok.com/shanboody   / @loversbyshan  Follow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/Follow Tabia:https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/Follow Danielle Bayard-Jacksonhttps://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.

If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. 

So, how long does it take to make a new friend?
- 50 hours before you consider them a casual friend 
- 90 hours before becoming real friends 
- 200hours- before becoming close friends 

source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' 


As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.

In this episode, I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia, and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs, and the work it takes to make them work. 

A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMF,T, and Danielle Bayard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert, for lending their expertise on forming friendships. 


Follow the guests on this episode:

Follow Shan:
https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/
http://tiktok.com/shanboody
   / @loversbyshan  

Follow Krista: 
https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/
https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/

Follow Tabia:
https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/

Follow Danielle Bayard-Jackson
https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/
https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/

Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFT
https://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/

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]]> 3507 Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/is-a-good-man-good-enough-ft-miranda-rae-mayo What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.🔗 Follow MirandaMiranda https://www.instagram.com/mrmayoFollow her exclusive project https://www.instagram.com/hereshecomestv/ Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 23 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo full 2 129 LOVERS by shan What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.🔗 Follow MirandaMiranda https://www.instagram.com/mrmayoFollow her exclusive project https://www.instagram.com/hereshecomestv/ Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?

In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.

Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.

🔗 Follow Miranda

Miranda https://www.instagram.com/mrmayo
Follow her exclusive project https://www.instagram.com/hereshecomestv/

Want more Lover?

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]]> 3173 Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. Anwar White https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/are-they-your-type-or-your-trauma-response-ft-anwar-white What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them, or if deep down, you don't even like them?Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.In this powerful and deeply personal episode, dating coach Anwar White joins Shan to talk about what it means to date with emotional and relational safety at the center. Anwar shares his personal story of leaving an unsafe environment as a child alongside his mother, and how that shaped his deep understanding of safety, trust, and partnership. Now, as a coach helping Black and Brown women find aligned, lasting love, Anwar breaks down the realities of trauma-informed dating, co-regulation, and building standards rooted in self-worth.This conversation also explores the ways our early relationships model love for us, and how watching his mother now thrive in a healthy partnership has become part of Anwar’s full-circle healing and success story.🔗 Follow Anwarhttps://www.instagram.com/datingcoachanwarListen to his podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1PTRAwfi9ZPDF6h4BOWXvjCheckout his services https://getyourguycoaching.com/Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 16 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. Anwar White full 2 128 LOVERS by shan What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them, or if deep down, you don't even like them?Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.In this powerful and deeply personal episode, dating coach Anwar White joins Shan to talk about what it means to date with emotional and relational safety at the center. Anwar shares his personal story of leaving an unsafe environment as a child alongside his mother, and how that shaped his deep understanding of safety, trust, and partnership. Now, as a coach helping Black and Brown women find aligned, lasting love, Anwar breaks down the realities of trauma-informed dating, co-regulation, and building standards rooted in self-worth.This conversation also explores the ways our early relationships model love for us, and how watching his mother now thrive in a healthy partnership has become part of Anwar’s full-circle healing and success story.🔗 Follow Anwarhttps://www.instagram.com/datingcoachanwarListen to his podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1PTRAwfi9ZPDF6h4BOWXvjCheckout his services https://getyourguycoaching.com/Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them, or if deep down, you don't even like them?

Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, dating coach Anwar White joins Shan to talk about what it means to date with emotional and relational safety at the center. Anwar shares his personal story of leaving an unsafe environment as a child alongside his mother, and how that shaped his deep understanding of safety, trust, and partnership. Now, as a coach helping Black and Brown women find aligned, lasting love, Anwar breaks down the realities of trauma-informed dating, co-regulation, and building standards rooted in self-worth.

This conversation also explores the ways our early relationships model love for us, and how watching his mother now thrive in a healthy partnership has become part of Anwar’s full-circle healing and success story.

🔗 Follow Anwar
https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachanwar
Listen to his podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1PTRAwfi9ZPDF6h4BOWXvj
Checkout his services https://getyourguycoaching.com/

Want more Lover?
Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.com
Sign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
Checkout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter

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]]> 3212 What’s the Emotional Tax on Casual Sex? ft. Decisions Decisions https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-s-the-emotional-tax-on-casual-sex-ft-decisions-decisions In this episode, Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to “find the one” and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper, how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex, and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault, and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community. Follow Weezy: @weezywtfFollow Mandii B: @fullcourtpumpsTour Dates: https://nhbtour.com/Get their book: https://a.co/d/8VY8Tje Follow Binx: @the_binxFollow Vincent aka Hands of Furey: Learn more about him: http://www.handsoffurey.com/Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 09 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 What’s the Emotional Tax on Casual Sex? ft. Decisions Decisions full 2 127 LOVERS by shan In this episode, Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to “find the one” and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper, how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex, and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault, and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community. Follow Weezy: @weezywtfFollow Mandii B: @fullcourtpumpsTour Dates: https://nhbtour.com/Get their book: https://a.co/d/8VY8Tje Follow Binx: @the_binxFollow Vincent aka Hands of Furey: Learn more about him: http://www.handsoffurey.com/Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault, and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community.

Follow Weezy: @weezywtf
Follow Mandii B: @fullcourtpumps
Tour Dates: https://nhbtour.com/
Get their book: https://a.co/d/8VY8Tje 

Follow Binx: @the_binx

Follow Vincent aka Hands of Furey: 
Learn more about him: http://www.handsoffurey.com/

Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community

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]]> 3199 Too Many of Us Are Living with High-Functioning Depression ft. Dr. Judith Joseph https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/too-many-of-us-are-living-with-high-functioning-depression-ft-dr-judith-joseph What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression?In this episode, Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate.They dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint.Expect insights on:✨ How high-functioning depression operates✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked✨ The three-part psycho-socio-biological model that explains it✨ How to begin reconnecting with your desire and vitality👑 Follow Dr. Judith Joseph on Instagram: instagram.com/drjudithjoseph👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/communitySign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 02 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Too Many of Us Are Living with High-Functioning Depression ft. Dr. Judith Joseph full 2 126 LOVERS by shan What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression?In this episode, Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate.They dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint.Expect insights on:✨ How high-functioning depression operates✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked✨ The three-part psycho-socio-biological model that explains it✨ How to begin reconnecting with your desire and vitality👑 Follow Dr. Judith Joseph on Instagram: instagram.com/drjudithjoseph👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/communitySign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate.

They dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint.

Expect insights on:
✨ How high-functioning depression operates
✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked
✨ The three-part psycho-socio-biological model that explains it
✨ How to begin reconnecting with your desire and vitality

👑 Follow Dr. Judith Joseph on Instagram: instagram.com/drjudithjoseph
👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community
Sign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me loversbyshan.com/newsletter

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 1565 Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/kama-sutra-secrets-every-woman-deserves-to-know-ft-seema-anand What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kamaThe waist chain designed for being on topThe anklet designed for when your legs are in the airThe necklace designed for yab yumThe earrings designed for ridingThe choker designed for lotus positionThe spine chain designed for doggystyle 👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Tue, 24 Jun 2025 16:00:00 -0000 Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand full 2 125 LOVERS by shan What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kamaThe waist chain designed for being on topThe anklet designed for when your legs are in the airThe necklace designed for yab yumThe earrings designed for ridingThe choker designed for lotus positionThe spine chain designed for doggystyle 👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.

Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.

This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.

👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling

🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kama
The waist chain designed for being on top
The anklet designed for when your legs are in the air
The necklace designed for yab yum
The earrings designed for riding
The choker designed for lotus position
The spine chain designed for doggystyle 

👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3277 He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/he-was-never-going-to-commit-and-heres-why-ft-duckwrth Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation 💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth 👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 18 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth full 2 124 LOVERS by shan Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation 💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth 👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.

Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.

If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.

🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation
 💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth
 👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3489 I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-wanted-my-man-not-the-sex-tamsen-fadal-on-losing-her-libido-at-the-worst-possible-time Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive, Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the curtain on midlife like never before. In this honest and empowering episode, menopause advocate Tamsen joins Shan for a conversation about menopause, sex drive and embracing life’s shifts.Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning.In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor.This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go toLoversbyshan.com/community Follow Tamsen on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadalGet her book How to MenopauseListen to her podcast The Tamsen ShowCheckout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 11 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time full 2 123 LOVERS by shan Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive, Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the curtain on midlife like never before. In this honest and empowering episode, menopause advocate Tamsen joins Shan for a conversation about menopause, sex drive and embracing life’s shifts.Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning.In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor.This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go toLoversbyshan.com/community Follow Tamsen on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadalGet her book How to MenopauseListen to her podcast The Tamsen ShowCheckout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning.

In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor.

This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go to
Loversbyshan.com/community 

Follow Tamsen on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal

Get her book How to Menopause
Listen to her podcast The Tamsen Show
Checkout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/ 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3296 Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/go-where-you-are-celebrated-not-just-tolerated-ft-kennedy-ryan From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much”Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son. This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityFollow Kennedy on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/Get a weekly love letter from me:https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 04 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan full 2 122 LOVERS by shan From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much”Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son. This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityFollow Kennedy on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/Get a weekly love letter from me:https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much”

Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son. 

This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today:
https://www.loversbyshan.com/community


Follow Kennedy on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1
Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/


Get a weekly love letter from me:
https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter


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]]> 3103 Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/having-the-sex-i-d-want-my-daughter-to-expect-with-xosha What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure.Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her.This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today!https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityFollow Xosha on socialshttps://www.instagram.com/xoshro/Get a Weekly Lovers Letter from Mehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 28 May 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha full 2 121 LOVERS by shan What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure.Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her.This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today!https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityFollow Xosha on socialshttps://www.instagram.com/xoshro/Get a Weekly Lovers Letter from Mehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”

We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure.

Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her.

This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today!
https://www.loversbyshan.com/community

Follow Xosha on socials
https://www.instagram.com/xoshro/

Get a Weekly Lovers Letter from Me
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]]> 3967 Jessie Woo Opens Up About Surviving Sexual Assault, Reclaiming Pleasure and Building Healthy Love After Trauma https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/jessie-woo-opens-up-about-surviving-sexual-assault-reclaiming-pleasure-and-building-healthy-love-after-trauma Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie. How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.Content Warning:This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.Thank You Jessie Woohttps://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIgGet a Weekly Lovers Letter from Mehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 21 May 2025 06:30:35 -0000 Jessie Woo Opens Up About Surviving Sexual Assault, Reclaiming Pleasure and Building Healthy Love After Trauma full 2 120 LOVERS by shan Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie. How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.Content Warning:This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.Thank You Jessie Woohttps://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIgGet a Weekly Lovers Letter from Mehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.


Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.


At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie. 


How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?


We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.


Content Warning:


This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.


If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.


Thank You Jessie Woo
https://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/
Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIg



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]]> 4185 Alessia Cara Opens Up About How Death Anxiety Affects Her Relationships https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/alessia-cara-opens-up-about-how-death-anxiety-affects-her-relationships Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices?Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we’ve built might not last.When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this?Thank You Alessia Carahttp://alessiacara.comhttps://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusichttps://www.youtube.com/@alessiacaraThanks Dame for sponsoring this episode:Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you’re with a partner or flying solo. http://dame.com/shanDame Coupon: SHAN15Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 14 May 2025 04:02:54 -0000 Alessia Cara Opens Up About How Death Anxiety Affects Her Relationships full 2 119 LOVERS by shan Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices?Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we’ve built might not last.When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this?Thank You Alessia Carahttp://alessiacara.comhttps://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusichttps://www.youtube.com/@alessiacaraThanks Dame for sponsoring this episode:Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you’re with a partner or flying solo. http://dame.com/shanDame Coupon: SHAN15Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices?

Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we’ve built might not last.

When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this?

Thank You Alessia Cara
http://alessiacara.com
https://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusic
https://www.youtube.com/@alessiacara

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Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you’re with a partner or flying solo. 
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]]> 3255 Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/raven-symon-and-miranda-on-how-sleep-divorce-strengthened-their-marriage In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship. Thank You Raven & Mirandainstagram.com/ravensymoneinstagram.com/mirandamadayCatch them on Tea Time with Raven & Miranda, a candid, cozy space where they spill everything from relationship realness to spiritual insights. Streaming now on YouTube.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 07 May 2025 04:00:00 -0000 Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage full 2 118 LOVERS by shan In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship. Thank You Raven & Mirandainstagram.com/ravensymoneinstagram.com/mirandamadayCatch them on Tea Time with Raven & Miranda, a candid, cozy space where they spill everything from relationship realness to spiritual insights. Streaming now on YouTube.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship. 

Thank You Raven & Miranda
instagram.com/ravensymone
instagram.com/mirandamaday

Catch them on Tea Time with Raven & Miranda, a candid, cozy space where they spill everything from relationship realness to spiritual insights. Streaming now on YouTube.

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]]> 3296 Cree Summer Opens Up About How Emotional Safety Reignited Her Sex Drive After 50 https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/cree-summer-opens-up-about-how-emotional-safety-reignited-her-sex-drive-after-50 In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what she’s looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether you’re navigating relationships, rethinking intimacy, or seeking inspiration for your own journey, this conversation is a must-listen.Episode Highlights: Cree’s reflections on her marriage and why emotional shelter is non-negotiable in a relationship How menopause transformed her sex drive and perspective on intimacy The importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity Cree’s hopes and expectations for love in her golden years Lessons on emotional security, provision, and rediscovering self-worth The importance of women making the first move and asking men out Thank You Cree Summerinstagram.com/iamcreesummerx.com/iamcreesummerhttps://www.adultswim.com/videos/oh-my-god-yes-a-series-of-extremely-relatable-circumstancesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityIf you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need to hear Cree’s powerful story. For more conversations like this, visit LoversByShan.com and join our community for exclusive content, workshops, and more!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 30 Apr 2025 02:46:31 -0000 Cree Summer Opens Up About How Emotional Safety Reignited Her Sex Drive After 50 full 2 117 LOVERS by shan In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what she’s looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether you’re navigating relationships, rethinking intimacy, or seeking inspiration for your own journey, this conversation is a must-listen.Episode Highlights: Cree’s reflections on her marriage and why emotional shelter is non-negotiable in a relationship How menopause transformed her sex drive and perspective on intimacy The importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity Cree’s hopes and expectations for love in her golden years Lessons on emotional security, provision, and rediscovering self-worth The importance of women making the first move and asking men out Thank You Cree Summerinstagram.com/iamcreesummerx.com/iamcreesummerhttps://www.adultswim.com/videos/oh-my-god-yes-a-series-of-extremely-relatable-circumstancesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityIf you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need to hear Cree’s powerful story. For more conversations like this, visit LoversByShan.com and join our community for exclusive content, workshops, and more!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Highlights:
  • Cree’s reflections on her marriage and why emotional shelter is non-negotiable in a relationship
  • How menopause transformed her sex drive and perspective on intimacy
  • The importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity
  • Cree’s hopes and expectations for love in her golden years
  • Lessons on emotional security, provision, and rediscovering self-worth
  • The importance of women making the first move and asking men out


Thank You Cree Summer
instagram.com/iamcreesummer
x.com/iamcreesummer
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]]> 3441 Don't Waste Your Time With People Like This! https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/dont-waste-your-time-with-people-like-this This is a rare solo episode with just Shan behind the mic—no guests, no distractions. Just her, answering some of your most pressing, unfiltered questions. From personal reflections to deeper dives on topics you’ve been dying to hear her take on, this one’s intimate, insightful, and straight from the heartJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 23 Apr 2025 05:15:43 -0000 Don't Waste Your Time With People Like This! full 2 116 LOVERS by shan This is a rare solo episode with just Shan behind the mic—no guests, no distractions. Just her, answering some of your most pressing, unfiltered questions. From personal reflections to deeper dives on topics you’ve been dying to hear her take on, this one’s intimate, insightful, and straight from the heartJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 2529 B. Simone Opens Up About Putting God First, Chastity and Demisexuality https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/b-simone-opens-up-about-putting-god-first-chastity-and-demisexuality Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love, faith, and identity? In this thought-provoking episode, Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity, understanding soul ties, and exploring the nuances of identity and connection.While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation, sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like:✨ What You’ll Learn: Demisexuality: A sexual orientation where someone experiences sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond. Soul Ties: A deep, often spiritual connection that binds two people, sometimes through shared experiences or intimacy. Chastity: A lifestyle or mindset of aligning one’s sexual behavior and thoughts with personal, moral, or spiritual values, which may or may not involve abstinence. Together, Shan and B. Simone explore how devotion to faith, self-love, and personal growth can shape intimate relationships and redefine what it means to truly connect with others.Whether you’re curious about demisexuality, seeking clarity on soul ties, or inspired by the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, this episode is packed with insights that will leave you reflecting on your own path to sacred love.🎧 Tune in now, and don’t forget to subscribe for more episodes on love, relationships, and self-discovery!Thank You B. Simonehttps://www.instagram.com/thebsimoneLet’s Try This Again: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz67j2koC3urUkQirbvueCAhttps://www.officialbsimone.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityThanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 16 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0000 B. Simone Opens Up About Putting God First, Chastity and Demisexuality full 2 115 LOVERS by shan Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love, faith, and identity? In this thought-provoking episode, Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity, understanding soul ties, and exploring the nuances of identity and connection.While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation, sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like:✨ What You’ll Learn: Demisexuality: A sexual orientation where someone experiences sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond. Soul Ties: A deep, often spiritual connection that binds two people, sometimes through shared experiences or intimacy. Chastity: A lifestyle or mindset of aligning one’s sexual behavior and thoughts with personal, moral, or spiritual values, which may or may not involve abstinence. Together, Shan and B. Simone explore how devotion to faith, self-love, and personal growth can shape intimate relationships and redefine what it means to truly connect with others.Whether you’re curious about demisexuality, seeking clarity on soul ties, or inspired by the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, this episode is packed with insights that will leave you reflecting on your own path to sacred love.🎧 Tune in now, and don’t forget to subscribe for more episodes on love, relationships, and self-discovery!Thank You B. Simonehttps://www.instagram.com/thebsimoneLet’s Try This Again: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz67j2koC3urUkQirbvueCAhttps://www.officialbsimone.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityThanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation, sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like:
✨ What You’ll Learn:


  • Demisexuality: A sexual orientation where someone experiences sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond.
  • Soul Ties: A deep, often spiritual connection that binds two people, sometimes through shared experiences or intimacy.
  • Chastity: A lifestyle or mindset of aligning one’s sexual behavior and thoughts with personal, moral, or spiritual values, which may or may not involve abstinence.


Together, Shan and B. Simone explore how devotion to faith, self-love, and personal growth can shape intimate relationships and redefine what it means to truly connect with others.
Whether you’re curious about demisexuality, seeking clarity on soul ties, or inspired by the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, this episode is packed with insights that will leave you reflecting on your own path to sacred love.
🎧 Tune in now, and don’t forget to subscribe for more episodes on love, relationships, and self-discovery!


Thank You B. Simone
https://www.instagram.com/thebsimone
Let’s Try This Again: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz67j2koC3urUkQirbvueCA
https://www.officialbsimone.com/


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]]> 3266 Karamo Brown on Evolving Sexual and Emotional Needs Over Time https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/karamo-brown-on-evolving-sexual-and-emotional-needs-over-time Does a change in your intimate needs have to mean a change of heart? In this episode of Lovers Shan Boodram sits down with Karamo Brown, TV personality (Karama and Queer Eye), author, and culture expert, for a raw and revealing conversation about intimacy and growth. Karamo opens up about how his intimate needs evolved through his 20s, 30s, and 40s—both emotionally and in the bedroom. He shares how these changes led to the end of a past relationship, where his partner couldn’t accept his evolving needs without taking it personally.Now, in a thriving new relationship, Karamo reveals how he’s learned to bring his partner along as he navigates these changes, fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is packed with wisdom on embracing growth, improving communication, and honoring your needs without guilt.Karamo Brown, Lovers and Friends Podcast, Lovers by Shan, Shan Boodram, intimacy in relationships, emotional intimacy, evolving needs in relationships, intimacy advice, relationship communication, breakups and growth, thriving relationships, intimacy in 20s 30s 40s, LGBTQ relationships, personal growth, gay relationship advice, sex and relationshipsThank You Karamo Brownhttps://www.instagram.com/karamoLearn About His TV Show: https://karamoshow.com/Get His New Children’s Book: https://zandoprojects.com/books/i-am-okay-to-feel/Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 09 Apr 2025 06:08:32 -0000 Karamo Brown on Evolving Sexual and Emotional Needs Over Time full 2 114 LOVERS by shan Does a change in your intimate needs have to mean a change of heart? In this episode of Lovers Shan Boodram sits down with Karamo Brown, TV personality (Karama and Queer Eye), author, and culture expert, for a raw and revealing conversation about intimacy and growth. Karamo opens up about how his intimate needs evolved through his 20s, 30s, and 40s—both emotionally and in the bedroom. He shares how these changes led to the end of a past relationship, where his partner couldn’t accept his evolving needs without taking it personally.Now, in a thriving new relationship, Karamo reveals how he’s learned to bring his partner along as he navigates these changes, fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is packed with wisdom on embracing growth, improving communication, and honoring your needs without guilt.Karamo Brown, Lovers and Friends Podcast, Lovers by Shan, Shan Boodram, intimacy in relationships, emotional intimacy, evolving needs in relationships, intimacy advice, relationship communication, breakups and growth, thriving relationships, intimacy in 20s 30s 40s, LGBTQ relationships, personal growth, gay relationship advice, sex and relationshipsThank You Karamo Brownhttps://www.instagram.com/karamoLearn About His TV Show: https://karamoshow.com/Get His New Children’s Book: https://zandoprojects.com/books/i-am-okay-to-feel/Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Now, in a thriving new relationship, Karamo reveals how he’s learned to bring his partner along as he navigates these changes, fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is packed with wisdom on embracing growth, improving communication, and honoring your needs without guilt.


Karamo Brown, Lovers and Friends Podcast, Lovers by Shan, Shan Boodram, intimacy in relationships, emotional intimacy, evolving needs in relationships, intimacy advice, relationship communication, breakups and growth, thriving relationships, intimacy in 20s 30s 40s, LGBTQ relationships, personal growth, gay relationship advice, sex and relationships

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https://www.instagram.com/karamo
Learn About His TV Show: https://karamoshow.com/
Get His New Children’s Book: https://zandoprojects.com/books/i-am-okay-to-feel/

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]]> 2852 Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender Roles to Save Their Marriage https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/khadeen-and-devale-ellis-on-defying-gender-roles-to-save-their-marriage Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content creators, and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want From Your Relationship. Known for their hit podcast Dead Ass and their viral YouTube channel chronicling their family life, the Ellises have inspired millions with their relatable and unfiltered take on marriage, parenting, and personal growth. In this episode the couple talks about the controversy over Devale’s vasectomy, being called a simp, making a plate for your husband, and putting your career on pause so the family can win. Thank You Khadeen and Devalehttps://www.instagram.com/khadeeniam/https://www.instagram.com/iamdevale/Read or listen to their book: https://www.amazon.com/We-Over-Counterintuitive-Everything-Relationship/dp/0593577604Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 02 Apr 2025 04:53:18 -0000 Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender Roles to Save Their Marriage full 2 113 LOVERS by shan Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content creators, and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want From Your Relationship. Known for their hit podcast Dead Ass and their viral YouTube channel chronicling their family life, the Ellises have inspired millions with their relatable and unfiltered take on marriage, parenting, and personal growth. In this episode the couple talks about the controversy over Devale’s vasectomy, being called a simp, making a plate for your husband, and putting your career on pause so the family can win. Thank You Khadeen and Devalehttps://www.instagram.com/khadeeniam/https://www.instagram.com/iamdevale/Read or listen to their book: https://www.amazon.com/We-Over-Counterintuitive-Everything-Relationship/dp/0593577604Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.
Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content creators, and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want From Your Relationship. Known for their hit podcast Dead Ass and their viral YouTube channel chronicling their family life, the Ellises have inspired millions with their relatable and unfiltered take on marriage, parenting, and personal growth. In this episode the couple talks about the controversy over Devale’s vasectomy, being called a simp, making a plate for your husband, and putting your career on pause so the family can win. 


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]]> 2671 Jessie Reyez on Why Boundaries Are a Form of Love https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/jessie-reyez-on-why-boundaries-are-a-form-of-love Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship, and embracing her love language—having her alone time respected.We also talk about her upcoming album, Paid in Memories, which promises to be a raw and powerful exploration of love, loss, and acceptance. Don’t miss this candid and inspiring conversation that’s all about choosing yourself, even when it’s hard because self-respect is never up for negotiation.Thank You Bumble This episode of Lovers and Friends is presented by Bumble, where dating your way is always the right way. There’s a world where you can find love that works for you. So date now, on Bumble.Thank You Jessie Reyezhttps://www.instagram.com/jessiereyez/Listen to Jessie’s latest musicJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 26 Mar 2025 04:43:18 -0000 Jessie Reyez on Why Boundaries Are a Form of Love full 2 112 LOVERS by shan Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship, and embracing her love language—having her alone time respected.We also talk about her upcoming album, Paid in Memories, which promises to be a raw and powerful exploration of love, loss, and acceptance. Don’t miss this candid and inspiring conversation that’s all about choosing yourself, even when it’s hard because self-respect is never up for negotiation.Thank You Bumble This episode of Lovers and Friends is presented by Bumble, where dating your way is always the right way. There’s a world where you can find love that works for you. So date now, on Bumble.Thank You Jessie Reyezhttps://www.instagram.com/jessiereyez/Listen to Jessie’s latest musicJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We also talk about her upcoming album, Paid in Memories, which promises to be a raw and powerful exploration of love, loss, and acceptance. Don’t miss this candid and inspiring conversation that’s all about choosing yourself, even when it’s hard because self-respect is never up for negotiation.


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]]> 2723 Deepica Mutyala Breaks Down Dating as a Successful Woman and Manifesting a Relationship With Purpose https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/deepica-mutyala-breaks-down-dating-as-a-successful-woman-and-manifesting-a-relationship-with-purpose In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala, founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur, for an honest and empowering conversation about being single, thriving in your 30s, and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together, Shan and Deepica discuss the challenges of dating when you’re successful, the importance of not settling, and how to embrace being single as a time to grow, reflect, and prepare for the life you truly want. Whether you’re navigating the dating world, focusing on self-growth, or manifesting your dream relationship, this episode will leave you inspired and ready to take on love and life with intention.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Deepicahttps://www.instagram.com/deepicaGet Live Tintedhttps://www.livetinted.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 19 Mar 2025 03:25:12 -0000 Deepica Mutyala Breaks Down Dating as a Successful Woman and Manifesting a Relationship With Purpose full 2 111 LOVERS by shan In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala, founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur, for an honest and empowering conversation about being single, thriving in your 30s, and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together, Shan and Deepica discuss the challenges of dating when you’re successful, the importance of not settling, and how to embrace being single as a time to grow, reflect, and prepare for the life you truly want. Whether you’re navigating the dating world, focusing on self-growth, or manifesting your dream relationship, this episode will leave you inspired and ready to take on love and life with intention.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Deepicahttps://www.instagram.com/deepicaGet Live Tintedhttps://www.livetinted.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 2549 Lena Waithe Reflects on Emotional Intimacy and Platonic Relationships https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/lena-waithe-reflects-on-emotional-intimacy-and-platonic-relationships Lena Waithe on Cuddling Over ClimaxingIn this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena Waithe (Queen & Slim, Master of None, The Chi) for an eye-opening conversation about intimacy, love, and meaningful connections. Lena shares why you should never have sex with someone unless you can imagine a positive aftermath for both of you. She dives into how cuddling can create a deeper emotional bond than sex, especially when the future of a relationship feels uncertain. Lena also opens up about the power of plutonic relationships, revealing why some of her most impactful connections today are non-romantic. With all of the rumors about her love life, Lena sets the record straight and shares what truly matters to her in building authentic connections. This episode will challenge your views on love, intimacy, and boundaries in ways you won’t want to miss!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Lenahttps://www.instagram.com/lenawaithe/Legacy Talk Podcasthttps://lemonada.lnk.to/LegacyTalkWithLenaWaithehs?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZR0rgZOhMXnR_1HkQjiKfKa5_UUPHcXYlKFCmzjhKgXdje2qDlp8lbhmg_aem_wULmegwSQB8ct8zEmMkQfgJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 12 Mar 2025 05:46:57 -0000 Lena Waithe Reflects on Emotional Intimacy and Platonic Relationships full 2 110 LOVERS by shan Lena Waithe on Cuddling Over ClimaxingIn this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena Waithe (Queen & Slim, Master of None, The Chi) for an eye-opening conversation about intimacy, love, and meaningful connections. Lena shares why you should never have sex with someone unless you can imagine a positive aftermath for both of you. She dives into how cuddling can create a deeper emotional bond than sex, especially when the future of a relationship feels uncertain. Lena also opens up about the power of plutonic relationships, revealing why some of her most impactful connections today are non-romantic. With all of the rumors about her love life, Lena sets the record straight and shares what truly matters to her in building authentic connections. This episode will challenge your views on love, intimacy, and boundaries in ways you won’t want to miss!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Lenahttps://www.instagram.com/lenawaithe/Legacy Talk Podcasthttps://lemonada.lnk.to/LegacyTalkWithLenaWaithehs?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZR0rgZOhMXnR_1HkQjiKfKa5_UUPHcXYlKFCmzjhKgXdje2qDlp8lbhmg_aem_wULmegwSQB8ct8zEmMkQfgJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Lena Waithe on Cuddling Over Climaxing
In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena Waithe (Queen & Slim, Master of None, The Chi) for an eye-opening conversation about intimacy, love, and meaningful connections. Lena shares why you should never have sex with someone unless you can imagine a positive aftermath for both of you. She dives into how cuddling can create a deeper emotional bond than sex, especially when the future of a relationship feels uncertain. Lena also opens up about the power of plutonic relationships, revealing why some of her most impactful connections today are non-romantic. With all of the rumors about her love life, Lena sets the record straight and shares what truly matters to her in building authentic connections. This episode will challenge your views on love, intimacy, and boundaries in ways you won’t want to miss!

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]]> 3165 Tika Sumpter Breaks Down What Sex Education Looks At Home https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/tika-sumpter-breaks-down-what-sex-education-looks-at-home What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have? In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter, known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator, explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household, discussions about sex were often avoided or framed solely around negative consequences. This instilled fear and confusion about her own sexuality during her teenage years. In her twenties, Tika found herself navigating relationships without a clear understanding of her body or pleasure, often pretending to have a sexual IQ she hadn't yet developed. Therapy became a turning point, helping her reconnect with herself and embrace her sexual identity.Now, as a mother, Tika is determined to break this cycle for her daughter. On this episode, she opens up about her journey and shares how she is redefining sex and intimacy education in her household. Her goal is to raise her daughter to be a sexually and relationally competent individual, equipped with the tools and knowledge Tika wishes she had earlier in life.Tika is best known for her work on screen but did you know she also makes children’s content? She is the creator of The Adventures of Curious Cove, a podcast anchored by the beloved series Ella the Curious. This project reflects her passion for storytelling and education, making complex topics accessible and engaging for young audiences.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you TikaPreorder Tika's upcoming book!https://tinyurl.com/I-Got-It-From-My-Mama-Bookhttps://www.instagram.com/tikasumpterhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adventures-of-curiosity-cove/id1760587303Age by Age Sexual Development GuideAs per Tika’s request…loversbyshan.com/quizzesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 05 Mar 2025 07:22:40 -0000 Tika Sumpter Breaks Down What Sex Education Looks At Home full 2 109 LOVERS by shan What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have? In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter, known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator, explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household, discussions about sex were often avoided or framed solely around negative consequences. This instilled fear and confusion about her own sexuality during her teenage years. In her twenties, Tika found herself navigating relationships without a clear understanding of her body or pleasure, often pretending to have a sexual IQ she hadn't yet developed. Therapy became a turning point, helping her reconnect with herself and embrace her sexual identity.Now, as a mother, Tika is determined to break this cycle for her daughter. On this episode, she opens up about her journey and shares how she is redefining sex and intimacy education in her household. Her goal is to raise her daughter to be a sexually and relationally competent individual, equipped with the tools and knowledge Tika wishes she had earlier in life.Tika is best known for her work on screen but did you know she also makes children’s content? She is the creator of The Adventures of Curious Cove, a podcast anchored by the beloved series Ella the Curious. This project reflects her passion for storytelling and education, making complex topics accessible and engaging for young audiences.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you TikaPreorder Tika's upcoming book!https://tinyurl.com/I-Got-It-From-My-Mama-Bookhttps://www.instagram.com/tikasumpterhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adventures-of-curiosity-cove/id1760587303Age by Age Sexual Development GuideAs per Tika’s request…loversbyshan.com/quizzesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Now, as a mother, Tika is determined to break this cycle for her daughter. On this episode, she opens up about her journey and shares how she is redefining sex and intimacy education in her household. Her goal is to raise her daughter to be a sexually and relationally competent individual, equipped with the tools and knowledge Tika wishes she had earlier in life.

Tika is best known for her work on screen but did you know she also makes children’s content? She is the creator of The Adventures of Curious Cove, a podcast anchored by the beloved series Ella the Curious. This project reflects her passion for storytelling and education, making complex topics accessible and engaging for young audiences.

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]]> 2719 Singer Mario Opens Up About Emotional Healing After Maternal Trauma https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/singer-mario-opens-up-about-emotional-healing-after-maternal-trauma In this deeply personal episode presented by Bumble, singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He shares how this pain shaped his early behavior towards women, leading to manipulation and broken connections. Mario takes us on his journey of self-reflection, healing, and ultimately embracing his inner feminine energy—a process that not only reshaped his relationships but also elevated his personal growth and artistry.As Mario gets real about accountability, self-love, and the power of healing, he also introduces us to his latest album, "Glad You Came"—a soulful and vulnerable collection of music inspired by his life experiences and growth. Tune in for an honest, thought-provoking conversation that dives into the intersections of trauma, love, and creativity.Don't miss this inspiring episode and be sure to check out Mario's new album, "Glad You Came," now streaming on all platforms!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you MarioInstagram.com/marioworldwide Glad You Came, streaming everywhere you listen to musicThank you AryaA couples subscription service that helps you spice it up with the help of an intimacy concierge, an app and products delivered to your doorhttps://www.arya.fyi/shanMy class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 26 Feb 2025 09:28:35 -0000 Singer Mario Opens Up About Emotional Healing After Maternal Trauma full 2 108 LOVERS by shan In this deeply personal episode presented by Bumble, singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He shares how this pain shaped his early behavior towards women, leading to manipulation and broken connections. Mario takes us on his journey of self-reflection, healing, and ultimately embracing his inner feminine energy—a process that not only reshaped his relationships but also elevated his personal growth and artistry.As Mario gets real about accountability, self-love, and the power of healing, he also introduces us to his latest album, "Glad You Came"—a soulful and vulnerable collection of music inspired by his life experiences and growth. Tune in for an honest, thought-provoking conversation that dives into the intersections of trauma, love, and creativity.Don't miss this inspiring episode and be sure to check out Mario's new album, "Glad You Came," now streaming on all platforms!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you MarioInstagram.com/marioworldwide Glad You Came, streaming everywhere you listen to musicThank you AryaA couples subscription service that helps you spice it up with the help of an intimacy concierge, an app and products delivered to your doorhttps://www.arya.fyi/shanMy class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
As Mario gets real about accountability, self-love, and the power of healing, he also introduces us to his latest album, "Glad You Came"—a soulful and vulnerable collection of music inspired by his life experiences and growth. Tune in for an honest, thought-provoking conversation that dives into the intersections of trauma, love, and creativity.

Don't miss this inspiring episode and be sure to check out Mario's new album, "Glad You Came," now streaming on all platforms!

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Instagram.com/marioworldwide 
Glad You Came, streaming everywhere you listen to music

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]]> 3192 Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/forget-what-you-thought-you-knew-about-good-sex-and-start-here Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling SexSex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.My class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanBetter Sex QuizIf you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quizhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/bettersexCommitment Structure QuizIf Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structurehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/commitmentJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Fri, 21 Feb 2025 06:33:59 -0000 Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE full 1 107 LOVERS by shan Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling SexSex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.My class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanBetter Sex QuizIf you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quizhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/bettersexCommitment Structure QuizIf Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structurehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/commitmentJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling Sex

Sex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?

In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.

Thank you Bumble
This episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.

My class on MasterClass
If you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appeal
masterclass.com/shan

Better Sex Quiz
If you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quiz
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/bettersex

Commitment Structure Quiz
If Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structure
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/commitment

Join My Mailing List
https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter

Lovers Community
If you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlist
https://www.loversbyshan.com/community

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]]> 2409 Kerry Washington: We Are as Sick as Our Secrets https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/kerry-washington-we-are-as-sick-as-our-secrets Kerry Washington, you read right. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with their kids, her parenting philosophy and more. If you loved Kerry Washington in any of her classics, like Scandal or Django Unchained OR if you read her book Thicker Than Water, you will LOVE UnPrisoned and furthermore, this raw interview on the power and potential that comes when you heal the family by not being afraid to hurt or disappoint one another. Of course I couldn’t have Kerry Washington stop by and NOT talk about sex, reproductive rights and pole dancing - so expect that too :). ALSO relationship expert and UnPrisoned creator Tracy McMillan stops by to discuss the power of intuition.Watch the trailer to UnPrisonedhttps://youtu.be/HIn14DY9eFA?si=2VxtEkm6V6_UT3kxWatch UnPrisonedhttps://www.hulu.com/series/unprisoned-5b48cecb-15b5-4e06-b475-f2ac5a64bd24Follow Kerry Washington https://www.instagram.com/kerrywashington/?hl=enWatch her YouTube Show Street You Grew Up Onhttps://youtu.be/Omh270yZLbU?si=Fof717hAfW9Fz8iARead her Memoir Thicker than Waterhttps://www.amazon.com/Thicker-than-Water-Kerry-Washington/dp/0316497398Follow Tracy McMillanhttps://www.instagram.com/tracymcmillan/Thanks to Our Sponsors Hulu Onyx CollectiveFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Fri, 26 Jul 2024 19:26:37 -0000 Kerry Washington: We Are as Sick as Our Secrets full 1 106 LOVERS by shan Kerry Washington, you read right. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with their kids, her parenting philosophy and more. If you loved Kerry Washington in any of her classics, like Scandal or Django Unchained OR if you read her book Thicker Than Water, you will LOVE UnPrisoned and furthermore, this raw interview on the power and potential that comes when you heal the family by not being afraid to hurt or disappoint one another. Of course I couldn’t have Kerry Washington stop by and NOT talk about sex, reproductive rights and pole dancing - so expect that too :). ALSO relationship expert and UnPrisoned creator Tracy McMillan stops by to discuss the power of intuition.Watch the trailer to UnPrisonedhttps://youtu.be/HIn14DY9eFA?si=2VxtEkm6V6_UT3kxWatch UnPrisonedhttps://www.hulu.com/series/unprisoned-5b48cecb-15b5-4e06-b475-f2ac5a64bd24Follow Kerry Washington https://www.instagram.com/kerrywashington/?hl=enWatch her YouTube Show Street You Grew Up Onhttps://youtu.be/Omh270yZLbU?si=Fof717hAfW9Fz8iARead her Memoir Thicker than Waterhttps://www.amazon.com/Thicker-than-Water-Kerry-Washington/dp/0316497398Follow Tracy McMillanhttps://www.instagram.com/tracymcmillan/Thanks to Our Sponsors Hulu Onyx CollectiveFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with their kids, her parenting philosophy and more. If you loved Kerry Washington in any of her classics, like Scandal or Django Unchained OR if you read her book Thicker Than Water, you will LOVE UnPrisoned and furthermore, this raw interview on the power and potential that comes when you heal the family by not being afraid to hurt or disappoint one another. Of course I couldn’t have Kerry Washington stop by and NOT talk about sex, reproductive rights and pole dancing - so expect that too :). ALSO relationship expert and UnPrisoned creator Tracy McMillan stops by to discuss the power of intuition.


Watch the trailer to UnPrisoned

https://youtu.be/HIn14DY9eFA?si=2VxtEkm6V6_UT3kx


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]]> 3703 Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/kelly-rowland-on-sex-kink-divorce-and-repressed-desires Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confidence to play Mea in Mea Clupa alongside Trevante Rhodes, whom she shares very STEAMY sex scenes with on screen. Kelly also discusses her feelings on divorce, kink, toys in the bedroom, and overcoming the fear of being imperfect.Watch the trailer to Mea Culpahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAFollow Kelly https://www.instagram.com/kellyrowland/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAThanks to Our Sponsors DAMEHead to http://dame.com at dame.com and if you’d like to pick something up, my code SHANLOVERS gets you 15% off at checkoutARYA Head to http://arya.fyi to learn how they’re helping couples break their sexual routine and if you’re interested in trying it code SHAN15 gets you 15% off nowFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Mon, 26 Feb 2024 19:23:11 -0000 Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires full 1 105 LOVERS by shan Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confidence to play Mea in Mea Clupa alongside Trevante Rhodes, whom she shares very STEAMY sex scenes with on screen. Kelly also discusses her feelings on divorce, kink, toys in the bedroom, and overcoming the fear of being imperfect.Watch the trailer to Mea Culpahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAFollow Kelly https://www.instagram.com/kellyrowland/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAThanks to Our Sponsors DAMEHead to http://dame.com at dame.com and if you’d like to pick something up, my code SHANLOVERS gets you 15% off at checkoutARYA Head to http://arya.fyi to learn how they’re helping couples break their sexual routine and if you’re interested in trying it code SHAN15 gets you 15% off nowFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3426 Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/ride-our-emotional-roller-coaster-the-concluding-episode-of-lovers-friends Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORONSEKINGo to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15GLO ATANMOhttps://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8fhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMAJESSIE REYEShttps://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTAMELISSA AND KEVhttps://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZAABBY DE LA ROSAhttps://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9Vhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7QSHANOLA HAMPTONhttps://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1uhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRgTIM DE LA GHETTOhttps://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srqhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8ogDREW LOVEhttps://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gmhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMogRACHEL LINDSAYhttps://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQHELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASMhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0SwSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 27 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000 Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends full 1 104 LOVERS by shan Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORONSEKINGo to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15GLO ATANMOhttps://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8fhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMAJESSIE REYEShttps://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTAMELISSA AND KEVhttps://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZAABBY DE LA ROSAhttps://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9Vhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7QSHANOLA HAMPTONhttps://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1uhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRgTIM DE LA GHETTOhttps://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srqhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8ogDREW LOVEhttps://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gmhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMogRACHEL LINDSAYhttps://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQHELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASMhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0SwSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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]]> 5333 Get the Fairytale You Need - Despite What You Think You Want feat. Damona Hoffman https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/get-the-fairytale-you-need-despite-what-you-think-you-want-feat-damona-hoffman FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now!FOLLOW DAMONA HOFFMANhttps://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/https://damonahoffman.com/ RitualVisit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Ritual is offering Lovers and Friends 30% off during your first month. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! Quince Go to http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns!DamonaFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 20 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0000 Get the Fairytale You Need - Despite What You Think You Want feat. Damona Hoffman full 1 103 LOVERS by shan FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now!FOLLOW DAMONA HOFFMANhttps://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/https://damonahoffman.com/ RitualVisit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Ritual is offering Lovers and Friends 30% off during your first month. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! Quince Go to http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns!DamonaFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 4095 If Someone Says I’m Too Feminine or Too Masculine, I Know We Won’t Work feat. Mal Wright https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/if-someone-says-i-m-too-feminine-or-too-masculine-i-know-we-won-t-work-feat-mal-wright Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self! Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/https://malwright.komi.io/Thanks to Our SponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BABBELGet 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 13 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0000 If Someone Says I’m Too Feminine or Too Masculine, I Know We Won’t Work feat. Mal Wright full 1 102 LOVERS by shan Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self! Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/https://malwright.komi.io/Thanks to Our SponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BABBELGet 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 4250 A Therapist and Her Husband Chose To Be Childfree. Here's Why feat. Vanessa and Xander Marin https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/a-therapist-and-her-husband-chose-to-be-childfree-heres-why-feat-vanessa-and-xander-marin Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives!Follow Vanessa and Xander Marinhttps://sextalksbook.com/https://vmtherapy.com/HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! StoryWorthGo to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase! Zoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 06 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0000 A Therapist and Her Husband Chose To Be Childfree. Here's Why feat. Vanessa and Xander Marin full 1 101 LOVERS by shan Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives!Follow Vanessa and Xander Marinhttps://sextalksbook.com/https://vmtherapy.com/HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! StoryWorthGo to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase! Zoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 2759 If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/if-you-haven-t-found-your-go-to-position-try-these-from-the-kama-sutra-feat-seema-anand Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema!Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift OneSkinGet 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramTiktok.com/shanboody See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 29 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0000 If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand full 1 99 LOVERS by shan Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema!Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift OneSkinGet 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramTiktok.com/shanboody See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.

She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.

Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.

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]]> 3427 Tonight's Conversation vs Lovers and Friends: Orgasm Gap and Relationships Being Mid https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/tonights-conversation-vs-lovers-and-friends-orgasm-gap-and-relationships-being-mid Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner.FOLLOW Tonight's Conversationhttps://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcardsACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=enMIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8Thanks to our sponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSRitualRitual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription todayLumeAs a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.comHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 22 Nov 2023 22:05:45 -0000 Tonight's Conversation vs Lovers and Friends: Orgasm Gap and Relationships Being Mid full 1 98 LOVERS by shan Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner.FOLLOW Tonight's Conversationhttps://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcardsACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=enMIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8Thanks to our sponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSRitualRitual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription todayLumeAs a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.comHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3537 Why Is ShxtsNGigs Dominating the Sex / Relationship Podcast Game? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/why-is-shxtsngigs-dominating-the-sex-relationship-podcast-game This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow  ShxtsNGigs   : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/Follow ShxtNGigs: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcastFollow James Duncan : https://www.instagram.com/jamesduncan/Follow Fuhad : https://www.instagram.com/fuhad_/Babbel Http://Babbel.com/LOVERS to Get 55% off at Babbel. Rules and restrictions may applySkimsHoliday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.OneSkinget 15% off OneSkin with our code LOVERS15 at http://oneskin.cothis show is sponsored by BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 15 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Why Is ShxtsNGigs Dominating the Sex / Relationship Podcast Game? full 1 97 LOVERS by shan This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow  ShxtsNGigs   : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/Follow ShxtNGigs: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcastFollow James Duncan : https://www.instagram.com/jamesduncan/Follow Fuhad : https://www.instagram.com/fuhad_/Babbel Http://Babbel.com/LOVERS to Get 55% off at Babbel. Rules and restrictions may applySkimsHoliday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.OneSkinget 15% off OneSkin with our code LOVERS15 at http://oneskin.cothis show is sponsored by BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. 

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]]> 4068 I Love Older Men, but I Regret Dating Them in My Twenties feat. Anna Akana https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-love-older-men-but-i-regret-dating-them-in-my-twenties-feat-anna-akana Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner.Follow Anna Akana https://www.instagram.com/annaakanahttps://www.youtube.com/annaakanahttps://www.squadup.com/events/it-gets-darker-anna-akana-friends-1Thanks to our sponsorsFirst LeafGo to http://TryFirstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95. UNCOMMON GOODSTo get 15% off your next gift, go to http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERSHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! ZocdocGo to http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0000 I Love Older Men, but I Regret Dating Them in My Twenties feat. Anna Akana full 1 96 LOVERS by shan Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner.Follow Anna Akana https://www.instagram.com/annaakanahttps://www.youtube.com/annaakanahttps://www.squadup.com/events/it-gets-darker-anna-akana-friends-1Thanks to our sponsorsFirst LeafGo to http://TryFirstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95. UNCOMMON GOODSTo get 15% off your next gift, go to http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERSHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! ZocdocGo to http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3326 No, THAT’S Not Normal! How Hormones Could Be Impacting Your Sex Life and Health https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/no-that-s-not-normal-how-hormones-could-be-impacting-your-sex-life-and-health Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten.Thanks to our sponsorsOne Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSQuincehttp://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS for 15% offThanks to Our Guesthttps://drbrighten.com/https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrightenFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0000 No, THAT’S Not Normal! How Hormones Could Be Impacting Your Sex Life and Health full 1 95 LOVERS by shan Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten.Thanks to our sponsorsOne Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSQuincehttp://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS for 15% offThanks to Our Guesthttps://drbrighten.com/https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrightenFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 4407 Self Love: My Key to Not Being Blinded By Hurt and Constant Criticism https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/self-love-my-key-to-not-being-blinded-by-hurt-and-constant-criticism Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things.Thanks to the sponsors of this episodeBetterHelp is sponsoring this episodeVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthRitualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 30% off your first monthSkimsGo to http://SKIMS.com and get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollarsFactorHead to http://FACTOR MEALS.com/lovers50 and use code lovers50 to get 50% offFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 25 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Self Love: My Key to Not Being Blinded By Hurt and Constant Criticism full 1 94 LOVERS by shan Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things.Thanks to the sponsors of this episodeBetterHelp is sponsoring this episodeVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthRitualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 30% off your first monthSkimsGo to http://SKIMS.com and get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollarsFactorHead to http://FACTOR MEALS.com/lovers50 and use code lovers50 to get 50% offFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3758 I Understand Jada Pinkett Smith and Will's Relationship because of This https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-understand-jada-pinkett-smith-and-wills-relationship-because-of-this Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy.Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my momhttps://www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholiviahttps://www.youtube.com/c/YourTravelWithOliviaThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHelloFreshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping!One Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offFirst LeafTry http://Firstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95 Books I suggested in this episodehttps://www.amazon.com/shop/shanboody/list/3IM9P9FGJOL9J?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfshanboody_TFZ9F6EQ6YY0ZZYBYT2JFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 19 Oct 2023 03:01:10 -0000 I Understand Jada Pinkett Smith and Will's Relationship because of This full 1 93 LOVERS by shan Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy.Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my momhttps://www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholiviahttps://www.youtube.com/c/YourTravelWithOliviaThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHelloFreshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping!One Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offFirst LeafTry http://Firstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95 Books I suggested in this episodehttps://www.amazon.com/shop/shanboody/list/3IM9P9FGJOL9J?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfshanboody_TFZ9F6EQ6YY0ZZYBYT2JFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3826 I Never Stayed Past the Honeymoon Phase and Here’s Why feat. Brenden Durell https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-never-stayed-past-the-honeymoon-phase-and-here-s-why-feat-brenden-durell Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance!Thanks to the Sponsors of this EpisodeJenni Kaynehttp://jennikayne.com use the code LOVERS at checkout to get 15% offThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthDipsea Stories http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS for 30 days of full access for free Babbelhttp://babbel.com/lovers to Get 55% off Rules and restrictions may apply.Follow Brenden https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/?hl=enhttps://mylinks.brendendurell.com/Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 11 Oct 2023 05:11:40 -0000 I Never Stayed Past the Honeymoon Phase and Here’s Why feat. Brenden Durell full 1 92 LOVERS by shan Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance!Thanks to the Sponsors of this EpisodeJenni Kaynehttp://jennikayne.com use the code LOVERS at checkout to get 15% offThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthDipsea Stories http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS for 30 days of full access for free Babbelhttp://babbel.com/lovers to Get 55% off Rules and restrictions may apply.Follow Brenden https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/?hl=enhttps://mylinks.brendendurell.com/Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3657 How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/how-i-stopped-searching-for-love-in-lost-people-feat-leah-lamarr How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends. Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:Self-awareness and reflection Next, Examine past patternsUnderstand the biologyCognitive-behavioral techniques Increase self-worthExpand your social circleEducate yourselfAvoid idealizationpractice mindfulnessFollow Leah Lamarrhttps://www.instagram.com/leahlamarrhttps://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/ Show Love to Our SponsorsZoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shippingSkimsTry The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want!  Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 04 Oct 2023 04:06:29 -0000 How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr full 1 91 LOVERS by shan How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends. Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:Self-awareness and reflection Next, Examine past patternsUnderstand the biologyCognitive-behavioral techniques Increase self-worthExpand your social circleEducate yourselfAvoid idealizationpractice mindfulnessFollow Leah Lamarrhttps://www.instagram.com/leahlamarrhttps://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/ Show Love to Our SponsorsZoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shippingSkimsTry The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want!  Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:

Self-awareness and reflection 
Next, Examine past patterns
Understand the biology
Cognitive-behavioral techniques 
Increase self-worth
Expand your social circle
Educate yourself
Avoid idealization
practice mindfulness

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]]> 4307 Do Relationships Really Need To Be Hard Work? A Reality Check feat. Nina Westbrook https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/do-relationships-really-need-to-be-hard-work-a-reality-check-feat-nina-westbrook Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work? Well, it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook! Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrookhttps://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrookhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicleshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-chronicles-with-nina-westbrook/id1696624137Thanks to our sponsorsFactor Mealshttp://FACTORMEALS.com/lovers50 use code lovers50 to get 50% This video is sponsored by BetterHelpBetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthAcornshttp://acorns.com/lovers to download Acorns to start saving and investing for your future today! Ritualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.EXTRAS in this episode I reference Naval RavikantAnd used a clip from Esther Perel’s videos https://youtu.be/ejTBjX4Cu6Y?si=uy7tyOEeYAZnxs5QFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 27 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Do Relationships Really Need To Be Hard Work? A Reality Check feat. Nina Westbrook full 1 90 LOVERS by shan Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work? Well, it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook! Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrookhttps://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrookhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicleshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-chronicles-with-nina-westbrook/id1696624137Thanks to our sponsorsFactor Mealshttp://FACTORMEALS.com/lovers50 use code lovers50 to get 50% This video is sponsored by BetterHelpBetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthAcornshttp://acorns.com/lovers to download Acorns to start saving and investing for your future today! Ritualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.EXTRAS in this episode I reference Naval RavikantAnd used a clip from Esther Perel’s videos https://youtu.be/ejTBjX4Cu6Y?si=uy7tyOEeYAZnxs5QFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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]]> 3864 CONFESSIONS FROM A SEX COACH FOR MEN ft. Alex Grendi https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/confessions-from-a-sex-coach-for-men-ft-alex-grendi Here’s what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partner…How do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed? Why should men stop watching porn? How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed? Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork? Alex Grendi is a certified men’s sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. He’s here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is. Some of you have mentioned that you like the longer solo interview episodes and that’s what this is. Follow Alex Grendi www.youtube.com/@alex.grendiwww.superiorlovers.comemail - alex@superiorlovers.comThanks to our SponsorsLiquid IVhttp://LIQUIDIV.COM using the promo code LOVERS at checkout for a 20%Skimshttp://skims.comDipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSGet an extended 30 day free trial Hello Freshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 20 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0000 CONFESSIONS FROM A SEX COACH FOR MEN ft. Alex Grendi full 1 89 LOVERS by shan Here’s what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partner…How do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed? Why should men stop watching porn? How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed? Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork? Alex Grendi is a certified men’s sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. He’s here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is. Some of you have mentioned that you like the longer solo interview episodes and that’s what this is. Follow Alex Grendi www.youtube.com/@alex.grendiwww.superiorlovers.comemail - alex@superiorlovers.comThanks to our SponsorsLiquid IVhttp://LIQUIDIV.COM using the promo code LOVERS at checkout for a 20%Skimshttp://skims.comDipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSGet an extended 30 day free trial Hello Freshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 4223 An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/an-uncommon-guide-to-the-kama-sutra-youll-be-shocked-by-what-we-found-feat-seema-anand The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life.On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. Babbelhttp://Babbel.com/loversGet 55% off your Babbel subscriptionZocdochttp://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 13 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0000 An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand full 1 88 LOVERS by shan The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life.On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. Babbelhttp://Babbel.com/loversGet 55% off your Babbel subscriptionZocdochttp://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.

She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.
Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.

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]]> 3497 How to Stay Together When The World Around You Is Falling Apart https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/how-to-stay-together-when-the-world-around-you-is-falling-apart This week I needed some breathing room so I brought in my ventilator aka husband Jared Brady.Listen to Pick a Side https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4sasTfLuqSzV6hxtYKWSPu?si=12a9d1fbf6434ebeThanks to Our SponsorHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 06 Sep 2023 03:59:05 -0000 How to Stay Together When The World Around You Is Falling Apart full 1 87 LOVERS by shan This week I needed some breathing room so I brought in my ventilator aka husband Jared Brady.Listen to Pick a Side https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4sasTfLuqSzV6hxtYKWSPu?si=12a9d1fbf6434ebeThanks to Our SponsorHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 2062 What it REALLY Takes to Get in the Mood at the Same Time Ft. Elaine Welteroth & Jonathan Singletary https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/what-it-really-takes-to-get-in-the-mood-at-the-same-time-ft-elaine-welteroth-jonathan-singletary What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation.Thanks to Our SponsorsRitualhttp://Ritual.com/LOVERSRitual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first monthFabFitFunhttp://FabFitFun.com/LOVERSSign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. Dipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSDipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletaryFollow our guestsJonathan Singletaryhttps://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletaryhttps://linktr.ee/jsingletaryElaine Welterothhttps://www.instagram.com/elainewelterothhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/Jared Bradyhttp://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 30 Aug 2023 20:02:45 -0000 What it REALLY Takes to Get in the Mood at the Same Time Ft. Elaine Welteroth & Jonathan Singletary full 1 86 LOVERS by shan What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation.Thanks to Our SponsorsRitualhttp://Ritual.com/LOVERSRitual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first monthFabFitFunhttp://FabFitFun.com/LOVERSSign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. Dipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSDipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletaryFollow our guestsJonathan Singletaryhttps://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletaryhttps://linktr.ee/jsingletaryElaine Welterothhttps://www.instagram.com/elainewelterothhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/Jared Bradyhttp://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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]]> 4018 This Is What Happens When You Marry Your Maybe feat. The Marriage Pact Couples https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/this-is-what-happens-when-you-marry-your-maybe-feat-the-marriage-pact-couples Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete.Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five…There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel.You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode SKIMSCheckout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks!Hello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping!Liquid IVGet 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkoutBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 24 Aug 2023 08:50:03 -0000 This Is What Happens When You Marry Your Maybe feat. The Marriage Pact Couples full 1 85 LOVERS by shan Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete.Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five…There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel.You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode SKIMSCheckout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks!Hello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping!Liquid IVGet 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkoutBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five…
There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel.

You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks.

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]]> 5840 The TRUTH About Freaky Women and Men Who Can’t Stay with Them feat. Ashley Cobb https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-truth-about-freaky-women-and-men-who-can-t-stay-with-them-feat-ashley-cobb Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with?Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex.So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable. If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with.Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@loversandfriendspodcastThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHoneyLoveGet 20% Off your entire order (including the best bra you’ll own) with our exclusive link http://honeylove.com/LOVERS.BabbelReady to learn another language? Get up to 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSRules and restrictions may applyFabFitFunSign up at http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS to get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow our guest Ashley Cobbhttps://www.instagram.com/sexwithashley/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 16 Aug 2023 04:03:46 -0000 The TRUTH About Freaky Women and Men Who Can’t Stay with Them feat. Ashley Cobb full 1 84 LOVERS by shan Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with?Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex.So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable. If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with.Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@loversandfriendspodcastThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHoneyLoveGet 20% Off your entire order (including the best bra you’ll own) with our exclusive link http://honeylove.com/LOVERS.BabbelReady to learn another language? Get up to 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSRules and restrictions may applyFabFitFunSign up at http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS to get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow our guest Ashley Cobbhttps://www.instagram.com/sexwithashley/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with?


Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex.


So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable. 
If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with.


Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcast
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]]> 3722 Do YOU Do These 5 Things? Find Out If You're A Freak Or Prude ft. Andrea Lewis and Glam Erotica https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/do-you-do-these-5-things-find-out-if-youre-a-freak-or-prude-ft-andrea-lewis-and-glam-erotica Would you consider yourself a freak? Being freaky means you are open and willing to experiment and experience a variety of sexual activities. That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky?I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways”  which you can watch now on Hulu. I am also joined by Tyomi,  a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience.  She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh!Try out America’s #1 meal kit for yourself! Get 50% off plus free shipping!https://www.hellofresh.com/50loversZocdocDownload the app for free and find yourself a top-rated doctor!https://www.zocdoc.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/andrealewishttps://www.instagram.com/blackbeautyeffect/Watch Three Ways on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/three-ways-7afd18f4-5b2c-4097-b532-bd956aa21bd4Follow Tyomi: https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/https://www.youtube.com/glamerotica101See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 09 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Do YOU Do These 5 Things? Find Out If You're A Freak Or Prude ft. Andrea Lewis and Glam Erotica full 1 83 LOVERS by shan Would you consider yourself a freak? Being freaky means you are open and willing to experiment and experience a variety of sexual activities. That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky?I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways”  which you can watch now on Hulu. I am also joined by Tyomi,  a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience.  She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh!Try out America’s #1 meal kit for yourself! Get 50% off plus free shipping!https://www.hellofresh.com/50loversZocdocDownload the app for free and find yourself a top-rated doctor!https://www.zocdoc.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/andrealewishttps://www.instagram.com/blackbeautyeffect/Watch Three Ways on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/three-ways-7afd18f4-5b2c-4097-b532-bd956aa21bd4Follow Tyomi: https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/https://www.youtube.com/glamerotica101See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky?

I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways”  which you can watch now on Hulu. 

I am also joined by Tyomi,  a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience.  She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak.

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!

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]]> 2589 Saggy Breasts, Strong Confidence- Embracing Ourselves Before S*x ft Jessie Paege https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/saggy-breasts-strong-confidence-embracing-ourselves-before-s-x-ft-jessie-paege What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved”  Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #adRitual:There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month. Visit: https://www.ritual.com/loversFactor:Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting: https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Jessie: https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaegehttps://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaegeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 02 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Saggy Breasts, Strong Confidence- Embracing Ourselves Before S*x ft Jessie Paege full LOVERS by shan What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved”  Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #adRitual:There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month. Visit: https://www.ritual.com/loversFactor:Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting: https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Jessie: https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaegehttps://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaegeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. 

In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. 

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]]> 3537 Pointless Sex? The Truth About Not Orgasming Feat. Pour Minds https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/pointless-sex-the-truth-about-not-orgasming-feat-pour-minds Sex that doesn’t lead to orgasm.. Sound familiar? What if I said that sex that doesn’t lead to the big O can actually be very fulfilling and a lot more common than you think?Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances.The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Rizos CurlsGet 10% off your Rizos Curls order with promo code LOVERS at checkout https://bit.ly/3XOE8tZ)Liquid IVGet 20% off ANYTHING you order when you use promo code LOVERS http://LIQUID IV DOT COM.SkimsGet free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars - all at http://SKIMS.comBetter Help get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting http://BetterHelp.com/lovers Follow Pour MindsListen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-much-pressure-ft-dess-dior/id1438182646?i=1000580429867Watch the YouTube videos:https://www.youtube.com/@DreaAndLex/videosFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 26 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Pointless Sex? The Truth About Not Orgasming Feat. Pour Minds full 1 82 LOVERS by shan Sex that doesn’t lead to orgasm.. Sound familiar? What if I said that sex that doesn’t lead to the big O can actually be very fulfilling and a lot more common than you think?Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances.The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Rizos CurlsGet 10% off your Rizos Curls order with promo code LOVERS at checkout https://bit.ly/3XOE8tZ)Liquid IVGet 20% off ANYTHING you order when you use promo code LOVERS http://LIQUID IV DOT COM.SkimsGet free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars - all at http://SKIMS.comBetter Help get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting http://BetterHelp.com/lovers Follow Pour MindsListen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-much-pressure-ft-dess-dior/id1438182646?i=1000580429867Watch the YouTube videos:https://www.youtube.com/@DreaAndLex/videosFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances.
The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.


That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds. 

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]]> 3658 Is SEX Ruined By OVERTHINKING? Tell the Truth, is it Pee? Is it Monogamy if We Have Threesomes? Your Questions Answered with Ricky Shucks https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/is-sex-ruined-by-overthinking-tell-the-truth-is-it-pee-is-it-monogamy-if-we-have-threesomes-your-questions-answered-with-ricky-shucks This episode felt like a poon and the peen throwback.. If you know, you know! In this episode I sat down with my friend Ricky Shucks and we answered some of your best sex questions.  Am I ruining sex by overthinking? Is squirting actually pee?  Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Fab Fit FunIf you join FabFitFun as a NEW seasonal member right now you’ll also get 20% off your membership so your 1st box is only $47.99 - for up to a $300 value box each season.Join today:http://www.fabfitfun.com/loversZoc DocFind a top rated doctor for your needs today: http://www.zocdoc.com/loversHoney Love Treat yourself to the best shapewear and supportwear on the market plus save 20% off by visiting: http://www.honeylove.com/loversHello Fresh Try America’s # 1 meal kit for yourself: http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Rickyhttps://www.instagram.com/rickyshucks/?hl=enhttps://www.goodiebrand.com/https://www.instagram.com/nochasergang/?hl=enSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 19 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Is SEX Ruined By OVERTHINKING? Tell the Truth, is it Pee? Is it Monogamy if We Have Threesomes? Your Questions Answered with Ricky Shucks full 1 81 LOVERS by shan This episode felt like a poon and the peen throwback.. If you know, you know! In this episode I sat down with my friend Ricky Shucks and we answered some of your best sex questions.  Am I ruining sex by overthinking? Is squirting actually pee?  Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Fab Fit FunIf you join FabFitFun as a NEW seasonal member right now you’ll also get 20% off your membership so your 1st box is only $47.99 - for up to a $300 value box each season.Join today:http://www.fabfitfun.com/loversZoc DocFind a top rated doctor for your needs today: http://www.zocdoc.com/loversHoney Love Treat yourself to the best shapewear and supportwear on the market plus save 20% off by visiting: http://www.honeylove.com/loversHello Fresh Try America’s # 1 meal kit for yourself: http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Rickyhttps://www.instagram.com/rickyshucks/?hl=enhttps://www.goodiebrand.com/https://www.instagram.com/nochasergang/?hl=enSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
  • Am I ruining sex by overthinking?
  • Is squirting actually pee? 
  • Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes?

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]]> 3882 Keke Palmer's Baby Mama Drama, Jonah Hill Gets Out Of Line with Boundaries, and Adam 22 Wants Outrage Over His Open Marriage https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/keke-palmers-baby-mama-drama-jonah-hill-gets-out-of-line-with-boundaries-and-adam-22-wants-outrage-over-his-open-marriage Hello lovers and friends. This week’s episode is a little different and it’s because I had a lot to say on some trending pop culture news. To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.” Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.”Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene.Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Better Help!Try therapy yourself and get 10% off your first month by going to:https://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comArticles:https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leylamohammed/keke-palmer-shamed-boyfriend-darius-jackson-outfit-momhttps://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/keke-palmer-feels-powerful-as-a-mom-amid-darius-jackson-drama/https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2023/07/10/what-to-know-about-jonah-hills-emotional-abuse-allegatiohttps://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-responsehttps://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12283131/Adam22s-wife-says-theyve-sex-filmed-porn-scene-man.htmlSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 12 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Keke Palmer's Baby Mama Drama, Jonah Hill Gets Out Of Line with Boundaries, and Adam 22 Wants Outrage Over His Open Marriage full 1 80 LOVERS by shan Hello lovers and friends. This week’s episode is a little different and it’s because I had a lot to say on some trending pop culture news. To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.” Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.”Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene.Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Better Help!Try therapy yourself and get 10% off your first month by going to:https://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comArticles:https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leylamohammed/keke-palmer-shamed-boyfriend-darius-jackson-outfit-momhttps://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/keke-palmer-feels-powerful-as-a-mom-amid-darius-jackson-drama/https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2023/07/10/what-to-know-about-jonah-hills-emotional-abuse-allegatiohttps://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-responsehttps://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12283131/Adam22s-wife-says-theyve-sex-filmed-porn-scene-man.htmlSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.” 

Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.”

Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene.

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https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748

https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-response

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]]> 2626 From Being Flewed Out to Flying Solo ft Qimmah Russo https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/from-being-flewed-out-to-flying-solo-ft-qimmah-russo According to the PEW research center about 41% of people between the ages of 18 to 29 are single. For people aged 30 to 49 that number drops dramatically to 23% and then it raises back up a scotch to 28% for those between 50 to 64, before increasing again to 36% for the 65+ crowd. So what does this tell us? My interpretation? On one hand, it tells the story of millennials' decline in divorce rates and on the other the fact that  it showcases our increase in being consciously single for a lot longer than previous generations and in some cases, for the long haul. So can you still enjoy dating even if none of the dates go anywhere? In this episode, I sit down with Qimmah Russo, an influencer, model and athlete and she shares her perspective on this. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Get 55% off your Babbel subscription- by going to: https://www.babbel.com/loversTry America’s #1 Meal Kit and get 50% off plus free shipping by going to:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50Try Ritual for yourself and get 20% off your first month by going to: https://ritual.com/loversFollow the guests on this episode:https://www.instagram.com/qimmahrussohttps://www.instagram.com/workoutsbyqimmah/Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 05 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0000 From Being Flewed Out to Flying Solo ft Qimmah Russo full 1 79 LOVERS by shan According to the PEW research center about 41% of people between the ages of 18 to 29 are single. For people aged 30 to 49 that number drops dramatically to 23% and then it raises back up a scotch to 28% for those between 50 to 64, before increasing again to 36% for the 65+ crowd. So what does this tell us? My interpretation? On one hand, it tells the story of millennials' decline in divorce rates and on the other the fact that  it showcases our increase in being consciously single for a lot longer than previous generations and in some cases, for the long haul. So can you still enjoy dating even if none of the dates go anywhere? In this episode, I sit down with Qimmah Russo, an influencer, model and athlete and she shares her perspective on this. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Get 55% off your Babbel subscription- by going to: https://www.babbel.com/loversTry America’s #1 Meal Kit and get 50% off plus free shipping by going to:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50Try Ritual for yourself and get 20% off your first month by going to: https://ritual.com/loversFollow the guests on this episode:https://www.instagram.com/qimmahrussohttps://www.instagram.com/workoutsbyqimmah/Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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]]> 3135 Your F*ck Buddy Might be The One ft. Siffat Haider and Nish Samantray https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/your-f-ck-buddy-might-be-the-one-ft-siffat-haider-and-nish-samantray According to the Singles in America study 55% of people reported that they’ve had a friends with benefits, which is a relationship where two people agree to have a sexual relationship based on convenience and a social relationship without a romantic commitment.And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair.So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go? In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider  and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. HoneyLove Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/lovers  #honeylovepodBetterHelp Find more balance with BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSiffat: https://www.instagram.com/siffhaiderNish: https://www.instagram.com/plentyofnish_Check out Arrae: https://www.arrae.comKrista: https://www.instagram.com/itskristaKrizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 28 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Your F*ck Buddy Might be The One ft. Siffat Haider and Nish Samantray full 1 78 LOVERS by shan According to the Singles in America study 55% of people reported that they’ve had a friends with benefits, which is a relationship where two people agree to have a sexual relationship based on convenience and a social relationship without a romantic commitment.And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair.So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go? In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider  and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. HoneyLove Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/lovers  #honeylovepodBetterHelp Find more balance with BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSiffat: https://www.instagram.com/siffhaiderNish: https://www.instagram.com/plentyofnish_Check out Arrae: https://www.arrae.comKrista: https://www.instagram.com/itskristaKrizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair.

So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go? 

In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider  and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness. 

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]]> 4295 The Hidden Cost of Ungratefulness in Relationships feat. Dante Jones https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-hidden-cost-of-ungratefulness-in-relationships-feat-dante-jones In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation.  The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress. All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Zocdochttps://www.zocdoc.com/loversHello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversCaraway Homehttps://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited:https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happierFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Dante https://www.instagram.com/tefromtheyhttps://www.unofficialthey.com/tourFollow Dr. Sophia Godkinhttps://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 21 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0000 The Hidden Cost of Ungratefulness in Relationships feat. Dante Jones full 1 77 LOVERS by shan In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation.  The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress. All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Zocdochttps://www.zocdoc.com/loversHello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversCaraway Homehttps://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited:https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happierFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Dante https://www.instagram.com/tefromtheyhttps://www.unofficialthey.com/tourFollow Dr. Sophia Godkinhttps://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. 

In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. 

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. 

Zocdoc

https://www.zocdoc.com/lovers

Hello Fresh:

https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16

Blissy 
https://www.blissy.com/lovers

Caraway Home
https://www.carawayhome.com/lovers

Article sited:
https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier

Follow Shan
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loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow Dante 
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https://www.unofficialthey.com/tour


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]]> 2971 More Sex Does Not Make You Better in Bed, but THIS Will feat. Emily Morse https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/more-sex-does-not-make-you-better-in-bed-but-this-will-feat-emily-morse Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily.  Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. ·  A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright.·  Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between.·  The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms.· Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.)·   And so much moreFIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY:Pillar #1: EmbodimentPillar #2: Health Pillar #3: CollaborationPillar #4: Self- knowledge Pillar #5:  Self acceptance Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Babbel:www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. Betterhelp: www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month  Hungryroot:  www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free  veggies. Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Emily: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemilyGet Emily's new book:https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 14 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0000 More Sex Does Not Make You Better in Bed, but THIS Will feat. Emily Morse full 1 76 LOVERS by shan Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily.  Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. ·  A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright.·  Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between.·  The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms.· Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.)·   And so much moreFIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY:Pillar #1: EmbodimentPillar #2: Health Pillar #3: CollaborationPillar #4: Self- knowledge Pillar #5:  Self acceptance Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Babbel:www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. Betterhelp: www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month  Hungryroot:  www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free  veggies. Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Emily: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemilyGet Emily's new book:https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.  Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. 
·  A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright.
·  Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between.
·  The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms.
· Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.)
·   And so much more

FIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY:

Pillar #1: Embodiment
Pillar #2: Health 
Pillar #3: Collaboration
Pillar #4: Self- knowledge 
Pillar #5:  Self acceptance 

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. 

Babbel:
www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. 

Betterhelp: 
www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month 

 Hungryroot: 
 www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free  veggies. 

Follow Shan:
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loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow Emily: 
https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily

Get Emily's new book:

https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1

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]]> 3508 If You're Not Paying the Bills, What ARE You Doing? Feat. Cocktales https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/if-youre-not-paying-the-bills-what-are-you-doing-feat-cocktales If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others.And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to:Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships. Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying?  In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term partner. Here is your conversation starter pack: What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today?What are you interested in getting better at bringing?What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry?How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards?How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours?Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Ritual: Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months. HelloFresh: Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the ladies of Cocktales: https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/Follow the Matchmaking Duo:https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/Follow Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 07 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0000 If You're Not Paying the Bills, What ARE You Doing? Feat. Cocktales full 1 75 LOVERS by shan If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others.And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to:Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships. Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying?  In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term partner. Here is your conversation starter pack: What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today?What are you interested in getting better at bringing?What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry?How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards?How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours?Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Ritual: Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months. HelloFresh: Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the ladies of Cocktales: https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/Follow the Matchmaking Duo:https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/Follow Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to:

  • Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships.

  • Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying? 


In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. 

We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term 
partner.

Here is your conversation starter pack:
What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today?
What are you interested in getting better at bringing?
What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry?
How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards?
How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours?
Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending?

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!
Ritual: 

Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months. 

HelloFresh: 

Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! 

Follow Shan:
https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram
https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow the ladies of Cocktales: 
https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/
https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/

Follow the Matchmaking Duo:
https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/

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]]> 3796 I Want You to Be Obsessed with Me - Raven Ross' Highs & Dangerous Lows Being a Hopeless Romantic https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-want-you-to-be-obsessed-with-me-raven-ross-highs-dangerous-lows-being-a-hopeless-romantic What Is Your Love Story? Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours?Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who.. A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to. Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting waysAudition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off scriptArt - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautifulBusiness - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from othersCookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as goodFantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me. Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench playerGardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit treeHistory - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!”Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it isHumor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbledMystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one anotherPolice - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to beReligion - love is in service of the LordSacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the otherScience - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything elseWar - love is a power struggle ruled by The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more.Conversation starter packWhat story of love are you currently subscribing to?Which ones are you aspiring to?What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why?What love story was modeled for you growing up?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies. http://www.carawayhome.com/lovers for 10% offwww.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month www.zocdoc.com to download the free appFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Raven: https://www.instagram.com/pilatesbodyravenwww.pilatesbodyraven.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@pilatesbodyravenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 31 May 2023 05:44:21 -0000 I Want You to Be Obsessed with Me - Raven Ross' Highs & Dangerous Lows Being a Hopeless Romantic full 1 74 LOVERS by shan What Is Your Love Story? Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours?Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who.. A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to. Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting waysAudition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off scriptArt - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautifulBusiness - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from othersCookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as goodFantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me. Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench playerGardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit treeHistory - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!”Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it isHumor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbledMystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one anotherPolice - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to beReligion - love is in service of the LordSacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the otherScience - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything elseWar - love is a power struggle ruled by The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more.Conversation starter packWhat story of love are you currently subscribing to?Which ones are you aspiring to?What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why?What love story was modeled for you growing up?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies. http://www.carawayhome.com/lovers for 10% offwww.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month www.zocdoc.com to download the free appFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Raven: https://www.instagram.com/pilatesbodyravenwww.pilatesbodyraven.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@pilatesbodyravenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
 Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours?
Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who.. 

A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to. 
Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting ways
Audition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off script
Art - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautiful
Business - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from others
Cookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as good
Fantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me. 
Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench player
Gardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit tree
History - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!”
Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it is
Humor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbled
Mystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one another
Police - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to be
Religion - love is in service of the Lord
Sacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the other
Science - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything else
War - love is a power struggle ruled by 
The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more.

Conversation starter pack
What story of love are you currently subscribing to?
Which ones are you aspiring to?
What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why?
What love story was modeled for you growing up?

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!

www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies. 

http://www.carawayhome.com/lovers for 10% off


www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month 


www.zocdoc.com to download the free app

Follow Shan:
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loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com


Follow Raven: 
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]]> 3494 This is What it Sounds Like When a Man Cries feat. Dom Gabriel https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/this-is-what-it-sounds-like-when-a-man-cries-feat-dom-gabriel We often talk about how men have an easier life, but I think at this point we can also agree that maintaining the identity of “a real man” is extremely hard. Masculinity is what I would call a wet fish identity - because like catching a fish with your bear hands - It’s hard to do, even harder to hold onto and incredibly easy to lose a grip on. And one of the fastest ways to call your capability of holding onto a wet fish into question, is to add more slick to the situation by crying.It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach.So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World. Conversation starter pack from this episode:What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain?Is it a turnoff to see a man cry?Is it a turnon?Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative?Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper?How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Storyworth https://www.storyworth.com/lovers to save $10 on your first purchase!Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversGet better sleep now with Blissy and use LOVERS to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/LOVERSBetter Help https://www.betterhelp.com/LOVERS for 10%off your first order Hello Fresh https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Use code Lovers16 for 16 free meals Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Dom: https://www.instagram.com/dontcalldomFollow the guys of ENJOY: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavishttps://www.instagram.com/datboykrayhttps://www.instagra.com/blamelosSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 24 May 2023 04:00:00 -0000 This is What it Sounds Like When a Man Cries feat. Dom Gabriel full 1 73 LOVERS by shan We often talk about how men have an easier life, but I think at this point we can also agree that maintaining the identity of “a real man” is extremely hard. Masculinity is what I would call a wet fish identity - because like catching a fish with your bear hands - It’s hard to do, even harder to hold onto and incredibly easy to lose a grip on. And one of the fastest ways to call your capability of holding onto a wet fish into question, is to add more slick to the situation by crying.It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach.So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World. Conversation starter pack from this episode:What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain?Is it a turnoff to see a man cry?Is it a turnon?Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative?Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper?How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Storyworth https://www.storyworth.com/lovers to save $10 on your first purchase!Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversGet better sleep now with Blissy and use LOVERS to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/LOVERSBetter Help https://www.betterhelp.com/LOVERS for 10%off your first order Hello Fresh https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Use code Lovers16 for 16 free meals Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Dom: https://www.instagram.com/dontcalldomFollow the guys of ENJOY: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavishttps://www.instagram.com/datboykrayhttps://www.instagra.com/blamelosSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach.

So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World. 

Conversation starter pack from this episode:

What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain?
Is it a turnoff to see a man cry?
Is it a turnon?
Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative?
Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper?
How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us?

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]]> 4429 Why Did He Suddenly Lose Interest In Sex? Feat. Drew Love https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/why-did-he-suddenly-lose-interest-in-sex-feat-drew-love Did you know that every 7 seconds, a man thinks about sex?That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex… Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 use code lovers16 for your free meals and free shipping!Dame:https://www.dameproducts.com/LoversEnter code Lovers for 15% off Lomi:Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the codeLOVERS to save $50 https://www.lomi.com/loversSkims:Get free shipping on all orders over $75https://www.skims.comFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow THEY: https://www.instagram.com/theyFollow Drew Love:https://www.instagram.com/drewlove See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 17 May 2023 04:27:19 -0000 Why Did He Suddenly Lose Interest In Sex? Feat. Drew Love full 1 72 LOVERS by shan Did you know that every 7 seconds, a man thinks about sex?That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex… Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 use code lovers16 for your free meals and free shipping!Dame:https://www.dameproducts.com/LoversEnter code Lovers for 15% off Lomi:Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the codeLOVERS to save $50 https://www.lomi.com/loversSkims:Get free shipping on all orders over $75https://www.skims.comFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow THEY: https://www.instagram.com/theyFollow Drew Love:https://www.instagram.com/drewlove See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex… 

Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now. 

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]]> 3184 Love At First Sight Almost Sabotaged My Marriage https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/love-at-first-sight-almost-sabotaged-my-marriage In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs.In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!BLISSYhttp://blissy.com/LOVERS and get an additional 30% off! BABBELhttp://Babbel.com/LOVERS for up to 55% off your subscription. Babbel—Language for life.HELLO FRESHhttp://hellofresh.com/LOVERS50 for 50% off plus free shipping!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 26 Apr 2023 06:35:05 -0000 Love At First Sight Almost Sabotaged My Marriage full 1 71 LOVERS by shan In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs.In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!BLISSYhttp://blissy.com/LOVERS and get an additional 30% off! BABBELhttp://Babbel.com/LOVERS for up to 55% off your subscription. Babbel—Language for life.HELLO FRESHhttp://hellofresh.com/LOVERS50 for 50% off plus free shipping!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met.


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]]> 1907 When a Man Submits to Her Success feat. Jade Novah and Devin Johnson https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/when-a-man-submits-to-her-success-feat-jade-novah-and-devin-johnson Let’s talk about submission! My fav definition of this comes from Hafeez who simply said to submit is to sub (be underneath) another person’s mission. Now, one of the main purposes of romantic relationships is to be stronger together - a concept we’ve gone into before when we discussed self expansion theory on episode 4 featuring Jeannie Mai. The Self expansion theory states that the best way to expand, together, is to take stock of each other’s strengths, then create a dynamic that aligns with that reality. But what happens when in the end of this audit, you realize that your strengths fall outside of traditional gender roles? And furthermore you realize that the man’s strengths are perfectly suited to aid in the woman’s success? How does it work and furthermore CAN it work when a man realizes his partner’s potential and then makes her mission, his main mission? That’s what we are going to be talking about on this episode featuring Jade Novah and Devin Johnson. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot Go to http://www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS Use code LOVERS for 30% off your first order!That’s Hungryroot.com/LOVERS. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you.BetterhelpDiscover your potential with BetterHelpVisit http://www.betterhlp.com/lovers That's www.betterhlp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month.Follow Jade:https://www.instagram.com/jadenovah/Follow Devin: https://www.instagram.com/mrdevinaire/?hl=en Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 19 Apr 2023 21:56:57 -0000 When a Man Submits to Her Success feat. Jade Novah and Devin Johnson full 1 70 LOVERS by shan Let’s talk about submission! My fav definition of this comes from Hafeez who simply said to submit is to sub (be underneath) another person’s mission. Now, one of the main purposes of romantic relationships is to be stronger together - a concept we’ve gone into before when we discussed self expansion theory on episode 4 featuring Jeannie Mai. The Self expansion theory states that the best way to expand, together, is to take stock of each other’s strengths, then create a dynamic that aligns with that reality. But what happens when in the end of this audit, you realize that your strengths fall outside of traditional gender roles? And furthermore you realize that the man’s strengths are perfectly suited to aid in the woman’s success? How does it work and furthermore CAN it work when a man realizes his partner’s potential and then makes her mission, his main mission? That’s what we are going to be talking about on this episode featuring Jade Novah and Devin Johnson. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot Go to http://www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS Use code LOVERS for 30% off your first order!That’s Hungryroot.com/LOVERS. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you.BetterhelpDiscover your potential with BetterHelpVisit http://www.betterhlp.com/lovers That's www.betterhlp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month.Follow Jade:https://www.instagram.com/jadenovah/Follow Devin: https://www.instagram.com/mrdevinaire/?hl=en Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
But what happens when in the end of this audit, you realize that your strengths fall outside of traditional gender roles? And furthermore you realize that the man’s strengths are perfectly suited to aid in the woman’s success? How does it work and furthermore CAN it work when a man realizes his partner’s potential and then makes her mission, his main mission? That’s what we are going to be talking about on this episode featuring Jade Novah and Devin Johnson.

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.

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Go to http://www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS
Use code LOVERS for 30% off your first order!

That’s Hungryroot.com/LOVERS. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you.

Betterhelp

Discover your potential with BetterHelp
Visit http://www.betterhlp.com/lovers

That's www.betterhlp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month.

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]]> 3289 Everything You Pray You Won't Have to Know About Infertility feat. Deja Riley's story https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/everything-you-pray-you-wont-have-to-know-about-infertility-feat-deja-rileys-story For women in their 30s, 1 in 5 will experience problems conceiving their first child. Deja Riley, our starring guest gives firsthand advice of what it's like to go through over two years of fertility treatments. A grueling experience that's cost her over $20,000 and almost her marriage. In this episode Deja tells all: her experience with IUI, IVF, miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, eastern medicine, and finally surrender. To keep up with Deja's journey follow herDeja:http://instagram.com/Dejariley @Doseofduality- her podcasthttp://Dejariley.comFollow our other special guestsKrizia: http://instagram.com/kriziacruz_Krystalhttp://instagram.com/krystalfranklintvThanks so much to the sponsors of this episode. SKIMSFits Everybody Collectionhttps://www.skims.comLOMIGet $50 off your electric countertop composter by visitinghttps://www.lomi.com/LOVERS Then using promocode LOVERSRITUAL and Synbiotic+Get 10% off your first 3 months by visitinghttps://www.ritual.com/LOVERS Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 12 Apr 2023 06:32:23 -0000 Everything You Pray You Won't Have to Know About Infertility feat. Deja Riley's story full 1 69 LOVERS by shan For women in their 30s, 1 in 5 will experience problems conceiving their first child. Deja Riley, our starring guest gives firsthand advice of what it's like to go through over two years of fertility treatments. A grueling experience that's cost her over $20,000 and almost her marriage. In this episode Deja tells all: her experience with IUI, IVF, miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, eastern medicine, and finally surrender. To keep up with Deja's journey follow herDeja:http://instagram.com/Dejariley @Doseofduality- her podcasthttp://Dejariley.comFollow our other special guestsKrizia: http://instagram.com/kriziacruz_Krystalhttp://instagram.com/krystalfranklintvThanks so much to the sponsors of this episode. SKIMSFits Everybody Collectionhttps://www.skims.comLOMIGet $50 off your electric countertop composter by visitinghttps://www.lomi.com/LOVERS Then using promocode LOVERSRITUAL and Synbiotic+Get 10% off your first 3 months by visitinghttps://www.ritual.com/LOVERS Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode Deja tells all: her experience with IUI, IVF, miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, eastern medicine, and finally surrender. To keep up with Deja's journey follow her

Deja:
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@Doseofduality- her podcast
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]]> 3928 Family Discussion: Sex, Aging and Our Relationship Dynamics feat. My Mom https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/family-discussion-sex-aging-and-our-relationship-dynamics-feat-my-mom In this episode, I sit down with my mom and sister to talk about our sex ed growing up and now as parents ourselves, what we believe is the most important lesson to teach our kids when it comes to sex and love...You'll also hear a good bit of a past episode that you can listen to in its entirety here.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovers-and-friends-with-shan-boodram/id1586679298 I also explain how I plan to bring up conversations about sex to my daughters and what I hope they take away from those. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Lume New customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code LOVERS at http://www.LumeDeodorant.comIntimissimi Go to http://www.intimissimi.com/jloZocDoc: http://www.ZOCDOC.com/LOVERSBetterhelp!Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!http://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Lauren:https://www.maketheshiftcoach.com/https://www.instagram.com/maketheshiftwithlauren/Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 05 Apr 2023 05:34:26 -0000 Family Discussion: Sex, Aging and Our Relationship Dynamics feat. My Mom full 1 68 LOVERS by shan In this episode, I sit down with my mom and sister to talk about our sex ed growing up and now as parents ourselves, what we believe is the most important lesson to teach our kids when it comes to sex and love...You'll also hear a good bit of a past episode that you can listen to in its entirety here.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovers-and-friends-with-shan-boodram/id1586679298 I also explain how I plan to bring up conversations about sex to my daughters and what I hope they take away from those. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Lume New customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code LOVERS at http://www.LumeDeodorant.comIntimissimi Go to http://www.intimissimi.com/jloZocDoc: http://www.ZOCDOC.com/LOVERSBetterhelp!Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!http://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Lauren:https://www.maketheshiftcoach.com/https://www.instagram.com/maketheshiftwithlauren/Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
You'll also hear a good bit of a past episode that you can listen to in its entirety here.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovers-and-friends-with-shan-boodram/id1586679298

I also explain how I plan to bring up conversations about sex to my daughters and what I hope they take away from those. 

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!

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Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!

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]]> 3152 Losing Our Baby Broke Me, BUT I Never Told Her That feat. Mike Johnson https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/losing-our-baby-broke-me-but-i-never-told-her-that-feat-mike-johnson Up to 1 in 4 known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us, this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer, but speaking from personal experience, it hadn’t really crossed my mind until recently. So, let’s talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends.According to a study conducted by School of Sciences fathers displayed less “active grief” than their female partners, BUT they were more vulnerable to feelings of despair and difficulty in coping 8 weeks following the loss. The National Library of Medicine found that of 40 men who’s partner had a miscarriage, 59% said they had a deepened awareness of the fragility of life, 45% mourned the loss of their family’s hopes and dreams, 40% reported a strong sense of vulnerability and powerlessness to help their wife and half did not share feelings with their partner at all.These are numbers that I believe our starring guest can bring a face too, and this is a face you might recognize. Mike Johnson has already been a guest on Lovers and Friends in one of our biggest episodes “Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure.”Follow Mike Johnson http://instagram.com/mike_johnsonhttps://www.feelingseen.com/Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot!Just go to Hungryroot.com/LOVERS, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Intimissimi Go to intimissimi.com/jlo again thats intimissimi.com/jloBetterhelp!Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSources:https://time.com/3982471/men-are-the-forgotten-grievers-in-miscarriage/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8064426/https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02646839908404587#.Vb9xQc4qefQ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 29 Mar 2023 23:08:14 -0000 Losing Our Baby Broke Me, BUT I Never Told Her That feat. Mike Johnson full 1 67 LOVERS by shan Up to 1 in 4 known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us, this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer, but speaking from personal experience, it hadn’t really crossed my mind until recently. So, let’s talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends.According to a study conducted by School of Sciences fathers displayed less “active grief” than their female partners, BUT they were more vulnerable to feelings of despair and difficulty in coping 8 weeks following the loss. The National Library of Medicine found that of 40 men who’s partner had a miscarriage, 59% said they had a deepened awareness of the fragility of life, 45% mourned the loss of their family’s hopes and dreams, 40% reported a strong sense of vulnerability and powerlessness to help their wife and half did not share feelings with their partner at all.These are numbers that I believe our starring guest can bring a face too, and this is a face you might recognize. Mike Johnson has already been a guest on Lovers and Friends in one of our biggest episodes “Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure.”Follow Mike Johnson http://instagram.com/mike_johnsonhttps://www.feelingseen.com/Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot!Just go to Hungryroot.com/LOVERS, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Intimissimi Go to intimissimi.com/jlo again thats intimissimi.com/jloBetterhelp!Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSources:https://time.com/3982471/men-are-the-forgotten-grievers-in-miscarriage/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8064426/https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02646839908404587#.Vb9xQc4qefQ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
According to a study conducted by School of Sciences fathers displayed less “active grief” than their female partners, BUT they were more vulnerable to feelings of despair and difficulty in coping 8 weeks following the loss.
The National Library of Medicine found that of 40 men who’s partner had a miscarriage, 59% said they had a deepened awareness of the fragility of life, 45% mourned the loss of their family’s hopes and dreams, 40% reported a strong sense of vulnerability and powerlessness to help their wife and half did not share feelings with their partner at all.
These are numbers that I believe our starring guest can bring a face too, and this is a face you might recognize. Mike Johnson has already been a guest on Lovers and Friends in one of our biggest episodes “Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure.”

Follow Mike Johnson
http://instagram.com/mike_johnson
https://www.feelingseen.com/

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.

Hungryroot!
Just go to Hungryroot.com/LOVERS, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies.

Intimissimi
Go to intimissimi.com/jlo again thats intimissimi.com/jlo

Betterhelp!
Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!

Follow Shan:
https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram
https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com


Sources:
https://time.com/3982471/men-are-the-forgotten-grievers-in-miscarriage/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8064426/
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02646839908404587#.Vb9xQc4qefQ

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]]> 2251 Saving Our Relationship By Having an Open One feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/saving-our-relationship-by-having-an-open-one-feat-bayleigh-and-swaggy-c Open relationships. Now, you can clutch them pearls and raise those eyebrows all you want to, but this conversation is not going away - especially not in America. Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census, researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if the trend continues, the only place this number is going is up. So… are open relationships the bandaid, the cure or the curse of our generation? And furthermore, how do you actually start one? Like for real? Let’s talk about it on this episode of Lovers and Friends.We have a loaded conversation between our starring guests on this episode, Swaggy C and Bayleigh. A married couple with a new baby, but an old, inactive desire to explore consensual non-monogamy within their marriage. There are a lot of themes to pull from this interview like: what happens when non-monogamy is one person’s yum and the other’s yea I guess if that will make you happy… OR the dangers of using non-monogamy as a punishment for unfulfillment… OR the joys/ struggles of having a partner who is supportive of your desires, but not all the way cooperative. However what stood out to me in this episode is how to go from being curious to actually being actively open...for real.FOLLOW THE GUESTS ON THIS EPISODEFollow Bayleigh:https://www.instagram.com/bayydayyhttps://www.youtube.com/c/SwayleighGanghttps://www.tiktok.com/@bayydayyyFollow Chris “Swaggy C”:https://www.instagram.com/swaggyctvhttps://www.youtube.com/@KingSwaggyFollow Dr. Monica: https://www.therapyforqpoc.comtherapyforqpoc@gmail.comTHANKS TO THE SPONSOR OF THIS EPISODEBETWatch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture athttp://www.bet.plusBetter HelpDiscover your potential with BetterHelp. http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. Hello FreshTry America’s #1 Meal Kit for yourself. Get 60% off plus free shipping. Http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers60DipseaExplore your fantasies or get inspired with a 30 day free trial now. http://www.dipsea.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comOpen relationship reading list From Dr. Monica: IG Educational Pages ·      Evita Sawyers | @lavitaloca34·      Chanee Jackson Kendall | @chaneespeaks·      Jhen | @monogamishpod·      Kevin Patterson | @polyrolemodels·      @polyamouraousblackgirl·      Leanne Yau | @polyphiliablog Books ·      Pre-Order | A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Non-monogamous | Evita Sawyers·      Love is Not Colorblind | Kevin Patterson·      Polysecure | Jessica Fern·      The Ethical Slut | Hardy & Easton ·      More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory | Ricket & Veaux·      Polyamory & Jealousy | Ricket & VeauxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 22 Mar 2023 19:17:19 -0000 Saving Our Relationship By Having an Open One feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C full 1 66 LOVERS by shan Open relationships. Now, you can clutch them pearls and raise those eyebrows all you want to, but this conversation is not going away - especially not in America. Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census, researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if the trend continues, the only place this number is going is up. So… are open relationships the bandaid, the cure or the curse of our generation? And furthermore, how do you actually start one? Like for real? Let’s talk about it on this episode of Lovers and Friends.We have a loaded conversation between our starring guests on this episode, Swaggy C and Bayleigh. A married couple with a new baby, but an old, inactive desire to explore consensual non-monogamy within their marriage. There are a lot of themes to pull from this interview like: what happens when non-monogamy is one person’s yum and the other’s yea I guess if that will make you happy… OR the dangers of using non-monogamy as a punishment for unfulfillment… OR the joys/ struggles of having a partner who is supportive of your desires, but not all the way cooperative. However what stood out to me in this episode is how to go from being curious to actually being actively open...for real.FOLLOW THE GUESTS ON THIS EPISODEFollow Bayleigh:https://www.instagram.com/bayydayyhttps://www.youtube.com/c/SwayleighGanghttps://www.tiktok.com/@bayydayyyFollow Chris “Swaggy C”:https://www.instagram.com/swaggyctvhttps://www.youtube.com/@KingSwaggyFollow Dr. Monica: https://www.therapyforqpoc.comtherapyforqpoc@gmail.comTHANKS TO THE SPONSOR OF THIS EPISODEBETWatch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture athttp://www.bet.plusBetter HelpDiscover your potential with BetterHelp. http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. Hello FreshTry America’s #1 Meal Kit for yourself. Get 60% off plus free shipping. Http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers60DipseaExplore your fantasies or get inspired with a 30 day free trial now. http://www.dipsea.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comOpen relationship reading list From Dr. Monica: IG Educational Pages ·      Evita Sawyers | @lavitaloca34·      Chanee Jackson Kendall | @chaneespeaks·      Jhen | @monogamishpod·      Kevin Patterson | @polyrolemodels·      @polyamouraousblackgirl·      Leanne Yau | @polyphiliablog Books ·      Pre-Order | A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Non-monogamous | Evita Sawyers·      Love is Not Colorblind | Kevin Patterson·      Polysecure | Jessica Fern·      The Ethical Slut | Hardy & Easton ·      More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory | Ricket & Veaux·      Polyamory & Jealousy | Ricket & VeauxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census, researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if the trend continues, the only place this number is going is up. So… are open relationships the bandaid, the cure or the curse of our generation? And furthermore, how do you actually start one? Like for real? Let’s talk about it on this episode of Lovers and Friends.

We have a loaded conversation between our starring guests on this episode, Swaggy C and Bayleigh. A married couple with a new baby, but an old, inactive desire to explore consensual non-monogamy within their marriage. There are a lot of themes to pull from this interview like: what happens when non-monogamy is one person’s yum and the other’s yea I guess if that will make you happy… OR the dangers of using non-monogamy as a punishment for unfulfillment… OR the joys/ struggles of having a partner who is supportive of your desires, but not all the way cooperative. However what stood out to me in this episode is how to go from being curious to actually being actively open...for real.

FOLLOW THE GUESTS ON THIS EPISODE

Follow Bayleigh:
https://www.instagram.com/bayydayy
https://www.youtube.com/c/SwayleighGang
https://www.tiktok.com/@bayydayyy


Follow Chris “Swaggy C”:
https://www.instagram.com/swaggyctv
https://www.youtube.com/@KingSwaggy


Follow Dr. Monica: 
https://www.therapyforqpoc.com
therapyforqpoc@gmail.com


THANKS TO THE SPONSOR OF THIS EPISODE

BET
Watch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture at
http://www.bet.plus

Better Help
Discover your potential with BetterHelp. 
http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. 

Hello Fresh
Try America’s #1 Meal Kit for yourself. Get 60% off plus free shipping. 
Http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers60

Dipsea
Explore your fantasies or get inspired with a 30 day free trial now. 
http://www.dipsea.com/lovers

Follow Shan:
https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram
https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com


Open relationship reading list From Dr. Monica: 

IG Educational Pages 
·      Evita Sawyers | @lavitaloca34
·      Chanee Jackson Kendall | @chaneespeaks
·      Jhen | @monogamishpod
·      Kevin Patterson | @polyrolemodels
·      @polyamouraousblackgirl
·      Leanne Yau | @polyphiliablog
 
Books 
·      Pre-Order | A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Non-monogamous | Evita Sawyers
·      Love is Not Colorblind | Kevin Patterson
·      Polysecure | Jessica Fern
·      The Ethical Slut | Hardy & Easton 
·      More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory | Ricket & Veaux
·      Polyamory & Jealousy | Ricket & Veaux



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]]> 3661 Becky G Opens Up About Being Sick and Sick and Tired of Hating Herself https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/becky-g-opens-up-about-being-sick-and-sick-and-tired-of-hating-herself Becky G is an award-winning, chart topping, international superstar who has always been grateful for her life, but at one point, hated herself and the experience of being alive.In order to get out of that dark place and to get the clarity she needed to heal she knew she needed a superhero, but what she didn’t know is “that hero” would ultimately need to be herself. In this episode Becky G candidly shares how learning to love herself, advocate for her needs and set boundaries has opened up a world of abundance, power, and arguably most importantly, self compassion. Follow Becky Ghttps://www.instagram.com/iambeckyg/https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeckyghttps://www.youtube.com/@beckygYou can still watch old episodes of Becky’s Facebook Watch Show: Face to Face with Becky G https://www.facebook.com/watch/iambeckyg/1684197931784162/AND OF COURSE WATCH THESE INTERNETS FOR BECKY’S COACHELLA PERFORMANCES THIS APRIL!And if you came here looking for quick links to the incredible sponsors of this episode, we got you! EveryPlate http://www.everyplate.com/podcast Use Code: Lovers149Lomi: http://www.lomi.com/loversUse Code: LoversBETWatch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture athttp://www.bet.plusFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 15 Mar 2023 07:05:29 -0000 Becky G Opens Up About Being Sick and Sick and Tired of Hating Herself full 1 65 LOVERS by shan Becky G is an award-winning, chart topping, international superstar who has always been grateful for her life, but at one point, hated herself and the experience of being alive.In order to get out of that dark place and to get the clarity she needed to heal she knew she needed a superhero, but what she didn’t know is “that hero” would ultimately need to be herself. In this episode Becky G candidly shares how learning to love herself, advocate for her needs and set boundaries has opened up a world of abundance, power, and arguably most importantly, self compassion. Follow Becky Ghttps://www.instagram.com/iambeckyg/https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeckyghttps://www.youtube.com/@beckygYou can still watch old episodes of Becky’s Facebook Watch Show: Face to Face with Becky G https://www.facebook.com/watch/iambeckyg/1684197931784162/AND OF COURSE WATCH THESE INTERNETS FOR BECKY’S COACHELLA PERFORMANCES THIS APRIL!And if you came here looking for quick links to the incredible sponsors of this episode, we got you! EveryPlate http://www.everyplate.com/podcast Use Code: Lovers149Lomi: http://www.lomi.com/loversUse Code: LoversBETWatch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture athttp://www.bet.plusFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In order to get out of that dark place and to get the clarity she needed to heal she knew she needed a superhero, but what she didn’t know is “that hero” would ultimately need to be herself. In this episode Becky G candidly shares how learning to love herself, advocate for her needs and set boundaries has opened up a world of abundance, power, and arguably most importantly, self compassion. 

Follow Becky G
https://www.instagram.com/iambeckyg/
https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeckyg
https://www.youtube.com/@beckyg

You can still watch old episodes of Becky’s Facebook Watch Show: Face to Face with Becky G 

https://www.facebook.com/watch/iambeckyg/1684197931784162/

AND OF COURSE WATCH THESE INTERNETS FOR BECKY’S COACHELLA PERFORMANCES THIS APRIL!

And if you came here looking for quick links to the incredible sponsors of this episode, we got you! 

EveryPlate 

http://www.everyplate.com/podcast 
Use Code: Lovers149

Lomi: 
http://www.lomi.com/lovers
Use Code: Lovers


BET
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]]> 3023 I'm a Grown Ass Woman Woman Without Any Friends... feat. Krista from Almost 30 https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/im-a-grown-ass-woman-woman-without-any-friends-feat-krista-from-almost-30 Does making friends get harder as you get older?  How the hell do I make friends?According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021,  a lot of people are not  satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So how long does it take to make a new friend?-50 hours of time before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends - source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.In this episode I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMFT and Danielle Byard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. ZocDoc: https://www.zocdoc.com/Ritualhttps://ritual.com/lovers for 10% off your first 3 months Follow the guests on this episode:Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/https://www.instagram.com/morningmicrodose/https://www.instagram.com/moderntarot/Follow Tabia:https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/Follow Danielle Bayard-Jacksonhttps://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Mar 2023 05:30:00 -0000 I'm a Grown Ass Woman Woman Without Any Friends... feat. Krista from Almost 30 full 1 64 LOVERS by shan Does making friends get harder as you get older?  How the hell do I make friends?According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021,  a lot of people are not  satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So how long does it take to make a new friend?-50 hours of time before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends - source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.In this episode I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMFT and Danielle Byard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. ZocDoc: https://www.zocdoc.com/Ritualhttps://ritual.com/lovers for 10% off your first 3 months Follow the guests on this episode:Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/https://www.instagram.com/morningmicrodose/https://www.instagram.com/moderntarot/Follow Tabia:https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/Follow Danielle Bayard-Jacksonhttps://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021,  a lot of people are not  satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.

If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. 

So how long does it take to make a new friend?
-50 hours of time before you consider them a casual friend 
- 90 hours before becoming real friends 
- 200hours- before becoming close friends 
- source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' 

As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.

In this episode I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs and the work it takes to make them work. 

A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMFT and Danielle Byard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert for lending their expertise on forming friendships. 

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. 

ZocDoc: 
https://www.zocdoc.com/

Ritual
https://ritual.com/lovers for 10% off your first 3 months 

Follow the guests on this episode:

Follow Shan:
https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram
https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow Krista: 
https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/
https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/
https://www.instagram.com/morningmicrodose/
https://www.instagram.com/moderntarot/

Follow Tabia:
https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/

Follow Danielle Bayard-Jackson
https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/
https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/

Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFT
https://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=en
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]]> 3766 Sex: Your Steamy Questions with My Husband https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/sex-your-steamy-questions-with-my-husband In this episode, I am answering 10 questions submitted by YOU, allll about sex! I am looking forward to making more Q+A episodes, so feel free to submit your questions around sex, love and dating. Huge thank you to the sponsors of this episode Ritual Use code Lovers for 10% your order for 3 months. Http://ritual.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Jared: Http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Mar 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Sex: Your Steamy Questions with My Husband full 1 63 LOVERS by shan In this episode, I am answering 10 questions submitted by YOU, allll about sex! I am looking forward to making more Q+A episodes, so feel free to submit your questions around sex, love and dating. Huge thank you to the sponsors of this episode Ritual Use code Lovers for 10% your order for 3 months. Http://ritual.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Jared: Http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
I am looking forward to making more Q+A episodes, so feel free to submit your questions around sex, love and dating. 

Huge thank you to the sponsors of this episode Ritual 

Use code Lovers for 10% your order for 3 months. 

Http://ritual.com/lovers

Follow Shan:
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loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com


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]]> 3339 It Could've Worked Out But... ft. Lauren Jauregui on Breaking Up with Ty Dolla $ign https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/it-couldve-worked-out-but-ft-lauren-jauregui-on-breaking-up-with-ty-dolla-ign Lauren Jauregui talks about breaking things off with Ty Dolla Sign, writing Always Love, holistically healing and then finding real love again with another woman.Lauren Jauregui rose to prominence as a member of the girl group Fifth Harmony, which became one of the best- selling girl groups of all time.Since then, she has gone on to release her solo projects “Expectations” and “Prelude.” Lauren has also collaborated with Steve Aoiki, Halsey, Tainy (Tiny), and Ty-Dolla Sign whom she publicly dated for about 2 years. Her hit, Always Love, pays homage to the end of her relationship with Ty and in this episode we get under the covers of that song to discuss the reason for the split, the lessons from that love lost and the discoveries she's made about who she is and what she needs since.Follow @Laurenjauregui on all social media platformsIf you are an international listener, catch her on tour starting in March https://www.laurenjauregui.com/Listen to “Always Love” the single and her project “Prelude” which are out nowThank you to the sponsors of this episodeMAGIC SPOONGo to http://magicspoon.com/lovers to grab a variety pack and try it today! And be sure to use our promo code LOVERS at checkout to save five dollars off your order!DIPSEAFor listeners of Lovers and Friends, Dipsea is offering an extended 30-day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/lovers BETTER HELPVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthBUMBLEDownload Bumble in your App Store and put yourself first when you look for love. Also, learn how Bumble can help make your search simpler and more satisfying at http://Bumble.com by clicking on "The Buzz"Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Lauren: https://www.instagram.com/laurenjauregui/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 22 Feb 2023 09:03:35 -0000 It Could've Worked Out But... ft. Lauren Jauregui on Breaking Up with Ty Dolla $ign full 1 62 LOVERS by shan Lauren Jauregui talks about breaking things off with Ty Dolla Sign, writing Always Love, holistically healing and then finding real love again with another woman.Lauren Jauregui rose to prominence as a member of the girl group Fifth Harmony, which became one of the best- selling girl groups of all time.Since then, she has gone on to release her solo projects “Expectations” and “Prelude.” Lauren has also collaborated with Steve Aoiki, Halsey, Tainy (Tiny), and Ty-Dolla Sign whom she publicly dated for about 2 years. Her hit, Always Love, pays homage to the end of her relationship with Ty and in this episode we get under the covers of that song to discuss the reason for the split, the lessons from that love lost and the discoveries she's made about who she is and what she needs since.Follow @Laurenjauregui on all social media platformsIf you are an international listener, catch her on tour starting in March https://www.laurenjauregui.com/Listen to “Always Love” the single and her project “Prelude” which are out nowThank you to the sponsors of this episodeMAGIC SPOONGo to http://magicspoon.com/lovers to grab a variety pack and try it today! And be sure to use our promo code LOVERS at checkout to save five dollars off your order!DIPSEAFor listeners of Lovers and Friends, Dipsea is offering an extended 30-day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/lovers BETTER HELPVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthBUMBLEDownload Bumble in your App Store and put yourself first when you look for love. Also, learn how Bumble can help make your search simpler and more satisfying at http://Bumble.com by clicking on "The Buzz"Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Lauren: https://www.instagram.com/laurenjauregui/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Lauren Jauregui rose to prominence as a member of the girl group Fifth Harmony, which became one of the best- selling girl groups of all time.

Since then, she has gone on to release her solo projects “Expectations” and “Prelude.” Lauren has also collaborated with Steve Aoiki, Halsey, Tainy (Tiny), and Ty-Dolla Sign whom she publicly dated for about 2 years. 

Her hit, Always Love, pays homage to the end of her relationship with Ty and in this episode we get under the covers of that song to discuss the reason for the split, the lessons from that love lost and the discoveries she's made about who she is and what she needs since.

Follow @Laurenjauregui on all social media platforms

If you are an international listener, catch her on tour starting in March https://www.laurenjauregui.com/
Listen to “Always Love” the single and her project “Prelude” which are out now

Thank you to the sponsors of this episode

MAGIC SPOON
Go to http://magicspoon.com/lovers to grab a variety pack and try it today! And be sure to use our promo code LOVERS at checkout to save five dollars off your order!

DIPSEA
For listeners of Lovers and Friends, Dipsea is offering an extended 30-day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/lovers

BETTER HELP
Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first month

BUMBLE
Download Bumble in your App Store and put yourself first when you look for love. Also, learn how Bumble can help make your search simpler and more satisfying at http://Bumble.com by clicking on "The Buzz"

Follow Shan:
https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram
https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

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]]> 3849 When Your Soulmate Becomes Your Ex https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/when-your-soulmate-becomes-your-ex In this episode, I talk about the 10 soulmates we may encounter over the span of our lives. Thanks for being patient with me this week on this episode. Promise to do better!Here are the 10 types of soulmates.The Stranger Soul Mate - unrequited love is still love. We needed them, we loved them, we were certain we were destined to marry them and they barely remember our last name.The black hole Soul Mate -  the person that we lost ourselves and our sensibilities to (usually our first requited soul mate experience)The Almost doesn’t count Soul Mate - the person who checked all the boxes but couldn’t light your fire (or vice versa)The Only If They… Soul MateThe Stay with you Forever but Stay Away From Me Forever Soul Mate - the person you’ll never truly be over even though it’s definitely overThe one that got away - the good guy/ girl who you blew it with and now they’re happy with someone elseThe Rip Tide Soulmate - the relationship that preys on your needs, insecurities, weakness’ and fears.The prototype Soulmate - the person you are so sure is your one but upon further inspection you realize is just a beautiful imposter who taught you what you really needed to know about what you need out of loveThe Muse Soulmate - the person who’s meant to teach you about love/ connection, but not give it to you (usually a crush you never get a shot with)The Love of my Life soulmate- the relationship that allows you to be your best self and love at a higher frequency. A love marked by self insight, happiness, individual growth and true mutuality.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Babbel!Http://www.babbel.com/loversBumble: Download the Bumble app today for free!Hello Fresh!Http://www.hellofresh.com/loversFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Sat, 18 Feb 2023 03:02:48 -0000 When Your Soulmate Becomes Your Ex full 1 61 LOVERS by shan In this episode, I talk about the 10 soulmates we may encounter over the span of our lives. Thanks for being patient with me this week on this episode. Promise to do better!Here are the 10 types of soulmates.The Stranger Soul Mate - unrequited love is still love. We needed them, we loved them, we were certain we were destined to marry them and they barely remember our last name.The black hole Soul Mate -  the person that we lost ourselves and our sensibilities to (usually our first requited soul mate experience)The Almost doesn’t count Soul Mate - the person who checked all the boxes but couldn’t light your fire (or vice versa)The Only If They… Soul MateThe Stay with you Forever but Stay Away From Me Forever Soul Mate - the person you’ll never truly be over even though it’s definitely overThe one that got away - the good guy/ girl who you blew it with and now they’re happy with someone elseThe Rip Tide Soulmate - the relationship that preys on your needs, insecurities, weakness’ and fears.The prototype Soulmate - the person you are so sure is your one but upon further inspection you realize is just a beautiful imposter who taught you what you really needed to know about what you need out of loveThe Muse Soulmate - the person who’s meant to teach you about love/ connection, but not give it to you (usually a crush you never get a shot with)The Love of my Life soulmate- the relationship that allows you to be your best self and love at a higher frequency. A love marked by self insight, happiness, individual growth and true mutuality.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Babbel!Http://www.babbel.com/loversBumble: Download the Bumble app today for free!Hello Fresh!Http://www.hellofresh.com/loversFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Here are the 10 types of soulmates.

The Stranger Soul Mate - unrequited love is still love. We needed them, we loved them, we were certain we were destined to marry them and they barely remember our last name.

The black hole Soul Mate -  the person that we lost ourselves and our sensibilities to (usually our first requited soul mate experience)

The Almost doesn’t count Soul Mate - the person who checked all the boxes but couldn’t light your fire (or vice versa)

The Only If They… Soul Mate

The Stay with you Forever but Stay Away From Me Forever Soul Mate - the person you’ll never truly be over even though it’s definitely over

The one that got away - the good guy/ girl who you blew it with and now they’re happy with someone else

The Rip Tide Soulmate - the relationship that preys on your needs, insecurities, weakness’ and fears.

The prototype Soulmate - the person you are so sure is your one but upon further inspection you realize is just a beautiful imposter who taught you what you really needed to know about what you need out of love

The Muse Soulmate - the person who’s meant to teach you about love/ connection, but not give it to you (usually a crush you never get a shot with)

The Love of my Life soulmate- the relationship that allows you to be your best self and love at a higher frequency. A love marked by self insight, happiness, individual growth and true mutuality.

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!

Babbel!

Http://www.babbel.com/lovers

Bumble: Download the Bumble app today for free!

Hello Fresh!
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]]> 2666 I Thought I Was Straight Until I Met You Feat Kiana Lede https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-thought-i-was-straight-until-i-met-you-feat-kiana-lede Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone of the same sex? How do you navigate re-orienting or re-navigating your sexual orientation after a queer experience? That is exactly what we are breaking down in this episode. Our starring guest is singer, songwriter Kiana Lede. Kiana is an Arizona born actress, singer and songwriter who burst into the scene with her Youtube series dubbed “Soulfood Sessions”. Her cover of Hotline bling went viral in 2016. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77MenaZJrNwSince then Kiana has released 2 Studio EPs, over a dozen singles, and a 17 track debut album which debuted at #30 on the Billboard 200 in 2020. Her music has featured artists like Offset, Ari Lennox and BLACK. Her music has a way of laying out sexual exploration and liberation, Her latest project, a mixtape titled “unfinished” pays tribute to her late friend Azuma.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. http://www.Bumble.com or Download the Bumble AppHttp://www.BetterHelp.com/LoversHttp://www.zocdoc.comFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Kiana: https://www.youtube.com/@KianaLedehttps://www.instagram.com/kianalede/?hl=enSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Feb 2023 09:05:43 -0000 I Thought I Was Straight Until I Met You Feat Kiana Lede full 1 60 LOVERS by shan Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone of the same sex? How do you navigate re-orienting or re-navigating your sexual orientation after a queer experience? That is exactly what we are breaking down in this episode. Our starring guest is singer, songwriter Kiana Lede. Kiana is an Arizona born actress, singer and songwriter who burst into the scene with her Youtube series dubbed “Soulfood Sessions”. Her cover of Hotline bling went viral in 2016. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77MenaZJrNwSince then Kiana has released 2 Studio EPs, over a dozen singles, and a 17 track debut album which debuted at #30 on the Billboard 200 in 2020. Her music has featured artists like Offset, Ari Lennox and BLACK. Her music has a way of laying out sexual exploration and liberation, Her latest project, a mixtape titled “unfinished” pays tribute to her late friend Azuma.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. http://www.Bumble.com or Download the Bumble AppHttp://www.BetterHelp.com/LoversHttp://www.zocdoc.comFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Kiana: https://www.youtube.com/@KianaLedehttps://www.instagram.com/kianalede/?hl=enSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
That is exactly what we are breaking down in this episode. Our starring guest is singer, songwriter Kiana Lede. 

Kiana is an Arizona born actress, singer and songwriter who burst into the scene with her Youtube series dubbed “Soulfood Sessions”. Her cover of Hotline bling went viral in 2016. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77MenaZJrNw

Since then Kiana has released 2 Studio EPs, over a dozen singles, and a 17 track debut album which debuted at #30 on the Billboard 200 in 2020. Her music has featured artists like Offset, Ari Lennox and BLACK. 

Her music has a way of laying out sexual exploration and liberation, 
Her latest project, a mixtape titled “unfinished” pays tribute to her late friend Azuma.

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. 

http://www.Bumble.com or Download the Bumble App

Http://www.BetterHelp.com/Lovers

Http://www.zocdoc.com



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]]> 2605 Celibutt...Good Lord It's Hard Ft Stephan Speaks https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/celibutt-good-lord-its-hard-ft-stephan-speaks Celibacy, abstinence, sex strike, sexlessness, dry spell ….call it what you may but we can all agree is challenging. This week we are joined by Stephan Speaks- one of the most popular voices in the relationship education space. Stephan has devoted himself to a life of celibacy on more than one occasion: first run with the intention to connect with God, second to connect with his God-given purpose and now he finds himself conflicted between looking for the clarity that celibacy seemed to give him before and longing for the intimacy he desires as a healthy, single, eligible bachelor. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Dipsea!Whether you want to energize your sex life for yourself, a lover or so you can channel that energy elsewhere, try tuning into Dipsea because listeners of Lovers and Friends, get a 30 day free trial! Go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSLinks to episode clips that were featured in this episode. Glo Atanmo:https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZUTanarelle:https://youtu.be/FcKrnF2OpS4Rachel Lindsay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnEORZJD2pQ&t=354sSex Strike: http://youtu.be/71ZgcVtMq84Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Stephan Speaks:http://instagram.com/stephanspeakshttps://www.stephanspeaks.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7owSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Celibutt...Good Lord It's Hard Ft Stephan Speaks full 1 59 LOVERS by shan Celibacy, abstinence, sex strike, sexlessness, dry spell ….call it what you may but we can all agree is challenging. This week we are joined by Stephan Speaks- one of the most popular voices in the relationship education space. Stephan has devoted himself to a life of celibacy on more than one occasion: first run with the intention to connect with God, second to connect with his God-given purpose and now he finds himself conflicted between looking for the clarity that celibacy seemed to give him before and longing for the intimacy he desires as a healthy, single, eligible bachelor. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Dipsea!Whether you want to energize your sex life for yourself, a lover or so you can channel that energy elsewhere, try tuning into Dipsea because listeners of Lovers and Friends, get a 30 day free trial! Go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSLinks to episode clips that were featured in this episode. Glo Atanmo:https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZUTanarelle:https://youtu.be/FcKrnF2OpS4Rachel Lindsay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnEORZJD2pQ&t=354sSex Strike: http://youtu.be/71ZgcVtMq84Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Stephan Speaks:http://instagram.com/stephanspeakshttps://www.stephanspeaks.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7owSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week we are joined by Stephan Speaks- one of the most popular voices in the relationship education space. Stephan has devoted himself to a life of celibacy on more than one occasion: first run with the intention to connect with God, second to connect with his God-given purpose and now he finds himself conflicted between looking for the clarity that celibacy seemed to give him before and longing for the intimacy he desires as a healthy, single, eligible bachelor. 

Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Dipsea!
Whether you want to energize your sex life for yourself, a lover or so you can channel that energy elsewhere, try tuning into Dipsea because listeners of Lovers and Friends, get a 30 day free trial!

Go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS

Links to episode clips that were featured in this episode.

Glo Atanmo:
https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU

Tanarelle:
https://youtu.be/FcKrnF2OpS4

Rachel Lindsay:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnEORZJD2pQ&t=354s

Sex Strike:
http://youtu.be/71ZgcVtMq84


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]]> 2771 If You're Single, You Have to Listen to This Feat Glo Atanmo https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/if-youre-single-you-have-to-listen-to-this-feat-glo-atanmo On your journey to find and keep love (if this is your wish) have you ever felt like maybe you are meant to stay single forever?That is how this week’s guest, Glo Atanmo aka Glo Graphics on IG felt throughout most of her life. She was used to not being any man's first choice only to later date 12 quality men at once. Then in 2022, she embarked on her pursuit of finding her forever love.  She is now openly sharing her love story with her millions of followers online. In this episode, she breaks down what the journey looked like and how she pursued an intentional dating season that led her to her lover.Research article by Lachlan Brown for HackSpirit called “I can’t find love”. - 20 things to remember if you feel this is you”.  You’re not really looking You’re list of wants in a partner is too long You’re in the wrong place You believe too much in soul mates and destiny You’re still not over your ex (intimate idealization) You don’t know what people want from you/ you don’t want to give it You have unresolved childhood issues You feel like you unconditionally deserve love You try way too hard You’re not being your true self You don’t know how to play the game You take dating for granted (entitlement issues) You sabotage relationships Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. ZocDOC: Go to https://zocdoc.com/lovers and download the  Zocdoc app for FREE. Babbel: Get up to 55% off your subscription by going to https://babbel.com/LOVERSMagic Spoon: Get 5$ off your order by going to https://magicspoon.com/LOVERSFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Glo: http://instagram.com/glographicsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 25 Jan 2023 18:24:26 -0000 If You're Single, You Have to Listen to This Feat Glo Atanmo full 1 58 LOVERS by shan On your journey to find and keep love (if this is your wish) have you ever felt like maybe you are meant to stay single forever?That is how this week’s guest, Glo Atanmo aka Glo Graphics on IG felt throughout most of her life. She was used to not being any man's first choice only to later date 12 quality men at once. Then in 2022, she embarked on her pursuit of finding her forever love.  She is now openly sharing her love story with her millions of followers online. In this episode, she breaks down what the journey looked like and how she pursued an intentional dating season that led her to her lover.Research article by Lachlan Brown for HackSpirit called “I can’t find love”. - 20 things to remember if you feel this is you”.  You’re not really looking You’re list of wants in a partner is too long You’re in the wrong place You believe too much in soul mates and destiny You’re still not over your ex (intimate idealization) You don’t know what people want from you/ you don’t want to give it You have unresolved childhood issues You feel like you unconditionally deserve love You try way too hard You’re not being your true self You don’t know how to play the game You take dating for granted (entitlement issues) You sabotage relationships Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. ZocDOC: Go to https://zocdoc.com/lovers and download the  Zocdoc app for FREE. Babbel: Get up to 55% off your subscription by going to https://babbel.com/LOVERSMagic Spoon: Get 5$ off your order by going to https://magicspoon.com/LOVERSFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Glo: http://instagram.com/glographicsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
That is how this week’s guest, Glo Atanmo aka Glo Graphics on IG felt throughout most of her life. She was used to not being any man's first choice only to later date 12 quality men at once. Then in 2022, she embarked on her pursuit of finding her forever love.  She is now openly sharing her love story with her millions of followers online. 

In this episode, she breaks down what the journey looked like and how she pursued an intentional dating season that led her to her lover.

Research article by Lachlan Brown for HackSpirit called “I can’t find love”. - 20 things to remember if you feel this is you”. 
  1. You’re not really looking
  2. You’re list of wants in a partner is too long
  3. You’re in the wrong place
  4. You believe too much in soul mates and destiny
  5. You’re still not over your ex (intimate idealization)
  6. You don’t know what people want from you/ you don’t want to give it
  7. You have unresolved childhood issues
  8. You feel like you unconditionally deserve love
  9. You try way too hard
  10. You’re not being your true self
  11. You don’t know how to play the game
  12. You take dating for granted (entitlement issues)
  13. You sabotage relationships
Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. 

ZocDOC: 
Go to https://zocdoc.com/lovers and download the  Zocdoc app for FREE. 

Babbel: 
Get up to 55% off your subscription by going to https://babbel.com/LOVERS

Magic Spoon: 
Get 5$ off your order by going to https://magicspoon.com/LOVERS

Follow Shan: 
http://instagram.com/shanboody
http://tiktok.com/shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

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]]> 3771 The Surprising Highs and Lows of Sex and Love(?) Under the Influence feat. Sarah Levy https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-surprising-highs-and-lows-of-sex-and-love-under-the-influence-feat-sarah-levy Are drinking games for lovers or losers? Does alcohol make sex better and wetter or dryer and dimmer? A study by Kathryn Lakeland of Femfresh found that 75 per cent of women said they liked to drink before getting into bed with their husband or boyfriend. In this episode we ask those in the 75 per cent to examine if this is a powerful or limiting decision.Many share that alcohol makes them feel confident, flirty and powerful, but also less aware, less excited and more prone to regrettable decisions. My guest on this episode, ‘Drinking Games’ Author,  Sarah Levy once described being drunk on dates as a mandatory activity that made her feel like she had warm honey in her veins. Now, she is 5 years sober and ready to tell the world why. In this episode, I am also joined by licensed therapist Erica Lubetkin who specializes in anxiety and addiction. Erica breaks down how alcohol can momentarily spike dopamine in your system, but the lasting effects are not so good. This podcast is intended to spark hard-to-have conversations in your romantic and sexual life that lead to powerful shifts. I genuinely believe this episode delivers on that promise because we are talking about some powerful shit - alcohol. Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Better Help! Visit http://Betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. http://Betterhelp.com/LOVERSFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Sarah: https://www.instagram.com/sarahllevyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sarahllevyhttps://www.sarahllevy.com/Follow Erica: https://ericalubetkin.com/https://www.instagram.com/erica.lubetkinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 18 Jan 2023 07:58:18 -0000 The Surprising Highs and Lows of Sex and Love(?) Under the Influence feat. Sarah Levy full 1 57 LOVERS by shan Are drinking games for lovers or losers? Does alcohol make sex better and wetter or dryer and dimmer? A study by Kathryn Lakeland of Femfresh found that 75 per cent of women said they liked to drink before getting into bed with their husband or boyfriend. In this episode we ask those in the 75 per cent to examine if this is a powerful or limiting decision.Many share that alcohol makes them feel confident, flirty and powerful, but also less aware, less excited and more prone to regrettable decisions. My guest on this episode, ‘Drinking Games’ Author,  Sarah Levy once described being drunk on dates as a mandatory activity that made her feel like she had warm honey in her veins. Now, she is 5 years sober and ready to tell the world why. In this episode, I am also joined by licensed therapist Erica Lubetkin who specializes in anxiety and addiction. Erica breaks down how alcohol can momentarily spike dopamine in your system, but the lasting effects are not so good. This podcast is intended to spark hard-to-have conversations in your romantic and sexual life that lead to powerful shifts. I genuinely believe this episode delivers on that promise because we are talking about some powerful shit - alcohol. Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Better Help! Visit http://Betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. http://Betterhelp.com/LOVERSFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Sarah: https://www.instagram.com/sarahllevyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sarahllevyhttps://www.sarahllevy.com/Follow Erica: https://ericalubetkin.com/https://www.instagram.com/erica.lubetkinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
A study by Kathryn Lakeland of Femfresh found that 75 per cent of women said they liked to drink before getting into bed with their husband or boyfriend. In this episode we ask those in the 75 per cent to examine if this is a powerful or limiting decision.

Many share that alcohol makes them feel confident, flirty and powerful, but also less aware, less excited and more prone to regrettable decisions. 

My guest on this episode, ‘Drinking Games’ Author,  Sarah Levy once described being drunk on dates as a mandatory activity that made her feel like she had warm honey in her veins. Now, she is 5 years sober and ready to tell the world why. 

In this episode, I am also joined by licensed therapist Erica Lubetkin who specializes in anxiety and addiction. Erica breaks down how alcohol can momentarily spike dopamine in your system, but the lasting effects are not so good. 

This podcast is intended to spark hard-to-have conversations in your romantic and sexual life that lead to powerful shifts. I genuinely believe this episode delivers on that promise because we are talking about some powerful shit - alcohol. 

Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Better Help! 
Visit http://Betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. 
http://Betterhelp.com/LOVERS

Follow Shan: 
http://instagram.com/shanboody
http://tiktok.com/shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com


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]]> 3267 Dangerously in Love feat. Nick Viall https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/dangerously-in-love-feat-nick-viall This week's question is : What does it mean to be safe in a relationship? Safety in a relationship looks different for everyone. Our starring guest this week Nick Viall and I talked about a lot, but underneath it, I think this is the core of it… 1) How love hasn’t been safe in the past and 2) how he’s redefining safety within in his new relationship: one that has external threats in the form of public opinion because that’s what fortunately unfortunately happens when two people attempt to share one life"And now Nick is redefining what safety in a relationship means to him. Which leads to asking you “What does romantic safety mean to you?” “Any aha moments after listening to this episode?”Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Nick: https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/reels/?hl=enhttps://www.youtube.com/@viallfiles/videosPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Download the ZocDoc app for free. https://www.zocdoc.com/LOVERSFor 10% off during your first 3 months with Ritual, go to https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS For 55% off your Babble subscription.https://www.babble.com/lovers See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 11 Jan 2023 05:07:22 -0000 Dangerously in Love feat. Nick Viall full 1 56 LOVERS by shan This week's question is : What does it mean to be safe in a relationship? Safety in a relationship looks different for everyone. Our starring guest this week Nick Viall and I talked about a lot, but underneath it, I think this is the core of it… 1) How love hasn’t been safe in the past and 2) how he’s redefining safety within in his new relationship: one that has external threats in the form of public opinion because that’s what fortunately unfortunately happens when two people attempt to share one life"And now Nick is redefining what safety in a relationship means to him. Which leads to asking you “What does romantic safety mean to you?” “Any aha moments after listening to this episode?”Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Nick: https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/reels/?hl=enhttps://www.youtube.com/@viallfiles/videosPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Download the ZocDoc app for free. https://www.zocdoc.com/LOVERSFor 10% off during your first 3 months with Ritual, go to https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS For 55% off your Babble subscription.https://www.babble.com/lovers See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Our starring guest this week Nick Viall and I talked about a lot, but underneath it, I think this is the core of it… 1) How love hasn’t been safe in the past and 2) how he’s redefining safety within in his new relationship: one that has external threats in the form of public opinion because that’s what fortunately unfortunately happens when two people attempt to share one life"

And now Nick is redefining what safety in a relationship means to him. Which leads to asking you “What does romantic safety mean to you?” “Any aha moments after listening to this episode?”


Follow Shan: 

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loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow Nick: 
https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/reels/?hl=en
https://www.youtube.com/@viallfiles/videos

Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. 

Download the ZocDoc app for free. 
https://www.zocdoc.com/LOVERS

For 10% off during your first 3 months with Ritual, go to 
https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS
For 55% off your Babble subscription.
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]]> 3282 The Butt Plug Story that Summarized 2022 + 20 Other Questions to Ground Your Year https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-butt-plug-story-that-summarized-2022-20-other-questions-to-ground-your-year Who did you become last year? What is something you could not do last year that you want to be able to do by year's end? Shan Boodram shares how 2022 - the most transformative, miserable, lucrative and full year of her life - is grounding her 2023 with these twenty questions in mind. Who did you become? What was the single best thing that happened this past year? What was the single most challenging thing that happened? What is one change you made that improved the quality of your life? What was an unexpected obstacle? What  can you give yourself credit for this year? Were you dishonest with yourself or others last year? What’s your most memorable story What were the best books you read this year? Who poured into you this year, who do you want to thank? What’s something you couldn’t do a year ago that you can do today? What’s something you want to be able to say you can do a year from now that you can’t do yet? What promise do you keep breaking to yourself? What promise will you make to yourself this year? What was the most enjoyable part of your work? What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)? What was the best way you used your time this past year? What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?  What one word or intention do you hope will define your 2023? What was biggest thing you learned this past year?  What would you do this next year if you knew you could not fail? Thank you to our sponsor Hello Fresh!There is a reason why Hello Fresh is America’s #1 Meal Kit and you can find out for yourself with this incredible offer! Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 and use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping! One more time, incase you need that to sink in... That is http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 05 Jan 2023 23:28:49 -0000 The Butt Plug Story that Summarized 2022 + 20 Other Questions to Ground Your Year full 1 55 LOVERS by shan Who did you become last year? What is something you could not do last year that you want to be able to do by year's end? Shan Boodram shares how 2022 - the most transformative, miserable, lucrative and full year of her life - is grounding her 2023 with these twenty questions in mind. Who did you become? What was the single best thing that happened this past year? What was the single most challenging thing that happened? What is one change you made that improved the quality of your life? What was an unexpected obstacle? What  can you give yourself credit for this year? Were you dishonest with yourself or others last year? What’s your most memorable story What were the best books you read this year? Who poured into you this year, who do you want to thank? What’s something you couldn’t do a year ago that you can do today? What’s something you want to be able to say you can do a year from now that you can’t do yet? What promise do you keep breaking to yourself? What promise will you make to yourself this year? What was the most enjoyable part of your work? What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)? What was the best way you used your time this past year? What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?  What one word or intention do you hope will define your 2023? What was biggest thing you learned this past year?  What would you do this next year if you knew you could not fail? Thank you to our sponsor Hello Fresh!There is a reason why Hello Fresh is America’s #1 Meal Kit and you can find out for yourself with this incredible offer! Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 and use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping! One more time, incase you need that to sink in... That is http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
  1. Who did you become?

  2. What was the single best thing that happened this past year?

  3. What was the single most challenging thing that happened?

  4. What is one change you made that improved the quality of your life?

  5. What was an unexpected obstacle?

  6. What  can you give yourself credit for this year?

  7. Were you dishonest with yourself or others last year?

  8. What’s your most memorable story

  9. What were the best books you read this year?

  10. Who poured into you this year, who do you want to thank?

  11. What’s something you couldn’t do a year ago that you can do today?

  12. What’s something you want to be able to say you can do a year from now that you can’t do yet?

  13. What promise do you keep breaking to yourself?

  14. What promise will you make to yourself this year?

  15. What was the most enjoyable part of your work?

  16. What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)?

  17. What was the best way you used your time this past year?

  18. What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?

  19.  What one word or intention do you hope will define your 2023?

  20. What was biggest thing you learned this past year?

  21.  What would you do this next year if you knew you could not fail?

Thank you to our sponsor Hello Fresh!

There is a reason why Hello Fresh is America’s #1 Meal Kit and you can find out for yourself with this incredible offer! 

Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 and use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping! 

One more time, incase you need that to sink in... 

That is http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping.


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]]> 2201 Good Sex because of My Best Friend feat. Good Moms Bad Choices https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/good-sex-because-of-my-best-friend-feat-good-moms-bad-choices What happens when you combine love, sex, magic and best friends? In this episode Shan sits down with Erica and Milah, hosts of Good Moms, Bad Choices and together they unravel the goddess experience. What does that look like? How did it happen and most of all…. did it bring them closer as best friends?This episode touches on the importance of platonic intimacy and how through bearing it all with your bestie: the real, the rare, the repulsive and the riveting - can actually make for a natural progression to experiencing and enhancing each other sexually in a VERY explicit, but still VERY plutonic way. This is an episode about how our friends can play an incredibly enriching role in our sex lives and moreover in other creative facets of our being. Follow Our Guests Erica and Milah: http://instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoiceshttps://www.goodmomsbadchoices.com/Follow Matilda Carrol:https://www.instagram.com/iammatildacarrollFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Gerber Life Guaranteed Life InsuranceNo medical exams and no health questionnaire required. Just go to the website for a free quote.http://GerberLifeFamily.comStoryWorth:Get $10 off of your first purchase at StoryWorth and give the gift they’ll be talking about for yearsHttp://Storyworth.com/loversLumi Labs: Microdosehttp://Microdose.comUse code: LOVERS Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. Manscaped:http://www.manscaped.comUse code: LOVERSGet free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 14 Dec 2022 15:41:07 -0000 Good Sex because of My Best Friend feat. Good Moms Bad Choices full 1 54 LOVERS by shan What happens when you combine love, sex, magic and best friends? In this episode Shan sits down with Erica and Milah, hosts of Good Moms, Bad Choices and together they unravel the goddess experience. What does that look like? How did it happen and most of all…. did it bring them closer as best friends?This episode touches on the importance of platonic intimacy and how through bearing it all with your bestie: the real, the rare, the repulsive and the riveting - can actually make for a natural progression to experiencing and enhancing each other sexually in a VERY explicit, but still VERY plutonic way. This is an episode about how our friends can play an incredibly enriching role in our sex lives and moreover in other creative facets of our being. Follow Our Guests Erica and Milah: http://instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoiceshttps://www.goodmomsbadchoices.com/Follow Matilda Carrol:https://www.instagram.com/iammatildacarrollFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Gerber Life Guaranteed Life InsuranceNo medical exams and no health questionnaire required. Just go to the website for a free quote.http://GerberLifeFamily.comStoryWorth:Get $10 off of your first purchase at StoryWorth and give the gift they’ll be talking about for yearsHttp://Storyworth.com/loversLumi Labs: Microdosehttp://Microdose.comUse code: LOVERS Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. Manscaped:http://www.manscaped.comUse code: LOVERSGet free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This episode touches on the importance of platonic intimacy and how through bearing it all with your bestie: the real, the rare, the repulsive and the riveting - can actually make for a natural progression to experiencing and enhancing each other sexually in a VERY explicit, but still VERY plutonic way. This is an episode about how our friends can play an incredibly enriching role in our sex lives and moreover in other creative facets of our being. 

Follow Our Guests Erica and Milah: 
http://instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices
https://www.goodmomsbadchoices.com/

Follow Matilda Carrol:
https://www.instagram.com/iammatildacarroll

Follow Shan: 

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loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. 

Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance
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Get $10 off of your first purchase at StoryWorth and give the gift they’ll be talking about for years
Http://Storyworth.com/lovers


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Use code: LOVERS 

Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. 

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http://www.manscaped.com
Use code: LOVERS

Get free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .

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]]> 3339 Yes, I was the Villain in My Relationship feat. Jessie Reyez https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/yes-i-was-the-villain-in-my-relationship-feat-jessie-reyez Singer, songwriter Jessie Reyes candidly opens up about how on her quest for love, she recently played the role of the “bad guy”. For many, especially women, this is something that can be very hard to admit. Jessie Reyez reflects on how she f***** up, how she tried to right her wrong, how she coped when her apology to her ex wasn’t enough, and what insight she gained from this experience. Jessie Reyez is a Toronto born singer and songwriter who burst into the scene in 2016 with her platinum single Figures. In 2020, Jessie received her first Grammy nomination for Urban Contemporary Album. She is admired internationally and has amassed millions of followers and is currently embarking on a national sold out tour. Jessie has collaborated with artists like Eminem, 6lack, and Kehlani. She has also written songs for Calvin Harris, Dua Lipa and Normani. Her new album Yessie, is out NOW.Follow Jessie: http://instgram.com/jessiereyez/https://www.youtube.com/@JessieReyezhttps://jessiereyez.com/https://open.spotify.com/artist/3KedxarmBCyFBevnqQHy3PFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Gerber Life Guaranteed Life InsuranceNo medical exams and no health questionnaire required. Just go to the website for a free quote.http://GerberLifeFamily.comHello Fresh http://www/hellofresh.com/Use code LOVERS18 at checkout!Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers18 and use code lovers18 for 18 free meals plus free shipping! There is reason why it is America’s #1 Meal Kit so give it a try for yourself. Lumi Labs: Microdosehttp://Microdose.comUse code: LOVERS Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. Manscaped:http://www.manscaped.comUse code: LOVERSGet free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 07 Dec 2022 06:12:24 -0000 Yes, I was the Villain in My Relationship feat. Jessie Reyez full 1 53 LOVERS by shan Singer, songwriter Jessie Reyes candidly opens up about how on her quest for love, she recently played the role of the “bad guy”. For many, especially women, this is something that can be very hard to admit. Jessie Reyez reflects on how she f***** up, how she tried to right her wrong, how she coped when her apology to her ex wasn’t enough, and what insight she gained from this experience. Jessie Reyez is a Toronto born singer and songwriter who burst into the scene in 2016 with her platinum single Figures. In 2020, Jessie received her first Grammy nomination for Urban Contemporary Album. She is admired internationally and has amassed millions of followers and is currently embarking on a national sold out tour. Jessie has collaborated with artists like Eminem, 6lack, and Kehlani. She has also written songs for Calvin Harris, Dua Lipa and Normani. Her new album Yessie, is out NOW.Follow Jessie: http://instgram.com/jessiereyez/https://www.youtube.com/@JessieReyezhttps://jessiereyez.com/https://open.spotify.com/artist/3KedxarmBCyFBevnqQHy3PFollow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Gerber Life Guaranteed Life InsuranceNo medical exams and no health questionnaire required. Just go to the website for a free quote.http://GerberLifeFamily.comHello Fresh http://www/hellofresh.com/Use code LOVERS18 at checkout!Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers18 and use code lovers18 for 18 free meals plus free shipping! There is reason why it is America’s #1 Meal Kit so give it a try for yourself. Lumi Labs: Microdosehttp://Microdose.comUse code: LOVERS Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. Manscaped:http://www.manscaped.comUse code: LOVERSGet free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Jessie Reyez reflects on how she f***** up, how she tried to right her wrong, how she coped when her apology to her ex wasn’t enough, and what insight she gained from this experience. 

Jessie Reyez is a Toronto born singer and songwriter who burst into the scene in 2016 with her platinum single Figures. In 2020, Jessie received her first Grammy nomination for Urban Contemporary Album. 

She is admired internationally and has amassed millions of followers and is currently embarking on a national sold out tour. Jessie has collaborated with artists like Eminem, 6lack, and Kehlani. She has also written songs for Calvin Harris, Dua Lipa and Normani. Her new album Yessie, is out NOW.

Follow Jessie: 
http://instgram.com/jessiereyez/
https://www.youtube.com/@JessieReyez
https://jessiereyez.com/
https://open.spotify.com/artist/3KedxarmBCyFBevnqQHy3P


Follow Shan: 

http://instagram.com/shanboody
http://tiktok.com/shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. 

Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance
No medical exams and no health questionnaire required. 

Just go to the website for a free quote.
http://GerberLifeFamily.com


Hello Fresh 
http://www/hellofresh.com/
Use code LOVERS18 at checkout!
Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers18 and use code lovers18 for 18 free meals plus free shipping! There is reason why it is America’s #1 Meal Kit so give it a try for yourself. 


Lumi Labs: Microdose
http://Microdose.com
Use code: LOVERS 

Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. 

Manscaped:

http://www.manscaped.com
Use code: LOVERS

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]]> 3894 If You Really Knew Me, You’d Leave Me feat. Steelo Brim https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/if-you-really-knew-me-you-d-leave-me-feat-steelo-brim Steelo Brim shares how the culture of toxic masculinity where men are encouraged not to go deep with themselves, almost destroyed his chances at real love both with himself and with women. He also talks about how he and his longtime girlfriend alahna jade chose to break out of the monogamy-one-size-fits-all box in order to create a healthy relationship on their terms and Steelo shares why his last relationship with fiance Conna Walker did not work. Sterling Brim better known as Steelo is a comedian, podcast host, actor, TV host, producer and musician. You may recognize him from hosting MTV’s show titled Ridiculousness. Steelo is a host on his weekly podcast called “Wine and Weed” where he and his co host- unpack current events and pop culture.Steelo unpacks what he needed to let go of and lean into in order to create the love he needed in his life.Follow Steelohttp://instagram.com/SteeloBrim http://youtube.com/@wineandweedFollow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Gerber Life Guaranteed Life InsuranceNo medical exams and no health questionnaire required. Just go to the website for a free quote.http://GerberLifeFamily.comBetterHelpAs the world’s largest therapy service, BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists available 100% online. Save 10% off your first month at http://BetterHelp.com/lovers. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 30 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0000 If You Really Knew Me, You’d Leave Me feat. Steelo Brim full 1 52 LOVERS by shan Steelo Brim shares how the culture of toxic masculinity where men are encouraged not to go deep with themselves, almost destroyed his chances at real love both with himself and with women. He also talks about how he and his longtime girlfriend alahna jade chose to break out of the monogamy-one-size-fits-all box in order to create a healthy relationship on their terms and Steelo shares why his last relationship with fiance Conna Walker did not work. Sterling Brim better known as Steelo is a comedian, podcast host, actor, TV host, producer and musician. You may recognize him from hosting MTV’s show titled Ridiculousness. Steelo is a host on his weekly podcast called “Wine and Weed” where he and his co host- unpack current events and pop culture.Steelo unpacks what he needed to let go of and lean into in order to create the love he needed in his life.Follow Steelohttp://instagram.com/SteeloBrim http://youtube.com/@wineandweedFollow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comPlease help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. Gerber Life Guaranteed Life InsuranceNo medical exams and no health questionnaire required. Just go to the website for a free quote.http://GerberLifeFamily.comBetterHelpAs the world’s largest therapy service, BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists available 100% online. Save 10% off your first month at http://BetterHelp.com/lovers. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sterling Brim better known as Steelo is a comedian, podcast host, actor, TV host, producer and musician. You may recognize him from hosting MTV’s show titled Ridiculousness. 

Steelo is a host on his weekly podcast called “Wine and Weed” where he and his co host- unpack current events and pop culture.

Steelo unpacks what he needed to let go of and lean into in order to create the love he needed in his life.

Follow Steelo

http://instagram.com/SteeloBrim 
http://youtube.com/@wineandweed


Follow Shan 

http://instagram.com/shanboody
http://tiktok.com/shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more. 

Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance
No medical exams and no health questionnaire required. 

Just go to the website for a free quote.
http://GerberLifeFamily.com

BetterHelp
As the world’s largest therapy service, BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists available 100% online. 

Save 10% off your first month at 
http://BetterHelp.com/lovers. 



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]]> 2542 I'm Concerned About Our Love After Kids Ft. Jared Brady https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/im-concerned-about-our-love-after-kids-ft-jared-brady  In this episode, I sit down with my lover, my partner, my baby daddy, my everything,  Jared. This conversation gets really real. We love our kids but do we still like our life? Do we still like each other?This time in Colombia with my family has sprung up a lot of 'aha' moments: some good and others not so good. Life after kids is unpredictable and it can sometimes feel like that spark is lost. Which takes me to asking him an important question that to be honest made me nervous. "Are you happy?"It gets raw, real and made me realize what I need to do more of..HUGE thank you to the sponsor of this episode, Hello Fresh. There’s a reason why it’s America’s #1 Meal Kit. Fresh and delicious food delivered right to your door with perfectly proportioned ingredients. Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers65 Use code LOVERS65 for 65% off! Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Jared:Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 16 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0000 I'm Concerned About Our Love After Kids Ft. Jared Brady full 1 51 LOVERS by shan  In this episode, I sit down with my lover, my partner, my baby daddy, my everything,  Jared. This conversation gets really real. We love our kids but do we still like our life? Do we still like each other?This time in Colombia with my family has sprung up a lot of 'aha' moments: some good and others not so good. Life after kids is unpredictable and it can sometimes feel like that spark is lost. Which takes me to asking him an important question that to be honest made me nervous. "Are you happy?"It gets raw, real and made me realize what I need to do more of..HUGE thank you to the sponsor of this episode, Hello Fresh. There’s a reason why it’s America’s #1 Meal Kit. Fresh and delicious food delivered right to your door with perfectly proportioned ingredients. Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers65 Use code LOVERS65 for 65% off! Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Jared:Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This time in Colombia with my family has sprung up a lot of 'aha' moments: some good and others not so good. 

Life after kids is unpredictable and it can sometimes feel like that spark is lost. Which takes me to asking him an important question that to be honest made me nervous. 

"Are you happy?"

It gets raw, real and made me realize what I need to do more of..

HUGE thank you to the sponsor of this episode, Hello Fresh. There’s a reason why it’s America’s #1 Meal Kit. Fresh and delicious food delivered right to your door with perfectly proportioned ingredients. 

Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers65 

Use code LOVERS65 for 65% off! 


Follow Shan 

http://instagram.com/shanboody

Call in to the show to leave a voice note
‪(323) 375-4797
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow Jared:

Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ 

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]]> 2884 Go to Therapy or We're Over Ft. David So https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/go-to-therapy-or-were-over-ft-david-so When was the last time your significant other gave you an ultimatum? When was the last time you gave them an ultimatum?In this episode, Shan sits down with Comedian, Actor, and Filmmaker, David So. He breaks down what led him to this breaking point and ultimately how this ultimatum impacted their relationship.... for better or worse?Thanks to the sponsor of this episode ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a FREE app that shows you doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance and are available when you need them.With ZocDoc, you can see real, verified patient reviews to help you find the right doctor in your network and your neighborhood.Go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself!It is as easy as search, find and book an appointment, in person or remotely, that works for your schedule. Again, go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself!Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Apostrophe. Post pregnancy, my melasma was a real struggle. A few weeks ago it was visible in the middle of my forehead, above my eyebrows and my fav, above my lip but last week my MUA was getting me ready, he actually said the melasma was fading. Thanks to the Apostrophe team, I  found a safe treatment for me plus a sunscreen for prevention. It came in a cute box with easy instructions and bonus, some funky stickers. Try it out!http://Apostrophe.com/LoversFirst visit for only $5.00 at http://Apostrophe.com/LoversFollow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/c/shannontboodramhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngFollow David: https://www.instagram.com/davidsocomedy/?hl=enhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCt8OnQ7ztuLrPrehlj8ZuuQSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Fri, 11 Nov 2022 08:51:40 -0000 Go to Therapy or We're Over Ft. David So full 1 50 LOVERS by shan When was the last time your significant other gave you an ultimatum? When was the last time you gave them an ultimatum?In this episode, Shan sits down with Comedian, Actor, and Filmmaker, David So. He breaks down what led him to this breaking point and ultimately how this ultimatum impacted their relationship.... for better or worse?Thanks to the sponsor of this episode ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a FREE app that shows you doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance and are available when you need them.With ZocDoc, you can see real, verified patient reviews to help you find the right doctor in your network and your neighborhood.Go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself!It is as easy as search, find and book an appointment, in person or remotely, that works for your schedule. Again, go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself!Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Apostrophe. Post pregnancy, my melasma was a real struggle. A few weeks ago it was visible in the middle of my forehead, above my eyebrows and my fav, above my lip but last week my MUA was getting me ready, he actually said the melasma was fading. Thanks to the Apostrophe team, I  found a safe treatment for me plus a sunscreen for prevention. It came in a cute box with easy instructions and bonus, some funky stickers. Try it out!http://Apostrophe.com/LoversFirst visit for only $5.00 at http://Apostrophe.com/LoversFollow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/c/shannontboodramhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngFollow David: https://www.instagram.com/davidsocomedy/?hl=enhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCt8OnQ7ztuLrPrehlj8ZuuQSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, Shan sits down with Comedian, Actor, and Filmmaker, David So. He breaks down what led him to this breaking point and ultimately how this ultimatum impacted their relationship.... for better or worse?

Thanks to the sponsor of this episode ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a FREE app that shows you doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance and are available when you need them.

With ZocDoc, you can see real, verified patient reviews to help you find the right doctor in your network and your neighborhood.

Go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself!

It is as easy as search, find and book an appointment, in person or remotely, that works for your schedule. Again, go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself!

Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Apostrophe. Post pregnancy, my melasma was a real struggle. A few weeks ago it was visible in the middle of my forehead, above my eyebrows and my fav, above my lip but last week my MUA was getting me ready, he actually said the melasma was fading. Thanks to the Apostrophe team, I  found a safe treatment for me plus a sunscreen for prevention. It came in a cute box with easy instructions and bonus, some funky stickers. Try it out!

http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers

First visit for only $5.00 at http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/c/shannontboodram
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Follow David: 
https://www.instagram.com/davidsocomedy/?hl=en
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]]> 2699 This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30, feat Kamie Crawford. https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/this-is-what-happens-when-a-single-woman-turns-30-feat-kamie-crawford How many times have you romanticized your life and where you THOUGHT you’d be by a certain age. For many of us, by 30 we imagine ourselves to be wifed up and thriving in a career. In this episode, I sit down with Kamie Crawford, the host of MTV’s Catfish and former Miss Teen USA. Kamie is also the host of her very own Podcast called Relationshit. Kamie is the epitome of 30, flirty and thriving! Last time Kamie was on the podcast, we broke down the lows and hell nos that led to her breakup and now, we are breaking down what she is leaving behind in her 20s and what she is welcoming in her 30s, including... a new love. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Better Help! For 10% off go to http://betterhelp.com/lovers Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Gerber Life Guaranteed. Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting http://GerberLifeFamily.com Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Kamie  http://instagram.com/kamiecrawfordhttp://instagram.com/relationshitSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 02 Nov 2022 18:16:02 -0000 This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30, feat Kamie Crawford. full 1 49 LOVERS by shan How many times have you romanticized your life and where you THOUGHT you’d be by a certain age. For many of us, by 30 we imagine ourselves to be wifed up and thriving in a career. In this episode, I sit down with Kamie Crawford, the host of MTV’s Catfish and former Miss Teen USA. Kamie is also the host of her very own Podcast called Relationshit. Kamie is the epitome of 30, flirty and thriving! Last time Kamie was on the podcast, we broke down the lows and hell nos that led to her breakup and now, we are breaking down what she is leaving behind in her 20s and what she is welcoming in her 30s, including... a new love. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Better Help! For 10% off go to http://betterhelp.com/lovers Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Gerber Life Guaranteed. Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting http://GerberLifeFamily.com Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Kamie  http://instagram.com/kamiecrawfordhttp://instagram.com/relationshitSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, I sit down with Kamie Crawford, the host of MTV’s Catfish and former Miss Teen USA. Kamie is also the host of her very own Podcast called Relationshit. Kamie is the epitome of 30, flirty and thriving! 

Last time Kamie was on the podcast, we broke down the lows and hell nos that led to her breakup and now, we are breaking down what she is leaving behind in her 20s and what she is welcoming in her 30s, including... a new love. 
Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Better Help! For 10% off go to http://betterhelp.com/lovers 
Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Gerber Life Guaranteed. 
Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting http://GerberLifeFamily.com 


Follow Shan 
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http://tiktok.com/shanboody
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Follow Kamie 
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]]> 2800 Longterm - Sex Is Hard (NO pun intended..or maybe it is) feat. Kev On Stage and Mrs Kev On Stage https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/longterm-sex-is-hard-no-pun-intended-or-maybe-it-is-feat-kev-on-stage-and-mrs-kev-on-stage Does sex HAVE to get less passionate as time goes on in a relationship? Is it possible to keep that “can’t keep your hands off each other” feeling in a marriage? In this episode we explore these questions and share the depressing/ hopeful truth about the secret to good sex in a long relationship. DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALSO WATCH FULL EPISODES OF LOVERS AND FRIENDS? CLICK HERE TO SEE OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngFun fact, falling in love is stressful on the body, but being in love is healthy for the body. When we are falling in love we experience an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone, but studies show that when we develop an attachment to someone oxytocin can actually work to inhibit cortisol production and stress response. That’s why researchers say that true love probably begins when the hormonal cocktail stops working. So long story short maybe the loss of passion in our sex life as we know it, is not such a bad thingMeet the guests of this episode!!!Kevin Fredericks aka KevOn Stage is an actor, stand-up comedian, entrepreneur, podcast developer and host and filmmaker. Kevin is part of a generation of comedians who gained fame online and has accumulated hundreds of millions of views on social media. He is currently on his 3rd SOLD OUT national comedy tour and he is a New York Times bestselling author with his book Marriage Be Hard that he co-authored with his wife Melissa Fredericks who you might know on the internets as Mrs Kevon Stage.Melissa hosts The Love Hour podcast and is best known for her betterment campaigns and advocacy for self-love. Together, Kevin and Melissa provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship.Follow KevOnStage:http://instagram.com/kevonstagehttp://youtube.com/kevonstagehttp://kevonstage.comFollow Kev’s streaming service: Kevon Stage StudiosFollow Melissa aka Mrs.KevOnStagehttp://instagram.com/mrskevonstagehttp://youtube.com/mrskevonstagehttps://www.mrskevonstage.com/Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 27 Oct 2022 22:10:25 -0000 Longterm - Sex Is Hard (NO pun intended..or maybe it is) feat. Kev On Stage and Mrs Kev On Stage full 1 48 LOVERS by shan Does sex HAVE to get less passionate as time goes on in a relationship? Is it possible to keep that “can’t keep your hands off each other” feeling in a marriage? In this episode we explore these questions and share the depressing/ hopeful truth about the secret to good sex in a long relationship. DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALSO WATCH FULL EPISODES OF LOVERS AND FRIENDS? CLICK HERE TO SEE OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngFun fact, falling in love is stressful on the body, but being in love is healthy for the body. When we are falling in love we experience an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone, but studies show that when we develop an attachment to someone oxytocin can actually work to inhibit cortisol production and stress response. That’s why researchers say that true love probably begins when the hormonal cocktail stops working. So long story short maybe the loss of passion in our sex life as we know it, is not such a bad thingMeet the guests of this episode!!!Kevin Fredericks aka KevOn Stage is an actor, stand-up comedian, entrepreneur, podcast developer and host and filmmaker. Kevin is part of a generation of comedians who gained fame online and has accumulated hundreds of millions of views on social media. He is currently on his 3rd SOLD OUT national comedy tour and he is a New York Times bestselling author with his book Marriage Be Hard that he co-authored with his wife Melissa Fredericks who you might know on the internets as Mrs Kevon Stage.Melissa hosts The Love Hour podcast and is best known for her betterment campaigns and advocacy for self-love. Together, Kevin and Melissa provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship.Follow KevOnStage:http://instagram.com/kevonstagehttp://youtube.com/kevonstagehttp://kevonstage.comFollow Kev’s streaming service: Kevon Stage StudiosFollow Melissa aka Mrs.KevOnStagehttp://instagram.com/mrskevonstagehttp://youtube.com/mrskevonstagehttps://www.mrskevonstage.com/Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALSO WATCH FULL EPISODES OF LOVERS AND FRIENDS? CLICK HERE TO SEE OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Fun fact, falling in love is stressful on the body, but being in love is healthy for the body. When we are falling in love we experience an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone, but studies show that when we develop an attachment to someone oxytocin can actually work to inhibit cortisol production and stress response. That’s why researchers say that true love probably begins when the hormonal cocktail stops working. 

So long story short maybe the loss of passion in our sex life as we know it, is not such a bad thing

Meet the guests of this episode!!!

Kevin Fredericks aka KevOn Stage is an actor, stand-up comedian, entrepreneur, podcast developer and host and filmmaker. Kevin is part of a generation of comedians who gained fame online and has accumulated hundreds of millions of views on social media. He is currently on his 3rd SOLD OUT national comedy tour and he is a New York Times bestselling author with his book Marriage Be Hard that he co-authored with his wife Melissa Fredericks who you might know on the internets as Mrs Kevon Stage.
Melissa hosts The Love Hour podcast and is best known for her betterment campaigns and advocacy for self-love. 
Together, Kevin and Melissa provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship.

Follow KevOnStage:
http://instagram.com/kevonstage
http://youtube.com/kevonstage
http://kevonstage.com

Follow Kev’s streaming service: 
Kevon Stage Studios

Follow Melissa aka Mrs.KevOnStage
http://instagram.com/mrskevonstage
http://youtube.com/mrskevonstage
https://www.mrskevonstage.com/


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]]> 3176 Dating in Your Twenties (is) For Dummies FT. Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/dating-in-your-twenties-is-for-dummies-ft-harry-jowsey-and-georgia-hassarati Dating in your 20s is a lot like being given free range with paint as a toddler. Things can be fun but can get messy really quick. But the beauty is, you're young and have time to clean the mess up. In this episode, that is exactly what we are getting into.  Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati - two on again off again, mid twenties, love birds in the midst of what we just described.Harry, Georgia and myself all met on the Netflix show that I’ve worked on as a sex expert for several seasons, Too Hot to Handle. Harry was a retreat attendee on season one and Georgia, on season three. They met because Harry asked Georgia to be a guest on his podcast, Tap in with Harry Jowsey.Harry and Georgia share a lot of the same things in common: background, career aspirations, sense of humor and the desire for real love in their 20s. They start hanging out, yada yada yada, they fall in love, have a few incredible rom-com-esque months together before things got a little TOO real… too heavy for Harry who then decides to call things off. But in classic-twenty-something-style our boy Harry made another big call a few weeks after that.And that’s where they are today… And if you’re not really clear where that “at” is, don’t worry, neither are they… and that’s kinda the beauty of trying to do the love thing in your twenties…right? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!ZocDocGo to ZocDoc.com/LOVERS to start your search for a top rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. That’z ZocDoc.com/LOVERS. Gerber Life FamilyGerberLifeFamily.comJust answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting GerberLifeFamily.comFollow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttp://shanboodram.comloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Harry- @HarryJowseyhttp://instagram.com/harryjowseyhttp://youtube.com/harryjowseyhttp://tiktok.com/harryjowseyFollow Georgia: @GeorgiaHassaratihttp://instagram.com/georgiahassaratihttp://youtube.com/GeorgiaHassarati1http://tiktok.comGeorgiaHassaratiSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 20 Oct 2022 15:57:31 -0000 Dating in Your Twenties (is) For Dummies FT. Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati full 1 47 LOVERS by shan Dating in your 20s is a lot like being given free range with paint as a toddler. Things can be fun but can get messy really quick. But the beauty is, you're young and have time to clean the mess up. In this episode, that is exactly what we are getting into.  Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati - two on again off again, mid twenties, love birds in the midst of what we just described.Harry, Georgia and myself all met on the Netflix show that I’ve worked on as a sex expert for several seasons, Too Hot to Handle. Harry was a retreat attendee on season one and Georgia, on season three. They met because Harry asked Georgia to be a guest on his podcast, Tap in with Harry Jowsey.Harry and Georgia share a lot of the same things in common: background, career aspirations, sense of humor and the desire for real love in their 20s. They start hanging out, yada yada yada, they fall in love, have a few incredible rom-com-esque months together before things got a little TOO real… too heavy for Harry who then decides to call things off. But in classic-twenty-something-style our boy Harry made another big call a few weeks after that.And that’s where they are today… And if you’re not really clear where that “at” is, don’t worry, neither are they… and that’s kinda the beauty of trying to do the love thing in your twenties…right? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!ZocDocGo to ZocDoc.com/LOVERS to start your search for a top rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. That’z ZocDoc.com/LOVERS. Gerber Life FamilyGerberLifeFamily.comJust answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting GerberLifeFamily.comFollow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttp://shanboodram.comloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Harry- @HarryJowseyhttp://instagram.com/harryjowseyhttp://youtube.com/harryjowseyhttp://tiktok.com/harryjowseyFollow Georgia: @GeorgiaHassaratihttp://instagram.com/georgiahassaratihttp://youtube.com/GeorgiaHassarati1http://tiktok.comGeorgiaHassaratiSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati - two on again off again, mid twenties, love birds in the midst of what we just described.

Harry, Georgia and myself all met on the Netflix show that I’ve worked on as a sex expert for several seasons, Too Hot to Handle. Harry was a retreat attendee on season one and Georgia, on season three. They met because Harry asked Georgia to be a guest on his podcast, Tap in with Harry Jowsey.

Harry and Georgia share a lot of the same things in common: background, career aspirations, sense of humor and the desire for real love in their 20s. They start hanging out, yada yada yada, they fall in love, have a few incredible rom-com-esque months together before things got a little TOO real… too heavy for Harry who then decides to call things off. But in classic-twenty-something-style our boy Harry made another big call a few weeks after that.

And that’s where they are today… And if you’re not really clear where that “at” is, don’t worry, neither are they… and that’s kinda the beauty of trying to do the love thing in your twenties…right? 


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]]> 3075 Sacred Sex For People Who Don't Believe Featuring Tanerélle https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/sacred-sex-for-people-who-dont-believe-featuring-taner-lle Shan sits down with artist Tanerelle to explore all about sacred sexuality and intimacy. Sacred sexuality is an entirely different way to connect with your partner. It involves delicacy, hugs, caresses and even at times no touching while holding space for meditation. All this deep work, leads to deep release which can include more powerful orgasms to longer-lasting, non-ejaculatory, and multiple orgasms for men and numerous types of orgasms for women.Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, Apostrophe!We have a special deal for our audience: Get your first visit for only five dollars at http://Apostrophe.com/LOVERS when you use our code:LOVERS. That’s a savings of fifteen dollars! This code is only available to our listeners. To get started, just go tohttp://Apostrophe.com/LOVERSand click Begin Visit, then use our code LOVERS at sign up and you’ll get your first visit for only five dollars!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 12 Oct 2022 06:38:44 -0000 Sacred Sex For People Who Don't Believe Featuring Tanerélle full 1 46 LOVERS by shan Shan sits down with artist Tanerelle to explore all about sacred sexuality and intimacy. Sacred sexuality is an entirely different way to connect with your partner. It involves delicacy, hugs, caresses and even at times no touching while holding space for meditation. All this deep work, leads to deep release which can include more powerful orgasms to longer-lasting, non-ejaculatory, and multiple orgasms for men and numerous types of orgasms for women.Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, Apostrophe!We have a special deal for our audience: Get your first visit for only five dollars at http://Apostrophe.com/LOVERS when you use our code:LOVERS. That’s a savings of fifteen dollars! This code is only available to our listeners. To get started, just go tohttp://Apostrophe.com/LOVERSand click Begin Visit, then use our code LOVERS at sign up and you’ll get your first visit for only five dollars!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sacred sexuality is an entirely different way to connect with your partner. It involves delicacy, hugs, caresses and even at times no touching while holding space for meditation. 
All this deep work, leads to deep release which can include more powerful orgasms to longer-lasting, non-ejaculatory, and multiple orgasms for men and numerous types of orgasms for women.

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]]> 3521 I Don't Sleep with Women, But I Do Have Sex with Them feat. Sincere Show https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-dont-sleep-with-women-but-i-do-have-sex-with-them-feat-sincere-show Sincere Show, best known as Jason Derulo's DJ and a former castmate of Love and Hip Hop, came to this podcast to discuss non-monogamy and why his life of abundance has informed his decision to seek out an open relationship. However, the interview went much deeper and wider covering topics like fear of abandonment, sexual trauma, power dynamics and harmful tropes. This episode poses thought starters such as: What does it look like to be healed? Can you know what you want without knowing yourself without the baggage of trauma? How much space should we make for hurt people who hurt people? When are boundaries unhelpful brick walls? Should we prioritize or drive for sex or safety?Thank you to the sponsor of this episode HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers65 and use code lovers65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttp://shanboodram.comloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode www.instagram.com/sincereshowtiktok.com/sincereshow www.twitter.com/sincereshow See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 06 Oct 2022 08:32:22 -0000 I Don't Sleep with Women, But I Do Have Sex with Them feat. Sincere Show full 45 LOVERS by shan Sincere Show, best known as Jason Derulo's DJ and a former castmate of Love and Hip Hop, came to this podcast to discuss non-monogamy and why his life of abundance has informed his decision to seek out an open relationship. However, the interview went much deeper and wider covering topics like fear of abandonment, sexual trauma, power dynamics and harmful tropes. This episode poses thought starters such as: What does it look like to be healed? Can you know what you want without knowing yourself without the baggage of trauma? How much space should we make for hurt people who hurt people? When are boundaries unhelpful brick walls? Should we prioritize or drive for sex or safety?Thank you to the sponsor of this episode HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers65 and use code lovers65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttp://shanboodram.comloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode www.instagram.com/sincereshowtiktok.com/sincereshow www.twitter.com/sincereshow See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This episode poses thought starters such as: What does it look like to be healed? Can you know what you want without knowing yourself without the baggage of trauma? How much space should we make for hurt people who hurt people? When are boundaries unhelpful brick walls? Should we prioritize or drive for sex or safety?

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]]> 2858 He's a cheating, code-less mother fucker feat. Tefi Pessoa https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/hes-a-cheating-code-less-mother-fucker-feat-tefi-pessoa Shan Boodram delves into the taboo and hot topic that is cheating: are there ways to predict if your partner will cheat? Are there early warning signs?Recently two huge celebrity cheating scandals broke out- Adam Levine’s alleged affair and Nia Long’s fiancee, Ime Udoka’s affair. Often when we think of someone being cheated on, we cast an archetype - But in this case the people who’ve been cheated on don’t fit the script at all!On this episode, Shan talks to Estefania Pessoa better know as Tefi on Tiktok, who provided an unexpected take on cheating. Tefi breaks down how  your code shapes your decisions, character, morals and therefore if you're likely going to be a cheater. But there was another take on how to spot a cheater, that I found very fascinating. Estefania Pessoa better known as Tefi on TikTok spoke about code. Tefi explained how code is your character, your morals, and how this code will impact the decisions you make. Decisions that will not only affect you, but those that you love. Shan also sits down with  Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist who enlightens us on what to look out for to get a leg up on those who can’t keep their legs closed. Promo Codes: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month.Apostrophe: Visit Apostrophe.com/Lovers for your first visit for only 5$Thank you Better Help and Apostrophe for sponsoring this episode. Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode: Tefi https://www.tiktok.com/@hellotefihttps://www.instagram.com/hellotefiDr. Barry Goldstein http://realityshrink.net/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Thu, 29 Sep 2022 20:01:09 -0000 He's a cheating, code-less mother fucker feat. Tefi Pessoa full LOVERS by shan Shan Boodram delves into the taboo and hot topic that is cheating: are there ways to predict if your partner will cheat? Are there early warning signs?Recently two huge celebrity cheating scandals broke out- Adam Levine’s alleged affair and Nia Long’s fiancee, Ime Udoka’s affair. Often when we think of someone being cheated on, we cast an archetype - But in this case the people who’ve been cheated on don’t fit the script at all!On this episode, Shan talks to Estefania Pessoa better know as Tefi on Tiktok, who provided an unexpected take on cheating. Tefi breaks down how  your code shapes your decisions, character, morals and therefore if you're likely going to be a cheater. But there was another take on how to spot a cheater, that I found very fascinating. Estefania Pessoa better known as Tefi on TikTok spoke about code. Tefi explained how code is your character, your morals, and how this code will impact the decisions you make. Decisions that will not only affect you, but those that you love. Shan also sits down with  Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist who enlightens us on what to look out for to get a leg up on those who can’t keep their legs closed. Promo Codes: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month.Apostrophe: Visit Apostrophe.com/Lovers for your first visit for only 5$Thank you Better Help and Apostrophe for sponsoring this episode. Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode: Tefi https://www.tiktok.com/@hellotefihttps://www.instagram.com/hellotefiDr. Barry Goldstein http://realityshrink.net/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Recently two huge celebrity cheating scandals broke out- Adam Levine’s alleged affair and Nia Long’s fiancee, Ime Udoka’s affair. Often when we think of someone being cheated on, we cast an archetype - But in this case the people who’ve been cheated on don’t fit the script at all!

On this episode, Shan talks to Estefania Pessoa better know as Tefi on Tiktok, who provided an unexpected take on cheating. Tefi breaks down how  your code shapes your decisions, character, morals and therefore if you're likely going to be a cheater. 

But there was another take on how to spot a cheater, that I found very fascinating. Estefania Pessoa better known as Tefi on TikTok spoke about code. Tefi explained how code is your character, your morals, and how this code will impact the decisions you make. Decisions that will not only affect you, but those that you love. 

Shan also sits down with  Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist who enlightens us on what to look out for to get a leg up on those who can’t keep their legs closed. 


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]]> 2882 Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure feat. Mike Johnson https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/tall-dark-handsome-and-sexually-insecure-feat-mike-johnson Is my dick too small? Do they notice my man boobs? Does she think I just want sex? Are my legs too skinny? Am I strong enough to do any position she desires? Is this a safe space for my trauma?These are things that the men in this episode have said and I really hope you take the time to listen. Mike Johnson, an Air Force Vet and certified sex coach,  best known for being on ABC's The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, opens up about his struggle with performance anxiety. Performance anxiety happens when you feel stress about your body image or your ability to please your partner. And sex coach Alex Grendi talks about what men really need to get and stay hard PLUS the importance of men being vulnerable.  What should someone say when their partner can’t get hard? What are men most insecure about? Let’s discussThank you Better Help for sponsoring this episode.  Promo Code: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month.Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode: Mike Johnsonhttps://www.instagram.com/Mike_Johnsonhttp://www.feelingseen.com Alex Grendihttps://www.instagram.com/Alex.grendihttps://www.superiorlovers.comhttps://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSLSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 21 Sep 2022 18:54:15 -0000 Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure feat. Mike Johnson full LOVERS by shan Is my dick too small? Do they notice my man boobs? Does she think I just want sex? Are my legs too skinny? Am I strong enough to do any position she desires? Is this a safe space for my trauma?These are things that the men in this episode have said and I really hope you take the time to listen. Mike Johnson, an Air Force Vet and certified sex coach,  best known for being on ABC's The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, opens up about his struggle with performance anxiety. Performance anxiety happens when you feel stress about your body image or your ability to please your partner. And sex coach Alex Grendi talks about what men really need to get and stay hard PLUS the importance of men being vulnerable.  What should someone say when their partner can’t get hard? What are men most insecure about? Let’s discussThank you Better Help for sponsoring this episode.  Promo Code: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month.Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode: Mike Johnsonhttps://www.instagram.com/Mike_Johnsonhttp://www.feelingseen.com Alex Grendihttps://www.instagram.com/Alex.grendihttps://www.superiorlovers.comhttps://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSLSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
These are things that the men in this episode have said and I really hope you take the time to listen. Mike Johnson, an Air Force Vet and certified sex coach,  best known for being on ABC's The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, opens up about his struggle with performance anxiety. Performance anxiety happens when you feel stress about your body image or your ability to please your partner. And sex coach Alex Grendi talks about what men really need to get and stay hard PLUS the importance of men being vulnerable.  


What should someone say when their partner can’t get hard? What are men most insecure about? Let’s discuss

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]]> 2872 Do We Believe Her? ft. Abby De La Rosa + Submissive Women Episode Response https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/do-we-believe-her-ft-abby-de-la-rosa-submissive-women-episode-response Nick Canon's third baby mama Abby De La Rosa says she is happy with Nick as her primary partner in their very open relationship. Do you believe her? Let's examine why or why not..."Believe women" is an American political slogan arising out of the #MeToo movement that refers to accepting women's allegations of sexual harassment or sexual assault at face value. BUT does it have limitations? Do we also believe women when they say that they're happy in romantic relationships...even if they're involved in dynamics that we don't think would work for us?Abby challenges us to see beyond our biases AND hold both of her contrasting truths about her love life. Also in this episode LMFT Mayana Geathers shares her professional opinion on believing women claiming to be happy in unbelievable arrangements.Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode: Abby De La Rosahttps://www.instagram.com/hiabbydelarosahttp://onlyfans.com/hiabbydelarosaMayana Geathershttps://www.instagram.com/mayanageathers/https://www.mayanageathers.com/Kenya Alexanderhttps://www.instagram.com/kenyaonhair/?hl=enhttps://www.kenyaonhair.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 14 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0000 Do We Believe Her? ft. Abby De La Rosa + Submissive Women Episode Response full LOVERS by shan Nick Canon's third baby mama Abby De La Rosa says she is happy with Nick as her primary partner in their very open relationship. Do you believe her? Let's examine why or why not..."Believe women" is an American political slogan arising out of the #MeToo movement that refers to accepting women's allegations of sexual harassment or sexual assault at face value. BUT does it have limitations? Do we also believe women when they say that they're happy in romantic relationships...even if they're involved in dynamics that we don't think would work for us?Abby challenges us to see beyond our biases AND hold both of her contrasting truths about her love life. Also in this episode LMFT Mayana Geathers shares her professional opinion on believing women claiming to be happy in unbelievable arrangements.Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode: Abby De La Rosahttps://www.instagram.com/hiabbydelarosahttp://onlyfans.com/hiabbydelarosaMayana Geathershttps://www.instagram.com/mayanageathers/https://www.mayanageathers.com/Kenya Alexanderhttps://www.instagram.com/kenyaonhair/?hl=enhttps://www.kenyaonhair.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Abby challenges us to see beyond our biases AND hold both of her contrasting truths about her love life. Also in this episode LMFT Mayana Geathers shares her professional opinion on believing women claiming to be happy in unbelievable arrangements.

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]]> 3746 Giving Birth, Saying Bye to My Husband and Discovering Who TF I Am https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/giving-birth-saying-bye-to-my-husband-and-discovering-who-tf-i-am And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.   Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Tue, 23 Aug 2022 01:32:15 -0000 Giving Birth, Saying Bye to My Husband and Discovering Who TF I Am full LOVERS by shan And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.   Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.

 

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]]> 1393 My Nightmare Living With A Pregnant Woman - Jared Brady Takeover! https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/my-nightmare-living-with-a-pregnant-woman-jared-brady-takeover In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate!  Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!     Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode    Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/  Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mikegdnss/ Byron: https://www.instagram.com/lordbyronb/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Tue, 02 Aug 2022 17:23:40 -0000 My Nightmare Living With A Pregnant Woman - Jared Brady Takeover! full LOVERS by shan In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate!  Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!     Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode    Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/  Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mikegdnss/ Byron: https://www.instagram.com/lordbyronb/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate! 

Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!

 

 

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]]> 2152 I'm Ready to Give Birth and I'm Still Not...Excited. What Now? feat. Shanola Hampton https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/im-ready-to-give-birth-and-im-still-not-excited-what-now-feat-shanola-hampton I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?   This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!   Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode    Shanola Hampton http://instagram.com/shanolahampton   Lauren Morrison http://maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 27 Jul 2022 05:12:48 -0000 I'm Ready to Give Birth and I'm Still Not...Excited. What Now? feat. Shanola Hampton full LOVERS by shan I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?   This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!   Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode    Shanola Hampton http://instagram.com/shanolahampton   Lauren Morrison http://maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?


 

This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!


 

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]]> 3568 Help! Should I Leave Him or Double Down on Loving Him? feat. Tee https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/help-should-i-leave-him-or-double-down-on-loving-him-feat-tee Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode   TeePodcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamestee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/himynamesteee/ Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R  Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:  Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should goSection Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life: 1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?2) Who are you, at your current best?    3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?  4) What is your vision for your future?5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?  Section Three - answering the hard questions1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be? 2) Is this a familiar pattern? 3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel?  4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner?  5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner? 6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner? 7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today 8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship? 9) Should it be this much work? 10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now? 11) How will my life change without this person? 12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it? 13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship? 14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have? 15) If this is all there is, will it be enough?  16) How often do you fight with your partner? 18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?  Section FourI pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 20 Jul 2022 16:09:59 -0000 Help! Should I Leave Him or Double Down on Loving Him? feat. Tee full LOVERS by shan Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode   TeePodcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamestee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/himynamesteee/ Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R  Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:  Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should goSection Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life: 1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?2) Who are you, at your current best?    3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?  4) What is your vision for your future?5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?  Section Three - answering the hard questions1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be? 2) Is this a familiar pattern? 3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel?  4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner?  5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner? 6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner? 7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today 8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship? 9) Should it be this much work? 10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now? 11) How will my life change without this person? 12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it? 13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship? 14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have? 15) If this is all there is, will it be enough?  16) How often do you fight with your partner? 18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?  Section FourI pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...

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Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamestee

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Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R

 

Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:

 

Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should go

Section Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life:


1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?

2) Who are you, at your current best? 


 

3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?

 

4) What is your vision for your future?

5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?

 

Section Three - answering the hard questions

1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be?

2) Is this a familiar pattern?

3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel? 

4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner? 

5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner?

6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner?

7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today

8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship?

9) Should it be this much work?

10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now?

11) How will my life change without this person?

12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it?

13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship?

14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have?

15) If this is all there is, will it be enough? 

16) How often do you fight with your partner?

18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?

 

Section Four
I pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834

You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break


 

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]]> 2606 Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/soul-mates-or-settling-the-friends-to-lovers-story-feat-ezee-and-natalie Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?  According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.    You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.   This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.     Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note  ‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com      Follow the guests on this episode      Ezee   https://www.instagram.com/ezee  https://www.youtube.com/c/youngezee  https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie    Natalie https://www.instagram.com/natalie.odell/  https://www.youtube.com/c/NatalieOdellXo  https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie    Nineteen85  https://www.instagram.com/nineteen85_  https://www.instagram.com/dvsn  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9xq-hVeC-OJHvWOxGydo9g    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Tue, 12 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0000 Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie full LOVERS by shan Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?  According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.    You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.   This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.     Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note  ‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com      Follow the guests on this episode      Ezee   https://www.instagram.com/ezee  https://www.youtube.com/c/youngezee  https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie    Natalie https://www.instagram.com/natalie.odell/  https://www.youtube.com/c/NatalieOdellXo  https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie    Nineteen85  https://www.instagram.com/nineteen85_  https://www.instagram.com/dvsn  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9xq-hVeC-OJHvWOxGydo9g    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?
 

According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning. 

 

You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.


 

This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.


 


 

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Natalie

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]]> 3178 Men's Ego: The Real Cock Blocker for Great Sex feat. Tim Chantarangsu https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/mens-ego-the-real-cock-blocker-for-great-sex-feat-tim-chantarangsu Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down? In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.   In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note  ‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com   Follow the guests on this episode   Starring Guest Tim Chantarangsu:  http://instagram.com/timchantarangsu Podcast: No Chasers  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-chaser-with-timothy-chantarangsu/id1454272724  Male Sex Coach Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life. http://Superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL  Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 06 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0000 Men's Ego: The Real Cock Blocker for Great Sex feat. Tim Chantarangsu full LOVERS by shan Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down? In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.   In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note  ‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com   Follow the guests on this episode   Starring Guest Tim Chantarangsu:  http://instagram.com/timchantarangsu Podcast: No Chasers  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-chaser-with-timothy-chantarangsu/id1454272724  Male Sex Coach Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life. http://Superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL  Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down?

In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.

 

In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

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Male Sex Coach

Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life.

http://Superiorlovers.com

https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL
 

Jared Brady

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]]> 3253 I Baby My Man and It Works For Us feat. Jasmin "Watch Jazzy" Brown https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-baby-my-man-and-it-works-for-us-feat-jasmin-watch-jazzy-brown To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner.  Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison    Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow the guests on this episode Starring Guest Jasmin Brown:  http://instagram.com/watchjazzy http://twitter.com/watchjazzy Panel Lauren Morrison Maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248  Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts  What I am committed to doing in a post Roe vs Wade America https://www.instagram.com/p/CfVAG1WJdo0/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Tue, 28 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0000 I Baby My Man and It Works For Us feat. Jasmin "Watch Jazzy" Brown full LOVERS by shan To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner.  Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison    Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow the guests on this episode Starring Guest Jasmin Brown:  http://instagram.com/watchjazzy http://twitter.com/watchjazzy Panel Lauren Morrison Maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248  Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts  What I am committed to doing in a post Roe vs Wade America https://www.instagram.com/p/CfVAG1WJdo0/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner. 

Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison 

 

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Jared Brady

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https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248
 

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What I am committed to doing in a post Roe vs Wade America

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]]> 3506 Blowjobs: Everything You Didn’t Know You Needed to Know feat. Rayna Greenberg GGE https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/blowjobs-everything-you-didn-t-know-you-needed-to-know-feat-rayna-greenberg-gge If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the guests on this episode Rayna Greenberg: https://www.instagram.com/Rayna.Greenberg Rayna’s hit podcast: girlsgottaeatpodcast.com Support Rayna’s sex toy line Vibes Only:  https://vibesonly.com/   Dr Rena Malik (urologist)   https://instagram.com/renamalikmd https://youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD   Follow Dr Kojo Acq https://instagram.com/jakademik_md   Follow enjoy the podcast Jared Brady, Los and Kray Brady Wherever you listen to podcasts AND on YouTube   https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248   Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode   https://beducated.com/f/couples/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=bg2206-boody&coupon_code=boody   https://www.popsugar.com/love/how-to-give-an-amazing-blow-job-47239810 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 22 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0000 Blowjobs: Everything You Didn’t Know You Needed to Know feat. Rayna Greenberg GGE full LOVERS by shan If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the guests on this episode Rayna Greenberg: https://www.instagram.com/Rayna.Greenberg Rayna’s hit podcast: girlsgottaeatpodcast.com Support Rayna’s sex toy line Vibes Only:  https://vibesonly.com/   Dr Rena Malik (urologist)   https://instagram.com/renamalikmd https://youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD   Follow Dr Kojo Acq https://instagram.com/jakademik_md   Follow enjoy the podcast Jared Brady, Los and Kray Brady Wherever you listen to podcasts AND on YouTube   https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248   Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode   https://beducated.com/f/couples/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=bg2206-boody&coupon_code=boody   https://www.popsugar.com/love/how-to-give-an-amazing-blow-job-47239810 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

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Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

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Follow the guests on this episode

Rayna Greenberg: https://www.instagram.com/Rayna.Greenberg

Rayna’s hit podcast: girlsgottaeatpodcast.com

Support Rayna’s sex toy line Vibes Only:  https://vibesonly.com/


 

Dr Rena Malik (urologist)


 

https://instagram.com/renamalikmd

https://youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD


 

Follow Dr Kojo Acq

https://instagram.com/jakademik_md


 

Follow enjoy the podcast

Jared Brady, Los and Kray Brady

Wherever you listen to podcasts AND on YouTube


 

https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248


 

Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode


 

https://beducated.com/f/couples/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=bg2206-boody&coupon_code=boody


 

https://www.popsugar.com/love/how-to-give-an-amazing-blow-job-47239810

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]]> 2439 Toxic Self Love feat. Nina Parker https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/toxic-self-love-feat-nina-parker What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life!   In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY!    THE NINA PARKER COLLECTION IS AVAILABLE NOW @macys. https://www.macys.com/shop/featured/nina-parker   You can also follow Nina on http://instagram.com/theninaparker   Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Jun 2022 18:17:35 -0000 Toxic Self Love feat. Nina Parker full LOVERS by shan What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life!   In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY!    THE NINA PARKER COLLECTION IS AVAILABLE NOW @macys. https://www.macys.com/shop/featured/nina-parker   You can also follow Nina on http://instagram.com/theninaparker   Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life!

 

In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY! 

 

THE NINA PARKER COLLECTION IS AVAILABLE NOW @macys.

https://www.macys.com/shop/featured/nina-parker

 

You can also follow Nina on http://instagram.com/theninaparker

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 2587 Don’t Ask Me My Sign https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/don-t-ask-me-my-sign Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters.    This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti.   Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join   ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Destiny-Astrology-Manifest/dp/1250763142/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=You can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts   Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community.  A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast. Follow Amber: http://instagram.com/amberscloset   Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast. Follow Toni: http://instagram.com/toniromiti See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Jun 2022 04:00:00 -0000 Don’t Ask Me My Sign full LOVERS by shan Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters.    This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti.   Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join   ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Destiny-Astrology-Manifest/dp/1250763142/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=You can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts   Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community.  A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast. Follow Amber: http://instagram.com/amberscloset   Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast. Follow Toni: http://instagram.com/toniromiti See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters.

  

This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join

 

ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Destiny-Astrology-Manifest/dp/1250763142/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=You can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts

 

Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community.  A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast.

Follow Amber: http://instagram.com/amberscloset

 

Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast.

Follow Toni: http://instagram.com/toniromiti

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]]> 3119 My Breakup was a Break Free ft/ Sorelle Amore https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/my-breakup-was-a-break-free-ft-sorelle-amore How would you feel if your lover said to you, “thank you for the opportunities to improve and grow in this relationship, but sadly, I think in order to continue to evolve, I have to break up with you…”   You’ve probably heard this statement before, “some people are in our life for just a reason and a season.” If the reason and season length are mutual -- INCREDIBLE! But, what happens when it’s not? Let’s examine all sides of what happens when "can I spend my life with you" turns into "thank you, next!"   This episode is all about the harsh and beautiful realities of “relationship cocooning” (a phrase I think I may have invented). It stars Sorelle Amore who shocked the internet when she broke off her engagement, Makeba Lindsay whose marriage ended when they had different ideas of growth, and Eman who wants to put an end to men who “cocoon” through her. Follow Shan on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://www.shanboodram.com/join   Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/ Learn about obtaining financial freedom with Sorelle: https://www.abundantia.co   Follow Eman: http://instagram.com/eman Follow Makeba: http://instagram.com/ynotkeeb See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 25 May 2022 04:00:00 -0000 My Breakup was a Break Free ft/ Sorelle Amore full LOVERS by shan How would you feel if your lover said to you, “thank you for the opportunities to improve and grow in this relationship, but sadly, I think in order to continue to evolve, I have to break up with you…”   You’ve probably heard this statement before, “some people are in our life for just a reason and a season.” If the reason and season length are mutual -- INCREDIBLE! But, what happens when it’s not? Let’s examine all sides of what happens when "can I spend my life with you" turns into "thank you, next!"   This episode is all about the harsh and beautiful realities of “relationship cocooning” (a phrase I think I may have invented). It stars Sorelle Amore who shocked the internet when she broke off her engagement, Makeba Lindsay whose marriage ended when they had different ideas of growth, and Eman who wants to put an end to men who “cocoon” through her. Follow Shan on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://www.shanboodram.com/join   Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/ Learn about obtaining financial freedom with Sorelle: https://www.abundantia.co   Follow Eman: http://instagram.com/eman Follow Makeba: http://instagram.com/ynotkeeb See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. How would you feel if your lover said to you, “thank you for the opportunities to improve and grow in this relationship, but sadly, I think in order to continue to evolve, I have to break up with you…”

 

You’ve probably heard this statement before, “some people are in our life for just a reason and a season.” If the reason and season length are mutual -- INCREDIBLE! But, what happens when it’s not? Let’s examine all sides of what happens when "can I spend my life with you" turns into "thank you, next!"

 

This episode is all about the harsh and beautiful realities of “relationship cocooning” (a phrase I think I may have invented). It stars Sorelle Amore who shocked the internet when she broke off her engagement, Makeba Lindsay whose marriage ended when they had different ideas of growth, and Eman who wants to put an end to men who “cocoon” through her.

Follow Shan on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://www.shanboodram.com/join

 

Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/

Learn about obtaining financial freedom with Sorelle: https://www.abundantia.co

 

Follow Eman: http://instagram.com/eman


Follow Makeba: http://instagram.com/ynotkeeb

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]]> 2657 I (kinda) Hate My Lover ft/ Jazzmyne Jay https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-kinda-hate-my-lover-ft-jazzmyne-jay  A lot of us learn how to love, but we don’t necessarily learn how to cope with not loving everything about the person we love. This episode is all about the difference between disliking some things about your partner and/or disliking your partner. How do you know if something small and annoying can turn into something big and unbearable down the road? What should you do when you get to the place where the two of you just can't seem to get along?   Jazzmyne Jay is back in this episode to share why she moved in with her partner and then moved out once she found that they just couldn’t get along. And guess what -- they are still together to this day despite that storm. I am also joined by my husband Jared Brady and we discuss why we've never liked each other less than we do right now. Plus, we go through an exercise to try and understand this phase we’re currently in. I also answer some of your questions!   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody   Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join     Follow Jazzmyne Jay: http://instagram.com/jazzmynejay OR http://instagram.com/plussizefriendly/   Follow Jared on his podcast Enjoy the Podcast OR on Instagram http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 18 May 2022 04:00:00 -0000 I (kinda) Hate My Lover ft/ Jazzmyne Jay full LOVERS by shan  A lot of us learn how to love, but we don’t necessarily learn how to cope with not loving everything about the person we love. This episode is all about the difference between disliking some things about your partner and/or disliking your partner. How do you know if something small and annoying can turn into something big and unbearable down the road? What should you do when you get to the place where the two of you just can't seem to get along?   Jazzmyne Jay is back in this episode to share why she moved in with her partner and then moved out once she found that they just couldn’t get along. And guess what -- they are still together to this day despite that storm. I am also joined by my husband Jared Brady and we discuss why we've never liked each other less than we do right now. Plus, we go through an exercise to try and understand this phase we’re currently in. I also answer some of your questions!   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody   Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join     Follow Jazzmyne Jay: http://instagram.com/jazzmynejay OR http://instagram.com/plussizefriendly/   Follow Jared on his podcast Enjoy the Podcast OR on Instagram http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.  A lot of us learn how to love, but we don’t necessarily learn how to cope with not loving everything about the person we love. This episode is all about the difference between disliking some things about your partner and/or disliking your partner. How do you know if something small and annoying can turn into something big and unbearable down the road? What should you do when you get to the place where the two of you just can't seem to get along?

 

Jazzmyne Jay is back in this episode to share why she moved in with her partner and then moved out once she found that they just couldn’t get along. And guess what -- they are still together to this day despite that storm. I am also joined by my husband Jared Brady and we discuss why we've never liked each other less than we do right now. Plus, we go through an exercise to try and understand this phase we’re currently in. I also answer some of your questions!

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

 

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join 

 

 Follow Jazzmyne Jay: http://instagram.com/jazzmynejay

OR http://instagram.com/plussizefriendly/

 

Follow Jared on his podcast Enjoy the Podcast

OR on Instagram http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3516 The Debatable Legacy of Kevin Samuels https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-debatable-legacy-of-kevin-samuels Kevin Samuels, an image consultant and a well-known relationship commentator (especially within the black community), died on May 5, 2022. I wish peace to his family and friends who are grieving the loss on a personal level. As for those who have been impacted by Kevin’s work and words within the last couple of years as he rose to notoriety, I hope we can find peace by addressing the harm and help that his work caused. As a community, I hope we can discuss where we want to go next. This is why the only guests on this episode are you all.   Together, we assess who benefited from Kevin Samuels’s work and who was deeply harmed by it. Furthermore, we evaluate what his death means for the future of relationship and dating advice. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 11 May 2022 04:00:00 -0000 The Debatable Legacy of Kevin Samuels full LOVERS by shan Kevin Samuels, an image consultant and a well-known relationship commentator (especially within the black community), died on May 5, 2022. I wish peace to his family and friends who are grieving the loss on a personal level. As for those who have been impacted by Kevin’s work and words within the last couple of years as he rose to notoriety, I hope we can find peace by addressing the harm and help that his work caused. As a community, I hope we can discuss where we want to go next. This is why the only guests on this episode are you all.   Together, we assess who benefited from Kevin Samuels’s work and who was deeply harmed by it. Furthermore, we evaluate what his death means for the future of relationship and dating advice. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Kevin Samuels, an image consultant and a well-known relationship commentator (especially within the black community), died on May 5, 2022. I wish peace to his family and friends who are grieving the loss on a personal level. As for those who have been impacted by Kevin’s work and words within the last couple of years as he rose to notoriety, I hope we can find peace by addressing the harm and help that his work caused. As a community, I hope we can discuss where we want to go next. This is why the only guests on this episode are you all.

 

Together, we assess who benefited from Kevin Samuels’s work and who was deeply harmed by it. Furthermore, we evaluate what his death means for the future of relationship and dating advice.

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3293 Let’s Talk About They, Baby https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/let-s-talk-about-they-baby When you search non-binary on YouTube, videos like “There Are Only Two Genders - Prove Me Wrong!” show up. In this episode, we bring the heated debate surrounding breaking the binary from a boil to something digestible and actionable. Here to help us unpack this topic is non-binary sexuality expert Ev'Yan Whitney and non-binary multi-dimensional artist Jordianna AKA Jordi.  In this episode we’re discussing: the difference between sex and gender, the goal of the non-binary movement, the dangers of ignorance, and why non-binary people want you to identify however the fuck you want to identify.  Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ev'Yan Whitney: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney Support Ev'Yan's book and podcast: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/ Support Jordianna's work: https://earthtojordi.com/ Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 04 May 2022 04:00:00 -0000 Let’s Talk About They, Baby full LOVERS by shan When you search non-binary on YouTube, videos like “There Are Only Two Genders - Prove Me Wrong!” show up. In this episode, we bring the heated debate surrounding breaking the binary from a boil to something digestible and actionable. Here to help us unpack this topic is non-binary sexuality expert Ev'Yan Whitney and non-binary multi-dimensional artist Jordianna AKA Jordi.  In this episode we’re discussing: the difference between sex and gender, the goal of the non-binary movement, the dangers of ignorance, and why non-binary people want you to identify however the fuck you want to identify.  Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ev'Yan Whitney: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney Support Ev'Yan's book and podcast: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/ Support Jordianna's work: https://earthtojordi.com/ Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. When you search non-binary on YouTube, videos like “There Are Only Two Genders - Prove Me Wrong!” show up. In this episode, we bring the heated debate surrounding breaking the binary from a boil to something digestible and actionable. Here to help us unpack this topic is non-binary sexuality expert Ev'Yan Whitney and non-binary multi-dimensional artist Jordianna AKA Jordi. 

In this episode we’re discussing: the difference between sex and gender, the goal of the non-binary movement, the dangers of ignorance, and why non-binary people want you to identify however the fuck you want to identify. 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join

Follow Ev'Yan Whitney: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney

Support Ev'Yan's book and podcast: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/

Support Jordianna's work: https://earthtojordi.com/

Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3421 Sex and the Saints w/ Shameless Maya https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/sex-and-the-saints-w-shameless-maya Does God really care about your sex life? And if so, does that also mean that God can help you have the best sex of your life? After more than a decade of Catholic school and Christain churches I was unclear about the Bible, God's actual will, sex, and the relationship between pleasure and sin. In an effort to gain clarity, I brought in some people to talk about it! This week's staring guest is Shameless Maya – A Christian YouTube star who was conflicted and confused while practicing celibacy. You'll also be hearing from theology expert Tara Teng, Christian influencer Brenda Marie Davies aka God is Grey, Jared Brady and his father Derrex Brady.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shameless Maya Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayasworld Follow Maya's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shamelessmaya Follow Maya and Max's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MaxMayaLiving   Follow Derrex Brady https://www.instagram.com/derrexbrady Watch JOHNSON on Bounce TV   Follow Tara Teng https://www.instagram.com/misstarateng/ Preorder Brenda's books "Your Body is a Revolution: Healing Our Relationships with Our Bodies, Each Other and the Earth".  Available everywhere Spring 2023.   Follow Brenda "God is Grey" YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GodisGrey   Follow Jared: http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 27 Apr 2022 16:47:51 -0000 Sex and the Saints w/ Shameless Maya full LOVERS by shan Does God really care about your sex life? And if so, does that also mean that God can help you have the best sex of your life? After more than a decade of Catholic school and Christain churches I was unclear about the Bible, God's actual will, sex, and the relationship between pleasure and sin. In an effort to gain clarity, I brought in some people to talk about it! This week's staring guest is Shameless Maya – A Christian YouTube star who was conflicted and confused while practicing celibacy. You'll also be hearing from theology expert Tara Teng, Christian influencer Brenda Marie Davies aka God is Grey, Jared Brady and his father Derrex Brady.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shameless Maya Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayasworld Follow Maya's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shamelessmaya Follow Maya and Max's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MaxMayaLiving   Follow Derrex Brady https://www.instagram.com/derrexbrady Watch JOHNSON on Bounce TV   Follow Tara Teng https://www.instagram.com/misstarateng/ Preorder Brenda's books "Your Body is a Revolution: Healing Our Relationships with Our Bodies, Each Other and the Earth".  Available everywhere Spring 2023.   Follow Brenda "God is Grey" YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GodisGrey   Follow Jared: http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Does God really care about your sex life? And if so, does that also mean that God can help you have the best sex of your life? After more than a decade of Catholic school and Christain churches I was unclear about the Bible, God's actual will, sex, and the relationship between pleasure and sin. In an effort to gain clarity, I brought in some people to talk about it! This week's staring guest is Shameless Maya – A Christian YouTube star who was conflicted and confused while practicing celibacy. You'll also be hearing from theology expert Tara Teng, Christian influencer Brenda Marie Davies aka God is Grey, Jared Brady and his father Derrex Brady.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join

 

Follow Shameless Maya Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayasworld

Follow Maya's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shamelessmaya

Follow Maya and Max's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MaxMayaLiving

 

Follow Derrex Brady

https://www.instagram.com/derrexbrady

Watch JOHNSON on Bounce TV

 

Follow Tara Teng

https://www.instagram.com/misstarateng/

Preorder Brenda's books "Your Body is a Revolution: Healing Our Relationships with Our Bodies, Each Other and the Earth".  Available everywhere Spring 2023.

 

Follow Brenda "God is Grey"

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GodisGrey

 

Follow Jared:

http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

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]]> 3602 Am I Undateable? w/ Khleo Thomas and Mandii B https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/am-i-undateable-w-khleo-thomas-and-mandii-b Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken.   Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Buy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks   Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumps Listen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomas Check out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomas See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 13 Apr 2022 04:00:00 -0000 Am I Undateable? w/ Khleo Thomas and Mandii B full LOVERS by shan Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken.   Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Buy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks   Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumps Listen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomas Check out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomas See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken.

 

Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Buy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks

 

Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumps

Listen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast

 

Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomas

Check out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomas

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 2960 My Ex Was a Gaslighter w/ Melissa Rivers https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/my-ex-was-a-gaslighter-w-melissa-rivers Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficial Buy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman” Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Visit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.net See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 06 Apr 2022 04:00:00 -0000 My Ex Was a Gaslighter w/ Melissa Rivers full LOVERS by shan Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficial Buy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman” Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Visit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.net See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join

 

Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficial

Buy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman”

Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast


Visit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.net

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3038 You're Dating Out of Your League w/ Harry Jowsey https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/youre-dating-out-of-your-league-w-harry-jowsey Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody    Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon   Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey    Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos    Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobably See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 30 Mar 2022 04:00:00 -0000 You're Dating Out of Your League w/ Harry Jowsey full LOVERS by shan Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody    Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon   Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey    Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos    Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobably See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody 

 

Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon

 

Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey 

 

Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast

 

Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos 

 

Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast

 

Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobably

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3057 The Funny Thing About Love And Sex w/ Hannah Berner https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-funny-thing-about-love-and-sex-w-hannah-berner How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Hannah Berner on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/beingbernz Listen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 23 Mar 2022 04:00:00 -0000 The Funny Thing About Love And Sex w/ Hannah Berner full LOVERS by shan How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Hannah Berner on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/beingbernz Listen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes.

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

Keep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

Follow Hannah Berner on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/beingbernz

Listen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcast

Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Listen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcast

Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

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]]> 2567 This Baby Is Killing Our Sex Life https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/this-baby-is-killing-our-sex-life In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoicesListen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethFollow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 16 Mar 2022 04:00:00 -0000 This Baby Is Killing Our Sex Life full LOVERS by shan In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoicesListen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethFollow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices.


 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody
Keep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join


 

Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices
Listen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast


 

Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth
Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia

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]]> 3398 Why Straight Men Are Boring In Bed https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/why-straight-men-are-boring-in-bed Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpod Listen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavage Listen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikray See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 09 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Why Straight Men Are Boring In Bed full LOVERS by shan Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpod Listen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavage Listen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikray See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Stay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join

 

Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpod

Listen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast

 

Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavage

Listen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast

 

Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos

Listen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast

Follow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikray

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3375 Breaking Up Is Fun To Do w/ Kamie Crawford https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/breaking-up-is-fun-to-do-w-kamie-crawford When you've gone through a break-up, it's time for a pity party, right? But what if we celebrated the newly single instead? And maybe even aspired to be more like them? In this episode, Shan breaks down the highs and the lows of breakups with Kamie Crawford, host of the podcast Relationsh*t and MTV's Catfish. Kamie reveals what went on behind the scenes of her public break-up, and how she’s moving forward. Then, YouTuber and social activist Amber Lee Whittington reflects on how her heartbreaks have resulted in…well, you have to listen to find out. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan’s mailing list to stay up to date with casting calls and Shan Boody updates:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Kami Crawford on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford  Listen to Kami’s podcast Relationsh*t on the very same platform you are listening to this podcast Follow Amber on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/amberscloset  Subscribe to Amber’s YouTube Channel:  www.youtube.com/amberscloset See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 23 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Breaking Up Is Fun To Do w/ Kamie Crawford full LOVERS by shan When you've gone through a break-up, it's time for a pity party, right? But what if we celebrated the newly single instead? And maybe even aspired to be more like them? In this episode, Shan breaks down the highs and the lows of breakups with Kamie Crawford, host of the podcast Relationsh*t and MTV's Catfish. Kamie reveals what went on behind the scenes of her public break-up, and how she’s moving forward. Then, YouTuber and social activist Amber Lee Whittington reflects on how her heartbreaks have resulted in…well, you have to listen to find out. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan’s mailing list to stay up to date with casting calls and Shan Boody updates:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Kami Crawford on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford  Listen to Kami’s podcast Relationsh*t on the very same platform you are listening to this podcast Follow Amber on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/amberscloset  Subscribe to Amber’s YouTube Channel:  www.youtube.com/amberscloset See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. When you've gone through a break-up, it's time for a pity party, right? But what if we celebrated the newly single instead? And maybe even aspired to be more like them? In this episode, Shan breaks down the highs and the lows of breakups with Kamie Crawford, host of the podcast Relationsh*t and MTV's Catfish. Kamie reveals what went on behind the scenes of her public break-up, and how she’s moving forward. Then, YouTuber and social activist Amber Lee Whittington reflects on how her heartbreaks have resulted in…well, you have to listen to find out.

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

 Join Shan’s mailing list to stay up to date with casting calls and Shan Boody updates: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

 Follow Kami Crawford on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford

 Listen to Kami’s podcast Relationsh*t on the very same platform you are listening to this podcast Follow Amber on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/amberscloset

 Subscribe to Amber’s YouTube Channel: 

www.youtube.com/amberscloset

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3265 Dating In Your Twenties. One Word: Resentment https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/dating-in-your-twenties-one-word-resentment Does dating in your twenties have to be trash? Or are people in their twenties just trash? In this episode, Shan brings on Andrea Desiree Lewis, her ex-business partner from the early “Those Girls Are Wild” YouTube days. Shan and Andrea dish on their worst moments from dating in their 20s and how it actually made them better partners today. Then, find out why Shan finds talking to her 23-year-old brother-in-law therapeutic for her 20-year-old self. Don't forget to leave a rating and review for this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Andrea Lewis on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/andrealewis  Watch "Black Actress" and "Beyond Complicated" on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/andrealewischannel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 16 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Dating In Your Twenties. One Word: Resentment full LOVERS by shan Does dating in your twenties have to be trash? Or are people in their twenties just trash? In this episode, Shan brings on Andrea Desiree Lewis, her ex-business partner from the early “Those Girls Are Wild” YouTube days. Shan and Andrea dish on their worst moments from dating in their 20s and how it actually made them better partners today. Then, find out why Shan finds talking to her 23-year-old brother-in-law therapeutic for her 20-year-old self. Don't forget to leave a rating and review for this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Andrea Lewis on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/andrealewis  Watch "Black Actress" and "Beyond Complicated" on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/andrealewischannel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Does dating in your twenties have to be trash? Or are people in their twenties just trash? In this episode, Shan brings on Andrea Desiree Lewis, her ex-business partner from the early “Those Girls Are Wild” YouTube days. Shan and Andrea dish on their worst moments from dating in their 20s and how it actually made them better partners today. Then, find out why Shan finds talking to her 23-year-old brother-in-law therapeutic for her 20-year-old self.

Don't forget to leave a rating and review for this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

 Join Shan's mailing list: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

 Follow Andrea Lewis on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/andrealewis

 Watch "Black Actress" and "Beyond Complicated" on YouTube: 

www.youtube.com/andrealewischannel

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3196 The Naked Truth On Loving Your Body https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/the-naked-truth-on-loving-your-body Is letting others love you naked a prerequisite to loving your body? In this episode, Shan talks with Sarah Landry — who is notoriously naked online despite getting horrendous comments on her body — about how to choose and love your nakedness in your own everyday, all day. Shan then brings on Jazzmyne Jay to explore how body positivity shows up in same-sex relationships and how fat-phobia has it’s roots in racism?    Don’t forget to leave your rating on this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up with Shan by joining her mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Sarah Landry:  www.instagram.com/thebirdspapaya Listen to Sarah’s podcast “The Papaya Podcast” on the same platform you're listening to this podcast! Follow Jazzmyne Jay:  www.instagram.com/jazzmynejay See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 09 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0000 The Naked Truth On Loving Your Body full LOVERS by shan Is letting others love you naked a prerequisite to loving your body? In this episode, Shan talks with Sarah Landry — who is notoriously naked online despite getting horrendous comments on her body — about how to choose and love your nakedness in your own everyday, all day. Shan then brings on Jazzmyne Jay to explore how body positivity shows up in same-sex relationships and how fat-phobia has it’s roots in racism?    Don’t forget to leave your rating on this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up with Shan by joining her mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Sarah Landry:  www.instagram.com/thebirdspapaya Listen to Sarah’s podcast “The Papaya Podcast” on the same platform you're listening to this podcast! Follow Jazzmyne Jay:  www.instagram.com/jazzmynejay See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Is letting others love you naked a prerequisite to loving your body? In this episode, Shan talks with Sarah Landry — who is notoriously naked online despite getting horrendous comments on her body — about how to choose and love your nakedness in your own everyday, all day. Shan then brings on Jazzmyne Jay to explore how body positivity shows up in same-sex relationships and how fat-phobia has it’s roots in racism?
 


 

Don’t forget to leave your rating on this podcast!

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

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Keep up with Shan by joining her mailing list: 

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Follow Sarah Landry: 

www.instagram.com/thebirdspapaya

Listen to Sarah’s podcast “The Papaya Podcast” on the same platform you're listening to this podcast!

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]]> 2897 Boss In The Streets And (Currently) Meh In The Sheets w/ Rachel Lindsay https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/boss-in-the-streets-and-currently-meh-in-the-sheets-w-rachel-lindsay What do you do if you’re in a place where you’re madly in love with your partner, your career, your life...BUT you've also decided to put your sex life on the backburner…or maybe more accurately, in the fridge? Rachel Lindsey, the first African-American Bachelorette, sits down with Shan to unapologetically talk about her loving marriage and how it's far removed from the Fantasy Suite. Then, Shan gets Jared’s take on their current sex life...or lack thereof. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyJoin Shan’s mailing list: www.shanboodram.joinFollow Rachel Lindsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/therachlindsayBuy Rachel’s new book “Miss Me With That” wherever you buy your books or audio booksFollow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyListen to Enjoy the Podcast on the same platform you are listening to this podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 02 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Boss In The Streets And (Currently) Meh In The Sheets w/ Rachel Lindsay full LOVERS by shan What do you do if you’re in a place where you’re madly in love with your partner, your career, your life...BUT you've also decided to put your sex life on the backburner…or maybe more accurately, in the fridge? Rachel Lindsey, the first African-American Bachelorette, sits down with Shan to unapologetically talk about her loving marriage and how it's far removed from the Fantasy Suite. Then, Shan gets Jared’s take on their current sex life...or lack thereof. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyJoin Shan’s mailing list: www.shanboodram.joinFollow Rachel Lindsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/therachlindsayBuy Rachel’s new book “Miss Me With That” wherever you buy your books or audio booksFollow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyListen to Enjoy the Podcast on the same platform you are listening to this podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. What do you do if you’re in a place where you’re madly in love with your partner, your career, your life...BUT you've also decided to put your sex life on the backburner…or maybe more accurately, in the fridge? Rachel Lindsey, the first African-American Bachelorette, sits down with Shan to unapologetically talk about her loving marriage and how it's far removed from the Fantasy Suite. Then, Shan gets Jared’s take on their current sex life...or lack thereof.


Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody
Join Shan’s mailing list: www.shanboodram.join

Follow Rachel Lindsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/therachlindsay
Buy Rachel’s new book “Miss Me With That” wherever you buy your books or audio books

Follow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady
Listen to Enjoy the Podcast on the same platform you are listening to this podcast

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3073 Hi, Meet My Mental Illness! https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/hi-meet-my-mental-illness So let’s talk about dating with mental illness. In this episode, Shan sits down with Eileen Kelly from the "Going Mental" podcast about her recent experience with being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, and how it impacted her dating/romantic life. Shan continues the conversation with author and therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab, who has advice for how to talk about mental illness when you're in a relationship and how you can be a supportive partner.   Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Eileen Kelly on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/eileen Listen to the "Going Mental" podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/nedratawwab See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 26 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Hi, Meet My Mental Illness! full LOVERS by shan So let’s talk about dating with mental illness. In this episode, Shan sits down with Eileen Kelly from the "Going Mental" podcast about her recent experience with being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, and how it impacted her dating/romantic life. Shan continues the conversation with author and therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab, who has advice for how to talk about mental illness when you're in a relationship and how you can be a supportive partner.   Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Eileen Kelly on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/eileen Listen to the "Going Mental" podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/nedratawwab See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. So let’s talk about dating with mental illness. In this episode, Shan sits down with Eileen Kelly from the "Going Mental" podcast about her recent experience with being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, and how it impacted her dating/romantic life. Shan continues the conversation with author and therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab, who has advice for how to talk about mental illness when you're in a relationship and how you can be a supportive partner.


 

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www.instagram.com/shanboody

Join Shan's Mailing List: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

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www.instagram.com/eileen

Listen to the "Going Mental" podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts

Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/nedratawwab

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]]> 3134 Is It Cheating? Or Is It An Open Relationship? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/is-it-cheating-or-is-it-an-open-relationship What do you do if you realize that monogamy isn’t for you, and that realization leads to another even more terrifying thought… Who? How? What the fuck, now? In this episode, Shan sits down with her personal friend Rome Green Jr. from Dormtainment who explains why he knows monogamy isn’t for him and why he also knows that he may not have the rest figured out just yet. Then Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron aka Sex Ed Superheroes join Shan and her husband, Jared, to break down how they've navigated openness in their marriage and what do's and don'ts they've all learned. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Rome Green Jr. on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iromealot  Follow Sunny Megatron on TikTok:  www.tiktok.com/sunnymegatron  Visit Sunny's website:  www.sunnymegatron.com  Tune into Ken's weekly D&D live stream that raises for a sex worker mutual aid fund at  twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy  Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 19 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Is It Cheating? Or Is It An Open Relationship? full LOVERS by shan What do you do if you realize that monogamy isn’t for you, and that realization leads to another even more terrifying thought… Who? How? What the fuck, now? In this episode, Shan sits down with her personal friend Rome Green Jr. from Dormtainment who explains why he knows monogamy isn’t for him and why he also knows that he may not have the rest figured out just yet. Then Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron aka Sex Ed Superheroes join Shan and her husband, Jared, to break down how they've navigated openness in their marriage and what do's and don'ts they've all learned. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Rome Green Jr. on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iromealot  Follow Sunny Megatron on TikTok:  www.tiktok.com/sunnymegatron  Visit Sunny's website:  www.sunnymegatron.com  Tune into Ken's weekly D&D live stream that raises for a sex worker mutual aid fund at  twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy  Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. What do you do if you realize that monogamy isn’t for you, and that realization leads to another even more terrifying thought… Who? How? What the fuck, now? In this episode, Shan sits down with her personal friend Rome Green Jr. from Dormtainment who explains why he knows monogamy isn’t for him and why he also knows that he may not have the rest figured out just yet. Then Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron aka Sex Ed Superheroes join Shan and her husband, Jared, to break down how they've navigated openness in their marriage and what do's and don'ts they've all learned.

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

 Join Shan's Mailing List: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

 Follow Rome Green Jr. on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/iromealot

 Follow Sunny Megatron on TikTok: 

www.tiktok.com/sunnymegatron

 Visit Sunny's website: 

www.sunnymegatron.com

 Tune into Ken's weekly D&D live stream that raises for a sex worker mutual aid fund at 

twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy

 Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3137 Hey, Can We Try Something Freaky? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/hey-can-we-try-something-freaky Can you get exactly what you want sexually without taking away something from what your partner wants? And if you can't...should you really care? In this episode, Shan sits down with Weezy from the wildly popular podcast, Whoreible Decisions, to discuss how the feminine femmes play down their expertise in the bedroom in order to not threaten their partner's masculinity. Shan and Lauren then sit down to talk about how this shows up outside the bedroom and impacts a feminine's their money, career, and relationships.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Weezy on Instagram: www.instagram.com/weezywtf Listen to the Whoreible Decisions Podcast on Youtube or wherever you get your podcasts   Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Join Lauren's mailing list: www.maketheshiftcoach.com/join See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 12 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Hey, Can We Try Something Freaky? full LOVERS by shan Can you get exactly what you want sexually without taking away something from what your partner wants? And if you can't...should you really care? In this episode, Shan sits down with Weezy from the wildly popular podcast, Whoreible Decisions, to discuss how the feminine femmes play down their expertise in the bedroom in order to not threaten their partner's masculinity. Shan and Lauren then sit down to talk about how this shows up outside the bedroom and impacts a feminine's their money, career, and relationships.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Weezy on Instagram: www.instagram.com/weezywtf Listen to the Whoreible Decisions Podcast on Youtube or wherever you get your podcasts   Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Join Lauren's mailing list: www.maketheshiftcoach.com/join See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Can you get exactly what you want sexually without taking away something from what your partner wants? And if you can't...should you really care? In this episode, Shan sits down with Weezy from the wildly popular podcast, Whoreible Decisions, to discuss how the feminine femmes play down their expertise in the bedroom in order to not threaten their partner's masculinity. Shan and Lauren then sit down to talk about how this shows up outside the bedroom and impacts a feminine's their money, career, and relationships.

 

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody

Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join

 

Follow Weezy on Instagram: www.instagram.com/weezywtf

Listen to the Whoreible Decisions Podcast on Youtube or wherever you get your podcasts

 

Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

Join Lauren's mailing list: www.maketheshiftcoach.com/join

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3219 Are You Caught Up? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/are-you-caught-up It's the last episode of 2021 and Shan brings together Jared and Lauren to share all that went on behind the scenes in making the podcast. Also, why doesn't Shan like the theme song? Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady  Listen to Enjoy the Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004  Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 29 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0000 Are You Caught Up? full LOVERS by shan It's the last episode of 2021 and Shan brings together Jared and Lauren to share all that went on behind the scenes in making the podcast. Also, why doesn't Shan like the theme song? Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady  Listen to Enjoy the Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004  Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. It's the last episode of 2021 and Shan brings together Jared and Lauren to share all that went on behind the scenes in making the podcast. Also, why doesn't Shan like the theme song?

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

 Join Shan's Mailing List: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

 Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

 Listen to Enjoy the Podcast: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004

 Follow Lauren on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 2504 I Don't Want To Break Up But I Need Some Space https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-dont-want-to-break-up-but-i-need-some-space Have you heard of a couple that's Living Apart Together? In this episode, Shan interviews Ev'Yan Whitney, a sensualist, and author of the book "Your Sensual Self" about how they and their husband decided to live in different states after being together for 19 years, while still continuing to be married. Shan also interviews her parents, who have been married for 40 years, to see there's anything they could learn from Ev'Yan's story to better their own marriage.   Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Ev'Yan Whitney on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney  Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth  Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia  Follow Brian Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/briboo1958 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 22 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0000 I Don't Want To Break Up But I Need Some Space full LOVERS by shan Have you heard of a couple that's Living Apart Together? In this episode, Shan interviews Ev'Yan Whitney, a sensualist, and author of the book "Your Sensual Self" about how they and their husband decided to live in different states after being together for 19 years, while still continuing to be married. Shan also interviews her parents, who have been married for 40 years, to see there's anything they could learn from Ev'Yan's story to better their own marriage.   Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Ev'Yan Whitney on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney  Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth  Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia  Follow Brian Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/briboo1958 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Have you heard of a couple that's Living Apart Together? In this episode, Shan interviews Ev'Yan Whitney, a sensualist, and author of the book "Your Sensual Self" about how they and their husband decided to live in different states after being together for 19 years, while still continuing to be married. Shan also interviews her parents, who have been married for 40 years, to see there's anything they could learn from Ev'Yan's story to better their own marriage.


 

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

 Join Shan's Mailing List: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

 Follow Ev'Yan Whitney on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney

 Follow Lauren on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

 Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia

 Follow Brian Boodram on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/briboo1958

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 2925 Just So You Know...We Ain't F*ckin! https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/just-so-you-know-we-aint-f-ckin In this episode, Shan interviews comedian Ashley Hesseltine from the "Girls Gotta Eat" Podcast. You could argue that this episode is about women getting off with men partners without giving anything sexual in return, you could also argue it’s about the validity of blue balls, or that we’re here to discuss dating in a post me-too era. But what it really boils down to is rewriting sexual and romantic scripts, especially for singles. How do you end an intimate encounter where you want to end it...and have it be okay? Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ashley Hesseltine:  www.instagram.com/ashhess Follow Los on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004 Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 15 Dec 2021 15:45:56 -0000 Just So You Know...We Ain't F*ckin! full LOVERS by shan In this episode, Shan interviews comedian Ashley Hesseltine from the "Girls Gotta Eat" Podcast. You could argue that this episode is about women getting off with men partners without giving anything sexual in return, you could also argue it’s about the validity of blue balls, or that we’re here to discuss dating in a post me-too era. But what it really boils down to is rewriting sexual and romantic scripts, especially for singles. How do you end an intimate encounter where you want to end it...and have it be okay? Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ashley Hesseltine:  www.instagram.com/ashhess Follow Los on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004 Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In this episode, Shan interviews comedian Ashley Hesseltine from the "Girls Gotta Eat" Podcast. You could argue that this episode is about women getting off with men partners without giving anything sexual in return, you could also argue it’s about the validity of blue balls, or that we’re here to discuss dating in a post me-too era. But what it really boils down to is rewriting sexual and romantic scripts, especially for singles. How do you end an intimate encounter where you want to end it...and have it be okay?

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

Join Shan's Mailing List: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

Follow Ashley Hesseltine: 

www.instagram.com/ashhess

Follow Los on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/blamelos

Listen to Enjoy the Podcast: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004

Follow Lauren on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3008 I Do...Think About Divorcing You https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/i-do-think-about-divorcing-you When people take that vow of forever, do they enter into that contract knowing that they don’t really mean it? In this episode, Shan sits down with Bart and Geo, who check all the boxes of #CoupleGoals: a marriage, a beautiful home, family, podcast and multiple thriving businesses, to find out how their recent divorce scare has reframed what #CoupleGoals means to them now. Then it gets personal when Shan, her husband, her sister and her brother-in-law admit to times when they almost called it quits. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Geo on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/geo_antoinette Follow Bart on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/bartkwan Tune into Bart & Geo’s new podcast on YouTube: Get Close Podcast - YouTube   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Tune into Jared’s Podcast: ‎Enjoy the Podcast on Apple Podcasts Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 08 Dec 2021 17:47:20 -0000 I Do...Think About Divorcing You full LOVERS by shan When people take that vow of forever, do they enter into that contract knowing that they don’t really mean it? In this episode, Shan sits down with Bart and Geo, who check all the boxes of #CoupleGoals: a marriage, a beautiful home, family, podcast and multiple thriving businesses, to find out how their recent divorce scare has reframed what #CoupleGoals means to them now. Then it gets personal when Shan, her husband, her sister and her brother-in-law admit to times when they almost called it quits. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Geo on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/geo_antoinette Follow Bart on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/bartkwan Tune into Bart & Geo’s new podcast on YouTube: Get Close Podcast - YouTube   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Tune into Jared’s Podcast: ‎Enjoy the Podcast on Apple Podcasts Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. When people take that vow of forever, do they enter into that contract knowing that they don’t really mean it? In this episode, Shan sits down with Bart and Geo, who check all the boxes of #CoupleGoals: a marriage, a beautiful home, family, podcast and multiple thriving businesses, to find out how their recent divorce scare has reframed what #CoupleGoals means to them now. Then it gets personal when Shan, her husband, her sister and her brother-in-law admit to times when they almost called it quits.

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

Follow Geo on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/geo_antoinette

Follow Bart on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/bartkwan

Tune into Bart & Geo’s new podcast on YouTube: Get Close Podcast - YouTube  

Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Tune into Jared’s Podcast: ‎Enjoy the Podcast on Apple Podcasts

Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 3057 He Might Be Better In Bed Than You https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/he-might-be-better-in-bed-than-you For years, Shan has heard the rumors that A LOT of non-gay men are watching gay porn. In this episode we answer the question: What can gay men teach the non-gay community about how to have great sex? To find out Shan interviews Jade Fox, a queer lifestyle creator and social media influencer, Jade Fox, who admits to enjoying gay porn over lesbian porn. We also hear from Kevin Wade and Javonte Rose, two gay men, on what their secret sauce is when it comes to great sex. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Jade Fox on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamjadefox  Follow Kevin Wade on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamkevinwade  Follow Javonte Rose on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamjavonterose See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 01 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0000 He Might Be Better In Bed Than You full LOVERS by shan For years, Shan has heard the rumors that A LOT of non-gay men are watching gay porn. In this episode we answer the question: What can gay men teach the non-gay community about how to have great sex? To find out Shan interviews Jade Fox, a queer lifestyle creator and social media influencer, Jade Fox, who admits to enjoying gay porn over lesbian porn. We also hear from Kevin Wade and Javonte Rose, two gay men, on what their secret sauce is when it comes to great sex. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Jade Fox on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamjadefox  Follow Kevin Wade on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamkevinwade  Follow Javonte Rose on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamjavonterose See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. For years, Shan has heard the rumors that A LOT of non-gay men are watching gay porn. In this episode we answer the question: What can gay men teach the non-gay community about how to have great sex? To find out Shan interviews Jade Fox, a queer lifestyle creator and social media influencer, Jade Fox, who admits to enjoying gay porn over lesbian porn. We also hear from Kevin Wade and Javonte Rose, two gay men, on what their secret sauce is when it comes to great sex.

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

 Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

 Follow Jade Fox on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/iamjadefox

 Follow Kevin Wade on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/iamkevinwade

 Follow Javonte Rose on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/iamjavonterose

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 2768 Naked Barbies and Humping Pillows https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/naked-barbies-and-humping-pillows It’s storytime! Shan takes you down memory lane in order to answer the question she is asked most often throughout her career: When and how did you decide that you were going to be a sex expert? In this special edition episode and for the first time ever on the Podcast, Shan brings in the woman who witnessed it all. None other than Olivia Boodram, aka Mom. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 24 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0000 Naked Barbies and Humping Pillows full LOVERS by shan It’s storytime! Shan takes you down memory lane in order to answer the question she is asked most often throughout her career: When and how did you decide that you were going to be a sex expert? In this special edition episode and for the first time ever on the Podcast, Shan brings in the woman who witnessed it all. None other than Olivia Boodram, aka Mom. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. It’s storytime! Shan takes you down memory lane in order to answer the question she is asked most often throughout her career: When and how did you decide that you were going to be a sex expert? In this special edition episode and for the first time ever on the Podcast, Shan brings in the woman who witnessed it all. None other than Olivia Boodram, aka Mom.

Follow Shan on Instagram: 

www.instagram.com/shanboody

Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: 

www.shanboodram.com/join

Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: 

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]]> 2101 Rape is Not Sex https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/rape-is-not-sex In one of Shan’s toughest interviews to date, she sits down with New York Times Best Selling Author, Ashley C. Ford, who talks about her unconventional path to healing from sexual assault and how it impacted how she thought about sex. Shan also has a conversation with "Trauma Queen" Jimanekia about how to start the trauma healing process with a professional. If you are seeking support/resources due to sexual violence, you can reach out to organizations such as RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) by visiting www.rain.org or call their National Sexual Assault Hotline by dialing 800.656.HOPE (4673).Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Ashley C. Ford on Instagram: www.instagram.com/smashfizzleBuy Ashley’s Book: Somebody's Daughter: A Memoir https://www.amazon.com/Somebodys-Daughter-Ashley-C-Ford/dp/1250305977Follow Jimanekia on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimanekia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 17 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0000 Rape is Not Sex full LOVERS by shan In one of Shan’s toughest interviews to date, she sits down with New York Times Best Selling Author, Ashley C. Ford, who talks about her unconventional path to healing from sexual assault and how it impacted how she thought about sex. Shan also has a conversation with "Trauma Queen" Jimanekia about how to start the trauma healing process with a professional. If you are seeking support/resources due to sexual violence, you can reach out to organizations such as RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) by visiting www.rain.org or call their National Sexual Assault Hotline by dialing 800.656.HOPE (4673).Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Ashley C. Ford on Instagram: www.instagram.com/smashfizzleBuy Ashley’s Book: Somebody's Daughter: A Memoir https://www.amazon.com/Somebodys-Daughter-Ashley-C-Ford/dp/1250305977Follow Jimanekia on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimanekia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. In one of Shan’s toughest interviews to date, she sits down with New York Times Best Selling Author, Ashley C. Ford, who talks about her unconventional path to healing from sexual assault and how it impacted how she thought about sex. Shan also has a conversation with "Trauma Queen" Jimanekia about how to start the trauma healing process with a professional.


If you are seeking support/resources due to sexual violence, you can reach out to organizations such as RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) by visiting www.rain.org or call their National Sexual Assault Hotline by dialing 800.656.HOPE (4673).

Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody
Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/join

Follow Ashley C. Ford on Instagram: www.instagram.com/smashfizzle
Buy Ashley’s Book: Somebody's Daughter: A Memoir https://www.amazon.com/Somebodys-Daughter-Ashley-C-Ford/dp/1250305977
Follow Jimanekia on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimanekia

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]]> 3786 I'm Done Waiting For A Ring https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/im-done-waiting-for-a-ring Why are women still having to pressure their partners into proposing? Shan interviews Krista Williams and Lindsay Simcik from the “Almost 30 Podcast” where Krista shares how her relationship evolved over the years and how she passively let him know that she was ready and waiting for his proposal to come. Shan shares her proposal story and how she was heartbroken when the proposal didn’t come on her original timeline. But that’s just one side of the discussion. To round out the conversation, Shan invites her husband and brother-in-law who share their experience with being pressured to propose. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow the Almost 30 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612Follow Krista: www.instagram.com/itskristaFollow Lindsey: www.instagram.com/lindseysimcikFollow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 10 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0000 I'm Done Waiting For A Ring full LOVERS by shan Why are women still having to pressure their partners into proposing? Shan interviews Krista Williams and Lindsay Simcik from the “Almost 30 Podcast” where Krista shares how her relationship evolved over the years and how she passively let him know that she was ready and waiting for his proposal to come. Shan shares her proposal story and how she was heartbroken when the proposal didn’t come on her original timeline. But that’s just one side of the discussion. To round out the conversation, Shan invites her husband and brother-in-law who share their experience with being pressured to propose. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow the Almost 30 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612Follow Krista: www.instagram.com/itskristaFollow Lindsey: www.instagram.com/lindseysimcikFollow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Why are women still having to pressure their partners into proposing? Shan interviews Krista Williams and Lindsay Simcik from the “Almost 30 Podcast” where Krista shares how her relationship evolved over the years and how she passively let him know that she was ready and waiting for his proposal to come. Shan shares her proposal story and how she was heartbroken when the proposal didn’t come on her original timeline. But that’s just one side of the discussion. To round out the conversation, Shan invites her husband and brother-in-law who share their experience with being pressured to propose.


Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody
Follow the Almost 30 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612
Follow Krista: www.instagram.com/itskrista
Follow Lindsey: www.instagram.com/lindseysimcik

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Follow Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004

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]]> 2996 Porn Sucks! https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/porn-sucks Why are so many women immediately turned off when porn gets turned on? To find out, Shan interviews award-winning film maker and porn director, Erika Lust, about how her work addresses this common dilemma. Erika shares with us what kind of porn women should search for if they are looking to get off before getting turned off by less palatable options, and Shan sees if she can convince Lauren to give porn a chance. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Follow Erika Lust on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/erikalust Get your “Lovers and Friends” exclusive free 30 day trail to Lust Cinema:  www.lustcinema.com/sign-up/loversandfriends Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 03 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0000 Porn Sucks! full LOVERS by shan Why are so many women immediately turned off when porn gets turned on? To find out, Shan interviews award-winning film maker and porn director, Erika Lust, about how her work addresses this common dilemma. Erika shares with us what kind of porn women should search for if they are looking to get off before getting turned off by less palatable options, and Shan sees if she can convince Lauren to give porn a chance. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Follow Erika Lust on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/erikalust Get your “Lovers and Friends” exclusive free 30 day trail to Lust Cinema:  www.lustcinema.com/sign-up/loversandfriends Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Why are so many women immediately turned off when porn gets turned on? To find out, Shan interviews award-winning film maker and porn director, Erika Lust, about how her work addresses this common dilemma. Erika shares with us what kind of porn women should search for if they are looking to get off before getting turned off by less palatable options, and Shan sees if she can convince Lauren to give porn a chance.

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]]> 2569 She Switched Up Since She Got a Man Feat Jeannie Mai https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/she-switched-up-since-she-got-a-man-feat-jeannie-mai Should you change who you are in order to keep the lover you wanna be with? If your first reaction is "Hell to the No!" well...you're not alone. In this episode Shan interviews Emmy award-winning producer and host Jeannie Mai, who talks about how her marriage to Young Jeezy transformed her in ways that just didn’t surprise her, it also shocked the world! We also explore whether or not Shan regrets the changes she made for love with a revealing dialogue between her husband Jared and her sister Lauren.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow Jeannie Mai on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thejeanniemaiFollow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 27 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0000 She Switched Up Since She Got a Man Feat Jeannie Mai full LOVERS by shan Should you change who you are in order to keep the lover you wanna be with? If your first reaction is "Hell to the No!" well...you're not alone. In this episode Shan interviews Emmy award-winning producer and host Jeannie Mai, who talks about how her marriage to Young Jeezy transformed her in ways that just didn’t surprise her, it also shocked the world! We also explore whether or not Shan regrets the changes she made for love with a revealing dialogue between her husband Jared and her sister Lauren.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow Jeannie Mai on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thejeanniemaiFollow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Should you change who you are in order to keep the lover you wanna be with? If your first reaction is "Hell to the No!" well...you're not alone. In this episode Shan interviews Emmy award-winning producer and host Jeannie Mai, who talks about how her marriage to Young Jeezy transformed her in ways that just didn’t surprise her, it also shocked the world! We also explore whether or not Shan regrets the changes she made for love with a revealing dialogue between her husband Jared and her sister Lauren.

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Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady
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]]> 3229 Do We Really Want Vulnerable Men? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/do-we-really-want-vulnerable-men Women say they want a man who is open and willing to be vulnerable, but is this really true? Back in 2019, Shan participated in a YouTube discussion with Aba and Preach where they covered this very topic.The conversation amassed over 1.3M views and nearly 9000 comments. Two years later, Shan, Aba & Preach re-visit this under-represented dialogue about why some men don't yet feel safe to show their vulnerable side with their partners. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 20 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0000 Do We Really Want Vulnerable Men? full LOVERS by shan Women say they want a man who is open and willing to be vulnerable, but is this really true? Back in 2019, Shan participated in a YouTube discussion with Aba and Preach where they covered this very topic.The conversation amassed over 1.3M views and nearly 9000 comments. Two years later, Shan, Aba & Preach re-visit this under-represented dialogue about why some men don't yet feel safe to show their vulnerable side with their partners. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Women say they want a man who is open and willing to be vulnerable, but is this really true? Back in 2019, Shan participated in a YouTube discussion with Aba and Preach where they covered this very topic.The conversation amassed over 1.3M views and nearly 9000 comments. Two years later, Shan, Aba & Preach re-visit this under-represented dialogue about why some men don't yet feel safe to show their vulnerable side with their partners.

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]]> 3010 Did You Hear She Has Herpes? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/did-you-hear-she-has-herpes Herpes, or “The Scarlet H”, is a very common and yet widely misunderstood STD. Shan interviews Shira Lazar, who discusses how her diagnosis with herpes has impacted her sex life. Dr. Ina Park, Medical Consultant at the CDC's Division of STD Prevention and author of the book “Strange Bedfellows”, breaks down the facts and science around herpes in order to erase the attached sitgmas, enabling healthy and empowered sex lives for those with STDs.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 13 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0000 Did You Hear She Has Herpes? full LOVERS by shan Herpes, or “The Scarlet H”, is a very common and yet widely misunderstood STD. Shan interviews Shira Lazar, who discusses how her diagnosis with herpes has impacted her sex life. Dr. Ina Park, Medical Consultant at the CDC's Division of STD Prevention and author of the book “Strange Bedfellows”, breaks down the facts and science around herpes in order to erase the attached sitgmas, enabling healthy and empowered sex lives for those with STDs.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Herpes, or “The Scarlet H”, is a very common and yet widely misunderstood STD. Shan interviews Shira Lazar, who discusses how her diagnosis with herpes has impacted her sex life. Dr. Ina Park, Medical Consultant at the CDC's Division of STD Prevention and author of the book “Strange Bedfellows”, breaks down the facts and science around herpes in order to erase the attached sitgmas, enabling healthy and empowered sex lives for those with STDs. 

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]]> 3587 Help! Why Can't I Orgasm? https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/help-why-cant-i-orgasm Can a needle of filler give you the ability to orgasm by penetration? Shan interviews Dr. Courtenay Poucher,  and gets the "O-shot" to find out. Dr. Poucher is a licensed and board certified expert cosmetic gynecologist who  practices in Southern California. She has dedicated her career to women’s sexual health returning functionality and confidence to her patients with labiaplasty. She has been featured on The Doctors, NBC Access Live, and in New Beauty, Hustle and Elle.com.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Wed, 06 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0000 Help! Why Can't I Orgasm? full LOVERS by shan Can a needle of filler give you the ability to orgasm by penetration? Shan interviews Dr. Courtenay Poucher,  and gets the "O-shot" to find out. Dr. Poucher is a licensed and board certified expert cosmetic gynecologist who  practices in Southern California. She has dedicated her career to women’s sexual health returning functionality and confidence to her patients with labiaplasty. She has been featured on The Doctors, NBC Access Live, and in New Beauty, Hustle and Elle.com.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Can a needle of filler give you the ability to orgasm by penetration? Shan interviews Dr. Courtenay Poucher,  and gets the "O-shot" to find out. Dr. Poucher is a licensed and board certified expert cosmetic gynecologist who  practices in Southern California. She has dedicated her career to women’s sexual health returning functionality and confidence to her patients with labiaplasty. She has been featured on The Doctors, NBC Access Live, and in New Beauty, Hustle and Elle.com. 

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]]> 2886 Hello, Lovers And Friends https://omny.fm/shows/lovers-by-shan/hello-lovers-and-friends There is so much great and life changing information about sex and love, but let’s say what you’re all thinking...it’s dry as f*ck! Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram will teach you what you really want to know about intimacy - from porn and orgasms to marriage and divorce - so you can be your own relationship expert. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Mon, 20 Sep 2021 16:00:00 -0000 Hello, Lovers And Friends trailer LOVERS by shan There is so much great and life changing information about sex and love, but let’s say what you’re all thinking...it’s dry as f*ck! Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram will teach you what you really want to know about intimacy - from porn and orgasms to marriage and divorce - so you can be your own relationship expert. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. There is so much great and life changing information about sex and love, but let’s say what you’re all thinking...it’s dry as f*ck! Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram will teach you what you really want to know about intimacy - from porn and orgasms to marriage and divorce - so you can be your own relationship expert.

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