With You in the Weeds: Where Faith Meets Mental Health en All Rights Reserved Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, difficult relationships, or wondering how your faith connects to your mental health? With You in the Weeds is a faith-based mental health podcast hosted by a team of licensed counselors and pastors who weekly help real people navigate the hardships of life. Co-hosts John Tinnin (MDiv, MFT), Lynn Roush (LPC), Shay Roush (MDiv), and Austin Conner (MDiv, PLPC) bring both clinical expertise and pastoral wisdom to honest, practical conversations about the issues you're actually facing: anxiety, trauma, marriage, parenting, forgiveness, grief, singleness, narcissism, addiction, stress, and more. This isn't therapy, but it's the next best thing! If you've ever wished you could be a fly on the wall and listen to a team of Christian counselors thoughtfully address what you're going through, this podcast was made for you. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please seek independent medical or counseling support for personal health concerns. New episodes every week. Visit withyouintheweeds.com to subscribe to our weekly newsletter and to access our small group study guides, free downloads, and other mental health resources. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please seek independent medical or counseling support for personal health concerns. https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/7c088cf4-604b-11ed-85ed-0380722a2335/image/dee027fb290f3fb5dc15cbb2a624eb34.jpeg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress With You in the Weeds: Where Faith Meets Mental Health no episodic <p> Do you feel stuck in the weeds between where you are and where you want to be? With You In The Weeds is hosted by two seasoned counselors who provide Christian therapy in their church. They are routinely “in the weeds” with their clients helping them navigate the hardships of life from a psychological and spiritual perspective. Listen now to hear honest conversations about how to manage your mental health, stress, emotions, relationships, parenting, marriage and more! Co-hosted by John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT and Lynn Roush, LPC. Joined by pastor Shay Roush, MDiv, and pastor/counselor Austin Conner, MDiv, CIT. Let us know what topics you'd like us to discuss at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com. With You in the Weeds Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, difficult relationships, or wondering how your faith connects to your mental health? With You in the Weeds is a faith-based mental health podcast hosted by a team of licensed counselors and pastors who weekly help real people navigate the hardships of life. Co-hosts John Tinnin (MDiv, MFT), Lynn Roush (LPC), Shay Roush (MDiv), and Austin Conner (MDiv, PLPC) bring both clinical expertise and pastoral wisdom to honest, practical conversations about the issues you're actually facing: anxiety, trauma, marriage, parenting, forgiveness, grief, singleness, narcissism, addiction, stress, and more. This isn't therapy, but it's the next best thing! If you've ever wished you could be a fly on the wall and listen to a team of Christian counselors thoughtfully address what you're going through, this podcast was made for you. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please seek independent medical or counseling support for personal health concerns. New episodes every week. Visit withyouintheweeds.com to subscribe to our weekly newsletter and to access our small group study guides, free downloads, and other mental health resources. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please seek independent medical or counseling support for personal health concerns. Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, difficult relationships, or wondering how your faith connects to your mental health? With You in the Weeds is a faith-based mental health podcast hosted by a team of licensed counselors and pastors who weekly help real people navigate the hardships of life.

Co-hosts John Tinnin (MDiv, MFT), Lynn Roush (LPC), Shay Roush (MDiv), and Austin Conner (MDiv, PLPC) bring both clinical expertise and pastoral wisdom to honest, practical conversations about the issues you're actually facing: anxiety, trauma, marriage, parenting, forgiveness, grief, singleness, narcissism, addiction, stress, and more.

This isn't therapy, but it's the next best thing! If you've ever wished you could be a fly on the wall and listen to a team of Christian counselors thoughtfully address what you're going through, this podcast was made for you.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please seek independent medical or counseling support for personal health concerns.

New episodes every week. Visit withyouintheweeds.com to subscribe to our weekly newsletter and to access our small group study guides, free downloads, and other mental health resources.


This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please seek independent medical or counseling support for personal health concerns.

]]> With You in the Weeds withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com Honoring Imperfect Parents When you attend your parents' funerals someday, will you be proud of the way you loved and honored them when they were alive? Or will you have some regrets? Few commandments feel as personal as the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and your mother.” For some people, that command feels natural and healthy. For others, it raises difficult questions and painful memories. In this perceptive episode of our ongoing series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Shay Roush, M.Div, thoughtfully explore the beauty, tension, and wisdom of treating your parents with honor, even when you believe they don't deserve it. They’ll talk about the real meaning of the word ‘honor’ and explore what honoring your parents does and doesn’t mean. As challenging as this commandment is to fulfill, there are practical ways to show honor to your parents in everyday life. As you listen to this episode, you’ll understand the importance of treating your parents with dignity and honor, and be encouraged to engage them with both truth and grace.  Book suggestion: Bold Love by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman Podcast suggestion: Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You by Adam Young Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com Wed, 13 May 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 182 With You in the Weeds When you attend your parents' funerals someday, will you be proud of the way you loved and honored them when they were alive? Or will you have some regrets? When you attend your parents' funerals someday, will you be proud of the way you loved and honored them when they were alive? Or will you have some regrets? Few commandments feel as personal as the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and your mother.” For some people, that command feels natural and healthy. For others, it raises difficult questions and painful memories. In this perceptive episode of our ongoing series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Shay Roush, M.Div, thoughtfully explore the beauty, tension, and wisdom of treating your parents with honor, even when you believe they don't deserve it. They’ll talk about the real meaning of the word ‘honor’ and explore what honoring your parents does and doesn’t mean. As challenging as this commandment is to fulfill, there are practical ways to show honor to your parents in everyday life. As you listen to this episode, you’ll understand the importance of treating your parents with dignity and honor, and be encouraged to engage them with both truth and grace.  Book suggestion: Bold Love by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman Podcast suggestion: Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You by Adam Young Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com When you attend your parents' funerals someday, will you be proud of the way you loved and honored them when they were alive? Or will you have some regrets?

Few commandments feel as personal as the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and your mother.” For some people, that command feels natural and healthy. For others, it raises difficult questions and painful memories.

In this perceptive episode of our ongoing series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Shay Roush, M.Div, thoughtfully explore the beauty, tension, and wisdom of treating your parents with honor, even when you believe they don't deserve it.

They’ll talk about the real meaning of the word ‘honor’ and explore what honoring your parents does and doesn’t mean. As challenging as this commandment is to fulfill, there are practical ways to show honor to your parents in everyday life.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll understand the importance of treating your parents with dignity and honor, and be encouraged to engage them with both truth and grace. 


Book suggestion: Bold Love by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman

Podcast suggestion: Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You by Adam Young


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]]> 2401 no Are You Too Busy to Rest? If you stopped working and striving for a full day this week, what do you honestly think would happen? For many of us, that question feels less peaceful than it should. Our schedules are packed, our minds are noisy, and even when we try to rest, we carry the weight of everything left undone. In this convicting episode of our ongoing series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Austin Conner, PLPC, take a closer look at the fourth commandment through both the lens of the ancient Israelites and the light of the New Testament. They’ll explore why rest can be so difficult, the way God’s invitation is less about rest and more about trust, and practical ways you can incorporate a Sabbath mindset in your busy life. The fourth commandment doesn’t just give us permission to rest; it reveals something deeper about who God is and who we are in relation to him. Long before rest became a luxury, it was a rhythm woven into creation itself, a gift meant to free people from striving and remind them they were never meant to carry life on their own. If you’ve ever felt like slowing down isn’t an option, this conversation is for you. For a further look at the relevance of the Sabbath today, check out this article: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justin-taylor/schreiner-qa-is-the-sabbath-still-required-for-christians/ Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com Wed, 06 May 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 181 With You in the Weeds If you stopped working and striving for a full day this week, what do you honestly think would happen? For many of us, that question feels less peaceful than it should. Our schedules are packed, our minds are noisy, and even when we try to rest, we carry the weight of everything left undone. If you stopped working and striving for a full day this week, what do you honestly think would happen? For many of us, that question feels less peaceful than it should. Our schedules are packed, our minds are noisy, and even when we try to rest, we carry the weight of everything left undone. In this convicting episode of our ongoing series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Austin Conner, PLPC, take a closer look at the fourth commandment through both the lens of the ancient Israelites and the light of the New Testament. They’ll explore why rest can be so difficult, the way God’s invitation is less about rest and more about trust, and practical ways you can incorporate a Sabbath mindset in your busy life. The fourth commandment doesn’t just give us permission to rest; it reveals something deeper about who God is and who we are in relation to him. Long before rest became a luxury, it was a rhythm woven into creation itself, a gift meant to free people from striving and remind them they were never meant to carry life on their own. If you’ve ever felt like slowing down isn’t an option, this conversation is for you. For a further look at the relevance of the Sabbath today, check out this article: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justin-taylor/schreiner-qa-is-the-sabbath-still-required-for-christians/ Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com If you stopped working and striving for a full day this week, what do you honestly think would happen? For many of us, that question feels less peaceful than it should. Our schedules are packed, our minds are noisy, and even when we try to rest, we carry the weight of everything left undone.

In this convicting episode of our ongoing series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Austin Conner, PLPC, take a closer look at the fourth commandment through both the lens of the ancient Israelites and the light of the New Testament. They’ll explore why rest can be so difficult, the way God’s invitation is less about rest and more about trust, and practical ways you can incorporate a Sabbath mindset in your busy life.

The fourth commandment doesn’t just give us permission to rest; it reveals something deeper about who God is and who we are in relation to him. Long before rest became a luxury, it was a rhythm woven into creation itself, a gift meant to free people from striving and remind them they were never meant to carry life on their own. If you’ve ever felt like slowing down isn’t an option, this conversation is for you.


For a further look at the relevance of the Sabbath today, check out this article: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justin-taylor/schreiner-qa-is-the-sabbath-still-required-for-christians/


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]]> 2828 no The Most Powerful Name in the World Do you ever think about how you use God’s name? For most of us the third commandment to not “take the Lord’s name in vain” feels like a gentle reminder to watch our language, avoid the OMGs, and move on. So it’s easy to disregard this command as not very important. But when we misuse God’s name, we diminish his power, authority and the very essence of his being. God’s name isn’t just a meaningless label - it’s a revelation of his character, his faithfulness and his covenant love. Speaking God’s name carelessly or flippantly is an offense to his identity - the great I AM.  As we continue in our 10 Keys to the Universe series, Shay covers the magnitude of this commandment which covers false oaths, empty worship, invoking God's authority for our own agendas, and even the quiet hypocrisy of claiming Christ's name while living in ways that don’t honor him.  Listen in as Shay walks through a convicting prayer written by Pastor Duke Kwon that names all the ways we misuse God's name without ever saying a cuss word. You’ll learn why you shouldn’t take the third commandment lightly as it is the only one that carries an explicit warning: the Lord will not hold him guiltless. At the end of this episode, you’ll understand why God’s name is the most powerful name in the world, and why your speech should reflect his glory rather than diminish it.  Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com Wed, 29 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 180 With You in the Weeds Do you ever think about how you use God’s name? For most of us the third commandment to not “take the Lord’s name in vain” feels like a gentle reminder to watch our language, avoid the OMGs, and move on. So it’s easy to disregard this command as not very important. Do you ever think about how you use God’s name? For most of us the third commandment to not “take the Lord’s name in vain” feels like a gentle reminder to watch our language, avoid the OMGs, and move on. So it’s easy to disregard this command as not very important. But when we misuse God’s name, we diminish his power, authority and the very essence of his being. God’s name isn’t just a meaningless label - it’s a revelation of his character, his faithfulness and his covenant love. Speaking God’s name carelessly or flippantly is an offense to his identity - the great I AM.  As we continue in our 10 Keys to the Universe series, Shay covers the magnitude of this commandment which covers false oaths, empty worship, invoking God's authority for our own agendas, and even the quiet hypocrisy of claiming Christ's name while living in ways that don’t honor him.  Listen in as Shay walks through a convicting prayer written by Pastor Duke Kwon that names all the ways we misuse God's name without ever saying a cuss word. You’ll learn why you shouldn’t take the third commandment lightly as it is the only one that carries an explicit warning: the Lord will not hold him guiltless. At the end of this episode, you’ll understand why God’s name is the most powerful name in the world, and why your speech should reflect his glory rather than diminish it.  Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com Do you ever think about how you use God’s name? For most of us the third commandment to not “take the Lord’s name in vain” feels like a gentle reminder to watch our language, avoid the OMGs, and move on. So it’s easy to disregard this command as not very important.

But when we misuse God’s name, we diminish his power, authority and the very essence of his being. God’s name isn’t just a meaningless label - it’s a revelation of his character, his faithfulness and his covenant love. Speaking God’s name carelessly or flippantly is an offense to his identity - the great I AM. 

As we continue in our 10 Keys to the Universe series, Shay covers the magnitude of this commandment which covers false oaths, empty worship, invoking God's authority for our own agendas, and even the quiet hypocrisy of claiming Christ's name while living in ways that don’t honor him. 

Listen in as Shay walks through a convicting prayer written by Pastor Duke Kwon that names all the ways we misuse God's name without ever saying a cuss word. You’ll learn why you shouldn’t take the third commandment lightly as it is the only one that carries an explicit warning: the Lord will not hold him guiltless.

At the end of this episode, you’ll understand why God’s name is the most powerful name in the world, and why your speech should reflect his glory rather than diminish it. 


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]]> 1413 no Idols of the Heart Where do you direct your attention, adoration, affection and trust? Your honest answer reveals who or what you worship. As we kick off our new series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Shay and Lynn look at the first two commandments that serve as the foundation for the rest of the commandments. The Bible states that we are always worshipping something–the question is never whether we worship but what we worship.  The first commandment says, “Have no other gods before me”, but in today’s world, it’s easy to worship things around us. Lynn walks through a convicting list: approval, comfort, control, work, a specific person, even a political ideology. These aren't exotic temptations. They're the everyday idols we construct, and they all over-promise and under-deliver. Shay unpacks what makes the first two commandments distinct from each other. The first tells us who to worship—the one true God, exclusively. The second tells us how— not through physical images or mental constructions that shrink him down to something we can manage or imagine. What we believe about who God is shapes everything about how we live. When we quietly reinvent him into a God who only affirms our desires, who never judges, who asks nothing hard of us—that's not humility. That's a different commandment broken. Whether you're brand new to the Ten Commandments or grew up reciting them, this episode is an invitation to slow down and ask yourself a few honest questions to identify the idols of your heart: What do you worry about most? What makes you angry when it's threatened? What are you most afraid of losing in life? The answers might surprise you — and point you toward where your real worship is actually landing. Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com Wed, 22 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 179 With You in the Weeds Where do you direct your attention, adoration, affection and trust? Your honest answer reveals who or what you worship. Where do you direct your attention, adoration, affection and trust? Your honest answer reveals who or what you worship. As we kick off our new series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Shay and Lynn look at the first two commandments that serve as the foundation for the rest of the commandments. The Bible states that we are always worshipping something–the question is never whether we worship but what we worship.  The first commandment says, “Have no other gods before me”, but in today’s world, it’s easy to worship things around us. Lynn walks through a convicting list: approval, comfort, control, work, a specific person, even a political ideology. These aren't exotic temptations. They're the everyday idols we construct, and they all over-promise and under-deliver. Shay unpacks what makes the first two commandments distinct from each other. The first tells us who to worship—the one true God, exclusively. The second tells us how— not through physical images or mental constructions that shrink him down to something we can manage or imagine. What we believe about who God is shapes everything about how we live. When we quietly reinvent him into a God who only affirms our desires, who never judges, who asks nothing hard of us—that's not humility. That's a different commandment broken. Whether you're brand new to the Ten Commandments or grew up reciting them, this episode is an invitation to slow down and ask yourself a few honest questions to identify the idols of your heart: What do you worry about most? What makes you angry when it's threatened? What are you most afraid of losing in life? The answers might surprise you — and point you toward where your real worship is actually landing. Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com Where do you direct your attention, adoration, affection and trust? Your honest answer reveals who or what you worship.

As we kick off our new series, 10 Keys to the Universe, Shay and Lynn look at the first two commandments that serve as the foundation for the rest of the commandments. The Bible states that we are always worshipping something–the question is never whether we worship but what we worship. 

The first commandment says, “Have no other gods before me”, but in today’s world, it’s easy to worship things around us. Lynn walks through a convicting list: approval, comfort, control, work, a specific person, even a political ideology. These aren't exotic temptations. They're the everyday idols we construct, and they all over-promise and under-deliver.

Shay unpacks what makes the first two commandments distinct from each other. The first tells us who to worship—the one true God, exclusively. The second tells us how— not through physical images or mental constructions that shrink him down to something we can manage or imagine. What we believe about who God is shapes everything about how we live. When we quietly reinvent him into a God who only affirms our desires, who never judges, who asks nothing hard of us—that's not humility. That's a different commandment broken.

Whether you're brand new to the Ten Commandments or grew up reciting them, this episode is an invitation to slow down and ask yourself a few honest questions to identify the idols of your heart: What do you worry about most? What makes you angry when it's threatened? What are you most afraid of losing in life? The answers might surprise you — and point you toward where your real worship is actually landing.


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]]> 2846 no What's Your Compass in Life? Life can feel like wandering in a wilderness: moments of anxiety, parenting and marriage struggles, feeling a lack of purpose, dealing with disappointment, and more. But having a reliable compass can make all the difference because it offers guidance on where to go and how to get there safely. In this episode John Tinnin and Austin Conner launch our new series, 10 Keys to the Universe, where we'll be unpacking the Ten Commandments and exploring how they function as a compass for navigating the unpredictable and painful wilderness of life.  We often dismiss the Ten Commandments as ancient religious rules that are burdensome and designed to ruin our happiness. So the benefits of the commandments might surprise you: protection, freedom, the restraining of sin, and a clear window into God's heart.  Instead of thinking "I have to follow the commandments" this conversation highlights a different perspective: "I get to follow the commandments". This shifts your heart from following the commandments as a legal obligation to earn God’s favor, to a willing response of being deeply loved and cared for by your Creator. As we begin this series, we hope the commandments become less of a set of rules hanging over your head and more of a trusted compass that leads you to hopeful blessings in your life.  Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 178 With You in the Weeds Life can feel like wandering in a wilderness: moments of anxiety, parenting and marriage struggles, feeling a lack of purpose, dealing with disappointment, and more. But having a reliable compass can make all the difference because it offers guidance on where to go and how to get there safely. Life can feel like wandering in a wilderness: moments of anxiety, parenting and marriage struggles, feeling a lack of purpose, dealing with disappointment, and more. But having a reliable compass can make all the difference because it offers guidance on where to go and how to get there safely. In this episode John Tinnin and Austin Conner launch our new series, 10 Keys to the Universe, where we'll be unpacking the Ten Commandments and exploring how they function as a compass for navigating the unpredictable and painful wilderness of life.  We often dismiss the Ten Commandments as ancient religious rules that are burdensome and designed to ruin our happiness. So the benefits of the commandments might surprise you: protection, freedom, the restraining of sin, and a clear window into God's heart.  Instead of thinking "I have to follow the commandments" this conversation highlights a different perspective: "I get to follow the commandments". This shifts your heart from following the commandments as a legal obligation to earn God’s favor, to a willing response of being deeply loved and cared for by your Creator. As we begin this series, we hope the commandments become less of a set of rules hanging over your head and more of a trusted compass that leads you to hopeful blessings in your life.  Connect with us:  Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: Website: withyouintheweeds.com If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Life can feel like wandering in a wilderness: moments of anxiety, parenting and marriage struggles, feeling a lack of purpose, dealing with disappointment, and more. But having a reliable compass can make all the difference because it offers guidance on where to go and how to get there safely.

In this episode John Tinnin and Austin Conner launch our new series, 10 Keys to the Universe, where we'll be unpacking the Ten Commandments and exploring how they function as a compass for navigating the unpredictable and painful wilderness of life. 

We often dismiss the Ten Commandments as ancient religious rules that are burdensome and designed to ruin our happiness. So the benefits of the commandments might surprise you: protection, freedom, the restraining of sin, and a clear window into God's heart. 

Instead of thinking "I have to follow the commandments" this conversation highlights a different perspective: "I get to follow the commandments". This shifts your heart from following the commandments as a legal obligation to earn God’s favor, to a willing response of being deeply loved and cared for by your Creator.

As we begin this series, we hope the commandments become less of a set of rules hanging over your head and more of a trusted compass that leads you to hopeful blessings in your life. 


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]]> 2381 no How to Manage a Narcissist Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, exhausted, and somehow convinced that everything was your fault - even though you couldn't quite explain why? If so, this episode is for you. As we end our How to Handle Life series, Lynn Roush addresses one of the most requested and personally meaningful topics she's tackled: how to manage a narcissist in your life.  Drawing on in-depth biblical study as well as years of clinical experience sitting across from clients who have lost their sense of self in these relationships, Lynn brings both compassion and clarity to one of the most disorienting relational dynamics a person can experience.  Anchored in Philippians 1:9 “that your love would abound more and more in real knowledge and all discernment”, this episode is not about diagnosing others or declaring war on every person who has frustrated you. It's about growing in wisdom so that you can protect your heart, your mind, and your faith. Lynn walks through 4 practical strategies for managing a narcissist:  Learning to decode what is actually being communicated beneath the surface Practicing the gray rock method of strategic emotional detachment Recognizing triangulation through flying monkeys Identifying the real enemy in your life After listening, you’ll know how to guard your peace, stay grounded in truth, and navigate a difficult relationship without losing yourself in it. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 08 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 177 With You in the Weeds Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, exhausted, and somehow convinced that everything was your fault - even though you couldn't quite explain why? If so, this episode is for you. Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, exhausted, and somehow convinced that everything was your fault - even though you couldn't quite explain why? If so, this episode is for you. As we end our How to Handle Life series, Lynn Roush addresses one of the most requested and personally meaningful topics she's tackled: how to manage a narcissist in your life.  Drawing on in-depth biblical study as well as years of clinical experience sitting across from clients who have lost their sense of self in these relationships, Lynn brings both compassion and clarity to one of the most disorienting relational dynamics a person can experience.  Anchored in Philippians 1:9 “that your love would abound more and more in real knowledge and all discernment”, this episode is not about diagnosing others or declaring war on every person who has frustrated you. It's about growing in wisdom so that you can protect your heart, your mind, and your faith. Lynn walks through 4 practical strategies for managing a narcissist:  Learning to decode what is actually being communicated beneath the surface Practicing the gray rock method of strategic emotional detachment Recognizing triangulation through flying monkeys Identifying the real enemy in your life After listening, you’ll know how to guard your peace, stay grounded in truth, and navigate a difficult relationship without losing yourself in it. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, exhausted, and somehow convinced that everything was your fault - even though you couldn't quite explain why? If so, this episode is for you.

As we end our How to Handle Life series, Lynn Roush addresses one of the most requested and personally meaningful topics she's tackled: how to manage a narcissist in your life. 

Drawing on in-depth biblical study as well as years of clinical experience sitting across from clients who have lost their sense of self in these relationships, Lynn brings both compassion and clarity to one of the most disorienting relational dynamics a person can experience. 

Anchored in Philippians 1:9 “that your love would abound more and more in real knowledge and all discernment”, this episode is not about diagnosing others or declaring war on every person who has frustrated you. It's about growing in wisdom so that you can protect your heart, your mind, and your faith.

Lynn walks through 4 practical strategies for managing a narcissist: 

  1. Learning to decode what is actually being communicated beneath the surface
  2. Practicing the gray rock method of strategic emotional detachment
  3. Recognizing triangulation through flying monkeys
  4. Identifying the real enemy in your life

After listening, you’ll know how to guard your peace, stay grounded in truth, and navigate a difficult relationship without losing yourself in it.


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]]> 2273 no How to Spend Eternity With God Do you know what it actually takes to get to heaven? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Pastor Shay Roush sits with one of the most important questions you will ever face: how do you spend eternity with God? And more importantly, have you gotten the answer wrong? Using Jesus' parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18, Shay unpacks why the path to God isn’t secured by achievement, but by humility. This is a story that flips our instincts upside down, because the one who goes home right with God isn't the one who had his act together. It's the one who showed up with nothing. This is why the good news of the gospel has to start with the bad news — that none of us can earn our way into eternity with God. In fact, it is a spiritually dangerous place to stand before God with your arms full of your own goodness. Tim Keller's pointed reminder is sobering: “all you need to get to heaven is nothing, but very few people have it.” Heaven isn't a reward for the worthy and righteous. It's a gift for the worst of sinners who know how far they’ve fallen short. Whether this is a question you’ve wrestled with or never considered, this episode is hopeful and ends with an invitation: Come to Jesus with empty arms and he will give you everything you need to spend eternity with God. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 01 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 176 With You in the Weeds Do you know what it actually takes to get to heaven? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Pastor Shay Roush sits with one of the most important questions you will ever face: how do you spend eternity with God? And more importantly, have you gotten the answer wrong? Do you know what it actually takes to get to heaven? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Pastor Shay Roush sits with one of the most important questions you will ever face: how do you spend eternity with God? And more importantly, have you gotten the answer wrong? Using Jesus' parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18, Shay unpacks why the path to God isn’t secured by achievement, but by humility. This is a story that flips our instincts upside down, because the one who goes home right with God isn't the one who had his act together. It's the one who showed up with nothing. This is why the good news of the gospel has to start with the bad news — that none of us can earn our way into eternity with God. In fact, it is a spiritually dangerous place to stand before God with your arms full of your own goodness. Tim Keller's pointed reminder is sobering: “all you need to get to heaven is nothing, but very few people have it.” Heaven isn't a reward for the worthy and righteous. It's a gift for the worst of sinners who know how far they’ve fallen short. Whether this is a question you’ve wrestled with or never considered, this episode is hopeful and ends with an invitation: Come to Jesus with empty arms and he will give you everything you need to spend eternity with God. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Do you know what it actually takes to get to heaven? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Pastor Shay Roush sits with one of the most important questions you will ever face: how do you spend eternity with God? And more importantly, have you gotten the answer wrong?

Using Jesus' parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18, Shay unpacks why the path to God isn’t secured by achievement, but by humility. This is a story that flips our instincts upside down, because the one who goes home right with God isn't the one who had his act together. It's the one who showed up with nothing.

This is why the good news of the gospel has to start with the bad news — that none of us can earn our way into eternity with God. In fact, it is a spiritually dangerous place to stand before God with your arms full of your own goodness. Tim Keller's pointed reminder is sobering: “all you need to get to heaven is nothing, but very few people have it.”

Heaven isn't a reward for the worthy and righteous. It's a gift for the worst of sinners who know how far they’ve fallen short.

Whether this is a question you’ve wrestled with or never considered, this episode is hopeful and ends with an invitation: Come to Jesus with empty arms and he will give you everything you need to spend eternity with God.


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]]> 705 no How to Grow Through Sadness Is sadness the enemy of healing or the path to it? In this episode of our How to Handle Life series, John makes a case for sadness as one of the most powerful, underused tools for navigating the difficulties of life. Sadness is like a river that will take you somewhere healthy if you’re willing to step into troubled waters and not fight against it. At the heart of the episode is a simple but counterintuitive idea: sadness is compassion turned inward. When we choose to connect with the part of ourselves that's hurting — instead of fighting, numbing, or shutting down — something shifts.  That connection brings comfort, and comfort actually brings strength. Just as Jesus was a man of sorrows and modeled what it means to enter grief fully rather than avoid it, Psalm 30:5 promises that joy will follow weeping. Not as a feeling, but as a product of relational connection and knowing you're not alone. Whether you're letting go of a lifelong dream, facing conflict with your spouse, at war with your own emotions, or spiritually dry and discouraged, the invitation is the same: start small, name the loss, and let sadness do what it was designed to do. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 25 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 175 With You in the Weeds Is sadness the enemy of healing or the path to it? Is sadness the enemy of healing or the path to it? In this episode of our How to Handle Life series, John makes a case for sadness as one of the most powerful, underused tools for navigating the difficulties of life. Sadness is like a river that will take you somewhere healthy if you’re willing to step into troubled waters and not fight against it. At the heart of the episode is a simple but counterintuitive idea: sadness is compassion turned inward. When we choose to connect with the part of ourselves that's hurting — instead of fighting, numbing, or shutting down — something shifts.  That connection brings comfort, and comfort actually brings strength. Just as Jesus was a man of sorrows and modeled what it means to enter grief fully rather than avoid it, Psalm 30:5 promises that joy will follow weeping. Not as a feeling, but as a product of relational connection and knowing you're not alone. Whether you're letting go of a lifelong dream, facing conflict with your spouse, at war with your own emotions, or spiritually dry and discouraged, the invitation is the same: start small, name the loss, and let sadness do what it was designed to do. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Is sadness the enemy of healing or the path to it? In this episode of our How to Handle Life series, John makes a case for sadness as one of the most powerful, underused tools for navigating the difficulties of life. Sadness is like a river that will take you somewhere healthy if you’re willing to step into troubled waters and not fight against it.

At the heart of the episode is a simple but counterintuitive idea: sadness is compassion turned inward. When we choose to connect with the part of ourselves that's hurting — instead of fighting, numbing, or shutting down — something shifts. 

That connection brings comfort, and comfort actually brings strength. Just as Jesus was a man of sorrows and modeled what it means to enter grief fully rather than avoid it, Psalm 30:5 promises that joy will follow weeping. Not as a feeling, but as a product of relational connection and knowing you're not alone.

Whether you're letting go of a lifelong dream, facing conflict with your spouse, at war with your own emotions, or spiritually dry and discouraged, the invitation is the same: start small, name the loss, and let sadness do what it was designed to do.


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]]> 1763 no How to Respond When Your Pastor Fails When news breaks that a pastor or church leader has fallen into serious sin, the ripple effects travel far beyond the individual. People who once felt spiritually safe may suddenly feel confused, angry, or grieved. Questions surface quickly: How could this happen? Did I miss the warning signs? What does this mean for my faith? In this thoughtful installment of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Shay Roush, M.Div., discuss the responsibilities of pastoral ministry, the complicated dynamics that many pastors face as they gain success and notoriety, and how Christian leaders can benefit from personal therapy and soul work.  They’ll also talk about 5 ways to respond when your pastor fails, including acknowledging your feelings and seeking support, exercising discernment about who you follow, and remembering that God’s work through the church cannot be thwarted even through imperfect people. Lynn brings the unique perspective of being both a pastor’s daughter and a pastor’s wife, along with insights from her counseling research on the “splitting” that can happen when leaders present a façade of spirituality while concealing unhealed pain and ongoing sin. Shay, having served in Christian ministry for more than 30 years, speaks from the pastor’s side of the table, sharing openly about the real challenges of life and leadership in ministry. If you’ve ever wrestled with the fact that spiritual leaders are capable of great good but also serious failure, you’ll want to listen in as Lynn and Shay acknowledge the pain of pastoral failure while helping you re-center your faith on Christ. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 18 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 174 With You in the Weeds When news breaks that a pastor or church leader has fallen into serious sin, the ripple effects travel far beyond the individual. People who once felt spiritually safe may suddenly feel confused, angry, or grieved. Questions surface quickly: How could this happen? Did I miss the warning signs? What does this mean for my faith? When news breaks that a pastor or church leader has fallen into serious sin, the ripple effects travel far beyond the individual. People who once felt spiritually safe may suddenly feel confused, angry, or grieved. Questions surface quickly: How could this happen? Did I miss the warning signs? What does this mean for my faith? In this thoughtful installment of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Shay Roush, M.Div., discuss the responsibilities of pastoral ministry, the complicated dynamics that many pastors face as they gain success and notoriety, and how Christian leaders can benefit from personal therapy and soul work.  They’ll also talk about 5 ways to respond when your pastor fails, including acknowledging your feelings and seeking support, exercising discernment about who you follow, and remembering that God’s work through the church cannot be thwarted even through imperfect people. Lynn brings the unique perspective of being both a pastor’s daughter and a pastor’s wife, along with insights from her counseling research on the “splitting” that can happen when leaders present a façade of spirituality while concealing unhealed pain and ongoing sin. Shay, having served in Christian ministry for more than 30 years, speaks from the pastor’s side of the table, sharing openly about the real challenges of life and leadership in ministry. If you’ve ever wrestled with the fact that spiritual leaders are capable of great good but also serious failure, you’ll want to listen in as Lynn and Shay acknowledge the pain of pastoral failure while helping you re-center your faith on Christ. Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds When news breaks that a pastor or church leader has fallen into serious sin, the ripple effects travel far beyond the individual. People who once felt spiritually safe may suddenly feel confused, angry, or grieved. Questions surface quickly: How could this happen? Did I miss the warning signs? What does this mean for my faith?

In this thoughtful installment of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, Lynn Roush, LPC, and Shay Roush, M.Div., discuss the responsibilities of pastoral ministry, the complicated dynamics that many pastors face as they gain success and notoriety, and how Christian leaders can benefit from personal therapy and soul work. 

They’ll also talk about 5 ways to respond when your pastor fails, including acknowledging your feelings and seeking support, exercising discernment about who you follow, and remembering that God’s work through the church cannot be thwarted even through imperfect people.

Lynn brings the unique perspective of being both a pastor’s daughter and a pastor’s wife, along with insights from her counseling research on the “splitting” that can happen when leaders present a façade of spirituality while concealing unhealed pain and ongoing sin. Shay, having served in Christian ministry for more than 30 years, speaks from the pastor’s side of the table, sharing openly about the real challenges of life and leadership in ministry.

If you’ve ever wrestled with the fact that spiritual leaders are capable of great good but also serious failure, you’ll want to listen in as Lynn and Shay acknowledge the pain of pastoral failure while helping you re-center your faith on Christ.


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]]> 2719 no How to Handle Singleness Is singleness a gift or a trial? Should I keep asking God to give me a significant other, or am I not resting in him by continually asking? If you’re single, it’s likely that you’ve wrestled with questions like these. If you’re not single, it’s easy to overlook the struggles of those who are.  Singleness is one of those topics that comes loaded with opinions. Culture treats it like a temporary problem to overcome, the church sometimes treats it like a waiting room for marriage, and your own thoughts can bounce back and forth between hope and frustration. In this compassionate episode of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, Austin Conner takes a different approach. Instead of asking how to get out of singleness, he’ll talk about how to navigate it well right where you are. He’ll be sharing 5 practical ways to approach singleness with honesty, courage, and faith. Before you assume this conversation only applies if you’re currently single, don’t tune out just yet. Many people move in and out of seasons of singleness over the course of their lives. As you listen, you’ll get perspective and wisdom that will help you hold the multi-faceted experience of being single while simultaneously loving, following, and trusting Jesus.  Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 11 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full 173 With You in the Weeds Is singleness a gift or a trial? Should I keep asking God to give me a significant other, or am I not resting in him by continually asking? Is singleness a gift or a trial? Should I keep asking God to give me a significant other, or am I not resting in him by continually asking? If you’re single, it’s likely that you’ve wrestled with questions like these. If you’re not single, it’s easy to overlook the struggles of those who are.  Singleness is one of those topics that comes loaded with opinions. Culture treats it like a temporary problem to overcome, the church sometimes treats it like a waiting room for marriage, and your own thoughts can bounce back and forth between hope and frustration. In this compassionate episode of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, Austin Conner takes a different approach. Instead of asking how to get out of singleness, he’ll talk about how to navigate it well right where you are. He’ll be sharing 5 practical ways to approach singleness with honesty, courage, and faith. Before you assume this conversation only applies if you’re currently single, don’t tune out just yet. Many people move in and out of seasons of singleness over the course of their lives. As you listen, you’ll get perspective and wisdom that will help you hold the multi-faceted experience of being single while simultaneously loving, following, and trusting Jesus.  Connect with us & subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Is singleness a gift or a trial? Should I keep asking God to give me a significant other, or am I not resting in him by continually asking? If you’re single, it’s likely that you’ve wrestled with questions like these. If you’re not single, it’s easy to overlook the struggles of those who are. 

Singleness is one of those topics that comes loaded with opinions. Culture treats it like a temporary problem to overcome, the church sometimes treats it like a waiting room for marriage, and your own thoughts can bounce back and forth between hope and frustration.

In this compassionate episode of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, Austin Conner takes a different approach. Instead of asking how to get out of singleness, he’ll talk about how to navigate it well right where you are. He’ll be sharing 5 practical ways to approach singleness with honesty, courage, and faith.

Before you assume this conversation only applies if you’re currently single, don’t tune out just yet. Many people move in and out of seasons of singleness over the course of their lives. As you listen, you’ll get perspective and wisdom that will help you hold the multi-faceted experience of being single while simultaneously loving, following, and trusting Jesus. 


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]]> 1487 no How to Accept Estranged Relationships Have you ever lost someone who is still alive? Estrangement is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in family life, yet it's far more common than most people realize. In this episode of our How to Handle Life series, Lynn Roush, LPC walks through what estrangement actually is, why it happens, and how it impacts a family on multiple levels. Whether you've made the hard decision to step away from a relationship or you've been cut off by someone you love, your pain and grief are real and make sense. Lynn shares five hard but essential truths for anyone navigating estrangement, including why reconciliation isn't guaranteed, how to write a letter of amends, and insight about the ripple effects of estrangement that often reach far beyond just two people. These truths aren't comfortable, but accepting them is often the first step toward real relief, like cleaning out a wound so it can actually heal. Most importantly, this episode holds out genuine hope: healing and growth are possible for you even if the relationship is never restored. Forgiveness, self-reflection, and leaning into safe relationships can move you from haunted regret to scarred-over wisdom.  If you’re carrying the weight of an estranged relationship, this episode is for you. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 04 Mar 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 172 With You in the Weeds Have you ever lost someone who is still alive? Estrangement is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in family life, yet it's far more common than most people realize. Have you ever lost someone who is still alive? Estrangement is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in family life, yet it's far more common than most people realize. In this episode of our How to Handle Life series, Lynn Roush, LPC walks through what estrangement actually is, why it happens, and how it impacts a family on multiple levels. Whether you've made the hard decision to step away from a relationship or you've been cut off by someone you love, your pain and grief are real and make sense. Lynn shares five hard but essential truths for anyone navigating estrangement, including why reconciliation isn't guaranteed, how to write a letter of amends, and insight about the ripple effects of estrangement that often reach far beyond just two people. These truths aren't comfortable, but accepting them is often the first step toward real relief, like cleaning out a wound so it can actually heal. Most importantly, this episode holds out genuine hope: healing and growth are possible for you even if the relationship is never restored. Forgiveness, self-reflection, and leaning into safe relationships can move you from haunted regret to scarred-over wisdom.  If you’re carrying the weight of an estranged relationship, this episode is for you. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Have you ever lost someone who is still alive?

Estrangement is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in family life, yet it's far more common than most people realize. In this episode of our How to Handle Life series, Lynn Roush, LPC walks through what estrangement actually is, why it happens, and how it impacts a family on multiple levels. Whether you've made the hard decision to step away from a relationship or you've been cut off by someone you love, your pain and grief are real and make sense.

Lynn shares five hard but essential truths for anyone navigating estrangement, including why reconciliation isn't guaranteed, how to write a letter of amends, and insight about the ripple effects of estrangement that often reach far beyond just two people. These truths aren't comfortable, but accepting them is often the first step toward real relief, like cleaning out a wound so it can actually heal.

Most importantly, this episode holds out genuine hope: healing and growth are possible for you even if the relationship is never restored. Forgiveness, self-reflection, and leaning into safe relationships can move you from haunted regret to scarred-over wisdom. 

If you’re carrying the weight of an estranged relationship, this episode is for you.


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]]> 1430 no How to Handle Anger Towards God Have you ever felt angry with God… and then immediately felt guilty for even thinking that way? Most of us have internalized the idea that anger is bad—and that feeling angry with God is really bad! But what if the very thing you’re trying to hide is actually an invitation? In this meaningful episode of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, John Tinnin talks about what it means to feel anger toward God and why bringing that anger into the light might be one of the most transformative steps in your spiritual life. You’ll discover why it’s okay to be angry, the way that anger protests and protects, what anger can teach you about your soul, and how to use lament to communicate your anger to God in a healthy way as prescribed in Scripture.  If you need a reframe of how to engage your anger honestly with God so you can draw closer to him, then this conversation is for you. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 25 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 171 With You in the Weeds Have you ever felt angry with God… and then immediately felt guilty for even thinking that way? Most of us have internalized the idea that anger is bad—and that feeling angry with God is really bad! Have you ever felt angry with God… and then immediately felt guilty for even thinking that way? Most of us have internalized the idea that anger is bad—and that feeling angry with God is really bad! But what if the very thing you’re trying to hide is actually an invitation? In this meaningful episode of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, John Tinnin talks about what it means to feel anger toward God and why bringing that anger into the light might be one of the most transformative steps in your spiritual life. You’ll discover why it’s okay to be angry, the way that anger protests and protects, what anger can teach you about your soul, and how to use lament to communicate your anger to God in a healthy way as prescribed in Scripture.  If you need a reframe of how to engage your anger honestly with God so you can draw closer to him, then this conversation is for you. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Have you ever felt angry with God… and then immediately felt guilty for even thinking that way? Most of us have internalized the idea that anger is bad—and that feeling angry with God is really bad!

But what if the very thing you’re trying to hide is actually an invitation?

In this meaningful episode of our ongoing series, How to Handle Life, John Tinnin talks about what it means to feel anger toward God and why bringing that anger into the light might be one of the most transformative steps in your spiritual life.

You’ll discover why it’s okay to be angry, the way that anger protests and protects, what anger can teach you about your soul, and how to use lament to communicate your anger to God in a healthy way as prescribed in Scripture. 

If you need a reframe of how to engage your anger honestly with God so you can draw closer to him, then this conversation is for you.


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]]> 2929 no How to Know God's Will Do you believe that discovering God's "perfect" plan for your life is about waiting for a sign in the sky? Do you worry that you will make the wrong decision and miss out on God’s will for your life? As we continue in our How to Handle Life series, Pastor Shay Roush tackles one of the most common Christian questions: How do I know God's will for my life? Our modern life bombards us with endless choices (career, marriage, major life moves), often leaving us fearful we will miss God's "perfect" path. But over-analyzing every detail and possible option can keep us paralyzed with anxiety or regret. Shay breaks down three biblical categories of God's will to help you understand what the Bible says about knowing God’s will:  His will of decree—His sovereign plan that cannot be thwarted His will of desire—His moral commands revealed in Scripture His will of direction—the specific choices we agonize over (job, spouse) The truth is that God does indeed have a plan, but he doesn't expect us to discover a hidden blueprint. Instead, he calls us to live by wisdom that is found through his revealed Word and in an ongoing relationship with him, not endless searching with a fear of missing out. This episode offers practical steps you can take such as learning general biblical principles, getting wise counsel, praying for guidance, and then making a decision in faith. You will gain freedom from decision-making anxiety and walk away confident to make choices as you learn to trust him with your life.  Recommended Resource: Just Do Something by Kevin DeYoung Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 18 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 170 With You in the Weeds Do you believe that discovering God's "perfect" plan for your life is about waiting for a sign in the sky? Do you worry that you will make the wrong decision and miss out on God’s will for your life? Do you believe that discovering God's "perfect" plan for your life is about waiting for a sign in the sky? Do you worry that you will make the wrong decision and miss out on God’s will for your life? As we continue in our How to Handle Life series, Pastor Shay Roush tackles one of the most common Christian questions: How do I know God's will for my life? Our modern life bombards us with endless choices (career, marriage, major life moves), often leaving us fearful we will miss God's "perfect" path. But over-analyzing every detail and possible option can keep us paralyzed with anxiety or regret. Shay breaks down three biblical categories of God's will to help you understand what the Bible says about knowing God’s will:  His will of decree—His sovereign plan that cannot be thwarted His will of desire—His moral commands revealed in Scripture His will of direction—the specific choices we agonize over (job, spouse) The truth is that God does indeed have a plan, but he doesn't expect us to discover a hidden blueprint. Instead, he calls us to live by wisdom that is found through his revealed Word and in an ongoing relationship with him, not endless searching with a fear of missing out. This episode offers practical steps you can take such as learning general biblical principles, getting wise counsel, praying for guidance, and then making a decision in faith. You will gain freedom from decision-making anxiety and walk away confident to make choices as you learn to trust him with your life.  Recommended Resource: Just Do Something by Kevin DeYoung Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Do you believe that discovering God's "perfect" plan for your life is about waiting for a sign in the sky? Do you worry that you will make the wrong decision and miss out on God’s will for your life?

As we continue in our How to Handle Life series, Pastor Shay Roush tackles one of the most common Christian questions: How do I know God's will for my life? Our modern life bombards us with endless choices (career, marriage, major life moves), often leaving us fearful we will miss God's "perfect" path. But over-analyzing every detail and possible option can keep us paralyzed with anxiety or regret.

Shay breaks down three biblical categories of God's will to help you understand what the Bible says about knowing God’s will: 

  1. His will of decree—His sovereign plan that cannot be thwarted
  2. His will of desire—His moral commands revealed in Scripture
  3. His will of direction—the specific choices we agonize over (job, spouse)

The truth is that God does indeed have a plan, but he doesn't expect us to discover a hidden blueprint. Instead, he calls us to live by wisdom that is found through his revealed Word and in an ongoing relationship with him, not endless searching with a fear of missing out.

This episode offers practical steps you can take such as learning general biblical principles, getting wise counsel, praying for guidance, and then making a decision in faith. You will gain freedom from decision-making anxiety and walk away confident to make choices as you learn to trust him with your life. 


Recommended Resource:

Just Do Something by Kevin DeYoung


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]]> 1788 no How to Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You Forgiving someone doesn’t mean forgetting, pretending it’s not a big deal, or going back to how things were, but it can bring freedom from the heavy weight of resentment and bitterness. In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner tackles one of life’s hardest commands: forgiving someone who has hurt you. Jesus’ words from the Lord’s Prayer: “forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us” sounds good, but it can feel impossible in the face of a painful offense. Just like an infected wound needs to be cleaned out in order to heal, forgiveness is the way our hurts can be purged so that real healing can begin. Austin explains what forgiveness is not: forgetting the offense, minimizing the hurt, or forcing the relationship back to “normal”. He then walks through a practical four-step process:  Honestly assess and feel your hurt and then evaluate the type of person who has hurt you  Ask the offender if they are willing to hear the impact their actions had on you  Share the story and unload the pain with someone who can support your healing Clearly state your needs and boundaries for the future Keep in mind that forgiveness isn’t our natural, human response to being hurt. In order to forgive, we will need to be empowered by God’s grace and strength, as well as cultivate a deep trust that one day he will bring justice to all wrongs done to you. The result? Relief from bitterness, the ability to move forward, and a visible sign of God’s kingdom breaking into everyday life. The process of forgiveness is much easier said than done, which is why we want to encourage and equip you to enter into a process of forgiveness that leads to freedom and hope, one step at a time.  Want to learn more? Here are more resources on the topic of forgiveness: The Roots of Bitterness Managing the Weeds of Forgiveness Bold Love by Dan Allender When You’ve Been Wronged: Moving From Bitterness to Forgiveness by Pastor Erwin Lutzer Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 11 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 169 With You in the Weeds Forgiving someone doesn’t mean forgetting, pretending it’s not a big deal, or going back to how things were, but it can bring freedom from the heavy weight of resentment and bitterness. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean forgetting, pretending it’s not a big deal, or going back to how things were, but it can bring freedom from the heavy weight of resentment and bitterness. In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner tackles one of life’s hardest commands: forgiving someone who has hurt you. Jesus’ words from the Lord’s Prayer: “forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us” sounds good, but it can feel impossible in the face of a painful offense. Just like an infected wound needs to be cleaned out in order to heal, forgiveness is the way our hurts can be purged so that real healing can begin. Austin explains what forgiveness is not: forgetting the offense, minimizing the hurt, or forcing the relationship back to “normal”. He then walks through a practical four-step process:  Honestly assess and feel your hurt and then evaluate the type of person who has hurt you  Ask the offender if they are willing to hear the impact their actions had on you  Share the story and unload the pain with someone who can support your healing Clearly state your needs and boundaries for the future Keep in mind that forgiveness isn’t our natural, human response to being hurt. In order to forgive, we will need to be empowered by God’s grace and strength, as well as cultivate a deep trust that one day he will bring justice to all wrongs done to you. The result? Relief from bitterness, the ability to move forward, and a visible sign of God’s kingdom breaking into everyday life. The process of forgiveness is much easier said than done, which is why we want to encourage and equip you to enter into a process of forgiveness that leads to freedom and hope, one step at a time.  Want to learn more? Here are more resources on the topic of forgiveness: The Roots of Bitterness Managing the Weeds of Forgiveness Bold Love by Dan Allender When You’ve Been Wronged: Moving From Bitterness to Forgiveness by Pastor Erwin Lutzer Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Forgiving someone doesn’t mean forgetting, pretending it’s not a big deal, or going back to how things were, but it can bring freedom from the heavy weight of resentment and bitterness.

In this episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner tackles one of life’s hardest commands: forgiving someone who has hurt you. Jesus’ words from the Lord’s Prayer: “forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us” sounds good, but it can feel impossible in the face of a painful offense. Just like an infected wound needs to be cleaned out in order to heal, forgiveness is the way our hurts can be purged so that real healing can begin.

Austin explains what forgiveness is not: forgetting the offense, minimizing the hurt, or forcing the relationship back to “normal”. He then walks through a practical four-step process: 

  1. Honestly assess and feel your hurt and then evaluate the type of person who has hurt you 
  2. Ask the offender if they are willing to hear the impact their actions had on you 
  3. Share the story and unload the pain with someone who can support your healing
  4. Clearly state your needs and boundaries for the future

Keep in mind that forgiveness isn’t our natural, human response to being hurt. In order to forgive, we will need to be empowered by God’s grace and strength, as well as cultivate a deep trust that one day he will bring justice to all wrongs done to you. The result? Relief from bitterness, the ability to move forward, and a visible sign of God’s kingdom breaking into everyday life.

The process of forgiveness is much easier said than done, which is why we want to encourage and equip you to enter into a process of forgiveness that leads to freedom and hope, one step at a time. 


Want to learn more? Here are more resources on the topic of forgiveness:

The Roots of Bitterness

Managing the Weeds of Forgiveness

Bold Love by Dan Allender

When You’ve Been Wronged: Moving From Bitterness to Forgiveness by Pastor Erwin Lutzer


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]]> 1917 no How to Handle Stress When you find yourself exhausted even after resting, irritable for no clear reason, or fixated on ways you can numb your feelings, your body may be carrying more stress than you realize. In this empathetic and insightful episode of our newest series, How to Handle Life, Lynn takes a look at the ways chronic stress can lead to burnout, cynicism, numbness, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself and from God. She’ll share 3 intentional shifts you can make right now, regardless of whether your circumstances change, so you can move out of survival mode and into a more grounded, present, and renewed way of living. If life feels like too much right now, this episode will help you understand what stress is doing inside your body and how to respond with wisdom and grace. Download our FREE Feeling Word List to help you handle stress. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 04 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 168 With You in the Weeds When you find yourself exhausted even after resting, irritable for no clear reason, or fixated on ways you can numb your feelings, your body may be carrying more stress than you realize. When you find yourself exhausted even after resting, irritable for no clear reason, or fixated on ways you can numb your feelings, your body may be carrying more stress than you realize. In this empathetic and insightful episode of our newest series, How to Handle Life, Lynn takes a look at the ways chronic stress can lead to burnout, cynicism, numbness, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself and from God. She’ll share 3 intentional shifts you can make right now, regardless of whether your circumstances change, so you can move out of survival mode and into a more grounded, present, and renewed way of living. If life feels like too much right now, this episode will help you understand what stress is doing inside your body and how to respond with wisdom and grace. Download our FREE Feeling Word List to help you handle stress. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! When you find yourself exhausted even after resting, irritable for no clear reason, or fixated on ways you can numb your feelings, your body may be carrying more stress than you realize.

In this empathetic and insightful episode of our newest series, How to Handle Life, Lynn takes a look at the ways chronic stress can lead to burnout, cynicism, numbness, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself and from God.

She’ll share 3 intentional shifts you can make right now, regardless of whether your circumstances change, so you can move out of survival mode and into a more grounded, present, and renewed way of living.

If life feels like too much right now, this episode will help you understand what stress is doing inside your body and how to respond with wisdom and grace.


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]]> 1776 no How to Deal With Difficult People What do you do when someone keeps hurting you—and shows no signs of stopping? Is "being nice" always the Christian response, or does real love sometimes require a backbone? As we move through our How to Handle Life series, this episode condenses a lifetime of wisdom into 30 minutes! John Tinnin dives into one of life's toughest challenges: dealing with truly difficult, unrepentant people. You may not know that God responds differently with repentant (soft-hearted, teachable) and unrepentant (hard-hearted, blame-shifting) individuals. The wisdom of Scripture teaches us to do the same, but too often, Christians default to endless patience and "niceness.” John explains how Jesus modeled kindness with strength, sometimes saying a firm "no" and exposing hurtful behavior which provides the perfect example of how we are to engage with others in love and truth. The core of the episode offers practical "field tactics" to protect yourself while inviting a difficult person to change from being unrepentant to repentant:  The Ask ("Would you be willing...?") The Picture (holding up a mirror to show impact) The Price Tag (imposing limits and natural consequences that reflect reality) This episode will help you realize that limits and consequences are loving: They protect the hurt person, they get the offender's attention like a "speed bump," and create conditions for genuine change. As you listen, you will learn how to deal with difficult people by strategically engaging them with clarity and strength. Wed, 28 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 167 With You in the Weeds What do you do when someone keeps hurting you—and shows no signs of stopping? Is "being nice" always the Christian response, or does real love sometimes require a backbone? What do you do when someone keeps hurting you—and shows no signs of stopping? Is "being nice" always the Christian response, or does real love sometimes require a backbone? As we move through our How to Handle Life series, this episode condenses a lifetime of wisdom into 30 minutes! John Tinnin dives into one of life's toughest challenges: dealing with truly difficult, unrepentant people. You may not know that God responds differently with repentant (soft-hearted, teachable) and unrepentant (hard-hearted, blame-shifting) individuals. The wisdom of Scripture teaches us to do the same, but too often, Christians default to endless patience and "niceness.” John explains how Jesus modeled kindness with strength, sometimes saying a firm "no" and exposing hurtful behavior which provides the perfect example of how we are to engage with others in love and truth. The core of the episode offers practical "field tactics" to protect yourself while inviting a difficult person to change from being unrepentant to repentant:  The Ask ("Would you be willing...?") The Picture (holding up a mirror to show impact) The Price Tag (imposing limits and natural consequences that reflect reality) This episode will help you realize that limits and consequences are loving: They protect the hurt person, they get the offender's attention like a "speed bump," and create conditions for genuine change. As you listen, you will learn how to deal with difficult people by strategically engaging them with clarity and strength. What do you do when someone keeps hurting you—and shows no signs of stopping? Is "being nice" always the Christian response, or does real love sometimes require a backbone?

As we move through our How to Handle Life series, this episode condenses a lifetime of wisdom into 30 minutes! John Tinnin dives into one of life's toughest challenges: dealing with truly difficult, unrepentant people. You may not know that God responds differently with repentant (soft-hearted, teachable) and unrepentant (hard-hearted, blame-shifting) individuals.

The wisdom of Scripture teaches us to do the same, but too often, Christians default to endless patience and "niceness.” John explains how Jesus modeled kindness with strength, sometimes saying a firm "no" and exposing hurtful behavior which provides the perfect example of how we are to engage with others in love and truth.

The core of the episode offers practical "field tactics" to protect yourself while inviting a difficult person to change from being unrepentant to repentant: 

  1. The Ask ("Would you be willing...?")
  2. The Picture (holding up a mirror to show impact)
  3. The Price Tag (imposing limits and natural consequences that reflect reality)

This episode will help you realize that limits and consequences are loving: They protect the hurt person, they get the offender's attention like a "speed bump," and create conditions for genuine change. As you listen, you will learn how to deal with difficult people by strategically engaging them with clarity and strength.

]]> 1892 no How to Handle Unanswered Prayer Have you ever prayed desperately for something — only to be met with silence from heaven? In this powerful conversation, Shay Roush talks with his father-in-law, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, about one of the most painful questions believers face: Why doesn't God answer my prayers? Unanswered prayers lead many to discouragement or even deconstructing their faith, making it difficult to comprehend how God’s “no” might actually be serving a greater unseen purpose. Shay and Pastor Lutzer discuss many biblical examples of unanswered prayer, but perhaps the most significant one is Jesus’ unanswered prayer in Gethsemane (“Take this cup from me”), without which we would have no hope of redemption.  As you listen, you’ll come to see that God may accomplish more through an unanswered prayer than through the answers we beg for. You’ll also walk away with practical help, including how to pray with right motives, a simple framework for meaningful prayer, and encouragement to be honest with God about your disappointment while still choosing worship.  If you’ve ever felt let down by God or wondered whether prayer really matters in light of his sovereignty, this episode offers hope, clarity, and a deeper invitation to trust him—even when heaven is quiet. Recommended Resources: Why Doesn't God Answer My Prayers? A Biblical Guide to God’s Hidden Purpose by Erwin W. Lutzer  Running to Win Daily Devotional by Erwin Lutzer (365 days inspired by D.L. Moody) Wed, 21 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 166 With You in the Weeds Have you ever prayed desperately for something — only to be met with silence from heaven? Have you ever prayed desperately for something — only to be met with silence from heaven? In this powerful conversation, Shay Roush talks with his father-in-law, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, about one of the most painful questions believers face: Why doesn't God answer my prayers? Unanswered prayers lead many to discouragement or even deconstructing their faith, making it difficult to comprehend how God’s “no” might actually be serving a greater unseen purpose. Shay and Pastor Lutzer discuss many biblical examples of unanswered prayer, but perhaps the most significant one is Jesus’ unanswered prayer in Gethsemane (“Take this cup from me”), without which we would have no hope of redemption.  As you listen, you’ll come to see that God may accomplish more through an unanswered prayer than through the answers we beg for. You’ll also walk away with practical help, including how to pray with right motives, a simple framework for meaningful prayer, and encouragement to be honest with God about your disappointment while still choosing worship.  If you’ve ever felt let down by God or wondered whether prayer really matters in light of his sovereignty, this episode offers hope, clarity, and a deeper invitation to trust him—even when heaven is quiet. Recommended Resources: Why Doesn't God Answer My Prayers? A Biblical Guide to God’s Hidden Purpose by Erwin W. Lutzer  Running to Win Daily Devotional by Erwin Lutzer (365 days inspired by D.L. Moody) Have you ever prayed desperately for something — only to be met with silence from heaven?

In this powerful conversation, Shay Roush talks with his father-in-law, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, about one of the most painful questions believers face: Why doesn't God answer my prayers? Unanswered prayers lead many to discouragement or even deconstructing their faith, making it difficult to comprehend how God’s “no” might actually be serving a greater unseen purpose.

Shay and Pastor Lutzer discuss many biblical examples of unanswered prayer, but perhaps the most significant one is Jesus’ unanswered prayer in Gethsemane (“Take this cup from me”), without which we would have no hope of redemption. 

As you listen, you’ll come to see that God may accomplish more through an unanswered prayer than through the answers we beg for. You’ll also walk away with practical help, including how to pray with right motives, a simple framework for meaningful prayer, and encouragement to be honest with God about your disappointment while still choosing worship. 

If you’ve ever felt let down by God or wondered whether prayer really matters in light of his sovereignty, this episode offers hope, clarity, and a deeper invitation to trust him—even when heaven is quiet.


Recommended Resources:

Why Doesn't God Answer My Prayers? A Biblical Guide to God’s Hidden Purpose by Erwin W. Lutzer 

Running to Win Daily Devotional by Erwin Lutzer (365 days inspired by D.L. Moody)

]]> 1902 no How to Manage a Panic Attack Panic attacks can feel terrifying—sudden, overwhelming, and completely out of your control. If you’ve ever had one, you know how quickly your body can convince you that something is deeply wrong, even when you can’t explain why. If you haven’t experienced one yourself, chances are someone you love has. In this practical start to our new series, How to Handle Life, Austin delves into panic attacks: what they are, why they feel so intense, and, most importantly, what you can do in the moment when one hits. This episode isn’t about quick fixes or pretending anxiety doesn’t exist. It’s about understanding what’s happening in your body, and remembering that you’re not alone in the middle of it. You will learn 4 practical strategies to help you handle a panic attack and calm your system. These won’t help you answer why you’re having them, but they will get you out of the fight or flight cycle toward a place of calm and safety.  Whether panic attacks are a regular part of your life or something you’ve only encountered once or twice, we hope you find clarity, comfort, and a sense of steady ground beneath your feet. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 14 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 165 With You in the Weeds Panic attacks can feel terrifying—sudden, overwhelming, and completely out of your control. If you’ve ever had one, you know how quickly your body can convince you that something is deeply wrong, even when you can’t explain why. Panic attacks can feel terrifying—sudden, overwhelming, and completely out of your control. If you’ve ever had one, you know how quickly your body can convince you that something is deeply wrong, even when you can’t explain why. If you haven’t experienced one yourself, chances are someone you love has. In this practical start to our new series, How to Handle Life, Austin delves into panic attacks: what they are, why they feel so intense, and, most importantly, what you can do in the moment when one hits. This episode isn’t about quick fixes or pretending anxiety doesn’t exist. It’s about understanding what’s happening in your body, and remembering that you’re not alone in the middle of it. You will learn 4 practical strategies to help you handle a panic attack and calm your system. These won’t help you answer why you’re having them, but they will get you out of the fight or flight cycle toward a place of calm and safety.  Whether panic attacks are a regular part of your life or something you’ve only encountered once or twice, we hope you find clarity, comfort, and a sense of steady ground beneath your feet. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Panic attacks can feel terrifying—sudden, overwhelming, and completely out of your control. If you’ve ever had one, you know how quickly your body can convince you that something is deeply wrong, even when you can’t explain why. If you haven’t experienced one yourself, chances are someone you love has.

In this practical start to our new series, How to Handle Life, Austin delves into panic attacks: what they are, why they feel so intense, and, most importantly, what you can do in the moment when one hits. This episode isn’t about quick fixes or pretending anxiety doesn’t exist. It’s about understanding what’s happening in your body, and remembering that you’re not alone in the middle of it.

You will learn 4 practical strategies to help you handle a panic attack and calm your system. These won’t help you answer why you’re having them, but they will get you out of the fight or flight cycle toward a place of calm and safety. 

Whether panic attacks are a regular part of your life or something you’ve only encountered once or twice, we hope you find clarity, comfort, and a sense of steady ground beneath your feet.


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]]> 1021 no The Last Addiction with Sharon Hersh Deep down, we all cling to control—often the final, most insidious addiction. In this wrap-up episode of our Dealing With Your Addictions series, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT interviews therapist and recovering alcoholic Sharon Hersh, LPC about her decades-long battle with alcohol, her journey into counseling, and the painful parallels she’s walked with her adult children. Sharon names the shame, secrecy, and stubborn self-reliance that fuel every addiction—whether it’s substances, scrolling, spending, or even religious performance. John and Sharon unpack why relapse doesn’t mean failure, why white-knuckling never works, and why true recovery isn’t just sobriety—it’s a whole-life change that only the indwelling work of Jesus can do.  They explore the three non-negotiable daily practices that lead to freedom (seek God, ruthless honesty, and consistent recovery work), the surprising gifts hidden inside addiction and why surrender to Christ is the only way to conquer “the last addiction” - our lifelong impulse to save ourselves. The final takeaway from this series is that freedom from addiction isn’t earned by perfection–it’s received one surrendered day at a time. Book recommendation: The Last Addiction by Sharon Hersh We hope you have enjoyed this series on addiction! Stay tuned for a NEW SERIES starting January 14th called How to Handle Life where we will tackle the most common issues we see in our counseling practice: panic attacks, unanswered prayers, stress, painful relationships, forgiveness, singleness, narcissism and much more!  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 07 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0000 full 164 With You in the Weeds Sharon names the shame, secrecy, and stubborn self-reliance that fuel every addiction—whether it’s substances, scrolling, spending, or even religious performance. Deep down, we all cling to control—often the final, most insidious addiction. In this wrap-up episode of our Dealing With Your Addictions series, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT interviews therapist and recovering alcoholic Sharon Hersh, LPC about her decades-long battle with alcohol, her journey into counseling, and the painful parallels she’s walked with her adult children. Sharon names the shame, secrecy, and stubborn self-reliance that fuel every addiction—whether it’s substances, scrolling, spending, or even religious performance. John and Sharon unpack why relapse doesn’t mean failure, why white-knuckling never works, and why true recovery isn’t just sobriety—it’s a whole-life change that only the indwelling work of Jesus can do.  They explore the three non-negotiable daily practices that lead to freedom (seek God, ruthless honesty, and consistent recovery work), the surprising gifts hidden inside addiction and why surrender to Christ is the only way to conquer “the last addiction” - our lifelong impulse to save ourselves. The final takeaway from this series is that freedom from addiction isn’t earned by perfection–it’s received one surrendered day at a time. Book recommendation: The Last Addiction by Sharon Hersh We hope you have enjoyed this series on addiction! Stay tuned for a NEW SERIES starting January 14th called How to Handle Life where we will tackle the most common issues we see in our counseling practice: panic attacks, unanswered prayers, stress, painful relationships, forgiveness, singleness, narcissism and much more!  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Deep down, we all cling to control—often the final, most insidious addiction.

In this wrap-up episode of our Dealing With Your Addictions series, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT interviews therapist and recovering alcoholic Sharon Hersh, LPC about her decades-long battle with alcohol, her journey into counseling, and the painful parallels she’s walked with her adult children.

Sharon names the shame, secrecy, and stubborn self-reliance that fuel every addiction—whether it’s substances, scrolling, spending, or even religious performance. John and Sharon unpack why relapse doesn’t mean failure, why white-knuckling never works, and why true recovery isn’t just sobriety—it’s a whole-life change that only the indwelling work of Jesus can do. 

They explore the three non-negotiable daily practices that lead to freedom (seek God, ruthless honesty, and consistent recovery work), the surprising gifts hidden inside addiction and why surrender to Christ is the only way to conquer “the last addiction” - our lifelong impulse to save ourselves. The final takeaway from this series is that freedom from addiction isn’t earned by perfection–it’s received one surrendered day at a time.


Book recommendation: The Last Addiction by Sharon Hersh


We hope you have enjoyed this series on addiction! Stay tuned for a NEW SERIES starting January 14th called How to Handle Life where we will tackle the most common issues we see in our counseling practice: panic attacks, unanswered prayers, stress, painful relationships, forgiveness, singleness, narcissism and much more! 


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]]> 1948 no #1 Episode of 2025: Flipping the Script on Your Childhood Trauma Happy New Year! This episode with guest Jules Lundberg, PLPC was our most downloaded episode of 2025, so we don't want you to miss this incredible story of how God's power can enable you to rewrite the script of your life. Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”?  In this powerful episode of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series, Lynn Roush, LPC interviews her colleague and friend, Jules Lundberg, (trauma-informed PLPC & PhD student) who shares the compelling story of her journey as a trauma survivor and how she has worked hard to heal, thrive, and help others flip the script of their trauma. Together, Lynn and Jules provide listeners with practical steps for rewriting the shameful narrative that emerges from childhood trauma and how to begin breaking generational patterns of sin and dysfunction. Jules' story of resilience includes severe childhood abuse, domestic violence, divorce, infant loss, fostering and adoption. Lynn and Jules discuss: The challenges of naming dysfunction in your family The fear of being disconnected from love and belonging How to recognize and discern leaving an abusive relationship  How healing happens through relationships with safe people Understanding dissociation as a common response to childhood trauma 5 ways to flip the script on your childhood trauma If you are wanting to rewrite the narrative of your life, this episode will offer insight, hope and practical steps to help you change your internal dialogue and experience the transformation that occurs when you receive God’s invitation to be transformed by his love and truth. We want you to have hope that you can survive and thrive after trauma and embrace your identity as a beloved child of God. Bible Verse Highlight: Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” If you are in an abusive relationship and need support you can call the domestic abuse hotline: 1-800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit their website https://www.thehotline.org/ If you live in Columbia, Missouri, you can contact True North to receive education, counseling, and shelter from an abusive partner.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here! Wed, 31 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 163 With You in the Weeds Happy New Year! This episode with guest Jules Lundberg, PLPC was our most downloaded episode of 2025, so we don't want you to miss this incredible story of how God's power can enable you to rewrite the script of your life. Happy New Year! This episode with guest Jules Lundberg, PLPC was our most downloaded episode of 2025, so we don't want you to miss this incredible story of how God's power can enable you to rewrite the script of your life. Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”?  In this powerful episode of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series, Lynn Roush, LPC interviews her colleague and friend, Jules Lundberg, (trauma-informed PLPC & PhD student) who shares the compelling story of her journey as a trauma survivor and how she has worked hard to heal, thrive, and help others flip the script of their trauma. Together, Lynn and Jules provide listeners with practical steps for rewriting the shameful narrative that emerges from childhood trauma and how to begin breaking generational patterns of sin and dysfunction. Jules' story of resilience includes severe childhood abuse, domestic violence, divorce, infant loss, fostering and adoption. Lynn and Jules discuss: The challenges of naming dysfunction in your family The fear of being disconnected from love and belonging How to recognize and discern leaving an abusive relationship  How healing happens through relationships with safe people Understanding dissociation as a common response to childhood trauma 5 ways to flip the script on your childhood trauma If you are wanting to rewrite the narrative of your life, this episode will offer insight, hope and practical steps to help you change your internal dialogue and experience the transformation that occurs when you receive God’s invitation to be transformed by his love and truth. We want you to have hope that you can survive and thrive after trauma and embrace your identity as a beloved child of God. Bible Verse Highlight: Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” If you are in an abusive relationship and need support you can call the domestic abuse hotline: 1-800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit their website https://www.thehotline.org/ If you live in Columbia, Missouri, you can contact True North to receive education, counseling, and shelter from an abusive partner.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here! Happy New Year! This episode with guest Jules Lundberg, PLPC was our most downloaded episode of 2025, so we don't want you to miss this incredible story of how God's power can enable you to rewrite the script of your life.

Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”? 

In this powerful episode of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series, Lynn Roush, LPC interviews her colleague and friend, Jules Lundberg, (trauma-informed PLPC & PhD student) who shares the compelling story of her journey as a trauma survivor and how she has worked hard to heal, thrive, and help others flip the script of their trauma.

Together, Lynn and Jules provide listeners with practical steps for rewriting the shameful narrative that emerges from childhood trauma and how to begin breaking generational patterns of sin and dysfunction.

Jules' story of resilience includes severe childhood abuse, domestic violence, divorce, infant loss, fostering and adoption. Lynn and Jules discuss:

  1. The challenges of naming dysfunction in your family
  2. The fear of being disconnected from love and belonging
  3. How to recognize and discern leaving an abusive relationship 
  4. How healing happens through relationships with safe people
  5. Understanding dissociation as a common response to childhood trauma
  6. 5 ways to flip the script on your childhood trauma

If you are wanting to rewrite the narrative of your life, this episode will offer insight, hope and practical steps to help you change your internal dialogue and experience the transformation that occurs when you receive God’s invitation to be transformed by his love and truth. We want you to have hope that you can survive and thrive after trauma and embrace your identity as a beloved child of God.

Bible Verse Highlight:

Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

If you are in an abusive relationship and need support you can call the domestic abuse hotline: 1-800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit their website https://www.thehotline.org/

If you live in Columbia, Missouri, you can contact True North to receive education, counseling, and shelter from an abusive partner. 


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]]> 3466 no Jesus - Emmanuel - Is With You in the Weeds What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice? It’s easy to get caught up in cultural traditions and forget that the true meaning of Christmas is that God became flesh to dwell among us. Jesus entered into a world of darkness and declared: “I am the light of the world”. Who could make such a claim, and live a life of perfection to back it up? And what does that mean for you today? John and Shay explain the gospel message that God wants to be WITH YOU, and moves towards you in your sinfulness, darkness and brokenness. God took on flesh in the person of Jesus in order to identify with you in your suffering and to forgive your sins. Emmanuel means “God with us”, a comforting declaration that you are not alone in this world, you have a friend in Jesus. If you are looking for hope this Christmas season, this episode will comfort, encourage and awaken your heart to the beauty and wonder of what it means that Jesus is WITH YOU in the weeds of life. The WYITW team wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 24 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 162 With You in the Weeds What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice? What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice? It’s easy to get caught up in cultural traditions and forget that the true meaning of Christmas is that God became flesh to dwell among us. Jesus entered into a world of darkness and declared: “I am the light of the world”. Who could make such a claim, and live a life of perfection to back it up? And what does that mean for you today? John and Shay explain the gospel message that God wants to be WITH YOU, and moves towards you in your sinfulness, darkness and brokenness. God took on flesh in the person of Jesus in order to identify with you in your suffering and to forgive your sins. Emmanuel means “God with us”, a comforting declaration that you are not alone in this world, you have a friend in Jesus. If you are looking for hope this Christmas season, this episode will comfort, encourage and awaken your heart to the beauty and wonder of what it means that Jesus is WITH YOU in the weeds of life. The WYITW team wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice?

It’s easy to get caught up in cultural traditions and forget that the true meaning of Christmas is that God became flesh to dwell among us. Jesus entered into a world of darkness and declared: “I am the light of the world”. Who could make such a claim, and live a life of perfection to back it up? And what does that mean for you today?

John and Shay explain the gospel message that God wants to be WITH YOU, and moves towards you in your sinfulness, darkness and brokenness. God took on flesh in the person of Jesus in order to identify with you in your suffering and to forgive your sins. Emmanuel means “God with us”, a comforting declaration that you are not alone in this world, you have a friend in Jesus.

If you are looking for hope this Christmas season, this episode will comfort, encourage and awaken your heart to the beauty and wonder of what it means that Jesus is WITH YOU in the weeds of life.

The WYITW team wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!


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]]> 1956 no Chronic Pain and Addiction: Is There Hope? Is God still with you when the pain doesn’t go away? This episode dives deep into the invisible torment that chronic pain brings. Dr. David Hockman (a former surgeon who now lives with chronic pain himself) and Pastor Shay Roush unpack what chronic pain actually is, why it’s far more than “just physical,” and how it rewires your brain, drains your energy, strains relationships, and can shake your faith to the core.  The conversation walks you through the biology of tolerance and withdrawal, the red flags of addiction, the proper (and improper) use of pain medication, and a long list of practical, whole-person strategies that can help you live with pain instead of being owned by it. At the heart of this episode is a life-changing truth: God’s strength is made perfect in weakness, not in the absence of suffering.  Your chronic pain does not mean God has abandoned you; pain may remain, but it never gets the last word. Someday you will be united with Jesus and your present sufferings will be but a “light and momentary affliction” when you receive your pain-free resurrected body. Our prayer is that this hope sustains, guides and comforts you even when the pain doesn’t go away. Book resource: Change Your Brain, Change Your Pain by Dr. Daniel Amen Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 17 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 161 With You in the Weeds Is God still with you when the pain doesn’t go away? Is God still with you when the pain doesn’t go away? This episode dives deep into the invisible torment that chronic pain brings. Dr. David Hockman (a former surgeon who now lives with chronic pain himself) and Pastor Shay Roush unpack what chronic pain actually is, why it’s far more than “just physical,” and how it rewires your brain, drains your energy, strains relationships, and can shake your faith to the core.  The conversation walks you through the biology of tolerance and withdrawal, the red flags of addiction, the proper (and improper) use of pain medication, and a long list of practical, whole-person strategies that can help you live with pain instead of being owned by it. At the heart of this episode is a life-changing truth: God’s strength is made perfect in weakness, not in the absence of suffering.  Your chronic pain does not mean God has abandoned you; pain may remain, but it never gets the last word. Someday you will be united with Jesus and your present sufferings will be but a “light and momentary affliction” when you receive your pain-free resurrected body. Our prayer is that this hope sustains, guides and comforts you even when the pain doesn’t go away. Book resource: Change Your Brain, Change Your Pain by Dr. Daniel Amen Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Is God still with you when the pain doesn’t go away?

This episode dives deep into the invisible torment that chronic pain brings. Dr. David Hockman (a former surgeon who now lives with chronic pain himself) and Pastor Shay Roush unpack what chronic pain actually is, why it’s far more than “just physical,” and how it rewires your brain, drains your energy, strains relationships, and can shake your faith to the core. 

The conversation walks you through the biology of tolerance and withdrawal, the red flags of addiction, the proper (and improper) use of pain medication, and a long list of practical, whole-person strategies that can help you live with pain instead of being owned by it.

At the heart of this episode is a life-changing truth: God’s strength is made perfect in weakness, not in the absence of suffering. 

Your chronic pain does not mean God has abandoned you; pain may remain, but it never gets the last word. Someday you will be united with Jesus and your present sufferings will be but a “light and momentary affliction” when you receive your pain-free resurrected body. Our prayer is that this hope sustains, guides and comforts you even when the pain doesn’t go away.


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Change Your Brain, Change Your Pain by Dr. Daniel Amen


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]]> 3008 no Chasing Fulfillment: Gambling, Shopping and Workaholism What if the things you normalize, celebrate, or even depend on can quietly take over your life just as powerfully as any substance? In this thought-provoking episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Shay tackle the topic of behaviors like gambling, shopping, and workaholism and how they can evolve into powerful addictions that mirror the neurological patterns of substance abuse. You’ll hear about: How everyday habits can become life-altering compulsions Why dopamine is at the center of every addiction story What Scripture says about being mastered by anything other than Jesus Examining root causes to find true freedom and healing After listening to this episode, you’ll understand that freedom from process addiction is possible no matter where you find yourself on the recovery journey. Book recommendation: Healing What’s Within by Chuck DeGroat Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 10 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 160 With You in the Weeds What if the things you normalize, celebrate, or even depend on can quietly take over your life just as powerfully as any substance? What if the things you normalize, celebrate, or even depend on can quietly take over your life just as powerfully as any substance? In this thought-provoking episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Shay tackle the topic of behaviors like gambling, shopping, and workaholism and how they can evolve into powerful addictions that mirror the neurological patterns of substance abuse. You’ll hear about: How everyday habits can become life-altering compulsions Why dopamine is at the center of every addiction story What Scripture says about being mastered by anything other than Jesus Examining root causes to find true freedom and healing After listening to this episode, you’ll understand that freedom from process addiction is possible no matter where you find yourself on the recovery journey. Book recommendation: Healing What’s Within by Chuck DeGroat Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds What if the things you normalize, celebrate, or even depend on can quietly take over your life just as powerfully as any substance?

In this thought-provoking episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Shay tackle the topic of behaviors like gambling, shopping, and workaholism and how they can evolve into powerful addictions that mirror the neurological patterns of substance abuse.

You’ll hear about:

  • How everyday habits can become life-altering compulsions
  • Why dopamine is at the center of every addiction story
  • What Scripture says about being mastered by anything other than Jesus
  • Examining root causes to find true freedom and healing

After listening to this episode, you’ll understand that freedom from process addiction is possible no matter where you find yourself on the recovery journey.


Book recommendation:

Healing What’s Within by Chuck DeGroat


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]]> 3066 no Disordered Eating: Hungry for Love If your cravings aren’t satisfied by food, then your struggle might not be about eating at all. But it can be difficult to figure out what’s behind your longings. In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, we tackle a topic that you may struggle with quietly: your complicated relationship with food. Lynn Roush, LPC sits down with counselor Kelsey Crandall, PLPC from The Current, a Columbia, MO-based clinic specializing in helping clients heal from disordered eating. You’ll hear about these key ideas: The ways that food issues are tied to emotional, relational, and spiritual pain Why someone struggling with disordered eating can look “normal” from the outside How shame and silence may keep you stuck The 5 C’s that explain why “food is more than food” Therapeutic and faith-based interventions that pave the way for healing You’ll want to listen in as Kelsey brings a warm, grounded perspective on what’s really going on beneath the surface of eating disorders—and why you may feel stuck in patterns you can’t simply “willpower” your way out of. This conversation is full of insight that will help you reflect on the role food plays in your life and how to deal with this inner struggle with hope and support. Further Resources: Sick Enough by Jennifer Gaudiani The Current Clinic in Columbia, MO Bamboo Nutrition Clinic in Columbia, MO Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 03 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 159 With You in the Weeds If your cravings aren’t satisfied by food, then your struggle might not be about eating at all. But it can be difficult to figure out what’s behind your longings. If your cravings aren’t satisfied by food, then your struggle might not be about eating at all. But it can be difficult to figure out what’s behind your longings. In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, we tackle a topic that you may struggle with quietly: your complicated relationship with food. Lynn Roush, LPC sits down with counselor Kelsey Crandall, PLPC from The Current, a Columbia, MO-based clinic specializing in helping clients heal from disordered eating. You’ll hear about these key ideas: The ways that food issues are tied to emotional, relational, and spiritual pain Why someone struggling with disordered eating can look “normal” from the outside How shame and silence may keep you stuck The 5 C’s that explain why “food is more than food” Therapeutic and faith-based interventions that pave the way for healing You’ll want to listen in as Kelsey brings a warm, grounded perspective on what’s really going on beneath the surface of eating disorders—and why you may feel stuck in patterns you can’t simply “willpower” your way out of. This conversation is full of insight that will help you reflect on the role food plays in your life and how to deal with this inner struggle with hope and support. Further Resources: Sick Enough by Jennifer Gaudiani The Current Clinic in Columbia, MO Bamboo Nutrition Clinic in Columbia, MO Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If your cravings aren’t satisfied by food, then your struggle might not be about eating at all. But it can be difficult to figure out what’s behind your longings.

In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, we tackle a topic that you may struggle with quietly: your complicated relationship with food. Lynn Roush, LPC sits down with counselor Kelsey Crandall, PLPC from The Current, a Columbia, MO-based clinic specializing in helping clients heal from disordered eating.

You’ll hear about these key ideas:

  • The ways that food issues are tied to emotional, relational, and spiritual pain
  • Why someone struggling with disordered eating can look “normal” from the outside
  • How shame and silence may keep you stuck
  • The 5 C’s that explain why “food is more than food”
  • Therapeutic and faith-based interventions that pave the way for healing

You’ll want to listen in as Kelsey brings a warm, grounded perspective on what’s really going on beneath the surface of eating disorders—and why you may feel stuck in patterns you can’t simply “willpower” your way out of. This conversation is full of insight that will help you reflect on the role food plays in your life and how to deal with this inner struggle with hope and support.

Further Resources:

Sick Enough by Jennifer Gaudiani

The Current Clinic in Columbia, MO

Bamboo Nutrition Clinic in Columbia, MO


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]]> 3180 no Are You Addicted to Your Phone? Does your phone put you to bed at night and wake you up in the morning? How often do you actually touch and hold your phone each day? Could you be addicted? Your phone isn’t just a tool anymore—it’s a slot machine in your pocket, custom-built to hijack your brain’s reward system. And for the first generation of true digital natives (today’s teens and twenty-somethings), the consequences are hitting harder and earlier than any of us “digital immigrants” ever imagined. In this episode, Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC has a broad ranging interview with Luke Simon, newly hired co-director of Crossing Student Ministry, a published author, and an extremely wise and insightful GenZ-er.  Luke gets brutally honest about his double life—real-life Luke who felt anxious and insecure, versus “Luke3Simon” online who was always crushing it—and how deleting social media, going full airplane-mode, and even leaving his phone in the car became his personal rehab. He also explains why the phone isn’t the real problem—it’s the escape hatch from a painful, boring, or broken reality. Austin and Luke discuss the nature of the digital landscape, what apps and dynamics contribute to phone addiction and specific advice to parents about how to help themselves and their kids navigate the ever changing digital terrain. After listening to this episode we hope that you will look up from the dim glow in the palm of your hand and engage the real world in all its colorful beauty. Further Resources The Anxious Generation anxiousgeneration.co The Shallows Qustodio Parental Control Software Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds  X: withyou_weeds Wed, 26 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 158 With You in the Weeds Does your phone put you to bed at night and wake you up in the morning? How often do you actually touch and hold your phone each day? Could you be addicted? Does your phone put you to bed at night and wake you up in the morning? How often do you actually touch and hold your phone each day? Could you be addicted? Your phone isn’t just a tool anymore—it’s a slot machine in your pocket, custom-built to hijack your brain’s reward system. And for the first generation of true digital natives (today’s teens and twenty-somethings), the consequences are hitting harder and earlier than any of us “digital immigrants” ever imagined. In this episode, Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC has a broad ranging interview with Luke Simon, newly hired co-director of Crossing Student Ministry, a published author, and an extremely wise and insightful GenZ-er.  Luke gets brutally honest about his double life—real-life Luke who felt anxious and insecure, versus “Luke3Simon” online who was always crushing it—and how deleting social media, going full airplane-mode, and even leaving his phone in the car became his personal rehab. He also explains why the phone isn’t the real problem—it’s the escape hatch from a painful, boring, or broken reality. Austin and Luke discuss the nature of the digital landscape, what apps and dynamics contribute to phone addiction and specific advice to parents about how to help themselves and their kids navigate the ever changing digital terrain. After listening to this episode we hope that you will look up from the dim glow in the palm of your hand and engage the real world in all its colorful beauty. Further Resources The Anxious Generation anxiousgeneration.co The Shallows Qustodio Parental Control Software Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds  X: withyou_weeds Does your phone put you to bed at night and wake you up in the morning? How often do you actually touch and hold your phone each day? Could you be addicted?

Your phone isn’t just a tool anymore—it’s a slot machine in your pocket, custom-built to hijack your brain’s reward system. And for the first generation of true digital natives (today’s teens and twenty-somethings), the consequences are hitting harder and earlier than any of us “digital immigrants” ever imagined.

In this episode, Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC has a broad ranging interview with Luke Simon, newly hired co-director of Crossing Student Ministry, a published author, and an extremely wise and insightful GenZ-er. 

Luke gets brutally honest about his double life—real-life Luke who felt anxious and insecure, versus “Luke3Simon” online who was always crushing it—and how deleting social media, going full airplane-mode, and even leaving his phone in the car became his personal rehab. He also explains why the phone isn’t the real problem—it’s the escape hatch from a painful, boring, or broken reality.

Austin and Luke discuss the nature of the digital landscape, what apps and dynamics contribute to phone addiction and specific advice to parents about how to help themselves and their kids navigate the ever changing digital terrain.

After listening to this episode we hope that you will look up from the dim glow in the palm of your hand and engage the real world in all its colorful beauty.


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]]> 3631 no When Someone You Love is Addicted What do you do when the person you love most is trapped in addiction—and you realize you’re powerless to change them?  This conversation is going to share the raw truth about addiction and codependency that many Christians are not able to say out loud. The crazy-cycle is real in a home or a marriage where there is addiction. And learning to love someone who is addicted will take grace and wisdom that can only come from God. After living in the crazy-cycle for years, things started to make sense after Yvonne’s husband revealed his addiction to pornography and drugs. But even after the truth came out, nothing would ever be the same again. As her husband entered a recovery process, Yvonne began her journey of uncovering her need to please and take care of others, and her drive to live a life of performance and perfection.  She needed to change just as much as her husband needed to change. Listen as Lynn Roush, LPC and Yvonne Bernard pull back the curtain on 5 pervasive myths Christians believe about addiction, the needed boundaries that will save your sanity, and the one truth that can offer you lasting peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck on the crazy-cycle of loving an addict, this hope-filled conversation is for you. Download our free resource: 5 Steps to Setting Healthy Boundaries  ‘It Will Never Happen to Me!’ Children of Alcoholics: As Youngsters - Adolescents - Adults by Claudia Black Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships by Dr. John Townsend Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 19 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 157 With You in the Weeds What do you do when the person you love most is trapped in addiction—and you realize you’re powerless to change them? What do you do when the person you love most is trapped in addiction—and you realize you’re powerless to change them?  This conversation is going to share the raw truth about addiction and codependency that many Christians are not able to say out loud. The crazy-cycle is real in a home or a marriage where there is addiction. And learning to love someone who is addicted will take grace and wisdom that can only come from God. After living in the crazy-cycle for years, things started to make sense after Yvonne’s husband revealed his addiction to pornography and drugs. But even after the truth came out, nothing would ever be the same again. As her husband entered a recovery process, Yvonne began her journey of uncovering her need to please and take care of others, and her drive to live a life of performance and perfection.  She needed to change just as much as her husband needed to change. Listen as Lynn Roush, LPC and Yvonne Bernard pull back the curtain on 5 pervasive myths Christians believe about addiction, the needed boundaries that will save your sanity, and the one truth that can offer you lasting peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck on the crazy-cycle of loving an addict, this hope-filled conversation is for you. Download our free resource: 5 Steps to Setting Healthy Boundaries  ‘It Will Never Happen to Me!’ Children of Alcoholics: As Youngsters - Adolescents - Adults by Claudia Black Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships by Dr. John Townsend Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds What do you do when the person you love most is trapped in addiction—and you realize you’re powerless to change them? 

This conversation is going to share the raw truth about addiction and codependency that many Christians are not able to say out loud. The crazy-cycle is real in a home or a marriage where there is addiction. And learning to love someone who is addicted will take grace and wisdom that can only come from God.

After living in the crazy-cycle for years, things started to make sense after Yvonne’s husband revealed his addiction to pornography and drugs. But even after the truth came out, nothing would ever be the same again. As her husband entered a recovery process, Yvonne began her journey of uncovering her need to please and take care of others, and her drive to live a life of performance and perfection. 

She needed to change just as much as her husband needed to change.

Listen as Lynn Roush, LPC and Yvonne Bernard pull back the curtain on 5 pervasive myths Christians believe about addiction, the needed boundaries that will save your sanity, and the one truth that can offer you lasting peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck on the crazy-cycle of loving an addict, this hope-filled conversation is for you.

Download our free resource: 5 Steps to Setting Healthy Boundaries 


‘It Will Never Happen to Me!’ Children of Alcoholics: As Youngsters - Adolescents - Adults by Claudia Black

Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships by Dr. John Townsend


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]]> 3316 no How Do I Break Free From Porn? You’ve identified the problem, but what do you do now?  How can you break free from the grasp of pornography? In this insightful episode, John and Austin start with what NOT to do. You’ll hear about the things that seem helpful, but ultimately won’t produce lasting change. Then you’ll come to understand 4 Core Beliefs that may be keeping you stuck, and 5 Habits you can practice to begin and continue the process of breaking free from porn.  When you listen, you’ll learn practical and faithful steps to take that will create and cultivate hope instead of the familiar experience of feeling stuck, ashamed, and broken.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 12 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 156 With You in the Weeds You’ve identified the problem, but what do you do now?  How can you break free from the grasp of pornography? You’ve identified the problem, but what do you do now?  How can you break free from the grasp of pornography? In this insightful episode, John and Austin start with what NOT to do. You’ll hear about the things that seem helpful, but ultimately won’t produce lasting change. Then you’ll come to understand 4 Core Beliefs that may be keeping you stuck, and 5 Habits you can practice to begin and continue the process of breaking free from porn.  When you listen, you’ll learn practical and faithful steps to take that will create and cultivate hope instead of the familiar experience of feeling stuck, ashamed, and broken.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds You’ve identified the problem, but what do you do now?  How can you break free from the grasp of pornography?

In this insightful episode, John and Austin start with what NOT to do. You’ll hear about the things that seem helpful, but ultimately won’t produce lasting change.

Then you’ll come to understand 4 Core Beliefs that may be keeping you stuck, and 5 Habits you can practice to begin and continue the process of breaking free from porn. 

When you listen, you’ll learn practical and faithful steps to take that will create and cultivate hope instead of the familiar experience of feeling stuck, ashamed, and broken. 


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]]> 2549 no BONUS EP: The Connection Between Abuse and Porn Addiction Unfortunately it is all too common for those who struggle with pornography to have some sort of sexual abuse in their past. But why? Does the abuse cause the addiction, or is there simply a correlation? The jury is still out on this question.  Although everyone’s story is different, pastor and counselor Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC helps connect the dots on why and how those with sexual abuse in their background might be more susceptible to pornography.  When you understand more about what abuse does to a person’s view of themselves, their sexuality, and the world around them, you will grow in your empathy and understanding for those who are stuck in an addictive cycle with pornography. Finally, an important resource for those with sexual abuse in their background is the book On The Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door for Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane Langberg. Fri, 07 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 155 With You in the Weeds Does the abuse cause the addiction, or is there simply a correlation? Unfortunately it is all too common for those who struggle with pornography to have some sort of sexual abuse in their past. But why? Does the abuse cause the addiction, or is there simply a correlation? The jury is still out on this question.  Although everyone’s story is different, pastor and counselor Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC helps connect the dots on why and how those with sexual abuse in their background might be more susceptible to pornography.  When you understand more about what abuse does to a person’s view of themselves, their sexuality, and the world around them, you will grow in your empathy and understanding for those who are stuck in an addictive cycle with pornography. Finally, an important resource for those with sexual abuse in their background is the book On The Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door for Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane Langberg. Unfortunately it is all too common for those who struggle with pornography to have some sort of sexual abuse in their past. But why? Does the abuse cause the addiction, or is there simply a correlation? The jury is still out on this question. 

Although everyone’s story is different, pastor and counselor Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC helps connect the dots on why and how those with sexual abuse in their background might be more susceptible to pornography. 

When you understand more about what abuse does to a person’s view of themselves, their sexuality, and the world around them, you will grow in your empathy and understanding for those who are stuck in an addictive cycle with pornography.

Finally, an important resource for those with sexual abuse in their background is the book On The Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door for Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane Langberg.

]]> 843 no How Did I Get Addicted to Porn? This is a battle that the enemy of your soul loves to keep in the dark. But we’d like to bring it out into the light—and provide hope for anyone who is caught in the trap of porn addiction. In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin unpack the reasons why so many people get hooked—and how understanding the roots of it can be the first step toward freedom. The gravitational pull of pornography is impossible to ignore for both men and women. No one just wakes up addicted to pornography. Instead, there is a story to be told about how you got there and why you stay there.  Listen as John and Austin discuss how porn can become all-consuming as well as the growing accessibility and depravity of online sexual content. You’ll also learn 5 reasons why you may find yourself addicted to porn, including:  Modeling of early caregivers Influence of peers Isolation and secrecy The rapidly evolving digital landscape Your personal neurobiology John and Austin also provide some specific strategies you can apply right now to reshape your heart and mind around this topic. When you understand the factors around porn addiction, you’ll be in a better place to figure out how to take steps that will lead to freedom—which you’ll hear more about in next Wednesday’s episode. Also, look for a BONUS EPISODE coming out this Friday covering the topic of: “The Connection Between Abuse and Porn Addiction”. This will shed further light on the factors that may influence you, your self-perception and your vulnerability to addictive cycles. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 05 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 154 With You in the Weeds This is a battle that the enemy of your soul loves to keep in the dark. This is a battle that the enemy of your soul loves to keep in the dark. But we’d like to bring it out into the light—and provide hope for anyone who is caught in the trap of porn addiction. In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin unpack the reasons why so many people get hooked—and how understanding the roots of it can be the first step toward freedom. The gravitational pull of pornography is impossible to ignore for both men and women. No one just wakes up addicted to pornography. Instead, there is a story to be told about how you got there and why you stay there.  Listen as John and Austin discuss how porn can become all-consuming as well as the growing accessibility and depravity of online sexual content. You’ll also learn 5 reasons why you may find yourself addicted to porn, including:  Modeling of early caregivers Influence of peers Isolation and secrecy The rapidly evolving digital landscape Your personal neurobiology John and Austin also provide some specific strategies you can apply right now to reshape your heart and mind around this topic. When you understand the factors around porn addiction, you’ll be in a better place to figure out how to take steps that will lead to freedom—which you’ll hear more about in next Wednesday’s episode. Also, look for a BONUS EPISODE coming out this Friday covering the topic of: “The Connection Between Abuse and Porn Addiction”. This will shed further light on the factors that may influence you, your self-perception and your vulnerability to addictive cycles. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds This is a battle that the enemy of your soul loves to keep in the dark.

But we’d like to bring it out into the light—and provide hope for anyone who is caught in the trap of porn addiction.

In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin unpack the reasons why so many people get hooked—and how understanding the roots of it can be the first step toward freedom. The gravitational pull of pornography is impossible to ignore for both men and women. No one just wakes up addicted to pornography. Instead, there is a story to be told about how you got there and why you stay there. 

Listen as John and Austin discuss how porn can become all-consuming as well as the growing accessibility and depravity of online sexual content. You’ll also learn 5 reasons why you may find yourself addicted to porn, including: 

  • Modeling of early caregivers
  • Influence of peers
  • Isolation and secrecy
  • The rapidly evolving digital landscape
  • Your personal neurobiology

John and Austin also provide some specific strategies you can apply right now to reshape your heart and mind around this topic. When you understand the factors around porn addiction, you’ll be in a better place to figure out how to take steps that will lead to freedom—which you’ll hear more about in next Wednesday’s episode.

Also, look for a BONUS EPISODE coming out this Friday covering the topic of: “The Connection Between Abuse and Porn Addiction”. This will shed further light on the factors that may influence you, your self-perception and your vulnerability to addictive cycles.


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]]> 2389 no Should Christians Use Marijuana? Are you ready to get “in the weeds” about weed? In today’s society, marijuana use is legalized and normalized, so is there any reason not to use it? In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, Austin, John, and Shay sit down for a straightforward conversation about the effects of marijuana and how Christians can make wise decisions in a culture where marijuana use is increasingly common. We used to be able to say using Marijuana was off the table because it was illegal. But today, that’s no longer a good enough reason to say no, thanks to more and more states legalizing it. So, should we use it or not? A good place to start is to understand more about the nature of marijuana and how it impacts the brain and the body. Once you know more about that, you’re in a better place to get spiritual and biblical insights and perspectives. This is exactly what we offer you in this episode. After you listen, you’ll have a TON of great info, have a wise biblical perspective, and get specific questions to ask yourself and others about marijuana usage. Links to other resources: Cannabis and The Christian - Todd Mile The Effects of Cannabis (Marijuana) on the Brain & Body - Huberman Lab Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 29 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 153 With You in the Weeds Are you ready to get “in the weeds” about weed? Are you ready to get “in the weeds” about weed? In today’s society, marijuana use is legalized and normalized, so is there any reason not to use it? In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, Austin, John, and Shay sit down for a straightforward conversation about the effects of marijuana and how Christians can make wise decisions in a culture where marijuana use is increasingly common. We used to be able to say using Marijuana was off the table because it was illegal. But today, that’s no longer a good enough reason to say no, thanks to more and more states legalizing it. So, should we use it or not? A good place to start is to understand more about the nature of marijuana and how it impacts the brain and the body. Once you know more about that, you’re in a better place to get spiritual and biblical insights and perspectives. This is exactly what we offer you in this episode. After you listen, you’ll have a TON of great info, have a wise biblical perspective, and get specific questions to ask yourself and others about marijuana usage. Links to other resources: Cannabis and The Christian - Todd Mile The Effects of Cannabis (Marijuana) on the Brain & Body - Huberman Lab Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Are you ready to get “in the weeds” about weed?

In today’s society, marijuana use is legalized and normalized, so is there any reason not to use it? In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, Austin, John, and Shay sit down for a straightforward conversation about the effects of marijuana and how Christians can make wise decisions in a culture where marijuana use is increasingly common.

We used to be able to say using Marijuana was off the table because it was illegal. But today, that’s no longer a good enough reason to say no, thanks to more and more states legalizing it.

So, should we use it or not?

A good place to start is to understand more about the nature of marijuana and how it impacts the brain and the body. Once you know more about that, you’re in a better place to get spiritual and biblical insights and perspectives.

This is exactly what we offer you in this episode. After you listen, you’ll have a TON of great info, have a wise biblical perspective, and get specific questions to ask yourself and others about marijuana usage.


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]]> 2554 no Growing Up in an Alcoholic Family What if the unspoken rules of your childhood are still shaping your adult life? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts Lynn and Shay Roush share a deeply personal conversation in their Dealing With Your Addictions series. Shay opens up about his upbringing in an alcoholic family, revealing how it impacted his trust, emotions, and relationships.  Here are the sobering statistics: 1 in 6 U.S. children live with an alcoholic parent (1 in 4 with substance abuse); alcoholism drives nearly 50% of divorces; it causes 12,000 annual drunk-driving deaths and 232 million missed workdays; and heavy use shortens life by 2–24 years.  Shay’s story highlights that behind every statistic, there is a person and family deeply impacted by alcohol. In addition to lost jobs, DWI’s, and stints in rehab facilities, Shay’s dad created financial fears that ultimately led to his parent’s divorce. Despite periods of sobriety, Shay’s father eventually died from alcohol, leaving Shay with a legacy of alcoholism that he didn’t want to repeat.  This episode unpacks the 5 spoken rules of alcoholic families that perpetuate the cycle: Don’t Trust Don’t Talk Don’t Feel Play a Role Deny the Impact As a child grows up in this environment, these rules foster Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) leading to fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, people-pleasing, emotional numbness, perfectionism, and addiction tendencies. Shay’s journey demonstrates how God’s transformative power helped him learn healthier patterns of relating, and break the cycle of addiction in his family, allowing him to be emotionally present for his family despite early temptations. We believe that future generations can be impacted when you name and break the unspoken rules of your alcoholic family and allow God to heal the broken parts of your heart. We recommend the book It Will Never Happen to Me by Claudia Black, for further explanation on the rules of an alcoholic family.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 22 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 152 With You in the Weeds What if the unspoken rules of your childhood are still shaping your adult life? What if the unspoken rules of your childhood are still shaping your adult life? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts Lynn and Shay Roush share a deeply personal conversation in their Dealing With Your Addictions series. Shay opens up about his upbringing in an alcoholic family, revealing how it impacted his trust, emotions, and relationships.  Here are the sobering statistics: 1 in 6 U.S. children live with an alcoholic parent (1 in 4 with substance abuse); alcoholism drives nearly 50% of divorces; it causes 12,000 annual drunk-driving deaths and 232 million missed workdays; and heavy use shortens life by 2–24 years.  Shay’s story highlights that behind every statistic, there is a person and family deeply impacted by alcohol. In addition to lost jobs, DWI’s, and stints in rehab facilities, Shay’s dad created financial fears that ultimately led to his parent’s divorce. Despite periods of sobriety, Shay’s father eventually died from alcohol, leaving Shay with a legacy of alcoholism that he didn’t want to repeat.  This episode unpacks the 5 spoken rules of alcoholic families that perpetuate the cycle: Don’t Trust Don’t Talk Don’t Feel Play a Role Deny the Impact As a child grows up in this environment, these rules foster Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) leading to fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, people-pleasing, emotional numbness, perfectionism, and addiction tendencies. Shay’s journey demonstrates how God’s transformative power helped him learn healthier patterns of relating, and break the cycle of addiction in his family, allowing him to be emotionally present for his family despite early temptations. We believe that future generations can be impacted when you name and break the unspoken rules of your alcoholic family and allow God to heal the broken parts of your heart. We recommend the book It Will Never Happen to Me by Claudia Black, for further explanation on the rules of an alcoholic family.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds What if the unspoken rules of your childhood are still shaping your adult life? In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts Lynn and Shay Roush share a deeply personal conversation in their Dealing With Your Addictions series. Shay opens up about his upbringing in an alcoholic family, revealing how it impacted his trust, emotions, and relationships. 

Here are the sobering statistics: 1 in 6 U.S. children live with an alcoholic parent (1 in 4 with substance abuse); alcoholism drives nearly 50% of divorces; it causes 12,000 annual drunk-driving deaths and 232 million missed workdays; and heavy use shortens life by 2–24 years. 

Shay’s story highlights that behind every statistic, there is a person and family deeply impacted by alcohol. In addition to lost jobs, DWI’s, and stints in rehab facilities, Shay’s dad created financial fears that ultimately led to his parent’s divorce. Despite periods of sobriety, Shay’s father eventually died from alcohol, leaving Shay with a legacy of alcoholism that he didn’t want to repeat. 

This episode unpacks the 5 spoken rules of alcoholic families that perpetuate the cycle:

  • Don’t Trust
  • Don’t Talk
  • Don’t Feel
  • Play a Role
  • Deny the Impact

As a child grows up in this environment, these rules foster Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) leading to fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, people-pleasing, emotional numbness, perfectionism, and addiction tendencies.

Shay’s journey demonstrates how God’s transformative power helped him learn healthier patterns of relating, and break the cycle of addiction in his family, allowing him to be emotionally present for his family despite early temptations. We believe that future generations can be impacted when you name and break the unspoken rules of your alcoholic family and allow God to heal the broken parts of your heart.

We recommend the book It Will Never Happen to Me by Claudia Black, for further explanation on the rules of an alcoholic family. 


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]]> 2720 no Alcohol-Free: Finding Health and Healing with Aric Bremer Is alcohol hindering your relationship with God or loved ones?  As part of our Managing Your Addictions series, John Tinnin and Shay Roush welcome Aric Bremer, mid-Missouri radio personality and co-host of the podcast Blended, Blessed and Always a Mess. Aric’s path to sobriety emerged while coping with grief and loneliness, and was shaped by a desire for deeper and healthier relationships with his family and God. Aric recounts his 25-year struggle with alcohol, which intensified after the tragic loss of his bonus daughter, Hallie, in 2022. Drinking to numb grief strained his relationships, but naming his struggle (“if you can name it, you can tame it”) led to sobriety 13 months ago. His choice was driven by a commitment to his wife Angie, their kids, and his faith, along with a growing awareness of how much he had to lose if he didn’t make a change. No longer having alcohol as a way to cope with negative feelings, Aric found that taking walks was an effective way to manage cravings and build community with other men. Going alcohol-free has improved his sleep, sharpened his spiritual focus and allows him to be more present with his children in a way he never was before. Although you may not be ready to go alcohol-free, you will be encouraged to reflect on alcohol’s role in your life and consider: am I ready to be on a path of health and healing? Read Aric's blog at Miles For Him or check out our episode Relationship Red Flags, where Lynn Roush interviews Aric's wife, Angie Phillips, to discuss the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 15 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 151 With You in the Weeds Is alcohol hindering your relationship with God or loved ones?  Is alcohol hindering your relationship with God or loved ones?  As part of our Managing Your Addictions series, John Tinnin and Shay Roush welcome Aric Bremer, mid-Missouri radio personality and co-host of the podcast Blended, Blessed and Always a Mess. Aric’s path to sobriety emerged while coping with grief and loneliness, and was shaped by a desire for deeper and healthier relationships with his family and God. Aric recounts his 25-year struggle with alcohol, which intensified after the tragic loss of his bonus daughter, Hallie, in 2022. Drinking to numb grief strained his relationships, but naming his struggle (“if you can name it, you can tame it”) led to sobriety 13 months ago. His choice was driven by a commitment to his wife Angie, their kids, and his faith, along with a growing awareness of how much he had to lose if he didn’t make a change. No longer having alcohol as a way to cope with negative feelings, Aric found that taking walks was an effective way to manage cravings and build community with other men. Going alcohol-free has improved his sleep, sharpened his spiritual focus and allows him to be more present with his children in a way he never was before. Although you may not be ready to go alcohol-free, you will be encouraged to reflect on alcohol’s role in your life and consider: am I ready to be on a path of health and healing? Read Aric's blog at Miles For Him or check out our episode Relationship Red Flags, where Lynn Roush interviews Aric's wife, Angie Phillips, to discuss the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Is alcohol hindering your relationship with God or loved ones? 

As part of our Managing Your Addictions series, John Tinnin and Shay Roush welcome Aric Bremer, mid-Missouri radio personality and co-host of the podcast Blended, Blessed and Always a Mess. Aric’s path to sobriety emerged while coping with grief and loneliness, and was shaped by a desire for deeper and healthier relationships with his family and God.

Aric recounts his 25-year struggle with alcohol, which intensified after the tragic loss of his bonus daughter, Hallie, in 2022. Drinking to numb grief strained his relationships, but naming his struggle (“if you can name it, you can tame it”) led to sobriety 13 months ago. His choice was driven by a commitment to his wife Angie, their kids, and his faith, along with a growing awareness of how much he had to lose if he didn’t make a change.

No longer having alcohol as a way to cope with negative feelings, Aric found that taking walks was an effective way to manage cravings and build community with other men. Going alcohol-free has improved his sleep, sharpened his spiritual focus and allows him to be more present with his children in a way he never was before.

Although you may not be ready to go alcohol-free, you will be encouraged to reflect on alcohol’s role in your life and consider: am I ready to be on a path of health and healing?

Read Aric's blog at Miles For Him or check out our episode Relationship Red Flags, where Lynn Roush interviews Aric's wife, Angie Phillips, to discuss the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. 


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]]> 2725 no Do I Have a Drinking Problem? Has anyone ever asked you about your drinking? Have you ever tried to cut back on alcohol?  Drinking is a culturally accepted way to relax, unwind, celebrate or manage stress. And no one intentionally decides to have a drinking problem. It’s usually a slow drift—one drink here, a few more there—and before you know it, alcohol might be playing a bigger role in your life than you intended. But how can you know if it’s a problem? In this enlightening episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin talk about the very common issue of drinking alcohol and how to figure out if it’s a problem in your life. You’ll hear about: How drinking affects your brain and body A biblical view of alcohol Questions you can ask yourself about drinking Paying attention without feeling shame The goal of this episode isn’t to heap guilt on anyone or to say you can’t ever enjoy a glass of wine or a beer. Instead, it’s about understanding what alcohol really does to your brain and body so you can be honest with yourself about your relationship with alcohol. This powerful conversation could be a game changer for you or someone you love! What Alcohol Does to Your Brain, Body and Health - from the Huberman Lab on YouTube Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 08 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 150 With You in the Weeds Has anyone ever asked you about your drinking? Have you ever tried to cut back on alcohol?  Has anyone ever asked you about your drinking? Have you ever tried to cut back on alcohol?  Drinking is a culturally accepted way to relax, unwind, celebrate or manage stress. And no one intentionally decides to have a drinking problem. It’s usually a slow drift—one drink here, a few more there—and before you know it, alcohol might be playing a bigger role in your life than you intended. But how can you know if it’s a problem? In this enlightening episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin talk about the very common issue of drinking alcohol and how to figure out if it’s a problem in your life. You’ll hear about: How drinking affects your brain and body A biblical view of alcohol Questions you can ask yourself about drinking Paying attention without feeling shame The goal of this episode isn’t to heap guilt on anyone or to say you can’t ever enjoy a glass of wine or a beer. Instead, it’s about understanding what alcohol really does to your brain and body so you can be honest with yourself about your relationship with alcohol. This powerful conversation could be a game changer for you or someone you love! What Alcohol Does to Your Brain, Body and Health - from the Huberman Lab on YouTube Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Has anyone ever asked you about your drinking? Have you ever tried to cut back on alcohol? 

Drinking is a culturally accepted way to relax, unwind, celebrate or manage stress. And no one intentionally decides to have a drinking problem. It’s usually a slow drift—one drink here, a few more there—and before you know it, alcohol might be playing a bigger role in your life than you intended.

But how can you know if it’s a problem?

In this enlightening episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin talk about the very common issue of drinking alcohol and how to figure out if it’s a problem in your life.

You’ll hear about:

  • How drinking affects your brain and body
  • A biblical view of alcohol
  • Questions you can ask yourself about drinking
  • Paying attention without feeling shame

The goal of this episode isn’t to heap guilt on anyone or to say you can’t ever enjoy a glass of wine or a beer. Instead, it’s about understanding what alcohol really does to your brain and body so you can be honest with yourself about your relationship with alcohol.

This powerful conversation could be a game changer for you or someone you love!

What Alcohol Does to Your Brain, Body and Health - from the Huberman Lab on YouTube


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]]> 2714 no Why Can't I Just Stop My Addiction? with David Koch Have you ever tried to stop a destructive habit, only to find yourself even more tightly bound than before? In this perceptive episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, Austin sits down with David Koch, a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, and director of program operations at Crossroads Counseling Centers in St. Louis, Missouri. David teaches on addictions and brings both professional expertise and personal vulnerability to the conversation. Together, Austin and David explore the realities of addiction—what it is, how it develops, the role that contributing factors play, and why recovery is such a complex and often painful journey. As you listen, you will get a behind-the-scenes look at: What’s going on in someone’s life before an addiction starts The chemical ways that addiction affects the brain  How someone can recover from an addiction Shattering myths about addiction Whether you’re personally wrestling with addiction, walking alongside someone who is, or simply wanting to better understand this issue, you’ll appreciate the honesty, hope, and practical insight this episode has to offer. It turns out that struggling with addiction doesn’t make you a failure—it just means the healing part of your story hasn’t been written yet.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 01 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 149 With You in the Weeds Have you ever tried to stop a destructive habit, only to find yourself even more tightly bound than before? Have you ever tried to stop a destructive habit, only to find yourself even more tightly bound than before? In this perceptive episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, Austin sits down with David Koch, a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, and director of program operations at Crossroads Counseling Centers in St. Louis, Missouri. David teaches on addictions and brings both professional expertise and personal vulnerability to the conversation. Together, Austin and David explore the realities of addiction—what it is, how it develops, the role that contributing factors play, and why recovery is such a complex and often painful journey. As you listen, you will get a behind-the-scenes look at: What’s going on in someone’s life before an addiction starts The chemical ways that addiction affects the brain  How someone can recover from an addiction Shattering myths about addiction Whether you’re personally wrestling with addiction, walking alongside someone who is, or simply wanting to better understand this issue, you’ll appreciate the honesty, hope, and practical insight this episode has to offer. It turns out that struggling with addiction doesn’t make you a failure—it just means the healing part of your story hasn’t been written yet.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Have you ever tried to stop a destructive habit, only to find yourself even more tightly bound than before?

In this perceptive episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, Austin sits down with David Koch, a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, and director of program operations at Crossroads Counseling Centers in St. Louis, Missouri. David teaches on addictions and brings both professional expertise and personal vulnerability to the conversation.

Together, Austin and David explore the realities of addiction—what it is, how it develops, the role that contributing factors play, and why recovery is such a complex and often painful journey.


As you listen, you will get a behind-the-scenes look at:

  • What’s going on in someone’s life before an addiction starts
  • The chemical ways that addiction affects the brain 
  • How someone can recover from an addiction
  • Shattering myths about addiction

Whether you’re personally wrestling with addiction, walking alongside someone who is, or simply wanting to better understand this issue, you’ll appreciate the honesty, hope, and practical insight this episode has to offer.


It turns out that struggling with addiction doesn’t make you a failure—it just means the healing part of your story hasn’t been written yet. 


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]]> 3459 no What Fuels Your Addiction? Why does addiction feel like an unstoppable river, sweeping you or someone you love further downstream? As part of our “Dealing With Your Addictions” series, hosts Austin Conner and John Tinnin explore the streams that fuel addiction by combining their years of ministry and counseling experience to help you navigate the invisible forces at work in your life.  They identify 5 streams that contribute to the addictive cycle: Genetics Upbringing/attachment Choice Cultural influences Cosmic/spiritual forces Then they explain how shame is a hidden undercurrent that runs beneath this powerful river and intensifies the struggle with feelings of unworthiness and isolation. Addiction drowns out God’s love and presence, but there are important takeaways from this conversation that you can put into practice:  First, map your personal "rivers"—assess which streams in your life contribute to your struggle and journal their influence.  Second, embrace your agency, however small, and ask yourself, “Am I ready to change?” Third, seek connection over isolation. No matter how hard you try, you can’t do it alone. Finally, rest in Scripture’s promises—Romans 8:1 (there is no condemnation for those in Christ), 1 John 2:1 (Jesus is your advocate), and Matthew 11:28 (Jesus offers rest for those who are exhausted by the struggle)—and pray for God’s strength, knowing he’s already there with you in the weeds. Our hope and prayer is that when you listen to this episode, you will leave with a desire to show others (and yourself) compassion, a greater sense of humility given the complexity of addiction, and tangible reminders of hope that health and healing are possible.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 24 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 148 With You in the Weeds Why does addiction feel like an unstoppable river, sweeping you or someone you love further downstream? Why does addiction feel like an unstoppable river, sweeping you or someone you love further downstream? As part of our “Dealing With Your Addictions” series, hosts Austin Conner and John Tinnin explore the streams that fuel addiction by combining their years of ministry and counseling experience to help you navigate the invisible forces at work in your life.  They identify 5 streams that contribute to the addictive cycle: Genetics Upbringing/attachment Choice Cultural influences Cosmic/spiritual forces Then they explain how shame is a hidden undercurrent that runs beneath this powerful river and intensifies the struggle with feelings of unworthiness and isolation. Addiction drowns out God’s love and presence, but there are important takeaways from this conversation that you can put into practice:  First, map your personal "rivers"—assess which streams in your life contribute to your struggle and journal their influence.  Second, embrace your agency, however small, and ask yourself, “Am I ready to change?” Third, seek connection over isolation. No matter how hard you try, you can’t do it alone. Finally, rest in Scripture’s promises—Romans 8:1 (there is no condemnation for those in Christ), 1 John 2:1 (Jesus is your advocate), and Matthew 11:28 (Jesus offers rest for those who are exhausted by the struggle)—and pray for God’s strength, knowing he’s already there with you in the weeds. Our hope and prayer is that when you listen to this episode, you will leave with a desire to show others (and yourself) compassion, a greater sense of humility given the complexity of addiction, and tangible reminders of hope that health and healing are possible.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Why does addiction feel like an unstoppable river, sweeping you or someone you love further downstream?

As part of our “Dealing With Your Addictions” series, hosts Austin Conner and John Tinnin explore the streams that fuel addiction by combining their years of ministry and counseling experience to help you navigate the invisible forces at work in your life. 

They identify 5 streams that contribute to the addictive cycle:

  • Genetics
  • Upbringing/attachment
  • Choice
  • Cultural influences
  • Cosmic/spiritual forces

Then they explain how shame is a hidden undercurrent that runs beneath this powerful river and intensifies the struggle with feelings of unworthiness and isolation. Addiction drowns out God’s love and presence, but there are important takeaways from this conversation that you can put into practice: 

First, map your personal "rivers"—assess which streams in your life contribute to your struggle and journal their influence. 

Second, embrace your agency, however small, and ask yourself, “Am I ready to change?”

Third, seek connection over isolation. No matter how hard you try, you can’t do it alone.

Finally, rest in Scripture’s promises—Romans 8:1 (there is no condemnation for those in Christ), 1 John 2:1 (Jesus is your advocate), and Matthew 11:28 (Jesus offers rest for those who are exhausted by the struggle)—and pray for God’s strength, knowing he’s already there with you in the weeds.

Our hope and prayer is that when you listen to this episode, you will leave with a desire to show others (and yourself) compassion, a greater sense of humility given the complexity of addiction, and tangible reminders of hope that health and healing are possible. 


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]]> 2995 no Why You Do What You Don’t Want to Do Why do you keep chasing the very thing that chains you down? The dopamine rush from drinking, shopping, binge eating or mindless scrolling is fleeting and leaves you feeling emptier than before. But, you feel helpless to make a different choice. The title of this episode captures the heart of the human dilemma for every person - not just someone caught in the throes of addiction. We all have an idea of what we’re supposed to do, and sometimes we actually do it. But then other times we all get in our own way and don’t deliver. In fact, we often do the exact opposite of what we know we should do. Hosts Austin Conner and Shay Roush kick off the second episode of our "Dealing with Your Addictions" series by peering through a biblical lens at the age-old struggle of why we do what we don’t want to do. Drawing from Romans 1, they frame addiction not just as a clinical trap but as desires with deeper roots—a misguided quest for fulfillment apart from God, where good gifts like money or sex twist into controlling idols that promise salvation but deliver bondage. As you listen, you’ll come to understand the spectrum of addictions, from "little a" habits like hiding shopping sprees to "capital A" devastators like raging alcoholism or destructive drug use, all rooted in unhealed hurts and the illusion of a "warm hug" from temporary relief. Yet this conversation offers a profound hope: No matter your past or number of relapses, in Christ you're washed, sanctified, and justified—God's love remains steadfast, unshaken by our harmful habits.  When you take the first step of radical honesty and bring your hidden struggles into the light, you’ll learn that God’s love is greater than your addiction and doesn’t change your identity in Christ as a beloved child of God. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 17 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 147 With You in the Weeds Why do you keep chasing the very thing that chains you down? Why do you keep chasing the very thing that chains you down? The dopamine rush from drinking, shopping, binge eating or mindless scrolling is fleeting and leaves you feeling emptier than before. But, you feel helpless to make a different choice. The title of this episode captures the heart of the human dilemma for every person - not just someone caught in the throes of addiction. We all have an idea of what we’re supposed to do, and sometimes we actually do it. But then other times we all get in our own way and don’t deliver. In fact, we often do the exact opposite of what we know we should do. Hosts Austin Conner and Shay Roush kick off the second episode of our "Dealing with Your Addictions" series by peering through a biblical lens at the age-old struggle of why we do what we don’t want to do. Drawing from Romans 1, they frame addiction not just as a clinical trap but as desires with deeper roots—a misguided quest for fulfillment apart from God, where good gifts like money or sex twist into controlling idols that promise salvation but deliver bondage. As you listen, you’ll come to understand the spectrum of addictions, from "little a" habits like hiding shopping sprees to "capital A" devastators like raging alcoholism or destructive drug use, all rooted in unhealed hurts and the illusion of a "warm hug" from temporary relief. Yet this conversation offers a profound hope: No matter your past or number of relapses, in Christ you're washed, sanctified, and justified—God's love remains steadfast, unshaken by our harmful habits.  When you take the first step of radical honesty and bring your hidden struggles into the light, you’ll learn that God’s love is greater than your addiction and doesn’t change your identity in Christ as a beloved child of God. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Why do you keep chasing the very thing that chains you down? The dopamine rush from drinking, shopping, binge eating or mindless scrolling is fleeting and leaves you feeling emptier than before. But, you feel helpless to make a different choice.


The title of this episode captures the heart of the human dilemma for every person - not just someone caught in the throes of addiction. We all have an idea of what we’re supposed to do, and sometimes we actually do it. But then other times we all get in our own way and don’t deliver. In fact, we often do the exact opposite of what we know we should do.


Hosts Austin Conner and Shay Roush kick off the second episode of our "Dealing with Your Addictions" series by peering through a biblical lens at the age-old struggle of why we do what we don’t want to do. Drawing from Romans 1, they frame addiction not just as a clinical trap but as desires with deeper roots—a misguided quest for fulfillment apart from God, where good gifts like money or sex twist into controlling idols that promise salvation but deliver bondage.


As you listen, you’ll come to understand the spectrum of addictions, from "little a" habits like hiding shopping sprees to "capital A" devastators like raging alcoholism or destructive drug use, all rooted in unhealed hurts and the illusion of a "warm hug" from temporary relief. Yet this conversation offers a profound hope: No matter your past or number of relapses, in Christ you're washed, sanctified, and justified—God's love remains steadfast, unshaken by our harmful habits. 


When you take the first step of radical honesty and bring your hidden struggles into the light, you’ll learn that God’s love is greater than your addiction and doesn’t change your identity in Christ as a beloved child of God.


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]]> 2652 no Addiction: The 6 A's You Need to Know Do you ever feel like you want to escape from reality? Do you find yourself repeating habits that cause more problems than they solve? We think that addiction is a universal struggle that is also a surprising gift that can lead you closer to God. We are kicking off a new series called "Dealing with Your Addictions" because we want to empower you to face yourself honestly by helping you understand the complex world of addiction. Listen as hosts Lynn Roush and John Tinnin introduce the six A's of addiction so you can gain insight into the reasons behind your deepest struggles. We emphasize that addiction is not an unforgivable sin but can actually be a gift that, when explored, reveals the heart’s deepest needs for God’s love and healing. The 6 A’s you need to know are: Avoidance: Using substances or behaviors to escape painful emotions or realities, like shame, emptiness, loneliness or guilt.  Affect Regulation: Seeking quick fixes (e.g., alcohol, social media) to manage intense emotions instead of processing them.  Attachment: Unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure drive reliance on substances or processes as pseudo-comfort.  Abuse: Escalating use to harmful levels, chasing diminishing rewards due to the brain’s rewiring.  Adverse Consequences: Negative impacts on relationships, health, work or finances from escalating conflict and stress.  Addict Brain: Defense mechanisms (rationalization, denial) and neurological changes (e.g., dopamine craving that brings temporary satisfaction) perpetuate addiction. We invite you to get curious through this series as we explore a biblical perspective on addiction, and dive into specific addictions such as alcohol, marijuana, sex and porn, food, shopping, gambling, religion and the many other ways we seek comfort through substances or behaviors.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 10 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 146 With You in the Weeds Do you ever feel like you want to escape from reality? Do you find yourself repeating habits that cause more problems than they solve? Do you ever feel like you want to escape from reality? Do you find yourself repeating habits that cause more problems than they solve? We think that addiction is a universal struggle that is also a surprising gift that can lead you closer to God. We are kicking off a new series called "Dealing with Your Addictions" because we want to empower you to face yourself honestly by helping you understand the complex world of addiction. Listen as hosts Lynn Roush and John Tinnin introduce the six A's of addiction so you can gain insight into the reasons behind your deepest struggles. We emphasize that addiction is not an unforgivable sin but can actually be a gift that, when explored, reveals the heart’s deepest needs for God’s love and healing. The 6 A’s you need to know are: Avoidance: Using substances or behaviors to escape painful emotions or realities, like shame, emptiness, loneliness or guilt.  Affect Regulation: Seeking quick fixes (e.g., alcohol, social media) to manage intense emotions instead of processing them.  Attachment: Unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure drive reliance on substances or processes as pseudo-comfort.  Abuse: Escalating use to harmful levels, chasing diminishing rewards due to the brain’s rewiring.  Adverse Consequences: Negative impacts on relationships, health, work or finances from escalating conflict and stress.  Addict Brain: Defense mechanisms (rationalization, denial) and neurological changes (e.g., dopamine craving that brings temporary satisfaction) perpetuate addiction. We invite you to get curious through this series as we explore a biblical perspective on addiction, and dive into specific addictions such as alcohol, marijuana, sex and porn, food, shopping, gambling, religion and the many other ways we seek comfort through substances or behaviors.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Do you ever feel like you want to escape from reality? Do you find yourself repeating habits that cause more problems than they solve? We think that addiction is a universal struggle that is also a surprising gift that can lead you closer to God.


We are kicking off a new series called "Dealing with Your Addictions" because we want to empower you to face yourself honestly by helping you understand the complex world of addiction. Listen as hosts Lynn Roush and John Tinnin introduce the six A's of addiction so you can gain insight into the reasons behind your deepest struggles. We emphasize that addiction is not an unforgivable sin but can actually be a gift that, when explored, reveals the heart’s deepest needs for God’s love and healing.


The 6 A’s you need to know are:


Avoidance: Using substances or behaviors to escape painful emotions or realities, like shame, emptiness, loneliness or guilt. 


Affect Regulation: Seeking quick fixes (e.g., alcohol, social media) to manage intense emotions instead of processing them. 


Attachment: Unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure drive reliance on substances or processes as pseudo-comfort. 


Abuse: Escalating use to harmful levels, chasing diminishing rewards due to the brain’s rewiring. 


Adverse Consequences: Negative impacts on relationships, health, work or finances from escalating conflict and stress. 


Addict Brain: Defense mechanisms (rationalization, denial) and neurological changes (e.g., dopamine craving that brings temporary satisfaction) perpetuate addiction.


We invite you to get curious through this series as we explore a biblical perspective on addiction, and dive into specific addictions such as alcohol, marijuana, sex and porn, food, shopping, gambling, religion and the many other ways we seek comfort through substances or behaviors. 


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]]> 2745 no Bridging the Expectation Gap with Steve Cuss Do you believe God loves you but struggle to feel it? Or do you wrestle with the need to control everything while believing God is in charge? If you’re stuck in the gap between what you believe and what you experience, this episode is for you! We are excited to share this interview because we know it will speak to the common dynamics that show up in our relationships and spiritual journey. Host Austin Conner invites pastor and author Steve Cuss to share about his book The Expectation Gap, offering strategies to help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.   Most of us experience a disconnect between our faith and daily life, which is what inspired Steve to address relational patterns that fuel addiction and spiritual stagnation. Using the Systems Theory, Steve identifies the relational dynamics of: Reactivity, Assumptions, Stuck Patterns and Attempted Solutions as a map for understanding how and why we get discouraged in our faith and disconnect from others.  This conversation also highlights the false needs of Control, Perfection, Knowing the Answer, Being There for Others and Seeking Approval, and how they drive anxiety and block God’s comforting presence. You will learn how to cultivate micro-habits that replace chaos and striving with awareness and stillness.  If you want to learn more or find Steve’s Life-Giving List, visit stevecusswords.com or read Steve’s book The Expectation Gap.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 03 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 145 With You in the Weeds Do you believe God loves you but struggle to feel it? Or do you wrestle with the need to control everything while believing God is in charge? Do you believe God loves you but struggle to feel it? Or do you wrestle with the need to control everything while believing God is in charge? If you’re stuck in the gap between what you believe and what you experience, this episode is for you! We are excited to share this interview because we know it will speak to the common dynamics that show up in our relationships and spiritual journey. Host Austin Conner invites pastor and author Steve Cuss to share about his book The Expectation Gap, offering strategies to help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.   Most of us experience a disconnect between our faith and daily life, which is what inspired Steve to address relational patterns that fuel addiction and spiritual stagnation. Using the Systems Theory, Steve identifies the relational dynamics of: Reactivity, Assumptions, Stuck Patterns and Attempted Solutions as a map for understanding how and why we get discouraged in our faith and disconnect from others.  This conversation also highlights the false needs of Control, Perfection, Knowing the Answer, Being There for Others and Seeking Approval, and how they drive anxiety and block God’s comforting presence. You will learn how to cultivate micro-habits that replace chaos and striving with awareness and stillness.  If you want to learn more or find Steve’s Life-Giving List, visit stevecusswords.com or read Steve’s book The Expectation Gap.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Do you believe God loves you but struggle to feel it? Or do you wrestle with the need to control everything while believing God is in charge? If you’re stuck in the gap between what you believe and what you experience, this episode is for you!


We are excited to share this interview because we know it will speak to the common dynamics that show up in our relationships and spiritual journey. Host Austin Conner invites pastor and author Steve Cuss to share about his book The Expectation Gap, offering strategies to help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.  


Most of us experience a disconnect between our faith and daily life, which is what inspired Steve to address relational patterns that fuel addiction and spiritual stagnation. Using the Systems Theory, Steve identifies the relational dynamics of: Reactivity, Assumptions, Stuck Patterns and Attempted Solutions as a map for understanding how and why we get discouraged in our faith and disconnect from others. 


This conversation also highlights the false needs of Control, Perfection, Knowing the Answer, Being There for Others and Seeking Approval, and how they drive anxiety and block God’s comforting presence. You will learn how to cultivate micro-habits that replace chaos and striving with awareness and stillness. 


If you want to learn more or find Steve’s Life-Giving List, visit stevecusswords.com or read Steve’s book The Expectation Gap. 


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]]> 2461 no "Everyone Deserves a Second Chance" with Dan Hanneken When Dan Hanneken started reading a bible in a prison cell, he had no idea how God’s grace could offer a second chance for anyone willing to change. This is the final episode in our “Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself” series, and we end with the incredible story of how Dan Hanneken found God in an unlikely place. Host Shay Roush interviews Dan as he shares how his own journey, marked by addiction, three prison stints and a life-changing encounter with God’s grace inspired him to create In2Action, a ministry that offers practical and relational support to men entering the community from prison. Dan’s turning point was when he “broke up with God” because he believed that he couldn’t try hard enough, memorize enough bible verses or be good enough to make his life better and stay out of prison. That’s when he finally understood the deeper meaning of grace: your best efforts aren’t enough to create and sustain personal transformation. Dan recognized that a relationship with God wasn’t a means to an end, but that a relationship with God was the basis for finding his identity as a fully loved and accepted child of God. Taking a leap of faith, Dan founded In2Action, a faith-based nonprofit that supports men recently released from prison with housing, life skills, and community integration. Starting with a single rented house, the ministry now offers over 60 beds and a Reentry Opportunity Center, achieving a remarkable recidivism rate in mid-Missouri below 10% compared to the county’s 43%. Dan recognizes that success goes beyond staying out of prison—it’s about fostering belonging through creating community and opportunity for social transition. This remarkable story is a reminder that loving our neighbors by giving them a second chance allows them to rebuild their lives, find purpose and meaning, and come to understand the depth of God’s love and the power of belonging in his family. Visit in2action.org to learn how to join this transformative work. Wed, 27 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 144 With You in the Weeds When Dan Hanneken started reading a bible in a prison cell, he had no idea how God’s grace could offer a second chance for anyone willing to change. When Dan Hanneken started reading a bible in a prison cell, he had no idea how God’s grace could offer a second chance for anyone willing to change. This is the final episode in our “Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself” series, and we end with the incredible story of how Dan Hanneken found God in an unlikely place. Host Shay Roush interviews Dan as he shares how his own journey, marked by addiction, three prison stints and a life-changing encounter with God’s grace inspired him to create In2Action, a ministry that offers practical and relational support to men entering the community from prison. Dan’s turning point was when he “broke up with God” because he believed that he couldn’t try hard enough, memorize enough bible verses or be good enough to make his life better and stay out of prison. That’s when he finally understood the deeper meaning of grace: your best efforts aren’t enough to create and sustain personal transformation. Dan recognized that a relationship with God wasn’t a means to an end, but that a relationship with God was the basis for finding his identity as a fully loved and accepted child of God. Taking a leap of faith, Dan founded In2Action, a faith-based nonprofit that supports men recently released from prison with housing, life skills, and community integration. Starting with a single rented house, the ministry now offers over 60 beds and a Reentry Opportunity Center, achieving a remarkable recidivism rate in mid-Missouri below 10% compared to the county’s 43%. Dan recognizes that success goes beyond staying out of prison—it’s about fostering belonging through creating community and opportunity for social transition. This remarkable story is a reminder that loving our neighbors by giving them a second chance allows them to rebuild their lives, find purpose and meaning, and come to understand the depth of God’s love and the power of belonging in his family. Visit in2action.org to learn how to join this transformative work.

When Dan Hanneken started reading a bible in a prison cell, he had no idea how God’s grace could offer a second chance for anyone willing to change.

This is the final episode in our “Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself” series, and we end with the incredible story of how Dan Hanneken found God in an unlikely place. Host Shay Roush interviews Dan as he shares how his own journey, marked by addiction, three prison stints and a life-changing encounter with God’s grace inspired him to create In2Action, a ministry that offers practical and relational support to men entering the community from prison.


Dan’s turning point was when he “broke up with God” because he believed that he couldn’t try hard enough, memorize enough bible verses or be good enough to make his life better and stay out of prison. That’s when he finally understood the deeper meaning of grace: your best efforts aren’t enough to create and sustain personal transformation. Dan recognized that a relationship with God wasn’t a means to an end, but that a relationship with God was the basis for finding his identity as a fully loved and accepted child of God.


Taking a leap of faith, Dan founded In2Action, a faith-based nonprofit that supports men recently released from prison with housing, life skills, and community integration. Starting with a single rented house, the ministry now offers over 60 beds and a Reentry Opportunity Center, achieving a remarkable recidivism rate in mid-Missouri below 10% compared to the county’s 43%.


Dan recognizes that success goes beyond staying out of prison—it’s about fostering belonging through creating community and opportunity for social transition. This remarkable story is a reminder that loving our neighbors by giving them a second chance allows them to rebuild their lives, find purpose and meaning, and come to understand the depth of God’s love and the power of belonging in his family.


Visit in2action.org to learn how to join this transformative work.

]]> 2400 no Welcoming a Child Who Needs a Home with Kari Hopkins At Coyote Hill, every child’s life is a worthy investment. Host John Tinnin sits down with special guest Kari Hopkins, Chief Operating Officer of Coyote Hill Foster Care Ministries in Columbia, Missouri, to discuss what it means to “love your neighbor as yourself” through the ministry of fostering. Kari shares how Coyote Hill, a faith-based ministry, restores childhoods for kids in foster care by providing stable, loving homes.  Despite the challenges that come with fostering, Kari believes that every child is created in the image of God and worthy of a safe and caring home. Coyote Hill’s mission is to bring back simple childhood joys like bike rides and playgrounds, countering the chaos many kids face. With specialized training, foster parents are encouraged to see the child’s needs behind their behaviors, while providing security through consistent care towards the goal of reunification or adoption.  Success at Coyote Hill is measured by the smiles on the faces of children who are experiencing stability and connection through parents who are willing to step into the calling of foster care. For those not ready to foster, Kari suggests respite care—short-term hosting to give foster parents a break—or supporting families with meals, donations, or time.  There is nothing closer to the heart of Jesus than caring for a child who needs a home, which is a biblical call that everyone can be a part of in one way or another. If you want to learn how to take a step to supporting the efforts of Coyote hill, visit coyotehill.org to learn how small acts of love can transform a child’s life. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 20 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 143 With You in the Weeds At Coyote Hill, every child’s life is a worthy investment. At Coyote Hill, every child’s life is a worthy investment. Host John Tinnin sits down with special guest Kari Hopkins, Chief Operating Officer of Coyote Hill Foster Care Ministries in Columbia, Missouri, to discuss what it means to “love your neighbor as yourself” through the ministry of fostering. Kari shares how Coyote Hill, a faith-based ministry, restores childhoods for kids in foster care by providing stable, loving homes.  Despite the challenges that come with fostering, Kari believes that every child is created in the image of God and worthy of a safe and caring home. Coyote Hill’s mission is to bring back simple childhood joys like bike rides and playgrounds, countering the chaos many kids face. With specialized training, foster parents are encouraged to see the child’s needs behind their behaviors, while providing security through consistent care towards the goal of reunification or adoption.  Success at Coyote Hill is measured by the smiles on the faces of children who are experiencing stability and connection through parents who are willing to step into the calling of foster care. For those not ready to foster, Kari suggests respite care—short-term hosting to give foster parents a break—or supporting families with meals, donations, or time.  There is nothing closer to the heart of Jesus than caring for a child who needs a home, which is a biblical call that everyone can be a part of in one way or another. If you want to learn how to take a step to supporting the efforts of Coyote hill, visit coyotehill.org to learn how small acts of love can transform a child’s life. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! At Coyote Hill, every child’s life is a worthy investment.


Host John Tinnin sits down with special guest Kari Hopkins, Chief Operating Officer of Coyote Hill Foster Care Ministries in Columbia, Missouri, to discuss what it means to “love your neighbor as yourself” through the ministry of fostering. Kari shares how Coyote Hill, a faith-based ministry, restores childhoods for kids in foster care by providing stable, loving homes. 


Despite the challenges that come with fostering, Kari believes that every child is created in the image of God and worthy of a safe and caring home. Coyote Hill’s mission is to bring back simple childhood joys like bike rides and playgrounds, countering the chaos many kids face. With specialized training, foster parents are encouraged to see the child’s needs behind their behaviors, while providing security through consistent care towards the goal of reunification or adoption. 


Success at Coyote Hill is measured by the smiles on the faces of children who are experiencing stability and connection through parents who are willing to step into the calling of foster care. For those not ready to foster, Kari suggests respite care—short-term hosting to give foster parents a break—or supporting families with meals, donations, or time. 


There is nothing closer to the heart of Jesus than caring for a child who needs a home, which is a biblical call that everyone can be a part of in one way or another. If you want to learn how to take a step to supporting the efforts of Coyote hill, visit coyotehill.org to learn how small acts of love can transform a child’s life.


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]]> 3086 no Serving Your City One Person at a Time with Shelly Mayer Can one day change your city for the better?  Listen in as host Shay Roush sits down with Shelly Mayer, Care Ministry Director at The Crossing, to explain how one annual event called For Columbia unites 55 churches and over 2,100 volunteers to serve the people of Columbia, Missouri, in a single day. This initiative includes diverse projects from landscaping for elderly homeowners and painting in residential or community centers, to delivering food to those with dwindling resources and rehabbing homes for the most vulnerable in our city. Putting differences aside, For Columbia fosters unity among local churches and is a unique opportunity to make a powerful impact with many hands tackling huge tasks to meet the felt needs in our community.  Shay and Shelly also discuss how many of the care ministries at The Crossing have evolved over the years to meet people where they are hurting, whether it’s in Divorce Care, Grief Share, One-to-One Care, Single Moms, Cancer Care and more. Many practical ministries now exist to offer simple yet profound ways to show care, proving small acts of service can be multiplied to impact the church family and the community beyond.  Loving your neighbor as yourself may not be an easy task, but when you link arms with others on the same mission, you can change a city one person, and one day, at a time.  Do you want to get involved on a Care Serving Team at The Crossing? click here.  Are you ready to get plugged into a support group within our Care Ministry? click here. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 13 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 142 With You in the Weeds Can one day change a city for the better?  Can one day change your city for the better?  Listen in as host Shay Roush sits down with Shelly Mayer, Care Ministry Director at The Crossing, to explain how one annual event called For Columbia unites 55 churches and over 2,100 volunteers to serve the people of Columbia, Missouri, in a single day. This initiative includes diverse projects from landscaping for elderly homeowners and painting in residential or community centers, to delivering food to those with dwindling resources and rehabbing homes for the most vulnerable in our city. Putting differences aside, For Columbia fosters unity among local churches and is a unique opportunity to make a powerful impact with many hands tackling huge tasks to meet the felt needs in our community.  Shay and Shelly also discuss how many of the care ministries at The Crossing have evolved over the years to meet people where they are hurting, whether it’s in Divorce Care, Grief Share, One-to-One Care, Single Moms, Cancer Care and more. Many practical ministries now exist to offer simple yet profound ways to show care, proving small acts of service can be multiplied to impact the church family and the community beyond.  Loving your neighbor as yourself may not be an easy task, but when you link arms with others on the same mission, you can change a city one person, and one day, at a time.  Do you want to get involved on a Care Serving Team at The Crossing? click here.  Are you ready to get plugged into a support group within our Care Ministry? click here. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Can one day change your city for the better? 


Listen in as host Shay Roush sits down with Shelly Mayer, Care Ministry Director at The Crossing, to explain how one annual event called For Columbia unites 55 churches and over 2,100 volunteers to serve the people of Columbia, Missouri, in a single day.


This initiative includes diverse projects from landscaping for elderly homeowners and painting in residential or community centers, to delivering food to those with dwindling resources and rehabbing homes for the most vulnerable in our city. Putting differences aside, For Columbia fosters unity among local churches and is a unique opportunity to make a powerful impact with many hands tackling huge tasks to meet the felt needs in our community. 


Shay and Shelly also discuss how many of the care ministries at The Crossing have evolved over the years to meet people where they are hurting, whether it’s in Divorce Care, Grief Share, One-to-One Care, Single Moms, Cancer Care and more. Many practical ministries now exist to offer simple yet profound ways to show care, proving small acts of service can be multiplied to impact the church family and the community beyond. 


Loving your neighbor as yourself may not be an easy task, but when you link arms with others on the same mission, you can change a city one person, and one day, at a time. 


Do you want to get involved on a Care Serving Team at The Crossing? click here. 

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]]> 2379 no Breaking the Cycle of Sex Trafficking in Your Community with Julie Meranda & Lauren Gray Are you ready to confront a harsh reality? The state of Missouri is ranked #4 in the number of people being sex trafficked daily in our nation. In this gripping interview, host Austin Conner talks with Julie Meranda and Lauren Gray from Magnolia Ministry, as they walk alongside sex trafficking survivors toward healing and freedom.  Julie and Lauren share the heart-breaking stories of how sex trafficking exists in places where you would least expect it. They also explain the different types of trafficking and how difficult it is to break the bonds that form when a person is exploited and controlled.  Magnolia’s practical steps include prayer, giving small gifts, visiting the environments that house exploited women and providing community education. They rely on God’s redemptive power to truly set captives free and bring women and children out of bondage. Despite the issue’s complexity, Julie and Lauren believe that everyone can make a difference through prayer, donations, or volunteering. The good news: there is hope for these women thanks to the Magnolia Ministry, which prioritizes walking alongside survivors as they find safety, healing, and freedom. To get more information about Magnolia Ministry, click here To reach out to Julie Meranda, email her at jmeranda@themagnoliaministry.org Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 06 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 141 With You in the Weeds Are you ready to confront a harsh reality? The state of Missouri is ranked #4 in the number of people being sex trafficked daily in our nation. Are you ready to confront a harsh reality? The state of Missouri is ranked #4 in the number of people being sex trafficked daily in our nation. In this gripping interview, host Austin Conner talks with Julie Meranda and Lauren Gray from Magnolia Ministry, as they walk alongside sex trafficking survivors toward healing and freedom.  Julie and Lauren share the heart-breaking stories of how sex trafficking exists in places where you would least expect it. They also explain the different types of trafficking and how difficult it is to break the bonds that form when a person is exploited and controlled.  Magnolia’s practical steps include prayer, giving small gifts, visiting the environments that house exploited women and providing community education. They rely on God’s redemptive power to truly set captives free and bring women and children out of bondage. Despite the issue’s complexity, Julie and Lauren believe that everyone can make a difference through prayer, donations, or volunteering. The good news: there is hope for these women thanks to the Magnolia Ministry, which prioritizes walking alongside survivors as they find safety, healing, and freedom. To get more information about Magnolia Ministry, click here To reach out to Julie Meranda, email her at jmeranda@themagnoliaministry.org Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Are you ready to confront a harsh reality? The state of Missouri is ranked #4 in the number of people being sex trafficked daily in our nation. In this gripping interview, host Austin Conner talks with Julie Meranda and Lauren Gray from Magnolia Ministry, as they walk alongside sex trafficking survivors toward healing and freedom. 


Julie and Lauren share the heart-breaking stories of how sex trafficking exists in places where you would least expect it. They also explain the different types of trafficking and how difficult it is to break the bonds that form when a person is exploited and controlled. 


Magnolia’s practical steps include prayer, giving small gifts, visiting the environments that house exploited women and providing community education. They rely on God’s redemptive power to truly set captives free and bring women and children out of bondage.


Despite the issue’s complexity, Julie and Lauren believe that everyone can make a difference through prayer, donations, or volunteering. The good news: there is hope for these women thanks to the Magnolia Ministry, which prioritizes walking alongside survivors as they find safety, healing, and freedom.


To get more information about Magnolia Ministry, click here


To reach out to Julie Meranda, email her at jmeranda@themagnoliaministry.org


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]]> 3046 no Caring For Those Who Made the Ultimate Sacrifice with Megan Sievers Is it possible to end homelessness for veterans in your community? Megan Sievers is on a mission to make that vision a reality. In this episode of our series, Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself, Shay Roush sits down with Megan Sievers, Executive Director of Welcome Home, a Columbia, Missouri-based nonprofit dedicated to serving homeless veterans.  You may not realize that many who have given of themselves to serve our country face challenges that go unnoticed and deserve our attention. This conversation highlights how Welcome Home embodies this mission by supporting veterans in need.  Welcome Home began when Vietnam veterans, heartbroken by seeing their comrades die homeless, established a shelter in 1992 to provide a lifeline for veterans. Since then, this organization has evolved from offering basic shelter to comprehensive services like emergency housing, case management, and homelessness prevention, all rooted in a commitment to honor veterans’ sacrifices. Megan shares powerful stories of transformed lives as Welcome Home addresses the complex issues veterans face, including PTSD, substance abuse, and isolation. Loving others well means bringing dignity and hope to those who have given the ultimate sacrifice, because those who have served our country deserve our love and support in return. To learn how you can get involved in ending veteran homelessness, or to attend one of their upcoming events, visit welcomeveterans.org Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 30 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 140 With You in the Weeds Is it possible to end homelessness for veterans in your community? Megan Sievers is on a mission to make that vision a reality. Is it possible to end homelessness for veterans in your community? Megan Sievers is on a mission to make that vision a reality. In this episode of our series, Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself, Shay Roush sits down with Megan Sievers, Executive Director of Welcome Home, a Columbia, Missouri-based nonprofit dedicated to serving homeless veterans.  You may not realize that many who have given of themselves to serve our country face challenges that go unnoticed and deserve our attention. This conversation highlights how Welcome Home embodies this mission by supporting veterans in need.  Welcome Home began when Vietnam veterans, heartbroken by seeing their comrades die homeless, established a shelter in 1992 to provide a lifeline for veterans. Since then, this organization has evolved from offering basic shelter to comprehensive services like emergency housing, case management, and homelessness prevention, all rooted in a commitment to honor veterans’ sacrifices. Megan shares powerful stories of transformed lives as Welcome Home addresses the complex issues veterans face, including PTSD, substance abuse, and isolation. Loving others well means bringing dignity and hope to those who have given the ultimate sacrifice, because those who have served our country deserve our love and support in return. To learn how you can get involved in ending veteran homelessness, or to attend one of their upcoming events, visit welcomeveterans.org Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Is it possible to end homelessness for veterans in your community? Megan Sievers is on a mission to make that vision a reality.


In this episode of our series, Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself, Shay Roush sits down with Megan Sievers, Executive Director of Welcome Home, a Columbia, Missouri-based nonprofit dedicated to serving homeless veterans. 


You may not realize that many who have given of themselves to serve our country face challenges that go unnoticed and deserve our attention. This conversation highlights how Welcome Home embodies this mission by supporting veterans in need. 


Welcome Home began when Vietnam veterans, heartbroken by seeing their comrades die homeless, established a shelter in 1992 to provide a lifeline for veterans. Since then, this organization has evolved from offering basic shelter to comprehensive services like emergency housing, case management, and homelessness prevention, all rooted in a commitment to honor veterans’ sacrifices.


Megan shares powerful stories of transformed lives as Welcome Home addresses the complex issues veterans face, including PTSD, substance abuse, and isolation. Loving others well means bringing dignity and hope to those who have given the ultimate sacrifice, because those who have served our country deserve our love and support in return.


To learn how you can get involved in ending veteran homelessness, or to attend one of their upcoming events, visit welcomeveterans.org


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]]> 2041 no Protecting and Choosing Life with Cassidy Teter & Molly Cover What if the key to loving your neighbor lies in meeting them with grace and compassion in their most vulnerable moments, no matter their choices? In this episode of our ongoing series Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself, host Austin Conner sits down with Cassidy Teter and Molly Cover from My Life Clinic in Columbia, Missouri, to explore a compassionate approach to supporting women facing unexpected or unsupported pregnancies.  No matter what your perception or personal experience with a pregnancy center might be, you will learn how offering evidence-based information, cost-free services like pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, STI testing, and personal counseling can provide dignity and care that women need when they’re facing a difficult decision.  While social media is rife with misinformation about women who have had or are considering an abortion, Cassidy and Molly understand the emotional, physical, and spiritual complexities that women face. My Life Clinic is committed to being a consistent, loving presence, reflecting Jesus’ heart of compassion, regardless of a woman’s past or future choices. They also share incredible stories of how a mother’s decision to protect and choose life can have a lasting impact for generations to come. In an effort to embody Psalm 147:3 which states that “God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”, this episode will encourage you to love your neighbor by meeting them with grace, dignity and support, especially in complex and distressing situations like unplanned pregnancies.  To get more information about My Life Clinic, click here. To learn how to get involved at My Clinic, click here. To reach out to Cassidy Teter, email her at cassidy@mylifeclinic.org Wed, 23 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 139 With You in the Weeds What if the key to loving your neighbor lies in meeting them with grace and compassion in their most vulnerable moments, no matter their choices? What if the key to loving your neighbor lies in meeting them with grace and compassion in their most vulnerable moments, no matter their choices? In this episode of our ongoing series Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself, host Austin Conner sits down with Cassidy Teter and Molly Cover from My Life Clinic in Columbia, Missouri, to explore a compassionate approach to supporting women facing unexpected or unsupported pregnancies.  No matter what your perception or personal experience with a pregnancy center might be, you will learn how offering evidence-based information, cost-free services like pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, STI testing, and personal counseling can provide dignity and care that women need when they’re facing a difficult decision.  While social media is rife with misinformation about women who have had or are considering an abortion, Cassidy and Molly understand the emotional, physical, and spiritual complexities that women face. My Life Clinic is committed to being a consistent, loving presence, reflecting Jesus’ heart of compassion, regardless of a woman’s past or future choices. They also share incredible stories of how a mother’s decision to protect and choose life can have a lasting impact for generations to come. In an effort to embody Psalm 147:3 which states that “God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”, this episode will encourage you to love your neighbor by meeting them with grace, dignity and support, especially in complex and distressing situations like unplanned pregnancies.  To get more information about My Life Clinic, click here. To learn how to get involved at My Clinic, click here. To reach out to Cassidy Teter, email her at cassidy@mylifeclinic.org What if the key to loving your neighbor lies in meeting them with grace and compassion in their most vulnerable moments, no matter their choices?


In this episode of our ongoing series Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself, host Austin Conner sits down with Cassidy Teter and Molly Cover from My Life Clinic in Columbia, Missouri, to explore a compassionate approach to supporting women facing unexpected or unsupported pregnancies. 


No matter what your perception or personal experience with a pregnancy center might be, you will learn how offering evidence-based information, cost-free services like pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, STI testing, and personal counseling can provide dignity and care that women need when they’re facing a difficult decision. 


While social media is rife with misinformation about women who have had or are considering an abortion, Cassidy and Molly understand the emotional, physical, and spiritual complexities that women face. My Life Clinic is committed to being a consistent, loving presence, reflecting Jesus’ heart of compassion, regardless of a woman’s past or future choices. They also share incredible stories of how a mother’s decision to protect and choose life can have a lasting impact for generations to come.


In an effort to embody Psalm 147:3 which states that “God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”, this episode will encourage you to love your neighbor by meeting them with grace, dignity and support, especially in complex and distressing situations like unplanned pregnancies. 


To get more information about My Life Clinic, click here.


To learn how to get involved at My Clinic, click here.


To reach out to Cassidy Teter, email her at cassidy@mylifeclinic.org

]]> 2440 no Transforming Your Neighborhood With Love with Jane Williams and Caroline Roush Could “free prayer” transform your neighborhood?  In this remarkable episode of our “Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself” series, we dive into the transformative work of Love Columbia as host Lynn Roush interviews Jane Williams, Co-Founder and Executive Director, and Caroline Roush, Director of Communications.  It’s true: Love Columbia grew from a simple gesture of offering “free prayer” to neighbors in need to a thriving hub for personal transformation in our community.  Jane Williams has always been passionate about loving others well, but it was the experience of encountering her own limits when she lost her eyesight 13 years ago that deepened her reliance on God and energized her mission to build a ministry that meets both the physical and emotional needs for the most vulnerable in our city. Now a thriving non-profit organization, Love Columbia provides a holistic approach to caring for those who need a helping hand. In this episode you will learn the secret to loving others well and the key elements needed for transformation: humility to acknowledge one’s need for help, faith in God’s provision, endurance to persevere through challenges, and social connectedness to build supportive relationships. You’ll also hear how Caroline used to underestimate the power of listening, but has since learned that you need to understand a person’s struggles and dreams before offering practical help, like financial coaching or car repairs.  If you want to be a force for good in your community, you’ll be encouraged to know that transforming others with love always starts with one small act of faith, but can change the course of someone’s life and create a legacy of hope that you could have never imagined. Visit lovecolumbia.org to volunteer or learn how to be part of this life-changing mission or get ideas for starting a hub of transformation in your own community. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 16 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 138 With You in the Weeds Could “free prayer” transform your neighborhood?  Could “free prayer” transform your neighborhood?  In this remarkable episode of our “Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself” series, we dive into the transformative work of Love Columbia as host Lynn Roush interviews Jane Williams, Co-Founder and Executive Director, and Caroline Roush, Director of Communications.  It’s true: Love Columbia grew from a simple gesture of offering “free prayer” to neighbors in need to a thriving hub for personal transformation in our community.  Jane Williams has always been passionate about loving others well, but it was the experience of encountering her own limits when she lost her eyesight 13 years ago that deepened her reliance on God and energized her mission to build a ministry that meets both the physical and emotional needs for the most vulnerable in our city. Now a thriving non-profit organization, Love Columbia provides a holistic approach to caring for those who need a helping hand. In this episode you will learn the secret to loving others well and the key elements needed for transformation: humility to acknowledge one’s need for help, faith in God’s provision, endurance to persevere through challenges, and social connectedness to build supportive relationships. You’ll also hear how Caroline used to underestimate the power of listening, but has since learned that you need to understand a person’s struggles and dreams before offering practical help, like financial coaching or car repairs.  If you want to be a force for good in your community, you’ll be encouraged to know that transforming others with love always starts with one small act of faith, but can change the course of someone’s life and create a legacy of hope that you could have never imagined. Visit lovecolumbia.org to volunteer or learn how to be part of this life-changing mission or get ideas for starting a hub of transformation in your own community. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Could “free prayer” transform your neighborhood? 


In this remarkable episode of our “Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself” series, we dive into the transformative work of Love Columbia as host Lynn Roush interviews Jane Williams, Co-Founder and Executive Director, and Caroline Roush, Director of Communications. 


It’s true: Love Columbia grew from a simple gesture of offering “free prayer” to neighbors in need to a thriving hub for personal transformation in our community. 


Jane Williams has always been passionate about loving others well, but it was the experience of encountering her own limits when she lost her eyesight 13 years ago that deepened her reliance on God and energized her mission to build a ministry that meets both the physical and emotional needs for the most vulnerable in our city. Now a thriving non-profit organization, Love Columbia provides a holistic approach to caring for those who need a helping hand.


In this episode you will learn the secret to loving others well and the key elements needed for transformation: humility to acknowledge one’s need for help, faith in God’s provision, endurance to persevere through challenges, and social connectedness to build supportive relationships. You’ll also hear how Caroline used to underestimate the power of listening, but has since learned that you need to understand a person’s struggles and dreams before offering practical help, like financial coaching or car repairs. 


If you want to be a force for good in your community, you’ll be encouraged to know that transforming others with love always starts with one small act of faith, but can change the course of someone’s life and create a legacy of hope that you could have never imagined.


Visit lovecolumbia.org to volunteer or learn how to be part of this life-changing mission or get ideas for starting a hub of transformation in your own community.


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]]> 3148 no Loving Your Neighbor on Purpose with Chris & Elizabeth McKinney Did you know that we are in the midst of the greatest de-churching movement in the history of the world? In the last 25 years, over 40 million people have stopped going to church. While that may be cause for concern, Chris & Elizabeth McKinney see it as an opportunity to impact your neighborhood one small act at a time. Listen as Austin Conner interviews Chris and Elizabeth McKinney, a perfect fit for our current series Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself. The McKinneys are passionate about intentional neighboring, which began as a small fish fry in 2012. Their desire to create a welcoming community in their Columbia, Missouri neighborhood has since grown into a ministry to equip others to love their neighbors purposefully.  The McKinneys emphasize that being a good neighbor isn’t about perfection but persistence, and have countless stories of how a small effort can create a big impact in people’s lives. They address common apprehensions, such as time constraints for introverts or fear of awkwardness, and stress that small steps like simply waving, saying hello, initiating small conversations or sharing a meal with your neighbor are the key to getting started.  This episode will challenge the cultural norm of leaving neighbors alone, and encourage you to step out of your comfort zone, even just a little bit, so that you can play a part in “going where God is” in your neighborhood right outside your front door.  Check out their books Placed for a Purpose and Neighborhoods Reimagined, or their podcast for more inspiration to see your address as a divine appointment. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 09 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full With You in the Weeds Did you know that we are in the midst of the greatest de-churching movement in the history of the world? Did you know that we are in the midst of the greatest de-churching movement in the history of the world? In the last 25 years, over 40 million people have stopped going to church. While that may be cause for concern, Chris & Elizabeth McKinney see it as an opportunity to impact your neighborhood one small act at a time. Listen as Austin Conner interviews Chris and Elizabeth McKinney, a perfect fit for our current series Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself. The McKinneys are passionate about intentional neighboring, which began as a small fish fry in 2012. Their desire to create a welcoming community in their Columbia, Missouri neighborhood has since grown into a ministry to equip others to love their neighbors purposefully.  The McKinneys emphasize that being a good neighbor isn’t about perfection but persistence, and have countless stories of how a small effort can create a big impact in people’s lives. They address common apprehensions, such as time constraints for introverts or fear of awkwardness, and stress that small steps like simply waving, saying hello, initiating small conversations or sharing a meal with your neighbor are the key to getting started.  This episode will challenge the cultural norm of leaving neighbors alone, and encourage you to step out of your comfort zone, even just a little bit, so that you can play a part in “going where God is” in your neighborhood right outside your front door.  Check out their books Placed for a Purpose and Neighborhoods Reimagined, or their podcast for more inspiration to see your address as a divine appointment. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Did you know that we are in the midst of the greatest de-churching movement in the history of the world? In the last 25 years, over 40 million people have stopped going to church. While that may be cause for concern, Chris & Elizabeth McKinney see it as an opportunity to impact your neighborhood one small act at a time.


Listen as Austin Conner interviews Chris and Elizabeth McKinney, a perfect fit for our current series Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself. The McKinneys are passionate about intentional neighboring, which began as a small fish fry in 2012. Their desire to create a welcoming community in their Columbia, Missouri neighborhood has since grown into a ministry to equip others to love their neighbors purposefully. 


The McKinneys emphasize that being a good neighbor isn’t about perfection but persistence, and have countless stories of how a small effort can create a big impact in people’s lives. They address common apprehensions, such as time constraints for introverts or fear of awkwardness, and stress that small steps like simply waving, saying hello, initiating small conversations or sharing a meal with your neighbor are the key to getting started. 


This episode will challenge the cultural norm of leaving neighbors alone, and encourage you to step out of your comfort zone, even just a little bit, so that you can play a part in “going where God is” in your neighborhood right outside your front door. 


Check out their books Placed for a Purpose and Neighborhoods Reimagined, or their podcast for more inspiration to see your address as a divine appointment.


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]]> 2818 no Who is Your Neighbor? with Nathan Tiemeyer Do you feel overwhelmed by the needs of those around you and struggle with guilt that you’re not doing enough to help? In a world filled with suffering, brokenness and heartache, Christians are called to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). But who defines what love is and who qualifies as your neighbor?  We are kicking off a brand new series called Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself as we attempt to answer this culturally relevant and often confusing topic. In this episode, hosts John Tinnin and Shay Roush are joined by their friend and fellow pastor Nathan Tiemeyer, to tackle the question: Who is my neighbor and how am I called to love them?  Through the lens of the Parable of the Good Samaritan, they explore the biblical command to love others, and address who we’re called to love, and how to do so wisely. If you’re feeling cynical, burdened by the needs of others, or are seeking practical ways to love well, this episode - and ultimately this series - will offer hope and clarity so that you can love your neighbor with increasing knowledge, insight and intentionality.  Listen as John, Shay and Nathan discuss: The radical scope and biblical definition of the term “neighbor”  How our own spiritual bankruptcy puts all of us in a position of needing help and mercy What God does - and does not - expect from us as finite creatures when it comes to meeting the needs of others How Augustine’s Ordo Amoris (order of love) provides us with an intentional but discerning perspective on loving others as yourself A Christian perspective on immigration and loving the immigrant in your community This discussion will free you up to accept that you can’t love everyone equally, but you can start with one person in front of you. As you consider how to “love your neighbor as yourself”, the simplest place to start is to do for one what you wish you could do for everyone, trusting God to guide your love and multiply your impact. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 02 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 136 With You in the Weeds Do you feel overwhelmed by the needs of those around you and struggle with guilt that you’re not doing enough to help? Do you feel overwhelmed by the needs of those around you and struggle with guilt that you’re not doing enough to help? In a world filled with suffering, brokenness and heartache, Christians are called to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). But who defines what love is and who qualifies as your neighbor?  We are kicking off a brand new series called Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself as we attempt to answer this culturally relevant and often confusing topic. In this episode, hosts John Tinnin and Shay Roush are joined by their friend and fellow pastor Nathan Tiemeyer, to tackle the question: Who is my neighbor and how am I called to love them?  Through the lens of the Parable of the Good Samaritan, they explore the biblical command to love others, and address who we’re called to love, and how to do so wisely. If you’re feeling cynical, burdened by the needs of others, or are seeking practical ways to love well, this episode - and ultimately this series - will offer hope and clarity so that you can love your neighbor with increasing knowledge, insight and intentionality.  Listen as John, Shay and Nathan discuss: The radical scope and biblical definition of the term “neighbor”  How our own spiritual bankruptcy puts all of us in a position of needing help and mercy What God does - and does not - expect from us as finite creatures when it comes to meeting the needs of others How Augustine’s Ordo Amoris (order of love) provides us with an intentional but discerning perspective on loving others as yourself A Christian perspective on immigration and loving the immigrant in your community This discussion will free you up to accept that you can’t love everyone equally, but you can start with one person in front of you. As you consider how to “love your neighbor as yourself”, the simplest place to start is to do for one what you wish you could do for everyone, trusting God to guide your love and multiply your impact. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Do you feel overwhelmed by the needs of those around you and struggle with guilt that you’re not doing enough to help? In a world filled with suffering, brokenness and heartache, Christians are called to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). But who defines what love is and who qualifies as your neighbor? 

We are kicking off a brand new series called Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself as we attempt to answer this culturally relevant and often confusing topic. In this episode, hosts John Tinnin and Shay Roush are joined by their friend and fellow pastor Nathan Tiemeyer, to tackle the question: Who is my neighbor and how am I called to love them? 

Through the lens of the Parable of the Good Samaritan, they explore the biblical command to love others, and address who we’re called to love, and how to do so wisely. If you’re feeling cynical, burdened by the needs of others, or are seeking practical ways to love well, this episode - and ultimately this series - will offer hope and clarity so that you can love your neighbor with increasing knowledge, insight and intentionality. 

Listen as John, Shay and Nathan discuss:

  • The radical scope and biblical definition of the term “neighbor” 
  • How our own spiritual bankruptcy puts all of us in a position of needing help and mercy
  • What God does - and does not - expect from us as finite creatures when it comes to meeting the needs of others
  • How Augustine’s Ordo Amoris (order of love) provides us with an intentional but discerning perspective on loving others as yourself
  • A Christian perspective on immigration and loving the immigrant in your community

This discussion will free you up to accept that you can’t love everyone equally, but you can start with one person in front of you. As you consider how to “love your neighbor as yourself”, the simplest place to start is to do for one what you wish you could do for everyone, trusting God to guide your love and multiply your impact.


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]]> 2909 no Parenting With Hope with Melissa Kruger Are you bogged down by the day-to-day struggles of parenting? Do you question if anything is getting through to your kids? Do you feel powerless to impact your child’s spiritual growth? Parenting can feel like navigating a storm—chaotic, unpredictable, and uncertain.  So the question is, how do you guide your child toward faith and wisdom in a world pulling them in every direction? If you’re looking for hope while parenting in the weeds of life, then this episode is for you. Austin Conner interviews Melissa Kruger, author of Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens for Christ in a Secular Age. Melissa, a seasoned parent and former high school math teacher, shares insights from her journey, blending biblical wisdom with practical strategies for shepherding teens through this turbulent season of parenting. In this episode you will learn: The power of asking questions over dictating answers The effectiveness of an invitational approach to studying the Bible with your teen The wisdom of avoiding a fear-based controlling approach to parenting The only and ultimate place to derive hope when you’re feeling discouraged Whether you’re parenting a teen, or just looking for some encouragement in the trenches of parenting, this episode will remind you that your hope rests not in perfect parenting, but in Jesus, who never fails. To find more of Melissa Kruger's resources, check out her website: Melissabkruger.com Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 25 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 135 With You in the Weeds Are you bogged down by the day-to-day struggles of parenting? Are you bogged down by the day-to-day struggles of parenting? Do you question if anything is getting through to your kids? Do you feel powerless to impact your child’s spiritual growth? Parenting can feel like navigating a storm—chaotic, unpredictable, and uncertain.  So the question is, how do you guide your child toward faith and wisdom in a world pulling them in every direction? If you’re looking for hope while parenting in the weeds of life, then this episode is for you. Austin Conner interviews Melissa Kruger, author of Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens for Christ in a Secular Age. Melissa, a seasoned parent and former high school math teacher, shares insights from her journey, blending biblical wisdom with practical strategies for shepherding teens through this turbulent season of parenting. In this episode you will learn: The power of asking questions over dictating answers The effectiveness of an invitational approach to studying the Bible with your teen The wisdom of avoiding a fear-based controlling approach to parenting The only and ultimate place to derive hope when you’re feeling discouraged Whether you’re parenting a teen, or just looking for some encouragement in the trenches of parenting, this episode will remind you that your hope rests not in perfect parenting, but in Jesus, who never fails. To find more of Melissa Kruger's resources, check out her website: Melissabkruger.com Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Are you bogged down by the day-to-day struggles of parenting? Do you question if anything is getting through to your kids? Do you feel powerless to impact your child’s spiritual growth? Parenting can feel like navigating a storm—chaotic, unpredictable, and uncertain. 


So the question is, how do you guide your child toward faith and wisdom in a world pulling them in every direction?


If you’re looking for hope while parenting in the weeds of life, then this episode is for you. Austin Conner interviews Melissa Kruger, author of Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens for Christ in a Secular Age. Melissa, a seasoned parent and former high school math teacher, shares insights from her journey, blending biblical wisdom with practical strategies for shepherding teens through this turbulent season of parenting.


In this episode you will learn:

  • The power of asking questions over dictating answers
  • The effectiveness of an invitational approach to studying the Bible with your teen
  • The wisdom of avoiding a fear-based controlling approach to parenting
  • The only and ultimate place to derive hope when you’re feeling discouraged

Whether you’re parenting a teen, or just looking for some encouragement in the trenches of parenting, this episode will remind you that your hope rests not in perfect parenting, but in Jesus, who never fails.


To find more of Melissa Kruger's resources, check out her website: Melissabkruger.com


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]]> 3239 no What Parents Need to Know About Teens and Suicide with Gary Maddux, Jr. MA, LPC-A “I don’t want to live anymore” might be the most overwhelming and scary thing to hear as a parent. What should you say? What should you do next? In this eye-opening episode, Austin Conner interviews counselor Gary Maddux, as he shares his journey from grief to advocacy, in memory of his beautiful daughter Kaylee who died by suicide six years ago. Gary seeks to challenge stigmas and debunk myths around suicide, urging parents to approach suicide with compassion, education and timely intervention. This conversation offers practical advice for parents, including encouragement to ask direct questions like, “Are you thinking about suicide?” and promotes training like QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer) as well as ways to develop a support network around crisis moments with your teen.  Gary’s story is a reminder that Jesus’ presence is constant, even in the worst tragedy, offering hope that God embraces those who are impacted by suicide. You will feel more equipped to navigate this heavy topic after learning from Gary’s extensive professional training regarding suicide prevention and how you can offer care and compassion to your loved ones who are struggling.  Check out the resources below to educate yourself further on this topic: QPR Training: Question, Persuade, Refer ASK Suicide Prevention Training AFSR Support Groups National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Call or Text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 18 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 134 With You in the Weeds “I don’t want to live anymore” might be the most overwhelming and scary thing to hear as a parent. “I don’t want to live anymore” might be the most overwhelming and scary thing to hear as a parent. What should you say? What should you do next? In this eye-opening episode, Austin Conner interviews counselor Gary Maddux, as he shares his journey from grief to advocacy, in memory of his beautiful daughter Kaylee who died by suicide six years ago. Gary seeks to challenge stigmas and debunk myths around suicide, urging parents to approach suicide with compassion, education and timely intervention. This conversation offers practical advice for parents, including encouragement to ask direct questions like, “Are you thinking about suicide?” and promotes training like QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer) as well as ways to develop a support network around crisis moments with your teen.  Gary’s story is a reminder that Jesus’ presence is constant, even in the worst tragedy, offering hope that God embraces those who are impacted by suicide. You will feel more equipped to navigate this heavy topic after learning from Gary’s extensive professional training regarding suicide prevention and how you can offer care and compassion to your loved ones who are struggling.  Check out the resources below to educate yourself further on this topic: QPR Training: Question, Persuade, Refer ASK Suicide Prevention Training AFSR Support Groups National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Call or Text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! “I don’t want to live anymore” might be the most overwhelming and scary thing to hear as a parent. What should you say? What should you do next?


In this eye-opening episode, Austin Conner interviews counselor Gary Maddux, as he shares his journey from grief to advocacy, in memory of his beautiful daughter Kaylee who died by suicide six years ago. Gary seeks to challenge stigmas and debunk myths around suicide, urging parents to approach suicide with compassion, education and timely intervention.


This conversation offers practical advice for parents, including encouragement to ask direct questions like, “Are you thinking about suicide?” and promotes training like QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer) as well as ways to develop a support network around crisis moments with your teen. 


Gary’s story is a reminder that Jesus’ presence is constant, even in the worst tragedy, offering hope that God embraces those who are impacted by suicide. You will feel more equipped to navigate this heavy topic after learning from Gary’s extensive professional training regarding suicide prevention and how you can offer care and compassion to your loved ones who are struggling. 


Check out the resources below to educate yourself further on this topic:


QPR Training: Question, Persuade, Refer


ASK Suicide Prevention Training


AFSR Support Groups


National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255


Call or Text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline


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]]> 3325 no Connecting With Your Child When They're Hurting Have you heard it said that “a parent is only as happy as their unhappiest child”? We know that when you have an unhappy or hurting child, life feels heavy and hard and you may not know how to respond. As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, Lynn Roush and Austin Conner explore a much needed topic: how to connect with your child when they’re hurting.  Parents often want to avoid painful feelings in their kids, hoping that they will go away on their own. Or, they jump in to fix the hurt and bypass the opportunity to connect with their child. We want to equip you to lean into your child’s heart when you sense that they are in emotional pain. This conversation looks at what hurts kids both inside and outside of the home, how to recognize hurt in your child, how to respond to your child’s pain and the relevant topic of recognizing warning signs for suicide. Austin and Lynn offer practical ways to be present, build resilience, and model God’s love to your children through life’s pain.  You can download our free Managing Your Emotions guide at withyouintheweeds.com to help you and your child identify their feelings. Make sure you’re subscribed to our newsletter where we include more questions to ask your kids to open up the door to meaningful dialogue.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 11 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 133 With You in the Weeds Have you heard it said that “a parent is only as happy as their unhappiest child”? Have you heard it said that “a parent is only as happy as their unhappiest child”? We know that when you have an unhappy or hurting child, life feels heavy and hard and you may not know how to respond. As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, Lynn Roush and Austin Conner explore a much needed topic: how to connect with your child when they’re hurting.  Parents often want to avoid painful feelings in their kids, hoping that they will go away on their own. Or, they jump in to fix the hurt and bypass the opportunity to connect with their child. We want to equip you to lean into your child’s heart when you sense that they are in emotional pain. This conversation looks at what hurts kids both inside and outside of the home, how to recognize hurt in your child, how to respond to your child’s pain and the relevant topic of recognizing warning signs for suicide. Austin and Lynn offer practical ways to be present, build resilience, and model God’s love to your children through life’s pain.  You can download our free Managing Your Emotions guide at withyouintheweeds.com to help you and your child identify their feelings. Make sure you’re subscribed to our newsletter where we include more questions to ask your kids to open up the door to meaningful dialogue.  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Have you heard it said that “a parent is only as happy as their unhappiest child”? We know that when you have an unhappy or hurting child, life feels heavy and hard and you may not know how to respond. As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, Lynn Roush and Austin Conner explore a much needed topic: how to connect with your child when they’re hurting. 


Parents often want to avoid painful feelings in their kids, hoping that they will go away on their own. Or, they jump in to fix the hurt and bypass the opportunity to connect with their child. We want to equip you to lean into your child’s heart when you sense that they are in emotional pain.


This conversation looks at what hurts kids both inside and outside of the home, how to recognize hurt in your child, how to respond to your child’s pain and the relevant topic of recognizing warning signs for suicide. Austin and Lynn offer practical ways to be present, build resilience, and model God’s love to your children through life’s pain. 


You can download our free Managing Your Emotions guide at withyouintheweeds.com to help you and your child identify their feelings. Make sure you’re subscribed to our newsletter where we include more questions to ask your kids to open up the door to meaningful dialogue. 


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]]> 3091 no Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Child Are you learning the delicate dance of parenting adult children? So are we! As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, John Tinnin and Lynn Roush explore how to set loving, effective boundaries that foster independence while maintaining a healthy relationship. They also discuss why setting boundaries with adult kids is easier said than done. The key principles they cover are: Boundaries are loving not controlling Be a mentor, not a manager Communicate clearly, consistently, and calmly Offer grace, not guilt trips Respect their autonomy As you watch your adult child make choices, and even mistakes, this episode will help you keep the big picture in mind and model open, honest communication with your kids no matter how old they are. Book recommendation: Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children by Allison Bottke  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 04 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 132 With You in the Weeds Are you learning the delicate dance of parenting adult children? So are we! Are you learning the delicate dance of parenting adult children? So are we! As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, John Tinnin and Lynn Roush explore how to set loving, effective boundaries that foster independence while maintaining a healthy relationship. They also discuss why setting boundaries with adult kids is easier said than done. The key principles they cover are: Boundaries are loving not controlling Be a mentor, not a manager Communicate clearly, consistently, and calmly Offer grace, not guilt trips Respect their autonomy As you watch your adult child make choices, and even mistakes, this episode will help you keep the big picture in mind and model open, honest communication with your kids no matter how old they are. Book recommendation: Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children by Allison Bottke  Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Are you learning the delicate dance of parenting adult children? So are we! As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, John Tinnin and Lynn Roush explore how to set loving, effective boundaries that foster independence while maintaining a healthy relationship. They also discuss why setting boundaries with adult kids is easier said than done.


The key principles they cover are:

  • Boundaries are loving not controlling
  • Be a mentor, not a manager
  • Communicate clearly, consistently, and calmly
  • Offer grace, not guilt trips
  • Respect their autonomy

As you watch your adult child make choices, and even mistakes, this episode will help you keep the big picture in mind and model open, honest communication with your kids no matter how old they are.


Book recommendation: Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children by Allison Bottke 


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]]> 2959 no Reaching Your Child's Heart for Jesus In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts John Tinnin and Austin Conner focus on how to guide your children toward a relational connection with Jesus. They explore four developmental ingredients for spiritual growth, what content to teach, the role of lived experiences, and how to handle kids who resist faith talks—all while emphasizing God’s grace and the power of humble parenting. You will be encouraged to learn that “a humble parent is better than a perfect parent.” And you’ll see that your role as a parent is a unique opportunity to model God’s grace in a way that will make a deep impression on your child, even when you make mistakes. If you’re worried about whether your child will learn to love and follow Jesus, this episode will bring relief and perspective that God is not only working through you, he works apart from you, and will accomplish his purposes in your child’s heart. Resources for you: Setting Parents FreeCome Back, Barbara - A Father’s Pursuit of a Prodigal Daughter Elementary Bible: The Jesus Storybook Bible & The Biggest Story Bible Elementary/Middle School Bible: NIV Kids’ Visual Study Bible High School Bible: NIV Teen Study Bible Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 28 May 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 131 With You in the Weeds In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts John Tinnin and Austin Conner focus on how to guide your children toward a relational connection with Jesus. In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts John Tinnin and Austin Conner focus on how to guide your children toward a relational connection with Jesus. They explore four developmental ingredients for spiritual growth, what content to teach, the role of lived experiences, and how to handle kids who resist faith talks—all while emphasizing God’s grace and the power of humble parenting. You will be encouraged to learn that “a humble parent is better than a perfect parent.” And you’ll see that your role as a parent is a unique opportunity to model God’s grace in a way that will make a deep impression on your child, even when you make mistakes. If you’re worried about whether your child will learn to love and follow Jesus, this episode will bring relief and perspective that God is not only working through you, he works apart from you, and will accomplish his purposes in your child’s heart. Resources for you: Setting Parents FreeCome Back, Barbara - A Father’s Pursuit of a Prodigal Daughter Elementary Bible: The Jesus Storybook Bible & The Biggest Story Bible Elementary/Middle School Bible: NIV Kids’ Visual Study Bible High School Bible: NIV Teen Study Bible Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! In this episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts John Tinnin and Austin Conner focus on how to guide your children toward a relational connection with Jesus. They explore four developmental ingredients for spiritual growth, what content to teach, the role of lived experiences, and how to handle kids who resist faith talks—all while emphasizing God’s grace and the power of humble parenting.

You will be encouraged to learn that “a humble parent is better than a perfect parent.” And you’ll see that your role as a parent is a unique opportunity to model God’s grace in a way that will make a deep impression on your child, even when you make mistakes.

If you’re worried about whether your child will learn to love and follow Jesus, this episode will bring relief and perspective that God is not only working through you, he works apart from you, and will accomplish his purposes in your child’s heart.

Resources for you:

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]]> 2704 no Guiding Your Child Through Dating and Relationships In this episode of our ongoing series, Parenting in the Weeds, we invite Paula Tinnin (John’s better half!) to the podcast for the first time. In this timely episode, John and Paula sit down with Austin to reflect on lessons learned from their own dating experiences as well as the advice they gave their daughters when it came to dating and relationships. You will hear them share candidly about: Their own dating and relationship history Setting healthy boundaries for your children’s dating experiences Practical guidelines for opposite-sex relationships at every age  Advice for present-day dating dilemmas parents are facing You’ll want to listen in to hear about John & Paula’s rocky relationship beginnings, their wisdom and practical advice for parents with kids at various ages, and for the informative ‘lightning round’ of current, real-life dating questions and answers. After listening you’ll get better insight into specific principles to apply, and be motivated to set healthy age-appropriate boundaries for your kids while building trust in them during the challenging dating years. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 21 May 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 130 With You in the Weeds In this episode of our ongoing series, Parenting in the Weeds, we invite Paula Tinnin (John’s better half!) to the podcast for the first time. In this episode of our ongoing series, Parenting in the Weeds, we invite Paula Tinnin (John’s better half!) to the podcast for the first time. In this timely episode, John and Paula sit down with Austin to reflect on lessons learned from their own dating experiences as well as the advice they gave their daughters when it came to dating and relationships. You will hear them share candidly about: Their own dating and relationship history Setting healthy boundaries for your children’s dating experiences Practical guidelines for opposite-sex relationships at every age  Advice for present-day dating dilemmas parents are facing You’ll want to listen in to hear about John & Paula’s rocky relationship beginnings, their wisdom and practical advice for parents with kids at various ages, and for the informative ‘lightning round’ of current, real-life dating questions and answers. After listening you’ll get better insight into specific principles to apply, and be motivated to set healthy age-appropriate boundaries for your kids while building trust in them during the challenging dating years. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! In this episode of our ongoing series, Parenting in the Weeds, we invite Paula Tinnin (John’s better half!) to the podcast for the first time. In this timely episode, John and Paula sit down with Austin to reflect on lessons learned from their own dating experiences as well as the advice they gave their daughters when it came to dating and relationships.


You will hear them share candidly about:

  • Their own dating and relationship history
  • Setting healthy boundaries for your children’s dating experiences
  • Practical guidelines for opposite-sex relationships at every age 
  • Advice for present-day dating dilemmas parents are facing


You’ll want to listen in to hear about John & Paula’s rocky relationship beginnings, their wisdom and practical advice for parents with kids at various ages, and for the informative ‘lightning round’ of current, real-life dating questions and answers.

After listening you’ll get better insight into specific principles to apply, and be motivated to set healthy age-appropriate boundaries for your kids while building trust in them during the challenging dating years.


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]]> 3863 no "We Listen and We Don't Judge" with the Roush Family Ever wonder what your kids really think about your parenting? In this unforgettable episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts Lynn and Shay Roush hand the microphone to their own kids—Jack (25), Emma (21), and Owen (19)—for a raw, unscripted conversation. Inspired by the viral “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” social media trend, this episode offers parents a rare glimpse into the minds of their kids and practical ways to deepen connection. Lynn and Shay’s kids open up about cherished childhood moments, from college football Saturdays with Dad to carefree cul-de-sac playtime and memorable family vacations along Lake Michigan. They also share tougher times, like experiencing the stress of family health crises, tense disagreements in their teen years, and the pressures of growing up as pastor’s kids.  Jack, Emma and Owen reflect on their unique bond, and express appreciation to their parents for fostering trust and freedom to learn from mistakes, even as they wrestled with sports expectations, making major life decisions and navigating the unique pressures brought on by social media. It wraps with an enlightening “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” speed round, where confessions range from sneaky PlayStation subscriptions to a wild car incident over leftover Chinese food. This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking to create grace-filled, open ended conversations with their kids—no matter their age. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Wed, 14 May 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 129 With You in the Weeds Ever wonder what your kids really think about your parenting? Ever wonder what your kids really think about your parenting? In this unforgettable episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts Lynn and Shay Roush hand the microphone to their own kids—Jack (25), Emma (21), and Owen (19)—for a raw, unscripted conversation. Inspired by the viral “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” social media trend, this episode offers parents a rare glimpse into the minds of their kids and practical ways to deepen connection. Lynn and Shay’s kids open up about cherished childhood moments, from college football Saturdays with Dad to carefree cul-de-sac playtime and memorable family vacations along Lake Michigan. They also share tougher times, like experiencing the stress of family health crises, tense disagreements in their teen years, and the pressures of growing up as pastor’s kids.  Jack, Emma and Owen reflect on their unique bond, and express appreciation to their parents for fostering trust and freedom to learn from mistakes, even as they wrestled with sports expectations, making major life decisions and navigating the unique pressures brought on by social media. It wraps with an enlightening “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” speed round, where confessions range from sneaky PlayStation subscriptions to a wild car incident over leftover Chinese food. This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking to create grace-filled, open ended conversations with their kids—no matter their age. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds If you love listening to WYITW, would you please leave us a 5 star rating and a review? Your feedback helps us reach more people! Ever wonder what your kids really think about your parenting? In this unforgettable episode of With You in the Weeds, hosts Lynn and Shay Roush hand the microphone to their own kids—Jack (25), Emma (21), and Owen (19)—for a raw, unscripted conversation. Inspired by the viral “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” social media trend, this episode offers parents a rare glimpse into the minds of their kids and practical ways to deepen connection.

Lynn and Shay’s kids open up about cherished childhood moments, from college football Saturdays with Dad to carefree cul-de-sac playtime and memorable family vacations along Lake Michigan. They also share tougher times, like experiencing the stress of family health crises, tense disagreements in their teen years, and the pressures of growing up as pastor’s kids. 

Jack, Emma and Owen reflect on their unique bond, and express appreciation to their parents for fostering trust and freedom to learn from mistakes, even as they wrestled with sports expectations, making major life decisions and navigating the unique pressures brought on by social media.

It wraps with an enlightening “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” speed round, where confessions range from sneaky PlayStation subscriptions to a wild car incident over leftover Chinese food. This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking to create grace-filled, open ended conversations with their kids—no matter their age.


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]]> 3152 no How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Need some help navigating the tricky terrain of talking to your kids about sex? Join counselor Austin Conner as he interviews Kristen Miele, a certified health education specialist and founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, for an empowering conversation on guiding kids through this vital topic with confidence and faith. Kristen shares her journey from viewing sex as taboo to embracing it as God’s good creation, offering practical tools to help parents, caregivers, and mentors foster healthy, shame-free discussions. Whether you have young kids, teens, or work with children, this episode equips you to reclaim the conversation from cultural distortions and lead with love. You’ll hear about… Why it’s critical to talk to kids about sex and sexuality Common fears and myths that hold parents back Age-appropriate ways to teach kids from preschool to high school As you listen, you’ll learn how to start open, honest conversations, respond to tough questions (like exposure to porn), and recognize signs of potential harm. Kristen’s insights, rooted in 15 years of teaching and her Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum, will inspire you to address your own brokenness, lean on the Holy Spirit, and guide kids toward a godly view of sexuality. We hope this episode empowers you to step boldly into these discussions, trusting God is with you in the weeds. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Wed, 07 May 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 128 With You in the Weeds Need some help navigating the tricky terrain of talking to your kids about sex? Need some help navigating the tricky terrain of talking to your kids about sex? Join counselor Austin Conner as he interviews Kristen Miele, a certified health education specialist and founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, for an empowering conversation on guiding kids through this vital topic with confidence and faith. Kristen shares her journey from viewing sex as taboo to embracing it as God’s good creation, offering practical tools to help parents, caregivers, and mentors foster healthy, shame-free discussions. Whether you have young kids, teens, or work with children, this episode equips you to reclaim the conversation from cultural distortions and lead with love. You’ll hear about… Why it’s critical to talk to kids about sex and sexuality Common fears and myths that hold parents back Age-appropriate ways to teach kids from preschool to high school As you listen, you’ll learn how to start open, honest conversations, respond to tough questions (like exposure to porn), and recognize signs of potential harm. Kristen’s insights, rooted in 15 years of teaching and her Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum, will inspire you to address your own brokenness, lean on the Holy Spirit, and guide kids toward a godly view of sexuality. We hope this episode empowers you to step boldly into these discussions, trusting God is with you in the weeds. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds Need some help navigating the tricky terrain of talking to your kids about sex? Join counselor Austin Conner as he interviews Kristen Miele, a certified health education specialist and founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, for an empowering conversation on guiding kids through this vital topic with confidence and faith.

Kristen shares her journey from viewing sex as taboo to embracing it as God’s good creation, offering practical tools to help parents, caregivers, and mentors foster healthy, shame-free discussions. Whether you have young kids, teens, or work with children, this episode equips you to reclaim the conversation from cultural distortions and lead with love.

You’ll hear about…

  • Why it’s critical to talk to kids about sex and sexuality
  • Common fears and myths that hold parents back
  • Age-appropriate ways to teach kids from preschool to high school

As you listen, you’ll learn how to start open, honest conversations, respond to tough questions (like exposure to porn), and recognize signs of potential harm. Kristen’s insights, rooted in 15 years of teaching and her Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum, will inspire you to address your own brokenness, lean on the Holy Spirit, and guide kids toward a godly view of sexuality. We hope this episode empowers you to step boldly into these discussions, trusting God is with you in the weeds.


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]]> 3286 no The Journey of Parenting a Child With ADHD Want a behind the scenes look at parenting a child with ADHD? Buckle up for an honest conversation as Lynn interviews fellow WYITW co-host Austin Conner and his wife Polly about how they’ve navigated and managed life with a kiddo with ADHD. Austin and Polly open up about the unexpected challenges and joys of this journey, offering hope and practical wisdom for parents who are struggling to know how to find their way through the maze of this diagnosis. You’ll hear about… What life was life before the diagnosis The turning point: figuring out the diagnosis What life has been like since the diagnosis As you listen, you’ll learn when to seek evaluation for your child, how to build a support team, the changes you’ll need to make in your parenting, and how to manage the stress that comes with unpredictable behaviors and extra energy from your child with ADHD. You’ll also be encouraged that your child can grow, adapt and accomplish incredible things through their creativity and tenacity. We hope the practical and specific insights in this episode will help you feel validated and strengthened as you consider next steps for you and your family.  If you want to explore more on this topic, check out these books and podcasts below: Book: ADHD 2.0 Book: Healing ADD Podcast: Calm Parenting Podcast Podcast: Shining with ADHD - The Childhood Collective Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. Wed, 30 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 127 With You in the Weeds Want a behind the scenes look at parenting a child with ADHD? Want a behind the scenes look at parenting a child with ADHD? Buckle up for an honest conversation as Lynn interviews fellow WYITW co-host Austin Conner and his wife Polly about how they’ve navigated and managed life with a kiddo with ADHD. Austin and Polly open up about the unexpected challenges and joys of this journey, offering hope and practical wisdom for parents who are struggling to know how to find their way through the maze of this diagnosis. You’ll hear about… What life was life before the diagnosis The turning point: figuring out the diagnosis What life has been like since the diagnosis As you listen, you’ll learn when to seek evaluation for your child, how to build a support team, the changes you’ll need to make in your parenting, and how to manage the stress that comes with unpredictable behaviors and extra energy from your child with ADHD. You’ll also be encouraged that your child can grow, adapt and accomplish incredible things through their creativity and tenacity. We hope the practical and specific insights in this episode will help you feel validated and strengthened as you consider next steps for you and your family.  If you want to explore more on this topic, check out these books and podcasts below: Book: ADHD 2.0 Book: Healing ADD Podcast: Calm Parenting Podcast Podcast: Shining with ADHD - The Childhood Collective Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. Want a behind the scenes look at parenting a child with ADHD? Buckle up for an honest conversation as Lynn interviews fellow WYITW co-host Austin Conner and his wife Polly about how they’ve navigated and managed life with a kiddo with ADHD.

Austin and Polly open up about the unexpected challenges and joys of this journey, offering hope and practical wisdom for parents who are struggling to know how to find their way through the maze of this diagnosis.

You’ll hear about…

  • What life was life before the diagnosis
  • The turning point: figuring out the diagnosis
  • What life has been like since the diagnosis

As you listen, you’ll learn when to seek evaluation for your child, how to build a support team, the changes you’ll need to make in your parenting, and how to manage the stress that comes with unpredictable behaviors and extra energy from your child with ADHD. You’ll also be encouraged that your child can grow, adapt and accomplish incredible things through their creativity and tenacity.

We hope the practical and specific insights in this episode will help you feel validated and strengthened as you consider next steps for you and your family. 

If you want to explore more on this topic, check out these books and podcasts below:

Book: ADHD 2.0

Book: Healing ADD

Podcast: Calm Parenting Podcast

Podcast: Shining with ADHD - The Childhood Collective


Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!


If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com.


]]> 3743 no Parenting in a Blended Family **Have you heard the news? With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting today and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** In this heartfelt episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner chats with Chris and Amanda Horn about the ups and downs of parenting in a blended family. As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, they share their experiences raising three kids across multiple households, offering honest insights and practical tips for navigating co-parenting, conflict, and building strong family bonds. Whether you’re in a blended family or know someone who is, this conversation brings hope and encouragement for the journey. You may be able to relate as Chris and Amanda describe their blended family life as challenging, sacrificial, and yet strengthening, as they emphasize the process of growth through hardships. In any blended family, there will be trade-offs: logistical and emotional challenges balanced by the joy of their kids’ growing sibling bonds. They have learned to embrace the chaos, keep co-parenting communication open and accept discomfort while trusting that God is in control, even in the toughest seasons life brings. If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! Wed, 23 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 126 With You in the Weeds In this heartfelt episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner chats with Chris and Amanda Horn about the ups and downs of parenting in a blended family. **Have you heard the news? With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting today and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** In this heartfelt episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner chats with Chris and Amanda Horn about the ups and downs of parenting in a blended family. As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, they share their experiences raising three kids across multiple households, offering honest insights and practical tips for navigating co-parenting, conflict, and building strong family bonds. Whether you’re in a blended family or know someone who is, this conversation brings hope and encouragement for the journey. You may be able to relate as Chris and Amanda describe their blended family life as challenging, sacrificial, and yet strengthening, as they emphasize the process of growth through hardships. In any blended family, there will be trade-offs: logistical and emotional challenges balanced by the joy of their kids’ growing sibling bonds. They have learned to embrace the chaos, keep co-parenting communication open and accept discomfort while trusting that God is in control, even in the toughest seasons life brings. If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! **Have you heard the news? With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting today and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!**


In this heartfelt episode of With You in the Weeds, Austin Conner chats with Chris and Amanda Horn about the ups and downs of parenting in a blended family. As part of the Parenting in the Weeds series, they share their experiences raising three kids across multiple households, offering honest insights and practical tips for navigating co-parenting, conflict, and building strong family bonds. Whether you’re in a blended family or know someone who is, this conversation brings hope and encouragement for the journey.


You may be able to relate as Chris and Amanda describe their blended family life as challenging, sacrificial, and yet strengthening, as they emphasize the process of growth through hardships.


In any blended family, there will be trade-offs: logistical and emotional challenges balanced by the joy of their kids’ growing sibling bonds. They have learned to embrace the chaos, keep co-parenting communication open and accept discomfort while trusting that God is in control, even in the toughest seasons life brings.


If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover.

Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!

]]> 2444 no Managing Sibling Conflict **We are honored to be nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting today and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** In this episode of our “Parenting in the Weeds” series, Austin Connor and Shay Roush tackle the universal challenge of sibling conflict. Whether you're dealing with daily squabbles between young kids, quiet resentment among teens, or lingering rivalries into adulthood, this episode offers practical insights and strategies to manage conflict effectively.  Conflict amongst siblings is real and spans all ages: from fights over toys and screen time with young kids to resentment over perceived favoritism among teens or adults. The goal isn’t to eliminate conflict entirely but to manage it, acknowledging its presence and working toward healthier relationships. Shay and Austin discuss the 3 main causes of sibling conflict, as well as 5 practical solutions to handle it including: Connect with each child individually Delight, celebrate, and laugh together as a family Avoid comparing your children Set patterns of reconciliation, apologizing, and forgiveness Be proactive about end-of-life matters and money The biggest takeaway from this episode is that “Your children may be competitive and compete with each other, but they should never have to compete for your love.”   If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with a friend and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. Wed, 16 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 125 With You in the Weeds In this episode of our “Parenting in the Weeds” series, Austin Connor and Shay Roush tackle the universal challenge of sibling conflict. **We are honored to be nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting today and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** In this episode of our “Parenting in the Weeds” series, Austin Connor and Shay Roush tackle the universal challenge of sibling conflict. Whether you're dealing with daily squabbles between young kids, quiet resentment among teens, or lingering rivalries into adulthood, this episode offers practical insights and strategies to manage conflict effectively.  Conflict amongst siblings is real and spans all ages: from fights over toys and screen time with young kids to resentment over perceived favoritism among teens or adults. The goal isn’t to eliminate conflict entirely but to manage it, acknowledging its presence and working toward healthier relationships. Shay and Austin discuss the 3 main causes of sibling conflict, as well as 5 practical solutions to handle it including: Connect with each child individually Delight, celebrate, and laugh together as a family Avoid comparing your children Set patterns of reconciliation, apologizing, and forgiveness Be proactive about end-of-life matters and money The biggest takeaway from this episode is that “Your children may be competitive and compete with each other, but they should never have to compete for your love.”   If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with a friend and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. **We are honored to be nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting today and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!**


In this episode of our “Parenting in the Weeds” series, Austin Connor and Shay Roush tackle the universal challenge of sibling conflict. Whether you're dealing with daily squabbles between young kids, quiet resentment among teens, or lingering rivalries into adulthood, this episode offers practical insights and strategies to manage conflict effectively. 


Conflict amongst siblings is real and spans all ages: from fights over toys and screen time with young kids to resentment over perceived favoritism among teens or adults. The goal isn’t to eliminate conflict entirely but to manage it, acknowledging its presence and working toward healthier relationships.


Shay and Austin discuss the 3 main causes of sibling conflict, as well as 5 practical solutions to handle it including:

  1. Connect with each child individually
  2. Delight, celebrate, and laugh together as a family
  3. Avoid comparing your children
  4. Set patterns of reconciliation, apologizing, and forgiveness
  5. Be proactive about end-of-life matters and money


The biggest takeaway from this episode is that “Your children may be competitive and compete with each other, but they should never have to compete for your love.”  

If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover.


Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!


If this conversation resonates with you, share it with a friend and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com.

]]> 2373 no Loving the Kid You Have, Not the Kid You Want **Exciting news! With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting TODAY and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** Welcome back to our Parenting in the Weeds series! In this episode, we dive into a common parenting trap - the temptation to control your child rather than love them for who they are. While this desire often comes from a good place, such as wanting them to be successful or safe, it can lead to unintended harm.  Listen in as John, Lynn and Shay explore the ways parents try to mold their kids in their own image instead of fostering their unique God-given design. You will learn about three common parenting traps - the Perfection Trap, the Mini-Me Trap, and the Take Care of Me Trap - as well as how to break free from them by focusing on the true goal of parenting. Key Takeaways: The Goal of Parenting: Helping children develop character qualities and the skills necessary to meet the demands of life. Supporting their unique design and pointing them toward Jesus. Modeling love and guidance without trying to control their every outcome. Three Parenting Traps: The Perfection Trap: Expecting children to meet impossible standards can lead to anxiety, fear, and struggles with self-worth. The Mini-Me Trap: Trying to live out unfulfilled dreams through your child instead of embracing their individuality can lead to rebellion. The Take Care of Me Trap: Relying on children for emotional support rather than allowing them to develop independence can hinder your child’s emotional maturity. How You Can Break Free of These Traps: Acknowledge that your child is not yours to control - they belong to God. Recognize when fear, ego, or personal baggage drives parenting decisions. Give children space to grow, make mistakes, and develop their own faith and identity. Trust that God is working in your child's life, even when they take unexpected paths. Be encouraged that even if you recognize yourself in any of these traps, you're not alone! Parenting is a journey of learning, adjusting, and leaning into God’s grace. Book recommendation: Men of Courage by Larry Crabb Wed, 09 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 124 With You in the Weeds **Exciting news! With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting TODAY and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** Welcome back to our Parenting in the Weeds series! In this episode, we dive into a common parenting trap - the temptation to control your child rather than love them for who they are. While this desire often comes from a good place, such as wanting them to be successful or safe, it can lead to unintended harm.  Listen in as John, Lynn and Shay explore the ways parents try to mold their kids in their own image instead of fostering their unique God-given design. You will learn about three common parenting traps - the Perfection Trap, the Mini-Me Trap, and the Take Care of Me Trap - as well as how to break free from them by focusing on the true goal of parenting. Key Takeaways: The Goal of Parenting: Helping children develop character qualities and the skills necessary to meet the demands of life. Supporting their unique design and pointing them toward Jesus. Modeling love and guidance without trying to control their every outcome. Three Parenting Traps: The Perfection Trap: Expecting children to meet impossible standards can lead to anxiety, fear, and struggles with self-worth. The Mini-Me Trap: Trying to live out unfulfilled dreams through your child instead of embracing their individuality can lead to rebellion. The Take Care of Me Trap: Relying on children for emotional support rather than allowing them to develop independence can hinder your child’s emotional maturity. How You Can Break Free of These Traps: Acknowledge that your child is not yours to control - they belong to God. Recognize when fear, ego, or personal baggage drives parenting decisions. Give children space to grow, make mistakes, and develop their own faith and identity. Trust that God is working in your child's life, even when they take unexpected paths. Be encouraged that even if you recognize yourself in any of these traps, you're not alone! Parenting is a journey of learning, adjusting, and leaning into God’s grace. Book recommendation: Men of Courage by Larry Crabb **Exciting news! With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting TODAY and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!**


Welcome back to our Parenting in the Weeds series! In this episode, we dive into a common parenting trap - the temptation to control your child rather than love them for who they are. While this desire often comes from a good place, such as wanting them to be successful or safe, it can lead to unintended harm. 


Listen in as John, Lynn and Shay explore the ways parents try to mold their kids in their own image instead of fostering their unique God-given design.


You will learn about three common parenting traps - the Perfection Trap, the Mini-Me Trap, and the Take Care of Me Trap - as well as how to break free from them by focusing on the true goal of parenting.


Key Takeaways:


  1. The Goal of Parenting:
  2. Helping children develop character qualities and the skills necessary to meet the demands of life.
  3. Supporting their unique design and pointing them toward Jesus.
  4. Modeling love and guidance without trying to control their every outcome.
  5. Three Parenting Traps:
  6. The Perfection Trap: Expecting children to meet impossible standards can lead to anxiety, fear, and struggles with self-worth.
  7. The Mini-Me Trap: Trying to live out unfulfilled dreams through your child instead of embracing their individuality can lead to rebellion.
  8. The Take Care of Me Trap: Relying on children for emotional support rather than allowing them to develop independence can hinder your child’s emotional maturity.
  9. How You Can Break Free of These Traps:
  10. Acknowledge that your child is not yours to control - they belong to God.
  11. Recognize when fear, ego, or personal baggage drives parenting decisions.
  12. Give children space to grow, make mistakes, and develop their own faith and identity.
  13. Trust that God is working in your child's life, even when they take unexpected paths.


Be encouraged that even if you recognize yourself in any of these traps, you're not alone! Parenting is a journey of learning, adjusting, and leaning into God’s grace.

Book recommendation: Men of Courage by Larry Crabb

]]> 2958 no Parenting Wars: “Gentle Parenting” vs. “Tough Love” **Exciting news! With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting TODAY and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** Welcome to our brand-new series, Parenting in the Weeds! This series is dedicated to parents who feel tired, confused, or frustrated - because let's be honest, parenting isn't just hard; sometimes, it feels impossible. In this episode, we dive into the challenges of parenting today and explore the tension between two popular approaches: gentle parenting and tough love parenting. John, Lynn and Austin discuss the strengths and weaknesses of each and introduce a balanced framework - love and limits - that can help parents find a more effective and sustainable way to raise their children. Whether you're a parent or someone who interacts with kids in any capacity, there's something in this episode for you! Here’s what we cover: Understanding the extremes: Gentle Parenting: Focuses on emotional attunement, empathy, and attachment but can sometimes lack necessary boundaries. Tough Love Parenting: Emphasizes structure, discipline, and authority but can sometimes be overly rigid and emotionally distant. A Better Way – Love and Limits: Parenting is about balancing emotional connection and boundaries. Parenting the way God parents us means we are offering love while providing guidance. Structure without relationship leads to rebellion, and unchecked emotions can create chaos. Practical Parenting Takeaways: Reflect on whether your parenting leans too heavily on love or limits and make adjustments, tailoring your approach to each child’s unique needs. If you default to tough love, ask for feedback from your kids, acknowledge any past mistakes, and be willing to apologize. If you lean towards gentle parenting, start setting and enforcing boundaries - even if your child protests at first. Be prepared for the extinction burst - behavior may initially escalate when limits are introduced but will stabilize over time. The truth is that parenting is challenging, but the good news is that you're not alone! God sees and cares about where you are in your parenting journey, and he is with you in the weeds of parenting. Recommended Resources: Parenting from the Inside Out – Dan Siegel The Connected Parent – Karen Purvis & Lisa Qualls Boundaries with Kids – Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. Wed, 02 Apr 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 123 With You in the Weeds **Exciting news! With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting TODAY and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!** Welcome to our brand-new series, Parenting in the Weeds! This series is dedicated to parents who feel tired, confused, or frustrated - because let's be honest, parenting isn't just hard; sometimes, it feels impossible. In this episode, we dive into the challenges of parenting today and explore the tension between two popular approaches: gentle parenting and tough love parenting. John, Lynn and Austin discuss the strengths and weaknesses of each and introduce a balanced framework - love and limits - that can help parents find a more effective and sustainable way to raise their children. Whether you're a parent or someone who interacts with kids in any capacity, there's something in this episode for you! Here’s what we cover: Understanding the extremes: Gentle Parenting: Focuses on emotional attunement, empathy, and attachment but can sometimes lack necessary boundaries. Tough Love Parenting: Emphasizes structure, discipline, and authority but can sometimes be overly rigid and emotionally distant. A Better Way – Love and Limits: Parenting is about balancing emotional connection and boundaries. Parenting the way God parents us means we are offering love while providing guidance. Structure without relationship leads to rebellion, and unchecked emotions can create chaos. Practical Parenting Takeaways: Reflect on whether your parenting leans too heavily on love or limits and make adjustments, tailoring your approach to each child’s unique needs. If you default to tough love, ask for feedback from your kids, acknowledge any past mistakes, and be willing to apologize. If you lean towards gentle parenting, start setting and enforcing boundaries - even if your child protests at first. Be prepared for the extinction burst - behavior may initially escalate when limits are introduced but will stabilize over time. The truth is that parenting is challenging, but the good news is that you're not alone! God sees and cares about where you are in your parenting journey, and he is with you in the weeds of parenting. Recommended Resources: Parenting from the Inside Out – Dan Siegel The Connected Parent – Karen Purvis & Lisa Qualls Boundaries with Kids – Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. **Exciting news! With You in the Weeds has been nominated for “Best Local Podcast” in Inside Columbia magazine’s “Best of Columbia” contest! You can help us win by voting TODAY and EVERY DAY through April 30th.  Here’s the link to cast your vote and thanks so much for your support!**


Welcome to our brand-new series, Parenting in the Weeds! This series is dedicated to parents who feel tired, confused, or frustrated - because let's be honest, parenting isn't just hard; sometimes, it feels impossible. In this episode, we dive into the challenges of parenting today and explore the tension between two popular approaches: gentle parenting and tough love parenting.


John, Lynn and Austin discuss the strengths and weaknesses of each and introduce a balanced framework - love and limits - that can help parents find a more effective and sustainable way to raise their children. Whether you're a parent or someone who interacts with kids in any capacity, there's something in this episode for you!


Here’s what we cover:

  1. Understanding the extremes:
  • Gentle Parenting: Focuses on emotional attunement, empathy, and attachment but can sometimes lack necessary boundaries.
  • Tough Love Parenting: Emphasizes structure, discipline, and authority but can sometimes be overly rigid and emotionally distant.
  1. A Better Way – Love and Limits:
  • Parenting is about balancing emotional connection and boundaries.
  • Parenting the way God parents us means we are offering love while providing guidance.
  • Structure without relationship leads to rebellion, and unchecked emotions can create chaos.
  1. Practical Parenting Takeaways:
  • Reflect on whether your parenting leans too heavily on love or limits and make adjustments, tailoring your approach to each child’s unique needs.
  • If you default to tough love, ask for feedback from your kids, acknowledge any past mistakes, and be willing to apologize.
  • If you lean towards gentle parenting, start setting and enforcing boundaries - even if your child protests at first.
  • Be prepared for the extinction burst - behavior may initially escalate when limits are introduced but will stabilize over time.


The truth is that parenting is challenging, but the good news is that you're not alone! God sees and cares about where you are in your parenting journey, and he is with you in the weeds of parenting.


Recommended Resources:


If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover.


Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!


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]]> 2816 no How Do I Know When I've Healed From Trauma? In the final episode of our Surviving and Thriving After Trauma series, hosts Lynn Roush, LPC, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT and Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC reflect on the key takeaways from the series and answer listener-submitted questions about trauma, healing, and resilience. This series was dedicated to helping you define trauma, understand its impacts, and begin the journey toward healing. Not only have we learned from the many trauma survivors we’ve interviewed, we have also come to see the powerful presence of Jesus in the face of suffering.  These are the listener questions we tackle in this episode:  Are some traumas worse than others?  What should you say (or not say) to someone who has experienced trauma? What skills do I need to work through trauma in my life and help others?  How do I know when I’ve healed from trauma?  The key takeaways we want you to remember are: Trauma impacts every aspect of your being—mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Healing is a journey, not a one-time event. You may never feel "fully healed," but you can experience post-traumatic growth and resilience. The presence of a safe, understanding person can be one of the most powerful tools in trauma recovery. Scripture provides deep comfort, but timing and approach matter when offering biblical encouragement. Healing includes recognizing the reality of trauma, holding responsible parties accountable, and embracing God’s sustaining grace. Resources to help you on your healing journey: On the Threshold of Hope – Diane Langberg Safe People – Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Your Emotional Dashboard (Our very first episode!) "In this world, you will have tribulations. But take heart, I have overcome the world." John 16:33 If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. Wed, 26 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 122 With You in the Weeds In the final episode of our Surviving and Thriving After Trauma series, hosts Lynn Roush, LPC, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT and Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC reflect on the key takeaways from the series and answer listener-submitted questions about trauma, healing, and resilience. In the final episode of our Surviving and Thriving After Trauma series, hosts Lynn Roush, LPC, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT and Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC reflect on the key takeaways from the series and answer listener-submitted questions about trauma, healing, and resilience. This series was dedicated to helping you define trauma, understand its impacts, and begin the journey toward healing. Not only have we learned from the many trauma survivors we’ve interviewed, we have also come to see the powerful presence of Jesus in the face of suffering.  These are the listener questions we tackle in this episode:  Are some traumas worse than others?  What should you say (or not say) to someone who has experienced trauma? What skills do I need to work through trauma in my life and help others?  How do I know when I’ve healed from trauma?  The key takeaways we want you to remember are: Trauma impacts every aspect of your being—mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Healing is a journey, not a one-time event. You may never feel "fully healed," but you can experience post-traumatic growth and resilience. The presence of a safe, understanding person can be one of the most powerful tools in trauma recovery. Scripture provides deep comfort, but timing and approach matter when offering biblical encouragement. Healing includes recognizing the reality of trauma, holding responsible parties accountable, and embracing God’s sustaining grace. Resources to help you on your healing journey: On the Threshold of Hope – Diane Langberg Safe People – Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Your Emotional Dashboard (Our very first episode!) "In this world, you will have tribulations. But take heart, I have overcome the world." John 16:33 If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com. In the final episode of our Surviving and Thriving After Trauma series, hosts Lynn Roush, LPC, John Tinnin, MDiv, MFT and Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC reflect on the key takeaways from the series and answer listener-submitted questions about trauma, healing, and resilience.

This series was dedicated to helping you define trauma, understand its impacts, and begin the journey toward healing. Not only have we learned from the many trauma survivors we’ve interviewed, we have also come to see the powerful presence of Jesus in the face of suffering. 

These are the listener questions we tackle in this episode: 

  1. Are some traumas worse than others? 
  2. What should you say (or not say) to someone who has experienced trauma?
  3. What skills do I need to work through trauma in my life and help others? 
  4. How do I know when I’ve healed from trauma? 

The key takeaways we want you to remember are:

  • Trauma impacts every aspect of your being—mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
  • Healing is a journey, not a one-time event. You may never feel "fully healed," but you can experience post-traumatic growth and resilience.
  • The presence of a safe, understanding person can be one of the most powerful tools in trauma recovery.
  • Scripture provides deep comfort, but timing and approach matter when offering biblical encouragement.
  • Healing includes recognizing the reality of trauma, holding responsible parties accountable, and embracing God’s sustaining grace.

Resources to help you on your healing journey:

"In this world, you will have tribulations. But take heart, I have overcome the world." John 16:33

If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover.

Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!

If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @withyouintheweeds.com.

]]> 2871 no Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma with Gina Birkemeier As we near the end of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series we are covering the essential topic of generational trauma - a hidden force that shapes our beliefs, relationships, and sense of self. Our guest, Gina Birkemeier, a licensed professional counselor, author, and trauma specialist, joins us to explore how trauma patterns are passed down through generations and what it takes to break free. Key takeaways in this episode: The impact of inherited trauma and how it shapes your perceptions. How to recognize patterns like shame and control, and the way dysfunction gets passed down through families. What it takes to break the cycle and how to create a new, healthy legacy. Why forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation and how it leads to freedom. How you can shift family narratives and transform future generations. In this interview with Austin, Gina shares personal insights from her book, Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy, offering both hope and practical guidance for those ready to stand up against the forceful current of generational dysfunction. To learn more you can visit ginabirkemeier.com or find Gina on Instagram @myoutloudvoice for more great content on this topic. If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @WithYouInTheWeeds Wed, 19 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 121 With You in the Weeds As we near the end of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series we are covering the essential topic of generational trauma - a hidden force that shapes our beliefs, relationships, and sense of self. As we near the end of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series we are covering the essential topic of generational trauma - a hidden force that shapes our beliefs, relationships, and sense of self. Our guest, Gina Birkemeier, a licensed professional counselor, author, and trauma specialist, joins us to explore how trauma patterns are passed down through generations and what it takes to break free. Key takeaways in this episode: The impact of inherited trauma and how it shapes your perceptions. How to recognize patterns like shame and control, and the way dysfunction gets passed down through families. What it takes to break the cycle and how to create a new, healthy legacy. Why forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation and how it leads to freedom. How you can shift family narratives and transform future generations. In this interview with Austin, Gina shares personal insights from her book, Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy, offering both hope and practical guidance for those ready to stand up against the forceful current of generational dysfunction. To learn more you can visit ginabirkemeier.com or find Gina on Instagram @myoutloudvoice for more great content on this topic. If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @WithYouInTheWeeds As we near the end of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series we are covering the essential topic of generational trauma - a hidden force that shapes our beliefs, relationships, and sense of self. Our guest, Gina Birkemeier, a licensed professional counselor, author, and trauma specialist, joins us to explore how trauma patterns are passed down through generations and what it takes to break free.

Key takeaways in this episode:

  • The impact of inherited trauma and how it shapes your perceptions.
  • How to recognize patterns like shame and control, and the way dysfunction gets passed down through families.
  • What it takes to break the cycle and how to create a new, healthy legacy.
  • Why forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation and how it leads to freedom.
  • How you can shift family narratives and transform future generations.

In this interview with Austin, Gina shares personal insights from her book, Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy, offering both hope and practical guidance for those ready to stand up against the forceful current of generational dysfunction.

To learn more you can visit ginabirkemeier.com or find Gina on Instagram @myoutloudvoice for more great content on this topic.

If you want to remember what you learned in this episode, and didn’t have time to take notes while listening, subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com to receive our weekly episode summary and to find our library of resources on all the topics we cover.

Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!

If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs encouragement in their own healing journey and join the WYITW community on IG & FB @WithYouInTheWeeds

]]> 2556 no The Trauma of Child Loss In this deeply moving episode, John Tinnin sits down with Kari Kaczan, author of A Light in Momentary Affliction, to discuss the profound grief of losing a child and the journey of navigating trauma through faith. Kari shares her heartbreaking yet hope-filled story of her son Christopher’s diagnosis with metachromatic leukodystrophy (MLD), a rare and terminal disease, and the emotional and spiritual challenges that followed. With raw honesty, Kari recounts the moments of shock, despair, and wrestling with God as she walked through the unimaginable pain of watching her son slowly lose his abilities. She opens up about the loneliness of grief, the difficulty of making impossible medical decisions, and the isolating reality of being part of a “club no one wants to join.” Yet, in the midst of deep sorrow, Kari found an anchor in her faith. She speaks about the power of surrender, choosing to bring Jesus into her pain, and how lament became her path to healing. The conversation touches on depression, emotional numbness, and the ways grief affects relationships, but ultimately points to the hope and presence of Christ in suffering. Listen as John and Kari discuss: The devastating reality of receiving a terminal diagnosis for a child. How grief unfolds in layers—both the “big” loss and the small, compounding ones. The challenge of making medical decisions when no clear path exists. The emotional and relational impact of loss, including isolation and changes in friendships. Why faith is not just a cliché but a sustaining force in the darkest moments. The importance of honest, unfiltered prayers—even if they include shouting at God. Check out the book A Light in Momentary Affliction by Kari Kaczan to learn more about how bringing Jesus into suffering can transform the way we endure pain. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! Connect with us on social media and sign up for our weekly newsletter: Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com Wed, 12 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full 120 With You in the Weeds In this deeply moving episode, John Tinnin sits down with Kari Kaczan, author of A Light in Momentary Affliction, to discuss the profound grief of losing a child and the journey of navigating trauma through faith. In this deeply moving episode, John Tinnin sits down with Kari Kaczan, author of A Light in Momentary Affliction, to discuss the profound grief of losing a child and the journey of navigating trauma through faith. Kari shares her heartbreaking yet hope-filled story of her son Christopher’s diagnosis with metachromatic leukodystrophy (MLD), a rare and terminal disease, and the emotional and spiritual challenges that followed. With raw honesty, Kari recounts the moments of shock, despair, and wrestling with God as she walked through the unimaginable pain of watching her son slowly lose his abilities. She opens up about the loneliness of grief, the difficulty of making impossible medical decisions, and the isolating reality of being part of a “club no one wants to join.” Yet, in the midst of deep sorrow, Kari found an anchor in her faith. She speaks about the power of surrender, choosing to bring Jesus into her pain, and how lament became her path to healing. The conversation touches on depression, emotional numbness, and the ways grief affects relationships, but ultimately points to the hope and presence of Christ in suffering. Listen as John and Kari discuss: The devastating reality of receiving a terminal diagnosis for a child. How grief unfolds in layers—both the “big” loss and the small, compounding ones. The challenge of making medical decisions when no clear path exists. The emotional and relational impact of loss, including isolation and changes in friendships. Why faith is not just a cliché but a sustaining force in the darkest moments. The importance of honest, unfiltered prayers—even if they include shouting at God. Check out the book A Light in Momentary Affliction by Kari Kaczan to learn more about how bringing Jesus into suffering can transform the way we endure pain. Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating! Connect with us on social media and sign up for our weekly newsletter: Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com In this deeply moving episode, John Tinnin sits down with Kari Kaczan, author of A Light in Momentary Affliction, to discuss the profound grief of losing a child and the journey of navigating trauma through faith. Kari shares her heartbreaking yet hope-filled story of her son Christopher’s diagnosis with metachromatic leukodystrophy (MLD), a rare and terminal disease, and the emotional and spiritual challenges that followed.

With raw honesty, Kari recounts the moments of shock, despair, and wrestling with God as she walked through the unimaginable pain of watching her son slowly lose his abilities. She opens up about the loneliness of grief, the difficulty of making impossible medical decisions, and the isolating reality of being part of a “club no one wants to join.”

Yet, in the midst of deep sorrow, Kari found an anchor in her faith. She speaks about the power of surrender, choosing to bring Jesus into her pain, and how lament became her path to healing. The conversation touches on depression, emotional numbness, and the ways grief affects relationships, but ultimately points to the hope and presence of Christ in suffering.

Listen as John and Kari discuss:

  • The devastating reality of receiving a terminal diagnosis for a child.
  • How grief unfolds in layers—both the “big” loss and the small, compounding ones.
  • The challenge of making medical decisions when no clear path exists.
  • The emotional and relational impact of loss, including isolation and changes in friendships.
  • Why faith is not just a cliché but a sustaining force in the darkest moments.
  • The importance of honest, unfiltered prayers—even if they include shouting at God.


Check out the book A Light in Momentary Affliction by Kari Kaczan to learn more about how bringing Jesus into suffering can transform the way we endure pain.

Your reviews and ratings help us reach more people so please leave a review and a 5-star rating!

Connect with us on social media and sign up for our weekly newsletter:


]]> 3619 no The Trauma of Betrayal & Infidelity “Sit down. I’ve got to tell you something…” What follows might be your worst nightmare as your spouse confesses their betrayal and infidelity. Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith have lived through this themselves, and now they work with couples who are trying to rebuild their relationship after trust has been shattered. They have 15+ years of theological and counseling experience helping couples repair the damage that betrayal creates.  When you listen you’ll get a front row seat of what happens when couples first confess, what their ongoing counseling sessions look like, signs of growth (or lack of growth), and how you know when trust is being restored. Whether you’ve experienced the trauma of betrayal, or you know someone/a couple who has, you’ll be thankful you took the time to listen to Matthew & Joanna. You can check out their book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time or their website for free resources and to learn more. Connect with us! Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com  Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here! Wed, 05 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 119 With You in the Weeds “Sit down. I’ve got to tell you something…” What follows might be your worst nightmare as your spouse confesses their betrayal and infidelity. “Sit down. I’ve got to tell you something…” What follows might be your worst nightmare as your spouse confesses their betrayal and infidelity. Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith have lived through this themselves, and now they work with couples who are trying to rebuild their relationship after trust has been shattered. They have 15+ years of theological and counseling experience helping couples repair the damage that betrayal creates.  When you listen you’ll get a front row seat of what happens when couples first confess, what their ongoing counseling sessions look like, signs of growth (or lack of growth), and how you know when trust is being restored. Whether you’ve experienced the trauma of betrayal, or you know someone/a couple who has, you’ll be thankful you took the time to listen to Matthew & Joanna. You can check out their book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time or their website for free resources and to learn more. Connect with us! Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com  Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here! “Sit down. I’ve got to tell you something…” What follows might be your worst nightmare as your spouse confesses their betrayal and infidelity.

Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith have lived through this themselves, and now they work with couples who are trying to rebuild their relationship after trust has been shattered. They have 15+ years of theological and counseling experience helping couples repair the damage that betrayal creates. 

When you listen you’ll get a front row seat of what happens when couples first confess, what their ongoing counseling sessions look like, signs of growth (or lack of growth), and how you know when trust is being restored.

Whether you’ve experienced the trauma of betrayal, or you know someone/a couple who has, you’ll be thankful you took the time to listen to Matthew & Joanna.

You can check out their book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time or their website for free resources and to learn more.

Connect with us!



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]]> 3270 no The Trauma of Racism with Pastor Derwin Gray Can the deep pain and division of racism ever be healed? And does the Christian faith play any role in the work of racial reconciliation? Pastor Derwin Gray believes that if we rightly understand the message of grace through Jesus, we will see the image of God across all races and cultures, and embrace and promote a culture of love instead of a culture of hate. In this special episode Pastor Derwin Gray of Transformation Church has a discussion with Shay and Lynn about the history of racism in America, its lasting impact, and the current need for ongoing reconciliation. Derwin’s book, How to Heal Our Racial Divide, proposes that “racial reconciliation is God’s idea”, and that the church should be a place that “isn’t colorblind, but color-blessed.” This conversation covers topics like: The significance of Martin Luther King Jr. and his powerful writings The challenge of overcoming indifference and opposition to reconciliation How racial trauma manifests in different generations Teaching people to be "unoffendable in the gospel" Encouragement for Christians to extend grace in difficult conversations. Although the church should be a natural place for racial healing to occur, the reality is that barriers such as pride, fear, power and economics often prevent the church from taking the risk to love others when the cost seems too high. We appreciate Pastor Gray’s passion and insights on this important topic, as he calls us to see the beauty of diversity as part of God’s design and highlights the role we can play in helping people heal from racial trauma through empathy, compassion and understanding. If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. Wed, 26 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 118 With You in the Weeds Can the deep pain and division of racism ever be healed? Can the deep pain and division of racism ever be healed? And does the Christian faith play any role in the work of racial reconciliation? Pastor Derwin Gray believes that if we rightly understand the message of grace through Jesus, we will see the image of God across all races and cultures, and embrace and promote a culture of love instead of a culture of hate. In this special episode Pastor Derwin Gray of Transformation Church has a discussion with Shay and Lynn about the history of racism in America, its lasting impact, and the current need for ongoing reconciliation. Derwin’s book, How to Heal Our Racial Divide, proposes that “racial reconciliation is God’s idea”, and that the church should be a place that “isn’t colorblind, but color-blessed.” This conversation covers topics like: The significance of Martin Luther King Jr. and his powerful writings The challenge of overcoming indifference and opposition to reconciliation How racial trauma manifests in different generations Teaching people to be "unoffendable in the gospel" Encouragement for Christians to extend grace in difficult conversations. Although the church should be a natural place for racial healing to occur, the reality is that barriers such as pride, fear, power and economics often prevent the church from taking the risk to love others when the cost seems too high. We appreciate Pastor Gray’s passion and insights on this important topic, as he calls us to see the beauty of diversity as part of God’s design and highlights the role we can play in helping people heal from racial trauma through empathy, compassion and understanding. If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. Can the deep pain and division of racism ever be healed? And does the Christian faith play any role in the work of racial reconciliation?

Pastor Derwin Gray believes that if we rightly understand the message of grace through Jesus, we will see the image of God across all races and cultures, and embrace and promote a culture of love instead of a culture of hate.

In this special episode Pastor Derwin Gray of Transformation Church has a discussion with Shay and Lynn about the history of racism in America, its lasting impact, and the current need for ongoing reconciliation. Derwin’s book, How to Heal Our Racial Divide, proposes that “racial reconciliation is God’s idea”, and that the church should be a place that “isn’t colorblind, but color-blessed.”

This conversation covers topics like:

  • The significance of Martin Luther King Jr. and his powerful writings
  • The challenge of overcoming indifference and opposition to reconciliation
  • How racial trauma manifests in different generations
  • Teaching people to be "unoffendable in the gospel"
  • Encouragement for Christians to extend grace in difficult conversations.

Although the church should be a natural place for racial healing to occur, the reality is that barriers such as pride, fear, power and economics often prevent the church from taking the risk to love others when the cost seems too high. We appreciate Pastor Gray’s passion and insights on this important topic, as he calls us to see the beauty of diversity as part of God’s design and highlights the role we can play in helping people heal from racial trauma through empathy, compassion and understanding.

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.

]]> 2742 no The Trauma of War The residual trauma from war can have a lasting impact on veterans and their families. No one knows this better than Dan and Jo Slawski, founders of Guardian Hills Veterans Healing Center.  When Dan’s father returned from his service in World War II, he struggled to cope with the mental and emotional stress of post-war trauma. Dan experienced his father’s outbursts of rage and occasional disappearances as confusing and disruptive to family life. That didn’t deter Dan from joining the Air Force after college to help pay for his medical school, which was a positive life change for Dan and his wife Jo. Since that time, Dan’s active military service as well as his experience caring for orthopedic patients opened his eyes to the post-traumatic stress that veterans live with every day. After hearing many stories from POW’s, veterans and family members living with veterans who were suffering both physically and mentally, Dan and Jo knew their calling was to help veterans be restored to health and wholeness.  In this eye-opening episode, Shay Roush interviews Dan and Jo to discuss their work with Guardian Hills Veterans Healing Center, a facility dedicated to helping veterans recover from the physical, emotional, and relational injuries they often face after service. Located in the beautiful country of northern Missouri, Guardian Hills provides resources and support for veterans struggling with trauma, including post-traumatic stress (PTS) and moral injury. Many veterans don’t experience their first impact of post-traumatic stress until 11 years after service, and they often don’t have access to the resources needed for them to process the memories or stressors associated with their time in active duty. Their emotional and physical injuries are distressing, debilitating, and often lead to suicide as an alarming 17 veterans a day die by suicide around the country. You will be inspired and encouraged as you hear the Slawskis' vision for Guardian Hills, and the transformations that are occuring in veterans lives on a daily basis (as captured in this video).  If you or someone you love could benefit from the services offered at Guardian Hills or you want to learn more about the programs and educational therapies they offer, visit the Guardian Hills website where you can also purchase tickets for the upcoming annual banquet and auction on Saturday, March 8th at Cooper’s Ridge Event Center. For information about housing for veterans in Columbia, Missouri visit the Welcome Home website to learn about their vision for ending homelessness for veterans in our community. If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 19 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 117 With You in the Weeds The residual trauma from war can have a lasting impact on veterans and their families. The residual trauma from war can have a lasting impact on veterans and their families. No one knows this better than Dan and Jo Slawski, founders of Guardian Hills Veterans Healing Center.  When Dan’s father returned from his service in World War II, he struggled to cope with the mental and emotional stress of post-war trauma. Dan experienced his father’s outbursts of rage and occasional disappearances as confusing and disruptive to family life. That didn’t deter Dan from joining the Air Force after college to help pay for his medical school, which was a positive life change for Dan and his wife Jo. Since that time, Dan’s active military service as well as his experience caring for orthopedic patients opened his eyes to the post-traumatic stress that veterans live with every day. After hearing many stories from POW’s, veterans and family members living with veterans who were suffering both physically and mentally, Dan and Jo knew their calling was to help veterans be restored to health and wholeness.  In this eye-opening episode, Shay Roush interviews Dan and Jo to discuss their work with Guardian Hills Veterans Healing Center, a facility dedicated to helping veterans recover from the physical, emotional, and relational injuries they often face after service. Located in the beautiful country of northern Missouri, Guardian Hills provides resources and support for veterans struggling with trauma, including post-traumatic stress (PTS) and moral injury. Many veterans don’t experience their first impact of post-traumatic stress until 11 years after service, and they often don’t have access to the resources needed for them to process the memories or stressors associated with their time in active duty. Their emotional and physical injuries are distressing, debilitating, and often lead to suicide as an alarming 17 veterans a day die by suicide around the country. You will be inspired and encouraged as you hear the Slawskis' vision for Guardian Hills, and the transformations that are occuring in veterans lives on a daily basis (as captured in this video).  If you or someone you love could benefit from the services offered at Guardian Hills or you want to learn more about the programs and educational therapies they offer, visit the Guardian Hills website where you can also purchase tickets for the upcoming annual banquet and auction on Saturday, March 8th at Cooper’s Ridge Event Center. For information about housing for veterans in Columbia, Missouri visit the Welcome Home website to learn about their vision for ending homelessness for veterans in our community. If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  The residual trauma from war can have a lasting impact on veterans and their families. No one knows this better than Dan and Jo Slawski, founders of Guardian Hills Veterans Healing Center. 

When Dan’s father returned from his service in World War II, he struggled to cope with the mental and emotional stress of post-war trauma. Dan experienced his father’s outbursts of rage and occasional disappearances as confusing and disruptive to family life. That didn’t deter Dan from joining the Air Force after college to help pay for his medical school, which was a positive life change for Dan and his wife Jo.

Since that time, Dan’s active military service as well as his experience caring for orthopedic patients opened his eyes to the post-traumatic stress that veterans live with every day. After hearing many stories from POW’s, veterans and family members living with veterans who were suffering both physically and mentally, Dan and Jo knew their calling was to help veterans be restored to health and wholeness. 

In this eye-opening episode, Shay Roush interviews Dan and Jo to discuss their work with Guardian Hills Veterans Healing Center, a facility dedicated to helping veterans recover from the physical, emotional, and relational injuries they often face after service. Located in the beautiful country of northern Missouri, Guardian Hills provides resources and support for veterans struggling with trauma, including post-traumatic stress (PTS) and moral injury.

Many veterans don’t experience their first impact of post-traumatic stress until 11 years after service, and they often don’t have access to the resources needed for them to process the memories or stressors associated with their time in active duty. Their emotional and physical injuries are distressing, debilitating, and often lead to suicide as an alarming 17 veterans a day die by suicide around the country.

You will be inspired and encouraged as you hear the Slawskis' vision for Guardian Hills, and the transformations that are occuring in veterans lives on a daily basis (as captured in this video). 

If you or someone you love could benefit from the services offered at Guardian Hills or you want to learn more about the programs and educational therapies they offer, visit the Guardian Hills website where you can also purchase tickets for the upcoming annual banquet and auction on Saturday, March 8th at Cooper’s Ridge Event Center.

For information about housing for veterans in Columbia, Missouri visit the Welcome Home website to learn about their vision for ending homelessness for veterans in our community.

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 2657 no How Does EMDR Help You Heal From Trauma? There are several therapeutic interventions that can play a role in your recovery from trauma, and perhaps one of the most proven, effective and powerful methods is EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. But what does that mean and how does it work? As part of our "Surviving and Thriving After Trauma" series, Austin brings in special guest Dr. Mark Pfuetze, an EMDR trained therapist and Covenant Seminary professor, to explain how the body stores trauma and how EMDR can help you manage distressing memories, experiences, and thoughts that haunt you, shame you, or pull you from the present back into the past. After listening to this insightful interview, you will understand more about: How trauma affects your brain and body How EMDR works to repair those effects What to look for in an EMDR therapist if you decide that’s for you Online Christian Counseling Resource: Global Counseling Network If you have a question for Dr. Pfuetze you can email him at: Mark.Pfuetze@covenantseminary.edu  If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 12 Feb 2025 14:31:47 -0000 full 116 With You in the Weeds There are several therapeutic interventions that can play a role in your recovery from trauma, and perhaps one of the most proven, effective and powerful methods is EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. There are several therapeutic interventions that can play a role in your recovery from trauma, and perhaps one of the most proven, effective and powerful methods is EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. But what does that mean and how does it work? As part of our "Surviving and Thriving After Trauma" series, Austin brings in special guest Dr. Mark Pfuetze, an EMDR trained therapist and Covenant Seminary professor, to explain how the body stores trauma and how EMDR can help you manage distressing memories, experiences, and thoughts that haunt you, shame you, or pull you from the present back into the past. After listening to this insightful interview, you will understand more about: How trauma affects your brain and body How EMDR works to repair those effects What to look for in an EMDR therapist if you decide that’s for you Online Christian Counseling Resource: Global Counseling Network If you have a question for Dr. Pfuetze you can email him at: Mark.Pfuetze@covenantseminary.edu  If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  There are several therapeutic interventions that can play a role in your recovery from trauma, and perhaps one of the most proven, effective and powerful methods is EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. But what does that mean and how does it work?

As part of our "Surviving and Thriving After Trauma" series, Austin brings in special guest Dr. Mark Pfuetze, an EMDR trained therapist and Covenant Seminary professor, to explain how the body stores trauma and how EMDR can help you manage distressing memories, experiences, and thoughts that haunt you, shame you, or pull you from the present back into the past.

After listening to this insightful interview, you will understand more about:

  • How trauma affects your brain and body
  • How EMDR works to repair those effects
  • What to look for in an EMDR therapist if you decide that’s for you

Online Christian Counseling Resource: Global Counseling Network

If you have a question for Dr. Pfuetze you can email him at: Mark.Pfuetze@covenantseminary.edu 

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 3394 no Flipping the Script on Your Childhood Trauma Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”?  In this powerful episode of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series, Lynn Roush, LPC interviews her colleague and friend, Jules Lundberg, (trauma-informed PLPC & PhD student) who shares the compelling story of her journey as a trauma survivor and how she has worked hard to heal, thrive, and help others flip the script of their trauma. Together, Lynn and Jules provide listeners with practical steps for rewriting the shameful narrative that emerges from childhood trauma and how to begin breaking generational patterns of sin and dysfunction. Jules' story of resilience includes severe childhood abuse, domestic violence, divorce, infant loss, fostering and adoption. Lynn and Jules discuss: The challenges of naming dysfunction in your family The fear of being disconnected from love and belonging How to recognize and discern leaving an abusive relationship  How healing happens through relationships with safe people Understanding dissociation as a common response to childhood trauma 5 ways to flip the script on your childhood trauma If you are wanting to rewrite the narrative of your life, this episode will offer insight, hope and practical steps to help you change your internal dialogue and experience the transformation that occurs when you receive God’s invitation to be transformed by his love and truth. We want you to have hope that you can survive and thrive after trauma and embrace your identity as a beloved child of God. Bible Verse Highlight: Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” If you are in an abusive relationship and need support you can call the domestic abuse hotline: 1-800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit their website https://www.thehotline.org/ If you live in Columbia, Missouri, you can contact True North to receive education, counseling, and shelter from an abusive partner.  Connect with us! Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here! Wed, 05 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 115 With You in the Weeds Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”? Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”?  In this powerful episode of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series, Lynn Roush, LPC interviews her colleague and friend, Jules Lundberg, (trauma-informed PLPC & PhD student) who shares the compelling story of her journey as a trauma survivor and how she has worked hard to heal, thrive, and help others flip the script of their trauma. Together, Lynn and Jules provide listeners with practical steps for rewriting the shameful narrative that emerges from childhood trauma and how to begin breaking generational patterns of sin and dysfunction. Jules' story of resilience includes severe childhood abuse, domestic violence, divorce, infant loss, fostering and adoption. Lynn and Jules discuss: The challenges of naming dysfunction in your family The fear of being disconnected from love and belonging How to recognize and discern leaving an abusive relationship  How healing happens through relationships with safe people Understanding dissociation as a common response to childhood trauma 5 ways to flip the script on your childhood trauma If you are wanting to rewrite the narrative of your life, this episode will offer insight, hope and practical steps to help you change your internal dialogue and experience the transformation that occurs when you receive God’s invitation to be transformed by his love and truth. We want you to have hope that you can survive and thrive after trauma and embrace your identity as a beloved child of God. Bible Verse Highlight: Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” If you are in an abusive relationship and need support you can call the domestic abuse hotline: 1-800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit their website https://www.thehotline.org/ If you live in Columbia, Missouri, you can contact True North to receive education, counseling, and shelter from an abusive partner.  Connect with us! Instagram: @WithYouInTheWeeds Facebook: WithYouInTheWeeds Website: WithYouInTheWeeds.com Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here! Have you ever experienced a “complete and total loss” only to have it be flipped into a “complete and total life transformation”? 

In this powerful episode of our “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma” series, Lynn Roush, LPC interviews her colleague and friend, Jules Lundberg, (trauma-informed PLPC & PhD student) who shares the compelling story of her journey as a trauma survivor and how she has worked hard to heal, thrive, and help others flip the script of their trauma.

Together, Lynn and Jules provide listeners with practical steps for rewriting the shameful narrative that emerges from childhood trauma and how to begin breaking generational patterns of sin and dysfunction.

Jules' story of resilience includes severe childhood abuse, domestic violence, divorce, infant loss, fostering and adoption. Lynn and Jules discuss:

  1. The challenges of naming dysfunction in your family
  2. The fear of being disconnected from love and belonging
  3. How to recognize and discern leaving an abusive relationship 
  4. How healing happens through relationships with safe people
  5. Understanding dissociation as a common response to childhood trauma
  6. 5 ways to flip the script on your childhood trauma

If you are wanting to rewrite the narrative of your life, this episode will offer insight, hope and practical steps to help you change your internal dialogue and experience the transformation that occurs when you receive God’s invitation to be transformed by his love and truth. We want you to have hope that you can survive and thrive after trauma and embrace your identity as a beloved child of God.

Bible Verse Highlight:

Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

If you are in an abusive relationship and need support you can call the domestic abuse hotline: 1-800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit their website https://www.thehotline.org/

If you live in Columbia, Missouri, you can contact True North to receive education, counseling, and shelter from an abusive partner. 

Connect with us!

Are you a fan of WYITW? If so, please share this resource with a friend! Leave a review and a 5-star rating. Thanks for being here!

]]> 3466 no What Parents Need to Know About Trauma Are you facing a baffling, frustrating and emotionally intense struggle with your child?  Do you question everything you’re doing as a parent because your best efforts don’t seem to be working to change your child’s misbehavior? In this episode of our "Surviving and Thriving After Trauma" series, we tackle an increasingly important question: What do parents need to know about trauma?  Austin is joined by Kari Nietzel, a behavior analyst with over 14 years of experience working with families and children who have experienced trauma. Together, they explore how trauma impacts children, how it manifests in behavior, and how parents and caregivers can better understand and support their kids. Austin and Kari discuss: The difference between cultural perceptions and clinical definitions of trauma Trauma behavior vs. normal behavior The importance of understanding the "why" behind a child's behavior Examples of trauma responses Behavior as communication Teaching kids (and adults!) appropriate ways to express needs and emotions How to encourage parents and caregivers facing the challenge of parenting a child from trauma  Key Takeaways: Trauma is complex and manifests differently in each child. Behaviors are a form of communication that should be approached with curiosity. Parents can learn to focus on their child’s needs and seek appropriate strategies to help them thrive. We know you’ll be encouraged, comforted and equipped with parenting strategies through this conversation as you learn from Kari’s personal and clinical experiences.  Resources: Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors by Robyn Gobell The Connected Parent by Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls TBRI podcast Calm Parenting Podcast If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 29 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 114 With You in the Weeds Are you facing a baffling, frustrating and emotionally intense struggle with your child? Are you facing a baffling, frustrating and emotionally intense struggle with your child?  Do you question everything you’re doing as a parent because your best efforts don’t seem to be working to change your child’s misbehavior? In this episode of our "Surviving and Thriving After Trauma" series, we tackle an increasingly important question: What do parents need to know about trauma?  Austin is joined by Kari Nietzel, a behavior analyst with over 14 years of experience working with families and children who have experienced trauma. Together, they explore how trauma impacts children, how it manifests in behavior, and how parents and caregivers can better understand and support their kids. Austin and Kari discuss: The difference between cultural perceptions and clinical definitions of trauma Trauma behavior vs. normal behavior The importance of understanding the "why" behind a child's behavior Examples of trauma responses Behavior as communication Teaching kids (and adults!) appropriate ways to express needs and emotions How to encourage parents and caregivers facing the challenge of parenting a child from trauma  Key Takeaways: Trauma is complex and manifests differently in each child. Behaviors are a form of communication that should be approached with curiosity. Parents can learn to focus on their child’s needs and seek appropriate strategies to help them thrive. We know you’ll be encouraged, comforted and equipped with parenting strategies through this conversation as you learn from Kari’s personal and clinical experiences.  Resources: Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors by Robyn Gobell The Connected Parent by Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls TBRI podcast Calm Parenting Podcast If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Are you facing a baffling, frustrating and emotionally intense struggle with your child? 

Do you question everything you’re doing as a parent because your best efforts don’t seem to be working to change your child’s misbehavior?

In this episode of our "Surviving and Thriving After Trauma" series, we tackle an increasingly important question: What do parents need to know about trauma? 

Austin is joined by Kari Nietzel, a behavior analyst with over 14 years of experience working with families and children who have experienced trauma. Together, they explore how trauma impacts children, how it manifests in behavior, and how parents and caregivers can better understand and support their kids.

Austin and Kari discuss:

  • The difference between cultural perceptions and clinical definitions of trauma
  • Trauma behavior vs. normal behavior
  • The importance of understanding the "why" behind a child's behavior
  • Examples of trauma responses
  • Behavior as communication
  • Teaching kids (and adults!) appropriate ways to express needs and emotions
  • How to encourage parents and caregivers facing the challenge of parenting a child from trauma 

Key Takeaways:

  1. Trauma is complex and manifests differently in each child.
  2. Behaviors are a form of communication that should be approached with curiosity.
  3. Parents can learn to focus on their child’s needs and seek appropriate strategies to help them thrive.

We know you’ll be encouraged, comforted and equipped with parenting strategies through this conversation as you learn from Kari’s personal and clinical experiences. 

Resources:

Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors by Robyn Gobell

The Connected Parent by Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls

TBRI podcast

Calm Parenting Podcast

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 3173 no Looking for Hope When Your Health Fails with Lori Ann Wood In today’s episode, Lynn Roush, LPC, sits down with Lori Ann Wood, an inspiring author, speaker, and survivor of medical trauma. As part of our series on “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma,” we are delving into the challenges and lessons that come from facing health crises, and the shift that needs to occur from being a “fixer” to accepting that not everything in life can or will be solved. When a trip to urgent care led to a 2 week stay in the ICU as a critical care patient, Lori Ann Wood’s life went from predictable to precarious. Being diagnosed with end stage heart failure with an enlarged heart functioning at only 6%, Lori Ann was faced with a health crisis that would test her faith with an uncertain future. Lynn and Lori Ann discuss how medical crises disrupt not only your physical well-being but also create emotional, psychological and spiritual instability. When you receive a “forever diagnosis”, nothing seems normal anymore and everyone in the family is affected by the detour that occurs when you lose your health. Lori Ann’s journey of receiving a life-altering diagnosis and how she processed the feelings of failure, guilt and shame that come with chronic illness, will encourage and comfort anyone who can relate to the struggle to find hope when your heart - or health - fails. Divine Detour: The Path You’d Never Choose Can Lead to the Faith You’ve Always Wanted by Lori Ann Wood If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 22 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0000 full 113 With You in the Weeds In today’s episode, Lynn Roush, LPC, sits down with Lori Ann Wood, an inspiring author, speaker, and survivor of medical trauma. In today’s episode, Lynn Roush, LPC, sits down with Lori Ann Wood, an inspiring author, speaker, and survivor of medical trauma. As part of our series on “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma,” we are delving into the challenges and lessons that come from facing health crises, and the shift that needs to occur from being a “fixer” to accepting that not everything in life can or will be solved. When a trip to urgent care led to a 2 week stay in the ICU as a critical care patient, Lori Ann Wood’s life went from predictable to precarious. Being diagnosed with end stage heart failure with an enlarged heart functioning at only 6%, Lori Ann was faced with a health crisis that would test her faith with an uncertain future. Lynn and Lori Ann discuss how medical crises disrupt not only your physical well-being but also create emotional, psychological and spiritual instability. When you receive a “forever diagnosis”, nothing seems normal anymore and everyone in the family is affected by the detour that occurs when you lose your health. Lori Ann’s journey of receiving a life-altering diagnosis and how she processed the feelings of failure, guilt and shame that come with chronic illness, will encourage and comfort anyone who can relate to the struggle to find hope when your heart - or health - fails. Divine Detour: The Path You’d Never Choose Can Lead to the Faith You’ve Always Wanted by Lori Ann Wood If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  In today’s episode, Lynn Roush, LPC, sits down with Lori Ann Wood, an inspiring author, speaker, and survivor of medical trauma. As part of our series on “Surviving and Thriving After Trauma,” we are delving into the challenges and lessons that come from facing health crises, and the shift that needs to occur from being a “fixer” to accepting that not everything in life can or will be solved.

When a trip to urgent care led to a 2 week stay in the ICU as a critical care patient, Lori Ann Wood’s life went from predictable to precarious. Being diagnosed with end stage heart failure with an enlarged heart functioning at only 6%, Lori Ann was faced with a health crisis that would test her faith with an uncertain future.

Lynn and Lori Ann discuss how medical crises disrupt not only your physical well-being but also create emotional, psychological and spiritual instability. When you receive a “forever diagnosis”, nothing seems normal anymore and everyone in the family is affected by the detour that occurs when you lose your health.

Lori Ann’s journey of receiving a life-altering diagnosis and how she processed the feelings of failure, guilt and shame that come with chronic illness, will encourage and comfort anyone who can relate to the struggle to find hope when your heart - or health - fails.

Divine Detour: The Path You’d Never Choose Can Lead to the Faith You’ve Always Wanted by Lori Ann Wood

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 3173 no How Do I Heal From Trauma? The million dollar question our clients ask when it comes to trauma is: “How do I heal?”  In this episode, Austin, Lynn, and John continue their series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, with a deep dive into the key elements needed for healing. Trauma is any experience that overwhelms your ability to cope on your own and can stem from events like divorce, abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, health crises, betrayal and more. However, it’s not just the event itself that is disruptive, but the lingering emotional and mental impact that makes healing difficult. In this episode we cover key elements needed for healing: Ongoing Safety Self-Regulation skills Connecting with safe people Giving voice to your trauma Dismantling false narratives  Engaging with your story in light of God’s love and truth Although each person’s journey is unique, growth and recovery are possible with the right resources and a supportive community. This episode will guide you through how and why healing from trauma is possible, and provide the insight you need to move towards healing and hope. If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0000 full 112 With You in the Weeds The million dollar question our clients ask when it comes to trauma is: “How do I heal?” The million dollar question our clients ask when it comes to trauma is: “How do I heal?”  In this episode, Austin, Lynn, and John continue their series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, with a deep dive into the key elements needed for healing. Trauma is any experience that overwhelms your ability to cope on your own and can stem from events like divorce, abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, health crises, betrayal and more. However, it’s not just the event itself that is disruptive, but the lingering emotional and mental impact that makes healing difficult. In this episode we cover key elements needed for healing: Ongoing Safety Self-Regulation skills Connecting with safe people Giving voice to your trauma Dismantling false narratives  Engaging with your story in light of God’s love and truth Although each person’s journey is unique, growth and recovery are possible with the right resources and a supportive community. This episode will guide you through how and why healing from trauma is possible, and provide the insight you need to move towards healing and hope. If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  The million dollar question our clients ask when it comes to trauma is: “How do I heal?” 

In this episode, Austin, Lynn, and John continue their series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, with a deep dive into the key elements needed for healing.

Trauma is any experience that overwhelms your ability to cope on your own and can stem from events like divorce, abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, health crises, betrayal and more. However, it’s not just the event itself that is disruptive, but the lingering emotional and mental impact that makes healing difficult.

In this episode we cover key elements needed for healing:

  • Ongoing Safety
  • Self-Regulation skills
  • Connecting with safe people
  • Giving voice to your trauma
  • Dismantling false narratives 
  • Engaging with your story in light of God’s love and truth

Although each person’s journey is unique, growth and recovery are possible with the right resources and a supportive community. This episode will guide you through how and why healing from trauma is possible, and provide the insight you need to move towards healing and hope.

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 3146 no What is Trauma? In this foundational episode, we kick off our series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, by exploring what trauma truly is—and isn’t. As the term “trauma” becomes more prevalent in everyday culture, it’s essential to clarify its meaning, dispel myths, and offer tools for understanding and growth. Throughout this series, we want to bring clarity, validation, and encouragement to those navigating the complex impacts of trauma. While it’s true that trauma means different things to different people, John, Lynn and Austin will answer the following questions: What is trauma? What is the impact of trauma? What are some myths about trauma? What does the Bible say about trauma? Some of the impacts of trauma include: Emotional dysregulation  Self-protective walls to prevent future pain Internal fragmentation (compartmentalizing emotions) Defense mechanisms in relationships (rationalizing, blame-shifting, projecting) Coping mechanisms (numbing behaviors or perfectionism) Disconnection from the body  This episode will also dispel some common myths about trauma such as: Myth #1: Talking about trauma is a sign of weakness. Myth #2: We are fragile and can’t recover from hardship. Myth #3: Trauma affects everyone the same way. Myth #4: There’s an easy way to heal from trauma. The truth is that the Bible has a lot of say about trauma, using different words: suffering, hardship, distresses, trials, sorrow and brokenness. Using biblical realities along with psychological insight, this episode will provide essential understanding for those seeking healing from trauma.  Tune in to our next episode: “How do I Heal From Trauma?” and share this episode with someone who might benefit from a deeper understanding of trauma. Resources: Suffering and the Heart of God by Diane Langberg. Healing What’s Within by Chuck DeGroat. Try Softer by Aundi Kolber If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 08 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0000 full 111 With You in the Weeds In this foundational episode, we kick off our series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, by exploring what trauma truly is—and isn’t. In this foundational episode, we kick off our series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, by exploring what trauma truly is—and isn’t. As the term “trauma” becomes more prevalent in everyday culture, it’s essential to clarify its meaning, dispel myths, and offer tools for understanding and growth. Throughout this series, we want to bring clarity, validation, and encouragement to those navigating the complex impacts of trauma. While it’s true that trauma means different things to different people, John, Lynn and Austin will answer the following questions: What is trauma? What is the impact of trauma? What are some myths about trauma? What does the Bible say about trauma? Some of the impacts of trauma include: Emotional dysregulation  Self-protective walls to prevent future pain Internal fragmentation (compartmentalizing emotions) Defense mechanisms in relationships (rationalizing, blame-shifting, projecting) Coping mechanisms (numbing behaviors or perfectionism) Disconnection from the body  This episode will also dispel some common myths about trauma such as: Myth #1: Talking about trauma is a sign of weakness. Myth #2: We are fragile and can’t recover from hardship. Myth #3: Trauma affects everyone the same way. Myth #4: There’s an easy way to heal from trauma. The truth is that the Bible has a lot of say about trauma, using different words: suffering, hardship, distresses, trials, sorrow and brokenness. Using biblical realities along with psychological insight, this episode will provide essential understanding for those seeking healing from trauma.  Tune in to our next episode: “How do I Heal From Trauma?” and share this episode with someone who might benefit from a deeper understanding of trauma. Resources: Suffering and the Heart of God by Diane Langberg. Healing What’s Within by Chuck DeGroat. Try Softer by Aundi Kolber If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  In this foundational episode, we kick off our series, Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, by exploring what trauma truly is—and isn’t. As the term “trauma” becomes more prevalent in everyday culture, it’s essential to clarify its meaning, dispel myths, and offer tools for understanding and growth. Throughout this series, we want to bring clarity, validation, and encouragement to those navigating the complex impacts of trauma.

While it’s true that trauma means different things to different people, John, Lynn and Austin will answer the following questions:

  • What is trauma?
  • What is the impact of trauma?
  • What are some myths about trauma?
  • What does the Bible say about trauma?

Some of the impacts of trauma include:

  1. Emotional dysregulation 
  2. Self-protective walls to prevent future pain
  3. Internal fragmentation (compartmentalizing emotions)
  4. Defense mechanisms in relationships (rationalizing, blame-shifting, projecting)
  5. Coping mechanisms (numbing behaviors or perfectionism)
  6. Disconnection from the body 

This episode will also dispel some common myths about trauma such as:

  • Myth #1: Talking about trauma is a sign of weakness.
  • Myth #2: We are fragile and can’t recover from hardship.
  • Myth #3: Trauma affects everyone the same way.
  • Myth #4: There’s an easy way to heal from trauma.

The truth is that the Bible has a lot of say about trauma, using different words: suffering, hardship, distresses, trials, sorrow and brokenness. Using biblical realities along with psychological insight, this episode will provide essential understanding for those seeking healing from trauma. 

Tune in to our next episode: “How do I Heal From Trauma?” and share this episode with someone who might benefit from a deeper understanding of trauma.

Resources:

Suffering and the Heart of God by Diane Langberg.

Healing What’s Within by Chuck DeGroat.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 2865 no Jesus - Emmanuel - Is With You in the Weeds What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice? It’s easy to get caught up in cultural traditions and forget that the true meaning of Christmas is that God became flesh to dwell among us. Jesus entered into a world of darkness and declared: “I am the light of the world”. Who could make such a claim, and live a life of perfection to back it up? And what does that mean for you today? John and Shay explain the gospel message that God wants to be WITH YOU, and moves towards you in your sinfulness, darkness and brokenness. God took on flesh in the person of Jesus in order to identify with you in your suffering and to forgive your sins. Emmanuel means “God with us”, a comforting declaration that you are not alone in this world, you have a friend in Jesus. If you are looking for hope this Christmas season, this episode will comfort, encourage and awaken your heart to the beauty and wonder of what it means that Jesus is WITH YOU in the weeds of life. The WYITW team wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! You won’t want to miss our NEW SERIES that begins January 8th: Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, so stay tuned for more great content on topics you care about in 2025! If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0000 full 110 With You in the Weeds What is Christmas really about? What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice? It’s easy to get caught up in cultural traditions and forget that the true meaning of Christmas is that God became flesh to dwell among us. Jesus entered into a world of darkness and declared: “I am the light of the world”. Who could make such a claim, and live a life of perfection to back it up? And what does that mean for you today? John and Shay explain the gospel message that God wants to be WITH YOU, and moves towards you in your sinfulness, darkness and brokenness. God took on flesh in the person of Jesus in order to identify with you in your suffering and to forgive your sins. Emmanuel means “God with us”, a comforting declaration that you are not alone in this world, you have a friend in Jesus. If you are looking for hope this Christmas season, this episode will comfort, encourage and awaken your heart to the beauty and wonder of what it means that Jesus is WITH YOU in the weeds of life. The WYITW team wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! You won’t want to miss our NEW SERIES that begins January 8th: Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, so stay tuned for more great content on topics you care about in 2025! If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  What is Christmas really about? Is Jesus like the “elf on a shelf” toy that we play with once a year? Or is he like Santa, punishing those who are naughty and rewarding those who are nice?

It’s easy to get caught up in cultural traditions and forget that the true meaning of Christmas is that God became flesh to dwell among us. Jesus entered into a world of darkness and declared: “I am the light of the world”. Who could make such a claim, and live a life of perfection to back it up? And what does that mean for you today?

John and Shay explain the gospel message that God wants to be WITH YOU, and moves towards you in your sinfulness, darkness and brokenness. God took on flesh in the person of Jesus in order to identify with you in your suffering and to forgive your sins. Emmanuel means “God with us”, a comforting declaration that you are not alone in this world, you have a friend in Jesus.

If you are looking for hope this Christmas season, this episode will comfort, encourage and awaken your heart to the beauty and wonder of what it means that Jesus is WITH YOU in the weeds of life.

The WYITW team wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

You won’t want to miss our NEW SERIES that begins January 8th: Surviving and Thriving After Trauma, so stay tuned for more great content on topics you care about in 2025!

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 1956 no Managing Your Money Over the Holidays Have you heard of doom spending? It’s when you spend money you don’t have in order to cope with stress. Without considering the cost, you splurge on a shopping spree to find a little bit of happiness. We know that it’s tempting to do a little doom spending over the holidays, but what will happen when the credit card bills come around?  We want to help you think wisely and purposefully about your finances. So in this episode, we’ve brought in two knowledgeable guests to offer guidance on your holiday spending, personal budgeting and long term finance goals. Shay talks with financial planner Kevin Adam, and Molly Harville, long time instructor for the Financial Peace class taught at The Crossing. Both Kevin and Molly have helped many people create a plan to not only get out of debt, but also reach their financial goals. Shay, Kevin and Molly share their insights on topics such as: What does Jesus have to say about money and the temptation to be ruled by it? What does your financial upbringing have to do with decisions you’re making about your money today? How can you fight against envy in your life? How can you curb overspending around the holidays? Is it too late to start saving for your future? How can you teach your kids to make good decisions with money? The bottom line of this episode is: you don’t have to just cover your eyes and swipe the credit card! You can learn the principles behind wise spending so that you can take steps towards financial freedom and peace, even around the holidays. If you want to know how to sign up for the next Financial Peace class at The Crossing or have a question about your finances, email Molly Harville: molly.harville@thecrossingchurch.com  Book recommendations: Rich Dad Poor Dad The Psychology of Money If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Wed, 11 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0000 full 109 With You in the Weeds Have you heard of doom spending? It’s when you spend money you don’t have in order to cope with stress. Have you heard of doom spending? It’s when you spend money you don’t have in order to cope with stress. Without considering the cost, you splurge on a shopping spree to find a little bit of happiness. We know that it’s tempting to do a little doom spending over the holidays, but what will happen when the credit card bills come around?  We want to help you think wisely and purposefully about your finances. So in this episode, we’ve brought in two knowledgeable guests to offer guidance on your holiday spending, personal budgeting and long term finance goals. Shay talks with financial planner Kevin Adam, and Molly Harville, long time instructor for the Financial Peace class taught at The Crossing. Both Kevin and Molly have helped many people create a plan to not only get out of debt, but also reach their financial goals. Shay, Kevin and Molly share their insights on topics such as: What does Jesus have to say about money and the temptation to be ruled by it? What does your financial upbringing have to do with decisions you’re making about your money today? How can you fight against envy in your life? How can you curb overspending around the holidays? Is it too late to start saving for your future? How can you teach your kids to make good decisions with money? The bottom line of this episode is: you don’t have to just cover your eyes and swipe the credit card! You can learn the principles behind wise spending so that you can take steps towards financial freedom and peace, even around the holidays. If you want to know how to sign up for the next Financial Peace class at The Crossing or have a question about your finances, email Molly Harville: molly.harville@thecrossingchurch.com  Book recommendations: Rich Dad Poor Dad The Psychology of Money If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.  Have you heard of doom spending? It’s when you spend money you don’t have in order to cope with stress. Without considering the cost, you splurge on a shopping spree to find a little bit of happiness. We know that it’s tempting to do a little doom spending over the holidays, but what will happen when the credit card bills come around? 

We want to help you think wisely and purposefully about your finances. So in this episode, we’ve brought in two knowledgeable guests to offer guidance on your holiday spending, personal budgeting and long term finance goals. Shay talks with financial planner Kevin Adam, and Molly Harville, long time instructor for the Financial Peace class taught at The Crossing. Both Kevin and Molly have helped many people create a plan to not only get out of debt, but also reach their financial goals.

Shay, Kevin and Molly share their insights on topics such as:

  • What does Jesus have to say about money and the temptation to be ruled by it?
  • What does your financial upbringing have to do with decisions you’re making about your money today?
  • How can you fight against envy in your life?
  • How can you curb overspending around the holidays?
  • Is it too late to start saving for your future?
  • How can you teach your kids to make good decisions with money?

The bottom line of this episode is: you don’t have to just cover your eyes and swipe the credit card! You can learn the principles behind wise spending so that you can take steps towards financial freedom and peace, even around the holidays.

If you want to know how to sign up for the next Financial Peace class at The Crossing or have a question about your finances, email Molly Harville: molly.harville@thecrossingchurch.com 

Book recommendations:

Rich Dad Poor Dad

The Psychology of Money

If you enjoy listening to With You in the Weeds we’d love to hear from you! You can email us at withyouintheweeds@thecrossingchurch.com or leave us a review. For more great content from the team you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. 

]]> 3399 no Is it Really the Most Wonderful Time of the Year? The most beloved Christmas songs boast that it's the most wonderful time of the year, but is it really true?  As counselors, we know that what you see on the outside of people’s lives never tells the full story. Even the beautiful family Christmas card isn’t an accurate picture of reality. The truth is that there’s a lot of sadness and brokenness in this world, and it’s easy to push it away and not enter into it. It’s normal to want to numb yourself or avoid and gloss over the hurt.  In this episode John, Shay and Lynn acknowledge that the holidays can both be a time of levity and joy, but can also be a time where we are faced with hard realities. You may have recently lost a loved one, been given an unwanted health diagnosis, or are reeling from a painful breakup. Or maybe you're far away from family or friends and don't feel like celebrating over the holidays. This episode will help you manage the grief you may be experiencing as we discuss: The basic principles of grieving loss Ideas to honor the memory of a loved one Practical ways you can comfort someone who is hurting over the holidays The BEST gift you can give someone this Christmas - and it’s FREE!   Stay tuned for two more episodes in our “Keeping Your Sanity Over the Holidays” series! Wed, 04 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 108 With You in the Weeds The most beloved Christmas songs boast that it's the most wonderful time of the year, but is it really true? The most beloved Christmas songs boast that it's the most wonderful time of the year, but is it really true?  As counselors, we know that what you see on the outside of people’s lives never tells the full story. Even the beautiful family Christmas card isn’t an accurate picture of reality. The truth is that there’s a lot of sadness and brokenness in this world, and it’s easy to push it away and not enter into it. It’s normal to want to numb yourself or avoid and gloss over the hurt.  In this episode John, Shay and Lynn acknowledge that the holidays can both be a time of levity and joy, but can also be a time where we are faced with hard realities. You may have recently lost a loved one, been given an unwanted health diagnosis, or are reeling from a painful breakup. Or maybe you're far away from family or friends and don't feel like celebrating over the holidays. This episode will help you manage the grief you may be experiencing as we discuss: The basic principles of grieving loss Ideas to honor the memory of a loved one Practical ways you can comfort someone who is hurting over the holidays The BEST gift you can give someone this Christmas - and it’s FREE!   Stay tuned for two more episodes in our “Keeping Your Sanity Over the Holidays” series! The most beloved Christmas songs boast that it's the most wonderful time of the year, but is it really true? 

As counselors, we know that what you see on the outside of people’s lives never tells the full story. Even the beautiful family Christmas card isn’t an accurate picture of reality. The truth is that there’s a lot of sadness and brokenness in this world, and it’s easy to push it away and not enter into it. It’s normal to want to numb yourself or avoid and gloss over the hurt. 

In this episode John, Shay and Lynn acknowledge that the holidays can both be a time of levity and joy, but can also be a time where we are faced with hard realities. You may have recently lost a loved one, been given an unwanted health diagnosis, or are reeling from a painful breakup. Or maybe you're far away from family or friends and don't feel like celebrating over the holidays.

This episode will help you manage the grief you may be experiencing as we discuss:

  • The basic principles of grieving loss
  • Ideas to honor the memory of a loved one
  • Practical ways you can comfort someone who is hurting over the holidays
  • The BEST gift you can give someone this Christmas - and it’s FREE!

 

Stay tuned for two more episodes in our “Keeping Your Sanity Over the Holidays” series!

]]> 2392 no Parenting Over the Holidays Picture the scene: you’re sitting in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while chatting quietly with family, reminiscing about the joys of your upbringing and your favorite family moments. Meanwhile, your children sit cross legged on the ground together, silently and peacefully listening with rapt attention.  That’s how your holidays go as a family right? HA! If you’re like most people, the holiday season is filled less with peace, stillness, and cooperation and more with frantic, frustrating, and stressful situations. Or at best, a mix of the two. Travel, lack of routine and divided time with relatives and in-laws can make parenting extra challenging. Christian and Andrew Neuenswander, busy parents of 3 young children, can definitely relate to the messiness of gathering with family over the holidays (Pro tip: never leave the house without extra handi-wipes!). In this episode Austin interviews this busy family of 5 about practical tips and suggestions for how you can “keep your sanity” over the holidays as parents. When you finish listening, their insights and perspectives will help you apply these takeaways as you navigate tricky, fun, busy, and complex dynamics over the holiday season so that you can keep your sanity! Wed, 27 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 107 With You in the Weeds Picture the scene: you’re sitting in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while chatting quietly with family, reminiscing about the joys of your upbringing and your favorite family moments. Picture the scene: you’re sitting in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while chatting quietly with family, reminiscing about the joys of your upbringing and your favorite family moments. Meanwhile, your children sit cross legged on the ground together, silently and peacefully listening with rapt attention.  That’s how your holidays go as a family right? HA! If you’re like most people, the holiday season is filled less with peace, stillness, and cooperation and more with frantic, frustrating, and stressful situations. Or at best, a mix of the two. Travel, lack of routine and divided time with relatives and in-laws can make parenting extra challenging. Christian and Andrew Neuenswander, busy parents of 3 young children, can definitely relate to the messiness of gathering with family over the holidays (Pro tip: never leave the house without extra handi-wipes!). In this episode Austin interviews this busy family of 5 about practical tips and suggestions for how you can “keep your sanity” over the holidays as parents. When you finish listening, their insights and perspectives will help you apply these takeaways as you navigate tricky, fun, busy, and complex dynamics over the holiday season so that you can keep your sanity! Picture the scene: you’re sitting in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while chatting quietly with family, reminiscing about the joys of your upbringing and your favorite family moments. Meanwhile, your children sit cross legged on the ground together, silently and peacefully listening with rapt attention. 

That’s how your holidays go as a family right? HA! If you’re like most people, the holiday season is filled less with peace, stillness, and cooperation and more with frantic, frustrating, and stressful situations. Or at best, a mix of the two. Travel, lack of routine and divided time with relatives and in-laws can make parenting extra challenging.

Christian and Andrew Neuenswander, busy parents of 3 young children, can definitely relate to the messiness of gathering with family over the holidays (Pro tip: never leave the house without extra handi-wipes!). In this episode Austin interviews this busy family of 5 about practical tips and suggestions for how you can “keep your sanity” over the holidays as parents.

When you finish listening, their insights and perspectives will help you apply these takeaways as you navigate tricky, fun, busy, and complex dynamics over the holiday season so that you can keep your sanity!

]]> 3397 no Managing Holiday Family Drama Are you looking forward to being with your family over the holidays? Or are you dreading the next family get together?  Family drama can not only ruin the holiday spirit, it can create unnecessary hurt and division in a family that’s felt for years to come. John and Lynn designed this episode to help you identify the pain points that lead to family drama: Unrealistic expectations “Hot topic” conversations Complex family logistics Strained relationships This episode offers strategies to help you cope with potential family drama such as: Setting boundaries Practicing self-care Focusing on the positives Engaging in fun activities Taking breaks Accepting family imperfection Limiting alcohol consumption Seeking outside support Having your own family holiday This is the first episode in our new series “Keeping Your Sanity Over the Holidays”, and will allow you to prepare for (or avoid!) family drama and enjoy some holiday spirit. Wed, 20 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 106 With You in the Weeds Are you looking forward to being with your family over the holidays? Are you looking forward to being with your family over the holidays? Or are you dreading the next family get together?  Family drama can not only ruin the holiday spirit, it can create unnecessary hurt and division in a family that’s felt for years to come. John and Lynn designed this episode to help you identify the pain points that lead to family drama: Unrealistic expectations “Hot topic” conversations Complex family logistics Strained relationships This episode offers strategies to help you cope with potential family drama such as: Setting boundaries Practicing self-care Focusing on the positives Engaging in fun activities Taking breaks Accepting family imperfection Limiting alcohol consumption Seeking outside support Having your own family holiday This is the first episode in our new series “Keeping Your Sanity Over the Holidays”, and will allow you to prepare for (or avoid!) family drama and enjoy some holiday spirit. Are you looking forward to being with your family over the holidays? Or are you dreading the next family get together? 

Family drama can not only ruin the holiday spirit, it can create unnecessary hurt and division in a family that’s felt for years to come.

John and Lynn designed this episode to help you identify the pain points that lead to family drama:

  1. Unrealistic expectations
  2. “Hot topic” conversations
  3. Complex family logistics
  4. Strained relationships

This episode offers strategies to help you cope with potential family drama such as:

  1. Setting boundaries
  2. Practicing self-care
  3. Focusing on the positives
  4. Engaging in fun activities
  5. Taking breaks
  6. Accepting family imperfection
  7. Limiting alcohol consumption
  8. Seeking outside support
  9. Having your own family holiday

This is the first episode in our new series “Keeping Your Sanity Over the Holidays”, and will allow you to prepare for (or avoid!) family drama and enjoy some holiday spirit.

]]> 2248 no Single and Dating Again When relationships don’t work, there is often a sense of loss and heartache. Being single and longing for connection may mean you’re willing to compromise your standards in order to deal with loneliness or fulfill your need for intimacy. Our hookup culture promotes a consumer mindset, detached from emotion, that encourages you to get your needs met without considering spiritual, intellectual or emotional compatibility. But that can lead to unwise dating decisions and further pain. Shay and John share their own personal stories of painful breakups and the time it takes to heal when relationships don't work out. They offer wisdom and guidance when it comes to healing from divorce, how to know when you’re ready to date again, choosing wisely when it comes to finding a spouse and readiness for marriage. If you are single and seeking companionship, or mending a broken heart after a breakup or divorce, this episode will challenge you to consider the importance of not jumping too quickly into a relationship. Singleness is a good thing; a time for personal growth and reflection, and an opportunity to prepare your heart for whatever the future holds. American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by Lisa Wade If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 13 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 105 With You in the Weeds When relationships don’t work, there is often a sense of loss and heartache. When relationships don’t work, there is often a sense of loss and heartache. Being single and longing for connection may mean you’re willing to compromise your standards in order to deal with loneliness or fulfill your need for intimacy. Our hookup culture promotes a consumer mindset, detached from emotion, that encourages you to get your needs met without considering spiritual, intellectual or emotional compatibility. But that can lead to unwise dating decisions and further pain. Shay and John share their own personal stories of painful breakups and the time it takes to heal when relationships don't work out. They offer wisdom and guidance when it comes to healing from divorce, how to know when you’re ready to date again, choosing wisely when it comes to finding a spouse and readiness for marriage. If you are single and seeking companionship, or mending a broken heart after a breakup or divorce, this episode will challenge you to consider the importance of not jumping too quickly into a relationship. Singleness is a good thing; a time for personal growth and reflection, and an opportunity to prepare your heart for whatever the future holds. American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by Lisa Wade If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! When relationships don’t work, there is often a sense of loss and heartache. Being single and longing for connection may mean you’re willing to compromise your standards in order to deal with loneliness or fulfill your need for intimacy.


Our hookup culture promotes a consumer mindset, detached from emotion, that encourages you to get your needs met without considering spiritual, intellectual or emotional compatibility. But that can lead to unwise dating decisions and further pain.


Shay and John share their own personal stories of painful breakups and the time it takes to heal when relationships don't work out. They offer wisdom and guidance when it comes to healing from divorce, how to know when you’re ready to date again, choosing wisely when it comes to finding a spouse and readiness for marriage.


If you are single and seeking companionship, or mending a broken heart after a breakup or divorce, this episode will challenge you to consider the importance of not jumping too quickly into a relationship. Singleness is a good thing; a time for personal growth and reflection, and an opportunity to prepare your heart for whatever the future holds.


American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by Lisa Wade


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

]]> 3175 no The Road Away From Divorce Pt. 2 Are you concerned that you’re on the road to divorce? Maybe you and your spouse have fallen into unhealthy, frustrating, and toxic patterns that leave you wondering if your marriage can work. Now what?  In this episode, Lynn, John, and Austin discuss the following patterns you can practice on your own and as a couple that can change the dynamic of your relationship: On your own: Have a funeral for your marriage   Pray and journal Take the “Love Style” quiz Get a support team Evaluate your conflict patterns As a couple: Evaluate your conflict patterns Practice a soft start up Learn how to repair after conflict Take a break when needed This is hard work, and it won’t happen overnight. But if and when you, and your spouse, are able and willing (the key phrase!) to practice these together, we’re confident that you’ll be on the road to better and deeper connection. Book recommendations: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 06 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 104 With You in the Weeds Are you concerned that you’re on the road to divorce? Are you concerned that you’re on the road to divorce? Maybe you and your spouse have fallen into unhealthy, frustrating, and toxic patterns that leave you wondering if your marriage can work. Now what?  In this episode, Lynn, John, and Austin discuss the following patterns you can practice on your own and as a couple that can change the dynamic of your relationship: On your own: Have a funeral for your marriage   Pray and journal Take the “Love Style” quiz Get a support team Evaluate your conflict patterns As a couple: Evaluate your conflict patterns Practice a soft start up Learn how to repair after conflict Take a break when needed This is hard work, and it won’t happen overnight. But if and when you, and your spouse, are able and willing (the key phrase!) to practice these together, we’re confident that you’ll be on the road to better and deeper connection. Book recommendations: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Are you concerned that you’re on the road to divorce? Maybe you and your spouse have fallen into unhealthy, frustrating, and toxic patterns that leave you wondering if your marriage can work. Now what? 


In this episode, Lynn, John, and Austin discuss the following patterns you can practice on your own and as a couple that can change the dynamic of your relationship:


On your own:

  1. Have a funeral for your marriage  
  2. Pray and journal
  3. Take the “Love Style” quiz
  4. Get a support team
  5. Evaluate your conflict patterns


As a couple:

  1. Evaluate your conflict patterns
  2. Practice a soft start up
  3. Learn how to repair after conflict
  4. Take a break when needed


This is hard work, and it won’t happen overnight. But if and when you, and your spouse, are able and willing (the key phrase!) to practice these together, we’re confident that you’ll be on the road to better and deeper connection.


Book recommendations: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

]]> 1890 no The Road to Divorce Pt. 1 Unfortunately, you can’t talk about how to make marriage work without acknowledging divorce. The prevalence of divorce means that everyone has some experience with it and has been negatively impacted when a marriage doesn’t work out.   Because divorce is so common, we think it’s worth slowing down to ask: What happened to the marriage? Why didn’t things work out? What were the steps that led to divorce? Could divorce have been prevented? How has the family (and children in particular) been affected by divorce? In this episode, John, Lynn, and Austin discuss the following 3 topics regarding divorce: What the Bible has to say about divorce 4 specific patterns that let you know you might be on the road toward a divorce The tangible and harmful impacts that divorce can have on spouses and children When you listen to this episode, you’ll be more equipped to evaluate the signs and symptoms that indicate your marriage may be in trouble. And once you do that, you can figure out if it’s possible to get off that road to divorce, which is the next episode! So stay tuned… If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce Wed, 30 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 103 With You in the Weeds Unfortunately, you can’t talk about how to make marriage work without acknowledging divorce. Unfortunately, you can’t talk about how to make marriage work without acknowledging divorce. The prevalence of divorce means that everyone has some experience with it and has been negatively impacted when a marriage doesn’t work out.   Because divorce is so common, we think it’s worth slowing down to ask: What happened to the marriage? Why didn’t things work out? What were the steps that led to divorce? Could divorce have been prevented? How has the family (and children in particular) been affected by divorce? In this episode, John, Lynn, and Austin discuss the following 3 topics regarding divorce: What the Bible has to say about divorce 4 specific patterns that let you know you might be on the road toward a divorce The tangible and harmful impacts that divorce can have on spouses and children When you listen to this episode, you’ll be more equipped to evaluate the signs and symptoms that indicate your marriage may be in trouble. And once you do that, you can figure out if it’s possible to get off that road to divorce, which is the next episode! So stay tuned… If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce Unfortunately, you can’t talk about how to make marriage work without acknowledging divorce. The prevalence of divorce means that everyone has some experience with it and has been negatively impacted when a marriage doesn’t work out.  


Because divorce is so common, we think it’s worth slowing down to ask: What happened to the marriage? Why didn’t things work out? What were the steps that led to divorce? Could divorce have been prevented? How has the family (and children in particular) been affected by divorce?

In this episode, John, Lynn, and Austin discuss the following 3 topics regarding divorce:


  1. What the Bible has to say about divorce
  2. 4 specific patterns that let you know you might be on the road toward a divorce
  3. The tangible and harmful impacts that divorce can have on spouses and children


When you listen to this episode, you’ll be more equipped to evaluate the signs and symptoms that indicate your marriage may be in trouble. And once you do that, you can figure out if it’s possible to get off that road to divorce, which is the next episode! So stay tuned…


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter

at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce

]]> 2810 no BONUS EPISODE: "The Sex Talk You Never Got" with Sam Jolman Did you ever get “the talk?” Do you remember feeling encouraged and hopeful, or were you left feeling awkward, ashamed, confused and with more questions than answers?  Whatever you might have learned about sex when you were growing up, your view of sex has likely been shaped by our sexualized culture that reduces sex to body parts. At the same time, you also may have been influenced by a church culture that emphasizes “purity” as the sole focus of your spiritual maturity.  Yet both of these messages minimize or ignore the beauty and awe of sex that God intended for us to experience and can cause hurt and misunderstanding in marriage. For instance, men may view sex as something they need. And women may feel like they have to have sex with their husband so he won’t seek it somewhere else. In this transparent conversation, Austin and John explore these topics with Sam Jolman, author of The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. Sam lays out a captivating and beautiful view of sex and sexuality (especially for men) that we think will leave both men and women encouraged, equipped, and curious - all of which is needed to understand sex the way God intended it to be. [Please note, this content is for adult ears only. We recognize that sex is an important, yet sensitive topic, and can bring up a wide range of emotions based on your personal experiences. We encourage you to listen at your own pace, giving yourself time to process as needed.] If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Fri, 25 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 102 With You in the Weeds Did you ever get “the talk?” Did you ever get “the talk?” Do you remember feeling encouraged and hopeful, or were you left feeling awkward, ashamed, confused and with more questions than answers?  Whatever you might have learned about sex when you were growing up, your view of sex has likely been shaped by our sexualized culture that reduces sex to body parts. At the same time, you also may have been influenced by a church culture that emphasizes “purity” as the sole focus of your spiritual maturity.  Yet both of these messages minimize or ignore the beauty and awe of sex that God intended for us to experience and can cause hurt and misunderstanding in marriage. For instance, men may view sex as something they need. And women may feel like they have to have sex with their husband so he won’t seek it somewhere else. In this transparent conversation, Austin and John explore these topics with Sam Jolman, author of The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. Sam lays out a captivating and beautiful view of sex and sexuality (especially for men) that we think will leave both men and women encouraged, equipped, and curious - all of which is needed to understand sex the way God intended it to be. [Please note, this content is for adult ears only. We recognize that sex is an important, yet sensitive topic, and can bring up a wide range of emotions based on your personal experiences. We encourage you to listen at your own pace, giving yourself time to process as needed.] If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Did you ever get “the talk?” Do you remember feeling encouraged and hopeful, or were you left feeling awkward, ashamed, confused and with more questions than answers? 


Whatever you might have learned about sex when you were growing up, your view of sex has likely been shaped by our sexualized culture that reduces sex to body parts. At the same time, you also may have been influenced by a church culture that emphasizes “purity” as the sole focus of your spiritual maturity. 


Yet both of these messages minimize or ignore the beauty and awe of sex that God intended for us to experience and can cause hurt and misunderstanding in marriage. For instance, men may view sex as something they need. And women may feel like they have to have sex with their husband so he won’t seek it somewhere else.


In this transparent conversation, Austin and John explore these topics with Sam Jolman, author of The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. Sam lays out a captivating and beautiful view of sex and sexuality (especially for men) that we think will leave both men and women encouraged, equipped, and curious - all of which is needed to understand sex the way God intended it to be.


[Please note, this content is for adult ears only. We recognize that sex is an important, yet sensitive topic, and can bring up a wide range of emotions based on your personal experiences. We encourage you to listen at your own pace, giving yourself time to process as needed.]


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

]]> 3669 no Let's Talk About Sex This episode might make you blush, it might make you cringe, and it might make you laugh! But if you want to make your marriage work, you’re going to have to address your sex life. Intrigued yet? In this episode Austin and his wife Polly - yes Polly! - discuss: 3 things you NEED to know about sex 4 WRONG messages the enemy, the world, and your desires tell you about sex Specific takeaways for husbands, for wives, and couples in general We hope this episode helps you feel normalized, encouraged, and hopefully willing to address the topic of sex in your marriage wherever and however you need to.  [Please note, this content is for adult ears only. We recognize that sex is an important, yet sensitive topic, and can bring up a wide range of emotions based on your personal experiences. We encourage you to listen at your own pace, giving yourself time to process as needed.] If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 23 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 101 With You in the Weeds This episode might make you blush, it might make you cringe, and it might make you laugh! This episode might make you blush, it might make you cringe, and it might make you laugh! But if you want to make your marriage work, you’re going to have to address your sex life. Intrigued yet? In this episode Austin and his wife Polly - yes Polly! - discuss: 3 things you NEED to know about sex 4 WRONG messages the enemy, the world, and your desires tell you about sex Specific takeaways for husbands, for wives, and couples in general We hope this episode helps you feel normalized, encouraged, and hopefully willing to address the topic of sex in your marriage wherever and however you need to.  [Please note, this content is for adult ears only. We recognize that sex is an important, yet sensitive topic, and can bring up a wide range of emotions based on your personal experiences. We encourage you to listen at your own pace, giving yourself time to process as needed.] If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! This episode might make you blush, it might make you cringe, and it might make you laugh! But if you want to make your marriage work, you’re going to have to address your sex life. Intrigued yet?


In this episode Austin and his wife Polly - yes Polly! - discuss:

  • 3 things you NEED to know about sex
  • 4 WRONG messages the enemy, the world, and your desires tell you about sex
  • Specific takeaways for husbands, for wives, and couples in general


We hope this episode helps you feel normalized, encouraged, and hopefully willing to address the topic of sex in your marriage wherever and however you need to. 


[Please note, this content is for adult ears only. We recognize that sex is an important, yet sensitive topic, and can bring up a wide range of emotions based on your personal experiences. We encourage you to listen at your own pace, giving yourself time to process as needed.]


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

]]> 3166 no 4 Habits of a Healthy Marriage Do you know which habits will make the most positive and lasting impact on your marriage? Although ideas about what makes marriage work change from one generation to another, there are evidence-based habits that characterize a healthy marriage. In this episode, Shay and Lynn explore what toxic behaviors erode your relationships including criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. Using Gottman Institute research and biblical wisdom, this conversation sheds light on why these attitudes and actions do so much harm to your marriage. Then we discuss what 4 habits you’ll want to practice instead: Giving and receiving regular feedback Taking ownership Managing your emotions Cultivating humility and forgiveness There are many benefits to implementing these 4 habits into all of your relationships, and it’s never too late to start! This is a practical episode that will offer concrete changes you can work on now to create a stronger bond with your partner as you navigate the challenges of marriage.  If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 16 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 100 With You in the Weeds Do you know which habits will make the most positive and lasting impact on your marriage? Do you know which habits will make the most positive and lasting impact on your marriage? Although ideas about what makes marriage work change from one generation to another, there are evidence-based habits that characterize a healthy marriage. In this episode, Shay and Lynn explore what toxic behaviors erode your relationships including criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. Using Gottman Institute research and biblical wisdom, this conversation sheds light on why these attitudes and actions do so much harm to your marriage. Then we discuss what 4 habits you’ll want to practice instead: Giving and receiving regular feedback Taking ownership Managing your emotions Cultivating humility and forgiveness There are many benefits to implementing these 4 habits into all of your relationships, and it’s never too late to start! This is a practical episode that will offer concrete changes you can work on now to create a stronger bond with your partner as you navigate the challenges of marriage.  If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Do you know which habits will make the most positive and lasting impact on your marriage? Although ideas about what makes marriage work change from one generation to another, there are evidence-based habits that characterize a healthy marriage.


In this episode, Shay and Lynn explore what toxic behaviors erode your relationships including criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. Using Gottman Institute research and biblical wisdom, this conversation sheds light on why these attitudes and actions do so much harm to your marriage.


Then we discuss what 4 habits you’ll want to practice instead:

  • Giving and receiving regular feedback
  • Taking ownership
  • Managing your emotions
  • Cultivating humility and forgiveness

There are many benefits to implementing these 4 habits into all of your relationships, and it’s never too late to start! This is a practical episode that will offer concrete changes you can work on now to create a stronger bond with your partner as you navigate the challenges of marriage. 

If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

]]> 3090 no How Kids Can Build Up and Break Down Your Marriage Kids might be the best, and worst, thing for a marriage! On the one hand, they’re a “blessing from the Lord” (Ps. 127:3) and Jesus himself said “let the little children come to me” (Mt. 19:14). But on the other hand, they’re loud, messy, needy, don’t listen, and can (unintentionally) create barriers between spouses.  Being aware of both the joys and hardships of parenting as well as the impact your kids may have on your marriage is an important first step to preventing a future breakdown. In this episode Austin and Shay discuss the ways their kids have helped build up their own marriages. Then they acknowledge the following four ways that kids can break down marriage: Create isolation Create chronic stress Create disconnection Create anger, bitterness, and resentment towards your partner The great news is that there are several things you can do to build up your marriage in the midst of parenting stress! Austin and Shay recommend the following four practices: Plan regular date nights and getaways Schedule “state of the union” meetings Address “elephants” Express appreciation  If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 09 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 99 With You in the Weeds Kids might be the best, and worst, thing for a marriage! Kids might be the best, and worst, thing for a marriage! On the one hand, they’re a “blessing from the Lord” (Ps. 127:3) and Jesus himself said “let the little children come to me” (Mt. 19:14). But on the other hand, they’re loud, messy, needy, don’t listen, and can (unintentionally) create barriers between spouses.  Being aware of both the joys and hardships of parenting as well as the impact your kids may have on your marriage is an important first step to preventing a future breakdown. In this episode Austin and Shay discuss the ways their kids have helped build up their own marriages. Then they acknowledge the following four ways that kids can break down marriage: Create isolation Create chronic stress Create disconnection Create anger, bitterness, and resentment towards your partner The great news is that there are several things you can do to build up your marriage in the midst of parenting stress! Austin and Shay recommend the following four practices: Plan regular date nights and getaways Schedule “state of the union” meetings Address “elephants” Express appreciation  If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Kids might be the best, and worst, thing for a marriage! On the one hand, they’re a “blessing from the Lord” (Ps. 127:3) and Jesus himself said “let the little children come to me” (Mt. 19:14). But on the other hand, they’re loud, messy, needy, don’t listen, and can (unintentionally) create barriers between spouses. 


Being aware of both the joys and hardships of parenting as well as the impact your kids may have on your marriage is an important first step to preventing a future breakdown.

In this episode Austin and Shay discuss the ways their kids have helped build up their own marriages. Then they acknowledge the following four ways that kids can break down marriage:

  1. Create isolation
  2. Create chronic stress
  3. Create disconnection
  4. Create anger, bitterness, and resentment towards your partner


The great news is that there are several things you can do to build up your marriage in the midst of parenting stress! Austin and Shay recommend the following four practices:

  1. Plan regular date nights and getaways
  2. Schedule “state of the union” meetings
  3. Address “elephants”
  4. Express appreciation



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]]> 2715 no Boundaries: The Key to Trust Trust is not secured or defined by the vows you make on your wedding day. Those are serious and important commitments, but they will be empty words if your behavior isn’t trustworthy over a long period of time. Boundaries are so foundational to making marriage work, but they’re often associated with being mean or unloving. This conversation with John and Lynn highlights that without boundaries in marriage, you won’t know what your role is, you won’t be able to take responsibility for yourself, and you won’t be able to establish the deep bed of trust that God intended for your relationship. Understanding the role of boundaries and how they build trust will help you diagnose growth points in yourself and in your marriage, and reinforce the need to protect the marriage covenant by becoming worthy of your spouse’s trust. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 02 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 98 With You in the Weeds Trust is not secured or defined by the vows you make on your wedding day. Trust is not secured or defined by the vows you make on your wedding day. Those are serious and important commitments, but they will be empty words if your behavior isn’t trustworthy over a long period of time. Boundaries are so foundational to making marriage work, but they’re often associated with being mean or unloving. This conversation with John and Lynn highlights that without boundaries in marriage, you won’t know what your role is, you won’t be able to take responsibility for yourself, and you won’t be able to establish the deep bed of trust that God intended for your relationship. Understanding the role of boundaries and how they build trust will help you diagnose growth points in yourself and in your marriage, and reinforce the need to protect the marriage covenant by becoming worthy of your spouse’s trust. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Trust is not secured or defined by the vows you make on your wedding day. Those are serious and important commitments, but they will be empty words if your behavior isn’t trustworthy over a long period of time.


Boundaries are so foundational to making marriage work, but they’re often associated with being mean or unloving. This conversation with John and Lynn highlights that without boundaries in marriage, you won’t know what your role is, you won’t be able to take responsibility for yourself, and you won’t be able to establish the deep bed of trust that God intended for your relationship.


Understanding the role of boundaries and how they build trust will help you diagnose growth points in yourself and in your marriage, and reinforce the need to protect the marriage covenant by becoming worthy of your spouse’s trust.


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]]> 2689 no When Two Histories Collide Have you considered that the recent argument you had with your spouse began long before you ever got married? Walking down the aisle on your wedding day, you see the person that you love and are attracted to, but you may not realize that in that moment, two histories are colliding.  In effect, you are marrying your partner’s brain. This means that all of your (and their) previous experiences with love, closeness, connection, hurt, relational expectations and ways of seeking comfort are like pre-programmed software that you will both need to learn about. It also means that your history and everything that’s shaped you, is going to be operating in the background of all of your interactions.  The bottom line is that how you learned to love when you were growing up will be the way you love when you are married.  Using the 5 Love Styles from the book “How We Love” by Kay and Milan Yerkovich, Shay and Lynn discuss how each of these love styles developed in your childhood are impacting your relationship today. This enlightening conversation offers insight into the defensive patterns you might see in your marriage, and what to do when your two histories collide.  How We Love Love Style Quiz If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 25 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 97 With You in the Weeds Have you considered that the recent argument you had with your spouse began long before you ever got married? Have you considered that the recent argument you had with your spouse began long before you ever got married? Walking down the aisle on your wedding day, you see the person that you love and are attracted to, but you may not realize that in that moment, two histories are colliding.  In effect, you are marrying your partner’s brain. This means that all of your (and their) previous experiences with love, closeness, connection, hurt, relational expectations and ways of seeking comfort are like pre-programmed software that you will both need to learn about. It also means that your history and everything that’s shaped you, is going to be operating in the background of all of your interactions.  The bottom line is that how you learned to love when you were growing up will be the way you love when you are married.  Using the 5 Love Styles from the book “How We Love” by Kay and Milan Yerkovich, Shay and Lynn discuss how each of these love styles developed in your childhood are impacting your relationship today. This enlightening conversation offers insight into the defensive patterns you might see in your marriage, and what to do when your two histories collide.  How We Love Love Style Quiz If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

Have you considered that the recent argument you had with your spouse began long before you ever got married?


Walking down the aisle on your wedding day, you see the person that you love and are attracted to, but you may not realize that in that moment, two histories are colliding. 


In effect, you are marrying your partner’s brain. This means that all of your (and their) previous experiences with love, closeness, connection, hurt, relational expectations and ways of seeking comfort are like pre-programmed software that you will both need to learn about. It also means that your history and everything that’s shaped you, is going to be operating in the background of all of your interactions. 


The bottom line is that how you learned to love when you were growing up will be the way you love when you are married. 


Using the 5 Love Styles from the book “How We Love” by Kay and Milan Yerkovich, Shay and Lynn discuss how each of these love styles developed in your childhood are impacting your relationship today. This enlightening conversation offers insight into the defensive patterns you might see in your marriage, and what to do when your two histories collide. 


How We Love

Love Style Quiz


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]]> 2766 no How Do I REALLY Talk With My Spouse? When you’re hungry and ordering a hamburger at the drive thru, do you expect to have a deep, personal conversation with the person at the window? Probably not. More likely, you’re hoping to find that deeper emotional connection in your marriage with your spouse. But that can be harder to do than you think! In this episode, John and Austin explain that communication in marriage ranges from very shallow, to very deep. Most couples stay in the shallow end, afraid to take a deeper dive into emotional intimacy. The reason why it’s so difficult to have deep, meaningful conversations with your spouse is that it requires honesty and openness that feels very vulnerable and requires safety and trust. It takes patience, persistence and intentionality to build this trust over many years of marriage. However, we think that learning how to REALLY talk with your spouse is worth pursuing for several reasons: Knowing and being known will change who you are.   Cultivating a lifelong friendship will help your marriage endure life’s challenges. Deep emotional connection prepares you for a healthy sex life. You have a confidant to share your hopes, dreams, fears and worries with.  With sustained emotional intimacy you can believe the best about your partner. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 18 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 96 With You in the Weeds When you’re hungry and ordering a hamburger at the drive thru, do you expect to have a deep, personal conversation with the person at the window? Probably not. When you’re hungry and ordering a hamburger at the drive thru, do you expect to have a deep, personal conversation with the person at the window? Probably not. More likely, you’re hoping to find that deeper emotional connection in your marriage with your spouse. But that can be harder to do than you think! In this episode, John and Austin explain that communication in marriage ranges from very shallow, to very deep. Most couples stay in the shallow end, afraid to take a deeper dive into emotional intimacy. The reason why it’s so difficult to have deep, meaningful conversations with your spouse is that it requires honesty and openness that feels very vulnerable and requires safety and trust. It takes patience, persistence and intentionality to build this trust over many years of marriage. However, we think that learning how to REALLY talk with your spouse is worth pursuing for several reasons: Knowing and being known will change who you are.   Cultivating a lifelong friendship will help your marriage endure life’s challenges. Deep emotional connection prepares you for a healthy sex life. You have a confidant to share your hopes, dreams, fears and worries with.  With sustained emotional intimacy you can believe the best about your partner. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! When you’re hungry and ordering a hamburger at the drive thru, do you expect to have a deep, personal conversation with the person at the window? Probably not.


More likely, you’re hoping to find that deeper emotional connection in your marriage with your spouse. But that can be harder to do than you think!


In this episode, John and Austin explain that communication in marriage ranges from very shallow, to very deep. Most couples stay in the shallow end, afraid to take a deeper dive into emotional intimacy.


The reason why it’s so difficult to have deep, meaningful conversations with your spouse is that it requires honesty and openness that feels very vulnerable and requires safety and trust. It takes patience, persistence and intentionality to build this trust over many years of marriage.


However, we think that learning how to REALLY talk with your spouse is worth pursuing for several reasons:

  • Knowing and being known will change who you are.  
  • Cultivating a lifelong friendship will help your marriage endure life’s challenges.
  • Deep emotional connection prepares you for a healthy sex life.
  • You have a confidant to share your hopes, dreams, fears and worries with. 
  • With sustained emotional intimacy you can believe the best about your partner.

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]]> 3455 no Living in the Reality of Marriage Do you believe that all of your needs, longings and desires will be met when you get married? What might happen when your marriage falls short of your expectations?  While it’s normal to want the ideal marriage, living in a world that’s been infected by sin makes that impossible. If you’re not prepared for what marriage will be like with two flawed people, you may be disillusioned, disappointed and full of resentment when your relationship hits the “ordeal” of life. In this episode, John and Lynn discuss what it means to live in the reality of marriage, which means that you will not have all of your expectations met, you will not get your way all the time, and you will need to learn to live with a certain measure of incompletion in your marriage.  Hiding, blaming, shaming and judging may characterize your marriage until you’re ready to accept the limits of your relationship and grieve the loss of the “ideal” and so you can live in the “real deal”. This conversation will help you see that living in an imperfect relationship requires humility and divine grace. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 11 Sep 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 95 With You in the Weeds Do you believe that all of your needs, longings and desires will be met when you get married? Do you believe that all of your needs, longings and desires will be met when you get married? What might happen when your marriage falls short of your expectations?  While it’s normal to want the ideal marriage, living in a world that’s been infected by sin makes that impossible. If you’re not prepared for what marriage will be like with two flawed people, you may be disillusioned, disappointed and full of resentment when your relationship hits the “ordeal” of life. In this episode, John and Lynn discuss what it means to live in the reality of marriage, which means that you will not have all of your expectations met, you will not get your way all the time, and you will need to learn to live with a certain measure of incompletion in your marriage.  Hiding, blaming, shaming and judging may characterize your marriage until you’re ready to accept the limits of your relationship and grieve the loss of the “ideal” and so you can live in the “real deal”. This conversation will help you see that living in an imperfect relationship requires humility and divine grace. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Do you believe that all of your needs, longings and desires will be met when you get married? What might happen when your marriage falls short of your expectations? 


While it’s normal to want the ideal marriage, living in a world that’s been infected by sin makes that impossible. If you’re not prepared for what marriage will be like with two flawed people, you may be disillusioned, disappointed and full of resentment when your relationship hits the “ordeal” of life.


In this episode, John and Lynn discuss what it means to live in the reality of marriage, which means that you will not have all of your expectations met, you will not get your way all the time, and you will need to learn to live with a certain measure of incompletion in your marriage. 


Hiding, blaming, shaming and judging may characterize your marriage until you’re ready to accept the limits of your relationship and grieve the loss of the “ideal” and so you can live in the “real deal”. This conversation will help you see that living in an imperfect relationship requires humility and divine grace.


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]]> 3127 no Who Should I Marry? A commonly asked question is: “How do I know if I’m marrying the “right” person?”  As counselors, we’ve learned that the best way to help someone make the decision of who to marry is what we call: Informed Consent. If you’ve ever bought a car, or had surgery, or signed a lease to an apartment, it’s likely that you only moved ahead with that decision after signing an agreement of “Informed Consent”. That means that you were given fair warning about the possible defects, side effects or pre-existing conditions before you agreed to move ahead with the decision. Having this information meant that you would have realistic expectations of the outcomes if you said “yes”. Deciding who to marry is arguably one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life. So we think that the process of dating and engagement is a chance to obtain “Informed Consent”. That means that you are learning enough about the other person, and understanding their values, personality, dreams for the future, spiritual maturity and level of compatibility so that you know what you’re getting into when you get married.  In this episode, Austin and Lynn explain the purpose of dating, the 3 phases of the dating relationship, what to look for in a potential spouse, and red flags to be aware of as you consider whether or not to marry someone. The process of dating is your chance to learn as much as possible about the other person so you can visualize what marriage with this other person would be like. Although feelings of attraction are important, depth of character that’s demonstrated over a period of time is the best way to learn if your dating relationship is ready for marriage. Bonus: Lynn shares the best dating advice she ever received, and it may completely change the way you see your dating relationship! Book Recommendation: Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 04 Sep 2024 14:01:00 -0000 full 94 With You in the Weeds A commonly asked question is: “How do I know if I’m marrying the “right” person?” A commonly asked question is: “How do I know if I’m marrying the “right” person?”  As counselors, we’ve learned that the best way to help someone make the decision of who to marry is what we call: Informed Consent. If you’ve ever bought a car, or had surgery, or signed a lease to an apartment, it’s likely that you only moved ahead with that decision after signing an agreement of “Informed Consent”. That means that you were given fair warning about the possible defects, side effects or pre-existing conditions before you agreed to move ahead with the decision. Having this information meant that you would have realistic expectations of the outcomes if you said “yes”. Deciding who to marry is arguably one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life. So we think that the process of dating and engagement is a chance to obtain “Informed Consent”. That means that you are learning enough about the other person, and understanding their values, personality, dreams for the future, spiritual maturity and level of compatibility so that you know what you’re getting into when you get married.  In this episode, Austin and Lynn explain the purpose of dating, the 3 phases of the dating relationship, what to look for in a potential spouse, and red flags to be aware of as you consider whether or not to marry someone. The process of dating is your chance to learn as much as possible about the other person so you can visualize what marriage with this other person would be like. Although feelings of attraction are important, depth of character that’s demonstrated over a period of time is the best way to learn if your dating relationship is ready for marriage. Bonus: Lynn shares the best dating advice she ever received, and it may completely change the way you see your dating relationship! Book Recommendation: Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! A commonly asked question is: “How do I know if I’m marrying the “right” person?” 


As counselors, we’ve learned that the best way to help someone make the decision of who to marry is what we call: Informed Consent.


If you’ve ever bought a car, or had surgery, or signed a lease to an apartment, it’s likely that you only moved ahead with that decision after signing an agreement of “Informed Consent”. That means that you were given fair warning about the possible defects, side effects or pre-existing conditions before you agreed to move ahead with the decision. Having this information meant that you would have realistic expectations of the outcomes if you said “yes”.


Deciding who to marry is arguably one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life. So we think that the process of dating and engagement is a chance to obtain “Informed Consent”. That means that you are learning enough about the other person, and understanding their values, personality, dreams for the future, spiritual maturity and level of compatibility so that you know what you’re getting into when you get married. 


In this episode, Austin and Lynn explain the purpose of dating, the 3 phases of the dating relationship, what to look for in a potential spouse, and red flags to be aware of as you consider whether or not to marry someone. The process of dating is your chance to learn as much as possible about the other person so you can visualize what marriage with this other person would be like. Although feelings of attraction are important, depth of character that’s demonstrated over a period of time is the best way to learn if your dating relationship is ready for marriage.


Bonus: Lynn shares the best dating advice she ever received, and it may completely change the way you see your dating relationship!


Book Recommendation:

Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed


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]]> 3097 no "Helping Students Move Forward" with Laura Verkamp, MEd As a high school counselor, Laura Verkamp’s job is anything but boring. Between helping her students fill out college applications, checking in with students who are struggling, or challenging kids to come out of their comfort zone, Laura's invested in equipping them to move forward in life. Listen as Austin interviews Laura and asks about a “typical” day in the life of a school counselor (if there is one). Their discussion reveals what Laura sees as the top stressors in the lives of high school students today, and the unique ways that she equips them to keep moving forward even in the midst of challenges. What brings Laura the most joy in her job is seeing her students grow. From the first day of school, to the last day of class, one thing is certain, kids are longing to learn, mature, and overcome the obstacles that may be in their way.  You will appreciate the insight Laura has into the life of a high school student, and learn that the thing she loves most about them is, well, they’re just really cool kids! If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your favorite podcast player. Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more free Christian Counseling resources. Wed, 28 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 93 With You in the Weeds As a high school counselor, Laura Verkamp’s job is anything but boring. As a high school counselor, Laura Verkamp’s job is anything but boring. Between helping her students fill out college applications, checking in with students who are struggling, or challenging kids to come out of their comfort zone, Laura's invested in equipping them to move forward in life. Listen as Austin interviews Laura and asks about a “typical” day in the life of a school counselor (if there is one). Their discussion reveals what Laura sees as the top stressors in the lives of high school students today, and the unique ways that she equips them to keep moving forward even in the midst of challenges. What brings Laura the most joy in her job is seeing her students grow. From the first day of school, to the last day of class, one thing is certain, kids are longing to learn, mature, and overcome the obstacles that may be in their way.  You will appreciate the insight Laura has into the life of a high school student, and learn that the thing she loves most about them is, well, they’re just really cool kids! If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your favorite podcast player. Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more free Christian Counseling resources. As a high school counselor, Laura Verkamp’s job is anything but boring. Between helping her students fill out college applications, checking in with students who are struggling, or challenging kids to come out of their comfort zone, Laura's invested in equipping them to move forward in life.


Listen as Austin interviews Laura and asks about a “typical” day in the life of a school counselor (if there is one). Their discussion reveals what Laura sees as the top stressors in the lives of high school students today, and the unique ways that she equips them to keep moving forward even in the midst of challenges.


What brings Laura the most joy in her job is seeing her students grow. From the first day of school, to the last day of class, one thing is certain, kids are longing to learn, mature, and overcome the obstacles that may be in their way. 


You will appreciate the insight Laura has into the life of a high school student, and learn that the thing she loves most about them is, well, they’re just really cool kids!


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your favorite podcast player. Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more free Christian Counseling resources.



]]> 2481 no What Are Men Longing For? The state of men in our culture is worse than ever in terms of loneliness, shame, and “purpose void”. How did we get here? And why do so many men avoid church?  In this enlightening conversation, Shay Roush and Kermit Summerall, Pastors of Crossing Men, discuss what men are longing for: the good, the bad and the ugly. Shay and Kermit explain how many men feel trapped and defeated by the demands and pressures of life and are tempted to check out from reality and stop showing up where they’re needed most. The good news is that men are starting to come out of isolation and build authentic relationships based on honesty and trust. Men are investing in each other’s lives and working side by side towards a common mission, using their strengths to serve others and show up in their families and communities.  Studies even show that Christian men who are actively involved in church are the best husbands, the best fathers, and experience the highest levels of happiness. This episode will challenge and encourage you as you hear about the powerful ways God is moving in the lives of Crossing Men as they follow Jesus together! If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com.  Resources: The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes by Nancy Pearcey Podcast: The Aaron Renn Show - May 20, 2024 episode with Anthony Bradley - “Evangelicalism’s Man Problems” Wed, 21 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 92 With You in the Weeds The state of men in our culture is worse than ever in terms of loneliness, shame, and “purpose void” The state of men in our culture is worse than ever in terms of loneliness, shame, and “purpose void”. How did we get here? And why do so many men avoid church?  In this enlightening conversation, Shay Roush and Kermit Summerall, Pastors of Crossing Men, discuss what men are longing for: the good, the bad and the ugly. Shay and Kermit explain how many men feel trapped and defeated by the demands and pressures of life and are tempted to check out from reality and stop showing up where they’re needed most. The good news is that men are starting to come out of isolation and build authentic relationships based on honesty and trust. Men are investing in each other’s lives and working side by side towards a common mission, using their strengths to serve others and show up in their families and communities.  Studies even show that Christian men who are actively involved in church are the best husbands, the best fathers, and experience the highest levels of happiness. This episode will challenge and encourage you as you hear about the powerful ways God is moving in the lives of Crossing Men as they follow Jesus together! If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com.  Resources: The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes by Nancy Pearcey Podcast: The Aaron Renn Show - May 20, 2024 episode with Anthony Bradley - “Evangelicalism’s Man Problems” The state of men in our culture is worse than ever in terms of loneliness, shame, and “purpose void”. How did we get here? And why do so many men avoid church? 


In this enlightening conversation, Shay Roush and Kermit Summerall, Pastors of Crossing Men, discuss what men are longing for: the good, the bad and the ugly.


Shay and Kermit explain how many men feel trapped and defeated by the demands and pressures of life and are tempted to check out from reality and stop showing up where they’re needed most.


The good news is that men are starting to come out of isolation and build authentic relationships based on honesty and trust. Men are investing in each other’s lives and working side by side towards a common mission, using their strengths to serve others and show up in their families and communities. 


Studies even show that Christian men who are actively involved in church are the best husbands, the best fathers, and experience the highest levels of happiness. This episode will challenge and encourage you as you hear about the powerful ways God is moving in the lives of Crossing Men as they follow Jesus together!


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com. 


Resources:

The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes by Nancy Pearcey


Podcast: The Aaron Renn Show - May 20, 2024 episode with Anthony Bradley - “Evangelicalism’s Man Problems”



]]> 3018 no What Are Women Longing For? Women are wearing more hats than ever: student, professional, friend, sister, mother, daughter, and everything in between. Slowing down long enough to consider what it is you really long for is an opportunity to connect with parts of your soul that need attention. This conversation with Crossing Women director Jeannette Cover and counselor Lynn Roush is a chance to acknowledge that your longings for validation, affirmation, peace, confidence and hope are real and not going away.  This discussion also highlights that the encouragement we can offer each other as women is rare and hard to find. While our lives may look happy on the outside, many of us are carrying heavy burdens, and struggling to make sense of our current realities. In this episode you will learn how important it is to be honest about your thoughts and feelings so you can give and receive the encouragement you need to keep going in life. That’s why we want to offer you a 30-Day Encouragement Challenge as a way to connect you to the life of God and the people you care about most in your life. While you may not always have your longings met, you can provide encouragement to your friends and family who are also on the journey of waiting, hoping and trusting in God's promises even when life is hard. For practical ideas and ways to encourage others, download our FREE 30-Day Encouragement Challenge PDF at our website: withyouintheweeds.com, and start the challenge today! If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your favorite podcast player. Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more free Christian Counseling resources. Wed, 14 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 91 With You in the Weeds Women are wearing more hats than ever: student, professional, friend, sister, mother, daughter, and everything in between. Women are wearing more hats than ever: student, professional, friend, sister, mother, daughter, and everything in between. Slowing down long enough to consider what it is you really long for is an opportunity to connect with parts of your soul that need attention. This conversation with Crossing Women director Jeannette Cover and counselor Lynn Roush is a chance to acknowledge that your longings for validation, affirmation, peace, confidence and hope are real and not going away.  This discussion also highlights that the encouragement we can offer each other as women is rare and hard to find. While our lives may look happy on the outside, many of us are carrying heavy burdens, and struggling to make sense of our current realities. In this episode you will learn how important it is to be honest about your thoughts and feelings so you can give and receive the encouragement you need to keep going in life. That’s why we want to offer you a 30-Day Encouragement Challenge as a way to connect you to the life of God and the people you care about most in your life. While you may not always have your longings met, you can provide encouragement to your friends and family who are also on the journey of waiting, hoping and trusting in God's promises even when life is hard. For practical ideas and ways to encourage others, download our FREE 30-Day Encouragement Challenge PDF at our website: withyouintheweeds.com, and start the challenge today! If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your favorite podcast player. Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more free Christian Counseling resources. Women are wearing more hats than ever: student, professional, friend, sister, mother, daughter, and everything in between. Slowing down long enough to consider what it is you really long for is an opportunity to connect with parts of your soul that need attention.


This conversation with Crossing Women director Jeannette Cover and counselor Lynn Roush is a chance to acknowledge that your longings for validation, affirmation, peace, confidence and hope are real and not going away. 


This discussion also highlights that the encouragement we can offer each other as women is rare and hard to find. While our lives may look happy on the outside, many of us are carrying heavy burdens, and struggling to make sense of our current realities. In this episode you will learn how important it is to be honest about your thoughts and feelings so you can give and receive the encouragement you need to keep going in life.


That’s why we want to offer you a 30-Day Encouragement Challenge as a way to connect you to the life of God and the people you care about most in your life. While you may not always have your longings met, you can provide encouragement to your friends and family who are also on the journey of waiting, hoping and trusting in God's promises even when life is hard.


For practical ideas and ways to encourage others, download our FREE 30-Day Encouragement Challenge PDF at our website: withyouintheweeds.com, and start the challenge today!


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your favorite podcast player. Follow us on FB & IG @withyouintheweeds and subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more free Christian Counseling resources.


]]> 3143 no What Are Mid-Lifers Longing For? Whatever control you believed you had over how your life would turn out is going to be challenged when you reach midlife. Also known as the “crunch” years, research on levels of happiness in midlife suggests that it can be the most dissatisfying life season. Spanning the ages of 35-64, midlife is a time of raising and launching kids, reaching (or not reaching) your professional goals, defining your important relationships and watching your parents age. To say that midlife is a stressful time would be an understatement. Many of the hopes and ideals that you believed would come true may be met with disillusion and disappointment when you realize that your life isn't turning out as you had planned. In midlife, your longing for control is overshadowed by powerlessness as you slowly lose friendships, manage health issues and experience the pain of regret.  The temptation in midlife is to checkout, numb, or avoid painful realities, while also pull away from close relationships. Yet there is much spiritual growth happening in midlife that is an opportunity for deep relational connection with God and others.  In this episode, Crossing Small Group directors Ryan and Kelley Wampler discuss with John the unique perspective that midlife brings, and the new longings that come when you realize that life is fleeting. John, Kelley and Ryan share the most important thing you shouldn’t neglect during the business of midlife, as well as highlight the deep spiritual treasures that are in store when you surrender to God the things you can’t control. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content! Wed, 07 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 90 With You in the Weeds Whatever control you believed you had over how your life would turn out is going to be challenged when you reach midlife. Whatever control you believed you had over how your life would turn out is going to be challenged when you reach midlife. Also known as the “crunch” years, research on levels of happiness in midlife suggests that it can be the most dissatisfying life season. Spanning the ages of 35-64, midlife is a time of raising and launching kids, reaching (or not reaching) your professional goals, defining your important relationships and watching your parents age. To say that midlife is a stressful time would be an understatement. Many of the hopes and ideals that you believed would come true may be met with disillusion and disappointment when you realize that your life isn't turning out as you had planned. In midlife, your longing for control is overshadowed by powerlessness as you slowly lose friendships, manage health issues and experience the pain of regret.  The temptation in midlife is to checkout, numb, or avoid painful realities, while also pull away from close relationships. Yet there is much spiritual growth happening in midlife that is an opportunity for deep relational connection with God and others.  In this episode, Crossing Small Group directors Ryan and Kelley Wampler discuss with John the unique perspective that midlife brings, and the new longings that come when you realize that life is fleeting. John, Kelley and Ryan share the most important thing you shouldn’t neglect during the business of midlife, as well as highlight the deep spiritual treasures that are in store when you surrender to God the things you can’t control. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content! Whatever control you believed you had over how your life would turn out is going to be challenged when you reach midlife. Also known as the “crunch” years, research on levels of happiness in midlife suggests that it can be the most dissatisfying life season.


Spanning the ages of 35-64, midlife is a time of raising and launching kids, reaching (or not reaching) your professional goals, defining your important relationships and watching your parents age. To say that midlife is a stressful time would be an understatement.


Many of the hopes and ideals that you believed would come true may be met with disillusion and disappointment when you realize that your life isn't turning out as you had planned. In midlife, your longing for control is overshadowed by powerlessness as you slowly lose friendships, manage health issues and experience the pain of regret. 


The temptation in midlife is to checkout, numb, or avoid painful realities, while also pull away from close relationships. Yet there is much spiritual growth happening in midlife that is an opportunity for deep relational connection with God and others.


 In this episode, Crossing Small Group directors Ryan and Kelley Wampler discuss with John the unique perspective that midlife brings, and the new longings that come when you realize that life is fleeting.


John, Kelley and Ryan share the most important thing you shouldn’t neglect during the business of midlife, as well as highlight the deep spiritual treasures that are in store when you surrender to God the things you can’t control.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content!

]]> 2550 no What Are 20’s Longing For? The 20’s is a time of transition from college to adulting, requiring tenacity and adaptation. It is also a time of making big decisions about career, relationships and establishing yourself in the world. In your 20’s the weightiness of life is pressing in, while the sharp edges of reality are becoming more pronounced. As “digital natives”, 20’s don’t know life apart from screens, social media, texting and the internet. Although more connected than ever, 20’s are finding that real and meaningful relationships are harder to come by. This makes dealing with the pressures and expectations of this season of life feel even more isolating and overwhelming.  Ever present is the lure of the “good life” as procured on social media: the best vacation, the most extravagant reveal party, the perfect latte…20’s are searching for the good things in life while often struggling to tolerate anything that challenges their ideals. What may surprise you is that 20's are open, curious, teachable and hungry for authenticity, real community and practical wisdom for everyday life. That’s what makes this conversation with Lynn Roush and Crossing 20’s directors Nathan Tiemeyer and Colleen Luley so interesting. As 20’s are coming of age, they’re finding out that the source of the good life doesn’t come from today’s digital landscape, but from the ancient teachings of Jesus who points to where true life is found. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content! Wed, 31 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 89 With You in the Weeds The 20’s is a time of transition from college to adulting, requiring tenacity and adaptation. The 20’s is a time of transition from college to adulting, requiring tenacity and adaptation. It is also a time of making big decisions about career, relationships and establishing yourself in the world. In your 20’s the weightiness of life is pressing in, while the sharp edges of reality are becoming more pronounced. As “digital natives”, 20’s don’t know life apart from screens, social media, texting and the internet. Although more connected than ever, 20’s are finding that real and meaningful relationships are harder to come by. This makes dealing with the pressures and expectations of this season of life feel even more isolating and overwhelming.  Ever present is the lure of the “good life” as procured on social media: the best vacation, the most extravagant reveal party, the perfect latte…20’s are searching for the good things in life while often struggling to tolerate anything that challenges their ideals. What may surprise you is that 20's are open, curious, teachable and hungry for authenticity, real community and practical wisdom for everyday life. That’s what makes this conversation with Lynn Roush and Crossing 20’s directors Nathan Tiemeyer and Colleen Luley so interesting. As 20’s are coming of age, they’re finding out that the source of the good life doesn’t come from today’s digital landscape, but from the ancient teachings of Jesus who points to where true life is found. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content! The 20’s is a time of transition from college to adulting, requiring tenacity and adaptation. It is also a time of making big decisions about career, relationships and establishing yourself in the world. In your 20’s the weightiness of life is pressing in, while the sharp edges of reality are becoming more pronounced.


As “digital natives”, 20’s don’t know life apart from screens, social media, texting and the internet. Although more connected than ever, 20’s are finding that real and meaningful relationships are harder to come by. This makes dealing with the pressures and expectations of this season of life feel even more isolating and overwhelming. 


Ever present is the lure of the “good life” as procured on social media: the best vacation, the most extravagant reveal party, the perfect latte…20’s are searching for the good things in life while often struggling to tolerate anything that challenges their ideals.


What may surprise you is that 20's are open, curious, teachable and hungry for authenticity, real community and practical wisdom for everyday life. That’s what makes this conversation with Lynn Roush and Crossing 20’s directors Nathan Tiemeyer and Colleen Luley so interesting.


As 20’s are coming of age, they’re finding out that the source of the good life doesn’t come from today’s digital landscape, but from the ancient teachings of Jesus who points to where true life is found.

If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content!


]]> 2941 no What Are College Students Longing For? Whether you’re in college, work with, or are parenting a college student, this conversation with Austin, Kyle and Emilee will open your eyes as to why Gen Z is a generation worth investing in. Their curiosity and openness is evidence that God is doing something incredible in the lives of college students around the world. Gen Z is known as the loneliest and least religious generation of all time. Plagued by anxiety and isolation, college students are facing unique pressures and are looking for the pieces to the puzzle of life. Kyle Richter and Emilee McEnery, leaders of The Crossing college ministry, Veritas, see these obstacles as opportunities to introduce Gen Z to a relationship with Jesus and a chance to help them find their purpose in the world. The takeaway? “Don’t sleep on Gen Z!” If you want to learn more about college students, check out these resources - especially the article that Kyle and Emilee wrote for The Gospel Coalition. Meet Gen Z Gen Z’s Biggest Obstacles May Be Their Greatest Gospel Opportunities: Kyle Richter & Emilee McEnery Find Your People The Great DeChurching If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content! Wed, 24 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 88 With You in the Weeds Whether you’re in college, work with, or are parenting a college student, this conversation with Austin, Kyle and Emilee will open your eyes as to why Gen Z is a generation worth investing in. Whether you’re in college, work with, or are parenting a college student, this conversation with Austin, Kyle and Emilee will open your eyes as to why Gen Z is a generation worth investing in. Their curiosity and openness is evidence that God is doing something incredible in the lives of college students around the world. Gen Z is known as the loneliest and least religious generation of all time. Plagued by anxiety and isolation, college students are facing unique pressures and are looking for the pieces to the puzzle of life. Kyle Richter and Emilee McEnery, leaders of The Crossing college ministry, Veritas, see these obstacles as opportunities to introduce Gen Z to a relationship with Jesus and a chance to help them find their purpose in the world. The takeaway? “Don’t sleep on Gen Z!” If you want to learn more about college students, check out these resources - especially the article that Kyle and Emilee wrote for The Gospel Coalition. Meet Gen Z Gen Z’s Biggest Obstacles May Be Their Greatest Gospel Opportunities: Kyle Richter & Emilee McEnery Find Your People The Great DeChurching If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content! Whether you’re in college, work with, or are parenting a college student, this conversation with Austin, Kyle and Emilee will open your eyes as to why Gen Z is a generation worth investing in. Their curiosity and openness is evidence that God is doing something incredible in the lives of college students around the world.


Gen Z is known as the loneliest and least religious generation of all time. Plagued by anxiety and isolation, college students are facing unique pressures and are looking for the pieces to the puzzle of life.


Kyle Richter and Emilee McEnery, leaders of The Crossing college ministry, Veritas, see these obstacles as opportunities to introduce Gen Z to a relationship with Jesus and a chance to help them find their purpose in the world.


The takeaway? “Don’t sleep on Gen Z!”


If you want to learn more about college students, check out these resources - especially the article that Kyle and Emilee wrote for The Gospel Coalition.

Meet Gen Z

Gen Z’s Biggest Obstacles May Be Their Greatest Gospel Opportunities: Kyle Richter & Emilee McEnery

Find Your People

The Great DeChurching


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow @withyouintheweeds on IG & FB for more great content!

]]> 2969 no What is Professional NFL Cheerleader Caroline Sundvold Longing For? We were so excited to have Caroline Sundvold in the studio with us to share her story as part of our "What Are You Longing For" series! If you’ve browsed Netflix recently, you might have noticed a docuseries called “America’s Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders” at the top of the most-watched list. Featured in the documentary is Missouri’s own Caroline Sundvold, a DCC veteran who has since retired from the squad after five years. In the docuseries, Caroline shares the difficulty of transitioning out of life as a DCC while recovering from surgery and figuring out her future. In this episode, Lynn talks with Caroline about her life during and after her cheerleading days, including overcoming health challenges, navigating the pressures of competition, and letting go of the burden to be ‘perfect’.  She also explains how listening to the With You in the Weeds podcast has been a source of insight and inspiration to her as she’s worked through disappointment, life transitions and processing her emotions.  You’ll be encouraged by Caroline’s honesty and authenticity as she shares how she takes care of her mental, emotional and spiritual health by pursuing her deepest longing: peace. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 17 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 87 With You in the Weeds We were so excited to have Caroline Sundvold in the studio with us to share her story as part of our "What Are You Longing For" series! We were so excited to have Caroline Sundvold in the studio with us to share her story as part of our "What Are You Longing For" series! If you’ve browsed Netflix recently, you might have noticed a docuseries called “America’s Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders” at the top of the most-watched list. Featured in the documentary is Missouri’s own Caroline Sundvold, a DCC veteran who has since retired from the squad after five years. In the docuseries, Caroline shares the difficulty of transitioning out of life as a DCC while recovering from surgery and figuring out her future. In this episode, Lynn talks with Caroline about her life during and after her cheerleading days, including overcoming health challenges, navigating the pressures of competition, and letting go of the burden to be ‘perfect’.  She also explains how listening to the With You in the Weeds podcast has been a source of insight and inspiration to her as she’s worked through disappointment, life transitions and processing her emotions.  You’ll be encouraged by Caroline’s honesty and authenticity as she shares how she takes care of her mental, emotional and spiritual health by pursuing her deepest longing: peace. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! We were so excited to have Caroline Sundvold in the studio with us to share her story as part of our "What Are You Longing For" series!


If you’ve browsed Netflix recently, you might have noticed a docuseries called “America’s Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders” at the top of the most-watched list. Featured in the documentary is Missouri’s own Caroline Sundvold, a DCC veteran who has since retired from the squad after five years.


In the docuseries, Caroline shares the difficulty of transitioning out of life as a DCC while recovering from surgery and figuring out her future. In this episode, Lynn talks with Caroline about her life during and after her cheerleading days, including overcoming health challenges, navigating the pressures of competition, and letting go of the burden to be ‘perfect’. 


She also explains how listening to the With You in the Weeds podcast has been a source of insight and inspiration to her as she’s worked through disappointment, life transitions and processing her emotions. 


You’ll be encouraged by Caroline’s honesty and authenticity as she shares how she takes care of her mental, emotional and spiritual health by pursuing her deepest longing: peace.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!


]]> 3021 no What Are Teens Longing For? If you’ve been trying to read the mind of a teenager and still feel perplexed, today’s episode is for you!  Today we ask: What does your teen really want? What are some challenges and opportunities they are facing?  How can you love your teen when they push you away?  What can you do to encourage their growth? Austin asks all of these questions and more to the co-directors of Crossing Students - Jeff Parrett and Anna West. You’ll learn that teens are asking deep questions about identity, belonging and purpose that can be a catalyst for great conversations. This episode is full of wisdom and resources from two talented people who work with teens every day, so we know you’ll be encouraged as you listen! Book Recommendations: 3 Big Questions That Change Every Teenager Parenting With Hope Habits of the Household The Worry Free Parent If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! Wed, 10 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 86 With You in the Weeds If you’ve been trying to read the mind of a teenager and still feel perplexed, today’s episode is for you! If you’ve been trying to read the mind of a teenager and still feel perplexed, today’s episode is for you!  Today we ask: What does your teen really want? What are some challenges and opportunities they are facing?  How can you love your teen when they push you away?  What can you do to encourage their growth? Austin asks all of these questions and more to the co-directors of Crossing Students - Jeff Parrett and Anna West. You’ll learn that teens are asking deep questions about identity, belonging and purpose that can be a catalyst for great conversations. This episode is full of wisdom and resources from two talented people who work with teens every day, so we know you’ll be encouraged as you listen! Book Recommendations: 3 Big Questions That Change Every Teenager Parenting With Hope Habits of the Household The Worry Free Parent If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds! If you’ve been trying to read the mind of a teenager and still feel perplexed, today’s episode is for you! 


Today we ask:

What does your teen really want?

What are some challenges and opportunities they are facing? 

How can you love your teen when they push you away? 

What can you do to encourage their growth?


Austin asks all of these questions and more to the co-directors of Crossing Students - Jeff Parrett and Anna West. You’ll learn that teens are asking deep questions about identity, belonging and purpose that can be a catalyst for great conversations. This episode is full of wisdom and resources from two talented people who work with teens every day, so we know you’ll be encouraged as you listen!


Book Recommendations:

3 Big Questions That Change Every Teenager

Parenting With Hope

Habits of the Household

The Worry Free Parent


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!







]]> 2902 no "It's OK to Fall Apart" with Samantha Miller Childhood cancer forced Samantha to face reality at an early age, but working through the myriad of emotions that come with hardship has been an ongoing process in her life. Giving herself permission to fall apart and “not be ok” was just one thing she learned through counseling. Battling cancer, infertility, infant loss and the journey of adoption are just a few elements of Samantha’s story that will open your heart. In this special episode with Austin, she vulnerably shares her struggle with resting in Jesus when she’s tempted to control everything around her. If you’ve ever wondered, “should I go to counseling?”, this conversation will open up a whole new world for you. Not shying away from hard topics, Austin and Samantha discuss how counseling can be a way to work through life’s hardships, learn tools for healthy coping, and get comfortable with negative emotions.  To hear more from Samantha, find her podcast Going There, where she invites women to get away from shallow conversations and go deep into their friendships and relationship with God. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 03 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 85 With You in the Weeds Childhood cancer forced Samantha to face reality at an early age, but working through the myriad of emotions that come with hardship has been an ongoing process in her life. Childhood cancer forced Samantha to face reality at an early age, but working through the myriad of emotions that come with hardship has been an ongoing process in her life. Giving herself permission to fall apart and “not be ok” was just one thing she learned through counseling. Battling cancer, infertility, infant loss and the journey of adoption are just a few elements of Samantha’s story that will open your heart. In this special episode with Austin, she vulnerably shares her struggle with resting in Jesus when she’s tempted to control everything around her. If you’ve ever wondered, “should I go to counseling?”, this conversation will open up a whole new world for you. Not shying away from hard topics, Austin and Samantha discuss how counseling can be a way to work through life’s hardships, learn tools for healthy coping, and get comfortable with negative emotions.  To hear more from Samantha, find her podcast Going There, where she invites women to get away from shallow conversations and go deep into their friendships and relationship with God. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Childhood cancer forced Samantha to face reality at an early age, but working through the myriad of emotions that come with hardship has been an ongoing process in her life. Giving herself permission to fall apart and “not be ok” was just one thing she learned through counseling.


Battling cancer, infertility, infant loss and the journey of adoption are just a few elements of Samantha’s story that will open your heart. In this special episode with Austin, she vulnerably shares her struggle with resting in Jesus when she’s tempted to control everything around her.


If you’ve ever wondered, “should I go to counseling?”, this conversation will open up a whole new world for you. Not shying away from hard topics, Austin and Samantha discuss how counseling can be a way to work through life’s hardships, learn tools for healthy coping, and get comfortable with negative emotions. 


To hear more from Samantha, find her podcast Going There, where she invites women to get away from shallow conversations and go deep into their friendships and relationship with God.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2989 no Facing Addiction and Not Losing Faith “Addiction is about filling a hole in your heart.”  Have you considered that the underlying dynamics of addiction are driven by a relationship? A simple definition of addiction is: “An unhealthy, mood-altering relationship with a person, behavior or substance.” This relationship promises comfort and significance to fill the hole in your heart, but it always falls short. This enlightening conversation with clinical therapist and author Michael John Cusick will invite you to understand addiction in a way that makes sense: Addiction is a form of false connection that serves as a substitute for the intimacy you were designed for.  Addiction involves your entire being: your body, mind and spirit. This conversation will help you understand that breaking free from an addiction is more than stopping an unhealthy behavior. Recovery involves creating a true and genuine connection with others where there are no more secrets, and where you can be known and loved for who you are. This vision of the gospel message - that God pursues and loves you while you are in the middle of your messy life - is the grace that you need to open your hands and surrender yourself to a process of restoration.  You will be inspired and encouraged to reconsider what wholeness and healing means as you listen to John, Austin and Michael peel back the layers of addiction, grace, humility and recovery.  Restoring the Soul Surfing for God If you know someone who could benefit from this episode, please text it to a friend and let them know about With You in the Weeds! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors. Wed, 26 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 84 With You in the Weeds “Addiction is about filling a hole in your heart.” “Addiction is about filling a hole in your heart.”  Have you considered that the underlying dynamics of addiction are driven by a relationship? A simple definition of addiction is: “An unhealthy, mood-altering relationship with a person, behavior or substance.” This relationship promises comfort and significance to fill the hole in your heart, but it always falls short. This enlightening conversation with clinical therapist and author Michael John Cusick will invite you to understand addiction in a way that makes sense: Addiction is a form of false connection that serves as a substitute for the intimacy you were designed for.  Addiction involves your entire being: your body, mind and spirit. This conversation will help you understand that breaking free from an addiction is more than stopping an unhealthy behavior. Recovery involves creating a true and genuine connection with others where there are no more secrets, and where you can be known and loved for who you are. This vision of the gospel message - that God pursues and loves you while you are in the middle of your messy life - is the grace that you need to open your hands and surrender yourself to a process of restoration.  You will be inspired and encouraged to reconsider what wholeness and healing means as you listen to John, Austin and Michael peel back the layers of addiction, grace, humility and recovery.  Restoring the Soul Surfing for God If you know someone who could benefit from this episode, please text it to a friend and let them know about With You in the Weeds! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors. “Addiction is about filling a hole in your heart.” 


Have you considered that the underlying dynamics of addiction are driven by a relationship? A simple definition of addiction is: “An unhealthy, mood-altering relationship with a person, behavior or substance.” This relationship promises comfort and significance to fill the hole in your heart, but it always falls short.


This enlightening conversation with clinical therapist and author Michael John Cusick will invite you to understand addiction in a way that makes sense: Addiction is a form of false connection that serves as a substitute for the intimacy you were designed for. 


Addiction involves your entire being: your body, mind and spirit. This conversation will help you understand that breaking free from an addiction is more than stopping an unhealthy behavior. Recovery involves creating a true and genuine connection with others where there are no more secrets, and where you can be known and loved for who you are.


This vision of the gospel message - that God pursues and loves you while you are in the middle of your messy life - is the grace that you need to open your hands and surrender yourself to a process of restoration. 


You will be inspired and encouraged to reconsider what wholeness and healing means as you listen to John, Austin and Michael peel back the layers of addiction, grace, humility and recovery. 


Restoring the Soul

Surfing for God


If you know someone who could benefit from this episode, please text it to a friend and let them know about With You in the Weeds!


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]]> 2677 no Facing Politics and Not Losing Faith Does the current political climate make you want to bury your head in the sand? Whether you enjoy political debates or try to avoid politics altogether, we think you’ll appreciate this episode. John and Shay offer a biblical view of the role of government and provide guidance on how to love others who you have political disagreements with. They also share how you can have hope, no matter which candidate wins the election. Shay studied political science at the University of Missouri, and has enjoyed following and observing the ever-changing political landscape. His wisdom and informed perspective will encourage you to not lose faith as you navigate political conversations with grace. If you know someone who could benefit from this episode, please text it to a friend and let them know about With You in the Weeds! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors. Wed, 19 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 80 With You in the Weeds Does the current political climate make you want to bury your head in the sand? Does the current political climate make you want to bury your head in the sand? Whether you enjoy political debates or try to avoid politics altogether, we think you’ll appreciate this episode. John and Shay offer a biblical view of the role of government and provide guidance on how to love others who you have political disagreements with. They also share how you can have hope, no matter which candidate wins the election. Shay studied political science at the University of Missouri, and has enjoyed following and observing the ever-changing political landscape. His wisdom and informed perspective will encourage you to not lose faith as you navigate political conversations with grace. If you know someone who could benefit from this episode, please text it to a friend and let them know about With You in the Weeds! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors. Does the current political climate make you want to bury your head in the sand? Whether you enjoy political debates or try to avoid politics altogether, we think you’ll appreciate this episode.


John and Shay offer a biblical view of the role of government and provide guidance on how to love others who you have political disagreements with. They also share how you can have hope, no matter which candidate wins the election.


Shay studied political science at the University of Missouri, and has enjoyed following and observing the ever-changing political landscape. His wisdom and informed perspective will encourage you to not lose faith as you navigate political conversations with grace.


If you know someone who could benefit from this episode, please text it to a friend and let them know about With You in the Weeds!


Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors.

]]> 3176 no Facing Chronic Illness and Not Losing Faith Imagine that you’re in a tunnel and you don’t see a way out. Or maybe there isn’t a way out. What would that feel like?  If you are managing a chronic illness, or love someone who is, the feeling of being trapped in a tunnel may be all too familiar. Whether it’s chronic pain, autoimmune disease, recurrent migraines, cancer or some other life-altering illness that prevents you from living a “normal” life, you’re probably exhausted. In this episode, John, Shay and Lynn share openly and personally about the impact of chronic illness on your mental and emotional health, as well as your relationships and spiritual life. The discouragement, depression and fear are powerful when you are in the tunnel, and we want to speak to these feelings and help guide you through the darkness. If you can relate to this struggle, or know someone else who needs to be encouraged while battling difficult health circumstances, this episode was created just for you. We would love to hear from you! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors. Wed, 12 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 82 With You in the Weeds Imagine that you’re in a tunnel and you don’t see a way out. Imagine that you’re in a tunnel and you don’t see a way out. Or maybe there isn’t a way out. What would that feel like?  If you are managing a chronic illness, or love someone who is, the feeling of being trapped in a tunnel may be all too familiar. Whether it’s chronic pain, autoimmune disease, recurrent migraines, cancer or some other life-altering illness that prevents you from living a “normal” life, you’re probably exhausted. In this episode, John, Shay and Lynn share openly and personally about the impact of chronic illness on your mental and emotional health, as well as your relationships and spiritual life. The discouragement, depression and fear are powerful when you are in the tunnel, and we want to speak to these feelings and help guide you through the darkness. If you can relate to this struggle, or know someone else who needs to be encouraged while battling difficult health circumstances, this episode was created just for you. We would love to hear from you! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors. Imagine that you’re in a tunnel and you don’t see a way out. Or maybe there isn’t a way out. What would that feel like? 


If you are managing a chronic illness, or love someone who is, the feeling of being trapped in a tunnel may be all too familiar. Whether it’s chronic pain, autoimmune disease, recurrent migraines, cancer or some other life-altering illness that prevents you from living a “normal” life, you’re probably exhausted.


In this episode, John, Shay and Lynn share openly and personally about the impact of chronic illness on your mental and emotional health, as well as your relationships and spiritual life. The discouragement, depression and fear are powerful when you are in the tunnel, and we want to speak to these feelings and help guide you through the darkness.


If you can relate to this struggle, or know someone else who needs to be encouraged while battling difficult health circumstances, this episode was created just for you.


We would love to hear from you! Please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave us a positive review! Or message us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds to ask a question or suggest a topic. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for more great content from our team of counselors.

]]> 3380 no Facing Church Hurt and Not Losing Faith Have the flaws and imperfections in the body of Christ become a stumbling block to your faith? Whether it's a church leader abusing their power, a congregation full of gossip, or a legalistic message that curdles your soul, a church can be a source of hurt just as easily as a source of healing. In this special episode, Austin interviews author, pastor, and university professor Trevin Wax, to discuss the ways that being part of a church can be both a source of blessing and pain. For as many ways as fellowship with other believers can be life-giving, there is also an opportunity for hurt that can lead to distrust and rejection of the faith altogether. This episode will both challenge and encourage you to think more deeply about why your role in a church matters, how powerful your personal influence is on the body of Christ, and how to process church hurt when it happens. To hear more from Trevin Wax, check out his podcast Reconstructing Faith, or his books The Thrill of Orthodoxy and Rethink Yourself. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 05 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 81 With You in the Weeds Have the flaws and imperfections in the body of Christ become a stumbling block to your faith? Have the flaws and imperfections in the body of Christ become a stumbling block to your faith? Whether it's a church leader abusing their power, a congregation full of gossip, or a legalistic message that curdles your soul, a church can be a source of hurt just as easily as a source of healing. In this special episode, Austin interviews author, pastor, and university professor Trevin Wax, to discuss the ways that being part of a church can be both a source of blessing and pain. For as many ways as fellowship with other believers can be life-giving, there is also an opportunity for hurt that can lead to distrust and rejection of the faith altogether. This episode will both challenge and encourage you to think more deeply about why your role in a church matters, how powerful your personal influence is on the body of Christ, and how to process church hurt when it happens. To hear more from Trevin Wax, check out his podcast Reconstructing Faith, or his books The Thrill of Orthodoxy and Rethink Yourself. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Have the flaws and imperfections in the body of Christ become a stumbling block to your faith? Whether it's a church leader abusing their power, a congregation full of gossip, or a legalistic message that curdles your soul, a church can be a source of hurt just as easily as a source of healing.


In this special episode, Austin interviews author, pastor, and university professor Trevin Wax, to discuss the ways that being part of a church can be both a source of blessing and pain. For as many ways as fellowship with other believers can be life-giving, there is also an opportunity for hurt that can lead to distrust and rejection of the faith altogether.


This episode will both challenge and encourage you to think more deeply about why your role in a church matters, how powerful your personal influence is on the body of Christ, and how to process church hurt when it happens.


To hear more from Trevin Wax, check out his podcast Reconstructing Faith, or his books The Thrill of Orthodoxy and Rethink Yourself.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2383 no Facing Betrayal and Not Losing Faith If you've experienced betrayal, then you know the pain and heartache that comes with it. Betrayal is a piercing wound that can cause you to never want to trust anyone again, even God. John and Lynn discuss the impact that betrayal can have in the areas of: - friendship - marriage - with a parent - within a church By naming the reality of this hurt, and using the Psalms as a guide, this conversation will give you the words you need to describe, explain and understand the pain of betrayal. We hope you find comfort in knowing that your feelings are real, your hurt matters, and you are not alone in what you are experiencing. Even when betrayal leaves you feeling gutted, we want you to know that God acutely understands the pain you are in, and is near to your broken heart. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 29 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 80 With You in the Weeds If you've experienced betrayal, then you know the pain and heartache that comes with it. If you've experienced betrayal, then you know the pain and heartache that comes with it. Betrayal is a piercing wound that can cause you to never want to trust anyone again, even God. John and Lynn discuss the impact that betrayal can have in the areas of: - friendship - marriage - with a parent - within a church By naming the reality of this hurt, and using the Psalms as a guide, this conversation will give you the words you need to describe, explain and understand the pain of betrayal. We hope you find comfort in knowing that your feelings are real, your hurt matters, and you are not alone in what you are experiencing. Even when betrayal leaves you feeling gutted, we want you to know that God acutely understands the pain you are in, and is near to your broken heart. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. If you've experienced betrayal, then you know the pain and heartache that comes with it. Betrayal is a piercing wound that can cause you to never want to trust anyone again, even God.


John and Lynn discuss the impact that betrayal can have in the areas of:


- friendship

- marriage

- with a parent

- within a church


By naming the reality of this hurt, and using the Psalms as a guide, this conversation will give you the words you need to describe, explain and understand the pain of betrayal.


We hope you find comfort in knowing that your feelings are real, your hurt matters, and you are not alone in what you are experiencing. Even when betrayal leaves you feeling gutted, we want you to know that God acutely understands the pain you are in, and is near to your broken heart.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 3443 no Facing Suffering and Not Losing Faith When you're suffering and in pain, hope is something you wish would arrive like a package on your doorstep. But that's not actually how hope is formed. In this special episode, John and Austin interview Christian psychiatrist Curt Thompson, MD, author of the book: "The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope". This conversation will completely change the way you've thought about HOPE, and dispel the belief that forming hope is a solitary exercise. Hope is not something that "I try to have", but something that "we form together" through the power of presence and relational connection. All of your efforts to manage the suffering of life are in some fashion designed to pull you into a relationship with someone, or something, that can be WITH YOU in the pain. We are honored that Curt Thompson joined the WYITW team to share his love of psychology, interpersonal neurobiology and biblical scholarship! We know you will be encouraged by Curt's insight, and will want to check out his books that have shaped our thinking as Christian therapists, as well as his podcast, Being Known. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-known-podcast/id1556261828 Anatomy of the Soul The Soul of Shame If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 22 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 79 With You in the Weeds When you're suffering and in pain, hope is something you wish would arrive like a package on your doorstep. When you're suffering and in pain, hope is something you wish would arrive like a package on your doorstep. But that's not actually how hope is formed. In this special episode, John and Austin interview Christian psychiatrist Curt Thompson, MD, author of the book: "The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope". This conversation will completely change the way you've thought about HOPE, and dispel the belief that forming hope is a solitary exercise. Hope is not something that "I try to have", but something that "we form together" through the power of presence and relational connection. All of your efforts to manage the suffering of life are in some fashion designed to pull you into a relationship with someone, or something, that can be WITH YOU in the pain. We are honored that Curt Thompson joined the WYITW team to share his love of psychology, interpersonal neurobiology and biblical scholarship! We know you will be encouraged by Curt's insight, and will want to check out his books that have shaped our thinking as Christian therapists, as well as his podcast, Being Known. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-known-podcast/id1556261828 Anatomy of the Soul The Soul of Shame If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. When you're suffering and in pain, hope is something you wish would arrive like a package on your doorstep. But that's not actually how hope is formed.


In this special episode, John and Austin interview Christian psychiatrist Curt Thompson, MD, author of the book: "The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope".


This conversation will completely change the way you've thought about HOPE, and dispel the belief that forming hope is a solitary exercise.


Hope is not something that "I try to have", but something that "we form together" through the power of presence and relational connection. All of your efforts to manage the suffering of life are in some fashion designed to pull you into a relationship with someone, or something, that can be WITH YOU in the pain.


We are honored that Curt Thompson joined the WYITW team to share his love of psychology, interpersonal neurobiology and biblical scholarship!


We know you will be encouraged by Curt's insight, and will want to check out his books that have shaped our thinking as Christian therapists, as well as his podcast, Being Known.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-known-podcast/id1556261828


Anatomy of the Soul

The Soul of Shame


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]]> 2609 no Facing Fear and Not Losing Faith What are you most afraid of? If you can honestly answer that question, then you are well on your way toward facing your fear. There are many reasons why fear can be overwhelming, but how you handle fear will determine whether or not you stay stuck or keep growing. And understanding the biblical antidote to fear will help you not lose faith, even when your fear threatens to shut you down. In this episode we want you to understand what's happening when fear gets activated in your body, and how you can manage the fears that you can't avoid. Lynn and Austin discuss how fear affects you in the following four areas: - Mentally - Physically - Emotionally - Spiritually Once you have an idea of how fear affects you, you can learn how to accept and acknowledge it rather than ignore and minimize it. After listening, you’ll be better equipped to not only determine what you are most afraid of and why, but you’ll be reminded where to take those fears. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 15 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 78 With You in the Weeds What are you most afraid of? What are you most afraid of? If you can honestly answer that question, then you are well on your way toward facing your fear. There are many reasons why fear can be overwhelming, but how you handle fear will determine whether or not you stay stuck or keep growing. And understanding the biblical antidote to fear will help you not lose faith, even when your fear threatens to shut you down. In this episode we want you to understand what's happening when fear gets activated in your body, and how you can manage the fears that you can't avoid. Lynn and Austin discuss how fear affects you in the following four areas: - Mentally - Physically - Emotionally - Spiritually Once you have an idea of how fear affects you, you can learn how to accept and acknowledge it rather than ignore and minimize it. After listening, you’ll be better equipped to not only determine what you are most afraid of and why, but you’ll be reminded where to take those fears. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. What are you most afraid of?


If you can honestly answer that question, then you are well on your way toward facing your fear.


There are many reasons why fear can be overwhelming, but how you handle fear will determine whether or not you stay stuck or keep growing. And understanding the biblical antidote to fear will help you not lose faith, even when your fear threatens to shut you down.


In this episode we want you to understand what's happening when fear gets activated in your body, and how you can manage the fears that you can't avoid.


Lynn and Austin discuss how fear affects you in the following four areas:


- Mentally

- Physically

- Emotionally

- Spiritually


Once you have an idea of how fear affects you, you can learn how to accept and acknowledge it rather than ignore and minimize it. After listening, you’ll be better equipped to not only determine what you are most afraid of and why, but you’ll be reminded where to take those fears.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2981 no "Let's Reject Shame Together" with Travis Steward, LPC After working as a therapist in an inpatient treatment center for eating disorders, Travis Steward realized that rejecting shame with his clients was the way to break the pattern of a compulsive behavior. In this installment of "Stories in the Weeds", Austin and Travis discuss what it takes to surrender self-destructive patterns and give up your personal strategies for making life work apart from God. Loosening your grip on habits that make you feel powerful and comfortable may feel impossible, but safe and trusting relationships are the pathway to finding freedom. This interview with seasoned therapist Travis Steward will have you rethinking the ways you've learned to feel accomplished and valuable, and challenge you with a question: "How will you get better without trusting God or others?" Would you take a moment and rate this podcast on your player? Your 5 star ratings and positive reviews will help others find us. Thank you! For more great content you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. Wed, 08 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 77 With You in the Weeds After working as a therapist in an inpatient treatment center for eating disorders, Travis Steward realized that rejecting shame with his clients was the way to break the pattern of a compulsive behavior. After working as a therapist in an inpatient treatment center for eating disorders, Travis Steward realized that rejecting shame with his clients was the way to break the pattern of a compulsive behavior. In this installment of "Stories in the Weeds", Austin and Travis discuss what it takes to surrender self-destructive patterns and give up your personal strategies for making life work apart from God. Loosening your grip on habits that make you feel powerful and comfortable may feel impossible, but safe and trusting relationships are the pathway to finding freedom. This interview with seasoned therapist Travis Steward will have you rethinking the ways you've learned to feel accomplished and valuable, and challenge you with a question: "How will you get better without trusting God or others?" Would you take a moment and rate this podcast on your player? Your 5 star ratings and positive reviews will help others find us. Thank you! For more great content you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. After working as a therapist in an inpatient treatment center for eating disorders, Travis Steward realized that rejecting shame with his clients was the way to break the pattern of a compulsive behavior.


In this installment of "Stories in the Weeds", Austin and Travis discuss what it takes to surrender self-destructive patterns and give up your personal strategies for making life work apart from God. Loosening your grip on habits that make you feel powerful and comfortable may feel impossible, but safe and trusting relationships are the pathway to finding freedom.


This interview with seasoned therapist Travis Steward will have you rethinking the ways you've learned to feel accomplished and valuable, and challenge you with a question:


"How will you get better without trusting God or others?"


Would you take a moment and rate this podcast on your player? Your 5 star ratings and positive reviews will help others find us. Thank you!


For more great content you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.

]]> 2235 no Bad Therapy v. Good Therapy "How do I know the difference between bad therapy and good therapy?" This listener wanted to know our hot take on the new book "Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up" by Abigail Shrier. As counselors who believe in the power of the therapeutic relationship, we were curious to find out what this author had to say about therapy. Some of the concerns Shrier raises are: - the over diagnosing of children with mental health disorders - therapeutic practices that have an unhelpful focus on feelings - a growing lack of parental involvement that requires "experts" to treat children for normal life struggles. Shrier's book addresses a potentially polarizing topic as she questions some of the prevailing practices and ideologies within therapy, particularly in regards to the impact on kids. John, Lynn and Austin all weigh in on these concerns, talk about the role a therapist can play in a person's life, and distinguish the difference between bad therapy and good therapy. Thankfully, good therapy - and good therapists - do exist! But we think you should read the book and be an informed parent on this important topic. Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier Would you take a moment and rate this podcast on your player? Your 5 star ratings and positive reviews will help others find us. Thank you! For more great content you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. Wed, 01 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 76 With You in the Weeds "How do I know the difference between bad therapy and good therapy?" "How do I know the difference between bad therapy and good therapy?" This listener wanted to know our hot take on the new book "Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up" by Abigail Shrier. As counselors who believe in the power of the therapeutic relationship, we were curious to find out what this author had to say about therapy. Some of the concerns Shrier raises are: - the over diagnosing of children with mental health disorders - therapeutic practices that have an unhelpful focus on feelings - a growing lack of parental involvement that requires "experts" to treat children for normal life struggles. Shrier's book addresses a potentially polarizing topic as she questions some of the prevailing practices and ideologies within therapy, particularly in regards to the impact on kids. John, Lynn and Austin all weigh in on these concerns, talk about the role a therapist can play in a person's life, and distinguish the difference between bad therapy and good therapy. Thankfully, good therapy - and good therapists - do exist! But we think you should read the book and be an informed parent on this important topic. Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier Would you take a moment and rate this podcast on your player? Your 5 star ratings and positive reviews will help others find us. Thank you! For more great content you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. "How do I know the difference between bad therapy and good therapy?" This listener wanted to know our hot take on the new book "Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up" by Abigail Shrier.


As counselors who believe in the power of the therapeutic relationship, we were curious to find out what this author had to say about therapy.


Some of the concerns Shrier raises are:


- the over diagnosing of children with mental health disorders


- therapeutic practices that have an unhelpful focus on feelings


- a growing lack of parental involvement that requires "experts" to treat children for normal life struggles.


Shrier's book addresses a potentially polarizing topic as she questions some of the prevailing practices and ideologies within therapy, particularly in regards to the impact on kids.


John, Lynn and Austin all weigh in on these concerns, talk about the role a therapist can play in a person's life, and distinguish the difference between bad therapy and good therapy.


Thankfully, good therapy - and good therapists - do exist! But we think you should read the book and be an informed parent on this important topic.


Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier


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]]> 2631 no A Powerful Prayer We want to help you fight your spiritual battles with a powerful prayer! Listen as Lynn Roush guides you through a prayer to cover your mind, body and heart. Download your copy of this prayer at withyouintheweeds.com so you can use this written prayer as often as you need, and share it with a friend. We are praying with you! The WYITW Team: John Tinnin, Mdiv, MFT Lynn Roush, LPC Shay Roush, Mdiv Austin Conner, Mdiv, PLPC Subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us @withyouintheweeds on IG & Facebook for more great content. Fri, 26 Apr 2024 17:00:00 -0000 full With You in the Weeds We want to help you fight your spiritual battles with a powerful prayer! We want to help you fight your spiritual battles with a powerful prayer! Listen as Lynn Roush guides you through a prayer to cover your mind, body and heart. Download your copy of this prayer at withyouintheweeds.com so you can use this written prayer as often as you need, and share it with a friend. We are praying with you! The WYITW Team: John Tinnin, Mdiv, MFT Lynn Roush, LPC Shay Roush, Mdiv Austin Conner, Mdiv, PLPC Subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us @withyouintheweeds on IG & Facebook for more great content. We want to help you fight your spiritual battles with a powerful prayer!


Listen as Lynn Roush guides you through a prayer to cover your mind, body and heart.


Download your copy of this prayer at withyouintheweeds.com so you can use this written prayer as often as you need, and share it with a friend.


We are praying with you!


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John Tinnin, Mdiv, MFT

Lynn Roush, LPC

Shay Roush, Mdiv

Austin Conner, Mdiv, PLPC


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]]> 429 no The Power to Fight Your Battles Do you want to pray but don't know what to say? "A Powerful Prayer" was written just for you based on our Fighting Your Spiritual Battles series! Go to withyouintheweeds.com for your copy of this prayer over your mind, body and heart. In Ephesians 6:10 we are told to: "Be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might". In this episode we want to address what you will need to stay strong as you fight your spiritual battles. Knowing how this battle ultimately ends is the first step in standing firm against your enemy. Shay & Austin explain the outcome of this battle, and specifically describe what the Bible says about the future demise of Satan. They also share the three primary sources of power that will help you stay strong in this battle: - The power of prayer - The power of people - The power of the word As we conclude this series we want to equip you with a practical resource to help you pray powerfully and effectively. "A Powerful Prayer" is now available as a PDF at withyouintheweeds.com that you can download, print, use in your time of prayer, and share with others. The Adversary by Mark Bubeck Don't Give the Enemy a Seat at Your Table by Louie Giglio If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 24 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 74 With You in the Weeds Do you want to pray but don't know what to say? Do you want to pray but don't know what to say? "A Powerful Prayer" was written just for you based on our Fighting Your Spiritual Battles series! Go to withyouintheweeds.com for your copy of this prayer over your mind, body and heart. In Ephesians 6:10 we are told to: "Be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might". In this episode we want to address what you will need to stay strong as you fight your spiritual battles. Knowing how this battle ultimately ends is the first step in standing firm against your enemy. Shay & Austin explain the outcome of this battle, and specifically describe what the Bible says about the future demise of Satan. They also share the three primary sources of power that will help you stay strong in this battle: - The power of prayer - The power of people - The power of the word As we conclude this series we want to equip you with a practical resource to help you pray powerfully and effectively. "A Powerful Prayer" is now available as a PDF at withyouintheweeds.com that you can download, print, use in your time of prayer, and share with others. The Adversary by Mark Bubeck Don't Give the Enemy a Seat at Your Table by Louie Giglio If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Do you want to pray but don't know what to say? "A Powerful Prayer" was written just for you based on our Fighting Your Spiritual Battles series! Go to withyouintheweeds.com for your copy of this prayer over your mind, body and heart.


In Ephesians 6:10 we are told to: "Be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might". In this episode we want to address what you will need to stay strong as you fight your spiritual battles.


Knowing how this battle ultimately ends is the first step in standing firm against your enemy. Shay & Austin explain the outcome of this battle, and specifically describe what the Bible says about the future demise of Satan.


They also share the three primary sources of power that will help you stay strong in this battle:

- The power of prayer

- The power of people

- The power of the word


As we conclude this series we want to equip you with a practical resource to help you pray powerfully and effectively.


"A Powerful Prayer" is now available as a PDF at withyouintheweeds.com that you can download, print, use in your time of prayer, and share with others.


The Adversary by Mark Bubeck

Don't Give the Enemy a Seat at Your Table by Louie Giglio


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


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]]> 3068 no The Battle for Your Wounded Heart As counselors, we know that everyone is walking around with hurts, wounds, injuries, fears, losses, and traumas as a result of living under the curse of sin. And whether you know it or not, or want to admit it or not, your heart has been wounded. Your story contains scenes of heartache and pain, and your sense of being loved by God has been disrupted in some way that is unique to you. In this episode John & Lynn make the case that: unless you know the terrain of your story, and where you’ve been wounded, then you may be lost, confused, easily deceived, or helpless to resist the enemy’s tactics in your life. We’d like to help you know the map of your heart, and how the enemy may already be playing on your vulnerabilities, so that you can become wise, discerning, and ultimately experience God’s love in a profound way as you learn how to intelligently fight your spiritual battles. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! Wed, 17 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 73 With You in the Weeds As counselors, we know that everyone is walking around with hurts. As counselors, we know that everyone is walking around with hurts, wounds, injuries, fears, losses, and traumas as a result of living under the curse of sin. And whether you know it or not, or want to admit it or not, your heart has been wounded. Your story contains scenes of heartache and pain, and your sense of being loved by God has been disrupted in some way that is unique to you. In this episode John & Lynn make the case that: unless you know the terrain of your story, and where you’ve been wounded, then you may be lost, confused, easily deceived, or helpless to resist the enemy’s tactics in your life. We’d like to help you know the map of your heart, and how the enemy may already be playing on your vulnerabilities, so that you can become wise, discerning, and ultimately experience God’s love in a profound way as you learn how to intelligently fight your spiritual battles. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! As counselors, we know that everyone is walking around with hurts, wounds, injuries, fears, losses, and traumas as a result of living under the curse of sin.


And whether you know it or not, or want to admit it or not, your heart has been wounded. Your story contains scenes of heartache and pain, and your sense of being loved by God has been disrupted in some way that is unique to you.


In this episode John & Lynn make the case that: unless you know the terrain of your story, and where you’ve been wounded, then you may be lost, confused, easily deceived, or helpless to resist the enemy’s tactics in your life.


We’d like to help you know the map of your heart, and how the enemy may already be playing on your vulnerabilities, so that you can become wise, discerning, and ultimately experience God’s love in a profound way as you learn how to intelligently fight your spiritual battles.


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations.


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]]> 3313 no The Battle for Your Body Your body is the "turf" on which your spiritual battles are fought, which means you can't escape this warfare no matter how hard you try. Given this reality, it's no wonder that the enemy will take your natural and unavoidable physical appetites and use them to lure you towards one extreme or another: self-worship or self-contempt. The design and complexity of your body declares the goodness, glory and beauty of God's image, so what you believe about your body will either empower or weaken you in your physical struggles. In this episode, Lynn and Austin discuss the importance of having a biblical view of your body, and prescribe specific ways you can fight against the enemy that moves you towards befriending and stewarding your body in a way that glorifies God. Recommended book: Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! Wed, 10 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 72 With You in the Weeds Your body is the "turf" on which your spiritual battles are fought. Your body is the "turf" on which your spiritual battles are fought, which means you can't escape this warfare no matter how hard you try. Given this reality, it's no wonder that the enemy will take your natural and unavoidable physical appetites and use them to lure you towards one extreme or another: self-worship or self-contempt. The design and complexity of your body declares the goodness, glory and beauty of God's image, so what you believe about your body will either empower or weaken you in your physical struggles. In this episode, Lynn and Austin discuss the importance of having a biblical view of your body, and prescribe specific ways you can fight against the enemy that moves you towards befriending and stewarding your body in a way that glorifies God. Recommended book: Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! Your body is the "turf" on which your spiritual battles are fought, which means you can't escape this warfare no matter how hard you try.


Given this reality, it's no wonder that the enemy will take your natural and unavoidable physical appetites and use them to lure you towards one extreme or another: self-worship or self-contempt.


The design and complexity of your body declares the goodness, glory and beauty of God's image, so what you believe about your body will either empower or weaken you in your physical struggles.


In this episode, Lynn and Austin discuss the importance of having a biblical view of your body, and prescribe specific ways you can fight against the enemy that moves you towards befriending and stewarding your body in a way that glorifies God.


Recommended book:

Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey


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]]> 3040 no The Battle for Your Mind Are you aware of the doors in your mind that the enemy will try to open? In this third episode of our "Fighting Your Spiritual Battles" series, John Tinnin and Shay Roush take a look at the two moves that the enemy uses to try and cut us off from God's love: Temptation and Accusation. The battle for your mind is of utmost importance, as it is the primary force that drives all of your beliefs, emotions and actions, so this is an area where knowledge and discernment are critical. When you learn the strategies of the enemy, and effective ways to push back on his tactics, you will be empowered to tackle this daily battle. We hope this insight helps you maintain a "sound mind" that is continually renewed by the truth of God's word. Recommended books on this subject: The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope by Curt Thompson God's Devil: The Incredible Story of How Satan's Rebellion Serves God's Purposes by Erwin Lutzer Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! Wed, 03 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 71 With You in the Weeds Are you aware of the doors in your mind that the enemy will try to open? Are you aware of the doors in your mind that the enemy will try to open? In this third episode of our "Fighting Your Spiritual Battles" series, John Tinnin and Shay Roush take a look at the two moves that the enemy uses to try and cut us off from God's love: Temptation and Accusation. The battle for your mind is of utmost importance, as it is the primary force that drives all of your beliefs, emotions and actions, so this is an area where knowledge and discernment are critical. When you learn the strategies of the enemy, and effective ways to push back on his tactics, you will be empowered to tackle this daily battle. We hope this insight helps you maintain a "sound mind" that is continually renewed by the truth of God's word. Recommended books on this subject: The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope by Curt Thompson God's Devil: The Incredible Story of How Satan's Rebellion Serves God's Purposes by Erwin Lutzer Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! Are you aware of the doors in your mind that the enemy will try to open?


In this third episode of our "Fighting Your Spiritual Battles" series, John Tinnin and Shay Roush take a look at the two moves that the enemy uses to try and cut us off from God's love: Temptation and Accusation.


The battle for your mind is of utmost importance, as it is the primary force that drives all of your beliefs, emotions and actions, so this is an area where knowledge and discernment are critical.


When you learn the strategies of the enemy, and effective ways to push back on his tactics, you will be empowered to tackle this daily battle.


We hope this insight helps you maintain a "sound mind" that is continually renewed by the truth of God's word.


Recommended books on this subject:


The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope by Curt Thompson


God's Devil: The Incredible Story of How Satan's Rebellion Serves God's Purposes by Erwin Lutzer


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations.


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]]> 3065 no Where the Battle Began As Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese military strategist states, "If you know the enemy and know yourself, your victory will not stand in doubt." Knowing your enemy starts with understanding the origin of his name, the catastrophic decision he made, and his most effective tactics to deceive you. In this second episode of our Fighting Your Spiritual Battles series Lynn Roush, LPC and Shay Roush, Mdiv will look back at the biblical account of where this battle began and the primary arenas where this battle takes place: 1. The Battle for Glory 2. The Battle for Humanity 3. The Battle for Authority Once you see how this epic battle is playing out, you will be able to discern truth from error, understand how the devil serves God's purposes, and know the means by which he will experience the ultimate defeat. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! Wed, 27 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 70 With You in the Weeds As Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese military strategist states, "If you know the enemy and know yourself, your victory will not stand in doubt." As Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese military strategist states, "If you know the enemy and know yourself, your victory will not stand in doubt." Knowing your enemy starts with understanding the origin of his name, the catastrophic decision he made, and his most effective tactics to deceive you. In this second episode of our Fighting Your Spiritual Battles series Lynn Roush, LPC and Shay Roush, Mdiv will look back at the biblical account of where this battle began and the primary arenas where this battle takes place: 1. The Battle for Glory 2. The Battle for Humanity 3. The Battle for Authority Once you see how this epic battle is playing out, you will be able to discern truth from error, understand how the devil serves God's purposes, and know the means by which he will experience the ultimate defeat. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know! As Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese military strategist states, "If you know the enemy and know yourself, your victory will not stand in doubt."


Knowing your enemy starts with understanding the origin of his name, the catastrophic decision he made, and his most effective tactics to deceive you.


In this second episode of our Fighting Your Spiritual Battles series Lynn Roush, LPC and Shay Roush, Mdiv will look back at the biblical account of where this battle began and the primary arenas where this battle takes place:


1. The Battle for Glory

2. The Battle for Humanity

3. The Battle for Authority


Once you see how this epic battle is playing out, you will be able to discern truth from error, understand how the devil serves God's purposes, and know the means by which he will experience the ultimate defeat.


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations.


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]]> 2525 no The Battle Hidden in Plain Sight We constantly hear our clients wrestling with whether or not God really loves them. Have you considered that there is a powerful force persistently working to pull you as far away from God's love as possible? The Bible explains that there is an unseen, spiritual battle hidden in plain sight that directly impacts your daily life. The enemy, described as "the father of lies", likes to prey on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and sense of security. The enemy will relentlessly go after your mind, your body and ultimately your wounded heart - with the intent to destroy your faith, your hope, and your ability to give and receive love. John and Austin introduce this new series “Fighting Your Spiritual Battles” by unpacking what Jesus believed about this battle, how they’ve seen this battle personally and clinically, and the two foundational truths needed to keep perspective on this battle. This series is designed to give you awareness of the unseen spiritual realm, where the battle began, how it works, who's in charge, and ultimately how to find strength and hope as you fight this battle. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Wed, 20 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 69 With You in the Weeds We constantly hear our clients wrestling with whether or not God really loves them. We constantly hear our clients wrestling with whether or not God really loves them. Have you considered that there is a powerful force persistently working to pull you as far away from God's love as possible? The Bible explains that there is an unseen, spiritual battle hidden in plain sight that directly impacts your daily life. The enemy, described as "the father of lies", likes to prey on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and sense of security. The enemy will relentlessly go after your mind, your body and ultimately your wounded heart - with the intent to destroy your faith, your hope, and your ability to give and receive love. John and Austin introduce this new series “Fighting Your Spiritual Battles” by unpacking what Jesus believed about this battle, how they’ve seen this battle personally and clinically, and the two foundational truths needed to keep perspective on this battle. This series is designed to give you awareness of the unseen spiritual realm, where the battle began, how it works, who's in charge, and ultimately how to find strength and hope as you fight this battle. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! We constantly hear our clients wrestling with whether or not God really loves them. Have you considered that there is a powerful force persistently working to pull you as far away from God's love as possible?


The Bible explains that there is an unseen, spiritual battle hidden in plain sight that directly impacts your daily life. The enemy, described as "the father of lies", likes to prey on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and sense of security.


The enemy will relentlessly go after your mind, your body and ultimately your wounded heart - with the intent to destroy your faith, your hope, and your ability to give and receive love.


John and Austin introduce this new series “Fighting Your Spiritual Battles” by unpacking what Jesus believed about this battle, how they’ve seen this battle personally and clinically, and the two foundational truths needed to keep perspective on this battle.


This series is designed to give you awareness of the unseen spiritual realm, where the battle began, how it works, who's in charge, and ultimately how to find strength and hope as you fight this battle.


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations.


Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know!

]]> 2848 no "I Was Lying to Myself" with Scotty Cox Every addiction revolves around the same lie: "I am in control." In this edition of "Stories in the Weeds", Scotty shares how his successful radio career was threatened when alcohol took over his life. Despite being on an award winning broadcasting team with prestigious trophies from the Academy of Country Music, Scotty's life was on hold until he finally broke through the illusion of control and faced the painful reality that he needed help to stop drinking. Yet as difficult as it was, his personal journey to sobriety is something he would go through all over again because of the lessons he has learned. The grip of addiction is not easily broken, but through community, honesty and humility, Scotty has learned that working hard at sobriety is his most rewarding accomplishment. Listen as John, Shay & Scotty open up about alcohol, addiction, grace and hope in this candid interview. You can hear Scotty each weekday morning with his friend Liz on “Liz & Scotty in the Morning” on Today’s Best Country Clear 99, in Columbia, MO. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com, follow us on Instagram & Facebook @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. Wed, 13 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0000 full 68 With You in the Weeds Every addiction revolves around the same lie: "I am in control." Every addiction revolves around the same lie: "I am in control." In this edition of "Stories in the Weeds", Scotty shares how his successful radio career was threatened when alcohol took over his life. Despite being on an award winning broadcasting team with prestigious trophies from the Academy of Country Music, Scotty's life was on hold until he finally broke through the illusion of control and faced the painful reality that he needed help to stop drinking. Yet as difficult as it was, his personal journey to sobriety is something he would go through all over again because of the lessons he has learned. The grip of addiction is not easily broken, but through community, honesty and humility, Scotty has learned that working hard at sobriety is his most rewarding accomplishment. Listen as John, Shay & Scotty open up about alcohol, addiction, grace and hope in this candid interview. You can hear Scotty each weekday morning with his friend Liz on “Liz & Scotty in the Morning” on Today’s Best Country Clear 99, in Columbia, MO. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com, follow us on Instagram & Facebook @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. Every addiction revolves around the same lie: "I am in control."


In this edition of "Stories in the Weeds", Scotty shares how his successful radio career was threatened when alcohol took over his life.


Despite being on an award winning broadcasting team with prestigious trophies from the Academy of Country Music, Scotty's life was on hold until he finally broke through the illusion of control and faced the painful reality that he needed help to stop drinking.


Yet as difficult as it was, his personal journey to sobriety is something he would go through all over again because of the lessons he has learned.


The grip of addiction is not easily broken, but through community, honesty and humility, Scotty has learned that working hard at sobriety is his most rewarding accomplishment.


Listen as John, Shay & Scotty open up about alcohol, addiction, grace and hope in this candid interview.


You can hear Scotty each weekday morning with his friend Liz on “Liz & Scotty in the Morning” on Today’s Best Country Clear 99, in Columbia, MO.


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com, follow us on Instagram & Facebook @withyouintheweeds.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.

]]> 3273 no YQA V: Abusive Son-in-Law, Guilt Trips & ADHD You asked and we answered! We John, Lynn and Austin address these three listener questions: 1. How do I help my daughter in an abusive marriage? What about the grandkids? 2. How do I deal with a family member who tries to manipulate me with guilt trips? 3. How do I know if my child has ADHD? If they do, what steps can I take to help them? Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com, follow us on Instagram & Facebook @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. ADHD 2.0 Wed, 06 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 67 With You in the Weeds You asked and we answered! You asked and we answered! We John, Lynn and Austin address these three listener questions: 1. How do I help my daughter in an abusive marriage? What about the grandkids? 2. How do I deal with a family member who tries to manipulate me with guilt trips? 3. How do I know if my child has ADHD? If they do, what steps can I take to help them? Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com, follow us on Instagram & Facebook @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. ADHD 2.0 You asked and we answered! We John, Lynn and Austin address these three listener questions:


1. How do I help my daughter in an abusive marriage? What about the grandkids?


2. How do I deal with a family member who tries to manipulate me with guilt trips?


3. How do I know if my child has ADHD? If they do, what steps can I take to help them?


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com, follow us on Instagram & Facebook @withyouintheweeds.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


ADHD 2.0

]]> 2721 no The Blessings of a Healthy Christian Family In your experience, this term may feel like an oxymoron. But we believe that there are indeed blessings that come from cultivating and being a part of a healthy Christian family. Since we live in a (western) culture where Christianity often gets a bad rap and is frequently the butt of jokes and unflattering caricatures, we thought it was worth slowing down and reflecting on the lasting impact that a healthy Christian family can have on future generations. Austin, John, and Shay discuss specific Harvard research and evidence of the positive influence that healthy Christian families can have both personally and more broadly in society. They also identify the solid pieces that should make up the foundation of your family so that it's a refuge from the storms of life. After listening you’ll have a better idea of what a healthy Christian family actually looks like. We know that these things are easy to say on a podcast, but much harder to do them in real life. That's why we want to remind you why it’s a worthy pursuit. As we close our our Managing Your Dysfunctional Family series, we hope that you have new insight, practical tools and greater resolve to break the cycle of dysfunction in your family. We would love to meet you at our Open House on Friday, March 1st! You can meet the team, enjoy a relaxing evening and be strengthened by a community of listeners that are seeing the benefit of this Christian mental health resource. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Wed, 28 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 66 With You in the Weeds In your experience, this term may feel like an oxymoron. In your experience, this term may feel like an oxymoron. But we believe that there are indeed blessings that come from cultivating and being a part of a healthy Christian family. Since we live in a (western) culture where Christianity often gets a bad rap and is frequently the butt of jokes and unflattering caricatures, we thought it was worth slowing down and reflecting on the lasting impact that a healthy Christian family can have on future generations. Austin, John, and Shay discuss specific Harvard research and evidence of the positive influence that healthy Christian families can have both personally and more broadly in society. They also identify the solid pieces that should make up the foundation of your family so that it's a refuge from the storms of life. After listening you’ll have a better idea of what a healthy Christian family actually looks like. We know that these things are easy to say on a podcast, but much harder to do them in real life. That's why we want to remind you why it’s a worthy pursuit. As we close our our Managing Your Dysfunctional Family series, we hope that you have new insight, practical tools and greater resolve to break the cycle of dysfunction in your family. We would love to meet you at our Open House on Friday, March 1st! You can meet the team, enjoy a relaxing evening and be strengthened by a community of listeners that are seeing the benefit of this Christian mental health resource. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 In your experience, this term may feel like an oxymoron. But we believe that there are indeed blessings that come from cultivating and being a part of a healthy Christian family.


Since we live in a (western) culture where Christianity often gets a bad rap and is frequently the butt of jokes and unflattering caricatures, we thought it was worth slowing down and reflecting on the lasting impact that a healthy Christian family can have on future generations.


Austin, John, and Shay discuss specific Harvard research and evidence of the positive influence that healthy Christian families can have both personally and more broadly in society. They also identify the solid pieces that should make up the foundation of your family so that it's a refuge from the storms of life.


After listening you’ll have a better idea of what a healthy Christian family actually looks like. We know that these things are easy to say on a podcast, but much harder to do them in real life. That's why we want to remind you why it’s a worthy pursuit.


As we close our our Managing Your Dysfunctional Family series, we hope that you have new insight, practical tools and greater resolve to break the cycle of dysfunction in your family.


We would love to meet you at our Open House on Friday, March 1st! You can meet the team, enjoy a relaxing evening and be strengthened by a community of listeners that are seeing the benefit of this Christian mental health resource.


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know!


Open House RSVP!

https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333

]]> 2763 no Building Your Blended Family Have you ever been in a construction zone? It's messy and chaotic, and you can't wait for the project to be finished. Building your blended family is a bit like being in an ongoing construction zone. The timeline is longer than you had predicted, and the progress you had hoped for seems to be at a standstill. This episode covers the territory of the challenges that a blended family may face. If you are a child in a blended family, or in a remarriage yourself, you will want to listen as John and Lynn explain what this construction zone may look like and how to manage it. Based on principles found in Ron Deal's book, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage, this insight will provide you with perspective and hope as you work towards building your blended family. You're invited to our Open House on Friday, March 1st from 5-7 pm for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Wed, 21 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 66 With You in the Weeds Have you ever been in a construction zone? Have you ever been in a construction zone? It's messy and chaotic, and you can't wait for the project to be finished. Building your blended family is a bit like being in an ongoing construction zone. The timeline is longer than you had predicted, and the progress you had hoped for seems to be at a standstill. This episode covers the territory of the challenges that a blended family may face. If you are a child in a blended family, or in a remarriage yourself, you will want to listen as John and Lynn explain what this construction zone may look like and how to manage it. Based on principles found in Ron Deal's book, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage, this insight will provide you with perspective and hope as you work towards building your blended family. You're invited to our Open House on Friday, March 1st from 5-7 pm for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Have you ever been in a construction zone? It's messy and chaotic, and you can't wait for the project to be finished.


Building your blended family is a bit like being in an ongoing construction zone. The timeline is longer than you had predicted, and the progress you had hoped for seems to be at a standstill.


This episode covers the territory of the challenges that a blended family may face. If you are a child in a blended family, or in a remarriage yourself, you will want to listen as John and Lynn explain what this construction zone may look like and how to manage it.


Based on principles found in Ron Deal's book, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage, this insight will provide you with perspective and hope as you work towards building your blended family.


You're invited to our Open House on Friday, March 1st from 5-7 pm for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you!


Open House RSVP!

https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333


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]]> 2964 no Loving Your Prodigal The story of the prodigal son is the emotional journey of a child who has gone away, reached the bottom, and eventually returned to his father's loving embrace. Yet many prodigal stories do not seem to carry the hope of reunification. If you love someone who has gone away but not yet returned, then the pain of loss that you feel is very real and runs very deep. This episode explores a topic that may hit a nerve: what to do when someone you love is no longer in your life because they've walked away from a relationship with you. Shay and Lynn discuss 6 principles from the book Reaching Your Prodigal by Phil Waldrep that can lead towards hope and healing as you love your prodigal. Whether it's a child, family member or friend, this journey can be isolating and confusing, so we hope that you find comfort in these guiding principles. Reaching Your Prodigal: What Did I Do Wrong? What Do I Do Now? A Practical Guide for Praying Parents You're invited to our Open House on Friday, March 1st from 5-7 pm for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Wed, 14 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 65 With You in the Weeds The story of the prodigal son is the emotional journey of a child who has gone away. The story of the prodigal son is the emotional journey of a child who has gone away, reached the bottom, and eventually returned to his father's loving embrace. Yet many prodigal stories do not seem to carry the hope of reunification. If you love someone who has gone away but not yet returned, then the pain of loss that you feel is very real and runs very deep. This episode explores a topic that may hit a nerve: what to do when someone you love is no longer in your life because they've walked away from a relationship with you. Shay and Lynn discuss 6 principles from the book Reaching Your Prodigal by Phil Waldrep that can lead towards hope and healing as you love your prodigal. Whether it's a child, family member or friend, this journey can be isolating and confusing, so we hope that you find comfort in these guiding principles. Reaching Your Prodigal: What Did I Do Wrong? What Do I Do Now? A Practical Guide for Praying Parents You're invited to our Open House on Friday, March 1st from 5-7 pm for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! The story of the prodigal son is the emotional journey of a child who has gone away, reached the bottom, and eventually returned to his father's loving embrace.


Yet many prodigal stories do not seem to carry the hope of reunification. If you love someone who has gone away but not yet returned, then the pain of loss that you feel is very real and runs very deep.


This episode explores a topic that may hit a nerve: what to do when someone you love is no longer in your life because they've walked away from a relationship with you.


Shay and Lynn discuss 6 principles from the book Reaching Your Prodigal by Phil Waldrep that can lead towards hope and healing as you love your prodigal.


Whether it's a child, family member or friend, this journey can be isolating and confusing, so we hope that you find comfort in these guiding principles.


Reaching Your Prodigal: What Did I Do Wrong? What Do I Do Now?

A Practical Guide for Praying Parents


You're invited to our Open House on Friday, March 1st from 5-7 pm for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you!


Open House RSVP!

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]]> 3187 no The Roots of Sibling Rivalry Before we dive into sibling relationships, we want to invite you to an Open House on Friday, March 1st for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you! Now here's a look at today's episode: Difficult, strained or broken relationships among siblings are more common than you think. The root of these conflicts can seem elusive, but it's actually not a mystery. If you've ever wondered, 'Why do they get that much of the inheritance?" or thought, "I’ll speak to her when she apologizes first" or decided, "I'm not going to Christmas at their house anymore", then this episode will pull back the curtain on the source of your sibling rivalry. First, Shay, Lynn, and Austin discuss some external dynamics that create and continue sibling rivalries. Second, they focus on the internal dynamics that fuel the rivalries (spoiler alert: it’s sin). Finally, they end by offering practical and specific ways to manage your sibling rivalries in the here and now. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 64 With You in the Weeds Difficult, strained or broken relationships among siblings are more common than you think. Before we dive into sibling relationships, we want to invite you to an Open House on Friday, March 1st for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you! Now here's a look at today's episode: Difficult, strained or broken relationships among siblings are more common than you think. The root of these conflicts can seem elusive, but it's actually not a mystery. If you've ever wondered, 'Why do they get that much of the inheritance?" or thought, "I’ll speak to her when she apologizes first" or decided, "I'm not going to Christmas at their house anymore", then this episode will pull back the curtain on the source of your sibling rivalry. First, Shay, Lynn, and Austin discuss some external dynamics that create and continue sibling rivalries. Second, they focus on the internal dynamics that fuel the rivalries (spoiler alert: it’s sin). Finally, they end by offering practical and specific ways to manage your sibling rivalries in the here and now. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know! Open House RSVP! https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333 Before we dive into sibling relationships, we want to invite you to an Open House on Friday, March 1st for a fun evening with John, Lynn, Shay & Austin. We'd love to meet you!


Now here's a look at today's episode:


Difficult, strained or broken relationships among siblings are more common than you think. The root of these conflicts can seem elusive, but it's actually not a mystery.


If you've ever wondered, 'Why do they get that much of the inheritance?" or thought, "I’ll speak to her when she apologizes first" or decided, "I'm not going to Christmas at their house anymore", then this episode will pull back the curtain on the source of your sibling rivalry.


First, Shay, Lynn, and Austin discuss some external dynamics that create and continue sibling rivalries.


Second, they focus on the internal dynamics that fuel the rivalries (spoiler alert: it’s sin).


Finally, they end by offering practical and specific ways to manage your sibling rivalries in the here and now.


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a review to let us know!


Open House RSVP!

https://thecrossingchurch.com/Events/Detail?EventOccurrenceId=1333

]]> 3099 no Managing Your Difficult Mother Have you ever spoken honestly about your mom, only to wonder if she heard what you said, and worry what the consequences might be? Over the years in counseling, we've noticed that your mom takes up a significant amount of real estate in your head. Whether it's things she has said or done, you may notice that your relationship with your mom has left a lasting impression on you for good or bad. In this episode Lynn and Austin first address the good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to mothers. Recognizing how your mom may have hurt you seems like dangerous territory, but we will help you learn how to manage your difficult mother by: 1. Calling a spade a spade 2. Taking ownership for your healing 3. Setting boundaries 4. Grieving and forgiving Mother's Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters If you would like an episode recap, subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 31 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 63 With You in the Weeds Have you ever spoken honestly about your mom, only to wonder if she heard what you said, and worry what the consequences might be? Have you ever spoken honestly about your mom, only to wonder if she heard what you said, and worry what the consequences might be? Over the years in counseling, we've noticed that your mom takes up a significant amount of real estate in your head. Whether it's things she has said or done, you may notice that your relationship with your mom has left a lasting impression on you for good or bad. In this episode Lynn and Austin first address the good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to mothers. Recognizing how your mom may have hurt you seems like dangerous territory, but we will help you learn how to manage your difficult mother by: 1. Calling a spade a spade 2. Taking ownership for your healing 3. Setting boundaries 4. Grieving and forgiving Mother's Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters If you would like an episode recap, subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Have you ever spoken honestly about your mom, only to wonder if she heard what you said, and worry what the consequences might be?


Over the years in counseling, we've noticed that your mom takes up a significant amount of real estate in your head. Whether it's things she has said or done, you may notice that your relationship with your mom has left a lasting impression on you for good or bad.


In this episode Lynn and Austin first address the good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to mothers.


Recognizing how your mom may have hurt you seems like dangerous territory, but we will help you learn how to manage your difficult mother by:


1. Calling a spade a spade

2. Taking ownership for your healing

3. Setting boundaries

4. Grieving and forgiving


Mother's Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters


If you would like an episode recap, subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend!


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 3030 no Managing Your Difficult Father What role has your father played in shaping who you are today? It's an important question to ask yourself, especially if you have grown up with a difficult father. This episodes explores "the good, the bad and the ugly" when it comes to fathering. There are dads with good intentions who aren't perfect, but there are also bad fathers whose actions hurt and wound their children in powerful ways. In this episode, John Shay and Austin explore the difference between good fathers, bad fathers, and ugly fathers. No matter what your relationship with your dad currently looks like, this discussion will provide you with insight that you may have never considered. If you're a dad yourself, this content will help you think through the legacy you will pass on to your own kids. After listening you’ll realize that even if the wounds inflicted by your difficult father never fully heal, you can take intentional steps in your life that will bring growth, acceptance, and perspective. The Toxic War on Masculinity by Nancy Pearcey Father Hunger by Robert McGee Have you visited our website yet? Go to withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our newsletter for episode recaps, highlights and free resources. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content! Wed, 24 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 62 With You in the Weeds What role has your father played in shaping who you are today? What role has your father played in shaping who you are today? It's an important question to ask yourself, especially if you have grown up with a difficult father. This episodes explores "the good, the bad and the ugly" when it comes to fathering. There are dads with good intentions who aren't perfect, but there are also bad fathers whose actions hurt and wound their children in powerful ways. In this episode, John Shay and Austin explore the difference between good fathers, bad fathers, and ugly fathers. No matter what your relationship with your dad currently looks like, this discussion will provide you with insight that you may have never considered. If you're a dad yourself, this content will help you think through the legacy you will pass on to your own kids. After listening you’ll realize that even if the wounds inflicted by your difficult father never fully heal, you can take intentional steps in your life that will bring growth, acceptance, and perspective. The Toxic War on Masculinity by Nancy Pearcey Father Hunger by Robert McGee Have you visited our website yet? Go to withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our newsletter for episode recaps, highlights and free resources. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content! What role has your father played in shaping who you are today? It's an important question to ask yourself, especially if you have grown up with a difficult father.


This episodes explores "the good, the bad and the ugly" when it comes to fathering. There are dads with good intentions who aren't perfect, but there are also bad fathers whose actions hurt and wound their children in powerful ways.


In this episode, John Shay and Austin explore the difference between good fathers, bad fathers, and ugly fathers.


No matter what your relationship with your dad currently looks like, this discussion will provide you with insight that you may have never considered. If you're a dad yourself, this content will help you think through the legacy you will pass on to your own kids.


After listening you’ll realize that even if the wounds inflicted by your difficult father never fully heal, you can take intentional steps in your life that will bring growth, acceptance, and perspective.


The Toxic War on Masculinity by Nancy Pearcey

Father Hunger by Robert McGee


Have you visited our website yet? Go to withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our newsletter for episode recaps, highlights and free resources.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content!

]]> 3201 no Breaking the Rules of a Dysfunctional Family You're ready to break free from hurtful patterns in your family, but where do you begin? John, Lynn & Austin talk through 5 practical steps you can take to forge new patterns in your family: F igure out what’s going on O wn your own stuff R ealistic expectations G et help E stablish healthy boundaries Listen as they provide examples of each step and how these might look in your everyday experience. Taking these steps isn't easy, but is the path to freedom from destructive family dynamics. Check out our website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more! Connect with us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you'd like us to address. Wed, 17 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 61 With You in the Weeds You're ready to break free from hurtful patterns in your family, but where do you begin? You're ready to break free from hurtful patterns in your family, but where do you begin? John, Lynn & Austin talk through 5 practical steps you can take to forge new patterns in your family: F igure out what’s going on O wn your own stuff R ealistic expectations G et help E stablish healthy boundaries Listen as they provide examples of each step and how these might look in your everyday experience. Taking these steps isn't easy, but is the path to freedom from destructive family dynamics. Check out our website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more! Connect with us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you'd like us to address. You're ready to break free from hurtful patterns in your family, but where do you begin?


John, Lynn & Austin talk through 5 practical steps you can take to forge new patterns in your family:


F igure out what’s going on

O wn your own stuff

R ealistic expectations

G et help

E stablish healthy boundaries


Listen as they provide examples of each step and how these might look in your everyday experience. Taking these steps isn't easy, but is the path to freedom from destructive family dynamics.


Check out our website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more!


Connect with us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you'd like us to address.

]]> 2819 no The 3 Rules of a Dysfunctional Family Do you feel frustrated, hurt or misunderstood in your family? Do you have family relationships that are strained or broken? There may be some underlying forces at work in your family that you didn't even know were there. The 3 rules that guide the interactions of a dysfunctional family are: - Don't Talk - Don't Trust - Don't Feel These rules may not be posted on the refrigerator for all to see, but they are actively at work behind the scenes. This first episode in our new series Managing Your Dysfunctional Family is all about helping you make sense of rules you grew up with and how they've shaped the relationships in your family. John Tinnin, Austin Conner and Lynn Roush explain these rules as outlined in the book "It Will Never Happen to Me" by Claudia Black. Once you know the rules that govern your family, you can begin to break the generational cycles that may be keeping you stuck. Check out our new website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more! Connect with us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you'd like us to address. Wed, 10 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 60 With You in the Weeds Do you feel frustrated, hurt or misunderstood in your family? Do you feel frustrated, hurt or misunderstood in your family? Do you have family relationships that are strained or broken? There may be some underlying forces at work in your family that you didn't even know were there. The 3 rules that guide the interactions of a dysfunctional family are: - Don't Talk - Don't Trust - Don't Feel These rules may not be posted on the refrigerator for all to see, but they are actively at work behind the scenes. This first episode in our new series Managing Your Dysfunctional Family is all about helping you make sense of rules you grew up with and how they've shaped the relationships in your family. John Tinnin, Austin Conner and Lynn Roush explain these rules as outlined in the book "It Will Never Happen to Me" by Claudia Black. Once you know the rules that govern your family, you can begin to break the generational cycles that may be keeping you stuck. Check out our new website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more! Connect with us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you'd like us to address. Do you feel frustrated, hurt or misunderstood in your family? Do you have family relationships that are strained or broken?


There may be some underlying forces at work in your family that you didn't even know were there.


The 3 rules that guide the interactions of a dysfunctional family are:


- Don't Talk

- Don't Trust

- Don't Feel


These rules may not be posted on the refrigerator for all to see, but they are actively at work behind the scenes.


This first episode in our new series Managing Your Dysfunctional Family is all about helping you make sense of rules you grew up with and how they've shaped the relationships in your family.


John Tinnin, Austin Conner and Lynn Roush explain these rules as outlined in the book "It Will Never Happen to Me" by Claudia Black.


Once you know the rules that govern your family, you can begin to break the generational cycles that may be keeping you stuck.


Check out our new website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more!


Connect with us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you'd like us to address.

]]> 2475 no Your Emotional Dashboard 2.0 Happy New Year! We know that emotions tend to run high around the holidays, so we decided to recast our most popular episode, "Your Emotional Dashboard" because we've heard first hand how much this information has helped our listeners. This episode contains the foundational principles for Managing Your Emotions, which is something that requires a lot of practice and needs to be rehearsed over and over again. To follow along with this episode, we now have a FREE DOWNLOAD called Managing Your Emotions that you will find on our new website: withyouintheweeds.com. This free Managing Your Emotions guide is a great companion as you listen to this episode, and it includes notes on all the other emotions we covered in the series: anxiety, depression, sadness, grief, anger, guilt and shame. It also has a user-friendly feeling word sheet that's great for parents, teachers, journaling and self-reflection. Check out our new website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more! Next week we will launch our new series Managing Your Dysfunctional Family that you won't want to miss. The WYITW team is excited to help you manage the weeds of life in 2024, so stay tuned! Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: withyouintheweeds.com Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: @withyouintheweeds Wed, 03 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 full 60 With You in the Weeds Happy New Year! We know that emotions tend to run high around the holidays. Happy New Year! We know that emotions tend to run high around the holidays, so we decided to recast our most popular episode, "Your Emotional Dashboard" because we've heard first hand how much this information has helped our listeners. This episode contains the foundational principles for Managing Your Emotions, which is something that requires a lot of practice and needs to be rehearsed over and over again. To follow along with this episode, we now have a FREE DOWNLOAD called Managing Your Emotions that you will find on our new website: withyouintheweeds.com. This free Managing Your Emotions guide is a great companion as you listen to this episode, and it includes notes on all the other emotions we covered in the series: anxiety, depression, sadness, grief, anger, guilt and shame. It also has a user-friendly feeling word sheet that's great for parents, teachers, journaling and self-reflection. Check out our new website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more! Next week we will launch our new series Managing Your Dysfunctional Family that you won't want to miss. The WYITW team is excited to help you manage the weeds of life in 2024, so stay tuned! Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: withyouintheweeds.com Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: @withyouintheweeds Happy New Year!


We know that emotions tend to run high around the holidays, so we decided to recast our most popular episode, "Your Emotional Dashboard" because we've heard first hand how much this information has helped our listeners.


This episode contains the foundational principles for Managing Your Emotions, which is something that requires a lot of practice and needs to be rehearsed over and over again.


To follow along with this episode, we now have a FREE DOWNLOAD called Managing Your Emotions that you will find on our new website: withyouintheweeds.com.


This free Managing Your Emotions guide is a great companion as you listen to this episode, and it includes notes on all the other emotions we covered in the series: anxiety, depression, sadness, grief, anger, guilt and shame. It also has a user-friendly feeling word sheet that's great for parents, teachers, journaling and self-reflection.


Check out our new website withyouintheweeds.com and subscribe to our weekly newsletter so you can get podcast episode reminders, recaps, free resources and more!


Next week we will launch our new series Managing Your Dysfunctional Family that you won't want to miss.


The WYITW team is excited to help you manage the weeds of life in 2024, so stay tuned!


Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: withyouintheweeds.com


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]]> 2662 no "It's Hard to Say Scary Things" with Daniel & Alex Moore Hiring a financial advisor to help you make good investments for your future is praiseworthy and encouraged. So when your relationship is in trouble, why is seeking advice often looked down upon? Daniel & Alex Moore knew their marriage was in trouble when they were arguing at 3:00am about "whose life is harder". Knowing that they were stuck in a bad pattern pushed them to take the plunge into marriage counseling. What they found was that being honest about their struggles and learning to say scary things out loud was actually the first step to building a friendship that would last the test of time. Stories in the Weeds is a real life look into how the process of how counseling can bring hope and relief when the pressures of life get overwhelming. Life is messy, but having someone with you in the mess can make all the difference in the world. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 20 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 58 With You in the Weeds Why is seeking relationship advice often looked down upon? Hiring a financial advisor to help you make good investments for your future is praiseworthy and encouraged. So when your relationship is in trouble, why is seeking advice often looked down upon? Daniel & Alex Moore knew their marriage was in trouble when they were arguing at 3:00am about "whose life is harder". Knowing that they were stuck in a bad pattern pushed them to take the plunge into marriage counseling. What they found was that being honest about their struggles and learning to say scary things out loud was actually the first step to building a friendship that would last the test of time. Stories in the Weeds is a real life look into how the process of how counseling can bring hope and relief when the pressures of life get overwhelming. Life is messy, but having someone with you in the mess can make all the difference in the world. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Hiring a financial advisor to help you make good investments for your future is praiseworthy and encouraged. So when your relationship is in trouble, why is seeking advice often looked down upon?


Daniel & Alex Moore knew their marriage was in trouble when they were arguing at 3:00am about "whose life is harder". Knowing that they were stuck in a bad pattern pushed them to take the plunge into marriage counseling.


What they found was that being honest about their struggles and learning to say scary things out loud was actually the first step to building a friendship that would last the test of time.


Stories in the Weeds is a real life look into how the process of how counseling can bring hope and relief when the pressures of life get overwhelming.


Life is messy, but having someone with you in the mess can make all the difference in the world.

If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2551 no YQA IV: Logical Consequences, Sibling Rivalry & School Agendas This episode is about answering your questions on the topic of parenting! The "Becoming a Whole Person" series addressed many aspects of parenting and child development, but these listener questions will go deeper in the weeds on the following topics: 1) Logical Consequences: What are they? How do I implement them? Ideas for teens? 2) Sibling Rivalry: What's normal? How do I manage it? Ideas to minimize it? 3) School Agendas: How should I navigate agendas in my child's school that conflict with my values? John, Lynn & Shay walk through these questions to offer strategies and perspective on parenting through these challenges. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 13 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 57 With You in the Weeds This episode is about answering your questions on the topic of parenting! This episode is about answering your questions on the topic of parenting! The "Becoming a Whole Person" series addressed many aspects of parenting and child development, but these listener questions will go deeper in the weeds on the following topics: 1) Logical Consequences: What are they? How do I implement them? Ideas for teens? 2) Sibling Rivalry: What's normal? How do I manage it? Ideas to minimize it? 3) School Agendas: How should I navigate agendas in my child's school that conflict with my values? John, Lynn & Shay walk through these questions to offer strategies and perspective on parenting through these challenges. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. This episode is about answering your questions on the topic of parenting!


The "Becoming a Whole Person" series addressed many aspects of parenting and child development, but these listener questions will go deeper in the weeds on the following topics:


1) Logical Consequences: What are they? How do I implement them? Ideas for teens?


2) Sibling Rivalry: What's normal? How do I manage it? Ideas to minimize it?


3) School Agendas: How should I navigate agendas in my child's school that conflict with my values?


John, Lynn & Shay walk through these questions to offer strategies and perspective on parenting through these challenges.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2479 no What Every Parent Needs to Hear Many parents are imprisoned by the pressure to be perfect, and have all the right answers and responses.  But the reality is that every parent and caregiver makes mistakes and fails their kids.  John and Austin discuss the 4 biggest mistakes they see from parents: 1) Trying to control your kids 2) Ignoring your kids needs 3) Avoiding vulnerability & ownership 4) Inconsistency & unpredictability Each of these mistakes brings misunderstanding, frustration and hurt. So what can you do instead?  Listen in to hear the 4 key responses you can provide in these areas that have the power to bring hope and healing to your relationship. The main takeaway from this episode is that when you learn that you are flawed and still loved, that is a gift you can give your kids too. So be encouraged by what every parent needs to hear - "good enough parenting" is enough.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 06 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 56 With You in the Weeds Many parents are imprisoned by the pressure to be perfect, and have all the right answers and responses. Many parents are imprisoned by the pressure to be perfect, and have all the right answers and responses.  But the reality is that every parent and caregiver makes mistakes and fails their kids.  John and Austin discuss the 4 biggest mistakes they see from parents: 1) Trying to control your kids 2) Ignoring your kids needs 3) Avoiding vulnerability & ownership 4) Inconsistency & unpredictability Each of these mistakes brings misunderstanding, frustration and hurt. So what can you do instead?  Listen in to hear the 4 key responses you can provide in these areas that have the power to bring hope and healing to your relationship. The main takeaway from this episode is that when you learn that you are flawed and still loved, that is a gift you can give your kids too. So be encouraged by what every parent needs to hear - "good enough parenting" is enough.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Many parents are imprisoned by the pressure to be perfect, and have all the right answers and responses. 


But the reality is that every parent and caregiver makes mistakes and fails their kids. 


John and Austin discuss the 4 biggest mistakes they see from parents:

1) Trying to control your kids

2) Ignoring your kids needs

3) Avoiding vulnerability & ownership

4) Inconsistency & unpredictability


Each of these mistakes brings misunderstanding, frustration and hurt. So what can you do instead? 


Listen in to hear the 4 key responses you can provide in these areas that have the power to bring hope and healing to your relationship.


The main takeaway from this episode is that when you learn that you are flawed and still loved, that is a gift you can give your kids too. So be encouraged by what every parent needs to hear - "good enough parenting" is enough. 


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2504 no What Every Parent Regrets the Most: True Confessions of Shay & Lynn Parenting can feel like walking blindfolded on a greased tightrope over a frightening chasm. Having firm anchoring points along the way can ease your fears and help you know how to take the next step. Many parents fall off the tightrope by either "under" or "over" disciplining, which can strain relationships or cause future pain. This "true confessions" episode with Austin, Shay and Lynn will encourage you to keep going on your parenting journey and keep you focused on where you want to go. Reflecting on your parenting regrets isn't a fun exercise, but as Shay & Lynn confess the ways that they either "under" or "over" disciplined their kids, we hope you learn and grow as a parent. The team also tackles the topic of spanking, so you won't want to miss this honest conversation. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 29 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 55 With You in the Weeds Parenting can feel like walking blindfolded on a greased tightrope over a frightening chasm. Parenting can feel like walking blindfolded on a greased tightrope over a frightening chasm. Having firm anchoring points along the way can ease your fears and help you know how to take the next step. Many parents fall off the tightrope by either "under" or "over" disciplining, which can strain relationships or cause future pain. This "true confessions" episode with Austin, Shay and Lynn will encourage you to keep going on your parenting journey and keep you focused on where you want to go. Reflecting on your parenting regrets isn't a fun exercise, but as Shay & Lynn confess the ways that they either "under" or "over" disciplined their kids, we hope you learn and grow as a parent. The team also tackles the topic of spanking, so you won't want to miss this honest conversation. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Parenting can feel like walking blindfolded on a greased tightrope over a frightening chasm. Having firm anchoring points along the way can ease your fears and help you know how to take the next step.


Many parents fall off the tightrope by either "under" or "over" disciplining, which can strain relationships or cause future pain.


This "true confessions" episode with Austin, Shay and Lynn will encourage you to keep going on your parenting journey and keep you focused on where you want to go.


Reflecting on your parenting regrets isn't a fun exercise, but as Shay & Lynn confess the ways that they either "under" or "over" disciplined their kids, we hope you learn and grow as a parent.


The team also tackles the topic of spanking, so you won't want to miss this honest conversation.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 3586 no What Every Parent Can't Avoid You can ignore, dismiss, punish or try to fix emotions, but the reality is that they aren't going away. Until you can become emotionally intelligent yourself, it will be difficult for you to give your child the one thing they need from you the most: your heart. Relationships are built on emotional connection, but without modeling or instruction on how to identify and work with emotions, you may think that avoiding them is your only option. John & Lynn directly address the question of how to engage with your child's emotions in a way that creates further connection and builds relational trust. Using John & Julie Gottman's research on Emotion Coaching, John and Lynn offer a primer in how to coach yourself and your kids through the myriad of emotions that you can't avoid in life. For more information on Emotion Coaching, check out The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 22 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 54 With You in the Weeds You can ignore, dismiss, punish or try to fix emotions, but the reality is that they aren't going away. You can ignore, dismiss, punish or try to fix emotions, but the reality is that they aren't going away. Until you can become emotionally intelligent yourself, it will be difficult for you to give your child the one thing they need from you the most: your heart. Relationships are built on emotional connection, but without modeling or instruction on how to identify and work with emotions, you may think that avoiding them is your only option. John & Lynn directly address the question of how to engage with your child's emotions in a way that creates further connection and builds relational trust. Using John & Julie Gottman's research on Emotion Coaching, John and Lynn offer a primer in how to coach yourself and your kids through the myriad of emotions that you can't avoid in life. For more information on Emotion Coaching, check out The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. You can ignore, dismiss, punish or try to fix emotions, but the reality is that they aren't going away.


Until you can become emotionally intelligent yourself, it will be difficult for you to give your child the one thing they need from you the most: your heart.


Relationships are built on emotional connection, but without modeling or instruction on how to identify and work with emotions, you may think that avoiding them is your only option.


John & Lynn directly address the question of how to engage with your child's emotions in a way that creates further connection and builds relational trust.


Using John & Julie Gottman's research on Emotion Coaching, John and Lynn offer a primer in how to coach yourself and your kids through the myriad of emotions that you can't avoid in life.


For more information on Emotion Coaching, check out The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2496 no What Every Child Fears the Most It's easy to think that childhood fears are silly and irrational, but have you considered that there is a fear that drives both children and adults to behave or respond in extreme ways? Maybe you get angry and react irrationally at an innocent comment.  Or you notice a child throw themselves to the floor when asked to do a simple task. Or you have a co-worker sabotage your team project when they don't get the recognition they think they deserve. Listen as Lynn, Shay and Austin discuss an underlying fear that hides beneath the surface of many problematic behaviors - the fear of abandonment and losing connection. After listening you’ll get an idea of what feeds this fear, what calms this fear and how you can manage this fear in your own life and as a parent. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 15 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 53 With You in the Weeds It's easy to think that childhood fears are silly and irrational, but have you considered that there is a fear that drives both children and adults to behave or respond in extreme ways? It's easy to think that childhood fears are silly and irrational, but have you considered that there is a fear that drives both children and adults to behave or respond in extreme ways? Maybe you get angry and react irrationally at an innocent comment.  Or you notice a child throw themselves to the floor when asked to do a simple task. Or you have a co-worker sabotage your team project when they don't get the recognition they think they deserve. Listen as Lynn, Shay and Austin discuss an underlying fear that hides beneath the surface of many problematic behaviors - the fear of abandonment and losing connection. After listening you’ll get an idea of what feeds this fear, what calms this fear and how you can manage this fear in your own life and as a parent. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. It's easy to think that childhood fears are silly and irrational, but have you considered that there is a fear that drives both children and adults to behave or respond in extreme ways?


Maybe you get angry and react irrationally at an innocent comment. 


Or you notice a child throw themselves to the floor when asked to do a simple task.


Or you have a co-worker sabotage your team project when they don't get the recognition they think they deserve.


Listen as Lynn, Shay and Austin discuss an underlying fear that hides beneath the surface of many problematic behaviors - the fear of abandonment and losing connection.


After listening you’ll get an idea of what feeds this fear, what calms this fear and how you can manage this fear in your own life and as a parent.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2946 no What Every Child Needs to Know Pt. 2 The 2 core questions that you are asking in every stage of development are: Am I loved? Can I be free? This episode explores the 2nd question: "Can I be free?"  The heart behind this question is wondering if you can be your own person, be independent, and be your own authority. When you begin to notice how this question presents itself, you'll have a better understanding of what drives you as an adult, as well as what drives the heart of your child. Parents are helping children build an internal "freedom" container which creates independence because we were created for autonomy with the ability to make our own meaningful choices. Yet true freedom happens within limits. Both adults and kids need to understand what those limits are in order to exercise impulse control and delayed gratification which builds wisdom and character. Join John, Lynn & Shay as they address the importance of answering this core question as you work towards Becoming a Whole Person. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 08 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 full 52 With You in the Weeds The 2 core questions that you are asking in every stage of development are: Am I loved? Can I be free? The 2 core questions that you are asking in every stage of development are: Am I loved? Can I be free? This episode explores the 2nd question: "Can I be free?"  The heart behind this question is wondering if you can be your own person, be independent, and be your own authority. When you begin to notice how this question presents itself, you'll have a better understanding of what drives you as an adult, as well as what drives the heart of your child. Parents are helping children build an internal "freedom" container which creates independence because we were created for autonomy with the ability to make our own meaningful choices. Yet true freedom happens within limits. Both adults and kids need to understand what those limits are in order to exercise impulse control and delayed gratification which builds wisdom and character. Join John, Lynn & Shay as they address the importance of answering this core question as you work towards Becoming a Whole Person. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. The 2 core questions that you are asking in every stage of development are:


Am I loved?

Can I be free?


This episode explores the 2nd question: "Can I be free?" 


The heart behind this question is wondering if you can be your own person, be independent, and be your own authority.


When you begin to notice how this question presents itself, you'll have a better understanding of what drives you as an adult, as well as what drives the heart of your child.


Parents are helping children build an internal "freedom" container which creates independence because we were created for autonomy with the ability to make our own meaningful choices.


Yet true freedom happens within limits. Both adults and kids need to understand what those limits are in order to exercise impulse control and delayed gratification which builds wisdom and character.


Join John, Lynn & Shay as they address the importance of answering this core question as you work towards Becoming a Whole Person.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2292 no What Every Child Needs to Know Pt. 1 Everyone is looking for the answer to these two questions: Am I loved? Can I be free? It may sound simple, but these two core questions are a driving force in every child's psychological and emotional development. So what does a child need from a parent to know the answer to the question: "Am I loved?"  John, Shay and Lynn will get specific about how parents can help their child build a strong internal "love container" that will help them move through life with confidence. They also discuss the implications of not having this question answered, and how that impacts a person even in adulthood. Stay tuned to this Becoming a Whole Person series, so that you can learn the basic ingredients everyone needs to continue growing in maturity and wisdom. Books recommendations: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker, M.D. Boys Should Be Boys by Meg Meeker, M.D. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 01 Nov 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 51 With You in the Weeds Everyone is looking for the answer to these two questions: Am I loved? Can I be free? Everyone is looking for the answer to these two questions: Am I loved? Can I be free? It may sound simple, but these two core questions are a driving force in every child's psychological and emotional development. So what does a child need from a parent to know the answer to the question: "Am I loved?"  John, Shay and Lynn will get specific about how parents can help their child build a strong internal "love container" that will help them move through life with confidence. They also discuss the implications of not having this question answered, and how that impacts a person even in adulthood. Stay tuned to this Becoming a Whole Person series, so that you can learn the basic ingredients everyone needs to continue growing in maturity and wisdom. Books recommendations: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker, M.D. Boys Should Be Boys by Meg Meeker, M.D. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Everyone is looking for the answer to these two questions:


Am I loved?

Can I be free?


It may sound simple, but these two core questions are a driving force in every child's psychological and emotional development.


So what does a child need from a parent to know the answer to the question: "Am I loved?" 


John, Shay and Lynn will get specific about how parents can help their child build a strong internal "love container" that will help them move through life with confidence.


They also discuss the implications of not having this question answered, and how that impacts a person even in adulthood.


Stay tuned to this Becoming a Whole Person series, so that you can learn the basic ingredients everyone needs to continue growing in maturity and wisdom.


Books recommendations:

Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker, M.D.

Boys Should Be Boys by Meg Meeker, M.D.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 1900 no What Every Child Needs to Grow This episode launches our new series: Becoming a Whole Person.  You are on a growth journey towards becoming a whole person, no matter how old you are. In fact, you never stop growing! All children need basic ingredients to grow, and these are actually the same ingredients that you need to keep growing as an adult. In this episode, John, Lynn and Austin discuss two key ingredients for growth: Love and Limits. As you listen, you will discover: - What are love and limits - How the presence (or absence) of love and limits impacts growth for kids and adults - Practical takeaways for parents to help their child keep growing towards becoming a whole person So whether you are a parent, ministry leader, young professional, mentor, teacher, or you’re just wanting to know for yourself how to stay on a growth path to becoming a whole person, this series is going to offer you the nuts and bolts of what it takes to develop along the way. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. Wed, 25 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 50 With You in the Weeds This episode launches our new series: Becoming a Whole Person. This episode launches our new series: Becoming a Whole Person.  You are on a growth journey towards becoming a whole person, no matter how old you are. In fact, you never stop growing! All children need basic ingredients to grow, and these are actually the same ingredients that you need to keep growing as an adult. In this episode, John, Lynn and Austin discuss two key ingredients for growth: Love and Limits. As you listen, you will discover: - What are love and limits - How the presence (or absence) of love and limits impacts growth for kids and adults - Practical takeaways for parents to help their child keep growing towards becoming a whole person So whether you are a parent, ministry leader, young professional, mentor, teacher, or you’re just wanting to know for yourself how to stay on a growth path to becoming a whole person, this series is going to offer you the nuts and bolts of what it takes to develop along the way. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review.  You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes. This episode launches our new series: Becoming a Whole Person. 


You are on a growth journey towards becoming a whole person, no matter how old you are. In fact, you never stop growing!


All children need basic ingredients to grow, and these are actually the same ingredients that you need to keep growing as an adult.


In this episode, John, Lynn and Austin discuss two key ingredients for growth: Love and Limits. As you listen, you will discover:


- What are love and limits

- How the presence (or absence) of love and limits impacts growth for kids and adults

- Practical takeaways for parents to help their child keep growing towards becoming a whole person


So whether you are a parent, ministry leader, young professional, mentor, teacher, or you’re just wanting to know for yourself how to stay on a growth path to becoming a whole person, this series is going to offer you the nuts and bolts of what it takes to develop along the way.


If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. 


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.

]]> 2502 no "I Didn't Know How to Grieve" with James Bachman One of the most beneficial aspects of counseling is taking the time to reflect on the story of your life. In this new pop-up series called "Stories in the Weeds", Austin Conner interviews James Bachman as he recalls how he initially believed that grieving was only necessary after a huge loss in life, like the death of his father. But what James came to understand as he worked through his story, is that both big and small losses need to be grieved, or you will stay stuck. The WYITW team believes that your unique and complex story holds powerful insights waiting to be explored.  As you listen to how counseling gave James a new perspective on life and helped him grow as a person, we hope you are inspired to dig deeper into your own story. Be looking for more "Stories in the Weeds" in the future, so you can be a fly on the wall and listen in to how and why counseling can be an effective tool to substantial transformation. Wed, 18 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 48 With You in the Weeds One of the most beneficial aspects of counseling is taking the time to reflect on the story of your life. One of the most beneficial aspects of counseling is taking the time to reflect on the story of your life. In this new pop-up series called "Stories in the Weeds", Austin Conner interviews James Bachman as he recalls how he initially believed that grieving was only necessary after a huge loss in life, like the death of his father. But what James came to understand as he worked through his story, is that both big and small losses need to be grieved, or you will stay stuck. The WYITW team believes that your unique and complex story holds powerful insights waiting to be explored.  As you listen to how counseling gave James a new perspective on life and helped him grow as a person, we hope you are inspired to dig deeper into your own story. Be looking for more "Stories in the Weeds" in the future, so you can be a fly on the wall and listen in to how and why counseling can be an effective tool to substantial transformation. One of the most beneficial aspects of counseling is taking the time to reflect on the story of your life.


In this new pop-up series called "Stories in the Weeds", Austin Conner interviews James Bachman as he recalls how he initially believed that grieving was only necessary after a huge loss in life, like the death of his father.


But what James came to understand as he worked through his story, is that both big and small losses need to be grieved, or you will stay stuck.


The WYITW team believes that your unique and complex story holds powerful insights waiting to be explored. 


As you listen to how counseling gave James a new perspective on life and helped him grow as a person, we hope you are inspired to dig deeper into your own story.


Be looking for more "Stories in the Weeds" in the future, so you can be a fly on the wall and listen in to how and why counseling can be an effective tool to substantial transformation.

]]> 1941 no Your Questions Answered III We enjoy answering questions submitted by our listeners, and these 2 questions have John and Austin jumping in the deep end as they address questions about marriage and pornography.  1. Marriage: "At the heart of most of our marital conflicts it seems as though my spouse expects me to meet their needs that I cannot meet. How do I handle that?" 2. Pornography: "What advice would you give to someone who is addicted to pornography? This has been a struggle of mine for such a long time. I know why it’s a problem and want to stop, but I can’t seem to get any long term freedom from it.” John and Austin's answers to these questions may surprise, challenge and encourage you. This episode provides clarity on how to manage seemingly unresolvable conflicts in marriage, as well as some concrete steps to manage pornography use and addiction. Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 11 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 48 With You in the Weeds We enjoy answering questions submitted by our listeners, and these 2 questions have John and Austin jumping in the deep end. We enjoy answering questions submitted by our listeners, and these 2 questions have John and Austin jumping in the deep end as they address questions about marriage and pornography.  1. Marriage: "At the heart of most of our marital conflicts it seems as though my spouse expects me to meet their needs that I cannot meet. How do I handle that?" 2. Pornography: "What advice would you give to someone who is addicted to pornography? This has been a struggle of mine for such a long time. I know why it’s a problem and want to stop, but I can’t seem to get any long term freedom from it.” John and Austin's answers to these questions may surprise, challenge and encourage you. This episode provides clarity on how to manage seemingly unresolvable conflicts in marriage, as well as some concrete steps to manage pornography use and addiction. Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. We enjoy answering questions submitted by our listeners, and these 2 questions have John and Austin jumping in the deep end as they address questions about marriage and pornography. 


1. Marriage: "At the heart of most of our marital conflicts it seems as though my spouse expects me to meet their needs that I cannot meet. How do I handle that?"


2. Pornography: "What advice would you give to someone who is addicted to pornography? This has been a struggle of mine for such a long time. I know why it’s a problem and want to stop, but I can’t seem to get any long term freedom from it.”


John and Austin's answers to these questions may surprise, challenge and encourage you. This episode provides clarity on how to manage seemingly unresolvable conflicts in marriage, as well as some concrete steps to manage pornography use and addiction.


Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us!


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2376 no All That's Lost Will Be Restored What happens after you die? Where will heaven be? What will you do in heaven? Whether you know it or not, your beliefs about heaven impact your current perspective. And without a biblically informed understanding of heaven, you may be prone to adopting a narrative about what happens after death that is inaccurate. What Shay & Austin explain in this episode is that ultimately, heaven is relational. Meaning, heaven is where you will be fully known and fully loved, enjoying perfect community with Jesus and those you have loved and known here on earth. Once you come to understand the significance of how Jesus will make all things new, and wipe away every tear from your eyes, your present sufferings and hardships will not feel so hopeless. Listen as Shay and Austin give a vision for heaven that will tap into your deepest longing for all things lost to be restored.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 04 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 47 With You in the Weeds What happens after you die? Where will heaven be? What will you do in heaven? What happens after you die? Where will heaven be? What will you do in heaven? Whether you know it or not, your beliefs about heaven impact your current perspective. And without a biblically informed understanding of heaven, you may be prone to adopting a narrative about what happens after death that is inaccurate. What Shay & Austin explain in this episode is that ultimately, heaven is relational. Meaning, heaven is where you will be fully known and fully loved, enjoying perfect community with Jesus and those you have loved and known here on earth. Once you come to understand the significance of how Jesus will make all things new, and wipe away every tear from your eyes, your present sufferings and hardships will not feel so hopeless. Listen as Shay and Austin give a vision for heaven that will tap into your deepest longing for all things lost to be restored.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. What happens after you die?


Where will heaven be?


What will you do in heaven?


Whether you know it or not, your beliefs about heaven impact your current perspective. And without a biblically informed understanding of heaven, you may be prone to adopting a narrative about what happens after death that is inaccurate.


What Shay & Austin explain in this episode is that ultimately, heaven is relational. Meaning, heaven is where you will be fully known and fully loved, enjoying perfect community with Jesus and those you have loved and known here on earth.


Once you come to understand the significance of how Jesus will make all things new, and wipe away every tear from your eyes, your present sufferings and hardships will not feel so hopeless.


Listen as Shay and Austin give a vision for heaven that will tap into your deepest longing for all things lost to be restored. 


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 3210 no The Father You've Always Longed For If this title hits a nerve, you’re in good company because everyone has some sort of internal emotional response when they think of their father, good or bad. But we’re talking about it because we’re all children with a built-in longing to connect with our father. And given that no one has had a perfect human father, it's hard for us to imagine God as our Heavenly Father being as good as the Bible tells us he is. In this episode Lynn, John, and Austin discuss what spiritual adoption is and the implications it has in our lives when we relate to God as our Father: Spiritual adoption means our debts are canceled. Spiritual adoption means God feels compassion and tenderness towards us.  Spiritual adoption means it’s possible to reshape our father filter. Being Grounded in Grace includes embracing your identity as a child of God, so you don't want to miss this compelling conversation.   If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 27 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 46 With You in the Weeds If this title hits a nerve, you’re in good company because everyone has some sort of internal emotional response when they think of their father, good or bad. If this title hits a nerve, you’re in good company because everyone has some sort of internal emotional response when they think of their father, good or bad. But we’re talking about it because we’re all children with a built-in longing to connect with our father. And given that no one has had a perfect human father, it's hard for us to imagine God as our Heavenly Father being as good as the Bible tells us he is. In this episode Lynn, John, and Austin discuss what spiritual adoption is and the implications it has in our lives when we relate to God as our Father: Spiritual adoption means our debts are canceled. Spiritual adoption means God feels compassion and tenderness towards us.  Spiritual adoption means it’s possible to reshape our father filter. Being Grounded in Grace includes embracing your identity as a child of God, so you don't want to miss this compelling conversation.   If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. If this title hits a nerve, you’re in good company because everyone has some sort of internal emotional response when they think of their father, good or bad. But we’re talking about it because we’re all children with a built-in longing to connect with our father.


And given that no one has had a perfect human father, it's hard for us to imagine God as our Heavenly Father being as good as the Bible tells us he is.


In this episode Lynn, John, and Austin discuss what spiritual adoption is and the implications it has in our lives when we relate to God as our Father:


Spiritual adoption means our debts are canceled.


Spiritual adoption means God feels compassion and tenderness towards us. 


Spiritual adoption means it’s possible to reshape our father filter.


Being Grounded in Grace includes embracing your identity as a child of God, so you don't want to miss this compelling conversation.

 

If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2836 no Surviving the Silence of God Does it ever feel like you’re calling God and he’s just not picking up? Have you ever believed God loves you in your head, but not in your heart?  Has this head/heart gap lasted a long time, felt hopeless, or caused feelings of guilt and despair? If so, you might actually be right where God wants you. In this episode John, Shay, and Austin discuss the specifics of what the “silence of God” is, relate stories and scriptures about when God feels distant and describe experiences of dark nights of the soul. This stage of your spiritual growth may feel like a desert, the wilderness or a valley and you may wonder how you will survive this painful season. But we want to encourage you that there may be more happening behind the scenes even when God seems unresponsive to your pain.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 20 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 45 With You in the Weeds Does it ever feel like you’re calling God and he’s just not picking up? Does it ever feel like you’re calling God and he’s just not picking up? Have you ever believed God loves you in your head, but not in your heart?  Has this head/heart gap lasted a long time, felt hopeless, or caused feelings of guilt and despair? If so, you might actually be right where God wants you. In this episode John, Shay, and Austin discuss the specifics of what the “silence of God” is, relate stories and scriptures about when God feels distant and describe experiences of dark nights of the soul. This stage of your spiritual growth may feel like a desert, the wilderness or a valley and you may wonder how you will survive this painful season. But we want to encourage you that there may be more happening behind the scenes even when God seems unresponsive to your pain.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Does it ever feel like you’re calling God and he’s just not picking up? Have you ever believed God loves you in your head, but not in your heart? 


Has this head/heart gap lasted a long time, felt hopeless, or caused feelings of guilt and despair? If so, you might actually be right where God wants you.


In this episode John, Shay, and Austin discuss the specifics of what the “silence of God” is, relate stories and scriptures about when God feels distant and describe experiences of dark nights of the soul.


This stage of your spiritual growth may feel like a desert, the wilderness or a valley and you may wonder how you will survive this painful season.


But we want to encourage you that there may be more happening behind the scenes even when God seems unresponsive to your pain. 


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2851 no Why You Are Not Where You Want to Be As counselors, we are often asked by clients these perplexing questions: "Why do I do what I don't want to do? Why am I not further along in my spiritual growth? Will I ever be free from this besetting sin?"  These questions immediately get to the heart of the internal battle we all face when it comes to the topic of indwelling sin and what growth looks like in the life of a Christian. John, Lynn, and Austin discuss the parasitic nature of sin and how it imbeds and expresses itself in our hearts and infects our relationships, often leading to various forms of destruction.  But Jesus has overcome the power of sin and is committed to beginning and empowering your growth (a process called sanctification) which can be characterized by staying, growing, and responding. When you’re done with this episode you’ll get clarity on why the struggle is so hard and renewed hope the next time you find yourself doing what you don’t want to do. Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 13 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 44 With You in the Weeds As counselors, we are often asked by clients these perplexing questions: "Why do I do what I don't want to do? As counselors, we are often asked by clients these perplexing questions: "Why do I do what I don't want to do? Why am I not further along in my spiritual growth? Will I ever be free from this besetting sin?"  These questions immediately get to the heart of the internal battle we all face when it comes to the topic of indwelling sin and what growth looks like in the life of a Christian. John, Lynn, and Austin discuss the parasitic nature of sin and how it imbeds and expresses itself in our hearts and infects our relationships, often leading to various forms of destruction.  But Jesus has overcome the power of sin and is committed to beginning and empowering your growth (a process called sanctification) which can be characterized by staying, growing, and responding. When you’re done with this episode you’ll get clarity on why the struggle is so hard and renewed hope the next time you find yourself doing what you don’t want to do. Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. As counselors, we are often asked by clients these perplexing questions: "Why do I do what I don't want to do? Why am I not further along in my spiritual growth? Will I ever be free from this besetting sin?" 


These questions immediately get to the heart of the internal battle we all face when it comes to the topic of indwelling sin and what growth looks like in the life of a Christian.


John, Lynn, and Austin discuss the parasitic nature of sin and how it imbeds and expresses itself in our hearts and infects our relationships, often leading to various forms of destruction. 


But Jesus has overcome the power of sin and is committed to beginning and empowering your growth (a process called sanctification) which can be characterized by staying, growing, and responding.


When you’re done with this episode you’ll get clarity on why the struggle is so hard and renewed hope the next time you find yourself doing what you don’t want to do.


Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us!


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2833 Do You Feel Like a Spiritual Imposter? Have you noticed that we live in a world where you are judged by your performance?  Your sense of purpose, identity and value seems to hang on the balance of how well you perform in school, at work, as a parent and even as a Christian. But what happens when you realize you can’t measure up, no matter how hard you try?  Pastor Erwin Lutzer joins Lynn Roush & Shay Roush on this second episode in our Grounded in Grace series, where they discuss the self-doubt, fear of failure and insecurities that exhaust and paralyze you when trying to perform your way into love and acceptance.  What if you could depend on someone else’s perfect performance and rest in the fact that someone else has done everything necessary for you to be safe, secure and accepted? This powerful teaching of justification might be the most unbelieveable part of the gospel message. Listen in so that you can be anchored and rooted in God’s grace and not feel like a spiritual imposter! Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 06 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 43 With You in the Weeds Have you noticed that we live in a world where you are judged by your performance? Have you noticed that we live in a world where you are judged by your performance?  Your sense of purpose, identity and value seems to hang on the balance of how well you perform in school, at work, as a parent and even as a Christian. But what happens when you realize you can’t measure up, no matter how hard you try?  Pastor Erwin Lutzer joins Lynn Roush & Shay Roush on this second episode in our Grounded in Grace series, where they discuss the self-doubt, fear of failure and insecurities that exhaust and paralyze you when trying to perform your way into love and acceptance.  What if you could depend on someone else’s perfect performance and rest in the fact that someone else has done everything necessary for you to be safe, secure and accepted? This powerful teaching of justification might be the most unbelieveable part of the gospel message. Listen in so that you can be anchored and rooted in God’s grace and not feel like a spiritual imposter! Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Have you noticed that we live in a world where you are judged by your performance? 


Your sense of purpose, identity and value seems to hang on the balance of how well you perform in school, at work, as a parent and even as a Christian. But what happens when you realize you can’t measure up, no matter how hard you try? 


Pastor Erwin Lutzer joins Lynn Roush & Shay Roush on this second episode in our Grounded in Grace series, where they discuss the self-doubt, fear of failure and insecurities that exhaust and paralyze you when trying to perform your way into love and acceptance. 


What if you could depend on someone else’s perfect performance and rest in the fact that someone else has done everything necessary for you to be safe, secure and accepted? This powerful teaching of justification might be the most unbelieveable part of the gospel message.


Listen in so that you can be anchored and rooted in God’s grace and not feel like a spiritual imposter!


Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us!


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2030 Jesus is With You in the Weeds This episode kicks off a new series called Grounded in Grace where we will explore several key theological truths that we need to understand and cling to in the weeds of life. We kick things off with the most foundational truth of all - The Gospel. But what does that even mean? And what implications will it have in your life?  John, Shay and Austin discuss the heart of the gospel message: that God sent Jesus to be in the weeds with you. This profound truth changes everything and impacts every area of your life: The gospel changes your identity The gospel changes your purpose The gospel provides divine power for change and internal transformation The gospel of grace is at the heart of Soul Care, so we are excited about this new series! Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 30 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 42 With You in the Weeds This episode kicks off a new series called Grounded in Grace. This episode kicks off a new series called Grounded in Grace where we will explore several key theological truths that we need to understand and cling to in the weeds of life. We kick things off with the most foundational truth of all - The Gospel. But what does that even mean? And what implications will it have in your life?  John, Shay and Austin discuss the heart of the gospel message: that God sent Jesus to be in the weeds with you. This profound truth changes everything and impacts every area of your life: The gospel changes your identity The gospel changes your purpose The gospel provides divine power for change and internal transformation The gospel of grace is at the heart of Soul Care, so we are excited about this new series! Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us! You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. This episode kicks off a new series called Grounded in Grace where we will explore several key theological truths that we need to understand and cling to in the weeds of life.


We kick things off with the most foundational truth of all - The Gospel. But what does that even mean? And what implications will it have in your life? 


John, Shay and Austin discuss the heart of the gospel message: that God sent Jesus to be in the weeds with you. This profound truth changes everything and impacts every area of your life:


The gospel changes your identity


The gospel changes your purpose


The gospel provides divine power for change and internal transformation


The gospel of grace is at the heart of Soul Care, so we are excited about this new series!


Are you enjoying the WYITW podcast? We'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review on your podcast app. And tell your friends about us!


You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2894 Your Questions Answered II This is our second installment of answering YOUR questions! The WYITW team tackles 2 listener questions in this episode: 1. What therapeutic concept has been most eye-opening and helpful to you as a counselor? 2. As a single person in the church, I struggle to figure out where I fit in. How do I deal with being single when I feel overlooked? John, Shay, Lynn & Austin have a spirited round table discussion on these excellent questions as they share what they have learned from their experiences in ministry and counseling. We invite you to send us YOUR questions via email at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com or find us on Instagram or Facebook @withyouintheweeds, and message your question to our team. Wed, 23 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 41 With You in the Weeds This is our second installment of answering YOUR questions! This is our second installment of answering YOUR questions! The WYITW team tackles 2 listener questions in this episode: 1. What therapeutic concept has been most eye-opening and helpful to you as a counselor? 2. As a single person in the church, I struggle to figure out where I fit in. How do I deal with being single when I feel overlooked? John, Shay, Lynn & Austin have a spirited round table discussion on these excellent questions as they share what they have learned from their experiences in ministry and counseling. We invite you to send us YOUR questions via email at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com or find us on Instagram or Facebook @withyouintheweeds, and message your question to our team. This is our second installment of answering YOUR questions!


The WYITW team tackles 2 listener questions in this episode:


1. What therapeutic concept has been most eye-opening and helpful to you as a counselor?


2. As a single person in the church, I struggle to figure out where I fit in. How do I deal with being single when I feel overlooked?


John, Shay, Lynn & Austin have a spirited round table discussion on these excellent questions as they share what they have learned from their experiences in ministry and counseling.


We invite you to send us YOUR questions via email at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com or find us on Instagram or Facebook @withyouintheweeds, and message your question to our team.

]]> 2726 no Nothing Can Disqualify You From God's Love Perhaps you know this in your mind, but actually believing it in your heart is a different story. John, Shay, and Austin set out to help close this gap between your head and your heart. They discuss the following 3 important biblical truths that you need to remember: 1. God's heart is for the sexually broken. 2. The gospel says that you are simultaneously far more broken than you know, and yet far more loved than you can imagine. This powerful truth redeems, restores, and reminds us of our God-given dignity and value. 3. The promise of Romans 8:38-39 - Nothing can separate you from the love of God in Christ Jesus. They also discuss 3 practical ways to “clear the runway” of your life in order for those biblical truths to land: First, learn the relational equation: honesty + vulnerability = connection. Second, prepare for a marathon, not a 100 yard dash. Third, your actions may have painful consequences but God's enduring love for you remains unchanged. Our hope is that after listening you will be able to believe, even just a little bit more, that sexual brokenness does NOT disqualify you from God’s love. If you want to read more on this topic, check out the following books:  "Surfing for God" by Michael John Cusick "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer  "On The Threshold of Hope" by Diane Langberg If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 16 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 40 With You in the Weeds Perhaps you know this in your mind, but actually believing it in your heart is a different story. Perhaps you know this in your mind, but actually believing it in your heart is a different story. John, Shay, and Austin set out to help close this gap between your head and your heart. They discuss the following 3 important biblical truths that you need to remember: 1. God's heart is for the sexually broken. 2. The gospel says that you are simultaneously far more broken than you know, and yet far more loved than you can imagine. This powerful truth redeems, restores, and reminds us of our God-given dignity and value. 3. The promise of Romans 8:38-39 - Nothing can separate you from the love of God in Christ Jesus. They also discuss 3 practical ways to “clear the runway” of your life in order for those biblical truths to land: First, learn the relational equation: honesty + vulnerability = connection. Second, prepare for a marathon, not a 100 yard dash. Third, your actions may have painful consequences but God's enduring love for you remains unchanged. Our hope is that after listening you will be able to believe, even just a little bit more, that sexual brokenness does NOT disqualify you from God’s love. If you want to read more on this topic, check out the following books:  "Surfing for God" by Michael John Cusick "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer  "On The Threshold of Hope" by Diane Langberg If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Perhaps you know this in your mind, but actually believing it in your heart is a different story. John, Shay, and Austin set out to help close this gap between your head and your heart.


They discuss the following 3 important biblical truths that you need to remember:


1. God's heart is for the sexually broken.

2. The gospel says that you are simultaneously far more broken than you know, and yet far more loved than you can imagine. This powerful truth redeems, restores, and reminds us of our God-given dignity and value.

3. The promise of Romans 8:38-39 - Nothing can separate you from the love of God in Christ Jesus.


They also discuss 3 practical ways to “clear the runway” of your life in order for those biblical truths to land:


First, learn the relational equation: honesty + vulnerability = connection.


Second, prepare for a marathon, not a 100 yard dash.


Third, your actions may have painful consequences but God's enduring love for you remains unchanged.


Our hope is that after listening you will be able to believe, even just a little bit more, that sexual brokenness does NOT disqualify you from God’s love.


If you want to read more on this topic, check out the following books: 


"Surfing for God" by Michael John Cusick


"Unwanted" by Jay Stringer 


"On The Threshold of Hope" by Diane Langberg


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2736 no "Sexual Brokenness Disqualifies You From God's Love" Have you ever believed this about yourself? We know that this bad, false belief is pervasive and often reinforced by feelings of self-loathing and self-condemnation. That's why the With You in the Weeds team decided to tackle it head on. Lynn, John, and Austin address what might be one of the most heavy, messy, and complex FALSE beliefs in the entire series "Beliefs That Keep You Stuck". They define “sexual brokenness” and unpack the progression of intimate bonding and the powerful impact it has on your body and soul. This episode highlights 3 crucial principles you need to be aware of when it comes to the process of sexual bonding and relational attachment that may shed light on why this struggle feels so hard. Our hope is that as we tackle this false belief, the burdens you may carry related to this topic would be a bit lighter and that you have a better understanding of how this false belief is impacting you.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 09 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 39 With You in the Weeds Have you ever believed this about yourself? Have you ever believed this about yourself? We know that this bad, false belief is pervasive and often reinforced by feelings of self-loathing and self-condemnation. That's why the With You in the Weeds team decided to tackle it head on. Lynn, John, and Austin address what might be one of the most heavy, messy, and complex FALSE beliefs in the entire series "Beliefs That Keep You Stuck". They define “sexual brokenness” and unpack the progression of intimate bonding and the powerful impact it has on your body and soul. This episode highlights 3 crucial principles you need to be aware of when it comes to the process of sexual bonding and relational attachment that may shed light on why this struggle feels so hard. Our hope is that as we tackle this false belief, the burdens you may carry related to this topic would be a bit lighter and that you have a better understanding of how this false belief is impacting you.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Have you ever believed this about yourself? We know that this bad, false belief is pervasive and often reinforced by feelings of self-loathing and self-condemnation. That's why the With You in the Weeds team decided to tackle it head on.


Lynn, John, and Austin address what might be one of the most heavy, messy, and complex FALSE beliefs in the entire series "Beliefs That Keep You Stuck". They define “sexual brokenness” and unpack the progression of intimate bonding and the powerful impact it has on your body and soul.


This episode highlights 3 crucial principles you need to be aware of when it comes to the process of sexual bonding and relational attachment that may shed light on why this struggle feels so hard.


Our hope is that as we tackle this false belief, the burdens you may carry related to this topic would be a bit lighter and that you have a better understanding of how this false belief is impacting you. 


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2262 no "Shoulds" Hurt More Than Help We know it’s counterintuitive, but it’s true. "Shoulding" yourself into being a better person neglects the most important ingredient we need to grow: grace. John, Shay, and Lynn share why it’s hard to believe this is true and discuss the proper place “shoulds” have in the Christian life. When you’re done with the episode you’ll know how important it is to: -Focus on trusting God instead of pleasing God -Use discernment when you see “shoulds” controlling your life -Begin saying “I wish” instead of “I should” If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 02 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 38 With You in the Weeds We know it’s counterintuitive, but it’s true. We know it’s counterintuitive, but it’s true. "Shoulding" yourself into being a better person neglects the most important ingredient we need to grow: grace. John, Shay, and Lynn share why it’s hard to believe this is true and discuss the proper place “shoulds” have in the Christian life. When you’re done with the episode you’ll know how important it is to: -Focus on trusting God instead of pleasing God -Use discernment when you see “shoulds” controlling your life -Begin saying “I wish” instead of “I should” If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. We know it’s counterintuitive, but it’s true. "Shoulding" yourself into being a better person neglects the most important ingredient we need to grow: grace.


John, Shay, and Lynn share why it’s hard to believe this is true and discuss the proper place “shoulds” have in the Christian life.


When you’re done with the episode you’ll know how important it is to:


-Focus on trusting God instead of pleasing God


-Use discernment when you see “shoulds” controlling your life


-Begin saying “I wish” instead of “I should”


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2509 no "'Shoulds' Are Good For You" "I should read my bible more" "I should get in shape" "I should be more successful in my job" "I should be a better friend/parent/Christian, etc" Is your thought life full of all the things you "should" be doing? When you "should" on yourself, does it help you change, grow or do better? So many people live under the heavy burden of things they "should" be doing, but then feel discouraged, ashamed or disappointed when they can't live up to their own standards.  John, Lynn, and Shay discuss the following 4 areas of life where we most often experience "shoulds" and explore why we believe them: - Religious "shoulds" - Vocational "shoulds" - Marriage "shoulds" - Parenting "shoulds" When you’re finished, you’ll have a better idea of which “shoulds” plague you and how this belief might be keeping you stuck.  Identifying this false belief is the starting point to getting unstuck and moving towards a better belief. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 26 Jul 2023 18:28:12 -0000 full 37 With You in the Weeds "I should read my bible more" "I should get in shape" "I should be more successful in my job" "I should be a better friend/parent/Christian, etc" "I should read my bible more" "I should get in shape" "I should be more successful in my job" "I should be a better friend/parent/Christian, etc" Is your thought life full of all the things you "should" be doing? When you "should" on yourself, does it help you change, grow or do better? So many people live under the heavy burden of things they "should" be doing, but then feel discouraged, ashamed or disappointed when they can't live up to their own standards.  John, Lynn, and Shay discuss the following 4 areas of life where we most often experience "shoulds" and explore why we believe them: - Religious "shoulds" - Vocational "shoulds" - Marriage "shoulds" - Parenting "shoulds" When you’re finished, you’ll have a better idea of which “shoulds” plague you and how this belief might be keeping you stuck.  Identifying this false belief is the starting point to getting unstuck and moving towards a better belief. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. "I should read my bible more"

"I should get in shape"

"I should be more successful in my job"

"I should be a better friend/parent/Christian, etc"


Is your thought life full of all the things you "should" be doing? When you "should" on yourself, does it help you change, grow or do better?


So many people live under the heavy burden of things they "should" be doing, but then feel discouraged, ashamed or disappointed when they can't live up to their own standards. 


John, Lynn, and Shay discuss the following 4 areas of life where we most often experience "shoulds" and explore why we believe them:


- Religious "shoulds"

- Vocational "shoulds"

- Marriage "shoulds"

- Parenting "shoulds"


When you’re finished, you’ll have a better idea of which “shoulds” plague you and how this belief might be keeping you stuck. 


Identifying this false belief is the starting point to getting unstuck and moving towards a better belief.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2203 no Obeying God Includes Suffering This statement may be hard to accept, but without a biblically accurate view of suffering, not only will you feel stuck, but you may also hurt yourself and mislead others, leading to despair and giving up on God. John, Shay, and Austin explain how a better, more accurate belief is that: “Obeying God Includes Suffering.” When you come to understand the reason why this is true, you will find greater degrees of acceptance, healing, and comfort in the midst of your suffering.  Suffering is always painful and never easy, but embracing these 3 realities can make a difference in your life: 1) You will suffer in this life, but Jesus is with you in the midst of that suffering. 2) Managing your suffering includes being honest, being in community and keeping Scripture in mind.  3) Growth can happen when you suffer: you can grow in resilience, character, compassion, and knowledge of God. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 19 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 36 With You in the Weeds This statement may be hard to accept, but without a biblically accurate view of suffering, not only will you feel stuck, but you may also hurt yourself and mislead others, leading to despair and giving up on God. This statement may be hard to accept, but without a biblically accurate view of suffering, not only will you feel stuck, but you may also hurt yourself and mislead others, leading to despair and giving up on God. John, Shay, and Austin explain how a better, more accurate belief is that: “Obeying God Includes Suffering.” When you come to understand the reason why this is true, you will find greater degrees of acceptance, healing, and comfort in the midst of your suffering.  Suffering is always painful and never easy, but embracing these 3 realities can make a difference in your life: 1) You will suffer in this life, but Jesus is with you in the midst of that suffering. 2) Managing your suffering includes being honest, being in community and keeping Scripture in mind.  3) Growth can happen when you suffer: you can grow in resilience, character, compassion, and knowledge of God. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. This statement may be hard to accept, but without a biblically accurate view of suffering, not only will you feel stuck, but you may also hurt yourself and mislead others, leading to despair and giving up on God.


John, Shay, and Austin explain how a better, more accurate belief is that: “Obeying God Includes Suffering.” When you come to understand the reason why this is true, you will find greater degrees of acceptance, healing, and comfort in the midst of your suffering. 


Suffering is always painful and never easy, but embracing these 3 realities can make a difference in your life:


1) You will suffer in this life, but Jesus is with you in the midst of that suffering.


2) Managing your suffering includes being honest, being in community and keeping Scripture in mind. 


3) Growth can happen when you suffer: you can grow in resilience, character, compassion, and knowledge of God.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2467 no "If You Obey God, You Won't Suffer" Do you believe that following God, praying and having strong faith will buy you an insurance policy against suffering? This false belief is often clung to as a way to feel in control when life feels chaotic and unpredictable.  The problem with this belief is that it breeds disappointment, resentment and disillusionment when you encounter trials and suffering that don't make sense. John, Lynn, and Shay explain more about where you may have picked up this belief, why it's so tempting to believe, and how it may be keeping you stuck. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, text this episode to a friend, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 12 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 35 With You in the Weeds Do you believe that following God, praying and having strong faith will buy you an insurance policy against suffering? This false belief is often clung to as a way to feel in control when life feels chaotic and unpredictable. Do you believe that following God, praying and having strong faith will buy you an insurance policy against suffering? This false belief is often clung to as a way to feel in control when life feels chaotic and unpredictable.  The problem with this belief is that it breeds disappointment, resentment and disillusionment when you encounter trials and suffering that don't make sense. John, Lynn, and Shay explain more about where you may have picked up this belief, why it's so tempting to believe, and how it may be keeping you stuck. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, text this episode to a friend, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Do you believe that following God, praying and having strong faith will buy you an insurance policy against suffering? This false belief is often clung to as a way to feel in control when life feels chaotic and unpredictable. 


The problem with this belief is that it breeds disappointment, resentment and disillusionment when you encounter trials and suffering that don't make sense.


John, Lynn, and Shay explain more about where you may have picked up this belief, why it's so tempting to believe, and how it may be keeping you stuck.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, text this episode to a friend, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2234 no Your Past Matters More Than Anything Else Despite what you may think, understanding your past matters a great deal, and may have more impact on your personal growth than anything else.  Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through the biblical foundations of why your past matters, explain the neurological nuts and bolts of how your past shows up in your present, and then give the following practical steps to explore your past: - create a timeline of events - acknowledge both positive and painful memories - identify and grieve the losses - confess and repent The power to get unstuck lies with you. If and when you can examine your past, you will be on the road to healing from hurts and grow in your ability to manage your present. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 05 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 34 With You in the Weeds Despite what you may think, understanding your past matters a great deal, and may have more impact on your personal growth than anything else. Despite what you may think, understanding your past matters a great deal, and may have more impact on your personal growth than anything else.  Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through the biblical foundations of why your past matters, explain the neurological nuts and bolts of how your past shows up in your present, and then give the following practical steps to explore your past: - create a timeline of events - acknowledge both positive and painful memories - identify and grieve the losses - confess and repent The power to get unstuck lies with you. If and when you can examine your past, you will be on the road to healing from hurts and grow in your ability to manage your present. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Despite what you may think, understanding your past matters a great deal, and may have more impact on your personal growth than anything else. 


Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through the biblical foundations of why your past matters, explain the neurological nuts and bolts of how your past shows up in your present, and then give the following practical steps to explore your past:


- create a timeline of events

- acknowledge both positive and painful memories

- identify and grieve the losses

- confess and repent


The power to get unstuck lies with you. If and when you can examine your past, you will be on the road to healing from hurts and grow in your ability to manage your present.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2616 no "Your Past Doesn't Matter" You’re in good company if you believe this. Seriously, why would you want to think or talk about something in your past that's painful?  Maybe you hold to this belief because you think it’s counter-productive to talk about something that you can't go back and change. Maybe you think that looking at your past might open a can of worms that you're not ready to deal with. Or you’re simply just not sure where to begin.  Austin and Lynn explain why this common belief exists, why it keeps you stuck, and what the negative consequences are of maintaining this belief in the following areas: -Marriage -Parenting -Jobs -Student Life If you want to get unstuck, the first step is to identify why you've ignored your past and consider what it will take to move forward.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 28 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 33 With You in the Weeds You’re in good company if you believe this You’re in good company if you believe this. Seriously, why would you want to think or talk about something in your past that's painful?  Maybe you hold to this belief because you think it’s counter-productive to talk about something that you can't go back and change. Maybe you think that looking at your past might open a can of worms that you're not ready to deal with. Or you’re simply just not sure where to begin.  Austin and Lynn explain why this common belief exists, why it keeps you stuck, and what the negative consequences are of maintaining this belief in the following areas: -Marriage -Parenting -Jobs -Student Life If you want to get unstuck, the first step is to identify why you've ignored your past and consider what it will take to move forward.  If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. You’re in good company if you believe this. Seriously, why would you want to think or talk about something in your past that's painful? 


Maybe you hold to this belief because you think it’s counter-productive to talk about something that you can't go back and change. Maybe you think that looking at your past might open a can of worms that you're not ready to deal with. Or you’re simply just not sure where to begin. 


Austin and Lynn explain why this common belief exists, why it keeps you stuck, and what the negative consequences are of maintaining this belief in the following areas:


-Marriage

-Parenting

-Jobs

-Student Life


If you want to get unstuck, the first step is to identify why you've ignored your past and consider what it will take to move forward. 


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2283 no It's Godly to Get Your Needs Met We all have needs, desires and longings, and Jesus was no exception. If you’re wondering why it’s godly to get your needs met, you can look to Jesus as your example. John and Austin unpack this counterintuitive belief by examining where and how Jesus met his own needs, and how he handled his longings and desires.  Then they explore the deeper reason as to why you can't avoid your needs, desires, and longings no matter how hard you try. They also discuss some distorted views and false messages to watch out for and offer specific ways you can get needs met in a healthy, God-honoring way. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 21 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 32 With You in the Weeds We all have needs, desires and longings, and Jesus was no exception. We all have needs, desires and longings, and Jesus was no exception. If you’re wondering why it’s godly to get your needs met, you can look to Jesus as your example. John and Austin unpack this counterintuitive belief by examining where and how Jesus met his own needs, and how he handled his longings and desires.  Then they explore the deeper reason as to why you can't avoid your needs, desires, and longings no matter how hard you try. They also discuss some distorted views and false messages to watch out for and offer specific ways you can get needs met in a healthy, God-honoring way. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. We all have needs, desires and longings, and Jesus was no exception. If you’re wondering why it’s godly to get your needs met, you can look to Jesus as your example.


John and Austin unpack this counterintuitive belief by examining where and how Jesus met his own needs, and how he handled his longings and desires. 


Then they explore the deeper reason as to why you can't avoid your needs, desires, and longings no matter how hard you try. They also discuss some distorted views and false messages to watch out for and offer specific ways you can get needs met in a healthy, God-honoring way.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 1992 no "It's Selfish to Get Your Needs Met" Is there a more shameful pronouncement of judgment for a Christian than being "selfish"? Taking care of yourself is definitely a source of confusion for people, and trying to get your needs met tends to get a bad wrap in the church.  Bible passages that reference "dying to yourself” and “losing your life in order to save it” may bring your efforts to take care of yourself to a screeching halt and leave you feeling exhausted, burdened and disconnected. Is it possible that this belief is keeping you stuck and preventing necessary growth in your life? Maybe these passages of Scripture need to be understood in a broader context. Austin and John unpack and define the human experience of having needs, desires, and longings. They explore why these are inherently good, how they’ve been infected by the sin virus, and what that means for you in your daily life.  If you want a more nuanced and freeing view of your needs, desires, and longings, you won’t want to miss this episode. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 14 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 31 With You in the Weeds Is there a more shameful pronouncement of judgment for a Christian than being "selfish" Is there a more shameful pronouncement of judgment for a Christian than being "selfish"? Taking care of yourself is definitely a source of confusion for people, and trying to get your needs met tends to get a bad wrap in the church.  Bible passages that reference "dying to yourself” and “losing your life in order to save it” may bring your efforts to take care of yourself to a screeching halt and leave you feeling exhausted, burdened and disconnected. Is it possible that this belief is keeping you stuck and preventing necessary growth in your life? Maybe these passages of Scripture need to be understood in a broader context. Austin and John unpack and define the human experience of having needs, desires, and longings. They explore why these are inherently good, how they’ve been infected by the sin virus, and what that means for you in your daily life.  If you want a more nuanced and freeing view of your needs, desires, and longings, you won’t want to miss this episode. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Is there a more shameful pronouncement of judgment for a Christian than being "selfish"? Taking care of yourself is definitely a source of confusion for people, and trying to get your needs met tends to get a bad wrap in the church. 


Bible passages that reference "dying to yourself” and “losing your life in order to save it” may bring your efforts to take care of yourself to a screeching halt and leave you feeling exhausted, burdened and disconnected.


Is it possible that this belief is keeping you stuck and preventing necessary growth in your life? Maybe these passages of Scripture need to be understood in a broader context.


Austin and John unpack and define the human experience of having needs, desires, and longings. They explore why these are inherently good, how they’ve been infected by the sin virus, and what that means for you in your daily life. 


If you want a more nuanced and freeing view of your needs, desires, and longings, you won’t want to miss this episode.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 1599 no Your Questions Answered Today is all about answering YOUR questions!  Join the entire With You In The Weeds team to hear their answers to the following 4 questions that our listeners asked… 1. What is a biblical perspective on the use of medication for anxiety, depression or other mental health disorders? 2. What does the Bible say about divorce? 3. How do I deal with an emotionally immature parent? 4. How do I navigate a conflict with my spouse over a deeply rooted desire that my spouse doesn’t share? You don't want to miss John, Lynn, Austin & Shay weigh in on these topics! If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 07 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 30 With You in the Weeds Today is all about answering YOUR questions Today is all about answering YOUR questions!  Join the entire With You In The Weeds team to hear their answers to the following 4 questions that our listeners asked… 1. What is a biblical perspective on the use of medication for anxiety, depression or other mental health disorders? 2. What does the Bible say about divorce? 3. How do I deal with an emotionally immature parent? 4. How do I navigate a conflict with my spouse over a deeply rooted desire that my spouse doesn’t share? You don't want to miss John, Lynn, Austin & Shay weigh in on these topics! If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Today is all about answering YOUR questions! 


Join the entire With You In The Weeds team to hear their answers to the following 4 questions that our listeners asked…


1. What is a biblical perspective on the use of medication for anxiety, depression or other mental health disorders?


2. What does the Bible say about divorce?


3. How do I deal with an emotionally immature parent?


4. How do I navigate a conflict with my spouse over a deeply rooted desire that my spouse doesn’t share?


You don't want to miss John, Lynn, Austin & Shay weigh in on these topics!


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2416 no Relationship Red Flags The best way to protect yourself from a destructive relationship is to avoid entering it in the first place. But red flags in a relationship may be not be obvious to you once you're attached and emotionally invested in someone, so it may require other people helping you see what you can't see on your own. Angie Phillips, co-host of "Blended, Blessed and Always a Mess", joins Lynn Roush to discuss the Red Flags that should be warning signs to anyone in a relationship. Angie's daughter, Hallie, was caught in an unhealthy relationship that ultimately took her life due to gross firearm negligence. Angie's TikTok @halliebears.mom went viral when she posted a video on "Relationship Red Flags" shortly after the tragic death of her 20 year-old daughter Hallie, and she is now passionate about spreading awareness on this topic in hopes of helping others. Recognizing these red flags could quite literally save your life, so you don't want to miss this interview. Please share it with someone who needs this information. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 31 May 2023 10:00:00 -0000 full 29 With You in the Weeds The best way to protect yourself from a destructive relationship is to avoid entering it in the first place. The best way to protect yourself from a destructive relationship is to avoid entering it in the first place. But red flags in a relationship may be not be obvious to you once you're attached and emotionally invested in someone, so it may require other people helping you see what you can't see on your own. Angie Phillips, co-host of "Blended, Blessed and Always a Mess", joins Lynn Roush to discuss the Red Flags that should be warning signs to anyone in a relationship. Angie's daughter, Hallie, was caught in an unhealthy relationship that ultimately took her life due to gross firearm negligence. Angie's TikTok @halliebears.mom went viral when she posted a video on "Relationship Red Flags" shortly after the tragic death of her 20 year-old daughter Hallie, and she is now passionate about spreading awareness on this topic in hopes of helping others. Recognizing these red flags could quite literally save your life, so you don't want to miss this interview. Please share it with someone who needs this information. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. The best way to protect yourself from a destructive relationship is to avoid entering it in the first place.


But red flags in a relationship may be not be obvious to you once you're attached and emotionally invested in someone, so it may require other people helping you see what you can't see on your own.


Angie Phillips, co-host of "Blended, Blessed and Always a Mess", joins Lynn Roush to discuss the Red Flags that should be warning signs to anyone in a relationship. Angie's daughter, Hallie, was caught in an unhealthy relationship that ultimately took her life due to gross firearm negligence.


Angie's TikTok @halliebears.mom went viral when she posted a video on "Relationship Red Flags" shortly after the tragic death of her 20 year-old daughter Hallie, and she is now passionate about spreading awareness on this topic in hopes of helping others.


Recognizing these red flags could quite literally save your life, so you don't want to miss this interview. Please share it with someone who needs this information.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 3098 no Managing the Weeds of an Unrepentant Heart Let’s be honest - managing relationships with unrepentant people is REALLY hard. It might be one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do. And yet, it can be done by seeing this person with a 3D biblical perspective, not a 2D human perspective. John, Lynn, and Austin explain this distinction and then provide the following practical steps to take in managing an unrepentant person: - Invite them to change - Mirror their behaviors - Implement consequences - Practice healthy detachment, aka love them from a distance At the end of the day you need to remember that true repentance takes time, is extremely rare, and is only possible to achieve by God's grace. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 24 May 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 28 With You in the Weeds Let’s be honest - managing relationships with unrepentant people is REALLY hard. Let’s be honest - managing relationships with unrepentant people is REALLY hard. It might be one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do. And yet, it can be done by seeing this person with a 3D biblical perspective, not a 2D human perspective. John, Lynn, and Austin explain this distinction and then provide the following practical steps to take in managing an unrepentant person: - Invite them to change - Mirror their behaviors - Implement consequences - Practice healthy detachment, aka love them from a distance At the end of the day you need to remember that true repentance takes time, is extremely rare, and is only possible to achieve by God's grace. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Let’s be honest - managing relationships with unrepentant people is REALLY hard. It might be one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do. And yet, it can be done by seeing this person with a 3D biblical perspective, not a 2D human perspective.


John, Lynn, and Austin explain this distinction and then provide the following practical steps to take in managing an unrepentant person:


- Invite them to change

- Mirror their behaviors

- Implement consequences

- Practice healthy detachment, aka love them from a distance


At the end of the day you need to remember that true repentance takes time, is extremely rare, and is only possible to achieve by God's grace.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2549 no The Roots of an Unrepentant Heart Are you dealing with an unrepentant person? How would you know if you are? John, Shay, and Austin get to the root of an unrepentant heart and it's not a pretty picture.  This episode will help you identify the signs of an unrepentant person such as denial and deflection, and explain why a hardened heart is so difficult to deal with. They also speak personally as to why we resist repentance, and how an unrepentant heart lies at the root of hurtful relationships. When you finish this episode you’ll be better equipped to identify an unrepentant person, as well as be on the lookout for signs of unrepentance in your own heart. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 17 May 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 27 With You in the Weeds Are you dealing with an unrepentant person? Are you dealing with an unrepentant person? How would you know if you are? John, Shay, and Austin get to the root of an unrepentant heart and it's not a pretty picture.  This episode will help you identify the signs of an unrepentant person such as denial and deflection, and explain why a hardened heart is so difficult to deal with. They also speak personally as to why we resist repentance, and how an unrepentant heart lies at the root of hurtful relationships. When you finish this episode you’ll be better equipped to identify an unrepentant person, as well as be on the lookout for signs of unrepentance in your own heart. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Are you dealing with an unrepentant person? How would you know if you are? John, Shay, and Austin get to the root of an unrepentant heart and it's not a pretty picture. 


This episode will help you identify the signs of an unrepentant person such as denial and deflection, and explain why a hardened heart is so difficult to deal with.


They also speak personally as to why we resist repentance, and how an unrepentant heart lies at the root of hurtful relationships.


When you finish this episode you’ll be better equipped to identify an unrepentant person, as well as be on the lookout for signs of unrepentance in your own heart.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 1968 no Managing the Weeds of Difficult In-Laws Do you have a toxic in-law situation on your hands? Many families experience stress, broken relationships and years of hurt feelings or misunderstandings. You may even dread family gatherings due to difficult in-laws. This common problem requires diligence in boundary-setting and clarifying roles and expectations, but where do you start? Shay, Lynn and John talk about real life scenarios that address your in-law concerns and offer practical suggestions on how to separate from your parents in healthy ways, while still honoring them. The key is to have a unified front when dealing with difficult in-laws, and this discussion will help you and your partner get on the same page so you can make effective changes towards healthy in-law relationships. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 10 May 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 26 With You in the Weeds Do you have a toxic in-law situation on your hands? Do you have a toxic in-law situation on your hands? Many families experience stress, broken relationships and years of hurt feelings or misunderstandings. You may even dread family gatherings due to difficult in-laws. This common problem requires diligence in boundary-setting and clarifying roles and expectations, but where do you start? Shay, Lynn and John talk about real life scenarios that address your in-law concerns and offer practical suggestions on how to separate from your parents in healthy ways, while still honoring them. The key is to have a unified front when dealing with difficult in-laws, and this discussion will help you and your partner get on the same page so you can make effective changes towards healthy in-law relationships. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Do you have a toxic in-law situation on your hands? Many families experience stress, broken relationships and years of hurt feelings or misunderstandings. You may even dread family gatherings due to difficult in-laws. This common problem requires diligence in boundary-setting and clarifying roles and expectations, but where do you start?


Shay, Lynn and John talk about real life scenarios that address your in-law concerns and offer practical suggestions on how to separate from your parents in healthy ways, while still honoring them.


The key is to have a unified front when dealing with difficult in-laws, and this discussion will help you and your partner get on the same page so you can make effective changes towards healthy in-law relationships.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2645 no The Roots of Difficult In-Laws How well do you get along with your in-laws? This is a touchy subject for many families, as friction or tension with in-law relationships is very common, but hard to navigate. The root of in-law trouble can be traced back to a failure to “leave and cleave”, but this ancient biblical mandate is easier said than done. Most people enter marriage thinking that their partner will always put them first, or that in-law relationships will improve over time, but it doesn’t take long for conflict or division to emerge. Shay, Lynn and John have a lively conversation about what it actually means to leave your parents physically, emotionally, financially and psychologically, and identify the problems that occur when this fails to happen. This episode will help you pay attention to the ways you have, or have not, been able to leave and cleave, and where it may be causing trouble in your in-law relationships. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Resources Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage by Susan Forward Wed, 03 May 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 25 With You in the Weeds How well do you get along with your in-laws? This is a touchy subject for many families, as friction or tension with in-law relationships is very common, but hard to navigate. How well do you get along with your in-laws? This is a touchy subject for many families, as friction or tension with in-law relationships is very common, but hard to navigate. The root of in-law trouble can be traced back to a failure to “leave and cleave”, but this ancient biblical mandate is easier said than done. Most people enter marriage thinking that their partner will always put them first, or that in-law relationships will improve over time, but it doesn’t take long for conflict or division to emerge. Shay, Lynn and John have a lively conversation about what it actually means to leave your parents physically, emotionally, financially and psychologically, and identify the problems that occur when this fails to happen. This episode will help you pay attention to the ways you have, or have not, been able to leave and cleave, and where it may be causing trouble in your in-law relationships. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Resources Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage by Susan Forward How well do you get along with your in-laws? This is a touchy subject for many families, as friction or tension with in-law relationships is very common, but hard to navigate.


The root of in-law trouble can be traced back to a failure to “leave and cleave”, but this ancient biblical mandate is easier said than done.


Most people enter marriage thinking that their partner will always put them first, or that in-law relationships will improve over time, but it doesn’t take long for conflict or division to emerge.


Shay, Lynn and John have a lively conversation about what it actually means to leave your parents physically, emotionally, financially and psychologically, and identify the problems that occur when this fails to happen.


This episode will help you pay attention to the ways you have, or have not, been able to leave and cleave, and where it may be causing trouble in your in-law relationships.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.


Resources

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage by Susan Forward

]]> 2185 no Managing the Weeds of Narcissism With many families, marriages and churches being fractured by narcissistic personalities, the With You in the Weeds team invites notable author and bible teacher, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, to address this difficult topic. Lynn Roush, LPC and Pastor Lutzer have a very honest conversation about the damage done in relationships because of this hurtful personality style.  They also address how to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse through practicing discernment, danger assessment, healthy detachment, healing from dissonance, and becoming a whole person, so you don't want to miss this discussion. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.  Resources Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores by Diane Langberg The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective on Narcissism by DC Robertsson Wed, 26 Apr 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 24 With You in the Weeds With many families, marriages and churches being fractured by narcissistic personalities, the With You in the Weeds team invites notable author and bible teacher, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, to address this difficult topic. With many families, marriages and churches being fractured by narcissistic personalities, the With You in the Weeds team invites notable author and bible teacher, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, to address this difficult topic. Lynn Roush, LPC and Pastor Lutzer have a very honest conversation about the damage done in relationships because of this hurtful personality style.  They also address how to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse through practicing discernment, danger assessment, healthy detachment, healing from dissonance, and becoming a whole person, so you don't want to miss this discussion. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.  Resources Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores by Diane Langberg The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective on Narcissism by DC Robertsson With many families, marriages and churches being fractured by narcissistic personalities, the With You in the Weeds team invites notable author and bible teacher, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, to address this difficult topic.


Lynn Roush, LPC and Pastor Lutzer have a very honest conversation about the damage done in relationships because of this hurtful personality style. 


They also address how to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse through practicing discernment, danger assessment, healthy detachment, healing from dissonance, and becoming a whole person, so you don't want to miss this discussion.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. 


Resources

Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores by Diane Langberg

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick

The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective on Narcissism by DC Robertsson

]]> 1691 no The Roots of Narcissism Do you feel confused, manipulated or controlled in a relationship? Are you looking for spiritual and psychological insight into the complex and painful roots of narcissism? Lynn Roush, LPC and Pastor Erwin Lutzer address the origins of narcissism from a psychological and biblical perspective that provide clarity and crucial information if you find yourself entangled with a difficult person in your life. They discuss the 5 traits of a narcissistic personality, as well as the 5 stages of bonding in a relationship with a narcissistic person which are: 1. Decide on a target and declare love  2. Devalue the person  3. Deploy defense mechanisms 4. Create dissonance and confusion 5. Destroy the person’s sense of Self Resources Buy The Power of a Clear Conscience Book Buy the Why Good People Do Bad Things Book Our guest, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, is best known for his 37 years of pastoring the Moody Church in Chicago, and has authored over 50 books including "Why Good People Do Bad Things" and "The Power of a Clear Conscience". His preaching is heard around the world through his radio program, “Running to Win”. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Wed, 19 Apr 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 23 With You in the Weeds Do you feel confused, manipulated or controlled in a relationship? Are you looking for spiritual and psychological insight into the complex and painful roots of narcissism? Do you feel confused, manipulated or controlled in a relationship? Are you looking for spiritual and psychological insight into the complex and painful roots of narcissism? Lynn Roush, LPC and Pastor Erwin Lutzer address the origins of narcissism from a psychological and biblical perspective that provide clarity and crucial information if you find yourself entangled with a difficult person in your life. They discuss the 5 traits of a narcissistic personality, as well as the 5 stages of bonding in a relationship with a narcissistic person which are: 1. Decide on a target and declare love  2. Devalue the person  3. Deploy defense mechanisms 4. Create dissonance and confusion 5. Destroy the person’s sense of Self Resources Buy The Power of a Clear Conscience Book Buy the Why Good People Do Bad Things Book Our guest, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, is best known for his 37 years of pastoring the Moody Church in Chicago, and has authored over 50 books including "Why Good People Do Bad Things" and "The Power of a Clear Conscience". His preaching is heard around the world through his radio program, “Running to Win”. If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes. Do you feel confused, manipulated or controlled in a relationship? Are you looking for spiritual and psychological insight into the complex and painful roots of narcissism?


Lynn Roush, LPC and Pastor Erwin Lutzer address the origins of narcissism from a psychological and biblical perspective that provide clarity and crucial information if you find yourself entangled with a difficult person in your life.


They discuss the 5 traits of a narcissistic personality, as well as the 5 stages of bonding in a relationship with a narcissistic person which are:


1. Decide on a target and declare love 

2. Devalue the person 

3. Deploy defense mechanisms

4. Create dissonance and confusion

5. Destroy the person’s sense of Self


Resources

Buy The Power of a Clear Conscience Book

Buy the Why Good People Do Bad Things Book


Our guest, Pastor Erwin Lutzer, is best known for his 37 years of pastoring the Moody Church in Chicago, and has authored over 50 books including "Why Good People Do Bad Things" and "The Power of a Clear Conscience". His preaching is heard around the world through his radio program, “Running to Win”.


If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like discussed on future episodes.

]]> 2169 no Nurturing Healthy Relationships It’s easy to identify what kills a relationship, but much harder to know what ingredients you need to nurture a healthy relationship. John, Lynn, and Austin explain and discuss the 4 Relationship Builders: 1. Practice a gentle start up, instead of criticism. 2. Build a culture of appreciation, instead of contempt. 3. Take ownership of your part in a conflict, instead of getting defensive. 4. Stay engaged, instead of stonewalling. These aren’t pie in the sky sentiments, but instead are solidly researched and biblically based practices that have proven to build relationships. Listen in if you want to begin, and continue, the hard but worthwhile work of building your relationships. When you do, over time you’ll see the fruit of creating Jesus’ kingdom here on earth as he calls us to be kind and tender-hearted towards each other. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 12 Apr 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 22 With You in the Weeds It’s easy to identify what kills a relationship, but much harder to know what ingredients you need to nurture a healthy relationship. John, Lynn, and Austin explain and discuss the 4 Relationship Builders: It’s easy to identify what kills a relationship, but much harder to know what ingredients you need to nurture a healthy relationship. John, Lynn, and Austin explain and discuss the 4 Relationship Builders: 1. Practice a gentle start up, instead of criticism. 2. Build a culture of appreciation, instead of contempt. 3. Take ownership of your part in a conflict, instead of getting defensive. 4. Stay engaged, instead of stonewalling. These aren’t pie in the sky sentiments, but instead are solidly researched and biblically based practices that have proven to build relationships. Listen in if you want to begin, and continue, the hard but worthwhile work of building your relationships. When you do, over time you’ll see the fruit of creating Jesus’ kingdom here on earth as he calls us to be kind and tender-hearted towards each other. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. It’s easy to identify what kills a relationship, but much harder to know what ingredients you need to nurture a healthy relationship. John, Lynn, and Austin explain and discuss the 4 Relationship Builders:


1. Practice a gentle start up, instead of criticism.


2. Build a culture of appreciation, instead of contempt.


3. Take ownership of your part in a conflict, instead of getting defensive.


4. Stay engaged, instead of stonewalling.


These aren’t pie in the sky sentiments, but instead are solidly researched and biblically based practices that have proven to build relationships.


Listen in if you want to begin, and continue, the hard but worthwhile work of building your relationships. When you do, over time you’ll see the fruit of creating Jesus’ kingdom here on earth as he calls us to be kind and tender-hearted towards each other.


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2413 no Weeds that Kill Relationships Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. These are bad enough on their own, but mix them together and you have a cocktail that will kill any relationship.  This episode is simple: John, Lynn, and Austin give you a mirror to look in and ask yourself, “where are these killers showing up in my relationships?” Afterwards you’ll be able to name, identify, and describe them, which is the first step to change.  If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 05 Apr 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 21 With You in the Weeds Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. These are bad enough on their own, but mix them together and you have a cocktail that will kill any relationship. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. These are bad enough on their own, but mix them together and you have a cocktail that will kill any relationship.  This episode is simple: John, Lynn, and Austin give you a mirror to look in and ask yourself, “where are these killers showing up in my relationships?” Afterwards you’ll be able to name, identify, and describe them, which is the first step to change.  If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. These are bad enough on their own, but mix them together and you have a cocktail that will kill any relationship. 


This episode is simple: John, Lynn, and Austin give you a mirror to look in and ask yourself, “where are these killers showing up in my relationships?” Afterwards you’ll be able to name, identify, and describe them, which is the first step to change. 


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 1830 no Managing the Weeds of Forgiveness If bitterness stops the clock of your life, then forgiveness starts it up again. But what is forgiveness, and what does this mean for you? John, Shay and Austin discuss: 1. What forgiveness is NOT 2. What forgiveness IS 3. The hard realities of forgiveness 4. The costs and benefits of forgiveness Entering a process of forgiveness is never easy, but this discussion will replace flimsy imitations of forgiveness with a picture of the real thing. Learning these principles will normalize how hard it is to forgive, while explaining how freeing it can be. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 29 Mar 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 20 With You in the Weeds If bitterness stops the clock of your life, then forgiveness starts it up again. But what is forgiveness, and what does this mean for you? If bitterness stops the clock of your life, then forgiveness starts it up again. But what is forgiveness, and what does this mean for you? John, Shay and Austin discuss: 1. What forgiveness is NOT 2. What forgiveness IS 3. The hard realities of forgiveness 4. The costs and benefits of forgiveness Entering a process of forgiveness is never easy, but this discussion will replace flimsy imitations of forgiveness with a picture of the real thing. Learning these principles will normalize how hard it is to forgive, while explaining how freeing it can be. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. If bitterness stops the clock of your life, then forgiveness starts it up again. But what is forgiveness, and what does this mean for you?


John, Shay and Austin discuss:

1. What forgiveness is NOT

2. What forgiveness IS

3. The hard realities of forgiveness

4. The costs and benefits of forgiveness


Entering a process of forgiveness is never easy, but this discussion will replace flimsy imitations of forgiveness with a picture of the real thing. Learning these principles will normalize how hard it is to forgive, while explaining how freeing it can be.


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2213 no The Roots of Bitterness “Bitterness stops the clock of your life.” Do you know a bitter person? If you do then you’ve seen and felt how they are stuck in their anger, resentment, and inability to move beyond hurts and slights from their past.  This person couldn’t be you, could it? Listen in as John, Austin, and Shay discuss: - What bitterness is: Hardened, settled anger and resentment - Where it shows up: In your relationships with others and with God - The causes of bitterness: Hurtful relational circumstances AND powerful spiritual forces - The problems it causes: Blinds, Baits, Burdens, Bleeds over, and Belittles God’s grace If you feel stuck in bitterness and you want to restart the clock of your life, this is the episode for you. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 22 Mar 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 19 With You in the Weeds Do you know a bitter person? If you do then you’ve seen and felt how they are stuck in their anger, resentment, and inability to move beyond hurts and slights from their past. “Bitterness stops the clock of your life.” Do you know a bitter person? If you do then you’ve seen and felt how they are stuck in their anger, resentment, and inability to move beyond hurts and slights from their past.  This person couldn’t be you, could it? Listen in as John, Austin, and Shay discuss: - What bitterness is: Hardened, settled anger and resentment - Where it shows up: In your relationships with others and with God - The causes of bitterness: Hurtful relational circumstances AND powerful spiritual forces - The problems it causes: Blinds, Baits, Burdens, Bleeds over, and Belittles God’s grace If you feel stuck in bitterness and you want to restart the clock of your life, this is the episode for you. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. “Bitterness stops the clock of your life.”


Do you know a bitter person? If you do then you’ve seen and felt how they are stuck in their anger, resentment, and inability to move beyond hurts and slights from their past. 


This person couldn’t be you, could it?


Listen in as John, Austin, and Shay discuss:


- What bitterness is: Hardened, settled anger and resentment

- Where it shows up: In your relationships with others and with God

- The causes of bitterness: Hurtful relational circumstances AND powerful spiritual forces

- The problems it causes: Blinds, Baits, Burdens, Bleeds over, and Belittles God’s grace


If you feel stuck in bitterness and you want to restart the clock of your life, this is the episode for you.


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2046 no Managing the Weeds of Toxic Relationships If you want to manage a toxic relationship you’re going to need to break some rules, three in particular: 1. Wait for things to get better 2. Try to change the other person 3. Love people unconditionally If you don’t break these rules then you won’t mature and grow in character, you’ll blame others for things that are your responsibility, you will stay reactive instead of proactive, or you’ll jump from one toxic relationship to another. What you’ll need to do instead is face reality and enter into a growth process, work on changing yourself, and love with limits, boundaries, and consequences. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 15 Mar 2023 09:30:00 -0000 full 18 With You in the Weeds If you want to manage a toxic relationship you’re going to need to break some rules, three in particular: If you want to manage a toxic relationship you’re going to need to break some rules, three in particular: 1. Wait for things to get better 2. Try to change the other person 3. Love people unconditionally If you don’t break these rules then you won’t mature and grow in character, you’ll blame others for things that are your responsibility, you will stay reactive instead of proactive, or you’ll jump from one toxic relationship to another. What you’ll need to do instead is face reality and enter into a growth process, work on changing yourself, and love with limits, boundaries, and consequences. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. If you want to manage a toxic relationship you’re going to need to break some rules, three in particular:


1. Wait for things to get better

2. Try to change the other person

3. Love people unconditionally


If you don’t break these rules then you won’t mature and grow in character, you’ll blame others for things that are your responsibility, you will stay reactive instead of proactive, or you’ll jump from one toxic relationship to another.


What you’ll need to do instead is face reality and enter into a growth process, work on changing yourself, and love with limits, boundaries, and consequences.


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2515 no The Roots of Toxic Relationships Who you surround yourself with shapes who you will become. If you want to avoid becoming a toxic person in a hurtful relationship, you’ll want to listen as John and Lynn define and explain the 5 symptoms of toxic relationships: - Harmful words - Selfish ambition/pride - Envy - Manipulation - Deceit When you can recognize these 5 symptoms, not only will you be able to avoid them in your relationships, with God’s help you can prevent them in yourself.  If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 08 Mar 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 17 With You in the Weeds Who you surround yourself with shapes who you will become. If you want to avoid becoming a toxic person in a hurtful relationship, you’ll want to listen as John and Lynn define and explain the 5 symptoms of toxic relationships Who you surround yourself with shapes who you will become. If you want to avoid becoming a toxic person in a hurtful relationship, you’ll want to listen as John and Lynn define and explain the 5 symptoms of toxic relationships: - Harmful words - Selfish ambition/pride - Envy - Manipulation - Deceit When you can recognize these 5 symptoms, not only will you be able to avoid them in your relationships, with God’s help you can prevent them in yourself.  If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Who you surround yourself with shapes who you will become. If you want to avoid becoming a toxic person in a hurtful relationship, you’ll want to listen as John and Lynn define and explain the 5 symptoms of toxic relationships:


- Harmful words

- Selfish ambition/pride

- Envy

- Manipulation

- Deceit


When you can recognize these 5 symptoms, not only will you be able to avoid them in your relationships, with God’s help you can prevent them in yourself. 


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2325 no Managing the Weeds of Broken Trust Broken trust hurts, but it can be rebuilt. Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through 5 concrete steps to take when you’ve had trust broken in a relationship:  T - Take a step back R - Reflect on who you’re dealing with U - Understand the impact S - Set boundaries T - Test over time If these steps seem daunting, then you’re in good company because most of us didn’t have this modeled when we were growing up. But it’s never too late to learn something new. Practicing and implementing these 5 steps in your life will slowly but surely add marbles back into your relational jar of trust. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 01 Mar 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 16 With You in the Weeds Broken trust hurts, but it can be rebuilt. Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through 5 concrete steps to take when you’ve had trust broken in a relationship Broken trust hurts, but it can be rebuilt. Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through 5 concrete steps to take when you’ve had trust broken in a relationship:  T - Take a step back R - Reflect on who you’re dealing with U - Understand the impact S - Set boundaries T - Test over time If these steps seem daunting, then you’re in good company because most of us didn’t have this modeled when we were growing up. But it’s never too late to learn something new. Practicing and implementing these 5 steps in your life will slowly but surely add marbles back into your relational jar of trust. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Broken trust hurts, but it can be rebuilt. Lynn, Shay, and Austin walk through 5 concrete steps to take when you’ve had trust broken in a relationship: 


T - Take a step back

R - Reflect on who you’re dealing with

U - Understand the impact

S - Set boundaries

T - Test over time


If these steps seem daunting, then you’re in good company because most of us didn’t have this modeled when we were growing up. But it’s never too late to learn something new.


Practicing and implementing these 5 steps in your life will slowly but surely add marbles back into your relational jar of trust.


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2396 no The Roots of Broken Trust Trust is the energy that creates and maintains healthy relationships. Without it, your relationships cannot thrive or survive.  Lynn, Shay, and Austin dig deeper into what trust actually is, how it’s built and broken, and the damage broken trust causes in friendships, marriages, jobs and families. If you’re hurting because of broken trust, this episode will normalize your pain and give perspective and explanations as to why this feels so gut-wrenching.  If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 22 Feb 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 15 With You in the Weeds Trust is the energy that creates and maintains healthy relationships. Without it, your relationships cannot thrive or survive. Trust is the energy that creates and maintains healthy relationships. Without it, your relationships cannot thrive or survive.  Lynn, Shay, and Austin dig deeper into what trust actually is, how it’s built and broken, and the damage broken trust causes in friendships, marriages, jobs and families. If you’re hurting because of broken trust, this episode will normalize your pain and give perspective and explanations as to why this feels so gut-wrenching.  If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Trust is the energy that creates and maintains healthy relationships. Without it, your relationships cannot thrive or survive. 


Lynn, Shay, and Austin dig deeper into what trust actually is, how it’s built and broken, and the damage broken trust causes in friendships, marriages, jobs and families.


If you’re hurting because of broken trust, this episode will normalize your pain and give perspective and explanations as to why this feels so gut-wrenching. 


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]]> 2520 no Managing the Weeds of Conflict You want to be at peace with everyone, but can every conflict be resolved? Maybe not, but there are 4 key commitments you can make to help you manage conflict in your life. John and Shay explain these 4 commitments and how to apply them in practical ways: 1. Take ownership 2. Practice discernment 3. Set boundaries   4. Persevere If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 15 Feb 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 14 With You in the Weeds You want to be at peace with everyone, but can every conflict be resolved? Maybe not, but there are 4 key commitments you can make to help you manage conflict in your life. You want to be at peace with everyone, but can every conflict be resolved? Maybe not, but there are 4 key commitments you can make to help you manage conflict in your life. John and Shay explain these 4 commitments and how to apply them in practical ways: 1. Take ownership 2. Practice discernment 3. Set boundaries   4. Persevere If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. You want to be at peace with everyone, but can every conflict be resolved? Maybe not, but there are 4 key commitments you can make to help you manage conflict in your life.


John and Shay explain these 4 commitments and how to apply them in practical ways:


1. Take ownership


2. Practice discernment


3. Set boundaries

 

4. Persevere


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]]> 2255 no The Roots of Conflict Why are you in conflict? It’s really simple: you want something. And when you don't get what you want, or your desires are at odds with someone else's, you're in conflict before you know it.  John and Austin discuss 4 questions you need to answer if you want to get to the root conflict in your life: 1. What type of person are you in conflict with? Figuring this out will determine how you approach resolution, or if resolution is even possible.  2. What is this conflict about? Dig below the surface to the deeper issue.  3. How are you engaging in this conflict? Most likely you're either pursuing, attacking or triangulating. 4. How is this conflict impacting you? Being aware of the physiological, emotional and spiritual elements of conflict will enable you to manage it. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 08 Feb 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 13 With You in the Weeds Why are you in conflict? It’s really simple: you want something. And when you don't get what you want, or your desires are at odds with someone else's, you're in conflict before you know it. Why are you in conflict? It’s really simple: you want something. And when you don't get what you want, or your desires are at odds with someone else's, you're in conflict before you know it.  John and Austin discuss 4 questions you need to answer if you want to get to the root conflict in your life: 1. What type of person are you in conflict with? Figuring this out will determine how you approach resolution, or if resolution is even possible.  2. What is this conflict about? Dig below the surface to the deeper issue.  3. How are you engaging in this conflict? Most likely you're either pursuing, attacking or triangulating. 4. How is this conflict impacting you? Being aware of the physiological, emotional and spiritual elements of conflict will enable you to manage it. If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Why are you in conflict? It’s really simple: you want something. And when you don't get what you want, or your desires are at odds with someone else's, you're in conflict before you know it. 


John and Austin discuss 4 questions you need to answer if you want to get to the root conflict in your life:


1. What type of person are you in conflict with? Figuring this out will determine how you approach resolution, or if resolution is even possible. 


2. What is this conflict about? Dig below the surface to the deeper issue. 


3. How are you engaging in this conflict? Most likely you're either pursuing, attacking or triangulating.


4. How is this conflict impacting you? Being aware of the physiological, emotional and spiritual elements of conflict will enable you to manage it.


If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2222 no Managing the Weeds of Shame Shame says, "You're disqualified from being loved." But your connection with Jesus means that you are eternally loved, and nothing can separate you from that love. So how should you respond to the shame signal when it shows up? John, Lynn, and Austin explain how we need both connection & correction in order to manage our shame. Learn how this critical framework offers an antidote to the painful experience of shame. Did you find this episode helpful? Then text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 01 Feb 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 12 With You in the Weeds Shame says, "You're disqualified from being loved." But your connection with Jesus means that you are eternally loved, and nothing can separate you from that love. Shame says, "You're disqualified from being loved." But your connection with Jesus means that you are eternally loved, and nothing can separate you from that love. So how should you respond to the shame signal when it shows up? John, Lynn, and Austin explain how we need both connection & correction in order to manage our shame. Learn how this critical framework offers an antidote to the painful experience of shame. Did you find this episode helpful? Then text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Shame says, "You're disqualified from being loved." But your connection with Jesus means that you are eternally loved, and nothing can separate you from that love.


So how should you respond to the shame signal when it shows up?


John, Lynn, and Austin explain how we need both connection & correction in order to manage our shame. Learn how this critical framework offers an antidote to the painful experience of shame.


Did you find this episode helpful? Then text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2157 no The Roots of Shame Did you know that shame is more than just a painful emotion that affects your self-perception and self-worth? It's an infection of the soul. Yet it's so subtle that it may be hard to recognize. Lynn, John, and Austin explain 5 characteristics of shame to help you learn where and how it may be impacting you: S - Shame is Sneaky H - Shame makes us Hide A - Shame Attacks our personhood M - Shame Magnifies our weaknesses & failures E - Shame Erodes everything If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 25 Jan 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 11 With You in the Weeds Did you know that shame is more than just a painful emotion that affects your self-perception and self-worth? It's an infection of the soul. Yet it's so subtle that it may be hard to recognize. Lynn, John, and Austin explain 5 characteristics of shame to help you learn where and how it may be impacting you: S - Shame is Sneaky H - Shame makes us Hide A - Shame Attacks our personhood M - Shame Magnifies our weaknesses & failures E - Shame Erodes everything If you find this episode helpful, please text this episode to a friend, leave us a review, and email us with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Did you know that shame is more than just a painful emotion that affects your self-perception and self-worth? It's an infection of the soul. Yet it's so subtle that it may be hard to recognize. Lynn, John, and Austin explain 5 characteristics of shame to help you learn where and how it may be impacting you:


S - Shame is Sneaky

H - Shame makes us Hide

A - Shame Attacks our personhood

M - Shame Magnifies our weaknesses & failures

E - Shame Erodes everything


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]]> 2175 no The Roots & Weeds of Guilt There are many Christians who believe that we need guilty feelings and a punishing conscience to help us grow and keep us from sinning. But this is a direct product of our tendency to perform under the law, and is the opposite of what the Bible teaches. Our guilty feelings need to be put under the laser beam of the gospel and analyzed by our Father who loves us. Our conscience may condemn us, and we need to be reminded that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. John and Shay will help you navigate what to do with a guilty conscience and how to bring guilty feelings into the light of God's truth.  Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 18 Jan 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 10 With You in the Weeds There are many Christians who believe that we need guilty feelings and a punishing conscience to help us grow and keep us from sinning. But this is a direct product of our tendency to perform under the law, and is the opposite of what the Bible teaches. There are many Christians who believe that we need guilty feelings and a punishing conscience to help us grow and keep us from sinning. But this is a direct product of our tendency to perform under the law, and is the opposite of what the Bible teaches. Our guilty feelings need to be put under the laser beam of the gospel and analyzed by our Father who loves us. Our conscience may condemn us, and we need to be reminded that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. John and Shay will help you navigate what to do with a guilty conscience and how to bring guilty feelings into the light of God's truth.  Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. There are many Christians who believe that we need guilty feelings and a punishing conscience to help us grow and keep us from sinning. But this is a direct product of our tendency to perform under the law, and is the opposite of what the Bible teaches.


Our guilty feelings need to be put under the laser beam of the gospel and analyzed by our Father who loves us. Our conscience may condemn us, and we need to be reminded that nothing can ever separate us from God's love.


John and Shay will help you navigate what to do with a guilty conscience and how to bring guilty feelings into the light of God's truth. 


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]]> 2208 no Managing the Weeds of Anger An immature person uses anger to bend and shape reality and relationships to meet their demands. A mature person will learn what their anger is showing them and manage it constructively in ways that bring redemption. In light of how important it is for us to mature in our ability to manage anger, John, Lynn and Austin give an overview of how to address anger when it shows up: A - Admit it N - Notice other emotions  G - Get regulated E - Engage Your Story R - Remind, Repair, Repent This episode is practical, hopeful and offers necessary tools for how to manage anger. Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 11 Jan 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 9 With You in the Weeds An immature person uses anger to bend and shape reality and relationships to meet their demands. A mature person will learn what their anger is showing them and manage it constructively in ways that bring redemption. In light of how important it is for us to mature in our ability to manage anger, John, Lynn and Austin give an overview of how to address anger when it shows up: A - Admit it N - Notice other emotions  G - Get regulated E - Engage Your Story R - Remind, Repair, Repent This episode is practical, hopeful and offers necessary tools for how to manage anger. Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. An immature person uses anger to bend and shape reality and relationships to meet their demands. A mature person will learn what their anger is showing them and manage it constructively in ways that bring redemption.


In light of how important it is for us to mature in our ability to manage anger, John, Lynn and Austin give an overview of how to address anger when it shows up:


A - Admit it

N - Notice other emotions 

G - Get regulated

E - Engage Your Story

R - Remind, Repair, Repent


This episode is practical, hopeful and offers necessary tools for how to manage anger.


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]]> 2379 no The Roots of Anger Is being angry a sin? The internal experience of anger is powerful and can feel overwhelming. Yet anger is a natural, God-given emotion that is designed to help us accomplish two things: to protest something bad and protect something good.  But when anger shows up, we may turn into “the hulk” and our anger can become destructive instead of constructive. John and Austin discuss the importance of experiencing anger and why we should let “the hulk” into the room instead of locking the door.  Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 04 Jan 2023 10:30:00 -0000 full 8 With You in the Weeds Is being angry a sin? The internal experience of anger is powerful and can feel overwhelming. Yet anger is a natural, God-given emotion that is designed to help us accomplish two things: to protest something bad and protect something good.  But when anger shows up, we may turn into “the hulk” and our anger can become destructive instead of constructive. John and Austin discuss the importance of experiencing anger and why we should let “the hulk” into the room instead of locking the door.  Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Is being angry a sin? The internal experience of anger is powerful and can feel overwhelming. Yet anger is a natural, God-given emotion that is designed to help us accomplish two things: to protest something bad and protect something good. 


But when anger shows up, we may turn into “the hulk” and our anger can become destructive instead of constructive. John and Austin discuss the importance of experiencing anger and why we should let “the hulk” into the room instead of locking the door. 


Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2008 no Managing the Weeds of Sadness & Grief John, Lynn and Shay get into the topic of grieving losses, which may be the most important process we learn in our lifetime. There are 5 principles to grieving including the fact that we can resist grief, but we shouldn’t. Grief involves the need to face reality, the natural desire to protest reality, letting go of what you can’t change, and making room for new things. Grief is a humbling experience, as it puts us in a position of awaiting future restoration, and depending on God’s hopeful promises in our suffering.  Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds_ and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 28 Dec 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 7 With You in the Weeds John, Lynn and Shay get into the topic of grieving losses, which may be the most important process we learn in our lifetime. There are 5 principles to grieving including the fact that we can resist grief, but we shouldn’t. Grief involves the need to face reality, the natural desire to protest reality, letting go of what you can’t change, and making room for new things. Grief is a humbling experience, as it puts us in a position of awaiting future restoration, and depending on God’s hopeful promises in our suffering.  Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds_ and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. John, Lynn and Shay get into the topic of grieving losses, which may be the most important process we learn in our lifetime.


There are 5 principles to grieving including the fact that we can resist grief, but we shouldn’t. Grief involves the need to face reality, the natural desire to protest reality, letting go of what you can’t change, and making room for new things.


Grief is a humbling experience, as it puts us in a position of awaiting future restoration, and depending on God’s hopeful promises in our suffering. 


Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds_ and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2181 no The Roots of Sadness John and Lynn discuss how sadness is a bittersweet emotion (John’s favorite!), and is necessary for us to experience so we don’t get stuck. We face losses everyday: loss of beauty, health, control, influence, loved ones, hopes and dreams. Our sadness can quickly turn into deep sorrow and anguish when we face devastating loss.  The painful feeling of regret naturally occurs when we look back on the past and replay the events that have taken place, wondering how we could have avoided the pain of things we are powerless to change.  This episode is an insightful and challenging discussion about feelings that we try to avoid, but that can actually connect us more deeply to the heart of God and others. Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds_ and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 21 Dec 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 6 With You in the Weeds John and Lynn discuss how sadness is a bittersweet emotion (John’s favorite!), and is necessary for us to experience so we don’t get stuck. We face losses everyday: loss of beauty, health, control, influence, loved ones, hopes and dreams. Our sadness can quickly turn into deep sorrow and anguish when we face devastating loss.  The painful feeling of regret naturally occurs when we look back on the past and replay the events that have taken place, wondering how we could have avoided the pain of things we are powerless to change.  This episode is an insightful and challenging discussion about feelings that we try to avoid, but that can actually connect us more deeply to the heart of God and others. Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds_ and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. John and Lynn discuss how sadness is a bittersweet emotion (John’s favorite!), and is necessary for us to experience so we don’t get stuck. We face losses everyday: loss of beauty, health, control, influence, loved ones, hopes and dreams. Our sadness can quickly turn into deep sorrow and anguish when we face devastating loss. 


The painful feeling of regret naturally occurs when we look back on the past and replay the events that have taken place, wondering how we could have avoided the pain of things we are powerless to change. 


This episode is an insightful and challenging discussion about feelings that we try to avoid, but that can actually connect us more deeply to the heart of God and others.


Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds_ and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2266 no Managing the Weeds of Depression Are you living in the fog of depression? If so, there are many things to consider, from the physiological components of depression, to distorted thinking, toxic relationships or spiritual hopelessness.  John, Shay and Lynn discuss the art of self-diagnosis when you’re experiencing depression including how to question yourself, reflect on yourself and talk to yourself.  Managing the weeds of depression requires connecting to safe, healthy people who love you, proper self-care and engaging with God even when life feels dark. Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us @withyouintheweeds_ on Instagram and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss.  Wed, 14 Dec 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 5 With You in the Weeds Are you living in the fog of depression? If so, there are many things to consider, from the physiological components of depression, to distorted thinking, toxic relationships or spiritual hopelessness.  John, Shay and Lynn discuss the art of self-diagnosis when you’re experiencing depression including how to question yourself, reflect on yourself and talk to yourself.  Managing the weeds of depression requires connecting to safe, healthy people who love you, proper self-care and engaging with God even when life feels dark. Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us @withyouintheweeds_ on Instagram and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss.  Are you living in the fog of depression? If so, there are many things to consider, from the physiological components of depression, to distorted thinking, toxic relationships or spiritual hopelessness. 


John, Shay and Lynn discuss the art of self-diagnosis when you’re experiencing depression including how to question yourself, reflect on yourself and talk to yourself. 


Managing the weeds of depression requires connecting to safe, healthy people who love you, proper self-care and engaging with God even when life feels dark.


Did you find this episode helpful? Text and share it with a friend and leave us a rating or review! Follow us @withyouintheweeds_ on Instagram and let us know what topics you’d like to hear us discuss. 

]]> 2492 no The Roots of Depression Are you depressed? The truth is, there’s a lot to be depressed about, and God never judges anyone for feeling depressed. That’s why “spiritual bypassing”, or discounting our painful feelings with biblical platitudes is unhelpful. Our team will help you assess what mild to severe depression looks like and discuss the common roots of depression that may stem from our past experiences, a present hardship, or underlying spiritual causes that need to be addressed. We also discuss the topic of suicide because it is a painful and devastating reality connected to depression that cannot be ignored or avoided. Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 07 Dec 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 4 With You in the Weeds Are you depressed? The truth is, there’s a lot to be depressed about, and God never judges anyone for feeling depressed. That’s why “spiritual bypassing”, or discounting our painful feelings with biblical platitudes is unhelpful. Our team will help you assess what mild to severe depression looks like and discuss the common roots of depression that may stem from our past experiences, a present hardship, or underlying spiritual causes that need to be addressed. We also discuss the topic of suicide because it is a painful and devastating reality connected to depression that cannot be ignored or avoided. Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Are you depressed? The truth is, there’s a lot to be depressed about, and God never judges anyone for feeling depressed. That’s why “spiritual bypassing”, or discounting our painful feelings with biblical platitudes is unhelpful.


Our team will help you assess what mild to severe depression looks like and discuss the common roots of depression that may stem from our past experiences, a present hardship, or underlying spiritual causes that need to be addressed.


We also discuss the topic of suicide because it is a painful and devastating reality connected to depression that cannot be ignored or avoided.


Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 1959 no Managing the Weeds of Anxiety We know that anxiety is a normal part of life, so how are we going to manage it? Since there’s no quick fix, we explain a holistic approach to addressing anxiety from spiritual, mental, relational and physiological perspectives. Listen in as we discuss what Jesus says about anxiety, what makes our anxiety worse, why we need self-awareness to “think about our thinking”, and how to implement some easy and effective coping strategies to calm yourself down when you’re anxious. Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 30 Nov 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 3 With You in the Weeds We know that anxiety is a normal part of life, so how are we going to manage it? Since there’s no quick fix, we explain a holistic approach to addressing anxiety from spiritual, mental, relational and physiological perspectives. Listen in as we discuss what Jesus says about anxiety, what makes our anxiety worse, why we need self-awareness to “think about our thinking”, and how to implement some easy and effective coping strategies to calm yourself down when you’re anxious. Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. We know that anxiety is a normal part of life, so how are we going to manage it? Since there’s no quick fix, we explain a holistic approach to addressing anxiety from spiritual, mental, relational and physiological perspectives.


Listen in as we discuss what Jesus says about anxiety, what makes our anxiety worse, why we need self-awareness to “think about our thinking”, and how to implement some easy and effective coping strategies to calm yourself down when you’re anxious.


Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 2041 no The Roots of Anxiety Why are we so anxious? We all feel it, but do we know where it’s coming from? Anxiety is a physiological state of uneasiness or distress and is our brain's way of telling us there’s a problem that needs to be solved.  Knowing the source of our anxiety is the first step to managing it! Listen as we discuss the potential root causes of our anxiety, how it shows up in the body and the most common life situations that contribute to anxious feelings. This discussion will help you find where you are on a spectrum of anxiety symptoms so you can identify what you’re experiencing and why. Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Wed, 23 Nov 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 2 With You in the Weeds Why are we so anxious? We all feel it, but do we know where it’s coming from? Anxiety is a physiological state of uneasiness or distress and is our brain's way of telling us there’s a problem that needs to be solved.  Knowing the source of our anxiety is the first step to managing it! Listen as we discuss the potential root causes of our anxiety, how it shows up in the body and the most common life situations that contribute to anxious feelings. This discussion will help you find where you are on a spectrum of anxiety symptoms so you can identify what you’re experiencing and why. Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Why are we so anxious? We all feel it, but do we know where it’s coming from? Anxiety is a physiological state of uneasiness or distress and is our brain's way of telling us there’s a problem that needs to be solved. 


Knowing the source of our anxiety is the first step to managing it!


Listen as we discuss the potential root causes of our anxiety, how it shows up in the body and the most common life situations that contribute to anxious feelings. This discussion will help you find where you are on a spectrum of anxiety symptoms so you can identify what you’re experiencing and why.


Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

]]> 1906 no Get to Know Us! Get to know us! We are a team of Christian counselors and pastors who are routinely “in the weeds” with people helping them navigate the hardships of life from a psychological and spiritual perspective.  We want to offer you wisdom and insight from a trusted Christian viewpoint so that you feel normalized in your struggles and equipped to manage the weeds of life. We invite you to listen as we have honest conversations about how to manage your mental health, stress, emotions, spiritual growth, relationships, parenting, marriage and more! Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Tue, 15 Nov 2022 15:36:00 -0000 full With You in the Weeds Get to know us! We are a team of Christian counselors and pastors who are routinely “in the weeds” with people helping them navigate the hardships of life from a psychological and spiritual perspective.  We want to offer you wisdom and insight from a trusted Christian viewpoint so that you feel normalized in your struggles and equipped to manage the weeds of life. We invite you to listen as we have honest conversations about how to manage your mental health, stress, emotions, spiritual growth, relationships, parenting, marriage and more! Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Get to know us! We are a team of Christian counselors and pastors who are routinely “in the weeds” with people helping them navigate the hardships of life from a psychological and spiritual perspective. 


We want to offer you wisdom and insight from a trusted Christian viewpoint so that you feel normalized in your struggles and equipped to manage the weeds of life.


We invite you to listen as we have honest conversations about how to manage your mental health, stress, emotions, spiritual growth, relationships, parenting, marriage and more!


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]]> 249 no Your Emotional Dashboard Why should we pay attention to our emotions? Can’t we just ignore them and hope they go away?  This series, Managing Your Emotions, is going to address unavoidable emotions like anxiety, depression, sadness, anger and shame that we often don't know how to handle, so we need to start by understanding our emotional dashboard. Let’s be honest, in the church we often see two extremes: all facts (head knowledge) or all feelings (gut knowledge). Hint: we need both sides of our brain if we want to build a bridge between our head and heart! Learn why we avoid and resist emotions, and how we can engage them in ways that help us gain wisdom, connect deeply in relationships and grow closer to God.  Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Tue, 15 Nov 2022 10:30:00 -0000 full 1 With You in the Weeds Why should we pay attention to our emotions? Can’t we just ignore them and hope they go away?  This series, Managing Your Emotions, is going to address unavoidable emotions like anxiety, depression, sadness, anger and shame that we often don't know how to handle, so we need to start by understanding our emotional dashboard. Let’s be honest, in the church we often see two extremes: all facts (head knowledge) or all feelings (gut knowledge). Hint: we need both sides of our brain if we want to build a bridge between our head and heart! Learn why we avoid and resist emotions, and how we can engage them in ways that help us gain wisdom, connect deeply in relationships and grow closer to God.  Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss. Why should we pay attention to our emotions? Can’t we just ignore them and hope they go away? 


This series, Managing Your Emotions, is going to address unavoidable emotions like anxiety, depression, sadness, anger and shame that we often don't know how to handle, so we need to start by understanding our emotional dashboard.


Let’s be honest, in the church we often see two extremes: all facts (head knowledge) or all feelings (gut knowledge). Hint: we need both sides of our brain if we want to build a bridge between our head and heart!


Learn why we avoid and resist emotions, and how we can engage them in ways that help us gain wisdom, connect deeply in relationships and grow closer to God. 


Did you find this episode helpful? Let us know by leaving a rating or review! Email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you’d like to hear us discuss.

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