Dear Dr. Tracy en Cloud10 Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy, the podcast that helps you navigate the everyday challenges of relationships, marriage, and parenting with expert advice and real, relatable conversations. Hosted by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this podcast is your place for honest, no-nonsense guidance on love, intimacy, boundaries, and communication. With over 18 years of experience, Dr. Tracy brings a mix of clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and personal insights as a wife and mother to help you break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections. Each week, Dr. Tracy answers the questions so many of us have but don’t always know how to ask—about resentment, desire, mental load, and how to truly feel like a team with your partner. She’s joined by fellow experts, real couples, and her husband Greg, who offers a down-to-earth perspective on the struggles so many relationships face. If you’re ready for actionable tools and heartfelt conversations that will help you create a relationship that feels fulfilling, this podcast is for you.  https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/22b4b0b8-c4fc-11ed-ab27-1b77e287000c/image/4245fc2d77206032e03f1352dfb2d284.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress Dear Dr. Tracy yes episodic Dear Dr. Tracy Cloud10 Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy, the podcast that helps you navigate the everyday challenges of relationships, marriage, and parenting with expert advice and real, relatable conversations. Hosted by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this podcast is your place for honest, no-nonsense guidance on love, intimacy, boundaries, and communication. With over 18 years of experience, Dr. Tracy brings a mix of clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and personal insights as a wife and mother to help you break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections. Each week, Dr. Tracy answers the questions so many of us have but don’t always know how to ask—about resentment, desire, mental load, and how to truly feel like a team with your partner. She’s joined by fellow experts, real couples, and her husband Greg, who offers a down-to-earth perspective on the struggles so many relationships face. If you’re ready for actionable tools and heartfelt conversations that will help you create a relationship that feels fulfilling, this podcast is for you.  Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy, the podcast that helps you navigate the everyday challenges of relationships, marriage, and parenting with expert advice and real, relatable conversations. Hosted by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this podcast is your place for honest, no-nonsense guidance on love, intimacy, boundaries, and communication. With over 18 years of experience, Dr. Tracy brings a mix of clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and personal insights as a wife and mother to help you break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections. Each week, Dr. Tracy answers the questions so many of us have but don’t always know how to ask—about resentment, desire, mental load, and how to truly feel like a team with your partner. She’s joined by fellow experts, real couples, and her husband Greg, who offers a down-to-earth perspective on the struggles so many relationships face. If you’re ready for actionable tools and heartfelt conversations that will help you create a relationship that feels fulfilling, this podcast is for you. 

]]> Cloud10 sahiba@cloud10.fm How to Stop Taking In-Law Priorities Personally A mother-in-law writes in with a hard, honest truth: she loves her daughter-in-law, she’s tried to be warm and welcoming, and she’s still grieving that her son’s wife’s family seems to get the “real” holidays while his side feels like the cordial box-check. Dr. Tracy validates the sadness without turning the daughter-in-law into the villain, and offers a reframe that changes the whole lens: when your child marries, they don’t add a person into your family as much as they leave and build their own. That shift isn’t rejection. It’s the reality of a new family system forming.From there, she holds two truths at once: you don’t get to decide how your son and daughter-in-law prioritize extended family, and you’re still allowed to grieve the relationship you hoped for. The path forward isn’t comparison or silent withdrawal, it’s depersonalizing what you don’t control, dropping the “his side vs her side” scorekeeping, and focusing on what’s possible to co-create now. Dr. Tracy encourages naming desires directly (without pressure), staying relational instead of shutting down, and watching for confirmation bias, the mental habit that only collects evidence that you’re not a priority, even when connection is being offered in other ways. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 26 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 A mother-in-law writes in with a hard, honest truth: she loves her daughter-in-law, she’s tried to be warm and welcoming, and she’s still grieving that her son’s wife’s family seems to get the “real” holidays while his side feels like the cordial box-check. Dr. Tracy validates the sadness without turning the daughter-in-law into the villain, and offers a reframe that changes the whole lens: when your child marries, they don’t add a person into your family as much as they leave and build their own. That shift isn’t rejection. It’s the reality of a new family system forming.From there, she holds two truths at once: you don’t get to decide how your son and daughter-in-law prioritize extended family, and you’re still allowed to grieve the relationship you hoped for. The path forward isn’t comparison or silent withdrawal, it’s depersonalizing what you don’t control, dropping the “his side vs her side” scorekeeping, and focusing on what’s possible to co-create now. Dr. Tracy encourages naming desires directly (without pressure), staying relational instead of shutting down, and watching for confirmation bias, the mental habit that only collects evidence that you’re not a priority, even when connection is being offered in other ways. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices A mother-in-law writes in with a hard, honest truth: she loves her daughter-in-law, she’s tried to be warm and welcoming, and she’s still grieving that her son’s wife’s family seems to get the “real” holidays while his side feels like the cordial box-check. Dr. Tracy validates the sadness without turning the daughter-in-law into the villain, and offers a reframe that changes the whole lens: when your child marries, they don’t add a person into your family as much as they leave and build their own. That shift isn’t rejection. It’s the reality of a new family system forming.
From there, she holds two truths at once: you don’t get to decide how your son and daughter-in-law prioritize extended family, and you’re still allowed to grieve the relationship you hoped for. The path forward isn’t comparison or silent withdrawal, it’s depersonalizing what you don’t control, dropping the “his side vs her side” scorekeeping, and focusing on what’s possible to co-create now. Dr. Tracy encourages naming desires directly (without pressure), staying relational instead of shutting down, and watching for confirmation bias, the mental habit that only collects evidence that you’re not a priority, even when connection is being offered in other ways.


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]]> 906 no Why So Many People Feel Lonely in Their Marriage Loneliness isn’t just a risk factor for people who live alone anymore. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack the reality of relational loneliness, the experience of feeling alone inside a long-term partnership, even when you share a home, kids, a schedule, and a couch. Sparked by a striking poll from Dr. Tracy’s community, they name the paradox many couples live inside: you chose partnership hoping you’d never feel lonely again…and then modern marriage delivers a kind of loneliness you didn’t see coming.They explore how this drift happens quietly: missed bids for connection, conversations that shrink into logistics, and the way phones can become a constant, convenient escape hatch that slowly starves emotional intimacy. The point isn’t to blame your partner, it’s to label what’s happening so you can do something about it. Small, consistent rituals (even 10–20 minutes without screens) matter more than grand date nights, especially for parents without built-in support. And if your partner tells you they feel lonely, the invitation is to treat it as a privilege and a warning light, not a personal attack, because naming it early is often what prevents the quiet divorce later. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Feel closer in under 10 minutes per day.⁠ ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠  📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 23 Apr 2026 11:36:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Loneliness isn’t just a risk factor for people who live alone anymore. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack the reality of relational loneliness, the experience of feeling alone inside a long-term partnership, even when you share a home, kids, a schedule, and a couch. Sparked by a striking poll from Dr. Tracy’s community, they name the paradox many couples live inside: you chose partnership hoping you’d never feel lonely again…and then modern marriage delivers a kind of loneliness you didn’t see coming.They explore how this drift happens quietly: missed bids for connection, conversations that shrink into logistics, and the way phones can become a constant, convenient escape hatch that slowly starves emotional intimacy. The point isn’t to blame your partner, it’s to label what’s happening so you can do something about it. Small, consistent rituals (even 10–20 minutes without screens) matter more than grand date nights, especially for parents without built-in support. And if your partner tells you they feel lonely, the invitation is to treat it as a privilege and a warning light, not a personal attack, because naming it early is often what prevents the quiet divorce later. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Feel closer in under 10 minutes per day.⁠ ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠  📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Loneliness isn’t just a risk factor for people who live alone anymore. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack the reality of relational loneliness, the experience of feeling alone inside a long-term partnership, even when you share a home, kids, a schedule, and a couch. Sparked by a striking poll from Dr. Tracy’s community, they name the paradox many couples live inside: you chose partnership hoping you’d never feel lonely again…and then modern marriage delivers a kind of loneliness you didn’t see coming.
They explore how this drift happens quietly: missed bids for connection, conversations that shrink into logistics, and the way phones can become a constant, convenient escape hatch that slowly starves emotional intimacy. The point isn’t to blame your partner, it’s to label what’s happening so you can do something about it. Small, consistent rituals (even 10–20 minutes without screens) matter more than grand date nights, especially for parents without built-in support. And if your partner tells you they feel lonely, the invitation is to treat it as a privilege and a warning light, not a personal attack, because naming it early is often what prevents the quiet divorce later.


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]]> 2225 yes Justin Bieber, Coachella, and the Power of Meeting Your Younger Self Did you catch Justin Bieber at Coachella? When he sang alongside footage of his 13-year-old self, it wasn't just nostalgia — it was a public, vulnerable act of inner child healing. In this short episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why that moment landed so hard and what it teaches us about our own healing work. Tracy explores: Why meeting your younger self is powerful healing work How we quietly learn to abandon ourselves growing up Why we meet our struggles with criticism instead of compassion Why Tracy believes adulthood doesn't truly begin until 28 or 29 Why inner child work is never "done" — and why that's the point A gentle invitation to approach your younger self the way Justin approached his on that stage — with a quiet "I see you. I'm here." 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Check out this episode: Is That Really You…or Your Inner Child 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 19 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Did you catch Justin Bieber at Coachella? When he sang alongside footage of his 13-year-old self, it wasn't just nostalgia — it was a public, vulnerable act of inner child healing. In this short episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why that moment landed so hard and what it teaches us about our own healing work. Tracy explores: Why meeting your younger self is powerful healing work How we quietly learn to abandon ourselves growing up Why we meet our struggles with criticism instead of compassion Why Tracy believes adulthood doesn't truly begin until 28 or 29 Why inner child work is never "done" — and why that's the point A gentle invitation to approach your younger self the way Justin approached his on that stage — with a quiet "I see you. I'm here." 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Check out this episode: Is That Really You…or Your Inner Child 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Did you catch Justin Bieber at Coachella? When he sang alongside footage of his 13-year-old self, it wasn't just nostalgia — it was a public, vulnerable act of inner child healing.

In this short episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why that moment landed so hard and what it teaches us about our own healing work.

Tracy explores:

  • Why meeting your younger self is powerful healing work
  • How we quietly learn to abandon ourselves growing up
  • Why we meet our struggles with criticism instead of compassion
  • Why Tracy believes adulthood doesn't truly begin until 28 or 29
  • Why inner child work is never "done" — and why that's the point

A gentle invitation to approach your younger self the way Justin approached his on that stage — with a quiet "I see you. I'm here."


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]]> 607 How Couples Get Stuck in the Same Cycle Some couples don’t get stuck because they don’t love each other, they get stuck because their nervous systems keep pulling them into the same protective dance. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack their own cycle in real time: avoidance and “giving space” on one side, protest and pursuit on the other, and how quickly it can turn into defensiveness, shutdown, and disconnection. The shift isn’t about “better communication” as much as recognizing what’s happening underneath the words, the body cues, the old stories, and the threat response that takes over when the person in front of you matters most.They also name the part that changes everything: it’s not you vs. your partner, it’s both of you vs. the cycle. When you can externalize the pattern, pause it (“we’re doing the thing”), and come back to repair instead of disappearing, the intensity starts to drop. Small moves matter: naming what’s happening, making eye contact, asking directly for what you need (even something as simple as a hug), and returning after a timeout so the conversation doesn’t become another abandonment wound. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 16 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Some couples don’t get stuck because they don’t love each other, they get stuck because their nervous systems keep pulling them into the same protective dance. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack their own cycle in real time: avoidance and “giving space” on one side, protest and pursuit on the other, and how quickly it can turn into defensiveness, shutdown, and disconnection. The shift isn’t about “better communication” as much as recognizing what’s happening underneath the words, the body cues, the old stories, and the threat response that takes over when the person in front of you matters most.They also name the part that changes everything: it’s not you vs. your partner, it’s both of you vs. the cycle. When you can externalize the pattern, pause it (“we’re doing the thing”), and come back to repair instead of disappearing, the intensity starts to drop. Small moves matter: naming what’s happening, making eye contact, asking directly for what you need (even something as simple as a hug), and returning after a timeout so the conversation doesn’t become another abandonment wound. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Some couples don’t get stuck because they don’t love each other, they get stuck because their nervous systems keep pulling them into the same protective dance. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack their own cycle in real time: avoidance and “giving space” on one side, protest and pursuit on the other, and how quickly it can turn into defensiveness, shutdown, and disconnection. The shift isn’t about “better communication” as much as recognizing what’s happening underneath the words, the body cues, the old stories, and the threat response that takes over when the person in front of you matters most.
They also name the part that changes everything: it’s not you vs. your partner, it’s both of you vs. the cycle. When you can externalize the pattern, pause it (“we’re doing the thing”), and come back to repair instead of disappearing, the intensity starts to drop. Small moves matter: naming what’s happening, making eye contact, asking directly for what you need (even something as simple as a hug), and returning after a timeout so the conversation doesn’t become another abandonment wound.


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]]> 1744 yes Honest Motherhood with Libby Ward: Losing Yourself and Finding Your Way Back Resentment doesn’t always show up as anger. Sometimes it shows up as a quiet question you can’t stop hearing: does anyone see how hard I’m trying? Dr. Tracy sits down with Libby Ward, creator and author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, to name the tension so many mothers live inside, deep love alongside deep exhaustion, gratitude alongside grief, connection alongside loneliness.Libby shares how her turning point wasn’t just “being honest online,” it was being honest with herself first: admitting the load was heavy, the system wasn’t sustainable, and the guilt narrative wasn’t telling the truth. Together, they unpack how mental load becomes invisible, how “all you had to do was ask” becomes its own kind of loneliness, and why real change often begins when someone finally owns the full scope of a task from start to finish. The takeaway lands clearly: you’re not a bad mom for struggling, you’re a human in a role that asks for too much, too often, too quietly, and honesty is where the first real shift begins. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 09 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Resentment doesn’t always show up as anger. Sometimes it shows up as a quiet question you can’t stop hearing: does anyone see how hard I’m trying? Dr. Tracy sits down with Libby Ward, creator and author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, to name the tension so many mothers live inside, deep love alongside deep exhaustion, gratitude alongside grief, connection alongside loneliness.Libby shares how her turning point wasn’t just “being honest online,” it was being honest with herself first: admitting the load was heavy, the system wasn’t sustainable, and the guilt narrative wasn’t telling the truth. Together, they unpack how mental load becomes invisible, how “all you had to do was ask” becomes its own kind of loneliness, and why real change often begins when someone finally owns the full scope of a task from start to finish. The takeaway lands clearly: you’re not a bad mom for struggling, you’re a human in a role that asks for too much, too often, too quietly, and honesty is where the first real shift begins. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Resentment doesn’t always show up as anger. Sometimes it shows up as a quiet question you can’t stop hearing: does anyone see how hard I’m trying? Dr. Tracy sits down with Libby Ward, creator and author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, to name the tension so many mothers live inside, deep love alongside deep exhaustion, gratitude alongside grief, connection alongside loneliness.
Libby shares how her turning point wasn’t just “being honest online,” it was being honest with herself first: admitting the load was heavy, the system wasn’t sustainable, and the guilt narrative wasn’t telling the truth. Together, they unpack how mental load becomes invisible, how “all you had to do was ask” becomes its own kind of loneliness, and why real change often begins when someone finally owns the full scope of a task from start to finish. The takeaway lands clearly: you’re not a bad mom for struggling, you’re a human in a role that asks for too much, too often, too quietly, and honesty is where the first real shift begins.

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]]> 2557 Repairing Trust After Half-Truths and Defensiveness Trust doesn’t always break in one explosive moment. Sometimes it erodes through small lies, half-truths, and protective reflexes that made sense in childhood, but create distance in adult partnership. Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who wants to know if trust can be rebuilt after a long-standing pattern of not telling the full truth, and what to do when their partner feels hypervigilant, exhausted, and close to leaving.She explains that repair starts with willingness: the willingness to repeatedly “cross the bridge” into your partner’s experience without making their fear about your shame. Then she lays out what rebuilding looks like in real time: naming the urge to hide, slowing the moment down, practicing meta-communication, and choosing truth even when your nervous system wants to protect you. Trust isn’t rebuilt through pressure or promises, it’s rebuilt through consistent, visible moments of honesty, accountability, and emotional intimacy. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 05 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Trust doesn’t always break in one explosive moment. Sometimes it erodes through small lies, half-truths, and protective reflexes that made sense in childhood, but create distance in adult partnership. Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who wants to know if trust can be rebuilt after a long-standing pattern of not telling the full truth, and what to do when their partner feels hypervigilant, exhausted, and close to leaving.She explains that repair starts with willingness: the willingness to repeatedly “cross the bridge” into your partner’s experience without making their fear about your shame. Then she lays out what rebuilding looks like in real time: naming the urge to hide, slowing the moment down, practicing meta-communication, and choosing truth even when your nervous system wants to protect you. Trust isn’t rebuilt through pressure or promises, it’s rebuilt through consistent, visible moments of honesty, accountability, and emotional intimacy. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Trust doesn’t always break in one explosive moment. Sometimes it erodes through small lies, half-truths, and protective reflexes that made sense in childhood, but create distance in adult partnership. Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who wants to know if trust can be rebuilt after a long-standing pattern of not telling the full truth, and what to do when their partner feels hypervigilant, exhausted, and close to leaving.
She explains that repair starts with willingness: the willingness to repeatedly “cross the bridge” into your partner’s experience without making their fear about your shame. Then she lays out what rebuilding looks like in real time: naming the urge to hide, slowing the moment down, practicing meta-communication, and choosing truth even when your nervous system wants to protect you. Trust isn’t rebuilt through pressure or promises, it’s rebuilt through consistent, visible moments of honesty, accountability, and emotional intimacy.


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]]> 920 The Yes Starts Way Before the Bedroom There was a time when sex felt easy, and then life happened. Kids, stress, mental load, exhaustion, being touched out… and suddenly both partners are wondering: is something wrong with me, with you, or with us? Dr. Tracy reframes this in a way most couples have never been taught: you don’t have a desire problem, you have a conditions problem. And that’s hopeful, because conditions are something you can actually work with.In this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Greg break down the two pathways to desire (spontaneous vs. responsive), why pressure quietly shuts desire down, and why sex can’t exist in a silo when resentment, cortisol, and disconnection are running the show. The goal isn’t to “manufacture the mood” or withdraw completely, it’s to co-create the kind of daily conditions (touch, safety, shared load, emotional closeness) that make desire possible again. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠  Grab the freebie: 5 Ways to Nurture Your Intimacy 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? ⁠Be Connected⁠ — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. ⁠One spot left⁠ for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 02 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 There was a time when sex felt easy, and then life happened. Kids, stress, mental load, exhaustion, being touched out… and suddenly both partners are wondering: is something wrong with me, with you, or with us? Dr. Tracy reframes this in a way most couples have never been taught: you don’t have a desire problem, you have a conditions problem. And that’s hopeful, because conditions are something you can actually work with.In this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Greg break down the two pathways to desire (spontaneous vs. responsive), why pressure quietly shuts desire down, and why sex can’t exist in a silo when resentment, cortisol, and disconnection are running the show. The goal isn’t to “manufacture the mood” or withdraw completely, it’s to co-create the kind of daily conditions (touch, safety, shared load, emotional closeness) that make desire possible again. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠  Grab the freebie: 5 Ways to Nurture Your Intimacy 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? ⁠Be Connected⁠ — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. ⁠One spot left⁠ for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices There was a time when sex felt easy, and then life happened. Kids, stress, mental load, exhaustion, being touched out… and suddenly both partners are wondering: is something wrong with me, with you, or with us? Dr. Tracy reframes this in a way most couples have never been taught: you don’t have a desire problem, you have a conditions problem. And that’s hopeful, because conditions are something you can actually work with.
In this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Greg break down the two pathways to desire (spontaneous vs. responsive), why pressure quietly shuts desire down, and why sex can’t exist in a silo when resentment, cortisol, and disconnection are running the show. The goal isn’t to “manufacture the mood” or withdraw completely, it’s to co-create the kind of daily conditions (touch, safety, shared load, emotional closeness) that make desire possible again.


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]]> 2553 yes The 4 Steps to Setting a Boundary That Actually Sticks If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “I know I need a boundary… I just don’t know how to do it without making things worse,” this episode slows it all the way down. Boundaries aren’t about getting someone else to change. They start with you getting clear on what would need to feel different inside the dynamic so you can feel okay, grounded, and steady.Dr. Tracy breaks down four practical shifts that make boundaries more doable: getting clear with yourself first, saying it early (or rehearsing it ahead of time), letting the other person’s reaction belong to them, and deciding what you’ll do when the boundary gets crossed. Because the follow-through is the part that turns a “boundary” from a hope into something real. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3 Ways to Respond when someone reacts to your boundary. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected⁠ — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. ⁠One spot left⁠ for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe on YouTube Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 29 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “I know I need a boundary… I just don’t know how to do it without making things worse,” this episode slows it all the way down. Boundaries aren’t about getting someone else to change. They start with you getting clear on what would need to feel different inside the dynamic so you can feel okay, grounded, and steady.Dr. Tracy breaks down four practical shifts that make boundaries more doable: getting clear with yourself first, saying it early (or rehearsing it ahead of time), letting the other person’s reaction belong to them, and deciding what you’ll do when the boundary gets crossed. Because the follow-through is the part that turns a “boundary” from a hope into something real. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3 Ways to Respond when someone reacts to your boundary. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected⁠ — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. ⁠One spot left⁠ for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe on YouTube Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “I know I need a boundary… I just don’t know how to do it without making things worse,” this episode slows it all the way down. Boundaries aren’t about getting someone else to change. They start with you getting clear on what would need to feel different inside the dynamic so you can feel okay, grounded, and steady.
Dr. Tracy breaks down four practical shifts that make boundaries more doable: getting clear with yourself first, saying it early (or rehearsing it ahead of time), letting the other person’s reaction belong to them, and deciding what you’ll do when the boundary gets crossed. Because the follow-through is the part that turns a “boundary” from a hope into something real.


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]]> 740 no The Real Reason You Avoid Setting Boundaries Boundaries are easy to agree with in theory and brutally hard in real life, especially when childcare, tradition, money, and family history are all tangled together. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many people understand boundaries online but freeze when it’s time to actually set one, and they cluster the most common stuck points: fear of fallout, guilt and “you’re too sensitive” messaging, the hopelessness of being ignored, and the leverage dynamics that make saying no feel risky.They also name why holidays turn the volume up: proximity, old roles, obligation economy, and unspoken expectations. The key reframe is that boundaries aren’t about controlling someone else. They’re an invitation into a relationship that works for both of you, with the follow-through happening in what you do when someone pushes back. Dr. Tracy leaves you with a powerful reflection to sit with this week: where are you staying quiet to keep someone else comfortable, and what is that silence costing you? 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 26 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Boundaries are easy to agree with in theory and brutally hard in real life, especially when childcare, tradition, money, and family history are all tangled together. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many people understand boundaries online but freeze when it’s time to actually set one, and they cluster the most common stuck points: fear of fallout, guilt and “you’re too sensitive” messaging, the hopelessness of being ignored, and the leverage dynamics that make saying no feel risky.They also name why holidays turn the volume up: proximity, old roles, obligation economy, and unspoken expectations. The key reframe is that boundaries aren’t about controlling someone else. They’re an invitation into a relationship that works for both of you, with the follow-through happening in what you do when someone pushes back. Dr. Tracy leaves you with a powerful reflection to sit with this week: where are you staying quiet to keep someone else comfortable, and what is that silence costing you? 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Boundaries are easy to agree with in theory and brutally hard in real life, especially when childcare, tradition, money, and family history are all tangled together. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many people understand boundaries online but freeze when it’s time to actually set one, and they cluster the most common stuck points: fear of fallout, guilt and “you’re too sensitive” messaging, the hopelessness of being ignored, and the leverage dynamics that make saying no feel risky.
They also name why holidays turn the volume up: proximity, old roles, obligation economy, and unspoken expectations. The key reframe is that boundaries aren’t about controlling someone else. They’re an invitation into a relationship that works for both of you, with the follow-through happening in what you do when someone pushes back. Dr. Tracy leaves you with a powerful reflection to sit with this week: where are you staying quiet to keep someone else comfortable, and what is that silence costing you?


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]]> 2587 yes How Unspoken Needs Create Distance and Resentment hat “we’re not fighting, but we don’t feel close” feeling is one of the most common relationship stuck-points, and it doesn’t automatically mean anything is broken. Dr. Tracy reframes roommate mode as less about a lack of love and more about a misunderstanding of how closeness is actually built. For many couples, connection erodes quietly, not through big blowups, but through long stretches of important things going unnamed.She offers a key reframe: needs are information, not demands or criticism. When needs stay unspoken, they don’t disappear, they show up later as resentment, emotional distance, and feeling alone even while you’re together. If you’re feeling disconnected, the answer usually isn’t to “need less” or try harder in silence. It’s learning to identify what feels off, name what you want (not just what you don’t), and practice expressing needs without guilt or self-blame, so closeness becomes something you build together instead of something you hope your partner guesses. RESOURCES Get relationship coaching inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 22 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 hat “we’re not fighting, but we don’t feel close” feeling is one of the most common relationship stuck-points, and it doesn’t automatically mean anything is broken. Dr. Tracy reframes roommate mode as less about a lack of love and more about a misunderstanding of how closeness is actually built. For many couples, connection erodes quietly, not through big blowups, but through long stretches of important things going unnamed.She offers a key reframe: needs are information, not demands or criticism. When needs stay unspoken, they don’t disappear, they show up later as resentment, emotional distance, and feeling alone even while you’re together. If you’re feeling disconnected, the answer usually isn’t to “need less” or try harder in silence. It’s learning to identify what feels off, name what you want (not just what you don’t), and practice expressing needs without guilt or self-blame, so closeness becomes something you build together instead of something you hope your partner guesses. RESOURCES Get relationship coaching inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices hat “we’re not fighting, but we don’t feel close” feeling is one of the most common relationship stuck-points, and it doesn’t automatically mean anything is broken. Dr. Tracy reframes roommate mode as less about a lack of love and more about a misunderstanding of how closeness is actually built. For many couples, connection erodes quietly, not through big blowups, but through long stretches of important things going unnamed.
She offers a key reframe: needs are information, not demands or criticism. When needs stay unspoken, they don’t disappear, they show up later as resentment, emotional distance, and feeling alone even while you’re together. If you’re feeling disconnected, the answer usually isn’t to “need less” or try harder in silence. It’s learning to identify what feels off, name what you want (not just what you don’t), and practice expressing needs without guilt or self-blame, so closeness becomes something you build together instead of something you hope your partner guesses.


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]]> 374 How to Build Resilience Before Life Gets Hard with Dr. Rachel Goldman Life is going to happen, no matter how organized you are or how many systems you build. Dr. Rachel Goldman joins Dr. Tracy to talk about resilience as something you practice before the hard season hits, not after you’re already running on fumes. They break down what’s actually in your control when everything feels like it isn’t, and why doing “more” often creates the exact kind of chronic stress your body eventually pushes back against.They also unpack how stress shifts into exhaustion and burnout, what burnout really looks like (and why a single day off doesn’t fix it), and how it shows up in relationships when you don’t take a real transition between work mode and home mode. The conversation lands on a simple but powerful takeaway: you don’t need a total life overhaul to feel steadier. Sometimes you just need one internal tool you can access anywhere. For Dr. Rachel, that tool is breath, a small reset you can return to throughout the day to climb down the stress ladder before you hit the breaking point. LINKS FROM EPISODE Order Dr. Rachel's new book: When Life Happens Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram @drrachelnyc RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠with Coaching & Community inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Fri, 20 Mar 2026 11:34:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Life is going to happen, no matter how organized you are or how many systems you build. Dr. Rachel Goldman joins Dr. Tracy to talk about resilience as something you practice before the hard season hits, not after you’re already running on fumes. They break down what’s actually in your control when everything feels like it isn’t, and why doing “more” often creates the exact kind of chronic stress your body eventually pushes back against.They also unpack how stress shifts into exhaustion and burnout, what burnout really looks like (and why a single day off doesn’t fix it), and how it shows up in relationships when you don’t take a real transition between work mode and home mode. The conversation lands on a simple but powerful takeaway: you don’t need a total life overhaul to feel steadier. Sometimes you just need one internal tool you can access anywhere. For Dr. Rachel, that tool is breath, a small reset you can return to throughout the day to climb down the stress ladder before you hit the breaking point. LINKS FROM EPISODE Order Dr. Rachel's new book: When Life Happens Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram @drrachelnyc RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠with Coaching & Community inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Life is going to happen, no matter how organized you are or how many systems you build. Dr. Rachel Goldman joins Dr. Tracy to talk about resilience as something you practice before the hard season hits, not after you’re already running on fumes. They break down what’s actually in your control when everything feels like it isn’t, and why doing “more” often creates the exact kind of chronic stress your body eventually pushes back against.
They also unpack how stress shifts into exhaustion and burnout, what burnout really looks like (and why a single day off doesn’t fix it), and how it shows up in relationships when you don’t take a real transition between work mode and home mode. The conversation lands on a simple but powerful takeaway: you don’t need a total life overhaul to feel steadier. Sometimes you just need one internal tool you can access anywhere. For Dr. Rachel, that tool is breath, a small reset you can return to throughout the day to climb down the stress ladder before you hit the breaking point.


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]]> 2555 What to Do Instead of an Empty “Sorry” Empty apologies don’t ruin relationships. What ruins relationships is what happens next when repair never really comes. In this short episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down why conflict isn’t the main problem for most couples, it’s the inability to truly repair in a way that helps both partners feel seen, safe, and back on the same team.She walks through what to do when you recognize a specific “sorry” pattern, whether you tend to focus on intention instead of impact, promise change but don’t follow through, collapse into a shame spiral, or apologize and try to move on too quickly. The thread running through all of it is simple: repair requires presence, curiosity, and a willingness to stay with the discomfort long enough to understand what it felt like to be your partner, and to make something real shift afterward. LINKS FROM EPISODE How to respond to a bad apology. Free guide here. RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 15 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Empty apologies don’t ruin relationships. What ruins relationships is what happens next when repair never really comes. In this short episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down why conflict isn’t the main problem for most couples, it’s the inability to truly repair in a way that helps both partners feel seen, safe, and back on the same team.She walks through what to do when you recognize a specific “sorry” pattern, whether you tend to focus on intention instead of impact, promise change but don’t follow through, collapse into a shame spiral, or apologize and try to move on too quickly. The thread running through all of it is simple: repair requires presence, curiosity, and a willingness to stay with the discomfort long enough to understand what it felt like to be your partner, and to make something real shift afterward. LINKS FROM EPISODE How to respond to a bad apology. Free guide here. RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Empty apologies don’t ruin relationships. What ruins relationships is what happens next when repair never really comes. In this short episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down why conflict isn’t the main problem for most couples, it’s the inability to truly repair in a way that helps both partners feel seen, safe, and back on the same team.
She walks through what to do when you recognize a specific “sorry” pattern, whether you tend to focus on intention instead of impact, promise change but don’t follow through, collapse into a shame spiral, or apologize and try to move on too quickly. The thread running through all of it is simple: repair requires presence, curiosity, and a willingness to stay with the discomfort long enough to understand what it felt like to be your partner, and to make something real shift afterward.


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]]> 1010 Why “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough in Relationships A “sorry” can be sincere and still not land. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many couples get stuck in apology loops where the words get said, but the hurt doesn’t actually get repaired. One partner is left with that familiar sting of “okay… but nothing feels different,” while the other thinks, “I apologized, what more do you want?” The gap isn’t effort. It’s that sorry without repair doesn’t rebuild trust.They walk through the most common reasons apologies miss: performative sorries (“I’m sorry you feel that way”), apologies with no behavior change, shame-filled apologies that pull the hurt partner into soothing, and apologies that shut the conversation down too quickly. The shift they offer is simple but powerful: repair isn’t just about saying the right thing. Repair is about understanding impact, taking responsibility, making a plan for change, and staying present long enough for your partner to feel seen. Over time, that’s what prevents drift, resentment, and loneliness and helps couples come back together after conflict. LINKS FROM EPISODE: How to Respond to a Bad Apology. Grab your free guide here. After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions RESOURCES Get Relationship Coaching ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 12 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 A “sorry” can be sincere and still not land. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many couples get stuck in apology loops where the words get said, but the hurt doesn’t actually get repaired. One partner is left with that familiar sting of “okay… but nothing feels different,” while the other thinks, “I apologized, what more do you want?” The gap isn’t effort. It’s that sorry without repair doesn’t rebuild trust.They walk through the most common reasons apologies miss: performative sorries (“I’m sorry you feel that way”), apologies with no behavior change, shame-filled apologies that pull the hurt partner into soothing, and apologies that shut the conversation down too quickly. The shift they offer is simple but powerful: repair isn’t just about saying the right thing. Repair is about understanding impact, taking responsibility, making a plan for change, and staying present long enough for your partner to feel seen. Over time, that’s what prevents drift, resentment, and loneliness and helps couples come back together after conflict. LINKS FROM EPISODE: How to Respond to a Bad Apology. Grab your free guide here. After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions RESOURCES Get Relationship Coaching ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices A “sorry” can be sincere and still not land. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many couples get stuck in apology loops where the words get said, but the hurt doesn’t actually get repaired. One partner is left with that familiar sting of “okay… but nothing feels different,” while the other thinks, “I apologized, what more do you want?” The gap isn’t effort. It’s that sorry without repair doesn’t rebuild trust.
They walk through the most common reasons apologies miss: performative sorries (“I’m sorry you feel that way”), apologies with no behavior change, shame-filled apologies that pull the hurt partner into soothing, and apologies that shut the conversation down too quickly. The shift they offer is simple but powerful: repair isn’t just about saying the right thing. Repair is about understanding impact, taking responsibility, making a plan for change, and staying present long enough for your partner to feel seen. Over time, that’s what prevents drift, resentment, and loneliness and helps couples come back together after conflict.


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How to Respond to a Bad Apology. Grab your free guide here.

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]]> 2341 yes You’re Not His Therapist: You’re Choosing the High Road A lot of women are asking the same question right now: “So if my partner gets defensive, I’m supposed to be his therapist?” Dr. Tracy validates why that reaction makes sense, especially when you’re already exhausted, resentful, and carrying too much.She breaks down a common moment: you ask for help in a clear, non-attacking way, and your partner responds with defensiveness because shame gets activated. The key point is this: pausing to say “What’s going on right now?” isn’t you doing emotional labor for them. It’s you using your own agency to avoid the familiar low-road cycle of blame and escalation, so you can redirect back to the actual issue and still get your needs addressed. RESOURCES Get Relationship Coaching & Community ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 08 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 A lot of women are asking the same question right now: “So if my partner gets defensive, I’m supposed to be his therapist?” Dr. Tracy validates why that reaction makes sense, especially when you’re already exhausted, resentful, and carrying too much.She breaks down a common moment: you ask for help in a clear, non-attacking way, and your partner responds with defensiveness because shame gets activated. The key point is this: pausing to say “What’s going on right now?” isn’t you doing emotional labor for them. It’s you using your own agency to avoid the familiar low-road cycle of blame and escalation, so you can redirect back to the actual issue and still get your needs addressed. RESOURCES Get Relationship Coaching & Community ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices A lot of women are asking the same question right now: “So if my partner gets defensive, I’m supposed to be his therapist?” Dr. Tracy validates why that reaction makes sense, especially when you’re already exhausted, resentful, and carrying too much.
She breaks down a common moment: you ask for help in a clear, non-attacking way, and your partner responds with defensiveness because shame gets activated. The key point is this: pausing to say “What’s going on right now?” isn’t you doing emotional labor for them. It’s you using your own agency to avoid the familiar low-road cycle of blame and escalation, so you can redirect back to the actual issue and still get your needs addressed.


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]]> 673 A Thousand Tiny Paper Cuts: Why Resentment Gets So Heavy Resentment isn’t the hot kind of anger that flares and fades. It’s the quiet kind that builds in the background, often after you’ve asked for something over and over, and nothing changes. Dr. Tracy reframes resentment as grief, grief for unmet needs, lost hope, invisibility, and the version of your relationship you thought you were coming home to.She walks through how resentment typically forms in stages: unmet need, repeated pattern, scorekeeping, shutdown, and finally silence. Then she offers a path forward that starts with naming the grief (instead of blaming), asking clearly for what you need in the present, and getting honest about the patterns that keep the cycle going. Resentment isn’t always the end, but it is a signal that something needs to change, and that honesty is the doorway back to agency and connection. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Learn to move past resentment. Save 50% on my Conquer Resentment workshop. Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Feel closer after the More Than Roommates Challenge. Join HERE. Get coaching and community support ⁠Inside⁠ ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠⁠ Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 05 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Resentment isn’t the hot kind of anger that flares and fades. It’s the quiet kind that builds in the background, often after you’ve asked for something over and over, and nothing changes. Dr. Tracy reframes resentment as grief, grief for unmet needs, lost hope, invisibility, and the version of your relationship you thought you were coming home to.She walks through how resentment typically forms in stages: unmet need, repeated pattern, scorekeeping, shutdown, and finally silence. Then she offers a path forward that starts with naming the grief (instead of blaming), asking clearly for what you need in the present, and getting honest about the patterns that keep the cycle going. Resentment isn’t always the end, but it is a signal that something needs to change, and that honesty is the doorway back to agency and connection. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Learn to move past resentment. Save 50% on my Conquer Resentment workshop. Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Feel closer after the More Than Roommates Challenge. Join HERE. Get coaching and community support ⁠Inside⁠ ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠⁠ Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Resentment isn’t the hot kind of anger that flares and fades. It’s the quiet kind that builds in the background, often after you’ve asked for something over and over, and nothing changes. Dr. Tracy reframes resentment as grief, grief for unmet needs, lost hope, invisibility, and the version of your relationship you thought you were coming home to.
She walks through how resentment typically forms in stages: unmet need, repeated pattern, scorekeeping, shutdown, and finally silence. Then she offers a path forward that starts with naming the grief (instead of blaming), asking clearly for what you need in the present, and getting honest about the patterns that keep the cycle going. Resentment isn’t always the end, but it is a signal that something needs to change, and that honesty is the doorway back to agency and connection.


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]]> 2299 no Stop Taking It Personally: Differentiation in Real Life In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy teaches a relationship skill that quietly changes everything: differentiation. It’s the ability to hold onto your sense of self while staying connected to someone else, and to remember that another person’s thoughts, feelings, needs, or reactions are not automatically a commentary on your worth, your lovability, or whether you’re “doing enough.”Dr. Tracy brings this to life with a real moment from parenting: she’s invited to teach in her child’s classroom, announces it excitedly, and her child panics, afraid of being embarrassed. Instead of vacuuming up the reaction and making it about herself, she practices differentiation by staying beside her child’s experience, validating the feeling, getting curious about what’s underneath it, and co-creating a plan for what her child needs. The result is trust, safety, and connection, not defensiveness or shame.She then zooms out and invites listeners to picture the same moment in adult relationships: when a partner comes home in a bad mood, when a parent makes a guilt-laced request, when an in-law pushes a boundary. Differentiation is how you stop fusing with other people’s emotions, stop personalizing everything, and start responding from clarity and connection. RESOURCES Get Relationship Coaching & Community ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 01 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy teaches a relationship skill that quietly changes everything: differentiation. It’s the ability to hold onto your sense of self while staying connected to someone else, and to remember that another person’s thoughts, feelings, needs, or reactions are not automatically a commentary on your worth, your lovability, or whether you’re “doing enough.”Dr. Tracy brings this to life with a real moment from parenting: she’s invited to teach in her child’s classroom, announces it excitedly, and her child panics, afraid of being embarrassed. Instead of vacuuming up the reaction and making it about herself, she practices differentiation by staying beside her child’s experience, validating the feeling, getting curious about what’s underneath it, and co-creating a plan for what her child needs. The result is trust, safety, and connection, not defensiveness or shame.She then zooms out and invites listeners to picture the same moment in adult relationships: when a partner comes home in a bad mood, when a parent makes a guilt-laced request, when an in-law pushes a boundary. Differentiation is how you stop fusing with other people’s emotions, stop personalizing everything, and start responding from clarity and connection. RESOURCES Get Relationship Coaching & Community ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy teaches a relationship skill that quietly changes everything: differentiation. It’s the ability to hold onto your sense of self while staying connected to someone else, and to remember that another person’s thoughts, feelings, needs, or reactions are not automatically a commentary on your worth, your lovability, or whether you’re “doing enough.”
Dr. Tracy brings this to life with a real moment from parenting: she’s invited to teach in her child’s classroom, announces it excitedly, and her child panics, afraid of being embarrassed. Instead of vacuuming up the reaction and making it about herself, she practices differentiation by staying beside her child’s experience, validating the feeling, getting curious about what’s underneath it, and co-creating a plan for what her child needs. The result is trust, safety, and connection, not defensiveness or shame.
She then zooms out and invites listeners to picture the same moment in adult relationships: when a partner comes home in a bad mood, when a parent makes a guilt-laced request, when an in-law pushes a boundary. Differentiation is how you stop fusing with other people’s emotions, stop personalizing everything, and start responding from clarity and connection.


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]]> 942 How to Talk About Hard Things Without Shame Taking Over Dr. Tracy shares a shift that changed how she does couples therapy: most couples think their problem is communication, but often the real blocker is shame. You can have all the scripts, “I statements,” and conflict tools in the world, but when shame shows up, it hijacks the conversation and turns it into a survival response instead of a problem-solving moment.Dr. Tracy breaks down the crucial difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something wrong” and can lead to repair. Shame says “I am wrong” and pushes people into defensiveness, shutdown, counterattacks, perfectionism, or self-loathing. She explains what’s happening in the brain when shame activates: the prefrontal cortex goes offline, the threat system takes over, and you can’t “logic” your way back into connection.You’ll learn the five ways shame tends to show up during hard conversations, why it’s often rooted in early family conditioning (criticism, withdrawal, emotional invalidation, comparison), and how couples can start creating the emotional safety needed to actually talk about the real issue. Dr. Tracy walks listeners through how shame spirals derail connection, and offers a practical pathway back: pausing, naming what’s happening, asking for safety, and softening enough to rebuild the bridge before returning to the problem.LINKS FROM EPISODE: Scripts for Difficult Conversations - Find out more Here Get Coaching and Community inside Be Connected Here Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 26 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy shares a shift that changed how she does couples therapy: most couples think their problem is communication, but often the real blocker is shame. You can have all the scripts, “I statements,” and conflict tools in the world, but when shame shows up, it hijacks the conversation and turns it into a survival response instead of a problem-solving moment.Dr. Tracy breaks down the crucial difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something wrong” and can lead to repair. Shame says “I am wrong” and pushes people into defensiveness, shutdown, counterattacks, perfectionism, or self-loathing. She explains what’s happening in the brain when shame activates: the prefrontal cortex goes offline, the threat system takes over, and you can’t “logic” your way back into connection.You’ll learn the five ways shame tends to show up during hard conversations, why it’s often rooted in early family conditioning (criticism, withdrawal, emotional invalidation, comparison), and how couples can start creating the emotional safety needed to actually talk about the real issue. Dr. Tracy walks listeners through how shame spirals derail connection, and offers a practical pathway back: pausing, naming what’s happening, asking for safety, and softening enough to rebuild the bridge before returning to the problem.LINKS FROM EPISODE: Scripts for Difficult Conversations - Find out more Here Get Coaching and Community inside Be Connected Here Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Dr. Tracy shares a shift that changed how she does couples therapy: most couples think their problem is communication, but often the real blocker is shame. You can have all the scripts, “I statements,” and conflict tools in the world, but when shame shows up, it hijacks the conversation and turns it into a survival response instead of a problem-solving moment.
Dr. Tracy breaks down the crucial difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something wrong” and can lead to repair. Shame says “I am wrong” and pushes people into defensiveness, shutdown, counterattacks, perfectionism, or self-loathing. She explains what’s happening in the brain when shame activates: the prefrontal cortex goes offline, the threat system takes over, and you can’t “logic” your way back into connection.
You’ll learn the five ways shame tends to show up during hard conversations, why it’s often rooted in early family conditioning (criticism, withdrawal, emotional invalidation, comparison), and how couples can start creating the emotional safety needed to actually talk about the real issue. Dr. Tracy walks listeners through how shame spirals derail connection, and offers a practical pathway back: pausing, naming what’s happening, asking for safety, and softening enough to rebuild the bridge before returning to the problem.
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]]> 2881 Helping Without Becoming the Household Help Desk Ever catch yourself saying, “I shouldn’t have to tell you this” and immediately feel your brain power leak out through your ears? In this bite-sized episode, Dr. Tracy names a sneaky mental load pattern: “renting mom’s brain.” It’s those constant micro-asks, where’s my hat, did you see my keys, what are we doing for dinner, that pull you out of your own task to manage someone else’s.Dr. Tracy breaks down how this becomes a self-feeding loop: the ask, your automatic solve, and then…more asks forever. She shares a recent “hat moment” with Greg that revealed the role of autopilot, plus practical, do-this-today steps to shift the dynamic without blame, shame, or turning your home into a cold war. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Grab the Weekly Intention for less than a cup of coffee a month. Are You On Relationship Autopilot? Apple Podcasts Link Are You On Relationship Autopilot? Spotify Podcast Link RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 22 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Ever catch yourself saying, “I shouldn’t have to tell you this” and immediately feel your brain power leak out through your ears? In this bite-sized episode, Dr. Tracy names a sneaky mental load pattern: “renting mom’s brain.” It’s those constant micro-asks, where’s my hat, did you see my keys, what are we doing for dinner, that pull you out of your own task to manage someone else’s.Dr. Tracy breaks down how this becomes a self-feeding loop: the ask, your automatic solve, and then…more asks forever. She shares a recent “hat moment” with Greg that revealed the role of autopilot, plus practical, do-this-today steps to shift the dynamic without blame, shame, or turning your home into a cold war. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Grab the Weekly Intention for less than a cup of coffee a month. Are You On Relationship Autopilot? Apple Podcasts Link Are You On Relationship Autopilot? Spotify Podcast Link RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Ever catch yourself saying, “I shouldn’t have to tell you this” and immediately feel your brain power leak out through your ears? In this bite-sized episode, Dr. Tracy names a sneaky mental load pattern: “renting mom’s brain.” It’s those constant micro-asks, where’s my hat, did you see my keys, what are we doing for dinner, that pull you out of your own task to manage someone else’s.
Dr. Tracy breaks down how this becomes a self-feeding loop: the ask, your automatic solve, and then…more asks forever. She shares a recent “hat moment” with Greg that revealed the role of autopilot, plus practical, do-this-today steps to shift the dynamic without blame, shame, or turning your home into a cold war.


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]]> 636 Closing the Task: The Moment That Changed Our Marriage Ever had the moment where your partner says, “I did it,” but somehow…you’re still the one cleaning up the aftermath? In this episode, Dr. Tracy is joined by her husband Greg to talk about a surprisingly specific (and wildly common) mental load issue: not “closing the task.” Using their real-life bath time example, they break down how tasks have a beginning, middle, and end, and how skipping the “end” quietly transfers labor, time, and emotional energy to the other person. They also explore why this pattern often isn’t malicious, it’s autopilot, mismatched expectations, and unspoken definitions of what “done” actually means. Most importantly: how to bring it up without triggering the classic couple cycle of resentment and defensiveness. What “closing the task” means (and why it matters more than you think) Why “I helped” can still leave one partner feeling like the street cleaner after the parade How unspoken task definitions create conflict (hello, “I cleaned the kitchen”) A gentler way to introduce the concept using curiosity, not criticism Why “diffusion of responsibility” often lands on one partner by default How single-tasking (not multitasking) supports follow-through and reduces friction LINKS FROM EPISODE: Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today.⁠ ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Need deeper support? 1:1 and Couples Coaching Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 19 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Ever had the moment where your partner says, “I did it,” but somehow…you’re still the one cleaning up the aftermath? In this episode, Dr. Tracy is joined by her husband Greg to talk about a surprisingly specific (and wildly common) mental load issue: not “closing the task.” Using their real-life bath time example, they break down how tasks have a beginning, middle, and end, and how skipping the “end” quietly transfers labor, time, and emotional energy to the other person. They also explore why this pattern often isn’t malicious, it’s autopilot, mismatched expectations, and unspoken definitions of what “done” actually means. Most importantly: how to bring it up without triggering the classic couple cycle of resentment and defensiveness. What “closing the task” means (and why it matters more than you think) Why “I helped” can still leave one partner feeling like the street cleaner after the parade How unspoken task definitions create conflict (hello, “I cleaned the kitchen”) A gentler way to introduce the concept using curiosity, not criticism Why “diffusion of responsibility” often lands on one partner by default How single-tasking (not multitasking) supports follow-through and reduces friction LINKS FROM EPISODE: Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today.⁠ ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Need deeper support? 1:1 and Couples Coaching Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Ever had the moment where your partner says, “I did it,” but somehow…you’re still the one cleaning up the aftermath?

In this episode, Dr. Tracy is joined by her husband Greg to talk about a surprisingly specific (and wildly common) mental load issue: not “closing the task.” Using their real-life bath time example, they break down how tasks have a beginning, middle, and end, and how skipping the “end” quietly transfers labor, time, and emotional energy to the other person.

They also explore why this pattern often isn’t malicious, it’s autopilot, mismatched expectations, and unspoken definitions of what “done” actually means. Most importantly: how to bring it up without triggering the classic couple cycle of resentment and defensiveness.

  • What “closing the task” means (and why it matters more than you think)

  • Why “I helped” can still leave one partner feeling like the street cleaner after the parade

  • How unspoken task definitions create conflict (hello, “I cleaned the kitchen”)

  • A gentler way to introduce the concept using curiosity, not criticism

  • Why “diffusion of responsibility” often lands on one partner by default

  • How single-tasking (not multitasking) supports follow-through and reduces friction

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]]> 2346 yes The Relief You Are Not Supposed to Feel In this short From the Couch Q&A episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who feels crushed by guilt after she and her husband chose to go no-contact with his sister (and her family) after years of escalating conflict. The listener shares that the tension started around their engagement, with ongoing attacks, scapegoating, and a painful pattern of being blamed for “destroying the family.” Dr. Tracy offers a crucial reframe: in many in-law dynamics, the partner didn’t “ruin” the family, the family system changed when the couple formed their own unit, and some people fight hard to pull things back to the way they were. Dr. Tracy explores the complexity of sibling bonds and family roles, including how guilt and blame can become part of a bigger system (triangles, rescuer roles, unspoken expectations). She also names the emotional whiplash many people feel in estrangement: relief and grief at the same time. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠⁠ My first book: I Didn't Sign Up for This Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside⁠ ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 15 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this short From the Couch Q&A episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who feels crushed by guilt after she and her husband chose to go no-contact with his sister (and her family) after years of escalating conflict. The listener shares that the tension started around their engagement, with ongoing attacks, scapegoating, and a painful pattern of being blamed for “destroying the family.” Dr. Tracy offers a crucial reframe: in many in-law dynamics, the partner didn’t “ruin” the family, the family system changed when the couple formed their own unit, and some people fight hard to pull things back to the way they were. Dr. Tracy explores the complexity of sibling bonds and family roles, including how guilt and blame can become part of a bigger system (triangles, rescuer roles, unspoken expectations). She also names the emotional whiplash many people feel in estrangement: relief and grief at the same time. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠⁠ My first book: I Didn't Sign Up for This Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside⁠ ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this short From the Couch Q&A episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who feels crushed by guilt after she and her husband chose to go no-contact with his sister (and her family) after years of escalating conflict.

The listener shares that the tension started around their engagement, with ongoing attacks, scapegoating, and a painful pattern of being blamed for “destroying the family.” Dr. Tracy offers a crucial reframe: in many in-law dynamics, the partner didn’t “ruin” the family, the family system changed when the couple formed their own unit, and some people fight hard to pull things back to the way they were.

Dr. Tracy explores the complexity of sibling bonds and family roles, including how guilt and blame can become part of a bigger system (triangles, rescuer roles, unspoken expectations). She also names the emotional whiplash many people feel in estrangement: relief and grief at the same time.


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]]> 1395 Weaponized Incompetence: The Label That Explains Everything (And Nothing) In this episode Dr. Tracy slows down one of the internet’s most popular relationship labels: weaponized incompetence. She names why the term resonates so deeply, especially for women carrying the mental load, and why it can feel like oxygen to finally have language for exhaustion, invisibility, and resentment. But Dr. Tracy also brings nuance to a conversation that often gets flattened. She explains that “weaponized incompetence” isn’t always rooted in intentional harm or laziness. Often, what looks like incompetence is tied to learned helplessness, gendered socialization, fear of failure, shame, conflict avoidance, and unspoken agreements that form over time. The “weapon” isn’t always intention. It’s the outcome: one partner becomes the manager, the other becomes the assistant, and resentment grows in both directions, just with different faces. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Build better connection and feel close starting today.⁠ ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dr. Tracy's First Book I Didn't Sign Up For This Book RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 12 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode Dr. Tracy slows down one of the internet’s most popular relationship labels: weaponized incompetence. She names why the term resonates so deeply, especially for women carrying the mental load, and why it can feel like oxygen to finally have language for exhaustion, invisibility, and resentment. But Dr. Tracy also brings nuance to a conversation that often gets flattened. She explains that “weaponized incompetence” isn’t always rooted in intentional harm or laziness. Often, what looks like incompetence is tied to learned helplessness, gendered socialization, fear of failure, shame, conflict avoidance, and unspoken agreements that form over time. The “weapon” isn’t always intention. It’s the outcome: one partner becomes the manager, the other becomes the assistant, and resentment grows in both directions, just with different faces. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Build better connection and feel close starting today.⁠ ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dr. Tracy's First Book I Didn't Sign Up For This Book RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode Dr. Tracy slows down one of the internet’s most popular relationship labels: weaponized incompetence. She names why the term resonates so deeply, especially for women carrying the mental load, and why it can feel like oxygen to finally have language for exhaustion, invisibility, and resentment.

But Dr. Tracy also brings nuance to a conversation that often gets flattened. She explains that “weaponized incompetence” isn’t always rooted in intentional harm or laziness. Often, what looks like incompetence is tied to learned helplessness, gendered socialization, fear of failure, shame, conflict avoidance, and unspoken agreements that form over time. The “weapon” isn’t always intention. It’s the outcome: one partner becomes the manager, the other becomes the assistant, and resentment grows in both directions, just with different faces.


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]]> 1469 Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire: The Mismatch Couples Misunderstand In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy speaks to one of the most common pain points couples face around intimacy: one partner needs closeness to want sex, while the other experiences sex as the way they feel close. And when that mismatch goes unspoken, both people can start to feel rejected, pressured, and quietly alone even when love is still very much there. Dr. Tracy offers a simple framework that brings relief fast: there are two primary pathways to desire, spontaneous desire and responsive desire, and neither one is “better.” Spontaneous desire often starts in the mind and can feel effortless, but it commonly fades in long-term relationships, especially in high-demand seasons like parenting. Responsive desire, on the other hand, tends to emerge after emotional connection, affection, safety, and slowing down enough for the body to catch up. She explains why touch can feel like an invitation in one moment and like another demand in the next, and why that isn’t rejection, it’s capacity. The key shift she leaves listeners with is this: instead of asking “what’s wrong with us,” start asking “what conditions help my partner’s desire grow?” Because desire isn’t something you either have or don’t have, it’s something couples can learn to nurture together. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Free Guide 5 Ways to Nurture Your Intimacy RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 08 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy speaks to one of the most common pain points couples face around intimacy: one partner needs closeness to want sex, while the other experiences sex as the way they feel close. And when that mismatch goes unspoken, both people can start to feel rejected, pressured, and quietly alone even when love is still very much there. Dr. Tracy offers a simple framework that brings relief fast: there are two primary pathways to desire, spontaneous desire and responsive desire, and neither one is “better.” Spontaneous desire often starts in the mind and can feel effortless, but it commonly fades in long-term relationships, especially in high-demand seasons like parenting. Responsive desire, on the other hand, tends to emerge after emotional connection, affection, safety, and slowing down enough for the body to catch up. She explains why touch can feel like an invitation in one moment and like another demand in the next, and why that isn’t rejection, it’s capacity. The key shift she leaves listeners with is this: instead of asking “what’s wrong with us,” start asking “what conditions help my partner’s desire grow?” Because desire isn’t something you either have or don’t have, it’s something couples can learn to nurture together. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Free Guide 5 Ways to Nurture Your Intimacy RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy speaks to one of the most common pain points couples face around intimacy: one partner needs closeness to want sex, while the other experiences sex as the way they feel close. And when that mismatch goes unspoken, both people can start to feel rejected, pressured, and quietly alone even when love is still very much there.

Dr. Tracy offers a simple framework that brings relief fast: there are two primary pathways to desire, spontaneous desire and responsive desire, and neither one is “better.” Spontaneous desire often starts in the mind and can feel effortless, but it commonly fades in long-term relationships, especially in high-demand seasons like parenting. Responsive desire, on the other hand, tends to emerge after emotional connection, affection, safety, and slowing down enough for the body to catch up.

She explains why touch can feel like an invitation in one moment and like another demand in the next, and why that isn’t rejection, it’s capacity. The key shift she leaves listeners with is this: instead of asking “what’s wrong with us,” start asking “what conditions help my partner’s desire grow?” Because desire isn’t something you either have or don’t have, it’s something couples can learn to nurture together.

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]]> 443 Why Sex Isn't Dessert with Dr. Nicole McNichols In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy D is joined by psychologist, professor, and sex researcher Dr. Nicole McNichols for a grounded, shame-reducing conversation about sex, desire, and what actually helps couples build a satisfying intimate life in the real world.Together, they unpack why so many people feel anxious, awkward, or “broken” when it comes to sex, and how much of that is shaped by cultural scripts, misinformation, and silence. Dr. Nicole shares how teaching a university-level sexuality course revealed just how hungry people are for accurate, compassionate education, not just about mechanics, but about autonomy, pleasure, and communication.A big focus of the conversation is what happens to desire in long-term relationships, especially in the parenting years. Dr. Tracy and Dr. Nicole talk about mental load, exhaustion, and the way many women lose access to autonomy and play after becoming moms, and how that directly impacts desire. They explore the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why “just schedule sex” often backfires without the right setup, and how to think about pleasure as a cycle rather than a switch you’re supposed to flip on command.They also address common myths about female pleasure, including the reality of female ejaculation, and they challenge the pressure-heavy “how often should we be having sex?” conversation with a more nuanced, research-informed lens. The takeaway is clear: frequency is not a scoreboard, and pressure is a desire killer. Connection, novelty, communication, and a sense of entitlement to pleasure are where things actually shift. What You’ll Learn Why sex isn’t “dessert,” and why treating it like an add-on creates disconnection How shame and cultural scripts keep couples silent, even when they want more intimacy The difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why responsive desire is common in long-term relationships) Why planning intimacy can work, but only when you support the pleasure cycle and remove pressure How mental load and inequality at home can quietly erode desire What research actually says about frequency (and why those viral “average couples” stats are misleading) The role of novelty, communication, and pleasure in sustaining long-term sexual connection LINKS FROM SHOW Order Dr. McNichols new book. You Could Be Having Better Sex RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 05 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy D is joined by psychologist, professor, and sex researcher Dr. Nicole McNichols for a grounded, shame-reducing conversation about sex, desire, and what actually helps couples build a satisfying intimate life in the real world.Together, they unpack why so many people feel anxious, awkward, or “broken” when it comes to sex, and how much of that is shaped by cultural scripts, misinformation, and silence. Dr. Nicole shares how teaching a university-level sexuality course revealed just how hungry people are for accurate, compassionate education, not just about mechanics, but about autonomy, pleasure, and communication.A big focus of the conversation is what happens to desire in long-term relationships, especially in the parenting years. Dr. Tracy and Dr. Nicole talk about mental load, exhaustion, and the way many women lose access to autonomy and play after becoming moms, and how that directly impacts desire. They explore the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why “just schedule sex” often backfires without the right setup, and how to think about pleasure as a cycle rather than a switch you’re supposed to flip on command.They also address common myths about female pleasure, including the reality of female ejaculation, and they challenge the pressure-heavy “how often should we be having sex?” conversation with a more nuanced, research-informed lens. The takeaway is clear: frequency is not a scoreboard, and pressure is a desire killer. Connection, novelty, communication, and a sense of entitlement to pleasure are where things actually shift. What You’ll Learn Why sex isn’t “dessert,” and why treating it like an add-on creates disconnection How shame and cultural scripts keep couples silent, even when they want more intimacy The difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why responsive desire is common in long-term relationships) Why planning intimacy can work, but only when you support the pleasure cycle and remove pressure How mental load and inequality at home can quietly erode desire What research actually says about frequency (and why those viral “average couples” stats are misleading) The role of novelty, communication, and pleasure in sustaining long-term sexual connection LINKS FROM SHOW Order Dr. McNichols new book. You Could Be Having Better Sex RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy D is joined by psychologist, professor, and sex researcher Dr. Nicole McNichols for a grounded, shame-reducing conversation about sex, desire, and what actually helps couples build a satisfying intimate life in the real world.Together, they unpack why so many people feel anxious, awkward, or “broken” when it comes to sex, and how much of that is shaped by cultural scripts, misinformation, and silence. Dr. Nicole shares how teaching a university-level sexuality course revealed just how hungry people are for accurate, compassionate education, not just about mechanics, but about autonomy, pleasure, and communication.A big focus of the conversation is what happens to desire in long-term relationships, especially in the parenting years. Dr. Tracy and Dr. Nicole talk about mental load, exhaustion, and the way many women lose access to autonomy and play after becoming moms, and how that directly impacts desire. They explore the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why “just schedule sex” often backfires without the right setup, and how to think about pleasure as a cycle rather than a switch you’re supposed to flip on command.They also address common myths about female pleasure, including the reality of female ejaculation, and they challenge the pressure-heavy “how often should we be having sex?” conversation with a more nuanced, research-informed lens. The takeaway is clear: frequency is not a scoreboard, and pressure is a desire killer. Connection, novelty, communication, and a sense of entitlement to pleasure are where things actually shift.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why sex isn’t “dessert,” and why treating it like an add-on creates disconnection
  • How shame and cultural scripts keep couples silent, even when they want more intimacy
  • The difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why responsive desire is common in long-term relationships)
  • Why planning intimacy can work, but only when you support the pleasure cycle and remove pressure
  • How mental load and inequality at home can quietly erode desire
  • What research actually says about frequency (and why those viral “average couples” stats are misleading)
  • The role of novelty, communication, and pleasure in sustaining long-term sexual connection

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Order Dr. McNichols new book. You Could Be Having Better Sex


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]]> 2945 Why Repair Has to Come Before Reconciliation In this “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who’s been carrying the fallout of a painful postpartum season, where in-law boundary violations piled up and their partner didn’t protect them in the ways they needed. She normalizes how often having a baby is the moment extended-family dynamics shift, because your needs change, your limits change, and suddenly the old rules don’t fit anymore. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support ⁠⁠Inside Be Connected⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠    Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠⁠ Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 01 Feb 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who’s been carrying the fallout of a painful postpartum season, where in-law boundary violations piled up and their partner didn’t protect them in the ways they needed. She normalizes how often having a baby is the moment extended-family dynamics shift, because your needs change, your limits change, and suddenly the old rules don’t fit anymore. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support ⁠⁠Inside Be Connected⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠    Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠⁠ Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who’s been carrying the fallout of a painful postpartum season, where in-law boundary violations piled up and their partner didn’t protect them in the ways they needed. She normalizes how often having a baby is the moment extended-family dynamics shift, because your needs change, your limits change, and suddenly the old rules don’t fit anymore.


LINKS FROM EPISODE:

Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠

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]]> 939 no The Relationship Reset You Can Actually Keep Up With In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares five small, daily practices that can shift the emotional tone of your relationship, especially once the “new year” dust has actually settled. She names what many of us feel but don’t say out loud: January 1 is not exactly peak nervous-system readiness, and real change usually starts after the recovery period. LINKS FROM EPISODE: ⁠⁠⁠Hello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box). Visit: ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/tracy10fm⁠⁠ Annual Relationship Check-In Free on the Be Connected App - Apple  Free on the Be Connected App - Google Play Feel closer after the More Than Roommates Challenge https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/morethanroommates Breaking the ‘New Year, New You’ Cycle with Dr. Meagan Gallagher Listen on Apple Listen on Spotify Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 29 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares five small, daily practices that can shift the emotional tone of your relationship, especially once the “new year” dust has actually settled. She names what many of us feel but don’t say out loud: January 1 is not exactly peak nervous-system readiness, and real change usually starts after the recovery period. LINKS FROM EPISODE: ⁠⁠⁠Hello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box). Visit: ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/tracy10fm⁠⁠ Annual Relationship Check-In Free on the Be Connected App - Apple  Free on the Be Connected App - Google Play Feel closer after the More Than Roommates Challenge https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/morethanroommates Breaking the ‘New Year, New You’ Cycle with Dr. Meagan Gallagher Listen on Apple Listen on Spotify Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares five small, daily practices that can shift the emotional tone of your relationship, especially once the “new year” dust has actually settled. She names what many of us feel but don’t say out loud: January 1 is not exactly peak nervous-system readiness, and real change usually starts after the recovery period.


LINKS FROM EPISODE:

⁠⁠⁠Hello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box).

Visit: ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/tracy10fm⁠⁠

Annual Relationship Check-In

Free on the Be Connected App - Apple 

Free on the Be Connected App - Google Play

Feel closer after the More Than Roommates Challenge

https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/morethanroommates

Breaking the ‘New Year, New You’ Cycle with Dr. Meagan Gallagher

Listen on Apple

Listen on Spotify

Feeling Stuck? - Free Guide to challenge your assumptions

https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption

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]]> 2246 no Your Partner’s Bad Mood Isn’t a Stop Sign In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy talks about a common relationship moment: you’re about to head out for the night, and your partner is clearly struggling. Bad mood, stressed, kids melting down, the whole thing. And suddenly you’re standing there in your jacket wondering if you’re allowed to still go. Dr. Tracy explains why staying home can feel like the easier choice in the short term, but becomes a problem over time when it turns into a pattern of self-abandonment. She reframes guilt as values bumping into each other (supporting your partner vs. nurturing yourself), and reminds listeners that guilt isn’t proof you’re doing something wrong. LINKS FROM EPISODE: My book: I Didn't Sign Up For This Mental Load: The Unpaid Invisible Work of Motherhood with Eve Rodsky RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside Be Connected⁠ Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠ ⁠    Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠ Follow on Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 25 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy talks about a common relationship moment: you’re about to head out for the night, and your partner is clearly struggling. Bad mood, stressed, kids melting down, the whole thing. And suddenly you’re standing there in your jacket wondering if you’re allowed to still go. Dr. Tracy explains why staying home can feel like the easier choice in the short term, but becomes a problem over time when it turns into a pattern of self-abandonment. She reframes guilt as values bumping into each other (supporting your partner vs. nurturing yourself), and reminds listeners that guilt isn’t proof you’re doing something wrong. LINKS FROM EPISODE: My book: I Didn't Sign Up For This Mental Load: The Unpaid Invisible Work of Motherhood with Eve Rodsky RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside Be Connected⁠ Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠ ⁠    Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠ Follow on Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy talks about a common relationship moment: you’re about to head out for the night, and your partner is clearly struggling. Bad mood, stressed, kids melting down, the whole thing. And suddenly you’re standing there in your jacket wondering if you’re allowed to still go.

Dr. Tracy explains why staying home can feel like the easier choice in the short term, but becomes a problem over time when it turns into a pattern of self-abandonment. She reframes guilt as values bumping into each other (supporting your partner vs. nurturing yourself), and reminds listeners that guilt isn’t proof you’re doing something wrong.


LINKS FROM EPISODE:

My book: I Didn't Sign Up For This

Mental Load: The Unpaid Invisible Work of Motherhood with Eve Rodsky

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]]> 551 no Where Did His Friends Go? Male Friendships, and Modern Relationships In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and Greg dig into something that quietly impacts a lot of couples: friendships and independence, especially male friendships in midlife and parenting seasons. They talk honestly about why it can feel so hard for men to maintain friendships, why guilt shows up when one partner tries to take time away, and how “defaulting to the kids” can become a relationship pattern that slowly drains both partners.They also unpack the tension many couples live inside of: the mental load is real, the resentment is real, and so is the cost when either partner loses their autonomy. Dr. Tracy shares real-life examples (hello, postpartum golf day) and offers a more nuanced lens: you can support your partner, prioritize your family, and still protect the parts of you that make you you. LINKS FROM EPISODE ⁠Hello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box).Visit: ⁠hellofresh.com/tracy10fm⁠ 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection https://stan.store/drtracyd/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-v1ke3 RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠Be Connected⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 22 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and Greg dig into something that quietly impacts a lot of couples: friendships and independence, especially male friendships in midlife and parenting seasons. They talk honestly about why it can feel so hard for men to maintain friendships, why guilt shows up when one partner tries to take time away, and how “defaulting to the kids” can become a relationship pattern that slowly drains both partners.They also unpack the tension many couples live inside of: the mental load is real, the resentment is real, and so is the cost when either partner loses their autonomy. Dr. Tracy shares real-life examples (hello, postpartum golf day) and offers a more nuanced lens: you can support your partner, prioritize your family, and still protect the parts of you that make you you. LINKS FROM EPISODE ⁠Hello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box).Visit: ⁠hellofresh.com/tracy10fm⁠ 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection https://stan.store/drtracyd/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-v1ke3 RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠Be Connected⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and Greg dig into something that quietly impacts a lot of couples: friendships and independence, especially male friendships in midlife and parenting seasons. They talk honestly about why it can feel so hard for men to maintain friendships, why guilt shows up when one partner tries to take time away, and how “defaulting to the kids” can become a relationship pattern that slowly drains both partners.They also unpack the tension many couples live inside of: the mental load is real, the resentment is real, and so is the cost when either partner loses their autonomy. Dr. Tracy shares real-life examples (hello, postpartum golf day) and offers a more nuanced lens: you can support your partner, prioritize your family, and still protect the parts of you that make you you.


LINKS FROM EPISODE

⁠Hello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box).Visit: ⁠hellofresh.com/tracy10fm⁠


100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection

https://stan.store/drtracyd/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-v1ke3

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]]> 2726 yes “Are You Mad at Me?” What That Question Is Really Asking In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a question many couples know by heart: “Are you mad at me?” Inspired by a comment on a recent reel with Greg, Dr. Tracy explores why this question shows up so often and why it’s rarely about the moment and more about older wiring, nervous system threat, and the stories we learned to tell ourselves in childhood.Using a simple yarn analogy, she explains how our brains build repeated patterns (“neurons that wire together, fire together”) and how partnership can become the place where we gently rewire those patterns with secure connection. Dr. Tracy offers three practical, compassionate prompts to respond in a way that lowers defensiveness, increases emotional safety, and helps your partner share what they feel and need, not just what they fear. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Instagram Reel HERE Be Connected Relationship Support HERE RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠ Follow on Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 18 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a question many couples know by heart: “Are you mad at me?” Inspired by a comment on a recent reel with Greg, Dr. Tracy explores why this question shows up so often and why it’s rarely about the moment and more about older wiring, nervous system threat, and the stories we learned to tell ourselves in childhood.Using a simple yarn analogy, she explains how our brains build repeated patterns (“neurons that wire together, fire together”) and how partnership can become the place where we gently rewire those patterns with secure connection. Dr. Tracy offers three practical, compassionate prompts to respond in a way that lowers defensiveness, increases emotional safety, and helps your partner share what they feel and need, not just what they fear. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Instagram Reel HERE Be Connected Relationship Support HERE RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠ Follow on Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this short “From the Couch” episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a question many couples know by heart: “Are you mad at me?” Inspired by a comment on a recent reel with Greg, Dr. Tracy explores why this question shows up so often and why it’s rarely about the moment and more about older wiring, nervous system threat, and the stories we learned to tell ourselves in childhood.
Using a simple yarn analogy, she explains how our brains build repeated patterns (“neurons that wire together, fire together”) and how partnership can become the place where we gently rewire those patterns with secure connection. Dr. Tracy offers three practical, compassionate prompts to respond in a way that lowers defensiveness, increases emotional safety, and helps your partner share what they feel and need, not just what they fear.


LINKS FROM EPISODE:

Instagram Reel HERE

Be Connected Relationship Support HERE


RESOURCES:

Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠

Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠

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]]> 528 no The Decluttering Breakthrough Moms Need In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with Katie Wells, host of The Maximized Minimalist podcast and a leading voice in decluttering, to talk about what really keeps families stuck in overwhelm.Katie shares the emotional moment that changed how she saw clutter, why traditional “do more, try harder” organizing advice often fails, and the four types of clutter that require different tools. Together, they unpack the guilt that shows up around gifts, sentimental items, and identity-based clutter, plus how clutter can amplify mental load and stress at home.Katie also offers two practical starting points you can implement right away, including a “permanent donation station” and a simple daily clutter-audit habit. Her new book, Making Home Your Happy Place, is available to order now. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Grab Katy's New Book: Making Home Your Happy Place: A Real-Life Guide to Decluttering Without the OverwhelmVisit: https://amzn.to/4pGfkALHello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box).Visit: hellofresh.com/tracy10fmNative Path Collagen Peptides: One clean ingredient, third-party tested.Visit: getnativepath.com/tracy Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside Be Connected⁠ Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠Follow on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 15 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with Katie Wells, host of The Maximized Minimalist podcast and a leading voice in decluttering, to talk about what really keeps families stuck in overwhelm.Katie shares the emotional moment that changed how she saw clutter, why traditional “do more, try harder” organizing advice often fails, and the four types of clutter that require different tools. Together, they unpack the guilt that shows up around gifts, sentimental items, and identity-based clutter, plus how clutter can amplify mental load and stress at home.Katie also offers two practical starting points you can implement right away, including a “permanent donation station” and a simple daily clutter-audit habit. Her new book, Making Home Your Happy Place, is available to order now. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Grab Katy's New Book: Making Home Your Happy Place: A Real-Life Guide to Decluttering Without the OverwhelmVisit: https://amzn.to/4pGfkALHello Fresh: a free ZWILLING knife (a $145 value on your third box).Visit: hellofresh.com/tracy10fmNative Path Collagen Peptides: One clean ingredient, third-party tested.Visit: getnativepath.com/tracy Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside Be Connected⁠ Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠Follow on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with Katie Wells, host of The Maximized Minimalist podcast and a leading voice in decluttering, to talk about what really keeps families stuck in overwhelm.
Katie shares the emotional moment that changed how she saw clutter, why traditional “do more, try harder” organizing advice often fails, and the four types of clutter that require different tools. Together, they unpack the guilt that shows up around gifts, sentimental items, and identity-based clutter, plus how clutter can amplify mental load and stress at home.
Katie also offers two practical starting points you can implement right away, including a “permanent donation station” and a simple daily clutter-audit habit. Her new book, Making Home Your Happy Place, is available to order now.


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]]> 3004 no Why Apologies Don't Land in Relationships In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why apologies often don’t land in relationships and what keeps couples feeling stuck even after saying “I’m sorry.” She explains how performative apologies, over-focusing on intent, and rushing forgiveness can minimize hurt and block true repair. Drawing from clinical experience, Dr. Tracy breaks down the role of impact, accountability, and emotional presence in meaningful apologies. LINKS FROM EPISODE: After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Here RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support Inside Be Connected Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd Follow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 11 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why apologies often don’t land in relationships and what keeps couples feeling stuck even after saying “I’m sorry.” She explains how performative apologies, over-focusing on intent, and rushing forgiveness can minimize hurt and block true repair. Drawing from clinical experience, Dr. Tracy breaks down the role of impact, accountability, and emotional presence in meaningful apologies. LINKS FROM EPISODE: After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Here RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support Inside Be Connected Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd Follow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why apologies often don’t land in relationships and what keeps couples feeling stuck even after saying “I’m sorry.” She explains how performative apologies, over-focusing on intent, and rushing forgiveness can minimize hurt and block true repair. Drawing from clinical experience, Dr. Tracy breaks down the role of impact, accountability, and emotional presence in meaningful apologies.


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]]> 514 no Why “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough and What Accountability Really Looks Like In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore why accountability is so difficult in relationships and how blame quietly breaks connection. They unpack the difference between intent and impact, why apologies often fall flat, and how defensiveness shows up even when partners mean well. Through real-life examples and practical language, Dr. Tracy explains what true accountability sounds like, how it supports repair, and why it creates emotional safety and closeness. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Your Weekly Intention Get support for under $2  After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Here Free Scripts for Bad Apologies RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support Inside Be Connected Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd Follow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 08 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore why accountability is so difficult in relationships and how blame quietly breaks connection. They unpack the difference between intent and impact, why apologies often fall flat, and how defensiveness shows up even when partners mean well. Through real-life examples and practical language, Dr. Tracy explains what true accountability sounds like, how it supports repair, and why it creates emotional safety and closeness. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Your Weekly Intention Get support for under $2  After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Here Free Scripts for Bad Apologies RESOURCES: Get Relationship Support Inside Be Connected Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd Follow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore why accountability is so difficult in relationships and how blame quietly breaks connection. They unpack the difference between intent and impact, why apologies often fall flat, and how defensiveness shows up even when partners mean well. Through real-life examples and practical language, Dr. Tracy explains what true accountability sounds like, how it supports repair, and why it creates emotional safety and closeness.

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Your Weekly Intention Get support for under $2 

After the Fight: How to Repair Workshop Here

Free Scripts for Bad Apologies

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]]> 2353 yes ICYMI: Body Memories and Intergenerational Healing with Dr. Tanya Cotler This In-Case-You-Missed-It-Episode and a must-listen-to episode. Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!  Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on ⁠Instagram⁠ and visit her ⁠website⁠  RESOURCES: Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Users⁠https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241⁠ Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Users⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.app Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 06 Jan 2026 14:32:00 -0000 full Cloud10 This In-Case-You-Missed-It-Episode and a must-listen-to episode. Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!  Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on ⁠Instagram⁠ and visit her ⁠website⁠  RESOURCES: Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Users⁠https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241⁠ Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Users⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.app Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This In-Case-You-Missed-It-Episode and a must-listen-to episode.

Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one! 

Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on ⁠Instagram⁠ and visit her ⁠website⁠ 


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]]> 3582 no What Parents and Couples Need Most During the Holiday Season In this solo episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish invites listeners into the real emotional landscape of the holidays, far beyond picture perfect family photos. She shares five powerful reflections to help couples and parents move through holiday stress with more connection, less pressure, and a lot more self compassion. Drawing from her experience as a highly sensitive person and a mom to a highly sensitive child, Dr. Tracy explores what it means to hold big feelings on Christmas morning, respond to disappointment without shame, and let go of the belief that kids must always be grateful and happy to make the day a success. She also unpacks how resentment shows up between partners around traditions, mental load, and invisible work, and why communicating expectations before the holiday is essential for staying on the same team. Book #1https://drtracyd.com/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-thisBook #2https://drtracyd.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother Challenge Your Assumptionshttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption 30 Days to Us Challengehttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout RESOURCES: Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 23 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this solo episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish invites listeners into the real emotional landscape of the holidays, far beyond picture perfect family photos. She shares five powerful reflections to help couples and parents move through holiday stress with more connection, less pressure, and a lot more self compassion. Drawing from her experience as a highly sensitive person and a mom to a highly sensitive child, Dr. Tracy explores what it means to hold big feelings on Christmas morning, respond to disappointment without shame, and let go of the belief that kids must always be grateful and happy to make the day a success. She also unpacks how resentment shows up between partners around traditions, mental load, and invisible work, and why communicating expectations before the holiday is essential for staying on the same team. Book #1https://drtracyd.com/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-thisBook #2https://drtracyd.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother Challenge Your Assumptionshttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption 30 Days to Us Challengehttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout RESOURCES: Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this solo episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish invites listeners into the real emotional landscape of the holidays, far beyond picture perfect family photos. She shares five powerful reflections to help couples and parents move through holiday stress with more connection, less pressure, and a lot more self compassion.


Drawing from her experience as a highly sensitive person and a mom to a highly sensitive child, Dr. Tracy explores what it means to hold big feelings on Christmas morning, respond to disappointment without shame, and let go of the belief that kids must always be grateful and happy to make the day a success. She also unpacks how resentment shows up between partners around traditions, mental load, and invisible work, and why communicating expectations before the holiday is essential for staying on the same team.


Book #1
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]]> 1882 no The One Question Every Couple Should Ask at the End of the Year As the year winds down, many couples reflect on work, finances, and goals—but often forget to reflect on their relationship. In this episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares why an end-of-year relationship check-in is one of the most powerful tools couples can use to move out of autopilot and into intention. This conversation isn’t about fixing, blaming, or problem-solving. It’s about pausing, listening, and creating shared meaning. Drawing on relationship research and the Gottmans’ work on connection, Dr. Tracy explains how intentional reflection helps couples break reactive patterns and feel more secure and aligned. She offers one deceptively simple but deeply impactful question to ask your partner—and guidance on how to listen without defensiveness. This episode is a gentle invitation to slow down, reconnect, and intentionally shape the year ahead together. Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Usershttps://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Usershttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.appFree Relationship Quizhttps://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f4b84f59cc5d6001429f108 RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 21 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 As the year winds down, many couples reflect on work, finances, and goals—but often forget to reflect on their relationship. In this episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares why an end-of-year relationship check-in is one of the most powerful tools couples can use to move out of autopilot and into intention. This conversation isn’t about fixing, blaming, or problem-solving. It’s about pausing, listening, and creating shared meaning. Drawing on relationship research and the Gottmans’ work on connection, Dr. Tracy explains how intentional reflection helps couples break reactive patterns and feel more secure and aligned. She offers one deceptively simple but deeply impactful question to ask your partner—and guidance on how to listen without defensiveness. This episode is a gentle invitation to slow down, reconnect, and intentionally shape the year ahead together. Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Usershttps://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Usershttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.appFree Relationship Quizhttps://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f4b84f59cc5d6001429f108 RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices As the year winds down, many couples reflect on work, finances, and goals—but often forget to reflect on their relationship. In this episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares why an end-of-year relationship check-in is one of the most powerful tools couples can use to move out of autopilot and into intention. This conversation isn’t about fixing, blaming, or problem-solving. It’s about pausing, listening, and creating shared meaning. Drawing on relationship research and the Gottmans’ work on connection, Dr. Tracy explains how intentional reflection helps couples break reactive patterns and feel more secure and aligned. She offers one deceptively simple but deeply impactful question to ask your partner—and guidance on how to listen without defensiveness. This episode is a gentle invitation to slow down, reconnect, and intentionally shape the year ahead together.

Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Users
https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241
Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Users
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.app
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https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f4b84f59cc5d6001429f108


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]]> 473 no Dear Dr. Tracy Q&A: How to Carry Everyone Without Breaking Yourself Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers listener questions on caregiving burnout when a partner has chronic health issues, using Spoon Theory to protect the relationship without losing yourself. She shares practical scripts for rebalancing roles during flare-ups, nervous system regulation tools, and ways to support kids with honesty, predictability, and emotional safety. The episode also covers how to stay connected to a younger sister in an emotionally abusive relationship while avoiding the drama triangle, plus navigating “low effort” in-laws who show love through gifts. Finally, Dr. Tracy offers guidance on estate planning conflict, resentment, boundaries, and staying united as a couple, and how to support a partner with emotionally neglectful parents while protecting your children. RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE: Submit a Question for the Podcasthttps://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScKBYWwVsUAAwh31qEJmKK6iSQ7b0tKF3UD7fMcTufSEPVGqw/viewformCouples IntensiveInner Calm Workshop inside Be Connectedhttps://drtracyd.com/be-connected10 Rules for Hard Conversationshttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/ten RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠HelloFresh:⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠ ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠ ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 18 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers listener questions on caregiving burnout when a partner has chronic health issues, using Spoon Theory to protect the relationship without losing yourself. She shares practical scripts for rebalancing roles during flare-ups, nervous system regulation tools, and ways to support kids with honesty, predictability, and emotional safety. The episode also covers how to stay connected to a younger sister in an emotionally abusive relationship while avoiding the drama triangle, plus navigating “low effort” in-laws who show love through gifts. Finally, Dr. Tracy offers guidance on estate planning conflict, resentment, boundaries, and staying united as a couple, and how to support a partner with emotionally neglectful parents while protecting your children. RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE: Submit a Question for the Podcasthttps://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScKBYWwVsUAAwh31qEJmKK6iSQ7b0tKF3UD7fMcTufSEPVGqw/viewformCouples IntensiveInner Calm Workshop inside Be Connectedhttps://drtracyd.com/be-connected10 Rules for Hard Conversationshttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/ten RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠HelloFresh:⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠ ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠ ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers listener questions on caregiving burnout when a partner has chronic health issues, using Spoon Theory to protect the relationship without losing yourself. She shares practical scripts for rebalancing roles during flare-ups, nervous system regulation tools, and ways to support kids with honesty, predictability, and emotional safety. The episode also covers how to stay connected to a younger sister in an emotionally abusive relationship while avoiding the drama triangle, plus navigating “low effort” in-laws who show love through gifts. Finally, Dr. Tracy offers guidance on estate planning conflict, resentment, boundaries, and staying united as a couple, and how to support a partner with emotionally neglectful parents while protecting your children.


RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE:

Submit a Question for the Podcast
https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScKBYWwVsUAAwh31qEJmKK6iSQ7b0tKF3UD7fMcTufSEPVGqw/viewform
Couples Intensive


Inner Calm Workshop inside Be Connected
https://drtracyd.com/be-connected
10 Rules for Hard Conversations
https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/ten


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]]> 3072 no Why In-Law Visits Can Break the Couple Bond and How to Stay a Team In this From The Couch episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks a painful but common experience many couples face in in law relationships: The moment when a partner seems to disappear emotionally after stepping into their family of origin, leaving the other partner feeling alone, unprotected, or disconnected. Dr. Tracy explains why this shift happens, drawing on family roles, nervous system responses, and inner child patterns that resurface in familiar environments. She clarifies why this is not about choosing parents over a partner, but about old survival strategies taking over without awareness. The real wound, she explains, is not just in law behavior, but the loss of the couple bond in these moments. This episode reframes the goal from setting perfect boundaries to learning how to stay connected as a team. Listeners will hear practical questions and small, grounding strategies couples can use to protect their relationship while navigating difficult family dynamics. IN THIS EPISODE: Get immediate support for your relationship: Join Be Connected Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: HelloFresh:⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠ ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 14 Dec 2025 15:02:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this From The Couch episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks a painful but common experience many couples face in in law relationships: The moment when a partner seems to disappear emotionally after stepping into their family of origin, leaving the other partner feeling alone, unprotected, or disconnected. Dr. Tracy explains why this shift happens, drawing on family roles, nervous system responses, and inner child patterns that resurface in familiar environments. She clarifies why this is not about choosing parents over a partner, but about old survival strategies taking over without awareness. The real wound, she explains, is not just in law behavior, but the loss of the couple bond in these moments. This episode reframes the goal from setting perfect boundaries to learning how to stay connected as a team. Listeners will hear practical questions and small, grounding strategies couples can use to protect their relationship while navigating difficult family dynamics. IN THIS EPISODE: Get immediate support for your relationship: Join Be Connected Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: HelloFresh:⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠ ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this From The Couch episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks a painful but common experience many couples face in in law relationships: The moment when a partner seems to disappear emotionally after stepping into their family of origin, leaving the other partner feeling alone, unprotected, or disconnected.

Dr. Tracy explains why this shift happens, drawing on family roles, nervous system responses, and inner child patterns that resurface in familiar environments. She clarifies why this is not about choosing parents over a partner, but about old survival strategies taking over without awareness. The real wound, she explains, is not just in law behavior, but the loss of the couple bond in these moments.

This episode reframes the goal from setting perfect boundaries to learning how to stay connected as a team. Listeners will hear practical questions and small, grounding strategies couples can use to protect their relationship while navigating difficult family dynamics.

IN THIS EPISODE:

Get immediate support for your relationship: Join Be Connected

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠

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]]> 658 no The Hidden Hurt Behind Dismissive Partners In this candid conversation, clinical psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg unpack a real moment from their own marriage to explore one of the most common and misunderstood relational challenges dismissiveness. Together they break down why phrases like “you’re right,” “everything will be fine,” and “don’t you think you’re being sensitive” leave partners feeling unseen and alone, even when the intent behind them is positive. Dr. Tracy explains how dismissiveness is often a nervous system response shaped by socialization, attachment patterns, and learned family dynamics, while Greg reflects on the pressures men feel to fix, solve, and move on quickly. Listeners will learn practical tools to interrupt dismissive patterns, slow down reactive cycles, stay curious, repair in real time, and communicate more effectively. This episode offers a relatable look into how couples can transform quick shutdowns into deeper connection and understanding. Links in Show Notes Be Connected Relationship Support https://drtracyd.com/be-connected 30 Days to Us https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout Scripts for Defensiveness https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/defensive RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ LINKS: HelloFresh: Get 10 Free Meals hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 11 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this candid conversation, clinical psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg unpack a real moment from their own marriage to explore one of the most common and misunderstood relational challenges dismissiveness. Together they break down why phrases like “you’re right,” “everything will be fine,” and “don’t you think you’re being sensitive” leave partners feeling unseen and alone, even when the intent behind them is positive. Dr. Tracy explains how dismissiveness is often a nervous system response shaped by socialization, attachment patterns, and learned family dynamics, while Greg reflects on the pressures men feel to fix, solve, and move on quickly. Listeners will learn practical tools to interrupt dismissive patterns, slow down reactive cycles, stay curious, repair in real time, and communicate more effectively. This episode offers a relatable look into how couples can transform quick shutdowns into deeper connection and understanding. Links in Show Notes Be Connected Relationship Support https://drtracyd.com/be-connected 30 Days to Us https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout Scripts for Defensiveness https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/defensive RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ LINKS: HelloFresh: Get 10 Free Meals hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this candid conversation, clinical psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg unpack a real moment from their own marriage to explore one of the most common and misunderstood relational challenges dismissiveness. Together they break down why phrases like “you’re right,” “everything will be fine,” and “don’t you think you’re being sensitive” leave partners feeling unseen and alone, even when the intent behind them is positive. Dr. Tracy explains how dismissiveness is often a nervous system response shaped by socialization, attachment patterns, and learned family dynamics, while Greg reflects on the pressures men feel to fix, solve, and move on quickly. Listeners will learn practical tools to interrupt dismissive patterns, slow down reactive cycles, stay curious, repair in real time, and communicate more effectively. This episode offers a relatable look into how couples can transform quick shutdowns into deeper connection and understanding.

Links in Show Notes

Be Connected Relationship Support

https://drtracyd.com/be-connected

30 Days to Us

https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout

Scripts for Defensiveness

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]]> 2579 The Mindset Shift That Brings You Back to Peace When Others Won't Change In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares two of her most trusted strategies for navigating difficult family dynamics—especially during the holiday season when old patterns, expectations, and nervous system triggers tend to flare. Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, she explains why we can’t change or control others, and how “dropping the rope” and questioning the stories we tell ourselves can immediately shift our emotional state. With relatable examples, practical guidance, and a compassionate lens, Dr. Tracy helps listeners step out of old cycles, reclaim their bandwidth, and stay grounded—even when others refuse to meet them halfway.You’ll Learn:Why trying to change or convince others keeps you stuck in emotional tug-of-warWhat “dropping the rope” really means—and how it protects your peaceHow family dynamics and nervous system activation intensify during the holidaysThe power of asking, “Is this the story I want to tell myself right now?”How to move out of mental spiraling and into present-moment grounding RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 07 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares two of her most trusted strategies for navigating difficult family dynamics—especially during the holiday season when old patterns, expectations, and nervous system triggers tend to flare. Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, she explains why we can’t change or control others, and how “dropping the rope” and questioning the stories we tell ourselves can immediately shift our emotional state. With relatable examples, practical guidance, and a compassionate lens, Dr. Tracy helps listeners step out of old cycles, reclaim their bandwidth, and stay grounded—even when others refuse to meet them halfway.You’ll Learn:Why trying to change or convince others keeps you stuck in emotional tug-of-warWhat “dropping the rope” really means—and how it protects your peaceHow family dynamics and nervous system activation intensify during the holidaysThe power of asking, “Is this the story I want to tell myself right now?”How to move out of mental spiraling and into present-moment grounding RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares two of her most trusted strategies for navigating difficult family dynamics—especially during the holiday season when old patterns, expectations, and nervous system triggers tend to flare. Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, she explains why we can’t change or control others, and how “dropping the rope” and questioning the stories we tell ourselves can immediately shift our emotional state. With relatable examples, practical guidance, and a compassionate lens, Dr. Tracy helps listeners step out of old cycles, reclaim their bandwidth, and stay grounded—even when others refuse to meet them halfway.
You’ll Learn:
Why trying to change or convince others keeps you stuck in emotional tug-of-war
What “dropping the rope” really means—and how it protects your peace
How family dynamics and nervous system activation intensify during the holidays
The power of asking, “Is this the story I want to tell myself right now?”
How to move out of mental spiraling and into present-moment grounding


RESOURCES:

Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


LINKS:

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]]> 592 no When Your Partner’s Family Turns on You: Why In-Law Conflict Hurts More Than We Realize In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks one of the most painful and confusing dynamics she sees in couples: being warmly welcomed into a partner’s family—only to later become the outsider. Through a powerful listener story, she explores why these sudden shifts occur, how family systems create scapegoats, and why meaningful accountability is often out of reach. Dr. Tracy also breaks down what real repair looks like, how to protect your emotional wellbeing, and how to stay united with your partner when extended-family patterns threaten your connection.Whether listeners have felt rejected by in-laws, misunderstood, or pushed to the margins of a family they once felt part of, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path forward.What You’ll LearnWhy some in-law relationships shift dramatically after major life transitions—especially becoming parentsHow family systems unconsciously create scapegoats and maintain old rolesWhy apologies and accountability can feel impossible in certain family structuresHow to protect your emotional safety without escalating conflictPractical ways to stay aligned with your partner when extended-family dynamics get in the wayWhat real repair looks like—and how couples can rebuild trust together Download my TEN QUESTIONS to ask yourself to get out of your assumptions and stories. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 04 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks one of the most painful and confusing dynamics she sees in couples: being warmly welcomed into a partner’s family—only to later become the outsider. Through a powerful listener story, she explores why these sudden shifts occur, how family systems create scapegoats, and why meaningful accountability is often out of reach. Dr. Tracy also breaks down what real repair looks like, how to protect your emotional wellbeing, and how to stay united with your partner when extended-family patterns threaten your connection.Whether listeners have felt rejected by in-laws, misunderstood, or pushed to the margins of a family they once felt part of, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path forward.What You’ll LearnWhy some in-law relationships shift dramatically after major life transitions—especially becoming parentsHow family systems unconsciously create scapegoats and maintain old rolesWhy apologies and accountability can feel impossible in certain family structuresHow to protect your emotional safety without escalating conflictPractical ways to stay aligned with your partner when extended-family dynamics get in the wayWhat real repair looks like—and how couples can rebuild trust together Download my TEN QUESTIONS to ask yourself to get out of your assumptions and stories. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks one of the most painful and confusing dynamics she sees in couples: being warmly welcomed into a partner’s family—only to later become the outsider.

Through a powerful listener story, she explores why these sudden shifts occur, how family systems create scapegoats, and why meaningful accountability is often out of reach. Dr. Tracy also breaks down what real repair looks like, how to protect your emotional wellbeing, and how to stay united with your partner when extended-family patterns threaten your connection.
Whether listeners have felt rejected by in-laws, misunderstood, or pushed to the margins of a family they once felt part of, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path forward.
What You’ll Learn
Why some in-law relationships shift dramatically after major life transitions—especially becoming parents
How family systems unconsciously create scapegoats and maintain old roles
Why apologies and accountability can feel impossible in certain family structures
How to protect your emotional safety without escalating conflict
Practical ways to stay aligned with your partner when extended-family dynamics get in the way
What real repair looks like—and how couples can rebuild trust together


Download my TEN QUESTIONS to ask yourself to get out of your assumptions and stories.


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]]> 2030 no You’re Not Broken: The Real Reason You Still React After Leaving a Toxic Partner—and How to Rewire for Connection In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy talks about what really happens after ending a toxic or narcissistic relationship and why healing isn’t just emotional—it’s neurological. When you’ve spent years being shamed, blamed, or dismissed, your nervous system learns that mistakes and disagreements aren’t safe. Neurons that fire together wire together, meaning your body develops reflexive responses that follow you into new relationships. Dr. Tracy explains how this wiring forms, why you may still react with fear or shutdown even when you’re no longer in that environment, and why this doesn’t mean you’re broken. Dr. Tracy shares three essential steps for healing: creating new messages of safety through repetition, practicing co-regulation with a safe partner, and releasing stored stress through movement and breath work. She also emphasizes the role of self-compassion in trauma recovery and rebuilding trust. If you’re navigating life after a toxic relationship and wondering why it still feels hard, this episode will help you understand your nervous system and begin rewiring toward safety and connection. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 30 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy talks about what really happens after ending a toxic or narcissistic relationship and why healing isn’t just emotional—it’s neurological. When you’ve spent years being shamed, blamed, or dismissed, your nervous system learns that mistakes and disagreements aren’t safe. Neurons that fire together wire together, meaning your body develops reflexive responses that follow you into new relationships. Dr. Tracy explains how this wiring forms, why you may still react with fear or shutdown even when you’re no longer in that environment, and why this doesn’t mean you’re broken. Dr. Tracy shares three essential steps for healing: creating new messages of safety through repetition, practicing co-regulation with a safe partner, and releasing stored stress through movement and breath work. She also emphasizes the role of self-compassion in trauma recovery and rebuilding trust. If you’re navigating life after a toxic relationship and wondering why it still feels hard, this episode will help you understand your nervous system and begin rewiring toward safety and connection. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy talks about what really happens after ending a toxic or narcissistic relationship and why healing isn’t just emotional—it’s neurological.

When you’ve spent years being shamed, blamed, or dismissed, your nervous system learns that mistakes and disagreements aren’t safe. Neurons that fire together wire together, meaning your body develops reflexive responses that follow you into new relationships.

Dr. Tracy explains how this wiring forms, why you may still react with fear or shutdown even when you’re no longer in that environment, and why this doesn’t mean you’re broken.


Dr. Tracy shares three essential steps for healing: creating new messages of safety through repetition, practicing co-regulation with a safe partner, and releasing stored stress through movement and breath work. She also emphasizes the role of self-compassion in trauma recovery and rebuilding trust.

If you’re navigating life after a toxic relationship and wondering why it still feels hard, this episode will help you understand your nervous system and begin rewiring toward safety and connection.


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]]> 548 no The Mental Load Trap That’s Quietly Breaking Your Connection: How the Holidays Turn You Into Roommates In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore what really happens to couples during the holiday season—the mental load, the invisible labour, the unspoken assumptions, and those moments when partners suddenly realize they feel more like roommates than a connected team. Dr. Tracy explains why the holidays create the perfect storm for disconnection, how stress triggers negative sentiment override, and why small moments like “Where’s the tape?” can feel disproportionately heavy on an already overloaded nervous system. They walk listeners through the stories couples often fall into, the strain of increased emotional labour, and the cycle many partners get stuck in: one person carrying the invisible work, the other withdrawing, both feeling unseen. From there, they shift into what actually helps. They share their 10-minute daily connection ritual, the questions that foster emotional attunement, and how small, intentional actions can rebuild a sense of partnership. If you’re moving through the holidays feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or like two ships passing in the night, this episode offers clarity on the deeper patterns at play—and practical, realistic steps to help you reconnect without needing more time. Join my 10-Day More Than Roommates Challenge Download my free 10 Questions to Challenge Your Stories: https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 26 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore what really happens to couples during the holiday season—the mental load, the invisible labour, the unspoken assumptions, and those moments when partners suddenly realize they feel more like roommates than a connected team. Dr. Tracy explains why the holidays create the perfect storm for disconnection, how stress triggers negative sentiment override, and why small moments like “Where’s the tape?” can feel disproportionately heavy on an already overloaded nervous system. They walk listeners through the stories couples often fall into, the strain of increased emotional labour, and the cycle many partners get stuck in: one person carrying the invisible work, the other withdrawing, both feeling unseen. From there, they shift into what actually helps. They share their 10-minute daily connection ritual, the questions that foster emotional attunement, and how small, intentional actions can rebuild a sense of partnership. If you’re moving through the holidays feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or like two ships passing in the night, this episode offers clarity on the deeper patterns at play—and practical, realistic steps to help you reconnect without needing more time. Join my 10-Day More Than Roommates Challenge Download my free 10 Questions to Challenge Your Stories: https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore what really happens to couples during the holiday season—the mental load, the invisible labour, the unspoken assumptions, and those moments when partners suddenly realize they feel more like roommates than a connected team. Dr. Tracy explains why the holidays create the perfect storm for disconnection, how stress triggers negative sentiment override, and why small moments like “Where’s the tape?” can feel disproportionately heavy on an already overloaded nervous system.

They walk listeners through the stories couples often fall into, the strain of increased emotional labour, and the cycle many partners get stuck in: one person carrying the invisible work, the other withdrawing, both feeling unseen. From there, they shift into what actually helps. They share their 10-minute daily connection ritual, the questions that foster emotional attunement, and how small, intentional actions can rebuild a sense of partnership.

If you’re moving through the holidays feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or like two ships passing in the night, this episode offers clarity on the deeper patterns at play—and practical, realistic steps to help you reconnect without needing more time.

Join my 10-Day More Than Roommates Challenge

Download my free 10 Questions to Challenge Your Stories: https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption



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]]> 2490 When Family Won’t Say “I’m Sorry”: Boundaries, Forgiveness, and What to Do Next In this short, impactful episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers one of the most common questions she hears: Should I hold out for an apology from a parent or in-law? When you share your hurt and they respond with defensiveness, justification, or minimization, it often triggers shame and escalation—leaving you feeling unseen and even more frustrated. Dr. Tracy explains why some family members simply cannot apologize due to long-standing patterns, emotional immaturity, or generational dynamics, even when they care about you. Instead of staying stuck waiting for repair that may never come, this episode helps you shift toward what you can control. You’ll learn why cutting people off isn’t always the answer, and how all-or-nothing estrangement can become another form of avoidance. You’ll leave with an understanding of forgiveness—not as excusing behavior, but as releasing the emotional hold the situation has on you and redefining the relationship on your terms. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 23 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this short, impactful episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers one of the most common questions she hears: Should I hold out for an apology from a parent or in-law? When you share your hurt and they respond with defensiveness, justification, or minimization, it often triggers shame and escalation—leaving you feeling unseen and even more frustrated. Dr. Tracy explains why some family members simply cannot apologize due to long-standing patterns, emotional immaturity, or generational dynamics, even when they care about you. Instead of staying stuck waiting for repair that may never come, this episode helps you shift toward what you can control. You’ll learn why cutting people off isn’t always the answer, and how all-or-nothing estrangement can become another form of avoidance. You’ll leave with an understanding of forgiveness—not as excusing behavior, but as releasing the emotional hold the situation has on you and redefining the relationship on your terms. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this short, impactful episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers one of the most common questions she hears: Should I hold out for an apology from a parent or in-law?

When you share your hurt and they respond with defensiveness, justification, or minimization, it often triggers shame and escalation—leaving you feeling unseen and even more frustrated. Dr. Tracy explains why some family members simply cannot apologize due to long-standing patterns, emotional immaturity, or generational dynamics, even when they care about you.

Instead of staying stuck waiting for repair that may never come, this episode helps you shift toward what you can control. You’ll learn why cutting people off isn’t always the answer, and how all-or-nothing estrangement can become another form of avoidance.

You’ll leave with an understanding of forgiveness—not as excusing behavior, but as releasing the emotional hold the situation has on you and redefining the relationship on your terms.


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]]> 592 no Raine Maida & Chantal Kreviazuk on Real Marriage: How Long-Term Love Thrives What really happens behind closed doors when two iconic artists build a marriage, a family, and a creative life together? In this intimate conversation, I sit down with Canadian musicians Raine Maida (Our Lady Peace) and Chantal Kreviazuk to talk about the real work of long-term love. We explore the story behind their documentary I’m Going to Break Your Heart, the “burnt chicken” moment that revealed deeper invisible labor dynamics, and how everyday micro-heartbreaks can either chip away at connection or strengthen intimacy. We dive into maximizer/minimizer patterns, why conflict is inevitable in marriage, and how a simple pause can stop a spiral. You’ll hear how they use tools like CPR (Catch, Pause, Repair), eye-gazing, and intentional autonomy to stay connected through parenting, touring, hormonal shifts, and the evolving seasons of a decades-long relationship. We also unpack men’s resistance to therapy, reframing it as coaching, and why interdependence—not perfection—is the foundation of lasting partnership. If you’ve ever felt alone in the messiness of marriage, this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and equipped to build a stronger, more resilient relationship. Tune in to hear the truth behind long-term love. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Check out Raine and Chantal’s Substack: A Rock and Roll Love Story: https://raineandchantal.substack.com/ Raine and Chantal’s Documentary: I’m Going To Break Your Heart RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 Nov 2025 13:57:00 -0000 full Cloud10 What really happens behind closed doors when two iconic artists build a marriage, a family, and a creative life together? In this intimate conversation, I sit down with Canadian musicians Raine Maida (Our Lady Peace) and Chantal Kreviazuk to talk about the real work of long-term love. We explore the story behind their documentary I’m Going to Break Your Heart, the “burnt chicken” moment that revealed deeper invisible labor dynamics, and how everyday micro-heartbreaks can either chip away at connection or strengthen intimacy. We dive into maximizer/minimizer patterns, why conflict is inevitable in marriage, and how a simple pause can stop a spiral. You’ll hear how they use tools like CPR (Catch, Pause, Repair), eye-gazing, and intentional autonomy to stay connected through parenting, touring, hormonal shifts, and the evolving seasons of a decades-long relationship. We also unpack men’s resistance to therapy, reframing it as coaching, and why interdependence—not perfection—is the foundation of lasting partnership. If you’ve ever felt alone in the messiness of marriage, this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and equipped to build a stronger, more resilient relationship. Tune in to hear the truth behind long-term love. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Check out Raine and Chantal’s Substack: A Rock and Roll Love Story: https://raineandchantal.substack.com/ Raine and Chantal’s Documentary: I’m Going To Break Your Heart RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices What really happens behind closed doors when two iconic artists build a marriage, a family, and a creative life together?

In this intimate conversation, I sit down with Canadian musicians Raine Maida (Our Lady Peace) and Chantal Kreviazuk to talk about the real work of long-term love. We explore the story behind their documentary I’m Going to Break Your Heart, the “burnt chicken” moment that revealed deeper invisible labor dynamics, and how everyday micro-heartbreaks can either chip away at connection or strengthen intimacy.

We dive into maximizer/minimizer patterns, why conflict is inevitable in marriage, and how a simple pause can stop a spiral. You’ll hear how they use tools like CPR (Catch, Pause, Repair), eye-gazing, and intentional autonomy to stay connected through parenting, touring, hormonal shifts, and the evolving seasons of a decades-long relationship. We also unpack men’s resistance to therapy, reframing it as coaching, and why interdependence—not perfection—is the foundation of lasting partnership.

If you’ve ever felt alone in the messiness of marriage, this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and equipped to build a stronger, more resilient relationship. Tune in to hear the truth behind long-term love.


MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Check out Raine and Chantal’s Substack: A Rock and Roll Love Story: https://raineandchantal.substack.com/

Raine and Chantal’s Documentary: I’m Going To Break Your Heart


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]]> 3251 yes Less Is More: The Secret to Being Heard in Conflict and Decreasing Your Partner's Defensiveness In moments of conflict, it’s easy to feel unheard—and to keep “piling on” examples in the hope that your partner will finally understand. But what if that very habit is the thing preventing real repair? In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why we overload our partners during arguments, how it triggers defensiveness, and what to do instead to foster connection and accountability. You’ll learn why slowing down, naming one feeling, and allowing space for emotion is the key to creating lasting change and deeper understanding in your relationship. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped with practical tools to navigate conflict with compassion and clarity. Grab my new book ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠⁠Better Help:⁠⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Keywords: relationship repair, piling on in conflict, communication skills for couples, defensiveness in relationships, emotional validation, Gottman method, couples therapy insights, relationship podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 16 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In moments of conflict, it’s easy to feel unheard—and to keep “piling on” examples in the hope that your partner will finally understand. But what if that very habit is the thing preventing real repair? In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why we overload our partners during arguments, how it triggers defensiveness, and what to do instead to foster connection and accountability. You’ll learn why slowing down, naming one feeling, and allowing space for emotion is the key to creating lasting change and deeper understanding in your relationship. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped with practical tools to navigate conflict with compassion and clarity. Grab my new book ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠⁠Better Help:⁠⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Keywords: relationship repair, piling on in conflict, communication skills for couples, defensiveness in relationships, emotional validation, Gottman method, couples therapy insights, relationship podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In moments of conflict, it’s easy to feel unheard—and to keep “piling on” examples in the hope that your partner will finally understand.

But what if that very habit is the thing preventing real repair?

In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why we overload our partners during arguments, how it triggers defensiveness, and what to do instead to foster connection and accountability. You’ll learn why slowing down, naming one feeling, and allowing space for emotion is the key to creating lasting change and deeper understanding in your relationship.

Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped with practical tools to navigate conflict with compassion and clarity.

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]]> 569 no Are You on Relationship Autopilot? Break Out of Autopilot Mode and Into Connection Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions in your relationship—managing, reacting, doing, but not truly connecting? In this candid conversation, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore what it means to slip into autopilot mode—that state where we function out of habit rather than intention. They unpack the science and psychology behind it, revealing how early experiences and nervous system responses shape the ways we disconnect from ourselves and our partners. Together, they share real-life examples and practical exercises to help you become more present, rebuild emotional attunement, and reignite connection—one small, conscious shift at a time. Whether you’re stuck in the same arguments, feeling like roommates, or simply moving through your days on repeat, this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and show up differently. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped to reconnect—with yourself and your partner. Grab my new book ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠⁠Better Help:⁠⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Keywords: relationship autopilot, emotional connection, relationship patterns, mindfulness in relationships, couples communication, relationship awareness, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions in your relationship—managing, reacting, doing, but not truly connecting? In this candid conversation, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore what it means to slip into autopilot mode—that state where we function out of habit rather than intention. They unpack the science and psychology behind it, revealing how early experiences and nervous system responses shape the ways we disconnect from ourselves and our partners. Together, they share real-life examples and practical exercises to help you become more present, rebuild emotional attunement, and reignite connection—one small, conscious shift at a time. Whether you’re stuck in the same arguments, feeling like roommates, or simply moving through your days on repeat, this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and show up differently. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped to reconnect—with yourself and your partner. Grab my new book ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠⁠Better Help:⁠⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Keywords: relationship autopilot, emotional connection, relationship patterns, mindfulness in relationships, couples communication, relationship awareness, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions in your relationship—managing, reacting, doing, but not truly connecting? In this candid conversation, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore what it means to slip into autopilot mode—that state where we function out of habit rather than intention. They unpack the science and psychology behind it, revealing how early experiences and nervous system responses shape the ways we disconnect from ourselves and our partners.

Together, they share real-life examples and practical exercises to help you become more present, rebuild emotional attunement, and reignite connection—one small, conscious shift at a time. Whether you’re stuck in the same arguments, feeling like roommates, or simply moving through your days on repeat, this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and show up differently. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped to reconnect—with yourself and your partner.


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]]> 2647 yes Dr. Tracy Answers: How to Navigate a Difficult Sister-in-Law In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a listener’s question about navigating conflict with a sister-in-law. Using her expertise as a psychologist and couples therapist, she unpacks toxic family patterns, explores loyalty binds within families, and shares practical strategies to help couples stay united when extended-family dynamics create tension. Learn how to set boundaries, communicate effectively, and protect your marriage from outside drama. Keywords: sister-in-law conflict, toxic family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, marriage advice, family relationships, couples therapy. Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 09 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a listener’s question about navigating conflict with a sister-in-law. Using her expertise as a psychologist and couples therapist, she unpacks toxic family patterns, explores loyalty binds within families, and shares practical strategies to help couples stay united when extended-family dynamics create tension. Learn how to set boundaries, communicate effectively, and protect your marriage from outside drama. Keywords: sister-in-law conflict, toxic family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, marriage advice, family relationships, couples therapy. Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a listener’s question about navigating conflict with a sister-in-law. Using her expertise as a psychologist and couples therapist, she unpacks toxic family patterns, explores loyalty binds within families, and shares practical strategies to help couples stay united when extended-family dynamics create tension. Learn how to set boundaries, communicate effectively, and protect your marriage from outside drama.

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]]> 1291 no From Helpless to Hopeful in Your In-Law Dynamic: Inside the Making of You, Your Husband, and His Mother Have you ever felt caught between your partner and his mother—or wondered how a whole book on that exact dynamic comes to life?  In this cozy, behind-the-scenes conversation, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to share the real story of writing You, Your Husband, and His Mother—from 4:30 a.m. writing sessions and walking voice notes, to landing a Big 5 book deal and holding the finished book in her hands. They talk honestly about what it takes to build something big while raising kids, running a practice, and still trying to have a real life together. Together, they unpack why the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is so charged, how triangles quietly pull couples into painful patterns, and why the VAULT Method is designed to move you out of the victim–villain trap and into “we’re a team” energy. You’ll hear about inner child patterns, feeling “in the middle,” and the deep relief so many women describe when they finally feel seen instead of “crazy” for struggling with in-laws. Tune in to feel understood, hopeful, and equipped with a new way to think about your marriage, your in-laws, and the small steps that can help you become a stronger, more aligned couple. Grab my new book ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Factor Meals:⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 06 Nov 2025 10:30:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Have you ever felt caught between your partner and his mother—or wondered how a whole book on that exact dynamic comes to life?  In this cozy, behind-the-scenes conversation, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to share the real story of writing You, Your Husband, and His Mother—from 4:30 a.m. writing sessions and walking voice notes, to landing a Big 5 book deal and holding the finished book in her hands. They talk honestly about what it takes to build something big while raising kids, running a practice, and still trying to have a real life together. Together, they unpack why the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is so charged, how triangles quietly pull couples into painful patterns, and why the VAULT Method is designed to move you out of the victim–villain trap and into “we’re a team” energy. You’ll hear about inner child patterns, feeling “in the middle,” and the deep relief so many women describe when they finally feel seen instead of “crazy” for struggling with in-laws. Tune in to feel understood, hopeful, and equipped with a new way to think about your marriage, your in-laws, and the small steps that can help you become a stronger, more aligned couple. Grab my new book ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Factor Meals:⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever felt caught between your partner and his mother—or wondered how a whole book on that exact dynamic comes to life? 

In this cozy, behind-the-scenes conversation, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to share the real story of writing You, Your Husband, and His Mother—from 4:30 a.m. writing sessions and walking voice notes, to landing a Big 5 book deal and holding the finished book in her hands. They talk honestly about what it takes to build something big while raising kids, running a practice, and still trying to have a real life together.

Together, they unpack why the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is so charged, how triangles quietly pull couples into painful patterns, and why the VAULT Method is designed to move you out of the victim–villain trap and into “we’re a team” energy. You’ll hear about inner child patterns, feeling “in the middle,” and the deep relief so many women describe when they finally feel seen instead of “crazy” for struggling with in-laws. Tune in to feel understood, hopeful, and equipped with a new way to think about your marriage, your in-laws, and the small steps that can help you become a stronger, more aligned couple.


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]]> 2836 Nobody Wants This Season 2: The Mother-in-Law Power Struggle and What Healthy Boundaries Really Look Like In Season 2, Episode 2 of Nobody Wants This, Joanne delivers the now-viral line: “Mothers have been hating their son’s girlfriends since the beginning of time…” — and it’s the ultimate masterclass in boundaries. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother, unpacks why Bina’s behavior is a textbook case of enmeshment, guilt, and control disguised as care. From secret keys to guilt trips and emotional manipulation, Dr. Tracy breaks down what happens when families don’t update their roles — and how couples can stay united through it. Learn the key therapy concepts of enmeshment, triangulation, differentiation, and boundary-setting, and walk away knowing how to protect your peace without losing compassion. Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Keywords Nobody Wants This; emotional intelligence, family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, communication, repair, autonomy, differentiation, relationships, parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 02 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In Season 2, Episode 2 of Nobody Wants This, Joanne delivers the now-viral line: “Mothers have been hating their son’s girlfriends since the beginning of time…” — and it’s the ultimate masterclass in boundaries. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother, unpacks why Bina’s behavior is a textbook case of enmeshment, guilt, and control disguised as care. From secret keys to guilt trips and emotional manipulation, Dr. Tracy breaks down what happens when families don’t update their roles — and how couples can stay united through it. Learn the key therapy concepts of enmeshment, triangulation, differentiation, and boundary-setting, and walk away knowing how to protect your peace without losing compassion. Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Keywords Nobody Wants This; emotional intelligence, family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, communication, repair, autonomy, differentiation, relationships, parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In Season 2, Episode 2 of Nobody Wants This, Joanne delivers the now-viral line: “Mothers have been hating their son’s girlfriends since the beginning of time…” — and it’s the ultimate masterclass in boundaries. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother, unpacks why Bina’s behavior is a textbook case of enmeshment, guilt, and control disguised as care.

From secret keys to guilt trips and emotional manipulation, Dr. Tracy breaks down what happens when families don’t update their roles — and how couples can stay united through it. Learn the key therapy concepts of enmeshment, triangulation, differentiation, and boundary-setting, and walk away knowing how to protect your peace without losing compassion.


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]]> 966 no Breaking Family Cycles: The Traits of Emotionally Intelligent Mothers-in-Law (and Why It Matters for Your Marriage) In this final episode of the series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and relationship expert, discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in family dynamics, particularly focusing on the role of mothers-in-law. She outlines key behaviors that emotionally intelligent mothers-in-law exhibit, such as protecting the couple unit, communicating effectively, owning their impact, including without enmeshment, and practicing differentiation. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to navigate complex family relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries. Preorder my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Keywords emotional intelligence, family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, communication, repair, autonomy, differentiation, relationships, parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 30 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this final episode of the series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and relationship expert, discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in family dynamics, particularly focusing on the role of mothers-in-law. She outlines key behaviors that emotionally intelligent mothers-in-law exhibit, such as protecting the couple unit, communicating effectively, owning their impact, including without enmeshment, and practicing differentiation. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to navigate complex family relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries. Preorder my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Keywords emotional intelligence, family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, communication, repair, autonomy, differentiation, relationships, parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this final episode of the series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and relationship expert, discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in family dynamics, particularly focusing on the role of mothers-in-law. She outlines key behaviors that emotionally intelligent mothers-in-law exhibit, such as protecting the couple unit, communicating effectively, owning their impact, including without enmeshment, and practicing differentiation.

The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to navigate complex family relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries.


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]]> 1996 no The Difference Between a Boundary and a Threat — Especially Around the Holidays In this From the Couch session, Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish breaks down one of the biggest questions she gets during the holiday season: What’s the difference between a boundary and a threat? If you’ve ever said, “I’m not hosting this year,” or “If you keep acting like that, we’re never coming over again,” this episode will help you understand why one creates peace and the other fuels conflict.Short, compassionate, and practical, this quick session gives you the language and mindset to protect your peace without guilt. 👉 Listen if you’re searching for:How to set boundaries with family kindlyThe difference between boundaries and threatsHoliday boundary settingHow to protect your peace without starting conflict Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Branch Basics:⁠⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 26 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this From the Couch session, Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish breaks down one of the biggest questions she gets during the holiday season: What’s the difference between a boundary and a threat? If you’ve ever said, “I’m not hosting this year,” or “If you keep acting like that, we’re never coming over again,” this episode will help you understand why one creates peace and the other fuels conflict.Short, compassionate, and practical, this quick session gives you the language and mindset to protect your peace without guilt. 👉 Listen if you’re searching for:How to set boundaries with family kindlyThe difference between boundaries and threatsHoliday boundary settingHow to protect your peace without starting conflict Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Branch Basics:⁠⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this From the Couch session, Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish breaks down one of the biggest questions she gets during the holiday season: What’s the difference between a boundary and a threat?

If you’ve ever said, “I’m not hosting this year,” or “If you keep acting like that, we’re never coming over again,” this episode will help you understand why one creates peace and the other fuels conflict.Short, compassionate, and practical, this quick session gives you the language and mindset to protect your peace without guilt.

👉 Listen if you’re searching for:How to set boundaries with family kindlyThe difference between boundaries and threats
Holiday boundary setting
How to protect your peace without starting conflict


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]]> 489 no In-Law Drama to Teamwork: How to Get on the Same Page with Your Partner Before the Holidays In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to answer real, anonymous listener questions about mothers-in-law (MILs), in-law dynamics, holiday boundaries, and getting on the same page as a couple.  Drawing from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother (launching November 4), Dr. Tracy breaks down how to ask a partner to “take your side” (validation vs. action), set clear boundaries without disrespect, manage holiday expectations, and respond to subtle digs or manipulative comments—all while protecting the couple bond. Listeners learn practical scripts and the VAULT Method (Values, Aspirations + nervous system awareness, Understanding, Longings, Taking Action) to move out of autopilot and into teamwork. Dr. Tracy and Greg cover fairness myths between families, FaceTime and visit expectations, nervous-system tools for dread and anxiety, how to avoid triangulation during sibling or extended-family conflict, and how to protect parenting choices (consent, food rules, body talk) with warmth and clarity. Whether someone is navigating mild tension or long-standing patterns, this episode offers research-informed, compassionate strategies to keep connection, repair, and co-created family traditions at the center—especially during the holidays. Preorder my new book You, Your Husband, and His Mother and save your seat at my exclusive live coaching event!! RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Factor Meals: Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 23 Oct 2025 08:30:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to answer real, anonymous listener questions about mothers-in-law (MILs), in-law dynamics, holiday boundaries, and getting on the same page as a couple.  Drawing from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother (launching November 4), Dr. Tracy breaks down how to ask a partner to “take your side” (validation vs. action), set clear boundaries without disrespect, manage holiday expectations, and respond to subtle digs or manipulative comments—all while protecting the couple bond. Listeners learn practical scripts and the VAULT Method (Values, Aspirations + nervous system awareness, Understanding, Longings, Taking Action) to move out of autopilot and into teamwork. Dr. Tracy and Greg cover fairness myths between families, FaceTime and visit expectations, nervous-system tools for dread and anxiety, how to avoid triangulation during sibling or extended-family conflict, and how to protect parenting choices (consent, food rules, body talk) with warmth and clarity. Whether someone is navigating mild tension or long-standing patterns, this episode offers research-informed, compassionate strategies to keep connection, repair, and co-created family traditions at the center—especially during the holidays. Preorder my new book You, Your Husband, and His Mother and save your seat at my exclusive live coaching event!! RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Factor Meals: Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to answer real, anonymous listener questions about mothers-in-law (MILs), in-law dynamics, holiday boundaries, and getting on the same page as a couple. 

Drawing from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother (launching November 4), Dr. Tracy breaks down how to ask a partner to “take your side” (validation vs. action), set clear boundaries without disrespect, manage holiday expectations, and respond to subtle digs or manipulative comments—all while protecting the couple bond.

Listeners learn practical scripts and the VAULT Method (Values, Aspirations + nervous system awareness, Understanding, Longings, Taking Action) to move out of autopilot and into teamwork. Dr. Tracy and Greg cover fairness myths between families, FaceTime and visit expectations, nervous-system tools for dread and anxiety, how to avoid triangulation during sibling or extended-family conflict, and how to protect parenting choices (consent, food rules, body talk) with warmth and clarity. Whether someone is navigating mild tension or long-standing patterns, this episode offers research-informed, compassionate strategies to keep connection, repair, and co-created family traditions at the center—especially during the holidays.


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]]> 3656 yes How to Stop Being Defensive in Your Relationship: Couples Therapist Strategies for Better Communication Defensiveness is one of the most common reasons couples get stuck in repetitive fights — but few people understand what’s actually driving it. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explains the psychology of defensiveness, how shame and fear of rejection play a role, and the proven tools that help couples communicate without walls going up. Learn how to respond without reacting, build emotional safety, and start creating the kind of connection you really want. Keywords: how to stop being defensive, couples communication skills, marriage advice podcast, defensiveness and shame, Gottman four horsemen, relationship repair, therapist tips for couples. Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Branch Basics:⁠⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 19 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Defensiveness is one of the most common reasons couples get stuck in repetitive fights — but few people understand what’s actually driving it. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explains the psychology of defensiveness, how shame and fear of rejection play a role, and the proven tools that help couples communicate without walls going up. Learn how to respond without reacting, build emotional safety, and start creating the kind of connection you really want. Keywords: how to stop being defensive, couples communication skills, marriage advice podcast, defensiveness and shame, Gottman four horsemen, relationship repair, therapist tips for couples. Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Branch Basics:⁠⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Defensiveness is one of the most common reasons couples get stuck in repetitive fights — but few people understand what’s actually driving it. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explains the psychology of defensiveness, how shame and fear of rejection play a role, and the proven tools that help couples communicate without walls going up. Learn how to respond without reacting, build emotional safety, and start creating the kind of connection you really want.

Keywords: how to stop being defensive, couples communication skills, marriage advice podcast, defensiveness and shame, Gottman four horsemen, relationship repair, therapist tips for couples.

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]]> 475 no When Family Boundaries Break: Understanding Estrangement and Healing Generational Patterns with Whitney Goodman In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, part of the You, Your Husband, and His Mother book launch series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with therapist and author Whitney Goodman to unpack one of the most misunderstood family experiences — estrangement. Together, they explore why more people are creating distance from toxic or boundary-violating family members, what healthy families actually look like, and how this shift reflects a deeper desire for emotional safety and authenticity. They discuss how social media, generational change, and unmet repair cycles contribute to breakdowns in family connection — and why choosing space can sometimes be an act of care, not cruelty. This conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical guidance for anyone navigating complex family relationships, from mother-in-law dynamics to emotional cutoffs. Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 16 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, part of the You, Your Husband, and His Mother book launch series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with therapist and author Whitney Goodman to unpack one of the most misunderstood family experiences — estrangement. Together, they explore why more people are creating distance from toxic or boundary-violating family members, what healthy families actually look like, and how this shift reflects a deeper desire for emotional safety and authenticity. They discuss how social media, generational change, and unmet repair cycles contribute to breakdowns in family connection — and why choosing space can sometimes be an act of care, not cruelty. This conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical guidance for anyone navigating complex family relationships, from mother-in-law dynamics to emotional cutoffs. Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, part of the You, Your Husband, and His Mother book launch series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with therapist and author Whitney Goodman to unpack one of the most misunderstood family experiences — estrangement.

Together, they explore why more people are creating distance from toxic or boundary-violating family members, what healthy families actually look like, and how this shift reflects a deeper desire for emotional safety and authenticity.

They discuss how social media, generational change, and unmet repair cycles contribute to breakdowns in family connection — and why choosing space can sometimes be an act of care, not cruelty.

This conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical guidance for anyone navigating complex family relationships, from mother-in-law dynamics to emotional cutoffs.

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]]> 2910 The VIRAL Sherlocked Thread: From Victim to Main Character Energy And All About Boundaries From The Couch - Short hits, hot topics. The I_am_sherlocked phenomenon has taken over Threads — but what’s really drawing us in isn’t just her posts, it’s what they represent. From The Couch, I explore why we’re so captivated by someone unapologetically setting boundaries and saying no without guilt. We’ll unpack what this viral moment reveals about women’s exhaustion, people-pleasing, and the deep longing to take up space—especially in family dynamics with in-laws. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Kiwico: Save 50% at kiwico.com and explore connection with your kids. Use code TRACY Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sat, 11 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 From The Couch - Short hits, hot topics. The I_am_sherlocked phenomenon has taken over Threads — but what’s really drawing us in isn’t just her posts, it’s what they represent. From The Couch, I explore why we’re so captivated by someone unapologetically setting boundaries and saying no without guilt. We’ll unpack what this viral moment reveals about women’s exhaustion, people-pleasing, and the deep longing to take up space—especially in family dynamics with in-laws. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Kiwico: Save 50% at kiwico.com and explore connection with your kids. Use code TRACY Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices From The Couch - Short hits, hot topics.

The I_am_sherlocked phenomenon has taken over Threads — but what’s really drawing us in isn’t just her posts, it’s what they represent.


From The Couch, I explore why we’re so captivated by someone unapologetically setting boundaries and saying no without guilt. We’ll unpack what this viral moment reveals about women’s exhaustion, people-pleasing, and the deep longing to take up space—especially in family dynamics with in-laws.


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]]> 583 no Navigating Mother-in-Law Tension: Passive Aggression, Boundaries, Power Dynamics, and Repair In Part 2 of my MIL book-launch series, I sit down with creator Janelle (@heyjanellemarie) to unpack “Daughter-in-Law Math,” the thousand paper-cut moments that erode trust, and the real power dynamics between mothers-in-law, sons, and couples. We explore passive aggression, exclusion, gossip, and double standards—plus practical tools for the holiday season: code words, aligned exits, and repair that actually rebuilds safety. If you’re navigating mother-in-law tension, boundaries, or feeling invisible in your own marriage, this episode gives you scripts, strategy, and hope. ✨ PREORDER EXCLUSIVE!! ✨Preorder You, Your Husband, and His Mother today and receive:A live coaching session with Dr. Tracy where you can ask your questions directly plus a bonus question guide with powerful prompts to help you start making changes right away. Your relationship with your in-laws doesn’t have to divide your marriage. Learn how to set boundaries, break old patterns, and build a stronger bond with your partner while creating the relationships you want with extended family members. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com code TRACY Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 09 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In Part 2 of my MIL book-launch series, I sit down with creator Janelle (@heyjanellemarie) to unpack “Daughter-in-Law Math,” the thousand paper-cut moments that erode trust, and the real power dynamics between mothers-in-law, sons, and couples. We explore passive aggression, exclusion, gossip, and double standards—plus practical tools for the holiday season: code words, aligned exits, and repair that actually rebuilds safety. If you’re navigating mother-in-law tension, boundaries, or feeling invisible in your own marriage, this episode gives you scripts, strategy, and hope. ✨ PREORDER EXCLUSIVE!! ✨Preorder You, Your Husband, and His Mother today and receive:A live coaching session with Dr. Tracy where you can ask your questions directly plus a bonus question guide with powerful prompts to help you start making changes right away. Your relationship with your in-laws doesn’t have to divide your marriage. Learn how to set boundaries, break old patterns, and build a stronger bond with your partner while creating the relationships you want with extended family members. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com code TRACY Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In Part 2 of my MIL book-launch series, I sit down with creator Janelle (@heyjanellemarie) to unpack “Daughter-in-Law Math,” the thousand paper-cut moments that erode trust, and the real power dynamics between mothers-in-law, sons, and couples.


We explore passive aggression, exclusion, gossip, and double standards—plus practical tools for the holiday season: code words, aligned exits, and repair that actually rebuilds safety.


If you’re navigating mother-in-law tension, boundaries, or feeling invisible in your own marriage, this episode gives you scripts, strategy, and hope.


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]]> 3932 ‘I Just Want My Mom and My Wife to Be Happy’: The Real Conflict Beneath That Wish In this From the Couch mini-session, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy explores one of the most common conflicts couples face: when a husband says, “I just want my mom and my wife to get along.” Dr. Tracy unpacks why this well-intentioned desire often backfires, leading to tension, invalidation, and emotional disconnection in the marriage. Drawing from her nearly 20 years of experience and the insights from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother, she explains how couples can hold two truths at once—valuing family while honoring healthy boundaries. If you’ve ever felt caught between wanting family harmony and protecting your marriage, this short episode offers the clarity and compassion you need to find balance. 📘 Pre-order Dr. Tracy’s upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother, for a step-by-step guide to navigating in-law relationships using her 5-step VAULT Method. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 05 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this From the Couch mini-session, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy explores one of the most common conflicts couples face: when a husband says, “I just want my mom and my wife to get along.” Dr. Tracy unpacks why this well-intentioned desire often backfires, leading to tension, invalidation, and emotional disconnection in the marriage. Drawing from her nearly 20 years of experience and the insights from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother, she explains how couples can hold two truths at once—valuing family while honoring healthy boundaries. If you’ve ever felt caught between wanting family harmony and protecting your marriage, this short episode offers the clarity and compassion you need to find balance. 📘 Pre-order Dr. Tracy’s upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother, for a step-by-step guide to navigating in-law relationships using her 5-step VAULT Method. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this From the Couch mini-session, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy explores one of the most common conflicts couples face: when a husband says, “I just want my mom and my wife to get along.”
Dr. Tracy unpacks why this well-intentioned desire often backfires, leading to tension, invalidation, and emotional disconnection in the marriage. Drawing from her nearly 20 years of experience and the insights from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother, she explains how couples can hold two truths at once—valuing family while honoring healthy boundaries.

If you’ve ever felt caught between wanting family harmony and protecting your marriage, this short episode offers the clarity and compassion you need to find balance.

📘 Pre-order Dr. Tracy’s upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother, for a step-by-step guide to navigating in-law relationships using her 5-step VAULT Method.


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]]> 396 no The Top 5 Challenges Women Face With Their Mother-in-Law In this special solo episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish kicks off a new series leading up to the launch of her highly anticipated book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother.Drawing from nearly 20 years of working with couples, Dr. Tracy explores the five most common struggles women face with their mother-in-law, including criticism, boundary violations, guilt trips and manipulaton, competition, and rule-breaking with kids.✨ PREORDER EXCLUSIVE!! ✨Preorder You, Your Husband, and His Mother today and receive:A live coaching session with Dr. Tracy where you can ask your questions directly plus a bonus question guide with powerful prompts to help you start making changes right away.Your relationship with your in-laws doesn’t have to divide your marriage. Learn how to set boundaries, break old patterns, and build a stronger bond with your partner while creating the relationships you want with extended family members. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 02 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this special solo episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish kicks off a new series leading up to the launch of her highly anticipated book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother.Drawing from nearly 20 years of working with couples, Dr. Tracy explores the five most common struggles women face with their mother-in-law, including criticism, boundary violations, guilt trips and manipulaton, competition, and rule-breaking with kids.✨ PREORDER EXCLUSIVE!! ✨Preorder You, Your Husband, and His Mother today and receive:A live coaching session with Dr. Tracy where you can ask your questions directly plus a bonus question guide with powerful prompts to help you start making changes right away.Your relationship with your in-laws doesn’t have to divide your marriage. Learn how to set boundaries, break old patterns, and build a stronger bond with your partner while creating the relationships you want with extended family members. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this special solo episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish kicks off a new series leading up to the launch of her highly anticipated book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother.
Drawing from nearly 20 years of working with couples, Dr. Tracy explores the five most common struggles women face with their mother-in-law, including criticism, boundary violations, guilt trips and manipulaton, competition, and rule-breaking with kids.
✨ PREORDER EXCLUSIVE!! ✨
Preorder You, Your Husband, and His Mother today and receive:
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Your relationship with your in-laws doesn’t have to divide your marriage. Learn how to set boundaries, break old patterns, and build a stronger bond with your partner while creating the relationships you want with extended family members.


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]]> 1812 no Boundaries and Repair: how to protect your emotional well-being and come back together after conflict in family dynamics Have you ever wondered if it’s okay to set boundaries with family, or how to repair your marriage after a fight about in-laws? In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish dives into two powerful listener questions that so many couples and families struggle with.First, Dr. Tracy explores the question: “Is it okay to intentionally avoid a sibling who constantly makes hurtful comments?” If you’ve ever dealt with toxic siblings, family tension, or sibling rivalry as adults, you’ll learn the difference between avoidance and boundaries, how to protect your emotional health at family gatherings, and how to communicate your limits without guilt.Then, she answers: “How do I repair my marriage after a fight about my mother-in-law wanting to live with us temporarily?” Dr. Tracy walks through a step-by-step process for marriage repair after conflict, including nervous system regulation, setting healthy in-law boundaries, and finding a way to work as a united team with your partner. If you’ve ever argued about your mother-in-law moving in, intrusive in-laws, or family living arrangements, this segment will give you the tools to navigate conflict, reconnect, and rebuild trust in your marriage.Key topics in this episode:Setting boundaries with siblings who cross the lineThe difference between avoidance and boundariesHow to stay emotionally safe during family gatheringsRepairing your marriage after an argument about in-lawsNavigating mother-in-law conflicts and living arrangement disputesBuilding a united front with your partnerPractical communication strategies for family conflictIf you’ve ever searched for “how to set boundaries with in-laws,” “toxic sibling relationships,” or “repair after marriage fights,” this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and practical steps forward. Jefferson Fisher's The Next Conversation book: Amazon Link Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 25 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Have you ever wondered if it’s okay to set boundaries with family, or how to repair your marriage after a fight about in-laws? In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish dives into two powerful listener questions that so many couples and families struggle with.First, Dr. Tracy explores the question: “Is it okay to intentionally avoid a sibling who constantly makes hurtful comments?” If you’ve ever dealt with toxic siblings, family tension, or sibling rivalry as adults, you’ll learn the difference between avoidance and boundaries, how to protect your emotional health at family gatherings, and how to communicate your limits without guilt.Then, she answers: “How do I repair my marriage after a fight about my mother-in-law wanting to live with us temporarily?” Dr. Tracy walks through a step-by-step process for marriage repair after conflict, including nervous system regulation, setting healthy in-law boundaries, and finding a way to work as a united team with your partner. If you’ve ever argued about your mother-in-law moving in, intrusive in-laws, or family living arrangements, this segment will give you the tools to navigate conflict, reconnect, and rebuild trust in your marriage.Key topics in this episode:Setting boundaries with siblings who cross the lineThe difference between avoidance and boundariesHow to stay emotionally safe during family gatheringsRepairing your marriage after an argument about in-lawsNavigating mother-in-law conflicts and living arrangement disputesBuilding a united front with your partnerPractical communication strategies for family conflictIf you’ve ever searched for “how to set boundaries with in-laws,” “toxic sibling relationships,” or “repair after marriage fights,” this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and practical steps forward. Jefferson Fisher's The Next Conversation book: Amazon Link Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever wondered if it’s okay to set boundaries with family, or how to repair your marriage after a fight about in-laws?
In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish dives into two powerful listener questions that so many couples and families struggle with.
First, Dr. Tracy explores the question: “Is it okay to intentionally avoid a sibling who constantly makes hurtful comments?” If you’ve ever dealt with toxic siblings, family tension, or sibling rivalry as adults, you’ll learn the difference between avoidance and boundaries, how to protect your emotional health at family gatherings, and how to communicate your limits without guilt.
Then, she answers: “How do I repair my marriage after a fight about my mother-in-law wanting to live with us temporarily?” Dr. Tracy walks through a step-by-step process for marriage repair after conflict, including nervous system regulation, setting healthy in-law boundaries, and finding a way to work as a united team with your partner. If you’ve ever argued about your mother-in-law moving in, intrusive in-laws, or family living arrangements, this segment will give you the tools to navigate conflict, reconnect, and rebuild trust in your marriage.
Key topics in this episode:
Setting boundaries with siblings who cross the line
The difference between avoidance and boundaries
How to stay emotionally safe during family gatherings
Repairing your marriage after an argument about in-laws
Navigating mother-in-law conflicts and living arrangement disputes
Building a united front with your partner
Practical communication strategies for family conflict
If you’ve ever searched for “how to set boundaries with in-laws,” “toxic sibling relationships,” or “repair after marriage fights,” this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and practical steps forward.





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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


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]]> 2481 no Relationship After Baby: Why It Feels Hard—and How to Reconnect Most expecting parents prepare everything for baby—birth plan, hospital bag, freezer meals, nursery, car seat—but rarely prepare their relationship. Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the realities of the postpartum relationship—from mental load and sleep deprivation to resentment, disconnection, and shifts in intimacy after birth. She’s joined by Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT (San Diego–based, mom of three, host of Holding Space), who specializes in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. This conversation normalizes that hard ≠ bad and that relationships move through seasons. When it’s hard, it’s a signal to get support, strengthen co-parenting, and rebuild connection—not a verdict on the marriage. What they cover (no fluff): Why “a baby brings us closer” is a myth for many couples Postpartum mental health: postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression (including partner/dad depression) Communication skills and repair after conflict when you’re exhausted Values-based parenting and co-parenting teamwork Generous interpretation and soft start-ups to reduce blame Intimacy after baby and micro-connection rituals that fit real life Boundaries with in-laws/grandparents and navigating extended family Need structured help? For on-demand tools to share the mental load, improve communication, and feel like a team, explore Be Connected. Dr. Cassidy’s private practice websiteFollow Dr. Cassidy on InstagramListen to Holding Space RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 18 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Most expecting parents prepare everything for baby—birth plan, hospital bag, freezer meals, nursery, car seat—but rarely prepare their relationship. Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the realities of the postpartum relationship—from mental load and sleep deprivation to resentment, disconnection, and shifts in intimacy after birth. She’s joined by Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT (San Diego–based, mom of three, host of Holding Space), who specializes in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. This conversation normalizes that hard ≠ bad and that relationships move through seasons. When it’s hard, it’s a signal to get support, strengthen co-parenting, and rebuild connection—not a verdict on the marriage. What they cover (no fluff): Why “a baby brings us closer” is a myth for many couples Postpartum mental health: postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression (including partner/dad depression) Communication skills and repair after conflict when you’re exhausted Values-based parenting and co-parenting teamwork Generous interpretation and soft start-ups to reduce blame Intimacy after baby and micro-connection rituals that fit real life Boundaries with in-laws/grandparents and navigating extended family Need structured help? For on-demand tools to share the mental load, improve communication, and feel like a team, explore Be Connected. Dr. Cassidy’s private practice websiteFollow Dr. Cassidy on InstagramListen to Holding Space RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Most expecting parents prepare everything for baby—birth plan, hospital bag, freezer meals, nursery, car seat—but rarely prepare their relationship.
Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the realities of the postpartum relationship—from mental load and sleep deprivation to resentment, disconnection, and shifts in intimacy after birth. She’s joined by Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT (San Diego–based, mom of three, host of Holding Space), who specializes in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting.

This conversation normalizes that hard ≠ bad and that relationships move through seasons. When it’s hard, it’s a signal to get support, strengthen co-parenting, and rebuild connection—not a verdict on the marriage.

What they cover (no fluff):

  • Why “a baby brings us closer” is a myth for many couples

  • Postpartum mental health: postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression (including partner/dad depression)

  • Communication skills and repair after conflict when you’re exhausted

  • Values-based parenting and co-parenting teamwork

  • Generous interpretation and soft start-ups to reduce blame

  • Intimacy after baby and micro-connection rituals that fit real life

  • Boundaries with in-laws/grandparents and navigating extended family

Need structured help? For on-demand tools to share the mental load, improve communication, and feel like a team, explore Be Connected.




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]]> 3146 Big Kids, Bigger Feelings: Parenting Through the Ages 5–12 Shift with Alyssa Campbell Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and the new Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, to explore the challenges of parenting kids ages 5–12. They discuss why age seven often feels like a turning point, how identity and independence begin to emerge, and what parents can do to stay connected while giving their kids space to grow. Together they unpack sibling conflict, defiance, lying, and bedtime battles—and why attunement and curiosity are more effective than punishment or control. Alyssa also introduces the Collaborative Emotion Processing method, a framework for building emotional intelligence in both kids and parents. What you’ll learn Why age seven brings bigger emotions and pushback How to support independence while staying connected Practical tools for handling lying and sibling conflict How to tune into your child’s unique nervous system This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. Explore more with Alyssa: Snag the books: ⁠Tiny Humans, Big Emotions⁠ and ⁠Big Kids, Bigger Feelings ⁠ ⁠Visit Seed and Sew on the web⁠ Follow ⁠@seed.and.sew ⁠on Instagram RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 11 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and the new Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, to explore the challenges of parenting kids ages 5–12. They discuss why age seven often feels like a turning point, how identity and independence begin to emerge, and what parents can do to stay connected while giving their kids space to grow. Together they unpack sibling conflict, defiance, lying, and bedtime battles—and why attunement and curiosity are more effective than punishment or control. Alyssa also introduces the Collaborative Emotion Processing method, a framework for building emotional intelligence in both kids and parents. What you’ll learn Why age seven brings bigger emotions and pushback How to support independence while staying connected Practical tools for handling lying and sibling conflict How to tune into your child’s unique nervous system This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. Explore more with Alyssa: Snag the books: ⁠Tiny Humans, Big Emotions⁠ and ⁠Big Kids, Bigger Feelings ⁠ ⁠Visit Seed and Sew on the web⁠ Follow ⁠@seed.and.sew ⁠on Instagram RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and the new Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, to explore the challenges of parenting kids ages 5–12.

They discuss why age seven often feels like a turning point, how identity and independence begin to emerge, and what parents can do to stay connected while giving their kids space to grow.

Together they unpack sibling conflict, defiance, lying, and bedtime battles—and why attunement and curiosity are more effective than punishment or control. Alyssa also introduces the Collaborative Emotion Processing method, a framework for building emotional intelligence in both kids and parents.


What you’ll learn

  • Why age seven brings bigger emotions and pushback

  • How to support independence while staying connected

  • Practical tools for handling lying and sibling conflict

  • How to tune into your child’s unique nervous system

This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self.

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]]> 3333 no When Words Hurt: How Inner Critics and Tone Trigger Disconnection In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why partners often feel like they “say the wrong thing” or come across as too critical. Drawing on a listener’s story, she highlights how inner criticism, rejection sensitivity, and Enneagram One tendencies can fuel negative interaction cycles. Dr. Tracy offers practical strategies—such as pausing before speaking, softening startups, naming the cycle, and practicing the Most Generous Interpretation—to help couples move from disconnection to repair. Emphasizing self-awareness, empathy, and emotional safety, she shows how couples can shift out of criticism and defensiveness into healthier communication, deeper connection, and stronger relationships. This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.comMint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 04 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why partners often feel like they “say the wrong thing” or come across as too critical. Drawing on a listener’s story, she highlights how inner criticism, rejection sensitivity, and Enneagram One tendencies can fuel negative interaction cycles. Dr. Tracy offers practical strategies—such as pausing before speaking, softening startups, naming the cycle, and practicing the Most Generous Interpretation—to help couples move from disconnection to repair. Emphasizing self-awareness, empathy, and emotional safety, she shows how couples can shift out of criticism and defensiveness into healthier communication, deeper connection, and stronger relationships. This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.comMint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why partners often feel like they “say the wrong thing” or come across as too critical. Drawing on a listener’s story, she highlights how inner criticism, rejection sensitivity, and Enneagram One tendencies can fuel negative interaction cycles.


Dr. Tracy offers practical strategies—such as pausing before speaking, softening startups, naming the cycle, and practicing the Most Generous Interpretation—to help couples move from disconnection to repair. Emphasizing self-awareness, empathy, and emotional safety, she shows how couples can shift out of criticism and defensiveness into healthier communication, deeper connection, and stronger relationships.


This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self.


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]]> 2353 Part 2: When Love isn't Enough: Rebuilding Trust In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is joined by her husband Greg for part two of their deep dive on trust in relationships. Building on last week’s conversation about the difference between love and trust, attachment styles, and how trust is broken, this episode focuses on five powerful ways to rebuild trust after betrayal or disconnection. Listeners will learn why small daily actions matter, how to repair after ruptures, and why vulnerability and transparency are key to intimacy. Dr. Tracy also unpacks the role of self-trust and shares practical scripts couples can use in moments of insecurity or defensiveness. Through real-life therapy insights and community Q&A, this conversation tackles infidelity, emotional withdrawal, resentment, and even the feeling of getting “the ick” in long-term relationships. Whether you’re wondering “Can I trust my partner again?” or struggling with consistency, accountability, or broken promises, this episode provides actionable strategies to strengthen emotional intimacy and rebuild connection. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACYAirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 28 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is joined by her husband Greg for part two of their deep dive on trust in relationships. Building on last week’s conversation about the difference between love and trust, attachment styles, and how trust is broken, this episode focuses on five powerful ways to rebuild trust after betrayal or disconnection. Listeners will learn why small daily actions matter, how to repair after ruptures, and why vulnerability and transparency are key to intimacy. Dr. Tracy also unpacks the role of self-trust and shares practical scripts couples can use in moments of insecurity or defensiveness. Through real-life therapy insights and community Q&A, this conversation tackles infidelity, emotional withdrawal, resentment, and even the feeling of getting “the ick” in long-term relationships. Whether you’re wondering “Can I trust my partner again?” or struggling with consistency, accountability, or broken promises, this episode provides actionable strategies to strengthen emotional intimacy and rebuild connection. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACYAirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is joined by her husband Greg for part two of their deep dive on trust in relationships. Building on last week’s conversation about the difference between love and trust, attachment styles, and how trust is broken, this episode focuses on five powerful ways to rebuild trust after betrayal or disconnection.

Listeners will learn why small daily actions matter, how to repair after ruptures, and why vulnerability and transparency are key to intimacy. Dr. Tracy also unpacks the role of self-trust and shares practical scripts couples can use in moments of insecurity or defensiveness. Through real-life therapy insights and community Q&A, this conversation tackles infidelity, emotional withdrawal, resentment, and even the feeling of getting “the ick” in long-term relationships.

Whether you’re wondering “Can I trust my partner again?” or struggling with consistency, accountability, or broken promises, this episode provides actionable strategies to strengthen emotional intimacy and rebuild connection.


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]]> 2852 Love Isn’t Enough: Why Trust Makes or Breaks Your Relationship In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to tackle one of the most common questions in relationships: “I love my partner, but why don’t I trust them?”Together, they unpack the difference between love and trust—and why love alone doesn’t guarantee a secure relationship. Drawing from real client stories, parenting examples, and their own marriage, they explore how trust is built in micro-moments, why small cracks (like inconsistency, broken promises, or emotional withdrawal) can erode trust, and how attachment styles shape the way couples experience security.Listeners will learn about:The key differences between love vs. trust in relationships.How attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant) affect intimacy and connection.The subtle ways trust can be ruptured through micro-betrayals, emotional shutdowns, or lack of repair.Why trust is not just about fidelity, but about reliability, safety, and honoring vulnerability.Reflection questions to help you assess the balance of love and trust in your own relationship.This episode lays the groundwork for part two, where Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into how to rebuild trust after it’s been broken and answer listener questions.Whether you’re married, dating, or simply curious about the psychology of relationships, this episode offers relationship advice, marriage insights, and practical takeaways to help couples build stronger, more connected partnerships. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Create a stronger relationship with Dr. Tracy's online program: Be Connected Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 21 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to tackle one of the most common questions in relationships: “I love my partner, but why don’t I trust them?”Together, they unpack the difference between love and trust—and why love alone doesn’t guarantee a secure relationship. Drawing from real client stories, parenting examples, and their own marriage, they explore how trust is built in micro-moments, why small cracks (like inconsistency, broken promises, or emotional withdrawal) can erode trust, and how attachment styles shape the way couples experience security.Listeners will learn about:The key differences between love vs. trust in relationships.How attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant) affect intimacy and connection.The subtle ways trust can be ruptured through micro-betrayals, emotional shutdowns, or lack of repair.Why trust is not just about fidelity, but about reliability, safety, and honoring vulnerability.Reflection questions to help you assess the balance of love and trust in your own relationship.This episode lays the groundwork for part two, where Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into how to rebuild trust after it’s been broken and answer listener questions.Whether you’re married, dating, or simply curious about the psychology of relationships, this episode offers relationship advice, marriage insights, and practical takeaways to help couples build stronger, more connected partnerships. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Create a stronger relationship with Dr. Tracy's online program: Be Connected Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to tackle one of the most common questions in relationships: “I love my partner, but why don’t I trust them?”
Together, they unpack the difference between love and trust—and why love alone doesn’t guarantee a secure relationship. Drawing from real client stories, parenting examples, and their own marriage, they explore how trust is built in micro-moments, why small cracks (like inconsistency, broken promises, or emotional withdrawal) can erode trust, and how attachment styles shape the way couples experience security.
Listeners will learn about:
The key differences between love vs. trust in relationships.
How attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant) affect intimacy and connection.
The subtle ways trust can be ruptured through micro-betrayals, emotional shutdowns, or lack of repair.
Why trust is not just about fidelity, but about reliability, safety, and honoring vulnerability.
Reflection questions to help you assess the balance of love and trust in your own relationship.
This episode lays the groundwork for part two, where Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into how to rebuild trust after it’s been broken and answer listener questions.
Whether you’re married, dating, or simply curious about the psychology of relationships, this episode offers relationship advice, marriage insights, and practical takeaways to help couples build stronger, more connected partnerships.


RESOURCES:

Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Create a stronger relationship with Dr. Tracy's online program: Be Connected

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


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]]> 3185 How to Handle Your Partner’s Disappointment Without Losing Yourself In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore a listener’s struggle with saying no to her husband’s request—especially when his disappointment feels “loud and heavy.” During a tense family vacation at his parents’ cottage, she wanted to leave early, but agreed to stay longer to avoid upsetting him—only to end up in tears.They unpack:Why so many people put their own needs aside to keep the peaceHow fear of disappointing a partner can quietly erode connectionThe difference between compromise and self-abandonmentHow to tolerate a partner’s disappointment without spiraling into guiltPractical ways to have hard conversations while staying connectedThis episode is for anyone who has ever said “yes” when every part of them wanted to say “no,” offering tools to protect personal well-being, communicate with clarity, and strengthen the relationship. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 14 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore a listener’s struggle with saying no to her husband’s request—especially when his disappointment feels “loud and heavy.” During a tense family vacation at his parents’ cottage, she wanted to leave early, but agreed to stay longer to avoid upsetting him—only to end up in tears.They unpack:Why so many people put their own needs aside to keep the peaceHow fear of disappointing a partner can quietly erode connectionThe difference between compromise and self-abandonmentHow to tolerate a partner’s disappointment without spiraling into guiltPractical ways to have hard conversations while staying connectedThis episode is for anyone who has ever said “yes” when every part of them wanted to say “no,” offering tools to protect personal well-being, communicate with clarity, and strengthen the relationship. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore a listener’s struggle with saying no to her husband’s request—especially when his disappointment feels “loud and heavy.” During a tense family vacation at his parents’ cottage, she wanted to leave early, but agreed to stay longer to avoid upsetting him—only to end up in tears.
They unpack:
Why so many people put their own needs aside to keep the peace
How fear of disappointing a partner can quietly erode connection
The difference between compromise and self-abandonment
How to tolerate a partner’s disappointment without spiraling into guilt
Practical ways to have hard conversations while staying connected
This episode is for anyone who has ever said “yes” when every part of them wanted to say “no,” offering tools to protect personal well-being, communicate with clarity, and strengthen the relationship.


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


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]]> 2918 ICYMI: Defensiveness vs Assertiveness In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with her husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.    They answer real questions from the community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.    In this episode, they discuss:  Important examples of defensive and assertive responses   How modelled communication styles from your personal history effects your present communication styles    The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives   The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses   How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness   The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses    How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding     This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp and HoneyLove. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY HoneyLove: Save 10% at honeylove.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Luxury bedding. Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 07 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with her husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.    They answer real questions from the community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.    In this episode, they discuss:  Important examples of defensive and assertive responses   How modelled communication styles from your personal history effects your present communication styles    The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives   The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses   How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness   The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses    How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding     This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp and HoneyLove. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY HoneyLove: Save 10% at honeylove.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Luxury bedding. Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with her husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.   


They answer real questions from the community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.   


In this episode, they discuss: 

  • Important examples of defensive and assertive responses  
  • How modelled communication styles from your personal history effects your present communication styles   
  • The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives  
  • The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses  
  • How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness  
  • The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses   
  • How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding   

 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp and HoneyLove.


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


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]]> 2716 When Sexual Desire Feels Mismatched: Emotional vs. Physical Intimacy in Long-Term Love In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, we explore one of the most common—and emotionally charged—challenges in long-term relationships: when one partner desires more sex, while the other feels overwhelmed, touched out, or emotionally disconnected. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, breaks down the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, explains why sex can feel like part of running a marathon for some partners, and unpacks how sex is often a bid for connection—not just physical pleasure.You’ll learn how emotional and sexual intimacy are wired differently, how to stop taking rejection personally, and what practical steps couples can take to rebuild connection without blame or pressure. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the sex-versus-talk dynamic, this episode will help you deepen your understanding—and find a new way forward, together. Join my More Than Roommates Challenge now and spend the next ten days feeling more connected. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 31 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, we explore one of the most common—and emotionally charged—challenges in long-term relationships: when one partner desires more sex, while the other feels overwhelmed, touched out, or emotionally disconnected. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, breaks down the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, explains why sex can feel like part of running a marathon for some partners, and unpacks how sex is often a bid for connection—not just physical pleasure.You’ll learn how emotional and sexual intimacy are wired differently, how to stop taking rejection personally, and what practical steps couples can take to rebuild connection without blame or pressure. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the sex-versus-talk dynamic, this episode will help you deepen your understanding—and find a new way forward, together. Join my More Than Roommates Challenge now and spend the next ten days feeling more connected. RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, we explore one of the most common—and emotionally charged—challenges in long-term relationships: when one partner desires more sex, while the other feels overwhelmed, touched out, or emotionally disconnected.


Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, breaks down the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, explains why sex can feel like part of running a marathon for some partners, and unpacks how sex is often a bid for connection—not just physical pleasure.
You’ll learn how emotional and sexual intimacy are wired differently, how to stop taking rejection personally, and what practical steps couples can take to rebuild connection without blame or pressure.


If you’ve ever felt stuck in the sex-versus-talk dynamic, this episode will help you deepen your understanding—and find a new way forward, together.


Join my More Than Roommates Challenge now and spend the next ten days feeling more connected.


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Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother

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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


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]]> 2424 Infidelity Isn’t Entertainment—It’s a Wound: Why People Cheat and What Happens Next When Coldplay’s Jumbotron "kiss cam" (sidenote, it's not a kiss cam, its the Jumbotron Song) sparked global buzz over an affair, it reminded us of a hard truth—infidelity is not entertainment. In this must-listen episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, breaks down the real reasons people cheat, from disconnection and loneliness to conflict avoidance and unmet emotional needs. You’ll learn: Why affairs happen (it’s not always about sex) The truth about shame, betrayal, and emotional wounds How couples can begin to heal after infidelity Whether you’re rebuilding trust, struggling with betrayal, or reflecting on your own relationship, this episode offers insight, compassion, and powerful takeaways. Keywords: infidelity, why people cheat, relationship betrayal, marriage repair, emotional affairs, rebuilding trust, couples therapy, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 24 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 When Coldplay’s Jumbotron "kiss cam" (sidenote, it's not a kiss cam, its the Jumbotron Song) sparked global buzz over an affair, it reminded us of a hard truth—infidelity is not entertainment. In this must-listen episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, breaks down the real reasons people cheat, from disconnection and loneliness to conflict avoidance and unmet emotional needs. You’ll learn: Why affairs happen (it’s not always about sex) The truth about shame, betrayal, and emotional wounds How couples can begin to heal after infidelity Whether you’re rebuilding trust, struggling with betrayal, or reflecting on your own relationship, this episode offers insight, compassion, and powerful takeaways. Keywords: infidelity, why people cheat, relationship betrayal, marriage repair, emotional affairs, rebuilding trust, couples therapy, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices When Coldplay’s Jumbotron "kiss cam" (sidenote, it's not a kiss cam, its the Jumbotron Song) sparked global buzz over an affair, it reminded us of a hard truth—infidelity is not entertainment.

In this must-listen episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, breaks down the real reasons people cheat, from disconnection and loneliness to conflict avoidance and unmet emotional needs.

You’ll learn:

  • Why affairs happen (it’s not always about sex)

  • The truth about shame, betrayal, and emotional wounds

  • How couples can begin to heal after infidelity

Whether you’re rebuilding trust, struggling with betrayal, or reflecting on your own relationship, this episode offers insight, compassion, and powerful takeaways.

Keywords: infidelity, why people cheat, relationship betrayal, marriage repair, emotional affairs, rebuilding trust, couples therapy, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish


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Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠


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]]> 3007 Is it Boundaries or Avoidance? People talk about setting boundaries—but what if it’s actually avoidance? In this episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down the difference between real emotional boundaries and the kind that push your partner away. Understand the difference and how you can center yourself in creating healthy communication and a stronger connection in your relationship. Keywords: relationship boundaries, avoidant behavior, communication in relationships, emotional connection, healthy boundaries, conflict in marriage RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Join Be Connected and feel closer in your relationship: Learn more here Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 17 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 People talk about setting boundaries—but what if it’s actually avoidance? In this episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down the difference between real emotional boundaries and the kind that push your partner away. Understand the difference and how you can center yourself in creating healthy communication and a stronger connection in your relationship. Keywords: relationship boundaries, avoidant behavior, communication in relationships, emotional connection, healthy boundaries, conflict in marriage RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Join Be Connected and feel closer in your relationship: Learn more here Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices People talk about setting boundaries—but what if it’s actually avoidance?

In this episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down the difference between real emotional boundaries and the kind that push your partner away. Understand the difference and how you can center yourself in creating healthy communication and a stronger connection in your relationship.


Keywords: relationship boundaries, avoidant behavior, communication in relationships, emotional connection, healthy boundaries, conflict in marriage


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


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]]> 1614 Hot Takes, Hard Truths & the One Thing That Rekindles Desire + A special announcement you won’t want to miss In this three-parter, Dr. Tracy shares the real conversations happening in therapy and at home. Part 1: Is telling your child “You’re fine” gaslighting? Dr. Tracy unpacks this hot take and why parenting needs more nuance—not more guilt. Part 2: A listener asks if her husband should confront his mother for trash-talking them on social media. Dr. Tracy explores boundaries, control, and what to do when estrangement gets messy. Plus, her new book cover is finally revealed—preorders are live. Part 3: A powerful insight from a couple navigating intimacy struggles—and the one shift that helped desire return. For anyone parenting, partnering, or navigating complex in-law dynamics, this episode brings honest reflection, expert guidance, and one exciting announcement. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Pre-order You, Your Husband, and His Mother Now!! Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler Gaslighting and Manipulation with Dr. Morgan Anderson RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 10 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this three-parter, Dr. Tracy shares the real conversations happening in therapy and at home. Part 1: Is telling your child “You’re fine” gaslighting? Dr. Tracy unpacks this hot take and why parenting needs more nuance—not more guilt. Part 2: A listener asks if her husband should confront his mother for trash-talking them on social media. Dr. Tracy explores boundaries, control, and what to do when estrangement gets messy. Plus, her new book cover is finally revealed—preorders are live. Part 3: A powerful insight from a couple navigating intimacy struggles—and the one shift that helped desire return. For anyone parenting, partnering, or navigating complex in-law dynamics, this episode brings honest reflection, expert guidance, and one exciting announcement. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Pre-order You, Your Husband, and His Mother Now!! Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler Gaslighting and Manipulation with Dr. Morgan Anderson RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this three-parter, Dr. Tracy shares the real conversations happening in therapy and at home.

Part 1: Is telling your child “You’re fine” gaslighting? Dr. Tracy unpacks this hot take and why parenting needs more nuance—not more guilt.

Part 2: A listener asks if her husband should confront his mother for trash-talking them on social media. Dr. Tracy explores boundaries, control, and what to do when estrangement gets messy. Plus, her new book cover is finally revealed—preorders are live.

Part 3: A powerful insight from a couple navigating intimacy struggles—and the one shift that helped desire return.

For anyone parenting, partnering, or navigating complex in-law dynamics, this episode brings honest reflection, expert guidance, and one exciting announcement.


This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self.


MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Pre-order You, Your Husband, and His Mother Now!!

Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler

Gaslighting and Manipulation with Dr. Morgan Anderson


RESOURCES:

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


LINKS:

Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY

⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY

⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com

Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY

AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com

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]]> 1910 Why You're Always Explaining Yourself (And What It’s Really About) Why do we over-explain, justify, or get defensive—especially in our closest relationships? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the deeper reasons behind the urge to explain yourself, even when it doesn’t bring clarity or connection. Drawing from her work with clients, Dr. Tracy unpacks how childhood wounds, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection often drive our need to be understood or seen as "right." You’ll learn why this pattern is so common in romantic relationships, how it shows up as defensiveness or justification, and what to do instead to create emotional safety and deeper connection. This episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to shift out of old patterns and into relational healing. RESOURCES Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: OneSkin: Use code TRACY to say 15% off Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 03 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Why do we over-explain, justify, or get defensive—especially in our closest relationships? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the deeper reasons behind the urge to explain yourself, even when it doesn’t bring clarity or connection. Drawing from her work with clients, Dr. Tracy unpacks how childhood wounds, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection often drive our need to be understood or seen as "right." You’ll learn why this pattern is so common in romantic relationships, how it shows up as defensiveness or justification, and what to do instead to create emotional safety and deeper connection. This episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to shift out of old patterns and into relational healing. RESOURCES Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: OneSkin: Use code TRACY to say 15% off Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Why do we over-explain, justify, or get defensive—especially in our closest relationships? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the deeper reasons behind the urge to explain yourself, even when it doesn’t bring clarity or connection.


Drawing from her work with clients, Dr. Tracy unpacks how childhood wounds, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection often drive our need to be understood or seen as "right."


You’ll learn why this pattern is so common in romantic relationships, how it shows up as defensiveness or justification, and what to do instead to create emotional safety and deeper connection.


This episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to shift out of old patterns and into relational healing.


RESOURCES

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


LINKS:

OneSkin: Use code TRACY to say 15% off

Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit

Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY

AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com

GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY

⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/

ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1634 Vulnerability, Vacation, and the Mental Load Planning a summer vacation should bring connection—not conflict. But for many couples, time away becomes a pressure cooker for everything they haven’t talked about: the unequal mental load, unspoken expectations, and simmering resentment. In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, is joined by her husband Greg to unpack how to prepare your relationship for vacation. Together, they dive into the emotional and logistical stress of the mental load, how to divide responsibilities fairly, and the importance of communicating needs and boundaries before you hit the road. Plus, they share a powerful DM from a community member—a husband learning how to sit with vulnerability and navigate the discomfort of disappointing his partner. It’s an honest look at what it means to grow in a relationship, and how emotional intimacy is built not in big moments, but in the small, everyday repairs. Whether you’re planning a family vacation, dealing with in-laws on your summer trip, or trying to reduce resentment in your marriage, this episode gives you practical strategies to feel more connected—not just on vacation, but long after you return home. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 26 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Planning a summer vacation should bring connection—not conflict. But for many couples, time away becomes a pressure cooker for everything they haven’t talked about: the unequal mental load, unspoken expectations, and simmering resentment. In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, is joined by her husband Greg to unpack how to prepare your relationship for vacation. Together, they dive into the emotional and logistical stress of the mental load, how to divide responsibilities fairly, and the importance of communicating needs and boundaries before you hit the road. Plus, they share a powerful DM from a community member—a husband learning how to sit with vulnerability and navigate the discomfort of disappointing his partner. It’s an honest look at what it means to grow in a relationship, and how emotional intimacy is built not in big moments, but in the small, everyday repairs. Whether you’re planning a family vacation, dealing with in-laws on your summer trip, or trying to reduce resentment in your marriage, this episode gives you practical strategies to feel more connected—not just on vacation, but long after you return home. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Planning a summer vacation should bring connection—not conflict. But for many couples, time away becomes a pressure cooker for everything they haven’t talked about: the unequal mental load, unspoken expectations, and simmering resentment.


In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, is joined by her husband Greg to unpack how to prepare your relationship for vacation. Together, they dive into the emotional and logistical stress of the mental load, how to divide responsibilities fairly, and the importance of communicating needs and boundaries before you hit the road.


Plus, they share a powerful DM from a community member—a husband learning how to sit with vulnerability and navigate the discomfort of disappointing his partner. It’s an honest look at what it means to grow in a relationship, and how emotional intimacy is built not in big moments, but in the small, everyday repairs.


Whether you’re planning a family vacation, dealing with in-laws on your summer trip, or trying to reduce resentment in your marriage, this episode gives you practical strategies to feel more connected—not just on vacation, but long after you return home.


RESOURCES:

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


LINKS:

⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com

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]]> 3180 Why Can’t I Change, Even When I Know What’s Wrong? In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores a common but painful experience in relationships: knowing what your partner needs, wanting to show up differently, and still defaulting to old, self-protective patterns. If you’ve ever said, “I love my partner, but I keep shutting down,” or “I know I’m hurting them, but I don’t know how to stop,” this episode is for you.Dr. Tracy shares a relatable story from her own marriage, explains how nervous system responses and attachment styles like avoidant and anxious-avoidant can override our intentions, and helps you understand why awareness isn’t always enough to create change. In this episode, you’ll learn:- Why you might choose safety over connection in moments that matter- How avoidant and anxious attachment styles influence relationship behavior- What it means to act from a coping mechanism that no longer fits- How to move from autopilot to conscious connection- Five practical steps to begin shifting your patterns today- Why emotional regulation, repair, and self-compassion are key to long-term change Whether you're in the roommate phase, stuck in emotional disconnection, or trying to be more present in your relationship, this episode offers honest insights and real tools for growth. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Join my relationship program, Be Connected, and feel more like a team and close again. Learn more here Podcast Episode: Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship. Listen here Identify the stories you tell yourself in your relationship. Download here RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 19 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores a common but painful experience in relationships: knowing what your partner needs, wanting to show up differently, and still defaulting to old, self-protective patterns. If you’ve ever said, “I love my partner, but I keep shutting down,” or “I know I’m hurting them, but I don’t know how to stop,” this episode is for you.Dr. Tracy shares a relatable story from her own marriage, explains how nervous system responses and attachment styles like avoidant and anxious-avoidant can override our intentions, and helps you understand why awareness isn’t always enough to create change. In this episode, you’ll learn:- Why you might choose safety over connection in moments that matter- How avoidant and anxious attachment styles influence relationship behavior- What it means to act from a coping mechanism that no longer fits- How to move from autopilot to conscious connection- Five practical steps to begin shifting your patterns today- Why emotional regulation, repair, and self-compassion are key to long-term change Whether you're in the roommate phase, stuck in emotional disconnection, or trying to be more present in your relationship, this episode offers honest insights and real tools for growth. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Join my relationship program, Be Connected, and feel more like a team and close again. Learn more here Podcast Episode: Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship. Listen here Identify the stories you tell yourself in your relationship. Download here RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores a common but painful experience in relationships: knowing what your partner needs, wanting to show up differently, and still defaulting to old, self-protective patterns.


If you’ve ever said, “I love my partner, but I keep shutting down,” or “I know I’m hurting them, but I don’t know how to stop,” this episode is for you.
Dr. Tracy shares a relatable story from her own marriage, explains how nervous system responses and attachment styles like avoidant and anxious-avoidant can override our intentions, and helps you understand why awareness isn’t always enough to create change.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why you might choose safety over connection in moments that matter
- How avoidant and anxious attachment styles influence relationship behavior
- What it means to act from a coping mechanism that no longer fits
- How to move from autopilot to conscious connection
- Five practical steps to begin shifting your patterns today
- Why emotional regulation, repair, and self-compassion are key to long-term change

Whether you're in the roommate phase, stuck in emotional disconnection, or trying to be more present in your relationship, this episode offers honest insights and real tools for growth.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Join my relationship program, Be Connected, and feel more like a team and close again. Learn more here

Podcast Episode: Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship. Listen here

Identify the stories you tell yourself in your relationship. Download here


RESOURCES:

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


LINKS:

⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com

Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY

AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com

GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY

⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/

ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠


Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2881 Parenting Through Discomfort: Speaking up for our kids In this solo episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about standing up for her child, navigating hard conversations with other parents, and teaching children how to build trust in friendships. She explores what it means to act on your values, model courage, and help kids make sense of complex social situations. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 12 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this solo episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about standing up for her child, navigating hard conversations with other parents, and teaching children how to build trust in friendships. She explores what it means to act on your values, model courage, and help kids make sense of complex social situations. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this solo episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about standing up for her child, navigating hard conversations with other parents, and teaching children how to build trust in friendships. She explores what it means to act on your values, model courage, and help kids make sense of complex social situations.


RESOURCES:

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


LINKS:

⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com

Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY

AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com

GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY

⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/

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]]> 1626 Gaslighting, Manipulation & Mislabeled Pain: Reclaiming Nuance in Relationships with Dr. Morgan Anderson Part 2 What if the words you're using are keeping you stuck? In part two of this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan explore how to step out of pathologizing language and into deeper emotional responsibility. You’ll walk away with practical tools to create healthier dialogue, rebuild safety, and connect more meaningfully with your partner. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% with code TRACY at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 08 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 What if the words you're using are keeping you stuck? In part two of this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan explore how to step out of pathologizing language and into deeper emotional responsibility. You’ll walk away with practical tools to create healthier dialogue, rebuild safety, and connect more meaningfully with your partner. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% with code TRACY at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices What if the words you're using are keeping you stuck?


In part two of this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan explore how to step out of pathologizing language and into deeper emotional responsibility.


You’ll walk away with practical tools to create healthier dialogue, rebuild safety, and connect more meaningfully with your partner.


Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/
Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching


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]]> 1789 Gaslighting, Manipulation & Mislabeled Pain: Reclaiming Nuance in Relationships with Dr. Morgan Anderson Part 1 Is your relationship being hurt by the words you’re using? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan, attachment theory expert and psychologist, unpack how terms like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and “manipulation” are often misused—and why that misuse is damaging our relationships. Tune in for an honest, expert-led conversation that challenges oversimplified narratives and brings back the nuance we desperately need. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 05 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Is your relationship being hurt by the words you’re using? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan, attachment theory expert and psychologist, unpack how terms like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and “manipulation” are often misused—and why that misuse is damaging our relationships. Tune in for an honest, expert-led conversation that challenges oversimplified narratives and brings back the nuance we desperately need. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Is your relationship being hurt by the words you’re using?


In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan, attachment theory expert and psychologist, unpack how terms like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and “manipulation” are often misused—and why that misuse is damaging our relationships. Tune in for an honest, expert-led conversation that challenges oversimplified narratives and brings back the nuance we desperately need.


Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/
Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching


RESOURCES:

Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here

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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


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]]> 2284 The Silent Drift: Why So Many Couples Feel Like Strangers In this episode, Dr. Tracy unpacks what The Four Seasons on Netflix gets right about long-term love. From emotional distance to growing apart, invisible labor to unspoken resentment, this isn’t just a show—it’s a mirror. And if you're feeling the quiet disconnection in your own relationship, this one's for you. RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠ Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 29 May 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy unpacks what The Four Seasons on Netflix gets right about long-term love. From emotional distance to growing apart, invisible labor to unspoken resentment, this isn’t just a show—it’s a mirror. And if you're feeling the quiet disconnection in your own relationship, this one's for you. RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠ Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy unpacks what The Four Seasons on Netflix gets right about long-term love. From emotional distance to growing apart, invisible labor to unspoken resentment, this isn’t just a show—it’s a mirror. And if you're feeling the quiet disconnection in your own relationship, this one's for you.


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Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


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]]> 2497 Resentment and the Micro Moments: The Mug Left Beside the Counter In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about a mug left beside the sink—and how something so small can symbolize something much bigger in a relationship. Sitting with her husband, Greg, they explore how resentment builds in everyday moments, especially during busy seasons like summer when couples often shift into "roommate mode." They talk about: How micro-moments can quietly erode connection Why summer often intensifies disconnection The importance of naming resentment before it explodes How to feel more like a team This episode is for anyone feeling unseen, emotionally overloaded, or stuck in the day-to-day. Spend the next ten days feeling connected. Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: OneSkin: Use code TRACY for 15% off at oneskin.co ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 22 May 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about a mug left beside the sink—and how something so small can symbolize something much bigger in a relationship. Sitting with her husband, Greg, they explore how resentment builds in everyday moments, especially during busy seasons like summer when couples often shift into "roommate mode." They talk about: How micro-moments can quietly erode connection Why summer often intensifies disconnection The importance of naming resentment before it explodes How to feel more like a team This episode is for anyone feeling unseen, emotionally overloaded, or stuck in the day-to-day. Spend the next ten days feeling connected. Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: OneSkin: Use code TRACY for 15% off at oneskin.co ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about a mug left beside the sink—and how something so small can symbolize something much bigger in a relationship. Sitting with her husband, Greg, they explore how resentment builds in everyday moments, especially during busy seasons like summer when couples often shift into "roommate mode."

They talk about:

  • How micro-moments can quietly erode connection

  • Why summer often intensifies disconnection

  • The importance of naming resentment before it explodes

  • How to feel more like a team

This episode is for anyone feeling unseen, emotionally overloaded, or stuck in the day-to-day.

Spend the next ten days feeling connected. Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠

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]]> 2324 Understand Your Inner Parts with Britt Frank In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with therapist and author Britt Frank to explore her new book Align Your Mind—a guide to understanding the inner conflicts that leave us feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or out of sync with ourselves. They talk about the power of "parts work"—the idea that we all carry different inner parts with competing needs and beliefs—and how learning to listen to these parts can transform our mental health, relationships, and self-trust. Listen in and discover:What “parts work” really meansHow misalignment shows up in everyday lifeBreaking the myth of needing to "fix" ourselvesOne simple step you can take today to feel more aligned Check out Britt Frank at https://www.brittfrank.com/align-your-mind RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 15 May 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with therapist and author Britt Frank to explore her new book Align Your Mind—a guide to understanding the inner conflicts that leave us feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or out of sync with ourselves. They talk about the power of "parts work"—the idea that we all carry different inner parts with competing needs and beliefs—and how learning to listen to these parts can transform our mental health, relationships, and self-trust. Listen in and discover:What “parts work” really meansHow misalignment shows up in everyday lifeBreaking the myth of needing to "fix" ourselvesOne simple step you can take today to feel more aligned Check out Britt Frank at https://www.brittfrank.com/align-your-mind RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with therapist and author Britt Frank to explore her new book Align Your Mind—a guide to understanding the inner conflicts that leave us feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or out of sync with ourselves. They talk about the power of "parts work"—the idea that we all carry different inner parts with competing needs and beliefs—and how learning to listen to these parts can transform our mental health, relationships, and self-trust.

Listen in and discover:
What “parts work” really means
How misalignment shows up in everyday life
Breaking the myth of needing to "fix" ourselves
One simple step you can take today to feel more aligned

Check out Britt Frank at https://www.brittfrank.com/align-your-mind

RESOURCES:

Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠


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]]> 2518 When a Bad Apology Isn't Enough We’ve all heard it: “I said I’m sorry, what more do you want?” In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many apologies miss the mark — and what you can do when you’re left feeling unseen, dismissed, or even more hurt after hearing “sorry.” Together, they explore why bad apologies happen (hint: it’s not always malicious), the emotional cost of apology fatigue, and the scripts you can use to move from surface-level repair to real reconnection. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of rupture, rushed apology, and no real change — this episode will show you a better way forward. Plus, don’t miss the free listener guide: Scripts to Move From Surface Apologies to Real Repair! Whether you're the one giving or receiving the apology, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered to repair with greater clarity, compassion, and connection. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 08 May 2025 04:00:00 -0000 full Cloud10 We’ve all heard it: “I said I’m sorry, what more do you want?” In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many apologies miss the mark — and what you can do when you’re left feeling unseen, dismissed, or even more hurt after hearing “sorry.” Together, they explore why bad apologies happen (hint: it’s not always malicious), the emotional cost of apology fatigue, and the scripts you can use to move from surface-level repair to real reconnection. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of rupture, rushed apology, and no real change — this episode will show you a better way forward. Plus, don’t miss the free listener guide: Scripts to Move From Surface Apologies to Real Repair! Whether you're the one giving or receiving the apology, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered to repair with greater clarity, compassion, and connection. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We’ve all heard it: “I said I’m sorry, what more do you want?”


In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many apologies miss the mark — and what you can do when you’re left feeling unseen, dismissed, or even more hurt after hearing “sorry.”

Together, they explore why bad apologies happen (hint: it’s not always malicious), the emotional cost of apology fatigue, and the scripts you can use to move from surface-level repair to real reconnection.

If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of rupture, rushed apology, and no real change — this episode will show you a better way forward.

Plus, don’t miss the free listener guide: Scripts to Move From Surface Apologies to Real Repair!

Whether you're the one giving or receiving the apology, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered to repair with greater clarity, compassion, and connection.


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

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]]> 2984 5 Small Shifts That Build Real Connection Emotional connection isn’t built by grand gestures—it’s created in the quiet, everyday moments between you and your partner. In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares 5 practical ways you can actually build connection with your partner, especially when things feel distant. Whether you’re stuck in the roommate phase or craving more closeness, these simple shifts can bring you back to each other—one intentional moment at a time. Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠. ⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 04 May 2025 04:05:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Emotional connection isn’t built by grand gestures—it’s created in the quiet, everyday moments between you and your partner. In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares 5 practical ways you can actually build connection with your partner, especially when things feel distant. Whether you’re stuck in the roommate phase or craving more closeness, these simple shifts can bring you back to each other—one intentional moment at a time. Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠. ⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Emotional connection isn’t built by grand gestures—it’s created in the quiet, everyday moments between you and your partner.

In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares 5 practical ways you can actually build connection with your partner, especially when things feel distant. Whether you’re stuck in the roommate phase or craving more closeness, these simple shifts can bring you back to each other—one intentional moment at a time.


Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠.

⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

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]]> 1131 Breaking the Myth of “Happy Wife, Happy Life” We’re breaking down the myth of “happy wife, happy life” and why it’s quietly harming relationships. Dr. Tracy and relationship coach Matthew Fray explore how focusing only on your partner’s happiness can lead to resentment, disconnection, and the slow breakdown of intimacy. Learn why sharing your inner world matters more, how to move past the defensive narrative, and creating intentionality in the art of noticing to creating healthy habits in your relationship. Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠. ⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 01 May 2025 04:05:00 -0000 full Cloud10 We’re breaking down the myth of “happy wife, happy life” and why it’s quietly harming relationships. Dr. Tracy and relationship coach Matthew Fray explore how focusing only on your partner’s happiness can lead to resentment, disconnection, and the slow breakdown of intimacy. Learn why sharing your inner world matters more, how to move past the defensive narrative, and creating intentionality in the art of noticing to creating healthy habits in your relationship. Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠. ⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We’re breaking down the myth of “happy wife, happy life” and why it’s quietly harming relationships.

Dr. Tracy and relationship coach Matthew Fray explore how focusing only on your partner’s happiness can lead to resentment, disconnection, and the slow breakdown of intimacy.

Learn why sharing your inner world matters more, how to move past the defensive narrative, and creating intentionality in the art of noticing to creating healthy habits in your relationship.

Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠.

⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠

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Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠    

Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠

Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠

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]]> 3147 What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Parenting (And What I’m Still Figuring Out) In this deeply personal solo episode, Dr. Tracy reflects on a decade of motherhood—and the ways parenting has reshaped her identity, her marriage, her boundaries, and her inner world. This episode isn’t a guidebook. It’s a truth-telling moment for anyone feeling lost, tired, or stretched too thin.  RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Branch Basics: Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 24 Apr 2025 04:02:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this deeply personal solo episode, Dr. Tracy reflects on a decade of motherhood—and the ways parenting has reshaped her identity, her marriage, her boundaries, and her inner world. This episode isn’t a guidebook. It’s a truth-telling moment for anyone feeling lost, tired, or stretched too thin.  RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Branch Basics: Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this deeply personal solo episode, Dr. Tracy reflects on a decade of motherhood—and the ways parenting has reshaped her identity, her marriage, her boundaries, and her inner world.


This episode isn’t a guidebook. It’s a truth-telling moment for anyone feeling lost, tired, or stretched too thin.




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Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here

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Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!


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]]> 1871 The Romance You Want Starts With These Questions with Lindsay Jill Roth on Love, Intimacy, and Practical Connection In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with author and producer Lindsay Jill Roth to talk about her new book, Romances and Practicalities—a love story woven together with 250 thoughtful questions designed to deepen connection and spark meaningful conversations between partners. Together, they explore the space where romance meets real life—how couples can navigate everyday responsibilities without losing the spark, and why asking better questions is the secret to building a lasting relationship. Lindsay shares what inspired the book, how her own experiences shaped it, and the surprising ways practicality can actually fuel intimacy. Whether you're dating, newly married, or decades in, this episode will inspire you to pause, reflect, and get curious with your partner. Learn more about Lindsay Jill Roth: https://lindsayjillroth.com/ Grab her book, Romances and Practicalities: https://lindsayjillroth.com/romances-amp-practicalities/ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 17 Apr 2025 04:10:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with author and producer Lindsay Jill Roth to talk about her new book, Romances and Practicalities—a love story woven together with 250 thoughtful questions designed to deepen connection and spark meaningful conversations between partners. Together, they explore the space where romance meets real life—how couples can navigate everyday responsibilities without losing the spark, and why asking better questions is the secret to building a lasting relationship. Lindsay shares what inspired the book, how her own experiences shaped it, and the surprising ways practicality can actually fuel intimacy. Whether you're dating, newly married, or decades in, this episode will inspire you to pause, reflect, and get curious with your partner. Learn more about Lindsay Jill Roth: https://lindsayjillroth.com/ Grab her book, Romances and Practicalities: https://lindsayjillroth.com/romances-amp-practicalities/ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with author and producer Lindsay Jill Roth to talk about her new book, Romances and Practicalities—a love story woven together with 250 thoughtful questions designed to deepen connection and spark meaningful conversations between partners.


Together, they explore the space where romance meets real life—how couples can navigate everyday responsibilities without losing the spark, and why asking better questions is the secret to building a lasting relationship. Lindsay shares what inspired the book, how her own experiences shaped it, and the surprising ways practicality can actually fuel intimacy.


Whether you're dating, newly married, or decades in, this episode will inspire you to pause, reflect, and get curious with your partner.


Learn more about Lindsay Jill Roth: https://lindsayjillroth.com/

Grab her book, Romances and Practicalities: https://lindsayjillroth.com/romances-amp-practicalities/


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Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here

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Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!


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]]> 2821 Stop Trying to Fix It! Why Your Partner Just Wants You to Listen Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, dive into one of the most common relationship traps: the urge to fix rather than connect. After a personal moment of miscommunication, they break down how well-intentioned problem-solving can actually push partners further apart instead of bringing them closer. Greg shares his instinct to fix problems quickly, while Dr. Tracy unpacks the deeper emotional needs that often go unmet when one partner jumps straight to solutions. Through relatable stories, vulnerable reflections, and real-life relationship tools, they explore why fixing is often a way to manage our own discomfort—and what to do instead. Click play to find out why fixing isn’t always helping—and what to do instead. And don’t forget to share this episode with the fixer in your life. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 10 Apr 2025 04:05:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, dive into one of the most common relationship traps: the urge to fix rather than connect. After a personal moment of miscommunication, they break down how well-intentioned problem-solving can actually push partners further apart instead of bringing them closer. Greg shares his instinct to fix problems quickly, while Dr. Tracy unpacks the deeper emotional needs that often go unmet when one partner jumps straight to solutions. Through relatable stories, vulnerable reflections, and real-life relationship tools, they explore why fixing is often a way to manage our own discomfort—and what to do instead. Click play to find out why fixing isn’t always helping—and what to do instead. And don’t forget to share this episode with the fixer in your life. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, dive into one of the most common relationship traps: the urge to fix rather than connect.


After a personal moment of miscommunication, they break down how well-intentioned problem-solving can actually push partners further apart instead of bringing them closer.


Greg shares his instinct to fix problems quickly, while Dr. Tracy unpacks the deeper emotional needs that often go unmet when one partner jumps straight to solutions. Through relatable stories, vulnerable reflections, and real-life relationship tools, they explore why fixing is often a way to manage our own discomfort—and what to do instead.


Click play to find out why fixing isn’t always helping—and what to do instead. And don’t forget to share this episode with the fixer in your life.


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Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!


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]]> 2878 Q&A: Is Divorce Contagious? The Hidden Impact of Watching Friends Split Up Answering your questions! In this bonus episode, Dr. Tracy answers a powerful listener question: “Is divorce contagious?” She explores how a friend’s separation can impact our own relationship, the research behind social contagion, and why moments like these often reflect unspoken needs or desires. Taking her 18 years of working with clients through all seasons of their relationship, Dr. Tracy reminds listeners that while divorce isn’t truly “catching,” it can be a mirror inviting us to pause and reconnect. If you’re feeling the distance in your relationship and looking to reconnect, join Dr. Tracy's More Than Roommates Challenge or try her 30 Days to Us. LINKS: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Episode Sponsors: Learn more about AQUATRU: Use promo code for 20% off TRACY Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 06 Apr 2025 04:10:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Answering your questions! In this bonus episode, Dr. Tracy answers a powerful listener question: “Is divorce contagious?” She explores how a friend’s separation can impact our own relationship, the research behind social contagion, and why moments like these often reflect unspoken needs or desires. Taking her 18 years of working with clients through all seasons of their relationship, Dr. Tracy reminds listeners that while divorce isn’t truly “catching,” it can be a mirror inviting us to pause and reconnect. If you’re feeling the distance in your relationship and looking to reconnect, join Dr. Tracy's More Than Roommates Challenge or try her 30 Days to Us. LINKS: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Episode Sponsors: Learn more about AQUATRU: Use promo code for 20% off TRACY Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Answering your questions!


In this bonus episode, Dr. Tracy answers a powerful listener question: “Is divorce contagious?” She explores how a friend’s separation can impact our own relationship, the research behind social contagion, and why moments like these often reflect unspoken needs or desires.


Taking her 18 years of working with clients through all seasons of their relationship, Dr. Tracy reminds listeners that while divorce isn’t truly “catching,” it can be a mirror inviting us to pause and reconnect.


If you’re feeling the distance in your relationship and looking to reconnect, join Dr. Tracy's More Than Roommates Challenge or try her 30 Days to Us.



LINKS:

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!   



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]]> 881 Is That Really You… or Your Inner Child? How to Recognize and Heal Emotional Triggers Have you ever reacted in a way that felt… bigger than the moment? Maybe your partner forgets to check in, and suddenly you feel unimportant or abandoned. Or you receive a small piece of feedback and spiral into shame. You might wonder, “Why am I like this?” In this episode, Dr. Tracy guides you through how to identify when your inner child is showing up—and how to begin healing those younger parts of you that still carry unmet needs and emotional wounds. This episode explores: What the inner child really is (and what it isn’t) The subtle signs your inner child is driving your reactions A personal story of when Dr. Tracy's own inner child took the wheel—and how she did the work The exact steps Dr. Tracy uses with clients to heal emotional triggers and reparent themselves with compassion Why understanding your inner child can transform not just your relationship with yourself, but with your partner and your loved ones If you’ve ever said, “I know better, but I still react this way,” this episode will help you move from self-blame to self-understanding—and offer you a clear path to healing. Press play now to begin the powerful process of reconnecting with your inner child in a way that’s healing, grounded, and life-giving. LINKS: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Episode Sponsors: Learn more about AQUATRU: https://aquatru.com Use promo code for 20% off TRACY Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 03 Apr 2025 04:05:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Have you ever reacted in a way that felt… bigger than the moment? Maybe your partner forgets to check in, and suddenly you feel unimportant or abandoned. Or you receive a small piece of feedback and spiral into shame. You might wonder, “Why am I like this?” In this episode, Dr. Tracy guides you through how to identify when your inner child is showing up—and how to begin healing those younger parts of you that still carry unmet needs and emotional wounds. This episode explores: What the inner child really is (and what it isn’t) The subtle signs your inner child is driving your reactions A personal story of when Dr. Tracy's own inner child took the wheel—and how she did the work The exact steps Dr. Tracy uses with clients to heal emotional triggers and reparent themselves with compassion Why understanding your inner child can transform not just your relationship with yourself, but with your partner and your loved ones If you’ve ever said, “I know better, but I still react this way,” this episode will help you move from self-blame to self-understanding—and offer you a clear path to healing. Press play now to begin the powerful process of reconnecting with your inner child in a way that’s healing, grounded, and life-giving. LINKS: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Episode Sponsors: Learn more about AQUATRU: https://aquatru.com Use promo code for 20% off TRACY Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever reacted in a way that felt… bigger than the moment? Maybe your partner forgets to check in, and suddenly you feel unimportant or abandoned. Or you receive a small piece of feedback and spiral into shame.


You might wonder, “Why am I like this?”


In this episode, Dr. Tracy guides you through how to identify when your inner child is showing up—and how to begin healing those younger parts of you that still carry unmet needs and emotional wounds.


This episode explores:


What the inner child really is (and what it isn’t)


The subtle signs your inner child is driving your reactions


A personal story of when Dr. Tracy's own inner child took the wheel—and how she did the work


The exact steps Dr. Tracy uses with clients to heal emotional triggers and reparent themselves with compassion


Why understanding your inner child can transform not just your relationship with yourself, but with your partner and your loved ones


If you’ve ever said, “I know better, but I still react this way,” this episode will help you move from self-blame to self-understanding—and offer you a clear path to healing.


Press play now to begin the powerful process of reconnecting with your inner child in a way that’s healing, grounded, and life-giving.


LINKS:

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!   



Episode Sponsors:

Learn more about AQUATRU: https://aquatru.com Use promo code for 20% off TRACY

Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy


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]]> 2316 Are You Really Sharing or Just Being Defensive? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, tackle a communication struggle that so many couples face—understanding why saying "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction" backfires. It’s a fine line, and crossing it can quickly turn a conversation into an argument. Dr. Tracy shares a personal experience that sparked this discussion, including a thought-provoking comment from one of her social media posts that made her pause and reflect: Was she explaining her perspective, or was she being defensive? From there, she and Greg break down how context, emotional intelligence, and tone shape our responses—and why so many of us misinterpret each other in the heat of the moment. They also explore: - The subtle (but crucial) difference between sharing vs. putting up a defensive wall. (e.g., when you say "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction") - How social media has blurred the lines of healthy communication by over-labeling behaviors. - Practical strategies to recognize and shift defensiveness in real-time. - The power of slowing down, validating emotions, and staying connected even in difficult conversations. This episode will leave you rethinking the way you respond to your partner—and help you approach communication with more clarity and intention. If you've ever struggled with feeling unheard, misunderstood, or frustrated in your relationship, this conversation is a must-listen. Hit play now and share this with someone who needs to hear it. LINKS: Join the popular More Than Roommates challenge and feel more connected in ten days Download my free Defensive Script Guide Join Acorns and start saving for your kids: https://acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 27 Mar 2025 04:05:00 -0000 full Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, tackle a communication struggle that so many couples face—understanding why saying "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction" backfires. It’s a fine line, and crossing it can quickly turn a conversation into an argument. Dr. Tracy shares a personal experience that sparked this discussion, including a thought-provoking comment from one of her social media posts that made her pause and reflect: Was she explaining her perspective, or was she being defensive? From there, she and Greg break down how context, emotional intelligence, and tone shape our responses—and why so many of us misinterpret each other in the heat of the moment. They also explore: - The subtle (but crucial) difference between sharing vs. putting up a defensive wall. (e.g., when you say "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction") - How social media has blurred the lines of healthy communication by over-labeling behaviors. - Practical strategies to recognize and shift defensiveness in real-time. - The power of slowing down, validating emotions, and staying connected even in difficult conversations. This episode will leave you rethinking the way you respond to your partner—and help you approach communication with more clarity and intention. If you've ever struggled with feeling unheard, misunderstood, or frustrated in your relationship, this conversation is a must-listen. Hit play now and share this with someone who needs to hear it. LINKS: Join the popular More Than Roommates challenge and feel more connected in ten days Download my free Defensive Script Guide Join Acorns and start saving for your kids: https://acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, tackle a communication struggle that so many couples face—understanding why saying "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction" backfires. It’s a fine line, and crossing it can quickly turn a conversation into an argument.


Dr. Tracy shares a personal experience that sparked this discussion, including a thought-provoking comment from one of her social media posts that made her pause and reflect: Was she explaining her perspective, or was she being defensive? From there, she and Greg break down how context, emotional intelligence, and tone shape our responses—and why so many of us misinterpret each other in the heat of the moment.


They also explore:


- The subtle (but crucial) difference between sharing vs. putting up a defensive wall. (e.g., when you say "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction")

- How social media has blurred the lines of healthy communication by over-labeling behaviors.

- Practical strategies to recognize and shift defensiveness in real-time.

- The power of slowing down, validating emotions, and staying connected even in difficult conversations.


This episode will leave you rethinking the way you respond to your partner—and help you approach communication with more clarity and intention. If you've ever struggled with feeling unheard, misunderstood, or frustrated in your relationship, this conversation is a must-listen.


Hit play now and share this with someone who needs to hear it.


LINKS:


Join the popular More Than Roommates challenge and feel more connected in ten days

Download my free Defensive Script Guide


Join Acorns and start saving for your kids: https://acornsearly.com/tracy



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]]> 2178 Why Asking for Romance Feels So Hard (And How to Fix It) Have you ever felt lonely in your own relationship... longing for romance but afraid to ask for it? You’re not alone. So many of us crave connection, but the fear of rejection, disappointment, or even feeling like a burden keeps us silent. In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg dive deep into the emotional weight of longing for more while holding back our true desires. They unpack why asking for romance can feel so vulnerable, how past experiences shape our fears, and the subtle ways resentment builds when needs go unmet. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the steps you can take to break free from this cycle. This episode offers simple, actionable shifts to express your needs without guilt or fear. Because you deserve love, effort, and connection in your relationship. Ready to create more romance in your relationship? Join my popular 10-Day More Than Roommates challenge! Created for the busiest couple, each day you'll receive three exercises to help you feel close and more connected. I won't tell you to kiss your partner, but by the end of the challenge, you'll want to kiss your partner. LINKS: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 Mar 2025 04:10:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Have you ever felt lonely in your own relationship... longing for romance but afraid to ask for it? You’re not alone. So many of us crave connection, but the fear of rejection, disappointment, or even feeling like a burden keeps us silent. In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg dive deep into the emotional weight of longing for more while holding back our true desires. They unpack why asking for romance can feel so vulnerable, how past experiences shape our fears, and the subtle ways resentment builds when needs go unmet. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the steps you can take to break free from this cycle. This episode offers simple, actionable shifts to express your needs without guilt or fear. Because you deserve love, effort, and connection in your relationship. Ready to create more romance in your relationship? Join my popular 10-Day More Than Roommates challenge! Created for the busiest couple, each day you'll receive three exercises to help you feel close and more connected. I won't tell you to kiss your partner, but by the end of the challenge, you'll want to kiss your partner. LINKS: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever felt lonely in your own relationship... longing for romance but afraid to ask for it?


You’re not alone.


So many of us crave connection, but the fear of rejection, disappointment, or even feeling like a burden keeps us silent.


In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg dive deep into the emotional weight of longing for more while holding back our true desires. They unpack why asking for romance can feel so vulnerable, how past experiences shape our fears, and the subtle ways resentment builds when needs go unmet.


Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the steps you can take to break free from this cycle.


This episode offers simple, actionable shifts to express your needs without guilt or fear.


Because you deserve love, effort, and connection in your relationship.


Ready to create more romance in your relationship? Join my popular 10-Day More Than Roommates challenge! Created for the busiest couple, each day you'll receive three exercises to help you feel close and more connected. I won't tell you to kiss your partner, but by the end of the challenge, you'll want to kiss your partner.



LINKS:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!   


Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices


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]]> 3983 Are You Really ‘Unhealed’… or Is It Just Your Nervous System? A Polyvagal Perspective on Triggers Have you ever been told that if something still triggers you, it means you haven’t healed? This idea oversimplifies trauma, healing, and how the nervous system actually works. In this episode, Dr. Tracy is breaking down why triggers aren’t just signs of unresolved wounds but natural responses from your nervous system—and why healing isn’t about never being triggered, but about recovering faster. We’ll explore: What Polyvagal Theory teaches us about triggers and emotional reactions How your vagal brake helps regulate stress—and what happens when it’s weak Why some triggers come from systemic or relational harm, not just personal trauma What resilience really means for the nervous system Through real client stories and my own experiences, you’ll learn how to stop blaming yourself for your reactions and start working with your nervous system, not against it. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by triggers or questioned whether you’re “healed enough,” this episode will give you the insight and tools to navigate emotional responses with more self-awareness, compassion, and resilience. Press play to learn how to reframe your triggers, regulate your nervous system, and move through life with greater ease. Links: To grab the books and resources I mention in today's episode: Books mentioned in this episode For Therapists and Coaches Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Challenge the stories you tell yourself: Download my free guide! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Mar 2025 04:10:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Have you ever been told that if something still triggers you, it means you haven’t healed? This idea oversimplifies trauma, healing, and how the nervous system actually works. In this episode, Dr. Tracy is breaking down why triggers aren’t just signs of unresolved wounds but natural responses from your nervous system—and why healing isn’t about never being triggered, but about recovering faster. We’ll explore: What Polyvagal Theory teaches us about triggers and emotional reactions How your vagal brake helps regulate stress—and what happens when it’s weak Why some triggers come from systemic or relational harm, not just personal trauma What resilience really means for the nervous system Through real client stories and my own experiences, you’ll learn how to stop blaming yourself for your reactions and start working with your nervous system, not against it. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by triggers or questioned whether you’re “healed enough,” this episode will give you the insight and tools to navigate emotional responses with more self-awareness, compassion, and resilience. Press play to learn how to reframe your triggers, regulate your nervous system, and move through life with greater ease. Links: To grab the books and resources I mention in today's episode: Books mentioned in this episode For Therapists and Coaches Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Challenge the stories you tell yourself: Download my free guide! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever been told that if something still triggers you, it means you haven’t healed? This idea oversimplifies trauma, healing, and how the nervous system actually works.


In this episode, Dr. Tracy is breaking down why triggers aren’t just signs of unresolved wounds but natural responses from your nervous system—and why healing isn’t about never being triggered, but about recovering faster.


We’ll explore:

What Polyvagal Theory teaches us about triggers and emotional reactions

How your vagal brake helps regulate stress—and what happens when it’s weak

Why some triggers come from systemic or relational harm, not just personal trauma

What resilience really means for the nervous system


Through real client stories and my own experiences, you’ll learn how to stop blaming yourself for your reactions and start working with your nervous system, not against it.


If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by triggers or questioned whether you’re “healed enough,” this episode will give you the insight and tools to navigate emotional responses with more self-awareness, compassion, and resilience.


Press play to learn how to reframe your triggers, regulate your nervous system, and move through life with greater ease.


Links:

To grab the books and resources I mention in today's episode:

Books mentioned in this episode

For Therapists and Coaches


Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   

Challenge the stories you tell yourself: Download my free guide!


Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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]]> 2526 Why You Don't Want to Win Your Next Conversation - with Jefferson Fisher Most people approach arguments with one goal in mind: winning. But what if winning an argument actually means losing something far more important—connection? In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and viral communication expert, to explore why people approach conflict the wrong way. Jefferson shares practical strategies that will help you stay in control, reduce defensiveness, and shift from a "you vs. me" mindset to an "us vs. the problem" approach. In this episode, they discuss: Why winning an argument often damages the relationship A simple phrase that instantly de-escalates conflict How to say difficult things without fear or avoidance A key mindset shift that transforms the way couples communicate For anyone who has felt frustrated by recurring fights or struggles to be heard in their relationship, this episode offers game-changing insights. Communication doesn’t have to feel like a battle—learn how to argue better, not harder. Grab Jefferson Fisher's New Book "The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk more" Follow Jefferson Fisher on Instagram Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 06 Mar 2025 05:10:00 -0000 full Cloud10 Most people approach arguments with one goal in mind: winning. But what if winning an argument actually means losing something far more important—connection? In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and viral communication expert, to explore why people approach conflict the wrong way. Jefferson shares practical strategies that will help you stay in control, reduce defensiveness, and shift from a "you vs. me" mindset to an "us vs. the problem" approach. In this episode, they discuss: Why winning an argument often damages the relationship A simple phrase that instantly de-escalates conflict How to say difficult things without fear or avoidance A key mindset shift that transforms the way couples communicate For anyone who has felt frustrated by recurring fights or struggles to be heard in their relationship, this episode offers game-changing insights. Communication doesn’t have to feel like a battle—learn how to argue better, not harder. Grab Jefferson Fisher's New Book "The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk more" Follow Jefferson Fisher on Instagram Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Most people approach arguments with one goal in mind: winning. But what if winning an argument actually means losing something far more important—connection?


In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and viral communication expert, to explore why people approach conflict the wrong way. Jefferson shares practical strategies that will help you stay in control, reduce defensiveness, and shift from a "you vs. me" mindset to an "us vs. the problem" approach.


In this episode, they discuss:


Why winning an argument often damages the relationship

A simple phrase that instantly de-escalates conflict

How to say difficult things without fear or avoidance

A key mindset shift that transforms the way couples communicate


For anyone who has felt frustrated by recurring fights or struggles to be heard in their relationship, this episode offers game-changing insights. Communication doesn’t have to feel like a battle—learn how to argue better, not harder.


Grab Jefferson Fisher's New Book "The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk more"

Follow Jefferson Fisher on Instagram



Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices


Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2650 After The Honeymoon Stage: What Your Relationship Needs Now The butterflies have faded, the sparks feel dim, and now… it’s like you’re just coexisting. You love each other, but your relationship feels more like roommates than romantic partners. Sound familiar? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into what really happens after the honeymoon stage—why passion shifts, why connection starts to feel harder, and why so many couples struggle with feeling distant as life gets busier. If you’ve ever thought: Why doesn’t it feel the same anymore? Are we falling out of love, or is this normal? How do we get back what we had? This episode is for you. You’ll learn: ✔️ The biggest misconceptions about love after the honeymoon stage. ✔️ Why feeling like “roommates” doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human. ✔️ Practical ways to bring back connection, even when life feels overwhelming. If you’ve been craving more intimacy, laughter, and closeness in your relationship, hit play now. Podcast Episodes Mentioned: From Escalation to Calm Stop Sidestepping Conflict Links: Free Guide: Change Your Stories, Change Your Relationship 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection 30 Days to Us - All New Connection Challenge More Than Roommates Challenge Relationship Repair Program Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 27 Feb 2025 05:10:00 -0000 full Cloud10 The butterflies have faded, the sparks feel dim, and now… it’s like you’re just coexisting. You love each other, but your relationship feels more like roommates than romantic partners. Sound familiar? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into what really happens after the honeymoon stage—why passion shifts, why connection starts to feel harder, and why so many couples struggle with feeling distant as life gets busier. If you’ve ever thought: Why doesn’t it feel the same anymore? Are we falling out of love, or is this normal? How do we get back what we had? This episode is for you. You’ll learn: ✔️ The biggest misconceptions about love after the honeymoon stage. ✔️ Why feeling like “roommates” doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human. ✔️ Practical ways to bring back connection, even when life feels overwhelming. If you’ve been craving more intimacy, laughter, and closeness in your relationship, hit play now. Podcast Episodes Mentioned: From Escalation to Calm Stop Sidestepping Conflict Links: Free Guide: Change Your Stories, Change Your Relationship 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection 30 Days to Us - All New Connection Challenge More Than Roommates Challenge Relationship Repair Program Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices The butterflies have faded, the sparks feel dim, and now… it’s like you’re just coexisting. You love each other, but your relationship feels more like roommates than romantic partners. Sound familiar?


In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into what really happens after the honeymoon stage—why passion shifts, why connection starts to feel harder, and why so many couples struggle with feeling distant as life gets busier.


If you’ve ever thought:

Why doesn’t it feel the same anymore?

Are we falling out of love, or is this normal?

How do we get back what we had?


This episode is for you. You’ll learn:

✔️ The biggest misconceptions about love after the honeymoon stage.

✔️ Why feeling like “roommates” doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human.

✔️ Practical ways to bring back connection, even when life feels overwhelming.


If you’ve been craving more intimacy, laughter, and closeness in your relationship, hit play now.


Podcast Episodes Mentioned:

From Escalation to Calm

Stop Sidestepping Conflict


Links:

Free Guide: Change Your Stories, Change Your Relationship

100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection

30 Days to Us - All New Connection Challenge

More Than Roommates Challenge

Relationship Repair Program

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2442 The “I Guess I’ll Never…” Trap – Breaking Free from All-or-Nothing Thinking What do you do when a partner replies with “Well, I guess I’ll just never … again” after you share something with them? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her co-host Greg answer this question and talk about how to respond to a partner’s "all or nothing" statement in response to a concern raised. Dr. Tracy talks about the underlying emotion in this expression, provides strategies for having a constructive conversation in that situation, and how to break out of this tricky cycle that stops couples from feeling close and connected. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! https://drtracyd.com/connect Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here! https://drtracyd.com/podcast You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! https://drtracyd.com/book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0000 full 6 3 Cloud10 What do you do when a partner replies with “Well, I guess I’ll just never … again” after you share something with them? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her co-host Greg answer this question and talk about how to respond to a partner’s "all or nothing" statement in response to a concern raised. Dr. Tracy talks about the underlying emotion in this expression, provides strategies for having a constructive conversation in that situation, and how to break out of this tricky cycle that stops couples from feeling close and connected. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! https://drtracyd.com/connect Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here! https://drtracyd.com/podcast You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! https://drtracyd.com/book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices What do you do when a partner replies with “Well, I guess I’ll just never … again” after you share something with them?


In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her co-host Greg answer this question and talk about how to respond to a partner’s "all or nothing" statement in response to a concern raised. Dr. Tracy talks about the underlying emotion in this expression, provides strategies for having a constructive conversation in that situation, and how to break out of this tricky cycle that stops couples from feeling close and connected.


Links:


Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!

https://drtracyd.com/connect

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!

https://drtracyd.com/podcast


You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!

https://drtracyd.com/book

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1117 Why I Had to Change, My Next Big Project, and the F-er Cake—Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy! It’s here! Season 6 of the podcast is launching with a brand-new name: Dear Dr. Tracy! In this episode, Dr. Tracy’s pulling back the curtain on why she made this change, what it means for the future of the show, and how she’s stepping outside her comfort zone to bring you even deeper, more real conversations about relationships, resentment, intimacy, and all the messy in-between moments. Dr. Tracy discusses why the name change, how you can be part of the show, what’s been going on behind the scenes, a parenting moment she didn’t sign up for (and why she got a cake for it), and what’s coming this season.  Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Feb 2025 05:30:00 -0000 full 6 1 Cloud10 It’s here! Season 6 of the podcast is launching with a brand-new name: Dear Dr. Tracy! In this episode, Dr. Tracy’s pulling back the curtain on why she made this change, what it means for the future of the show, and how she’s stepping outside her comfort zone to bring you even deeper, more real conversations about relationships, resentment, intimacy, and all the messy in-between moments. Dr. Tracy discusses why the name change, how you can be part of the show, what’s been going on behind the scenes, a parenting moment she didn’t sign up for (and why she got a cake for it), and what’s coming this season.  Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices It’s here! Season 6 of the podcast is launching with a brand-new name: Dear Dr. Tracy! In this episode, Dr. Tracy’s pulling back the curtain on why she made this change, what it means for the future of the show, and how she’s stepping outside her comfort zone to bring you even deeper, more real conversations about relationships, resentment, intimacy, and all the messy in-between moments.


Dr. Tracy discusses why the name change, how you can be part of the show, what’s been going on behind the scenes, a parenting moment she didn’t sign up for (and why she got a cake for it), and what’s coming this season. 


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   

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]]> 1165 yes Stop Sidestepping Conflict: How to Embrace Disagreements and Grow Stronger Together Have you ever felt the urge to bite your tongue when something’s bothering you—just to keep the peace? Would you describe yourself as a conflict avoider? Or maybe your partner is a conflict avoider. In this episode, we dive into the real reasons behind conflict avoidance, uncovering how silent resentments can take a toll on your mental well-being and your bond with your partner. We’ll explore why we often dodge difficult conversations, the long-term impact on both individuals and couples, and share practical steps to move from avoidance to constructive communication. Whether you’re struggling with unspoken irritations or seeking a healthier way to handle everyday disagreements, this conversation will help you and your partner break the cycle of conflict avoidance. Tune in as we discuss how small (but powerful) shifts can lead to deeper emotional connection and relationship growth. Don’t miss out on these essential insights to transform conflict into a powerful tool for building trust, respect, and closeness. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Feb 2025 05:30:00 -0000 full 6 2 Cloud10 Have you ever felt the urge to bite your tongue when something’s bothering you—just to keep the peace? Would you describe yourself as a conflict avoider? Or maybe your partner is a conflict avoider. In this episode, we dive into the real reasons behind conflict avoidance, uncovering how silent resentments can take a toll on your mental well-being and your bond with your partner. We’ll explore why we often dodge difficult conversations, the long-term impact on both individuals and couples, and share practical steps to move from avoidance to constructive communication. Whether you’re struggling with unspoken irritations or seeking a healthier way to handle everyday disagreements, this conversation will help you and your partner break the cycle of conflict avoidance. Tune in as we discuss how small (but powerful) shifts can lead to deeper emotional connection and relationship growth. Don’t miss out on these essential insights to transform conflict into a powerful tool for building trust, respect, and closeness. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever felt the urge to bite your tongue when something’s bothering you—just to keep the peace? Would you describe yourself as a conflict avoider? Or maybe your partner is a conflict avoider.


In this episode, we dive into the real reasons behind conflict avoidance, uncovering how silent resentments can take a toll on your mental well-being and your bond with your partner. We’ll explore why we often dodge difficult conversations, the long-term impact on both individuals and couples, and share practical steps to move from avoidance to constructive communication.


Whether you’re struggling with unspoken irritations or seeking a healthier way to handle everyday disagreements, this conversation will help you and your partner break the cycle of conflict avoidance. Tune in as we discuss how small (but powerful) shifts can lead to deeper emotional connection and relationship growth. Don’t miss out on these essential insights to transform conflict into a powerful tool for building trust, respect, and closeness.


Links:

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Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

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]]> 3119 yes How to Get Your Partner to Go to Therapy In the season finale of the podcast, Dr. Tracy tackles one of her most frequently asked questions: "How do I get my partner to go to therapy?" But first, she has a special announcement to share: she's writing her second book! Dr. Tracy then dives into the importance of starting therapy early in a relationship to build trust, enhance communication, and address issues before they become critical. She discusses the challenges many couples face, especially when one partner is hesitant, often due to stigma or fear of blame. She shares strategies for encouraging a reluctant partner, including empathetic communication, understanding their concerns, and approaching the conversation with care. The episode also explores the benefits of therapy, such as identifying and changing negative cycles, fostering personal growth, and deepening emotional connection. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be patient, respect their partner's pace, and consider therapy as a tool to strengthen and sustain their relationship.  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 15 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 How to Get Your Partner to Go to Therapy full 5 33 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy tackles one of her most frequently asked questions: "How do I get my partner to go to therapy?" But first, she has a special announcement to share: she's writing her second book! Dr. Tracy then dives into the importance of starting therapy early in a relationship to build trust, enhance communication, and address issues before they become critical. She discusses the challenges many couples face, especially when one partner is hesitant, often due to stigma or fear of blame. She shares strategies for encouraging a reluctant partner, including empathetic communication, understanding their concerns, and approaching the conversation with care. The episode also explores the benefits of therapy, such as identifying and changing negative cycles, fostering personal growth, and deepening emotional connection. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be patient, respect their partner's pace, and consider therapy as a tool to strengthen and sustain their relationship. In the season finale of the podcast, Dr. Tracy tackles one of her most frequently asked questions: "How do I get my partner to go to therapy?" But first, she has a special announcement to share: she's writing her second book! Dr. Tracy then dives into the importance of starting therapy early in a relationship to build trust, enhance communication, and address issues before they become critical. She discusses the challenges many couples face, especially when one partner is hesitant, often due to stigma or fear of blame. She shares strategies for encouraging a reluctant partner, including empathetic communication, understanding their concerns, and approaching the conversation with care. The episode also explores the benefits of therapy, such as identifying and changing negative cycles, fostering personal growth, and deepening emotional connection. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be patient, respect their partner's pace, and consider therapy as a tool to strengthen and sustain their relationship.  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In the season finale of the podcast, Dr. Tracy tackles one of her most frequently asked questions: "How do I get my partner to go to therapy?" But first, she has a special announcement to share: she's writing her second book! Dr. Tracy then dives into the importance of starting therapy early in a relationship to build trust, enhance communication, and address issues before they become critical. She discusses the challenges many couples face, especially when one partner is hesitant, often due to stigma or fear of blame. She shares strategies for encouraging a reluctant partner, including empathetic communication, understanding their concerns, and approaching the conversation with care. The episode also explores the benefits of therapy, such as identifying and changing negative cycles, fostering personal growth, and deepening emotional connection. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be patient, respect their partner's pace, and consider therapy as a tool to strengthen and sustain their relationship. 


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]]> 2266 Fostering Secure Attachment, Connection, Repair with Our Kids & Beyond with Eli Harwood In today's episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Eli Harwood, a licensed therapist, author, and creator of the "Attachment Nerd" online community. Eli shares her personal journey of overcoming inherited attachment trauma, emphasizing the importance of breaking intergenerational cycles. Together, Dr. Tracy and Eli explore the pressures of parenting, emphasizing the value of attunement, co-regulation, and being present with children during painful moments rather than trying to eliminate their pain. Eli also introduces her new book, "Raising Securely Attached Kids," which offers insights and practical advice for parents. Key takeaways from this conversation include the importance of repair over perfection in relationships, the necessity of connection in parenting, and understanding that parenting is challenging because it requires confronting our own vulnerabilities. The episode highlights that fostering connection through vulnerability and repair is what truly strengthens relationships.  Be sure to keep up with Eli on Instagram @attachmentnerd and pre-order her new book here! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 08 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Fostering Secure Attachment, Connection, Repair with Our Kids & Beyond with Eli Harwood full 5 32 Cloud10 Eli shares her personal journey of overcoming inherited attachment trauma, emphasizing the importance of breaking intergenerational cycles. Together, Dr. Tracy and Eli explore the pressures of parenting, emphasizing the value of attunement, co-regulation, and being present with children during painful moments rather than trying to eliminate their pain. Eli also introduces her new book, "Raising Securely Attached Kids," which offers insights and practical advice for parents. Key takeaways from this conversation include the importance of repair over perfection in relationships, the necessity of connection in parenting, and understanding that parenting is challenging because it requires confronting our own vulnerabilities. The episode highlights that fostering connection through vulnerability and repair is what truly strengthens relationships. In today's episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Eli Harwood, a licensed therapist, author, and creator of the "Attachment Nerd" online community. Eli shares her personal journey of overcoming inherited attachment trauma, emphasizing the importance of breaking intergenerational cycles. Together, Dr. Tracy and Eli explore the pressures of parenting, emphasizing the value of attunement, co-regulation, and being present with children during painful moments rather than trying to eliminate their pain. Eli also introduces her new book, "Raising Securely Attached Kids," which offers insights and practical advice for parents. Key takeaways from this conversation include the importance of repair over perfection in relationships, the necessity of connection in parenting, and understanding that parenting is challenging because it requires confronting our own vulnerabilities. The episode highlights that fostering connection through vulnerability and repair is what truly strengthens relationships.  Be sure to keep up with Eli on Instagram @attachmentnerd and pre-order her new book here! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In today's episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Eli Harwood, a licensed therapist, author, and creator of the "Attachment Nerd" online community. Eli shares her personal journey of overcoming inherited attachment trauma, emphasizing the importance of breaking intergenerational cycles. Together, Dr. Tracy and Eli explore the pressures of parenting, emphasizing the value of attunement, co-regulation, and being present with children during painful moments rather than trying to eliminate their pain. Eli also introduces her new book, "Raising Securely Attached Kids," which offers insights and practical advice for parents. Key takeaways from this conversation include the importance of repair over perfection in relationships, the necessity of connection in parenting, and understanding that parenting is challenging because it requires confronting our own vulnerabilities. The episode highlights that fostering connection through vulnerability and repair is what truly strengthens relationships. 


Be sure to keep up with Eli on Instagram @attachmentnerd and pre-order her new book here!


Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here! 


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off.


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]]> 2736 Understanding the Amygdala and Trauma Bonding with Dr. Kate Truitt In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy delves into how early childhood experiences shape our adult relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt, an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist known for her expertise in trauma and resilience. Dr. Truitt, founder of the Truitt Institute and CEO of the Amy Research Foundation, shares insights from her memoir, Keep Breathing, highlighting the powerful role of the amygdala—"Amy"—in shaping our responses to safety, lovability, and belonging. Their discussion covers the positive and powerful impact that showing personal vulnerability as therapists has had on their client relationships, the importance of connection, and the difference between codependency and trauma bonding. Dr. Kate expresses that while our past influences us, we have the power to choose healthier paths and that self-compassion is a key to healing and growth. Tune in to discover how understanding these dynamics can lead to deeper self-awareness and stronger, more fulfilling relationships.  Be sure to keep up with Dr. Kate on Instagram and visit her website here. Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 01 Aug 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Understanding the Amygdala and Trauma Bonding with Dr. Kate Truitt full 5 31 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy delves into how early childhood experiences shape our adult relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt, an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist known for her expertise in trauma and resilience. Dr. Truitt, founder of the Truitt Institute and CEO of the Amy Research Foundation, shares insights from her memoir, Keep Breathing, highlighting the powerful role of the amygdala—"Amy"—in shaping our responses to safety, lovability, and belonging. Their discussion covers the positive and powerful impact that showing personal vulnerability as therapists has had on their client relationships, the importance of connection, and the difference between codependency and trauma bonding. Dr. Kate expresses that while our past influences us, we have the power to choose healthier paths and that self-compassion is a key to healing and growth. Tune in to discover how understanding these dynamics can lead to deeper self-awareness and stronger, more fulfilling relationships. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy delves into how early childhood experiences shape our adult relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt, an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist known for her expertise in trauma and resilience. Dr. Truitt, founder of the Truitt Institute and CEO of the Amy Research Foundation, shares insights from her memoir, Keep Breathing, highlighting the powerful role of the amygdala—"Amy"—in shaping our responses to safety, lovability, and belonging. Their discussion covers the positive and powerful impact that showing personal vulnerability as therapists has had on their client relationships, the importance of connection, and the difference between codependency and trauma bonding. Dr. Kate expresses that while our past influences us, we have the power to choose healthier paths and that self-compassion is a key to healing and growth. Tune in to discover how understanding these dynamics can lead to deeper self-awareness and stronger, more fulfilling relationships.  Be sure to keep up with Dr. Kate on Instagram and visit her website here. Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy delves into how early childhood experiences shape our adult relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt, an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist known for her expertise in trauma and resilience. Dr. Truitt, founder of the Truitt Institute and CEO of the Amy Research Foundation, shares insights from her memoir, Keep Breathing, highlighting the powerful role of the amygdala—"Amy"—in shaping our responses to safety, lovability, and belonging. Their discussion covers the positive and powerful impact that showing personal vulnerability as therapists has had on their client relationships, the importance of connection, and the difference between codependency and trauma bonding. Dr. Kate expresses that while our past influences us, we have the power to choose healthier paths and that self-compassion is a key to healing and growth. Tune in to discover how understanding these dynamics can lead to deeper self-awareness and stronger, more fulfilling relationships. 


Be sure to keep up with Dr. Kate on Instagram and visit her website here.


Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here! 


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]]> 2932 Matrescence & Beyond: Redefining Mommy Brain with Dr. Nikki Pensak It’s safe to say that "mommy brain" is due for a rebrand! In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Nikki Pensak, a clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker and author of "Rattled," to discuss the challenges and opportunities of motherhood, particularly during the postpartum period. Dr. Nikki shares her journey from academia to becoming a mother, emphasizing the mental health needs of mothers often overlooked. They discuss the transformation of the maternal brain during matrescence, the pressures of social media, and the reality of baby bonding and breastfeeding challenges. Dr. Nikki rebrands "mommy brain" as a brilliant adaptation to motherhood's demands and advocates for early postpartum mental health care. They explore three pillars for thriving postpartum: mental health treatment, understanding motherhood, and thriving beyond birth trauma. The episode flips the narrative on motherhood, viewing it as a profound opportunity despite its challenges. Dr. Tracy concludes with actionable tips: self-compassion, incorporating movement, and practicing present-moment connection.    Be sure to keep up with Dr. Nikki on Instagram @drnikkipensak and grab a copy of her book here! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% off of your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 25 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Matrescence & Beyond: Redefining Mommy Brain with Dr. Nikki Pensak full 5 30 Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Nikki Pensak, a clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker and author of "Rattled," to discuss the challenges and opportunities of motherhood, particularly during the postpartum period. Dr. Nikki shares her journey from academia to becoming a mother, emphasizing the mental health needs of mothers often overlooked. They discuss the transformation of the maternal brain during matrescence, the pressures of social media, and the reality of baby bonding and breastfeeding challenges. Dr. Nikki rebrands "mommy brain" as a brilliant adaptation to motherhood's demands and advocates for early postpartum mental health care. They explore three pillars for thriving postpartum: mental health treatment, understanding motherhood, and thriving beyond birth trauma. The episode flips the narrative on motherhood, viewing it as a profound opportunity despite its challenges. Dr. Tracy concludes with actionable tips: self-compassion, incorporating movement, and practicing present-moment connection. It’s safe to say that "mommy brain" is due for a rebrand! In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Nikki Pensak, a clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker and author of "Rattled," to discuss the challenges and opportunities of motherhood, particularly during the postpartum period. Dr. Nikki shares her journey from academia to becoming a mother, emphasizing the mental health needs of mothers often overlooked. They discuss the transformation of the maternal brain during matrescence, the pressures of social media, and the reality of baby bonding and breastfeeding challenges. Dr. Nikki rebrands "mommy brain" as a brilliant adaptation to motherhood's demands and advocates for early postpartum mental health care. They explore three pillars for thriving postpartum: mental health treatment, understanding motherhood, and thriving beyond birth trauma. The episode flips the narrative on motherhood, viewing it as a profound opportunity despite its challenges. Dr. Tracy concludes with actionable tips: self-compassion, incorporating movement, and practicing present-moment connection.    Be sure to keep up with Dr. Nikki on Instagram @drnikkipensak and grab a copy of her book here! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% off of your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices It’s safe to say that "mommy brain" is due for a rebrand! In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Nikki Pensak, a clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker and author of "Rattled," to discuss the challenges and opportunities of motherhood, particularly during the postpartum period. Dr. Nikki shares her journey from academia to becoming a mother, emphasizing the mental health needs of mothers often overlooked. They discuss the transformation of the maternal brain during matrescence, the pressures of social media, and the reality of baby bonding and breastfeeding challenges. Dr. Nikki rebrands "mommy brain" as a brilliant adaptation to motherhood's demands and advocates for early postpartum mental health care. They explore three pillars for thriving postpartum: mental health treatment, understanding motherhood, and thriving beyond birth trauma. The episode flips the narrative on motherhood, viewing it as a profound opportunity despite its challenges. Dr. Tracy concludes with actionable tips: self-compassion, incorporating movement, and practicing present-moment connection. 

 

Be sure to keep up with Dr. Nikki on Instagram @drnikkipensak and grab a copy of her book here!


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]]> 2626 Mini Session #11: Overcoming Obstacles in Your Marriage with Rini and Shaun Frey In this mini session, Dr. Tracy talks with Rini and Shaun Frey about overcoming difficult periods in their relationship. Together, they discuss how anger and passive-aggressiveness can lead to disconnection and the importance of initiating early communication before things blow up. Despite eight months of built-up emotions, therapy helped them learn to talk openly and brought them closer. Rini shares her struggle with vulnerability and the expectation that men should take the first step, while Shaun recalls initiating reconciliation after a major fight. They highlight the importance of humour, managing egos, and learning repair strategies, encouraging parents to model these behaviours for their children. Be sure to keep up with Rini and Shaun on Instagram @ownitbabe and @ownitdad Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 21 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session #11: Overcoming Obstacles in Your Marriage with Rini and Shaun Frey full Cloud10 Together, they discuss how anger and passive-aggressiveness can lead to disconnection and the importance of initiating early communication before things blow up. Despite eight months of built-up emotions, therapy helped them learn to talk openly and brought them closer. Rini shares her struggle with vulnerability and the expectation that men should take the first step, while Shaun recalls initiating reconciliation after a major fight. They highlight the importance of humor, managing egos, and learning repair strategies, encouraging parents to model these behaviors for their children. In this mini session, Dr. Tracy talks with Rini and Shaun Frey about overcoming difficult periods in their relationship. Together, they discuss how anger and passive-aggressiveness can lead to disconnection and the importance of initiating early communication before things blow up. Despite eight months of built-up emotions, therapy helped them learn to talk openly and brought them closer. Rini shares her struggle with vulnerability and the expectation that men should take the first step, while Shaun recalls initiating reconciliation after a major fight. They highlight the importance of humour, managing egos, and learning repair strategies, encouraging parents to model these behaviours for their children. Be sure to keep up with Rini and Shaun on Instagram @ownitbabe and @ownitdad Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this mini session, Dr. Tracy talks with Rini and Shaun Frey about overcoming difficult periods in their relationship. Together, they discuss how anger and passive-aggressiveness can lead to disconnection and the importance of initiating early communication before things blow up. Despite eight months of built-up emotions, therapy helped them learn to talk openly and brought them closer. Rini shares her struggle with vulnerability and the expectation that men should take the first step, while Shaun recalls initiating reconciliation after a major fight. They highlight the importance of humour, managing egos, and learning repair strategies, encouraging parents to model these behaviours for their children.


Be sure to keep up with Rini and Shaun on Instagram @ownitbabe and @ownitdad


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]]> 707 From Escalation to Calm: Practical Tips for Dealing with Disagreements with Dr. Tracy and Greg Greg, AKA, Dr. Tracy's favourite co-host and hubby is back this week to discuss strategies to de-escalate disagreements. In this episode, they emphasize the importance of understanding how escalation occurs and how to effectively de-escalate before diving into the deeper and necessary conversations. They share insights from their own relationship, highlighting how childhood experiences shape behaviour in relationships and the impact of perpetual conflicts. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the physical sensations of escalation, common negative communication patterns, and the importance of self-awareness, acknowledgment, and making agreements with your partner to take breaks and return to conflicts with a calmer mindset. They also cover practical techniques for self-regulation and co-regulation and answer a listener's voicemail about navigating loss and its impact on relationships.  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% off of your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 18 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 From Escalation to Calm: Practical Tips for Dealing with Disagreements with Dr. Tracy and Greg full 5 29 Cloud10 They emphasize the importance of understanding how escalation occurs and how to effectively de-escalate before diving into the deeper and necessary conversations. They share insights from their own relationship, highlighting how childhood experiences shape behaviour in relationships and the impact of perpetual conflicts. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the physical sensations of escalation, common negative communication patterns, and the importance of self-awareness, acknowledgment, and making agreements with your partner to take breaks and return to conflicts with a calmer mindset. They also cover practical techniques for self-regulation and co-regulation and answer a listener's voicemail about navigating loss and its impact on relationships. Greg, AKA, Dr. Tracy's favourite co-host and hubby is back this week to discuss strategies to de-escalate disagreements. In this episode, they emphasize the importance of understanding how escalation occurs and how to effectively de-escalate before diving into the deeper and necessary conversations. They share insights from their own relationship, highlighting how childhood experiences shape behaviour in relationships and the impact of perpetual conflicts. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the physical sensations of escalation, common negative communication patterns, and the importance of self-awareness, acknowledgment, and making agreements with your partner to take breaks and return to conflicts with a calmer mindset. They also cover practical techniques for self-regulation and co-regulation and answer a listener's voicemail about navigating loss and its impact on relationships.  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% off of your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Greg, AKA, Dr. Tracy's favourite co-host and hubby is back this week to discuss strategies to de-escalate disagreements. In this episode, they emphasize the importance of understanding how escalation occurs and how to effectively de-escalate before diving into the deeper and necessary conversations. They share insights from their own relationship, highlighting how childhood experiences shape behaviour in relationships and the impact of perpetual conflicts. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the physical sensations of escalation, common negative communication patterns, and the importance of self-awareness, acknowledgment, and making agreements with your partner to take breaks and return to conflicts with a calmer mindset. They also cover practical techniques for self-regulation and co-regulation and answer a listener's voicemail about navigating loss and its impact on relationships. 


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]]> 3197 Mini Session #10: Coping with Anxious Attachment in Relationships In today’s mini-session, Dr. Tracy addresses coping with anxious attachment in relationships. She explains that it’s not your fault and stems from unmet needs in the past. Dr. Tracy emphasizes self-soothing with affirmations like “I am loved, I am enough, I am worthy” and highlights the importance of looking inward for acceptance. Understanding triggers, practicing self-compassion, and clearly communicating your needs and struggles to your partner are key strategies. Self-compassion involves acknowledging suffering, recognizing it as a human experience, and offering yourself grace. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 14 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session #10: Coping with Anxious Attachment in Relationships full Cloud10 In today’s mini-session, Dr. Tracy addresses coping with anxious attachment in relationships. She explains that it’s not your fault and stems from unmet needs in the past. Dr. Tracy emphasizes self-soothing with affirmations like “I am loved, I am enough, I am worthy” and highlights the importance of looking inward for acceptance. Understanding triggers, practicing self-compassion, and clearly communicating your needs and struggles to your partner are key strategies. Self-compassion involves acknowledging suffering, recognizing it as a human experience, and offering yourself grace. In today’s mini-session, Dr. Tracy addresses coping with anxious attachment in relationships. She explains that it’s not your fault and stems from unmet needs in the past. Dr. Tracy emphasizes self-soothing with affirmations like “I am loved, I am enough, I am worthy” and highlights the importance of looking inward for acceptance. Understanding triggers, practicing self-compassion, and clearly communicating your needs and struggles to your partner are key strategies. Self-compassion involves acknowledging suffering, recognizing it as a human experience, and offering yourself grace. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In today’s mini-session, Dr. Tracy addresses coping with anxious attachment in relationships. She explains that it’s not your fault and stems from unmet needs in the past. Dr. Tracy emphasizes self-soothing with affirmations like “I am loved, I am enough, I am worthy” and highlights the importance of looking inward for acceptance. Understanding triggers, practicing self-compassion, and clearly communicating your needs and struggles to your partner are key strategies. Self-compassion involves acknowledging suffering, recognizing it as a human experience, and offering yourself grace.


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]]> 564 Parenthood, Perfectionism, and Finding Peace after Birth Trauma with Dr. Mona Amin Trigger warning: Traumatic birth experience   In today’s session, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Mona Amin, a board-certified general pediatrician, online parenting educator, wife and mother. She shares her mission to provide relatable content for parents, aiming to instill confidence and calm in their parenting journey. In this episode, Dr. Mona candidly opens up about her traumatic birth story, the subsequent health challenges her family faced, how it affected her marriage, the importance of self-advocacy and the key role therapy played while navigating her postpartum reality. As a recovering perfectionist she also shares how she's learned to get comfortable in being uncomfortable and trust the healing process. Together, Dr. Mona and Dr. Tracy explore how traumatic experiences can shape relationships, the ongoing, unpredictable journey of parenthood, the need to prioritize therapy and how to maintain hope in the face of uncertainty.   Be sure to keep up with Dr. Mona on Instagram @pedsdoctalk and visit her website www.pedsdoctalk.com    Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% off of your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 11 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Parenthood, Perfectionism, and Finding Peace after Birth Trauma with Dr. Mona Amin full 5 28 Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Mona candidly opens up about her traumatic birth story, the subsequent health challenges her family faced, how it affected her marriage, the importance of self-advocacy and the key role therapy played while navigating her postpartum reality. As a recovering perfectionist she also shares how she's learned to get comfortable in being uncomfortable and trust the healing process. Together, Dr. Mona and Dr. Tracy explore how traumatic experiences can shape relationships, the ongoing, unpredictable journey of parenthood, the need to prioritize therapy and how to maintain hope in the face of uncertainty. Trigger warning: Traumatic birth experience   In today’s session, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Mona Amin, a board-certified general pediatrician, online parenting educator, wife and mother. She shares her mission to provide relatable content for parents, aiming to instill confidence and calm in their parenting journey. In this episode, Dr. Mona candidly opens up about her traumatic birth story, the subsequent health challenges her family faced, how it affected her marriage, the importance of self-advocacy and the key role therapy played while navigating her postpartum reality. As a recovering perfectionist she also shares how she's learned to get comfortable in being uncomfortable and trust the healing process. Together, Dr. Mona and Dr. Tracy explore how traumatic experiences can shape relationships, the ongoing, unpredictable journey of parenthood, the need to prioritize therapy and how to maintain hope in the face of uncertainty.   Be sure to keep up with Dr. Mona on Instagram @pedsdoctalk and visit her website www.pedsdoctalk.com    Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Cozy Earth - Visit cozyearth.com and use code SHRINK at checkout for an exclusive 35% off. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% off of your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Trigger warning: Traumatic birth experience  


In today’s session, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Mona Amin, a board-certified general pediatrician, online parenting educator, wife and mother. She shares her mission to provide relatable content for parents, aiming to instill confidence and calm in their parenting journey. In this episode, Dr. Mona candidly opens up about her traumatic birth story, the subsequent health challenges her family faced, how it affected her marriage, the importance of self-advocacy and the key role therapy played while navigating her postpartum reality. As a recovering perfectionist she also shares how she's learned to get comfortable in being uncomfortable and trust the healing process. Together, Dr. Mona and Dr. Tracy explore how traumatic experiences can shape relationships, the ongoing, unpredictable journey of parenthood, the need to prioritize therapy and how to maintain hope in the face of uncertainty.  


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]]> 3133 Mini Session #9: Let's Talk About Feelings with Dr. Becky Kennedy In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Becky discuss the impact of growing up with parents who, despite their best efforts, did not validate certain emotions. This creates an intergenerational legacy where unvalidated feelings become triggers today. They highlight the importance of changing the script for our children's future and our own mental health. By showing kindness, compassion, and curiosity to ourselves, we can model these behaviours for our kids. They challenge the outdated belief that emotions are "soft" and emphasize that feelings are primary, reacting before we think. Ignoring emotions leads to negative outcomes, and addressing them is essential for effective change. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Be sure to keep up with Dr. Becky on Instagram @drbeckyatgoodinside Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 07 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session #9: Let's Talk About Feelings with Dr. Becky Kennedy full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and Dr. Becky discuss the impact of growing up with parents who, despite their best efforts, did not validate certain emotions. This creates an intergenerational legacy where unvalidated feelings become triggers today. They highlight the importance of changing the script for our children's future and our own mental health. By showing kindness, compassion, and curiosity to ourselves, we can model these behaviours for our kids. They challenge the outdated belief that emotions are "soft" and emphasize that feelings are primary, reacting before we think. Ignoring emotions leads to negative outcomes, and addressing them is essential for effective change. In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Becky discuss the impact of growing up with parents who, despite their best efforts, did not validate certain emotions. This creates an intergenerational legacy where unvalidated feelings become triggers today. They highlight the importance of changing the script for our children's future and our own mental health. By showing kindness, compassion, and curiosity to ourselves, we can model these behaviours for our kids. They challenge the outdated belief that emotions are "soft" and emphasize that feelings are primary, reacting before we think. Ignoring emotions leads to negative outcomes, and addressing them is essential for effective change. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Be sure to keep up with Dr. Becky on Instagram @drbeckyatgoodinside Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Becky discuss the impact of growing up with parents who, despite their best efforts, did not validate certain emotions. This creates an intergenerational legacy where unvalidated feelings become triggers today. They highlight the importance of changing the script for our children's future and our own mental health. By showing kindness, compassion, and curiosity to ourselves, we can model these behaviours for our kids. They challenge the outdated belief that emotions are "soft" and emphasize that feelings are primary, reacting before we think. Ignoring emotions leads to negative outcomes, and addressing them is essential for effective change.


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]]> 626 What to Do When They Never Plan Date Nights Tired of always being the initiator in your relationship? This week, Dr. Tracy addresses the common issue of "my husband doesn’t plan date nights," a struggle many listeners have shared. She discusses the prevalent belief in heterosexual relationships that men should instinctively know and plan for their partner's needs, emphasizing that healthy relationships require intentional effort and open communication. Dr. Tracy highlights the importance of recognizing different seasons in partnerships, acknowledging bids for connection, and separating self-worth from a partner's actions. She offers practical advice on creating a system for planning date nights, balancing the division of labor, and appreciating each partner's contributions. By understanding and communicating needs effectively, couples can improve their connection, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction.  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 04 Jul 2024 10:00:00 -0000 What to Do When They Never Plan Date Nights full 5 27 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy addresses the common issue of "my husband doesn’t plan date nights," a struggle many listeners have shared. She discusses the prevalent belief in heterosexual relationships that men should instinctively know and plan for their partner's needs, emphasizing that healthy relationships require intentional effort and open communication. Dr. Tracy highlights the importance of recognizing different seasons in partnerships, acknowledging bids for connection, and separating self-worth from a partner's actions. She offers practical advice on creating a system for planning date nights, balancing the division of labor, and appreciating each partner's contributions. By understanding and communicating needs effectively, couples can improve their connection, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. Tired of always being the initiator in your relationship? This week, Dr. Tracy addresses the common issue of "my husband doesn’t plan date nights," a struggle many listeners have shared. She discusses the prevalent belief in heterosexual relationships that men should instinctively know and plan for their partner's needs, emphasizing that healthy relationships require intentional effort and open communication. Dr. Tracy highlights the importance of recognizing different seasons in partnerships, acknowledging bids for connection, and separating self-worth from a partner's actions. She offers practical advice on creating a system for planning date nights, balancing the division of labor, and appreciating each partner's contributions. By understanding and communicating needs effectively, couples can improve their connection, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction.  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tired of always being the initiator in your relationship? This week, Dr. Tracy addresses the common issue of "my husband doesn’t plan date nights," a struggle many listeners have shared. She discusses the prevalent belief in heterosexual relationships that men should instinctively know and plan for their partner's needs, emphasizing that healthy relationships require intentional effort and open communication. Dr. Tracy highlights the importance of recognizing different seasons in partnerships, acknowledging bids for connection, and separating self-worth from a partner's actions. She offers practical advice on creating a system for planning date nights, balancing the division of labor, and appreciating each partner's contributions. By understanding and communicating needs effectively, couples can improve their connection, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. 


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]]> 2739 Mini Session #8: Addressing Mom Burnout & Perfectionism with Dr. Jen Douglas In this week’s mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker, tackle mom burnout and perfectionism, highlighting the pressures modern mothers face. They discuss how today’s moms spend twice as much time on parenting compared to 1965, coupled with the demands of being constantly available to employers. This has led to unrealistic expectations of being a hands-on, super-present mom. They emphasize the importance of allowing yourself to just "be," as taking a moment to relax doesn’t diminish your worth as a mother. The session calls for reevaluating perfectionist standards and giving yourself grace in the journey of motherhood. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Be sure to keep up with Dr. Jen on Instagram @drjenofficial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 30 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0000 Mini Session #8: Addressing Mom Burnout & Perfectionism with Dr. Jen Douglas full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker, tackle mom burnout and perfectionism, highlighting the pressures modern mothers face. They discuss how today’s moms spend twice as much time on parenting compared to 1965, coupled with the demands of being constantly available to employers. This has led to unrealistic expectations of being a hands-on, super-present mom. They emphasize the importance of allowing yourself to just "be," as taking a moment to relax doesn’t diminish your worth as a mother. The session calls for reevaluating perfectionist standards and giving yourself grace in the journey of motherhood. In this week’s mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker, tackle mom burnout and perfectionism, highlighting the pressures modern mothers face. They discuss how today’s moms spend twice as much time on parenting compared to 1965, coupled with the demands of being constantly available to employers. This has led to unrealistic expectations of being a hands-on, super-present mom. They emphasize the importance of allowing yourself to just "be," as taking a moment to relax doesn’t diminish your worth as a mother. The session calls for reevaluating perfectionist standards and giving yourself grace in the journey of motherhood. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Be sure to keep up with Dr. Jen on Instagram @drjenofficial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this week’s mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker, tackle mom burnout and perfectionism, highlighting the pressures modern mothers face. They discuss how today’s moms spend twice as much time on parenting compared to 1965, coupled with the demands of being constantly available to employers. This has led to unrealistic expectations of being a hands-on, super-present mom. They emphasize the importance of allowing yourself to just "be," as taking a moment to relax doesn’t diminish your worth as a mother. The session calls for reevaluating perfectionist standards and giving yourself grace in the journey of motherhood.


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]]> 483 The Dos and Don’ts of Postpartum Visits with Renee Reina The dynamic duo is back together! This week, Dr. Tracy welcomes back her fellow Canadian sister, Renee Reina, host of the top-ranking podcast The Mom Room, for an open and honest discussion about handling visitors after giving birth. Renee shares her personal experience and how her perspective on postpartum visits shifted after having her son, Milo. They distinguish between true support people and visitors, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing the mother's comfort and needs. The conversation covers cultural expectations, the challenges of navigating in-laws, and the guilt often associated with saying no to visitors. Through engaging listener voicemails, they tackle real-life scenarios, offering practical advice on setting expectations and advocating for one's needs. This episode is a must-listen for all the soon-to-be and new mom's out there!  Be sure to follow Renee on Instagram @thereneereina and listen to The Mom Room and Insufferable wherever you get your podcasts! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 27 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 The Dos and Don’ts of Postpartum Visits with Renee Reina full 5 26 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy welcomes back her fellow Canadian sister, Renee Reina, host of the top-ranking podcast The Mom Room, for an open and honest discussion about handling visitors after giving birth. Renee shares her personal experience and how her perspective on postpartum visits shifted after having her son, Milo. They distinguish between true support people and visitors, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing the mother's comfort and needs. The conversation covers cultural expectations, the challenges of navigating in-laws, and the guilt often associated with saying no to visitors. Through engaging listener voicemails, they tackle real-life scenarios, offering practical advice on setting expectations and advocating for one's needs. This episode is a must-listen for all the soon-to-be and new mom's out there! The dynamic duo is back together! This week, Dr. Tracy welcomes back her fellow Canadian sister, Renee Reina, host of the top-ranking podcast The Mom Room, for an open and honest discussion about handling visitors after giving birth. Renee shares her personal experience and how her perspective on postpartum visits shifted after having her son, Milo. They distinguish between true support people and visitors, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing the mother's comfort and needs. The conversation covers cultural expectations, the challenges of navigating in-laws, and the guilt often associated with saying no to visitors. Through engaging listener voicemails, they tackle real-life scenarios, offering practical advice on setting expectations and advocating for one's needs. This episode is a must-listen for all the soon-to-be and new mom's out there!  Be sure to follow Renee on Instagram @thereneereina and listen to The Mom Room and Insufferable wherever you get your podcasts! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices The dynamic duo is back together! This week, Dr. Tracy welcomes back her fellow Canadian sister, Renee Reina, host of the top-ranking podcast The Mom Room, for an open and honest discussion about handling visitors after giving birth. Renee shares her personal experience and how her perspective on postpartum visits shifted after having her son, Milo. They distinguish between true support people and visitors, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing the mother's comfort and needs. The conversation covers cultural expectations, the challenges of navigating in-laws, and the guilt often associated with saying no to visitors. Through engaging listener voicemails, they tackle real-life scenarios, offering practical advice on setting expectations and advocating for one's needs. This episode is a must-listen for all the soon-to-be and new mom's out there! 


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]]> 3655 Mini Session #7: Prioritizing Intimacy Today's mini session is all about scheduling sex and prioritizing intimacy. Don't leave sex until the end of the night when you're exhausted. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be intentional about scheduling it and making it a priority. Remember, intimacy isn't just about intercourse; it's also about emotional connection and shared activities. She offers suggestions and encourages new approaches like naptime sex and taking off the pressure by just being close. If sex feels like a chore, talk openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Build intimacy through vulnerability and connection in all forms!  Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 23 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session #7: Prioritizing Intimacy full Cloud10 Today's mini session is all about scheduling sex and prioritizing intimacy. Don't leave sex until the end of the night when you're exhausted. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be intentional about scheduling it and making it a priority. Remember, intimacy isn't just about intercourse; it's also about emotional connection and shared activities. She offers suggestions and encourages new approaches like naptime sex and taking off the pressure by just being close. If sex feels like a chore, talk openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Build intimacy through vulnerability and connection in all forms! Today's mini session is all about scheduling sex and prioritizing intimacy. Don't leave sex until the end of the night when you're exhausted. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be intentional about scheduling it and making it a priority. Remember, intimacy isn't just about intercourse; it's also about emotional connection and shared activities. She offers suggestions and encourages new approaches like naptime sex and taking off the pressure by just being close. If sex feels like a chore, talk openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Build intimacy through vulnerability and connection in all forms!  Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Today's mini session is all about scheduling sex and prioritizing intimacy. Don't leave sex until the end of the night when you're exhausted. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be intentional about scheduling it and making it a priority. Remember, intimacy isn't just about intercourse; it's also about emotional connection and shared activities. She offers suggestions and encourages new approaches like naptime sex and taking off the pressure by just being close. If sex feels like a chore, talk openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Build intimacy through vulnerability and connection in all forms! 


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]]> 592 Managing Sensory Overload with Dr. Brooke Weinstein https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast This week, Dr. Tracy has the great honour of speaking with Dr. Brooke Weinstein, a renowned expert in sensory and emotional regulation, about the critical importance of understanding and managing our nervous systems. Dr. Brooke, known for her engaging and digestible social media content, explains the concept of sensory overload and how our fast-paced digital world contributes to widespread mental health issues. They discuss the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, the necessity of regular self-regulation, and recognizing personal sensory needs. The conversation also covers supporting partners during dysregulation, the need for flexibility in coping strategies, and the importance of accepting each other's unique needs. This episode aims to promote healthier connections and overall well-being by understanding and respecting the diverse sensory requirements within our relationships.    Be sure to keep up with Dr. Brooke on Instagram @brookeweinst and her website www.drbrookeweinstein.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Managing Sensory Overload with Dr. Brooke Weinstein full 5 25 Cloud10 Dr. Brooke, known for her engaging and digestible social media content, explains the concept of sensory overload and how our fast-paced digital world contributes to widespread mental health issues. They discuss the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, the necessity of regular self-regulation, and recognizing personal sensory needs. The conversation also covers supporting partners during dysregulation, the need for flexibility in coping strategies, and the importance of accepting each other's unique needs. This episode aims to promote healthier connections and overall well-being by understanding and respecting the diverse sensory requirements within our relationships. This week, Dr. Tracy has the great honour of speaking with Dr. Brooke Weinstein, a renowned expert in sensory and emotional regulation, about the critical importance of understanding and managing our nervous systems. Dr. Brooke, known for her engaging and digestible social media content, explains the concept of sensory overload and how our fast-paced digital world contributes to widespread mental health issues. They discuss the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, the necessity of regular self-regulation, and recognizing personal sensory needs. The conversation also covers supporting partners during dysregulation, the need for flexibility in coping strategies, and the importance of accepting each other's unique needs. This episode aims to promote healthier connections and overall well-being by understanding and respecting the diverse sensory requirements within our relationships.    Be sure to keep up with Dr. Brooke on Instagram @brookeweinst and her website www.drbrookeweinstein.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy has the great honour of speaking with Dr. Brooke Weinstein, a renowned expert in sensory and emotional regulation, about the critical importance of understanding and managing our nervous systems. Dr. Brooke, known for her engaging and digestible social media content, explains the concept of sensory overload and how our fast-paced digital world contributes to widespread mental health issues. They discuss the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, the necessity of regular self-regulation, and recognizing personal sensory needs. The conversation also covers supporting partners during dysregulation, the need for flexibility in coping strategies, and the importance of accepting each other's unique needs. This episode aims to promote healthier connections and overall well-being by understanding and respecting the diverse sensory requirements within our relationships. 

 

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]]> 3847 Mini Session 6: Unpacking Codependency and Trauma with Anna Aslanian https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Anna Aslanian about codependency and understanding how people end up in codependent relationships. They redefine codependency, moving away from the old assumption that it always involves addiction, and instead highlighting it as a response to trauma and a way of seeking safety in relationships. They emphasize that dependency is not inherently negative, as humans are relational beings who need connection. Dr. Tracy and Anna also explore the nuanced definition of trauma, explaining that it isn't always about major life events but can include any hurtful experiences that remain unprocessed. They discuss the importance of recognizing both big and small traumas, approaching them with self-compassion and without judgment, and avoiding comparisons with others' experiences. Be sure to follow Anna on Instagram Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 16 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session 6: Unpacking Codependency and Trauma with Anna Aslanian full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy chats with Anna Aslanian about codependency and understanding how people end up in codependent relationships. They redefine codependency, moving away from the old assumption that it always involves addiction, and instead highlighting it as a response to trauma and a way of seeking safety in relationships. They emphasize that dependency is not inherently negative, as humans are relational beings who need connection. Dr. Tracy and Anna also explore the nuanced definition of trauma, explaining that it isn't always about major life events but can include any hurtful experiences that remain unprocessed. They discuss the importance of recognizing both big and small traumas, approaching them with self-compassion and without judgment, and avoiding comparisons with others' experiences. In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Anna Aslanian about codependency and understanding how people end up in codependent relationships. They redefine codependency, moving away from the old assumption that it always involves addiction, and instead highlighting it as a response to trauma and a way of seeking safety in relationships. They emphasize that dependency is not inherently negative, as humans are relational beings who need connection. Dr. Tracy and Anna also explore the nuanced definition of trauma, explaining that it isn't always about major life events but can include any hurtful experiences that remain unprocessed. They discuss the importance of recognizing both big and small traumas, approaching them with self-compassion and without judgment, and avoiding comparisons with others' experiences. Be sure to follow Anna on Instagram Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Anna Aslanian about codependency and understanding how people end up in codependent relationships. They redefine codependency, moving away from the old assumption that it always involves addiction, and instead highlighting it as a response to trauma and a way of seeking safety in relationships. They emphasize that dependency is not inherently negative, as humans are relational beings who need connection. Dr. Tracy and Anna also explore the nuanced definition of trauma, explaining that it isn't always about major life events but can include any hurtful experiences that remain unprocessed. They discuss the importance of recognizing both big and small traumas, approaching them with self-compassion and without judgment, and avoiding comparisons with others' experiences.


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]]> 626 Understanding Avoidant Partners with Greg Stewart https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast In this highly relatable episode, Dr. Tracy teams up with her favourite co-host, her husband Greg, to dive into the tricky terrain of avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Sharing their personal stories, they unpack how our past experiences shape behaviours today. Dr. Tracy breaks down attachment theory, reminding us that dependency isn't weakness—it's human. They explore why updating relationship "scripts" is crucial and how regular check-ins can prevent resentment. Greg opens up about his journey to overcome avoidant tendencies, emphasizing the power of asking for what you need. With practical advice on handling avoidant partners and fostering deeper connections, this episode is a heartfelt guide to building a stronger, more understanding relationship.  Links: Sign up for Dr. Tracy's attachment style course here! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Understanding Avoidant Partners with Greg Stewart full 5 24 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy teams up with her favourite co-host, her husband Greg, to dive into the tricky terrain of avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Sharing their personal stories, they unpack how our past experiences shape behaviours today. Dr. Tracy breaks down attachment theory, reminding us that dependency isn't weakness—it's human. They explore why updating relationship "scripts" is crucial and how regular check-ins can prevent resentment. Greg opens up about his journey to overcome avoidant tendencies, emphasizing the power of asking for what you need. With practical advice on handling avoidant partners and fostering deeper connections, this episode is a heartfelt guide to building a stronger, more understanding relationship. In this highly relatable episode, Dr. Tracy teams up with her favourite co-host, her husband Greg, to dive into the tricky terrain of avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Sharing their personal stories, they unpack how our past experiences shape behaviours today. Dr. Tracy breaks down attachment theory, reminding us that dependency isn't weakness—it's human. They explore why updating relationship "scripts" is crucial and how regular check-ins can prevent resentment. Greg opens up about his journey to overcome avoidant tendencies, emphasizing the power of asking for what you need. With practical advice on handling avoidant partners and fostering deeper connections, this episode is a heartfelt guide to building a stronger, more understanding relationship.  Links: Sign up for Dr. Tracy's attachment style course here! Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this highly relatable episode, Dr. Tracy teams up with her favourite co-host, her husband Greg, to dive into the tricky terrain of avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Sharing their personal stories, they unpack how our past experiences shape behaviours today. Dr. Tracy breaks down attachment theory, reminding us that dependency isn't weakness—it's human. They explore why updating relationship "scripts" is crucial and how regular check-ins can prevent resentment. Greg opens up about his journey to overcome avoidant tendencies, emphasizing the power of asking for what you need. With practical advice on handling avoidant partners and fostering deeper connections, this episode is a heartfelt guide to building a stronger, more understanding relationship. 


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]]> 2518 Mini Session 5: Turning Invisible Work into Visible Work with Eve Rodsky https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Eve Rodsky about turning "invisible work" into "visible work." Invisible work includes the behind-the-scenes tasks mothers and women often handle without recognition. Eve shares how she created the "Shit I Do" spreadsheet, listing all these tasks and gathering input from women in various communities. This effort made the extensive contributions of mothers more visible. Eve discusses the importance of women taking agency in their lives and introduces the core findings of her book "Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do.”. Listen to the full episode here: Apple Spotify Follow Eve on Instagram and grab a copy of her book here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 09 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session 5: Turning Invisible Work into Visible Work with Eve Rodsky full Cloud10 In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Eve Rodsky about turning "invisible work" into "visible work." Invisible work includes the behind-the-scenes tasks mothers and women often handle without recognition. Eve shares how she created the "Shit I Do" spreadsheet, listing all these tasks and gathering input from women in various communities. This effort made the extensive contributions of mothers more visible. Eve discusses the importance of women taking agency in their lives and introduces the core findings of her book "Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do.”. In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Eve Rodsky about turning "invisible work" into "visible work." Invisible work includes the behind-the-scenes tasks mothers and women often handle without recognition. Eve shares how she created the "Shit I Do" spreadsheet, listing all these tasks and gathering input from women in various communities. This effort made the extensive contributions of mothers more visible. Eve discusses the importance of women taking agency in their lives and introduces the core findings of her book "Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do.”. Listen to the full episode here: Apple Spotify Follow Eve on Instagram and grab a copy of her book here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Eve Rodsky about turning "invisible work" into "visible work." Invisible work includes the behind-the-scenes tasks mothers and women often handle without recognition. Eve shares how she created the "Shit I Do" spreadsheet, listing all these tasks and gathering input from women in various communities. This effort made the extensive contributions of mothers more visible. Eve discusses the importance of women taking agency in their lives and introduces the core findings of her book "Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do.”.


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]]> 644 Breaking Relationship Patterns with Amy Chan https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Have you ever wondered why you constantly end up in the same type of relationship? Or maybe you're contemplating whether or not you can continue on with your current partner. These are all common questions we've all asked ourselves at some point in our lives and will be addressing in today's conversation. In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Amy Chan, founder of Breakup Bootcamp and author of "The Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," to discuss why we stay in bad relationships and how to break harmful patterns. Amy shares insights from her own experiences and her work in helping people heal from heartbreak by understanding the deep-rooted reasons behind their relationship choices. They explore concepts like the attraction of deprivation and the sunk cost fallacy, highlighting why people stay in unfulfilling relationships and how to recognize these patterns. Amy also introduces the "shit bucket" theory, emphasizing that all relationships have challenges, and it's crucial to have realistic expectations and effective communication. This conversation offers valuable advice on nurturing oneself, maintaining a sense of self, and fostering mutual motivation and creativity in relationships, ultimately guiding us toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.    Be sure to follow Amy on Instagram, buy her book here, and visit her website here!   Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 06 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Breaking Relationship Patterns with Amy Chan full 5 23 Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Amy Chan, founder of Breakup Bootcamp and author of "The Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," to discuss why we stay in bad relationships and how to break harmful patterns. Amy shares insights from her own experiences and her work in helping people heal from heartbreak by understanding the deep-rooted reasons behind their relationship choices. They explore concepts like the attraction of deprivation and the sunk cost fallacy, highlighting why people stay in unfulfilling relationships and how to recognize these patterns. Amy also introduces the "shit bucket" theory, emphasizing that all relationships have challenges, and it's crucial to have realistic expectations and effective communication. This conversation offers valuable advice on nurturing oneself, maintaining a sense of self, and fostering mutual motivation and creativity in relationships, ultimately guiding us toward healthier, more fulfilling connections. Have you ever wondered why you constantly end up in the same type of relationship? Or maybe you're contemplating whether or not you can continue on with your current partner. These are all common questions we've all asked ourselves at some point in our lives and will be addressing in today's conversation. In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Amy Chan, founder of Breakup Bootcamp and author of "The Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," to discuss why we stay in bad relationships and how to break harmful patterns. Amy shares insights from her own experiences and her work in helping people heal from heartbreak by understanding the deep-rooted reasons behind their relationship choices. They explore concepts like the attraction of deprivation and the sunk cost fallacy, highlighting why people stay in unfulfilling relationships and how to recognize these patterns. Amy also introduces the "shit bucket" theory, emphasizing that all relationships have challenges, and it's crucial to have realistic expectations and effective communication. This conversation offers valuable advice on nurturing oneself, maintaining a sense of self, and fostering mutual motivation and creativity in relationships, ultimately guiding us toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.    Be sure to follow Amy on Instagram, buy her book here, and visit her website here!   Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever wondered why you constantly end up in the same type of relationship? Or maybe you're contemplating whether or not you can continue on with your current partner. These are all common questions we've all asked ourselves at some point in our lives and will be addressing in today's conversation.


In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Amy Chan, founder of Breakup Bootcamp and author of "The Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," to discuss why we stay in bad relationships and how to break harmful patterns. Amy shares insights from her own experiences and her work in helping people heal from heartbreak by understanding the deep-rooted reasons behind their relationship choices. They explore concepts like the attraction of deprivation and the sunk cost fallacy, highlighting why people stay in unfulfilling relationships and how to recognize these patterns. Amy also introduces the "shit bucket" theory, emphasizing that all relationships have challenges, and it's crucial to have realistic expectations and effective communication. This conversation offers valuable advice on nurturing oneself, maintaining a sense of self, and fostering mutual motivation and creativity in relationships, ultimately guiding us toward healthier, more fulfilling connections. 

 

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]]> 2878 Mini Session 4: Debunking the Myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life" with Greg Stewart In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg debunk the myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life." They argue that true happiness in a relationship should not come at the expense of one's own well-being. They emphasize the importance of having difficult conversations and maintaining a genuine friendship within the relationship. They also touch on the necessity of self-awareness and curiosity in resolving conflicts and highlight that we can only control our responses, not our partner's actions. Ultimately, they stress the importance of authenticity and mutual respect in building a healthy, balanced relationship. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 02 Jun 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session 4: Debunking the Myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life" with Greg Stewart full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg debunk the myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life." They argue that true happiness in a relationship should not come at the expense of one's own well-being. They emphasize the importance of having difficult conversations and maintaining a genuine friendship within the relationship. They also touch on the necessity of self-awareness and curiosity in resolving conflicts and highlight that we can only control our responses, not our partner's actions. Ultimately, they stress the importance of authenticity and mutual respect in building a healthy, balanced relationship. In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg debunk the myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life." They argue that true happiness in a relationship should not come at the expense of one's own well-being. They emphasize the importance of having difficult conversations and maintaining a genuine friendship within the relationship. They also touch on the necessity of self-awareness and curiosity in resolving conflicts and highlight that we can only control our responses, not our partner's actions. Ultimately, they stress the importance of authenticity and mutual respect in building a healthy, balanced relationship. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg debunk the myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life." They argue that true happiness in a relationship should not come at the expense of one's own well-being. They emphasize the importance of having difficult conversations and maintaining a genuine friendship within the relationship. They also touch on the necessity of self-awareness and curiosity in resolving conflicts and highlight that we can only control our responses, not our partner's actions. Ultimately, they stress the importance of authenticity and mutual respect in building a healthy, balanced relationship.


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]]> 556 Putting Your Relationship First with Dr. Stan Tatkin In a world where we're encouraged to prioritize individualism, and set boundaries, the importance of our relationships can often get lost. In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy chats with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned clinician, researcher, and author of the bestselling book "Wired for Love." They explore the concept of interdependence in relationships, using the three-legged race analogy to highlight the importance of teamwork. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes understanding our own and our partner's brains to foster secure and functioning relationships, addressing the impact of negativity bias and the pitfalls of social media diagnoses. They touch on secure attachment, the couple bubble, and aligning on priorities for lasting connections. Dr. Tatkin shares insights on conflict resolution, mutual relief during disagreements, and maintaining a strong partnership through mutual sensitivity and understanding. This conversation offers practical advice and profound insights to help listeners build resilient and loving relationships, highlighting why it's actually ok to put your relationship at the top of the priority list.    Be sure to follow Dr. Stan on Instagram and grab a copy of “Wired for Love” here.   Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 30 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Putting Your Relationship First with Dr. Stan Tatkin full 5 22 Cloud10 In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy chats with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned clinician, researcher, and author of the bestselling book "Wired for Love." They explore the concept of interdependence in relationships, using the three-legged race analogy to highlight the importance of teamwork. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes understanding our own and our partner's brains to foster secure and functioning relationships, addressing the impact of negativity bias and the pitfalls of social media diagnoses. They discuss attachment styles, the couple bubble, and aligning on priorities for lasting connections. Dr. Tatkin shares insights on conflict resolution, mutual relief during disagreements, and maintaining a strong partnership through mutual sensitivity and understanding. This conversation offers practical advice and profound insights to help listeners build resilient and loving relationships, highlighting why it's actually ok to put your relationship at the top of the priority list. In a world where we're encouraged to prioritize individualism, and set boundaries, the importance of our relationships can often get lost. In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy chats with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned clinician, researcher, and author of the bestselling book "Wired for Love." They explore the concept of interdependence in relationships, using the three-legged race analogy to highlight the importance of teamwork. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes understanding our own and our partner's brains to foster secure and functioning relationships, addressing the impact of negativity bias and the pitfalls of social media diagnoses. They touch on secure attachment, the couple bubble, and aligning on priorities for lasting connections. Dr. Tatkin shares insights on conflict resolution, mutual relief during disagreements, and maintaining a strong partnership through mutual sensitivity and understanding. This conversation offers practical advice and profound insights to help listeners build resilient and loving relationships, highlighting why it's actually ok to put your relationship at the top of the priority list.    Be sure to follow Dr. Stan on Instagram and grab a copy of “Wired for Love” here.   Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In a world where we're encouraged to prioritize individualism, and set boundaries, the importance of our relationships can often get lost. In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy chats with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned clinician, researcher, and author of the bestselling book "Wired for Love." They explore the concept of interdependence in relationships, using the three-legged race analogy to highlight the importance of teamwork. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes understanding our own and our partner's brains to foster secure and functioning relationships, addressing the impact of negativity bias and the pitfalls of social media diagnoses. They touch on secure attachment, the couple bubble, and aligning on priorities for lasting connections. Dr. Tatkin shares insights on conflict resolution, mutual relief during disagreements, and maintaining a strong partnership through mutual sensitivity and understanding. This conversation offers practical advice and profound insights to help listeners build resilient and loving relationships, highlighting why it's actually ok to put your relationship at the top of the priority list. 

 

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]]> 2976 Mini Session 3: Attachment Styles and Conflict Resolution with Dr. Morgan Anderson https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast In this week's mini session, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss the challenges of relationship repair through the lens of attachment styles. They explore how individuals with anxious attachment struggle with distance, often engaging in anxious pursuit and abandoning their own needs to regain a sense of safety. These individuals must learn to self-soothe, such as by taking a walk or doing a task, and become comfortable with discomfort. Whereas those with avoidant attachment deactivate their feelings and needs, pushing away closeness and often wanting to sweep conflicts under the rug. For the avoidantly attached individuals, the focus should be on self-soothing while learning to turn toward their partner, asking for reassurance, and setting clear boundaries. Both attachment styles face unique challenges in repairing relationships, but understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier and more resilient connections. Listen to full episode here: Spotify Apple Follow Dr. Morgan Anderson on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 26 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session 3: Attachment Styles and Conflict Resolution with Dr. Morgan Anderson full Cloud10 Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss the challenges of relationship repair through the lens of attachment styles. They explore how individuals with anxious attachment struggle with distance, often engaging in anxious pursuit and abandoning their own needs to regain a sense of safety. These individuals must learn to self-soothe, such as by taking a walk or doing a task, and become comfortable with discomfort. Whereas those with avoidant attachment deactivate their feelings and needs, pushing away closeness and often wanting to sweep conflicts under the rug. For the avoidantly attached individuals, the focus should be on self-soothing while learning to turn toward their partner, asking for reassurance, and setting clear boundaries. Both attachment styles face unique challenges in repairing relationships, but understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier and more resilient connections. In this week's mini session, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss the challenges of relationship repair through the lens of attachment styles. They explore how individuals with anxious attachment struggle with distance, often engaging in anxious pursuit and abandoning their own needs to regain a sense of safety. These individuals must learn to self-soothe, such as by taking a walk or doing a task, and become comfortable with discomfort. Whereas those with avoidant attachment deactivate their feelings and needs, pushing away closeness and often wanting to sweep conflicts under the rug. For the avoidantly attached individuals, the focus should be on self-soothing while learning to turn toward their partner, asking for reassurance, and setting clear boundaries. Both attachment styles face unique challenges in repairing relationships, but understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier and more resilient connections. Listen to full episode here: Spotify Apple Follow Dr. Morgan Anderson on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this week's mini session, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss the challenges of relationship repair through the lens of attachment styles. They explore how individuals with anxious attachment struggle with distance, often engaging in anxious pursuit and abandoning their own needs to regain a sense of safety. These individuals must learn to self-soothe, such as by taking a walk or doing a task, and become comfortable with discomfort. Whereas those with avoidant attachment deactivate their feelings and needs, pushing away closeness and often wanting to sweep conflicts under the rug. For the avoidantly attached individuals, the focus should be on self-soothing while learning to turn toward their partner, asking for reassurance, and setting clear boundaries. Both attachment styles face unique challenges in repairing relationships, but understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier and more resilient connections.


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]]> 595 How to Overcome Perfectionism In this week's solo episode, Dr. Tracy tackles a topic that affects many of us but is also something that is very near and dear to her heart, and that is perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism is more than a desire to do well, often becoming a relentless pursuit of flawlessness that can harm our mental health and relationships. Dr. Tracy explores the internal and external roots of perfectionism and introduces the concept of urge surfing, a technique used to manage the impulse to be perfect. She shares five practical tips for managing perfectionism that have helped her: raising awareness, stepping into discomfort, practicing self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and embracing acceptance. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise, she aims to provide support to listeners in navigating their struggles with perfectionism to foster a healthier, more balanced life.    Links:   Download Dr. Tracy’s free guide to overcoming imposter syndrome at www.drtracyd.com/imposter  If you are looking to find clarity in your business and want to sign up for the Empower Her retreat you can visit www.drtracyd.com/retreat   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 23 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 How to Overcome Perfectionism full 5 21 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy tackles a topic that affects many of us but is also something that is very near and dear to her heart, and that is perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism is more than a desire to do well, often becoming a relentless pursuit of flawlessness that can harm our mental health and relationships. Dr. Tracy explores the internal and external roots of perfectionism and introduces the concept of urge surfing, a technique used to manage the impulse to be perfect. She shares five practical tips for managing perfectionism that have helped her: raising awareness, stepping into discomfort, practicing self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and embracing acceptance. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise, she aims to provide support to listeners in navigating their struggles with perfectionism to foster a healthier, more balanced life. In this week's solo episode, Dr. Tracy tackles a topic that affects many of us but is also something that is very near and dear to her heart, and that is perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism is more than a desire to do well, often becoming a relentless pursuit of flawlessness that can harm our mental health and relationships. Dr. Tracy explores the internal and external roots of perfectionism and introduces the concept of urge surfing, a technique used to manage the impulse to be perfect. She shares five practical tips for managing perfectionism that have helped her: raising awareness, stepping into discomfort, practicing self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and embracing acceptance. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise, she aims to provide support to listeners in navigating their struggles with perfectionism to foster a healthier, more balanced life.    Links:   Download Dr. Tracy’s free guide to overcoming imposter syndrome at www.drtracyd.com/imposter  If you are looking to find clarity in your business and want to sign up for the Empower Her retreat you can visit www.drtracyd.com/retreat   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this week's solo episode, Dr. Tracy tackles a topic that affects many of us but is also something that is very near and dear to her heart, and that is perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism is more than a desire to do well, often becoming a relentless pursuit of flawlessness that can harm our mental health and relationships. Dr. Tracy explores the internal and external roots of perfectionism and introduces the concept of urge surfing, a technique used to manage the impulse to be perfect. She shares five practical tips for managing perfectionism that have helped her: raising awareness, stepping into discomfort, practicing self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and embracing acceptance. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise, she aims to provide support to listeners in navigating their struggles with perfectionism to foster a healthier, more balanced life. 

 

Links:  

Download Dr. Tracy’s free guide to overcoming imposter syndrome at www.drtracyd.com/imposter 

If you are looking to find clarity in your business and want to sign up for the Empower Her retreat you can visit www.drtracyd.com/retreat 


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]]> 2670 Mini Session 2: Differentiating a Narcissist and a Non Narcissist with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Are you dealing with a narcissist or someone with chronically defensive tendencies? In this session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime Zuckerman explore the key differences between a chronically defensive person (non-narcissist) and a full-blown narcissist. The session delves into the behavioral contrasts, highlighting that defensive partners lack malicious intent, whereas narcissists are often intentionally harmful. To wrap up, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime offer insights on managing relationships with both non-narcissistic and narcissistic partners.  Listen to full episode here: Spotify Apple Follow Dr. Jaime on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 19 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session 2: Differentiating a Narcissist and a Non Narcissist with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman full Cloud10 In this session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime Zuckerman explore the key differences between a chronically defensive person (non-narcissist) and a full-blown narcissist. The session delves into the behavioral contrasts, highlighting that defensive partners lack malicious intent, whereas narcissists are often intentionally harmful. To wrap up, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Zuckerman offer insights on managing relationships with both non-narcissistic and narcissistic partners. Are you dealing with a narcissist or someone with chronically defensive tendencies? In this session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime Zuckerman explore the key differences between a chronically defensive person (non-narcissist) and a full-blown narcissist. The session delves into the behavioral contrasts, highlighting that defensive partners lack malicious intent, whereas narcissists are often intentionally harmful. To wrap up, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime offer insights on managing relationships with both non-narcissistic and narcissistic partners.  Listen to full episode here: Spotify Apple Follow Dr. Jaime on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Are you dealing with a narcissist or someone with chronically defensive tendencies? In this session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime Zuckerman explore the key differences between a chronically defensive person (non-narcissist) and a full-blown narcissist. The session delves into the behavioral contrasts, highlighting that defensive partners lack malicious intent, whereas narcissists are often intentionally harmful. To wrap up, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime offer insights on managing relationships with both non-narcissistic and narcissistic partners. 


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]]> 673 Should I Stay or Should I Go? Navigating Marriage and Divorce With Kate Anthony https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Did you know that 69% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode, we’re going to gain insights on why this is the reality. Join Dr. Tracy and guest Kate Anthony, author and host of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, as she shares her expertise on the pivotal decision many women grapple with: "Should I stay or should I go?" Having personally navigated an emotionally abusive marriage, Kate understands better than anybody the importance of creating a safe, supportive environment for children caught in the crossfire, the power toxicity holds, and why divorce doesn't ultimately "screw up" our children. She discusses the disproportionate emotional and domestic labor women often shoulder in heterosexual relationships and why women are left exhausted by the time they reach their breaking point. Kate also encourages women to reconnect with themselves in order to make empowered decisions moving forward in their lives. Tune in for a conversation filled with essential perspectives on nurturing healthier relationships and personal well-being.    Be sure to follow Kate on Instagram, visit her website and listen to her podcast here!  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 16 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Should I Stay or Should I Go? Navigating Marriage and Divorce With Kate Anthony full 5 20 Cloud10 Join Dr. Tracy and guest Kate Anthony, author and host of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, as she shares her expertise on the pivotal decision many women grapple with: "Should I stay or should I go?" Having personally navigated an emotionally abusive marriage, Kate understands better than anybody the importance of creating a safe, supportive environment for children caught in the crossfire, the power toxicity holds, and why divorce doesn't ultimately screw up our children. She discusses the disproportionate emotional and domestic labor women often shoulder in heterosexual relationships and why women are left exhausted by the time they reach their breaking point. Kate also encourages women to reconnect with themselves in order to make empowered decisions moving forward in their lives. Tune in for a conversation filled with essential perspectives on nurturing healthier relationships and personal well-being. Did you know that 69% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode, we’re going to gain insights on why this is the reality. Join Dr. Tracy and guest Kate Anthony, author and host of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, as she shares her expertise on the pivotal decision many women grapple with: "Should I stay or should I go?" Having personally navigated an emotionally abusive marriage, Kate understands better than anybody the importance of creating a safe, supportive environment for children caught in the crossfire, the power toxicity holds, and why divorce doesn't ultimately "screw up" our children. She discusses the disproportionate emotional and domestic labor women often shoulder in heterosexual relationships and why women are left exhausted by the time they reach their breaking point. Kate also encourages women to reconnect with themselves in order to make empowered decisions moving forward in their lives. Tune in for a conversation filled with essential perspectives on nurturing healthier relationships and personal well-being.    Be sure to follow Kate on Instagram, visit her website and listen to her podcast here!  Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Did you know that 69% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode, we’re going to gain insights on why this is the reality. Join Dr. Tracy and guest Kate Anthony, author and host of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, as she shares her expertise on the pivotal decision many women grapple with: "Should I stay or should I go?" Having personally navigated an emotionally abusive marriage, Kate understands better than anybody the importance of creating a safe, supportive environment for children caught in the crossfire, the power toxicity holds, and why divorce doesn't ultimately "screw up" our children. She discusses the disproportionate emotional and domestic labor women often shoulder in heterosexual relationships and why women are left exhausted by the time they reach their breaking point. Kate also encourages women to reconnect with themselves in order to make empowered decisions moving forward in their lives. Tune in for a conversation filled with essential perspectives on nurturing healthier relationships and personal well-being. 

 

Be sure to follow Kate on Instagram, visit her website and listen to her podcast here! 


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]]> 3144 Mini Session 1: Navigating Defensiveness in Relationships with Matthew Frey In this session, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Frey discuss a crucial issue that affects many relationships: defensiveness. They explore how defensiveness not only creates barriers but also diminishes and invalidates your partner's feelings. Matthew shares a personal revelation from his own life, noting how his failure to validate his wife's experiences contributed significantly to the deterioration of their marriage. He highlights that understanding doesn't require agreement but rather a mindful consideration of another's perspective.  Listen to full episode here: Spotify Apple Follow Matthew on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 12 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Mini Session 1: Navigating Defensiveness in Relationships with Matthew Frey full Cloud10 In this session, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Frey discuss a crucial issue that affects many relationships: defensiveness. They explore how defensiveness not only creates barriers but also diminishes and invalidates your partner's feelings. Matthew shares a personal revelation from his own life, noting how his failure to validate his wife's experiences contributed significantly to the deterioration of their marriage. He emphasizes that understanding doesn't require agreement but rather a mindful consideration of another's perspective. In this session, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Frey discuss a crucial issue that affects many relationships: defensiveness. They explore how defensiveness not only creates barriers but also diminishes and invalidates your partner's feelings. Matthew shares a personal revelation from his own life, noting how his failure to validate his wife's experiences contributed significantly to the deterioration of their marriage. He highlights that understanding doesn't require agreement but rather a mindful consideration of another's perspective.  Listen to full episode here: Spotify Apple Follow Matthew on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this session, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Frey discuss a crucial issue that affects many relationships: defensiveness. They explore how defensiveness not only creates barriers but also diminishes and invalidates your partner's feelings. Matthew shares a personal revelation from his own life, noting how his failure to validate his wife's experiences contributed significantly to the deterioration of their marriage. He highlights that understanding doesn't require agreement but rather a mindful consideration of another's perspective. 


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]]> 582 Truth, Trauma and Transformation with Dr. Frank Anderson In this incredibly important episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma expert and author to discuss the profound impact of trauma on personal development and well-being, as well as insights from his latest book, "To Be Loved: A Memoir of Truth, Trauma and Transformation," exploring the journey towards healing and forgiveness. The two kick things off by highlighting the importance of therapists sharing their vulnerabilities and human-ness to bridge the gap between them and their clients. Frank delves into how trauma is really just absorbed energy from our experiences with others and why that energy doesn't actually "belong" to us. They also touch on the power of forgiveness in healing trauma, emphasizing that it allows us to let go of negative emotions and see the humanity in others, including ourselves. This episode is a deep dive into understanding trauma’s role in shaping our lives and how embracing our true selves through healing can lead to profound transformations.     Be sure to follow Dr. Frank on Instagram and grab a copy of his book here!     Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 09 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Truth, Trauma and Transformation with Dr. Frank Anderson full 5 19 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma expert and author to discuss the profound impact of trauma on personal development and well-being, as well as insights from his latest book, "To Be Loved: A Memoir of Truth, Trauma and Transformation," exploring the journey towards healing and forgiveness. The two kick things off by highlighting the importance of therapists sharing their vulnerabilities and human-ness to bridge the gap between them and their clients. Frank delves into how trauma is really just absorbed energy from our experiences with others and why that energy doesn't actually "belong" to us. They also touch on the power of forgiveness in healing trauma, emphasizing that it allows us to let go of negative emotions and see the humanity in others, including ourselves. This episode is a deep dive into understanding trauma’s role in shaping our lives and how embracing our true selves through healing can lead to profound transformations. In this incredibly important episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma expert and author to discuss the profound impact of trauma on personal development and well-being, as well as insights from his latest book, "To Be Loved: A Memoir of Truth, Trauma and Transformation," exploring the journey towards healing and forgiveness. The two kick things off by highlighting the importance of therapists sharing their vulnerabilities and human-ness to bridge the gap between them and their clients. Frank delves into how trauma is really just absorbed energy from our experiences with others and why that energy doesn't actually "belong" to us. They also touch on the power of forgiveness in healing trauma, emphasizing that it allows us to let go of negative emotions and see the humanity in others, including ourselves. This episode is a deep dive into understanding trauma’s role in shaping our lives and how embracing our true selves through healing can lead to profound transformations.     Be sure to follow Dr. Frank on Instagram and grab a copy of his book here!     Leave Dr. Tracy a voicemail here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Cozy Earth - Use code SHRINK for 35% off at cozyearth.com Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this incredibly important episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma expert and author to discuss the profound impact of trauma on personal development and well-being, as well as insights from his latest book, "To Be Loved: A Memoir of Truth, Trauma and Transformation," exploring the journey towards healing and forgiveness. The two kick things off by highlighting the importance of therapists sharing their vulnerabilities and human-ness to bridge the gap between them and their clients. Frank delves into how trauma is really just absorbed energy from our experiences with others and why that energy doesn't actually "belong" to us. They also touch on the power of forgiveness in healing trauma, emphasizing that it allows us to let go of negative emotions and see the humanity in others, including ourselves. This episode is a deep dive into understanding trauma’s role in shaping our lives and how embracing our true selves through healing can lead to profound transformations.  

 

Be sure to follow Dr. Frank on Instagram and grab a copy of his book here!  

 

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]]> 2919 From Conflict to Connection with Greg Stewart https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host/hubby, Greg, are back and here to tackle one of the most common issues couples face in relationships: why bringing up one problem with a partner often leads to a flood of additional grievances. They discuss why this might happen, identify defense mechanisms and avoidance strategies, and emphasize the importance of understanding and communication in relationships. They introduce the metaphor of a "bridge" between partners and the importance of integrating regular relationship "check-ins" as crucial for maintaining connection and preventing relationship explosions. They also address some listener questions, offering insights into managing different parenting styles and in-law tensions and stressing the importance of empathy, patience, and individual growth in a relationship. Tune in solo or listen with your partner for the wisdom you didn't even know you needed!    Be sure to listen back to their “relationship check ins” episode here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 02 May 2024 10:00:00 -0000 From Conflict to Connection with Greg Stewart full 5 18 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host/hubby, Greg, are back and here to tackle one of the most common issues couples face in relationships: why bringing up one problem with a partner often leads to a flood of additional grievances. They discuss why this might happen, identify defense mechanisms and avoidance strategies, and emphasize the importance of understanding and communication in relationships. They introduce the metaphor of a "bridge" between partners and the importance of integrating regular relationship "check-ins" as crucial for maintaining connection and preventing relationship explosions. They also address some listener questions, offering insights into managing different parenting styles and in-law tensions and stressing the importance of empathy, patience, and individual growth in a relationship. Tune in solo or listen with your partner for the wisdom you didn't even know you needed! This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host/hubby, Greg, are back and here to tackle one of the most common issues couples face in relationships: why bringing up one problem with a partner often leads to a flood of additional grievances. They discuss why this might happen, identify defense mechanisms and avoidance strategies, and emphasize the importance of understanding and communication in relationships. They introduce the metaphor of a "bridge" between partners and the importance of integrating regular relationship "check-ins" as crucial for maintaining connection and preventing relationship explosions. They also address some listener questions, offering insights into managing different parenting styles and in-law tensions and stressing the importance of empathy, patience, and individual growth in a relationship. Tune in solo or listen with your partner for the wisdom you didn't even know you needed!    Be sure to listen back to their “relationship check ins” episode here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host/hubby, Greg, are back and here to tackle one of the most common issues couples face in relationships: why bringing up one problem with a partner often leads to a flood of additional grievances. They discuss why this might happen, identify defense mechanisms and avoidance strategies, and emphasize the importance of understanding and communication in relationships. They introduce the metaphor of a "bridge" between partners and the importance of integrating regular relationship "check-ins" as crucial for maintaining connection and preventing relationship explosions. They also address some listener questions, offering insights into managing different parenting styles and in-law tensions and stressing the importance of empathy, patience, and individual growth in a relationship. Tune in solo or listen with your partner for the wisdom you didn't even know you needed! 

 

Be sure to listen back to their “relationship check ins” episode here! 


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ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today.

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]]> 2885 The Courage to Choose Yourself with Julie Chavez https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast In this deeply relatable episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Julie Chavez, an elementary school librarian from Northern California and the author of the USA Today bestselling memoir "Everybody but Myself." Julie opens up about her journey from prioritizing everyone else's needs to understanding the crucial importance of self-care, a lesson learned through her own struggles with anxiety and depression. Together, Julie and Dr. Tracy dive into the transformative power of therapy, the discipline and "work" required to maintain our mental health, and how changing her own patterns impacted her marriage and family dynamics. Tune in, and discover why your joy is worth your time.  Be sure to follow Julie on Instagram and visit her website here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off.  Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 25 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 The Courage to Choose Yourself with Julie Chavez full 5 17 Cloud10 Julie opens up about her journey from prioritizing everyone else's needs to understanding the crucial importance of self-care, a lesson learned through her own struggles with anxiety and depression. Together, Julie and Dr. Tracy dive into the transformative power of therapy, the discipline and "work" required to maintain our mental health, and how changing her own patterns impacted her marriage and family dynamics. Tune in, and discover why your joy is worth your time. In this deeply relatable episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Julie Chavez, an elementary school librarian from Northern California and the author of the USA Today bestselling memoir "Everybody but Myself." Julie opens up about her journey from prioritizing everyone else's needs to understanding the crucial importance of self-care, a lesson learned through her own struggles with anxiety and depression. Together, Julie and Dr. Tracy dive into the transformative power of therapy, the discipline and "work" required to maintain our mental health, and how changing her own patterns impacted her marriage and family dynamics. Tune in, and discover why your joy is worth your time.  Be sure to follow Julie on Instagram and visit her website here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off.  Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this deeply relatable episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Julie Chavez, an elementary school librarian from Northern California and the author of the USA Today bestselling memoir "Everybody but Myself." Julie opens up about her journey from prioritizing everyone else's needs to understanding the crucial importance of self-care, a lesson learned through her own struggles with anxiety and depression. Together, Julie and Dr. Tracy dive into the transformative power of therapy, the discipline and "work" required to maintain our mental health, and how changing her own patterns impacted her marriage and family dynamics. Tune in, and discover why your joy is worth your time. 


Be sure to follow Julie on Instagram and visit her website here! 


 A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today.

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Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order.


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

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Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

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]]> 3541 Body Memories and Intergenerational Healing with Dr. Tanya Cotler https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!  Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on Instagram and visit her website   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off.  Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 18 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Body Memories and Intergenerational Healing with Dr. Tanya Cotler full 5 16 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one! Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!  Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on Instagram and visit her website   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off.  Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one! 


Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on Instagram and visit her website 


 A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today.

Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off. 

Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order.


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   

Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3410 Why Love Isn’t Enough with Matthew Hussey https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Is love really all you need when it comes to relationships? In this insightful conversation, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Hussey, renowned love and relationship expert, explore the very real challenges of finding the right person in today’s society. Before diving into the advice and strategies, the two share a candid connection about the ironic struggle they face as "experts" in their field, when really, they are just humans navigating the same love-life struggles as everyone else. Matthew then shares the details of his new book and breaks down the four critical levels of a relationship that we should value: admiration, mutual attraction, commitment, and compatibility, discussing how each plays a vital role in the journey towards a lasting connection. They also touch on the unrealistic way love is portrayed in the media, the negative role familiarity can play when it comes to our relationships and why so many of us repeat the same patterns when it comes to love. This episode aims to guide listeners through the complex maze of love, offering practical advice on how to find and nurture a fulfilling partnership.    Be sure to follow Matthew on Instagram and pre-order his book here!    A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off.  Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 11 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Why Love Isn’t Enough with Matthew Hussey full 5 15 Cloud10 In this insightful conversation, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Hussey, renowned love and relationship expert, explore the very real challenges of finding the right person in today’s society. Before diving into the advice and strategies, the two share a candid connection about the ironic struggle they face as "experts" in their field, when really, they are just humans navigating the same love-life struggles as everyone else. Matthew then shares the details of his new book and breaks down the four critical levels of a relationship that we should value: admiration, mutual attraction, commitment, and compatibility, discussing how each plays a vital role in the journey towards a lasting connection. They also touch on the unrealistic way love is portrayed in the media, the negative role familiarity can play when it comes to our relationships and why so many of us repeat the same patterns when it comes to love. This episode aims to guide listeners through the complex maze of love, offering practical advice on how to find and nurture a fulfilling partnership. Is love really all you need when it comes to relationships? In this insightful conversation, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Hussey, renowned love and relationship expert, explore the very real challenges of finding the right person in today’s society. Before diving into the advice and strategies, the two share a candid connection about the ironic struggle they face as "experts" in their field, when really, they are just humans navigating the same love-life struggles as everyone else. Matthew then shares the details of his new book and breaks down the four critical levels of a relationship that we should value: admiration, mutual attraction, commitment, and compatibility, discussing how each plays a vital role in the journey towards a lasting connection. They also touch on the unrealistic way love is portrayed in the media, the negative role familiarity can play when it comes to our relationships and why so many of us repeat the same patterns when it comes to love. This episode aims to guide listeners through the complex maze of love, offering practical advice on how to find and nurture a fulfilling partnership.    Be sure to follow Matthew on Instagram and pre-order his book here!    A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off.  Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order. Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!    Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Is love really all you need when it comes to relationships? In this insightful conversation, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Hussey, renowned love and relationship expert, explore the very real challenges of finding the right person in today’s society. Before diving into the advice and strategies, the two share a candid connection about the ironic struggle they face as "experts" in their field, when really, they are just humans navigating the same love-life struggles as everyone else. Matthew then shares the details of his new book and breaks down the four critical levels of a relationship that we should value: admiration, mutual attraction, commitment, and compatibility, discussing how each plays a vital role in the journey towards a lasting connection. They also touch on the unrealistic way love is portrayed in the media, the negative role familiarity can play when it comes to our relationships and why so many of us repeat the same patterns when it comes to love. This episode aims to guide listeners through the complex maze of love, offering practical advice on how to find and nurture a fulfilling partnership. 

 

Be sure to follow Matthew on Instagram and pre-order his book here!  


 A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today.

Factor - Head to factormeals.com/inys50 and use code inys50 to get 50% off. 

Loop - Visit loopearplugs.com and use my code LOOPXDRTRACY for 10% your order.


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! 

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   

Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2725 Understanding Grief Beyond the Surface with Meghan Riordan Jarvis https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Have you ever considered the subtle ways grief touches our daily lives? In today's episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with grief therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis to unpack the nuanced experiences of grief and loss beyond what we often associate with obvious tragedies, like the death of a loved one. They discuss how grief can sneak into our everyday lives, often unrecognized, and explore the importance of tuning into our bodies and managing our nervous system's response to grief. Meghan, drawing on both her professional expertise and personal experiences of loss, offers insights into the physical and emotional impacts of grief, strategies for coping with the body's fight or flight response, and the significance of processing grief to avoid long-term trauma. Hopefully, this episode offers a deeper understanding of grief's complex nature and provides listeners with the tools necessary to navigate their own experiences of loss.    Be sure to follow Meghan on Instagram, listen to her podcast and visit her website!    A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 04 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Understanding Grief Beyond the Surface with Meghan Riordan Jarvis full 5 14 Cloud10 In today's episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with grief therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis to unpack the nuanced experiences of grief and loss beyond what we often associate with obvious tragedies, like the death of a loved one. They discuss how grief can sneak into our everyday lives, often unrecognized, and explore the importance of tuning into our bodies and managing our nervous system's response to grief. Meghan, drawing on both her professional expertise and personal experiences of loss, offers insights into the physical and emotional impacts of grief, strategies for coping with the body's fight or flight response, and the significance of processing grief to avoid long-term trauma. Hopefully, this episode offers a deeper understanding of grief's complex nature and provides listeners with the tools necessary to navigate their own experiences of loss. Have you ever considered the subtle ways grief touches our daily lives? In today's episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with grief therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis to unpack the nuanced experiences of grief and loss beyond what we often associate with obvious tragedies, like the death of a loved one. They discuss how grief can sneak into our everyday lives, often unrecognized, and explore the importance of tuning into our bodies and managing our nervous system's response to grief. Meghan, drawing on both her professional expertise and personal experiences of loss, offers insights into the physical and emotional impacts of grief, strategies for coping with the body's fight or flight response, and the significance of processing grief to avoid long-term trauma. Hopefully, this episode offers a deeper understanding of grief's complex nature and provides listeners with the tools necessary to navigate their own experiences of loss.    Be sure to follow Meghan on Instagram, listen to her podcast and visit her website!    A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever considered the subtle ways grief touches our daily lives? In today's episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with grief therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis to unpack the nuanced experiences of grief and loss beyond what we often associate with obvious tragedies, like the death of a loved one. They discuss how grief can sneak into our everyday lives, often unrecognized, and explore the importance of tuning into our bodies and managing our nervous system's response to grief. Meghan, drawing on both her professional expertise and personal experiences of loss, offers insights into the physical and emotional impacts of grief, strategies for coping with the body's fight or flight response, and the significance of processing grief to avoid long-term trauma. Hopefully, this episode offers a deeper understanding of grief's complex nature and provides listeners with the tools necessary to navigate their own experiences of loss. 

 

Be sure to follow Meghan on Instagram, listen to her podcast and visit her website!  


 A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

 Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off  


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  

Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop     

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3564 A Couple's Guide to Raising a Highly Sensitive Child Together with Greg Stewart https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host and hubby, Greg, dive deep into the heart of what it means to parent as a team, especially when faced with the unique challenges of raising a highly sensitive child (HSC). Through their personal stories and recent parenting experiences, they offer a candid look at the complexities and joys of navigating life with an HSC. They discuss the critical role of teamwork in understanding and supporting their child's intense emotions, while also reflecting on their own unique sensitivities and approaches to parenting. This conversation sheds light on the strategies that have been helpful for them, highlighting the importance of empathy, depersonalization, patience, and maintaining a united front. Dr. Tracy and Greg aim to not only share wisdom for parenting HSCs but also a message of hope and solidarity for other families facing these beautifully complex parenting journeys.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 28 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0000 A Couple's Guide to Raising a Highly Sensitive Child Together with Greg Stewart full 5 13 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host and hubby, Greg, dive deep into the heart of what it means to parent as a team, especially when faced with the unique challenges of raising a highly sensitive child (HSC). Through their personal stories and recent parenting experiences, they offer a candid look at the complexities and joys of navigating life with an HSC. They discuss the critical role of teamwork in understanding and supporting their child's intense emotions, while also reflecting on their own unique sensitivities and approaches to parenting. This conversation sheds light on the strategies that have been helpful for them, highlighting the importance of empathy, depersonalization, patience, and maintaining a united front. Dr. Tracy and Greg aim to not only share wisdom for parenting HSCs but also a message of hope and solidarity for other families facing these beautifully complex parenting journeys. This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host and hubby, Greg, dive deep into the heart of what it means to parent as a team, especially when faced with the unique challenges of raising a highly sensitive child (HSC). Through their personal stories and recent parenting experiences, they offer a candid look at the complexities and joys of navigating life with an HSC. They discuss the critical role of teamwork in understanding and supporting their child's intense emotions, while also reflecting on their own unique sensitivities and approaches to parenting. This conversation sheds light on the strategies that have been helpful for them, highlighting the importance of empathy, depersonalization, patience, and maintaining a united front. Dr. Tracy and Greg aim to not only share wisdom for parenting HSCs but also a message of hope and solidarity for other families facing these beautifully complex parenting journeys.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host and hubby, Greg, dive deep into the heart of what it means to parent as a team, especially when faced with the unique challenges of raising a highly sensitive child (HSC). Through their personal stories and recent parenting experiences, they offer a candid look at the complexities and joys of navigating life with an HSC. They discuss the critical role of teamwork in understanding and supporting their child's intense emotions, while also reflecting on their own unique sensitivities and approaches to parenting. This conversation sheds light on the strategies that have been helpful for them, highlighting the importance of empathy, depersonalization, patience, and maintaining a united front. Dr. Tracy and Greg aim to not only share wisdom for parenting HSCs but also a message of hope and solidarity for other families facing these beautifully complex parenting journeys. 


 A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

 Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off  


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  

Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop     

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3064 Transforming Fear into Fulfillment with Heather Chauvin https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast It's time to get uncomfortable. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Heather Chauvin, a renowned leadership coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of "Dying to be a Good Mother." Together, they tackle the universal challenge of embracing discomfort and leaning into fear. Heather brings a wealth of experience from her own life, sharing how her battle with stage 4 cancer and the trials of motherhood propelled her towards a life of authenticity and courage. She emphasizes the significance of energetic time management, acknowledging fear in the body, and making conscious choices towards self-care and personal fulfillment. This conversation is a powerful reminder of the transformative potential of facing discomfort head-on, offering listeners actionable insights for living more aligned and purposeful lives.    You can follow Heather on Instagram, visit her website and listen to her podcast!    A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 21 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0000 Transforming Fear into Fulfillment with Heather Chauvin full 5 12 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Heather Chauvin, a renowned leadership coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of "Dying to be a Good Mother." Together, they tackle the universal challenge of embracing discomfort and leaning into fear. Heather brings a wealth of experience from her own life, sharing how her battle with stage 4 cancer and the trials of motherhood propelled her towards a life of authenticity and courage. She emphasizes the significance of energetic time management, acknowledging fear in the body, and making conscious choices towards self-care and personal fulfillment. This conversation is a powerful reminder of the transformative potential of facing discomfort head-on, offering listeners actionable insights for living more aligned and purposeful lives. It's time to get uncomfortable. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Heather Chauvin, a renowned leadership coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of "Dying to be a Good Mother." Together, they tackle the universal challenge of embracing discomfort and leaning into fear. Heather brings a wealth of experience from her own life, sharing how her battle with stage 4 cancer and the trials of motherhood propelled her towards a life of authenticity and courage. She emphasizes the significance of energetic time management, acknowledging fear in the body, and making conscious choices towards self-care and personal fulfillment. This conversation is a powerful reminder of the transformative potential of facing discomfort head-on, offering listeners actionable insights for living more aligned and purposeful lives.    You can follow Heather on Instagram, visit her website and listen to her podcast!    A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Links: Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions! Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Save now! Grab my REPAIR workshop      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices It's time to get uncomfortable. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Heather Chauvin, a renowned leadership coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of "Dying to be a Good Mother." Together, they tackle the universal challenge of embracing discomfort and leaning into fear. Heather brings a wealth of experience from her own life, sharing how her battle with stage 4 cancer and the trials of motherhood propelled her towards a life of authenticity and courage. She emphasizes the significance of energetic time management, acknowledging fear in the body, and making conscious choices towards self-care and personal fulfillment. This conversation is a powerful reminder of the transformative potential of facing discomfort head-on, offering listeners actionable insights for living more aligned and purposeful lives. 

 

You can follow Heather on Instagram, visit her website and listen to her podcast!  


 A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

 Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off  


Links:

Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!

Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   

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]]> 3261 ICYMI: Sleeping in Separate Beds with The Mom Room's Renee Reina Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleeps in separate beds? In honour of Sleep Awareness Week, we're revisiting the intriguing concept of "sleep divorce," a choice often misunderstood and stigmatized in society. Dr. Renee Reina, a Ph.D. in psychology and host of "The Mom Room," joins Dr. Tracy to debunk myths surrounding this phenomenon. Together, they explore how prioritizing sleep by choosing to sleep apart can actually nurture and strengthen relationships, contrary to the belief that it signifies a lack of love or intimacy. This discussion sheds light on the importance of addressing sleep needs openly and making mindful decisions to enhance both personal well-being and partnership dynamics.    Links:  Listen to Renee's progression of their relationship and sleep, tune into Episode 44  Tune into our episode together on Mom Room about resentment and relationships      A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 14 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0000 ICYMI: Sleeping in Separate Beds with The Mom Room's Renee Reina full 5 11 Cloud10 In honour of Sleep Awareness Week, we're revisiting the intriguing concept of "sleep divorce," a choice often misunderstood and stigmatized in society. Dr. Renee Reina, a Ph.D. in psychology and host of "The Mom Room," joins Dr. Tracy to debunk myths surrounding this phenomenon. Together, they explore how prioritizing sleep by choosing to sleep apart can actually nurture and strengthen relationships, contrary to the belief that it signifies a lack of love or intimacy. This discussion sheds light on the importance of addressing sleep needs openly and making mindful decisions to enhance both personal well-being and partnership dynamics. Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleeps in separate beds? In honour of Sleep Awareness Week, we're revisiting the intriguing concept of "sleep divorce," a choice often misunderstood and stigmatized in society. Dr. Renee Reina, a Ph.D. in psychology and host of "The Mom Room," joins Dr. Tracy to debunk myths surrounding this phenomenon. Together, they explore how prioritizing sleep by choosing to sleep apart can actually nurture and strengthen relationships, contrary to the belief that it signifies a lack of love or intimacy. This discussion sheds light on the importance of addressing sleep needs openly and making mindful decisions to enhance both personal well-being and partnership dynamics.    Links:  Listen to Renee's progression of their relationship and sleep, tune into Episode 44  Tune into our episode together on Mom Room about resentment and relationships      A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleeps in separate beds? In honour of Sleep Awareness Week, we're revisiting the intriguing concept of "sleep divorce," a choice often misunderstood and stigmatized in society. Dr. Renee Reina, a Ph.D. in psychology and host of "The Mom Room," joins Dr. Tracy to debunk myths surrounding this phenomenon. Together, they explore how prioritizing sleep by choosing to sleep apart can actually nurture and strengthen relationships, contrary to the belief that it signifies a lack of love or intimacy. This discussion sheds light on the importance of addressing sleep needs openly and making mindful decisions to enhance both personal well-being and partnership dynamics. 

 

Links: 

 

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]]> 3149 The Roots of Codependency: Trauma, Love, and Self-Compassion with Anna Aslanian https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Do you feel you put others before yourself in order to keep the peace? In this week’s episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Anna Aslanian to dive into the complex world of codependency, self-sacrifice, and interdependence in relationships. Anna, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a rich background in psychological care, sheds light on the roots of codependent behaviour, often tracing back to early relationships and trauma. Together, they explore the nuances of trauma and debunk the negative connotations of codependency, advocating instead for an understanding of dependency as a means of seeking safety and connection. Anna offers practical advice for embracing authenticity and self-compassion, crucial steps towards cultivating healthier, more balanced relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to find the delicate balance between caring for others and nurturing oneself.    You can find Anna and her practice on Instagram and at www.mytherapycorner.com     A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 07 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0000 The Roots of Codependency: Trauma, Love, and Self-Compassion with Anna Aslanian full 6 10 Cloud10 In this week’s episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Anna Aslanian to dive into the complex world of co-dependency, self-sacrifice, and interdependence in relationships. Anna, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a rich background in psychological care, sheds light on the roots of co-dependent behaviour, often tracing back to early relationships and trauma. Together, they explore the nuances of trauma and debunk the negative connotations of co-dependency, advocating instead for an understanding of dependency as a means of seeking safety and connection. Anna offers practical advice for embracing authenticity and self-compassion, crucial steps towards cultivating healthier, more balanced relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to find the delicate balance between caring for others and nurturing oneself. Do you feel you put others before yourself in order to keep the peace? In this week’s episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Anna Aslanian to dive into the complex world of codependency, self-sacrifice, and interdependence in relationships. Anna, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a rich background in psychological care, sheds light on the roots of codependent behaviour, often tracing back to early relationships and trauma. Together, they explore the nuances of trauma and debunk the negative connotations of codependency, advocating instead for an understanding of dependency as a means of seeking safety and connection. Anna offers practical advice for embracing authenticity and self-compassion, crucial steps towards cultivating healthier, more balanced relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to find the delicate balance between caring for others and nurturing oneself.    You can find Anna and her practice on Instagram and at www.mytherapycorner.com     A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Do you feel you put others before yourself in order to keep the peace? In this week’s episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Anna Aslanian to dive into the complex world of codependency, self-sacrifice, and interdependence in relationships. Anna, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a rich background in psychological care, sheds light on the roots of codependent behaviour, often tracing back to early relationships and trauma. Together, they explore the nuances of trauma and debunk the negative connotations of codependency, advocating instead for an understanding of dependency as a means of seeking safety and connection. Anna offers practical advice for embracing authenticity and self-compassion, crucial steps towards cultivating healthier, more balanced relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to find the delicate balance between caring for others and nurturing oneself. 

 

You can find Anna and her practice on Instagram and at www.mytherapycorner.com 

 

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]]> 3069 Rewriting the Narrative of Success, Storytelling, and Self-Discovery with Zibby Owens https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Zibby Owens is the creative force behind the award-winning podcast "Moms Don’t Have Time to Read Books," an accomplished author and CEO of Zibby Media. In this episode, she joins Dr. Tracy to explore her latest fiction work, "Blank: A Novel," reflecting on her multifaceted journey from writing her first article at 14, through her divorce, and into the literary world, emphasizing the therapeutic power of storytelling. Zibby shares insights into overcoming internal barriers and the importance of embracing the reality of life’s brevity to fearlessly pursue your passions. She also touches on the complexities of work-life balance, doing your best as a mother, the inspiration behind the name of her podcast, and the unique challenges of writing fiction. This episode is packed with wisdom and an inspiring message that it’s never too late to go for it.    You can find Zibby on Instagram, listen to her podcast and check out her new book here!     A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 29 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Rewriting the Narrative of Success, Storytelling, and Self-Discovery with Zibby Owens full 5 9 Cloud10 In this episode, she joins Dr. Tracy to explore her latest fiction work, "Blank: A Novel," reflecting on her multifaceted journey from writing her first article at 14, through her divorce, and into the literary world, emphasizing the therapeutic power of storytelling. Zibby shares insights into overcoming internal barriers and the importance of embracing the reality of life’s brevity to fearlessly pursue your passions. She also touches on the complexities of work-life balance, doing your best as a mother, the inspiration behind the name of her podcast, and the unique challenges of writing fiction. This episode is packed with wisdom and an inspiring message that it’s never too late to go for it. Zibby Owens is the creative force behind the award-winning podcast "Moms Don’t Have Time to Read Books," an accomplished author and CEO of Zibby Media. In this episode, she joins Dr. Tracy to explore her latest fiction work, "Blank: A Novel," reflecting on her multifaceted journey from writing her first article at 14, through her divorce, and into the literary world, emphasizing the therapeutic power of storytelling. Zibby shares insights into overcoming internal barriers and the importance of embracing the reality of life’s brevity to fearlessly pursue your passions. She also touches on the complexities of work-life balance, doing your best as a mother, the inspiration behind the name of her podcast, and the unique challenges of writing fiction. This episode is packed with wisdom and an inspiring message that it’s never too late to go for it.    You can find Zibby on Instagram, listen to her podcast and check out her new book here!     A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!  Factor – Head to factormeals.com/INYS50 and use code INYS50 to get 50% off   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Zibby Owens is the creative force behind the award-winning podcast "Moms Don’t Have Time to Read Books," an accomplished author and CEO of Zibby Media. In this episode, she joins Dr. Tracy to explore her latest fiction work, "Blank: A Novel," reflecting on her multifaceted journey from writing her first article at 14, through her divorce, and into the literary world, emphasizing the therapeutic power of storytelling. Zibby shares insights into overcoming internal barriers and the importance of embracing the reality of life’s brevity to fearlessly pursue your passions. She also touches on the complexities of work-life balance, doing your best as a mother, the inspiration behind the name of her podcast, and the unique challenges of writing fiction. This episode is packed with wisdom and an inspiring message that it’s never too late to go for it. 

 

You can find Zibby on Instagram, listen to her podcast and check out her new book here! 

 

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]]> 2241 Unpacking Envy with Elise Loehnen https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast This week, Elise Loehnen is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and sharing her journey from a behind-the-scenes ghostwriter to a New York Times bestselling author, tackling the unrealistic expectations placed on women to always be the "good girl." Through her own personal story and insights from her book "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good," Elise invites us to question why women are hard on themselves and each other. She explores the nuances of envy and jealousy, urging us to view these feelings as signals to our desires rather than sources of shame, and touches on the inherent fear women have about expressing anger. By encouraging women to embrace their ambitions and emotions authentically, Elise offers a pathway to a more fulfilling and self-aware life, challenging societal norms that restrict women's expressions and desires.    You can find Elise on Instagram and grab a copy of her book here!    Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 22 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Unpacking Envy with Elise Loehnen full 5 8 Cloud10 Through her own personal story and insights from her book "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good," Elise invites us to question why women are hard on themselves and each other. She explores the nuances of envy and jealousy, urging us to view these feelings as signals to our desires rather than sources of shame, and touches on the inherent fear women have about expressing anger. By encouraging women to embrace their ambitions and emotions authentically, Elise offers a pathway to a more fulfilling and self-aware life, challenging societal norms that restrict women's expressions and desires. This week, Elise Loehnen is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and sharing her journey from a behind-the-scenes ghostwriter to a New York Times bestselling author, tackling the unrealistic expectations placed on women to always be the "good girl." Through her own personal story and insights from her book "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good," Elise invites us to question why women are hard on themselves and each other. She explores the nuances of envy and jealousy, urging us to view these feelings as signals to our desires rather than sources of shame, and touches on the inherent fear women have about expressing anger. By encouraging women to embrace their ambitions and emotions authentically, Elise offers a pathway to a more fulfilling and self-aware life, challenging societal norms that restrict women's expressions and desires.    You can find Elise on Instagram and grab a copy of her book here!    Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Elise Loehnen is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and sharing her journey from a behind-the-scenes ghostwriter to a New York Times bestselling author, tackling the unrealistic expectations placed on women to always be the "good girl." Through her own personal story and insights from her book "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good," Elise invites us to question why women are hard on themselves and each other. She explores the nuances of envy and jealousy, urging us to view these feelings as signals to our desires rather than sources of shame, and touches on the inherent fear women have about expressing anger. By encouraging women to embrace their ambitions and emotions authentically, Elise offers a pathway to a more fulfilling and self-aware life, challenging societal norms that restrict women's expressions and desires. 

 

You can find Elise on Instagram and grab a copy of her book here! 

 

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]]> 2969 Relationship Check-Ins: Benefits, Challenges and Reality with Greg Stewart https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast This week, Dr. Tracy, her favourite co-host, and husband Greg dive into the power of "relationship check-ins," sharing their personal experience as partners, parents, and business co-owners. They unpack the value and long-term benefits of these intentional discussions, with Greg shedding light on breaking down the barriers and debunking the stigma from a man’s perspective. Together, they guide us through setting up effective check-ins that don't include personalization and blame and how to focus on constructive feedback and celebrating successes. By weaving in their personal stories, they illustrate how consistent, open conversations can bridge gaps, enhance understanding, and solidify the connection between partners, making the relationship stronger and more fulfilling for both parties.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 15 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Relationship Check-Ins: Benefits, Challenges and Reality with Greg Stewart full 5 7 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy, her favourite co-host, and husband Greg dive into the power of "relationship check-ins," sharing their personal experience as partners, parents, and business co-owners. They unpack the value and long-term benefits of these intentional discussions, with Greg shedding light on breaking down the barriers and debunking the stigma from a man’s perspective. Together, they guide us through setting up effective check-ins that don't include personalization and blame and how to focus on constructive feedback and celebrating successes. By weaving in their personal stories, they illustrate how consistent, open conversations can bridge gaps, enhance understanding, and solidify the connection between partners, making the relationship stronger and more fulfilling for both parties. This week, Dr. Tracy, her favourite co-host, and husband Greg dive into the power of "relationship check-ins," sharing their personal experience as partners, parents, and business co-owners. They unpack the value and long-term benefits of these intentional discussions, with Greg shedding light on breaking down the barriers and debunking the stigma from a man’s perspective. Together, they guide us through setting up effective check-ins that don't include personalization and blame and how to focus on constructive feedback and celebrating successes. By weaving in their personal stories, they illustrate how consistent, open conversations can bridge gaps, enhance understanding, and solidify the connection between partners, making the relationship stronger and more fulfilling for both parties.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy, her favourite co-host, and husband Greg dive into the power of "relationship check-ins," sharing their personal experience as partners, parents, and business co-owners. They unpack the value and long-term benefits of these intentional discussions, with Greg shedding light on breaking down the barriers and debunking the stigma from a man’s perspective. Together, they guide us through setting up effective check-ins that don't include personalization and blame and how to focus on constructive feedback and celebrating successes. By weaving in their personal stories, they illustrate how consistent, open conversations can bridge gaps, enhance understanding, and solidify the connection between partners, making the relationship stronger and more fulfilling for both parties. 


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]]> 3214 The Narcissist: Understanding, Unmasking, and Surviving with Dr. Jamie Zuckerman In this insightful episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, a renowned expert on narcissistic abuse, to explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissists. Dr. Zuckerman discusses the subtle yet damaging ways narcissistic relationships can erode one's sense of self and the challenges of recognizing and escaping these toxic dynamics. She highlights the common warning signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist, the textbook behaviour to be aware of, and the long-term impact of having a narcissistic parent, partner, family member, or even friend. Lastly, Dr. Zuckerman offers her wisdom on recovering from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the need for setting boundaries, understanding the difference between narcissists and those who suffer from chronic defensiveness, and the process of healing and reclaiming one's life.    You can follow Dr. Jamie on Instagram, check out her practice here and find her books here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling Disconnected? Grade my *Free* 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Improve and elevate your relationship. Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 08 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 The Narcissist: Understanding, Unmasking, and Surviving with Dr. Jamie Zuckerman full 5 6 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, a renowned expert on narcissistic abuse, to explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissists. Dr. Zuckerman discusses the subtle yet damaging ways narcissistic relationships can erode one's sense of self and the challenges of recognizing and escaping these toxic dynamics. She highlights the common warning signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist, the textbook behaviour to be aware of, and the long-term impact of having a narcissistic parent, partner, family member, or even friend. Lastly, Dr. Zuckerman offers her wisdom on recovering from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the need for setting boundaries, understanding the difference between narcissists and those who suffer from chronic defensiveness, and the process of healing and reclaiming one's life. In this insightful episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, a renowned expert on narcissistic abuse, to explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissists. Dr. Zuckerman discusses the subtle yet damaging ways narcissistic relationships can erode one's sense of self and the challenges of recognizing and escaping these toxic dynamics. She highlights the common warning signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist, the textbook behaviour to be aware of, and the long-term impact of having a narcissistic parent, partner, family member, or even friend. Lastly, Dr. Zuckerman offers her wisdom on recovering from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the need for setting boundaries, understanding the difference between narcissists and those who suffer from chronic defensiveness, and the process of healing and reclaiming one's life.    You can follow Dr. Jamie on Instagram, check out her practice here and find her books here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling Disconnected? Grade my *Free* 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Improve and elevate your relationship. Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this insightful episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, a renowned expert on narcissistic abuse, to explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissists. Dr. Zuckerman discusses the subtle yet damaging ways narcissistic relationships can erode one's sense of self and the challenges of recognizing and escaping these toxic dynamics. She highlights the common warning signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist, the textbook behaviour to be aware of, and the long-term impact of having a narcissistic parent, partner, family member, or even friend. Lastly, Dr. Zuckerman offers her wisdom on recovering from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the need for setting boundaries, understanding the difference between narcissists and those who suffer from chronic defensiveness, and the process of healing and reclaiming one's life. 

 

You can follow Dr. Jamie on Instagram, check out her practice here and find her books here! 


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]]> 3385 Parenting ‘Spicy’ Children with Mary Van Geffen Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach specializing in "spicy" children. This week, she is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and bringing her coaching and teaching skills directly to us! Mary shares her transformation from an overwhelmed mother to an empowering guide, discussing her journey of self-discovery and healing while raising a "spicy" one herself after coming from a long line of "spicy" children. She touches on the importance of understanding and connection over discipline and the necessity of self-care for parents. She then dispels common misconceptions about "spicy" children, highlighting where they shine as individuals. Lastly, Mary provides practical advice for parents on maintaining a united front as they navigate the complexities of parenting "spicy" ones. Whether you are a parent to a "spicy" child yourself or not, hopefully this episode serves as a reminder to give yourself some grace throughout your parenting journey.   You can follow Mary on Instagram, check out her website and find her courses, CALM: Self regulation 101, and Moms of Spicy Ones. A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 01 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Parenting ‘Spicy’ Children with Mary Van Geffen full 5 5 Cloud10 Mary shares her transformation from an overwhelmed mother to an empowering guide, discussing her journey of self-discovery and healing while raising a "spicy" one herself after coming from a long line of "spicy" children. She touches on the importance of understanding and connection over discipline and the necessity of self-care for parents. She then dispels common misconceptions about "spicy" children, highlighting where they shine as individuals. Lastly, Mary provides practical advice for parents on maintaining a united front as they navigate the complexities of parenting "spicy" ones. Whether you are a parent to a "spicy" child yourself or not, hopefully this episode serves as a reminder to give yourself some grace throughout your parenting journey. Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach specializing in "spicy" children. This week, she is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and bringing her coaching and teaching skills directly to us! Mary shares her transformation from an overwhelmed mother to an empowering guide, discussing her journey of self-discovery and healing while raising a "spicy" one herself after coming from a long line of "spicy" children. She touches on the importance of understanding and connection over discipline and the necessity of self-care for parents. She then dispels common misconceptions about "spicy" children, highlighting where they shine as individuals. Lastly, Mary provides practical advice for parents on maintaining a united front as they navigate the complexities of parenting "spicy" ones. Whether you are a parent to a "spicy" child yourself or not, hopefully this episode serves as a reminder to give yourself some grace throughout your parenting journey.   You can follow Mary on Instagram, check out her website and find her courses, CALM: Self regulation 101, and Moms of Spicy Ones. A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach specializing in "spicy" children. This week, she is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and bringing her coaching and teaching skills directly to us! Mary shares her transformation from an overwhelmed mother to an empowering guide, discussing her journey of self-discovery and healing while raising a "spicy" one herself after coming from a long line of "spicy" children. She touches on the importance of understanding and connection over discipline and the necessity of self-care for parents. She then dispels common misconceptions about "spicy" children, highlighting where they shine as individuals. Lastly, Mary provides practical advice for parents on maintaining a united front as they navigate the complexities of parenting "spicy" ones. Whether you are a parent to a "spicy" child yourself or not, hopefully this episode serves as a reminder to give yourself some grace throughout your parenting journey.  


You can follow Mary on Instagram, check out her website and find her courses, CALM: Self regulation 101, and Moms of Spicy Ones.


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]]> 2970 Re-parenting & Breaking Cycles with Shelly Robinson In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Shelly Robinson, a certified family wellness coach and conscious parenting educator. Together, they explore the intricacies of parenting, relationships, and self-connection. Shelly dives into the concept of re-parenting, addressing the feelings of anger that show up for many parents, the importance of attunement, and practical ways to foster meaningful connections with oneself, children, and partner. The conversation dives into Shelly's insights on inherited toxic behaviours, the significance of self-compassion, and the key to building deep connections within a family. Join them for a thoughtful discussion on breaking generational cycles and creating homes filled with compassion, calm, and joy.  You can follow Shelly on her Instagram, website and find her Connected Kid Toolkit here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 25 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Re-parenting & Breaking Cycles with Shelly Robinson full 5 4 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy welcomes Shelly Robinson, a certified family wellness coach and conscious parenting educator. Together, they explore the intricacies of parenting, relationships, and self-connection. Shelly dives into the concept of re-parenting, the importance of attunement, and practical ways to foster meaningful connections with oneself, children, and partner. The conversation dives into Shelly's insights on inherited toxic behaviors, the significance of self-compassion, and the key to building deep connections within a family. Join them for a thoughtful discussion on breaking generational cycles and creating homes filled with compassion, calm, and joy. In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Shelly Robinson, a certified family wellness coach and conscious parenting educator. Together, they explore the intricacies of parenting, relationships, and self-connection. Shelly dives into the concept of re-parenting, addressing the feelings of anger that show up for many parents, the importance of attunement, and practical ways to foster meaningful connections with oneself, children, and partner. The conversation dives into Shelly's insights on inherited toxic behaviours, the significance of self-compassion, and the key to building deep connections within a family. Join them for a thoughtful discussion on breaking generational cycles and creating homes filled with compassion, calm, and joy.  You can follow Shelly on her Instagram, website and find her Connected Kid Toolkit here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Shelly Robinson, a certified family wellness coach and conscious parenting educator. Together, they explore the intricacies of parenting, relationships, and self-connection. Shelly dives into the concept of re-parenting, addressing the feelings of anger that show up for many parents, the importance of attunement, and practical ways to foster meaningful connections with oneself, children, and partner. The conversation dives into Shelly's insights on inherited toxic behaviours, the significance of self-compassion, and the key to building deep connections within a family. Join them for a thoughtful discussion on breaking generational cycles and creating homes filled with compassion, calm, and joy. 


You can follow Shelly on her Instagram, website and find her Connected Kid Toolkit here! 


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

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Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!  

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Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      

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]]> 2971 Motherhood & Marriage Unfiltered with Nina Caviggola In this vulnerable episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Nina Caviggiola, an influential online creator, a mom in her mid-thirties, and the powerhouse host behind the "Mama Knows” podcast. Nina shares her journey, from postpartum anxiety to an ADHD diagnosis, and the ways motherhood has shaped the woman she is today for the better. Together, Dr. Tracy and Nina discuss the impact of online comparisons and the power of the “mute” feature on Instagram. Nina opens up about the struggles she’s currently facing in her marriage, and Dr. Tracy provides insightful guidance on how best to navigate these dynamics, especially when you work with your spouse, like they both do! Tune in for an authentic and empowering conversation on self-discovery and the ongoing journey of navigating motherhood and marriage. As a reminder, we don't get to go through life without struggling, and embracing our struggles is a powerful step towards resilience and personal growth.    You can find Nina on her Instagram, website and listen to her podcast here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 18 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Motherhood & Marriage Unfiltered with Nina Caviggola full 5 2 Cloud10 Nina shares her journey, from postpartum anxiety to an ADHD diagnosis, and the ways motherhood has shaped the woman she is today for the better. Together, Dr. Tracy and Nina discuss the impact of online comparisons and the power of the “mute” feature on Instagram. Nina opens up about the struggles she’s currently facing in her marriage, and Dr. Tracy provides insightful guidance on how best to navigate these dynamics, especially when you work with your spouse, like they both do! Tune in for an authentic and empowering conversation on self-discovery and the ongoing journey of navigating motherhood and marriage. As a reminder, we don't get to go through life without struggling, and embracing our struggles is a powerful step towards resilience and personal growth. In this vulnerable episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Nina Caviggiola, an influential online creator, a mom in her mid-thirties, and the powerhouse host behind the "Mama Knows” podcast. Nina shares her journey, from postpartum anxiety to an ADHD diagnosis, and the ways motherhood has shaped the woman she is today for the better. Together, Dr. Tracy and Nina discuss the impact of online comparisons and the power of the “mute” feature on Instagram. Nina opens up about the struggles she’s currently facing in her marriage, and Dr. Tracy provides insightful guidance on how best to navigate these dynamics, especially when you work with your spouse, like they both do! Tune in for an authentic and empowering conversation on self-discovery and the ongoing journey of navigating motherhood and marriage. As a reminder, we don't get to go through life without struggling, and embracing our struggles is a powerful step towards resilience and personal growth.    You can find Nina on her Instagram, website and listen to her podcast here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this vulnerable episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Nina Caviggiola, an influential online creator, a mom in her mid-thirties, and the powerhouse host behind the "Mama Knows” podcast. Nina shares her journey, from postpartum anxiety to an ADHD diagnosis, and the ways motherhood has shaped the woman she is today for the better. Together, Dr. Tracy and Nina discuss the impact of online comparisons and the power of the “mute” feature on Instagram. Nina opens up about the struggles she’s currently facing in her marriage, and Dr. Tracy provides insightful guidance on how best to navigate these dynamics, especially when you work with your spouse, like they both do! Tune in for an authentic and empowering conversation on self-discovery and the ongoing journey of navigating motherhood and marriage. As a reminder, we don't get to go through life without struggling, and embracing our struggles is a powerful step towards resilience and personal growth. 

 

You can find Nina on her Instagram, website and listen to her podcast here!  


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

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Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now! 

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]]> 3077 Regulating Our Nervous System with Maria Victoria Albina https://www.drtracyd.com/podcast Ready to leave people pleasing behind this year? This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Maria Victoria Albina, a seasoned somatic life coach and family nurse practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricacies of our nervous system's impact on daily life, exploring topics like codependency, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. Using the polyvagal theory, they dive into the connection between our nervous system and how we experience the world. The conversation touches on self-abandonment, the origins of shame, and the empowering journey of reclaiming personal agency. Sharing tools to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, the two provide valuable insights for a transformative new year. Tune in as they navigate the path to break free from old patterns and create a life centered on compassion and self-empowerment!   You can follow Maria Victoria Albina on Instagram and visit her website.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 11 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0000 Regulating Our Nervous System with Maria Victoria Albina full 5 2 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Maria Victoria Albina, a seasoned somatic life coach and family nurse practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricacies of our nervous system's impact on daily life, exploring topics like codependency, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. Using the polyvagal theory, they dive into the connection between our nervous system and how we experience the world. The conversation touches on self-abandonment, the origins of shame, and the empowering journey of reclaiming personal agency. Sharing tools to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, the two provide valuable insights for a transformative new year. Tune in as they navigate the path to break free from old patterns and create a life centered on compassion and self-empowerment! Ready to leave people pleasing behind this year? This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Maria Victoria Albina, a seasoned somatic life coach and family nurse practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricacies of our nervous system's impact on daily life, exploring topics like codependency, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. Using the polyvagal theory, they dive into the connection between our nervous system and how we experience the world. The conversation touches on self-abandonment, the origins of shame, and the empowering journey of reclaiming personal agency. Sharing tools to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, the two provide valuable insights for a transformative new year. Tune in as they navigate the path to break free from old patterns and create a life centered on compassion and self-empowerment!   You can follow Maria Victoria Albina on Instagram and visit her website.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Ready to leave people pleasing behind this year? This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Maria Victoria Albina, a seasoned somatic life coach and family nurse practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricacies of our nervous system's impact on daily life, exploring topics like codependency, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. Using the polyvagal theory, they dive into the connection between our nervous system and how we experience the world. The conversation touches on self-abandonment, the origins of shame, and the empowering journey of reclaiming personal agency. Sharing tools to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, the two provide valuable insights for a transformative new year. Tune in as they navigate the path to break free from old patterns and create a life centered on compassion and self-empowerment!  


You can follow Maria Victoria Albina on Instagram and visit her website.  


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.


Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!  

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 3131 Breaking the 'New Year, New You' Cycle with Dr. Meagan Gallagher New year, new season! Dr. Tracy is kicking off Season 5 with fellow clinical psychologist, colleague, and friend, Dr. Meagan Gallagher, to dive into the complexities that come with the new year. They address the societal pressures, especially the overused and abused "new year, new you" mantra, that often lead to comparison and anxiety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, rest, and acknowledging one's "enoughness." Dr. Tracy and Dr. Meagan challenge the damaging fitness and diet culture associated with resolutions and advocate for setting intentions aligned with personal needs. They also touch on insights about supporting partners in their goals and so much more. Join them for a refreshing perspective on approaching the new year with authenticity and self-compassion!  You can follow Dr. Meagan on Instagram and find her at Integratedottawa.ca  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 04 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0000 Breaking the 'New Year, New You' Cycle with Dr. Meagan Gallagher full 5 1 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy is kicking off Season 5 with fellow clinical psychologist, colleague, and friend, Dr. Meagan Gallagher, to dive into the complexities that come with the new year. They address the societal pressures, especially the overused and abused "new year, new you" mantra, that often lead to comparison and anxiety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, rest, and acknowledging one's "enoughness." Dr. Tracy and Dr. Meagan challenge the damaging fitness and diet culture associated with resolutions and advocate for setting intentions aligned with personal needs. They also touch on insights about supporting partners in their goals and so much more. Join them for a refreshing perspective on approaching the new year with authenticity and self-compassion! New year, new season! Dr. Tracy is kicking off Season 5 with fellow clinical psychologist, colleague, and friend, Dr. Meagan Gallagher, to dive into the complexities that come with the new year. They address the societal pressures, especially the overused and abused "new year, new you" mantra, that often lead to comparison and anxiety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, rest, and acknowledging one's "enoughness." Dr. Tracy and Dr. Meagan challenge the damaging fitness and diet culture associated with resolutions and advocate for setting intentions aligned with personal needs. They also touch on insights about supporting partners in their goals and so much more. Join them for a refreshing perspective on approaching the new year with authenticity and self-compassion!  You can follow Dr. Meagan on Instagram and find her at Integratedottawa.ca  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices New year, new season! Dr. Tracy is kicking off Season 5 with fellow clinical psychologist, colleague, and friend, Dr. Meagan Gallagher, to dive into the complexities that come with the new year. They address the societal pressures, especially the overused and abused "new year, new you" mantra, that often lead to comparison and anxiety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, rest, and acknowledging one's "enoughness." Dr. Tracy and Dr. Meagan challenge the damaging fitness and diet culture associated with resolutions and advocate for setting intentions aligned with personal needs. They also touch on insights about supporting partners in their goals and so much more. Join them for a refreshing perspective on approaching the new year with authenticity and self-compassion! 


You can follow Dr. Meagan on Instagram and find her at Integratedottawa.ca 


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.

  

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2902 ICYMI: Why Is Conscious Parenting So Important? With Dr. Shefali For today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is resharing one of her favourite and most beloved conversations from this year with fellow psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.  Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.   If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and Dr. Tracy discuss the parent-child relationship.  EPISODE LINKS  Order Dr. Shefali's book The Parenting Map  Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 28 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0000 ICYMI: Why Is Conscious Parenting So Important? With Dr. Shefali full 4 59 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy is resharing one of her favourite and most beloved conversations from this year with fellow psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship. For today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is resharing one of her favourite and most beloved conversations from this year with fellow psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.  Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.   If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and Dr. Tracy discuss the parent-child relationship.  EPISODE LINKS  Order Dr. Shefali's book The Parenting Map  Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices For today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is resharing one of her favourite and most beloved conversations from this year with fellow psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship. 


Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.  


If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and Dr. Tracy discuss the parent-child relationship. 


EPISODE LINKS 

Order Dr. Shefali's book The Parenting Map 

Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery 



A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co 


 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2618 Parting Ways with Self-Abandonment In her final solo episode of the year, Dr. Tracy reflects on this incredible year of podcasting before diving into something she's personally struggled with and found the power of confronting: self-abandonment. Drawing from both personal experience and listener questions, she explores the signs, reasons, and consequences of self-abandonment in our relationships. The episode offers practical insights into setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building a supportive community. Dr. Tracy candidly shares the challenges she's faced this year with the creation and release of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This," the ways it brought her self-abandoning tendencies to the light, the relationships she had to walk away from, the loneliness she felt, but the beautiful growth that came from finally choosing herself. Hopefully, this episode serves as a guide for staying true to yourself and living a full and authentic life!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 21 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0000 Parting Ways with Self-Abandonment full 4 58 Cloud10 In her final solo episode of the year, Dr. Tracy reflects on this incredible year of podcasting before diving into something she's personally struggled with and found the power of confronting: self-abandonment. Drawing from both personal experience and listener questions, she explores the signs, reasons, and consequences of self-abandonment in our relationships. The episode offers practical insights into setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building a supportive community. Dr. Tracy candidly shares the challenges she's faced this year with the creation and release of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This," the ways it brought her self-abandoning tendencies to the light, the relationships she had to walk away from, the loneliness she felt, but the beautiful growth that came from finally choosing herself. Hopefully, this episode serves as a guide for staying true to yourself and living a full and authentic life! In her final solo episode of the year, Dr. Tracy reflects on this incredible year of podcasting before diving into something she's personally struggled with and found the power of confronting: self-abandonment. Drawing from both personal experience and listener questions, she explores the signs, reasons, and consequences of self-abandonment in our relationships. The episode offers practical insights into setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building a supportive community. Dr. Tracy candidly shares the challenges she's faced this year with the creation and release of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This," the ways it brought her self-abandoning tendencies to the light, the relationships she had to walk away from, the loneliness she felt, but the beautiful growth that came from finally choosing herself. Hopefully, this episode serves as a guide for staying true to yourself and living a full and authentic life!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In her final solo episode of the year, Dr. Tracy reflects on this incredible year of podcasting before diving into something she's personally struggled with and found the power of confronting: self-abandonment. Drawing from both personal experience and listener questions, she explores the signs, reasons, and consequences of self-abandonment in our relationships. The episode offers practical insights into setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building a supportive community. Dr. Tracy candidly shares the challenges she's faced this year with the creation and release of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This," the ways it brought her self-abandoning tendencies to the light, the relationships she had to walk away from, the loneliness she felt, but the beautiful growth that came from finally choosing herself. Hopefully, this episode serves as a guide for staying true to yourself and living a full and authentic life! 


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3178 Dear Dr. Tracy: Navigating Mother-in-Law Waters In the heart of the holiday season, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg embark on the first official "Dear Dr. Tracy" episode, tackling a fitting and timely listener question about navigating family dynamics. With a primary focus on mother-in-law relationships, they delve into topics like addressing defensive reactions, handling guilt trips, and initiating difficult conversations. Throughout the conversation, this dynamic duo highlights the importance of setting boundaries, practicing effective communication, and initiating generational change within one's own family. With a blend of personal experiences and professional advice, this episode sets the stage for honest and insightful discussions on family dynamics during the holiday season and beyond.  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 14 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0000 Dear Dr. Tracy: Navigating Mother-in-Law Waters full 4 57 Cloud10 Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg embark on the first official "Dear Dr. Tracy" episode, tackling a fitting and timely listener question about navigating family dynamics. With a primary focus on mother-in-law relationships, they delve into topics like addressing defensive reactions, handling guilt trips, and initiating difficult conversations. Throughout the conversation, this dynamic duo highlights the importance of setting boundaries, practicing effective communication, and initiating generational change within one's own family. With a blend of personal experiences and professional advice, this episode sets the stage for honest and insightful discussions on family dynamics during the holiday season and beyond. In the heart of the holiday season, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg embark on the first official "Dear Dr. Tracy" episode, tackling a fitting and timely listener question about navigating family dynamics. With a primary focus on mother-in-law relationships, they delve into topics like addressing defensive reactions, handling guilt trips, and initiating difficult conversations. Throughout the conversation, this dynamic duo highlights the importance of setting boundaries, practicing effective communication, and initiating generational change within one's own family. With a blend of personal experiences and professional advice, this episode sets the stage for honest and insightful discussions on family dynamics during the holiday season and beyond.  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In the heart of the holiday season, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg embark on the first official "Dear Dr. Tracy" episode, tackling a fitting and timely listener question about navigating family dynamics. With a primary focus on mother-in-law relationships, they delve into topics like addressing defensive reactions, handling guilt trips, and initiating difficult conversations. Throughout the conversation, this dynamic duo highlights the importance of setting boundaries, practicing effective communication, and initiating generational change within one's own family. With a blend of personal experiences and professional advice, this episode sets the stage for honest and insightful discussions on family dynamics during the holiday season and beyond. 


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co 


You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2574 The Gift of Boundaries with Terri Cole As we embrace the holiday spirit, it's essential to recognize the challenges it brings and the importance of setting boundaries. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond.  Today’s topics include:  Terri’s definition of what boundaries are  Why women often fear setting boundaries or saying "no"  The importance of making your preferences and limits known  Codependency and auto-accommodation  Setting boundaries with family and the guilt associated   What to do when your loved ones aren’t respecting your “no”     You can find Terri on her Instagram, website, and podcast.  Check out a special gift just for you from Terri when you visit https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 07 Dec 2023 13:03:00 -0000 The Gift of Boundaries with Terri Cole full 4 56 Cloud10 In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Dr. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond. As we embrace the holiday spirit, it's essential to recognize the challenges it brings and the importance of setting boundaries. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond.  Today’s topics include:  Terri’s definition of what boundaries are  Why women often fear setting boundaries or saying "no"  The importance of making your preferences and limits known  Codependency and auto-accommodation  Setting boundaries with family and the guilt associated   What to do when your loved ones aren’t respecting your “no”     You can find Terri on her Instagram, website, and podcast.  Check out a special gift just for you from Terri when you visit https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices As we embrace the holiday spirit, it's essential to recognize the challenges it brings and the importance of setting boundaries. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond. 


Today’s topics include: 

  • Terri’s definition of what boundaries are 
  • Why women often fear setting boundaries or saying "no" 
  • The importance of making your preferences and limits known 
  • Codependency and auto-accommodation 
  • Setting boundaries with family and the guilt associated  
  • What to do when your loved ones aren’t respecting your “no”  

 

You can find Terri on her Instagram, website, and podcast. 

Check out a special gift just for you from Terri when you visit https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/ 


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co


You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2927 How to Talk to Kids about Anything with Dr. Robyn Silverman This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Robyn Silverman, also known as The Conversation Doc! Dr. Robyn, a child and teen development specialist and host of the "How to Talk to Kids About Anything" podcast, just released a new book with the same title and is here to share all of her wisdom. Reflecting on her personal experiences, Dr. Robyn emphasizes the crucial role parents play in initiating important conversations with their children, covering topics like bullying and self-esteem. The discussion explores challenges in addressing body image, the identity feedback loop, and practical advice for fostering self-esteem. Dr. Robyn provides valuable guidance on creating a safe space for children, recognizing self-esteem struggles, and dealing with external influences. This episode is a powerful resource for parents, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and openness in the parent-child relationship at any age.     Today’s topics include:  The importance of having uncomfortable conversations with your children  What it means to have a fear response as a parent  Parenting out loud and how you can practice it with your own kids  Breaking the identity feedback loop    Identifying self-esteem struggles and building tools to get back on track  How to approach negative external influences  Giving yourself grace as a parent    You can find Robyn on Instagram, on her podcast and website!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 30 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 How to Talk to Kids about Anything with Dr. Robyn Silverman full 4 55 Cloud10 Dr. Robyn, a child and teen development specialist and host of the "How to Talk to Kids About Anything" podcast, just released a new book with the same title and is here to share all of her wisdom. Reflecting on her personal experiences, Dr. Robyn emphasizes the crucial role parents play in initiating important conversations with their children, covering topics like bullying and self-esteem. The discussion explores challenges in addressing body image, the identity feedback loop, and practical advice for fostering self-esteem. Dr. Robyn provides valuable guidance on creating a safe space for children, recognizing self-esteem struggles, and dealing with external influences. This episode is a powerful resource for parents, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and openness in the parent-child relationship at any age. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Robyn Silverman, also known as The Conversation Doc! Dr. Robyn, a child and teen development specialist and host of the "How to Talk to Kids About Anything" podcast, just released a new book with the same title and is here to share all of her wisdom. Reflecting on her personal experiences, Dr. Robyn emphasizes the crucial role parents play in initiating important conversations with their children, covering topics like bullying and self-esteem. The discussion explores challenges in addressing body image, the identity feedback loop, and practical advice for fostering self-esteem. Dr. Robyn provides valuable guidance on creating a safe space for children, recognizing self-esteem struggles, and dealing with external influences. This episode is a powerful resource for parents, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and openness in the parent-child relationship at any age.     Today’s topics include:  The importance of having uncomfortable conversations with your children  What it means to have a fear response as a parent  Parenting out loud and how you can practice it with your own kids  Breaking the identity feedback loop    Identifying self-esteem struggles and building tools to get back on track  How to approach negative external influences  Giving yourself grace as a parent    You can find Robyn on Instagram, on her podcast and website!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Robyn Silverman, also known as The Conversation Doc! Dr. Robyn, a child and teen development specialist and host of the "How to Talk to Kids About Anything" podcast, just released a new book with the same title and is here to share all of her wisdom. Reflecting on her personal experiences, Dr. Robyn emphasizes the crucial role parents play in initiating important conversations with their children, covering topics like bullying and self-esteem. The discussion explores challenges in addressing body image, the identity feedback loop, and practical advice for fostering self-esteem. Dr. Robyn provides valuable guidance on creating a safe space for children, recognizing self-esteem struggles, and dealing with external influences. This episode is a powerful resource for parents, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and openness in the parent-child relationship at any age. 

  

Today’s topics include: 

  • The importance of having uncomfortable conversations with your children 
  • What it means to have a fear response as a parent 
  • Parenting out loud and how you can practice it with your own kids 
  • Breaking the identity feedback loop   
  • Identifying self-esteem struggles and building tools to get back on track 
  • How to approach negative external influences 
  • Giving yourself grace as a parent 

 

You can find Robyn on Instagram, on her podcast and website!  


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2961 Enneagram and Marriage with Christa Hardin As we approach the many gatherings that the holiday season brings, the need for teamwork and connection in our relationships is as relevant as ever. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Christa Hardin, host of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, author, and founder of Reflections Counselling Centre, to explore the Enneagram assessment as a tool for building stronger connections in our partnerships. She shares her own personal experience with the Enneagram, the positive impact it’s had on her marriage, and the several benefits of this assessment when it comes to couples seeking to strengthen their relationships and better themselves. Christa takes us through the nine enneagram types, the concept of wings, the three conflict triads, and emphasizes the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. She also provides guidance on approaching relationships with compassion, focusing on individual self-improvement, and embracing each other's strengths and imperfections. It’s such an eye-opening discussion that goes beyond partnerships and into gaining a better understanding of ourselves to help us navigate and live more meaningful and connected lives.  Today’s topics include:  The benefits of the Enneagram vs. other assessments  What to do if your partner isn’t interested in taking the Enneagram test  A high-level overview of the nine Enneagram personality types  How do Enneagram wings work?  The 3 instincts of marriage  Conflict triads and what they mean  The importance of self-grounding and self-care in the midst of relationship struggles  Why you should revisit your love story  Leading with intention but leaving a necessary margin    You can find Christa on Instagram, listen to her podcast and find her book on her website!     A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 23 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 Enneagram and Marriage with Christa Hardin full 4 54 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Christa Hardin, host of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, author, and founder of Reflections Counselling Centre, to explore the Enneagram assessment as a tool for building stronger connections in our partnerships. She shares her own personal experience with the Enneagram, the positive impact it’s had on her marriage, and the several benefits of this assessment when it comes to couples seeking to strengthen their relationships and better themselves. Christa takes us through the nine enneagram types, the concept of wings, the three conflict triads, and emphasizes the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. She also provides guidance on approaching relationships with compassion, focusing on individual self-improvement, and embracing each other's strengths and imperfections. It’s such an eye-opening discussion that goes beyond partnerships and into gaining a better understanding of ourselves to help us navigate and live more meaningful and connected lives. As we approach the many gatherings that the holiday season brings, the need for teamwork and connection in our relationships is as relevant as ever. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Christa Hardin, host of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, author, and founder of Reflections Counselling Centre, to explore the Enneagram assessment as a tool for building stronger connections in our partnerships. She shares her own personal experience with the Enneagram, the positive impact it’s had on her marriage, and the several benefits of this assessment when it comes to couples seeking to strengthen their relationships and better themselves. Christa takes us through the nine enneagram types, the concept of wings, the three conflict triads, and emphasizes the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. She also provides guidance on approaching relationships with compassion, focusing on individual self-improvement, and embracing each other's strengths and imperfections. It’s such an eye-opening discussion that goes beyond partnerships and into gaining a better understanding of ourselves to help us navigate and live more meaningful and connected lives.  Today’s topics include:  The benefits of the Enneagram vs. other assessments  What to do if your partner isn’t interested in taking the Enneagram test  A high-level overview of the nine Enneagram personality types  How do Enneagram wings work?  The 3 instincts of marriage  Conflict triads and what they mean  The importance of self-grounding and self-care in the midst of relationship struggles  Why you should revisit your love story  Leading with intention but leaving a necessary margin    You can find Christa on Instagram, listen to her podcast and find her book on her website!     A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices As we approach the many gatherings that the holiday season brings, the need for teamwork and connection in our relationships is as relevant as ever. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Christa Hardin, host of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, author, and founder of Reflections Counselling Centre, to explore the Enneagram assessment as a tool for building stronger connections in our partnerships. She shares her own personal experience with the Enneagram, the positive impact it’s had on her marriage, and the several benefits of this assessment when it comes to couples seeking to strengthen their relationships and better themselves. Christa takes us through the nine enneagram types, the concept of wings, the three conflict triads, and emphasizes the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. She also provides guidance on approaching relationships with compassion, focusing on individual self-improvement, and embracing each other's strengths and imperfections. It’s such an eye-opening discussion that goes beyond partnerships and into gaining a better understanding of ourselves to help us navigate and live more meaningful and connected lives. 


Today’s topics include: 

  • The benefits of the Enneagram vs. other assessments 
  • What to do if your partner isn’t interested in taking the Enneagram test 
  • A high-level overview of the nine Enneagram personality types 
  • How do Enneagram wings work? 
  • The 3 instincts of marriage 
  • Conflict triads and what they mean 
  • The importance of self-grounding and self-care in the midst of relationship struggles 
  • Why you should revisit your love story 
  • Leading with intention but leaving a necessary margin 

 

You can find Christa on Instagram, listen to her podcast and find her book on her website!  


 

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]]> 2852 Invisible Scars with Jessalynn Biederstadt *Trigger Warning: Childhood Sexual Trauma  This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with the inspiring and resilient Jessalynn Biederstadt, the host of the Invisible Scars podcast and owner of the Doted Boutique. As a victim and survivor of the Willow River, child sexual assault pornography case in 1999, Jessalynn has shown immense strength in her healing journey and is opening up and sharing the very real ups and downs of that process with us today. From the incredible work she’s doing with her podcast and the platform she’s giving to other victims of trauma to the messy and inconvenient aspects of the healing process and a very realistic look into what it’s like to “do the work” as a mother and partner, we’re so grateful to have her on to share with us today, and we hope this episode is a reminder that there is no right way or time to heal; you're already doing better than you think you are.     Today’s topics include:  The consequences of internalizing trauma  Why there will never be a “right” time to begin healing  Navigating postpartum while recovering from trauma  The power of sitting and reflecting on your growth  Overcoming personal trauma and doing the work while in a partnership  Losing people during the healing process    You can find Jessalynn on Instagram and listen to Invisible Scars here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 16 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 Invisible Scars with Jessalynn Biederstadt full 4 53 Cloud10 As a victim and survivor of the Willow River, child sexual assault pornography case in 1999, Jessalynn has shown immense strength in her healing journey and is opening up and sharing the very real ups and downs of that process with us today. From the incredible work she’s doing with her podcast and the platform she’s giving to other victims of trauma to the messy and inconvenient aspects of the healing process and a very realistic look into what it’s like to “do the work” as a mother and partner, we’re so grateful to have her on to share with us today, and we hope this episode is a reminder that there is no right way or time to heal; you're already doing better than you think you are. *Trigger Warning: Childhood Sexual Trauma  This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with the inspiring and resilient Jessalynn Biederstadt, the host of the Invisible Scars podcast and owner of the Doted Boutique. As a victim and survivor of the Willow River, child sexual assault pornography case in 1999, Jessalynn has shown immense strength in her healing journey and is opening up and sharing the very real ups and downs of that process with us today. From the incredible work she’s doing with her podcast and the platform she’s giving to other victims of trauma to the messy and inconvenient aspects of the healing process and a very realistic look into what it’s like to “do the work” as a mother and partner, we’re so grateful to have her on to share with us today, and we hope this episode is a reminder that there is no right way or time to heal; you're already doing better than you think you are.     Today’s topics include:  The consequences of internalizing trauma  Why there will never be a “right” time to begin healing  Navigating postpartum while recovering from trauma  The power of sitting and reflecting on your growth  Overcoming personal trauma and doing the work while in a partnership  Losing people during the healing process    You can find Jessalynn on Instagram and listen to Invisible Scars here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices *Trigger Warning: Childhood Sexual Trauma 


This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with the inspiring and resilient Jessalynn Biederstadt, the host of the Invisible Scars podcast and owner of the Doted Boutique. As a victim and survivor of the Willow River, child sexual assault pornography case in 1999, Jessalynn has shown immense strength in her healing journey and is opening up and sharing the very real ups and downs of that process with us today. From the incredible work she’s doing with her podcast and the platform she’s giving to other victims of trauma to the messy and inconvenient aspects of the healing process and a very realistic look into what it’s like to “do the work” as a mother and partner, we’re so grateful to have her on to share with us today, and we hope this episode is a reminder that there is no right way or time to heal; you're already doing better than you think you are. 

  

Today’s topics include: 

  • The consequences of internalizing trauma 
  • Why there will never be a “right” time to begin healing 
  • Navigating postpartum while recovering from trauma 
  • The power of sitting and reflecting on your growth 
  • Overcoming personal trauma and doing the work while in a partnership 
  • Losing people during the healing process 

 

You can find Jessalynn on Instagram and listen to Invisible Scars here!  



A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co

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Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 



You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 2673 Decoding Personalization with the Shrink Chicks This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly, licensed marriage and family therapists, co-owners of the therapy practice “The Therapy Group,” and co-hosts of the “Shrink Chicks” podcast. The two kick off the episode by taking us back to their grad school days and the reasons why their ultimate goal as therapists, podcast hosts, and public figures is to make therapy more relatable, digestible, and accessible for all. They then open up about the reality of starting a podcast about therapy as a practicing therapist and the ways it’s impacted their relationships with their clients. For the main event, the conversation dives into the roots of personalization and why some of us are quick to take the blame for other people's feelings or behaviour. From childhood experiences and parental dynamics to how personalization can manifest in our various adult relationships, the trio provides valuable insight and guidance on how to navigate, find empathy, set boundaries, and respond instead of reacting in triggering situations with the people closest to us. Ultimately, this episode emphasizes the power of personal agency and how to honor your authentic self in adult relationships, just in time for the holidays.    Today’s topics include:  Breaking down the traditionally clinical walls of therapy   Deepening the client/therapist relationship   What personalization is and how it shows up for people   Chaotic upbringings and the various ways personalization can develop   The importance of reflecting inward and acknowledging some of the survival mechanisms you’ve brought into adulthood   Having a highly sensitive child and approaching that as a parent   Finding empathy and understanding generational behaviour  What it means to be hard on the inside and soft on the outside  Preventative care and how to step into responding instead of reacting  The power of personal agency     You can find more from Jennifer and Emmalee on their Instagram, website and podcast!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 09 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0000 Decoding Personalization with the Shrink Chicks full 4 52 Cloud10 For the main event, the conversation dives into the roots of personalization and why some of us are quick to take the blame for other people's feelings or behaviour. From childhood experiences and parental dynamics to how personalization can manifest in our various adult relationships, the trio provides valuable insight and guidance on how to navigate, find empathy, set boundaries, and respond instead of reacting in triggering situations with the people closest to us. Ultimately, this episode emphasizes the power of personal agency and how to honor your authentic self in adult relationships, just in time for the holidays. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly, licensed marriage and family therapists, co-owners of the therapy practice “The Therapy Group,” and co-hosts of the “Shrink Chicks” podcast. The two kick off the episode by taking us back to their grad school days and the reasons why their ultimate goal as therapists, podcast hosts, and public figures is to make therapy more relatable, digestible, and accessible for all. They then open up about the reality of starting a podcast about therapy as a practicing therapist and the ways it’s impacted their relationships with their clients. For the main event, the conversation dives into the roots of personalization and why some of us are quick to take the blame for other people's feelings or behaviour. From childhood experiences and parental dynamics to how personalization can manifest in our various adult relationships, the trio provides valuable insight and guidance on how to navigate, find empathy, set boundaries, and respond instead of reacting in triggering situations with the people closest to us. Ultimately, this episode emphasizes the power of personal agency and how to honor your authentic self in adult relationships, just in time for the holidays.    Today’s topics include:  Breaking down the traditionally clinical walls of therapy   Deepening the client/therapist relationship   What personalization is and how it shows up for people   Chaotic upbringings and the various ways personalization can develop   The importance of reflecting inward and acknowledging some of the survival mechanisms you’ve brought into adulthood   Having a highly sensitive child and approaching that as a parent   Finding empathy and understanding generational behaviour  What it means to be hard on the inside and soft on the outside  Preventative care and how to step into responding instead of reacting  The power of personal agency     You can find more from Jennifer and Emmalee on their Instagram, website and podcast!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly, licensed marriage and family therapists, co-owners of the therapy practice “The Therapy Group,” and co-hosts of the “Shrink Chicks” podcast. The two kick off the episode by taking us back to their grad school days and the reasons why their ultimate goal as therapists, podcast hosts, and public figures is to make therapy more relatable, digestible, and accessible for all. They then open up about the reality of starting a podcast about therapy as a practicing therapist and the ways it’s impacted their relationships with their clients. For the main event, the conversation dives into the roots of personalization and why some of us are quick to take the blame for other people's feelings or behaviour. From childhood experiences and parental dynamics to how personalization can manifest in our various adult relationships, the trio provides valuable insight and guidance on how to navigate, find empathy, set boundaries, and respond instead of reacting in triggering situations with the people closest to us. Ultimately, this episode emphasizes the power of personal agency and how to honor your authentic self in adult relationships, just in time for the holidays. 

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • Breaking down the traditionally clinical walls of therapy  
  • Deepening the client/therapist relationship  
  • What personalization is and how it shows up for people  
  • Chaotic upbringings and the various ways personalization can develop  
  • The importance of reflecting inward and acknowledging some of the survival mechanisms you’ve brought into adulthood  
  • Having a highly sensitive child and approaching that as a parent  
  • Finding empathy and understanding generational behaviour 
  • What it means to be hard on the inside and soft on the outside 
  • Preventative care and how to step into responding instead of reacting 
  • The power of personal agency  

 


You can find more from Jennifer and Emmalee on their Instagram, website and podcast!  


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com

Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS 


You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 3202 The Power of Emotional Awareness with Dr. Cindy Hovington This week, Dr. Tracy is celebrating 100 episodes of the podcast! Kicking off the show with a moment of gratitude, she reflects on the show’s incredible journey towards nearly one million downloads and expresses her appreciation for the supportive community we’ve created together.  The episode then dives into the essential topic of emotion regulation with the guest of honour, Dr. Cindy Hovington, a mom of three with a doctorate in neuroscience, podcast host, founder of Curious Neuron, and the Wondergrade app. Together, they explore the shift from impulsive reactions to deliberate responses in parenting, highlighting the formative role of past experiences in shaping our emotional reactions as parents and individuals. The conversation touches on the importance of giving children the space to express their anger in a safe way and the invaluable practice of modelling emotional awareness as parents. Additionally, the episode underscores the significance of identifying emotional regulation zones and addresses the sensitive issue of physical abuse in parenting. Dr. Cindy's profound insights offer invaluable guidance to parents navigating the intricate landscape of emotions, both at home and beyond.  Today’s topics include:  Responding vs. reacting when parenting  Managing dysregulation of the nervous system and Dr. Cindy’s 3-zone self-assessment  Why revisiting your own upbringing and history with emotional regulation will benefit your children  How to best approach anger when it comes to our children and creating a safe space for them  The importance of practicing self-awareness in moments of tension and difficulty  Why physical abuse is never an acceptable or productive response    You can find Dr. Cindy and learn more about the Curious Neuron on their Instagram, website and podcast! Also be sure to check out the Wondergrade App.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 02 Nov 2023 10:00:00 -0000 The Power of Emotional Awareness with Dr. Cindy Hovington full 4 51 Cloud10 The episode dives into the essential topic of emotion regulation with the guest of honour, Dr. Cindy Hovington, a mom of three with a doctorate in neuroscience, podcast host, founder of Curious Neuron, and the Wondergrade app. Together, they explore the shift from impulsive reactions to deliberate responses in parenting, highlighting the formative role of past experiences in shaping our emotional reactions as parents and individuals. The conversation touches on the importance of giving children the space to express their anger in a safe way and the invaluable practice of modeling emotional awareness as parents. Additionally, the episode underscores the significance of identifying emotional regulation zones and addresses the sensitive issue of physical abuse in parenting. Dr. Cindy's profound insights offer invaluable guidance to parents navigating the intricate landscape of emotions, both at home and beyond. This week, Dr. Tracy is celebrating 100 episodes of the podcast! Kicking off the show with a moment of gratitude, she reflects on the show’s incredible journey towards nearly one million downloads and expresses her appreciation for the supportive community we’ve created together.  The episode then dives into the essential topic of emotion regulation with the guest of honour, Dr. Cindy Hovington, a mom of three with a doctorate in neuroscience, podcast host, founder of Curious Neuron, and the Wondergrade app. Together, they explore the shift from impulsive reactions to deliberate responses in parenting, highlighting the formative role of past experiences in shaping our emotional reactions as parents and individuals. The conversation touches on the importance of giving children the space to express their anger in a safe way and the invaluable practice of modelling emotional awareness as parents. Additionally, the episode underscores the significance of identifying emotional regulation zones and addresses the sensitive issue of physical abuse in parenting. Dr. Cindy's profound insights offer invaluable guidance to parents navigating the intricate landscape of emotions, both at home and beyond.  Today’s topics include:  Responding vs. reacting when parenting  Managing dysregulation of the nervous system and Dr. Cindy’s 3-zone self-assessment  Why revisiting your own upbringing and history with emotional regulation will benefit your children  How to best approach anger when it comes to our children and creating a safe space for them  The importance of practicing self-awareness in moments of tension and difficulty  Why physical abuse is never an acceptable or productive response    You can find Dr. Cindy and learn more about the Curious Neuron on their Instagram, website and podcast! Also be sure to check out the Wondergrade App.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is celebrating 100 episodes of the podcast! Kicking off the show with a moment of gratitude, she reflects on the show’s incredible journey towards nearly one million downloads and expresses her appreciation for the supportive community we’ve created together. 


The episode then dives into the essential topic of emotion regulation with the guest of honour, Dr. Cindy Hovington, a mom of three with a doctorate in neuroscience, podcast host, founder of Curious Neuron, and the Wondergrade app. Together, they explore the shift from impulsive reactions to deliberate responses in parenting, highlighting the formative role of past experiences in shaping our emotional reactions as parents and individuals. The conversation touches on the importance of giving children the space to express their anger in a safe way and the invaluable practice of modelling emotional awareness as parents. Additionally, the episode underscores the significance of identifying emotional regulation zones and addresses the sensitive issue of physical abuse in parenting. Dr. Cindy's profound insights offer invaluable guidance to parents navigating the intricate landscape of emotions, both at home and beyond. 


Today’s topics include: 

  • Responding vs. reacting when parenting 
  • Managing dysregulation of the nervous system and Dr. Cindy’s 3-zone self-assessment 
  • Why revisiting your own upbringing and history with emotional regulation will benefit your children 
  • How to best approach anger when it comes to our children and creating a safe space for them 
  • The importance of practicing self-awareness in moments of tension and difficulty 
  • Why physical abuse is never an acceptable or productive response 

 

You can find Dr. Cindy and learn more about the Curious Neuron on their Instagram, website and podcast! Also be sure to check out the Wondergrade App.  


A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible!

OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co

Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com


You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3125 The Balancing Act of Pregnancy, Motherhood, and Work with Stephanie Kramer This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Stephanie Kramer, a leader in the beauty industry who serves as the Chief Human Resources Officer at L'Oreal USA, a professor at FIT, a mother of two, and the author of "Carry Strong”. Stephanie’s book aims to empower women in navigating the intricate balance of pregnancy, parenthood, and work. Drawing from her personal experiences, Stephanie shares her inspiration for writing “Carry Strong”, shedding light on the often-overlooked silent struggles and unique challenges faced by working women before, during, and after pregnancy. The conversation then explores the complexities of work-life balance, the pressure to do it all and how to take a more “flexible” approach to adapt to the ever-changing demands of motherhood. Plus, the two also swap notes on topics like mom guilt, the fear of missing out (FOMO), and the very real struggle of trying to maintain a sense of identity in this particular phase of life. In the words of Stephanie herself, you can do it all, not at the same time, and not alone.   Today’s topics include:  The silent suffering working women endure in the early phase of pregnancy  Work-life balance in motherhood and how to approach it more fluidly  Moving through mom guilt and shame as a working parent  How to go from FOMO (fear of missing out) to COMO (certainty of missing out)  The freeing nature of prioritization and making conscious decisions based on your values  Struggling with identity and how to come back to yourself    You can learn more about The Carry Strong Project on Instagram and check out the book and website here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 26 Oct 2023 14:11:00 -0000 The Balancing Act of Pregnancy, Motherhood, and Work with Stephanie Kramer full 4 50 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Stephanie Kramer, a leader in the beauty industry who serves as the Chief Human Resources Officer at L'Oreal USA, a professor at FIT, a mother of two, and the author of "Carry Strong”. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Stephanie Kramer, a leader in the beauty industry who serves as the Chief Human Resources Officer at L'Oreal USA, a professor at FIT, a mother of two, and the author of "Carry Strong”. Stephanie’s book aims to empower women in navigating the intricate balance of pregnancy, parenthood, and work. Drawing from her personal experiences, Stephanie shares her inspiration for writing “Carry Strong”, shedding light on the often-overlooked silent struggles and unique challenges faced by working women before, during, and after pregnancy. The conversation then explores the complexities of work-life balance, the pressure to do it all and how to take a more “flexible” approach to adapt to the ever-changing demands of motherhood. Plus, the two also swap notes on topics like mom guilt, the fear of missing out (FOMO), and the very real struggle of trying to maintain a sense of identity in this particular phase of life. In the words of Stephanie herself, you can do it all, not at the same time, and not alone.   Today’s topics include:  The silent suffering working women endure in the early phase of pregnancy  Work-life balance in motherhood and how to approach it more fluidly  Moving through mom guilt and shame as a working parent  How to go from FOMO (fear of missing out) to COMO (certainty of missing out)  The freeing nature of prioritization and making conscious decisions based on your values  Struggling with identity and how to come back to yourself    You can learn more about The Carry Strong Project on Instagram and check out the book and website here!     You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Stephanie Kramer, a leader in the beauty industry who serves as the Chief Human Resources Officer at L'Oreal USA, a professor at FIT, a mother of two, and the author of "Carry Strong”. Stephanie’s book aims to empower women in navigating the intricate balance of pregnancy, parenthood, and work. Drawing from her personal experiences, Stephanie shares her inspiration for writing “Carry Strong”, shedding light on the often-overlooked silent struggles and unique challenges faced by working women before, during, and after pregnancy. The conversation then explores the complexities of work-life balance, the pressure to do it all and how to take a more “flexible” approach to adapt to the ever-changing demands of motherhood. Plus, the two also swap notes on topics like mom guilt, the fear of missing out (FOMO), and the very real struggle of trying to maintain a sense of identity in this particular phase of life. In the words of Stephanie herself, you can do it all, not at the same time, and not alone.  

Today’s topics include: 

  • The silent suffering working women endure in the early phase of pregnancy 
  • Work-life balance in motherhood and how to approach it more fluidly 
  • Moving through mom guilt and shame as a working parent 
  • How to go from FOMO (fear of missing out) to COMO (certainty of missing out) 
  • The freeing nature of prioritization and making conscious decisions based on your values 
  • Struggling with identity and how to come back to yourself 

 

You can learn more about The Carry Strong Project on Instagram and check out the book and website here!  

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2672 Healing and Working through Shame - With Dr. Zoe Shaw This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, life coach, and podcast host. Her extensive experience spans over two decades, during which she's been dedicated to helping women navigate challenging relationships and discover their inner strength. Dr. Shaw opens up the conversation by candidly sharing her own complex journey with shame, tracing it back to her teenage years, when she grappled with a secret pregnancy at the age of 15. She explores the various ways shame can manifest itself, emphasizing the profound difference between guilt and shame and how these emotions manifest in individuals, leading to externalizing or internalizing behaviours. Lastly, the two address the impact of shame on relationships and offer valuable insights into healing and self-acceptance.  Today’s Topics include:  Shame spirals and how to identify if you’re experiencing them  Understanding the difference between guilt and shame  Characteristics of shame externalizers and shame internalizers  How to get to a place of healing in your relationship if you suffer from complex shame  The benefits that deep individual self-work can have on our relationships  Recognizing the energy exchange within a relationship and practicing interdependence instead of co-dependency  Why vulnerability is key to the healing journey if you suffer from complex shame    You can find Dr. Shaw on Instagram on her website, and listen to her podcast!  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 19 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Healing and Working through Shame - With Dr. Zoe Shaw full 49 Cloud10 Dr. Shaw opens up the conversation by candidly sharing her own complex journey with shame, tracing it back to her teenage years, when she grappled with a secret pregnancy at the age of 15. She explores the various ways shame can manifest itself, emphasizing the profound difference between guilt and shame and how these emotions manifest in individuals, leading to externalizing or internalizing behaviours. Lastly, the two address the impact of shame on relationships and offer valuable insights into healing and self-acceptance. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, life coach, and podcast host. Her extensive experience spans over two decades, during which she's been dedicated to helping women navigate challenging relationships and discover their inner strength. Dr. Shaw opens up the conversation by candidly sharing her own complex journey with shame, tracing it back to her teenage years, when she grappled with a secret pregnancy at the age of 15. She explores the various ways shame can manifest itself, emphasizing the profound difference between guilt and shame and how these emotions manifest in individuals, leading to externalizing or internalizing behaviours. Lastly, the two address the impact of shame on relationships and offer valuable insights into healing and self-acceptance.  Today’s Topics include:  Shame spirals and how to identify if you’re experiencing them  Understanding the difference between guilt and shame  Characteristics of shame externalizers and shame internalizers  How to get to a place of healing in your relationship if you suffer from complex shame  The benefits that deep individual self-work can have on our relationships  Recognizing the energy exchange within a relationship and practicing interdependence instead of co-dependency  Why vulnerability is key to the healing journey if you suffer from complex shame    You can find Dr. Shaw on Instagram on her website, and listen to her podcast!  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, life coach, and podcast host. Her extensive experience spans over two decades, during which she's been dedicated to helping women navigate challenging relationships and discover their inner strength. Dr. Shaw opens up the conversation by candidly sharing her own complex journey with shame, tracing it back to her teenage years, when she grappled with a secret pregnancy at the age of 15. She explores the various ways shame can manifest itself, emphasizing the profound difference between guilt and shame and how these emotions manifest in individuals, leading to externalizing or internalizing behaviours. Lastly, the two address the impact of shame on relationships and offer valuable insights into healing and self-acceptance. 


Today’s Topics include: 

  • Shame spirals and how to identify if you’re experiencing them 
  • Understanding the difference between guilt and shame 
  • Characteristics of shame externalizers and shame internalizers 
  • How to get to a place of healing in your relationship if you suffer from complex shame 
  • The benefits that deep individual self-work can have on our relationships 
  • Recognizing the energy exchange within a relationship and practicing interdependence instead of co-dependency 
  • Why vulnerability is key to the healing journey if you suffer from complex shame 

 

You can find Dr. Shaw on Instagram on her website, and listen to her podcast! 


You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2258 Love, Acceptance, and Therapy with Dr. Alexandra Solomon This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, and author of two bestselling books “Loving Bravely” and “Taking Sexy Back”. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world, and today, Dr. Solomon and Dr. Tracy are diving into the real experiences of therapists, the common misconceptions of couples therapy, and how to develop a strong relationship with your therapist. Together, they explore the elements that went into Dr. Tracy’s new book, “I Didn’t Sign Up For This,” and the importance of the patient-client relationship. They also discuss the shifting narrative and stigma of therapy and the many misconceptions and fears of couples therapy in particular.   Today’s Topics include:  Shifting narrative in therapy  Importance of the patient-client relationship and the need for giving feedback to therapists  Acceptance as a requirement in love and relationships  How our ambitions have an impact on relationship challenges  Decreasing stigma around therapy and the common misconceptions about couples therapy  Seeing couples therapy as a sign of strength and vulnerability  Normalizing life changes and addressing relationship problems openly  When to consider solo therapy versus couples therapy    You can find Dr. Alexandra on Instagram, on her website, and listen to her podcast!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 12 Oct 2023 15:14:49 -0000 Love, Acceptance, and Therapy with Dr. Alexandra Solomon full 4 48 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, and author of two bestselling books “Loving Bravely” and “Taking Sexy Back”. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, and author of two bestselling books “Loving Bravely” and “Taking Sexy Back”. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world, and today, Dr. Solomon and Dr. Tracy are diving into the real experiences of therapists, the common misconceptions of couples therapy, and how to develop a strong relationship with your therapist. Together, they explore the elements that went into Dr. Tracy’s new book, “I Didn’t Sign Up For This,” and the importance of the patient-client relationship. They also discuss the shifting narrative and stigma of therapy and the many misconceptions and fears of couples therapy in particular.   Today’s Topics include:  Shifting narrative in therapy  Importance of the patient-client relationship and the need for giving feedback to therapists  Acceptance as a requirement in love and relationships  How our ambitions have an impact on relationship challenges  Decreasing stigma around therapy and the common misconceptions about couples therapy  Seeing couples therapy as a sign of strength and vulnerability  Normalizing life changes and addressing relationship problems openly  When to consider solo therapy versus couples therapy    You can find Dr. Alexandra on Instagram, on her website, and listen to her podcast!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, and author of two bestselling books “Loving Bravely” and “Taking Sexy Back”. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world, and today, Dr. Solomon and Dr. Tracy are diving into the real experiences of therapists, the common misconceptions of couples therapy, and how to develop a strong relationship with your therapist. Together, they explore the elements that went into Dr. Tracy’s new book, “I Didn’t Sign Up For This,” and the importance of the patient-client relationship. They also discuss the shifting narrative and stigma of therapy and the many misconceptions and fears of couples therapy in particular.  

Today’s Topics include: 

  • Shifting narrative in therapy 
  • Importance of the patient-client relationship and the need for giving feedback to therapists 
  • Acceptance as a requirement in love and relationships 
  • How our ambitions have an impact on relationship challenges 
  • Decreasing stigma around therapy and the common misconceptions about couples therapy 
  • Seeing couples therapy as a sign of strength and vulnerability 
  • Normalizing life changes and addressing relationship problems openly 
  • When to consider solo therapy versus couples therapy 

 

You can find Dr. Alexandra on Instagram, on her website, and listen to her podcast! 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 4234 Emotional Intelligence: Fostering it in Our Children This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, parent, teacher, emotional development expert, and CEO of Seed and Sew, and together, they delve into the realm of children's emotional intelligence. Alyssa shares her journey into this field, driven by the need for personalized approaches to regulating children's emotions when she recognized that all of the resources out there were often crafted as a “one size fits all” approach. She shares her work creating the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method, emphasizing sensory mismatches, the impact of parental shame, and the importance of allowing children to experience various emotions safely. Together, they highlight the significance of equipping children with emotional processing tools and supporting them through challenging experiences that will help them not only when they are young but as they grow into adulthood. Lastly, they discuss the significance of setting boundaries and understanding consequences in the context of a child's growth and the development of their emotional intelligence skills.     Today’s topics include:  The need for personalized approaches to regulate children's emotions  Introduction of the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method  Emphasis on sensory mismatches and understanding children's unique needs  The impact of parental shame  The Importance of allowing children to safely experience a range of emotions  Equipping children with tools for emotional processing  Supporting children during challenging experiences  You can find Alyssa Blask Cambell on Instagram, on her website, and listen to her podcast!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 05 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Emotional Intelligence: Fostering it in Our Children full 4 47 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, parent, teacher, emotional development expert, and CEO of Seed and Sew, and together, they delve into the realm of children's emotional intelligence This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, parent, teacher, emotional development expert, and CEO of Seed and Sew, and together, they delve into the realm of children's emotional intelligence. Alyssa shares her journey into this field, driven by the need for personalized approaches to regulating children's emotions when she recognized that all of the resources out there were often crafted as a “one size fits all” approach. She shares her work creating the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method, emphasizing sensory mismatches, the impact of parental shame, and the importance of allowing children to experience various emotions safely. Together, they highlight the significance of equipping children with emotional processing tools and supporting them through challenging experiences that will help them not only when they are young but as they grow into adulthood. Lastly, they discuss the significance of setting boundaries and understanding consequences in the context of a child's growth and the development of their emotional intelligence skills.     Today’s topics include:  The need for personalized approaches to regulate children's emotions  Introduction of the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method  Emphasis on sensory mismatches and understanding children's unique needs  The impact of parental shame  The Importance of allowing children to safely experience a range of emotions  Equipping children with tools for emotional processing  Supporting children during challenging experiences  You can find Alyssa Blask Cambell on Instagram, on her website, and listen to her podcast!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, parent, teacher, emotional development expert, and CEO of Seed and Sew, and together, they delve into the realm of children's emotional intelligence. Alyssa shares her journey into this field, driven by the need for personalized approaches to regulating children's emotions when she recognized that all of the resources out there were often crafted as a “one size fits all” approach. She shares her work creating the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method, emphasizing sensory mismatches, the impact of parental shame, and the importance of allowing children to experience various emotions safely. Together, they highlight the significance of equipping children with emotional processing tools and supporting them through challenging experiences that will help them not only when they are young but as they grow into adulthood. Lastly, they discuss the significance of setting boundaries and understanding consequences in the context of a child's growth and the development of their emotional intelligence skills.  

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • The need for personalized approaches to regulate children's emotions 
  • Introduction of the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method 
  • Emphasis on sensory mismatches and understanding children's unique needs 
  • The impact of parental shame 
  • The Importance of allowing children to safely experience a range of emotions 
  • Equipping children with tools for emotional processing 
  • Supporting children during challenging experiences 

You can find Alyssa Blask Cambell on Instagram, on her website, and listen to her podcast! 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2922 Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Tanya Cotler, a renowned clinical psychologist and co-founder of Renni, to discuss attachment science and its profound influence on our parenting and relationships. Dr. Cotler sheds light on how our earliest years, particularly the first three, significantly shape our relationship blueprints. Together, they explore the intriguing link between attachment and feelings of shame, stressing the spectrum of attachment strategies, from anxious to avoidant. Dr. Cotler also dispels common parenting misconceptions, advocates for compassionate and intuitive parenting, and underscores the value of recognizing ruptures and repairs in nurturing a child's autonomy. Furthermore, the discussion extends beyond parenting to how these principles can enrich various relationships, emphasizing negotiation and acknowledging our own needs while fostering connections with others.    Today’s topics include:  The importance of the first three years of life in forming our blueprint for relationships.  The connection between attachment and the experience of shame in challenging moments  How the attachment system is related to our survival instincts and emotional responses  Coping strategies developed in childhood and their impact on adult behavior  Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles and their impact on relationships  Exploring intuitive and compassionate parenting and dispelling common myths.  How children communicate through their behavior and body language  The concept of ruptures and repairs in parent-child relationships  The essence of gentle, compassionate parenting and allowing children to learn autonomy  Understanding that it's impossible to meet every need at every moment and the importance of negotiation      You can find Dr. Tanya on Instagram, on her website, and learn more her work at Renni on their website!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 28 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler full 4 46 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Tanya Cotler, a renowned clinical psychologist and co-founder of Renni, to discuss attachment science and its profound influence on our parenting and relationships. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Tanya Cotler, a renowned clinical psychologist and co-founder of Renni, to discuss attachment science and its profound influence on our parenting and relationships. Dr. Cotler sheds light on how our earliest years, particularly the first three, significantly shape our relationship blueprints. Together, they explore the intriguing link between attachment and feelings of shame, stressing the spectrum of attachment strategies, from anxious to avoidant. Dr. Cotler also dispels common parenting misconceptions, advocates for compassionate and intuitive parenting, and underscores the value of recognizing ruptures and repairs in nurturing a child's autonomy. Furthermore, the discussion extends beyond parenting to how these principles can enrich various relationships, emphasizing negotiation and acknowledging our own needs while fostering connections with others.    Today’s topics include:  The importance of the first three years of life in forming our blueprint for relationships.  The connection between attachment and the experience of shame in challenging moments  How the attachment system is related to our survival instincts and emotional responses  Coping strategies developed in childhood and their impact on adult behavior  Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles and their impact on relationships  Exploring intuitive and compassionate parenting and dispelling common myths.  How children communicate through their behavior and body language  The concept of ruptures and repairs in parent-child relationships  The essence of gentle, compassionate parenting and allowing children to learn autonomy  Understanding that it's impossible to meet every need at every moment and the importance of negotiation      You can find Dr. Tanya on Instagram, on her website, and learn more her work at Renni on their website!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Tanya Cotler, a renowned clinical psychologist and co-founder of Renni, to discuss attachment science and its profound influence on our parenting and relationships. Dr. Cotler sheds light on how our earliest years, particularly the first three, significantly shape our relationship blueprints. Together, they explore the intriguing link between attachment and feelings of shame, stressing the spectrum of attachment strategies, from anxious to avoidant. Dr. Cotler also dispels common parenting misconceptions, advocates for compassionate and intuitive parenting, and underscores the value of recognizing ruptures and repairs in nurturing a child's autonomy. Furthermore, the discussion extends beyond parenting to how these principles can enrich various relationships, emphasizing negotiation and acknowledging our own needs while fostering connections with others. 

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • The importance of the first three years of life in forming our blueprint for relationships. 
  • The connection between attachment and the experience of shame in challenging moments 
  • How the attachment system is related to our survival instincts and emotional responses 
  • Coping strategies developed in childhood and their impact on adult behavior 
  • Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles and their impact on relationships 
  • Exploring intuitive and compassionate parenting and dispelling common myths. 
  • How children communicate through their behavior and body language 
  • The concept of ruptures and repairs in parent-child relationships 
  • The essence of gentle, compassionate parenting and allowing children to learn autonomy 
  • Understanding that it's impossible to meet every need at every moment and the importance of negotiation 

 

 

You can find Dr. Tanya on Instagram, on her website, and learn more her work at Renni on their website! 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3340 What it Means to Fight Fair with Greg Stewart This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to discuss what it means to fight fair. Whether it’s in your relationship or with a friend, they are breaking down the 8 practices that will help you navigate those frustrating disagreements that we find ourselves in when we feel overwhelmed. Together, they discuss the common build ups that can happen when one person isn’t clearly communicating their feelings and the importance of acknowledging each others frustrations. They expand on each of the 8 practices including sticking to one issue at a time, giving the most generous interpretation, avoid bringing up the past, and more.   Lastly, they dive into your personal questions surrounding what it means to fight fair and offer valuable advice to help you shift your mindset and navigate those challenging moments.    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 21 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 What it Means to Fight Fair with Greg Stewart full 4 45 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to discuss what it means to fight fair. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to discuss what it means to fight fair. Whether it’s in your relationship or with a friend, they are breaking down the 8 practices that will help you navigate those frustrating disagreements that we find ourselves in when we feel overwhelmed. Together, they discuss the common build ups that can happen when one person isn’t clearly communicating their feelings and the importance of acknowledging each others frustrations. They expand on each of the 8 practices including sticking to one issue at a time, giving the most generous interpretation, avoid bringing up the past, and more.   Lastly, they dive into your personal questions surrounding what it means to fight fair and offer valuable advice to help you shift your mindset and navigate those challenging moments.    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to discuss what it means to fight fair. Whether it’s in your relationship or with a friend, they are breaking down the 8 practices that will help you navigate those frustrating disagreements that we find ourselves in when we feel overwhelmed. Together, they discuss the common build ups that can happen when one person isn’t clearly communicating their feelings and the importance of acknowledging each others frustrations. They expand on each of the 8 practices including sticking to one issue at a time, giving the most generous interpretation, avoid bringing up the past, and more.  

Lastly, they dive into your personal questions surrounding what it means to fight fair and offer valuable advice to help you shift your mindset and navigate those challenging moments. 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3801 The Making of “I Didn’t Sign Up For This” This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with her editor at PESI Publishing for a behind-the-scenes look into the making of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This." In this intimate conversation, Dr. Tracy shares the origin story of her book and her observation of the common experiences we all often face in relationships yet we don’t talk about openly. Recognizing that people often learn best from stories rather than just tips and tricks, she wanted to create something that was accessible at home and incorporated realistic, everyday stories such as the fights with our partners, the stressors of cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and even retirement. Dr. Tracy also opens up about her decision to incorporate her own experiences into the book, drawing from her own marriage. She explains what led her to choose the title "I Didn't Sign Up for This" and how she maintained client confidentiality while sharing their powerful stories within the book.    Today’s topics include:  The power of storytelling and the need to address everyday relationship challenges that often go unspoken  The common stressors and complexities of various life scenarios, including cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and retirement  The concepts of dependence vs. interdependence in relationships, with a focus on self-reflection and healthy dynamics  Dr. Tracy’s decision to include her own experiences from her marriage and explains why she chose the book's title  How she maintained client confidentiality while including their impactful stories in the book    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 14 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 The Making of “I Didn’t Sign Up For This” full 4 44 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with her editor at PESI Publishing for a behind-the-scenes look into the making of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This." This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with her editor at PESI Publishing for a behind-the-scenes look into the making of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This." In this intimate conversation, Dr. Tracy shares the origin story of her book and her observation of the common experiences we all often face in relationships yet we don’t talk about openly. Recognizing that people often learn best from stories rather than just tips and tricks, she wanted to create something that was accessible at home and incorporated realistic, everyday stories such as the fights with our partners, the stressors of cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and even retirement. Dr. Tracy also opens up about her decision to incorporate her own experiences into the book, drawing from her own marriage. She explains what led her to choose the title "I Didn't Sign Up for This" and how she maintained client confidentiality while sharing their powerful stories within the book.    Today’s topics include:  The power of storytelling and the need to address everyday relationship challenges that often go unspoken  The common stressors and complexities of various life scenarios, including cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and retirement  The concepts of dependence vs. interdependence in relationships, with a focus on self-reflection and healthy dynamics  Dr. Tracy’s decision to include her own experiences from her marriage and explains why she chose the book's title  How she maintained client confidentiality while including their impactful stories in the book    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with her editor at PESI Publishing for a behind-the-scenes look into the making of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This." In this intimate conversation, Dr. Tracy shares the origin story of her book and her observation of the common experiences we all often face in relationships yet we don’t talk about openly. Recognizing that people often learn best from stories rather than just tips and tricks, she wanted to create something that was accessible at home and incorporated realistic, everyday stories such as the fights with our partners, the stressors of cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and even retirement. Dr. Tracy also opens up about her decision to incorporate her own experiences into the book, drawing from her own marriage. She explains what led her to choose the title "I Didn't Sign Up for This" and how she maintained client confidentiality while sharing their powerful stories within the book. 

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • The power of storytelling and the need to address everyday relationship challenges that often go unspoken 
  • The common stressors and complexities of various life scenarios, including cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and retirement 
  • The concepts of dependence vs. interdependence in relationships, with a focus on self-reflection and healthy dynamics 
  • Dr. Tracy’s decision to include her own experiences from her marriage and explains why she chose the book's title 
  • How she maintained client confidentiality while including their impactful stories in the book 

 

You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here! 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3826 Love and Business with The Laughing Couple’s Ryan and Brittany In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy returns for episode 4 of her mini-series, and she's joined by the remarkable couple, Ryan and Britt, hosts of The Laughing Couple Podcast. Together, they shed light on balancing both the romantic and professional aspects of their relationship with their bustling home lives and their thriving business. They share how they’ve learned to navigate the often unspoken challenges that arise and emphasize the importance of open and honest communication in relationships. Together, they dive into the key pillars that they've really leaned on to maintain a connection with each other, including focusing on experiential intimacy and creating a bucket list of shared activities that they both look forward to completing with each other. Ryan and Britt also share some heartfelt advice for those struggling in their relationships, emphasizing the importance of generosity and empathy in partnerships. They share the exercises and tools they've used to overcome relationship roadblocks, especially when it comes to navigating the mental load both at home and in business.    Today’s topics include:  Balancing romance and business as partners  Challenges of sharing relationship struggles openly with friends and family  The importance of having trusted sounding boards outside the relationship  The importance of open communication and how starting their podcast saved their marriage  The importance of setting aside quality time for each other and encouraging generosity and empathy in relationships  The role of experiential intimacy in maintaining a strong bond  Exercises and tools for overcoming relationship roadblocks  How they navigate the mental load at home and in business    Be sure to follow Ryan and Britt on Instagram @thelaughingcouple and listen to their podcast!   Join us LIVE in Toronto on September 12th for my book launch event where I will be joined by Renee Reina to teach you the key to building a healthy interdependent relationship. Tickets here!  You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 07 Sep 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Love and Business with The Laughing Couple’s Ryan and Brittany full 4 43 Cloud10 In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy returns for episode 4 of her mini-series, and she's joined by the remarkable couple, Ryan and Britt, hosts of The Laughing Couple Podcast. In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy returns for episode 4 of her mini-series, and she's joined by the remarkable couple, Ryan and Britt, hosts of The Laughing Couple Podcast. Together, they shed light on balancing both the romantic and professional aspects of their relationship with their bustling home lives and their thriving business. They share how they’ve learned to navigate the often unspoken challenges that arise and emphasize the importance of open and honest communication in relationships. Together, they dive into the key pillars that they've really leaned on to maintain a connection with each other, including focusing on experiential intimacy and creating a bucket list of shared activities that they both look forward to completing with each other. Ryan and Britt also share some heartfelt advice for those struggling in their relationships, emphasizing the importance of generosity and empathy in partnerships. They share the exercises and tools they've used to overcome relationship roadblocks, especially when it comes to navigating the mental load both at home and in business.    Today’s topics include:  Balancing romance and business as partners  Challenges of sharing relationship struggles openly with friends and family  The importance of having trusted sounding boards outside the relationship  The importance of open communication and how starting their podcast saved their marriage  The importance of setting aside quality time for each other and encouraging generosity and empathy in relationships  The role of experiential intimacy in maintaining a strong bond  Exercises and tools for overcoming relationship roadblocks  How they navigate the mental load at home and in business    Be sure to follow Ryan and Britt on Instagram @thelaughingcouple and listen to their podcast!   Join us LIVE in Toronto on September 12th for my book launch event where I will be joined by Renee Reina to teach you the key to building a healthy interdependent relationship. Tickets here!  You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy returns for episode 4 of her mini-series, and she's joined by the remarkable couple, Ryan and Britt, hosts of The Laughing Couple Podcast. Together, they shed light on balancing both the romantic and professional aspects of their relationship with their bustling home lives and their thriving business. They share how they’ve learned to navigate the often unspoken challenges that arise and emphasize the importance of open and honest communication in relationships. Together, they dive into the key pillars that they've really leaned on to maintain a connection with each other, including focusing on experiential intimacy and creating a bucket list of shared activities that they both look forward to completing with each other. Ryan and Britt also share some heartfelt advice for those struggling in their relationships, emphasizing the importance of generosity and empathy in partnerships. They share the exercises and tools they've used to overcome relationship roadblocks, especially when it comes to navigating the mental load both at home and in business. 

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • Balancing romance and business as partners 
  • Challenges of sharing relationship struggles openly with friends and family 
  • The importance of having trusted sounding boards outside the relationship 
  • The importance of open communication and how starting their podcast saved their marriage 
  • The importance of setting aside quality time for each other and encouraging generosity and empathy in relationships 
  • The role of experiential intimacy in maintaining a strong bond 
  • Exercises and tools for overcoming relationship roadblocks 
  • How they navigate the mental load at home and in business 

 

Be sure to follow Ryan and Britt on Instagram @thelaughingcouple and listen to their podcast!  

Join us LIVE in Toronto on September 12th for my book launch event where I will be joined by Renee Reina to teach you the key to building a healthy interdependent relationship. Tickets here! 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 3763 Love and First Responders – with Audra and Chelsi This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 3 of her mini-series to speak with Audra and Chelsi, hosts of the "Dear Chiefs" podcast, to discuss the complexities of relationships and marriage with a first responder. As two wives of fire fighters, Audra and Chelsi know all too well the challenges that come with being the default parent while their partner is away at work for days and weeks at a time.  In this episode, Audra and Chelsi discuss the often-misunderstood sacrifices of stay-at-home parents, emphasizing that these individuals take on immense responsibilities both at home and within their relationships. They shed light on the concept of being the "default parent", the emotional toll it can take, and the importance of planning, setting expectations, and finding a balance that prioritizes both partners and children. Lastly, they share realistic strategies on how to integrate their partner back into family life after their work block is complete and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being and independence.    Today’s topics include:  Balancing the role of being a stay-at-home parent and the sacrifices involved  Unveiling the reality of living with a split person due to first responder schedules  Managing missed family moments and embracing the role of the default parent  Strategies for prioritizing both partner and children while maintaining personal balance  The importance of having backup plans and self-care routines  Navigating reintegration and supporting partners after work blocks  Setting realistic standards and reframing expectations in parenting and partnership  Addressing resentment and embracing personal agency within the relationship  Shifting from dependency to self-sufficiency and self-fulfillment    Be sure to follow Audra and Chelsi on Instagram @dearchiefspodcast and listen to their podcast!  Join us LIVE in Toronto on September 12th for my book launch event where I will be joined by Renee Reina to teach you the key to building a healthy interdependent relationship. Tickets here!  You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 31 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Love and First Responders – with Audra and Chelsi full 4 42 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 3 of her mini-series to speak with Audra and Chelsi, hosts of the "Dear Chiefs" podcast, to discuss the complexities of relationships and marriage with a first responder. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 3 of her mini-series to speak with Audra and Chelsi, hosts of the "Dear Chiefs" podcast, to discuss the complexities of relationships and marriage with a first responder. As two wives of fire fighters, Audra and Chelsi know all too well the challenges that come with being the default parent while their partner is away at work for days and weeks at a time.  In this episode, Audra and Chelsi discuss the often-misunderstood sacrifices of stay-at-home parents, emphasizing that these individuals take on immense responsibilities both at home and within their relationships. They shed light on the concept of being the "default parent", the emotional toll it can take, and the importance of planning, setting expectations, and finding a balance that prioritizes both partners and children. Lastly, they share realistic strategies on how to integrate their partner back into family life after their work block is complete and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being and independence.    Today’s topics include:  Balancing the role of being a stay-at-home parent and the sacrifices involved  Unveiling the reality of living with a split person due to first responder schedules  Managing missed family moments and embracing the role of the default parent  Strategies for prioritizing both partner and children while maintaining personal balance  The importance of having backup plans and self-care routines  Navigating reintegration and supporting partners after work blocks  Setting realistic standards and reframing expectations in parenting and partnership  Addressing resentment and embracing personal agency within the relationship  Shifting from dependency to self-sufficiency and self-fulfillment    Be sure to follow Audra and Chelsi on Instagram @dearchiefspodcast and listen to their podcast!  Join us LIVE in Toronto on September 12th for my book launch event where I will be joined by Renee Reina to teach you the key to building a healthy interdependent relationship. Tickets here!  You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 3 of her mini-series to speak with Audra and Chelsi, hosts of the "Dear Chiefs" podcast, to discuss the complexities of relationships and marriage with a first responder. As two wives of fire fighters, Audra and Chelsi know all too well the challenges that come with being the default parent while their partner is away at work for days and weeks at a time. 

In this episode, Audra and Chelsi discuss the often-misunderstood sacrifices of stay-at-home parents, emphasizing that these individuals take on immense responsibilities both at home and within their relationships. They shed light on the concept of being the "default parent", the emotional toll it can take, and the importance of planning, setting expectations, and finding a balance that prioritizes both partners and children. Lastly, they share realistic strategies on how to integrate their partner back into family life after their work block is complete and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being and independence. 

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • Balancing the role of being a stay-at-home parent and the sacrifices involved 
  • Unveiling the reality of living with a split person due to first responder schedules 
  • Managing missed family moments and embracing the role of the default parent 
  • Strategies for prioritizing both partner and children while maintaining personal balance 
  • The importance of having backup plans and self-care routines 
  • Navigating reintegration and supporting partners after work blocks 
  • Setting realistic standards and reframing expectations in parenting and partnership 
  • Addressing resentment and embracing personal agency within the relationship 
  • Shifting from dependency to self-sufficiency and self-fulfillment 

 

Be sure to follow Audra and Chelsi on Instagram @dearchiefspodcast and listen to their podcast! 


Join us LIVE in Toronto on September 12th for my book launch event where I will be joined by Renee Reina to teach you the key to building a healthy interdependent relationship. Tickets here! 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3217 Parenthood, Partnerships, and the Essence of Friendship - with Cat and Nat This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 2 of her mini-series highlighting the hard, less talked-about moments in relationships that we often don’t see on social media. This week, she’s joined by the hilarious and honest duo, Cat and Nat, to bring a fresh perspective on the realness of building and balancing strong friendships as adults and how rewarding it can be when you put yourself out there. Together, they delve into the nitty-gritty of maintaining the balance between personal needs and nurturing friendships—a struggle especially familiar to parents. They also highlight their experiences of being both friends and business partners and the importance of recognizing what each person brings to the partnership and the ebbs and flows of their relationship. Whether you're navigating the complex landscape of adult relationships or just looking to make new connections, this episode offers valuable insights into fostering meaningful bonds that truly last.    Today’s topics include:  Navigating personal needs and emotions while exploring friendships  The role of friendships in the lives of parents – an essential component often overshadowed by other commitments  Cultivating strong friendships, acknowledging that genuine connections take time to develop  The challenges faced by mothers striving to build adult friendships and sharing their vulnerabilities  The pivotal role parents play in teaching their children about the essence of friendship  Recognizing the reality that not every person will form a connection with you, and getting comfortable with it  Understand the value of recognizing individual strengths within a friendship and remaining flexible  Building resilience by embracing rejection and understanding that it's often not a reflection of personal worth    Be sure to follow Cat and Nat on Instagram @catandnat and listen to their podcast Cat and Nat Unfiltered. Be sure to also check our their business the Common Parent for resources for parenting teens and tweens.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 24 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Parenthood, Partnerships, and the Essence of Friendship with Cat and Nat full 4 41 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 2 of her mini-series highlighting the hard, less talked-about moments in relationships that we often don’t see on social media. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 2 of her mini-series highlighting the hard, less talked-about moments in relationships that we often don’t see on social media. This week, she’s joined by the hilarious and honest duo, Cat and Nat, to bring a fresh perspective on the realness of building and balancing strong friendships as adults and how rewarding it can be when you put yourself out there. Together, they delve into the nitty-gritty of maintaining the balance between personal needs and nurturing friendships—a struggle especially familiar to parents. They also highlight their experiences of being both friends and business partners and the importance of recognizing what each person brings to the partnership and the ebbs and flows of their relationship. Whether you're navigating the complex landscape of adult relationships or just looking to make new connections, this episode offers valuable insights into fostering meaningful bonds that truly last.    Today’s topics include:  Navigating personal needs and emotions while exploring friendships  The role of friendships in the lives of parents – an essential component often overshadowed by other commitments  Cultivating strong friendships, acknowledging that genuine connections take time to develop  The challenges faced by mothers striving to build adult friendships and sharing their vulnerabilities  The pivotal role parents play in teaching their children about the essence of friendship  Recognizing the reality that not every person will form a connection with you, and getting comfortable with it  Understand the value of recognizing individual strengths within a friendship and remaining flexible  Building resilience by embracing rejection and understanding that it's often not a reflection of personal worth    Be sure to follow Cat and Nat on Instagram @catandnat and listen to their podcast Cat and Nat Unfiltered. Be sure to also check our their business the Common Parent for resources for parenting teens and tweens.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 2 of her mini-series highlighting the hard, less talked-about moments in relationships that we often don’t see on social media. This week, she’s joined by the hilarious and honest duo, Cat and Nat, to bring a fresh perspective on the realness of building and balancing strong friendships as adults and how rewarding it can be when you put yourself out there. Together, they delve into the nitty-gritty of maintaining the balance between personal needs and nurturing friendships—a struggle especially familiar to parents. They also highlight their experiences of being both friends and business partners and the importance of recognizing what each person brings to the partnership and the ebbs and flows of their relationship. Whether you're navigating the complex landscape of adult relationships or just looking to make new connections, this episode offers valuable insights into fostering meaningful bonds that truly last. 

 

Today’s topics include: 

  • Navigating personal needs and emotions while exploring friendships 
  • The role of friendships in the lives of parents – an essential component often overshadowed by other commitments 
  • Cultivating strong friendships, acknowledging that genuine connections take time to develop 
  • The challenges faced by mothers striving to build adult friendships and sharing their vulnerabilities 
  • The pivotal role parents play in teaching their children about the essence of friendship 
  • Recognizing the reality that not every person will form a connection with you, and getting comfortable with it 
  • Understand the value of recognizing individual strengths within a friendship and remaining flexible 
  • Building resilience by embracing rejection and understanding that it's often not a reflection of personal worth 
  •  

Be sure to follow Cat and Nat on Instagram @catandnat and listen to their podcast Cat and Nat Unfiltered. Be sure to also check our their business the Common Parent for resources for parenting teens and tweens. 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2895 Resentment and Parenthood: Embracing the Challenges in Your Marriage - With Rini and Shaun This week is episode 1 of Dr. Tracy's exciting new mini-series, where she sits down with real couples to unravel their untold stories beneath the surface of their relationships. In this episode, Dr.Tracy sits down with Shaun and Rini Frey, parents to a 2.5-year-old daughter with another baby on the way. They share how their relationship felt more than solid for so many years and how the arrival of their daughter brought on new challenges in their relationship that they didn’t anticipate. From passive-aggressiveness to scorekeeping and doubts, they share the struggles they faced and the steps they took as a couple to strengthen their relationship again.    Topics of today’s episode include:  The unexpected challenges faced by new parents and the impact on relationships  The importance of leaning on resources like couples therapy to help you navigate the difficult periods of your relationship  How childhood experiences can shape your approach to resolving conflicts  Exploring the differences in expectations placed on partners versus children  The significance of discussing important topics before becoming parents  Prioritizing connection through shared activities, date nights, and quality time  Embrace challenges, prioritize one another, understand each other's love languages, and maintain open communication    Be sure to follow Rini and Shaun on Instagram @ownitbabe and @ownitdad!    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 17 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Resentment and Parenthood: Embracing the Challenges in Your Marriage - With Rini and Shaun full 4 40 Cloud10 This week is episode 1 of Dr. Tracy's exciting new mini-series, where she sits down with real couples to unravel their untold stories beneath the surface of their relationships. This week is episode 1 of Dr. Tracy's exciting new mini-series, where she sits down with real couples to unravel their untold stories beneath the surface of their relationships. In this episode, Dr.Tracy sits down with Shaun and Rini Frey, parents to a 2.5-year-old daughter with another baby on the way. They share how their relationship felt more than solid for so many years and how the arrival of their daughter brought on new challenges in their relationship that they didn’t anticipate. From passive-aggressiveness to scorekeeping and doubts, they share the struggles they faced and the steps they took as a couple to strengthen their relationship again.    Topics of today’s episode include:  The unexpected challenges faced by new parents and the impact on relationships  The importance of leaning on resources like couples therapy to help you navigate the difficult periods of your relationship  How childhood experiences can shape your approach to resolving conflicts  Exploring the differences in expectations placed on partners versus children  The significance of discussing important topics before becoming parents  Prioritizing connection through shared activities, date nights, and quality time  Embrace challenges, prioritize one another, understand each other's love languages, and maintain open communication    Be sure to follow Rini and Shaun on Instagram @ownitbabe and @ownitdad!    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week is episode 1 of Dr. Tracy's exciting new mini-series, where she sits down with real couples to unravel their untold stories beneath the surface of their relationships. In this episode, Dr.Tracy sits down with Shaun and Rini Frey, parents to a 2.5-year-old daughter with another baby on the way. They share how their relationship felt more than solid for so many years and how the arrival of their daughter brought on new challenges in their relationship that they didn’t anticipate. From passive-aggressiveness to scorekeeping and doubts, they share the struggles they faced and the steps they took as a couple to strengthen their relationship again. 

 

Topics of today’s episode include: 

  • The unexpected challenges faced by new parents and the impact on relationships 
  • The importance of leaning on resources like couples therapy to help you navigate the difficult periods of your relationship 
  • How childhood experiences can shape your approach to resolving conflicts 
  • Exploring the differences in expectations placed on partners versus children 
  • The significance of discussing important topics before becoming parents 
  • Prioritizing connection through shared activities, date nights, and quality time 
  • Embrace challenges, prioritize one another, understand each other's love languages, and maintain open communication 

 

Be sure to follow Rini and Shaun on Instagram @ownitbabe and @ownitdad! 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2838 Boundary Setting and Connecting the Mind, Body, and Soul - with Deja Riley This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Deja Riley, a renowned dancer, Lululemon global ambassador, podcast host, and trainer. Deja has had an extraordinary career, having danced alongside global icons including Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, and Britney Spears. She is now a trainer in the fitness space and serves on the Lululemon ambassador advisory board. Together, they discuss establishing personal boundaries and finding the connection between the mind, body, and soul. Deja shares her own experiences, from her artistic upbringing to her transformative shift from her dancing career to the fitness industry, and shares her path to self-acceptance and self-care. She also sheds light on the unpublicized moments that shape us.    Topics of today’s episode include:   Navigating unsolicited advice on parenting and setting personal boundaries  Deja's upbringing in the arts, its influence on her open and fluid nature, and adapting to change  Recognizing the significance of internal work alongside external achievements  The pressures of societal expectations on appearance and self-worth  The unity of mind, body, and spirit in wellness  You can find Deja on Instagram @dejariley and be sure to listen to her podcast Dose of Duality.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 10 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Boundary Setting and Connecting the Mind, Body, and Soul - with Deja Riley full 4 39 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Deja Riley, a renowned dancer, Lululemon global ambassador, podcast host, and trainer. This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Deja Riley, a renowned dancer, Lululemon global ambassador, podcast host, and trainer. Deja has had an extraordinary career, having danced alongside global icons including Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, and Britney Spears. She is now a trainer in the fitness space and serves on the Lululemon ambassador advisory board. Together, they discuss establishing personal boundaries and finding the connection between the mind, body, and soul. Deja shares her own experiences, from her artistic upbringing to her transformative shift from her dancing career to the fitness industry, and shares her path to self-acceptance and self-care. She also sheds light on the unpublicized moments that shape us.    Topics of today’s episode include:   Navigating unsolicited advice on parenting and setting personal boundaries  Deja's upbringing in the arts, its influence on her open and fluid nature, and adapting to change  Recognizing the significance of internal work alongside external achievements  The pressures of societal expectations on appearance and self-worth  The unity of mind, body, and spirit in wellness  You can find Deja on Instagram @dejariley and be sure to listen to her podcast Dose of Duality.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Deja Riley, a renowned dancer, Lululemon global ambassador, podcast host, and trainer. Deja has had an extraordinary career, having danced alongside global icons including Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, and Britney Spears. She is now a trainer in the fitness space and serves on the Lululemon ambassador advisory board. Together, they discuss establishing personal boundaries and finding the connection between the mind, body, and soul. Deja shares her own experiences, from her artistic upbringing to her transformative shift from her dancing career to the fitness industry, and shares her path to self-acceptance and self-care. She also sheds light on the unpublicized moments that shape us. 

 

Topics of today’s episode include:  

  • Navigating unsolicited advice on parenting and setting personal boundaries 
  • Deja's upbringing in the arts, its influence on her open and fluid nature, and adapting to change 
  • Recognizing the significance of internal work alongside external achievements 
  • The pressures of societal expectations on appearance and self-worth 
  • The unity of mind, body, and spirit in wellness 

You can find Deja on Instagram @dejariley and be sure to listen to her podcast Dose of Duality. 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 2799 Why Do We Struggle with Anger and Shame? This week, Dr. Tracy explores the complex emotions of anger and shame and how they shape our relationships and upbringing. She discusses the responses she received when asking how her audience learned about anger growing up, how anger was handled at home, and what anger meant. Additionally, she discusses the powerful impact of shame, especially on highly sensitive children, and the struggles it poses in embracing and understanding our emotions. Dr. Tracy, offers insights on how to navigate these emotions in our relationships and provides valuable tips on expressing anger constructively and how to let go of those shame-based parenting patterns.    Today’s discussion includes:  The fear of anger and the impact of childhood experiences on our relationship with this emotion  Common beliefs about anger that lead to emotional suppression  Tips on expressing anger constructively and fostering open communication with partners  The detrimental effects of shame and its link to depression and social anxiety  Breaking free from shame-based parenting patterns to create a nurturing emotional environment for children    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 03 Aug 2023 16:03:42 -0000 Why Do We Struggle with Anger and Shame? full 4 38 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy explores the complex emotions of anger and shame and how they shape our relationships and upbringing. This week, Dr. Tracy explores the complex emotions of anger and shame and how they shape our relationships and upbringing. She discusses the responses she received when asking how her audience learned about anger growing up, how anger was handled at home, and what anger meant. Additionally, she discusses the powerful impact of shame, especially on highly sensitive children, and the struggles it poses in embracing and understanding our emotions. Dr. Tracy, offers insights on how to navigate these emotions in our relationships and provides valuable tips on expressing anger constructively and how to let go of those shame-based parenting patterns.    Today’s discussion includes:  The fear of anger and the impact of childhood experiences on our relationship with this emotion  Common beliefs about anger that lead to emotional suppression  Tips on expressing anger constructively and fostering open communication with partners  The detrimental effects of shame and its link to depression and social anxiety  Breaking free from shame-based parenting patterns to create a nurturing emotional environment for children    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy explores the complex emotions of anger and shame and how they shape our relationships and upbringing. She discusses the responses she received when asking how her audience learned about anger growing up, how anger was handled at home, and what anger meant. Additionally, she discusses the powerful impact of shame, especially on highly sensitive children, and the struggles it poses in embracing and understanding our emotions. Dr. Tracy, offers insights on how to navigate these emotions in our relationships and provides valuable tips on expressing anger constructively and how to let go of those shame-based parenting patterns. 

 

Today’s discussion includes: 

  • The fear of anger and the impact of childhood experiences on our relationship with this emotion 
  • Common beliefs about anger that lead to emotional suppression 
  • Tips on expressing anger constructively and fostering open communication with partners 
  • The detrimental effects of shame and its link to depression and social anxiety 
  • Breaking free from shame-based parenting patterns to create a nurturing emotional environment for children 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 4045 Embracing Differences in Parenting - with Eli Weinstein This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Eli Weinstein, a therapist specializing in relationships and parenting with a private practice in New York and Nevada. He is the host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, where he aims to modernize mental health discussions and offer relatable views. Together, they discuss communication patterns in relationships, renegotiating the expectations we hold in our relationships, and some of the things we should consider early on in a partnership. Eli discusses parenting and the idea that often arises that each parent has to parent the same, and when it’s important to recognize that each person in a partnership brings something unique to the table when it comes to parenting. Lastly, they discuss parenting challenges and boundaries, along with understanding the core needs in relationships and how addressing these core needs can positively impact relationship dynamics.    Today’s discussion includes:  Communication patterns and renegotiating relationship expectations  Exploring partnership dynamics and the significance of vulnerability in difficult moments  Navigating social media as a therapist and managing personal/professional boundaries  Embracing differences in parenting, using the "import/export list" to assess family values  Recognizing the importance of evolving together in marriage and embracing individual growth  Understanding core needs in relationships, such as connection and respect  Eli's personal challenges as a parent, including managing expectations and communication    Episode Links:   You can find Eli on Instagram @eliweinstein_lcsw and on his website eliweinsteinlcsw.com. Be sure to also listen to his podcast The Dude Therapist Podcast!    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 27 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Embracing Differences in Parenting - with Eli Weinstein full 4 38 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Eli Weinstein, a therapist specializing in relationships and parenting with a private practice in New York and Nevada. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Eli Weinstein, a therapist specializing in relationships and parenting with a private practice in New York and Nevada. He is the host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, where he aims to modernize mental health discussions and offer relatable views. Together, they discuss communication patterns in relationships, renegotiating the expectations we hold in our relationships, and some of the things we should consider early on in a partnership. Eli discusses parenting and the idea that often arises that each parent has to parent the same, and when it’s important to recognize that each person in a partnership brings something unique to the table when it comes to parenting. Lastly, they discuss parenting challenges and boundaries, along with understanding the core needs in relationships and how addressing these core needs can positively impact relationship dynamics.    Today’s discussion includes:  Communication patterns and renegotiating relationship expectations  Exploring partnership dynamics and the significance of vulnerability in difficult moments  Navigating social media as a therapist and managing personal/professional boundaries  Embracing differences in parenting, using the "import/export list" to assess family values  Recognizing the importance of evolving together in marriage and embracing individual growth  Understanding core needs in relationships, such as connection and respect  Eli's personal challenges as a parent, including managing expectations and communication    Episode Links:   You can find Eli on Instagram @eliweinstein_lcsw and on his website eliweinsteinlcsw.com. Be sure to also listen to his podcast The Dude Therapist Podcast!    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Eli Weinstein, a therapist specializing in relationships and parenting with a private practice in New York and Nevada. He is the host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, where he aims to modernize mental health discussions and offer relatable views. Together, they discuss communication patterns in relationships, renegotiating the expectations we hold in our relationships, and some of the things we should consider early on in a partnership. Eli discusses parenting and the idea that often arises that each parent has to parent the same, and when it’s important to recognize that each person in a partnership brings something unique to the table when it comes to parenting. Lastly, they discuss parenting challenges and boundaries, along with understanding the core needs in relationships and how addressing these core needs can positively impact relationship dynamics. 

 

Today’s discussion includes: 

  • Communication patterns and renegotiating relationship expectations 
  • Exploring partnership dynamics and the significance of vulnerability in difficult moments 
  • Navigating social media as a therapist and managing personal/professional boundaries 
  • Embracing differences in parenting, using the "import/export list" to assess family values 
  • Recognizing the importance of evolving together in marriage and embracing individual growth 
  • Understanding core needs in relationships, such as connection and respect 
  • Eli's personal challenges as a parent, including managing expectations and communication 

 

Episode Links:  

You can find Eli on Instagram @eliweinstein_lcsw and on his website eliweinsteinlcsw.com. Be sure to also listen to his podcast The Dude Therapist Podcast! 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

 

 

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]]> 4034 Calming the Chaos with This Parenting Roadmap - with Dayna Abraham This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dayna Abraham, a bestselling author and parenting expert. She is the founder of Lemon Lime Adventures, and her unique, out-of-the box perspective and workshops have been used by 200k+ parents, teachers, therapists, and pediatricians to get control of their child’s most difficult behaviors. Together, they will discuss Dayna’s Calm the Chaos Framework and roadmap, consisting of five key steps that everyone experiences at their own pace. Dayna provides practical insights on diffusing challenging situations, emphasizing the impact of fatigue on our patience.     EPISODE LINKS:   You can learn more about Danya on her website and pre-order her book Calm the Chaos: a Fail-Proof Road Map for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids. You can also find her on Instagram and TikTok.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Calming the Chaos with This Parenting Roadmap - with Dayna Abraham full 4 36 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dayna Abraham, a bestselling author and parenting expert. This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dayna Abraham, a bestselling author and parenting expert. She is the founder of Lemon Lime Adventures, and her unique, out-of-the box perspective and workshops have been used by 200k+ parents, teachers, therapists, and pediatricians to get control of their child’s most difficult behaviors. Together, they will discuss Dayna’s Calm the Chaos Framework and roadmap, consisting of five key steps that everyone experiences at their own pace. Dayna provides practical insights on diffusing challenging situations, emphasizing the impact of fatigue on our patience.     EPISODE LINKS:   You can learn more about Danya on her website and pre-order her book Calm the Chaos: a Fail-Proof Road Map for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids. You can also find her on Instagram and TikTok.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dayna Abraham, a bestselling author and parenting expert. She is the founder of Lemon Lime Adventures, and her unique, out-of-the box perspective and workshops have been used by 200k+ parents, teachers, therapists, and pediatricians to get control of their child’s most difficult behaviors. Together, they will discuss Dayna’s Calm the Chaos Framework and roadmap, consisting of five key steps that everyone experiences at their own pace. Dayna provides practical insights on diffusing challenging situations, emphasizing the impact of fatigue on our patience.  

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

You can learn more about Danya on her website and pre-order her book Calm the Chaos: a Fail-Proof Road Map for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids. You can also find her on Instagram and TikTok. 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 3062 Navigating Social Media and the Impact on Children’s Self-Image This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Vanessa LaPointe, a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and mother, and together they discuss the effects of social media on children in this digital age and the importance of guiding conversations around it within the household. She shares the importance of fostering genuine connections, the stages of brain development in children, and the crucial role parents play in co-creating a healthy digital experience. Dr. LaPointe also shares valuable insights on maintaining discipline with a balance of firmness, compassion, and kindness and highlights effective tools and resources, such as the Dove Confidence Kit, to empower parents in guiding their children through the complexities of social media.    In this episode we discuss:  The desire for social connection and the surface-level engagement provided by social media  Concerns about the mental health of youth and the role of social media in isolation  Co-creating a positive online experience for children by teaching and modeling wise consumption  The Dove Confidence Kit as a tool for meaningful conversations about social media and resources for parents on self-image and self-esteem discussions  Balancing firmness, compassion, and kindness in disciplining children without shame or blame  Prioritizing family connections and moments of quality engagement over screen time    Episode Links:  You can find Dr. Vanessa LaPointe on Instagram and be sure to learn more about her work on her website!  Learn more about the Dove Confidence Kit HERE!  Stand up for #KidsOnlineSafety HERE.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Navigating Social Media and the Impact on Children’s Self-Image full 4 35 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Vanessa LaPointe, a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and mother, and together they discuss the effects of social media on children in this digital age. This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Vanessa LaPointe, a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and mother, and together they discuss the effects of social media on children in this digital age and the importance of guiding conversations around it within the household. She shares the importance of fostering genuine connections, the stages of brain development in children, and the crucial role parents play in co-creating a healthy digital experience. Dr. LaPointe also shares valuable insights on maintaining discipline with a balance of firmness, compassion, and kindness and highlights effective tools and resources, such as the Dove Confidence Kit, to empower parents in guiding their children through the complexities of social media.    In this episode we discuss:  The desire for social connection and the surface-level engagement provided by social media  Concerns about the mental health of youth and the role of social media in isolation  Co-creating a positive online experience for children by teaching and modeling wise consumption  The Dove Confidence Kit as a tool for meaningful conversations about social media and resources for parents on self-image and self-esteem discussions  Balancing firmness, compassion, and kindness in disciplining children without shame or blame  Prioritizing family connections and moments of quality engagement over screen time    Episode Links:  You can find Dr. Vanessa LaPointe on Instagram and be sure to learn more about her work on her website!  Learn more about the Dove Confidence Kit HERE!  Stand up for #KidsOnlineSafety HERE.    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Vanessa LaPointe, a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and mother, and together they discuss the effects of social media on children in this digital age and the importance of guiding conversations around it within the household. She shares the importance of fostering genuine connections, the stages of brain development in children, and the crucial role parents play in co-creating a healthy digital experience. Dr. LaPointe also shares valuable insights on maintaining discipline with a balance of firmness, compassion, and kindness and highlights effective tools and resources, such as the Dove Confidence Kit, to empower parents in guiding their children through the complexities of social media. 

 

In this episode we discuss: 

  • The desire for social connection and the surface-level engagement provided by social media 
  • Concerns about the mental health of youth and the role of social media in isolation 
  • Co-creating a positive online experience for children by teaching and modeling wise consumption 
  • The Dove Confidence Kit as a tool for meaningful conversations about social media and resources for parents on self-image and self-esteem discussions 
  • Balancing firmness, compassion, and kindness in disciplining children without shame or blame 
  • Prioritizing family connections and moments of quality engagement over screen time 

 

Episode Links: 

  • You can find Dr. Vanessa LaPointe on Instagram and be sure to learn more about her work on her website! 
  • Learn more about the Dove Confidence Kit HERE! 
  • Stand up for #KidsOnlineSafety HERE. 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3297 Navigating Children's Relationships with Food - with Dr. Taylor Arnold This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Taylor Arnold, a kids nutrition expert, nutritionist, PhD, pediatric dietician, and mom of three. Dr. Arnold specializes in helping parents shape healthy relationships with food, and she offers valuable insights on how to raise the next generation of eaters who love and nourish their bodies. Together, they discuss generational patterns related to food, high-pressure eating environments, and the importance of allowing children to learn about how different foods affect them, enabling them to connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat. We also address the challenges posed by well-meaning grandparents who may overstep boundaries and inject diet culture into conversations at mealtime. Lastly, Dr. Arnold discusses setting boundaries at mealtime and exploring alternative ways to minimize waste beyond forcing children to eat everything on their plates.    In this episode we discuss:  Generational patterns: the clean plate club and high-pressure eating environment  Managing children's relationship with sweets and food in general  Helping children connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat  Dealing with well-meaning grandparents and their influence on kids' eating habits  Setting boundaries at mealtime  Avoiding food waste and finding alternative ways to minimize waste  Food neutrality and creating a healthy and respectful mealtime environment.    You can find Dr. Arnold on YouTube where she offers 3 free courses along with Instagram, and her website Growing Intuitive Eaters!    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 06 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Navigating Children's Relationships with Food - with Dr. Taylor Arnold full 34 Cloud10 This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Taylor Arnold, a kids nutrition expert, nutritionist, PhD, pediatric dietician, and mom of three. This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Taylor Arnold, a kids nutrition expert, nutritionist, PhD, pediatric dietician, and mom of three. Dr. Arnold specializes in helping parents shape healthy relationships with food, and she offers valuable insights on how to raise the next generation of eaters who love and nourish their bodies. Together, they discuss generational patterns related to food, high-pressure eating environments, and the importance of allowing children to learn about how different foods affect them, enabling them to connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat. We also address the challenges posed by well-meaning grandparents who may overstep boundaries and inject diet culture into conversations at mealtime. Lastly, Dr. Arnold discusses setting boundaries at mealtime and exploring alternative ways to minimize waste beyond forcing children to eat everything on their plates.    In this episode we discuss:  Generational patterns: the clean plate club and high-pressure eating environment  Managing children's relationship with sweets and food in general  Helping children connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat  Dealing with well-meaning grandparents and their influence on kids' eating habits  Setting boundaries at mealtime  Avoiding food waste and finding alternative ways to minimize waste  Food neutrality and creating a healthy and respectful mealtime environment.    You can find Dr. Arnold on YouTube where she offers 3 free courses along with Instagram, and her website Growing Intuitive Eaters!    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Taylor Arnold, a kids nutrition expert, nutritionist, PhD, pediatric dietician, and mom of three. Dr. Arnold specializes in helping parents shape healthy relationships with food, and she offers valuable insights on how to raise the next generation of eaters who love and nourish their bodies. Together, they discuss generational patterns related to food, high-pressure eating environments, and the importance of allowing children to learn about how different foods affect them, enabling them to connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat. We also address the challenges posed by well-meaning grandparents who may overstep boundaries and inject diet culture into conversations at mealtime. Lastly, Dr. Arnold discusses setting boundaries at mealtime and exploring alternative ways to minimize waste beyond forcing children to eat everything on their plates. 

 

In this episode we discuss: 

  • Generational patterns: the clean plate club and high-pressure eating environment 
  • Managing children's relationship with sweets and food in general 
  • Helping children connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat 
  • Dealing with well-meaning grandparents and their influence on kids' eating habits 
  • Setting boundaries at mealtime 
  • Avoiding food waste and finding alternative ways to minimize waste 
  • Food neutrality and creating a healthy and respectful mealtime environment. 

 

You can find Dr. Arnold on YouTube where she offers 3 free courses along with Instagram, and her website Growing Intuitive Eaters! 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2638 Redefining Parenting for a New Generation – With Mr. Chazz In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Mr. Chazz, a parent coach, consultant, and conscious discipline practitioner who is dedicated to helping adults truly understand and connect with children. Together, they discuss several topics including the challenges men face in expressing emotions and ways to create an environment that promotes emotional openness. They also delve into breaking free from generational patterns, embracing conscious and gentle parenting techniques, and effectively differentiating between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours. Mr. Chazz shares the importance of redefining discipline and consequences, empowering parents to respond in new ways during conflicts, and promoting effective communication to understand and meet children's needs.    In this episode we discuss:   Breaking free from generational programming and embracing conscious, gentle parenting  Understanding the distinction between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours  Rethinking discipline and consequences: natural consequences, logical consequences, and punishments  Empowering parents to respond differently in moments of conflict  Teaching effective communication and understanding children's needs    You can find Mr. Chazz on Instagram, TikTok and be sure to check out his podcast Mr.Chazz’s Parenting and Teaching Podcast    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 29 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Redefining Parenting for a New Generation – With Mr. Chazz full 4 33 Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Mr. Chazz, a parent coach, consultant, and conscious discipline practitioner who is dedicated to helping adults truly understand and connect with children In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Mr. Chazz, a parent coach, consultant, and conscious discipline practitioner who is dedicated to helping adults truly understand and connect with children. Together, they discuss several topics including the challenges men face in expressing emotions and ways to create an environment that promotes emotional openness. They also delve into breaking free from generational patterns, embracing conscious and gentle parenting techniques, and effectively differentiating between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours. Mr. Chazz shares the importance of redefining discipline and consequences, empowering parents to respond in new ways during conflicts, and promoting effective communication to understand and meet children's needs.    In this episode we discuss:   Breaking free from generational programming and embracing conscious, gentle parenting  Understanding the distinction between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours  Rethinking discipline and consequences: natural consequences, logical consequences, and punishments  Empowering parents to respond differently in moments of conflict  Teaching effective communication and understanding children's needs    You can find Mr. Chazz on Instagram, TikTok and be sure to check out his podcast Mr.Chazz’s Parenting and Teaching Podcast    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Mr. Chazz, a parent coach, consultant, and conscious discipline practitioner who is dedicated to helping adults truly understand and connect with children. Together, they discuss several topics including the challenges men face in expressing emotions and ways to create an environment that promotes emotional openness. They also delve into breaking free from generational patterns, embracing conscious and gentle parenting techniques, and effectively differentiating between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours. Mr. Chazz shares the importance of redefining discipline and consequences, empowering parents to respond in new ways during conflicts, and promoting effective communication to understand and meet children's needs. 

 

In this episode we discuss:  

  • Breaking free from generational programming and embracing conscious, gentle parenting 
  • Understanding the distinction between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours 
  • Rethinking discipline and consequences: natural consequences, logical consequences, and punishments 
  • Empowering parents to respond differently in moments of conflict 
  • Teaching effective communication and understanding children's needs 

 

You can find Mr. Chazz on Instagram, TikTok and be sure to check out his podcast Mr.Chazz’s Parenting and Teaching Podcast 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 3072 Responding to Bids for Connection - with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to discuss bids for connection in a relationship and what these bids can look like. She provides valuable insights on how to effectively respond to these bids and offers tips specifically for individuals who tend to be people pleasers. Dr. Tracy also unveils details of her new book, "I Didn’t Sign Up for This", which is now available for pre-order and will launch on September 12th. She shares a glimpse into the lives of four real-life couples that she will be discussing in her book, all of whom she has personally worked with as their couples therapist.    In this episode, we discuss:   Defining bids for connection in relationships   Understanding what bids for connection can look like  Types of people pleasing and how to respond in relationships   People pleasing as a subconscious form of safety and connection  Acknowledging the presence of a bid without sacrificing everything  Tuning in and practicing active engagement in bids for connection    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 22 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Responding to Bids for Connection - with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish full 4 32 Cloud10 In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to discuss bids for connection in a relationship and what these bids can look like. In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to discuss bids for connection in a relationship and what these bids can look like. She provides valuable insights on how to effectively respond to these bids and offers tips specifically for individuals who tend to be people pleasers. Dr. Tracy also unveils details of her new book, "I Didn’t Sign Up for This", which is now available for pre-order and will launch on September 12th. She shares a glimpse into the lives of four real-life couples that she will be discussing in her book, all of whom she has personally worked with as their couples therapist.    In this episode, we discuss:   Defining bids for connection in relationships   Understanding what bids for connection can look like  Types of people pleasing and how to respond in relationships   People pleasing as a subconscious form of safety and connection  Acknowledging the presence of a bid without sacrificing everything  Tuning in and practicing active engagement in bids for connection    You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to discuss bids for connection in a relationship and what these bids can look like. She provides valuable insights on how to effectively respond to these bids and offers tips specifically for individuals who tend to be people pleasers. Dr. Tracy also unveils details of her new book, "I Didn’t Sign Up for This", which is now available for pre-order and will launch on September 12th. She shares a glimpse into the lives of four real-life couples that she will be discussing in her book, all of whom she has personally worked with as their couples therapist. 

 

In this episode, we discuss:  

  • Defining bids for connection in relationships  
  • Understanding what bids for connection can look like 
  • Types of people pleasing and how to respond in relationships  
  • People pleasing as a subconscious form of safety and connection 
  • Acknowledging the presence of a bid without sacrificing everything 
  • Tuning in and practicing active engagement in bids for connection 

 

You can pre-order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2473 Embracing Life After Loss - with Mira Simone In this episode, I sit down with Mira Simone, a grief coach, published writer, mother, and widow. Mira shares her experience of losing her partner Brian to an aggressive form of cancer in 2019 and her story of navigating this grief in the years that followed. Mira discusses how she found her passion for writing, which led her to launch her grief support platform, New Moon Mira, in 2022. Together, we discuss how writing and sharing her story publicly became a crucial outlet for her to process her thoughts and grief, guiding her on her healing journey. We also discuss the additional challenges of being a solo parent, starting a business, and navigating friendships and relationships following her partner’s passing.      In this episode, we discuss:    Writing publicly about her grief became a vital outlet for Mira to process her thoughts and guide her healing journey.   The feelings and challenges you experience in the first 2 years of grieving    How to receive and give comfort to someone who is grieving  Navigating solo parenting, starting a business, and raising a young daughter as a widow   The difficulties and challenges of navigating dating as a widow and a parent    Mira Simone Instagram  New Moon Mira Website    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 15 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Embracing Life After Loss - with Mira Simone full 4 31 Cloud10 In this episode, I sit down with Mira Simone, a grief coach, published writer, mother, and widow. Mira shares her experience of losing her partner Brian to an aggressive form of cancer in 2019 and her story of navigating this grief in the years that followed. Mira discusses how she found her passion for writing, which led her to launch her grief support platform, New Moon Mira, in 2022. Together, we discuss how writing and sharing her story publicly became a crucial outlet for her to process her thoughts and grief, guiding her on her healing journey. We also discuss the additional challenges of being a solo parent, starting a business, and navigating friendships and relationships following her partner’s passing.      In this episode, we discuss:    Writing publicly about her grief became a vital outlet for Mira to process her thoughts and guide her healing journey.   The feelings and challenges you experience in the first 2 years of grieving    How to receive and give comfort to someone who is grieving  Navigating solo parenting, starting a business, and raising a young daughter as a widow   The difficulties and challenges of navigating dating as a widow and a parent    Mira Simone Instagram  New Moon Mira Website    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with Mira Simone, a grief coach, published writer, mother, and widow. Mira shares her experience of losing her partner Brian to an aggressive form of cancer in 2019 and her story of navigating this grief in the years that followed. Mira discusses how she found her passion for writing, which led her to launch her grief support platform, New Moon Mira, in 2022. Together, we discuss how writing and sharing her story publicly became a crucial outlet for her to process her thoughts and grief, guiding her on her healing journey. We also discuss the additional challenges of being a solo parent, starting a business, and navigating friendships and relationships following her partner’s passing.  

  

In this episode, we discuss:   

  • Writing publicly about her grief became a vital outlet for Mira to process her thoughts and guide her healing journey.  
  • The feelings and challenges you experience in the first 2 years of grieving   
  • How to receive and give comfort to someone who is grieving 
  • Navigating solo parenting, starting a business, and raising a young daughter as a widow  
  • The difficulties and challenges of navigating dating as a widow and a parent 

 

Mira Simone Instagram 

New Moon Mira Website 

 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again    

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3238 Empowering Parents through the Potty Training Process – with Allison Jandu In this episode, I sit down with renowned Potty Training Consultant, Allison Jandu. As the owner and founder of Potty Training Consultant, Allison has worked with over 6,000 families, offering potty training advice and support for parents. Together, we explore the pressures and challenges of potty training, how to navigate setbacks, and the importance of taking a personalized approach that suits your family's needs. From identifying readiness signs in your child to incorporating rewards and measuring small wins, we cover a range of practical strategies to make the potty training journey smoother and more successful.      In this episode, we discuss:    How to know when your child is ready and when to start the potty training process   The pressures of potty training and how to navigate setbacks   The importance of allowing you and your family time to readjust along the way   Using rewards in the potty training process   The importance of acknowledging the successes of your potty-training progress  Recognizing that potty training involves everyone in your family    Allison’s top tips to parents entering the potty training process  Episode Links:  Allison Jandu Instagram  Potty Training Consultant Website  Potty Training Consultant Free Resources     Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 08 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Empowering Parents through the Potty Training Process – with Allison Jandu full 30 Cloud10 In this episode, I sit down with renowned Potty Training Consultant, Allison Jandu. In this episode, I sit down with renowned Potty Training Consultant, Allison Jandu. As the owner and founder of Potty Training Consultant, Allison has worked with over 6,000 families, offering potty training advice and support for parents. Together, we explore the pressures and challenges of potty training, how to navigate setbacks, and the importance of taking a personalized approach that suits your family's needs. From identifying readiness signs in your child to incorporating rewards and measuring small wins, we cover a range of practical strategies to make the potty training journey smoother and more successful.      In this episode, we discuss:    How to know when your child is ready and when to start the potty training process   The pressures of potty training and how to navigate setbacks   The importance of allowing you and your family time to readjust along the way   Using rewards in the potty training process   The importance of acknowledging the successes of your potty-training progress  Recognizing that potty training involves everyone in your family    Allison’s top tips to parents entering the potty training process  Episode Links:  Allison Jandu Instagram  Potty Training Consultant Website  Potty Training Consultant Free Resources     Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with renowned Potty Training Consultant, Allison Jandu. As the owner and founder of Potty Training Consultant, Allison has worked with over 6,000 families, offering potty training advice and support for parents. Together, we explore the pressures and challenges of potty training, how to navigate setbacks, and the importance of taking a personalized approach that suits your family's needs. From identifying readiness signs in your child to incorporating rewards and measuring small wins, we cover a range of practical strategies to make the potty training journey smoother and more successful.  

  

In this episode, we discuss:   

  • How to know when your child is ready and when to start the potty training process  
  • The pressures of potty training and how to navigate setbacks  
  • The importance of allowing you and your family time to readjust along the way  
  • Using rewards in the potty training process  
  • The importance of acknowledging the successes of your potty-training progress 
  • Recognizing that potty training involves everyone in your family   
  • Allison’s top tips to parents entering the potty training process 


Episode Links: 

Allison Jandu Instagram 

Potty Training Consultant Website 

Potty Training Consultant Free Resources  

 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again    

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2696 Get Close and Intimate with These 100 Questions with Your Partner – with Greg Stewart In this episode, I sit down with my husband Greg to discuss our experience completing my 100 Questions to Spark a Deeper Connection Guide. We'll also discuss the poll results from a series of relationship questions I shared on my Instagram, and share our perspectives on enhancing communication and connection with your partner.  In this episode we discuss:  Our experience completing the 100 Questions Guide (it's free!) Finding balance between the quantity and quality of communication in your relationship  The significance of open discussions and setting expectations during major life transitions like starting a family  Identifying common triggers for resentment and finding effective ways to address them in relationships  Overcoming the challenges of initiating meaningful conversations with your partner  The benefit of dedicating regular check-ins with your partner to nurture and strengthen your relationship    Pre-order my book now (Released 09/12)! Your pre-order purchase includes many exclusive bonuses. Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 01 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Get Close and Intimate with These 100 Questions with Your Partner – with Greg Stewart full 29 Cloud10 In this episode, I sit down with my husband Greg to discuss our experience completing my 100 Questions to Spark a Deeper Connection Guide. In this episode, I sit down with my husband Greg to discuss our experience completing my 100 Questions to Spark a Deeper Connection Guide. We'll also discuss the poll results from a series of relationship questions I shared on my Instagram, and share our perspectives on enhancing communication and connection with your partner.  In this episode we discuss:  Our experience completing the 100 Questions Guide (it's free!) Finding balance between the quantity and quality of communication in your relationship  The significance of open discussions and setting expectations during major life transitions like starting a family  Identifying common triggers for resentment and finding effective ways to address them in relationships  Overcoming the challenges of initiating meaningful conversations with your partner  The benefit of dedicating regular check-ins with your partner to nurture and strengthen your relationship    Pre-order my book now (Released 09/12)! Your pre-order purchase includes many exclusive bonuses. Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with my husband Greg to discuss our experience completing my 100 Questions to Spark a Deeper Connection Guide. We'll also discuss the poll results from a series of relationship questions I shared on my Instagram, and share our perspectives on enhancing communication and connection with your partner. 

In this episode we discuss: 

  • Our experience completing the 100 Questions Guide (it's free!)
  • Finding balance between the quantity and quality of communication in your relationship 
  • The significance of open discussions and setting expectations during major life transitions like starting a family 
  • Identifying common triggers for resentment and finding effective ways to address them in relationships 
  • Overcoming the challenges of initiating meaningful conversations with your partner 
  • The benefit of dedicating regular check-ins with your partner to nurture and strengthen your relationship 

 

Pre-order my book now (Released 09/12)! Your pre-order purchase includes many exclusive bonuses.

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2998 Living Abroad and Navigating Love and Relationships - with Kacie Rose Travel In this episode, I sit down with Kacie Rose, the world traveler behind Kacie Rose Travel. After a life-changing solo trip and her own "Under the Tuscan Sun" moment, Kacie Rose moved to Italy in January 2021 to be with her long-distance partner. By sharing her experiences online about her life as an American living abroad, travel tips, and more, she has built an outstanding online community of 1.5 million people.  Together, we delve into her experiences of moving abroad and the struggles of navigating life living in a new country. She shares her experiences of embracing a new culture, navigating the language barrier, building friendships as an adult, and how she has worked to maintain a healthy relationship with her partner.    In this episode we discuss:  The importance of prioritizing quality time in a long-distance relationship  Navigating personal growth and significant life changes as a couple  Adapting to cultural differences in an intercultural relationship  Struggles with losing independence when navigating language barriers  Building and nurturing friendships as an adult  Tips for individuals planning to live abroad  EPISODE LINKS:   Kacie Rose Travel Instagram  Kacie Rose Travel TikTok  Kacie Rose Travel YouTube  Kacie Rose Travel Website    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 25 May 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Living Abroad and Navigating Love and Relationships - with Kacie Rose Travel full 28 Cloud10 In this episode, I sit down with Kacie Rose, the world traveler behind Kacie Rose Travel. In this episode, I sit down with Kacie Rose, the world traveler behind Kacie Rose Travel. After a life-changing solo trip and her own "Under the Tuscan Sun" moment, Kacie Rose moved to Italy in January 2021 to be with her long-distance partner. By sharing her experiences online about her life as an American living abroad, travel tips, and more, she has built an outstanding online community of 1.5 million people.  Together, we delve into her experiences of moving abroad and the struggles of navigating life living in a new country. She shares her experiences of embracing a new culture, navigating the language barrier, building friendships as an adult, and how she has worked to maintain a healthy relationship with her partner.    In this episode we discuss:  The importance of prioritizing quality time in a long-distance relationship  Navigating personal growth and significant life changes as a couple  Adapting to cultural differences in an intercultural relationship  Struggles with losing independence when navigating language barriers  Building and nurturing friendships as an adult  Tips for individuals planning to live abroad  EPISODE LINKS:   Kacie Rose Travel Instagram  Kacie Rose Travel TikTok  Kacie Rose Travel YouTube  Kacie Rose Travel Website    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with Kacie Rose, the world traveler behind Kacie Rose Travel. After a life-changing solo trip and her own "Under the Tuscan Sun" moment, Kacie Rose moved to Italy in January 2021 to be with her long-distance partner. By sharing her experiences online about her life as an American living abroad, travel tips, and more, she has built an outstanding online community of 1.5 million people. 

Together, we delve into her experiences of moving abroad and the struggles of navigating life living in a new country. She shares her experiences of embracing a new culture, navigating the language barrier, building friendships as an adult, and how she has worked to maintain a healthy relationship with her partner. 

 

In this episode we discuss: 

  • The importance of prioritizing quality time in a long-distance relationship 
  • Navigating personal growth and significant life changes as a couple 
  • Adapting to cultural differences in an intercultural relationship 
  • Struggles with losing independence when navigating language barriers 
  • Building and nurturing friendships as an adult 
  • Tips for individuals planning to live abroad 


EPISODE LINKS:  

Kacie Rose Travel Instagram 

Kacie Rose Travel TikTok 

Kacie Rose Travel YouTube 

Kacie Rose Travel Website 

 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again    

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

 Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

 Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2832 From Micro-Betrayals to Emotional Neglect in your Marriage - with Matthew Fray In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". He leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did.     Together, we discuss the importance of mindful validation and communication in marriages. He shares his insights on how small actions can lead to bigger messages and the impact of emotional neglect and micro-betrayals in relationships. Matthew also shares tips on how to embrace uncomfortable conversations and work towards conflict resolution in a marriage.     In this episode, we discuss:  The common struggle between communication and validation when there is a problem   Inadvertently delivering a message through small actions and the long term effects   How to get over your defensive and invalidating tendencies   Mindful validation during disagreements can help couples work through conflicts   How our relationships often reflect the stuff we are working through   The key to working towards conflict resolution is leaning into discomfort and embracing uncomfortable conversations    EPISODE LINKS:  Matthew Fray Instagram  Matthew Fray Blog  Purchase his book here!    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again         Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love        Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass           Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected        Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 18 May 2023 10:00:00 -0000 From Micro-Betrayals to Emotional Neglect in your Marriage - with Matthew Fray full 4 27 Cloud10 In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". He leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did.     Together, we discuss the importance of mindful validation and communication in marriages. He shares his insights on how small actions can lead to bigger messages and the impact of emotional neglect and micro-betrayals in relationships. Matthew also shares tips on how to embrace uncomfortable conversations and work towards conflict resolution in a marriage.     In this episode, we discuss:  The common struggle between communication and validation when there is a problem   Inadvertently delivering a message through small actions and the long term effects   How to get over your defensive and invalidating tendencies   Mindful validation during disagreements can help couples work through conflicts   How our relationships often reflect the stuff we are working through   The key to working towards conflict resolution is leaning into discomfort and embracing uncomfortable conversations    EPISODE LINKS:  Matthew Fray Instagram  Matthew Fray Blog  Purchase his book here!    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again         Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love        Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass           Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected        Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". He leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did.    


Together, we discuss the importance of mindful validation and communication in marriages. He shares his insights on how small actions can lead to bigger messages and the impact of emotional neglect and micro-betrayals in relationships. Matthew also shares tips on how to embrace uncomfortable conversations and work towards conflict resolution in a marriage. 

  

In this episode, we discuss: 

  • The common struggle between communication and validation when there is a problem  
  • Inadvertently delivering a message through small actions and the long term effects  
  • How to get over your defensive and invalidating tendencies  
  • Mindful validation during disagreements can help couples work through conflicts  
  • How our relationships often reflect the stuff we are working through  
  • The key to working towards conflict resolution is leaning into discomfort and embracing uncomfortable conversations 

 

EPISODE LINKS: 


Matthew Fray Instagram 

Matthew Fray Blog 

Purchase his book here! 

 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again    

   

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love   

   

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass     

    

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected    

  

Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3461 Resentment, Confidence, and Coping with the Stepmom Role – with Christina Nelson In this episode, I sit down with Christina Nelson, a social worker and creator of the Radical Stepmoms podcast.      Cristina is passionate about providing support to stepmoms and assisting them in getting unstuck so they can build the love and life they desire.      Together, we take a deeper look at the realities of being a stepmom and open up an honest conversation to discuss resentment, responsibilities, and dynamics within the stepmotherhood role.      In this episode, we discuss:    How stepmotherhood changes and challenges your identity   The negative representation of stepmoms in the media  Processing the grief and your initial expectations of motherhood    How to find confidence in your place and power in the stepmom role    The feeling of resentment and how to process through it    Addressing your needs and advocating for yourself when moving into a set family dynamic    Practicing open communication and boundary setting   The definition of "disengaging" and how to practice it    Tips to strengthen your relationship with your partner     EPISODE LINKS:    The Radical Stepmoms Podcast Instagram  The Radical Stepmoms Podcast Website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again       Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love      Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass         Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 11 May 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Resentment, Confidence, and Coping with the Stepmom Role – with Christina Nelson full 4 26 Cloud10 Cristina is passionate about providing support to stepmoms and assisting them in getting unstuck so they can build the love and life they desire. Together, we take a deeper look at the realities of being a stepmom and open up an honest conversation to discuss resentment, responsibilities, and dynamics within the stepmotherhood role. In this episode, I sit down with Christina Nelson, a social worker and creator of the Radical Stepmoms podcast.      Cristina is passionate about providing support to stepmoms and assisting them in getting unstuck so they can build the love and life they desire.      Together, we take a deeper look at the realities of being a stepmom and open up an honest conversation to discuss resentment, responsibilities, and dynamics within the stepmotherhood role.      In this episode, we discuss:    How stepmotherhood changes and challenges your identity   The negative representation of stepmoms in the media  Processing the grief and your initial expectations of motherhood    How to find confidence in your place and power in the stepmom role    The feeling of resentment and how to process through it    Addressing your needs and advocating for yourself when moving into a set family dynamic    Practicing open communication and boundary setting   The definition of "disengaging" and how to practice it    Tips to strengthen your relationship with your partner     EPISODE LINKS:    The Radical Stepmoms Podcast Instagram  The Radical Stepmoms Podcast Website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again       Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love      Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass         Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with Christina Nelson, a social worker and creator of the Radical Stepmoms podcast.  

  

Cristina is passionate about providing support to stepmoms and assisting them in getting unstuck so they can build the love and life they desire.  

  

Together, we take a deeper look at the realities of being a stepmom and open up an honest conversation to discuss resentment, responsibilities, and dynamics within the stepmotherhood role.  

  

In this episode, we discuss:   

  • How stepmotherhood changes and challenges your identity  
  • The negative representation of stepmoms in the media 
  • Processing the grief and your initial expectations of motherhood   
  • How to find confidence in your place and power in the stepmom role   
  • The feeling of resentment and how to process through it   
  • Addressing your needs and advocating for yourself when moving into a set family dynamic   
  • Practicing open communication and boundary setting  
  • The definition of "disengaging" and how to practice it   
  • Tips to strengthen your relationship with your partner  

 


EPISODE LINKS:   

The Radical Stepmoms Podcast Instagram 

The Radical Stepmoms Podcast Website


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again   

  

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love  

  

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass    

   

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   

 

Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect 

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]]> 3021 Postpartum, Grief, and The Mental Load – with Lo Mansfield In this episode, I sit down with Lo Mansfield, a specialty certified OB nurse who has spent her career in labor and postpartum, and the teacher and face behind the Labor Mama community courses and resources.    Together, we discuss the intricacies of postpartum and the power of how resources and knowledge can change our experiences.    In this episode, we cover:    The feeling of grief in pregnancy and child birth   The importance of having a support system and receiving help in postpartum  How to acknowledge and have grace for your own change on the parenting journey   The ability to have an empowered and knowledgeable birth experience  Responding to fear in the labor process  How to practice pain with purpose   Recognizing postpartum mental health challenges and implementing accountability      EPISODE LINKS:   The Labor Mama Instagram  The Labor Mama Website       Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 04 May 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Postpartum, Grief, and The Mental Load – with Lo Mansfield full 4 25 Cloud10 Together, we discuss the intricacies of postpartum and the power of how resources and knowledge can change our experiences. In this episode, I sit down with Lo Mansfield, a specialty certified OB nurse who has spent her career in labor and postpartum, and the teacher and face behind the Labor Mama community courses and resources.    Together, we discuss the intricacies of postpartum and the power of how resources and knowledge can change our experiences.    In this episode, we cover:    The feeling of grief in pregnancy and child birth   The importance of having a support system and receiving help in postpartum  How to acknowledge and have grace for your own change on the parenting journey   The ability to have an empowered and knowledgeable birth experience  Responding to fear in the labor process  How to practice pain with purpose   Recognizing postpartum mental health challenges and implementing accountability      EPISODE LINKS:   The Labor Mama Instagram  The Labor Mama Website       Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with Lo Mansfield, a specialty certified OB nurse who has spent her career in labor and postpartum, and the teacher and face behind the Labor Mama community courses and resources. 

 

Together, we discuss the intricacies of postpartum and the power of how resources and knowledge can change our experiences. 

 

In this episode, we cover: 

 

  • The feeling of grief in pregnancy and child birth  
  • The importance of having a support system and receiving help in postpartum 
  • How to acknowledge and have grace for your own change on the parenting journey  
  • The ability to have an empowered and knowledgeable birth experience 
  • Responding to fear in the labor process 
  • How to practice pain with purpose  
  • Recognizing postpartum mental health challenges and implementing accountability 

 

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

The Labor Mama Instagram 

The Labor Mama Website  

   

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again  

 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass   

  

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  


Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2896 Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Defining Your Values – Q&A with Dr. Tracy In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to answer some of your most asked questions across social media, her website, and clinical visits.   Listen as Dr. Tracy tackles key topics in marriage and parenthood when it comes to managing boundaries, the mother-in-law dynamic, and more.   In this episode, she covers: Grief and raising your family in a city without family support How to build friendship and connection with others outside of your family How to process inner narratives in alignment with your values Adjusting your expectations when the reality of family-life is different than you planned The shifts to the marriage dynamic after having children How to set, communicate, and act upon our boundaries with others Practices to create safe and secure environments in your marriage How to raise your children to be autonomous, interdependent individuals Tips to navigate different background experiences in defining your values and creating compromise with others Want Dr. Tracy to answer your questions? Submit your topic on drtracyd.com/podcast. Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again   Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 27 Apr 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Defining Your Values – Q&A with Dr. Tracy full 4 24 Cloud10 Listen as Dr. Tracy tackles key topics in marriage and parenthood when it comes to managing boundaries, the mother-in-law dynamic, and more. In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to answer some of your most asked questions across social media, her website, and clinical visits.   Listen as Dr. Tracy tackles key topics in marriage and parenthood when it comes to managing boundaries, the mother-in-law dynamic, and more.   In this episode, she covers: Grief and raising your family in a city without family support How to build friendship and connection with others outside of your family How to process inner narratives in alignment with your values Adjusting your expectations when the reality of family-life is different than you planned The shifts to the marriage dynamic after having children How to set, communicate, and act upon our boundaries with others Practices to create safe and secure environments in your marriage How to raise your children to be autonomous, interdependent individuals Tips to navigate different background experiences in defining your values and creating compromise with others Want Dr. Tracy to answer your questions? Submit your topic on drtracyd.com/podcast. Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again   Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to answer some of your most asked questions across social media, her website, and clinical visits.

 

Listen as Dr. Tracy tackles key topics in marriage and parenthood when it comes to managing boundaries, the mother-in-law dynamic, and more.

 

In this episode, she covers:

  • Grief and raising your family in a city without family support
  • How to build friendship and connection with others outside of your family
  • How to process inner narratives in alignment with your values
  • Adjusting your expectations when the reality of family-life is different than you planned
  • The shifts to the marriage dynamic after having children
  • How to set, communicate, and act upon our boundaries with others
  • Practices to create safe and secure environments in your marriage
  • How to raise your children to be autonomous, interdependent individuals
  • Tips to navigate different background experiences in defining your values and creating compromise with others


Want Dr. Tracy to answer your questions? Submit your topic on drtracyd.com/podcast.


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again  


Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass   

  

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2804 Neurodiverse Children and The Sensory Load – with Laura Petix In this episode, I sit down with neurodiverse affirming pediatric occupational therapist, Laura Petix, who specializes in sensory processing skills for neurodivergent individuals.       Laura is the parent of a neurodivergent daughter and CEO of the OT Butterfly, where she educates parents on how sensory processing can have a direct impact on learning and behavior.      Together, we discuss neurodiversity, sensory processing, and a lot of good stories in between.    In this episode, we cover:    Defining the "sensory cup" and what that means for neurodivergent children   The differences in sensory processing between the neurodivergent and neurotypical brain   How to share knowledge with a partner when raising a neurodivergent child     The negative narratives children internalize about themselves   How to have regulated and calm responses as parents in dysregulated moments    Understanding the child’s internal experience when having a dysregulated moment     Normalizing communication with your child about your sensory stimulation and needs as a parent   Breaking down the meaning of neurodiversity and neurodiverse affirming  High threshold vs. low threshold profiles for sensory processing and how to regulate them    The autonomous connection we can have with our spouse and child when it comes to our sensory experience    After listening to this episode, be sure to listen to part 2, Episode 73, with Laura and Dr. Tracy here.   EPISODE LINKS:   Laura Petix Instagram   Laura Petix Website     Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 Apr 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Neurodiverse Children and The Sensory Load – with Laura Petix full 4 23 Cloud10 Laura is the parent of a neurodivergent daughter and CEO of the OT Butterfly, where she educates parents on how sensory processing can have a direct impact on learning and behavior. In this episode, I sit down with neurodiverse affirming pediatric occupational therapist, Laura Petix, who specializes in sensory processing skills for neurodivergent individuals.       Laura is the parent of a neurodivergent daughter and CEO of the OT Butterfly, where she educates parents on how sensory processing can have a direct impact on learning and behavior.      Together, we discuss neurodiversity, sensory processing, and a lot of good stories in between.    In this episode, we cover:    Defining the "sensory cup" and what that means for neurodivergent children   The differences in sensory processing between the neurodivergent and neurotypical brain   How to share knowledge with a partner when raising a neurodivergent child     The negative narratives children internalize about themselves   How to have regulated and calm responses as parents in dysregulated moments    Understanding the child’s internal experience when having a dysregulated moment     Normalizing communication with your child about your sensory stimulation and needs as a parent   Breaking down the meaning of neurodiversity and neurodiverse affirming  High threshold vs. low threshold profiles for sensory processing and how to regulate them    The autonomous connection we can have with our spouse and child when it comes to our sensory experience    After listening to this episode, be sure to listen to part 2, Episode 73, with Laura and Dr. Tracy here.   EPISODE LINKS:   Laura Petix Instagram   Laura Petix Website     Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with neurodiverse affirming pediatric occupational therapist, Laura Petix, who specializes in sensory processing skills for neurodivergent individuals.   

  

Laura is the parent of a neurodivergent daughter and CEO of the OT Butterfly, where she educates parents on how sensory processing can have a direct impact on learning and behavior.  

  

Together, we discuss neurodiversity, sensory processing, and a lot of good stories in between. 

 

In this episode, we cover: 

 

  • Defining the "sensory cup" and what that means for neurodivergent children  
  • The differences in sensory processing between the neurodivergent and neurotypical brain  
  • How to share knowledge with a partner when raising a neurodivergent child    
  • The negative narratives children internalize about themselves  
  • How to have regulated and calm responses as parents in dysregulated moments   
  • Understanding the child’s internal experience when having a dysregulated moment    
  • Normalizing communication with your child about your sensory stimulation and needs as a parent  
  • Breaking down the meaning of neurodiversity and neurodiverse affirming 
  • High threshold vs. low threshold profiles for sensory processing and how to regulate them   
  • The autonomous connection we can have with our spouse and child when it comes to our sensory experience 

 

After listening to this episode, be sure to listen to part 2, Episode 73, with Laura and Dr. Tracy here.

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

Laura Petix Instagram  

Laura Petix Website  

 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again  

 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass   

  

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3475 More Than “A Stay At Home Mom” – with Neha Ruch In this episode I sit down with Neha Ruch, a rising thought leader and sought after speaker in the world of women, work, parenting, and identity.    Featured in Forbes, Oprah Daily, and New York Family Magazine, and founder of Mother Untitled, the digital destination for ambitious and progressive women, Neha is on a mission to update the perception of stay at home motherhood in America.     Together, we tackle the topic of what it means to be “A Stay At Home Mom” and dive into the complexities that mothers face when transitioning from traditional career paths into a focus on family life.     In this episode, we discuss:  What it means to be ambitious and lean into family life for a chapter  The societal and internal barriers mothers face when choosing to pause from their careers  How to practice proper consideration and communication with your partner when preparing for shifts in parenthood and career life   What it means to “re-meet” your partner when you become parents  The responsibility behind advocating for your own needs and nurturing your identity  What it means to practice conscious parenting in the midst of healing from your own pain and trauma  How to ask and invest in help when you are the parent on pause    EPISODE LINKS:   Neha Ruch Instagram   Neha Ruch Website   Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 13 Apr 2023 10:00:00 -0000 More Than “A Stay At Home Mom” – with Neha Ruch full 4 22 Cloud10 Together, we tackle the topic of what it means to be “A Stay At Home Mom” and dive into the complexities that mothers face when transitioning from traditional career paths into a focus on family life. In this episode I sit down with Neha Ruch, a rising thought leader and sought after speaker in the world of women, work, parenting, and identity.    Featured in Forbes, Oprah Daily, and New York Family Magazine, and founder of Mother Untitled, the digital destination for ambitious and progressive women, Neha is on a mission to update the perception of stay at home motherhood in America.     Together, we tackle the topic of what it means to be “A Stay At Home Mom” and dive into the complexities that mothers face when transitioning from traditional career paths into a focus on family life.     In this episode, we discuss:  What it means to be ambitious and lean into family life for a chapter  The societal and internal barriers mothers face when choosing to pause from their careers  How to practice proper consideration and communication with your partner when preparing for shifts in parenthood and career life   What it means to “re-meet” your partner when you become parents  The responsibility behind advocating for your own needs and nurturing your identity  What it means to practice conscious parenting in the midst of healing from your own pain and trauma  How to ask and invest in help when you are the parent on pause    EPISODE LINKS:   Neha Ruch Instagram   Neha Ruch Website   Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode I sit down with Neha Ruch, a rising thought leader and sought after speaker in the world of women, work, parenting, and identity. 

 

Featured in Forbes, Oprah Daily, and New York Family Magazine, and founder of Mother Untitled, the digital destination for ambitious and progressive women, Neha is on a mission to update the perception of stay at home motherhood in America.  

 

Together, we tackle the topic of what it means to be “A Stay At Home Mom” and dive into the complexities that mothers face when transitioning from traditional career paths into a focus on family life.  

 

In this episode, we discuss: 

  • What it means to be ambitious and lean into family life for a chapter 
  • The societal and internal barriers mothers face when choosing to pause from their careers 
  • How to practice proper consideration and communication with your partner when preparing for shifts in parenthood and career life  
  • What it means to “re-meet” your partner when you become parents 
  • The responsibility behind advocating for your own needs and nurturing your identity 
  • What it means to practice conscious parenting in the midst of healing from your own pain and trauma 
  • How to ask and invest in help when you are the parent on pause 

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

Neha Ruch Instagram  

Neha Ruch Website  


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again  

 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass   

  

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3142 Is This Normal? A Look at Your Hormones – with Dr. Jolene Brighten In this episode I sit down with Dr. Jolene Brighten, a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine to address the common question we all have when addressing our hormones: Is This Normal?    We take a deeper look at common misconceptions behind every day female symptoms such as our energy levels, period pains, appetites, and sex drive in order to gain a more holistic understanding of why we feel the way we feel.     In this episode, we discuss:    Common signs that our hormones may not be normal   How societal pressures play a role in pushing us to function outside of our physical and mental capacity  The barriers that women face when it comes to putting themselves first  Implementing practices to help shift your stress and take control of your day  A multifaceted approach to understanding and responding to lower sex drive  Sleep and other lifestyle factors we can address in order to bring our hormones into balance  The impacts of intermittent fasting on the female body   Living in the “both, and” space when approaching our nutrition      EPISODE LINKS:   Dr. Jolene Brighten Instagram  Dr. Jolene Brighten Website      Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 06 Apr 2023 17:41:53 -0000 Is This Normal? A Look at Your Hormones – with Dr. Jolene Brighten full 4 21 Cloud10 We take a deeper look at common misconceptions behind every day female symptoms such as our energy levels, period pains, appetites, and sex drive in order to gain a more holistic understanding of why we feel the way we feel. In this episode I sit down with Dr. Jolene Brighten, a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine to address the common question we all have when addressing our hormones: Is This Normal?    We take a deeper look at common misconceptions behind every day female symptoms such as our energy levels, period pains, appetites, and sex drive in order to gain a more holistic understanding of why we feel the way we feel.     In this episode, we discuss:    Common signs that our hormones may not be normal   How societal pressures play a role in pushing us to function outside of our physical and mental capacity  The barriers that women face when it comes to putting themselves first  Implementing practices to help shift your stress and take control of your day  A multifaceted approach to understanding and responding to lower sex drive  Sleep and other lifestyle factors we can address in order to bring our hormones into balance  The impacts of intermittent fasting on the female body   Living in the “both, and” space when approaching our nutrition      EPISODE LINKS:   Dr. Jolene Brighten Instagram  Dr. Jolene Brighten Website      Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again     Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode I sit down with Dr. Jolene Brighten, a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine to address the common question we all have when addressing our hormones: Is This Normal? 

 

We take a deeper look at common misconceptions behind every day female symptoms such as our energy levels, period pains, appetites, and sex drive in order to gain a more holistic understanding of why we feel the way we feel.  

 

In this episode, we discuss: 

 

  • Common signs that our hormones may not be normal  
  • How societal pressures play a role in pushing us to function outside of our physical and mental capacity 
  • The barriers that women face when it comes to putting themselves first 
  • Implementing practices to help shift your stress and take control of your day 
  • A multifaceted approach to understanding and responding to lower sex drive 
  • Sleep and other lifestyle factors we can address in order to bring our hormones into balance 
  • The impacts of intermittent fasting on the female body  
  • Living in the “both, and” space when approaching our nutrition 

 

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

Dr. Jolene Brighten Instagram 

Dr. Jolene Brighten Website   

 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again  

 

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass   

  

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2960 Assertiveness vs. Defensiveness – with Greg Stewart In this episode, I sit down with my in-house defensiveness expert and husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.    We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.    In this episode, we discuss:  Important examples of defensive and assertive responses   How modelled communication styles from our personal history effect our present communication styles    The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives   The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses   How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness   The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses    How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding      EPISODE LINKS:   Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again    Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my repair workshop    Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 30 Mar 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Assertiveness vs. Defensiveness – with Greg Stewart full 4 20 Cloud10 We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses. In this episode, I sit down with my in-house defensiveness expert and husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.    We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.    In this episode, we discuss:  Important examples of defensive and assertive responses   How modelled communication styles from our personal history effect our present communication styles    The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives   The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses   How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness   The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses    How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding      EPISODE LINKS:   Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again    Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my repair workshop    Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with my in-house defensiveness expert and husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.   


We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.   


In this episode, we discuss: 

  • Important examples of defensive and assertive responses  
  • How modelled communication styles from our personal history effect our present communication styles   
  • The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives  
  • The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses  
  • How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness  
  • The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses   
  • How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding   

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again   

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my repair workshop   

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2661 Journeying Through Life’s Most Difficult Seasons - with Allyn Rose In this episode, I sit down with Allyn Rose to discuss her unique journey of processing grief, a preventative double mastectomy, IVF, marriage, and motherhood.    Allyn first made waves in the media and society when she decided to undergo a preventive double mastectomy as a contestant on Miss America.  Years later, she is sharing her journey as a breast cancer advocate, professional speaker, on-air host, legal and political scholar, Tedx speaker, national media outlet contributor, and the first ever featured Sports Illustrated swimsuit model with a mastectomy, wife, and new mom.    In this episode, we discuss:  The power of vulnerability and sharing your story    Processing grief through life’s different seasons   Bravery despite negative feedback    The effects of the IVF journey when in a partnership    Finding grace through the heaviness of motherhood by practicing gratitude and perspective    Balancing being a mom with other responsibilities, despite comparison    Tips to be proactive about your breast health      EPISODE LINKS:   Allyn Rose Instagram   Allyn Rose Website   Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again   Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass    Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 23 Mar 2023 10:00:00 -0000 Journeying Through Life’s Most Difficult Seasons - with Allyn Rose full 4 19 Cloud10 Allyn first made waves in the media and society when she decided to undergo a preventive double mastectomy as a contestant on Miss America. Years later, she is sharing her journey, In this episode, I sit down with Allyn Rose to discuss her unique journey of processing grief, a preventative double mastectomy, IVF, marriage, and motherhood.    Allyn first made waves in the media and society when she decided to undergo a preventive double mastectomy as a contestant on Miss America.  Years later, she is sharing her journey as a breast cancer advocate, professional speaker, on-air host, legal and political scholar, Tedx speaker, national media outlet contributor, and the first ever featured Sports Illustrated swimsuit model with a mastectomy, wife, and new mom.    In this episode, we discuss:  The power of vulnerability and sharing your story    Processing grief through life’s different seasons   Bravery despite negative feedback    The effects of the IVF journey when in a partnership    Finding grace through the heaviness of motherhood by practicing gratitude and perspective    Balancing being a mom with other responsibilities, despite comparison    Tips to be proactive about your breast health      EPISODE LINKS:   Allyn Rose Instagram   Allyn Rose Website   Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again   Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass    Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this episode, I sit down with Allyn Rose to discuss her unique journey of processing grief, a preventative double mastectomy, IVF, marriage, and motherhood.   


Allyn first made waves in the media and society when she decided to undergo a preventive double mastectomy as a contestant on Miss America. 


Years later, she is sharing her journey as a breast cancer advocate, professional speaker, on-air host, legal and political scholar, Tedx speaker, national media outlet contributor, and the first ever featured Sports Illustrated swimsuit model with a mastectomy, wife, and new mom.   


In this episode, we discuss: 

  • The power of vulnerability and sharing your story   
  • Processing grief through life’s different seasons  
  • Bravery despite negative feedback   
  • The effects of the IVF journey when in a partnership   
  • Finding grace through the heaviness of motherhood by practicing gratitude and perspective   
  • Balancing being a mom with other responsibilities, despite comparison   
  • Tips to be proactive about your breast health   

 

EPISODE LINKS:  

Allyn Rose Instagram  

Allyn Rose Website  


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again  

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass   

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2410 Growing Compassion and Kindness in Your Relationship - with Michaela Thomas https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-18 We all have triggers. Our partners all have triggers. And they are not always the same things. Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated. When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms. In this replay episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss building compassion for healthy and strong relationships. In this episode, we discuss: The Fire Triangle of Relationships [7:23] The 3 Parts of Compassion [22:59] Motherhood & Compassion [29:12] Defining Compassion & Mindfulness [33:13] What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion [46:07] EPISODE LINKS: Michaela Thomas on IG Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook The Thomas Connection The Lasting Connection Book Now Available Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 16 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0000 Growing Compassion and Kindness in Your Relationship - with Michaela Thomas full 4 18 Cloud10 We all have triggers. Our partners all have triggers. And they are not always the same things. Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated. When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms. In this replay episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss building compassion for healthy and strong relationships. In this episode, we discuss: The Fire Triangle of Relationships [7:23] The 3 Parts of Compassion [22:59] Motherhood & Compassion [29:12] Defining Compassion & Mindfulness [33:13] What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion [46:07] EPISODE LINKS: Michaela Thomas on IG Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook The Thomas Connection The Lasting Connection Book Now Available Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We all have triggers.

Our partners all have triggers.

And they are not always the same things.

Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated.

When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms.

In this replay episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss building compassion for healthy and strong relationships.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • The Fire Triangle of Relationships [7:23]
  • The 3 Parts of Compassion [22:59]
  • Motherhood & Compassion [29:12]
  • Defining Compassion & Mindfulness [33:13]
  • What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion [46:07]

EPISODE LINKS:

Michaela Thomas on IG

Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook

The Thomas Connection

The Lasting Connection Book Now Available

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 4009 yes Find Your Power During Labor and Postpartum - with Liesel, Mommy Labor Nurse https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-17 Whether you’re expecting your first child or your fourth, pregnancy, childbirth, and bringing home baby can stir up a lot of big feelings. Fear of the unknown, discomfort from lack of control, sleepless nights, and hormones can leave us feeling anxious.  This week, I sit down with Liesel from Mommy Labor Nurse to discuss how birth and postpartum education can help empower couples to feel more satisfied with their experience.  If you haven't yet, be sure to check out Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Episode 136 where Liesel and I talk about preparing your relationship for baby.  Liesel Teen, BSN, RN is a labor and delivery nurse and the founder of Mommy Labor Nurse. Mommy Labor Nurse equips pregnant women with the tools, knowledge, and confidence they need to erase the unknown, feel in control, and have an even better birth - no matter how they deliver. With 8 years and counting as a bedside labor and delivery nurse, Liesel knows that knowledge is the key to an even better birth. To date, over 40k women have completed a Mommy Labor Nurse birth class, eliminated fear, and been empowered by Liesel’s comprehensive childbirth education. In this episode, we discuss:  The biggest fears that show up during pregnancy and delivery Boundaries  The mental load of pregnancy  Tracy’s experience with her unplanned c-section  Liesel’s tips for expecting parents EPISODE LINKS: Mommy Labor Nurse Instagram Mommy Labor Nurse TikTok Mommy Labor Nurse Online Birthing Classes Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 09 Mar 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Find Your Power During Labor and Postpartum - with Liesel, Mommy Labor Nurse full 4 17 Cloud10 Whether you’re expecting your first child or your fourth, pregnancy, childbirth, and bringing home baby can stir up a lot of big feelings. Fear of the unknown, discomfort from lack of control, sleepless nights, and hormones can leave us feeling anxious.  This week, I sit down with Liesel from Mommy Labor Nurse to discuss how birth and postpartum education can help empower couples to feel more satisfied with their experience.  If you haven't yet, be sure to check out Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Episode 136 where Liesel and I talk about preparing your relationship for baby.  Liesel Teen, BSN, RN is a labor and delivery nurse and the founder of Mommy Labor Nurse. Mommy Labor Nurse equips pregnant women with the tools, knowledge, and confidence they need to erase the unknown, feel in control, and have an even better birth - no matter how they deliver. With 8 years and counting as a bedside labor and delivery nurse, Liesel knows that knowledge is the key to an even better birth. To date, over 40k women have completed a Mommy Labor Nurse birth class, eliminated fear, and been empowered by Liesel’s comprehensive childbirth education. In this episode, we discuss:  The biggest fears that show up during pregnancy and delivery Boundaries  The mental load of pregnancy  Tracy’s experience with her unplanned c-section  Liesel’s tips for expecting parents EPISODE LINKS: Mommy Labor Nurse Instagram Mommy Labor Nurse TikTok Mommy Labor Nurse Online Birthing Classes Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Whether you’re expecting your first child or your fourth, pregnancy, childbirth, and bringing home baby can stir up a lot of big feelings. Fear of the unknown, discomfort from lack of control, sleepless nights, and hormones can leave us feeling anxious. 

This week, I sit down with Liesel from Mommy Labor Nurse to discuss how birth and postpartum education can help empower couples to feel more satisfied with their experience. 

If you haven't yet, be sure to check out Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Episode 136 where Liesel and I talk about preparing your relationship for baby. 

Liesel Teen, BSN, RN is a labor and delivery nurse and the founder of Mommy Labor Nurse. Mommy Labor Nurse equips pregnant women with the tools, knowledge, and confidence they need to erase the unknown, feel in control, and have an even better birth - no matter how they deliver.

With 8 years and counting as a bedside labor and delivery nurse, Liesel knows that knowledge is the key to an even better birth. To date, over 40k women have completed a Mommy Labor Nurse birth class, eliminated fear, and been empowered by Liesel’s comprehensive childbirth education.

In this episode, we discuss: 

  • The biggest fears that show up during pregnancy and delivery
  • Boundaries 
  • The mental load of pregnancy 
  • Tracy’s experience with her unplanned c-section 
  • Liesel’s tips for expecting parents

EPISODE LINKS:

Mommy Labor Nurse Instagram

Mommy Labor Nurse TikTok

Mommy Labor Nurse Online Birthing Classes

Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2273 yes Helping Our Partners Better Understand the Mental Load - with Zach Watson https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-16 Have you ever tried to explain the mental load to your partner only to find yourself struggling to find the words or perhaps frustrated that your partner just doesn’t get it?  If you have, you’re not alone. This is a common experience shared in DMs, comments, and even in therapy sessions. So how do we communicate the mental load so our partners can understand?  In this episode, I sit down with Zach Watson, to talk about the mental load. Zach is a content creator, Accountability Coach using the Fairplay method, husband, father, author, TEDx speaker, rapper, and former teacher. In this episode, we discuss:  What lead Zach to learn about the mental load Ways we can help our partners better understand the mental load The common fallacy about the worth of our time Zach’s Christmas present that helped his wife get back into her unicorn space Having tough, vulnerable conversations around sex and intimacy  Showing up authentically and vulnerably on social media EPISODE LINKS: Zach’s Instagram Zach’s TikTok Zach’s YouTube Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 02 Mar 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Helping Our Partners Better Understand the Mental Load - with Zach Watson full 4 16 Cloud10 Have you ever tried to explain the mental load to your partner only to find yourself struggling to find the words or perhaps frustrated that your partner just doesn’t get it?  If you have, you’re not alone. This is a common experience shared in DMs, comments, and even in therapy sessions. So how do we communicate the mental load so our partners can understand?  In this episode, I sit down with Zach Watson, to talk about the mental load. Zach is a content creator, Accountability Coach using the Fairplay method, husband, father, author, TEDx speaker, rapper, and former teacher. In this episode, we discuss:  What lead Zach to learn about the mental load Ways we can help our partners better understand the mental load The common fallacy about the worth of our time Zach’s Christmas present that helped his wife get back into her unicorn space Having tough, vulnerable conversations around sex and intimacy  Showing up authentically and vulnerably on social media EPISODE LINKS: Zach’s Instagram Zach’s TikTok Zach’s YouTube Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever tried to explain the mental load to your partner only to find yourself struggling to find the words or perhaps frustrated that your partner just doesn’t get it? 

If you have, you’re not alone. This is a common experience shared in DMs, comments, and even in therapy sessions. So how do we communicate the mental load so our partners can understand? 

In this episode, I sit down with Zach Watson, to talk about the mental load. Zach is a content creator, Accountability Coach using the Fairplay method, husband, father, author, TEDx speaker, rapper, and former teacher.

In this episode, we discuss: 

  • What lead Zach to learn about the mental load
  • Ways we can help our partners better understand the mental load
  • The common fallacy about the worth of our time
  • Zach’s Christmas present that helped his wife get back into her unicorn space
  • Having tough, vulnerable conversations around sex and intimacy 
  • Showing up authentically and vulnerably on social media

EPISODE LINKS:

Zach’s Instagram

Zach’s TikTok

Zach’s YouTube

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3436 yes Are We Wired to Fix Our Loved Ones? - with Michelle from Peace and Parenting https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-12-1 Are we wired to fix our loved ones? It might feel that way when you notice discomfort showing up when your kids or your partner are experiencing something unpleasant.  It’s easy to get caught up in finding the solution, but could we be missing their feelings and leaving them feeling invalidated?  In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Kenney from Peace and Parenting, to talk about repair, the urge to fix our loved ones, and what we can do instead when these feelings show up in our partnerships and parenting.  Michelle is a mother of two girls, as well as a former teacher and counsellor turned Certified Parenting Instructor. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts, she finally reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters and credits peaceful parenting for changing her life. Michelle considers herself a recovering yeller, perfectionist and control freak who has found a more calm and connected way to parent. Using the ideas of Brain Science as her guide and working on childhood hurts as her deeper work, she helps other parents do what she has been able to do for herself over the last decade. In this episode, we discuss:  Fixing in our relationships [03:00] The desire for our partners to parent as we do [05:45] Our inability to separate other people’s suffering from our own [06:15] The contrast between how we consciously parent our children and how we treat our partners [07:00] Helping our partners parent vs telling them what to do [11:45]  Seeing our younger self is our child’s reaction [19:30] Apologies without saying “I’m sorry” [22:30]  Why we push pain away [27:30] EPISODE LINKS: Peace and Parenting Instagram Peace and Parenting Website Peace and Parenting YouTube Channel  Peace and Parenting Podcast Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sat, 25 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Are We Wired to Fix Our Loved Ones? - with Michelle from Peace and Parenting full 4 15 Cloud10 Are we wired to fix our loved ones? It might feel that way when you notice discomfort showing up when your kids or your partner are experiencing something unpleasant.  It’s easy to get caught up in finding the solution, but could we be missing their feelings and leaving them feeling invalidated?  In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Kenney from Peace and Parenting, to talk about repair, the urge to fix our loved ones, and what we can do instead when these feelings show up in our partnerships and parenting.  Michelle is a mother of two girls, as well as a former teacher and counsellor turned Certified Parenting Instructor. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts, she finally reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters and credits peaceful parenting for changing her life. Michelle considers herself a recovering yeller, perfectionist and control freak who has found a more calm and connected way to parent. Using the ideas of Brain Science as her guide and working on childhood hurts as her deeper work, she helps other parents do what she has been able to do for herself over the last decade. In this episode, we discuss:  Fixing in our relationships [03:00] The desire for our partners to parent as we do [05:45] Our inability to separate other people’s suffering from our own [06:15] The contrast between how we consciously parent our children and how we treat our partners [07:00] Helping our partners parent vs telling them what to do [11:45]  Seeing our younger self is our child’s reaction [19:30] Apologies without saying “I’m sorry” [22:30]  Why we push pain away [27:30] EPISODE LINKS: Peace and Parenting Instagram Peace and Parenting Website Peace and Parenting YouTube Channel  Peace and Parenting Podcast Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Are we wired to fix our loved ones? It might feel that way when you notice discomfort showing up when your kids or your partner are experiencing something unpleasant. 

It’s easy to get caught up in finding the solution, but could we be missing their feelings and leaving them feeling invalidated? 

In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Kenney from Peace and Parenting, to talk about repair, the urge to fix our loved ones, and what we can do instead when these feelings show up in our partnerships and parenting. 

Michelle is a mother of two girls, as well as a former teacher and counsellor turned Certified Parenting Instructor. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts, she finally reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters and credits peaceful parenting for changing her life. Michelle considers herself a recovering yeller, perfectionist and control freak who has found a more calm and connected way to parent. Using the ideas of Brain Science as her guide and working on childhood hurts as her deeper work, she helps other parents do what she has been able to do for herself over the last decade.


In this episode, we discuss: 

  • Fixing in our relationships [03:00]
  • The desire for our partners to parent as we do [05:45]
  • Our inability to separate other people’s suffering from our own [06:15]
  • The contrast between how we consciously parent our children and how we treat our partners [07:00]
  • Helping our partners parent vs telling them what to do [11:45] 
  • Seeing our younger self is our child’s reaction [19:30]
  • Apologies without saying “I’m sorry” [22:30] 
  • Why we push pain away [27:30]


EPISODE LINKS:

Peace and Parenting Instagram

Peace and Parenting Website

Peace and Parenting YouTube Channel 

Peace and Parenting Podcast

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2280 yes Why is conscious parenting so important? - with Dr. Shefali Tsabary https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-14 For today's bonus episode, I sit down with fellow Psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.  Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.  If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and I discuss the parent-child relationship. EPISODE LINKS Order Dr. Shefali's newest book The Parenting Map Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Fri, 17 Feb 2023 20:00:00 -0000 Why is conscious parenting so important? - with Dr. Shefali bonus 4 14 Cloud10 For today's bonus episode, I sit down with fellow Psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.  Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.  If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and I discuss the parent-child relationship. EPISODE LINKS Order Dr. Shefali's newest book The Parenting Map Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices For today's bonus episode, I sit down with fellow Psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship. 

Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist. 

If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and I discuss the parent-child relationship.

EPISODE LINKS

Order Dr. Shefali's newest book The Parenting Map

Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2332 yes What I Wish I Knew About My Pelvic Floor Pre-Baby - With Dr. Sara Reardon https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-13 We all pee ourselves a little after having kids and it’s totally normal, right? Sure, it’s common… but it actually isn’t normal. Chances are your OB didn’t sit you down at your first prenatal appointment to discuss the importance of keeping your pelvic floor healthy and there’s an even higher chance they never talked to you about how urinary incontinence, at any level, isn’t normal after baby. So what is normal and how do we take care of our pelvic floor? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sara Reardon from The Vagaina Whisperer, to talk about your pelvic floor. Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, Board-Certified Women’s Health and Pelvic Floor Therapist, and mom of 2. She is the founder of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform for pelvic floor health and the owner of NOLA Pelvic Health.  In this episode, we discuss: The importance of normalizing correct terminology and the care/treatment of our pelvic floors (5:30) What the pelvic floor is (6:30) Common pelvic floor issues during pregnancy (8:30) and postpartum (13:00) The myth that “leaking is normal” (17:15) Common mistakes surrounding bladder health (19:15) Pain with sex (21:30) What a visit with a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist might look like (22:45) Sarah’s tips for you (32:30) EPISODE LINKS The Vagina Whisperer Website The Vagina Whisperer on Instagram The Vagina Whisperer on TikTok FREE GUIDE: How to Take Great Care of Your Pelvic Floor NOLA Pelvic Health website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Struggling with intimacy? Download my FREE GUIDE with 5 ways to improve your intimacy Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 16 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0000 What I Wish I Knew About My Pelvic Floor Pre-Baby - With Dr. Sara full 4 13 Cloud10 We all pee ourselves a little after having kids and it’s totally normal, right? Sure, it’s common… but it actually isn’t normal. Chances are your OB didn’t sit you down at your first prenatal appointment to discuss the importance of keeping your pelvic floor healthy and there’s an even higher chance they never talked to you about how urinary incontinence, at any level, isn’t normal after baby. So what is normal and how do we take care of our pelvic floor? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sara Reardon from The Vagaina Whisperer, to talk about your pelvic floor. Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, Board-Certified Women’s Health and Pelvic Floor Therapist, and mom of 2. She is the founder of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform for pelvic floor health and the owner of NOLA Pelvic Health.  In this episode, we discuss: The importance of normalizing correct terminology and the care/treatment of our pelvic floors (5:30) What the pelvic floor is (6:30) Common pelvic floor issues during pregnancy (8:30) and postpartum (13:00) The myth that “leaking is normal” (17:15) Common mistakes surrounding bladder health (19:15) Pain with sex (21:30) What a visit with a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist might look like (22:45) Sarah’s tips for you (32:30) EPISODE LINKS The Vagina Whisperer Website The Vagina Whisperer on Instagram The Vagina Whisperer on TikTok FREE GUIDE: How to Take Great Care of Your Pelvic Floor NOLA Pelvic Health website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Struggling with intimacy? Download my FREE GUIDE with 5 ways to improve your intimacy Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We all pee ourselves a little after having kids and it’s totally normal, right? Sure, it’s common… but it actually isn’t normal.


Chances are your OB didn’t sit you down at your first prenatal appointment to discuss the importance of keeping your pelvic floor healthy and there’s an even higher chance they never talked to you about how urinary incontinence, at any level, isn’t normal after baby.

So what is normal and how do we take care of our pelvic floor?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sara Reardon from The Vagaina Whisperer, to talk about your pelvic floor. Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, Board-Certified Women’s Health and Pelvic Floor Therapist, and mom of 2. She is the founder of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform for pelvic floor health and the owner of NOLA Pelvic Health. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • The importance of normalizing correct terminology and the care/treatment of our pelvic floors (5:30)
  • What the pelvic floor is (6:30)
  • Common pelvic floor issues during pregnancy (8:30) and postpartum (13:00)
  • The myth that “leaking is normal” (17:15)
  • Common mistakes surrounding bladder health (19:15)
  • Pain with sex (21:30)
  • What a visit with a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist might look like (22:45)
  • Sarah’s tips for you (32:30)

EPISODE LINKS

The Vagina Whisperer Website

The Vagina Whisperer on Instagram

The Vagina Whisperer on TikTok

FREE GUIDE: How to Take Great Care of Your Pelvic Floor

NOLA Pelvic Health website

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Struggling with intimacy? Download my FREE GUIDE with 5 ways to improve your intimacy

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2246 yes I Don’t Want My Husband To Make Pancakes on the Weekend - with Renee Reina https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-12 Have you ever found yourself suddenly the default parent, with your partner nowhere in sight and you’re left to tend to the baby? Or maybe you find yourself asking your partner to watch the baby and if now is a good time to shower. I’ll never forget the time I couldn’t find my husband one sunny Saturday. Left to do our baby’s bottle and nap time, I was enraged. When did I become the default parent and why? When I saw Renee’s TikTok about her husband making pancakes, I knew this was a conversation we needed to have on the pod!  Renee Reina is the mom friend you always wanted. She is a writer, content creator, Doctor of Psychology, busy body, mom, self-proclaimed over-sharer, and is the host of the top-ranking parenting podcast The Mom Room.  In this episode, we discuss: Why Renee doesn’t want her husband to make pancakes on Saturday Mornings How expectations, desires, and wishes differ Renee’s strategy for smoother weekends Tracy’s “pancake” story Expressing our needs to our partners  The “me” parts and coming to the “we solution” Why you want an equal partner (rather than delegating tasks) EPISODE LINKS Renee’s Instagram Renee’s TikTok The Mom Room Instagram The Mom Room Website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 09 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0000 I Don’t Want My Husband To Make Pancakes on the Weekend - with Renee Reina full 4 12 Cloud10 Have you ever found yourself suddenly the default parent, with your partner nowhere in sight and you’re left to tend to the baby? Or maybe you find yourself asking your partner to watch the baby and if now is a good time to shower. I’ll never forget the time I couldn’t find my husband one sunny Saturday. Left to do our baby’s bottle and nap time, I was enraged. When did I become the default parent and why? When I saw Renee’s TikTok about her husband making pancakes, I knew this was a conversation we needed to have on the pod!  Renee Reina is the mom friend you always wanted. She is a writer, content creator, Doctor of Psychology, busy body, mom, self-proclaimed over-sharer, and is the host of the top-ranking parenting podcast The Mom Room.  In this episode, we discuss: Why Renee doesn’t want her husband to make pancakes on Saturday Mornings How expectations, desires, and wishes differ Renee’s strategy for smoother weekends Tracy’s “pancake” story Expressing our needs to our partners  The “me” parts and coming to the “we solution” Why you want an equal partner (rather than delegating tasks) EPISODE LINKS Renee’s Instagram Renee’s TikTok The Mom Room Instagram The Mom Room Website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever found yourself suddenly the default parent, with your partner nowhere in sight and you’re left to tend to the baby?

Or maybe you find yourself asking your partner to watch the baby and if now is a good time to shower.

I’ll never forget the time I couldn’t find my husband one sunny Saturday. Left to do our baby’s bottle and nap time, I was enraged. When did I become the default parent and why?

When I saw Renee’s TikTok about her husband making pancakes, I knew this was a conversation we needed to have on the pod! 

Renee Reina is the mom friend you always wanted. She is a writer, content creator, Doctor of Psychology, busy body, mom, self-proclaimed over-sharer, and is the host of the top-ranking parenting podcast The Mom Room. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why Renee doesn’t want her husband to make pancakes on Saturday Mornings
  • How expectations, desires, and wishes differ
  • Renee’s strategy for smoother weekends
  • Tracy’s “pancake” story
  • Expressing our needs to our partners 
  • The “me” parts and coming to the “we solution”
  • Why you want an equal partner (rather than delegating tasks)

EPISODE LINKS

Renee’s Instagram

Renee’s TikTok

The Mom Room Instagram

The Mom Room Website

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

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]]> 3884 yes The Pressure for Intimacy Postpartum - I Answer Your Questions https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-11 It's time for another Q&A episode where I answer your questions! In today's episode, I answer a community member's question about sex after baby. Life changes so much after baby is born and the pressure to have intercourse can feel overwhelming.  Breastfeeding, hormone fluctuation, sleep deprivation, birth trauma, feeling touched out, recovering from birth. Is sex off the table? Absolutely not, but the pressure to have it should be. There is no right amount of sex to have and during this postpartum period we are reassessing our entire lives... so intimacy might be a bit different than it was before. In this episode, I discuss: Why the pressure to have sex should be off the table for one year postpartum  How communication with your partner and negative patterns can impact intimacy, especially postpartum My 3 tips for what you can start doing in your relationship today to address intimacy and shift toward connection  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Start nurturing your intimacy today. Grab my FREE Nurturing Intimacy Guide Looking for more support? Check out my Nurturing Intimacy Webinar Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 02 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0000 The Pressure for Intimacy Postpartum - I Answer Your Questions full 4 11 Cloud10 It's time for another Q&A episode where I answer your questions! In today's episode, I answer a community member's question about sex after baby. Life changes so much after baby is born and the pressure to have intercourse can feel overwhelming.  Breastfeeding, hormone fluctuation, sleep deprivation, birth trauma, feeling touched out, recovering from birth. Is sex off the table? Absolutely not, but the pressure to have it should be. There is no right amount of sex to have and during this postpartum period we are reassessing our entire lives... so intimacy might be a bit different than it was before. In this episode, I discuss: Why the pressure to have sex should be off the table for one year postpartum  How communication with your partner and negative patterns can impact intimacy, especially postpartum My 3 tips for what you can start doing in your relationship today to address intimacy and shift toward connection  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Start nurturing your intimacy today. Grab my FREE Nurturing Intimacy Guide Looking for more support? Check out my Nurturing Intimacy Webinar Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices It's time for another Q&A episode where I answer your questions! In today's episode, I answer a community member's question about sex after baby.

Life changes so much after baby is born and the pressure to have intercourse can feel overwhelming. 

Breastfeeding, hormone fluctuation, sleep deprivation, birth trauma, feeling touched out, recovering from birth.

Is sex off the table? Absolutely not, but the pressure to have it should be. There is no right amount of sex to have and during this postpartum period we are reassessing our entire lives... so intimacy might be a bit different than it was before.

In this episode, I discuss:

  • Why the pressure to have sex should be off the table for one year postpartum 
  • How communication with your partner and negative patterns can impact intimacy, especially postpartum
  • My 3 tips for what you can start doing in your relationship today to address intimacy and shift toward connection 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Start nurturing your intimacy today. Grab my FREE Nurturing Intimacy Guide

Looking for more support? Check out my Nurturing Intimacy Webinar

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1627 yes The Truth About Relationships Postpartum - with Dr. Cassidy https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-10 You’ve prepared everything for baby’s arrival: ✅Birth plan ✅Hospital bag ✅Freezer meals ✅Set up nursery ✅Install car seat You’ve done the research and checked your list twice. But did you prepare your relationship? Many of us have thought that a baby will bring us closer as a couple. Perhaps you haven’t had any noteworthy struggles in your relationship so far and think nothing will change. Or perhaps things have changed a lot since then. As a mother and a clinician, the thing that strikes me the most is just how much we don’t share our relationship difficulties. The resentment. The moments of anger towards our partner. The feelings of disconnection and like we are ships passing in the night.  In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Cassidy Freitas to talk about the things no one told you would happen in your relationship after having a baby. Dr. Cassidy Freitas is a San Diego based mom to three and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. She hosts the top-rated parenting podcast HoldingSpace. Every Friday on Instagram Dr. Cassidy shares relatable reels and doses of joy with the funniest TikToks.  In this episode, we discuss: Dr. Cassidy’s experience of becoming a mother [6:30] The one thing Dr. Cassidy and Dr. Tracy didn’t prepare before baby [8:30] Feelings of fear entering motherhood [11:30] Postpartum mental health [12:45] The challenge of being a couples therapist who struggles with their relationship [18:15] The myth that we will feel closer after baby [19:15] What we can do to work through this phase [26:30] Values [30:10] Generous interpretation [31:15] Kids learn by what they observe [37:30] EPISODE LINKS Dr Cassidy’s private practice website Follow Dr. Cassidy on Instagram Listen to her podcast: Holding Space Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Looking to deepen your connection? Download my free guide of 100 Questions Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 26 Jan 2023 05:00:00 -0000 The Truth About Relationships Postpartum - with Dr. Cassidy full 4 10 Cloud10 You’ve prepared everything for baby’s arrival: ✅Birth plan ✅Hospital bag ✅Freezer meals ✅Set up nursery ✅Install car seat You’ve done the research and checked your list twice. But did you prepare your relationship? Many of us have thought that a baby will bring us closer as a couple. Perhaps you haven’t had any noteworthy struggles in your relationship so far and think nothing will change. Or perhaps things have changed a lot since then. As a mother and a clinician, the thing that strikes me the most is just how much we don’t share our relationship difficulties. The resentment. The moments of anger towards our partner. The feelings of disconnection and like we are ships passing in the night.  In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Cassidy Freitas to talk about the things no one told you would happen in your relationship after having a baby. Dr. Cassidy Freitas is a San Diego based mom to three and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. She hosts the top-rated parenting podcast HoldingSpace. Every Friday on Instagram Dr. Cassidy shares relatable reels and doses of joy with the funniest TikToks.  In this episode, we discuss: Dr. Cassidy’s experience of becoming a mother [6:30] The one thing Dr. Cassidy and Dr. Tracy didn’t prepare before baby [8:30] Feelings of fear entering motherhood [11:30] Postpartum mental health [12:45] The challenge of being a couples therapist who struggles with their relationship [18:15] The myth that we will feel closer after baby [19:15] What we can do to work through this phase [26:30] Values [30:10] Generous interpretation [31:15] Kids learn by what they observe [37:30] EPISODE LINKS Dr Cassidy’s private practice website Follow Dr. Cassidy on Instagram Listen to her podcast: Holding Space Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Looking to deepen your connection? Download my free guide of 100 Questions Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices You’ve prepared everything for baby’s arrival:

✅Birth plan

✅Hospital bag

✅Freezer meals

✅Set up nursery

✅Install car seat

You’ve done the research and checked your list twice.


But did you prepare your relationship?


Many of us have thought that a baby will bring us closer as a couple. Perhaps you haven’t had any noteworthy struggles in your relationship so far and think nothing will change. Or perhaps things have changed a lot since then.


As a mother and a clinician, the thing that strikes me the most is just how much we don’t share our relationship difficulties. The resentment. The moments of anger towards our partner. The feelings of disconnection and like we are ships passing in the night. 

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Cassidy Freitas to talk about the things no one told you would happen in your relationship after having a baby. Dr. Cassidy Freitas is a San Diego based mom to three and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. She hosts the top-rated parenting podcast HoldingSpace. Every Friday on Instagram Dr. Cassidy shares relatable reels and doses of joy with the funniest TikToks. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Dr. Cassidy’s experience of becoming a mother [6:30]
  • The one thing Dr. Cassidy and Dr. Tracy didn’t prepare before baby [8:30]
  • Feelings of fear entering motherhood [11:30]
  • Postpartum mental health [12:45]
  • The challenge of being a couples therapist who struggles with their relationship [18:15]
  • The myth that we will feel closer after baby [19:15]
  • What we can do to work through this phase [26:30]
  • Values [30:10]
  • Generous interpretation [31:15]
  • Kids learn by what they observe [37:30]

EPISODE LINKS

Dr Cassidy’s private practice website

Follow Dr. Cassidy on Instagram

Listen to her podcast: Holding Space

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Looking to deepen your connection? Download my free guide of 100 Questions

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3084 yes Why Do We Feel Like Roommates? https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-9 When we first fall in love, there’s an attraction and excitement that sets the person apart from anyone else in the world - yet over time, we shift away from this. When I polled the community 67% of you said you felt like your partner’s roommate rather than their lover. Conversations feel transactional. There’s a loss of physical connection. The spark feels lost. But why does this happen? What can we do about it?  In this episode, I discuss: What the honeymoon phase is [0:30] Reasons why you might feel like roommates [1:30] 7 ideas to try to shift from roommates back into lovers [3:48] Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional every day with your partner. Grab my Daily Rituals Guide. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 19 Jan 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Why Do We Feel Like Roommates? full 4 9 Cloud10 When we first fall in love, there’s an attraction and excitement that sets the person apart from anyone else in the world - yet over time, we shift away from this. When I polled the community 67% of you said you felt like your partner’s roommate rather than their lover. Conversations feel transactional. There’s a loss of physical connection. The spark feels lost. But why does this happen? What can we do about it?  In this episode, I discuss: What the honeymoon phase is [0:30] Reasons why you might feel like roommates [1:30] 7 ideas to try to shift from roommates back into lovers [3:48] Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional every day with your partner. Grab my Daily Rituals Guide. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices When we first fall in love, there’s an attraction and excitement that sets the person apart from anyone else in the world - yet over time, we shift away from this.

When I polled the community 67% of you said you felt like your partner’s roommate rather than their lover. Conversations feel transactional. There’s a loss of physical connection. The spark feels lost.

But why does this happen? What can we do about it?

 In this episode, I discuss:

  • What the honeymoon phase is [0:30]
  • Reasons why you might feel like roommates [1:30]
  • 7 ideas to try to shift from roommates back into lovers [3:48]

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional every day with your partner. Grab my Daily Rituals Guide.

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1339 yes Am I Too Sensitive? Or a Highly Sensitive Person - With Natalie Brunswick https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-8 Do you find yourself frequently feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated by your environment? Perhaps you’ve heard those close to you say “You’re too sensitive.” You’re not alone and in fact, you might be part of the 20-30% of the population that are highly sensitive people.  Today I am sitting with Natalie Brunswick to talk about highly sensitive people and the impact that being a highly sensitive person can have on our lives. Natalie Brunswick is a registered occupational therapist who focuses on supporting parents during the perinatal period, navigating the parenting journey, and beyond. She believes in a holistic, relational, and trauma-informed approach to mental health, wellness, and parenting. She has also been trained with Postpartum Support International and is a proud mom to two amazing boys.  In this episode, we discuss: What a highly sensitive person (HSP) is [4:55]  What makes the trauma experience unique for HSP [8:00] Traits of HSP we can identify in our children [14:35] Family dynamics that show up when there are HSP [22:30] How our childhood as an HSP might impact our adult relationships [30:30] HPS and attachment styles [34:30]  EPISODE LINKS Natalie’s Website Connect with Natalie on Instagram  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner. Grab my 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection Guide Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 12 Jan 2023 05:00:00 -0000 Am I Too Sensitive? Or a Highly Sensitive Person - With Natalie Brunswick full 4 8 Cloud10 Do you find yourself frequently feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated by your environment? Perhaps you’ve heard those close to you say “You’re too sensitive.” You’re not alone and in fact, you might be part of the 20-30% of the population that are highly sensitive people.  Today I am sitting with Natalie Brunswick to talk about highly sensitive people and the impact that being a highly sensitive person can have on our lives. Natalie Brunswick is a registered occupational therapist who focuses on supporting parents during the perinatal period, navigating the parenting journey, and beyond. She believes in a holistic, relational, and trauma-informed approach to mental health, wellness, and parenting. She has also been trained with Postpartum Support International and is a proud mom to two amazing boys.  In this episode, we discuss: What a highly sensitive person (HSP) is [4:55]  What makes the trauma experience unique for HSP [8:00] Traits of HSP we can identify in our children [14:35] Family dynamics that show up when there are HSP [22:30] How our childhood as an HSP might impact our adult relationships [30:30] HPS and attachment styles [34:30]  EPISODE LINKS Natalie’s Website Connect with Natalie on Instagram  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again Get intentional with your partner. Grab my 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection Guide Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Do you find yourself frequently feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated by your environment?

Perhaps you’ve heard those close to you say “You’re too sensitive.”

You’re not alone and in fact, you might be part of the 20-30% of the population that are highly sensitive people. 

Today I am sitting with Natalie Brunswick to talk about highly sensitive people and the impact that being a highly sensitive person can have on our lives.

Natalie Brunswick is a registered occupational therapist who focuses on supporting parents during the perinatal period, navigating the parenting journey, and beyond. She believes in a holistic, relational, and trauma-informed approach to mental health, wellness, and parenting. She has also been trained with Postpartum Support International and is a proud mom to two amazing boys. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What a highly sensitive person (HSP) is [4:55] 
  • What makes the trauma experience unique for HSP [8:00]
  • Traits of HSP we can identify in our children [14:35]
  • Family dynamics that show up when there are HSP [22:30]
  • How our childhood as an HSP might impact our adult relationships [30:30]
  • HPS and attachment styles [34:30] 

EPISODE LINKS

Natalie’s Website

Connect with Natalie on Instagram 


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

Get intentional with your partner. Grab my 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection Guide

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2976 yes 7 Things Your Parents Didn't Teach You About Relationships - That You Should Teach Your Children https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-7 In today’s episode, I talk about 7 things your parents didn’t teach you about relationships, and the things we should tell our children. I polled the community several months ago about this topic and your responses were so cool to see.  It’s fascinating to see how so many of us didn’t learn how to show up in relationships - things like how to build healthy communication and what a healthy relationship looks like. So let’s deep dive into today’s episode where I’ll share what I think we should help the next generation learn. EPISODE LINKS Download my free Year in Review guide Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 05 Jan 2023 05:00:00 -0000 7 Things Your Parents Didn't Teach You About Relationships - That You Should Teach Your Children full 4 7 Cloud10 In today’s episode, I talk about 7 things your parents didn’t teach you about relationships, and the things we should tell our children. I polled the community several months ago about this topic and your responses were so cool to see.  It’s fascinating to see how so many of us didn’t learn how to show up in relationships - things like how to build healthy communication and what a healthy relationship looks like. So let’s deep dive into today’s episode where I’ll share what I think we should help the next generation learn. EPISODE LINKS Download my free Year in Review guide Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In today’s episode, I talk about 7 things your parents didn’t teach you about relationships, and the things we should tell our children. I polled the community several months ago about this topic and your responses were so cool to see. 

It’s fascinating to see how so many of us didn’t learn how to show up in relationships - things like how to build healthy communication and what a healthy relationship looks like. So let’s deep dive into today’s episode where I’ll share what I think we should help the next generation learn.

EPISODE LINKS

Download my free Year in Review guide

Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect.

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1635 yes Overcoming Perfectionism and Showing Up Imperfectly - with Dr. Jen https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/season-4-episode-6 Let me set the scene. The tree is up. The lights are on. The decorations are hanging. And I am envisioning a picture perfect moment… the kids smiling in their Christmas outfits while we all smile for that Instagram-worthy photo. Cue. Reality. My kids are now 5 and 7. Hot chocolate ends up on their clothes more than in their bellies. I haven’t sat down all day. And this is nothing like what I envisioned.  And I pause. I take a breath. I welcome my perfectionistic voice and say, “Oh, hey there, I was wondering when you would show up this holiday season.” The challenge with social media is that we see these beautifully crafted images without seeing what truly happened before.  Family photos? Don’t even get me started – you know it didn’t look like “and everyone say cheese!” in one frame.  Holiday get-togethers? Nope, not everyone is happy 100% of the time.  The work project? Also probably didn’t go down as it is shown on social media. The nursery and beautifully captured image of baby laying in the crib? This is the highlight reel. So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism.  The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.   And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us. And this pressure from society is not helpful. Join me as I speak with DR. JEN DOUGLAS, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way. In this episode, we discuss: 13:47 – What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people? 22:23 – Why do I strive for it? 34:37 – What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism? 48:09 – Overcoming the all-or-nothing thinking 53:13 – What you can start doing now to help perfectionism EPISODE LINKS Dr. Jen Douglas on Instagram Check out her Freedom From Perfectionism Course Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 29 Dec 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Overcoming Perfectionism and Showing Up Imperfectly - with Dr. Jen full 4 6 Cloud10 Let me set the scene. The tree is up. The lights are on. The decorations are hanging. And I am envisioning a picture perfect moment… the kids smiling in their Christmas outfits while we all smile for that Instagram-worthy photo. Cue. Reality. My kids are now 5 and 7. Hot chocolate ends up on their clothes more than in their bellies. I haven’t sat down all day. And this is nothing like what I envisioned.  And I pause. I take a breath. I welcome my perfectionistic voice and say, “Oh, hey there, I was wondering when you would show up this holiday season.” The challenge with social media is that we see these beautifully crafted images without seeing what truly happened before.  Family photos? Don’t even get me started – you know it didn’t look like “and everyone say cheese!” in one frame.  Holiday get-togethers? Nope, not everyone is happy 100% of the time.  The work project? Also probably didn’t go down as it is shown on social media. The nursery and beautifully captured image of baby laying in the crib? This is the highlight reel. So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism.  The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.   And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us. And this pressure from society is not helpful. Join me as I speak with DR. JEN DOUGLAS, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way. In this episode, we discuss: 13:47 – What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people? 22:23 – Why do I strive for it? 34:37 – What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism? 48:09 – Overcoming the all-or-nothing thinking 53:13 – What you can start doing now to help perfectionism EPISODE LINKS Dr. Jen Douglas on Instagram Check out her Freedom From Perfectionism Course Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Let me set the scene.

The tree is up.

The lights are on.

The decorations are hanging.

And I am envisioning a picture perfect moment… the kids smiling in their Christmas outfits while we all smile for that Instagram-worthy photo.

Cue. Reality.

My kids are now 5 and 7. Hot chocolate ends up on their clothes more than in their bellies. I haven’t sat down all day. And this is nothing like what I envisioned. 

And I pause. I take a breath. I welcome my perfectionistic voice and say, “Oh, hey there, I was wondering when you would show up this holiday season.”

The challenge with social media is that we see these beautifully crafted images without seeing what truly happened before. 

Family photos? Don’t even get me started – you know it didn’t look like “and everyone say cheese!” in one frame. 

Holiday get-togethers? Nope, not everyone is happy 100% of the time. 

The work project? Also probably didn’t go down as it is shown on social media.

The nursery and beautifully captured image of baby laying in the crib? This is the highlight reel.

So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism. 

The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.  

And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us.

And this pressure from society is not helpful.

Join me as I speak with DR. JEN DOUGLAS, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • 13:47 – What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people?
  • 22:23 – Why do I strive for it?
  • 34:37 – What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism?
  • 48:09 – Overcoming the all-or-nothing thinking
  • 53:13 – What you can start doing now to help perfectionism

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Jen Douglas on Instagram

Check out her Freedom From Perfectionism Course

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect.

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3907 yes Healing Family Trauma While Raising a Family - With Abbey Williams, MSW, LSW https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-5 For so many, the holidays stir up so many emotions and old wounds. This is particularly true for parents while they sit in front of their children, seeing their own struggles and triggers being reflected back by their children - a window, an opening to be curious and to heal. And it often brings up questions of - where am I with my parent? How do I feel with them? What works and isn’t working anymore? What am I still holding on to? We’re going to tackle something big today. Abbey Williams, MSW, LSW is a behavioural health therapist, the found of You, The Mother, the producer and host of the You, The Mother Podcast, Author of “An ABC of Families,” and mother of 4. She is committed to supporting, empowering, and connecting with mothers in all seasons of motherhood. Abbey has been featured in PopSugar, Parents, Romper, and SheKnows. She navigates her blended family/co-parenting life with her husband, four kids, and two sister labs in Cincinnati, OH. In this episode, we discuss: Abbey’s healing journey as she navigates motherhood Acknowledging unhelpful dynamics between family members Grieving old parts of us that aren’t serving you anymore Abbey’s hardest moments on being a mother while also healing old wounds from her family The answer to this question: How do I know when I need to cut contact with my family? Grieving a mother she didn’t have  EPISODE LINKS You The Mother Website Follow You The Mother on Instagram Follow You The Mother on Facebook Follow You The Mother on TikTok Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 22 Dec 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Healing Family Trauma While Raising a Family - With Abbey Williams, MSW, LSW full 4 5 Cloud10 For so many, the holidays stir up so many emotions and old wounds. This is particularly true for parents while they sit in front of their children, seeing their own struggles and triggers being reflected back by their children - a window, an opening to be curious and to heal. And it often brings up questions of - where am I with my parent? How do I feel with them? What works and isn’t working anymore? What am I still holding on to? We’re going to tackle something big today. Abbey Williams, MSW, LSW is a behavioural health therapist, the found of You, The Mother, the producer and host of the You, The Mother Podcast, Author of “An ABC of Families,” and mother of 4. She is committed to supporting, empowering, and connecting with mothers in all seasons of motherhood. Abbey has been featured in PopSugar, Parents, Romper, and SheKnows. She navigates her blended family/co-parenting life with her husband, four kids, and two sister labs in Cincinnati, OH. In this episode, we discuss: Abbey’s healing journey as she navigates motherhood Acknowledging unhelpful dynamics between family members Grieving old parts of us that aren’t serving you anymore Abbey’s hardest moments on being a mother while also healing old wounds from her family The answer to this question: How do I know when I need to cut contact with my family? Grieving a mother she didn’t have  EPISODE LINKS You The Mother Website Follow You The Mother on Instagram Follow You The Mother on Facebook Follow You The Mother on TikTok Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect. Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices For so many, the holidays stir up so many emotions and old wounds. This is particularly true for parents while they sit in front of their children, seeing their own struggles and triggers being reflected back by their children - a window, an opening to be curious and to heal. And it often brings up questions of - where am I with my parent? How do I feel with them? What works and isn’t working anymore? What am I still holding on to? We’re going to tackle something big today.

Abbey Williams, MSW, LSW is a behavioural health therapist, the found of You, The Mother, the producer and host of the You, The Mother Podcast, Author of “An ABC of Families,” and mother of 4. She is committed to supporting, empowering, and connecting with mothers in all seasons of motherhood. Abbey has been featured in PopSugar, Parents, Romper, and SheKnows. She navigates her blended family/co-parenting life with her husband, four kids, and two sister labs in Cincinnati, OH.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Abbey’s healing journey as she navigates motherhood
  • Acknowledging unhelpful dynamics between family members
  • Grieving old parts of us that aren’t serving you anymore
  • Abbey’s hardest moments on being a mother while also healing old wounds from her family
  • The answer to this question: How do I know when I need to cut contact with my family?
  • Grieving a mother she didn’t have 

EPISODE LINKS

You The Mother Website

Follow You The Mother on Instagram

Follow You The Mother on Facebook

Follow You The Mother on TikTok

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Grab my 28 Days of Love email series built with evidence-based tools to help you and your partner start to reconnect.

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2909 yes Maybe It's Not Mom Rage - with Libby Ward https://www.drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-4 Social media has recently become a place for mothers to connect and share their real, raw truths, but it hasn’t always been this way. For many, we open up our feeds and are flooded with highlight reels of the lives of others. Perfectly curated holiday pictures, clean homes, and women glowing - it can seem as though every other mother has their life together.  Am I the ONLY mother who doesn’t love every aspect of motherhood? Am I the only one crying daily and feeling overwhelmed? Does anyone else feel a rush of anger that feels unrecognizable?  In this episode I sit down with Libby Ward, the Honest Mom, to talk about the myths, shame, and emotions that show up with motherhood. Libby is a digital creator, speaker, and mental health advocate with a deep commitment to breaking the cycles of trauma. Focusing on today’s difficult and complex experiences of mental health, Libby is focused on reaching more women with her perspective-changing stories through her community of over 1.3M on social media. In this episode, we discuss: Anger and rage experienced in motherhood Resentment in relationships after having kids The changes in our identities after having children Supporting mothers in the context that they are mothering in Tackling shame and guilt in motherhood Be sure to check out Libby’s Guided Journal on Amazon! The Honest Mom Journal EPISODE LINKS Connect with Libby on Instagram Follow Libby on TikTok Check out her website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Want to be on the same page with your partner this holiday season? Grab the Same Page Parenting Holiday Webinar and feel like a team with family.  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 15 Dec 2022 05:01:00 -0000 Maybe It's Not Mom Rage - with Libby Ward full 4 4 Cloud10 Social media has recently become a place for mothers to connect and share their real, raw truths, but it hasn’t always been this way. For many, we open up our feeds and are flooded with highlight reels of the lives of others. Perfectly curated holiday pictures, clean homes, and women glowing - it can seem as though every other mother has their life together.  Am I the ONLY mother who doesn’t love every aspect of motherhood? Am I the only one crying daily and feeling overwhelmed? Does anyone else feel a rush of anger that feels unrecognizable?  In this episode I sit down with Libby Ward, the Honest Mom, to talk about the myths, shame, and emotions that show up with motherhood. Libby is a digital creator, speaker, and mental health advocate with a deep commitment to breaking the cycles of trauma. Focusing on today’s difficult and complex experiences of mental health, Libby is focused on reaching more women with her perspective-changing stories through her community of over 1.3M on social media. In this episode, we discuss: Anger and rage experienced in motherhood Resentment in relationships after having kids The changes in our identities after having children Supporting mothers in the context that they are mothering in Tackling shame and guilt in motherhood Be sure to check out Libby’s Guided Journal on Amazon! The Honest Mom Journal EPISODE LINKS Connect with Libby on Instagram Follow Libby on TikTok Check out her website Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Want to be on the same page with your partner this holiday season? Grab the Same Page Parenting Holiday Webinar and feel like a team with family.  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Social media has recently become a place for mothers to connect and share their real, raw truths, but it hasn’t always been this way. For many, we open up our feeds and are flooded with highlight reels of the lives of others. Perfectly curated holiday pictures, clean homes, and women glowing - it can seem as though every other mother has their life together. 

Am I the ONLY mother who doesn’t love every aspect of motherhood? Am I the only one crying daily and feeling overwhelmed? Does anyone else feel a rush of anger that feels unrecognizable? 

In this episode I sit down with Libby Ward, the Honest Mom, to talk about the myths, shame, and emotions that show up with motherhood. Libby is a digital creator, speaker, and mental health advocate with a deep commitment to breaking the cycles of trauma. Focusing on today’s difficult and complex experiences of mental health, Libby is focused on reaching more women with her perspective-changing stories through her community of over 1.3M on social media.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Anger and rage experienced in motherhood
  • Resentment in relationships after having kids
  • The changes in our identities after having children
  • Supporting mothers in the context that they are mothering in
  • Tackling shame and guilt in motherhood

Be sure to check out Libby’s Guided Journal on Amazon! The Honest Mom Journal

EPISODE LINKS

Connect with Libby on Instagram

Follow Libby on TikTok

Check out her website

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Want to be on the same page with your partner this holiday season? Grab the Same Page Parenting Holiday Webinar and feel like a team with family. 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2680 yes Your Boundary Questions - with Greg https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/season-4-episode-3 Does it feel like a never-ending cycle with your partner when it comes to setting boundaries with the family?  Maybe you both end up getting stuck on what you should do when your mother-in-law gives TEN gifts, when you both told her only two.  What are the missteps in our relationship when it comes to boundaries? My husband and business partner joins me for today's episode on boundaries. Why bring in Greg? In a heterosexual cis-gender relationship, he has the other side of the experience when it comes to holiday boundaries.  In this episode, we discuss: Who should set the boundaries with extended family What it means when we're at different points in our journey with boundaries (e.g., one gets defensive; one is critical) Important decisions to consider when it comes to setting boundaries with family  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Want to be on the same page with your partner this holiday season? Grab the Same Page Parenting Holiday Webinar and feel like a team with family.  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 08 Dec 2022 17:30:00 -0000 Your Boundary Questions - with Greg full 4 3 Cloud10 Does it feel like a never-ending cycle with your partner when it comes to setting boundaries with the family?  Maybe you both end up getting stuck on what you should do when your mother-in-law gives TEN gifts, when you both told her only two.  What are the missteps in our relationship when it comes to boundaries? My husband and business partner joins me for today's episode on boundaries. Why bring in Greg? In a heterosexual cis-gender relationship, he has the other side of the experience when it comes to holiday boundaries.  In this episode, we discuss: Who should set the boundaries with extended family What it means when we're at different points in our journey with boundaries (e.g., one gets defensive; one is critical) Important decisions to consider when it comes to setting boundaries with family  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Want to be on the same page with your partner this holiday season? Grab the Same Page Parenting Holiday Webinar and feel like a team with family.  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Does it feel like a never-ending cycle with your partner when it comes to setting boundaries with the family? 

Maybe you both end up getting stuck on what you should do when your mother-in-law gives TEN gifts, when you both told her only two. 

What are the missteps in our relationship when it comes to boundaries?

My husband and business partner joins me for today's episode on boundaries. Why bring in Greg? In a heterosexual cis-gender relationship, he has the other side of the experience when it comes to holiday boundaries. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Who should set the boundaries with extended family
  • What it means when we're at different points in our journey with boundaries (e.g., one gets defensive; one is critical)
  • Important decisions to consider when it comes to setting boundaries with family 

Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again. 

Want to be on the same page with your partner this holiday season? Grab the Same Page Parenting Holiday Webinar and feel like a team with family. 

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2387 yes Emotions Won't Make Your Kids Soft - with Dr. Becky https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/season-4-episode-1 Welcome to Season 4! With each season this community passes new milestones and continues to grow! I am incredibly grateful for you - your DMs, downloads, shares, and comments. Each week, you show up. You bring me your ah-ha moments, your wins, and your struggles. Thank you for joining me here and let's get started with another amazing season! To kick off the season, I am so excited to bring Dr. Becky Kennedy to this space. New York Times bestselling author and child psychologist, Dr. Becky is referred to as the parent whisperer of our time. If there is one thing that resonates with all of us from Dr. Becky's work, it is this: You are good inside. Your kids are good inside. Let's go into today's episode.  In this episode, we discuss: What it means to sit with emotions [2:38] and what this looks like with our children [4:30]  The intergenerational legacy of feelings [8:20]  Why acknowledging, validating, and empathizing with others' emotions is not soft [13:15] What happens to a child when no one repairs for them and what it means to go back and repair with your child [23:00] EPISODE LINKS Dr. Becky Kennedy Good Inside Book Dr. Becky Good Inside Membership JOIN ME in my community! Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 01 Dec 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Emotions Won't Make Your Kids Soft - with Dr. Becky full 4 1 Cloud10 Welcome to Season 4! With each season this community passes new milestones and continues to grow! I am incredibly grateful for you - your DMs, downloads, shares, and comments. Each week, you show up. You bring me your ah-ha moments, your wins, and your struggles. Thank you for joining me here and let's get started with another amazing season! To kick off the season, I am so excited to bring Dr. Becky Kennedy to this space. New York Times bestselling author and child psychologist, Dr. Becky is referred to as the parent whisperer of our time. If there is one thing that resonates with all of us from Dr. Becky's work, it is this: You are good inside. Your kids are good inside. Let's go into today's episode.  In this episode, we discuss: What it means to sit with emotions [2:38] and what this looks like with our children [4:30]  The intergenerational legacy of feelings [8:20]  Why acknowledging, validating, and empathizing with others' emotions is not soft [13:15] What happens to a child when no one repairs for them and what it means to go back and repair with your child [23:00] EPISODE LINKS Dr. Becky Kennedy Good Inside Book Dr. Becky Good Inside Membership JOIN ME in my community! Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Welcome to Season 4!

With each season this community passes new milestones and continues to grow! I am incredibly grateful for you - your DMs, downloads, shares, and comments. Each week, you show up. You bring me your ah-ha moments, your wins, and your struggles. Thank you for joining me here and let's get started with another amazing season!

To kick off the season, I am so excited to bring Dr. Becky Kennedy to this space. New York Times bestselling author and child psychologist, Dr. Becky is referred to as the parent whisperer of our time. If there is one thing that resonates with all of us from Dr. Becky's work, it is this: You are good inside. Your kids are good inside. Let's go into today's episode. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What it means to sit with emotions [2:38] and what this looks like with our children [4:30] 
  • The intergenerational legacy of feelings [8:20] 
  • Why acknowledging, validating, and empathizing with others' emotions is not soft [13:15]
  • What happens to a child when no one repairs for them and what it means to go back and repair with your child [23:00]

EPISODE LINKS

Dr. Becky Kennedy Good Inside Book

Dr. Becky Good Inside Membership

JOIN ME in my community!

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2206 yes Why Are Mothers Overstimulated? - with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L https://drtracyd.com/season-4-episode-2 Being a parent brings new challenges to your life, but one that might have surprised you was constantly feeling touched out. Your child is tapping your arm, the furnace is humming, and you're beginning to feel like your head is going to explode.  So why is this? In this episode, I sit down with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L from Steady Parents to discuss parenting and sensory overload. Larissa is a licensed occupational therapist specializing in the identification and treatment of sensory processing dysfunction.  Originally a pediatric therapist, Larissa experienced a life-altering concussion and experienced severe sensory and motor challenges. She soon realized the knowledge she used for her patients was helping her cope and that she could use this to help other parents who are experiencing overstimulation, overwhelm, and dysregulation.  In this episode, we discuss: What is sensory processing? [9:44] The three senses you've probably never heard of [10:20] How parenting impacts our sensory processing [15:00] Why are noises and touch so triggering? [24:58] Proactive strategies for sensory overload [37:50] Larissa shares a strategy to use in the movement for sensory overload 40:20] How do we get our partners to understand what is happening to us? [42:00] EPISODE LINKS Steady Parents on Instagram Steady Parents Website JOIN ME in my community! Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 01 Dec 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Why Are Mothers Overstimulated? - with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L full 4 2 Cloud10 Being a parent brings new challenges to your life, but one that might have surprised you was constantly feeling touched out. Your child is tapping your arm, the furnace is humming, and you're beginning to feel like your head is going to explode.  So why is this? In this episode, I sit down with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L from Steady Parents to discuss parenting and sensory overload. Larissa is a licensed occupational therapist specializing in the identification and treatment of sensory processing dysfunction.  Originally a pediatric therapist, Larissa experienced a life-altering concussion and experienced severe sensory and motor challenges. She soon realized the knowledge she used for her patients was helping her cope and that she could use this to help other parents who are experiencing overstimulation, overwhelm, and dysregulation.  In this episode, we discuss: What is sensory processing? [9:44] The three senses you've probably never heard of [10:20] How parenting impacts our sensory processing [15:00] Why are noises and touch so triggering? [24:58] Proactive strategies for sensory overload [37:50] Larissa shares a strategy to use in the movement for sensory overload 40:20] How do we get our partners to understand what is happening to us? [42:00] EPISODE LINKS Steady Parents on Instagram Steady Parents Website JOIN ME in my community! Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Being a parent brings new challenges to your life, but one that might have surprised you was constantly feeling touched out. Your child is tapping your arm, the furnace is humming, and you're beginning to feel like your head is going to explode. 

So why is this?

In this episode, I sit down with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L from Steady Parents to discuss parenting and sensory overload. Larissa is a licensed occupational therapist specializing in the identification and treatment of sensory processing dysfunction. 

Originally a pediatric therapist, Larissa experienced a life-altering concussion and experienced severe sensory and motor challenges. She soon realized the knowledge she used for her patients was helping her cope and that she could use this to help other parents who are experiencing overstimulation, overwhelm, and dysregulation. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What is sensory processing? [9:44]
  • The three senses you've probably never heard of [10:20]
  • How parenting impacts our sensory processing [15:00]
  • Why are noises and touch so triggering? [24:58]
  • Proactive strategies for sensory overload [37:50]
  • Larissa shares a strategy to use in the movement for sensory overload 40:20]
  • How do we get our partners to understand what is happening to us? [42:00]

EPISODE LINKS

Steady Parents on Instagram

Steady Parents Website

JOIN ME in my community!

Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclass

Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship

Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3095 yes Your Top Q's Answered: Abandonment, Feeling Prioritized, and Mom Guilt https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/season-finale We are here! Already at the season finale. Season finales are bittersweet. I have gratitude for all the amazing conversations of this season and I feel sad that we are taking a break! I love ending the season by taking your questions. So here are three of YOUR questions that I will answer in this episode: How does one deal with the fear of abandonment when you are someone with anxious attachment? How do I get my partner to prioritize better? How do I navigate the mother wound while feeling low self-esteem, mom-guilt, and exhausted in general?  Did something resonate with you this episode? If so, be sure to share it with a friend! Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? We're taking a summer vacation! I'll be back in the fall with more great episodes and conversations. Be sure to leave me a review and send me a DM on Instagram about your topic ideas for next season. I love hearing from you! Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 07 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Your Top Q's Answered: Abandonment, Feeling Prioritized, and Mom Guilt full 3 15 Cloud10 We are here! Already at the season finale. Season finales are bittersweet. I have gratitude for all the amazing conversations of this season and I feel sad that we are taking a break! I love ending the season by taking your questions. So here are three of YOUR questions that I will answer in this episode: How does one deal with the fear of abandonment when you are someone with anxious attachment? How do I get my partner to prioritize better? How do I navigate the mother wound while feeling low self-esteem, mom-guilt, and exhausted in general?  Did something resonate with you this episode? If so, be sure to share it with a friend! Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? We're taking a summer vacation! I'll be back in the fall with more great episodes and conversations. Be sure to leave me a review and send me a DM on Instagram about your topic ideas for next season. I love hearing from you! Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We are here! Already at the season finale.

Season finales are bittersweet. I have gratitude for all the amazing conversations of this season and I feel sad that we are taking a break!

I love ending the season by taking your questions.

So here are three of YOUR questions that I will answer in this episode:

  • How does one deal with the fear of abandonment when you are someone with anxious attachment?
  • How do I get my partner to prioritize better?
  • How do I navigate the mother wound while feeling low self-esteem, mom-guilt, and exhausted in general? 

Did something resonate with you this episode? If so, be sure to share it with a friend!

Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

We're taking a summer vacation! I'll be back in the fall with more great episodes and conversations. Be sure to leave me a review and send me a DM on Instagram about your topic ideas for next season. I love hearing from you!

Subscribe and Review in iTunes

"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_

I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!

Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you!

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]]> 1984 yes Our Happy Divorce: Inspiring Others to View Divorce Differently https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/our-happy-divorce-inspiring-others-to-view-divorce-differently Many people don't think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today's guests is an important one! When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son's needs first. Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family.  In this episode, we discuss: How Nikki and Ben came to be "Our Happy Divorce" The markers/moments that they knew it was time to divorce When you're trying to find the "right" way through separation Nikki's and Ben's response to someone who says "I have to stay for the kids" Their individual pain points in their divorce Their prioritization of their son The key piece of respect and mutuality For more from Our Happy Divorce: Follow them on Instagram Learn more about their book Head over to their website Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? The season finale where I answer YOUR questions! Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 31 May 2022 14:32:00 -0000 Our Happy Divorce: Inspiring Others to View Divorce Differently full 3 14 Cloud10 Many people don't think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today's guests is an important one! When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son's needs first. Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family.  In this episode, we discuss: How Nikki and Ben came to be "Our Happy Divorce" The markers/moments that they knew it was time to divorce When you're trying to find the "right" way through separation Nikki's and Ben's response to someone who says "I have to stay for the kids" Their individual pain points in their divorce Their prioritization of their son The key piece of respect and mutuality For more from Our Happy Divorce: Follow them on Instagram Learn more about their book Head over to their website Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? The season finale where I answer YOUR questions! Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Many people don't think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today's guests is an important one!

When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son's needs first.

Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How Nikki and Ben came to be "Our Happy Divorce"
  • The markers/moments that they knew it was time to divorce
  • When you're trying to find the "right" way through separation
  • Nikki's and Ben's response to someone who says "I have to stay for the kids"
  • Their individual pain points in their divorce
  • Their prioritization of their son
  • The key piece of respect and mutuality

For more from Our Happy Divorce:

Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

The season finale where I answer YOUR questions!

Subscribe and Review in iTunes

"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_

I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!

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]]> 3407 yes They Don't Want to Change: What Should I Do Next? https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-change-feels-one-sided "My partner isn't willing to change - what do I do?" We love certainty and the only thing that is certain about our relationships is that we cannot control other people. It's really challenging when our partners are not interested in learning to shift - especially since a couple is two people that make up the struggles.  In this episode, I discuss: What if your partner doesn't want to change? Can change happen when only one person is ready? Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? When change feels one-sided. What are we left to do? Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 25 May 2022 05:00:00 -0000 They Don't Want to Change: What Should I Do Next? full 3 13 Cloud10 "My partner isn't willing to change - what do I do?" We love certainty and the only thing that is certain about our relationships is that we cannot control other people. It's really challenging when our partners are not interested in learning to shift - especially since a couple is two people that make up the struggles.  In this episode, I discuss: What if your partner doesn't want to change? Can change happen when only one person is ready? Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? When change feels one-sided. What are we left to do? Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices "My partner isn't willing to change - what do I do?"

We love certainty and the only thing that is certain about our relationships is that we cannot control other people.

It's really challenging when our partners are not interested in learning to shift - especially since a couple is two people that make up the struggles. 

In this episode, I discuss:

  • What if your partner doesn't want to change?
  • Can change happen when only one person is ready?

Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

When change feels one-sided. What are we left to do?

Subscribe and Review in iTunes

"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_

I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!

Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you!

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]]> 996 yes Healing After Conflict: Why You Need to Repair + Your Attachment Styles in Repairing https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/healing-after-conflict-why-you-need-to-repair-your-attachment-styles-in-repairing Do you find yourself asking… How do we feel close again after we just had a disagreement?  My partner doesn’t like to come back and talk about the hard stuff.  My partner doesn’t apologize. I always have to bring up the hard conversations.   I get it.  This is a common experience in our relationships.  The reality? We didn’t learn how to repair. It was never modelled to us or it came attached with a lot of shame. And yet, repairing is one of the most important things we need to do in our relationship because without it, we are more likely to build resentment and disconnection.  In today’s episode, I get to sit with Dr. Morgan Anderson. A previous guest on the podcast (Season 2, Episode 21, a must listen), we talk about: What happens in relationships when you can’t work through conflict Why you need to repair Difficulties with repair through an attachment style lens Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Learn More About Today's Guest: Dr. Morgan is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. Make sure you head over to her IG page and send her a DM to say hello! Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 17 May 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Healing After Conflict: Why You Need to Repair + Your Attachment Styles in Repairing full 3 12 Cloud10 Do you find yourself asking… How do we feel close again after we just had a disagreement?  My partner doesn’t like to come back and talk about the hard stuff.  My partner doesn’t apologize. I always have to bring up the hard conversations.   I get it.  This is a common experience in our relationships.  The reality? We didn’t learn how to repair. It was never modelled to us or it came attached with a lot of shame. And yet, repairing is one of the most important things we need to do in our relationship because without it, we are more likely to build resentment and disconnection.  In today’s episode, I get to sit with Dr. Morgan Anderson. A previous guest on the podcast (Season 2, Episode 21, a must listen), we talk about: What happens in relationships when you can’t work through conflict Why you need to repair Difficulties with repair through an attachment style lens Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again. Learn More About Today's Guest: Dr. Morgan is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. Make sure you head over to her IG page and send her a DM to say hello! Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Do you find yourself asking…

How do we feel close again after we just had a disagreement? 

My partner doesn’t like to come back and talk about the hard stuff. 

My partner doesn’t apologize. I always have to bring up the hard conversations.  

I get it. 

This is a common experience in our relationships. 

The reality?

We didn’t learn how to repair. It was never modelled to us or it came attached with a lot of shame.

And yet, repairing is one of the most important things we need to do in our relationship because without it, we are more likely to build resentment and disconnection. 

In today’s episode, I get to sit with Dr. Morgan Anderson. A previous guest on the podcast (Season 2, Episode 21, a must listen), we talk about:

  • What happens in relationships when you can’t work through conflict
  • Why you need to repair
  • Difficulties with repair through an attachment style lens

Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.

Learn More About Today's Guest:

Dr. Morgan is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. Make sure you head over to her IG page and send her a DM to say hello!

Join me in my community!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2714 yes Mental Health and Relationships with Dr. Kojo https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/mental-health-and-relationships-with-dr-kojo One of the most common concerns I hear is, "My partner is struggling with their mental health, what do I do?" Dr. Kojo joins me on the podcast to discuss how mental health can show up in relationships. Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over two million followers on all of his social media channels (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller). He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to bring people together and promote mental health awareness. On social media, he uses relevant trends and popular music to educate individuals about mental health conditions and the importance of self-care. Dr. Kojo is also the author of Amazon's best-selling book titled "You Already Won". He is also working on his second book, which will be a mental health workbook. He is also the host of Late Night w/Dr. Kojo - which is a daily live show that streams primarily on Facebook on Monday-Thursdays at 6pm PST/9pm EST. In this episode, we discuss: What inspired Dr. Kojo to start his TikTok videos and online media presence How does ADHD impact a couple? What are some things people should be aware of? What can people do in their relationships when their partner is coping with mental health difficulties What are the top three things you wish everyone know about mental health? Connect with Dr. Kojo: Follow him on Facebook Follow him on TikTok Follow him on Instagram Check out his YouTube channel Watch The Late Night with Dr. Kojo on Facebook Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? Dr. Morgan Anderson on why you need to repair in your relationship. Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 10 May 2022 10:17:00 -0000 Mental Health and Relationships with Dr. Kojo full 3 11 Cloud10 One of the most common concerns I hear is, "My partner is struggling with their mental health, what do I do?" Dr. Kojo joins me on the podcast to discuss how mental health can show up in relationships. Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over two million followers on all of his social media channels (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller). He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to bring people together and promote mental health awareness. On social media, he uses relevant trends and popular music to educate individuals about mental health conditions and the importance of self-care. Dr. Kojo is also the author of Amazon's best-selling book titled "You Already Won". He is also working on his second book, which will be a mental health workbook. He is also the host of Late Night w/Dr. Kojo - which is a daily live show that streams primarily on Facebook on Monday-Thursdays at 6pm PST/9pm EST. In this episode, we discuss: What inspired Dr. Kojo to start his TikTok videos and online media presence How does ADHD impact a couple? What are some things people should be aware of? What can people do in their relationships when their partner is coping with mental health difficulties What are the top three things you wish everyone know about mental health? Connect with Dr. Kojo: Follow him on Facebook Follow him on TikTok Follow him on Instagram Check out his YouTube channel Watch The Late Night with Dr. Kojo on Facebook Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? Dr. Morgan Anderson on why you need to repair in your relationship. Subscribe and Review in iTunes "This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_ I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices One of the most common concerns I hear is, "My partner is struggling with their mental health, what do I do?"

Dr. Kojo joins me on the podcast to discuss how mental health can show up in relationships.

Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over two million followers on all of his social media channels (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller).

He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to bring people together and promote mental health awareness. On social media, he uses relevant trends and popular music to educate individuals about mental health conditions and the importance of self-care. Dr. Kojo is also the author of Amazon's best-selling book titled "You Already Won". He is also working on his second book, which will be a mental health workbook.

He is also the host of Late Night w/Dr. Kojo - which is a daily live show that streams primarily on Facebook on Monday-Thursdays at 6pm PST/9pm EST.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What inspired Dr. Kojo to start his TikTok videos and online media presence
  • How does ADHD impact a couple? What are some things people should be aware of?
  • What can people do in their relationships when their partner is coping with mental health difficulties
  • What are the top three things you wish everyone know about mental health?

Connect with Dr. Kojo:

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

Dr. Morgan Anderson on why you need to repair in your relationship.

Subscribe and Review in iTunes

"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_

I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!

Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you!

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]]> 2909 yes The Mother Wound: Are You Showing up to Life With This Big Wound? https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/the-mother-wound-are-you-showing-up-to-life-with-this-big-wound Growing up we learn so much from our mothers and growing up the messaging we receive is "obey thy mother." The things we learned from our mothers growing up and the way they coped in the world show up in us, throughout our lives. But What if our mother was wrong? What if they are passing along their own trauma? What if they cross our boundaries and teach us not to listen to ourselves? Bethany Webster began blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced a worldwide demand for her work. Though blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist history, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. She is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women's leadership and personal development.  In this episode, we discuss: What is the Mother Wound? How does shame, guilt, and fear play a role? What does the Mother Wound look like for women? Why is it important to heal it? What happens in our lives when we are willing to heal? To Learn with Bethany: Visit her website Check out her book Learn more about her online course Join her facebook group Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? Healing after conflict: why you need repair in your relationship with special guest Dr. Morgan Anderson. Subscribe and Review in iTunes Lovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy “I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7 I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 03 May 2022 06:00:00 -0000 The Mother Wound: Are You Showing up to Life With This Big Wound? full 3 10 Cloud10 Growing up we learn so much from our mothers and growing up the messaging we receive is "obey thy mother." The things we learned from our mothers growing up and the way they coped in the world show up in us, throughout our lives. But What if our mother was wrong? What if they are passing along their own trauma? What if they cross our boundaries and teach us not to listen to ourselves? Bethany Webster began blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced a worldwide demand for her work. Though blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist history, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. She is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women's leadership and personal development.  In this episode, we discuss: What is the Mother Wound? How does shame, guilt, and fear play a role? What does the Mother Wound look like for women? Why is it important to heal it? What happens in our lives when we are willing to heal? To Learn with Bethany: Visit her website Check out her book Learn more about her online course Join her facebook group Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? Healing after conflict: why you need repair in your relationship with special guest Dr. Morgan Anderson. Subscribe and Review in iTunes Lovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy “I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7 I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Growing up we learn so much from our mothers and growing up the messaging we receive is "obey thy mother."

The things we learned from our mothers growing up and the way they coped in the world show up in us, throughout our lives.

But

What if our mother was wrong?

What if they are passing along their own trauma?

What if they cross our boundaries and teach us not to listen to ourselves?

Bethany Webster began blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced a worldwide demand for her work. Though blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist history, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing.

She is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women's leadership and personal development. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What is the Mother Wound?
  • How does shame, guilt, and fear play a role?
  • What does the Mother Wound look like for women?
  • Why is it important to heal it?
  • What happens in our lives when we are willing to heal?

To Learn with Bethany:

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

Healing after conflict: why you need repair in your relationship with special guest Dr. Morgan Anderson.

Subscribe and Review in iTunes

Lovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy

“I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7

I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!

Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you!

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]]> 2857 yes When Your Home is a Trigger: Dealing with Mess, Decluttering Your House, and Simplifying Your Life https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-your-home-is-a-trigger-dealing-with-mess-decluttering-your-house-and-simplifying-your-life You finally have a minute to pause and relax. As you hold your cup of coffee, just heated up for the fourth time, and look around your house, you feel overwhelmed. How can you relax when the mess keeps triggering you? I get it. There can be so much stuff in our homes that we stop feeling happy in our space, get stuck getting rid of things, and in general, feel a sense of overwhelm by everything going on. Enter Katy Wells. She is a decluttering expert, podcaster, and simplifier, a boy mom, and she knows how to help you declutter your home and your life.  In this episode, we discuss: Why are we so triggered by mess? What are the negative thoughts, emotions, and beliefs that come up with mess? Identifying when your "stuff" owns you, and what you can do to shift out of this Letting go of things that feel sentimental And Katy's top tips to help you start living a simplified and decluttered life To Learn with Katy: Follow Katy on Instagram Take her 14-day challenge Check out her toy course Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? The Mother wound with Bethany Webster. Subscribe and Review in iTunes Lovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy “I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7 I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 26 Apr 2022 07:00:00 -0000 When Your Home is a Trigger: Dealing with Mess, Decluttering Your House, and Simplifying Your Life full 3 9 Cloud10 You finally have a minute to pause and relax. As you hold your cup of coffee, just heated up for the fourth time, and look around your house, you feel overwhelmed. How can you relax when the mess keeps triggering you? I get it. There can be so much stuff in our homes that we stop feeling happy in our space, get stuck getting rid of things, and in general, feel a sense of overwhelm by everything going on. Enter Katy Wells. She is a decluttering expert, podcaster, and simplifier, a boy mom, and she knows how to help you declutter your home and your life.  In this episode, we discuss: Why are we so triggered by mess? What are the negative thoughts, emotions, and beliefs that come up with mess? Identifying when your "stuff" owns you, and what you can do to shift out of this Letting go of things that feel sentimental And Katy's top tips to help you start living a simplified and decluttered life To Learn with Katy: Follow Katy on Instagram Take her 14-day challenge Check out her toy course Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? The Mother wound with Bethany Webster. Subscribe and Review in iTunes Lovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy “I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7 I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices You finally have a minute to pause and relax. As you hold your cup of coffee, just heated up for the fourth time, and look around your house, you feel overwhelmed.

How can you relax when the mess keeps triggering you?

I get it. There can be so much stuff in our homes that we stop feeling happy in our space, get stuck getting rid of things, and in general, feel a sense of overwhelm by everything going on.

Enter Katy Wells. She is a decluttering expert, podcaster, and simplifier, a boy mom, and she knows how to help you declutter your home and your life. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why are we so triggered by mess?
  • What are the negative thoughts, emotions, and beliefs that come up with mess?
  • Identifying when your "stuff" owns you, and what you can do to shift out of this
  • Letting go of things that feel sentimental
  • And Katy's top tips to help you start living a simplified and decluttered life

To Learn with Katy:

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

The Mother wound with Bethany Webster.

Subscribe and Review in iTunes

Lovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy

“I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7

I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! 

Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2460 yes Honouring Her: Your Body, Your Self-Worth, and Intuitive Eating https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/honouring-her-your-body-your-self-worth-and-intuitive-eating A client once told me through tears that she hadn't been honouring her, and she pointed to her body. I could see reflected in her face the experiences of so many women - including me. It wasn't just a week of not listening to her body. It was years. Possibly her whole lifetime. We build these inner dialogues and narratives around our bodies and food, many of them being unconscious that guide us to make daily decisions. Some of these decisions leave us feeling good, albeit temporarily. While many of these are more examples of ways that we deeply abandon ourselves - the inner wisdom that our bodies hold. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Meagan Gallagher, psychologist at Integrated Wellness, on how we can start to listen to our bodies and goss these old messages around size, food, and body.   In this episode, we discuss: The common harmful and negative messages we learn about our bodies Breaking the connection between body size and self-worth (hint: stop saying to yourself that you'll do something when you lose those 5 pounds) The connection between stress and food (and how we can use our bodies to shift this) Learning to sit in discomfort and acknowledging that our bodies are noisy How to support someone if you suspect they are struggling with their body When to seek professional help Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 19 Apr 2022 07:00:00 -0000 Honouring Her: Your Body, Your Self-Worth, and Intuitive Eating full 3 8 Cloud10 A client once told me through tears that she hadn't been honouring her, and she pointed to her body. I could see reflected in her face the experiences of so many women - including me. It wasn't just a week of not listening to her body. It was years. Possibly her whole lifetime. We build these inner dialogues and narratives around our bodies and food, many of them being unconscious that guide us to make daily decisions. Some of these decisions leave us feeling good, albeit temporarily. While many of these are more examples of ways that we deeply abandon ourselves - the inner wisdom that our bodies hold. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Meagan Gallagher, psychologist at Integrated Wellness, on how we can start to listen to our bodies and goss these old messages around size, food, and body.   In this episode, we discuss: The common harmful and negative messages we learn about our bodies Breaking the connection between body size and self-worth (hint: stop saying to yourself that you'll do something when you lose those 5 pounds) The connection between stress and food (and how we can use our bodies to shift this) Learning to sit in discomfort and acknowledging that our bodies are noisy How to support someone if you suspect they are struggling with their body When to seek professional help Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices A client once told me through tears that she hadn't been honouring her, and she pointed to her body.

I could see reflected in her face the experiences of so many women - including me.

It wasn't just a week of not listening to her body. It was years. Possibly her whole lifetime.

We build these inner dialogues and narratives around our bodies and food, many of them being unconscious that guide us to make daily decisions. Some of these decisions leave us feeling good, albeit temporarily. While many of these are more examples of ways that we deeply abandon ourselves - the inner wisdom that our bodies hold.

In this episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Meagan Gallagher, psychologist at Integrated Wellness, on how we can start to listen to our bodies and goss these old messages around size, food, and body.  

In this episode, we discuss:

  • The common harmful and negative messages we learn about our bodies
  • Breaking the connection between body size and self-worth (hint: stop saying to yourself that you'll do something when you lose those 5 pounds)
  • The connection between stress and food (and how we can use our bodies to shift this)
  • Learning to sit in discomfort and acknowledging that our bodies are noisy
  • How to support someone if you suspect they are struggling with their body
  • When to seek professional help

Join me in my community!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3853 yes When Your Partner Overshares With Your Mother-In-Law https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-your-partner-overshares-with-your-mother-in-law Does your partner share everything with their parents? This episode dives into this topic after receiving a question from one of our community members.  In this episode, we discuss: What kind of impact could sharing everything with your extended family/mother-in-law have on you? Your relationship with your partner? Your relationship with their family? Exploring triangulation and scapegoat dynamics Key questions for you to explore within yourself The reason behind your partner's sharing How to move forward Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 12 Apr 2022 11:58:00 -0000 When Your Partner Overshares With Your Mother-In-Law full 3 7 Cloud10 Does your partner share everything with their parents? This episode dives into this topic after receiving a question from one of our community members.  In this episode, we discuss: What kind of impact could sharing everything with your extended family/mother-in-law have on you? Your relationship with your partner? Your relationship with their family? Exploring triangulation and scapegoat dynamics Key questions for you to explore within yourself The reason behind your partner's sharing How to move forward Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Does your partner share everything with their parents?

This episode dives into this topic after receiving a question from one of our community members. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What kind of impact could sharing everything with your extended family/mother-in-law have on you? Your relationship with your partner? Your relationship with their family?
  • Exploring triangulation and scapegoat dynamics
  • Key questions for you to explore within yourself
  • The reason behind your partner's sharing
  • How to move forward

Join me in my community!

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]]> 1569 yes Do this One Thing in Your Relationship: The Weekly Meeting https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/join One of the most common complaints I receive is, "We never talk about the hard stuff." What's the barrier to turning towards each other and talking? For many, it's time. For others, it's not wanting to upset the other person. Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me on the podcast for this episode. Dr. Morgan is a relationship expert and owner of My Love Thinks. If you are struggling with the mental load, be sure to check out Season 2 Episode 6 and Dr. Morgan's great Instagram space @MyLoveThinks. Dr. Morgan and I also have a boundary webinar that we created together.  In this episode, Dr. Morgan and I break apart all the details around the Weekly Check-In Meeting - a key strategy we encourage all of our clients to use. We talk about: The common objections to the weekly meeting How attachment styles may play a role in approaching our partners and how the weekly meeting can help you navigate this How we can tackle these barriers Why this meeting matters Our top question to put in this meeting And our confession - do we use this tool in our relationships? I want to hear from you. What ONE question would you want to ask each other this week? Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 05 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0000 Do this One Thing in Your Relationship: The Weekly Meeting full 3 6 Cloud10 One of the most common complaints I receive is, "We never talk about the hard stuff." What's the barrier to turning towards each other and talking? For many, it's time. For others, it's not wanting to upset the other person. Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me on the podcast for this episode. Dr. Morgan is a relationship expert and owner of My Love Thinks. If you are struggling with the mental load, be sure to check out Season 2 Episode 6 and Dr. Morgan's great Instagram space @MyLoveThinks. Dr. Morgan and I also have a boundary webinar that we created together.  In this episode, Dr. Morgan and I break apart all the details around the Weekly Check-In Meeting - a key strategy we encourage all of our clients to use. We talk about: The common objections to the weekly meeting How attachment styles may play a role in approaching our partners and how the weekly meeting can help you navigate this How we can tackle these barriers Why this meeting matters Our top question to put in this meeting And our confession - do we use this tool in our relationships? I want to hear from you. What ONE question would you want to ask each other this week? Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices One of the most common complaints I receive is, "We never talk about the hard stuff."

What's the barrier to turning towards each other and talking?

For many, it's time.

For others, it's not wanting to upset the other person.

Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me on the podcast for this episode. Dr. Morgan is a relationship expert and owner of My Love Thinks. If you are struggling with the mental load, be sure to check out Season 2 Episode 6 and Dr. Morgan's great Instagram space @MyLoveThinks. Dr. Morgan and I also have a boundary webinar that we created together. 

In this episode, Dr. Morgan and I break apart all the details around the Weekly Check-In Meeting - a key strategy we encourage all of our clients to use. We talk about:

  • The common objections to the weekly meeting
  • How attachment styles may play a role in approaching our partners and how the weekly meeting can help you navigate this
  • How we can tackle these barriers
  • Why this meeting matters
  • Our top question to put in this meeting
  • And our confession - do we use this tool in our relationships?

I want to hear from you. What ONE question would you want to ask each other this week?

Join me in my community!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2783 yes They Didn't Respect My Boundaries: Preparing for The Holidays https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/they-didn-t-respect-my-boundaries-preparing-for-the-holidays We're getting ready for another holiday season. With Passover, Good Friday, Easter, Eastern Orthodox Easter, and Ramadan coming up, it seemed like a great time to ask you, my community, some important questions about family get togethers and talk about how you want to show up. When it comes to family gatherings, 46% of you feel "okay negative" about them. In this episode, we talk about: What you can and cannot control when it comes to our family, including acknowledging a key emotion that shows up here Shifting towards consciously choosing so that you can show up aligned Being a united front with your partner Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Many said you have negative feelings about things you cannot control (86%). That's a lot! One of the things we must recognize is that family gatherings bring out things that we have no control over, including: Other's views of you Toxic behaviours and comments When others push your boundaries ... and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 29 Mar 2022 11:03:00 -0000 They Didn't Respect My Boundaries: Preparing for The Holidays full 3 5 Cloud10 We're getting ready for another holiday season. With Passover, Good Friday, Easter, Eastern Orthodox Easter, and Ramadan coming up, it seemed like a great time to ask you, my community, some important questions about family get togethers and talk about how you want to show up. When it comes to family gatherings, 46% of you feel "okay negative" about them. In this episode, we talk about: What you can and cannot control when it comes to our family, including acknowledging a key emotion that shows up here Shifting towards consciously choosing so that you can show up aligned Being a united front with your partner Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Many said you have negative feelings about things you cannot control (86%). That's a lot! One of the things we must recognize is that family gatherings bring out things that we have no control over, including: Other's views of you Toxic behaviours and comments When others push your boundaries ... and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We're getting ready for another holiday season. With Passover, Good Friday, Easter, Eastern Orthodox Easter, and Ramadan coming up, it seemed like a great time to ask you, my community, some important questions about family get togethers and talk about how you want to show up.

When it comes to family gatherings, 46% of you feel "okay negative" about them.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • What you can and cannot control when it comes to our family, including acknowledging a key emotion that shows up here
  • Shifting towards consciously choosing so that you can show up aligned
  • Being a united front with your partner

Join me in my community!


Many said you have negative feelings about things you cannot control (86%). That's a lot!

One of the things we must recognize is that family gatherings bring out things that we have no control over, including:

  • Other's views of you
  • Toxic behaviours and comments
  • When others push your boundaries

... and more.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1459 yes "The parent-child relationship is the hardest of our life." - Dr. Shefali https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/the-parent-child-relationship-is-the-hardest-of-our-life-dr-shefali For the parents who just want their child to be happy. When I told my daughter that I just needed five minutes before I could rub her back at bedtime, she screamed at me. And what I did next was not my best moment. I could feel it coming over me. I screamed back at her. I know so many parents get to this point - the exhaustion and overwhelm. The Demands. Being pulled in so many directions. We raise our voice. We show up not aligned with how we want to. We maybe even slip into shame. It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.  In this episode, we talk about: Navigating one of the hardest relationships in our life - with our children When our expectations are not met and setting our own boundaries Building compassion with ourselves as parents How do we approach the meltdowns How do I get my partner to do this work too To learn more about Dr. Shefali: Visit her website Check out her coaching program Follow her on instagram Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? I'm answering your questions in preparation for another holiday. How can we navigate difficult situations with our in-laws and family?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 22 Mar 2022 07:00:00 -0000 "The parent-child relationship is the hardest of our life." - Dr. Shefali full 3 4 Cloud10 For the parents who just want their child to be happy. When I told my daughter that I just needed five minutes before I could rub her back at bedtime, she screamed at me. And what I did next was not my best moment. I could feel it coming over me. I screamed back at her. I know so many parents get to this point - the exhaustion and overwhelm. The Demands. Being pulled in so many directions. We raise our voice. We show up not aligned with how we want to. We maybe even slip into shame. It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.  In this episode, we talk about: Navigating one of the hardest relationships in our life - with our children When our expectations are not met and setting our own boundaries Building compassion with ourselves as parents How do we approach the meltdowns How do I get my partner to do this work too To learn more about Dr. Shefali: Visit her website Check out her coaching program Follow her on instagram Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? I'm answering your questions in preparation for another holiday. How can we navigate difficult situations with our in-laws and family?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices For the parents who just want their child to be happy.

When I told my daughter that I just needed five minutes before I could rub her back at bedtime, she screamed at me. And what I did next was not my best moment. I could feel it coming over me. I screamed back at her. I know so many parents get to this point - the exhaustion and overwhelm. The Demands. Being pulled in so many directions.

We raise our voice. We show up not aligned with how we want to. We maybe even slip into shame.

It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist. 

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Navigating one of the hardest relationships in our life - with our children
  • When our expectations are not met and setting our own boundaries
  • Building compassion with ourselves as parents
  • How do we approach the meltdowns
  • How do I get my partner to do this work too

To learn more about Dr. Shefali:

Join me in my community!

What’s Coming Next?

I'm answering your questions in preparation for another holiday. How can we navigate difficult situations with our in-laws and family? 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3327 yes When Your Partner Makes it All About Them https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-your-partner-makes-it-all-about-them In this week's podcast, I answer your question. Q. Dear Dr. Tracy. Every time I try to share something with my partner, he goes and makes it about himself. Recently, I was trying to share about an issue with my sister. He got so heated and upset - we've had frequent conflict about my sister - that I ended up stop asking for the support that I needed. I'm not sure what to do in these moments, but I do know that resentment is building up and it doesn't feel good. - Nicole  In this episode, we discuss: Different ways to approach a conversation Recognizing why your partner might do this How to respond at two different times Looking for more: Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? I sit down with Dr. Shefali and dive into the world of conscious parenting.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 08 Mar 2022 05:03:00 -0000 When Your Partner Makes it All About Them full 3 3 Cloud10 In this week's podcast, I answer your question. Q. Dear Dr. Tracy. Every time I try to share something with my partner, he goes and makes it about himself. Recently, I was trying to share about an issue with my sister. He got so heated and upset - we've had frequent conflict about my sister - that I ended up stop asking for the support that I needed. I'm not sure what to do in these moments, but I do know that resentment is building up and it doesn't feel good. - Nicole  In this episode, we discuss: Different ways to approach a conversation Recognizing why your partner might do this How to respond at two different times Looking for more: Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next? I sit down with Dr. Shefali and dive into the world of conscious parenting.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In this week's podcast, I answer your question.

Q. Dear Dr. Tracy. Every time I try to share something with my partner, he goes and makes it about himself. Recently, I was trying to share about an issue with my sister. He got so heated and upset - we've had frequent conflict about my sister - that I ended up stop asking for the support that I needed. I'm not sure what to do in these moments, but I do know that resentment is building up and it doesn't feel good. - Nicole 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Different ways to approach a conversation
  • Recognizing why your partner might do this
  • How to respond at two different times

Looking for more:

What’s Coming Next?

I sit down with Dr. Shefali and dive into the world of conscious parenting. 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 1048 yes Sleeping in Separate Beds with MomRoom's Renee Reina https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/sleeping-in-separate-beds-with-momrooms-renee-reina Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate beds?1 Despite this common experience, many people continue to feel a lot of stigma around speaking out about their need for a restful night's sleep - which may mean sleeping in a different room from your lover. People tend to learn that there must be something wrong with a relationship if a couple is sleeping in separate beds. There is a term for sleeping in separate beds that contributes to this learned stigma: "Sleep divorce." This term implies that sleeping apart is a sign of a relationship lacking in love and sex. But what if you continue to sleep in the same bed with restless night's sleep? Does your relationship improve or deteriorate? Are you more snappy and short with your partner the next day because their snoring kept you awake? Or maybe you feel a missing desire for your partner because you're the one waking with the baby all the time. I invited Renee Reina, Ph.D. in Psychology and host of the top-ranking parenting podcast "The Mom Room" to break through the stigma and talk about prioritizing sleep and continuing to nurture our relationships. In this episode, we discuss: Renee's community's surprising response to her disclosure of sleeping in separate rooms Early messaging around parents not sharing beds The relationship progression she experienced in terms of bed sharing and sleeping with her partner When sleeping in separate beds works - and when it doesn't Prioritizing and making choices to nurture her relationship Links: Listen to Renee's progression of their relationship and sleep, tune into Episode 44 Tune into our episode together on Mom Room about resentment and relationships  Join me in my online community, Be Connected, to learn how to improve your communication and connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 22 Feb 2022 06:05:00 -0000 Sleeping in Separate Beds with MomRoom's Renee Reina full 3 2 Cloud10 Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate beds?1 Despite this common experience, many people continue to feel a lot of stigma around speaking out about their need for a restful night's sleep - which may mean sleeping in a different room from your lover. People tend to learn that there must be something wrong with a relationship if a couple is sleeping in separate beds. There is a term for sleeping in separate beds that contributes to this learned stigma: "Sleep divorce." This term implies that sleeping apart is a sign of a relationship lacking in love and sex. But what if you continue to sleep in the same bed with restless night's sleep? Does your relationship improve or deteriorate? Are you more snappy and short with your partner the next day because their snoring kept you awake? Or maybe you feel a missing desire for your partner because you're the one waking with the baby all the time. I invited Renee Reina, Ph.D. in Psychology and host of the top-ranking parenting podcast "The Mom Room" to break through the stigma and talk about prioritizing sleep and continuing to nurture our relationships. In this episode, we discuss: Renee's community's surprising response to her disclosure of sleeping in separate rooms Early messaging around parents not sharing beds The relationship progression she experienced in terms of bed sharing and sleeping with her partner When sleeping in separate beds works - and when it doesn't Prioritizing and making choices to nurture her relationship Links: Listen to Renee's progression of their relationship and sleep, tune into Episode 44 Tune into our episode together on Mom Room about resentment and relationships  Join me in my online community, Be Connected, to learn how to improve your communication and connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate beds?1

Despite this common experience, many people continue to feel a lot of stigma around speaking out about their need for a restful night's sleep - which may mean sleeping in a different room from your lover.

People tend to learn that there must be something wrong with a relationship if a couple is sleeping in separate beds.

There is a term for sleeping in separate beds that contributes to this learned stigma: "Sleep divorce." This term implies that sleeping apart is a sign of a relationship lacking in love and sex.

But what if you continue to sleep in the same bed with restless night's sleep? Does your relationship improve or deteriorate? Are you more snappy and short with your partner the next day because their snoring kept you awake? Or maybe you feel a missing desire for your partner because you're the one waking with the baby all the time.

I invited Renee Reina, Ph.D. in Psychology and host of the top-ranking parenting podcast "The Mom Room" to break through the stigma and talk about prioritizing sleep and continuing to nurture our relationships.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Renee's community's surprising response to her disclosure of sleeping in separate rooms
  • Early messaging around parents not sharing beds
  • The relationship progression she experienced in terms of bed sharing and sleeping with her partner
  • When sleeping in separate beds works - and when it doesn't
  • Prioritizing and making choices to nurture her relationship

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]]> 2741 yes Burn Your Guilt and Other Toxic Messages with NYT Bestselling author Eve Rodsky https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/burn-your-guilt-and-other-toxic-messages-with-nyt-bestselling-author-eve-rodsky Our collective experiences recently have been beyond challenging. The frequent suggestions of "go for a walk" are often not enough anymore. Enter Eve Rodsky, an expert in family mediation and organizational management, and author of New York Time's bestselling book Fair Play and Finding Your Unicorn Space. Her message to us is to burn our guilt and get rid of other toxic messages that stop us from doing the very thing we need to find ourselves - and that is to find our Unicorn Space. Eve and I talk about finding your creative space to ensure a life lived aligned with your values. In this episode, we discuss: Why women are so burnt out What is the Unicorn Space and why it's so important 3 permissions you need to give yourself (Hint: something you need to do with your guilt!) Taking responsibility and choosing discomfort over comfort To Learn With Eve: Visit her website Follow her on instagram Check out her newest book Join Me in My Community: Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take my free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 22 Feb 2022 06:00:00 -0000 Burn Your Guilt and Other Toxic Messages with NYT Bestselling author Eve Rodsky full 3 1 Cloud10 Our collective experiences recently have been beyond challenging. The frequent suggestions of "go for a walk" are often not enough anymore. Enter Eve Rodsky, an expert in family mediation and organizational management, and author of New York Time's bestselling book Fair Play and Finding Your Unicorn Space. Her message to us is to burn our guilt and get rid of other toxic messages that stop us from doing the very thing we need to find ourselves - and that is to find our Unicorn Space. Eve and I talk about finding your creative space to ensure a life lived aligned with your values. In this episode, we discuss: Why women are so burnt out What is the Unicorn Space and why it's so important 3 permissions you need to give yourself (Hint: something you need to do with your guilt!) Taking responsibility and choosing discomfort over comfort To Learn With Eve: Visit her website Follow her on instagram Check out her newest book Join Me in My Community: Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take my free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Our collective experiences recently have been beyond challenging. The frequent suggestions of "go for a walk" are often not enough anymore.

Enter Eve Rodsky, an expert in family mediation and organizational management, and author of New York Time's bestselling book Fair Play and Finding Your Unicorn Space. Her message to us is to burn our guilt and get rid of other toxic messages that stop us from doing the very thing we need to find ourselves - and that is to find our Unicorn Space.

Eve and I talk about finding your creative space to ensure a life lived aligned with your values.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why women are so burnt out
  • What is the Unicorn Space and why it's so important
  • 3 permissions you need to give yourself (Hint: something you need to do with your guilt!)
  • Taking responsibility and choosing discomfort over comfort

To Learn With Eve:

Join Me in My Community:

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]]> 2739 yes I Answer Your Questions - Season Finale https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/i-answer-your-questions-season-finale This episode is quite a bit different than every other episode this season. I asked the community, via Instagram, to submit questions and I picked some to answer similar to a Dear Abby column. As we close out Season 2 I want to thank this beautiful community - especially since we've hit the 100K download milestone! We truly would not be here without each of you listening and sharing it with those you love. One of the most powerful things I have learned is what it means to rest. Just like flowers aren't always in bloom, we all have seasons and require periods of rest so we can bloom again. As this season comes to a close I will be taking time this summer to focus on rest. Stay tuned for season 3 Fall 2021! Be sure to hit subscribe so you will be the first to know when the new season drops. In this episode, I answer your questions! Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about what you would like to see on the podcast. What’s Coming Next? Stay tune for Season 3 in Fall 2021! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 08 Jun 2021 17:50:00 -0000 I Answer Your Questions - Season Finale full 2 22 Cloud10 This episode is quite a bit different than every other episode this season. I asked the community, via Instagram, to submit questions and I picked some to answer similar to a Dear Abby column. As we close out Season 2 I want to thank this beautiful community - especially since we've hit the 100K download milestone! We truly would not be here without each of you listening and sharing it with those you love. One of the most powerful things I have learned is what it means to rest. Just like flowers aren't always in bloom, we all have seasons and require periods of rest so we can bloom again. As this season comes to a close I will be taking time this summer to focus on rest. Stay tuned for season 3 Fall 2021! Be sure to hit subscribe so you will be the first to know when the new season drops. In this episode, I answer your questions! Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about what you would like to see on the podcast. What’s Coming Next? Stay tune for Season 3 in Fall 2021! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This episode is quite a bit different than every other episode this season. I asked the community, via Instagram, to submit questions and I picked some to answer similar to a Dear Abby column.

As we close out Season 2 I want to thank this beautiful community - especially since we've hit the 100K download milestone! We truly would not be here without each of you listening and sharing it with those you love.

One of the most powerful things I have learned is what it means to rest. Just like flowers aren't always in bloom, we all have seasons and require periods of rest so we can bloom again. As this season comes to a close I will be taking time this summer to focus on rest.

Stay tuned for season 3 Fall 2021! Be sure to hit subscribe so you will be the first to know when the new season drops.

In this episode, I answer your questions!

Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about what you would like to see on the podcast.

What’s Coming Next?

Stay tune for Season 3 in Fall 2021!

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]]> 3187 yes Relationships: Attachment Styles and Finding Growth Edges https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/relationships-attachment-styles-and-finding-growth-edges What happens when you sit two relationship experts down for a chat? This episode is just that - two relationship experts, one conversation. Everyone has their own attachment style, it's the way we build and respond to relationships. When we understand our attachment styles we can better help our relationship maintain healthy boundaries. Speaking of boundaries, have you ever sat down with your partner to discuss your boundaries within the relationship? In this episode I sit down with Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss attachment styles and growth edges within relationships. Dr. Morgan Anderson is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. She’s on Instagram @drmorgancoaching - make sure you head over to her page and send her a DM to say hello In this episode, we discuss the following: Communicating in relationships and finding your boundaries Using your attachment style to tune into how you show up in your relationship Finding your growth areas for each attachment style What security can look like in a relationship What’s Coming Next? My next episode is the season finale where I answer your questions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 20 May 2021 13:22:00 -0000 Relationships: Attachment Styles and Finding Growth Edges full 2 21 Cloud10 What happens when you sit two relationship experts down for a chat? This episode is just that - two relationship experts, one conversation. Everyone has their own attachment style, it's the way we build and respond to relationships. When we understand our attachment styles we can better help our relationship maintain healthy boundaries. Speaking of boundaries, have you ever sat down with your partner to discuss your boundaries within the relationship? In this episode I sit down with Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss attachment styles and growth edges within relationships. Dr. Morgan Anderson is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. She’s on Instagram @drmorgancoaching - make sure you head over to her page and send her a DM to say hello In this episode, we discuss the following: Communicating in relationships and finding your boundaries Using your attachment style to tune into how you show up in your relationship Finding your growth areas for each attachment style What security can look like in a relationship What’s Coming Next? My next episode is the season finale where I answer your questions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices What happens when you sit two relationship experts down for a chat?

This episode is just that - two relationship experts, one conversation.

Everyone has their own attachment style, it's the way we build and respond to relationships. When we understand our attachment styles we can better help our relationship maintain healthy boundaries.

Speaking of boundaries, have you ever sat down with your partner to discuss your boundaries within the relationship?

In this episode I sit down with Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss attachment styles and growth edges within relationships.

Dr. Morgan Anderson is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. She’s on Instagram @drmorgancoaching - make sure you head over to her page and send her a DM to say hello

In this episode, we discuss the following:

  • Communicating in relationships and finding your boundaries
  • Using your attachment style to tune into how you show up in your relationship
  • Finding your growth areas for each attachment style
  • What security can look like in a relationship

What’s Coming Next?

My next episode is the season finale where I answer your questions!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3345 yes Motherhood: Putting Yourself First https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/motherhood-putting-yourself-first Have you ever reached a point, through your motherhood journey, where you felt like something needed to change in order for you to be happy? Perhaps you felt as though your needs were somehow lost in the mix while you were putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Who looks out for mom when she's taking care of everyone else? But what if I told you the change you need in order to reach happiness comes from within? This episode's guest is on a mission to encourage women, especially mothers, to prioritize themselves and choose to set time aside to do what makes them happy, outside of motherhood. In this episode I sit down with Katie to discuss her journey through motherhood including learning to love her body and putting herself first. Katie is a working Mom of three, a self-love advocate, a true believer in the mental and physical benefits of exercise, and she's on a personal mission to encourage women (especially Moms!) to put themselves on the top of their priority lists. During her second postpartum season, Katie - craving connection, and determined to develop self love and confidence - began sharing her life publicly on Instagram. What began as an accountability page for her postpartum fitness journey, grew into an authentic, vulnerable, and relatable journal of self acceptance, body respect, and the highs and lows of motherhood. In this episode, we discuss the following: Learning to care for ourselves as mothers Katie's a-ha moment of realizing she had to prioritize herself, as no one else could do this for her Shifting out of goal focused body confidence to body positivity Waiting for motivation or time to show up (when it never really does) Showing up authentically with others Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Thu, 06 May 2021 20:33:00 -0000 Motherhood: Putting Yourself First full 2 20 Cloud10 Have you ever reached a point, through your motherhood journey, where you felt like something needed to change in order for you to be happy? Perhaps you felt as though your needs were somehow lost in the mix while you were putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Who looks out for mom when she's taking care of everyone else? But what if I told you the change you need in order to reach happiness comes from within? This episode's guest is on a mission to encourage women, especially mothers, to prioritize themselves and choose to set time aside to do what makes them happy, outside of motherhood. In this episode I sit down with Katie to discuss her journey through motherhood including learning to love her body and putting herself first. Katie is a working Mom of three, a self-love advocate, a true believer in the mental and physical benefits of exercise, and she's on a personal mission to encourage women (especially Moms!) to put themselves on the top of their priority lists. During her second postpartum season, Katie - craving connection, and determined to develop self love and confidence - began sharing her life publicly on Instagram. What began as an accountability page for her postpartum fitness journey, grew into an authentic, vulnerable, and relatable journal of self acceptance, body respect, and the highs and lows of motherhood. In this episode, we discuss the following: Learning to care for ourselves as mothers Katie's a-ha moment of realizing she had to prioritize herself, as no one else could do this for her Shifting out of goal focused body confidence to body positivity Waiting for motivation or time to show up (when it never really does) Showing up authentically with others Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever reached a point, through your motherhood journey, where you felt like something needed to change in order for you to be happy?

Perhaps you felt as though your needs were somehow lost in the mix while you were putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Who looks out for mom when she's taking care of everyone else?

But what if I told you the change you need in order to reach happiness comes from within?

This episode's guest is on a mission to encourage women, especially mothers, to prioritize themselves and choose to set time aside to do what makes them happy, outside of motherhood.

In this episode I sit down with Katie to discuss her journey through motherhood including learning to love her body and putting herself first.

Katie is a working Mom of three, a self-love advocate, a true believer in the mental and physical benefits of exercise, and she's on a personal mission to encourage women (especially Moms!) to put themselves on the top of their priority lists.

During her second postpartum season, Katie - craving connection, and determined to develop self love and confidence - began sharing her life publicly on Instagram. What began as an accountability page for her postpartum fitness journey, grew into an authentic, vulnerable, and relatable journal of self acceptance, body respect, and the highs and lows of motherhood.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

  • Learning to care for ourselves as mothers
  • Katie's a-ha moment of realizing she had to prioritize herself, as no one else could do this for her
  • Shifting out of goal focused body confidence to body positivity
  • Waiting for motivation or time to show up (when it never really does)
  • Showing up authentically with others

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]]> 3165 yes Mental Load: The Unpaid, Invisible Work of Motherhood https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/mental-load-the-unpaid-invisible-work-of-motherhood Why is it that we treat men's time as if it is as "precious as diamonds" and women's time as if it is as "infinite as sand?" (As this week's podcast guest stated it). Chances are you never sat down with your partner, before moving in together, getting married, or having children, to discuss who does what. Who takes the trash out? Who buys the mustard? Who care for the children when they are home sick from school? Who coordinates their activities and schoolwork? If needed, who leaves their job to become a full-time parent? But how have mothers become the default? In this episode I sit down with Eve Rodsky to discuss mental load and her book FAIR PLAY. In her New York Times bestselling book FAIR PLAY, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose. Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children.   In this episode, we discuss the following: The smoothie requirements for Eve’s partner that led to building the Fair Play system and impacting change for women and couples Losing our identities and the importance of the unicorn space When resentment shows up in our relationships The Fair Play system and breaking down the CPE (Conceptualization, Planning, and Execution) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 20 Apr 2021 15:19:00 -0000 Mental Load: The Unpaid, Invisible Work of Motherhood full 2 19 Cloud10 Why is it that we treat men's time as if it is as "precious as diamonds" and women's time as if it is as "infinite as sand?" (As this week's podcast guest stated it). Chances are you never sat down with your partner, before moving in together, getting married, or having children, to discuss who does what. Who takes the trash out? Who buys the mustard? Who care for the children when they are home sick from school? Who coordinates their activities and schoolwork? If needed, who leaves their job to become a full-time parent? But how have mothers become the default? In this episode I sit down with Eve Rodsky to discuss mental load and her book FAIR PLAY. In her New York Times bestselling book FAIR PLAY, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose. Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children.   In this episode, we discuss the following: The smoothie requirements for Eve’s partner that led to building the Fair Play system and impacting change for women and couples Losing our identities and the importance of the unicorn space When resentment shows up in our relationships The Fair Play system and breaking down the CPE (Conceptualization, Planning, and Execution) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Why is it that we treat men's time as if it is as "precious as diamonds" and women's time as if it is as "infinite as sand?" (As this week's podcast guest stated it).

Chances are you never sat down with your partner, before moving in together, getting married, or having children, to discuss who does what. Who takes the trash out? Who buys the mustard? Who care for the children when they are home sick from school? Who coordinates their activities and schoolwork? If needed, who leaves their job to become a full-time parent?

But how have mothers become the default?

In this episode I sit down with Eve Rodsky to discuss mental load and her book FAIR PLAY. In her New York Times bestselling book FAIR PLAY, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose.

Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children.  

In this episode, we discuss the following:

  • The smoothie requirements for Eve’s partner that led to building the Fair Play system and impacting change for women and couples
  • Losing our identities and the importance of the unicorn space
  • When resentment shows up in our relationships
  • The Fair Play system and breaking down the CPE (Conceptualization, Planning, and Execution)

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 4144 yes Parachuting into Motherhood: Finding your Identity as a Step Mom https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/parachuting-into-motherhood-finding-your-identity-as-a-step-mom Step moms seem to get a bad rap in movies - even cast in a poor light and labeled "Evil Stepmothers." In reality, stepmothers are human beings parachuted into co parenting arrangements they had no part in making. It can feel like fitting a circle peg into a square-shaped hole. You might be told you aren't a 'real' mother and in the same breath criticized for not being involved enough. No one hands you instructions on how to be a stepmother and there sure isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. In this episode, I sit down with Jamie Scrimgeour, a Life Coach specializing in Stepfamily Dynamics and the creator of The Exclusive Stepmom Community. We discuss her experience with becoming a stepmother and how her identity has changed since then. Jamie Scrimgeour is a mom of one and a stepmom of three with kids ranging in ages from 6-18. Jamie creates raw, real, and relatable digital content about all things parenting, step-parenting, entrepreneurship, and living a KICK-ASS Life. She is also the host of The Jamie Scrimgeour Podcast. With candidness and humor, Jamie uses her personal and professional experience to support woman in living their best life.  In this episode, we discuss the following: Jamie’s journey to becoming a step mom, as well as having a baby with a partner who already has children The role of perfectionism and control that gets in the way of connecting with ourselves and our families The stigmas and negative beliefs others have of step moms (and how this is different from step dads) Setting boundaries when there are so many demands and hats to wear Managing transition days and keeping a calendar Navigating challenges, boundaries, and growth in your relationship as you navigate what it means to be a blended family Shifting into acceptance and your identity as a step mom Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience as a step mom. What’s Coming Next? My next episode is with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, where we will talk all about the mental load and creating balance in your relationship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 06 Apr 2021 18:54:00 -0000 Parachuting into Motherhood: Finding your Identity as a Step Mom full 2 18 Cloud10 Step moms seem to get a bad rap in movies - even cast in a poor light and labeled "Evil Stepmothers." In reality, stepmothers are human beings parachuted into co parenting arrangements they had no part in making. It can feel like fitting a circle peg into a square-shaped hole. You might be told you aren't a 'real' mother and in the same breath criticized for not being involved enough. No one hands you instructions on how to be a stepmother and there sure isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. In this episode, I sit down with Jamie Scrimgeour, a Life Coach specializing in Stepfamily Dynamics and the creator of The Exclusive Stepmom Community. We discuss her experience with becoming a stepmother and how her identity has changed since then. Jamie Scrimgeour is a mom of one and a stepmom of three with kids ranging in ages from 6-18. Jamie creates raw, real, and relatable digital content about all things parenting, step-parenting, entrepreneurship, and living a KICK-ASS Life. She is also the host of The Jamie Scrimgeour Podcast. With candidness and humor, Jamie uses her personal and professional experience to support woman in living their best life.  In this episode, we discuss the following: Jamie’s journey to becoming a step mom, as well as having a baby with a partner who already has children The role of perfectionism and control that gets in the way of connecting with ourselves and our families The stigmas and negative beliefs others have of step moms (and how this is different from step dads) Setting boundaries when there are so many demands and hats to wear Managing transition days and keeping a calendar Navigating challenges, boundaries, and growth in your relationship as you navigate what it means to be a blended family Shifting into acceptance and your identity as a step mom Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience as a step mom. What’s Coming Next? My next episode is with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, where we will talk all about the mental load and creating balance in your relationship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Step moms seem to get a bad rap in movies - even cast in a poor light and labeled "Evil Stepmothers."

In reality, stepmothers are human beings parachuted into co parenting arrangements they had no part in making.

It can feel like fitting a circle peg into a square-shaped hole. You might be told you aren't a 'real' mother and in the same breath criticized for not being involved enough.

No one hands you instructions on how to be a stepmother and there sure isn't a one-size-fits-all approach.

In this episode, I sit down with Jamie Scrimgeour, a Life Coach specializing in Stepfamily Dynamics and the creator of The Exclusive Stepmom Community. We discuss her experience with becoming a stepmother and how her identity has changed since then.

Jamie Scrimgeour is a mom of one and a stepmom of three with kids ranging in ages from 6-18. Jamie creates raw, real, and relatable digital content about all things parenting, step-parenting, entrepreneurship, and living a KICK-ASS Life. She is also the host of The Jamie Scrimgeour Podcast. With candidness and humor, Jamie uses her personal and professional experience to support woman in living their best life. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

  • Jamie’s journey to becoming a step mom, as well as having a baby with a partner who already has children
  • The role of perfectionism and control that gets in the way of connecting with ourselves and our families
  • The stigmas and negative beliefs others have of step moms (and how this is different from step dads)
  • Setting boundaries when there are so many demands and hats to wear
  • Managing transition days and keeping a calendar
  • Navigating challenges, boundaries, and growth in your relationship as you navigate what it means to be a blended family
  • Shifting into acceptance and your identity as a step mom

Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience as a step mom.

What’s Coming Next?

My next episode is with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, where we will talk all about the mental load and creating balance in your relationship

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3664 yes Don't Go to Bed Angry: Relationship Myths https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/relationship-myths "Don't go to bed angry" is probably one of the most common well wishes provided to newly weds during evening toasts and handwritten cards. But what this misses is that if you are escalated and angry, the last thing you should do is continue to talk about the issue at hand. When both partners are flooded and overwhelmed, this is a recipe for additional hurt words that do not get unheard. In this episode, I sit down with Greg, co-owner of Integrated Wellness, my business partner, my co-parent, and my partner in life, to discuss some of the common stereotypes, misperceptions and myths in romantic relationships.  In this episode, we discuss: - Not going to bed angry and what you can do instead - Is it love at first sight? - Are having disagreements dealbreakers? - Does validating my partner mean they are right? - "Happy wife, happy life" - The idea that women should be the ones to stay at home with the kids and how this is a huge myth in our own home - The stay at home parent isn't really "working" - Women hold the cards in the relationship to make things work Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 23 Mar 2021 23:15:00 -0000 Don't Go to Bed Angry: Relationship Myths full 2 17 Cloud10 "Don't go to bed angry" is probably one of the most common well wishes provided to newly weds during evening toasts and handwritten cards. But what this misses is that if you are escalated and angry, the last thing you should do is continue to talk about the issue at hand. When both partners are flooded and overwhelmed, this is a recipe for additional hurt words that do not get unheard. In this episode, I sit down with Greg, co-owner of Integrated Wellness, my business partner, my co-parent, and my partner in life, to discuss some of the common stereotypes, misperceptions and myths in romantic relationships.  In this episode, we discuss: - Not going to bed angry and what you can do instead - Is it love at first sight? - Are having disagreements dealbreakers? - Does validating my partner mean they are right? - "Happy wife, happy life" - The idea that women should be the ones to stay at home with the kids and how this is a huge myth in our own home - The stay at home parent isn't really "working" - Women hold the cards in the relationship to make things work Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices "Don't go to bed angry" is probably one of the most common well wishes provided to newly weds during evening toasts and handwritten cards.

But what this misses is that if you are escalated and angry, the last thing you should do is continue to talk about the issue at hand. When both partners are flooded and overwhelmed, this is a recipe for additional hurt words that do not get unheard.

In this episode, I sit down with Greg, co-owner of Integrated Wellness, my business partner, my co-parent, and my partner in life, to discuss some of the common stereotypes, misperceptions and myths in romantic relationships. 

In this episode, we discuss:

- Not going to bed angry and what you can do instead

- Is it love at first sight?

- Are having disagreements dealbreakers?

- Does validating my partner mean they are right?

- "Happy wife, happy life"

- The idea that women should be the ones to stay at home with the kids and how this is a huge myth in our own home

- The stay at home parent isn't really "working"

- Women hold the cards in the relationship to make things work

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3866 yes I Had a Miscarriage https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/i-had-a-miscarriage "You're young..." "You'll get pregnant again..." "At least you have a healthy child..." "At least you can get pregnant..." It's estimated that nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. Yet somehow most of us are unaware of how many people we know that have experienced pregnancy loss until we experience one. Feelings of isolation, self-blame, guilt, and shame can pour in during the aftermath of a loss, however the experience of pregnancy loss is incredibly personal and does not impact two people the same way. An out of order loss can make it difficult for our support networks to know what we need and what to do, leading to an array of platitudes. But how do we deal with these feelings and the platitudes? I sat down with Dr. Jessica Zucker the creator of the #IHadAMisscarriage campaign and the psychologist behind the Instagram account @IHadAMiscarriage. Together we discussed our personal experiences with miscarriage, common themes that show up for mothers after, and the challenges that come with asking for support when a loss has occurred. Dr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based reproductive and maternal mental health psychologist. She specialized in this field long before experiencing a second trimester miscarriage firsthand. She earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Master's degree in human development, as well as a Master's degree in public health. Her educational pursuits married with her clinical practice and research have lead her to write extensively on this topic for outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, and Vogue. Her first book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement is available now (Feminist Press + Penguin Random House Audio) In this episode, we discuss: What lead Dr. Jessica Zucker to do this work and her own personal journey The themes that show up for mothers after miscarriage The platitudes that are offered by others and how to cope Dealing with uncertainty and grief surrounding miscarriage and control Dealing with self-blame, guilt, and shame How fixing is the denial of emotional intimacy Coping with the anxiety of getting pregnant again after a loss Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience with miscarriage. What’s Coming Next? My next episode is with a special guest that has changed my world, and we are going to bust through the common relationship myths that couples can fall into. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 09 Mar 2021 23:16:00 -0000 I Had a Miscarriage full 2 16 Cloud10 "You're young..." "You'll get pregnant again..." "At least you have a healthy child..." "At least you can get pregnant..." It's estimated that nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. Yet somehow most of us are unaware of how many people we know that have experienced pregnancy loss until we experience one. Feelings of isolation, self-blame, guilt, and shame can pour in during the aftermath of a loss, however the experience of pregnancy loss is incredibly personal and does not impact two people the same way. An out of order loss can make it difficult for our support networks to know what we need and what to do, leading to an array of platitudes. But how do we deal with these feelings and the platitudes? I sat down with Dr. Jessica Zucker the creator of the #IHadAMisscarriage campaign and the psychologist behind the Instagram account @IHadAMiscarriage. Together we discussed our personal experiences with miscarriage, common themes that show up for mothers after, and the challenges that come with asking for support when a loss has occurred. Dr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based reproductive and maternal mental health psychologist. She specialized in this field long before experiencing a second trimester miscarriage firsthand. She earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Master's degree in human development, as well as a Master's degree in public health. Her educational pursuits married with her clinical practice and research have lead her to write extensively on this topic for outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, and Vogue. Her first book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement is available now (Feminist Press + Penguin Random House Audio) In this episode, we discuss: What lead Dr. Jessica Zucker to do this work and her own personal journey The themes that show up for mothers after miscarriage The platitudes that are offered by others and how to cope Dealing with uncertainty and grief surrounding miscarriage and control Dealing with self-blame, guilt, and shame How fixing is the denial of emotional intimacy Coping with the anxiety of getting pregnant again after a loss Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience with miscarriage. What’s Coming Next? My next episode is with a special guest that has changed my world, and we are going to bust through the common relationship myths that couples can fall into. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices "You're young..." "You'll get pregnant again..." "At least you have a healthy child..." "At least you can get pregnant..."

It's estimated that nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. Yet somehow most of us are unaware of how many people we know that have experienced pregnancy loss until we experience one.

Feelings of isolation, self-blame, guilt, and shame can pour in during the aftermath of a loss, however the experience of pregnancy loss is incredibly personal and does not impact two people the same way.

An out of order loss can make it difficult for our support networks to know what we need and what to do, leading to an array of platitudes.

But how do we deal with these feelings and the platitudes?

I sat down with Dr. Jessica Zucker the creator of the #IHadAMisscarriage campaign and the psychologist behind the Instagram account @IHadAMiscarriage. Together we discussed our personal experiences with miscarriage, common themes that show up for mothers after, and the challenges that come with asking for support when a loss has occurred.

Dr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based reproductive and maternal mental health psychologist. She specialized in this field long before experiencing a second trimester miscarriage firsthand. She earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Master's degree in human development, as well as a Master's degree in public health. Her educational pursuits married with her clinical practice and research have lead her to write extensively on this topic for outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, and Vogue. Her first book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement is available now (Feminist Press + Penguin Random House Audio)

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What lead Dr. Jessica Zucker to do this work and her own personal journey
  • The themes that show up for mothers after miscarriage
  • The platitudes that are offered by others and how to cope
  • Dealing with uncertainty and grief surrounding miscarriage and control
  • Dealing with self-blame, guilt, and shame
  • How fixing is the denial of emotional intimacy
  • Coping with the anxiety of getting pregnant again after a loss

Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience with miscarriage.

What’s Coming Next?

My next episode is with a special guest that has changed my world, and we are going to bust through the common relationship myths that couples can fall into.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3369 yes Sex: Everything Else Has a Deadline https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/sex-everything-else-has-a-deadline Have you ever thought to yourself "are we having enough sex?" or maybe you have fallen into a rut where you can recall step-by-step how each time will go because nothing ever changes. Could anyone else be feeling this way too? In most relationship we will find mismatched sex drives, doubts, unspoken desires, and self-esteem issues blending into the bedroom. Sex is something humans do, but for many women we've been socialized to hate our bodies, minimize our desires, and to not talk with our partners about sex. I was able to sit down this week with a fellow college, Vanessa Marin, to talk all things about sex and intimacy, like what kind of myths about sex women hold, the role of body confidence in our sexuality, the foundations of desire, and what makes sex great. Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She's here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom. She has a bachelor's degree in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured in over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real SImple. Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through Courses like The Passion Project: A Couple's Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark and Finishing School: Learn How To Orgasm and Orgasm With A Partner, she finds immense joy in spreading the message that we all deserve more from our sex lives.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 02 Mar 2021 21:52:00 -0000 Sex: Everything Else Has a Deadline full 2 15 Cloud10 Have you ever thought to yourself "are we having enough sex?" or maybe you have fallen into a rut where you can recall step-by-step how each time will go because nothing ever changes. Could anyone else be feeling this way too? In most relationship we will find mismatched sex drives, doubts, unspoken desires, and self-esteem issues blending into the bedroom. Sex is something humans do, but for many women we've been socialized to hate our bodies, minimize our desires, and to not talk with our partners about sex. I was able to sit down this week with a fellow college, Vanessa Marin, to talk all things about sex and intimacy, like what kind of myths about sex women hold, the role of body confidence in our sexuality, the foundations of desire, and what makes sex great. Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She's here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom. She has a bachelor's degree in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured in over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real SImple. Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through Courses like The Passion Project: A Couple's Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark and Finishing School: Learn How To Orgasm and Orgasm With A Partner, she finds immense joy in spreading the message that we all deserve more from our sex lives.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever thought to yourself "are we having enough sex?" or maybe you have fallen into a rut where you can recall step-by-step how each time will go because nothing ever changes.

Could anyone else be feeling this way too?

In most relationship we will find mismatched sex drives, doubts, unspoken desires, and self-esteem issues blending into the bedroom.

Sex is something humans do, but for many women we've been socialized to hate our bodies, minimize our desires, and to not talk with our partners about sex.

I was able to sit down this week with a fellow college, Vanessa Marin, to talk all things about sex and intimacy, like what kind of myths about sex women hold, the role of body confidence in our sexuality, the foundations of desire, and what makes sex great.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She's here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom.

She has a bachelor's degree in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured in over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real SImple.

Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through Courses like The Passion Project: A Couple's Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark and Finishing School: Learn How To Orgasm and Orgasm With A Partner, she finds immense joy in spreading the message that we all deserve more from our sex lives. 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3723 yes Divorce: Going from Lemons to Lemonade https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/ep-14-divorce-going-from-lemons-to-lemonade Have you ever had someone say to you "I'm sorry about your divorce?" or maybe you've said this to someone. Is there really something to be sorry for? "It was a choice I had to make and for other people, who don't understand what it is to be in a bad marriage and how hard it is to get yourself out of it, all they feel for you is sadness." Sometimes marriages just don't work. Toxic relationships can bring out the worst versions of ourselves and we just know it's time to move on. Moving on and your relationship with yourself after is what we are talking about in today's podcast episode as I sit with Michelle Dempsey-Multack to talk about divorce. Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a co-parenting mom, author, divorce coach and certified divorce specialist helping women move on before, during, and after divorce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 16 Feb 2021 16:00:00 -0000 Divorce: Going from Lemons to Lemonade full 2 14 Cloud10 Have you ever had someone say to you "I'm sorry about your divorce?" or maybe you've said this to someone. Is there really something to be sorry for? "It was a choice I had to make and for other people, who don't understand what it is to be in a bad marriage and how hard it is to get yourself out of it, all they feel for you is sadness." Sometimes marriages just don't work. Toxic relationships can bring out the worst versions of ourselves and we just know it's time to move on. Moving on and your relationship with yourself after is what we are talking about in today's podcast episode as I sit with Michelle Dempsey-Multack to talk about divorce. Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a co-parenting mom, author, divorce coach and certified divorce specialist helping women move on before, during, and after divorce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Have you ever had someone say to you "I'm sorry about your divorce?" or maybe you've said this to someone.

Is there really something to be sorry for?

"It was a choice I had to make and for other people, who don't understand what it is to be in a bad marriage and how hard it is to get yourself out of it, all they feel for you is sadness."

Sometimes marriages just don't work. Toxic relationships can bring out the worst versions of ourselves and we just know it's time to move on.

Moving on and your relationship with yourself after is what we are talking about in today's podcast episode as I sit with Michelle Dempsey-Multack to talk about divorce.

Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a co-parenting mom, author, divorce coach and certified divorce specialist helping women move on before, during, and after divorce.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 2748 yes Apologies: The Good, The Bad, The Vulnerable https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/apologies We all know that feeling when someone apologizes but doesn't really apologize. Or what about for ourselves, when we aren't sure we have anything to apologize. Why is apologizing so hard? What makes a good apology? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 01 Feb 2021 12:00:00 -0000 Apologies: The Good, The Bad, The Vulnerable full 2 13 Cloud10 We all know that feeling when someone apologizes but doesn't really apologize. Or what about for ourselves, when we aren't sure we have anything to apologize. Why is apologizing so hard? What makes a good apology? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We all know that feeling when someone apologizes but doesn't really apologize. Or what about for ourselves, when we aren't sure we have anything to apologize.

Why is apologizing so hard? What makes a good apology?

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3662 yes Overcoming Perfectionism and Showing Up Imperfectly https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/overcoming-perfectionism-and-showing-up-imperfectly So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism.  The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.   And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us. And it’s not healthy. Join me as I speak with Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way. In this episode, we discuss: 13:47 - What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people? 22:23 - Why do I strive for it? 34:37 - What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism? 48:09 - Overcoming the all or nothing thinking 53:13 - What you can start doing now to help perfectionism To find our more about Dr. Jen Douglas, visit her on Instagram or check out her Freedom from Perfectionism course. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 08 Dec 2020 21:50:00 -0000 Overcoming Perfectionism and Showing Up Imperfectly full 2 12 Cloud10 So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism.  The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.   And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us. And it’s not healthy. Join me as I speak with Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way. In this episode, we discuss: 13:47 - What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people? 22:23 - Why do I strive for it? 34:37 - What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism? 48:09 - Overcoming the all or nothing thinking 53:13 - What you can start doing now to help perfectionism To find our more about Dr. Jen Douglas, visit her on Instagram or check out her Freedom from Perfectionism course. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism. 

The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.  

And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us.

And it’s not healthy.

Join me as I speak with Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • 13:47 - What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people?
  • 22:23 - Why do I strive for it?
  • 34:37 - What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism?
  • 48:09 - Overcoming the all or nothing thinking
  • 53:13 - What you can start doing now to help perfectionism

To find our more about Dr. Jen Douglas, visit her on Instagram or check out her Freedom from Perfectionism course.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 4052 yes How to Calm the *&#$ Down: Retune Your Nervous System to Optimize Resiliency https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/how-to-calm-the-down-retune-your-nervous-system-to-optimize-resiliency One of the biggest struggles being seen with dealing with COVID19? The uncertainty.  What does this look like tomorrow? Next month? This winter?  So it's no wonder that 85% of the women I polled said they were stressed out and experiencing burnout.  Today, I sit with Dr. Julie Beaulac to talk about how we can calm the F*#$ down by re-tuning our nervous systems. And ultimately, if we can retune our nervous systems, we can master burnout. Dr. Beaulac is a registered psychologist and consultant based in Ottawa, Canada. She is also a mindfulness and yoga teacher and an enthusiast of all things movement and in nature. She works with individuals, groups, and organizations to become more engaged, productive, and happier in their lives.  In this episode, we discuss: 13;01 - What is leading us to burn out? 18:19 - What happens inside of us when we experience chronic stress?  21:14 - Explaining polyvagal theory 28:42 - How to hack our vagus nerve 37:47 - Quick and easy ways to retune and calm your nervous system Grab Dr. Beaulac’s free guide to the 5 QUICK and EASY things you can do right now to find calm. Click here to download.  Looking for more to tackle burnout? Dr. Beaulac and I have a special BLACK FRIDAY SALE for our e-course Beyond Burnout. Save $100 off with promo code F2020 (because it’s just that kind of year). You can overcome burnout. Click here for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Wed, 18 Nov 2020 21:53:00 -0000 How to Calm the *&#$ Down: Retune Your Nervous System to Optimize Resiliency full 2 11 Cloud10 One of the biggest struggles being seen with dealing with COVID19? The uncertainty.  What does this look like tomorrow? Next month? This winter?  So it's no wonder that 85% of the women I polled said they were stressed out and experiencing burnout.  Today, I sit with Dr. Julie Beaulac to talk about how we can calm the F*#$ down by re-tuning our nervous systems. And ultimately, if we can retune our nervous systems, we can master burnout. Dr. Beaulac is a registered psychologist and consultant based in Ottawa, Canada. She is also a mindfulness and yoga teacher and an enthusiast of all things movement and in nature. She works with individuals, groups, and organizations to become more engaged, productive, and happier in their lives.  In this episode, we discuss: 13;01 - What is leading us to burn out? 18:19 - What happens inside of us when we experience chronic stress?  21:14 - Explaining polyvagal theory 28:42 - How to hack our vagus nerve 37:47 - Quick and easy ways to retune and calm your nervous system Grab Dr. Beaulac’s free guide to the 5 QUICK and EASY things you can do right now to find calm. Click here to download.  Looking for more to tackle burnout? Dr. Beaulac and I have a special BLACK FRIDAY SALE for our e-course Beyond Burnout. Save $100 off with promo code F2020 (because it’s just that kind of year). You can overcome burnout. Click here for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices One of the biggest struggles being seen with dealing with COVID19?

The uncertainty. 

What does this look like tomorrow? Next month? This winter? 

So it's no wonder that 85% of the women I polled said they were stressed out and experiencing burnout. 

Today, I sit with Dr. Julie Beaulac to talk about how we can calm the F*#$ down by re-tuning our nervous systems. And ultimately, if we can retune our nervous systems, we can master burnout. Dr. Beaulac is a registered psychologist and consultant based in Ottawa, Canada. She is also a mindfulness and yoga teacher and an enthusiast of all things movement and in nature. She works with individuals, groups, and organizations to become more engaged, productive, and happier in their lives. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • 13;01 - What is leading us to burn out?
  • 18:19 - What happens inside of us when we experience chronic stress? 
  • 21:14 - Explaining polyvagal theory
  • 28:42 - How to hack our vagus nerve
  • 37:47 - Quick and easy ways to retune and calm your nervous system

Grab Dr. Beaulac’s free guide to the 5 QUICK and EASY things you can do right now to find calm. Click here to download. 

Looking for more to tackle burnout? Dr. Beaulac and I have a special BLACK FRIDAY SALE for our e-course Beyond Burnout. Save $100 off with promo code F2020 (because it’s just that kind of year). You can overcome burnout. Click here for more information.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 4009 yes Stress in 2020 and Why You Need to Tune Into Your Cycle https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/stress-in-2020-and-why-you-need-to-tune-into-your-cycle Take a moment and reflect on the year of 2020.    Sidenote. It’s already November 3rd!   Did you get all of the projects completed that you wanted to? Make all of the moves you planned to? Start that new workout routine, begin to eat healthier, and find extra time in the day to be with your friends and family?  Let’s be honest, the answer is probably “no.”    And you are not alone in that.    In today’s episode we slow down and talk about the stress of 2020 and how, as a female, this affects your body. And we need to be aware of this!    Join me and Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur as we dive into how the stress of 2020 is affecting your hormones, your sex drive and so many other systems in your body. Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur helps women reboot their thyroid for energy they can count on. She is the owner of Docere Naturopathic Clinic located in the heart of Little Italy in Ottawa and has been working for the past decade to help women who are suffering from fatigue, thyroid conditions and hormone imbalances. Her mission is to help women get back to a healthy, happy, feel-good life. Dr. Sarah believes health is the result of creating new habits, one small step at a time. She helps make lifestyle changes feel possible and enjoyable and she truly believes that coffee, chocolate and wine can be part of a healthy diet.   In this episode, we discuss: 12:08 - What stress is doing to women in 2020 16:57 - The bodily systems that are impacted by stress 23:45 - The drive to thrive and push to measure our worth 38:04 - Why tuning into your cycle is so important in the overall management of your health and stress 39:34 - The different phases of your cycle 1:00:15 - Top tip for managing stress today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 02 Nov 2020 16:00:00 -0000 Stress in 2020 and Why You Need to Tune Into Your Cycle full 2 10 Cloud10 Take a moment and reflect on the year of 2020.    Sidenote. It’s already November 3rd!   Did you get all of the projects completed that you wanted to? Make all of the moves you planned to? Start that new workout routine, begin to eat healthier, and find extra time in the day to be with your friends and family?  Let’s be honest, the answer is probably “no.”    And you are not alone in that.    In today’s episode we slow down and talk about the stress of 2020 and how, as a female, this affects your body. And we need to be aware of this!    Join me and Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur as we dive into how the stress of 2020 is affecting your hormones, your sex drive and so many other systems in your body. Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur helps women reboot their thyroid for energy they can count on. She is the owner of Docere Naturopathic Clinic located in the heart of Little Italy in Ottawa and has been working for the past decade to help women who are suffering from fatigue, thyroid conditions and hormone imbalances. Her mission is to help women get back to a healthy, happy, feel-good life. Dr. Sarah believes health is the result of creating new habits, one small step at a time. She helps make lifestyle changes feel possible and enjoyable and she truly believes that coffee, chocolate and wine can be part of a healthy diet.   In this episode, we discuss: 12:08 - What stress is doing to women in 2020 16:57 - The bodily systems that are impacted by stress 23:45 - The drive to thrive and push to measure our worth 38:04 - Why tuning into your cycle is so important in the overall management of your health and stress 39:34 - The different phases of your cycle 1:00:15 - Top tip for managing stress today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Take a moment and reflect on the year of 2020. 

 

Sidenote. It’s already November 3rd!

 

Did you get all of the projects completed that you wanted to? Make all of the moves you planned to? Start that new workout routine, begin to eat healthier, and find extra time in the day to be with your friends and family? 


Let’s be honest, the answer is probably “no.” 

 

And you are not alone in that. 

 

In today’s episode we slow down and talk about the stress of 2020 and how, as a female, this affects your body. And we need to be aware of this! 

 

Join me and Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur as we dive into how the stress of 2020 is affecting your hormones, your sex drive and so many other systems in your body.

Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur helps women reboot their thyroid for energy they can count on. She is the owner of Docere Naturopathic Clinic located in the heart of Little Italy in Ottawa and has been working for the past decade to help women who are suffering from fatigue, thyroid conditions and hormone imbalances. Her mission is to help women get back to a healthy, happy, feel-good life. Dr. Sarah believes health is the result of creating new habits, one small step at a time. She helps make lifestyle changes feel possible and enjoyable and she truly believes that coffee, chocolate and wine can be part of a healthy diet.

 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • 12:08 - What stress is doing to women in 2020
  • 16:57 - The bodily systems that are impacted by stress
  • 23:45 - The drive to thrive and push to measure our worth
  • 38:04 - Why tuning into your cycle is so important in the overall management of your health and stress
  • 39:34 - The different phases of your cycle
  • 1:00:15 - Top tip for managing stress today

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]]> 4230 yes Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/understanding-your-attachment-style-to-help-strengthen-your-relationship We all long to know that we matter to the ones we love. We have an innate need for emotional contact and security, and these attachment needs are healthy and adaptive.   But at times, we question if we are important to our partners or if we matter. When our attachment figures - our partners - are not reliably accessible and supportive, the ability to securely attach is undermined. Insecurity develops when there are repeated experiences of nonattunement and noncontingent communication, and our partners are repeatedly unavailable and rejecting. How we ask for our needs will depend on our attachment style. When we do not feel secure, we must find other ways to cope with this stress. How can we cope when we struggle with insecurity? This is exactly what I talk about in this episode. I sit with Elizabeth Earnshaw, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist. She owns A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, PA where she and her colleagues have supported hundreds of couples. Elizabeth also writes and speaks on relationships. She shares many of her insights on her Instagram account, @lizlistens, and within her membership program Love Lessons 365. In this episode, we discuss: 4:54 - What is attachment theory 14:37 - How can someone who is more anxiously attached become more secure? 18;40 - What does avoidant attachment look like? 23:12 - What is key for the development of secure attachment? 31:48 - How to train your body in those tough disagreements 37:39 - A conversation around “We marry our unfinished business” 42:07 - Strategies for next steps Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 27 Oct 2020 01:26:00 -0000 Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship full 2 9 Cloud10 We all long to know that we matter to the ones we love. We have an innate need for emotional contact and security, and these attachment needs are healthy and adaptive.   But at times, we question if we are important to our partners or if we matter. When our attachment figures - our partners - are not reliably accessible and supportive, the ability to securely attach is undermined. Insecurity develops when there are repeated experiences of nonattunement and noncontingent communication, and our partners are repeatedly unavailable and rejecting. How we ask for our needs will depend on our attachment style. When we do not feel secure, we must find other ways to cope with this stress. How can we cope when we struggle with insecurity? This is exactly what I talk about in this episode. I sit with Elizabeth Earnshaw, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist. She owns A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, PA where she and her colleagues have supported hundreds of couples. Elizabeth also writes and speaks on relationships. She shares many of her insights on her Instagram account, @lizlistens, and within her membership program Love Lessons 365. In this episode, we discuss: 4:54 - What is attachment theory 14:37 - How can someone who is more anxiously attached become more secure? 18;40 - What does avoidant attachment look like? 23:12 - What is key for the development of secure attachment? 31:48 - How to train your body in those tough disagreements 37:39 - A conversation around “We marry our unfinished business” 42:07 - Strategies for next steps Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We all long to know that we matter to the ones we love. We have an innate need for emotional contact and security, and these attachment needs are healthy and adaptive.  

But at times, we question if we are important to our partners or if we matter.

When our attachment figures - our partners - are not reliably accessible and supportive, the ability to securely attach is undermined. Insecurity develops when there are repeated experiences of nonattunement and noncontingent communication, and our partners are repeatedly unavailable and rejecting. How we ask for our needs will depend on our attachment style. When we do not feel secure, we must find other ways to cope with this stress.

How can we cope when we struggle with insecurity? This is exactly what I talk about in this episode. I sit with Elizabeth Earnshaw, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist. She owns A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, PA where she and her colleagues have supported hundreds of couples. Elizabeth also writes and speaks on relationships. She shares many of her insights on her Instagram account, @lizlistens, and within her membership program Love Lessons 365.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • 4:54 - What is attachment theory
  • 14:37 - How can someone who is more anxiously attached become more secure?
  • 18;40 - What does avoidant attachment look like?
  • 23:12 - What is key for the development of secure attachment?
  • 31:48 - How to train your body in those tough disagreements
  • 37:39 - A conversation around “We marry our unfinished business”
  • 42:07 - Strategies for next steps

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]]> 3564 yes Growing Compassion and Kindness in Your Relationship https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/growing-compassion-and-kindness-in-your-relationship We all have triggers. Our partners all have triggers. And they are not always the same things. Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated. When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms. In this episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss build compassion for healthy and strong relationships: 7:23 - The Fire Triangle of Relationships 22:59 - The 3 Parts of Compassion 29:12 - Motherhood & Compassion 33:13 - Defining Compassion & Mindfulness 46:07 - What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion Links From This Episode: Michaela Thomas on IG Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook The Thomas Connection The Lasting Connection Book Now Available Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 08 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0000 Growing Compassion and Kindness in Your Relationship full 2 8 Cloud10 We all have triggers. Our partners all have triggers. And they are not always the same things. Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated. When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms. In this episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss build compassion for healthy and strong relationships: 7:23 - The Fire Triangle of Relationships 22:59 - The 3 Parts of Compassion 29:12 - Motherhood & Compassion 33:13 - Defining Compassion & Mindfulness 46:07 - What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion Links From This Episode: Michaela Thomas on IG Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook The Thomas Connection The Lasting Connection Book Now Available Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We all have triggers.

Our partners all have triggers.

And they are not always the same things.

Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated.

When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms.

In this episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss build compassion for healthy and strong relationships:

7:23 - The Fire Triangle of Relationships

22:59 - The 3 Parts of Compassion

29:12 - Motherhood & Compassion

33:13 - Defining Compassion & Mindfulness

46:07 - What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion


Links From This Episode:

Michaela Thomas on IG

Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook

The Thomas Connection

The Lasting Connection Book Now Available

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]]> 3833 yes When You Doubt Yourself: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-you-doubt-yourself-overcoming-imposter-syndrome In June of this year, I was asked to speak at a conference on imposter syndrome for women in business. Being one of my goals for the year, I was super excited and quickly said yes. Then, a feeling crept in. This feeling of “who are you to speak in front of all those women?” and “do you really have anything to share that they already don’t know?” Have you been there before? When you start feeling like an imposter and that you are not qualified or worthy of that opportunity? That’s what Amanda Tobe, an Industrial Organizational Psychologist from Toronto, Canada, and I are diving into on the podcast today: Imposter Syndrome. Whether this is a new term for you, or an old familiar face, Amanda shares how to move beyond imposter syndrome that may be holding you back: 7:10 - Amanda’s personal experience with Imposter Syndrome 8:58 - What is Imposter Syndrome? 12:21 - How your core beliefs support Imposter Syndrome 21:14 - Imposter Syndrome and Self Sabotaging 22:19 - The 3R’s to help you overcome Imposter Syndrome 37:07 - Growth Mindsets and the Key Factors 41:32 - How you can use fear in a positive way Links from this episode: Free E-Book: Leading Through Crisis and Transition: A COVID19 toolkit to help you lead with strength, intention, and grace Book: Own your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt and Succeed in Life (by authors Lisa Orbé-Austin and Richard Orbé-Austin Book: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 11 Aug 2020 05:00:00 -0000 When You Doubt Yourself: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome full 2 7 Cloud10 In June of this year, I was asked to speak at a conference on imposter syndrome for women in business. Being one of my goals for the year, I was super excited and quickly said yes. Then, a feeling crept in. This feeling of “who are you to speak in front of all those women?” and “do you really have anything to share that they already don’t know?” Have you been there before? When you start feeling like an imposter and that you are not qualified or worthy of that opportunity? That’s what Amanda Tobe, an Industrial Organizational Psychologist from Toronto, Canada, and I are diving into on the podcast today: Imposter Syndrome. Whether this is a new term for you, or an old familiar face, Amanda shares how to move beyond imposter syndrome that may be holding you back: 7:10 - Amanda’s personal experience with Imposter Syndrome 8:58 - What is Imposter Syndrome? 12:21 - How your core beliefs support Imposter Syndrome 21:14 - Imposter Syndrome and Self Sabotaging 22:19 - The 3R’s to help you overcome Imposter Syndrome 37:07 - Growth Mindsets and the Key Factors 41:32 - How you can use fear in a positive way Links from this episode: Free E-Book: Leading Through Crisis and Transition: A COVID19 toolkit to help you lead with strength, intention, and grace Book: Own your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt and Succeed in Life (by authors Lisa Orbé-Austin and Richard Orbé-Austin Book: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices In June of this year, I was asked to speak at a conference on imposter syndrome for women in business. Being one of my goals for the year, I was super excited and quickly said yes.

Then, a feeling crept in.

This feeling of “who are you to speak in front of all those women?” and “do you really have anything to share that they already don’t know?”

Have you been there before? When you start feeling like an imposter and that you are not qualified or worthy of that opportunity?

That’s what Amanda Tobe, an Industrial Organizational Psychologist from Toronto, Canada, and I are diving into on the podcast today: Imposter Syndrome. Whether this is a new term for you, or an old familiar face, Amanda shares how to move beyond imposter syndrome that may be holding you back:

  • 7:10 - Amanda’s personal experience with Imposter Syndrome
  • 8:58 - What is Imposter Syndrome?
  • 12:21 - How your core beliefs support Imposter Syndrome
  • 21:14 - Imposter Syndrome and Self Sabotaging
  • 22:19 - The 3R’s to help you overcome Imposter Syndrome
  • 37:07 - Growth Mindsets and the Key Factors
  • 41:32 - How you can use fear in a positive way


Links from this episode:

Free E-Book: Leading Through Crisis and Transition: A COVID19 toolkit to help you lead with strength, intention, and grace

Book: Own your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt and Succeed in Life (by authors Lisa Orbé-Austin and Richard Orbé-Austin

Book: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

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]]> 3043 yes The Self-Sabotaging That Leads You to Bear The Mental Load https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/the-self-sabotaging-that-leads-you-to-bear-the-mental-load We know that women and mothers carry a higher mental load than their partners. It isn’t just completing the household and childcare tasks, it is also the mental and emotional work that it takes to remember to do these tasks. The mental load became even more evident to me after my second child was born. It wasn’t just going to the doctor appointments for check ups, it was remembering to schedule them. It wasn’t just showing up for the birthday parties, it was buying the gifts and remembering to RSVP. In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship coach and owner of My Love Thinks, and I discuss the mental load: 5:05 - Our own stories of addressing the mental load in our relationships 8:19 - Taking the invisible and making it visible 16:28 - How women tend to self-sabotage addressing the mental load 29:28 - Dealing with the guilt that shows up when we start to change 39:09 - How to address this with our partners  To find out more about Dr. Cutlip, you can visit her blog here, check out her course for couples on coping with the mental load, and be sure to follow her on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Tue, 21 Jul 2020 00:42:00 -0000 The Self-Sabotaging That Leads You to Bear The Mental Load full 2 6 Cloud10 We know that women and mothers carry a higher mental load than their partners. It isn’t just completing the household and childcare tasks, it is also the mental and emotional work that it takes to remember to do these tasks. The mental load became even more evident to me after my second child was born. It wasn’t just going to the doctor appointments for check ups, it was remembering to schedule them. It wasn’t just showing up for the birthday parties, it was buying the gifts and remembering to RSVP. In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship coach and owner of My Love Thinks, and I discuss the mental load: 5:05 - Our own stories of addressing the mental load in our relationships 8:19 - Taking the invisible and making it visible 16:28 - How women tend to self-sabotage addressing the mental load 29:28 - Dealing with the guilt that shows up when we start to change 39:09 - How to address this with our partners  To find out more about Dr. Cutlip, you can visit her blog here, check out her course for couples on coping with the mental load, and be sure to follow her on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We know that women and mothers carry a higher mental load than their partners. It isn’t just completing the household and childcare tasks, it is also the mental and emotional work that it takes to remember to do these tasks.

The mental load became even more evident to me after my second child was born. It wasn’t just going to the doctor appointments for check ups, it was remembering to schedule them. It wasn’t just showing up for the birthday parties, it was buying the gifts and remembering to RSVP.

In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship coach and owner of My Love Thinks, and I discuss the mental load:

  • 5:05 - Our own stories of addressing the mental load in our relationships
  • 8:19 - Taking the invisible and making it visible
  • 16:28 - How women tend to self-sabotage addressing the mental load
  • 29:28 - Dealing with the guilt that shows up when we start to change
  • 39:09 - How to address this with our partners

 To find out more about Dr. Cutlip, you can visit her blog here, check out her course for couples on coping with the mental load, and be sure to follow her on Instagram.

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]]> 3450 yes The Mindsets that Lead to Burnout https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/from-burnout-to-thriving When I returned to work after my second maternity leave, I was doing it all. Eight clients back to back. An hour commute home. Nursing my daughter. Building a website.  Creating a podcast. The list goes on. I was feeling exhausted. I was often dizzy and short of breath (despite looking after regular meals, water intake, and sleep). And then my body started screaming at me, telling me that I needed to stop.  This. Was. Burnout.  If you have experienced burnout, or think you might be experiencing it, you are not alone. In this episode, I speak with Mallory Rowan, coach and speaker, and a recovered woman from burnout, about moving towards living your life and business in alignment with what matters most to you:  9:26 - Mallory’s experience with burnout 13:01 - Signs and symptoms of burnout 18:39 - How to start recovering from burnout 26:49 - The mindsets that put us at risk for burnout 30:41 - Mallory’s non-negotiables for managing self-care 44:26 - Strategies to help live a meaningful life For Mallory’s free guide to help you master your Instagram bio, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 13 Jul 2020 17:51:00 -0000 The Mindsets that Lead to Burnout full 2 5 Cloud10 When I returned to work after my second maternity leave, I was doing it all. Eight clients back to back. An hour commute home. Nursing my daughter. Building a website.  Creating a podcast. The list goes on. I was feeling exhausted. I was often dizzy and short of breath (despite looking after regular meals, water intake, and sleep). And then my body started screaming at me, telling me that I needed to stop.  This. Was. Burnout.  If you have experienced burnout, or think you might be experiencing it, you are not alone. In this episode, I speak with Mallory Rowan, coach and speaker, and a recovered woman from burnout, about moving towards living your life and business in alignment with what matters most to you:  9:26 - Mallory’s experience with burnout 13:01 - Signs and symptoms of burnout 18:39 - How to start recovering from burnout 26:49 - The mindsets that put us at risk for burnout 30:41 - Mallory’s non-negotiables for managing self-care 44:26 - Strategies to help live a meaningful life For Mallory’s free guide to help you master your Instagram bio, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices When I returned to work after my second maternity leave, I was doing it all.

Eight clients back to back.

An hour commute home.

Nursing my daughter.

Building a website. 

Creating a podcast.

The list goes on. I was feeling exhausted. I was often dizzy and short of breath (despite looking after regular meals, water intake, and sleep). And then my body started screaming at me, telling me that I needed to stop. 

This. Was. Burnout. 

If you have experienced burnout, or think you might be experiencing it, you are not alone. In this episode, I speak with Mallory Rowan, coach and speaker, and a recovered woman from burnout, about moving towards living your life and business in alignment with what matters most to you: 

  • 9:26 - Mallory’s experience with burnout
  • 13:01 - Signs and symptoms of burnout
  • 18:39 - How to start recovering from burnout
  • 26:49 - The mindsets that put us at risk for burnout
  • 30:41 - Mallory’s non-negotiables for managing self-care
  • 44:26 - Strategies to help live a meaningful life

For Mallory’s free guide to help you master your Instagram bio, click here.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3511 yes Learning to Pause: Letting Go of Being the Perfect Mother https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/learning-to-pause-letting-go-of-being-the-perfect-mother Overwhelmed. Can you relate to this feeling?  Overwhelmed with the number of things you need to get done. From cleaning the house, homeschooling your kids, organizing meals, working, maintaining friendships, and connecting with your partner - the list goes on. But what would happen if you took a pause? Took a deliberate moment to rest through the day. In this episode, I connect with Allison Keating, founder of bWell Clinic in Ireland, about how we can move out of the mindset of being a perfect woman and giving ourselves the space to not always please, perform or be perfect.  Here are a few of the highlights:  5:32 - What does the ‘striving mode’ look like? 9:53 - The Pause  12:03 - Reflecting to determine where we learned our norms from 19:43 - What’s the impact on our relationships with our partners and children? 21:43 - Strategies to help you let go of the overwhelm 37:53 - Ways to start to nourish and replenish yourself Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 06 Jul 2020 19:00:00 -0000 Learning to Pause: Letting Go of Being the Perfect Mother full 2 4 Cloud10 Overwhelmed. Can you relate to this feeling?  Overwhelmed with the number of things you need to get done. From cleaning the house, homeschooling your kids, organizing meals, working, maintaining friendships, and connecting with your partner - the list goes on. But what would happen if you took a pause? Took a deliberate moment to rest through the day. In this episode, I connect with Allison Keating, founder of bWell Clinic in Ireland, about how we can move out of the mindset of being a perfect woman and giving ourselves the space to not always please, perform or be perfect.  Here are a few of the highlights:  5:32 - What does the ‘striving mode’ look like? 9:53 - The Pause  12:03 - Reflecting to determine where we learned our norms from 19:43 - What’s the impact on our relationships with our partners and children? 21:43 - Strategies to help you let go of the overwhelm 37:53 - Ways to start to nourish and replenish yourself Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Overwhelmed.

Can you relate to this feeling? 

Overwhelmed with the number of things you need to get done. From cleaning the house, homeschooling your kids, organizing meals, working, maintaining friendships, and connecting with your partner - the list goes on.

But what would happen if you took a pause? Took a deliberate moment to rest through the day.

In this episode, I connect with Allison Keating, founder of bWell Clinic in Ireland, about how we can move out of the mindset of being a perfect woman and giving ourselves the space to not always please, perform or be perfect.  Here are a few of the highlights: 

  • 5:32 - What does the ‘striving mode’ look like?
  • 9:53 - The Pause 
  • 12:03 - Reflecting to determine where we learned our norms from
  • 19:43 - What’s the impact on our relationships with our partners and children?
  • 21:43 - Strategies to help you let go of the overwhelm
  • 37:53 - Ways to start to nourish and replenish yourself

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3343 yes When Friendships Change: How to Deal with Friendship Breakups https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-friendships-change-how-to-deal-with-friendship-breakups Friendships are hard, particularly as adults. Many of us believe that the quality of our life is based on the number of people we can count on as friends. The more friends we have, the better off we are. So when we go through a friendship breakup, it's hard to understand that it’s not necessarily about the type of person we are, or the kind of life we live, but rather a part of any relationship and personal growth. To dive deeper into the world of friendships, I had the honour to speak with my good friend, Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. We spoke about:  How we relate friendships to success How can friendships change? What are changes appearing in our friendships through COVID How can we support our friendships through change How to give you friend feedback How to decide when you need to let go of a friendship Ways you can choose to end a friendship How do you mourn the loss of a friend and why do they hurt so badly? Want to learn more with us? Dr. Miriam Kirmayer and I have a special bonus. We were asked what it’s like to build friendships as therapists. So, we had a candid and unscripted conversation around what it’s like to make friends as a professional.  If you are a professional, a therapist, or curious about friendships, head over to drtracyd.com/friends to download this bonus episode.  To learn more about Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, visit her website or follow her on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 29 Jun 2020 14:10:00 -0000 When Friendships Change: How to Deal with Friendship Breakups full 2 3 Cloud10 Friendships are hard, particularly as adults. Many of us believe that the quality of our life is based on the number of people we can count on as friends. The more friends we have, the better off we are. So when we go through a friendship breakup, it's hard to understand that it’s not necessarily about the type of person we are, or the kind of life we live, but rather a part of any relationship and personal growth. To dive deeper into the world of friendships, I had the honour to speak with my good friend, Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. We spoke about:  How we relate friendships to success How can friendships change? What are changes appearing in our friendships through COVID How can we support our friendships through change How to give you friend feedback How to decide when you need to let go of a friendship Ways you can choose to end a friendship How do you mourn the loss of a friend and why do they hurt so badly? Want to learn more with us? Dr. Miriam Kirmayer and I have a special bonus. We were asked what it’s like to build friendships as therapists. So, we had a candid and unscripted conversation around what it’s like to make friends as a professional.  If you are a professional, a therapist, or curious about friendships, head over to drtracyd.com/friends to download this bonus episode.  To learn more about Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, visit her website or follow her on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Friendships are hard, particularly as adults. Many of us believe that the quality of our life is based on the number of people we can count on as friends. The more friends we have, the better off we are.

So when we go through a friendship breakup, it's hard to understand that it’s not necessarily about the type of person we are, or the kind of life we live, but rather a part of any relationship and personal growth.

To dive deeper into the world of friendships, I had the honour to speak with my good friend, Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. We spoke about: 

  • How we relate friendships to success
  • How can friendships change?
  • What are changes appearing in our friendships through COVID
  • How can we support our friendships through change
  • How to give you friend feedback
  • How to decide when you need to let go of a friendship
  • Ways you can choose to end a friendship
  • How do you mourn the loss of a friend and why do they hurt so badly?

Want to learn more with us?

Dr. Miriam Kirmayer and I have a special bonus. We were asked what it’s like to build friendships as therapists. So, we had a candid and unscripted conversation around what it’s like to make friends as a professional. 

If you are a professional, a therapist, or curious about friendships, head over to drtracyd.com/friends to download this bonus episode. 

To learn more about Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, visit her website or follow her on Instagram.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

]]> 3881 yes Coping Strategies During Times of Difficulties https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/coping-strategies-during-times-of-difficulties There is so much happening in the world today. The events taking place are outside of our control, from COVID19 to the Black Lives Matter Movement. So that is why today’s podcast brings my favourite colleagues from across North America to share their top way of coping with the challenges so many of us are facing in the world today. Here is the list of experts sharing on this episode:  Dr. Rachel Goldman, Clinical Psychologist in New York City, New York, on the importance of daily check-ins. www.DrRachelNYC.com Dr. Morgan Francis, Clinical Psychologist in Scottsdale, Arizona, on how to cope through the pressure of a whole body transformation after this pandemic. www.scottsdalepremiercounseling.com Dr. Ann Louise Lockhart, Pediatric Psychologist, parent coach and business owner in San Antonio, Texas on the importance of connection over correction. www.anewdaysa.com Dr. Betsy Chang, Clinical Psychologist in Newport Beach, California, shares about the power of teamwork in your relationship. www.DrBetsyChung.com Hatty J Lee, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles California, dives into our own trauma responses and what happens when they are triggered. www.oakandstonetherapy.com Dr. Shawn Horn, Clinical Psychologist, TEDx Speaker and host of the Inspired Living Podcast, shares what toxic shame is and how to work through it. www.drshawnhorn.com Dr. Morgan Anderson, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Coach shares one mindset that you, as single women, could find helpful right now. https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/ Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship Expert, Coach and Course Creator on how to shift the guilt of motherhood during this time. http://www.lovethinks.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 22 Jun 2020 22:00:00 -0000 Coping Strategies During Times of Difficulties full 2 2 Cloud10 There is so much happening in the world today. The events taking place are outside of our control, from COVID19 to the Black Lives Matter Movement. So that is why today’s podcast brings my favourite colleagues from across North America to share their top way of coping with the challenges so many of us are facing in the world today. Here is the list of experts sharing on this episode:  Dr. Rachel Goldman, Clinical Psychologist in New York City, New York, on the importance of daily check-ins. www.DrRachelNYC.com Dr. Morgan Francis, Clinical Psychologist in Scottsdale, Arizona, on how to cope through the pressure of a whole body transformation after this pandemic. www.scottsdalepremiercounseling.com Dr. Ann Louise Lockhart, Pediatric Psychologist, parent coach and business owner in San Antonio, Texas on the importance of connection over correction. www.anewdaysa.com Dr. Betsy Chang, Clinical Psychologist in Newport Beach, California, shares about the power of teamwork in your relationship. www.DrBetsyChung.com Hatty J Lee, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles California, dives into our own trauma responses and what happens when they are triggered. www.oakandstonetherapy.com Dr. Shawn Horn, Clinical Psychologist, TEDx Speaker and host of the Inspired Living Podcast, shares what toxic shame is and how to work through it. www.drshawnhorn.com Dr. Morgan Anderson, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Coach shares one mindset that you, as single women, could find helpful right now. https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/ Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship Expert, Coach and Course Creator on how to shift the guilt of motherhood during this time. http://www.lovethinks.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices There is so much happening in the world today. The events taking place are outside of our control, from COVID19 to the Black Lives Matter Movement.

So that is why today’s podcast brings my favourite colleagues from across North America to share their top way of coping with the challenges so many of us are facing in the world today.

Here is the list of experts sharing on this episode: 

Dr. Rachel Goldman, Clinical Psychologist in New York City, New York, on the importance of daily check-ins. www.DrRachelNYC.com

Dr. Morgan Francis, Clinical Psychologist in Scottsdale, Arizona, on how to cope through the pressure of a whole body transformation after this pandemic. www.scottsdalepremiercounseling.com

Dr. Ann Louise Lockhart, Pediatric Psychologist, parent coach and business owner in San Antonio, Texas on the importance of connection over correction. www.anewdaysa.com

Dr. Betsy Chang, Clinical Psychologist in Newport Beach, California, shares about the power of teamwork in your relationship. www.DrBetsyChung.com

Hatty J Lee, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles California, dives into our own trauma responses and what happens when they are triggered. www.oakandstonetherapy.com

Dr. Shawn Horn, Clinical Psychologist, TEDx Speaker and host of the Inspired Living Podcast, shares what toxic shame is and how to work through it. www.drshawnhorn.com

Dr. Morgan Anderson, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Coach shares one mindset that you, as single women, could find helpful right now. https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/

Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship Expert, Coach and Course Creator on how to shift the guilt of motherhood during this time. http://www.lovethinks.com/

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]]> 3557 yes Living in a Pandemic: One Question to Ask Yourself https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/one-question-to-ask-yourself-this-summer We are in a time of crisis. Moving into the summer, what is one question that you should be asking yourself. Picture your life as a garden. Everything you can pour your energy into, everything that is important to you is a different plant. You have a plant for each relationship (your children, your partner, your extended family), for career, friendships, self-care, etc. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine your garden. When you can see your garden, now picture a watering can filled with water. That watering can - that’s you. You get to choose, each day, where you pour your water into. You only have 1 watering can; what will you choose today? Launching Season 2 of I’m Not Your Shrink Podcast, I share the number one question we all need to be asking ourselves, which I have personally learned in the past year. Looking for more with me? Check out my weekly Q&A. Each Friday I answer your questions: https://drtracyd.com/blog Join my 5-day challenge to help cope with crisis in your relationship: https://sendfox.com/lp/1x7ey3 Come join me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tracyd/ Check out my new membership space for women who are looking to strengthen their relationship: https://beconnected.drtracyd.com Looking to master stress and find balance? Check out my e-course to help you Cultivate Self-Compassion and Awareness: https://cultivating-awareness.teachable.com/p/from-stressed-to-balanced Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 22 Jun 2020 21:56:00 -0000 Living in a Pandemic: One Question to Ask Yourself full 2 1 Cloud10 We are in a time of crisis. Moving into the summer, what is one question that you should be asking yourself. Picture your life as a garden. Everything you can pour your energy into, everything that is important to you is a different plant. You have a plant for each relationship (your children, your partner, your extended family), for career, friendships, self-care, etc. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine your garden. When you can see your garden, now picture a watering can filled with water. That watering can - that’s you. You get to choose, each day, where you pour your water into. You only have 1 watering can; what will you choose today? Launching Season 2 of I’m Not Your Shrink Podcast, I share the number one question we all need to be asking ourselves, which I have personally learned in the past year. Looking for more with me? Check out my weekly Q&A. Each Friday I answer your questions: https://drtracyd.com/blog Join my 5-day challenge to help cope with crisis in your relationship: https://sendfox.com/lp/1x7ey3 Come join me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tracyd/ Check out my new membership space for women who are looking to strengthen their relationship: https://beconnected.drtracyd.com Looking to master stress and find balance? Check out my e-course to help you Cultivate Self-Compassion and Awareness: https://cultivating-awareness.teachable.com/p/from-stressed-to-balanced Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices We are in a time of crisis. Moving into the summer, what is one question that you should be asking yourself.

Picture your life as a garden. Everything you can pour your energy into, everything that is important to you is a different plant.

You have a plant for each relationship (your children, your partner, your extended family), for career, friendships, self-care, etc. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine your garden.

When you can see your garden, now picture a watering can filled with water.

That watering can - that’s you.

You get to choose, each day, where you pour your water into. You only have 1 watering can; what will you choose today?

Launching Season 2 of I’m Not Your Shrink Podcast, I share the number one question we all need to be asking ourselves, which I have personally learned in the past year.

Looking for more with me?

Check out my weekly Q&A. Each Friday I answer your questions: https://drtracyd.com/blog

Join my 5-day challenge to help cope with crisis in your relationship: https://sendfox.com/lp/1x7ey3

Come join me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tracyd/

Check out my new membership space for women who are looking to strengthen their relationship: https://beconnected.drtracyd.com

Looking to master stress and find balance? Check out my e-course to help you Cultivate Self-Compassion and Awareness: https://cultivating-awareness.teachable.com/p/from-stressed-to-balanced

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]]> 852 yes My 3 R's for Optimizing your Wellness this Summer https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/my-3-rs-for-optimizing-your-wellness-this-summer It's episode 12 and the season finale! In this episode I'm talking about my THREE R's for maximizing your wellness over the summer months. Be sure to get out a piece of paper because I challenge you to set an intention for this season, and I want you to write down one idea under each R! We know that when we write out our goals and intentions we are more likely to achieve them!  I look forward to touching base with all of you in Season Two! Want to get the latest updates and keep in touch? Sign up for my email list here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 27 May 2019 05:19:00 -0000 My 3 R's for Optimizing your Wellness this Summer full 1 12 Cloud10 It's episode 12 and the season finale! In this episode I'm talking about my THREE R's for maximizing your wellness over the summer months. Be sure to get out a piece of paper because I challenge you to set an intention for this season, and I want you to write down one idea under each R! We know that when we write out our goals and intentions we are more likely to achieve them!  I look forward to touching base with all of you in Season Two! Want to get the latest updates and keep in touch? Sign up for my email list here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices It's episode 12 and the season finale! In this episode I'm talking about my THREE R's for maximizing your wellness over the summer months. Be sure to get out a piece of paper because I challenge you to set an intention for this season, and I want you to write down one idea under each R! We know that when we write out our goals and intentions we are more likely to achieve them! 

I look forward to touching base with all of you in Season Two! Want to get the latest updates and keep in touch? Sign up for my email list here.

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]]> 1644 yes You are not your anxiety with Dr. Julie Groveman https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/you-are-not-your-anxiety-with-dr-julie-groveman Anxiety. So many of us experience this normal emotion. And yet, anxiety is a common presentation in the therapy office, often times clients saying they want to get rid of it. It has taken over their lives and impacted their ability to cope each day. They have stopped going out to the grocery store. They have stopped seeing friends. They can't complete what they want to do each day because they are stuck in a worries and fears. Can you get rid of anxiety? Dr. Julie Groveman, clinical psychologist in NYC who focuses on helping clients break toxic patterns, conquer fear and empower them to be the most confident version of themselves, talks about whether we can get rid of this emotion, and what we can do to manage anxiety. In this episode, we discuss: Dr. Julie’s early experience with anxiety and what this message taught her The importance of labelling and noticing this emotion Traits about you that contribute to the experience of anxiety How our inner critic and self-doubt leads to anxiety Common things people do to cope with anxiety that are NOT helpful Dr. Julie’s top three tips for coping with anxiety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 13 May 2019 07:01:00 -0000 You are not your anxiety with Dr. Julie Groveman full 1 11 Cloud10 Anxiety. So many of us experience this normal emotion. And yet, anxiety is a common presentation in the therapy office, often times clients saying they want to get rid of it. It has taken over their lives and impacted their ability to cope each day. They have stopped going out to the grocery store. They have stopped seeing friends. They can't complete what they want to do each day because they are stuck in a worries and fears. Can you get rid of anxiety? Dr. Julie Groveman, clinical psychologist in NYC who focuses on helping clients break toxic patterns, conquer fear and empower them to be the most confident version of themselves, talks about whether we can get rid of this emotion, and what we can do to manage anxiety. In this episode, we discuss: Dr. Julie’s early experience with anxiety and what this message taught her The importance of labelling and noticing this emotion Traits about you that contribute to the experience of anxiety How our inner critic and self-doubt leads to anxiety Common things people do to cope with anxiety that are NOT helpful Dr. Julie’s top three tips for coping with anxiety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Anxiety. So many of us experience this normal emotion. And yet, anxiety is a common presentation in the therapy office, often times clients saying they want to get rid of it. It has taken over their lives and impacted their ability to cope each day. They have stopped going out to the grocery store. They have stopped seeing friends. They can't complete what they want to do each day because they are stuck in a worries and fears.

Can you get rid of anxiety?

Dr. Julie Groveman, clinical psychologist in NYC who focuses on helping clients break toxic patterns, conquer fear and empower them to be the most confident version of themselves, talks about whether we can get rid of this emotion, and what we can do to manage anxiety.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Dr. Julie’s early experience with anxiety and what this message taught her
  • The importance of labelling and noticing this emotion
  • Traits about you that contribute to the experience of anxiety
  • How our inner critic and self-doubt leads to anxiety
  • Common things people do to cope with anxiety that are NOT helpful
  • Dr. Julie’s top three tips for coping with anxiety

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]]> 2777 yes Postpartum Nutrition and Body Weight with Registered Dietitian Melissa Mitri https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/postpartum-nutrition-and-body-weight-with-registered-dietitian-melissa-mitri Today I chat with Melissa Mitri, a Registered Dietitian-Nutritionist, where her practice is focused on helping moms and moms-to-be build a healthy baby and nourish themselves through a practical, whole foods approach.  Melissa has over 10 years of experience in the field of nutrition, and has a true passion for helping women feel confident entering motherhood. In this episode, we talk about: Melissa's journey into motherhood and her struggle with breastfeeding Top nutritions that you need to be considering for your postpartum body and for breastfeeding. We only talk about two of the six, so Melissa created this handout so you don't have to make notes! Click HERE to download it. Adjusting to motherhood and body image acceptance Healthy weight loss after having a baby. If you are a new mom or soon to be mother, this is a must listen! Melissa shares such key pieces of nutrition that I wish I had known earlier on. If you know a new mom, or soon to be mom, or even if you are going to be a second, third, or fourth time mom, her tips are helpful for managing key nutrients and body health in this stage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 06 May 2019 07:12:06 -0000 Postpartum Nutrition and Body Weight with Registered Dietitian Melissa Mitri full 1 10 Cloud10 Today I chat with Melissa Mitri, a Registered Dietitian-Nutritionist, where her practice is focused on helping moms and moms-to-be build a healthy baby and nourish themselves through a practical, whole foods approach.  Melissa has over 10 years of experience in the field of nutrition, and has a true passion for helping women feel confident entering motherhood. In this episode, we talk about: Melissa's journey into motherhood and her struggle with breastfeeding Top nutritions that you need to be considering for your postpartum body and for breastfeeding. We only talk about two of the six, so Melissa created this handout so you don't have to make notes! Click HERE to download it. Adjusting to motherhood and body image acceptance Healthy weight loss after having a baby. If you are a new mom or soon to be mother, this is a must listen! Melissa shares such key pieces of nutrition that I wish I had known earlier on. If you know a new mom, or soon to be mom, or even if you are going to be a second, third, or fourth time mom, her tips are helpful for managing key nutrients and body health in this stage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Today I chat with Melissa Mitri, a Registered Dietitian-Nutritionist, where her practice is focused on helping moms and moms-to-be build a healthy baby and nourish themselves through a practical, whole foods approach.  Melissa has over 10 years of experience in the field of nutrition, and has a true passion for helping women feel confident entering motherhood.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Melissa's journey into motherhood and her struggle with breastfeeding
  • Top nutritions that you need to be considering for your postpartum body and for breastfeeding. We only talk about two of the six, so Melissa created this handout so you don't have to make notes! Click HERE to download it.
  • Adjusting to motherhood and body image acceptance
  • Healthy weight loss after having a baby.

If you are a new mom or soon to be mother, this is a must listen! Melissa shares such key pieces of nutrition that I wish I had known earlier on. If you know a new mom, or soon to be mom, or even if you are going to be a second, third, or fourth time mom, her tips are helpful for managing key nutrients and body health in this stage.

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]]> 2888 yes Slay Shame: Five Ways for Dealing with Shame in your Life. https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/slay-shame-five-ways-for-dealing-with-shame-in-your-life Shame is the notion that one is unworthy, defective, or a failure in some way. As one of the most painful emotions experienced, shame disconnects us from others, leading to feelings of isolation. And we all experience shame! On a regular Tuesday morning, I find myself yelling at my son, and then being washed away in shame. In this episode, I talk all about shame and how it impacts our relationships, the difference between shame and guilt, and give strategies you can use to help you cope with shame.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 29 Apr 2019 05:44:56 -0000 Slay Shame: Five Ways for Dealing with Shame in your Life. full 1 9 Cloud10 Shame is the notion that one is unworthy, defective, or a failure in some way. As one of the most painful emotions experienced, shame disconnects us from others, leading to feelings of isolation. And we all experience shame! On a regular Tuesday morning, I find myself yelling at my son, and then being washed away in shame. In this episode, I talk all about shame and how it impacts our relationships, the difference between shame and guilt, and give strategies you can use to help you cope with shame.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Shame is the notion that one is unworthy, defective, or a failure in some way. As one of the most painful emotions experienced, shame disconnects us from others, leading to feelings of isolation. And we all experience shame! On a regular Tuesday morning, I find myself yelling at my son, and then being washed away in shame. In this episode, I talk all about shame and how it impacts our relationships, the difference between shame and guilt, and give strategies you can use to help you cope with shame. 

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]]> 1200 yes Mind Your Money with Financial Therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/mind-your-money-with-financial-therapist-lindsay-bryan-podvin Money matters. But women don’t like to talk about it and there are so many emotional barriers to talking about and addressing issues related to money. I chat with financial therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin about the challenges women face when it comes to the view of money and their own worth, connecting money to your values, core themes that people get stuck on when it comes to managing money, and how couples can begin to manage their money together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 15 Apr 2019 05:33:51 -0000 Mind Your Money with Financial Therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin full 1 8 Cloud10 Money matters. But women don’t like to talk about it and there are so many emotional barriers to talking about and addressing issues related to money. I chat with financial therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin about the challenges women face when it comes to the view of money and their own worth, connecting money to your values, core themes that people get stuck on when it comes to managing money, and how couples can begin to manage their money together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Money matters. But women don’t like to talk about it and there are so many emotional barriers to talking about and addressing issues related to money. I chat with financial therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin about the challenges women face when it comes to the view of money and their own worth, connecting money to your values, core themes that people get stuck on when it comes to managing money, and how couples can begin to manage their money together.

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]]> 2877 yes Get to Know Your Pelvic Floor: An Episode for All Women with Andrea Plitz https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/get-to-know-your-pelvic-floor-an-episode-for-all-women-with-andrea-plitz I sit down with registered physiotherapist, yoga teacher, and mother, Andrea Plitz. We talk about the the fundamentals of pelvic floor health for ALL women and when you need to see a pelvic floor therapist. I ask Andrea to demystify the kegal and teach us how we can access this area in our body. Finally, Andrea gives three different ways that you can connect to your pelvic floor.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 08 Apr 2019 05:51:53 -0000 Get to Know Your Pelvic Floor: An Episode for All Women with Andrea Plitz full 1 7 Cloud10 I sit down with registered physiotherapist, yoga teacher, and mother, Andrea Plitz. We talk about the the fundamentals of pelvic floor health for ALL women and when you need to see a pelvic floor therapist. I ask Andrea to demystify the kegal and teach us how we can access this area in our body. Finally, Andrea gives three different ways that you can connect to your pelvic floor.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices I sit down with registered physiotherapist, yoga teacher, and mother, Andrea Plitz. We talk about the the fundamentals of pelvic floor health for ALL women and when you need to see a pelvic floor therapist. I ask Andrea to demystify the kegal and teach us how we can access this area in our body. Finally, Andrea gives three different ways that you can connect to your pelvic floor. 

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]]> 3134 yes How to Respond to Defensiveness in your Relationship https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/how-to-respond-to-defensiveness-in-your-relationship I answer a listener’s question on how to deal with her partner’s defensiveness in their relationship. I first talk about what is defensiveness, and then discuss different strategies for you to use to address and change this tricky response style with our partners! Are you someone that tends to feel defensive? This episode is also for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 01 Apr 2019 04:42:48 -0000 How to Respond to Defensiveness in your Relationship full 1 6 Cloud10 I answer a listener’s question on how to deal with her partner’s defensiveness in their relationship. I first talk about what is defensiveness, and then discuss different strategies for you to use to address and change this tricky response style with our partners! Are you someone that tends to feel defensive? This episode is also for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices I answer a listener’s question on how to deal with her partner’s defensiveness in their relationship. I first talk about what is defensiveness, and then discuss different strategies for you to use to address and change this tricky response style with our partners! Are you someone that tends to feel defensive? This episode is also for you!

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]]> 1526 yes Going to Therapy and the Rawness of Motherhood with Erica from Mom.Break https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/going-to-therapy-and-the-rawness-of-motherhood-with-erica-from-mom-break I sit down with Erica from Mom.Break and talk about her experience with postpartum depression and going to therapy. As a psychologist, I could never ask my clients to share in this format. When I met Erica through Instagram and for coffee, I wanted others to hear her story. We talk about the realness of motherhood, the intrusive thoughts and difficulties coping as a parent. Tune in to hear Erica's journey of acknowledging when she needed help and how she told others about going to therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 25 Mar 2019 05:41:14 -0000 Going to Therapy and the Rawness of Motherhood with Erica from Mom.Break full 1 5 Cloud10 I sit down with Erica from Mom.Break and talk about her experience with postpartum depression and going to therapy. As a psychologist, I could never ask my clients to share in this format. When I met Erica through Instagram and for coffee, I wanted others to hear her story. We talk about the realness of motherhood, the intrusive thoughts and difficulties coping as a parent. Tune in to hear Erica's journey of acknowledging when she needed help and how she told others about going to therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices I sit down with Erica from Mom.Break and talk about her experience with postpartum depression and going to therapy. As a psychologist, I could never ask my clients to share in this format. When I met Erica through Instagram and for coffee, I wanted others to hear her story. We talk about the realness of motherhood, the intrusive thoughts and difficulties coping as a parent. Tune in to hear Erica's journey of acknowledging when she needed help and how she told others about going to therapy.

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]]> 3031 yes Putting you in the Equation: Addressing Self-Care https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/putting-you-in-the-equation-addressing-self-care I am talking all about self-care this week - an important aspect of living a meaningful life. I talk about what self-care is not and what gets in the way of you looking after you. I offer specific tips about how you can improve your self-care. Be sure to tune in to the end of the episode - since so many people struggle with the term "self-care," I offer a new perspective on how you can view this pivotal act. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 18 Mar 2019 06:27:01 -0000 Putting you in the Equation: Addressing Self-Care full 1 4 Cloud10 I am talking all about self-care this week - an important aspect of living a meaningful life. I talk about what self-care is not and what gets in the way of you looking after you. I offer specific tips about how you can improve your self-care. Be sure to tune in to the end of the episode - since so many people struggle with the term "self-care," I offer a new perspective on how you can view this pivotal act. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices I am talking all about self-care this week - an important aspect of living a meaningful life. I talk about what self-care is not and what gets in the way of you looking after you. I offer specific tips about how you can improve your self-care. Be sure to tune in to the end of the episode - since so many people struggle with the term "self-care," I offer a new perspective on how you can view this pivotal act.

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]]> 1716 yes Check Your Boundaries: A Cornerstone for Relationships and Overall Well-being with Dr. Soph https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/check-your-boundaries-a-cornerstone-for-relationships-and-overall-well-being-with-dr-soph I speak with psychologist Dr. Soph about authenticity, shame, and navigating boundaries in your life. Setting boundaries is one of the top things we talk about with our clients. Tune in to find out more about just what boundaries are, signs you may need to set boundaries, and how you can do this. If you are someone that always says yes, has a hard time saying no, feels overwhelmed by others asking you to do things, and feels stressed by caring for everyone but you, this episode is for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Sun, 10 Mar 2019 06:52:00 -0000 Check Your Boundaries: A Cornerstone for Relationships and Overall Well-being with Dr. Soph full 1 3 Cloud10 I speak with psychologist Dr. Soph about authenticity, shame, and navigating boundaries in your life. Setting boundaries is one of the top things we talk about with our clients. Tune in to find out more about just what boundaries are, signs you may need to set boundaries, and how you can do this. If you are someone that always says yes, has a hard time saying no, feels overwhelmed by others asking you to do things, and feels stressed by caring for everyone but you, this episode is for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices I speak with psychologist Dr. Soph about authenticity, shame, and navigating boundaries in your life. Setting boundaries is one of the top things we talk about with our clients. Tune in to find out more about just what boundaries are, signs you may need to set boundaries, and how you can do this. If you are someone that always says yes, has a hard time saying no, feels overwhelmed by others asking you to do things, and feels stressed by caring for everyone but you, this episode is for you!

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]]> 3856 yes When Fear Gets in the Way https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/when-fear-gets-in-the-way There are so many times when fear stops us from doing something that is important – from taking that big risk or making a change. In this episode, I talk about my experience of fear through creating this podcast and how this primary emotion derails us from living a meaningful life. You will learn specific tools that you can use to help face your fear so that this emotion becomes just an emotion and not something that stops you in your life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mon, 04 Mar 2019 05:51:00 -0000 When Fear Gets in the Way full 1 2 Cloud10 There are so many times when fear stops us from doing something that is important – from taking that big risk or making a change. In this episode, I talk about my experience of fear through creating this podcast and how this primary emotion derails us from living a meaningful life. You will learn specific tools that you can use to help face your fear so that this emotion becomes just an emotion and not something that stops you in your life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices There are so many times when fear stops us from doing something that is important – from taking that big risk or making a change. In this episode, I talk about my experience of fear through creating this podcast and how this primary emotion derails us from living a meaningful life. You will learn specific tools that you can use to help face your fear so that this emotion becomes just an emotion and not something that stops you in your life!

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]]> 1546 yes Change Your Dialogue https://pod.co/i-m-not-your-shrink/change-your-dialogue Join me, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and couples therapist, as I discuss two core themes that I see in therapy every day and why I created this podcast. With over ten years of training and experience in providing therapy, I’m combining what I have learned as a psychologist sitting with people in their hardest moments and my experiences of being a mother and a wife, to help you change the dialogue in your life so you can live a life filled with meaning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Fri, 15 Feb 2019 19:42:00 -0000 Change Your Dialogue full 1 1 Cloud10 Join me, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and couples therapist, as I discuss two core themes that I see in therapy every day and why I created this podcast. With over ten years of training and experience in providing therapy, I’m combining what I have learned as a psychologist sitting with people in their hardest moments and my experiences of being a mother and a wife, to help you change the dialogue in your life so you can live a life filled with meaning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Join me, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and couples therapist, as I discuss two core themes that I see in therapy every day and why I created this podcast. With over ten years of training and experience in providing therapy, I’m combining what I have learned as a psychologist sitting with people in their hardest moments and my experiences of being a mother and a wife, to help you change the dialogue in your life so you can live a life filled with meaning.

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